Speaker 1: We're just too unapologetically black women with an opinion who
Speaker 1: talked back. Hey, y'all, it's stand man, welcome to a
Speaker 1: new episode, and we talked back. I'm doing the intro, y'all.
Speaker 1: What's up with y'all? Y'all good, y'all good. I love
Speaker 1: y'all niggas. It's a J and it's me a J.
Speaker 1: The like. I gotta work on my new intro for
Speaker 1: the new year. Let's do it right now. It's me
Speaker 1: a J B bad stupid. Look man, what we got
Speaker 1: going on? How is your weekend? My weekend was real uneventful.
Speaker 1: I just kinda laid around in the house and relaxed
Speaker 1: all weekend. I did not step out for nothing. I tried.
Speaker 1: On Saturday, me and my best friend went out to
Speaker 1: try to get some drinks, but they wouldn't let us
Speaker 1: in because she had on the hat. So we just
Speaker 1: went home. It's cold outside because she had on the hat. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it was a real swinky place. Well they think they're swinky.
Speaker 1: What kind of hat? She just had? All that she
Speaker 1: had on the dad cap? It was designer? What the fun?
Speaker 1: They wouldn't let her in and she was not taking off.
Speaker 1: But I don't think they lead people in with hats on. Honestly,
Speaker 1: it wasn't. You're sure because you Charlotte is known for
Speaker 1: that type of ship. They usually they I remember back
Speaker 1: in the day they used to have a quota on
Speaker 1: how many black women and black people they was letting
Speaker 1: the club and ship like that. Yeah, honestly, this is
Speaker 1: a place I frequent and I really feel like people
Speaker 1: can't come in with hats on. But I might be wrong.
Speaker 1: It might be some on some discrimination ship. But I
Speaker 1: don't want to put that out there because I do
Speaker 1: like the place and I had an attitude, so it's
Speaker 1: probably best that we wouldn't here. But you had an
Speaker 1: attitude with him at the door. I just had an
Speaker 1: attitude with everybody. I was horny and I ain't had
Speaker 1: no dick oh year, and I don't need the girl,
Speaker 1: and I just had a bad attitude with a bitch
Speaker 1: at the door with my home girl. I was meaning
Speaker 1: everybody that day. So I apologize to everybody. I'm debating
Speaker 1: on rather than not I'm gona be smashing this year
Speaker 1: or not if I find a If I find a
Speaker 1: nice husband this year, maybe yeah, the same. I want
Speaker 1: to man, I don't want to just random ah, unconditional penis.
Speaker 1: I want some conditions on the Dick this year, but
Speaker 1: I don't do ship. I finished writing up my little
Speaker 1: goals for the year, which Dick ain't on the list,
Speaker 1: and it's whatever I'm good with. That said a husband.
Speaker 1: You gotta put that on the list if that's what
Speaker 1: you want. It's just okay, I was having this conversation
Speaker 1: with somebody. It's not that I'm not you know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. It's not like that's not a goal of mine.
Speaker 1: It's just not my focus. I feel like if I
Speaker 1: focus on the things that I feel like I haven't
Speaker 1: been focused on the past, all those things will come
Speaker 1: with it. So I'm just not um. I'm open to
Speaker 1: all that ship. But you like me and love I
Speaker 1: like feeling like that I'm never one of them. Bit
Speaker 1: just like stock Negers get money girl by okay, like
Speaker 1: it'd be cold and it winter time and I'm sick
Speaker 1: of going on trips and going back to the room
Speaker 1: with a bunch of bitches, right me too, I d P.
Speaker 1: I don't want I want somebody. I'm very dependent and
Speaker 1: I want Dick at the beach, just living my feminine
Speaker 1: energy and the taken care of to a certain extent.
Speaker 1: I can't let them they can fully take care of
Speaker 1: me because I just can't. I'm scared of that. But
Speaker 1: they're beginning with side day self, y'all. Yeah, man, that's why.
Speaker 1: So what happened in the world. There was a lot
Speaker 1: of cars death over the weekends. Oh yeah, death and beef.
Speaker 1: Dang man. So Bob Saget passed away. They said they
Speaker 1: found um, um just uh, non responsive in his hotel room.
Speaker 1: He had just did a show, uh the night before.
Speaker 1: I believe it was a comedy show he did. He
Speaker 1: tweeted about it Sunday morning, and then he was found
Speaker 1: in his hotel Sunday evening. Damn man, just like that. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so they're saying, you know, they haven't done autoxy and
Speaker 1: all that stuff, but he just, um, he just passed
Speaker 1: mm hmm. Then now you've seen those niggas that was
Speaker 1: on the boat in Brazil in a whole mountain fell
Speaker 1: in the water on top of them. Earth is tied
Speaker 1: it out, sucking asked, Okay, that's what's happening. Earth is like,
Speaker 1: you know what some of these motherfucker's need to go
Speaker 1: know Earth, it's like how we are with COVID. We
Speaker 1: are a fucking infestation, uh, a sickness to the earth
Speaker 1: and it's swiping back. Yeah, you know they said last
Speaker 1: year when quarantine first, n I'm sorry, we forget about
Speaker 1: you know. And when COVID quarantine first started, like march
Speaker 1: um throughout the summer, like earth was healing. They were saying,
Speaker 1: like smog in the air was, you know, decreasing all
Speaker 1: these different things just from a little period of time
Speaker 1: that humans couldn't move around the earth, right it started healing.
Speaker 1: Animals that we hadn't seen in a long time was
Speaker 1: coming out like damn, what the motherfucker's they are, Like,
Speaker 1: we're back, baby, they're sick of us. And I don't
Speaker 1: blame them, like I really I'm one with nature, Like
Speaker 1: i'd be out here tree hugging and all type of
Speaker 1: ship bit you'll be hugging the trees. Yes, I talked
Speaker 1: to talked to in my house and I walked outside
Speaker 1: with those shoes. But that's because I'm from South Carolina.
Speaker 1: But but that's grounding. Not in the city. Not not
Speaker 1: in the city though, but in the country. I do
Speaker 1: walk outside without my shoes. You have to. You should
Speaker 1: like you're wearing shoes blocks that energy from the earth. Yeah. Yeah,
Speaker 1: So I don't gonna be outside like hugging the trees
Speaker 1: talking to it and ship like weird. That's kind of
Speaker 1: weird to me. We got I want to see that?
Speaker 1: Could I record you doing that? One day? We got
Speaker 1: one of the oldest oak trees in the country here
Speaker 1: in Charleston, and you gotta see this thing. The way
Speaker 1: tree it probably was, but it's actually like the land
Speaker 1: that's on it was was owned by um a black family.
Speaker 1: You know. They done came through and scoop that ship. Yeah,
Speaker 1: my family did a good hanging tree. But the branches,
Speaker 1: the trunks of the tree grow down to the ground,
Speaker 1: like you really can't hang anybody from it. The weak
Speaker 1: big no morbid. It's an angel oak tree. If anybody
Speaker 1: visits Charleston, South Carolina, is an angel oak tree on
Speaker 1: John's Island. It's really it's to see. Go see it,
Speaker 1: prey next to it. Man, sounds good to me. Pray
Speaker 1: for our ancestors who meant they demise on the angel tree.
Speaker 1: Every time I go to Charleston in the battery, I
Speaker 1: just feel like I get a melancholy spirit when I
Speaker 1: go to like the that pink building that's like right
Speaker 1: in the center of it's like the market, and it's
Speaker 1: like a sign up that said, yeah, this is where
Speaker 1: we used to trade. You'll last set. Shut up, bitch.
Speaker 1: That is not true. It is it says it was.
Speaker 1: Well the city had tell you that they didn't really
Speaker 1: actually trade slaves at the market. But yeah, what they
Speaker 1: was trading in goods. Yeah, and one of the largest
Speaker 1: ports and what were we consider listen to people that
Speaker 1: they were trading were already here. They were sitting out,
Speaker 1: asked to nearby islands and ship like that. That's what
Speaker 1: was really happening. That's why Chaluston apologized to slavery in
Speaker 1: because they did function to people who were already here.
Speaker 1: But apology, don't know, give me some money. Where's my
Speaker 1: reparation exactly that we need? They're still taking land. Behavior
Speaker 1: is no, where's the money? Right? So now I don't
Speaker 1: know the people. What's that? What portion you'd be watching
Speaker 1: Portions TV show? Um, yeah, girl was rumbling. Did we
Speaker 1: talk about the fight? Yes, we did, Well, I know
Speaker 1: we were speculating rather than not her assignment were actually together,
Speaker 1: married and engaged whatever it is. But this nigga got
Speaker 1: her name tattooed. Is that girl in a whole spot too?
Speaker 1: I don't like when niggas get you know, that's like
Speaker 1: nigga tattooed my name on your neck side. It's real.
Speaker 1: Put across your dick just runs. I'm joking. Don't don't
Speaker 1: tattoo your dick. That's not painful. I don't want no
Speaker 1: nigga listening. It's the only way I'm gonna ever get
Speaker 1: your name on me. You gotta die or I have
Speaker 1: to birth for you. And I'm still not getting your name.
Speaker 1: But those kids that grow up and disappoint your ass,
Speaker 1: that would be the only way. I'm not never. I
Speaker 1: used to get my boyfriend hen the tattooed on my
Speaker 1: titty though his name fake ass tattoo. Every two weeks
Speaker 1: I go back to get it refreshed. No, you're not
Speaker 1: a lame you know girl? Fuck you? I love that nigga,
Speaker 1: but not forever, just temporary like the tattoo. Right. But
Speaker 1: I hope, I hope portion is really happy now. I
Speaker 1: need to get I need to be friends with them.
Speaker 1: I need to be friends with Sha because she seems
Speaker 1: like she's the fucking Africa Your husband whisper, and I
Speaker 1: just need to be in that little circle group. Why
Speaker 1: black women always feel like ship they just have all
Speaker 1: these felt relationships with black men in there. Now you
Speaker 1: just want to get you African guy, mm hmmm, because
Speaker 1: we still want black men, that's the thing. But these
Speaker 1: Black Americans we want a different culture. But the thing is,
Speaker 1: if you go on, you want to be on clubhouse
Speaker 1: like that, like all the Africans that like live in
Speaker 1: Europe and ship like that. The men got the same
Speaker 1: typic complaints these niggas complain about us. The women got
Speaker 1: the same type of complaints about these men. So it's like,
Speaker 1: are we really getting better treats going over there? Because listen, Africans,
Speaker 1: they come with their bullshit too. Yeah, for sure, I'm
Speaker 1: convinced that everybody comes with their bullshit. You just gotta
Speaker 1: figure out which bullshit you're willing to pull up put
Speaker 1: up with exactly. That's my thing. Like, nobody's gonna be perfect,
Speaker 1: but I gotta be able to tolerate your dumb ship.
Speaker 1: Like the minute I can tolerate your dumb ship no more,
Speaker 1: the relationship is over. Well let's talk to African then,
Speaker 1: you see we're seeing was available, he got by thirty
Speaker 1: of them. You know what, I'm I'm all like my
Speaker 1: uh my roster slim these days. I look up and
Speaker 1: I ain't got no more. It's usually when you start
Speaker 1: entertaining one hole right then they all come back. It's
Speaker 1: like as soon as I started zoning in and zooming
Speaker 1: in on one man, now I got like fifty other
Speaker 1: niggas on my damn phone. What happened when I've been
Speaker 1: doing ship, I had nothing going on, no action. It's
Speaker 1: like they got like some type of sensor like, oh
Speaker 1: she's happy with somebody, let me go fuck it up exactly.
Speaker 1: But look, let's go to commercial and we got a
Speaker 1: special guests coming. So look, y'all, I know a lot
Speaker 1: y'all beuti of these niggas out here, and black women
Speaker 1: always be like, you know what, I'm gonna get me
Speaker 1: a African? What do do African men even want? Y'all?
Speaker 1: Ass Like, first of all, they do, and they do.
Speaker 1: So we got what our friends on. We got Dailor
Speaker 1: on the on the show this week. He is an
Speaker 1: African American, like a real one, right, you know, he's
Speaker 1: an African living in America. Nigga, you got don't you
Speaker 1: got you got your your ship though, right, are you
Speaker 1: not a citizen? Yeah? Yeah, well yeah yeah yeah yeah,
Speaker 1: So like that's the true African American. Like, I don't
Speaker 1: consider myself African American. Well where are you from? Right? Yes? Right? Yeah,
Speaker 1: you're talking with me on him a j You're not
Speaker 1: African American. No, I'm just from Black American from Charleston,
Speaker 1: South Carolina. That's where the boats put them off. And
Speaker 1: hell no nigger. They was bringing people from Barbados and
Speaker 1: Bahamas basically anyway. Yeah, so we want to know, like y'all,
Speaker 1: y'all want to choose Africans, But do Africans want y'all last? Yeah,
Speaker 1: they want to girls he's talking about, right, Taylor, Well, no,
Speaker 1: you can't say that, I think. But I'm about to
Speaker 1: tell you to go to hell real early in the conversation.
Speaker 1: You're trying to set me up. Listen, I don't want
Speaker 1: to get canceled before the first week of But no,
Speaker 1: I think it really depends on the person. I don't
Speaker 1: think that African mergans search out for American women, but
Speaker 1: you know we searched from African men though, right, why though,
Speaker 1: I do want to know why this this um I
Speaker 1: think it's a misconception, but I don't want to hear
Speaker 1: from your point. So one of my friends, he's African.
Speaker 1: He's older, he probably like in his fifties. Maybe he's
Speaker 1: a doctor. And I remember, like the first time we
Speaker 1: hung out, he was like, yeah, American women, y'all baby
Speaker 1: black American men. But but then African men gotta pay
Speaker 1: the dudes. And I was like, it's like we may
Speaker 1: expect more out of other men as opposed to Black
Speaker 1: American men. I just my my, uh experience with African men.
Speaker 1: They're just very charming and doating. Like I didn't have
Speaker 1: to pick up a finger for ship. You know, when
Speaker 1: I was dating as African man, I couldn't take my
Speaker 1: bags from the grocery store to the car. I couldn't
Speaker 1: walk from the grocery store to the car. He would
Speaker 1: have to pull it up. And he said he would
Speaker 1: be offended if I walked in the parking lot because
Speaker 1: I'm a queen and I shouldn't do that. These niggas,
Speaker 1: that's what he did. Like that's what they said. It
Speaker 1: ain't all them niggas, Like I do want to go
Speaker 1: back to what A J said. A J, Yes, you're right.
Speaker 1: I mean that's cool of thought where I don't spend
Speaker 1: money on women no more, because I've seen my American
Speaker 1: male friends get the same woman and they will expect
Speaker 1: me to spend the same amount of more, spend more
Speaker 1: money than they spend. So no, we were not maga's
Speaker 1: no mine. I'm going to explain what the maga means
Speaker 1: back home when I used to be okay, when my
Speaker 1: friends used to be scammers back in college, back in Nigeria. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'll be doing it especial niggas now. So we used
Speaker 1: to we used to call the people that get scam magas.
Speaker 1: This is before Donald Trump, this is before anything we
Speaker 1: call them. Or if you even you have um someone
Speaker 1: you're about a scam, you call him a maga. So
Speaker 1: I feel like if I'm doating an American woman and
Speaker 1: she wants to take money from me because some African
Speaker 1: men or the African men give her money, I feel
Speaker 1: like she thinks I'm a maga. No hell no, So
Speaker 1: I don't play. I mean, that's s cool of thought
Speaker 1: where I'm not spending no money. I'm spending the same
Speaker 1: amount of mone me my friend as an American would
Speaker 1: have spent. You know, so you've been here too long?
Speaker 1: It is with you. I've been, yeah, I've been. Yeah, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm way more bored more than African. Now. See, yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't like the American as ones is the ones
Speaker 1: fresh off the boat, so you can take advantage of
Speaker 1: there right off the plane. These nags ain't coming up
Speaker 1: boat because yeah, I'm just joking, all right. So I
Speaker 1: feel like African women expect a certain things from African
Speaker 1: men then and then y'all don't want y'all the American
Speaker 1: women don't expect that much. So you're rather an American
Speaker 1: woman because African women don't be playing with y'all. Ass
Speaker 1: tell me I'm lying. I do want to keep quieting that.
Speaker 1: But no, this is shure. So I'm gonna be honest.
Speaker 1: I can see where you're coming from, right uh me. Personally,
Speaker 1: everybody has a preference, right me. My preference. I preferred
Speaker 1: dating American women, um, just because it's easier. No, no, no,
Speaker 1: that's not white. I think they're just being this nigga,
Speaker 1: he said. My but was a what's your what's your color?
Speaker 1: But see the thing is, it depends on what country
Speaker 1: is a very dependent It's Ninegerian and it depends on
Speaker 1: what tribe. Like I just found out that er um
Speaker 1: did he call did he call it? Ek bay Nash?
Speaker 1: Definitely easy from from a Black women in America, right, No,
Speaker 1: it is the numbers game, right, They're more Black American
Speaker 1: women in America than they're African women in America. So yes,
Speaker 1: if you're dating, you're gonna date more Black American women.
Speaker 1: It's as simple as that. Yeah, And it's it's also
Speaker 1: a preference to I do prefer talking to American women
Speaker 1: because I'm so go ahead, go ahead, say go ahead.
Speaker 1: It's not it's not it's not even the bad think.
Speaker 1: It's just that the conversations that I have, like I'm
Speaker 1: hood right, no, the mixed thing. I don't say I'm
Speaker 1: hood by say, but I'm more into like things that
Speaker 1: my Nigerian friends or Ningerian women would not even understand.
Speaker 1: Like I can have a conversation about pooh Shics within
Speaker 1: Ningerian women, you know what I mean, she wouldn't even
Speaker 1: know who poosh shic sy is, you know. And so
Speaker 1: and I want to talk about that, you know, I
Speaker 1: can have that's my free free you know. Yeah. So
Speaker 1: that's an example of things. So I want to talk
Speaker 1: to people that I have adverse um understanding of things.
Speaker 1: So we can talk about work stuff, business stuff, but
Speaker 1: I want to talk about that hood ship. I want
Speaker 1: to talk about that stuff. I need people that the
Speaker 1: most African women are not like that. They don't really
Speaker 1: know much about that. Just an example, and it's just
Speaker 1: you know, it's the preference. I love them though, more
Speaker 1: like a sister. But but yeah, I don't know. Damn,
Speaker 1: you ain't gonna cancel him. You go to see a
Speaker 1: think piece. Yeah, but it's cool. So as far as
Speaker 1: like pain the dudes, how do um? So I don't
Speaker 1: want to compare because I told you we weren't doing that, right,
Speaker 1: I don't want to compare. But you know a lot
Speaker 1: of black men have problems with black women. They say
Speaker 1: we gold diggers, um, when a lot of them don't
Speaker 1: be ha enough gold. Let's let's be fucking clear, um,
Speaker 1: Like our standards are too high. Right. So then I
Speaker 1: don't want a white man, right. So if I say, well,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna get me African, they go, I'm gonna I'm
Speaker 1: gonna get me. Uh, I don't know, I Haitian nigga
Speaker 1: or something like that. I feel like they got a
Speaker 1: problem with that too. Who was a problem with that?
Speaker 1: Black men? Well? I don't think so because the reason
Speaker 1: why people might be offended because you're actually saying that
Speaker 1: you're going to go get someone. I don't think they
Speaker 1: want to hear that. I think you should just go ahead.
Speaker 1: And but do you have to sell? How do you
Speaker 1: go get an African? Like you go to the African
Speaker 1: You gotta go to the African club and we know
Speaker 1: exactly where they at and whatever city, right, you're gonna
Speaker 1: find the African club, You're gonna go there. Get you
Speaker 1: a nigga. He y'all cleaning the dashiki with their little
Speaker 1: hat on, and how y'all do is walking there with
Speaker 1: the fat ass hey? And they love it every time?
Speaker 1: Got him? But how do you know that guy has money? Though?
Speaker 1: I come, I want to know the talk process? So
Speaker 1: how do you go? How do you know? Okay, that's
Speaker 1: the guy I want to talk to? Have you? Have
Speaker 1: you ever chosen? How the wrong friend ever chosen you? Like?
Speaker 1: How does that happen? Like? How do you pick the
Speaker 1: guy that you want? I don't necessarily just be about
Speaker 1: money though, like just about money for you? No, not
Speaker 1: just money. I mean money is very important, but it
Speaker 1: is not I'll turn down the nigga with money for
Speaker 1: another nigga with the same amount money just cooler. You know,
Speaker 1: the subject to steal money though. No, no, it's not.
Speaker 1: It's not just money. Do you feel like that? A No,
Speaker 1: But I I have never talked to African man who
Speaker 1: didn't have money or no just even being friends, who
Speaker 1: didn't have businesses, who didn't have a life together. I
Speaker 1: don't know any but that's just people in general. No, No,
Speaker 1: I mean, of course, right, but I feel like the
Speaker 1: African men that I have met, they be having ship together,
Speaker 1: like maybe having a whole life together. Now they do
Speaker 1: be on some bollstion. Now you might not know that that.
Speaker 1: You might not know that nigga real name. You might
Speaker 1: not know he got a wife over here and in Africa,
Speaker 1: and he's gonna talk in his native tongue around you
Speaker 1: about you, and you don't even know what the funk
Speaker 1: he's saying. He might lie about his age too, like
Speaker 1: I had one one of my friends, like he just
Speaker 1: did not want to I knew, I know for oh
Speaker 1: he was at least fifty years old. They did not
Speaker 1: want to tell me. How I can explain right on
Speaker 1: that part. But but but let me explain. So I
Speaker 1: think it's a generational thing, right, so people that were
Speaker 1: born like people that are affording above. Yes, that's when
Speaker 1: you actually hear those things. They might have a wife
Speaker 1: at home, you know, they might have they might put
Speaker 1: in a younger age. They do that all the time.
Speaker 1: And I'll explain why. Because there's this concept you have
Speaker 1: back home that the younger you are, the longer you
Speaker 1: can work, that they won't force you out of retirement. Right,
Speaker 1: That's how it is back in Nigeria. But in America
Speaker 1: you can walk to like your seventies. So people always
Speaker 1: try to fake their age to be younger, right, so
Speaker 1: they can they can work longer. But they don't know
Speaker 1: it doesn't work like that in America. You're better off
Speaker 1: being older, so you get to sixty five and cash
Speaker 1: out on your scis three. Right. They don't think, they don't,
Speaker 1: They don't get So that's the main reason why a
Speaker 1: lot of times they fake their age right to be youngest,
Speaker 1: because they think, Okay, if i'm younger, I can work longer.
Speaker 1: We'll back home, Like if you're study age, you're kind
Speaker 1: of forced out to retire. If you're work in civil services.
Speaker 1: So it's not the fact in America you can work
Speaker 1: till you did too, you say, until seventy, But here
Speaker 1: you can worry, you can work. So that's the that's
Speaker 1: why they faked your age a little. So it's not
Speaker 1: the fact that I'm in my thirties and your ass
Speaker 1: is really fucking fifty and the insecure and you think
Speaker 1: I give a funk about that. No, that's not the reason.
Speaker 1: That's why. That's why I said. The older generation they
Speaker 1: did that. But it changes by generation. Now people that
Speaker 1: are in their thirties, they don't have wives at home,
Speaker 1: Like it's not easy to marry someone at home, but
Speaker 1: if you see someone in the fifth is possible that
Speaker 1: you might have a wife back home, and it's forty,
Speaker 1: it's possible to have a wife back home. But people
Speaker 1: in your thirties, late twenties, it's really changing. So that's
Speaker 1: why it depends on the age of the pressing you're
Speaker 1: you're talking to. Write. Then his wife was here and
Speaker 1: she was a doctor too, but they were like going
Speaker 1: through a divorce and you got the kids and private
Speaker 1: school and sucking trips in your up in all this
Speaker 1: botion and just lying for no reason, like that's that
Speaker 1: usually that's my main thing, like with African man. Like
Speaker 1: I like African men, but I feel like the ones
Speaker 1: I've dated, they lie and they just be trying to
Speaker 1: funk too fast. Man, this is ship they kill me with.
Speaker 1: Darling Darling, I love you, darling boy, if you'll get
Speaker 1: your motherfucking ass. I can't even I can't even argue
Speaker 1: what you just said now, Tamma, because yeah, they do
Speaker 1: be loving too. The yeah I heard it, I've heard
Speaker 1: of a love. They're very aggressive. And I'm speaking in
Speaker 1: third person because you know that's when my in that case,
Speaker 1: I clim Baltimore. Right, I don't. I don't, I don't.
Speaker 1: I'm not like that. But no, no, Helen, No, no,
Speaker 1: I'm very I'm very practical, of very pragmatic. I am no.
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't believe in love, so you know
Speaker 1: you don't believe. Yeah, I mean I love my mom,
Speaker 1: I love my dad, but you know that love of
Speaker 1: they think is right now, I don't believe that. I
Speaker 1: don't even like the bit because it's it's very conditional, right,
Speaker 1: My love is conditional. You know, I don't believe in
Speaker 1: Oh my god, what. I just love you for being
Speaker 1: you know. No, you gotta do things that I like.
Speaker 1: You know, it's I don't believe in I kind of wrap.
Speaker 1: It doesn't make any sense. Like I believe in logical things.
Speaker 1: I don't believe in things that are very abstract and
Speaker 1: love is very abstract. So you can love your parents unconditionally,
Speaker 1: but you can't. Oh no, my parents. I love them
Speaker 1: because they brought me this wall to care of me. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's why I love them. But you'll never love a woman. Well,
Speaker 1: I would deeply like a woman. You know, what do
Speaker 1: you mean by love? What do you mean? I would
Speaker 1: do things. I have friends that I have like you know,
Speaker 1: friendly love. I don't. I don't. Maybe I would say this.
Speaker 1: I don't believe in romantic but I love people. I
Speaker 1: care about it. So you'll never be with a woman
Speaker 1: and get married. Like you get married, you're gonna be
Speaker 1: like I deeply like you. Baby. Why are you gonna
Speaker 1: do the accent bit? What is up? What is up?
Speaker 1: I like doing it? Is it not? You know South
Speaker 1: African nigger sound? You sound like Columbia South Calarian southa
Speaker 1: trying to do African? All right, that's something I would
Speaker 1: say people that know me, my friends that know they're like,
Speaker 1: they would definitely say I'm deeply that I do talk
Speaker 1: like that, but no, I would. I would marry. But
Speaker 1: you don't have to be in love to get married, though,
Speaker 1: I don't believe that you have to be okay, So
Speaker 1: that that's another culture difference, right, So, which I feel
Speaker 1: like maybe we may need to apply in America because
Speaker 1: in Africans, the usually some of them, some cultures or
Speaker 1: some tribes may have arranged marriages right where you're you're marrying, yeah,
Speaker 1: like you're marrying a certain family like, but we we
Speaker 1: kind of have that in America because grandmothers and grandfathers
Speaker 1: would be always be like what a family at, what
Speaker 1: a family from? Because they want to test Oh no,
Speaker 1: don't meet with them people or them people crazy. That's
Speaker 1: more on the South though, right right, that's more like
Speaker 1: a set, right. I think that's that's one thing we
Speaker 1: probably could bring to American culture. I don't I'm not
Speaker 1: against like arranged marriages. I feel like they probably work,
Speaker 1: I guess because you gotta always learn to love somebody anyway,
Speaker 1: and you gotta keep doing things to continuously fall in
Speaker 1: love with whoever you went anyway, don't arrange me the ship.
Speaker 1: I believe it. I believe it because think about it, right,
Speaker 1: I understand why they do that. My aunt keeps sexing
Speaker 1: me up every day she's in back in NINEGERI, Oh
Speaker 1: she's found this girl. She'll meet someone. Oh, I found
Speaker 1: someone for you to get married. I'm like stopped. So
Speaker 1: to make it happy, sometimes I'll call. I'll call the girl,
Speaker 1: have one conversation, block on what's up? But why you
Speaker 1: don't know who? No, I I can't marry someone back
Speaker 1: home in Nigeria. That's a liability. That's like hustling backwards.
Speaker 1: Like why would I go marry someone back home? It
Speaker 1: doesn't make any sense. That's two years of my life
Speaker 1: not being with her. That's too much money I'm spending
Speaker 1: to bring that back here. No, No, that's the life.
Speaker 1: But she has to come. Mere have to pay for
Speaker 1: our school, She has to get maybe her master's or
Speaker 1: get us whatever the case. Maybe and you feel like
Speaker 1: you have to pay for that. I would have to see. Okay,
Speaker 1: black American men no different. So no, I'm not talking
Speaker 1: about you. I'll talk about black American man we got
Speaker 1: to come about. I'll talking about all this ship like it.
Speaker 1: It's expensive. It's still expensive. Let me tell you the
Speaker 1: HBCU we went to been it in college. Been In
Speaker 1: in college would go to African countries and they would
Speaker 1: get the smartest of the smartest people and they would
Speaker 1: bring them a to our campus and they would go
Speaker 1: to school for fucking free. We didn't have that option
Speaker 1: to go to school free. We didn't get free housing,
Speaker 1: we didn't get free food, we didn't get the scholarships
Speaker 1: that they received. So we need help from these niggers.
Speaker 1: Like I needed to take to Walmart Neger, I need
Speaker 1: to care. Pat, I'm sorry. You know what's funny, go,
Speaker 1: I actually heard the vice what do you call the
Speaker 1: head of the president? I better to call it say
Speaker 1: that at one time about Yeah, you're talking about roth
Speaker 1: and artists. But anyway back to what you were saying. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so I don't think I can go back home and
Speaker 1: marry someone in Africa because to me, that's like hostling backwards.
Speaker 1: Its cost way too much. You know, I would not
Speaker 1: do that. It's just when I look at every how
Speaker 1: much I'm going to spend together pressing here and set
Speaker 1: them up. No, it's like four years of my life
Speaker 1: just stagnant. So if I marry someone, the person has
Speaker 1: to be from me. We have to you know, it
Speaker 1: has to be like a contract, like you know, do
Speaker 1: you aspire to marriage? Do you? Um? Yeah? Makes sense
Speaker 1: if it makes it, If it makes sense, I would
Speaker 1: definitely marry Yeah, I definitely yeah, if it makes sense.
Speaker 1: Sentence like well, like business sense. If it makes business sense, yeah,
Speaker 1: if he makes business sense. Everything has to be married
Speaker 1: has to be about I mean I know, yeah yeah yeah,
Speaker 1: but you know he has to see me about how
Speaker 1: does how is it going to make sense for budd
Speaker 1: of us? I really mean what I'm saying though, you know,
Speaker 1: but yeah, well I believe you. Yeah, you never loved
Speaker 1: nobody in your life, have you? I said, your mom
Speaker 1: and your daddy. I think I was in love when
Speaker 1: I was seventeen. I think that's the last time I
Speaker 1: was in love seventeen. So if it was possible, then
Speaker 1: why is it not possible? Now? I was stupid? You know,
Speaker 1: there's that I got up. I'm like, what the hell
Speaker 1: was I thinking about? But you know, I stopped beating
Speaker 1: up when I started going to therapy and I understud that, oh,
Speaker 1: you can control your emotions. When I figured out I
Speaker 1: could control my emotions. I'm like, oh, I'm not funny
Speaker 1: in love anymore. Like, hell no, I'll control my therapy
Speaker 1: because you're using your yeah therapy to use it as
Speaker 1: a defense mechanism to never fall in love again. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but why do you want to fall in love though? Like,
Speaker 1: tell me the benefits to fall in love? I do
Speaker 1: want to know it feels. Really it didn't feel good
Speaker 1: to you if it's mutual and if it's okay as
Speaker 1: an adult. If it's mutual you and your person, you're
Speaker 1: falling in love, right, Because I I do believe that
Speaker 1: being in love is simply just a state of mind.
Speaker 1: So if you're not doing things daily to continuously falling
Speaker 1: in love fall in love, you're going to be falling
Speaker 1: out of love. So if you find this person, y'all
Speaker 1: can talk about anything, y'all can do ship together, Like
Speaker 1: why why the fun would you not be in love
Speaker 1: with him? So it's I can love someone not being loved, right,
Speaker 1: I don't know. Maybe So my definition of being in
Speaker 1: love is taking somebody else's life into consideration as if
Speaker 1: it were your own. That's my definition of being in love.
Speaker 1: That's way too fun. I'm not I'm just not that.
Speaker 1: It's just like y'all had as, ladies, these niggas and shallow.
Speaker 1: So you want your African nigga, right, he don't want
Speaker 1: to love you, and I gotta make business sense to
Speaker 1: funk with you. But but but but listen, that's how
Speaker 1: we should be though time. But you got Black American
Speaker 1: men saying they don't give a funk about our degrees.
Speaker 1: They don't give a funk about how much money we make.
Speaker 1: Do Africans give a funk about degrees? Do Africans a
Speaker 1: funk about how much money we make? I know he's
Speaker 1: a rhetorical question agent because you know me. You know
Speaker 1: I'm a pocket watcher. I watch your pockets. Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't even hide it. I'll go on my Facebook
Speaker 1: and say, ladies, if we make up seventy hundred thousand
Speaker 1: like this coming, I don't hide it. Let me tell
Speaker 1: you why I'm watching, right, And I was having a
Speaker 1: conversation with someone recently others I want I want to
Speaker 1: date someone who has something to lose, right, That's what
Speaker 1: I'm interested. And I'm not interested in that wild No,
Speaker 1: if you sound too crazy, No, I want this someone.
Speaker 1: So I have to watch your pockets to know if
Speaker 1: you have something to do, but you pay for shi it, right, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't mind paint it. See, the more money you pake,
Speaker 1: the more money I paid, Like, I will pay because
Speaker 1: I understand you have the value you. I don't think
Speaker 1: they're trying to take advantage of me, So I like,
Speaker 1: I don't want to tell you what I tell me. Fellas,
Speaker 1: Please listen, fellas, listen, stop BOMBOO or Facebook or go
Speaker 1: on LinkedIn. All you gotta do typing, Listen, All you
Speaker 1: gotta do is typing. You know the professions that pay
Speaker 1: good money, right, so typing something like d I d
Speaker 1: I Diversitate Equity and Inclusion for Wells Fargo. I don't
Speaker 1: want a name. Can I call companies here? It doesn't
Speaker 1: I'm not say anything bad. You're going to see a
Speaker 1: beautiful black lady that looks good because they always want
Speaker 1: to present someone that looks good, like, you know, beautiful
Speaker 1: black for this US linked to pick up bitches. We're
Speaker 1: gonna start doing that at two bitches. Like listen, that's
Speaker 1: the real I've dated website. No, I mean, here's the thing.
Speaker 1: Everything everybody's literally doing. Yeah, but LinkedIn know they're they're
Speaker 1: doing it. I think that. I don't. I don't think
Speaker 1: it's very I don't think it's common yet. But people
Speaker 1: that know, tell me, tell me, tell me the process.
Speaker 1: Now you go on LinkedIn. Go on LinkedIn, right, so
Speaker 1: you can search for NASE practitioners, right because you know
Speaker 1: they make good money, like a NUSE practitioner. You know,
Speaker 1: you search for NUSSE practitioners around your city. Then you
Speaker 1: see the pictures. By the time you add one, you're
Speaker 1: going to see the network of hard and of course
Speaker 1: a beautiful lady, a NUSE practitioner has a network of
Speaker 1: other beautiful, successful black women, and you know that's what
Speaker 1: you do, and then you pick your girl from there. Well,
Speaker 1: you know, but that's where you have better prospects. So
Speaker 1: that's that's what. Yeah, So I don't. I don't. I'm
Speaker 1: not one of those guys that says, oh, I don't
Speaker 1: care about what you do your degrees, you know, No,
Speaker 1: I do care about that, and not like I want
Speaker 1: something from me. I just want to make sure you're stable.
Speaker 1: You know. That's we don't turn linked into a dating website.
Speaker 1: Are you? Are you on LinkedIn? I am? I am.
Speaker 1: I haven't updated in a while, because you know, when
Speaker 1: Lincoln first came along, I was excited about it because
Speaker 1: I was in corporate America at the time, but then
Speaker 1: you know, once I got laid off, right, so I'm like,
Speaker 1: let me update my resume this in the third I'm
Speaker 1: looking at Lincoln. I'm like, these motherfucker's is using this
Speaker 1: to profile people. That's how I feel about LinkedIn as
Speaker 1: far as like actually trying. So that's what he's doing.
Speaker 1: He's definitely like he is. But I'm talking about for playing,
Speaker 1: I'm talking about I'm talking about companies. I'm talking about
Speaker 1: a wealth like they're using it to see if this
Speaker 1: Ashley is black or white. So no, I'm not interested
Speaker 1: in that. Lincoln has got to meet so many jobs
Speaker 1: in seriously, because you're African, Like African men gonna get
Speaker 1: a job in America. I'm sorry. They just assumed that
Speaker 1: they're looking smart. I literally spent three hours with my
Speaker 1: homeboy who's also African, doing his fucking Excel report for
Speaker 1: his job, and he making like a hundred and fifty
Speaker 1: thousand dollars a year. I don't know how to do
Speaker 1: a pivot, a pivot table and V look up. I
Speaker 1: don't know how I do though, I how to do
Speaker 1: a pivot table V look up all that should excel.
Speaker 1: I am proficient in in excel. Yeah. Here, I'm a
Speaker 1: business professional, so I know I know how to do
Speaker 1: all that dumb ship so that should it doesn't matter. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but I can said I prefer, you know, I just don't.
Speaker 1: I don't I know one of those guys. I prefer
Speaker 1: with a woman to have something. She has to have
Speaker 1: something going on for herself. She has to have something
Speaker 1: to bring to the profibial table. I know y'all hate
Speaker 1: hearing that, but she has to have something. That's that's
Speaker 1: how you end up, like you know, you just end
Speaker 1: up messing with someone that doesn't. Yeah, I don't want
Speaker 1: to call it any names. You know, A pop buch
Speaker 1: is just a do nothing. Ask girl who just uh,
Speaker 1: she's not an asset, she's like a liability. Yeah, hold on, tam,
Speaker 1: let's say some bills. So why do y'all aside up? Timber?
Speaker 1: Did you say why you like African men? Um? I'm
Speaker 1: like African men because my experience, they're very catering. Ya,
Speaker 1: So I didn't have to lift a finger for anything
Speaker 1: when I want an African man they made me feel
Speaker 1: like a queen. They really do. Yeah. I mean I'm
Speaker 1: catering too, you know. I you know, I have my
Speaker 1: friends over to take care of people, like I'm catering,
Speaker 1: but I'm not, like I'm not a dummy. That's what
Speaker 1: it is, you know because sometimes, like we talked about it,
Speaker 1: like some American women that maybe they've experienced to African
Speaker 1: men that would just give them money or just you know,
Speaker 1: and they try to take advantage of me like, oh
Speaker 1: this is I'm gonna send me like a cash ap request.
Speaker 1: And now that's to look like what what does this?
Speaker 1: What do I look like? You know, I know every
Speaker 1: the audacity those women want smooth. You got to be smooth. Yes,
Speaker 1: you do have to be a little you can't just
Speaker 1: send them. But but it works because the reason why
Speaker 1: they're doing this because he has worked on that. But
Speaker 1: I'm not just that maga. Yeah, it's not gonna work
Speaker 1: with manifested magat. The hell I never knew. Yeah, that's
Speaker 1: what magat. But what does it mean in Africa? Though?
Speaker 1: I mean the definition it doesn't there's no, it doesn't really.
Speaker 1: It just means what it means I can't working from
Speaker 1: But oh No, it doesn't mean there's no just being maga.
Speaker 1: That's what we call I kind of extinct with the
Speaker 1: origin of that working. But growing up as a young adult,
Speaker 1: that's what we called people the American scams. Magat about
Speaker 1: to get scams. Oh that's my maga. Yeah, and they
Speaker 1: don't even know that this is maga. That's how I'm introducing. No,
Speaker 1: that was this is I'm pulling out with my maga.
Speaker 1: Like listen, right, maybe at the club, bitch, I'm coming
Speaker 1: with my mag that's the whole at the club that
Speaker 1: you're coming with my mega, coming with my magay when
Speaker 1: your maga the victis you on vacation and you don't
Speaker 1: take pictures with your maga right right, No, ain't no
Speaker 1: pics with my maga. That's not And I'm blocking that nigga. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's familiar facts. I recently went on a vacation with
Speaker 1: a guy and I was on the phone with a
Speaker 1: j on the vacation, Like, yo, as soon as I
Speaker 1: get off the plane, this nigga. No, when I get
Speaker 1: to the terminal, this nigga is blocked, Like why he
Speaker 1: just did not show me a good time? He was
Speaker 1: just he was African. He wasn't African, but he was
Speaker 1: like very very demanding, and do it this way. That's
Speaker 1: the other side. I am the man. I am the man.
Speaker 1: We wait here for the just nigga. Relax. We're on vacation.
Speaker 1: So it's a it's a cultural. One thing about me
Speaker 1: is I had to learn how to have to learn
Speaker 1: the American whale because the court is very um. The
Speaker 1: cultural difference is very very There's a lot of cultural differences.
Speaker 1: But I don't care what people say. It's not it's
Speaker 1: not the same thing. So when I came to America,
Speaker 1: I had to learn. I said, I worked us to
Speaker 1: be a cat. She had war grains and I worked
Speaker 1: at Marshalls. I had worked two jobs when I first
Speaker 1: learned in America in like a week, right, And I
Speaker 1: had to learn that, oh my god, that's you can't
Speaker 1: talk to people like that. You have to like say
Speaker 1: things common courtesy. Where yeah, but the way I talked
Speaker 1: to my name, you're and friends know how I talk
Speaker 1: to my American friends. I have to be American friends, like, okay,
Speaker 1: say politely say my name. Friends like I'll just say
Speaker 1: how I feel. Right, We're very straightforward. I'm very direct,
Speaker 1: but you know, me come in a little bit younger
Speaker 1: at working in customer service, I had to learn how
Speaker 1: to speak, how to understand that. Hey, you know, don't
Speaker 1: be too aggressive because it was like, nigga, who are
Speaker 1: you talking to? Yeah, that's not how it's gonna go.
Speaker 1: But didn't you know all that before you went on
Speaker 1: vacation with him? He was sweet, He was sweet, but
Speaker 1: being around him for more than two days, yeah, she
Speaker 1: kind of got different. You should have got different rooms. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: because we had that as we girl, if we are
Speaker 1: getting fluid out on that episode, we're talked about getting
Speaker 1: fluid out, get your own room. But we had spent
Speaker 1: time together. You know, it wasn't like our first encounter.
Speaker 1: You know, this was just like he just started. He
Speaker 1: switched up the temple. I don't know, So I think
Speaker 1: you need to a younger African tam baman. I got,
Speaker 1: I got, I got a few um do a lineup
Speaker 1: for us? Okay, YEA, have I set that up? Yeah?
Speaker 1: You can talk. You have tell me what you like though,
Speaker 1: and I'll I'll set that up for you. Okay. So
Speaker 1: I have, I know, a couple of alcohol for a
Speaker 1: couple of friends. I got a couple of dollars no money.
Speaker 1: But and I say that, I did not say that.
Speaker 1: I said it's not all about the money. Okay, don't
Speaker 1: lie on me. I have a couple of friends that
Speaker 1: I definitely like you. Okay, let's set that up. I
Speaker 1: need to be treated very nice. So the guy that
Speaker 1: I was dating, I did like him. He was not
Speaker 1: the one that I went on vacation with nigger. I'm
Speaker 1: talking about the one that would wouldn't let me lift
Speaker 1: a finger to help myself at all. He was just
Speaker 1: so sweet, he being there making me a goose is
Speaker 1: soup and pound and yam and jella rice and like
Speaker 1: I can't carry my own bags and he and they're
Speaker 1: rubbing my feet. You're such a queen. But I just
Speaker 1: did not like the way he came. What yah, I
Speaker 1: ain't like how he came. I'm confused, what do you mean?
Speaker 1: Like like when he came it was weird? Man? This
Speaker 1: all right? This this is out that came. He'd be like,
Speaker 1: he was like, bro, what the fuck is dat? What
Speaker 1: is that? I don't like kill a pussy? It wasn't
Speaker 1: having this seizure. No, I asked him. I asked him,
Speaker 1: why did he like? Eventually, after because he like, you know,
Speaker 1: I was like, why do you come like that? And
Speaker 1: he was like, because I'm so filled with joy? That's
Speaker 1: what answer. But it was weird. Man. I couldn't do it.
Speaker 1: I had to throw him back to the streets, sucking
Speaker 1: sound like a villain every time? Who are you laugh?
Speaker 1: Like an englishman? I got he was getting out almostarted
Speaker 1: it yo, yeah man, that's right now. That's why I
Speaker 1: stopped working with him. Everything else was cool, but I
Speaker 1: could not live with that. Who doing that? Can't you
Speaker 1: coaching to change? He's um, that's his ship, that was
Speaker 1: his ship. That was how he did it. I couldn't
Speaker 1: do it. Did you tell him me you didn't like it? No?
Speaker 1: I didn't tell him, So why did you communicate that
Speaker 1: with him? Yeah? Okay, that's I'm not if that's listen.
Speaker 1: I feel like how you come is your right. I
Speaker 1: don't want to change how you come. You need to
Speaker 1: find somebody, You need to find your nemesis. Bitch, what
Speaker 1: you're even villain? So that's what you're doing. But you
Speaker 1: just gotta deal with two minutes once a week, right,
Speaker 1: that's doing a lot of time, Like you gotta do
Speaker 1: the You gotta were your options. Listen to me and
Speaker 1: daylor be talking right this nigga? Who if I'm in
Speaker 1: a relationship with somebody or even just on some smash
Speaker 1: time like you sucking me once so we pardoned me.
Speaker 1: It's one week enough for you. These African niggas is
Speaker 1: sucking once a week, y'all. Y'all okay with that? That's
Speaker 1: a lie. That's just daily. I need you to suck
Speaker 1: me at least three times a week. Man, come be
Speaker 1: funk on twice a week. We can negle ship on
Speaker 1: twice a week. Three times a yes, that is not
Speaker 1: a lot. You must not do on be getting no
Speaker 1: good pussy dayler. You talk about three times a week,
Speaker 1: you don't a lot of Thursday, Saturday and Sunday. That's four.
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't. I don't have sex on the weekends. No,
Speaker 1: I have to know. It makes thing, it makes them white.
Speaker 1: What in the world I gotta explain why let makes them?
Speaker 1: Why I don't working the weekends. I don't have second
Speaker 1: daytime like I don't. I don't know that. You've got
Speaker 1: too many restrictions on I do I do? I do?
Speaker 1: You gotta stay sane, man, I want you to his
Speaker 1: Dick is a Nokia. He got nice and weekends go crazy.
Speaker 1: I remember that. I remember nice and weekends because that's
Speaker 1: what I just kept to a break. What was the
Speaker 1: phone company back then? It start with it asked, not Sprint,
Speaker 1: not Samsung. What was no uh NICs? A weekend? Disrespectful ship? Everybody? Everybody?
Speaker 1: Everybody had nice the weekend. But yeah, the reason why
Speaker 1: I don't think so, No, I'm too because that's what
Speaker 1: I can't. I can't imagine that, Like, you know, I
Speaker 1: got stuff to do, like in the evenings, what what
Speaker 1: do I have time to have sex? Months? Twice a week,
Speaker 1: three times a week. I'll be busy and I'm not married,
Speaker 1: So you know, how am I going to do? I
Speaker 1: don't want people staying coming to my house all the time.
Speaker 1: I don't want to, you know, I want to. I
Speaker 1: want my peace. Sometimes at least three, three or four times,
Speaker 1: I gotta do yoga at night and calm myself down.
Speaker 1: You know I can't three times a week. You practice
Speaker 1: firm retention and ship like that. You're one of those. No,
Speaker 1: I don't believe us. I'm not that deep. I'm really
Speaker 1: not deep. So I I just be you know, I
Speaker 1: don't have time for Maybe three times a week is okay,
Speaker 1: but that's pushing it so weird that in a week.
Speaker 1: Why I can't get dick three days. I never had
Speaker 1: no nigger tell me that I couldn't have the dick
Speaker 1: more than I wanted it, you know, like but you
Speaker 1: but you'd be busy though, how can you? I don't
Speaker 1: think you can do that one or three times a week?
Speaker 1: Nig is be fake busy child? Please. But I had
Speaker 1: this African dude I to talked to you in college,
Speaker 1: be mad at Beneedict and you know, like what I
Speaker 1: found from dating him is that a lot of African
Speaker 1: guys who come over here for like um on scholarships
Speaker 1: and stuff like that, or the education of visas visas,
Speaker 1: they have to have like a real live plan when
Speaker 1: they finished school, like either they have to get a
Speaker 1: company to sponsor them or they gotta get married. And
Speaker 1: I told this nick I would marry him. This nig
Speaker 1: was calling me on Christmas Day like we got to
Speaker 1: discuss this marriage and it's a big business, I know.
Speaker 1: But then I talked to somebody else and it was like, girl,
Speaker 1: people be paying like fi dollars, Like she just gets
Speaker 1: to be paying money funny for the marriage, and I
Speaker 1: was like, I'm not just doing that for free. But
Speaker 1: now don't like we still follow each other on social media,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, I probably should have married this nigger,
Speaker 1: like the fuck, just be with him like the fun
Speaker 1: Like I really I probably should have. Maybe what hit
Speaker 1: him up? He's still single? No, he probably they're posted
Speaker 1: a white bitch. One day, I was like, what's wrong
Speaker 1: with the witch? Everybody got their things whatever. I'm going
Speaker 1: to keep that conversation. But listen, let's go back to
Speaker 1: but people are marrying. Yeah, you can definitely get someone
Speaker 1: to marry. You can marry something, but you have to
Speaker 1: like really be involved with in people, right because not
Speaker 1: really not really. Immigration is not gonna like just stupid, No,
Speaker 1: that's all. It's not. It's not my home girl. Talk
Speaker 1: about my home girl. She was with a she's married
Speaker 1: and married now, and um she was like that was
Speaker 1: one of her concerns. Like they was already cohabitating, you know,
Speaker 1: and together. He bought her ring engaged to her, like
Speaker 1: he was fine as fuck. She was concerned, like he
Speaker 1: just wanted his papers and I'm like, girl, you're not
Speaker 1: about to find nobody else to put up with your
Speaker 1: bullshit like this nigga loves you like he was African,
Speaker 1: like he's from I forgot he was from, but I
Speaker 1: was like, he loves you like you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: So after talking to her, he went to counseling. This
Speaker 1: bitch married his ass on her lunch break. They st together,
Speaker 1: they had a kid together. They live in Chilling, So
Speaker 1: it's kind of hard to tell if someone wants to
Speaker 1: marry you for papers or not, because if someone is
Speaker 1: desperate and they need those papers, that would do anything
Speaker 1: you want. So it's kind of hard. Is there risk?
Speaker 1: I would say this though, you know, you can be
Speaker 1: up front and say hey, if you want to marry
Speaker 1: for papers, this is the amount you're gonna pay. And
Speaker 1: then then sometimes some people be honest and tell you, okay,
Speaker 1: now he was not for that, but he was there
Speaker 1: that I knew he. I knew he loved her because
Speaker 1: this bitch used to be farting a lot, like just
Speaker 1: I don't fire in front of people I'm with, Like,
Speaker 1: first of all, that word does not have an First
Speaker 1: of all, it's fucking fart f a R. It sounds
Speaker 1: sticker that it makes it sound much what they and
Speaker 1: front what you ever wanted is fart whatever the word is.
Speaker 1: But he she used to already fucking farting, Like, bitch,
Speaker 1: you're killing the intimacy in your relationship. Stop farting in
Speaker 1: front of your man, Like that's still married, that bitch.
Speaker 1: So Ship, when Forest was hitting on something, maybe it
Speaker 1: was into that he was what if he was into
Speaker 1: that type of stuff. Yeah, maybe he liked farms. He
Speaker 1: to be putting on that nigger like baby put on me.
Speaker 1: You know, people like getting piste on. Maybe they like farting,
Speaker 1: getting fart on. It's so weird. Putment. What's the word though,
Speaker 1: how do you say it? Fart or whatever? Say tomato,
Speaker 1: you say tomato, however you go. It's a fucking part,
Speaker 1: it's a pot. But I think you'll just give me
Speaker 1: an idea. Right, I'm going to try to create like
Speaker 1: an app where you can date ship, Right, So what're
Speaker 1: you gonna call it coming to America? No, no, no,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna create an app where you can find ata.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna figure out. I'm I'm definitely yo. That might
Speaker 1: be a whole hit. You need to do that, Yeah,
Speaker 1: definitely working down it because I actually and I want to.
Speaker 1: I want to start a service where I'm going to
Speaker 1: charge um women to hook them up with men that
Speaker 1: make over six figures, like you know, high value. Right, No,
Speaker 1: you're gonna call it nash meat? No? No, no, what's that?
Speaker 1: Miss you? No more Africans than me? What is that means? Ass?
Speaker 1: Booty meat? Ya? That's a good one. But look, coming
Speaker 1: to America, Coming to America, I go fucking crazy. That
Speaker 1: go crazy, you know what I'm saying. Don't want me
Speaker 1: gonna be on there. I'll be on the y. I
Speaker 1: definitely have my real picture on that bitch like pick
Speaker 1: me you hopping on one foot, bitch, bark like a dog,
Speaker 1: a big dog. The fun. Don't play with her. Been
Speaker 1: trying to vacation for a little. We all got no
Speaker 1: time to play with job black American niggas. No more.
Speaker 1: Now she like we still love. I'm gonna say I'm
Speaker 1: gonna city. Though. The African theme is a new like
Speaker 1: women starting to like Africans is like a new thing.
Speaker 1: When I first came here, it wasn't not I wasn't
Speaker 1: getting no play. I was definitely nineteen about to marry African.
Speaker 1: Like I don't know what you're talking about, but it
Speaker 1: definitely has changed. It's changed now now you hear after
Speaker 1: you hear African music on radio beats like it's really
Speaker 1: changing and like yeah, because even the style address that
Speaker 1: African men were, I would not have been attracted to
Speaker 1: that ten years ago. No, but now when I see
Speaker 1: in the guy like, oh, he looked like he got
Speaker 1: they'd be so cultured. They'd be so cultured it'd be fun.
Speaker 1: Like they're so clean. I love it. Yes, it looking
Speaker 1: out clean and smelling good. Do you all have older
Speaker 1: friends that like African men? Yes? I have. I have
Speaker 1: a friends one from do a lot of one from
Speaker 1: Synegogue and one from one n I have a friend
Speaker 1: she only dates African men. Now that's it, not dating American.
Speaker 1: So you're you're you're in. You're in Charlotte right time, man, Yes,
Speaker 1: and they love African man in Charlotte, Yes, are it's
Speaker 1: quite a bit. It's this place called but Cordie Lounge.
Speaker 1: Let me tell you something. I went there one night.
Speaker 1: The African men are aggressive, though, who is like can
Speaker 1: give me a second? Like one nigga go another nigga
Speaker 1: walk up, like we only want the ones that being
Speaker 1: though Okay, we don't want the general public act to
Speaker 1: you like jam. We did have that conversation. The agent
Speaker 1: described the difference between the Africans to be in the
Speaker 1: general pop and it wants the being Yes, I hate right,
Speaker 1: but that's honestly, do you want black American men? That's
Speaker 1: the gym pop? Though? What's wrong with jam pop? Though
Speaker 1: I'd be jam up, I wouldn't, but listen, I'm the
Speaker 1: kind of That's what I do when I go to
Speaker 1: the club, right, I walk in, I look, who do
Speaker 1: I know? Once I see someone, I go perch. I'm
Speaker 1: the kind of a guy that when you mean to
Speaker 1: bring the bottles, I wasn't want to pay for it,
Speaker 1: but I've been from like for it. What but a
Speaker 1: credit card full of money? Right? I had my birthday party,
Speaker 1: um and my friends, you know, they all buying bottles
Speaker 1: for me. They spent like six thousand dollars in the club. Right.
Speaker 1: I didn't spend the time, and I was happy, like,
Speaker 1: oh she did buying bottles for me. That I felt
Speaker 1: like the man you know that? Yeah, But I don't
Speaker 1: spend in the what I do, don't I do? But
Speaker 1: most of the times I try to spend on the
Speaker 1: pig's money. That's what I do. Two day light. So
Speaker 1: we hit up on a magazine. Y'all goodness, we say awful.
Speaker 1: Not honestly, that's not true. I will date a guy
Speaker 1: that's not in VP. I have I bad guys outside
Speaker 1: v I P. For sure. Yeah, but the check I
Speaker 1: know exactly. I was dating this guy. I met him
Speaker 1: in the v I P section. He was handsome. We
Speaker 1: were kicking and we were going out. He had a
Speaker 1: table every weekend, and these tables one cheat. So then
Speaker 1: we started kicking it. And then finally I went over
Speaker 1: his house. He had no couch. He have no couch
Speaker 1: in the right. The only couches he guy is in
Speaker 1: the club, Like what the fuck? Okay, no, I don't
Speaker 1: look on the floor. And no bunky house. I don't
Speaker 1: get this. Ain't bouncy house. Pussy right here? Okay, no
Speaker 1: air mattress. You want air mattress? Me see, I'm the opposite.
Speaker 1: Right before I spend money, Like that's make sure my
Speaker 1: house is cool, like you just comfortable, because let me
Speaker 1: tell fellers, listen to me, right, I don't know how
Speaker 1: many of you. I'm sure there's a lot of people
Speaker 1: tell us that listen to the podcast. Listen to me.
Speaker 1: Spend that money on yourself, make your house comfortable, and
Speaker 1: women who suck you for free, like, don't go spending
Speaker 1: in the club, like spending in your house, like buy
Speaker 1: yourself a nice couch, buy yourself a nice, nice mattress.
Speaker 1: You don't make your house so comfortable. Nice match. Yeah, listen,
Speaker 1: I still best sheet from the hotel, like you know,
Speaker 1: hold on, I gotta beake my house comfortable. Mobes necessary
Speaker 1: you get see. I never heard of ni say there's
Speaker 1: as you get to this nigger house, she's so plush,
Speaker 1: like like a rent, Like, okay, it is because it is.
Speaker 1: It is pillows and everything. How the risk? But yet
Speaker 1: this they gonna stealing down comfort of Sam. I don't
Speaker 1: think I'm lying right, but that nigger got a whole
Speaker 1: linit closet full on people's ship. Thank you so much
Speaker 1: for joining us and talking to us about this being
Speaker 1: an African man in America and dating and giving us
Speaker 1: the tools to get money, because I feel like that's
Speaker 1: what you was doing, not find love, just get some checks.
Speaker 1: Thank you so much. Get money literally yo. So let'sten y'all.
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