WEBVTT - Second Date Update: Vacation On Me 0:00:00.050 --> 0:00:02.330 Starting your Friday with a brand new episode. Thanks for 0:00:02.370 --> 0:00:05.029 being here on the Brooke and Jeffrey Second Date Podcast. 0:00:05.070 --> 0:00:06.780 Yeah, we appreciate you. 0:00:06.790 --> 0:00:09.460 We do really appreciate you. And what do we got 0:00:09.539 --> 0:00:10.750 on comments before we get to it? 0:00:10.940 --> 0:00:13.760 Yeah, Jenny Jen said, Brooke and Jeffrey is my comfort show, 0:00:13.940 --> 0:00:17.460 especially if the content is super uncomfortable. Wait, how is 0:00:17.660 --> 0:00:20.320 it your comfort show in the middle of uncomfortability? 0:00:20.360 --> 0:00:22.940 I mean, I think the opposite works. Yeah. 0:00:22.980 --> 0:00:23.100 Okay. 0:00:24.079 --> 0:00:26.700 I hope today makes you super, super uncomfortable. 0:00:26.800 --> 0:00:28.130 So that you sleep well? 0:00:28.150 --> 0:00:33.630 Yeah. Actually, Alexis, it's not going to work today. What? Yes, 0:00:33.690 --> 0:00:35.470 we have real romance on the phone today. 0:00:35.490 --> 0:00:36.430 Okay. 0:00:36.470 --> 0:00:40.390 Nice. I say yay and then Ash and Booze. The 0:00:40.550 --> 0:00:43.120 one time I say it's going to be super uncomfortable. No, 0:00:43.130 --> 0:00:46.760 this one is so sweet. I'm so excited for you 0:00:46.800 --> 0:00:48.760 all to hear it. It's going to start right now. 0:00:48.960 --> 0:00:50.420 Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning. 0:00:50.460 --> 0:00:51.820 Second date update. 0:00:53.010 --> 0:00:54.990 What's the first thing that comes to your mind when 0:00:55.010 --> 0:01:00.440 you think romantic date? Like candles or maybe flowers. 0:01:00.540 --> 0:01:02.620 Fancy food for sure. 0:01:02.760 --> 0:01:06.440 Jose meant some candlelight or maybe moonlight. 0:01:06.520 --> 0:01:09.480 God, I look so good under any dark lighting. That's 0:01:09.550 --> 0:01:10.550 why I love those things. 0:01:10.610 --> 0:01:12.110 Or police flashlight. 0:01:12.630 --> 0:01:15.669 No, the red and blues aren't as sexy. I mean, obviously, 0:01:15.690 --> 0:01:17.850 if there's a police flashlight, you shouldn't have been doing 0:01:17.910 --> 0:01:19.870 what you were doing where you were doing it. 0:01:19.870 --> 0:01:21.610 Oh, one of those big flashlights. 0:01:21.630 --> 0:01:22.770 Were you in high school in the back of a 0:01:22.810 --> 0:01:23.630 car again, Jeff? 0:01:23.690 --> 0:01:25.660 Hey, it was probably worth the 48 hours of jail time. 0:01:27.120 --> 0:01:29.160 And I don't want to screw things up here and 0:01:29.180 --> 0:01:32.340 mislead anyone because our listener Kyle did not go to jail. 0:01:32.360 --> 0:01:32.940 Oh, good. 0:01:32.980 --> 0:01:36.509 But he did say he tried a unique romantic gesture. 0:01:37.250 --> 0:01:39.710 And I'm curious what it was. But first, let's welcome 0:01:39.750 --> 0:01:40.420 him to the show. 0:01:40.800 --> 0:01:41.839 Kyle, how you doing, man? 0:01:42.880 --> 0:01:44.940 I'm good, I'm good. Thank y'all so much for having me. 0:01:45.860 --> 0:01:48.510 It is incredible how many of these start with, he 0:01:48.590 --> 0:01:50.810 tried something romantic on a first date. 0:01:50.830 --> 0:01:55.430 Well, you ladies want us to try, and then we do, 0:01:55.590 --> 0:01:56.550 and now look where we are. 0:01:56.570 --> 0:01:58.930 Well, it feels like there's a miscommunication in this back 0:01:58.990 --> 0:02:00.410 and forth. It's usually what they like. 0:02:00.470 --> 0:02:02.250 Well, to be honest with you, I wish I could 0:02:02.270 --> 0:02:03.330 have gotten to a first date. 0:02:03.720 --> 0:02:04.220 Wait, what? 0:02:04.280 --> 0:02:05.660 You didn't even make it that far. 0:02:05.680 --> 0:02:06.500 Hold up. 0:02:06.580 --> 0:02:07.640 Why did you not make it? 0:02:07.660 --> 0:02:11.209 What happened? Okay, so I met this girl, Sandra. I 0:02:11.210 --> 0:02:14.110 met her online. And I was on the apps and 0:02:14.130 --> 0:02:16.090 stuff for a long time in my own city. And 0:02:16.290 --> 0:02:18.350 I felt like I really wasn't having any connections. I 0:02:18.380 --> 0:02:19.840 wasn't meeting anybody. So I was like, let me just 0:02:19.860 --> 0:02:21.440 try another city. Let me just try to put my 0:02:21.480 --> 0:02:24.280 location somewhere else and just see if something happens, you know? 0:02:24.300 --> 0:02:25.900 Okay, I have a question. 0:02:25.980 --> 0:02:28.600 Is that like location catfishing? Like, you think that you're 0:02:28.620 --> 0:02:31.040 meeting someone in your hometown and then you're not? 0:02:31.100 --> 0:02:33.060 You can do it like that, but you can also 0:02:33.100 --> 0:02:35.510 put it in travel or passport mode or something. 0:02:35.550 --> 0:02:37.830 Oh, so it's apparent that you don't live there. Okay. 0:02:37.889 --> 0:02:39.110 But you can also be sneaky. 0:02:39.389 --> 0:02:41.769 I was not being sneaky. I was very clear with 0:02:41.810 --> 0:02:43.030 where I lived and what I was doing. 0:02:43.050 --> 0:02:43.130 Okay. 0:02:43.169 --> 0:02:44.609 You said passport mode. 0:02:44.669 --> 0:02:45.209 All right. 0:02:45.330 --> 0:02:47.810 So she knew that you were from a different area, 0:02:47.889 --> 0:02:49.570 but you still matched together? 0:02:50.280 --> 0:02:53.960 Yes. So we start talking and it's great. 0:02:54.139 --> 0:02:54.600 Okay. 0:02:54.870 --> 0:02:57.130 So can I ask like how far of a distance 0:02:57.169 --> 0:02:59.650 can you guys drive over a weekend and meet up 0:02:59.850 --> 0:03:00.930 or is this a flying? 0:03:01.190 --> 0:03:04.020 It's a plane ride. It'd be quite a drive. Okay. 0:03:04.080 --> 0:03:06.120 So I can maybe understand why you haven't had a 0:03:06.139 --> 0:03:07.200 first date. I mean, yeah. 0:03:07.360 --> 0:03:10.240 Yeah, logistically, it's hard to coordinate when you have to 0:03:10.280 --> 0:03:12.190 get plane tickets in order to see each other. 0:03:12.490 --> 0:03:14.990 Well, we had been talking for a while, probably like 0:03:14.990 --> 0:03:18.750 10 days, I guess. And I don't know. I just 0:03:18.770 --> 0:03:20.870 had this feeling. I just really wanted to meet her. 0:03:21.090 --> 0:03:24.080 And I offered this idea. I floated it. I said, hey, 0:03:24.160 --> 0:03:27.020 would you be interested? It may be flying out to 0:03:27.060 --> 0:03:29.780 see me. I'll pay for the ticket. And we meet 0:03:29.840 --> 0:03:31.919 up because we had been talking a lot. Okay. 0:03:32.100 --> 0:03:35.040 So can I ask, is this the romantic gesture offering 0:03:35.060 --> 0:03:37.600 to use your airline bonus miles in order to fly 0:03:37.680 --> 0:03:38.580 her out to meet you? 0:03:39.080 --> 0:03:43.760 Oh, yeah. I sent her a picture of all my points. No, 0:03:44.580 --> 0:03:46.880 it's part of the romantic gesture. Okay. 0:03:46.920 --> 0:03:47.600 Wait, she agreed. 0:03:48.190 --> 0:03:51.280 She said she would with one caveat. She wanted her 0:03:51.360 --> 0:03:52.690 own hotel room. She didn't want to stay with me, 0:03:52.700 --> 0:03:53.620 which I totally understood. 0:03:53.640 --> 0:03:54.580 Totally fine. 0:03:54.660 --> 0:03:56.600 It's better for both of you, honestly. 0:03:56.700 --> 0:03:59.010 Yeah, Motel 6 has a great deal, by the way. 0:03:59.370 --> 0:04:00.750 It's like an insurance, though. 0:04:00.910 --> 0:04:02.490 Okay, so I'm just going to assume that you're on 0:04:02.510 --> 0:04:05.480 the phone with us right now because she never ended 0:04:05.540 --> 0:04:06.140 up flying out. 0:04:07.150 --> 0:04:10.590 You would be wrong. She did fly out. And before 0:04:10.610 --> 0:04:12.610 she flew in, because I paid for the room, I 0:04:12.650 --> 0:04:15.290 went up to the room before she was there. And 0:04:16.050 --> 0:04:19.650 this is the romantic gesture, kind of the biggest part. 0:04:19.980 --> 0:04:24.440 Please don't say flower petals or rose petals. Please, please, please. 0:04:24.540 --> 0:04:26.820 No, no. So we had been talking at that point 0:04:26.860 --> 0:04:28.660 for maybe, I know exactly, 34 days. 0:04:30.160 --> 0:04:30.700 Uh-huh. 0:04:30.720 --> 0:04:34.520 So I wrote 34 little notes for her. Each one 0:04:34.560 --> 0:04:35.880 was something that I liked about her. 0:04:36.190 --> 0:04:36.310 Oh. 0:04:37.029 --> 0:04:38.070 Oh, that's a lot. 0:04:38.089 --> 0:04:41.530 I was hoping you just got her her favorite snacks. Yeah. 0:04:41.670 --> 0:04:43.310 And that's all you really want when you land from 0:04:43.330 --> 0:04:44.550 the airport is someone with snacks. 0:04:44.630 --> 0:04:47.100 I mean, I will say I love a good love note, 0:04:47.140 --> 0:04:49.200 but I love them from like My husband. 0:04:49.260 --> 0:04:51.120 It's someone I've met in person before. 0:04:51.240 --> 0:04:53.420 What are 34 different things that you could write about 0:04:53.480 --> 0:04:55.380 someone that you've never met in person before? 0:04:55.400 --> 0:04:57.020 You just feel like, I like that eyelash, I like 0:04:57.040 --> 0:04:58.490 that eyelash, I like that eyelash. 0:04:58.550 --> 0:04:59.830 It's a good point, Jeffrey. 0:05:00.010 --> 0:05:01.990 It's little stuff. You know, you're just talking to somebody 0:05:02.010 --> 0:05:03.670 and then you find yourself thinking about the thing that 0:05:03.690 --> 0:05:05.310 they said. Like, you know, I liked how much he 0:05:05.330 --> 0:05:06.950 talked about her family, how much she, you know, how 0:05:07.010 --> 0:05:08.710 fondly she talked about her friends. I like. 0:05:09.310 --> 0:05:12.130 It's a sweet gesture. I mean, if she's on the 0:05:12.170 --> 0:05:16.290 same page as you, right, then she's probably super excited 0:05:16.350 --> 0:05:16.700 about it. 0:05:16.770 --> 0:05:17.190 Totally. 0:05:17.250 --> 0:05:19.930 But it is a big risk that you're taking on 0:05:19.970 --> 0:05:21.039 the very first meetup. 0:05:21.150 --> 0:05:21.510 Yeah. 0:05:21.740 --> 0:05:23.830 Did she see the 34 notes? 0:05:24.070 --> 0:05:24.580 She like it? 0:05:24.880 --> 0:05:25.270 She did. 0:05:25.300 --> 0:05:28.680 She called me afterwards and she told me it was 0:05:28.700 --> 0:05:29.979 so sweet. Okay. 0:05:30.020 --> 0:05:31.960 Did you pick her up at the airport or had 0:05:32.000 --> 0:05:33.360 you not seen her at this point? 0:05:33.560 --> 0:05:34.860 I did not. I did not pick her up at 0:05:34.880 --> 0:05:35.719 the airport. Yeah. 0:05:35.740 --> 0:05:35.900 Yeah. 0:05:37.480 --> 0:05:39.339 Guys always get the gesture wrong. The gesture is picking 0:05:39.360 --> 0:05:41.200 her up at the airport with snacks, not going into 0:05:41.250 --> 0:05:41.750 the hotel. 0:05:41.790 --> 0:05:43.450 Yeah, it wasn't good enough that you paid for her 0:05:43.529 --> 0:05:45.110 flight and for her hotel stay. 0:05:45.130 --> 0:05:46.090 Yeah, Alexis is like, uh-uh. 0:05:46.570 --> 0:05:47.360 Where are you? 0:05:47.370 --> 0:05:49.770 She does have a point, though. That's more personal, right? 0:05:49.790 --> 0:05:52.470 Yeah, it's than just putting up notes and being like, Uber, 0:05:52.490 --> 0:05:54.490 see ya. So she calls you or she just texted 0:05:54.510 --> 0:05:56.040 you once she got to the hotel room? 0:05:56.310 --> 0:05:58.980 She called me and she tells me, thank you so much, 0:05:59.279 --> 0:06:01.940 but I'm really tired from my flight. Instead of going 0:06:01.980 --> 0:06:03.979 out tonight, do you think we could go out tomorrow morning? 0:06:04.020 --> 0:06:05.420 I kind of just want to turn in, you know? 0:06:05.440 --> 0:06:06.100 Oh, okay. 0:06:06.500 --> 0:06:09.690 That's, I mean, understandable. You know when you fly, you 0:06:09.730 --> 0:06:10.550 don't look good. 0:06:10.650 --> 0:06:13.100 If you're flying across the country for a guy that 0:06:13.140 --> 0:06:16.330 you're so excited about. You want to see him as 0:06:16.470 --> 0:06:18.540 soon as possible. That's when you put on makeup at 0:06:18.560 --> 0:06:20.340 the airport. You land, you're like putting it on before 0:06:20.360 --> 0:06:21.539 you come out. You're like, yeah. 0:06:21.560 --> 0:06:22.480 But what about time zone? 0:06:22.520 --> 0:06:23.940 Like, I don't know the difference. 0:06:23.960 --> 0:06:26.560 Like, maybe she landed and now it's three hours later. 0:06:26.260 --> 0:06:27.310 And she feels like she needs to bed. 0:06:27.320 --> 0:06:29.400 Three hours isn't enough to go to bed early. 0:06:29.440 --> 0:06:31.000 Nap on the plane, jeez. 0:06:31.060 --> 0:06:34.550 But what time did she call off the meetup? 0:06:35.050 --> 0:06:37.910 It was only like seven. Ooh. It was around 7, 0:06:37.910 --> 0:06:40.349 so I thought it was kind of early, but also 0:06:40.390 --> 0:06:42.510 I don't know what her flight was like. Sometimes people 0:06:42.550 --> 0:06:43.610 are more drained than other times. 0:06:43.630 --> 0:06:46.570 Yeah, so you were supposed to meet up with her 0:06:46.610 --> 0:06:48.570 the next day, and then what? 0:06:49.330 --> 0:06:50.890 We had the plan to meet the next morning for 0:06:50.930 --> 0:06:52.090 breakfast at the hotel. 0:06:52.110 --> 0:06:52.630 Okay. 0:06:53.170 --> 0:06:55.589 And I'm there, and I don't see her. And I'm 0:06:55.610 --> 0:06:57.690 sitting for a little while, and she's not coming, and 0:06:57.730 --> 0:07:01.010 then I go to the front desk eventually, and I ask, 0:07:01.070 --> 0:07:02.370 and they tell me that she has checked out. 0:07:02.810 --> 0:07:03.630 What? 0:07:04.000 --> 0:07:04.740 Oh, no. 0:07:04.750 --> 0:07:05.920 Without saying anything to you? 0:07:06.820 --> 0:07:08.700 Yeah, she hasn't responded to my messages or picked up 0:07:09.300 --> 0:07:11.470 at all. And at this point, I'm like, I just 0:07:11.490 --> 0:07:12.790 would like to know kind of what happened. 0:07:13.010 --> 0:07:15.130 Is she like just trying to take advantage of a 0:07:15.170 --> 0:07:15.830 free vacation? 0:07:15.870 --> 0:07:17.390 Yeah, if you live in a fun city. If you 0:07:17.410 --> 0:07:17.910 checked out of. 0:07:17.870 --> 0:07:20.310 The hotel, you would keep the hotel for a couple. 0:07:20.110 --> 0:07:20.610 Days, right? 0:07:20.650 --> 0:07:22.640 I'm hoping that you live in some terrible city. 0:07:22.740 --> 0:07:25.240 That's not fun and people would want a vacation too. 0:07:25.560 --> 0:07:26.440 Nothing to do there. 0:07:26.660 --> 0:07:28.320 That would take her using you off the plane. 0:07:28.360 --> 0:07:31.120 But we're going to find out exactly what's going on 0:07:31.160 --> 0:07:33.760 with Sandra when we come back. We'll call her and 0:07:33.780 --> 0:07:36.280 try to get you your second date update right after this. 0:07:36.480 --> 0:07:36.840 Hold on. 0:07:36.920 --> 0:07:38.400 Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning. 0:07:38.420 --> 0:07:39.820 Second date update. 0:07:41.360 --> 0:07:45.350 Could you imagine meeting a guy online, bonding with him 0:07:45.440 --> 0:07:49.150 for 34 days, then he pays for your flight to 0:07:49.190 --> 0:07:52.370 go meet him, puts you up in your own hotel, 0:07:52.670 --> 0:07:55.170 and leaves notes of all the little things that he 0:07:55.250 --> 0:07:59.470 admires about you. but he doesn't even have the decency 0:07:59.510 --> 0:08:01.910 to pick you up from the airport himself. 0:08:02.560 --> 0:08:03.710 Oh, my gosh. 0:08:03.750 --> 0:08:05.460 That is such a misstep, Jeff. 0:08:05.560 --> 0:08:08.340 I would have left, too, after I raided the minibar, 0:08:08.380 --> 0:08:11.840 of course. You just hope that more guys would be 0:08:11.960 --> 0:08:14.740 thoughtful in this world, but apparently they're not. 0:08:14.760 --> 0:08:17.780 Dude, but can you imagine walking into a room with 0:08:17.860 --> 0:08:20.100 a guy that you've never met and everything you've ever 0:08:20.180 --> 0:08:22.760 said to him is written on sticky notes all around you? 0:08:23.310 --> 0:08:23.620 I know. 0:08:23.700 --> 0:08:27.450 A guy that listens to what you say and remembers them? 0:08:27.710 --> 0:08:28.450 Disgusting. 0:08:28.490 --> 0:08:31.470 It feels a little like the start of a horror film. 0:08:31.530 --> 0:08:32.390 Yeah. 0:08:32.410 --> 0:08:34.510 And your room he's been in now before you were 0:08:34.550 --> 0:08:37.450 there even. And like put up. That's true. 0:08:37.490 --> 0:08:37.930 Creepy. 0:08:37.990 --> 0:08:40.240 A guy that makes sure that you're taken care of. 0:08:40.250 --> 0:08:42.350 I agree. Disgusting. 0:08:42.370 --> 0:08:43.030 He's like, hi. 0:08:43.050 --> 0:08:44.090 He's like, I have a notepad. 0:08:44.130 --> 0:08:45.030 I knew you were going. 0:08:44.870 --> 0:08:45.390 To say that. 0:08:45.500 --> 0:08:46.050 I was there. 0:08:46.580 --> 0:08:50.620 And we're just describing Kyle's fly-in date after Sandra did 0:08:50.740 --> 0:08:52.960 fly in and stayed the night at the hotel he 0:08:53.000 --> 0:08:56.080 paid for, hadn't even seen him yet, and then she 0:08:56.120 --> 0:08:58.520 didn't show up for breakfast the next morning and had 0:08:58.660 --> 0:08:59.980 already checked out and left. 0:09:00.080 --> 0:09:02.500 She'd also canceled dinner the night before. Yeah. 0:09:02.570 --> 0:09:05.050 But that's because I still feel like she was jet lagged. 0:09:05.370 --> 0:09:06.730 That's nice of you. 0:09:06.790 --> 0:09:10.850 Whatever's really going on, we're not sure the actual reasons why. 0:09:11.190 --> 0:09:13.470 That's why Kyle has reached out to us to try 0:09:13.510 --> 0:09:14.230 to figure it out. 0:09:14.410 --> 0:09:14.770 Yeah. 0:09:14.970 --> 0:09:17.380 Kyle, did I miss anything there from the recap? 0:09:18.120 --> 0:09:21.760 No, no. I take issue with some of the interpretations 0:09:21.900 --> 0:09:23.840 of how some of the things could have been perceived. But, 0:09:23.860 --> 0:09:25.640 you know, that's why I'm here to figure out the truth. 0:09:25.900 --> 0:09:29.900 I don't think your intentions were maybe what the perception was. 0:09:30.260 --> 0:09:30.600 Right. 0:09:30.640 --> 0:09:33.790 Like there was definitely a miscommunication between you two, I think, 0:09:33.850 --> 0:09:34.370 on that front. 0:09:34.530 --> 0:09:36.570 Yeah, I guess so. I don't know. I was afraid 0:09:36.590 --> 0:09:38.750 that maybe she thought I was in the closet. Like, 0:09:38.770 --> 0:09:40.250 you know what I mean? Or something like that for 0:09:40.270 --> 0:09:40.590 a second. 0:09:40.650 --> 0:09:42.250 I'm trying to read by what you meant. I'm in 0:09:42.290 --> 0:09:45.240 the closet. I think I'm going to move on from that. 0:09:45.280 --> 0:09:47.960 Everybody's minds go to what their mind is closest to. 0:09:48.679 --> 0:09:48.939 Sure. 0:09:48.960 --> 0:09:49.480 I don't know. 0:09:49.660 --> 0:09:51.660 The non-physical closet is a lot less scary. 0:09:51.800 --> 0:09:53.260 Yeah. 0:09:54.150 --> 0:09:57.210 But either way, whatever the reason is, hopefully Sandra can 0:09:57.250 --> 0:09:59.150 give it to us if she answers the phone because 0:09:59.170 --> 0:09:59.949 I'm going to dial her number. 0:10:00.070 --> 0:10:01.350 Right now. Let's do it. 0:10:08.880 --> 0:10:09.270 Hello? 0:10:10.200 --> 0:10:11.079 Hey, is this Sandra? 0:10:11.100 --> 0:10:13.320 This is she. 0:10:13.920 --> 0:10:16.300 Hey, Sandra, this is a radio show that you're on 0:10:16.340 --> 0:10:18.160 right now. It's called Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning. 0:10:18.220 --> 0:10:18.860 Hey, Sandra. 0:10:19.200 --> 0:10:22.130 Hey, good morning. Hello. Hi. 0:10:24.490 --> 0:10:26.010 I just got noticed about how this is going to 0:10:26.030 --> 0:10:26.910 be perceived, too. 0:10:26.990 --> 0:10:27.430 Yeah. 0:10:27.470 --> 0:10:28.650 That's true. 0:10:28.870 --> 0:10:29.590 What's up, guys? 0:10:29.980 --> 0:10:33.260 I'm really glad that you answered because we're looking to 0:10:33.300 --> 0:10:38.260 get some clarity for one of our listeners that you 0:10:38.300 --> 0:10:39.420 went out on a date with. 0:10:41.059 --> 0:10:43.210 Well, you actually didn't go on a date with him. 0:10:43.250 --> 0:10:46.390 That's what makes this so unusual because this is called 0:10:46.450 --> 0:10:47.530 a second date update. 0:10:48.650 --> 0:10:48.829 Okay. 0:10:49.740 --> 0:10:50.380 All right. 0:10:50.800 --> 0:10:53.069 Sounds like you might be familiar with what that is. 0:10:53.150 --> 0:10:56.990 We're basically trying to help out our boy Kyle, who 0:10:57.030 --> 0:11:00.849 told us that you two had planned a meetup and 0:11:00.950 --> 0:11:03.010 the meetup never really happened. 0:11:05.429 --> 0:11:06.150 Yeah. 0:11:06.650 --> 0:11:10.200 Not really ready to talk about this. 0:11:11.020 --> 0:11:11.420 Okay. 0:11:11.480 --> 0:11:11.840 Okay. 0:11:12.360 --> 0:11:15.939 Well, listen, we don't know what's going on in your 0:11:15.980 --> 0:11:18.510 life right now. But I do know that we have 0:11:18.530 --> 0:11:22.230 a guy who put a tremendous amount of energy into 0:11:22.490 --> 0:11:24.260 trying to set up a meeting with you. 0:11:24.520 --> 0:11:26.479 He sounded like he cares about you a lot. 0:11:27.340 --> 0:11:29.600 And after talking to you for a full month, he 0:11:29.740 --> 0:11:33.720 flew you out to have that face-to-face interaction. But now 0:11:33.760 --> 0:11:36.929 he's left completely in the dark wondering, did I do 0:11:36.970 --> 0:11:37.910 something wrong? 0:11:37.929 --> 0:11:40.209 Did I scare her off? He has no clue. 0:11:40.350 --> 0:11:42.550 His intentions definitely weren't to freak you out. 0:11:42.570 --> 0:11:43.770 Yeah. 0:11:44.440 --> 0:11:45.620 Is that what happened? 0:11:45.640 --> 0:11:46.500 Did he creep you out? 0:11:46.660 --> 0:11:48.740 You could just start with what it was like walking 0:11:48.780 --> 0:11:49.740 into the hotel room. 0:11:50.520 --> 0:11:53.340 So, yeah, I don't know if he told you this, 0:11:53.800 --> 0:12:01.390 but he left me 34 notes that were so thoughtful. 0:12:01.510 --> 0:12:03.610 She said thoughtful. 0:12:05.410 --> 0:12:07.800 Tell us more about how you felt about the notes. 0:12:07.840 --> 0:12:13.700 So they were seriously the most thoughtful thing like it 0:12:14.440 --> 0:12:18.030 seriously touched my heart you love to hear that. 0:12:17.590 --> 0:12:19.950 We were really worried that was the moment that like 0:12:20.030 --> 0:12:22.290 freaked you out but you took it in the way 0:12:22.330 --> 0:12:25.270 he intended it To be, right? To be romantic and 0:12:25.290 --> 0:12:26.110 to be thoughtful. 0:12:26.429 --> 0:12:27.290 Okay. 0:12:27.510 --> 0:12:29.450 So then it's because he sent you an Uber to 0:12:29.500 --> 0:12:31.900 the airport instead of picking you up in person. 0:12:31.960 --> 0:12:33.020 It must be that thing. 0:12:33.880 --> 0:12:41.840 No, it wasn't that either. I honestly, to be completely transparent, 0:12:41.860 --> 0:12:45.780 I haven't dated in a long time. 0:12:45.800 --> 0:12:46.819 Okay. 0:12:47.179 --> 0:12:47.710 All right. 0:12:47.970 --> 0:12:51.069 Are you just out of a fresh relationship? 0:12:51.960 --> 0:12:59.350 So actually, five years ago, my fiance passed. 0:13:00.790 --> 0:13:03.349 Oh, I'm so sorry. That's terrible. 0:13:04.050 --> 0:13:04.729 Yeah. 0:13:04.809 --> 0:13:09.829 So like, it's taken me a while to get through 0:13:09.910 --> 0:13:15.100 that time and I've gotten on dating apps and stuff 0:13:15.600 --> 0:13:18.900 obviously and like he's definitely the first guy that I've 0:13:19.380 --> 0:13:23.640 like maybe I actually saw the potential of from you 0:13:23.679 --> 0:13:26.490 know seeing how just how he treated me flew me 0:13:26.620 --> 0:13:29.089 out got me my own hotel room like then the 0:13:29.150 --> 0:13:32.000 notes and it's just like it's not too good to 0:13:32.040 --> 0:13:35.280 be true. It's just, it's so good. So I saw 0:13:35.370 --> 0:13:39.250 the reality of like really starting something new and like 0:13:39.330 --> 0:13:40.089 I freaked out. 0:13:40.230 --> 0:13:40.850 Right, right, right. 0:13:41.010 --> 0:13:44.219 And, I feel very bad. I feel bad for the 0:13:44.280 --> 0:13:46.300 way I handled it. 0:13:46.440 --> 0:13:48.660 Would you prefer if we find somebody like one of 0:13:48.700 --> 0:13:51.200 our listeners who doesn't treat women very well? 0:13:51.280 --> 0:13:52.760 I don't think that's it. 0:13:52.780 --> 0:13:54.460 Absolutely not. 0:13:54.580 --> 0:13:57.459 I'm totally kidding. 0:13:57.640 --> 0:13:58.480 All right. 0:13:58.520 --> 0:14:01.280 So it wasn't like he did anything wrong. It was 0:14:01.300 --> 0:14:04.420 just you had your own hesitations about restarting. 0:14:04.860 --> 0:14:07.420 Romantic life all over again with a new guy. 0:14:07.490 --> 0:14:10.050 Entering a new city, not your house. A whole new place. 0:14:10.110 --> 0:14:10.670 All of it. 0:14:10.730 --> 0:14:13.750 I can understand why you would hesitate to start that 0:14:13.770 --> 0:14:16.670 way with Kyle or even tell him the situation, but 0:14:16.790 --> 0:14:19.050 you've already taken half of a step there because you 0:14:19.090 --> 0:14:21.630 don't know this, but Kyle is actually listening to this 0:14:21.670 --> 0:14:24.710 conversation on the other line right now waiting to talk 0:14:24.730 --> 0:14:26.630 to you. In like a romantic, sweet way. 0:14:26.730 --> 0:14:30.790 I feel like a lot for her. Are you okay? Yes. 0:14:31.360 --> 0:14:32.200 Kyle, are you okay? 0:14:33.330 --> 0:14:38.110 I am. I just... Hi, Sandra. 0:14:38.130 --> 0:14:38.730 Hi. 0:14:39.190 --> 0:14:41.760 First, I want to say thank you for telling me. 0:14:42.180 --> 0:14:43.220 She didn't tell you. 0:14:43.280 --> 0:14:44.600 Yeah, she told us, but yeah. 0:14:44.900 --> 0:14:45.220 Yeah. 0:14:45.320 --> 0:14:46.020 But you heard it. 0:14:46.040 --> 0:14:47.380 Well, no, but that's why I got to say thank 0:14:47.400 --> 0:14:49.100 you for not knowing that you were telling me something 0:14:49.120 --> 0:14:52.420 very personal. Sorry, I don't mean to joke, but I 0:14:52.440 --> 0:14:54.220 was just so nervous that I did something wrong. And 0:14:54.260 --> 0:14:56.820 to hear your perspective, I just want to say I 0:14:56.860 --> 0:14:59.610 didn't mean for my gesture to put any pressure on you. 0:15:00.250 --> 0:15:01.430 I know it's a lot, but I don't want you 0:15:01.450 --> 0:15:04.290 to think that I expected to start anything that you 0:15:04.310 --> 0:15:06.490 weren't ready for, no matter what your situation was. So... 0:15:06.810 --> 0:15:08.650 You're so sweet. 0:15:09.090 --> 0:15:13.490 So thank you for one, acknowledging and then listening. And 0:15:13.510 --> 0:15:17.060 I don't know if you heard, but I mean, I 0:15:17.100 --> 0:15:20.360