WEBVTT - Ep. 52 "Coming To America" feat. Daylor 0:00:03.040 --> 0:00:07.160 We're just too unapologetically black women with an opinion who 0:00:07.240 --> 0:00:12.719 talked back. Hey, y'all, it's stand man, welcome to a 0:00:12.800 --> 0:00:15.560 new episode, and we talked back. I'm doing the intro, y'all. 0:00:15.640 --> 0:00:19.720 What's up with y'all? Y'all good, y'all good. I love 0:00:19.800 --> 0:00:24.200 y'all niggas. It's a J and it's me a J. 0:00:26.480 --> 0:00:29.960 The like. I gotta work on my new intro for 0:00:30.040 --> 0:00:34.879 the new year. Let's do it right now. It's me 0:00:35.080 --> 0:00:45.440 a J B bad stupid. Look man, what we got 0:00:45.479 --> 0:00:49.240 going on? How is your weekend? My weekend was real uneventful. 0:00:49.320 --> 0:00:52.080 I just kinda laid around in the house and relaxed 0:00:52.080 --> 0:00:54.920 all weekend. I did not step out for nothing. I tried. 0:00:54.960 --> 0:00:57.960 On Saturday, me and my best friend went out to 0:00:58.000 --> 0:01:00.720 try to get some drinks, but they wouldn't let us 0:01:00.760 --> 0:01:02.480 in because she had on the hat. So we just 0:01:02.520 --> 0:01:06.520 went home. It's cold outside because she had on the hat. Yeah, 0:01:06.760 --> 0:01:11.560 it was a real swinky place. Well they think they're swinky. 0:01:11.840 --> 0:01:13.640 What kind of hat? She just had? All that she 0:01:13.640 --> 0:01:19.039 had on the dad cap? It was designer? What the fun? 0:01:19.280 --> 0:01:21.759 They wouldn't let her in and she was not taking off. 0:01:22.240 --> 0:01:24.720 But I don't think they lead people in with hats on. Honestly, 0:01:25.080 --> 0:01:28.959 it wasn't. You're sure because you Charlotte is known for 0:01:28.959 --> 0:01:31.039 that type of ship. They usually they I remember back 0:01:31.040 --> 0:01:33.240 in the day they used to have a quota on 0:01:33.280 --> 0:01:35.479 how many black women and black people they was letting 0:01:35.480 --> 0:01:39.600 the club and ship like that. Yeah, honestly, this is 0:01:39.600 --> 0:01:42.320 a place I frequent and I really feel like people 0:01:42.360 --> 0:01:45.440 can't come in with hats on. But I might be wrong. 0:01:45.480 --> 0:01:48.040 It might be some on some discrimination ship. But I 0:01:48.040 --> 0:01:49.440 don't want to put that out there because I do 0:01:49.600 --> 0:01:53.600 like the place and I had an attitude, so it's 0:01:53.640 --> 0:01:57.360 probably best that we wouldn't here. But you had an 0:01:57.360 --> 0:01:59.280 attitude with him at the door. I just had an 0:01:59.320 --> 0:02:01.600 attitude with everybody. I was horny and I ain't had 0:02:01.640 --> 0:02:05.880 no dick oh year, and I don't need the girl, 0:02:06.360 --> 0:02:09.360 and I just had a bad attitude with a bitch 0:02:09.360 --> 0:02:11.720 at the door with my home girl. I was meaning 0:02:11.800 --> 0:02:15.800 everybody that day. So I apologize to everybody. I'm debating 0:02:15.800 --> 0:02:17.400 on rather than not I'm gona be smashing this year 0:02:17.480 --> 0:02:20.280 or not if I find a If I find a 0:02:20.360 --> 0:02:23.760 nice husband this year, maybe yeah, the same. I want 0:02:23.760 --> 0:02:28.600 to man, I don't want to just random ah, unconditional penis. 0:02:28.639 --> 0:02:34.200 I want some conditions on the Dick this year, but 0:02:34.320 --> 0:02:36.440 I don't do ship. I finished writing up my little 0:02:36.440 --> 0:02:39.720 goals for the year, which Dick ain't on the list, 0:02:41.080 --> 0:02:43.680 and it's whatever I'm good with. That said a husband. 0:02:43.680 --> 0:02:45.200 You gotta put that on the list if that's what 0:02:45.240 --> 0:02:49.440 you want. It's just okay, I was having this conversation 0:02:49.480 --> 0:02:51.680 with somebody. It's not that I'm not you know what 0:02:51.680 --> 0:02:54.040 I'm saying. It's not like that's not a goal of mine. 0:02:54.160 --> 0:02:56.040 It's just not my focus. I feel like if I 0:02:56.120 --> 0:02:58.000 focus on the things that I feel like I haven't 0:02:58.000 --> 0:03:01.280 been focused on the past, all those things will come 0:03:01.400 --> 0:03:05.640 with it. So I'm just not um. I'm open to 0:03:05.680 --> 0:03:07.920 all that ship. But you like me and love I 0:03:08.040 --> 0:03:10.640 like feeling like that I'm never one of them. Bit 0:03:10.760 --> 0:03:14.239 just like stock Negers get money girl by okay, like 0:03:14.360 --> 0:03:17.280 it'd be cold and it winter time and I'm sick 0:03:17.320 --> 0:03:19.160 of going on trips and going back to the room 0:03:19.160 --> 0:03:21.919 with a bunch of bitches, right me too, I d P. 0:03:23.080 --> 0:03:25.960 I don't want I want somebody. I'm very dependent and 0:03:26.200 --> 0:03:29.919 I want Dick at the beach, just living my feminine 0:03:30.040 --> 0:03:35.720 energy and the taken care of to a certain extent. 0:03:35.800 --> 0:03:37.560 I can't let them they can fully take care of 0:03:37.600 --> 0:03:40.920 me because I just can't. I'm scared of that. But 0:03:41.160 --> 0:03:45.200 they're beginning with side day self, y'all. Yeah, man, that's why. 0:03:46.320 --> 0:03:48.680 So what happened in the world. There was a lot 0:03:48.720 --> 0:03:53.840 of cars death over the weekends. Oh yeah, death and beef. 0:03:54.320 --> 0:03:59.560 Dang man. So Bob Saget passed away. They said they 0:03:59.600 --> 0:04:07.760 found um, um just uh, non responsive in his hotel room. 0:04:07.800 --> 0:04:10.520 He had just did a show, uh the night before. 0:04:10.840 --> 0:04:12.960 I believe it was a comedy show he did. He 0:04:13.040 --> 0:04:16.400 tweeted about it Sunday morning, and then he was found 0:04:16.440 --> 0:04:20.960 in his hotel Sunday evening. Damn man, just like that. Yeah, 0:04:21.040 --> 0:04:23.159 so they're saying, you know, they haven't done autoxy and 0:04:23.160 --> 0:04:27.479 all that stuff, but he just, um, he just passed 0:04:28.160 --> 0:04:33.279 mm hmm. Then now you've seen those niggas that was 0:04:33.360 --> 0:04:36.080 on the boat in Brazil in a whole mountain fell 0:04:36.160 --> 0:04:39.880 in the water on top of them. Earth is tied 0:04:39.920 --> 0:04:42.680 it out, sucking asked, Okay, that's what's happening. Earth is like, 0:04:42.720 --> 0:04:44.560 you know what some of these motherfucker's need to go 0:04:45.440 --> 0:04:50.720 know Earth, it's like how we are with COVID. We 0:04:50.839 --> 0:04:58.120 are a fucking infestation, uh, a sickness to the earth 0:04:58.839 --> 0:05:03.599 and it's swiping back. Yeah, you know they said last 0:05:03.720 --> 0:05:08.719 year when quarantine first, n I'm sorry, we forget about 0:05:09.400 --> 0:05:15.560 you know. And when COVID quarantine first started, like march 0:05:16.680 --> 0:05:21.360 um throughout the summer, like earth was healing. They were saying, 0:05:21.400 --> 0:05:24.479 like smog in the air was, you know, decreasing all 0:05:24.520 --> 0:05:26.640 these different things just from a little period of time 0:05:26.720 --> 0:05:31.840 that humans couldn't move around the earth, right it started healing. 0:05:32.200 --> 0:05:34.599 Animals that we hadn't seen in a long time was 0:05:34.640 --> 0:05:37.600 coming out like damn, what the motherfucker's they are, Like, 0:05:38.640 --> 0:05:43.760 we're back, baby, they're sick of us. And I don't 0:05:43.760 --> 0:05:46.120 blame them, like I really I'm one with nature, Like 0:05:46.160 --> 0:05:47.800 i'd be out here tree hugging and all type of 0:05:47.800 --> 0:05:53.400 ship bit you'll be hugging the trees. Yes, I talked 0:05:53.440 --> 0:05:57.760 to talked to in my house and I walked outside 0:05:57.800 --> 0:05:59.719 with those shoes. But that's because I'm from South Carolina. 0:06:00.200 --> 0:06:03.640 But but that's grounding. Not in the city. Not not 0:06:03.760 --> 0:06:05.560 in the city though, but in the country. I do 0:06:05.600 --> 0:06:09.360 walk outside without my shoes. You have to. You should 0:06:09.400 --> 0:06:13.839 like you're wearing shoes blocks that energy from the earth. Yeah. Yeah, 0:06:13.960 --> 0:06:16.320 So I don't gonna be outside like hugging the trees 0:06:16.440 --> 0:06:18.440 talking to it and ship like weird. That's kind of 0:06:18.480 --> 0:06:22.160 weird to me. We got I want to see that? 0:06:22.360 --> 0:06:24.880 Could I record you doing that? One day? We got 0:06:24.920 --> 0:06:28.720 one of the oldest oak trees in the country here 0:06:28.760 --> 0:06:31.520 in Charleston, and you gotta see this thing. The way 0:06:32.960 --> 0:06:37.000 tree it probably was, but it's actually like the land 0:06:37.040 --> 0:06:42.560 that's on it was was owned by um a black family. 0:06:43.560 --> 0:06:46.320 You know. They done came through and scoop that ship. Yeah, 0:06:46.720 --> 0:06:51.440 my family did a good hanging tree. But the branches, 0:06:51.560 --> 0:06:54.640 the trunks of the tree grow down to the ground, 0:06:54.680 --> 0:06:56.960 like you really can't hang anybody from it. The weak 0:06:59.640 --> 0:07:08.360 big no morbid. It's an angel oak tree. If anybody 0:07:08.440 --> 0:07:11.280 visits Charleston, South Carolina, is an angel oak tree on 0:07:11.360 --> 0:07:14.800 John's Island. It's really it's to see. Go see it, 0:07:14.800 --> 0:07:18.360 prey next to it. Man, sounds good to me. Pray 0:07:18.400 --> 0:07:22.640 for our ancestors who meant they demise on the angel tree. 0:07:22.920 --> 0:07:25.320 Every time I go to Charleston in the battery, I 0:07:25.400 --> 0:07:29.960 just feel like I get a melancholy spirit when I 0:07:30.000 --> 0:07:33.040 go to like the that pink building that's like right 0:07:33.080 --> 0:07:38.800 in the center of it's like the market, and it's 0:07:38.840 --> 0:07:40.720 like a sign up that said, yeah, this is where 0:07:40.760 --> 0:07:43.240 we used to trade. You'll last set. Shut up, bitch. 0:07:43.320 --> 0:07:46.600 That is not true. It is it says it was. 0:07:47.440 --> 0:07:49.360 Well the city had tell you that they didn't really 0:07:49.400 --> 0:07:52.880 actually trade slaves at the market. But yeah, what they 0:07:52.960 --> 0:07:57.200 was trading in goods. Yeah, and one of the largest 0:07:57.280 --> 0:08:01.400 ports and what were we consider listen to people that 0:08:01.440 --> 0:08:03.960 they were trading were already here. They were sitting out, 0:08:03.960 --> 0:08:06.680 asked to nearby islands and ship like that. That's what 0:08:06.760 --> 0:08:09.480 was really happening. That's why Chaluston apologized to slavery in 0:08:10.600 --> 0:08:13.040 because they did function to people who were already here. 0:08:13.200 --> 0:08:16.200 But apology, don't know, give me some money. Where's my 0:08:16.320 --> 0:08:22.560 reparation exactly that we need? They're still taking land. Behavior 0:08:22.880 --> 0:08:29.280 is no, where's the money? Right? So now I don't 0:08:29.320 --> 0:08:33.280 know the people. What's that? What portion you'd be watching 0:08:33.600 --> 0:08:38.400 Portions TV show? Um, yeah, girl was rumbling. Did we 0:08:38.480 --> 0:08:40.920 talk about the fight? Yes, we did, Well, I know 0:08:41.000 --> 0:08:44.400 we were speculating rather than not her assignment were actually together, 0:08:44.520 --> 0:08:47.559 married and engaged whatever it is. But this nigga got 0:08:47.600 --> 0:08:51.120 her name tattooed. Is that girl in a whole spot too? 0:08:51.120 --> 0:08:54.200 I don't like when niggas get you know, that's like 0:08:54.360 --> 0:08:57.440 nigga tattooed my name on your neck side. It's real. 0:08:57.520 --> 0:09:01.000 Put across your dick just runs. I'm joking. Don't don't 0:09:01.040 --> 0:09:06.400 tattoo your dick. That's not painful. I don't want no 0:09:06.520 --> 0:09:09.679 nigga listening. It's the only way I'm gonna ever get 0:09:09.679 --> 0:09:14.160 your name on me. You gotta die or I have 0:09:14.280 --> 0:09:17.079 to birth for you. And I'm still not getting your name. 0:09:17.520 --> 0:09:19.840 But those kids that grow up and disappoint your ass, 0:09:21.200 --> 0:09:23.480 that would be the only way. I'm not never. I 0:09:23.600 --> 0:09:25.520 used to get my boyfriend hen the tattooed on my 0:09:25.520 --> 0:09:32.160 titty though his name fake ass tattoo. Every two weeks 0:09:32.160 --> 0:09:36.640 I go back to get it refreshed. No, you're not 0:09:36.760 --> 0:09:40.920 a lame you know girl? Fuck you? I love that nigga, 0:09:41.240 --> 0:09:50.000 but not forever, just temporary like the tattoo. Right. But 0:09:50.080 --> 0:09:52.680 I hope, I hope portion is really happy now. I 0:09:52.720 --> 0:09:54.400 need to get I need to be friends with them. 0:09:54.400 --> 0:09:58.559 I need to be friends with Sha because she seems 0:09:58.600 --> 0:10:01.200 like she's the fucking Africa Your husband whisper, and I 0:10:01.280 --> 0:10:06.600 just need to be in that little circle group. Why 0:10:06.720 --> 0:10:09.280 black women always feel like ship they just have all 0:10:09.320 --> 0:10:11.760 these felt relationships with black men in there. Now you 0:10:11.840 --> 0:10:17.240 just want to get you African guy, mm hmmm, because 0:10:17.240 --> 0:10:22.160 we still want black men, that's the thing. But these 0:10:22.200 --> 0:10:26.800 Black Americans we want a different culture. But the thing is, 0:10:26.880 --> 0:10:28.880 if you go on, you want to be on clubhouse 0:10:28.920 --> 0:10:33.040 like that, like all the Africans that like live in 0:10:33.040 --> 0:10:35.880 Europe and ship like that. The men got the same 0:10:35.920 --> 0:10:39.280 typic complaints these niggas complain about us. The women got 0:10:39.320 --> 0:10:41.960 the same type of complaints about these men. So it's like, 0:10:42.000 --> 0:10:46.160 are we really getting better treats going over there? Because listen, Africans, 0:10:46.240 --> 0:10:50.000 they come with their bullshit too. Yeah, for sure, I'm 0:10:50.040 --> 0:10:53.440 convinced that everybody comes with their bullshit. You just gotta 0:10:53.440 --> 0:10:56.160 figure out which bullshit you're willing to pull up put 0:10:56.240 --> 0:11:00.000 up with exactly. That's my thing. Like, nobody's gonna be perfect, 0:11:00.200 --> 0:11:02.160 but I gotta be able to tolerate your dumb ship. 0:11:02.840 --> 0:11:05.600 Like the minute I can tolerate your dumb ship no more, 0:11:05.600 --> 0:11:09.440 the relationship is over. Well let's talk to African then, 0:11:09.960 --> 0:11:14.280 you see we're seeing was available, he got by thirty 0:11:14.320 --> 0:11:17.640 of them. You know what, I'm I'm all like my 0:11:17.760 --> 0:11:21.440 uh my roster slim these days. I look up and 0:11:21.480 --> 0:11:24.040 I ain't got no more. It's usually when you start 0:11:24.160 --> 0:11:28.320 entertaining one hole right then they all come back. It's 0:11:28.360 --> 0:11:31.000 like as soon as I started zoning in and zooming 0:11:31.000 --> 0:11:33.760 in on one man, now I got like fifty other 0:11:33.840 --> 0:11:37.199 niggas on my damn phone. What happened when I've been 0:11:37.200 --> 0:11:41.240 doing ship, I had nothing going on, no action. It's 0:11:41.280 --> 0:11:43.360 like they got like some type of sensor like, oh 0:11:43.400 --> 0:11:48.400 she's happy with somebody, let me go fuck it up exactly. 0:11:49.640 --> 0:11:52.040 But look, let's go to commercial and we got a 0:11:52.080 --> 0:11:59.920 special guests coming. So look, y'all, I know a lot 0:12:00.040 --> 0:12:02.760 y'all beuti of these niggas out here, and black women 0:12:03.000 --> 0:12:04.760 always be like, you know what, I'm gonna get me 0:12:04.800 --> 0:12:09.280 a African? What do do African men even want? Y'all? 0:12:09.360 --> 0:12:14.680 Ass Like, first of all, they do, and they do. 0:12:15.720 --> 0:12:18.720 So we got what our friends on. We got Dailor 0:12:18.960 --> 0:12:23.640 on the on the show this week. He is an 0:12:23.640 --> 0:12:28.280 African American, like a real one, right, you know, he's 0:12:28.320 --> 0:12:30.880 an African living in America. Nigga, you got don't you 0:12:30.920 --> 0:12:33.360 got you got your your ship though, right, are you 0:12:33.400 --> 0:12:38.600 not a citizen? Yeah? Yeah, well yeah yeah yeah yeah, 0:12:39.440 --> 0:12:41.880 So like that's the true African American. Like, I don't 0:12:42.040 --> 0:12:49.040 consider myself African American. Well where are you from? Right? Yes? Right? Yeah, 0:12:49.120 --> 0:12:52.560 you're talking with me on him a j You're not 0:12:52.559 --> 0:12:56.840 African American. No, I'm just from Black American from Charleston, 0:12:56.880 --> 0:13:00.439 South Carolina. That's where the boats put them off. And 0:13:00.880 --> 0:13:05.439 hell no nigger. They was bringing people from Barbados and 0:13:06.160 --> 0:13:12.720 Bahamas basically anyway. Yeah, so we want to know, like y'all, 0:13:12.800 --> 0:13:17.160 y'all want to choose Africans, But do Africans want y'all last? Yeah, 0:13:17.160 --> 0:13:22.840 they want to girls he's talking about, right, Taylor, Well, no, 0:13:23.000 --> 0:13:30.000 you can't say that, I think. But I'm about to 0:13:30.000 --> 0:13:33.160 tell you to go to hell real early in the conversation. 0:13:35.720 --> 0:13:38.640 You're trying to set me up. Listen, I don't want 0:13:38.640 --> 0:13:42.280 to get canceled before the first week of But no, 0:13:43.280 --> 0:13:45.200 I think it really depends on the person. I don't 0:13:45.200 --> 0:13:51.400 think that African mergans search out for American women, but 0:13:51.520 --> 0:13:55.240 you know we searched from African men though, right, why though, 0:13:55.280 --> 0:13:57.720 I do want to know why this this um I 0:13:57.720 --> 0:13:59.520 think it's a misconception, but I don't want to hear 0:13:59.559 --> 0:14:04.040 from your point. So one of my friends, he's African. 0:14:04.160 --> 0:14:06.600 He's older, he probably like in his fifties. Maybe he's 0:14:06.600 --> 0:14:09.240 a doctor. And I remember, like the first time we 0:14:09.320 --> 0:14:13.720 hung out, he was like, yeah, American women, y'all baby 0:14:13.800 --> 0:14:16.520 black American men. But but then African men gotta pay 0:14:16.559 --> 0:14:22.280 the dudes. And I was like, it's like we may 0:14:22.400 --> 0:14:25.760 expect more out of other men as opposed to Black 0:14:25.760 --> 0:14:30.760 American men. I just my my, uh experience with African men. 0:14:31.160 --> 0:14:34.400 They're just very charming and doating. Like I didn't have 0:14:34.440 --> 0:14:36.360 to pick up a finger for ship. You know, when 0:14:36.400 --> 0:14:39.160 I was dating as African man, I couldn't take my 0:14:39.200 --> 0:14:41.320 bags from the grocery store to the car. I couldn't 0:14:41.360 --> 0:14:43.680 walk from the grocery store to the car. He would 0:14:43.720 --> 0:14:45.000 have to pull it up. And he said he would 0:14:45.040 --> 0:14:47.960 be offended if I walked in the parking lot because 0:14:47.960 --> 0:14:50.840 I'm a queen and I shouldn't do that. These niggas, 0:14:53.520 --> 0:14:56.640 that's what he did. Like that's what they said. It 0:14:56.680 --> 0:15:00.280 ain't all them niggas, Like I do want to go 0:15:00.320 --> 0:15:02.640 back to what A J said. A J, Yes, you're right. 0:15:02.800 --> 0:15:05.520 I mean that's cool of thought where I don't spend 0:15:05.560 --> 0:15:09.040 money on women no more, because I've seen my American 0:15:09.080 --> 0:15:12.280 male friends get the same woman and they will expect 0:15:12.280 --> 0:15:14.480 me to spend the same amount of more, spend more 0:15:14.520 --> 0:15:17.320 money than they spend. So no, we were not maga's 0:15:17.360 --> 0:15:19.520 no mine. I'm going to explain what the maga means 0:15:19.960 --> 0:15:22.720 back home when I used to be okay, when my 0:15:22.760 --> 0:15:25.720 friends used to be scammers back in college, back in Nigeria. Yeah, 0:15:25.720 --> 0:15:34.320 I'll be doing it especial niggas now. So we used 0:15:34.360 --> 0:15:37.479 to we used to call the people that get scam magas. 0:15:37.520 --> 0:15:39.960 This is before Donald Trump, this is before anything we 0:15:40.040 --> 0:15:42.640 call them. Or if you even you have um someone 0:15:42.680 --> 0:15:45.080 you're about a scam, you call him a maga. So 0:15:45.720 --> 0:15:48.560 I feel like if I'm doating an American woman and 0:15:48.640 --> 0:15:50.840 she wants to take money from me because some African 0:15:50.840 --> 0:15:52.720 men or the African men give her money, I feel 0:15:52.720 --> 0:15:55.160 like she thinks I'm a maga. No hell no, So 0:15:55.200 --> 0:15:56.880 I don't play. I mean, that's s cool of thought 0:15:56.920 --> 0:15:59.440 where I'm not spending no money. I'm spending the same 0:15:59.440 --> 0:16:02.160 amount of mone me my friend as an American would 0:16:02.160 --> 0:16:05.240 have spent. You know, so you've been here too long? 0:16:05.280 --> 0:16:08.240 It is with you. I've been, yeah, I've been. Yeah, Yeah, 0:16:08.320 --> 0:16:11.760 I'm way more bored more than African. Now. See, yeah, 0:16:12.280 --> 0:16:14.440 I don't like the American as ones is the ones 0:16:14.520 --> 0:16:16.880 fresh off the boat, so you can take advantage of 0:16:16.920 --> 0:16:20.800 there right off the plane. These nags ain't coming up 0:16:21.240 --> 0:16:25.160 boat because yeah, I'm just joking, all right. So I 0:16:25.160 --> 0:16:30.080 feel like African women expect a certain things from African 0:16:30.120 --> 0:16:33.560 men then and then y'all don't want y'all the American 0:16:33.560 --> 0:16:36.000 women don't expect that much. So you're rather an American 0:16:36.040 --> 0:16:39.120 woman because African women don't be playing with y'all. Ass 0:16:40.560 --> 0:16:44.640 tell me I'm lying. I do want to keep quieting that. 0:16:44.720 --> 0:16:46.280 But no, this is shure. So I'm gonna be honest. 0:16:46.520 --> 0:16:50.440 I can see where you're coming from, right uh me. Personally, 0:16:50.520 --> 0:16:53.360 everybody has a preference, right me. My preference. I preferred 0:16:53.400 --> 0:16:59.960 dating American women, um, just because it's easier. No, no, no, 0:17:00.200 --> 0:17:05.119 that's not white. I think they're just being this nigga, 0:17:05.160 --> 0:17:09.560 he said. My but was a what's your what's your color? 0:17:09.680 --> 0:17:12.679 But see the thing is, it depends on what country 0:17:12.800 --> 0:17:16.040 is a very dependent It's Ninegerian and it depends on 0:17:16.119 --> 0:17:20.359 what tribe. Like I just found out that er um 0:17:20.560 --> 0:17:24.240 did he call did he call it? Ek bay Nash? 0:17:24.560 --> 0:17:33.159 Definitely easy from from a Black women in America, right, No, 0:17:33.840 --> 0:17:36.360 it is the numbers game, right, They're more Black American 0:17:36.400 --> 0:17:39.680 women in America than they're African women in America. So yes, 0:17:39.960 --> 0:17:42.720 if you're dating, you're gonna date more Black American women. 0:17:42.800 --> 0:17:47.000 It's as simple as that. Yeah, And it's it's also 0:17:47.040 --> 0:17:50.040 a preference to I do prefer talking to American women 0:17:50.119 --> 0:17:58.359 because I'm so go ahead, go ahead, say go ahead. 0:17:58.520 --> 0:18:00.280 It's not it's not it's not even the bad think. 0:18:00.280 --> 0:18:02.720 It's just that the conversations that I have, like I'm 0:18:02.800 --> 0:18:06.760 hood right, no, the mixed thing. I don't say I'm 0:18:06.760 --> 0:18:10.360 hood by say, but I'm more into like things that 0:18:10.400 --> 0:18:13.880 my Nigerian friends or Ningerian women would not even understand. 0:18:13.920 --> 0:18:16.440 Like I can have a conversation about pooh Shics within 0:18:16.520 --> 0:18:19.160 Ningerian women, you know what I mean, she wouldn't even 0:18:19.200 --> 0:18:22.040 know who poosh shic sy is, you know. And so 0:18:22.920 --> 0:18:26.520 and I want to talk about that, you know, I 0:18:26.560 --> 0:18:33.560 can have that's my free free you know. Yeah. So 0:18:34.000 --> 0:18:36.640 that's an example of things. So I want to talk 0:18:36.640 --> 0:18:40.240 to people that I have adverse um understanding of things. 0:18:40.240 --> 0:18:43.399 So we can talk about work stuff, business stuff, but 0:18:43.480 --> 0:18:45.240 I want to talk about that hood ship. I want 0:18:45.240 --> 0:18:47.480 to talk about that stuff. I need people that the 0:18:47.600 --> 0:18:49.920 most African women are not like that. They don't really 0:18:49.920 --> 0:18:52.479 know much about that. Just an example, and it's just 0:18:52.600 --> 0:18:55.840 you know, it's the preference. I love them though, more 0:18:55.920 --> 0:19:01.119 like a sister. But but yeah, I don't know. Damn, 0:19:04.000 --> 0:19:07.919 you ain't gonna cancel him. You go to see a 0:19:07.960 --> 0:19:14.399 think piece. Yeah, but it's cool. So as far as 0:19:14.480 --> 0:19:20.800 like pain the dudes, how do um? So I don't 0:19:20.800 --> 0:19:23.000 want to compare because I told you we weren't doing that, right, 0:19:23.080 --> 0:19:25.840 I don't want to compare. But you know a lot 0:19:25.920 --> 0:19:28.400 of black men have problems with black women. They say 0:19:28.400 --> 0:19:32.080 we gold diggers, um, when a lot of them don't 0:19:32.080 --> 0:19:38.200 be ha enough gold. Let's let's be fucking clear, um, 0:19:38.440 --> 0:19:43.720 Like our standards are too high. Right. So then I 0:19:43.720 --> 0:19:46.840 don't want a white man, right. So if I say, well, 0:19:46.840 --> 0:19:49.280 I'm gonna get me African, they go, I'm gonna I'm 0:19:49.280 --> 0:19:51.800 gonna get me. Uh, I don't know, I Haitian nigga 0:19:51.880 --> 0:19:53.760 or something like that. I feel like they got a 0:19:53.800 --> 0:19:57.280 problem with that too. Who was a problem with that? 0:19:57.400 --> 0:20:03.480 Black men? Well? I don't think so because the reason 0:20:03.520 --> 0:20:06.159 why people might be offended because you're actually saying that 0:20:06.200 --> 0:20:08.000 you're going to go get someone. I don't think they 0:20:08.040 --> 0:20:09.680 want to hear that. I think you should just go ahead. 0:20:09.720 --> 0:20:11.400 And but do you have to sell? How do you 0:20:11.440 --> 0:20:13.320 go get an African? Like you go to the African 0:20:13.520 --> 0:20:18.639 You gotta go to the African club and we know 0:20:18.760 --> 0:20:22.600 exactly where they at and whatever city, right, you're gonna 0:20:22.600 --> 0:20:25.040 find the African club, You're gonna go there. Get you 0:20:25.080 --> 0:20:27.760 a nigga. He y'all cleaning the dashiki with their little 0:20:27.800 --> 0:20:32.480 hat on, and how y'all do is walking there with 0:20:32.560 --> 0:20:36.200 the fat ass hey? And they love it every time? 0:20:37.000 --> 0:20:41.080 Got him? But how do you know that guy has money? Though? 0:20:41.119 --> 0:20:43.000 I come, I want to know the talk process? So 0:20:43.040 --> 0:20:44.879 how do you go? How do you know? Okay, that's 0:20:44.880 --> 0:20:46.880 the guy I want to talk to? Have you? Have 0:20:46.920 --> 0:20:50.080 you ever chosen? How the wrong friend ever chosen you? Like? 0:20:50.119 --> 0:20:51.919 How does that happen? Like? How do you pick the 0:20:51.960 --> 0:20:54.679 guy that you want? I don't necessarily just be about 0:20:54.760 --> 0:20:57.800 money though, like just about money for you? No, not 0:20:57.920 --> 0:21:00.440 just money. I mean money is very important, but it 0:21:00.520 --> 0:21:02.560 is not I'll turn down the nigga with money for 0:21:02.600 --> 0:21:05.800 another nigga with the same amount money just cooler. You know, 0:21:07.880 --> 0:21:11.600 the subject to steal money though. No, no, it's not. 0:21:11.720 --> 0:21:14.200 It's not just money. Do you feel like that? A No, 0:21:14.400 --> 0:21:17.119 But I I have never talked to African man who 0:21:17.200 --> 0:21:20.399 didn't have money or no just even being friends, who 0:21:20.720 --> 0:21:23.720 didn't have businesses, who didn't have a life together. I 0:21:23.720 --> 0:21:26.879 don't know any but that's just people in general. No, No, 0:21:27.600 --> 0:21:31.399 I mean, of course, right, but I feel like the 0:21:31.440 --> 0:21:35.520 African men that I have met, they be having ship together, 0:21:35.640 --> 0:21:37.480 like maybe having a whole life together. Now they do 0:21:37.600 --> 0:21:40.320 be on some bollstion. Now you might not know that that. 0:21:40.400 --> 0:21:43.080 You might not know that nigga real name. You might 0:21:43.119 --> 0:21:46.000 not know he got a wife over here and in Africa, 0:21:47.760 --> 0:21:49.840 and he's gonna talk in his native tongue around you 0:21:49.920 --> 0:21:52.200 about you, and you don't even know what the funk 0:21:52.240 --> 0:21:54.760 he's saying. He might lie about his age too, like 0:21:54.800 --> 0:21:57.959 I had one one of my friends, like he just 0:21:58.000 --> 0:22:00.160 did not want to I knew, I know for oh 0:22:00.200 --> 0:22:02.760 he was at least fifty years old. They did not 0:22:02.800 --> 0:22:07.320 want to tell me. How I can explain right on 0:22:07.359 --> 0:22:10.720 that part. But but but let me explain. So I 0:22:10.760 --> 0:22:13.159 think it's a generational thing, right, so people that were 0:22:13.200 --> 0:22:15.600 born like people that are affording above. Yes, that's when 0:22:15.640 --> 0:22:18.080 you actually hear those things. They might have a wife 0:22:18.080 --> 0:22:21.600 at home, you know, they might have they might put 0:22:21.600 --> 0:22:23.840 in a younger age. They do that all the time. 0:22:23.880 --> 0:22:26.639 And I'll explain why. Because there's this concept you have 0:22:26.840 --> 0:22:28.960 back home that the younger you are, the longer you 0:22:29.000 --> 0:22:31.680 can work, that they won't force you out of retirement. Right, 0:22:31.880 --> 0:22:34.640 That's how it is back in Nigeria. But in America 0:22:34.800 --> 0:22:37.600 you can walk to like your seventies. So people always 0:22:37.640 --> 0:22:40.560 try to fake their age to be younger, right, so 0:22:40.640 --> 0:22:42.679 they can they can work longer. But they don't know 0:22:42.720 --> 0:22:44.880 it doesn't work like that in America. You're better off 0:22:44.920 --> 0:22:47.000 being older, so you get to sixty five and cash 0:22:47.000 --> 0:22:50.040 out on your scis three. Right. They don't think, they don't, 0:22:50.160 --> 0:22:52.879 They don't get So that's the main reason why a 0:22:52.880 --> 0:22:55.680 lot of times they fake their age right to be youngest, 0:22:55.680 --> 0:22:58.159 because they think, Okay, if i'm younger, I can work longer. 0:22:58.440 --> 0:23:00.600 We'll back home, Like if you're study age, you're kind 0:23:00.600 --> 0:23:02.959 of forced out to retire. If you're work in civil services. 0:23:03.080 --> 0:23:05.760 So it's not the fact in America you can work 0:23:05.800 --> 0:23:08.000 till you did too, you say, until seventy, But here 0:23:08.040 --> 0:23:11.680 you can worry, you can work. So that's the that's 0:23:11.680 --> 0:23:13.720 why they faked your age a little. So it's not 0:23:13.760 --> 0:23:15.800 the fact that I'm in my thirties and your ass 0:23:15.880 --> 0:23:18.480 is really fucking fifty and the insecure and you think 0:23:18.480 --> 0:23:22.720 I give a funk about that. No, that's not the reason. 0:23:22.720 --> 0:23:24.800 That's why. That's why I said. The older generation they 0:23:24.880 --> 0:23:28.879 did that. But it changes by generation. Now people that 0:23:28.880 --> 0:23:31.280 are in their thirties, they don't have wives at home, 0:23:31.320 --> 0:23:33.560 Like it's not easy to marry someone at home, but 0:23:33.640 --> 0:23:35.439 if you see someone in the fifth is possible that 0:23:35.480 --> 0:23:37.639 you might have a wife back home, and it's forty, 0:23:37.720 --> 0:23:39.879 it's possible to have a wife back home. But people 0:23:39.880 --> 0:23:43.680 in your thirties, late twenties, it's really changing. So that's 0:23:43.720 --> 0:23:45.880 why it depends on the age of the pressing you're 0:23:46.160 --> 0:23:50.240