1 00:00:00,320 --> 00:00:04,120 Speaker 1: Content warning. This segment includes discussions of sensitive topics. 2 00:00:03,680 --> 00:00:05,200 Speaker 2: Like abuse and adult material. 3 00:00:05,320 --> 00:00:33,479 Speaker 1: Viewer discussion advised. Hello everyone, Well, you know when your 4 00:00:33,520 --> 00:00:36,680 Speaker 1: life completely falls apart, is it really possible to be 5 00:00:36,760 --> 00:00:40,920 Speaker 1: whole again? Will today's guest walk through abuse, trauma, and 6 00:00:41,000 --> 00:00:43,240 Speaker 1: a near death experience, and they're here to share their 7 00:00:43,280 --> 00:00:48,159 Speaker 1: miraculous story of redemption from her book Healing from Life's 8 00:00:48,159 --> 00:00:50,800 Speaker 1: Deepest Hurts. Wow, it's a good show, going to be 9 00:00:50,800 --> 00:00:53,600 Speaker 1: a good testimony. But before we get to that, joined 10 00:00:53,640 --> 00:00:57,200 Speaker 1: around the table Sapril Simons, Did I catch you? Are 11 00:00:57,240 --> 00:00:58,560 Speaker 1: you on the edge of your seat ready to hear this? 12 00:00:58,920 --> 00:00:59,160 Speaker 2: You know? 13 00:00:59,560 --> 00:01:02,640 Speaker 3: Just find think we've heard all the stories, true, you 14 00:01:02,680 --> 00:01:03,840 Speaker 3: bring one that we haven't heard. 15 00:01:03,880 --> 00:01:06,800 Speaker 4: But it's such a god ending that is so great. 16 00:01:06,840 --> 00:01:08,800 Speaker 1: It's so going to encourage people today. 17 00:01:08,600 --> 00:01:09,520 Speaker 2: Totally totally. 18 00:01:09,959 --> 00:01:12,720 Speaker 1: When I was reading their story, Cindy, I got to 19 00:01:12,800 --> 00:01:15,679 Speaker 1: the one part, I'm just like, what this could be 20 00:01:15,760 --> 00:01:16,319 Speaker 1: like a movie? 21 00:01:16,319 --> 00:01:18,640 Speaker 2: Almost, no doubt, no doubt. 22 00:01:18,760 --> 00:01:21,880 Speaker 1: I was reading as well, and I kept going, what 23 00:01:23,080 --> 00:01:26,000 Speaker 1: It's amazing what God can bring you through when you 24 00:01:26,080 --> 00:01:27,440 Speaker 1: think there's no way. 25 00:01:27,720 --> 00:01:28,160 Speaker 2: Rachel M. 26 00:01:28,240 --> 00:01:30,679 Speaker 1: Brown, Everybody's going, what literally. 27 00:01:31,800 --> 00:01:33,640 Speaker 2: Do you know? The phrase I would take a bullet 28 00:01:33,680 --> 00:01:36,000 Speaker 2: for you. Well, this story takes that to a. 29 00:01:36,000 --> 00:01:36,640 Speaker 3: Whole new. 30 00:01:38,200 --> 00:01:41,840 Speaker 1: All right, Rachel all over a good She's give it 31 00:01:41,920 --> 00:01:45,360 Speaker 1: a little clue, Ked Kelly Dame, you ready, I am ready? 32 00:01:45,400 --> 00:01:48,120 Speaker 1: This is It is an amazing story. 33 00:01:48,480 --> 00:01:50,800 Speaker 3: I was just like watching and reading the notes, going, 34 00:01:50,880 --> 00:01:53,760 Speaker 3: oh my word, but God is amazing. 35 00:01:54,120 --> 00:01:57,680 Speaker 2: You got to that one part and you're like what. Okay, 36 00:01:58,480 --> 00:02:01,640 Speaker 2: and Kimberly and ju Horror, welcome to the table. 37 00:02:01,920 --> 00:02:03,480 Speaker 5: Thank you for having us. 38 00:02:03,440 --> 00:02:05,360 Speaker 1: Thank you all for being here. It's going to be great. Well, 39 00:02:05,400 --> 00:02:09,560 Speaker 1: Kimberly and Andrew Harr have a powerful story of God's redemption. 40 00:02:10,240 --> 00:02:14,760 Speaker 1: Kimberly endured betrayal, divorce, and domestic violence, but the Lord 41 00:02:14,880 --> 00:02:17,640 Speaker 1: rewrote her story, and together they're here to share how 42 00:02:17,680 --> 00:02:20,720 Speaker 1: God can take brokenness and turn it into beauty. Now 43 00:02:20,720 --> 00:02:23,000 Speaker 1: we've got all of you waiting to hear what happened. 44 00:02:23,480 --> 00:02:25,280 Speaker 1: Trust me, you want to sit down here the rest 45 00:02:25,320 --> 00:02:27,920 Speaker 1: of the story, but Kimberly starts with you growing up 46 00:02:27,960 --> 00:02:28,919 Speaker 1: in a Christian home. 47 00:02:29,200 --> 00:02:30,600 Speaker 2: It does love the God. 48 00:02:31,040 --> 00:02:33,120 Speaker 3: I gave my heart to Jesus at the age of 49 00:02:33,160 --> 00:02:34,960 Speaker 3: five and I never walked away. 50 00:02:35,120 --> 00:02:37,639 Speaker 2: Yeah, you were younger than me. I was six, but Okay, 51 00:02:37,680 --> 00:02:37,920 Speaker 2: I was. 52 00:02:37,919 --> 00:02:38,440 Speaker 1: A little. 53 00:02:40,160 --> 00:02:43,359 Speaker 5: More of a center than to God, a little bit. 54 00:02:43,200 --> 00:02:44,040 Speaker 2: Longer to get me. 55 00:02:44,639 --> 00:02:46,760 Speaker 1: But he knew he needed to get me early, that's 56 00:02:46,760 --> 00:02:51,000 Speaker 1: for sure. But raising a Christian home at twenty two, 57 00:02:51,080 --> 00:02:53,280 Speaker 1: get married, married a Christian man. 58 00:02:53,120 --> 00:02:54,720 Speaker 5: That's right, married a Christian man. 59 00:02:54,919 --> 00:02:58,079 Speaker 3: Went to church, was the praise and worship team, volunteer 60 00:02:58,120 --> 00:02:58,760 Speaker 3: in the nursery. 61 00:02:58,919 --> 00:02:59,880 Speaker 1: Tithed, I mean. 62 00:02:59,760 --> 00:03:00,680 Speaker 6: We did it all. 63 00:03:00,880 --> 00:03:03,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, you were just a consummate. Good, that's our faithful 64 00:03:04,040 --> 00:03:06,280 Speaker 1: church goer. You love this kind of Oh yeah, I'm 65 00:03:06,560 --> 00:03:08,680 Speaker 1: sure we appreciate steady people. 66 00:03:09,000 --> 00:03:11,480 Speaker 2: Okay, so you get married. Tell us what happened. 67 00:03:11,880 --> 00:03:14,840 Speaker 3: I got married and it was probably about four to 68 00:03:14,919 --> 00:03:17,799 Speaker 3: five years into our marriage. We'd already had our first child, 69 00:03:18,400 --> 00:03:22,639 Speaker 3: and I discovered that my ex husband had was involved 70 00:03:22,680 --> 00:03:26,400 Speaker 3: with pornography. There was chat rooms, just kind of sexual 71 00:03:26,440 --> 00:03:27,480 Speaker 3: addiction things. 72 00:03:28,080 --> 00:03:29,760 Speaker 5: But as the years progress, I. 73 00:03:29,680 --> 00:03:34,000 Speaker 3: Would forgive him and he would, you know, repent. We'd 74 00:03:34,040 --> 00:03:36,280 Speaker 3: be in church, we would feel like there was restoration, 75 00:03:36,520 --> 00:03:39,040 Speaker 3: but it was slipped back in so he would. 76 00:03:38,840 --> 00:03:39,720 Speaker 2: Say he was sorry. 77 00:03:40,280 --> 00:03:44,080 Speaker 1: But sometimes with these kind of addictions, you need. 78 00:03:44,200 --> 00:03:46,280 Speaker 3: You do, you really need professional help well, and. 79 00:03:46,240 --> 00:03:47,520 Speaker 2: You need to shine the light on it. 80 00:03:47,600 --> 00:03:50,560 Speaker 1: Yeah, and you need accountability absolutely. I know from being 81 00:03:50,560 --> 00:03:52,800 Speaker 1: married to a psychologist and he deals with this kind 82 00:03:52,800 --> 00:03:55,240 Speaker 1: of stuff and has for years, that you've got to 83 00:03:55,320 --> 00:03:56,440 Speaker 1: have accountability. 84 00:03:57,000 --> 00:03:58,280 Speaker 2: And so there. 85 00:03:58,120 --> 00:04:00,920 Speaker 1: Really was no accountability other than I'm saying, oh, I'm sorry, 86 00:04:00,920 --> 00:04:02,160 Speaker 1: im to go to church and repent. 87 00:04:02,320 --> 00:04:04,040 Speaker 5: Well, he actually went to some counseling. 88 00:04:04,200 --> 00:04:06,600 Speaker 3: But you know, sex addiction is one of those things 89 00:04:06,680 --> 00:04:07,120 Speaker 3: unless you. 90 00:04:07,160 --> 00:04:07,960 Speaker 1: Keep the guards up. 91 00:04:08,040 --> 00:04:12,400 Speaker 3: You've got to be very proactive and not get laxadaisical 92 00:04:12,480 --> 00:04:16,360 Speaker 3: and lazy. And it's not like a once and done. 93 00:04:16,440 --> 00:04:19,000 Speaker 3: But because we had children, we had four children, and 94 00:04:19,279 --> 00:04:21,960 Speaker 3: I did not want to divorce and our kids go 95 00:04:22,080 --> 00:04:25,640 Speaker 3: between homes. So I made the decision to forgive and 96 00:04:25,680 --> 00:04:29,720 Speaker 3: forgive and forgive again. But I didn't have good boundaries. 97 00:04:29,800 --> 00:04:32,280 Speaker 3: I didn't get the message about God doesn't want us 98 00:04:32,320 --> 00:04:37,560 Speaker 3: in relationships where there's continual betrayal. And so we were 99 00:04:37,560 --> 00:04:41,320 Speaker 3: married twenty three years when I discovered my husband was 100 00:04:41,320 --> 00:04:44,920 Speaker 3: actually in an affair. And when I discovered that in 101 00:04:44,960 --> 00:04:48,799 Speaker 3: twenty thirteen, I made the hardest decision of my life, 102 00:04:49,040 --> 00:04:52,320 Speaker 3: and I filed for divorce and I stayed. I just 103 00:04:52,360 --> 00:04:54,560 Speaker 3: decided to be a single mom for four years get 104 00:04:54,600 --> 00:04:57,120 Speaker 3: our youngest children, who were fifteen. 105 00:04:57,480 --> 00:04:59,480 Speaker 5: Got them to college so that they. 106 00:04:59,360 --> 00:05:01,960 Speaker 3: Didn't have to worry about me giving my attention to 107 00:05:02,000 --> 00:05:05,360 Speaker 3: anybody else. I knew at that point that it was 108 00:05:05,440 --> 00:05:06,159 Speaker 3: I was done. 109 00:05:06,240 --> 00:05:09,560 Speaker 1: And so you were going to then go to go 110 00:05:09,640 --> 00:05:11,880 Speaker 1: back to school while this was going on. No. 111 00:05:12,480 --> 00:05:15,239 Speaker 3: I actually I went back to school when our youngest 112 00:05:15,320 --> 00:05:19,760 Speaker 3: children were in kindergarten, and I became a therapist because 113 00:05:19,920 --> 00:05:21,919 Speaker 3: I went to marriage counseling that I didn't feel like 114 00:05:22,000 --> 00:05:25,280 Speaker 3: was very hopeful, and so I decided I was going 115 00:05:25,320 --> 00:05:27,360 Speaker 3: to go back to school and learn how to give 116 00:05:27,400 --> 00:05:31,160 Speaker 3: people hope that were in similar situations. And so when 117 00:05:31,400 --> 00:05:34,280 Speaker 3: my youngest children were like in kindergarten, I was opening 118 00:05:34,279 --> 00:05:35,400 Speaker 3: the book studying at. 119 00:05:35,400 --> 00:05:37,239 Speaker 5: Night soccer practice. 120 00:05:37,440 --> 00:05:39,640 Speaker 3: I'm reading, you know, all my school books. And I 121 00:05:39,720 --> 00:05:41,040 Speaker 3: became a therapist when I. 122 00:05:41,040 --> 00:05:42,440 Speaker 5: Was forty years old. 123 00:05:42,640 --> 00:05:45,440 Speaker 3: Wow, and I'm fifty nine now, so kind of giving 124 00:05:45,480 --> 00:05:46,920 Speaker 3: that away, but I've been doing it. 125 00:05:46,839 --> 00:05:48,480 Speaker 2: About two decades. That's awesome. 126 00:05:48,560 --> 00:05:53,320 Speaker 1: Okay, So you went through a divorce and you guys 127 00:05:53,320 --> 00:05:57,240 Speaker 1: are like, there hasn't been any type of domestic violence. No, no, 128 00:05:57,400 --> 00:06:01,039 Speaker 1: and you're kind of trying to raise the children single, right, 129 00:06:01,560 --> 00:06:01,960 Speaker 1: and so. 130 00:06:02,320 --> 00:06:03,440 Speaker 5: It was a friendly divorce. 131 00:06:03,520 --> 00:06:05,640 Speaker 1: It was a friendly divorce. So your single for how 132 00:06:05,640 --> 00:06:08,159 Speaker 1: many years? Four years? When you all of a sudden, 133 00:06:08,240 --> 00:06:11,400 Speaker 1: she feels her heart starting to open up a little bit, 134 00:06:11,520 --> 00:06:15,440 Speaker 1: like maybe, Lord, yep, this was the one. 135 00:06:15,520 --> 00:06:17,000 Speaker 2: Yeah, And the Lord said to. 136 00:06:17,000 --> 00:06:19,120 Speaker 3: You, he said, this is the year you're going to 137 00:06:19,160 --> 00:06:22,039 Speaker 3: be married again. And I could swear I heard the 138 00:06:22,080 --> 00:06:24,880 Speaker 3: words buckle your seatbelt. I just thought that man is 139 00:06:24,920 --> 00:06:28,680 Speaker 3: going to go fast. And so but where I was 140 00:06:28,720 --> 00:06:31,160 Speaker 3: fifty years old, and where does a fifty year old 141 00:06:31,160 --> 00:06:33,600 Speaker 3: woman go to meet people? Because I wasn't a bar 142 00:06:33,760 --> 00:06:34,520 Speaker 3: scene person. 143 00:06:35,000 --> 00:06:35,600 Speaker 5: I had gone to. 144 00:06:35,520 --> 00:06:38,520 Speaker 3: Our singles group of church, and that was kind of pathetic. 145 00:06:39,040 --> 00:06:42,680 Speaker 3: There just wasn't that many people there. And so I 146 00:06:42,800 --> 00:06:45,640 Speaker 3: decided that I was going to join a dating site, 147 00:06:45,680 --> 00:06:47,720 Speaker 3: online dating, and. 148 00:06:47,400 --> 00:06:50,240 Speaker 2: We have to be careful with that. Oh yes, yes, okay. 149 00:06:50,440 --> 00:06:53,479 Speaker 3: And I had thirteen first dates that I decided this 150 00:06:53,640 --> 00:06:54,240 Speaker 3: was not for me. 151 00:06:54,400 --> 00:06:55,960 Speaker 2: Tell me about one of the bad ones. 152 00:06:59,080 --> 00:07:01,839 Speaker 3: I think the word was when I had somebody that 153 00:07:01,880 --> 00:07:04,239 Speaker 3: when they found out I was a therapist, they became 154 00:07:04,320 --> 00:07:08,080 Speaker 3: therapy sessions. I had a man that told me he said, yeah, 155 00:07:08,520 --> 00:07:12,160 Speaker 3: my therapist tells me I'm really attracted to controlling women, 156 00:07:12,520 --> 00:07:16,560 Speaker 3: and I'm thinking, and you're telling me this why? So 157 00:07:16,680 --> 00:07:18,960 Speaker 3: it was interesting, but I was ready to hang it up. 158 00:07:19,440 --> 00:07:23,760 Speaker 1: And then I saw find of did your little fifty questions? 159 00:07:24,080 --> 00:07:26,280 Speaker 1: Oh and you knew right away, like if it was 160 00:07:26,320 --> 00:07:27,440 Speaker 1: so thirteen. 161 00:07:27,200 --> 00:07:28,040 Speaker 2: Down down down? 162 00:07:28,080 --> 00:07:30,480 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah, and you get to number fourteen, which 163 00:07:30,520 --> 00:07:31,040 Speaker 1: I got. 164 00:07:31,240 --> 00:07:34,440 Speaker 5: To number fourteen. We went out on April. 165 00:07:34,280 --> 00:07:37,040 Speaker 2: Fool's Day, and he's interesting. 166 00:07:37,120 --> 00:07:38,400 Speaker 5: He was a maag spender. 167 00:07:38,560 --> 00:07:42,720 Speaker 3: He took me to a diner for breakfast, and so 168 00:07:42,880 --> 00:07:45,640 Speaker 3: we went and we had an amazing first day. 169 00:07:45,720 --> 00:07:46,480 Speaker 5: We just connected. 170 00:07:46,560 --> 00:07:50,040 Speaker 3: One hour led to two, probably three, and I think 171 00:07:50,120 --> 00:07:52,040 Speaker 3: it was the very like I hadn't even made it 172 00:07:52,080 --> 00:07:53,960 Speaker 3: out of the parking lot and he was asking me 173 00:07:54,000 --> 00:07:55,280 Speaker 3: to meet him the next. 174 00:07:55,160 --> 00:07:57,520 Speaker 1: Day for dinner. So, Andrew, we want to hear your 175 00:07:58,200 --> 00:08:00,239 Speaker 1: side of the truth of the story. 176 00:08:00,440 --> 00:08:04,520 Speaker 7: That's pretty accurate, except at the diner, the tables are 177 00:08:04,560 --> 00:08:07,480 Speaker 7: kind of close together, and we were just coffeeing and 178 00:08:07,560 --> 00:08:11,160 Speaker 7: drank and eating, and we had people around us, and 179 00:08:11,360 --> 00:08:15,080 Speaker 7: people were giving us kind of looks because we'd run 180 00:08:15,120 --> 00:08:21,640 Speaker 7: through the gamut of religion, you know, school children, politics, politics. 181 00:08:21,840 --> 00:08:24,679 Speaker 1: Yeah, how many questions did she ask you that day? 182 00:08:24,720 --> 00:08:28,880 Speaker 7: It was fifty questions for sure, and of course to 183 00:08:29,000 --> 00:08:32,000 Speaker 7: some elderly is sitting around us, we're looking at us like, 184 00:08:32,920 --> 00:08:33,559 Speaker 7: what did you think? 185 00:08:33,600 --> 00:08:35,280 Speaker 1: What did you think when she walked in? Because so 186 00:08:35,280 --> 00:08:37,720 Speaker 1: many times on the dating sites they tell me that 187 00:08:37,800 --> 00:08:40,840 Speaker 1: they don't actually look like the picture. Oh yeah, right, 188 00:08:40,960 --> 00:08:42,439 Speaker 1: so what did you think when she walked in? 189 00:08:43,080 --> 00:08:44,560 Speaker 5: You can remember you're going home with me. 190 00:08:47,200 --> 00:08:49,240 Speaker 7: You know, I'm an engineer type, so I don't have 191 00:08:49,280 --> 00:08:51,000 Speaker 7: a lot of highs or low emotions. 192 00:08:51,160 --> 00:08:56,319 Speaker 2: Yeah, nice lady. She was my fourth first. 193 00:08:56,480 --> 00:09:00,520 Speaker 1: So what was it a boundary that stood out to you? 194 00:09:00,520 --> 00:09:06,120 Speaker 7: You know the online profiles for one lakes, I like water, 195 00:09:06,440 --> 00:09:09,960 Speaker 7: you know, mountains, tracers from Canada. She's a Canadian citizen, 196 00:09:10,880 --> 00:09:13,240 Speaker 7: and I just thought we had a lot of unique 197 00:09:13,679 --> 00:09:14,400 Speaker 7: things in common. 198 00:09:14,520 --> 00:09:15,520 Speaker 2: You like your personality. 199 00:09:15,559 --> 00:09:18,880 Speaker 7: I'm sure she's very personable, Yeah, very funny. 200 00:09:18,960 --> 00:09:22,079 Speaker 1: Okay, we can't pull as much out of Andrew as 201 00:09:22,120 --> 00:09:24,200 Speaker 1: we can't believe. We keep working on that. Okay, she 202 00:09:24,360 --> 00:09:32,240 Speaker 1: was pretty We were waiting on that. 203 00:09:34,480 --> 00:09:36,360 Speaker 2: Okay, all right, at. 204 00:09:36,280 --> 00:09:39,600 Speaker 7: That point, you're really not you know, what's on the inside, 205 00:09:39,720 --> 00:09:41,679 Speaker 7: it's so much less at what's on the outside. 206 00:09:41,720 --> 00:09:44,760 Speaker 2: So yeah, but you got to have the outside. 207 00:09:44,240 --> 00:09:45,280 Speaker 1: I know he's taking a hole. 208 00:09:48,160 --> 00:09:50,000 Speaker 3: On our second date, I do have to say, he 209 00:09:50,120 --> 00:09:52,400 Speaker 3: told me we went we went out for dinner, and 210 00:09:52,440 --> 00:09:55,840 Speaker 3: he said, I'm wearing my skinny jeans, but I can't breathe. 211 00:09:57,920 --> 00:09:59,520 Speaker 2: That is hilarious. 212 00:09:59,600 --> 00:10:03,960 Speaker 1: Okay, So y'all started dating and you pretty much fail 213 00:10:04,000 --> 00:10:05,720 Speaker 1: for him and he fail for you, and all your 214 00:10:05,720 --> 00:10:08,839 Speaker 1: friends are like, you look really happy? We did here 215 00:10:08,920 --> 00:10:09,800 Speaker 1: glowing right? 216 00:10:10,000 --> 00:10:10,960 Speaker 2: Yes, yes. 217 00:10:11,440 --> 00:10:13,520 Speaker 3: We dated for four weeks and he told me, you 218 00:10:13,559 --> 00:10:16,840 Speaker 3: know I want to marry you. But it wasn't a question, 219 00:10:17,000 --> 00:10:20,280 Speaker 3: so I wasn't going to embarrass myself and say yes, So. 220 00:10:20,200 --> 00:10:21,040 Speaker 5: I just smiled. 221 00:10:21,679 --> 00:10:23,600 Speaker 3: But we knew, we knew we were on our way 222 00:10:23,640 --> 00:10:24,240 Speaker 3: to get married. 223 00:10:24,679 --> 00:10:26,440 Speaker 2: Okay, so take us to that night. 224 00:10:26,720 --> 00:10:26,960 Speaker 1: Yeah. 225 00:10:27,120 --> 00:10:28,320 Speaker 5: Yeah. 226 00:10:28,440 --> 00:10:31,040 Speaker 3: Four weeks later, my ex husband asked me to come 227 00:10:31,040 --> 00:10:33,840 Speaker 3: to his apartment and talk to her about our adult children. 228 00:10:34,280 --> 00:10:35,400 Speaker 5: That was not in common. 229 00:10:35,440 --> 00:10:39,000 Speaker 3: So I went there and he felt totally safe, felt 230 00:10:39,000 --> 00:10:42,439 Speaker 3: totally safe. He started talking about wanting to date again 231 00:10:42,600 --> 00:10:45,679 Speaker 3: and for me to give him another chance, and I said, 232 00:10:45,760 --> 00:10:48,400 Speaker 3: I've moved on. I said, and you need to move 233 00:10:48,440 --> 00:10:51,240 Speaker 3: on too, And so he looked at me and he said, well, 234 00:10:51,240 --> 00:10:51,880 Speaker 3: maybe I'm going to. 235 00:10:51,920 --> 00:10:53,040 Speaker 5: Have to go talk to this guy. 236 00:10:53,600 --> 00:10:55,600 Speaker 3: And I didn't realize at that time my ex husband 237 00:10:55,640 --> 00:10:58,400 Speaker 3: had been stalking me and so. 238 00:10:57,880 --> 00:10:59,360 Speaker 2: So he knew where Andrew lived. 239 00:10:59,400 --> 00:11:01,040 Speaker 5: He knew where Andrew you had. 240 00:11:01,000 --> 00:11:03,640 Speaker 2: Been seeing someone. He did and he did not like it. 241 00:11:03,720 --> 00:11:06,520 Speaker 3: Right, okay, So I called Andrew and I said, hey, 242 00:11:06,559 --> 00:11:08,240 Speaker 3: can I stop by your house on my way home? 243 00:11:08,640 --> 00:11:10,000 Speaker 5: And because I didn't. 244 00:11:09,800 --> 00:11:12,719 Speaker 3: Want my ex husband to scare him off, and so 245 00:11:13,040 --> 00:11:15,000 Speaker 3: I went to his house and I said, Andrew, I'm 246 00:11:15,000 --> 00:11:18,200 Speaker 3: so sorry. My ex husband may spread a rumor he 247 00:11:18,240 --> 00:11:19,000 Speaker 3: may harass you. 248 00:11:19,120 --> 00:11:20,080 Speaker 5: I am so sorry. 249 00:11:20,240 --> 00:11:22,320 Speaker 3: And I said, but Andrew, would you fight for me? 250 00:11:23,000 --> 00:11:25,319 Speaker 3: And he looked down at me and he said, of. 251 00:11:25,280 --> 00:11:28,920 Speaker 5: Course I would. And when I asked him met. 252 00:11:30,280 --> 00:11:32,000 Speaker 1: He had no idea what was coming back. 253 00:11:32,240 --> 00:11:33,959 Speaker 3: He had no idea, and so when I asked him why, 254 00:11:34,000 --> 00:11:36,640 Speaker 3: he said, because you're worth it. But within twenty four 255 00:11:36,679 --> 00:11:40,079 Speaker 3: hours I went home and something against dird inside me. 256 00:11:40,120 --> 00:11:41,280 Speaker 5: I said, lock your bedroom door. 257 00:11:41,840 --> 00:11:42,720 Speaker 1: And I had. 258 00:11:42,600 --> 00:11:44,920 Speaker 3: Locked my house many times because I was empty nesting, 259 00:11:45,000 --> 00:11:48,280 Speaker 3: living alone. But that night I locked my bedroom door 260 00:11:48,400 --> 00:11:50,440 Speaker 3: and at two thirty in the morning, I woke up 261 00:11:50,480 --> 00:11:53,400 Speaker 3: to my bedroom door crashing down off the hinges. My 262 00:11:53,440 --> 00:11:56,319 Speaker 3: ex husband was intoxicated. He had a gun in his hand, 263 00:11:56,920 --> 00:12:00,080 Speaker 3: and for the next four hours I was assaulted. 264 00:12:00,200 --> 00:12:02,880 Speaker 1: And he actually began to beat you in your face, 265 00:12:03,559 --> 00:12:08,000 Speaker 1: your body, assaulted you. Yeah, four hours and he was inebriated. 266 00:12:08,280 --> 00:12:08,720 Speaker 2: That's right. 267 00:12:09,000 --> 00:12:12,720 Speaker 3: What was he saying when he first came in. The 268 00:12:12,840 --> 00:12:14,560 Speaker 3: very first thing he told me was that he had 269 00:12:14,600 --> 00:12:17,720 Speaker 3: come from killing my parents. Now he had not, but 270 00:12:17,880 --> 00:12:20,120 Speaker 3: he knew I was very close to my parents, and 271 00:12:20,760 --> 00:12:23,199 Speaker 3: so in that moment, I just believe God gave me 272 00:12:23,240 --> 00:12:26,120 Speaker 3: a gift of calm because I told myself, you know what, 273 00:12:26,200 --> 00:12:28,040 Speaker 3: you can grieve it later. There's nothing you can do 274 00:12:28,160 --> 00:12:31,280 Speaker 3: right now, So put it on the shelf. And I 275 00:12:31,720 --> 00:12:34,320 Speaker 3: told myself, just pay attention to every one of his words. 276 00:12:34,360 --> 00:12:36,320 Speaker 1: You needed to be calm because he could have escalated. 277 00:12:36,440 --> 00:12:36,840 Speaker 5: That's right. 278 00:12:37,440 --> 00:12:38,360 Speaker 2: Did he put the gun? 279 00:12:39,000 --> 00:12:39,439 Speaker 1: I had a. 280 00:12:39,400 --> 00:12:41,319 Speaker 3: Gun in my mouth up to my neck. I mean 281 00:12:41,400 --> 00:12:43,160 Speaker 3: it was there was holes in my bedroom wall. I 282 00:12:43,200 --> 00:12:44,760 Speaker 3: mean he shot my wall to let me know he 283 00:12:44,840 --> 00:12:49,000 Speaker 3: was serious. And after the assault, he told me that 284 00:12:49,080 --> 00:12:51,360 Speaker 3: his punishment for ruining his life, he was going to 285 00:12:51,440 --> 00:12:53,760 Speaker 3: kidnap me and he was going to drive me to 286 00:12:53,800 --> 00:12:55,840 Speaker 3: Andrew's house and he was going to watch make me 287 00:12:55,920 --> 00:12:59,880 Speaker 3: watch him murder Andrew. And so we got in the vel. 288 00:13:00,520 --> 00:13:03,040 Speaker 3: I under my breath was, you know, praying for Andrew. 289 00:13:03,200 --> 00:13:05,360 Speaker 1: We had a gun on you and said get into 290 00:13:05,320 --> 00:13:05,840 Speaker 1: the vehicle. 291 00:13:07,040 --> 00:13:09,440 Speaker 3: So I got in the vehicle and we got to 292 00:13:09,480 --> 00:13:13,199 Speaker 3: Andrew's house. My husband reached in the back seat for 293 00:13:13,240 --> 00:13:16,200 Speaker 3: a gun and the bullets and he's yeah, and then 294 00:13:16,880 --> 00:13:18,720 Speaker 3: he looked at me and he said that you go 295 00:13:18,760 --> 00:13:20,800 Speaker 3: do whatever you need to do, and he left the 296 00:13:20,880 --> 00:13:24,160 Speaker 3: keys in the ignition. So I jumped into the driver's seat. 297 00:13:24,280 --> 00:13:27,120 Speaker 3: Heard three gunshots, so I knew Andrew would not survive, 298 00:13:27,840 --> 00:13:31,960 Speaker 3: and I made an escape to a supercenter where nine 299 00:13:31,960 --> 00:13:32,839 Speaker 3: when one was called. 300 00:13:32,960 --> 00:13:35,240 Speaker 1: Of course, you look horrific right at this point I 301 00:13:35,240 --> 00:13:37,000 Speaker 1: made everybody's thinking, what happened to you? Right? 302 00:13:37,000 --> 00:13:39,680 Speaker 3: Because your face They just I think they just wanted 303 00:13:39,720 --> 00:13:42,400 Speaker 3: me to get in the warehouse where other people couldn't 304 00:13:42,440 --> 00:13:45,840 Speaker 3: see me, you know, scare people, and because yeah, I 305 00:13:45,920 --> 00:13:46,839 Speaker 3: was unrecognizable. 306 00:13:47,000 --> 00:13:47,480 Speaker 2: My goodness. 307 00:13:47,520 --> 00:13:50,480 Speaker 1: Okay, Andrew, let's pick it up. Did he knock on 308 00:13:50,520 --> 00:13:52,040 Speaker 1: the door? Why did you come to the door. It 309 00:13:52,120 --> 00:13:53,400 Speaker 1: set six thirty in the morning. 310 00:13:53,600 --> 00:13:54,920 Speaker 2: It was a knocking on the door. 311 00:13:55,080 --> 00:13:58,959 Speaker 7: And I had this translucent stained glass, a pretty. 312 00:13:58,679 --> 00:14:00,200 Speaker 2: Big old maybe three foot. 313 00:14:00,040 --> 00:14:01,560 Speaker 1: So you have like a wood door, but you have 314 00:14:01,600 --> 00:14:02,360 Speaker 1: a glass. 315 00:14:02,040 --> 00:14:05,720 Speaker 7: In the middle, okay, And I couldn't see him or 316 00:14:05,880 --> 00:14:08,800 Speaker 7: he couldn't see me other than maybe shadows. And then 317 00:14:08,920 --> 00:14:11,160 Speaker 7: just bullets just started coming through. You didn't even open 318 00:14:11,200 --> 00:14:12,760 Speaker 7: the door, didn't opened. 319 00:14:12,480 --> 00:14:14,040 Speaker 2: The door started to shooting through the door. 320 00:14:14,080 --> 00:14:18,240 Speaker 7: I said something like coming, hold on, yeahs. 321 00:14:18,559 --> 00:14:20,360 Speaker 1: And so how many times did he shoot you? 322 00:14:20,600 --> 00:14:25,720 Speaker 7: I was struck ten times, goodness, with forty five caliber 323 00:14:25,840 --> 00:14:26,800 Speaker 7: alid point bullets. 324 00:14:26,840 --> 00:14:29,320 Speaker 1: And so where did he Where did those bullets slam. 325 00:14:29,600 --> 00:14:32,360 Speaker 7: Twice in the leg, once in the forhemoral artery, and. 326 00:14:32,320 --> 00:14:35,080 Speaker 1: That would be where you would lose a lot of bloody? 327 00:14:36,120 --> 00:14:38,600 Speaker 7: Were you shot twice in the back and then six 328 00:14:38,680 --> 00:14:40,240 Speaker 7: times throughout my arm? 329 00:14:40,880 --> 00:14:44,480 Speaker 1: My goodness, in the fact that nothing was That's a 330 00:14:44,520 --> 00:14:46,920 Speaker 1: miracle in an episode, isn't it. Of course you went 331 00:14:46,960 --> 00:14:51,120 Speaker 1: to the ground. The door never opened. He left and 332 00:14:51,200 --> 00:14:52,480 Speaker 1: went running down the street. 333 00:14:52,480 --> 00:14:54,080 Speaker 2: I guess I. 334 00:14:54,000 --> 00:14:55,760 Speaker 5: Had in my fire fight freeze. 335 00:14:55,760 --> 00:14:58,200 Speaker 3: I was going for help and made it all of 336 00:14:58,280 --> 00:14:59,280 Speaker 3: one and a half blocks. 337 00:15:00,400 --> 00:15:04,520 Speaker 5: Now, I truckled several times looking for help. But you know, 338 00:15:04,600 --> 00:15:05,400 Speaker 5: I was just so. 339 00:15:05,440 --> 00:15:08,320 Speaker 1: Scared myself in the morning, and you're you're trying to 340 00:15:08,360 --> 00:15:09,320 Speaker 1: stop at the first place. 341 00:15:09,720 --> 00:15:12,080 Speaker 2: Somebody helped me. Yeah, So I pulled up. 342 00:15:12,040 --> 00:15:14,800 Speaker 3: To the very front, ran and screamed called nine one one, 343 00:15:15,040 --> 00:15:17,440 Speaker 3: but nobody was moving as quick as I wanted them to. 344 00:15:18,080 --> 00:15:20,040 Speaker 3: And so I looked down in my hand, and there 345 00:15:20,080 --> 00:15:21,760 Speaker 3: was a cell phone in my hand that I must 346 00:15:21,800 --> 00:15:24,600 Speaker 3: have gotten from my ex husband's vehicle, and so I 347 00:15:24,720 --> 00:15:26,880 Speaker 3: called nine one one and I told him get the 348 00:15:26,920 --> 00:15:29,400 Speaker 3: police to his house. I don't remember, I don't think 349 00:15:29,440 --> 00:15:31,440 Speaker 3: I knew the address, so I just said get him 350 00:15:31,480 --> 00:15:33,400 Speaker 3: to the house, but tell the police to be careful 351 00:15:33,440 --> 00:15:35,960 Speaker 3: because this isn't going to end good. And then I 352 00:15:36,000 --> 00:15:38,440 Speaker 3: was escorted into a warehouse to wait for an ambulance 353 00:15:38,560 --> 00:15:39,240 Speaker 3: to come and get me. 354 00:15:39,440 --> 00:15:41,400 Speaker 5: At this point, did you think he had passed away? 355 00:15:41,840 --> 00:15:45,280 Speaker 3: I had, Yes, I had no clue if he was alive, 356 00:15:45,440 --> 00:15:47,880 Speaker 3: if he was dead, and I would not find that 357 00:15:48,000 --> 00:15:50,760 Speaker 3: out until I was taken to a hospital. And I 358 00:15:50,800 --> 00:15:53,480 Speaker 3: was in the emergency room and I had met one 359 00:15:53,480 --> 00:15:56,480 Speaker 3: of Andrew's adult children one time, and so he called 360 00:15:56,520 --> 00:15:59,560 Speaker 3: my cell phone, who my adult daughter answered, and his 361 00:15:59,640 --> 00:16:02,080 Speaker 3: son's said, my dad's in and out of surgery. 362 00:16:02,120 --> 00:16:03,600 Speaker 5: We don't know his touch and. 363 00:16:03,560 --> 00:16:05,560 Speaker 3: Go, but if that's where I found out he'd been 364 00:16:05,560 --> 00:16:08,320 Speaker 3: shot ten times. And he said, but we just think 365 00:16:08,320 --> 00:16:11,560 Speaker 3: our parents need to go their separate ways, and my 366 00:16:11,720 --> 00:16:12,320 Speaker 3: heart sank. 367 00:16:12,880 --> 00:16:16,280 Speaker 1: It was so the son's basically saying, don't. 368 00:16:15,640 --> 00:16:18,160 Speaker 3: Come, don't call us. We're from here on. We're going 369 00:16:18,240 --> 00:16:19,360 Speaker 3: to do our healing journeys on. 370 00:16:19,440 --> 00:16:22,440 Speaker 7: Our adult children are just trying to manage us and 371 00:16:22,520 --> 00:16:24,920 Speaker 7: protect the right right right. 372 00:16:25,120 --> 00:16:27,080 Speaker 1: I was going to ask you, Andrew, how close did 373 00:16:27,080 --> 00:16:29,040 Speaker 1: you come to dine that day? 374 00:16:29,280 --> 00:16:31,920 Speaker 7: I wish I knew I was probably in and out 375 00:16:31,920 --> 00:16:34,720 Speaker 7: of consciousness, and they said I lost fifty percent of 376 00:16:34,720 --> 00:16:40,320 Speaker 7: my blood, which is almost fatal, should be and just miraculous. 377 00:16:40,400 --> 00:16:43,040 Speaker 1: So that obviously the ambulance and the people that got 378 00:16:43,080 --> 00:16:46,120 Speaker 1: you there, they probably saved your life absolutely on the 379 00:16:46,120 --> 00:16:47,200 Speaker 1: way to the hospital. 380 00:16:47,440 --> 00:16:48,960 Speaker 2: How many surgeries did you have? 381 00:16:49,400 --> 00:16:51,560 Speaker 7: At least thirteen surgeries? 382 00:16:51,640 --> 00:16:53,600 Speaker 1: Okay, so okay, let's go back to the scene. 383 00:16:53,640 --> 00:16:55,160 Speaker 2: Where's your husband? Where are you? 384 00:16:55,520 --> 00:16:59,200 Speaker 3: My husband was actually he was arrested, but as I 385 00:16:59,320 --> 00:17:02,080 Speaker 3: was being taken out of the supercenter, I. 386 00:17:02,040 --> 00:17:03,800 Speaker 5: Told the police officer, I. 387 00:17:03,760 --> 00:17:05,280 Speaker 3: Said, I need to go to that vehicle and get 388 00:17:05,280 --> 00:17:07,119 Speaker 3: my cell phone because I wanted to call my family. 389 00:17:07,200 --> 00:17:08,800 Speaker 3: I didn't want them to see it on the news. 390 00:17:09,119 --> 00:17:11,800 Speaker 3: And when I opened the passenger door of the vehicle, 391 00:17:11,960 --> 00:17:15,439 Speaker 3: my ex husband was sitting behind the driver's the steering wheel, 392 00:17:15,680 --> 00:17:17,679 Speaker 3: and he was holding a gun up and pointing it 393 00:17:17,720 --> 00:17:20,639 Speaker 3: towards me. So I screamed and dropped to the ground. 394 00:17:20,680 --> 00:17:24,080 Speaker 3: A human shield of police officers came around me, and 395 00:17:24,320 --> 00:17:26,439 Speaker 3: you know, I was ushered back to safety while they 396 00:17:26,480 --> 00:17:27,360 Speaker 3: apprehended him. 397 00:17:27,520 --> 00:17:28,560 Speaker 5: And then we were taken and. 398 00:17:28,600 --> 00:17:30,680 Speaker 1: They told him to put the gun down, get out. 399 00:17:30,720 --> 00:17:33,200 Speaker 3: Because honestly, I didn't hear what they said. They were 400 00:17:33,240 --> 00:17:35,880 Speaker 3: just ushering me to safety. Okay, So he was arrested. 401 00:17:36,320 --> 00:17:40,000 Speaker 1: He was arrested into Cussy, and so this whole thing 402 00:17:40,040 --> 00:17:40,800 Speaker 1: is unfolding. 403 00:17:40,840 --> 00:17:43,520 Speaker 2: You're in the hospital. What are they standing about your condition? 404 00:17:44,720 --> 00:17:46,680 Speaker 3: You know, I was having the typical X rays, making 405 00:17:46,720 --> 00:17:49,080 Speaker 3: sure there was no broken bones in my face and skull, 406 00:17:50,400 --> 00:17:52,880 Speaker 3: But all I could focus on was that I had 407 00:17:52,880 --> 00:17:57,560 Speaker 3: lost Andrew, and I was more upset about him than 408 00:17:57,560 --> 00:18:00,199 Speaker 3: I was anything that happened to me that morning. And 409 00:18:00,240 --> 00:18:03,880 Speaker 3: so when I left the hospital, I went and stayed 410 00:18:03,880 --> 00:18:04,840 Speaker 3: at my parents' home just for. 411 00:18:04,840 --> 00:18:06,720 Speaker 5: A couple of nights, and I. 412 00:18:06,680 --> 00:18:08,600 Speaker 3: Had an aunt and uncle who gifted me their home 413 00:18:08,640 --> 00:18:11,399 Speaker 3: for the summer. And when they were giving me a 414 00:18:11,440 --> 00:18:13,240 Speaker 3: tour of their home, I looked outside and there was 415 00:18:13,280 --> 00:18:17,119 Speaker 3: this beautiful, big pergola with big rafters and swings and 416 00:18:17,160 --> 00:18:19,720 Speaker 3: a big cement floor, and something just told me, this 417 00:18:19,800 --> 00:18:21,679 Speaker 3: is where my healing was going to begin. 418 00:18:22,480 --> 00:18:25,520 Speaker 1: And so you're a therapist, it's not like you know 419 00:18:25,560 --> 00:18:26,840 Speaker 1: that kind of trauma, right. 420 00:18:26,920 --> 00:18:29,600 Speaker 3: I had walked many people through trauma in twenty years, 421 00:18:29,640 --> 00:18:33,159 Speaker 3: but this time it was me and so Andrew and 422 00:18:33,160 --> 00:18:35,240 Speaker 3: I would not hear from each other for about five 423 00:18:35,240 --> 00:18:37,280 Speaker 3: to six weeks because he was in and out of surgeries. 424 00:18:37,280 --> 00:18:39,920 Speaker 5: He was living with his son, and I. 425 00:18:40,040 --> 00:18:44,399 Speaker 3: Had contact with one person, and that was Andrew's work assistant, 426 00:18:45,040 --> 00:18:46,240 Speaker 3: and she was kind of like my. 427 00:18:46,240 --> 00:18:48,359 Speaker 5: Mole, and so she told me. 428 00:18:48,680 --> 00:18:51,719 Speaker 3: She said that when Andrew had first woken up, he 429 00:18:51,760 --> 00:18:53,520 Speaker 3: wanted to be with me, but by the end of 430 00:18:53,520 --> 00:18:55,879 Speaker 3: the first few days he agreed we needed to go 431 00:18:55,920 --> 00:18:59,239 Speaker 3: our separate ways. And so I was, you know, I 432 00:18:59,320 --> 00:19:01,919 Speaker 3: was in a state of shock and my own healing, 433 00:19:02,560 --> 00:19:05,920 Speaker 3: and so I just laid down on that cement floor 434 00:19:06,200 --> 00:19:09,640 Speaker 3: and I just wept, and I told the Lord, I said, 435 00:19:09,680 --> 00:19:13,640 Speaker 3: I don't have words to even pray, and I said, 436 00:19:13,640 --> 00:19:16,520 Speaker 3: would you just sing over me and breathe life back 437 00:19:16,520 --> 00:19:19,800 Speaker 3: into my body because I felt like such an empty shell. 438 00:19:20,200 --> 00:19:23,240 Speaker 3: And I would play praise and worship music and that 439 00:19:23,320 --> 00:19:26,000 Speaker 3: became my prayer. And in the beginning I tried to 440 00:19:26,000 --> 00:19:27,320 Speaker 3: take control and tell God what. 441 00:19:27,320 --> 00:19:28,879 Speaker 5: He should do, how he should do it, what he 442 00:19:28,920 --> 00:19:31,880 Speaker 5: should do. And then I said yeah. And then I said, 443 00:19:31,920 --> 00:19:33,000 Speaker 5: and Lord, I trust you. 444 00:19:34,480 --> 00:19:37,919 Speaker 3: And by the way, yes, yes, and I had I 445 00:19:37,960 --> 00:19:39,919 Speaker 3: came to the point where I told the Lord, I 446 00:19:39,920 --> 00:19:42,239 Speaker 3: don't want to trust you. I'm scared to trust you 447 00:19:42,680 --> 00:19:43,480 Speaker 3: because what if. 448 00:19:43,320 --> 00:19:44,639 Speaker 5: You don't give me what I want? 449 00:19:45,280 --> 00:19:48,640 Speaker 3: And I even said, if Andrew second best, I'll take it. 450 00:19:48,840 --> 00:19:50,080 Speaker 1: I don't care about the best. 451 00:19:50,320 --> 00:19:51,520 Speaker 5: All settle for Andrew. 452 00:19:52,160 --> 00:19:54,679 Speaker 1: And I've been through so much with your with your 453 00:19:54,880 --> 00:19:58,680 Speaker 1: ex husband. Yeah, and you saw so many qualities of stagium. 454 00:19:58,800 --> 00:20:02,920 Speaker 3: I finally felt love and cherished and and so it 455 00:20:03,000 --> 00:20:06,080 Speaker 3: was it was really laying that down and surrendering to 456 00:20:06,119 --> 00:20:09,119 Speaker 3: the Lord, saying, Okay, God, if you don't give me 457 00:20:09,160 --> 00:20:11,400 Speaker 3: what I want, I'm going to probably complain and cry 458 00:20:11,440 --> 00:20:14,840 Speaker 3: a bit, but you're going to choose to trust thank you. 459 00:20:15,040 --> 00:20:16,879 Speaker 1: That's where you have to get to that point, and 460 00:20:17,000 --> 00:20:19,680 Speaker 1: you understand that. You know, you try to tell God 461 00:20:19,720 --> 00:20:21,520 Speaker 1: everything you do in the middle all this mess, but 462 00:20:21,560 --> 00:20:23,160 Speaker 1: at the end of the day, you got to say, Okay, God, 463 00:20:23,200 --> 00:20:25,439 Speaker 1: I may to understand everything, but I'm going to trust 464 00:20:25,480 --> 00:20:28,680 Speaker 1: you and let him walk you through it. And quit 465 00:20:28,760 --> 00:20:31,000 Speaker 1: telling God what to do, because he's got a much 466 00:20:31,040 --> 00:20:31,919 Speaker 1: better plan than you do. 467 00:20:32,160 --> 00:20:32,480 Speaker 2: Okay. 468 00:20:32,480 --> 00:20:35,680 Speaker 1: At some point you kind of change your mind, Andrew, 469 00:20:35,720 --> 00:20:37,320 Speaker 1: and you want to talk to her, but you don't 470 00:20:37,320 --> 00:20:40,720 Speaker 1: have her phone number, and you're and you're and your 471 00:20:40,800 --> 00:20:43,440 Speaker 1: kids are like, no, Dad, you're not doing this well. 472 00:20:43,480 --> 00:20:45,320 Speaker 7: Thank God for Facebook. 473 00:20:50,840 --> 00:20:51,359 Speaker 2: As a plug. 474 00:20:51,480 --> 00:20:55,119 Speaker 7: Didn't mean to I was able to reach her in 475 00:20:55,119 --> 00:20:55,720 Speaker 7: that fashion. 476 00:20:56,200 --> 00:20:58,800 Speaker 2: And so what did you say? You send a message 477 00:20:58,800 --> 00:20:59,919 Speaker 2: and you said I'm alive. 478 00:21:01,119 --> 00:21:02,160 Speaker 5: How do you respond to that? 479 00:21:02,280 --> 00:21:04,480 Speaker 2: So how did you respond to it? Yippee? 480 00:21:06,520 --> 00:21:09,040 Speaker 3: I said, yippie, And then I went on to say 481 00:21:09,080 --> 00:21:11,000 Speaker 3: I'm so sorry. I want you to know I didn't 482 00:21:11,000 --> 00:21:12,080 Speaker 3: have anything to do with this. 483 00:21:12,200 --> 00:21:14,119 Speaker 5: And and you know, tried. 484 00:21:13,880 --> 00:21:18,240 Speaker 3: To like plead and he said he was going in 485 00:21:18,280 --> 00:21:19,840 Speaker 3: for a surgery. Because I asked if I could go 486 00:21:19,880 --> 00:21:21,720 Speaker 3: see him, and he said, no, I need to go 487 00:21:21,800 --> 00:21:22,040 Speaker 3: do this. 488 00:21:22,080 --> 00:21:23,119 Speaker 5: I'll contact you later. 489 00:21:23,520 --> 00:21:26,040 Speaker 3: But he ended his message with the words take care, 490 00:21:26,840 --> 00:21:28,080 Speaker 3: And I thought, what does that mean? 491 00:21:28,320 --> 00:21:29,800 Speaker 5: You know, does that mean I wish you well? 492 00:21:30,040 --> 00:21:34,000 Speaker 1: Such an engineer? What is going on here? Walk? 493 00:21:34,160 --> 00:21:37,600 Speaker 7: I couldn't feed myself. I mean I was bad share 494 00:21:37,600 --> 00:21:39,040 Speaker 7: it for at least two weeks. 495 00:21:39,160 --> 00:21:41,320 Speaker 3: So the therapist in me, I sent him all these 496 00:21:41,320 --> 00:21:44,040 Speaker 3: pictures of us, and I'm like, you know, trying to 497 00:21:44,080 --> 00:21:45,600 Speaker 3: like stir some spark there. 498 00:21:46,359 --> 00:21:49,240 Speaker 1: Okay, And so you go through the surgery and you 499 00:21:49,320 --> 00:21:51,600 Speaker 1: have to wait and then you make contact. 500 00:21:51,600 --> 00:21:54,720 Speaker 2: What do you say the next time? Andrew, that's where. 501 00:21:55,040 --> 00:21:57,440 Speaker 1: A visit would be nice. Oh, yeah, a visit would 502 00:21:57,440 --> 00:22:00,679 Speaker 1: be nice, perfect, he did, But you have to come when. 503 00:22:00,520 --> 00:22:01,640 Speaker 2: The children are here. 504 00:22:02,280 --> 00:22:03,920 Speaker 3: Yeah, he told me, he said, come, but when my 505 00:22:04,000 --> 00:22:05,840 Speaker 3: kids aren't here, And so we are. 506 00:22:05,960 --> 00:22:07,560 Speaker 5: He's like, my son's going to be at the like 507 00:22:07,640 --> 00:22:10,359 Speaker 5: the phone store. So come from this time to this time. 508 00:22:10,920 --> 00:22:13,920 Speaker 5: So I'm fifty years old, sneaking in at the hospital 509 00:22:14,119 --> 00:22:17,720 Speaker 5: where there's love. There's a way that's right when you're determined. 510 00:22:19,760 --> 00:22:21,639 Speaker 7: Well, And I was still at John Doe because it 511 00:22:21,720 --> 00:22:22,399 Speaker 7: was a crime. 512 00:22:22,840 --> 00:22:26,119 Speaker 1: Yes, you listed, okay, So you got to the hospital 513 00:22:26,160 --> 00:22:27,840 Speaker 1: listed and you go in the room. 514 00:22:28,640 --> 00:22:31,560 Speaker 3: Open the door, and he was all mandaged up looking 515 00:22:31,600 --> 00:22:32,200 Speaker 3: pretty rough. 516 00:22:32,320 --> 00:22:33,160 Speaker 1: And I looked at. 517 00:22:33,119 --> 00:22:35,720 Speaker 3: Him and I said, Andrew, where does this leave us? 518 00:22:36,400 --> 00:22:39,080 Speaker 3: And he said, I don't know. He said, I saw 519 00:22:39,119 --> 00:22:41,400 Speaker 3: the felony accounts. He goes, I know what happened to you, 520 00:22:41,800 --> 00:22:44,400 Speaker 3: He goes, and he and You're going to be messed up. 521 00:22:45,080 --> 00:22:47,000 Speaker 3: And then he said, I know what happened to me, 522 00:22:47,440 --> 00:22:50,800 Speaker 3: and I'm really going to be messed up. And I 523 00:22:50,840 --> 00:22:53,080 Speaker 3: just couldn't bear the thought of him going any further. 524 00:22:53,200 --> 00:22:55,720 Speaker 3: And so I looked at him and I shook my 525 00:22:55,720 --> 00:22:59,080 Speaker 3: finger in his face and I said, Andrew Harp, you 526 00:22:59,119 --> 00:23:02,480 Speaker 3: will never meet another woman like me and know him. 527 00:23:02,600 --> 00:23:04,119 Speaker 5: He smiled, He smiled. 528 00:23:04,119 --> 00:23:05,920 Speaker 3: I don't think I even ever left that hospital room. 529 00:23:05,960 --> 00:23:07,800 Speaker 3: I was like getting up in his hospital bed with him, 530 00:23:07,800 --> 00:23:09,120 Speaker 3: and the doctors and nurses. 531 00:23:08,840 --> 00:23:10,040 Speaker 5: Were coming, all smiling. 532 00:23:10,160 --> 00:23:13,520 Speaker 3: And four weeks later we were engaged, and four months 533 00:23:13,600 --> 00:23:14,479 Speaker 3: later we were married. 534 00:23:14,520 --> 00:23:15,480 Speaker 5: And it's been eight years. 535 00:23:15,680 --> 00:23:19,639 Speaker 1: Oh wow. And So, Andrew, one of the important points 536 00:23:19,680 --> 00:23:23,720 Speaker 1: I think with you is that you almost died and 537 00:23:24,400 --> 00:23:27,160 Speaker 1: that was a stark reality for you, and you were 538 00:23:27,240 --> 00:23:30,680 Speaker 1: like a baby Christian, but this moved you in closer 539 00:23:30,840 --> 00:23:33,119 Speaker 1: to the Lord. And can God do that like for 540 00:23:33,160 --> 00:23:34,719 Speaker 1: people have gone through that kind of trauma. 541 00:23:34,800 --> 00:23:37,199 Speaker 7: I think he can do it to anybody if you 542 00:23:37,359 --> 00:23:38,000 Speaker 7: just lean in. 543 00:23:38,680 --> 00:23:39,199 Speaker 2: Yeah, you know. 544 00:23:39,280 --> 00:23:42,360 Speaker 7: And for me, it was more of a Damascus Road 545 00:23:42,520 --> 00:23:45,880 Speaker 7: kind of moment where my whole attitude changed. 546 00:23:46,760 --> 00:23:47,600 Speaker 2: Life was better. 547 00:23:48,040 --> 00:23:50,800 Speaker 7: I was kinder, as gentler, as more loving, more patient. 548 00:23:50,920 --> 00:23:53,439 Speaker 1: Did you see the difference in him after I did see? 549 00:23:53,880 --> 00:23:58,000 Speaker 3: I mean, he definitely pulled in closer to the Lord. 550 00:23:58,440 --> 00:24:01,560 Speaker 3: And then as we continued to and he came to church. 551 00:24:01,400 --> 00:24:03,639 Speaker 5: With me because he loved the Lord. 552 00:24:03,840 --> 00:24:07,760 Speaker 3: It was just an immature Christian, but he loved me 553 00:24:07,800 --> 00:24:09,800 Speaker 3: and was the handsome feet of Jesus that I had 554 00:24:09,840 --> 00:24:10,520 Speaker 3: never experienced. 555 00:24:10,640 --> 00:24:12,760 Speaker 1: I want to know what the Sun said when she 556 00:24:12,920 --> 00:24:14,840 Speaker 1: was in the hospital bed with you and he came. 557 00:24:14,720 --> 00:24:20,080 Speaker 2: Back from the bunch door. He did come in there. 558 00:24:20,440 --> 00:24:23,000 Speaker 3: But by this time we were just smiling and grinting 559 00:24:23,000 --> 00:24:26,320 Speaker 3: from ear to ear, and yeah, I think they just 560 00:24:26,359 --> 00:24:28,440 Speaker 3: saw that their dad was happy. 561 00:24:28,200 --> 00:24:29,440 Speaker 1: And they you hadn't met them. 562 00:24:29,720 --> 00:24:32,080 Speaker 3: I had met him one time, okay, so I had 563 00:24:32,119 --> 00:24:33,680 Speaker 3: not met the other two the rest of the kids. 564 00:24:33,760 --> 00:24:38,600 Speaker 1: So when they met you, they all awkward. Yeah, it was. 565 00:24:40,600 --> 00:24:42,639 Speaker 3: They all came in and it's like I was sitting 566 00:24:42,640 --> 00:24:45,120 Speaker 3: there and and but I think that they realized that 567 00:24:45,640 --> 00:24:47,040 Speaker 3: it wasn't melt. 568 00:24:47,800 --> 00:24:48,240 Speaker 2: Yeah. 569 00:24:48,359 --> 00:24:49,239 Speaker 5: Yeah, he just told them. 570 00:24:49,280 --> 00:24:51,440 Speaker 3: I mean three of them, two of them are engineers, 571 00:24:51,560 --> 00:24:52,720 Speaker 3: so they all kind of think alike. 572 00:24:52,960 --> 00:24:56,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, and and what about your kids? 573 00:24:56,400 --> 00:24:59,000 Speaker 3: My kids loved Andrew. My kids, in fact, all of 574 00:24:59,040 --> 00:25:00,200 Speaker 3: our kids get along. 575 00:25:00,240 --> 00:25:03,200 Speaker 1: All of our kids. The youngest daughter, I think you did, 576 00:25:03,200 --> 00:25:04,680 Speaker 1: the daddy daughter did, he did? 577 00:25:05,119 --> 00:25:08,960 Speaker 3: You know? It's my youngest daughter came and lived with 578 00:25:09,000 --> 00:25:12,000 Speaker 3: us for a bit during COVID, and she got married afterwards, 579 00:25:12,160 --> 00:25:14,720 Speaker 3: and when it came time for the father daughter dance, 580 00:25:14,720 --> 00:25:16,199 Speaker 3: she came and got Andrew, and it was just a 581 00:25:16,280 --> 00:25:18,119 Speaker 3: very beautiful healing moment. 582 00:25:18,240 --> 00:25:18,640 Speaker 1: Andrew. 583 00:25:18,680 --> 00:25:20,600 Speaker 3: They look at Andrew not as a stepdad, but as 584 00:25:20,640 --> 00:25:23,840 Speaker 3: their mom's husband because they're older, they're adults. But they 585 00:25:23,880 --> 00:25:25,520 Speaker 3: all genuinely love him. 586 00:25:25,920 --> 00:25:27,560 Speaker 2: That's awesome. That's so awesome. 587 00:25:27,880 --> 00:25:31,400 Speaker 1: And you know your book Healing from Life's Deepest Hurts, 588 00:25:31,680 --> 00:25:33,600 Speaker 1: what would you say was the key to both of 589 00:25:33,600 --> 00:25:36,440 Speaker 1: you being healed? Because he said, initially you're going to 590 00:25:36,480 --> 00:25:36,960 Speaker 1: be messed up. 591 00:25:37,000 --> 00:25:37,959 Speaker 2: I'm going to be messed up. 592 00:25:38,200 --> 00:25:40,879 Speaker 1: I mean, shot ten times you've been beaten up like 593 00:25:40,960 --> 00:25:41,760 Speaker 1: this is crazy? 594 00:25:42,359 --> 00:25:44,440 Speaker 3: You know, I think, well, right away of course, I 595 00:25:44,480 --> 00:25:46,919 Speaker 3: tried to take control and I told his son, Okay, 596 00:25:46,920 --> 00:25:48,480 Speaker 3: this is where he needs to go to therapy. 597 00:25:48,560 --> 00:25:49,680 Speaker 5: This is the kind of therapy. 598 00:25:49,720 --> 00:25:53,800 Speaker 3: And Andrew most of his healing was absolutely much more 599 00:25:53,840 --> 00:25:57,439 Speaker 3: of the physical because but it happened so quickly and 600 00:25:57,520 --> 00:25:59,720 Speaker 3: there was no relationship that it was different than the 601 00:25:59,800 --> 00:26:03,640 Speaker 3: he that I had to walk through. And so we 602 00:26:03,720 --> 00:26:07,320 Speaker 3: did much of our healing separately. And what helped us 603 00:26:07,960 --> 00:26:11,520 Speaker 3: was that while I was processing and as I was healing, 604 00:26:11,600 --> 00:26:13,919 Speaker 3: he would hold me. You know, it was like he 605 00:26:14,000 --> 00:26:17,439 Speaker 3: would be there. He didn't, he didn't. He was just 606 00:26:17,560 --> 00:26:19,840 Speaker 3: such a He really was a handsome feet of Jesus. 607 00:26:20,080 --> 00:26:22,040 Speaker 2: That's awesome. So you need to get the book. 608 00:26:22,080 --> 00:26:24,080 Speaker 1: You go when you tell the whole story, I do, 609 00:26:24,320 --> 00:26:26,800 Speaker 1: and you tell also some of the keys for healing. 610 00:26:26,920 --> 00:26:29,919 Speaker 3: Yep, there's therapeutic tools anybody can start with in their 611 00:26:29,960 --> 00:26:30,640 Speaker 3: own journeys. 612 00:26:30,800 --> 00:26:33,720 Speaker 1: Okay, all right, well, gosh, guys, thank you for being here. 613 00:26:34,240 --> 00:26:37,600 Speaker 1: It's so goodinating thank you for having a story. They're here, 614 00:26:37,680 --> 00:26:39,520 Speaker 1: they're alive, they're happy, eight years married. 615 00:26:39,640 --> 00:26:41,440 Speaker 5: Absolutely well, we are out of time. 616 00:26:41,480 --> 00:26:43,119 Speaker 1: And I want you to remember if you feel like 617 00:26:43,160 --> 00:26:45,480 Speaker 1: the pain is too deep or the betrayal too great. 618 00:26:46,040 --> 00:26:47,000 Speaker 2: You know, you hear their story. 619 00:26:47,000 --> 00:26:49,800 Speaker 1: You understand that God is your healer, and you are 620 00:26:49,840 --> 00:26:52,880 Speaker 1: not what happened to you. You are who God says 621 00:26:52,880 --> 00:26:56,520 Speaker 1: you are. You're loved, you're chosen, and you're never alone. 622 00:26:57,160 --> 00:26:59,760 Speaker 1: And so if you're watching today and you do feel alone, 623 00:27:00,080 --> 00:27:02,679 Speaker 1: you don't know the Lord. The most important thing you 624 00:27:02,680 --> 00:27:04,560 Speaker 1: can do is ask Jesus to come into your heart 625 00:27:04,560 --> 00:27:08,480 Speaker 1: and just say, Dear Jesus, forgive me come into my 626 00:27:08,520 --> 00:27:11,840 Speaker 1: heart today. I believe you died on the cross for me, 627 00:27:12,600 --> 00:27:16,159 Speaker 1: and I want to receive you and be Lord in 628 00:27:16,240 --> 00:27:18,239 Speaker 1: my life. And I'll tell you what that is the 629 00:27:18,240 --> 00:27:21,320 Speaker 1: most important prayer you can pray. We have prayer partners 630 00:27:21,320 --> 00:27:23,639 Speaker 1: standing by they'd love to pray with you. I would 631 00:27:23,640 --> 00:27:25,639 Speaker 1: love to send you the Book of John. Is the 632 00:27:25,640 --> 00:27:28,000 Speaker 1: Gospel of John is a great place to start in 633 00:27:28,080 --> 00:27:30,280 Speaker 1: the Word of God. Will send it to you absolutely free. 634 00:27:30,720 --> 00:27:33,440 Speaker 1: And that's because we love you or excited about the 635 00:27:33,520 --> 00:27:36,359 Speaker 1: journey you're about to embark on. And I'm just telling you, 636 00:27:36,400 --> 00:27:40,080 Speaker 1: if you pray that prayer with an open heart and sincerely, 637 00:27:40,720 --> 00:27:42,919 Speaker 1: Jesus will meet you right where you are and you 638 00:27:42,920 --> 00:27:45,320 Speaker 1: hear their story. I mean if God can bring them 639 00:27:45,320 --> 00:27:47,880 Speaker 1: through that He can bring you through anything you've gone through. 640 00:27:47,960 --> 00:27:50,320 Speaker 1: I want to thank Kimberly and Andrew for joining us 641 00:27:50,359 --> 00:27:51,879 Speaker 1: to get a copy of her book. Find out more 642 00:27:51,880 --> 00:27:55,560 Speaker 1: about our ministry, visit kimberlyheart dot com and as always, 643 00:27:55,920 --> 00:27:57,600 Speaker 1: make sure to follow us on all social media. 644 00:27:57,680 --> 00:27:59,000 Speaker 2: Subscribe to her YouTube. 645 00:27:58,720 --> 00:28:01,879 Speaker 1: Channel for full episodes, exclusive content, and let us know 646 00:28:02,280 --> 00:28:04,440 Speaker 1: our Table Talk is touching your life. We love hearing 647 00:28:04,440 --> 00:28:06,359 Speaker 1: from you. Of course, you can also listen to the 648 00:28:06,400 --> 00:28:09,720 Speaker 1: Jony Table Talk podcast avaiable now on all the major platforms. 649 00:28:10,040 --> 00:28:12,040 Speaker 1: But I want to thank you for watching. Those of 650 00:28:12,080 --> 00:28:15,400 Speaker 1: you that prayed that prayer. Welcome to the family of God. 651 00:28:15,480 --> 00:28:18,600 Speaker 1: You are not alone. We love you again. Thank you 652 00:28:18,600 --> 00:28:20,640 Speaker 1: guys so much for sharing. What a great story, y'all. 653 00:28:21,359 --> 00:28:23,880 Speaker 1: Oh my goodness? All right, what was he next time? 654 00:28:23,960 --> 00:28:24,120 Speaker 7: Bye? 655 00:28:24,160 --> 00:28:50,560 Speaker 8: Bye for today. 656 00:28:51,920 --> 00:28:55,560 Speaker 1: Well, she's a Grammy nominated artist who's impacted countless lives 657 00:28:55,560 --> 00:28:59,680 Speaker 1: through her music. Let's welcome my dear friend, Nicolesey Mullen 658 00:28:59,720 --> 00:29:01,920 Speaker 1: as she sings My Redeemer lives. 659 00:29:03,440 --> 00:29:05,080 Speaker 6: Who taught the sun. 660 00:29:06,400 --> 00:29:13,360 Speaker 9: Let us stand in the morn, and who told me, 661 00:29:14,000 --> 00:29:19,239 Speaker 9: oh shine, you can all become this far? 662 00:29:22,360 --> 00:29:25,600 Speaker 5: And who show the moon. 663 00:29:27,320 --> 00:29:30,920 Speaker 10: Word hide till the evening. 664 00:29:32,400 --> 00:29:37,760 Speaker 4: Words alone can catch a falling start. 665 00:29:40,960 --> 00:29:52,600 Speaker 1: No ma read mo, I know my red. 666 00:29:55,000 --> 00:29:58,800 Speaker 2: Leave all off. 667 00:29:58,720 --> 00:30:08,240 Speaker 11: Creation shine tested, fes this life within me cry, I know. 668 00:30:09,920 --> 00:30:13,760 Speaker 5: Marrity leave. 669 00:30:16,880 --> 00:30:17,160 Speaker 8: All. 670 00:30:20,200 --> 00:30:22,280 Speaker 5: The very same god. 671 00:30:23,560 --> 00:30:29,440 Speaker 10: That spends things in orband he. 672 00:30:29,600 --> 00:30:32,720 Speaker 11: Runs to the wey. 673 00:30:32,720 --> 00:30:39,520 Speaker 4: The world and if you are the week ham the 674 00:30:39,680 --> 00:30:47,480 Speaker 4: same gentle hand times that bold me when they hold 675 00:30:47,600 --> 00:30:52,560 Speaker 4: me in a brown they conquered death to bring me 676 00:30:52,960 --> 00:30:57,120 Speaker 4: be call breathing the world. 677 00:30:59,480 --> 00:31:00,680 Speaker 3: My gee. 678 00:31:02,760 --> 00:31:09,920 Speaker 11: Here it see U no home my reading. 679 00:31:12,000 --> 00:31:12,640 Speaker 1: He leave. 680 00:31:14,600 --> 00:31:21,480 Speaker 11: So let all creates testing f wele this lord. 681 00:31:23,120 --> 00:31:24,160 Speaker 1: Crowd out. 682 00:31:25,800 --> 00:31:27,600 Speaker 6: O my reading. 683 00:31:29,600 --> 00:31:31,320 Speaker 10: Get on y'all see. 684 00:31:33,800 --> 00:31:37,640 Speaker 11: To take or worry man myself. 685 00:31:38,760 --> 00:31:40,360 Speaker 1: Oh thank you geez. 686 00:31:43,440 --> 00:31:50,840 Speaker 11: Forever we've gotta cry. Let sign the pap and for 687 00:31:51,840 --> 00:31:57,640 Speaker 11: my sin was the precious life he kay. 688 00:31:58,440 --> 00:32:04,760 Speaker 8: But now he's all and empty grol. 689 00:32:08,800 --> 00:32:16,120 Speaker 10: And everything. 690 00:32:19,600 --> 00:32:24,320 Speaker 11: I do know, I know that I know, I don't that, 691 00:32:24,440 --> 00:32:26,200 Speaker 11: I know that I know that I know that I 692 00:32:26,280 --> 00:32:29,080 Speaker 11: know that I know that I know that know that all. 693 00:32:32,480 --> 00:32:36,160 Speaker 1: Same migranty lists we call him is. 694 00:32:36,400 --> 00:32:40,800 Speaker 11: We can pre to long and the next back and 695 00:32:40,960 --> 00:32:43,800 Speaker 11: the next sec Jesus really miss. 696 00:32:43,960 --> 00:32:48,160 Speaker 6: I've talked with him the morning there it's. 697 00:32:49,560 --> 00:32:53,720 Speaker 9: Yourself Jesus. Really good, we got. 698 00:33:13,240 --> 00:33:13,560 Speaker 2: All right? 699 00:33:13,640 --> 00:33:14,360 Speaker 1: Did y'all love that. 700 00:33:16,840 --> 00:33:17,280 Speaker 11: So good? 701 00:33:17,360 --> 00:33:22,239 Speaker 1: Well, you know, in oermost challenging seasons, Nicole has uh 702 00:33:22,720 --> 00:33:25,400 Speaker 1: she saw our own story reflected in Biblical heroes like 703 00:33:25,560 --> 00:33:28,640 Speaker 1: Ruth and boas their faith and courage fuelled her walk 704 00:33:28,720 --> 00:33:32,120 Speaker 1: with God, inspiring her to live with fearless obedience. But 705 00:33:32,240 --> 00:33:34,920 Speaker 1: before we get to that and her book, It's never 706 00:33:35,000 --> 00:33:37,120 Speaker 1: wrong to do the right thing. Joining me on the 707 00:33:37,200 --> 00:33:40,000 Speaker 1: table is Leatricia. How are you doing? 708 00:33:40,160 --> 00:33:41,840 Speaker 6: I'm like great, I'm doing great. 709 00:33:41,840 --> 00:33:43,720 Speaker 1: I'm so excited to see my tweet. 710 00:33:43,760 --> 00:33:51,680 Speaker 2: I mean, that's right, that's right across from love you, Santa. 711 00:33:51,760 --> 00:33:52,440 Speaker 1: How are you doing? 712 00:33:52,840 --> 00:33:53,360 Speaker 2: Just great? 713 00:33:53,520 --> 00:33:57,040 Speaker 12: And you know, my favorite Biblical woman is Abigail, So 714 00:33:57,080 --> 00:33:59,840 Speaker 12: I'm excited to hear about Abigail today. 715 00:34:00,040 --> 00:34:04,160 Speaker 1: Out well, you know, Rachel Nicole calls Abbot Gail Ashiro 716 00:34:04,360 --> 00:34:04,880 Speaker 1: in the Bible. 717 00:34:05,080 --> 00:34:08,320 Speaker 5: I love that girls doing big things for the Kingdom 718 00:34:08,360 --> 00:34:08,640 Speaker 5: of God. 719 00:34:08,680 --> 00:34:09,600 Speaker 2: And that's our guest today. 720 00:34:09,680 --> 00:34:12,520 Speaker 3: She always just brings so much joy and she's got 721 00:34:12,560 --> 00:34:14,440 Speaker 3: such a big personality that fills the room. 722 00:34:14,480 --> 00:34:15,400 Speaker 2: I love when she's at day. 723 00:34:15,440 --> 00:34:19,319 Speaker 1: Start all right, Rebecca, how are you doing today? I'm great, 724 00:34:19,440 --> 00:34:20,160 Speaker 1: happy to be here. 725 00:34:20,520 --> 00:34:23,160 Speaker 3: Yeah, and I also loved hearing the mention of Boaz 726 00:34:23,239 --> 00:34:24,439 Speaker 3: because that's my son's name. 727 00:34:25,760 --> 00:34:28,120 Speaker 1: We might talk a little bit about bo today for sure, 728 00:34:28,160 --> 00:34:30,640 Speaker 1: and we call him both. Yes, it's such a cutie. 729 00:34:30,840 --> 00:34:33,080 Speaker 1: How are you doing, Cindy oh Man from the Mountains 730 00:34:33,120 --> 00:34:34,960 Speaker 1: of North Carolina. She has come to the day we 731 00:34:35,719 --> 00:34:40,239 Speaker 1: come to the city. After that song, I'm just I'm 732 00:34:40,280 --> 00:34:42,600 Speaker 1: all shook up. But you know, it's just like a 733 00:34:42,719 --> 00:34:44,400 Speaker 1: note that I know that, I know that, I know, 734 00:34:44,800 --> 00:34:46,840 Speaker 1: and I didn't want her to quit saying it. He 735 00:34:47,040 --> 00:34:49,840 Speaker 1: lives no matter what we're going through now. Well, you 736 00:34:49,920 --> 00:34:52,640 Speaker 1: know that's an important part of that song because the 737 00:34:52,680 --> 00:34:55,040 Speaker 1: crucifixion was one thing, but it would have been nothing 738 00:34:55,680 --> 00:34:58,759 Speaker 1: had he not Risen Risen from the Dad. It's right, 739 00:34:59,080 --> 00:35:00,720 Speaker 1: you know that everything. 740 00:35:01,960 --> 00:35:03,080 Speaker 2: Welcome, my friends. 741 00:35:03,200 --> 00:35:04,040 Speaker 1: Good to have you back. 742 00:35:04,160 --> 00:35:04,440 Speaker 11: Thank you. 743 00:35:04,480 --> 00:35:07,160 Speaker 10: It's so wonderful to be back and to be among 744 00:35:07,320 --> 00:35:08,640 Speaker 10: all my lovely sisters. 745 00:35:09,600 --> 00:35:12,560 Speaker 1: When you talk about Abigail, since Anna wants to go there, 746 00:35:12,600 --> 00:35:15,440 Speaker 1: it's never wrong to do the right thing. She's your 747 00:35:15,719 --> 00:35:18,160 Speaker 1: one of your She rows in the Bible, and you 748 00:35:18,280 --> 00:35:20,839 Speaker 1: think about I love her story because when you think 749 00:35:20,920 --> 00:35:24,640 Speaker 1: about how she made right decisions, not knowing what her 750 00:35:24,680 --> 00:35:25,719 Speaker 1: future held. 751 00:35:26,200 --> 00:35:27,520 Speaker 2: But God knew what her future. 752 00:35:27,560 --> 00:35:32,360 Speaker 1: Healed absolutely, And there are people watching that your discourage. 753 00:35:32,440 --> 00:35:34,520 Speaker 1: You're right in the middle of something and something's happened. 754 00:35:34,560 --> 00:35:36,080 Speaker 1: You don't know what you're gonna do or you're gonna 755 00:35:36,080 --> 00:35:38,600 Speaker 1: go what's gonna end? And the Lord is saying, I 756 00:35:38,680 --> 00:35:40,960 Speaker 1: need you to trust me right now. I need you 757 00:35:41,080 --> 00:35:43,640 Speaker 1: to have faith and believe that I'm with you and 758 00:35:43,680 --> 00:35:45,040 Speaker 1: I'm not going to leave you. I'm not going to 759 00:35:45,080 --> 00:35:47,000 Speaker 1: forsake you, and I'm going to see you through this. 760 00:35:47,760 --> 00:35:50,200 Speaker 1: And that's what happened with Ruth. 761 00:35:50,360 --> 00:35:50,520 Speaker 3: Right. 762 00:35:50,640 --> 00:35:52,359 Speaker 2: She had no idea what was ahead of her. 763 00:35:52,600 --> 00:35:57,560 Speaker 10: So tell us, ruthil tell us a Sheiro story about Ruth. 764 00:35:57,719 --> 00:36:01,279 Speaker 6: Okay, Ruth, Okay, So Ruth, Oh, I'm sorry, it's so 765 00:36:01,360 --> 00:36:04,359 Speaker 6: good because we're female, we'll get. 766 00:36:05,840 --> 00:36:06,040 Speaker 1: Yeah. 767 00:36:06,719 --> 00:36:09,080 Speaker 10: But Abigail, you know, she was like the Bible says, 768 00:36:09,120 --> 00:36:11,960 Speaker 10: she was intelligent, she's beautiful, and all these things. 769 00:36:12,040 --> 00:36:13,759 Speaker 6: She had it going on. She's a Sheiro and she. 770 00:36:13,880 --> 00:36:15,479 Speaker 2: Was married to somebody that had money. 771 00:36:15,840 --> 00:36:16,880 Speaker 1: I mean, he was very. 772 00:36:16,760 --> 00:36:20,680 Speaker 10: Wealthy, but he was not wealthy in character right or 773 00:36:20,920 --> 00:36:24,120 Speaker 10: in integrity. And she had a decision to make either 774 00:36:24,160 --> 00:36:25,960 Speaker 10: she could side with her husband who was doing the 775 00:36:26,000 --> 00:36:29,160 Speaker 10: wrong thing, or she could side with the truth. 776 00:36:29,000 --> 00:36:29,920 Speaker 6: And the right thing to do. 777 00:36:30,600 --> 00:36:33,440 Speaker 10: And so in the midst of you know him, you know, 778 00:36:33,560 --> 00:36:37,560 Speaker 10: pretty much disrespecting David, who would be a future king 779 00:36:38,280 --> 00:36:42,320 Speaker 10: and being stingy with the resources that he had, it 780 00:36:42,440 --> 00:36:44,759 Speaker 10: was going to bring death to her household. And she 781 00:36:44,800 --> 00:36:46,239 Speaker 10: could have sat by and just said, well, it's not 782 00:36:46,320 --> 00:36:46,680 Speaker 10: my fault. 783 00:36:46,719 --> 00:36:47,279 Speaker 2: I didn't do it. 784 00:36:47,560 --> 00:36:51,120 Speaker 1: Yeah, And David had actually helped Nabel, I mean absolutely 785 00:36:51,160 --> 00:36:54,000 Speaker 1: in his field, abs his land, and he protected it. 786 00:36:54,160 --> 00:36:55,719 Speaker 2: Yes, so all he's asking for. 787 00:36:55,800 --> 00:36:58,080 Speaker 6: His food, Yes, give me some done, give me some chicken, 788 00:36:58,080 --> 00:36:58,719 Speaker 6: give me some lamp. 789 00:36:58,800 --> 00:37:02,600 Speaker 2: And so when her husband responded. 790 00:37:02,160 --> 00:37:06,080 Speaker 10: Like no, no, and and he actually responded to Joie like, 791 00:37:06,440 --> 00:37:09,440 Speaker 10: who was this David, Like it was exactly, we got 792 00:37:09,440 --> 00:37:12,000 Speaker 10: a lot of slaves running free these days. Now, David 793 00:37:12,040 --> 00:37:14,279 Speaker 10: had already killed not only the lion in the bear, 794 00:37:14,360 --> 00:37:16,879 Speaker 10: he had already killed Goliath. So everybody in the nation 795 00:37:16,960 --> 00:37:19,840 Speaker 10: knew who he was. So this was a grave insult. 796 00:37:20,560 --> 00:37:22,600 Speaker 10: And when they went back and told David, David was like, 797 00:37:22,760 --> 00:37:25,640 Speaker 10: oh for real, He told this man, strap on your swords, 798 00:37:25,719 --> 00:37:28,120 Speaker 10: here we go. Yeah, So they were you know, he 799 00:37:28,120 --> 00:37:31,480 Speaker 10: said take out every male that against the wall. 800 00:37:31,840 --> 00:37:33,799 Speaker 6: So he was like, we're going to take him out. 801 00:37:33,920 --> 00:37:36,520 Speaker 10: And so when Abigail heard this, because she wasn't around 802 00:37:36,520 --> 00:37:39,440 Speaker 10: when her husband gave the rebuttal, she wasn't there to hear. 803 00:37:39,920 --> 00:37:41,960 Speaker 10: But when one of the servants came to her and 804 00:37:42,080 --> 00:37:42,959 Speaker 10: they said, you know what your. 805 00:37:42,880 --> 00:37:44,520 Speaker 1: Husband just said to David again? 806 00:37:45,040 --> 00:37:46,000 Speaker 6: You know something else now? 807 00:37:46,120 --> 00:37:48,520 Speaker 10: Yeah, So she's like and they were like, even the 808 00:37:48,560 --> 00:37:51,480 Speaker 10: servants said, you know, he's always pretty much always doing 809 00:37:51,520 --> 00:37:53,560 Speaker 10: stuff like this, like we know him as you know, 810 00:37:53,760 --> 00:37:56,800 Speaker 10: to be able to utter that type of a phrase 811 00:37:56,960 --> 00:37:59,279 Speaker 10: to the wife and her not say how dare you 812 00:37:59,320 --> 00:37:59,960 Speaker 10: talk about my husb? 813 00:38:00,040 --> 00:38:00,360 Speaker 3: And like this? 814 00:38:00,640 --> 00:38:04,040 Speaker 10: She knew it was true, and so but she went. 815 00:38:04,239 --> 00:38:06,400 Speaker 10: She decided I'm going to run interference. She made the 816 00:38:06,440 --> 00:38:09,560 Speaker 10: situation right, She took the resources, and she presented them 817 00:38:09,600 --> 00:38:11,000 Speaker 10: today a lot of great food. 818 00:38:11,360 --> 00:38:14,520 Speaker 2: She sure did. She told the just pile it up 819 00:38:16,719 --> 00:38:18,080 Speaker 2: and we're going to meet him first. 820 00:38:18,120 --> 00:38:19,040 Speaker 6: She said, you go ahead of me. 821 00:38:19,120 --> 00:38:20,880 Speaker 10: And so when they went ahead of her, she probably 822 00:38:20,880 --> 00:38:22,560 Speaker 10: wouldn't have got herself together. She's probably like, you know, 823 00:38:22,600 --> 00:38:25,440 Speaker 10: I can't go looking just any old howdaway a femail? 824 00:38:25,480 --> 00:38:29,000 Speaker 10: All right? So you know, probably just like when you know, 825 00:38:29,160 --> 00:38:31,840 Speaker 10: I know, I'm skipping stories. What Naomi told Ruth, She 826 00:38:31,920 --> 00:38:35,239 Speaker 10: told her, you know, wash, put on some perfume, put 827 00:38:35,320 --> 00:38:38,440 Speaker 10: on your best clothes, then you go. So Abigail probably 828 00:38:38,920 --> 00:38:39,960 Speaker 10: washed really quickly, you know. 829 00:38:39,920 --> 00:38:41,560 Speaker 6: What I'm saying, put on some perfume and just put 830 00:38:41,600 --> 00:38:42,400 Speaker 6: on something cute. 831 00:38:42,600 --> 00:38:44,360 Speaker 10: And she's like, because I have to go and appeal 832 00:38:44,480 --> 00:38:48,400 Speaker 10: for our lives. And so she ran interference and she 833 00:38:48,640 --> 00:38:51,920 Speaker 10: she prostrated herself before David and was like, I didn't know, Like, 834 00:38:52,040 --> 00:38:54,920 Speaker 10: I'm so sorry. I know your honor has been bruised. 835 00:38:55,480 --> 00:38:59,480 Speaker 10: I know he has unjustly responded to the justice you've. 836 00:38:59,360 --> 00:39:01,000 Speaker 6: Given him, but I didn't know. 837 00:39:01,080 --> 00:39:05,160 Speaker 10: And so receive this as as my token of we're 838 00:39:05,280 --> 00:39:06,640 Speaker 10: sorry and we want to make him in. 839 00:39:06,800 --> 00:39:08,960 Speaker 2: Here's some figs right here. Yeah, exactly. 840 00:39:10,200 --> 00:39:13,840 Speaker 10: But her she acted quickly, and she acted courageously. And 841 00:39:13,920 --> 00:39:16,680 Speaker 10: at the same time, she could have just set up 842 00:39:16,719 --> 00:39:18,680 Speaker 10: Nabel and said, hey, you know what's he's been doing 843 00:39:18,680 --> 00:39:20,800 Speaker 10: stupid stuff anyway? Can you just take him out and 844 00:39:20,920 --> 00:39:22,880 Speaker 10: you and I will split the you know, the assets 845 00:39:22,880 --> 00:39:23,359 Speaker 10: that are left. 846 00:39:23,640 --> 00:39:24,320 Speaker 1: But she didn't. 847 00:39:24,760 --> 00:39:26,800 Speaker 10: She left it to God to decide to get or 848 00:39:26,960 --> 00:39:29,560 Speaker 10: quit him. You know, and she did the right thing 849 00:39:29,600 --> 00:39:30,920 Speaker 10: in the midst of it, with the right heart. And 850 00:39:31,000 --> 00:39:33,160 Speaker 10: then the Bible says she went back home, and when 851 00:39:33,160 --> 00:39:35,680 Speaker 10: she got back home, Nabel was high in spirits. He 852 00:39:35,840 --> 00:39:38,320 Speaker 10: was partying like a king, and so she was like, 853 00:39:38,880 --> 00:39:40,680 Speaker 10: he a little on drunk side. It's not the right 854 00:39:40,760 --> 00:39:43,399 Speaker 10: time to talk to him. So I was noting, Okay, 855 00:39:43,600 --> 00:39:44,640 Speaker 10: it's not always the right. 856 00:39:44,600 --> 00:39:45,400 Speaker 1: Time, you know. 857 00:39:45,520 --> 00:39:47,560 Speaker 10: Sometimes we are to act quickly and sometimes we are 858 00:39:47,640 --> 00:39:50,560 Speaker 10: to wait and act wisely. And so she knew that 859 00:39:50,680 --> 00:39:53,680 Speaker 10: until the next morning. The Bible says, when he had 860 00:39:53,719 --> 00:39:57,080 Speaker 10: sobered up, Abigail told her husband Abel what it happened 861 00:39:57,120 --> 00:39:59,480 Speaker 10: and what she had done to run interference and to 862 00:39:59,520 --> 00:40:02,080 Speaker 10: save their house household, and the Bible says that his 863 00:40:02,320 --> 00:40:04,920 Speaker 10: heart failed him and turned to stone. 864 00:40:05,000 --> 00:40:06,080 Speaker 2: So he got so mad. 865 00:40:06,520 --> 00:40:08,840 Speaker 10: Either he had heart attack, yes, you know, and and 866 00:40:09,200 --> 00:40:12,360 Speaker 10: you passed away, or it was so hardened. 867 00:40:12,760 --> 00:40:15,560 Speaker 6: Either way, the lord got vented. 868 00:40:15,880 --> 00:40:16,280 Speaker 2: Exactly. 869 00:40:16,280 --> 00:40:19,200 Speaker 10: It wasn't David's hand. It wasn't it wasn't Abigail's hand. 870 00:40:19,719 --> 00:40:21,440 Speaker 2: And David would thank Abigail later. 871 00:40:21,719 --> 00:40:24,360 Speaker 1: Absolutely, it's like, you know, I was really making a 872 00:40:24,440 --> 00:40:25,280 Speaker 1: hasty decision. 873 00:40:25,320 --> 00:40:27,840 Speaker 2: It wasn't a wise decision. Yes, and you're the one 874 00:40:27,880 --> 00:40:28,920 Speaker 2: who stopped you kept. 875 00:40:28,800 --> 00:40:29,400 Speaker 1: Me from doing that. 876 00:40:29,560 --> 00:40:31,799 Speaker 12: And I love what Abigail said to him. She said, 877 00:40:31,920 --> 00:40:34,200 Speaker 12: your soul is bundled with the lords. 878 00:40:34,680 --> 00:40:36,560 Speaker 6: Do not prophesied to that man. 879 00:40:36,719 --> 00:40:41,279 Speaker 2: Yeah, he did not unbund No, love it. 880 00:40:41,560 --> 00:40:46,719 Speaker 1: And then after that, yes, yeah, sometimes David said, oh, yeah, 881 00:40:46,800 --> 00:40:48,880 Speaker 1: I think I'll tell her as my wife. 882 00:40:50,320 --> 00:40:51,480 Speaker 6: Yes, he remembered her. 883 00:40:51,560 --> 00:40:54,000 Speaker 10: And and so I mean so interesting too, because when 884 00:40:54,080 --> 00:40:56,719 Speaker 10: David sent the servants to propose, he didn't go himself. 885 00:40:56,760 --> 00:40:59,880 Speaker 10: I guess he was shy, but the servants went and said, hey, 886 00:41:00,000 --> 00:41:01,799 Speaker 10: even wants to take you as his wife. The Bible 887 00:41:01,840 --> 00:41:03,839 Speaker 10: says she felt down again. She was like, okay, I'm 888 00:41:03,920 --> 00:41:06,240 Speaker 10: ready to serve even my master's servants. 889 00:41:06,840 --> 00:41:07,840 Speaker 6: This is a wealthy woman. 890 00:41:08,400 --> 00:41:10,040 Speaker 10: She had her own servant, she had her girls that 891 00:41:10,120 --> 00:41:12,520 Speaker 10: came with her, so she was very wealthy. But she 892 00:41:12,719 --> 00:41:15,279 Speaker 10: decided that even in this right here, I'm willing to 893 00:41:15,400 --> 00:41:20,040 Speaker 10: humble myself again. And so that posture is also a 894 00:41:20,080 --> 00:41:22,359 Speaker 10: blueprint for us, even in the midst of us having 895 00:41:22,400 --> 00:41:24,560 Speaker 10: to take courage, having to do the hard thing, having 896 00:41:24,600 --> 00:41:26,880 Speaker 10: to respond in ways that sometimes are not popular. 897 00:41:27,000 --> 00:41:28,440 Speaker 2: Okay, so we have to about Ruth. 898 00:41:28,480 --> 00:41:32,480 Speaker 1: Okay, go ahead, I love Ruth. Oh. Yes, Ruth had 899 00:41:32,680 --> 00:41:35,840 Speaker 1: a very difficult thing that she went through. Her husband 900 00:41:35,920 --> 00:41:39,799 Speaker 1: died absolutely, and she's there, yeah, and she's going all 901 00:41:39,840 --> 00:41:41,200 Speaker 1: of a sudden to a strange land. 902 00:41:41,920 --> 00:41:45,080 Speaker 10: And she made the decision to go with her mother, 903 00:41:45,160 --> 00:41:47,800 Speaker 10: her mother in law, Naomi, who was a little grumpy 904 00:41:47,800 --> 00:41:48,239 Speaker 10: at the time. 905 00:41:49,680 --> 00:41:55,040 Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly, because she's like to like no, and everybody 906 00:41:55,160 --> 00:41:57,400 Speaker 2: uses that scripture when you go, I'll go. 907 00:41:58,160 --> 00:42:01,920 Speaker 6: You say, people be my people and your God will. 908 00:42:01,800 --> 00:42:06,960 Speaker 1: Be my God. Yeah, so tell everybody what happened with Ruth. 909 00:42:07,080 --> 00:42:09,759 Speaker 10: But I love it because Ruth decided that I'm going 910 00:42:09,840 --> 00:42:12,279 Speaker 10: to get up from where I'm comfortable, where I have 911 00:42:12,480 --> 00:42:16,839 Speaker 10: already resided, and because I've heard she must have heard 912 00:42:16,880 --> 00:42:20,279 Speaker 10: the stories of Bethlehem, the House of Bread, whether it's 913 00:42:20,320 --> 00:42:22,919 Speaker 10: from her husband or whether it's from her mother in law. 914 00:42:23,040 --> 00:42:24,600 Speaker 2: She had heard of this land, and she just heard 915 00:42:24,640 --> 00:42:25,560 Speaker 2: about the God of Israel. 916 00:42:26,239 --> 00:42:28,280 Speaker 6: So she's like, that's where I want to reside. 917 00:42:28,640 --> 00:42:31,200 Speaker 10: And so she takes the risk of leaving everything she's known, 918 00:42:31,360 --> 00:42:34,520 Speaker 10: leaving everything behind, her gods, her people, everything, and she 919 00:42:34,760 --> 00:42:37,760 Speaker 10: goes with Naomi to a place where she's not familiar. 920 00:42:37,800 --> 00:42:39,040 Speaker 10: She doesn't know if I'm going to fit in and 921 00:42:39,280 --> 00:42:39,759 Speaker 10: will I fit in? 922 00:42:39,880 --> 00:42:40,440 Speaker 6: Will they like me? 923 00:42:40,880 --> 00:42:43,480 Speaker 10: But when they get there, now Naomi has a lot 924 00:42:43,560 --> 00:42:47,399 Speaker 10: of land. She has what her husband had had before 925 00:42:47,440 --> 00:42:50,759 Speaker 10: they had left from Bethlehem to go to Moab, but 926 00:42:50,880 --> 00:42:53,080 Speaker 10: they didn't have any crops. They had nothing to eat. 927 00:42:53,640 --> 00:42:56,719 Speaker 10: And so Ruth decided, I'm willing to go out into 928 00:42:56,760 --> 00:42:59,080 Speaker 10: the field. I don't know where I'm going to land, and. 929 00:42:59,160 --> 00:43:01,200 Speaker 2: I will work. I won't work. 930 00:43:01,239 --> 00:43:03,799 Speaker 10: I'm not working necessarily even for pay, but I'm working 931 00:43:03,840 --> 00:43:06,120 Speaker 10: for food that will be our pay. And so she 932 00:43:06,280 --> 00:43:09,200 Speaker 10: stumbles out into this particular field and she doesn't know 933 00:43:10,120 --> 00:43:11,000 Speaker 10: the you know, who is who? 934 00:43:11,120 --> 00:43:12,960 Speaker 6: She doesn't know family members or anything. She's like, we 935 00:43:13,080 --> 00:43:13,680 Speaker 6: just need to eat. 936 00:43:14,360 --> 00:43:16,839 Speaker 10: And as it would have it, the Lord led her 937 00:43:17,040 --> 00:43:18,840 Speaker 10: without her even knowing that she was being led by 938 00:43:18,880 --> 00:43:21,000 Speaker 10: the Lord because her heart was right, because she had 939 00:43:21,040 --> 00:43:24,400 Speaker 10: chosen to do the right thing, and so he allowed 940 00:43:24,440 --> 00:43:27,960 Speaker 10: her to enter into a field where a man named. 941 00:43:28,480 --> 00:43:29,080 Speaker 1: Bo As. 942 00:43:31,560 --> 00:43:37,000 Speaker 10: He owned the field, and ironically Boas is the son 943 00:43:37,160 --> 00:43:39,520 Speaker 10: of Rayhab, who had once been a. 944 00:43:39,560 --> 00:43:42,520 Speaker 6: Prostitute's who God used to you know. 945 00:43:44,080 --> 00:43:47,520 Speaker 10: Absolutely? And then God redeemed her through a man named salmon. 946 00:43:47,640 --> 00:43:50,239 Speaker 10: So now you got Salmon and Rahab residing in Bethlehem. 947 00:43:50,400 --> 00:43:51,319 Speaker 2: That's another whole story. 948 00:43:51,360 --> 00:43:56,239 Speaker 10: You got to go ready, and then there they are, 949 00:43:56,400 --> 00:43:58,759 Speaker 10: and before you know it, boas is he's putting on, 950 00:43:58,840 --> 00:44:01,840 Speaker 10: like I said earlier, the costume of the Ultimate Redeemer. 951 00:44:01,960 --> 00:44:04,120 Speaker 1: I love it because he goes ahead of her and says, 952 00:44:04,200 --> 00:44:07,200 Speaker 1: now he tells everybody because she's just picking up the leftovers, 953 00:44:07,600 --> 00:44:08,920 Speaker 1: and he's like, drop. 954 00:44:08,840 --> 00:44:09,640 Speaker 2: More from her. 955 00:44:09,880 --> 00:44:10,320 Speaker 1: I love it. 956 00:44:10,760 --> 00:44:14,480 Speaker 2: We don't review her, and she's like taking all this 957 00:44:14,760 --> 00:44:15,160 Speaker 2: O yea. 958 00:44:15,440 --> 00:44:17,920 Speaker 1: They always like where did you get all this? Like, yeah, 959 00:44:18,320 --> 00:44:21,000 Speaker 1: this is what happened. And then of course the story 960 00:44:21,160 --> 00:44:24,719 Speaker 1: of how they kept their relationship pure. Yes, I love it. 961 00:44:24,800 --> 00:44:26,680 Speaker 1: And of course they ended up getting married. 962 00:44:27,000 --> 00:44:29,359 Speaker 10: They did, and he fell in love with her, he did, 963 00:44:29,600 --> 00:44:31,840 Speaker 10: and and I see all the time, like, okay, he 964 00:44:32,080 --> 00:44:36,680 Speaker 10: married her because he was keeping uh, he was doing 965 00:44:36,840 --> 00:44:39,640 Speaker 10: what was in the law that he could do. You know, 966 00:44:39,719 --> 00:44:42,160 Speaker 10: as far as a family member redeeming somebody in your family, 967 00:44:42,239 --> 00:44:44,480 Speaker 10: that's you know, having a hard time. But to fall 968 00:44:44,560 --> 00:44:48,359 Speaker 10: in love wasn't against the law, and Bible says when 969 00:44:48,360 --> 00:44:50,840 Speaker 10: he made love to her, she conceived it. Didn't just 970 00:44:50,880 --> 00:44:53,040 Speaker 10: say he knew her, as it uses in a lot 971 00:44:53,120 --> 00:44:55,800 Speaker 10: of other instances. Then she was able to conceive, and 972 00:44:55,920 --> 00:44:58,680 Speaker 10: we know from that conception God gave them a little 973 00:44:58,719 --> 00:45:01,799 Speaker 10: boy named Ovid, and then from Ovid we have Jesse, 974 00:45:02,120 --> 00:45:02,760 Speaker 10: and then from. 975 00:45:02,600 --> 00:45:04,040 Speaker 1: Then Jesse we have David. 976 00:45:04,719 --> 00:45:06,680 Speaker 10: And through the line of David we wind up seeing 977 00:45:06,760 --> 00:45:09,320 Speaker 10: Mary and Joseph, and then we have Jesus. 978 00:45:09,680 --> 00:45:14,440 Speaker 6: Such christ, ultimate rider Lord and what a lineage. 979 00:45:14,680 --> 00:45:17,239 Speaker 10: But he came from all these broken people and all 980 00:45:17,280 --> 00:45:18,560 Speaker 10: these broken stories. 981 00:45:18,239 --> 00:45:20,160 Speaker 6: To show us that we this is how we fit in. 982 00:45:20,719 --> 00:45:22,640 Speaker 10: He didn't look for all the perfect people because they 983 00:45:22,680 --> 00:45:26,160 Speaker 10: didn't exist. So he only has messed up people in 984 00:45:26,239 --> 00:45:28,560 Speaker 10: his family because he came for messed up. 985 00:45:28,440 --> 00:45:30,440 Speaker 1: People, and they some of them would end up in 986 00:45:30,480 --> 00:45:34,319 Speaker 1: the Hall of Faith. Yes, yes, and you know it's 987 00:45:34,400 --> 00:45:37,600 Speaker 1: amazing to think about that. Talk a little bit about 988 00:45:38,400 --> 00:45:42,040 Speaker 1: you know, you grew up in a Christian home, you 989 00:45:42,120 --> 00:45:44,720 Speaker 1: were saved, filled with the spirit, went to Bible school, 990 00:45:45,480 --> 00:45:49,919 Speaker 1: and thought you met a godly like apostle. Paul, Yeah, 991 00:45:50,719 --> 00:45:51,680 Speaker 1: tell us what happened? 992 00:45:51,840 --> 00:45:53,480 Speaker 10: Okay, Well, like you said, I did grow up in 993 00:45:53,480 --> 00:45:54,200 Speaker 10: a Christian home. 994 00:45:54,360 --> 00:45:55,320 Speaker 6: Everything was good. 995 00:45:55,160 --> 00:45:57,840 Speaker 10: Growing up, Mom and dad loved Jesus, found myself in 996 00:45:57,880 --> 00:46:02,640 Speaker 10: an abusive relationship for three years, and he would he 997 00:46:02,680 --> 00:46:04,960 Speaker 10: would ask this question that he would answer over and over. 998 00:46:05,040 --> 00:46:07,640 Speaker 10: He'd ask me often, Nicole, what is your purpose in life? 999 00:46:07,960 --> 00:46:10,000 Speaker 10: And then he'd answer, that's your problem. You have no 1000 00:46:10,080 --> 00:46:12,719 Speaker 10: purpose in life. And I guess I had uttered at 1001 00:46:12,840 --> 00:46:16,040 Speaker 10: least once that I wanted to sing, and he would 1002 00:46:16,080 --> 00:46:19,120 Speaker 10: give me the rebuttal of you know, well, contemporary Christian 1003 00:46:19,200 --> 00:46:20,120 Speaker 10: artist is not in the Bible. 1004 00:46:20,200 --> 00:46:21,080 Speaker 2: You have no purpose. 1005 00:46:21,600 --> 00:46:25,600 Speaker 10: So it taught me to hold on to what I thought, 1006 00:46:25,719 --> 00:46:28,120 Speaker 10: not to reveal what I felt like God was calling 1007 00:46:28,160 --> 00:46:31,200 Speaker 10: me to do. Even though at the age of twelve 1008 00:46:31,280 --> 00:46:33,560 Speaker 10: it had been prophesied over me. God had had my 1009 00:46:33,680 --> 00:46:35,960 Speaker 10: dad lay hands on me that the Lord would use 1010 00:46:36,000 --> 00:46:37,319 Speaker 10: me in music, take me around the world. 1011 00:46:37,360 --> 00:46:39,520 Speaker 1: So he was telling you that God, that God wasn't 1012 00:46:39,520 --> 00:46:41,359 Speaker 1: going to use exactly the enemy. 1013 00:46:41,400 --> 00:46:43,759 Speaker 3: It would be so like negative I mean towards his wife, 1014 00:46:43,800 --> 00:46:46,600 Speaker 3: because your partners supposed to be the person that's championing you. 1015 00:46:47,000 --> 00:46:49,200 Speaker 6: So she needed to do like be honestly, you even 1016 00:46:49,280 --> 00:46:50,280 Speaker 6: can think that you could. 1017 00:46:50,160 --> 00:46:53,080 Speaker 1: Do your When was the first, like after you got married, 1018 00:46:53,520 --> 00:46:55,920 Speaker 1: when was the first time that he actually was abusive 1019 00:46:56,000 --> 00:46:58,000 Speaker 1: towards you and did you think, Okay, this is just 1020 00:46:58,080 --> 00:46:59,920 Speaker 1: going to be a one time thing that it would continue. 1021 00:47:00,280 --> 00:47:03,200 Speaker 10: Well, he actually hit me before we got married one 1022 00:47:03,320 --> 00:47:04,960 Speaker 10: time and he had this hand around my neck to 1023 00:47:05,000 --> 00:47:06,720 Speaker 10: and I thought, well, he said he was sorry. 1024 00:47:06,800 --> 00:47:07,719 Speaker 6: I'm going to forgive him. 1025 00:47:08,040 --> 00:47:10,680 Speaker 10: And in our faith culture, we were taught to believe 1026 00:47:10,760 --> 00:47:13,480 Speaker 10: back then that to forgive is just to completely forget. 1027 00:47:13,760 --> 00:47:15,759 Speaker 2: But your mom actually had Oh mom was like, no, 1028 00:47:15,840 --> 00:47:16,439 Speaker 2: this is not God. 1029 00:47:16,680 --> 00:47:19,160 Speaker 1: She had some red flag absolutely, and You're like, but no, 1030 00:47:19,360 --> 00:47:21,520 Speaker 1: I believe this is God. So when she's grown and 1031 00:47:21,600 --> 00:47:25,200 Speaker 1: I wasn't, Yeah, when you got married? How soon did 1032 00:47:25,239 --> 00:47:27,200 Speaker 1: the abuse start after you got married? 1033 00:47:27,680 --> 00:47:27,919 Speaker 8: Ooh? 1034 00:47:30,280 --> 00:47:35,240 Speaker 10: Honestly, I'd say probably mentally on the honeymoon. Yeah, physically, 1035 00:47:35,480 --> 00:47:37,480 Speaker 10: probably within a month or two, I would guess, if 1036 00:47:37,520 --> 00:47:40,560 Speaker 10: I'm my recollection serves me right. But on the honeymoon 1037 00:47:40,880 --> 00:47:45,440 Speaker 10: it was he was pretty cruel, honestly to where you know, 1038 00:47:45,520 --> 00:47:48,279 Speaker 10: here I was, I had kept myself and I wasn't 1039 00:47:48,360 --> 00:47:51,040 Speaker 10: used to certain things, and I'm like, okay, can you 1040 00:47:51,120 --> 00:47:53,640 Speaker 10: be gentle? Can you? And he was, you know, just 1041 00:47:53,960 --> 00:47:55,480 Speaker 10: maybe we got to just get in an moment and 1042 00:47:55,760 --> 00:47:59,000 Speaker 10: I felt like I just you know, and it was 1043 00:47:59,760 --> 00:48:03,800 Speaker 10: that behavior turned into more physical abuse. 1044 00:48:04,080 --> 00:48:06,920 Speaker 1: So at what point, because you stayed for three years, 1045 00:48:07,040 --> 00:48:10,919 Speaker 1: three years, at what point did you were like you knew? 1046 00:48:11,120 --> 00:48:13,040 Speaker 1: I mean, I just want to say, if anybody's watching 1047 00:48:13,080 --> 00:48:18,040 Speaker 1: and you're in abusive marriage where there's you know, mental 1048 00:48:18,239 --> 00:48:23,319 Speaker 1: and physical abuse going on, number one, tell someone get 1049 00:48:23,360 --> 00:48:26,960 Speaker 1: some help and possibly leave and get out of this situation. 1050 00:48:27,120 --> 00:48:27,919 Speaker 2: Don't stay there. 1051 00:48:28,840 --> 00:48:31,400 Speaker 1: That finally happened with you, and you told me the story. 1052 00:48:31,600 --> 00:48:33,359 Speaker 2: Yes, I've told this story so many times. 1053 00:48:33,480 --> 00:48:35,279 Speaker 10: Him pulling water on my hair. You know, a black girl, 1054 00:48:35,280 --> 00:48:37,480 Speaker 10: you don't pull water on my hair, do you. If 1055 00:48:37,480 --> 00:48:40,520 Speaker 10: we don't ask, what don't, I'm like, ah, so he 1056 00:48:40,840 --> 00:48:43,239 Speaker 10: it was one of those things, honestly, but I think 1057 00:48:43,280 --> 00:48:46,480 Speaker 10: the Lord used that for me to see how ridiculous 1058 00:48:46,560 --> 00:48:47,080 Speaker 10: the situation. 1059 00:48:47,320 --> 00:48:51,279 Speaker 2: So he started arguing with you, yep, and just took a. 1060 00:48:51,320 --> 00:48:52,880 Speaker 10: Glass of water, through it, through it on you, and 1061 00:48:52,960 --> 00:48:55,239 Speaker 10: he went and filled it back up again, and he said, 1062 00:48:55,960 --> 00:48:56,439 Speaker 10: through it again. 1063 00:48:56,480 --> 00:48:58,120 Speaker 6: And I was just sitting there, thinking, this is it, 1064 00:48:58,480 --> 00:48:59,399 Speaker 6: this is the last straw. 1065 00:48:59,560 --> 00:49:03,520 Speaker 10: It was that little, simple, crazy thing that really woke 1066 00:49:03,600 --> 00:49:06,839 Speaker 10: me up to say you really have it really yeah? 1067 00:49:06,880 --> 00:49:08,640 Speaker 10: And I was like twenty four around the time, but 1068 00:49:08,680 --> 00:49:09,279 Speaker 10: I was like it's time. 1069 00:49:09,320 --> 00:49:12,360 Speaker 1: So you didn't say anything. You were smart. You waited 1070 00:49:13,280 --> 00:49:13,640 Speaker 1: for him. 1071 00:49:13,800 --> 00:49:15,760 Speaker 6: It was my Abigail moment to get in the shower. 1072 00:49:16,440 --> 00:49:18,840 Speaker 1: And I'll never forget what you told me. You waited 1073 00:49:18,880 --> 00:49:19,279 Speaker 1: to hear what. 1074 00:49:19,800 --> 00:49:22,239 Speaker 10: Yes. Then, now there's a difference in sound, because initially, 1075 00:49:22,880 --> 00:49:24,839 Speaker 10: when he had the water running, he was still yelling 1076 00:49:24,880 --> 00:49:27,120 Speaker 10: at me, and I remember I was getting my stuff 1077 00:49:27,160 --> 00:49:28,960 Speaker 10: together as he was saying. I was like, okay, okay, 1078 00:49:29,080 --> 00:49:30,920 Speaker 10: and I was just trying to be quiet, and I 1079 00:49:30,960 --> 00:49:33,719 Speaker 10: thought he had gotten into the shower. And then before 1080 00:49:33,760 --> 00:49:35,239 Speaker 10: I knew it, I turned around and he appeared in 1081 00:49:35,320 --> 00:49:36,560 Speaker 10: the hallway and I was like, oh no, and the 1082 00:49:36,600 --> 00:49:39,000 Speaker 10: water was still running, and I acted as if I 1083 00:49:39,080 --> 00:49:39,560 Speaker 10: wasn't going to. 1084 00:49:39,560 --> 00:49:40,000 Speaker 6: Get my purse. 1085 00:49:40,040 --> 00:49:41,719 Speaker 10: I didn't want him to think I was going to leave. 1086 00:49:42,360 --> 00:49:44,560 Speaker 10: And then before I knew it, he got into the shower. 1087 00:49:44,640 --> 00:49:47,520 Speaker 10: And I noticed then that there was a difference in 1088 00:49:47,600 --> 00:49:52,120 Speaker 10: the sound of the water hitting flesh and hitting the porcelain, 1089 00:49:52,320 --> 00:49:54,080 Speaker 10: like it was just I heard the difference, and I 1090 00:49:54,200 --> 00:49:56,400 Speaker 10: was like, oh, okay, now he's in the shower, and 1091 00:49:56,480 --> 00:49:59,560 Speaker 10: I got myself this is my moment, and with trembling legs, 1092 00:49:59,680 --> 00:50:01,320 Speaker 10: I ran with trembling legs. 1093 00:50:01,120 --> 00:50:02,040 Speaker 2: And scrap your purse. 1094 00:50:02,360 --> 00:50:04,560 Speaker 1: My purse, yep, what else did you grab? I know. 1095 00:50:06,400 --> 00:50:09,279 Speaker 10: My shoes, just more than likely a jacket because it 1096 00:50:09,320 --> 00:50:10,960 Speaker 10: would have been cold around the time. And I got 1097 00:50:11,000 --> 00:50:13,880 Speaker 10: into my car, went down the two flights of stairs. 1098 00:50:14,320 --> 00:50:16,839 Speaker 10: My knees were shaking, and I went just a couple 1099 00:50:16,880 --> 00:50:20,600 Speaker 10: of miles from our apartment complex, and I pulled him backwards, 1100 00:50:20,960 --> 00:50:23,000 Speaker 10: and I was like, okay, Lord like in every thirty minutes, 1101 00:50:23,040 --> 00:50:24,799 Speaker 10: I turned my car on to let it warm up, 1102 00:50:24,840 --> 00:50:26,600 Speaker 10: and then I turned it off to conserve gas and 1103 00:50:26,719 --> 00:50:27,040 Speaker 10: turned it. 1104 00:50:27,080 --> 00:50:28,600 Speaker 6: Back on, and I told the Lord. 1105 00:50:28,640 --> 00:50:30,799 Speaker 10: I was like lord like in our faith culture because 1106 00:50:30,800 --> 00:50:32,799 Speaker 10: I didn't know the heart of God yet, y'all you. 1107 00:50:32,800 --> 00:50:34,520 Speaker 6: Know what I'm saying. I knew his ways, I mean 1108 00:50:34,560 --> 00:50:35,560 Speaker 6: I didn't know all his ways. 1109 00:50:35,600 --> 00:50:38,080 Speaker 10: I knew the word, but I didn't know how it 1110 00:50:38,440 --> 00:50:40,600 Speaker 10: really applied to me in that type of a situation. 1111 00:50:40,960 --> 00:50:42,560 Speaker 10: I knew him on the mountaintop, but I didn't know 1112 00:50:42,600 --> 00:50:45,640 Speaker 10: how he would react in my valley. So now I'm 1113 00:50:45,719 --> 00:50:47,560 Speaker 10: having to learn, like, who are you? 1114 00:50:47,719 --> 00:50:47,759 Speaker 1: Not? 1115 00:50:47,840 --> 00:50:49,080 Speaker 6: Who the saints say that you are? 1116 00:50:49,680 --> 00:50:52,399 Speaker 10: So in my valley, I saw his kindness, his graciousness, 1117 00:50:52,480 --> 00:50:55,799 Speaker 10: his goodness his protection. And when I thought he would 1118 00:50:55,800 --> 00:50:59,240 Speaker 10: be mad at me, he was like, without even uttering 1119 00:50:59,320 --> 00:51:00,520 Speaker 10: the words, I heard it in my. 1120 00:51:00,520 --> 00:51:01,840 Speaker 5: Heart, like I love you, I got you. 1121 00:51:02,520 --> 00:51:03,480 Speaker 6: And he showed me that. 1122 00:51:03,640 --> 00:51:05,560 Speaker 1: And he didn't want you to stay in that situation. No, 1123 00:51:05,680 --> 00:51:08,040 Speaker 1: not at all, not at all, because you kept thinking, well, 1124 00:51:08,080 --> 00:51:09,480 Speaker 1: this is the right thing to do, this is what 1125 00:51:09,719 --> 00:51:13,080 Speaker 1: you know. Okay, So you like slept in your car 1126 00:51:13,200 --> 00:51:16,239 Speaker 1: that night I showed it, and then you knew that 1127 00:51:16,360 --> 00:51:18,160 Speaker 1: he would be out looking for you. So you were 1128 00:51:18,200 --> 00:51:19,400 Speaker 1: trying to find places to go. 1129 00:51:19,680 --> 00:51:22,440 Speaker 10: Yes, And I slept on people's couches and mattresses on 1130 00:51:22,520 --> 00:51:24,880 Speaker 10: the floor and hiding from here to there. And then 1131 00:51:24,960 --> 00:51:28,319 Speaker 10: eventually I'd sign a small record deal at the end 1132 00:51:28,360 --> 00:51:31,040 Speaker 10: of that time, and I wind up in Nashville, where 1133 00:51:31,040 --> 00:51:34,000 Speaker 10: I currently reside. And uh, before I knew it, he 1134 00:51:34,200 --> 00:51:36,360 Speaker 10: was trying to find me there, and I was always 1135 00:51:36,440 --> 00:51:39,160 Speaker 10: looking over my shoulder, and I knew it. It took 1136 00:51:39,200 --> 00:51:41,160 Speaker 10: a little bit of a while for me to finally 1137 00:51:41,200 --> 00:51:43,520 Speaker 10: get to a place where I was at peace. But 1138 00:51:44,040 --> 00:51:48,520 Speaker 10: take you, honestly, at least a couple of years. I'm 1139 00:51:48,560 --> 00:51:49,080 Speaker 10: not gonna lie. 1140 00:51:49,200 --> 00:51:51,080 Speaker 2: It was just he finally stopped. 1141 00:51:51,800 --> 00:51:54,000 Speaker 10: I knew well, yeah, he did finally stop, but I 1142 00:51:54,080 --> 00:51:57,640 Speaker 10: knew that once he had found someone else, then he 1143 00:51:57,719 --> 00:52:00,439 Speaker 10: would transfer that passion somewhere else. 1144 00:52:01,000 --> 00:52:02,520 Speaker 6: So I was like, okay, Lord, please, you know. 1145 00:52:02,600 --> 00:52:05,120 Speaker 10: And then eventually, but like the Lord kept me, I 1146 00:52:05,160 --> 00:52:07,359 Speaker 10: wind up going on tour with Amy Grant around that time, 1147 00:52:07,400 --> 00:52:10,080 Speaker 10: which was the best time alongside the worst of times, 1148 00:52:10,200 --> 00:52:12,719 Speaker 10: you know, And it's amazing how God can do that. 1149 00:52:13,320 --> 00:52:14,600 Speaker 6: But he never did. 1150 00:52:15,040 --> 00:52:17,160 Speaker 10: He wasn't able to catch up with me, even though 1151 00:52:17,960 --> 00:52:20,879 Speaker 10: I learned in highsight hindsight that he was in close 1152 00:52:21,000 --> 00:52:23,640 Speaker 10: vicinity to where I was several times, and I didn't know. 1153 00:52:23,760 --> 00:52:25,920 Speaker 1: I know, he showed up at several of the concertship 1154 00:52:25,960 --> 00:52:27,880 Speaker 1: but they didn't tell you. They kept him away from you, 1155 00:52:28,160 --> 00:52:30,200 Speaker 1: the one here in Dallas you wanted to come. Yeah, yeah. 1156 00:52:30,840 --> 00:52:33,640 Speaker 1: But God was faithful through all of that, and he 1157 00:52:33,760 --> 00:52:37,000 Speaker 1: lets you know, Nicole, you haven't done anything wrong because 1158 00:52:37,000 --> 00:52:39,080 Speaker 1: you were like at times, like blaming yourself if I've 1159 00:52:39,080 --> 00:52:41,160 Speaker 1: done this or that, and as Christians we do that 1160 00:52:41,200 --> 00:52:43,680 Speaker 1: a lot of times. But He was totally responsible for 1161 00:52:43,760 --> 00:52:44,920 Speaker 1: that behavior, actually did. 1162 00:52:45,160 --> 00:52:46,480 Speaker 6: And that's why I said even earlier. 1163 00:52:46,760 --> 00:52:48,680 Speaker 10: Sometimes I feel like Joe Bettett and all of us 1164 00:52:48,719 --> 00:52:50,080 Speaker 10: can sometimes we feel that that way. 1165 00:52:50,120 --> 00:52:50,640 Speaker 6: You know what I'm saying. 1166 00:52:50,680 --> 00:52:52,320 Speaker 1: It's like I didn't do anything. 1167 00:52:52,360 --> 00:52:53,520 Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying. It's like jo. 1168 00:52:55,040 --> 00:52:55,680 Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. 1169 00:52:56,000 --> 00:52:58,840 Speaker 6: It's like it's a job in the in the Bible, 1170 00:52:59,000 --> 00:53:00,440 Speaker 6: it wasn't that he was without fault. 1171 00:53:00,880 --> 00:53:01,480 Speaker 2: He had faults. 1172 00:53:01,560 --> 00:53:02,320 Speaker 6: We all have faults. 1173 00:53:02,640 --> 00:53:04,759 Speaker 10: But that's not the same as being to blame. He 1174 00:53:04,920 --> 00:53:08,120 Speaker 10: was blameless, and still God allowed him to suffer. God 1175 00:53:08,120 --> 00:53:10,000 Speaker 10: didn't say, because you're blameless, you won't have to go 1176 00:53:10,120 --> 00:53:10,640 Speaker 10: through anything. 1177 00:53:11,239 --> 00:53:12,400 Speaker 6: So God allowed him. 1178 00:53:12,280 --> 00:53:16,520 Speaker 2: To Yeah, absolutely, absolutely. 1179 00:53:16,840 --> 00:53:18,880 Speaker 10: And how many times I wonder we don't know this 1180 00:53:19,080 --> 00:53:22,080 Speaker 10: because we can't see behind the veil. How many times 1181 00:53:22,160 --> 00:53:24,480 Speaker 10: has God, maybe if said to the enemy, have you 1182 00:53:24,560 --> 00:53:27,520 Speaker 10: considered my servant Joanie, there's no like her. Have you 1183 00:53:27,600 --> 00:53:28,880 Speaker 10: considered my serf Rachel? 1184 00:53:29,760 --> 00:53:30,200 Speaker 6: We don't know. 1185 00:53:30,920 --> 00:53:32,839 Speaker 10: He bade at the enemy, and the enemy took him 1186 00:53:32,920 --> 00:53:35,120 Speaker 10: up on it. Because God knew that even in the 1187 00:53:35,200 --> 00:53:37,319 Speaker 10: midst of it, Job would still serve him, Job would 1188 00:53:37,320 --> 00:53:39,239 Speaker 10: still love him, And even though Job would have some 1189 00:53:39,440 --> 00:53:41,120 Speaker 10: crooked sayings and he would be mad at God for 1190 00:53:41,160 --> 00:53:43,160 Speaker 10: a second, he was going to come out on the 1191 00:53:43,239 --> 00:53:45,480 Speaker 10: other side because God was going to make sure. 1192 00:53:45,480 --> 00:53:47,080 Speaker 6: And then God he restored him. 1193 00:53:47,160 --> 00:53:50,279 Speaker 10: So in the middle of Job's night season is where 1194 00:53:50,360 --> 00:53:51,680 Speaker 10: Joe began to declare, I. 1195 00:53:51,760 --> 00:53:52,759 Speaker 1: Know my redeemer lives. 1196 00:53:52,840 --> 00:53:54,480 Speaker 6: Yes, the one who's going to buy back my pain 1197 00:53:54,560 --> 00:53:55,880 Speaker 6: and my shame and my heartaches. 1198 00:53:56,280 --> 00:53:58,160 Speaker 10: And after I read that one day, I thought, Hey, 1199 00:53:58,200 --> 00:54:00,520 Speaker 10: if Job can do that in the midst of his season, 1200 00:54:00,640 --> 00:54:03,239 Speaker 10: not at the end, but in the middle of it, Yeah, 1201 00:54:03,320 --> 00:54:04,799 Speaker 10: then how much more can I You know, a. 1202 00:54:04,800 --> 00:54:07,719 Speaker 1: Lot of theologists believe it's about nine months wow that 1203 00:54:08,120 --> 00:54:10,880 Speaker 1: Joe went through that. Okay, But the thing about it, 1204 00:54:11,040 --> 00:54:17,759 Speaker 1: after that nine month period, God restored everything that God 1205 00:54:17,880 --> 00:54:19,840 Speaker 1: knew that because God can see. 1206 00:54:20,040 --> 00:54:22,360 Speaker 2: Being your past, present, and future. 1207 00:54:22,520 --> 00:54:24,719 Speaker 1: Simultaneously, such a great story is. 1208 00:54:24,880 --> 00:54:26,000 Speaker 2: And well, we are out of time. 1209 00:54:26,080 --> 00:54:29,759 Speaker 1: But remember you can walk in confidence today knowing that 1210 00:54:29,840 --> 00:54:32,960 Speaker 1: God's word never changes. He is faithful to fulfill his 1211 00:54:33,080 --> 00:54:35,480 Speaker 1: good plans for your life. And all he ask is 1212 00:54:35,560 --> 00:54:39,759 Speaker 1: for your surrender, surrendered heart to say, Okay, God, I'm 1213 00:54:39,800 --> 00:54:42,400 Speaker 1: ready to do it your way. And if you're watching 1214 00:54:42,520 --> 00:54:45,040 Speaker 1: today and you need prayer, call that number on the screen. 1215 00:54:45,600 --> 00:54:48,160 Speaker 1: And if you haven't invited Jesus into your heart, do 1216 00:54:48,320 --> 00:54:51,120 Speaker 1: that today. Just say Jesus, I need you come into 1217 00:54:51,200 --> 00:54:54,200 Speaker 1: my heart forgive me and he will meet you right 1218 00:54:54,280 --> 00:54:56,479 Speaker 1: where you are. Again, that prayer line numbers on the screen. 1219 00:54:56,520 --> 00:54:58,839 Speaker 1: We would love to pray with you today as well. 1220 00:54:58,880 --> 00:55:01,359 Speaker 1: I do want to thank Nicole for joining us today 1221 00:55:01,400 --> 00:55:03,359 Speaker 1: at the table. Be sure to pick up a copy 1222 00:55:03,400 --> 00:55:05,560 Speaker 1: of her book It's Never Wrong to Do the Right Thing, 1223 00:55:06,040 --> 00:55:08,239 Speaker 1: and for more information, you can visit her online at 1224 00:55:08,320 --> 00:55:12,239 Speaker 1: nicolecmullen dot com. Again, if you're in a situation this's dark, 1225 00:55:12,760 --> 00:55:16,000 Speaker 1: we're just encouraging you today to go talk to someone, 1226 00:55:16,120 --> 00:55:18,560 Speaker 1: get some help. God doesn't want you to stay in 1227 00:55:18,640 --> 00:55:21,560 Speaker 1: that kind of situation, okay, He loves you as always. 1228 00:55:21,600 --> 00:55:23,439 Speaker 1: Of course, make sure to follow us on social media. 1229 00:55:23,520 --> 00:55:27,360 Speaker 1: Subscribe to her YouTube channel for many full episodes exclusive content. 1230 00:55:27,440 --> 00:55:30,040 Speaker 1: Let us know our Table Talk is touching your life. 1231 00:55:30,120 --> 00:55:32,759 Speaker 1: We love hearing from you. Of course, you can also 1232 00:55:32,840 --> 00:55:35,600 Speaker 1: listen to the Jony Table Talk podcast, available now on 1233 00:55:35,680 --> 00:55:38,680 Speaker 1: all the major platforms. So we couldn't leave the show 1234 00:55:38,719 --> 00:55:43,759 Speaker 1: today without letting Nicole sing one more song. I think 1235 00:55:43,800 --> 00:55:45,960 Speaker 1: she's getting ready for that right now. Please welcome from 1236 00:55:46,000 --> 00:55:48,440 Speaker 1: back to the stage as she sings freedom. 1237 00:55:50,680 --> 00:55:56,400 Speaker 6: Readie that freedom, good kind of freedom can never. 1238 00:55:56,320 --> 00:55:57,120 Speaker 1: Be taken away. 1239 00:56:00,040 --> 00:56:03,040 Speaker 10: A little bit of a history lesson first friend. 1240 00:56:03,760 --> 00:56:08,560 Speaker 9: I ain't got no halo, no halo, no wings to 1241 00:56:08,680 --> 00:56:11,320 Speaker 9: fly away, no wings to fly away. 1242 00:56:11,880 --> 00:56:13,640 Speaker 1: I've got to labor. 1243 00:56:15,920 --> 00:56:21,240 Speaker 6: Four men and many day. I'm on a journey. 1244 00:56:21,960 --> 00:56:23,200 Speaker 1: I'm on a journey. 1245 00:56:23,880 --> 00:56:27,920 Speaker 6: I'm a looking far play. I'm looking for play to 1246 00:56:28,200 --> 00:56:28,600 Speaker 6: rest my. 1247 00:56:28,760 --> 00:56:33,400 Speaker 4: Bird bird, far from this terrannade. 1248 00:56:34,680 --> 00:56:40,120 Speaker 9: Who from the Charles Africa to the noise of America 1249 00:56:40,440 --> 00:56:43,880 Speaker 9: with voices still have bring for a new Bernie. 1250 00:56:44,200 --> 00:56:52,640 Speaker 1: We cray freedom, frea you try freedom, Oh we craf 1251 00:56:52,760 --> 00:56:53,160 Speaker 1: Fredo 1252 00:56:54,719 --> 00:56:57,959 Speaker 6: Say hey, we cry Frieda from