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Speaker 1: new episode, and we talked back. I'm doing the intro, y'all.

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Speaker 1: What's up with y'all? Y'all good, y'all good. I love

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Speaker 1: y'all niggas. It's a J and it's me a J.

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Speaker 1: the new year. Let's do it right now. It's me

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Speaker 1: a J B bad stupid. Look man, what we got

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Speaker 1: going on? How is your weekend? My weekend was real uneventful.

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Speaker 1: On Saturday, me and my best friend went out to

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Speaker 1: it was a real swinky place. Well they think they're swinky.

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Speaker 1: What kind of hat? She just had? All that she

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Speaker 1: They wouldn't let her in and she was not taking off.

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Speaker 1: But I don't think they lead people in with hats on. Honestly,

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Speaker 1: it wasn't. You're sure because you Charlotte is known for

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Speaker 1: probably best that we wouldn't here. But you had an

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Speaker 1: I want some conditions on the Dick this year, but

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Speaker 1: and it's whatever I'm good with. That said a husband.

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Speaker 1: with it. So I'm just not um. I'm open to

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Speaker 1: just like stock Negers get money girl by okay, like

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Speaker 1: You know. They done came through and scoop that ship. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: my family did a good hanging tree. But the branches,

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Speaker 1: John's Island. It's really it's to see. Go see it,

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Speaker 1: was really happening. That's why Chaluston apologized to slavery in

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Speaker 1: reparation exactly that we need? They're still taking land. Behavior

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Speaker 1: we were speculating rather than not her assignment were actually together,

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Speaker 1: I don't like when niggas get you know, that's like

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Speaker 1: nigga tattooed my name on your neck side. It's real.

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Speaker 1: but not forever, just temporary like the tattoo. Right. But

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Speaker 1: doing ship, I had nothing going on, no action. It's

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Speaker 1: special guests coming. So look, y'all, I know a lot

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Speaker 1: an African living in America. Nigga, you got don't you

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Speaker 1: got you got your your ship though, right, are you

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Speaker 1: African American. No, I'm just from Black American from Charleston,

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Speaker 1: I don't. I don't believe in love, so you know

420
00:24:52,600 --> 00:24:56,840
Speaker 1: you don't believe. Yeah, I mean I love my mom,

421
00:24:56,840 --> 00:24:58,879
Speaker 1: I love my dad, but you know that love of

422
00:24:58,960 --> 00:25:02,280
Speaker 1: they think is right now, I don't believe that. I

423
00:25:02,280 --> 00:25:07,040
Speaker 1: don't even like the bit because it's it's very conditional, right,

424
00:25:07,160 --> 00:25:09,560
Speaker 1: My love is conditional. You know, I don't believe in

425
00:25:09,760 --> 00:25:11,960
Speaker 1: Oh my god, what. I just love you for being

426
00:25:12,000 --> 00:25:14,440
Speaker 1: you know. No, you gotta do things that I like.

427
00:25:14,760 --> 00:25:17,760
Speaker 1: You know, it's I don't believe in I kind of wrap.

428
00:25:17,840 --> 00:25:21,160
Speaker 1: It doesn't make any sense. Like I believe in logical things.

429
00:25:21,359 --> 00:25:23,480
Speaker 1: I don't believe in things that are very abstract and

430
00:25:23,520 --> 00:25:27,359
Speaker 1: love is very abstract. So you can love your parents unconditionally,

431
00:25:27,440 --> 00:25:30,600
Speaker 1: but you can't. Oh no, my parents. I love them

432
00:25:30,600 --> 00:25:32,600
Speaker 1: because they brought me this wall to care of me. Yeah,

433
00:25:32,640 --> 00:25:38,040
Speaker 1: that's why I love them. But you'll never love a woman. Well,

434
00:25:39,160 --> 00:25:46,679
Speaker 1: I would deeply like a woman. You know, what do

435
00:25:46,680 --> 00:25:48,200
Speaker 1: you mean by love? What do you mean? I would

436
00:25:48,200 --> 00:25:51,439
Speaker 1: do things. I have friends that I have like you know,

437
00:25:51,640 --> 00:25:53,760
Speaker 1: friendly love. I don't. I don't. Maybe I would say this.

438
00:25:53,800 --> 00:25:56,040
Speaker 1: I don't believe in romantic but I love people. I

439
00:25:56,080 --> 00:25:58,040
Speaker 1: care about it. So you'll never be with a woman

440
00:25:58,200 --> 00:26:01,000
Speaker 1: and get married. Like you get married, you're gonna be

441
00:26:01,040 --> 00:26:03,200
Speaker 1: like I deeply like you. Baby. Why are you gonna

442
00:26:03,200 --> 00:26:05,760
Speaker 1: do the accent bit? What is up? What is up?

443
00:26:06,680 --> 00:26:09,600
Speaker 1: I like doing it? Is it not? You know South

444
00:26:09,640 --> 00:26:14,879
Speaker 1: African nigger sound? You sound like Columbia South Calarian southa

445
00:26:14,920 --> 00:26:19,200
Speaker 1: trying to do African? All right, that's something I would

446
00:26:19,240 --> 00:26:21,800
Speaker 1: say people that know me, my friends that know they're like,

447
00:26:22,200 --> 00:26:24,600
Speaker 1: they would definitely say I'm deeply that I do talk

448
00:26:24,680 --> 00:26:27,480
Speaker 1: like that, but no, I would. I would marry. But

449
00:26:27,520 --> 00:26:29,119
Speaker 1: you don't have to be in love to get married, though,

450
00:26:29,160 --> 00:26:31,040
Speaker 1: I don't believe that you have to be okay, So

451
00:26:31,080 --> 00:26:35,560
Speaker 1: that that's another culture difference, right, So, which I feel

452
00:26:35,640 --> 00:26:40,720
Speaker 1: like maybe we may need to apply in America because

453
00:26:40,760 --> 00:26:43,359
Speaker 1: in Africans, the usually some of them, some cultures or

454
00:26:43,440 --> 00:26:48,560
Speaker 1: some tribes may have arranged marriages right where you're you're marrying, yeah,

455
00:26:48,720 --> 00:26:51,960
Speaker 1: like you're marrying a certain family like, but we we

456
00:26:52,160 --> 00:26:55,560
Speaker 1: kind of have that in America because grandmothers and grandfathers

457
00:26:55,520 --> 00:26:57,639
Speaker 1: would be always be like what a family at, what

458
00:26:57,680 --> 00:27:00,719
Speaker 1: a family from? Because they want to test Oh no,

459
00:27:00,800 --> 00:27:04,200
Speaker 1: don't meet with them people or them people crazy. That's

460
00:27:04,200 --> 00:27:06,399
Speaker 1: more on the South though, right right, that's more like

461
00:27:06,400 --> 00:27:10,800
Speaker 1: a set, right. I think that's that's one thing we

462
00:27:10,840 --> 00:27:14,080
Speaker 1: probably could bring to American culture. I don't I'm not

463
00:27:14,160 --> 00:27:17,040
Speaker 1: against like arranged marriages. I feel like they probably work,

464
00:27:17,119 --> 00:27:20,160
Speaker 1: I guess because you gotta always learn to love somebody anyway,

465
00:27:20,200 --> 00:27:23,320
Speaker 1: and you gotta keep doing things to continuously fall in

466
00:27:23,359 --> 00:27:26,920
Speaker 1: love with whoever you went anyway, don't arrange me the ship.

467
00:27:29,080 --> 00:27:32,280
Speaker 1: I believe it. I believe it because think about it, right,

468
00:27:32,840 --> 00:27:35,240
Speaker 1: I understand why they do that. My aunt keeps sexing

469
00:27:35,280 --> 00:27:37,359
Speaker 1: me up every day she's in back in NINEGERI, Oh

470
00:27:37,560 --> 00:27:39,600
Speaker 1: she's found this girl. She'll meet someone. Oh, I found

471
00:27:39,640 --> 00:27:42,040
Speaker 1: someone for you to get married. I'm like stopped. So

472
00:27:42,119 --> 00:27:44,600
Speaker 1: to make it happy, sometimes I'll call. I'll call the girl,

473
00:27:44,680 --> 00:27:51,119
Speaker 1: have one conversation, block on what's up? But why you

474
00:27:51,119 --> 00:27:56,520
Speaker 1: don't know who? No, I I can't marry someone back

475
00:27:56,520 --> 00:27:59,840
Speaker 1: home in Nigeria. That's a liability. That's like hustling backwards.

476
00:28:01,119 --> 00:28:03,080
Speaker 1: Like why would I go marry someone back home? It

477
00:28:03,080 --> 00:28:05,160
Speaker 1: doesn't make any sense. That's two years of my life

478
00:28:05,200 --> 00:28:07,320
Speaker 1: not being with her. That's too much money I'm spending

479
00:28:07,359 --> 00:28:09,760
Speaker 1: to bring that back here. No, No, that's the life.

480
00:28:09,760 --> 00:28:11,600
Speaker 1: But she has to come. Mere have to pay for

481
00:28:11,600 --> 00:28:14,240
Speaker 1: our school, She has to get maybe her master's or

482
00:28:14,280 --> 00:28:17,200
Speaker 1: get us whatever the case. Maybe and you feel like

483
00:28:17,359 --> 00:28:22,440
Speaker 1: you have to pay for that. I would have to see. Okay,

484
00:28:22,440 --> 00:28:26,240
Speaker 1: black American men no different. So no, I'm not talking

485
00:28:26,240 --> 00:28:28,280
Speaker 1: about you. I'll talk about black American man we got

486
00:28:28,280 --> 00:28:33,040
Speaker 1: to come about. I'll talking about all this ship like it.

487
00:28:34,760 --> 00:28:37,480
Speaker 1: It's expensive. It's still expensive. Let me tell you the

488
00:28:37,640 --> 00:28:40,960
Speaker 1: HBCU we went to been it in college. Been In

489
00:28:41,040 --> 00:28:43,640
Speaker 1: in college would go to African countries and they would

490
00:28:43,680 --> 00:28:45,800
Speaker 1: get the smartest of the smartest people and they would

491
00:28:45,800 --> 00:28:47,880
Speaker 1: bring them a to our campus and they would go

492
00:28:47,960 --> 00:28:51,080
Speaker 1: to school for fucking free. We didn't have that option

493
00:28:51,120 --> 00:28:52,800
Speaker 1: to go to school free. We didn't get free housing,

494
00:28:52,840 --> 00:28:55,760
Speaker 1: we didn't get free food, we didn't get the scholarships

495
00:28:55,760 --> 00:28:58,680
Speaker 1: that they received. So we need help from these niggers.

496
00:28:58,880 --> 00:29:01,120
Speaker 1: Like I needed to take to Walmart Neger, I need

497
00:29:01,120 --> 00:29:03,880
Speaker 1: to care. Pat, I'm sorry. You know what's funny, go,

498
00:29:04,360 --> 00:29:09,200
Speaker 1: I actually heard the vice what do you call the

499
00:29:09,200 --> 00:29:11,080
Speaker 1: head of the president? I better to call it say

500
00:29:11,120 --> 00:29:13,160
Speaker 1: that at one time about Yeah, you're talking about roth

501
00:29:13,240 --> 00:29:16,960
Speaker 1: and artists. But anyway back to what you were saying. Yeah,

502
00:29:17,040 --> 00:29:19,280
Speaker 1: so I don't think I can go back home and

503
00:29:19,320 --> 00:29:22,680
Speaker 1: marry someone in Africa because to me, that's like hostling backwards.

504
00:29:22,680 --> 00:29:25,840
Speaker 1: Its cost way too much. You know, I would not

505
00:29:25,960 --> 00:29:27,920
Speaker 1: do that. It's just when I look at every how

506
00:29:28,000 --> 00:29:30,440
Speaker 1: much I'm going to spend together pressing here and set

507
00:29:30,480 --> 00:29:32,760
Speaker 1: them up. No, it's like four years of my life

508
00:29:33,000 --> 00:29:36,120
Speaker 1: just stagnant. So if I marry someone, the person has

509
00:29:36,160 --> 00:29:37,720
Speaker 1: to be from me. We have to you know, it

510
00:29:37,760 --> 00:29:40,680
Speaker 1: has to be like a contract, like you know, do

511
00:29:40,680 --> 00:29:48,440
Speaker 1: you aspire to marriage? Do you? Um? Yeah? Makes sense

512
00:29:48,720 --> 00:29:52,760
Speaker 1: if it makes it, If it makes sense, I would

513
00:29:52,760 --> 00:29:55,720
Speaker 1: definitely marry Yeah, I definitely yeah, if it makes sense.

514
00:29:56,000 --> 00:30:00,000
Speaker 1: Sentence like well, like business sense. If it makes business sense, yeah,

515
00:30:00,440 --> 00:30:02,920
Speaker 1: if he makes business sense. Everything has to be married

516
00:30:03,080 --> 00:30:05,520
Speaker 1: has to be about I mean I know, yeah yeah yeah,

517
00:30:05,600 --> 00:30:07,600
Speaker 1: but you know he has to see me about how

518
00:30:07,640 --> 00:30:09,080
Speaker 1: does how is it going to make sense for budd

519
00:30:09,120 --> 00:30:10,840
Speaker 1: of us? I really mean what I'm saying though, you know,

520
00:30:10,920 --> 00:30:13,800
Speaker 1: but yeah, well I believe you. Yeah, you never loved

521
00:30:13,840 --> 00:30:15,720
Speaker 1: nobody in your life, have you? I said, your mom

522
00:30:15,720 --> 00:30:18,320
Speaker 1: and your daddy. I think I was in love when

523
00:30:18,360 --> 00:30:20,240
Speaker 1: I was seventeen. I think that's the last time I

524
00:30:20,280 --> 00:30:23,480
Speaker 1: was in love seventeen. So if it was possible, then

525
00:30:23,560 --> 00:30:26,320
Speaker 1: why is it not possible? Now? I was stupid? You know,

526
00:30:26,400 --> 00:30:34,040
Speaker 1: there's that I got up. I'm like, what the hell

527
00:30:34,120 --> 00:30:36,120
Speaker 1: was I thinking about? But you know, I stopped beating

528
00:30:36,160 --> 00:30:39,000
Speaker 1: up when I started going to therapy and I understud that, oh,

529
00:30:39,160 --> 00:30:41,520
Speaker 1: you can control your emotions. When I figured out I

530
00:30:41,560 --> 00:30:44,320
Speaker 1: could control my emotions. I'm like, oh, I'm not funny

531
00:30:44,360 --> 00:30:47,720
Speaker 1: in love anymore. Like, hell no, I'll control my therapy

532
00:30:49,040 --> 00:30:53,680
Speaker 1: because you're using your yeah therapy to use it as

533
00:30:53,720 --> 00:30:57,160
Speaker 1: a defense mechanism to never fall in love again. Yeah,

534
00:30:57,200 --> 00:30:59,080
Speaker 1: but why do you want to fall in love though? Like,

535
00:30:59,120 --> 00:31:00,960
Speaker 1: tell me the benefits to fall in love? I do

536
00:31:01,040 --> 00:31:03,240
Speaker 1: want to know it feels. Really it didn't feel good

537
00:31:03,280 --> 00:31:08,240
Speaker 1: to you if it's mutual and if it's okay as

538
00:31:08,240 --> 00:31:11,760
Speaker 1: an adult. If it's mutual you and your person, you're

539
00:31:11,800 --> 00:31:14,880
Speaker 1: falling in love, right, Because I I do believe that

540
00:31:14,960 --> 00:31:17,000
Speaker 1: being in love is simply just a state of mind.

541
00:31:17,720 --> 00:31:21,080
Speaker 1: So if you're not doing things daily to continuously falling

542
00:31:21,120 --> 00:31:23,160
Speaker 1: in love fall in love, you're going to be falling

543
00:31:23,160 --> 00:31:25,760
Speaker 1: out of love. So if you find this person, y'all

544
00:31:25,760 --> 00:31:29,120
Speaker 1: can talk about anything, y'all can do ship together, Like

545
00:31:29,160 --> 00:31:31,200
Speaker 1: why why the fun would you not be in love

546
00:31:31,240 --> 00:31:35,680
Speaker 1: with him? So it's I can love someone not being loved, right,

547
00:31:36,080 --> 00:31:39,040
Speaker 1: I don't know. Maybe So my definition of being in

548
00:31:39,080 --> 00:31:43,120
Speaker 1: love is taking somebody else's life into consideration as if

549
00:31:43,160 --> 00:31:45,440
Speaker 1: it were your own. That's my definition of being in love.

550
00:31:46,600 --> 00:31:49,800
Speaker 1: That's way too fun. I'm not I'm just not that.

551
00:31:50,880 --> 00:31:56,560
Speaker 1: It's just like y'all had as, ladies, these niggas and shallow.

552
00:31:56,640 --> 00:32:02,520
Speaker 1: So you want your African nigga, right, he don't want

553
00:32:02,520 --> 00:32:04,360
Speaker 1: to love you, and I gotta make business sense to

554
00:32:04,440 --> 00:32:08,280
Speaker 1: funk with you. But but but but listen, that's how

555
00:32:08,320 --> 00:32:11,160
Speaker 1: we should be though time. But you got Black American

556
00:32:11,160 --> 00:32:13,160
Speaker 1: men saying they don't give a funk about our degrees.

557
00:32:13,200 --> 00:32:15,040
Speaker 1: They don't give a funk about how much money we make.

558
00:32:15,280 --> 00:32:18,200
Speaker 1: Do Africans give a funk about degrees? Do Africans a

559
00:32:18,240 --> 00:32:21,600
Speaker 1: funk about how much money we make? I know he's

560
00:32:21,600 --> 00:32:23,640
Speaker 1: a rhetorical question agent because you know me. You know

561
00:32:24,080 --> 00:32:32,040
Speaker 1: I'm a pocket watcher. I watch your pockets. Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah,

562
00:32:32,040 --> 00:32:34,200
Speaker 1: I don't even hide it. I'll go on my Facebook

563
00:32:34,240 --> 00:32:36,920
Speaker 1: and say, ladies, if we make up seventy hundred thousand

564
00:32:37,000 --> 00:32:39,200
Speaker 1: like this coming, I don't hide it. Let me tell

565
00:32:39,200 --> 00:32:41,800
Speaker 1: you why I'm watching, right, And I was having a

566
00:32:41,800 --> 00:32:44,400
Speaker 1: conversation with someone recently others I want I want to

567
00:32:44,520 --> 00:32:48,920
Speaker 1: date someone who has something to lose, right, That's what

568
00:32:49,040 --> 00:32:51,400
Speaker 1: I'm interested. And I'm not interested in that wild No,

569
00:32:51,520 --> 00:32:53,840
Speaker 1: if you sound too crazy, No, I want this someone.

570
00:32:54,080 --> 00:32:56,120
Speaker 1: So I have to watch your pockets to know if

571
00:32:56,120 --> 00:33:01,080
Speaker 1: you have something to do, but you pay for shi it, right, Yeah,

572
00:33:01,120 --> 00:33:03,360
Speaker 1: I don't mind paint it. See, the more money you pake,

573
00:33:03,400 --> 00:33:05,400
Speaker 1: the more money I paid, Like, I will pay because

574
00:33:05,440 --> 00:33:07,280
Speaker 1: I understand you have the value you. I don't think

575
00:33:07,280 --> 00:33:09,480
Speaker 1: they're trying to take advantage of me, So I like,

576
00:33:10,280 --> 00:33:14,719
Speaker 1: I don't want to tell you what I tell me. Fellas,

577
00:33:14,800 --> 00:33:19,680
Speaker 1: Please listen, fellas, listen, stop BOMBOO or Facebook or go

578
00:33:19,800 --> 00:33:26,800
Speaker 1: on LinkedIn. All you gotta do typing, Listen, All you

579
00:33:26,880 --> 00:33:29,480
Speaker 1: gotta do is typing. You know the professions that pay

580
00:33:29,600 --> 00:33:32,840
Speaker 1: good money, right, so typing something like d I d

581
00:33:33,200 --> 00:33:37,800
Speaker 1: I Diversitate Equity and Inclusion for Wells Fargo. I don't

582
00:33:37,800 --> 00:33:39,800
Speaker 1: want a name. Can I call companies here? It doesn't

583
00:33:39,920 --> 00:33:41,760
Speaker 1: I'm not say anything bad. You're going to see a

584
00:33:41,800 --> 00:33:44,600
Speaker 1: beautiful black lady that looks good because they always want

585
00:33:44,680 --> 00:33:47,360
Speaker 1: to present someone that looks good, like, you know, beautiful

586
00:33:47,360 --> 00:33:54,880
Speaker 1: black for this US linked to pick up bitches. We're

587
00:33:54,960 --> 00:33:59,520
Speaker 1: gonna start doing that at two bitches. Like listen, that's

588
00:33:59,520 --> 00:34:02,320
Speaker 1: the real I've dated website. No, I mean, here's the thing.

589
00:34:02,440 --> 00:34:11,600
Speaker 1: Everything everybody's literally doing. Yeah, but LinkedIn know they're they're

590
00:34:11,640 --> 00:34:13,680
Speaker 1: doing it. I think that. I don't. I don't think

591
00:34:13,719 --> 00:34:15,600
Speaker 1: it's very I don't think it's common yet. But people

592
00:34:15,600 --> 00:34:17,760
Speaker 1: that know, tell me, tell me, tell me the process.

593
00:34:17,760 --> 00:34:21,239
Speaker 1: Now you go on LinkedIn. Go on LinkedIn, right, so

594
00:34:21,280 --> 00:34:23,920
Speaker 1: you can search for NASE practitioners, right because you know

595
00:34:23,920 --> 00:34:26,359
Speaker 1: they make good money, like a NUSE practitioner. You know,

596
00:34:26,520 --> 00:34:29,360
Speaker 1: you search for NUSSE practitioners around your city. Then you

597
00:34:29,360 --> 00:34:31,879
Speaker 1: see the pictures. By the time you add one, you're

598
00:34:31,880 --> 00:34:34,279
Speaker 1: going to see the network of hard and of course

599
00:34:34,320 --> 00:34:37,239
Speaker 1: a beautiful lady, a NUSE practitioner has a network of

600
00:34:37,280 --> 00:34:40,960
Speaker 1: other beautiful, successful black women, and you know that's what

601
00:34:41,000 --> 00:34:44,520
Speaker 1: you do, and then you pick your girl from there. Well,

602
00:34:44,719 --> 00:34:46,840
Speaker 1: you know, but that's where you have better prospects. So

603
00:34:46,920 --> 00:34:49,600
Speaker 1: that's that's what. Yeah, So I don't. I don't. I'm

604
00:34:49,640 --> 00:34:51,480
Speaker 1: not one of those guys that says, oh, I don't

605
00:34:51,480 --> 00:34:53,800
Speaker 1: care about what you do your degrees, you know, No,

606
00:34:53,920 --> 00:34:56,399
Speaker 1: I do care about that, and not like I want

607
00:34:56,440 --> 00:34:58,480
Speaker 1: something from me. I just want to make sure you're stable.

608
00:34:59,280 --> 00:35:05,800
Speaker 1: You know. That's we don't turn linked into a dating website.

609
00:35:05,920 --> 00:35:13,040
Speaker 1: Are you? Are you on LinkedIn? I am? I am.

610
00:35:13,040 --> 00:35:15,399
Speaker 1: I haven't updated in a while, because you know, when

611
00:35:15,400 --> 00:35:17,759
Speaker 1: Lincoln first came along, I was excited about it because

612
00:35:17,760 --> 00:35:20,200
Speaker 1: I was in corporate America at the time, but then

613
00:35:20,680 --> 00:35:23,920
Speaker 1: you know, once I got laid off, right, so I'm like,

614
00:35:24,000 --> 00:35:26,040
Speaker 1: let me update my resume this in the third I'm

615
00:35:26,080 --> 00:35:29,040
Speaker 1: looking at Lincoln. I'm like, these motherfucker's is using this

616
00:35:29,160 --> 00:35:31,600
Speaker 1: to profile people. That's how I feel about LinkedIn as

617
00:35:31,640 --> 00:35:35,560
Speaker 1: far as like actually trying. So that's what he's doing.

618
00:35:35,680 --> 00:35:39,120
Speaker 1: He's definitely like he is. But I'm talking about for playing,

619
00:35:39,280 --> 00:35:45,879
Speaker 1: I'm talking about I'm talking about companies. I'm talking about

620
00:35:45,920 --> 00:35:48,880
Speaker 1: a wealth like they're using it to see if this

621
00:35:49,080 --> 00:35:53,120
Speaker 1: Ashley is black or white. So no, I'm not interested

622
00:35:53,120 --> 00:35:55,600
Speaker 1: in that. Lincoln has got to meet so many jobs

623
00:35:55,600 --> 00:35:58,680
Speaker 1: in seriously, because you're African, Like African men gonna get

624
00:35:58,680 --> 00:36:01,359
Speaker 1: a job in America. I'm sorry. They just assumed that

625
00:36:01,400 --> 00:36:04,960
Speaker 1: they're looking smart. I literally spent three hours with my

626
00:36:05,040 --> 00:36:09,319
Speaker 1: homeboy who's also African, doing his fucking Excel report for

627
00:36:09,440 --> 00:36:12,160
Speaker 1: his job, and he making like a hundred and fifty

628
00:36:12,160 --> 00:36:13,520
Speaker 1: thousand dollars a year. I don't know how to do

629
00:36:13,560 --> 00:36:16,840
Speaker 1: a pivot, a pivot table and V look up. I

630
00:36:16,840 --> 00:36:19,360
Speaker 1: don't know how I do though, I how to do

631
00:36:19,400 --> 00:36:21,560
Speaker 1: a pivot table V look up all that should excel.

632
00:36:22,040 --> 00:36:30,480
Speaker 1: I am proficient in in excel. Yeah. Here, I'm a

633
00:36:30,520 --> 00:36:33,080
Speaker 1: business professional, so I know I know how to do

634
00:36:33,160 --> 00:36:38,279
Speaker 1: all that dumb ship so that should it doesn't matter. Yeah,

635
00:36:38,320 --> 00:36:41,080
Speaker 1: but I can said I prefer, you know, I just don't.

636
00:36:41,360 --> 00:36:42,920
Speaker 1: I don't I know one of those guys. I prefer

637
00:36:43,040 --> 00:36:45,120
Speaker 1: with a woman to have something. She has to have

638
00:36:45,200 --> 00:36:47,080
Speaker 1: something going on for herself. She has to have something

639
00:36:47,120 --> 00:36:49,399
Speaker 1: to bring to the profibial table. I know y'all hate

640
00:36:49,520 --> 00:36:52,719
Speaker 1: hearing that, but she has to have something. That's that's

641
00:36:52,719 --> 00:36:54,600
Speaker 1: how you end up, like you know, you just end

642
00:36:54,719 --> 00:36:59,160
Speaker 1: up messing with someone that doesn't. Yeah, I don't want

643
00:36:59,160 --> 00:37:04,520
Speaker 1: to call it any names. You know, A pop buch

644
00:37:04,600 --> 00:37:07,759
Speaker 1: is just a do nothing. Ask girl who just uh,

645
00:37:07,800 --> 00:37:14,520
Speaker 1: she's not an asset, she's like a liability. Yeah, hold on, tam,

646
00:37:14,600 --> 00:37:22,720
Speaker 1: let's say some bills. So why do y'all aside up? Timber?

647
00:37:22,880 --> 00:37:26,680
Speaker 1: Did you say why you like African men? Um? I'm

648
00:37:26,760 --> 00:37:31,520
Speaker 1: like African men because my experience, they're very catering. Ya,

649
00:37:32,239 --> 00:37:34,400
Speaker 1: So I didn't have to lift a finger for anything

650
00:37:34,400 --> 00:37:36,600
Speaker 1: when I want an African man they made me feel

651
00:37:36,640 --> 00:37:40,160
Speaker 1: like a queen. They really do. Yeah. I mean I'm

652
00:37:40,239 --> 00:37:43,400
Speaker 1: catering too, you know. I you know, I have my

653
00:37:43,480 --> 00:37:46,120
Speaker 1: friends over to take care of people, like I'm catering,

654
00:37:46,160 --> 00:37:48,640
Speaker 1: but I'm not, like I'm not a dummy. That's what

655
00:37:48,680 --> 00:37:52,040
Speaker 1: it is, you know because sometimes, like we talked about it,

656
00:37:52,120 --> 00:37:54,800
Speaker 1: like some American women that maybe they've experienced to African

657
00:37:54,840 --> 00:37:57,359
Speaker 1: men that would just give them money or just you know,

658
00:37:57,960 --> 00:37:59,600
Speaker 1: and they try to take advantage of me like, oh

659
00:37:59,640 --> 00:38:01,760
Speaker 1: this is I'm gonna send me like a cash ap request.

660
00:38:01,760 --> 00:38:04,040
Speaker 1: And now that's to look like what what does this?

661
00:38:04,600 --> 00:38:07,120
Speaker 1: What do I look like? You know, I know every

662
00:38:08,280 --> 00:38:14,279
Speaker 1: the audacity those women want smooth. You got to be smooth. Yes,

663
00:38:14,480 --> 00:38:16,480
Speaker 1: you do have to be a little you can't just

664
00:38:16,480 --> 00:38:18,719
Speaker 1: send them. But but it works because the reason why

665
00:38:18,760 --> 00:38:21,040
Speaker 1: they're doing this because he has worked on that. But

666
00:38:21,080 --> 00:38:23,640
Speaker 1: I'm not just that maga. Yeah, it's not gonna work

667
00:38:23,680 --> 00:38:29,120
Speaker 1: with manifested magat. The hell I never knew. Yeah, that's

668
00:38:29,160 --> 00:38:31,799
Speaker 1: what magat. But what does it mean in Africa? Though?

669
00:38:32,280 --> 00:38:36,360
Speaker 1: I mean the definition it doesn't there's no, it doesn't really.

670
00:38:36,400 --> 00:38:39,359
Speaker 1: It just means what it means I can't working from

671
00:38:39,400 --> 00:38:44,800
Speaker 1: But oh No, it doesn't mean there's no just being maga.

672
00:38:44,960 --> 00:38:46,560
Speaker 1: That's what we call I kind of extinct with the

673
00:38:46,640 --> 00:38:50,560
Speaker 1: origin of that working. But growing up as a young adult,

674
00:38:50,719 --> 00:38:55,760
Speaker 1: that's what we called people the American scams. Magat about

675
00:38:55,760 --> 00:38:58,920
Speaker 1: to get scams. Oh that's my maga. Yeah, and they

676
00:38:58,920 --> 00:39:04,000
Speaker 1: don't even know that this is maga. That's how I'm introducing. No,

677
00:39:04,560 --> 00:39:08,840
Speaker 1: that was this is I'm pulling out with my maga.

678
00:39:10,040 --> 00:39:14,359
Speaker 1: Like listen, right, maybe at the club, bitch, I'm coming

679
00:39:14,360 --> 00:39:18,160
Speaker 1: with my mag that's the whole at the club that

680
00:39:18,280 --> 00:39:24,480
Speaker 1: you're coming with my mega, coming with my magay when

681
00:39:24,520 --> 00:39:27,279
Speaker 1: your maga the victis you on vacation and you don't

682
00:39:27,320 --> 00:39:30,840
Speaker 1: take pictures with your maga right right, No, ain't no

683
00:39:30,920 --> 00:39:40,560
Speaker 1: pics with my maga. That's not And I'm blocking that nigga. Yeah,

684
00:39:40,600 --> 00:39:47,600
Speaker 1: it's familiar facts. I recently went on a vacation with

685
00:39:47,640 --> 00:39:49,560
Speaker 1: a guy and I was on the phone with a

686
00:39:49,760 --> 00:39:52,080
Speaker 1: j on the vacation, Like, yo, as soon as I

687
00:39:52,160 --> 00:39:54,359
Speaker 1: get off the plane, this nigga. No, when I get

688
00:39:54,360 --> 00:39:59,360
Speaker 1: to the terminal, this nigga is blocked, Like why he

689
00:39:59,440 --> 00:40:02,160
Speaker 1: just did not show me a good time? He was

690
00:40:02,239 --> 00:40:07,319
Speaker 1: just he was African. He wasn't African, but he was

691
00:40:07,400 --> 00:40:13,520
Speaker 1: like very very demanding, and do it this way. That's

692
00:40:13,520 --> 00:40:16,520
Speaker 1: the other side. I am the man. I am the man.

693
00:40:16,960 --> 00:40:21,080
Speaker 1: We wait here for the just nigga. Relax. We're on vacation.

694
00:40:22,160 --> 00:40:25,480
Speaker 1: So it's a it's a cultural. One thing about me

695
00:40:25,560 --> 00:40:27,680
Speaker 1: is I had to learn how to have to learn

696
00:40:27,719 --> 00:40:32,319
Speaker 1: the American whale because the court is very um. The

697
00:40:32,360 --> 00:40:35,400
Speaker 1: cultural difference is very very There's a lot of cultural differences.

698
00:40:35,400 --> 00:40:37,319
Speaker 1: But I don't care what people say. It's not it's

699
00:40:37,320 --> 00:40:39,360
Speaker 1: not the same thing. So when I came to America,

700
00:40:39,360 --> 00:40:41,160
Speaker 1: I had to learn. I said, I worked us to

701
00:40:41,239 --> 00:40:43,279
Speaker 1: be a cat. She had war grains and I worked

702
00:40:43,280 --> 00:40:45,399
Speaker 1: at Marshalls. I had worked two jobs when I first

703
00:40:45,440 --> 00:40:48,480
Speaker 1: learned in America in like a week, right, And I

704
00:40:48,520 --> 00:40:50,479
Speaker 1: had to learn that, oh my god, that's you can't

705
00:40:50,600 --> 00:40:53,080
Speaker 1: talk to people like that. You have to like say

706
00:40:53,200 --> 00:41:00,000
Speaker 1: things common courtesy. Where yeah, but the way I talked

707
00:41:00,000 --> 00:41:01,520
Speaker 1: to my name, you're and friends know how I talk

708
00:41:01,560 --> 00:41:04,320
Speaker 1: to my American friends. I have to be American friends, like, okay,

709
00:41:04,560 --> 00:41:08,680
Speaker 1: say politely say my name. Friends like I'll just say

710
00:41:08,719 --> 00:41:12,000
Speaker 1: how I feel. Right, We're very straightforward. I'm very direct,

711
00:41:12,440 --> 00:41:14,720
Speaker 1: but you know, me come in a little bit younger

712
00:41:14,800 --> 00:41:17,399
Speaker 1: at working in customer service, I had to learn how

713
00:41:17,480 --> 00:41:20,799
Speaker 1: to speak, how to understand that. Hey, you know, don't

714
00:41:20,840 --> 00:41:23,520
Speaker 1: be too aggressive because it was like, nigga, who are

715
00:41:23,560 --> 00:41:26,239
Speaker 1: you talking to? Yeah, that's not how it's gonna go.

716
00:41:27,520 --> 00:41:29,319
Speaker 1: But didn't you know all that before you went on

717
00:41:29,400 --> 00:41:32,160
Speaker 1: vacation with him? He was sweet, He was sweet, but

718
00:41:32,320 --> 00:41:35,520
Speaker 1: being around him for more than two days, yeah, she

719
00:41:35,680 --> 00:41:41,440
Speaker 1: kind of got different. You should have got different rooms. Yeah, yeah,

720
00:41:41,440 --> 00:41:43,960
Speaker 1: because we had that as we girl, if we are

721
00:41:44,000 --> 00:41:46,360
Speaker 1: getting fluid out on that episode, we're talked about getting

722
00:41:46,360 --> 00:41:49,919
Speaker 1: fluid out, get your own room. But we had spent

723
00:41:50,040 --> 00:41:53,200
Speaker 1: time together. You know, it wasn't like our first encounter.

724
00:41:53,400 --> 00:41:56,160
Speaker 1: You know, this was just like he just started. He

725
00:41:56,200 --> 00:41:59,600
Speaker 1: switched up the temple. I don't know, So I think

726
00:41:59,600 --> 00:42:02,200
Speaker 1: you need to a younger African tam baman. I got,

727
00:42:02,280 --> 00:42:06,240
Speaker 1: I got, I got a few um do a lineup

728
00:42:06,280 --> 00:42:09,799
Speaker 1: for us? Okay, YEA, have I set that up? Yeah?

729
00:42:10,360 --> 00:42:12,279
Speaker 1: You can talk. You have tell me what you like though,

730
00:42:12,560 --> 00:42:15,600
Speaker 1: and I'll I'll set that up for you. Okay. So

731
00:42:15,680 --> 00:42:17,440
Speaker 1: I have, I know, a couple of alcohol for a

732
00:42:17,440 --> 00:42:20,640
Speaker 1: couple of friends. I got a couple of dollars no money.

733
00:42:20,800 --> 00:42:25,439
Speaker 1: But and I say that, I did not say that.

734
00:42:26,719 --> 00:42:32,160
Speaker 1: I said it's not all about the money. Okay, don't

735
00:42:32,280 --> 00:42:38,759
Speaker 1: lie on me. I have a couple of friends that

736
00:42:38,800 --> 00:42:43,120
Speaker 1: I definitely like you. Okay, let's set that up. I

737
00:42:43,160 --> 00:42:45,239
Speaker 1: need to be treated very nice. So the guy that

738
00:42:45,280 --> 00:42:47,920
Speaker 1: I was dating, I did like him. He was not

739
00:42:48,000 --> 00:42:50,960
Speaker 1: the one that I went on vacation with nigger. I'm

740
00:42:50,960 --> 00:42:53,799
Speaker 1: talking about the one that would wouldn't let me lift

741
00:42:53,800 --> 00:42:55,799
Speaker 1: a finger to help myself at all. He was just

742
00:42:55,920 --> 00:42:59,080
Speaker 1: so sweet, he being there making me a goose is

743
00:42:59,160 --> 00:43:02,719
Speaker 1: soup and pound and yam and jella rice and like

744
00:43:02,840 --> 00:43:05,319
Speaker 1: I can't carry my own bags and he and they're

745
00:43:05,360 --> 00:43:08,160
Speaker 1: rubbing my feet. You're such a queen. But I just

746
00:43:08,200 --> 00:43:13,279
Speaker 1: did not like the way he came. What yah, I

747
00:43:13,320 --> 00:43:16,960
Speaker 1: ain't like how he came. I'm confused, what do you mean?

748
00:43:17,600 --> 00:43:23,840
Speaker 1: Like like when he came it was weird? Man? This

749
00:43:24,239 --> 00:43:26,759
Speaker 1: all right? This this is out that came. He'd be like,

750
00:43:30,760 --> 00:43:41,799
Speaker 1: he was like, bro, what the fuck is dat? What

751
00:43:41,960 --> 00:43:50,319
Speaker 1: is that? I don't like kill a pussy? It wasn't

752
00:43:50,320 --> 00:43:53,560
Speaker 1: having this seizure. No, I asked him. I asked him,

753
00:43:53,560 --> 00:43:56,640
Speaker 1: why did he like? Eventually, after because he like, you know,

754
00:43:56,760 --> 00:43:59,560
Speaker 1: I was like, why do you come like that? And

755
00:43:59,560 --> 00:44:02,439
Speaker 1: he was like, because I'm so filled with joy? That's

756
00:44:02,440 --> 00:44:05,799
Speaker 1: what answer. But it was weird. Man. I couldn't do it.

757
00:44:05,880 --> 00:44:09,120
Speaker 1: I had to throw him back to the streets, sucking

758
00:44:09,280 --> 00:44:16,600
Speaker 1: sound like a villain every time? Who are you laugh?

759
00:44:16,680 --> 00:44:23,640
Speaker 1: Like an englishman? I got he was getting out almostarted

760
00:44:23,640 --> 00:44:34,759
Speaker 1: it yo, yeah man, that's right now. That's why I

761
00:44:34,760 --> 00:44:36,800
Speaker 1: stopped working with him. Everything else was cool, but I

762
00:44:36,840 --> 00:44:41,200
Speaker 1: could not live with that. Who doing that? Can't you

763
00:44:41,280 --> 00:44:46,400
Speaker 1: coaching to change? He's um, that's his ship, that was

764
00:44:46,440 --> 00:44:48,360
Speaker 1: his ship. That was how he did it. I couldn't

765
00:44:48,360 --> 00:44:50,640
Speaker 1: do it. Did you tell him me you didn't like it? No?

766
00:44:50,760 --> 00:44:53,040
Speaker 1: I didn't tell him, So why did you communicate that

767
00:44:53,120 --> 00:44:57,360
Speaker 1: with him? Yeah? Okay, that's I'm not if that's listen.

768
00:44:57,400 --> 00:45:00,920
Speaker 1: I feel like how you come is your right. I

769
00:45:00,960 --> 00:45:03,560
Speaker 1: don't want to change how you come. You need to

770
00:45:03,600 --> 00:45:07,759
Speaker 1: find somebody, You need to find your nemesis. Bitch, what

771
00:45:07,840 --> 00:45:11,600
Speaker 1: you're even villain? So that's what you're doing. But you

772
00:45:11,719 --> 00:45:14,799
Speaker 1: just gotta deal with two minutes once a week, right,

773
00:45:14,800 --> 00:45:16,680
Speaker 1: that's doing a lot of time, Like you gotta do

774
00:45:16,760 --> 00:45:19,200
Speaker 1: the You gotta were your options. Listen to me and

775
00:45:19,320 --> 00:45:22,040
Speaker 1: daylor be talking right this nigga? Who if I'm in

776
00:45:22,080 --> 00:45:24,600
Speaker 1: a relationship with somebody or even just on some smash

777
00:45:24,680 --> 00:45:27,360
Speaker 1: time like you sucking me once so we pardoned me.

778
00:45:28,719 --> 00:45:32,080
Speaker 1: It's one week enough for you. These African niggas is

779
00:45:32,120 --> 00:45:35,480
Speaker 1: sucking once a week, y'all. Y'all okay with that? That's

780
00:45:35,480 --> 00:45:41,000
Speaker 1: a lie. That's just daily. I need you to suck

781
00:45:41,080 --> 00:45:43,360
Speaker 1: me at least three times a week. Man, come be

782
00:45:43,560 --> 00:45:50,600
Speaker 1: funk on twice a week. We can negle ship on

783
00:45:50,640 --> 00:45:53,640
Speaker 1: twice a week. Three times a yes, that is not

784
00:45:53,719 --> 00:45:55,960
Speaker 1: a lot. You must not do on be getting no

785
00:45:56,040 --> 00:45:58,279
Speaker 1: good pussy dayler. You talk about three times a week,

786
00:45:59,320 --> 00:46:03,200
Speaker 1: you don't a lot of Thursday, Saturday and Sunday. That's four.

787
00:46:03,800 --> 00:46:07,120
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't. I don't have sex on the weekends. No,

788
00:46:07,440 --> 00:46:09,839
Speaker 1: I have to know. It makes thing, it makes them white.

789
00:46:10,040 --> 00:46:14,480
Speaker 1: What in the world I gotta explain why let makes them?

790
00:46:14,480 --> 00:46:16,320
Speaker 1: Why I don't working the weekends. I don't have second

791
00:46:16,360 --> 00:46:18,440
Speaker 1: daytime like I don't. I don't know that. You've got

792
00:46:18,480 --> 00:46:22,680
Speaker 1: too many restrictions on I do I do? I do?

793
00:46:22,719 --> 00:46:27,160
Speaker 1: You gotta stay sane, man, I want you to his

794
00:46:27,320 --> 00:46:34,080
Speaker 1: Dick is a Nokia. He got nice and weekends go crazy.

795
00:46:34,160 --> 00:46:39,759
Speaker 1: I remember that. I remember nice and weekends because that's

796
00:46:39,760 --> 00:46:42,200
Speaker 1: what I just kept to a break. What was the

797
00:46:42,239 --> 00:46:45,480
Speaker 1: phone company back then? It start with it asked, not Sprint,

798
00:46:45,680 --> 00:46:58,399
Speaker 1: not Samsung. What was no uh NICs? A weekend? Disrespectful ship? Everybody? Everybody?

799
00:46:58,560 --> 00:47:01,839
Speaker 1: Everybody had nice the weekend. But yeah, the reason why

800
00:47:01,840 --> 00:47:08,040
Speaker 1: I don't think so, No, I'm too because that's what

801
00:47:08,160 --> 00:47:09,960
Speaker 1: I can't. I can't imagine that, Like, you know, I

802
00:47:09,960 --> 00:47:12,440
Speaker 1: got stuff to do, like in the evenings, what what

803
00:47:12,800 --> 00:47:15,040
Speaker 1: do I have time to have sex? Months? Twice a week,

804
00:47:15,400 --> 00:47:18,680
Speaker 1: three times a week. I'll be busy and I'm not married,

805
00:47:18,760 --> 00:47:20,400
Speaker 1: So you know, how am I going to do? I

806
00:47:20,400 --> 00:47:22,560
Speaker 1: don't want people staying coming to my house all the time.

807
00:47:22,600 --> 00:47:24,120
Speaker 1: I don't want to, you know, I want to. I

808
00:47:24,160 --> 00:47:26,840
Speaker 1: want my peace. Sometimes at least three, three or four times,

809
00:47:27,000 --> 00:47:29,760
Speaker 1: I gotta do yoga at night and calm myself down.

810
00:47:29,840 --> 00:47:33,600
Speaker 1: You know I can't three times a week. You practice

811
00:47:33,719 --> 00:47:36,520
Speaker 1: firm retention and ship like that. You're one of those. No,

812
00:47:36,600 --> 00:47:38,960
Speaker 1: I don't believe us. I'm not that deep. I'm really

813
00:47:38,960 --> 00:47:42,880
Speaker 1: not deep. So I I just be you know, I

814
00:47:42,920 --> 00:47:46,200
Speaker 1: don't have time for Maybe three times a week is okay,

815
00:47:46,239 --> 00:47:52,520
Speaker 1: but that's pushing it so weird that in a week.

816
00:47:52,719 --> 00:47:56,600
Speaker 1: Why I can't get dick three days. I never had

817
00:47:56,600 --> 00:47:58,560
Speaker 1: no nigger tell me that I couldn't have the dick

818
00:47:58,719 --> 00:48:02,280
Speaker 1: more than I wanted it, you know, like but you

819
00:48:02,320 --> 00:48:04,200
Speaker 1: but you'd be busy though, how can you? I don't

820
00:48:04,200 --> 00:48:06,520
Speaker 1: think you can do that one or three times a week?

821
00:48:06,840 --> 00:48:14,640
Speaker 1: Nig is be fake busy child? Please. But I had

822
00:48:14,680 --> 00:48:16,520
Speaker 1: this African dude I to talked to you in college,

823
00:48:16,640 --> 00:48:19,480
Speaker 1: be mad at Beneedict and you know, like what I

824
00:48:19,560 --> 00:48:22,520
Speaker 1: found from dating him is that a lot of African

825
00:48:22,560 --> 00:48:26,920
Speaker 1: guys who come over here for like um on scholarships

826
00:48:26,920 --> 00:48:30,080
Speaker 1: and stuff like that, or the education of visas visas,

827
00:48:30,120 --> 00:48:32,080
Speaker 1: they have to have like a real live plan when

828
00:48:32,080 --> 00:48:34,400
Speaker 1: they finished school, like either they have to get a

829
00:48:34,480 --> 00:48:38,120
Speaker 1: company to sponsor them or they gotta get married. And

830
00:48:38,160 --> 00:48:40,520
Speaker 1: I told this nick I would marry him. This nig

831
00:48:40,600 --> 00:48:42,759
Speaker 1: was calling me on Christmas Day like we got to

832
00:48:42,800 --> 00:48:46,680
Speaker 1: discuss this marriage and it's a big business, I know.

833
00:48:47,000 --> 00:48:49,800
Speaker 1: But then I talked to somebody else and it was like, girl,

834
00:48:50,080 --> 00:48:53,520
Speaker 1: people be paying like fi dollars, Like she just gets

835
00:48:55,000 --> 00:48:57,359
Speaker 1: to be paying money funny for the marriage, and I

836
00:48:57,400 --> 00:48:59,719
Speaker 1: was like, I'm not just doing that for free. But

837
00:48:59,800 --> 00:49:02,239
Speaker 1: now don't like we still follow each other on social media,

838
00:49:02,239 --> 00:49:04,400
Speaker 1: and I'm like, I probably should have married this nigger,

839
00:49:04,520 --> 00:49:08,680
Speaker 1: like the fuck, just be with him like the fun

840
00:49:09,640 --> 00:49:12,640
Speaker 1: Like I really I probably should have. Maybe what hit

841
00:49:12,719 --> 00:49:15,120
Speaker 1: him up? He's still single? No, he probably they're posted

842
00:49:15,160 --> 00:49:18,439
Speaker 1: a white bitch. One day, I was like, what's wrong

843
00:49:18,480 --> 00:49:26,120
Speaker 1: with the witch? Everybody got their things whatever. I'm going

844
00:49:26,160 --> 00:49:29,799
Speaker 1: to keep that conversation. But listen, let's go back to

845
00:49:30,680 --> 00:49:35,120
Speaker 1: but people are marrying. Yeah, you can definitely get someone

846
00:49:35,160 --> 00:49:37,040
Speaker 1: to marry. You can marry something, but you have to

847
00:49:37,120 --> 00:49:40,759
Speaker 1: like really be involved with in people, right because not

848
00:49:40,800 --> 00:49:45,879
Speaker 1: really not really. Immigration is not gonna like just stupid, No,

849
00:49:45,960 --> 00:49:48,759
Speaker 1: that's all. It's not. It's not my home girl. Talk

850
00:49:48,800 --> 00:49:51,600
Speaker 1: about my home girl. She was with a she's married

851
00:49:51,600 --> 00:49:55,719
Speaker 1: and married now, and um she was like that was

852
00:49:55,760 --> 00:49:59,120
Speaker 1: one of her concerns. Like they was already cohabitating, you know,

853
00:50:00,000 --> 00:50:02,160
Speaker 1: and together. He bought her ring engaged to her, like

854
00:50:02,200 --> 00:50:05,040
Speaker 1: he was fine as fuck. She was concerned, like he

855
00:50:05,120 --> 00:50:08,600
Speaker 1: just wanted his papers and I'm like, girl, you're not

856
00:50:08,640 --> 00:50:10,120
Speaker 1: about to find nobody else to put up with your

857
00:50:10,120 --> 00:50:13,120
Speaker 1: bullshit like this nigga loves you like he was African,

858
00:50:13,160 --> 00:50:15,799
Speaker 1: like he's from I forgot he was from, but I

859
00:50:15,840 --> 00:50:17,719
Speaker 1: was like, he loves you like you know what I'm saying.

860
00:50:17,760 --> 00:50:20,239
Speaker 1: So after talking to her, he went to counseling. This

861
00:50:20,280 --> 00:50:23,880
Speaker 1: bitch married his ass on her lunch break. They st together,

862
00:50:23,880 --> 00:50:27,239
Speaker 1: they had a kid together. They live in Chilling, So

863
00:50:28,080 --> 00:50:30,080
Speaker 1: it's kind of hard to tell if someone wants to

864
00:50:30,120 --> 00:50:32,480
Speaker 1: marry you for papers or not, because if someone is

865
00:50:32,520 --> 00:50:34,760
Speaker 1: desperate and they need those papers, that would do anything

866
00:50:34,840 --> 00:50:37,239
Speaker 1: you want. So it's kind of hard. Is there risk?

867
00:50:37,760 --> 00:50:40,000
Speaker 1: I would say this though, you know, you can be

868
00:50:40,160 --> 00:50:41,799
Speaker 1: up front and say hey, if you want to marry

869
00:50:41,880 --> 00:50:43,680
Speaker 1: for papers, this is the amount you're gonna pay. And

870
00:50:43,680 --> 00:50:46,440
Speaker 1: then then sometimes some people be honest and tell you, okay,

871
00:50:46,719 --> 00:50:49,000
Speaker 1: now he was not for that, but he was there

872
00:50:49,120 --> 00:50:51,640
Speaker 1: that I knew he. I knew he loved her because

873
00:50:51,640 --> 00:50:57,919
Speaker 1: this bitch used to be farting a lot, like just

874
00:50:59,040 --> 00:51:01,520
Speaker 1: I don't fire in front of people I'm with, Like,

875
00:51:01,960 --> 00:51:06,200
Speaker 1: first of all, that word does not have an First

876
00:51:06,200 --> 00:51:10,120
Speaker 1: of all, it's fucking fart f a R. It sounds

877
00:51:10,160 --> 00:51:16,040
Speaker 1: sticker that it makes it sound much what they and

878
00:51:16,200 --> 00:51:19,719
Speaker 1: front what you ever wanted is fart whatever the word is.

879
00:51:19,760 --> 00:51:23,120
Speaker 1: But he she used to already fucking farting, Like, bitch,

880
00:51:23,160 --> 00:51:26,040
Speaker 1: you're killing the intimacy in your relationship. Stop farting in

881
00:51:26,120 --> 00:51:29,919
Speaker 1: front of your man, Like that's still married, that bitch.

882
00:51:30,040 --> 00:51:33,440
Speaker 1: So Ship, when Forest was hitting on something, maybe it

883
00:51:33,520 --> 00:51:35,439
Speaker 1: was into that he was what if he was into

884
00:51:35,480 --> 00:51:45,920
Speaker 1: that type of stuff. Yeah, maybe he liked farms. He

885
00:51:46,560 --> 00:51:48,880
Speaker 1: to be putting on that nigger like baby put on me.

886
00:51:51,080 --> 00:51:53,720
Speaker 1: You know, people like getting piste on. Maybe they like farting,

887
00:51:53,840 --> 00:51:57,200
Speaker 1: getting fart on. It's so weird. Putment. What's the word though,

888
00:51:57,200 --> 00:52:02,520
Speaker 1: how do you say it? Fart or whatever? Say tomato,

889
00:52:02,680 --> 00:52:06,360
Speaker 1: you say tomato, however you go. It's a fucking part,

890
00:52:06,640 --> 00:52:10,880
Speaker 1: it's a pot. But I think you'll just give me

891
00:52:10,920 --> 00:52:12,920
Speaker 1: an idea. Right, I'm going to try to create like

892
00:52:12,960 --> 00:52:17,719
Speaker 1: an app where you can date ship, Right, So what're

893
00:52:17,760 --> 00:52:22,280
Speaker 1: you gonna call it coming to America? No, no, no,

894
00:52:25,840 --> 00:52:28,120
Speaker 1: I'm gonna create an app where you can find ata.

895
00:52:28,120 --> 00:52:31,120
Speaker 1: I'm gonna figure out. I'm I'm definitely yo. That might

896
00:52:31,200 --> 00:52:35,759
Speaker 1: be a whole hit. You need to do that, Yeah,

897
00:52:35,880 --> 00:52:39,319
Speaker 1: definitely working down it because I actually and I want to.

898
00:52:39,320 --> 00:52:40,759
Speaker 1: I want to start a service where I'm going to

899
00:52:40,880 --> 00:52:44,239
Speaker 1: charge um women to hook them up with men that

900
00:52:44,360 --> 00:52:52,080
Speaker 1: make over six figures, like you know, high value. Right, No,

901
00:52:52,560 --> 00:52:59,279
Speaker 1: you're gonna call it nash meat? No? No, no, what's that?

902
00:53:00,400 --> 00:53:08,760
Speaker 1: Miss you? No more Africans than me? What is that means? Ass?

903
00:53:09,040 --> 00:53:21,040
Speaker 1: Booty meat? Ya? That's a good one. But look, coming

904
00:53:21,120 --> 00:53:25,000
Speaker 1: to America, Coming to America, I go fucking crazy. That

905
00:53:25,160 --> 00:53:28,480
Speaker 1: go crazy, you know what I'm saying. Don't want me

906
00:53:28,520 --> 00:53:30,520
Speaker 1: gonna be on there. I'll be on the y. I

907
00:53:30,600 --> 00:53:35,919
Speaker 1: definitely have my real picture on that bitch like pick

908
00:53:36,000 --> 00:53:41,839
Speaker 1: me you hopping on one foot, bitch, bark like a dog,

909
00:53:43,440 --> 00:53:52,160
Speaker 1: a big dog. The fun. Don't play with her. Been

910
00:53:52,200 --> 00:53:53,960
Speaker 1: trying to vacation for a little. We all got no

911
00:53:54,040 --> 00:53:56,160
Speaker 1: time to play with job black American niggas. No more.

912
00:54:00,160 --> 00:54:03,279
Speaker 1: Now she like we still love. I'm gonna say I'm

913
00:54:03,320 --> 00:54:06,279
Speaker 1: gonna city. Though. The African theme is a new like

914
00:54:06,320 --> 00:54:08,640
Speaker 1: women starting to like Africans is like a new thing.

915
00:54:08,719 --> 00:54:11,040
Speaker 1: When I first came here, it wasn't not I wasn't

916
00:54:11,040 --> 00:54:15,200
Speaker 1: getting no play. I was definitely nineteen about to marry African.

917
00:54:15,239 --> 00:54:19,000
Speaker 1: Like I don't know what you're talking about, but it

918
00:54:19,120 --> 00:54:22,480
Speaker 1: definitely has changed. It's changed now now you hear after

919
00:54:22,640 --> 00:54:26,040
Speaker 1: you hear African music on radio beats like it's really

920
00:54:26,120 --> 00:54:29,960
Speaker 1: changing and like yeah, because even the style address that

921
00:54:30,080 --> 00:54:32,759
Speaker 1: African men were, I would not have been attracted to

922
00:54:32,800 --> 00:54:36,839
Speaker 1: that ten years ago. No, but now when I see

923
00:54:36,880 --> 00:54:38,919
Speaker 1: in the guy like, oh, he looked like he got

924
00:54:39,000 --> 00:54:42,400
Speaker 1: they'd be so cultured. They'd be so cultured it'd be fun.

925
00:54:42,480 --> 00:54:45,879
Speaker 1: Like they're so clean. I love it. Yes, it looking

926
00:54:45,920 --> 00:54:48,680
Speaker 1: out clean and smelling good. Do you all have older

927
00:54:48,719 --> 00:54:50,960
Speaker 1: friends that like African men? Yes? I have. I have

928
00:54:51,000 --> 00:54:55,719
Speaker 1: a friends one from do a lot of one from

929
00:54:55,760 --> 00:55:00,879
Speaker 1: Synegogue and one from one n I have a friend

930
00:55:00,920 --> 00:55:05,160
Speaker 1: she only dates African men. Now that's it, not dating American.

931
00:55:05,760 --> 00:55:10,040
Speaker 1: So you're you're you're in. You're in Charlotte right time, man, Yes,

932
00:55:10,400 --> 00:55:14,359
Speaker 1: and they love African man in Charlotte, Yes, are it's

933
00:55:14,440 --> 00:55:16,920
Speaker 1: quite a bit. It's this place called but Cordie Lounge.

934
00:55:17,360 --> 00:55:19,279
Speaker 1: Let me tell you something. I went there one night.

935
00:55:20,640 --> 00:55:26,239
Speaker 1: The African men are aggressive, though, who is like can

936
00:55:26,640 --> 00:55:29,400
Speaker 1: give me a second? Like one nigga go another nigga

937
00:55:29,440 --> 00:55:31,319
Speaker 1: walk up, like we only want the ones that being

938
00:55:32,000 --> 00:55:37,880
Speaker 1: though Okay, we don't want the general public act to

939
00:55:39,280 --> 00:55:45,880
Speaker 1: you like jam. We did have that conversation. The agent

940
00:55:45,960 --> 00:55:49,040
Speaker 1: described the difference between the Africans to be in the

941
00:55:49,080 --> 00:55:53,960
Speaker 1: general pop and it wants the being Yes, I hate right,

942
00:55:54,000 --> 00:55:58,600
Speaker 1: but that's honestly, do you want black American men? That's

943
00:55:58,640 --> 00:56:03,480
Speaker 1: the gym pop? Though? What's wrong with jam pop? Though

944
00:56:04,320 --> 00:56:10,319
Speaker 1: I'd be jam up, I wouldn't, but listen, I'm the

945
00:56:10,400 --> 00:56:11,840
Speaker 1: kind of That's what I do when I go to

946
00:56:11,880 --> 00:56:14,239
Speaker 1: the club, right, I walk in, I look, who do

947
00:56:14,320 --> 00:56:18,120
Speaker 1: I know? Once I see someone, I go perch. I'm

948
00:56:18,120 --> 00:56:19,600
Speaker 1: the kind of a guy that when you mean to

949
00:56:19,600 --> 00:56:21,400
Speaker 1: bring the bottles, I wasn't want to pay for it,

950
00:56:21,440 --> 00:56:26,920
Speaker 1: but I've been from like for it. What but a

951
00:56:26,960 --> 00:56:32,160
Speaker 1: credit card full of money? Right? I had my birthday party,

952
00:56:32,320 --> 00:56:34,880
Speaker 1: um and my friends, you know, they all buying bottles

953
00:56:34,920 --> 00:56:37,640
Speaker 1: for me. They spent like six thousand dollars in the club. Right.

954
00:56:38,000 --> 00:56:40,279
Speaker 1: I didn't spend the time, and I was happy, like,

955
00:56:40,280 --> 00:56:42,399
Speaker 1: oh she did buying bottles for me. That I felt

956
00:56:42,400 --> 00:56:47,719
Speaker 1: like the man you know that? Yeah, But I don't

957
00:56:47,760 --> 00:56:50,440
Speaker 1: spend in the what I do, don't I do? But

958
00:56:50,520 --> 00:56:51,840
Speaker 1: most of the times I try to spend on the

959
00:56:51,880 --> 00:56:54,880
Speaker 1: pig's money. That's what I do. Two day light. So

960
00:56:55,239 --> 00:57:05,320
Speaker 1: we hit up on a magazine. Y'all goodness, we say awful.

961
00:57:05,600 --> 00:57:08,000
Speaker 1: Not honestly, that's not true. I will date a guy

962
00:57:08,040 --> 00:57:11,200
Speaker 1: that's not in VP. I have I bad guys outside

963
00:57:11,480 --> 00:57:17,680
Speaker 1: v I P. For sure. Yeah, but the check I

964
00:57:17,720 --> 00:57:21,240
Speaker 1: know exactly. I was dating this guy. I met him

965
00:57:21,240 --> 00:57:23,240
Speaker 1: in the v I P section. He was handsome. We

966
00:57:23,240 --> 00:57:24,960
Speaker 1: were kicking and we were going out. He had a

967
00:57:25,000 --> 00:57:28,440
Speaker 1: table every weekend, and these tables one cheat. So then

968
00:57:28,480 --> 00:57:30,520
Speaker 1: we started kicking it. And then finally I went over

969
00:57:30,600 --> 00:57:34,640
Speaker 1: his house. He had no couch. He have no couch

970
00:57:34,720 --> 00:57:38,680
Speaker 1: in the right. The only couches he guy is in

971
00:57:38,720 --> 00:57:46,479
Speaker 1: the club, Like what the fuck? Okay, no, I don't

972
00:57:46,480 --> 00:57:50,400
Speaker 1: look on the floor. And no bunky house. I don't

973
00:57:50,400 --> 00:57:53,080
Speaker 1: get this. Ain't bouncy house. Pussy right here? Okay, no

974
00:57:53,160 --> 00:57:57,960
Speaker 1: air mattress. You want air mattress? Me see, I'm the opposite.

975
00:57:58,040 --> 00:58:00,400
Speaker 1: Right before I spend money, Like that's make sure my

976
00:58:00,440 --> 00:58:03,040
Speaker 1: house is cool, like you just comfortable, because let me

977
00:58:03,080 --> 00:58:05,160
Speaker 1: tell fellers, listen to me, right, I don't know how

978
00:58:05,160 --> 00:58:06,720
Speaker 1: many of you. I'm sure there's a lot of people

979
00:58:07,040 --> 00:58:08,919
Speaker 1: tell us that listen to the podcast. Listen to me.

980
00:58:09,440 --> 00:58:12,680
Speaker 1: Spend that money on yourself, make your house comfortable, and

981
00:58:12,800 --> 00:58:15,640
Speaker 1: women who suck you for free, like, don't go spending

982
00:58:15,680 --> 00:58:17,720
Speaker 1: in the club, like spending in your house, like buy

983
00:58:17,760 --> 00:58:20,640
Speaker 1: yourself a nice couch, buy yourself a nice, nice mattress.

984
00:58:20,640 --> 00:58:24,200
Speaker 1: You don't make your house so comfortable. Nice match. Yeah, listen,

985
00:58:24,280 --> 00:58:26,800
Speaker 1: I still best sheet from the hotel, like you know,

986
00:58:33,360 --> 00:58:42,600
Speaker 1: hold on, I gotta beake my house comfortable. Mobes necessary

987
00:58:42,800 --> 00:58:45,240
Speaker 1: you get see. I never heard of ni say there's

988
00:58:45,520 --> 00:58:50,760
Speaker 1: as you get to this nigger house, she's so plush,

989
00:58:50,960 --> 00:58:55,680
Speaker 1: like like a rent, Like, okay, it is because it is.

990
00:58:56,440 --> 00:59:07,720
Speaker 1: It is pillows and everything. How the risk? But yet

991
00:59:10,480 --> 00:59:16,919
Speaker 1: this they gonna stealing down comfort of Sam. I don't

992
00:59:18,120 --> 00:59:23,080
Speaker 1: think I'm lying right, but that nigger got a whole

993
00:59:23,120 --> 00:59:29,480
Speaker 1: linit closet full on people's ship. Thank you so much

994
00:59:29,520 --> 00:59:33,120
Speaker 1: for joining us and talking to us about this being

995
00:59:33,160 --> 00:59:36,360
Speaker 1: an African man in America and dating and giving us

996
00:59:36,360 --> 00:59:38,200
Speaker 1: the tools to get money, because I feel like that's

997
00:59:38,240 --> 00:59:41,760
Speaker 1: what you was doing, not find love, just get some checks.

998
00:59:43,120 --> 00:59:49,640
Speaker 1: Thank you so much. Get money literally yo. So let'sten y'all.

999
00:59:49,680 --> 00:59:52,560
Speaker 1: Have you enjoyed this episode, please tune in every Thursday

1000
00:59:52,600 --> 00:59:55,080
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1001
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1002
00:59:58,560 --> 01:00:01,920
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1003
01:00:02,000 --> 01:00:04,240
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1004
01:00:04,280 --> 01:00:08,600
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1005
01:00:08,760 --> 01:00:11,840
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1006
01:00:11,840 --> 01:00:14,280
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1007
01:00:14,360 --> 01:00:17,280
Speaker 1: y'all later. God, bless you, God, thank you. We're coming out.

1008
01:00:17,360 --> 01:00:17,680
Speaker 1: Good night,