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Speaker 2: If you ever have feelings that you just falls mayby

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Speaker 2: and Cat got your cob and locking m brother, ladies

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Speaker 3: This is feeling things with Amy and Cat.

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Speaker 1: Happy Tuesday. Welcome to feeling things. I'm Amy, I'm Cat,

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Speaker 1: and my feeling of the day is thankful, happy, joyful,

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Speaker 1: so much gratitude for whoever invented the M pellet for testosterone.

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Speaker 4: My feeling of the day is grateful because you were

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Speaker 4: in a fabulous mood. And that is to say that

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Speaker 4: you're usually in a bad mood, but like it's elevated.

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Speaker 1: Well, let's be honest. I have been feeling a little

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Speaker 1: bit met lately, and I with that meant I was

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Speaker 1: bummed because I've done the hormone replacement therapy stuff and

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Speaker 1: they said I was going to feel fabulous. But when

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Speaker 1: I first got my testosterone pellet, I also had low

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Speaker 1: And that was during that first pellet. So and then

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Speaker 1: So it's had time to dispense some testosterone in my body.

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Speaker 1: And that's got to be it, because I just feel better.

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Speaker 3: I just you're glowing.

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Speaker 1: Thank you.

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Speaker 3: So question about the pellet.

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Speaker 4: I know we talked about this last time, but you

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Speaker 3: How bad does that hurt?

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Speaker 1: Well, they do numb you. So she gives me a

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Speaker 1: shot of lytocane and that's what you're something else she

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Speaker 1: And I don't not a nurse, I don't know why

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Speaker 1: helps the disbursement of the lydocane. Maybe I don't know

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Speaker 1: So she cut and then from there she makes a

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Speaker 4: That actually brightened my day because I was feeling a

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Speaker 4: Doing weird things in our parking lot, and I've gone

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Speaker 3: However, I towed some cars today.

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Speaker 4: So I was like, I don't feel bad at all

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Speaker 3: But I towed two cars and they were huge. Our

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Speaker 3: That's the other thing didn't just get there.

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Speaker 1: So have you thought about, well finish your thing about it?

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Speaker 4: I was just going to say I felt like they

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Speaker 1: Yeah, even though it wasn't directly at you, I felt

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Speaker 3: You've not made a friend there.

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Speaker 1: Well, my friend that is now looking at Jim's she's

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Speaker 4: a bad mood, I could be in a good mood.

442
00:21:49,480 --> 00:21:53,879
Speaker 4: I could take the corner like I could hide. It

443
00:21:53,920 --> 00:21:54,840
Speaker 4: felt so good.

444
00:21:54,920 --> 00:21:56,679
Speaker 3: And so now when I go to a class, I

445
00:21:56,720 --> 00:21:58,119
Speaker 3: don't want to talk to anybody.

446
00:21:58,440 --> 00:22:00,600
Speaker 1: Well, hear me out on this. I feel like you

447
00:22:00,760 --> 00:22:06,040
Speaker 1: still tackle the community part, or the connection part ish

448
00:22:06,320 --> 00:22:10,440
Speaker 1: and the solitude part because you're amongst other people doing something.

449
00:22:11,040 --> 00:22:14,280
Speaker 1: So I think our bodies receive that as I'm in community,

450
00:22:14,359 --> 00:22:17,320
Speaker 1: I'm doing this class collectively, but I'm also over here

451
00:22:17,359 --> 00:22:19,919
Speaker 1: in my own little corner. So you just you you

452
00:22:20,359 --> 00:22:24,800
Speaker 1: knocked out two categories in one trip, because again, it's

453
00:22:24,800 --> 00:22:29,359
Speaker 1: not how many you have, it's it's the it's the

454
00:22:29,400 --> 00:22:31,400
Speaker 1: category that we're trying to focus on.

455
00:22:31,560 --> 00:22:33,879
Speaker 3: Are you saying we should have one in each category?

456
00:22:34,880 --> 00:22:37,840
Speaker 1: I mean that's the goal, Okay, But I would say

457
00:22:37,840 --> 00:22:40,760
Speaker 1: you could start with just two and try to work

458
00:22:40,800 --> 00:22:42,560
Speaker 1: your way up. But if you could just look at

459
00:22:42,560 --> 00:22:45,080
Speaker 1: these five categories and be like, oh, okay, or every

460
00:22:45,160 --> 00:22:47,520
Speaker 1: week you alternate, Oh, this is my wellness hobby week

461
00:22:47,680 --> 00:22:49,760
Speaker 1: hobby week, or this is my connection hobby week.

462
00:22:50,160 --> 00:22:51,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, I just wonder.

463
00:22:52,040 --> 00:22:53,639
Speaker 4: My whole point in telling that story is really like,

464
00:22:53,760 --> 00:22:57,280
Speaker 4: I wonder if I never taught in fitness classes, if

465
00:22:57,320 --> 00:22:59,800
Speaker 4: I would show up differently in them now? Yeah, because

466
00:22:59,800 --> 00:23:01,720
Speaker 4: now I kind of got burnt out by having to

467
00:23:01,760 --> 00:23:04,120
Speaker 4: always be on all the time that now when I go,

468
00:23:04,320 --> 00:23:06,040
Speaker 4: I don't want to.

469
00:23:06,160 --> 00:23:06,879
Speaker 3: Talk to people.

470
00:23:07,440 --> 00:23:09,800
Speaker 4: I mean unless I know the person, you know, I

471
00:23:09,800 --> 00:23:11,560
Speaker 4: don't want to make new friends there. I just want

472
00:23:11,600 --> 00:23:13,879
Speaker 4: to go in and go out. But I wonder if

473
00:23:13,880 --> 00:23:16,440
Speaker 4: that would be different because that's not technically my personality.

474
00:23:17,080 --> 00:23:20,600
Speaker 1: No, you're very social. I met a friend at body

475
00:23:20,600 --> 00:23:23,560
Speaker 1: pump circling back to that, which I know it's been

476
00:23:23,560 --> 00:23:25,360
Speaker 1: a minute since I've gone to a body pump class.

477
00:23:25,520 --> 00:23:27,360
Speaker 1: But this is back when I moved to North Carolina,

478
00:23:27,400 --> 00:23:29,120
Speaker 1: when Ben was in the Air Force and we had

479
00:23:29,160 --> 00:23:34,760
Speaker 1: to move to this tiny town. Technically Fort Bragg, which

480
00:23:34,760 --> 00:23:37,200
Speaker 1: is where he was, is in Fayetteville, but we lived

481
00:23:37,200 --> 00:23:39,960
Speaker 1: about forty five minutes from there in Southern Pines. Really

482
00:23:40,119 --> 00:23:41,000
Speaker 1: cute small town.

483
00:23:41,320 --> 00:23:42,520
Speaker 3: I thought Fayetteville was.

484
00:23:42,600 --> 00:23:45,800
Speaker 1: Is there two there's a Fetteville, North Carolina. It's Pope

485
00:23:45,800 --> 00:23:49,119
Speaker 1: Air Force Base and Fort Bragg. That does kind of

486
00:23:49,200 --> 00:23:50,680
Speaker 1: merged because he was in the Air Force, but he

487
00:23:50,720 --> 00:23:53,240
Speaker 1: also worked for a joint unit. So sometimes that's confusing

488
00:23:53,240 --> 00:23:55,360
Speaker 1: to people. If you speak military, it's like, wait, he's

489
00:23:55,359 --> 00:23:58,040
Speaker 1: in the Air Force, why was he at Fort Bragg?

490
00:23:58,080 --> 00:23:59,920
Speaker 1: But that's a he was part of a joint know

491
00:24:00,240 --> 00:24:02,280
Speaker 1: so he worked with all the branches even though he

492
00:24:02,359 --> 00:24:09,080
Speaker 1: was Air Force. His unit had everybody joint special ops situation.

493
00:24:09,680 --> 00:24:12,760
Speaker 1: So I had no friends i moved there.

494
00:24:12,960 --> 00:24:13,360
Speaker 3: He had.

495
00:24:13,400 --> 00:24:17,480
Speaker 1: I had his friends, like his military friends and their wives,

496
00:24:17,680 --> 00:24:20,399
Speaker 1: but I had none that I had made myself. So

497
00:24:20,840 --> 00:24:23,880
Speaker 1: I joined golds Gym and there was this one girl

498
00:24:23,880 --> 00:24:27,679
Speaker 1: at body pump. She looked like we could be friends.

499
00:24:28,280 --> 00:24:31,159
Speaker 1: So I went up to her after class and said,

500
00:24:32,160 --> 00:24:37,199
Speaker 1: I'm new here, I don't have any friends, and do

501
00:24:37,280 --> 00:24:39,560
Speaker 1: you like, do you want to do something? Because you

502
00:24:39,640 --> 00:24:43,959
Speaker 1: look like we could be friends. Yes, and they became

503
00:24:44,119 --> 00:24:47,560
Speaker 1: our friends are so her husband ended up being in

504
00:24:47,640 --> 00:24:52,120
Speaker 1: a special ops army type situation and we would go

505
00:24:52,280 --> 00:24:54,920
Speaker 1: so we did double dates. Our husbands had plenty of

506
00:24:54,960 --> 00:24:57,160
Speaker 1: to talk about. We had plenty to talk about. We

507
00:24:57,200 --> 00:24:59,560
Speaker 1: worked out together, we went we cooked together, we went

508
00:24:59,600 --> 00:25:01,720
Speaker 1: on walks. In fact, a couple of weeks ago, she

509
00:25:01,760 --> 00:25:03,840
Speaker 1: was going to visit Nashville. I haven't seen her in forever.

510
00:25:03,920 --> 00:25:07,200
Speaker 1: I moved away from North Carolina in two thousand and twelve,

511
00:25:07,880 --> 00:25:10,520
Speaker 1: so it's been a minute. But we still keep in

512
00:25:10,560 --> 00:25:12,560
Speaker 1: touch over text every once in a while. And she

513
00:25:12,680 --> 00:25:14,080
Speaker 1: was going to try to come take a trip to

514
00:25:14,160 --> 00:25:18,240
Speaker 1: Nashville but ended up not working out. But I met

515
00:25:18,240 --> 00:25:21,520
Speaker 1: her at body Pump and I just went up cold,

516
00:25:21,840 --> 00:25:22,399
Speaker 1: cold caller.

517
00:25:22,800 --> 00:25:25,640
Speaker 3: But you would never do that today because.

518
00:25:25,480 --> 00:25:28,560
Speaker 1: I definitely be desperates or I was desperate.

519
00:25:28,800 --> 00:25:30,399
Speaker 4: I was like, Okay, you wouldn't do that because you

520
00:25:30,800 --> 00:25:32,359
Speaker 4: have friends now, or you wouldn't do that because like

521
00:25:32,400 --> 00:25:33,439
Speaker 4: that's intimidating to you.

522
00:25:33,520 --> 00:25:35,959
Speaker 1: Well, I have my own community here now. But I

523
00:25:36,000 --> 00:25:41,359
Speaker 1: think with him being my ex husband being deployed, I

524
00:25:41,400 --> 00:25:43,800
Speaker 1: mean he would be gone for sixty to ninety days

525
00:25:43,840 --> 00:25:45,720
Speaker 1: at a time, so it was like I had to

526
00:25:45,760 --> 00:25:49,080
Speaker 1: really lock in or what was I going to do?

527
00:25:57,880 --> 00:25:59,520
Speaker 3: Was your life kind of like army wives?

528
00:26:00,520 --> 00:26:03,600
Speaker 1: I mean we weren't on base. Okay, those wives were

529
00:26:03,600 --> 00:26:04,399
Speaker 1: on base, right.

530
00:26:04,520 --> 00:26:06,479
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's how imagine it always been.

531
00:26:07,200 --> 00:26:09,720
Speaker 1: I mean occasionally I went to some of the spouse stuff,

532
00:26:10,040 --> 00:26:12,399
Speaker 1: but not often because a lot of times it was

533
00:26:12,440 --> 00:26:15,240
Speaker 1: in Fayetteville and I would have to drive the forty

534
00:26:15,280 --> 00:26:17,720
Speaker 1: five minutes. I mean, people could live when you're stationed

535
00:26:17,720 --> 00:26:21,040
Speaker 1: there if you didn't live on base. There were so

536
00:26:21,119 --> 00:26:24,040
Speaker 1: many surrounding areas, so it was very would you want

537
00:26:24,080 --> 00:26:25,560
Speaker 1: to live on the net was wide?

538
00:26:25,640 --> 00:26:27,960
Speaker 3: Would you want to live on an army base or

539
00:26:28,040 --> 00:26:29,920
Speaker 3: what do they call that? On base?

540
00:26:30,880 --> 00:26:34,840
Speaker 1: There's posts, there's base. No. But I could have done it.

541
00:26:34,880 --> 00:26:37,160
Speaker 1: I do think community part of it. I do think

542
00:26:37,200 --> 00:26:40,320
Speaker 1: the community part of it would have been cool and

543
00:26:40,480 --> 00:26:43,000
Speaker 1: kind of easy to just like have. I mean in

544
00:26:43,040 --> 00:26:45,080
Speaker 1: some of the houses were actually really really cute.

545
00:26:45,440 --> 00:26:45,720
Speaker 3: Yeah.

546
00:26:45,800 --> 00:26:50,520
Speaker 1: I did go to He's well he's I don't know

547
00:26:50,560 --> 00:26:54,040
Speaker 1: if he's still in, but Admiral mccraven. So fun fact,

548
00:26:54,720 --> 00:26:57,480
Speaker 1: if you watched that movie zero Dark thirty is that

549
00:26:57,640 --> 00:27:00,800
Speaker 1: was called about the Osamavan Laden there's thing.

550
00:27:02,119 --> 00:27:02,639
Speaker 3: Is he in it?

551
00:27:03,040 --> 00:27:05,159
Speaker 1: Well, why I'm telling this is I was at the

552
00:27:05,200 --> 00:27:07,720
Speaker 1: movies and his character he's not in it, but a

553
00:27:07,800 --> 00:27:09,679
Speaker 1: character playing him because it's a true story. And I

554
00:27:09,720 --> 00:27:12,159
Speaker 1: was like, I've been to his house that I did

555
00:27:12,240 --> 00:27:14,800
Speaker 1: go to his house, okay, And I remember being telling

556
00:27:14,800 --> 00:27:16,280
Speaker 1: me it was a wives thing, and I remember him

557
00:27:16,320 --> 00:27:17,680
Speaker 1: telling me it was a big deal, but I didn't

558
00:27:17,720 --> 00:27:20,640
Speaker 1: register how big of a deal. Like I was just like, oh, yeah, okay,

559
00:27:20,680 --> 00:27:22,479
Speaker 1: wives gathering. He's like yeah, but this is at like

560
00:27:22,840 --> 00:27:26,920
Speaker 1: the boss's house, and I'm like okay. And see admiral

561
00:27:27,520 --> 00:27:30,600
Speaker 1: that's like a general. So admiral is head of the navy.

562
00:27:30,760 --> 00:27:33,240
Speaker 1: In general's are head of other parts, so this is

563
00:27:33,280 --> 00:27:35,320
Speaker 1: like really high up. But I don't I was new.

564
00:27:35,359 --> 00:27:37,639
Speaker 1: I was very green to the whole thing. And I'm

565
00:27:37,720 --> 00:27:41,000
Speaker 1: just like, you know, showing up. And then there's pictures

566
00:27:41,040 --> 00:27:43,880
Speaker 1: like on the fireplace mantle of him with like condoluza rice.

567
00:27:43,920 --> 00:27:46,439
Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, I guess he's probably pretty important, like

568
00:27:46,520 --> 00:27:50,040
Speaker 1: Colon Powell or Colin Powell. Colon. Why do I say colon?

569
00:27:50,440 --> 00:27:51,919
Speaker 1: I think Colin.

570
00:27:51,600 --> 00:27:52,159
Speaker 3: Would be.

571
00:27:53,840 --> 00:27:55,639
Speaker 1: Thinking about your coland thinking about my colon.

572
00:27:56,840 --> 00:27:57,560
Speaker 3: I think that's.

573
00:27:57,400 --> 00:28:00,760
Speaker 4: Pretty wild because we actually had it offline conversation about

574
00:28:00,760 --> 00:28:03,119
Speaker 4: this recently of like, what would it take for you

575
00:28:03,160 --> 00:28:06,280
Speaker 4: to up and move your life for a romantic partner? Remember,

576
00:28:06,480 --> 00:28:11,280
Speaker 4: m hmm, you did it. It seems like no questions

577
00:28:11,320 --> 00:28:16,720
Speaker 4: asked and a big deal. Were you living in Texas before? Yeah, okay,

578
00:28:17,480 --> 00:28:20,359
Speaker 4: didn't know anybody. You moved to a similar place that

579
00:28:20,440 --> 00:28:23,200
Speaker 4: I asked you like middle of nowhere kind of Well

580
00:28:23,359 --> 00:28:24,240
Speaker 4: is it middle of nowhere?

581
00:28:24,520 --> 00:28:24,760
Speaker 3: Yeah?

582
00:28:24,840 --> 00:28:27,679
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean flying out to Rally and it was

583
00:28:27,760 --> 00:28:30,359
Speaker 1: probably a little over an hour drive from Raleigh.

584
00:28:30,359 --> 00:28:31,520
Speaker 3: You almost gave up your job.

585
00:28:31,960 --> 00:28:34,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, I did quit and then said no Bobby said

586
00:28:34,720 --> 00:28:36,520
Speaker 1: he came back. We had a going away party for

587
00:28:36,600 --> 00:28:38,000
Speaker 1: me and everything, and then he came back. He's like, Hey,

588
00:28:38,000 --> 00:28:40,080
Speaker 1: we're going to put a studio in your house and

589
00:28:40,120 --> 00:28:42,320
Speaker 1: I was like really. And then we've been with deploy

590
00:28:42,480 --> 00:28:44,760
Speaker 1: some of his deployments, I would go back home and

591
00:28:44,840 --> 00:28:46,880
Speaker 1: work out of the studio in Austin and stay with

592
00:28:46,920 --> 00:28:48,920
Speaker 1: my mom, but not all the time. Yes, That's why

593
00:28:48,960 --> 00:28:50,760
Speaker 1: I needed to make friends.

594
00:28:50,480 --> 00:28:52,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, I just feel like that's a huge maybe.

595
00:28:53,080 --> 00:28:54,960
Speaker 4: I I think when I was younger, I would do

596
00:28:55,000 --> 00:28:56,720
Speaker 4: something like that, But when you get older and you

597
00:28:56,760 --> 00:28:58,760
Speaker 4: have friends in community and a life and the da

598
00:28:58,840 --> 00:29:01,920
Speaker 4: da da, it's a it feels like a bigger ask.

599
00:29:02,240 --> 00:29:05,360
Speaker 1: And back then, like podcasting wasn't as big, the radio

600
00:29:05,360 --> 00:29:08,880
Speaker 1: show wasn't as syndicated now. I think we're on and Raleigh.

601
00:29:08,960 --> 00:29:12,120
Speaker 1: But the time that I moved there and was recording

602
00:29:12,160 --> 00:29:15,400
Speaker 1: out of my house, we weren't on air near there,

603
00:29:15,560 --> 00:29:18,240
Speaker 1: and people weren't aware of what we did. Well, I

604
00:29:18,240 --> 00:29:19,880
Speaker 1: don't care if they knew who I was. It was

605
00:29:19,920 --> 00:29:22,200
Speaker 1: more so like what do you do? And I was like, oh,

606
00:29:22,600 --> 00:29:25,360
Speaker 1: I'm part of a radio show, but it's in you know, Austin.

607
00:29:25,600 --> 00:29:28,520
Speaker 1: They just knew I'm like recording out of my garage

608
00:29:28,680 --> 00:29:31,360
Speaker 1: or up in my attic every day, and so they

609
00:29:31,360 --> 00:29:33,080
Speaker 1: would be trying to explain to people and they're like,

610
00:29:33,160 --> 00:29:36,920
Speaker 1: I don't know she she records herself in her attic

611
00:29:36,960 --> 00:29:38,520
Speaker 1: every day. We don't know who she's talking to. And

612
00:29:38,560 --> 00:29:40,360
Speaker 1: I'm like, no, no, no, it's like a legit, real job,

613
00:29:40,960 --> 00:29:44,440
Speaker 1: like I'm I'm on air. Sure yeah, sure. That's when

614
00:29:44,440 --> 00:29:46,560
Speaker 1: we were popped though we weren't country, so the show

615
00:29:46,680 --> 00:29:51,000
Speaker 1: was hadn't hadn't grown the way and that it did

616
00:29:51,040 --> 00:29:53,800
Speaker 1: after we moved to Nashville. Anyway, back to the hobbies,

617
00:29:54,240 --> 00:29:57,480
Speaker 1: you've got one more category after connection. We were sorry,

618
00:29:58,600 --> 00:30:01,920
Speaker 1: we've only hit four spand would be the fifth category.

619
00:30:02,760 --> 00:30:07,160
Speaker 1: So think of expanding your mind, like learning, so that

620
00:30:07,200 --> 00:30:13,040
Speaker 1: would be reading, studying, learning a language, writing podcasts, small

621
00:30:13,080 --> 00:30:14,200
Speaker 1: little daily deposits.

622
00:30:14,200 --> 00:30:17,080
Speaker 4: Okay, So guys, if you're struggling with like, I don't

623
00:30:17,080 --> 00:30:20,360
Speaker 4: know this, just maybe have a memory. But if you're

624
00:30:20,400 --> 00:30:24,360
Speaker 4: struggling to find things to do, hobbies, whatever you do,

625
00:30:24,760 --> 00:30:25,080
Speaker 4: you do.

626
00:30:25,240 --> 00:30:26,880
Speaker 3: All of these people do this stuff.

627
00:30:26,880 --> 00:30:29,080
Speaker 1: Well, if you're listening to us right now, you're doing

628
00:30:29,080 --> 00:30:29,520
Speaker 1: your hobby.

629
00:30:29,600 --> 00:30:34,800
Speaker 4: Yeah, we're expanding your mind. You were learning, so okay.

630
00:30:35,080 --> 00:30:39,440
Speaker 4: One time I was at a wedding with Patrick. Was

631
00:30:39,440 --> 00:30:42,840
Speaker 4: my first time going somewhere with his family, and we

632
00:30:42,840 --> 00:30:45,560
Speaker 4: were sitting at the wedding was lovely.

633
00:30:45,560 --> 00:30:46,240
Speaker 3: I had a great time.

634
00:30:46,480 --> 00:30:50,240
Speaker 4: We were sitting at our table, our signed table, and

635
00:30:50,280 --> 00:30:53,360
Speaker 4: I was sitting next to like, I don't know who

636
00:30:53,400 --> 00:30:55,960
Speaker 4: it was, like what it was his family, but he

637
00:30:56,120 --> 00:30:58,640
Speaker 4: was asking me. He asked me, like, what do I

638
00:30:58,760 --> 00:31:02,680
Speaker 4: like to do, or like what do I do outside

639
00:31:02,680 --> 00:31:04,680
Speaker 4: of work or something like that, and I just was

640
00:31:04,720 --> 00:31:08,360
Speaker 4: like well, and I was like thinking, you know, I

641
00:31:08,400 --> 00:31:10,840
Speaker 4: hate when people ask that question. I think everybody hates

642
00:31:10,880 --> 00:31:13,520
Speaker 4: that question. I was getting to my answer and he

643
00:31:13,640 --> 00:31:16,240
Speaker 4: just goes, well, you're great to talk to, or he

644
00:31:16,280 --> 00:31:19,120
Speaker 4: said like, well you're a great conversationalist or something like that,

645
00:31:19,360 --> 00:31:22,840
Speaker 4: and I was just like, I think Patrick stepped in

646
00:31:22,880 --> 00:31:25,520
Speaker 4: because I was like, I'm trying to have a conversation

647
00:31:25,600 --> 00:31:25,960
Speaker 4: with you.

648
00:31:26,240 --> 00:31:28,280
Speaker 3: He justid he told me that I was boring, and

649
00:31:28,320 --> 00:31:31,040
Speaker 3: I was like, okay, I say to you too cool.

650
00:31:31,320 --> 00:31:32,120
Speaker 3: I love your family.

651
00:31:33,040 --> 00:31:35,920
Speaker 1: Well, now you can have out of the gate be like, well,

652
00:31:35,960 --> 00:31:38,400
Speaker 1: I really try to handle the five categories for all

653
00:31:38,480 --> 00:31:43,239
Speaker 1: the hobbies. Yeah, so you know, for example, and then

654
00:31:43,280 --> 00:31:45,080
Speaker 1: you list the categories.

655
00:31:44,920 --> 00:31:47,000
Speaker 3: And then I'll say, so, give me what you do

656
00:31:47,040 --> 00:31:47,640
Speaker 3: in each category?

657
00:31:47,720 --> 00:31:49,280
Speaker 1: Yeah, like what do you do for why? Just what

658
00:31:49,280 --> 00:31:50,320
Speaker 1: do you do creative?

659
00:31:50,480 --> 00:31:55,560
Speaker 4: I ever say to somebody like, oh, you're bad at conversation, I.

660
00:31:55,480 --> 00:31:59,880
Speaker 1: Would say I think I was more so like I

661
00:32:00,280 --> 00:32:03,200
Speaker 1: don't know if it was trying to be funny, but

662
00:32:03,240 --> 00:32:05,000
Speaker 1: when you're not you're the outsider.

663
00:32:05,160 --> 00:32:06,080
Speaker 3: I'm not part of the same.

664
00:32:06,120 --> 00:32:10,400
Speaker 4: I don't know these people anyway, obviously it's still bothering me.

665
00:32:10,560 --> 00:32:12,000
Speaker 1: I hate funny flops.

666
00:32:12,600 --> 00:32:13,880
Speaker 3: Does that happen to you a lot?

667
00:32:13,960 --> 00:32:15,360
Speaker 1: Well, I think it's happened to all of us, where

668
00:32:15,400 --> 00:32:17,800
Speaker 1: you feel like you're saying something kind of funny or

669
00:32:17,840 --> 00:32:20,720
Speaker 1: sarcastic that's going to hit and it's and then it's

670
00:32:20,760 --> 00:32:24,600
Speaker 1: like oh when it comes across his h and then

671
00:32:24,600 --> 00:32:28,200
Speaker 1: you're like, well, dang, yeah, not what I needed. So

672
00:32:28,240 --> 00:32:29,200
Speaker 1: what were y'all at a wedding?

673
00:32:30,200 --> 00:32:31,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, at dinner.

674
00:32:31,800 --> 00:32:34,239
Speaker 1: And anytime I think of like you and Patrick at

675
00:32:34,240 --> 00:32:37,440
Speaker 1: a wedding, it makes me think of me at your

676
00:32:37,600 --> 00:32:41,920
Speaker 1: rehearsal dinner or your wedding, because y'all's wedding was so fun.

677
00:32:43,120 --> 00:32:46,120
Speaker 1: And how I took a random date to your.

678
00:32:46,160 --> 00:32:49,200
Speaker 3: I really wish you would have brought to the wedding.

679
00:32:49,320 --> 00:32:51,080
Speaker 1: I know, I think the wedding would have been a

680
00:32:51,080 --> 00:32:53,000
Speaker 1: little bit too much. And he wasn't random. It was

681
00:32:53,040 --> 00:32:55,400
Speaker 1: just our second date ever, and I met him on

682
00:32:55,480 --> 00:32:56,760
Speaker 1: pitch random.

683
00:32:56,920 --> 00:32:59,120
Speaker 3: It was just the second time we hung out.

684
00:32:59,800 --> 00:33:02,840
Speaker 1: And it was at your rehearsal dinner, and I had

685
00:33:02,840 --> 00:33:05,000
Speaker 1: to give like a little speech, and so then I

686
00:33:05,200 --> 00:33:08,760
Speaker 1: said from the speech. I'm like, everybody, could we give

687
00:33:08,760 --> 00:33:11,480
Speaker 1: around the clause? Because Kat and Patrick met on hinge

688
00:33:11,520 --> 00:33:13,240
Speaker 1: and I'm here with my Hinge date and this is

689
00:33:13,280 --> 00:33:17,760
Speaker 1: our second date. If that would have worked out, it

690
00:33:17,840 --> 00:33:20,040
Speaker 1: felt like a little romk oh good. Yeah, yeah, like

691
00:33:20,080 --> 00:33:21,720
Speaker 1: a cute moment. But it didn't work out.

692
00:33:21,800 --> 00:33:24,240
Speaker 3: And my friends asked about him this past weekend.

693
00:33:24,320 --> 00:33:24,760
Speaker 1: Oh really.

694
00:33:25,160 --> 00:33:27,680
Speaker 4: They were like, what happened to the guy that Amy

695
00:33:27,680 --> 00:33:29,520
Speaker 4: brought to your rehearsal dinner? And I was like, oh,

696
00:33:30,160 --> 00:33:32,880
Speaker 4: let me tell you. But they were like, he was

697
00:33:32,960 --> 00:33:35,720
Speaker 4: so nice, he is so cute, and he is cute,

698
00:33:36,280 --> 00:33:38,640
Speaker 4: and they're like, I wonder if like because they were

699
00:33:38,640 --> 00:33:42,040
Speaker 4: trying to they were talking about trying to set up

700
00:33:42,080 --> 00:33:45,960
Speaker 4: another friend in the same age range, I think, And

701
00:33:46,040 --> 00:33:47,640
Speaker 4: I was like, I don't know if he's looking for

702
00:33:47,680 --> 00:33:49,720
Speaker 4: what your friend is looking for, so but.

703
00:33:49,920 --> 00:33:52,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, like I think he's just looking a hangang.

704
00:33:52,720 --> 00:33:54,440
Speaker 3: He's looking to come to rehearsal dinners.

705
00:33:54,560 --> 00:33:55,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, he's down for that.

706
00:33:55,800 --> 00:33:58,400
Speaker 3: He was such a good sport. Yeah I would do

707
00:33:58,480 --> 00:33:59,280
Speaker 3: that too. Probably.

708
00:33:59,560 --> 00:34:01,880
Speaker 4: Well, what I if somebody asked me on a second

709
00:34:01,960 --> 00:34:03,880
Speaker 4: date to go to rehearsal dinner, what would I think?

710
00:34:05,280 --> 00:34:06,680
Speaker 1: I mean, I think you would be a good sport

711
00:34:06,680 --> 00:34:10,319
Speaker 1: about it. If not, Like, now that I know his personality,

712
00:34:10,440 --> 00:34:14,480
Speaker 1: I totally get sat down. Why you down to do it?

713
00:34:14,560 --> 00:34:16,440
Speaker 3: Yeaheah, that's just like intense.

714
00:34:16,560 --> 00:34:18,399
Speaker 4: You met a lot of people and you didn't even

715
00:34:18,400 --> 00:34:19,600
Speaker 4: know a lot of the people they know.

716
00:34:20,360 --> 00:34:23,560
Speaker 1: Like I think he left there having more conversations with

717
00:34:23,640 --> 00:34:25,960
Speaker 1: people than I did. You know, I saw something that

718
00:34:26,000 --> 00:34:28,879
Speaker 1: they do it in Finland at grocery stores where they've

719
00:34:28,920 --> 00:34:31,120
Speaker 1: got you know, the baskets that are smaller that you

720
00:34:31,120 --> 00:34:31,600
Speaker 1: put on your.

721
00:34:31,600 --> 00:34:33,359
Speaker 3: Arm, grocery basket, well but.

722
00:34:33,320 --> 00:34:36,560
Speaker 1: Not the cart that you push, but like the little okay,

723
00:34:37,960 --> 00:34:42,719
Speaker 1: the little basket, and they have pink ones, and the

724
00:34:42,840 --> 00:34:46,319
Speaker 1: pink ones signify that you're single and you would like

725
00:34:46,400 --> 00:34:49,400
Speaker 1: to meet somebody, so you can go and grab a

726
00:34:49,440 --> 00:34:53,080
Speaker 1: pink basket and then someone may come up and start

727
00:34:53,080 --> 00:34:55,040
Speaker 1: talking to you. And so it's the opportunity for a

728
00:34:55,040 --> 00:34:58,080
Speaker 1: little meat cute at the grocery store and you don't

729
00:34:58,080 --> 00:35:00,279
Speaker 1: have to do the dating app or the awkward you know,

730
00:35:00,719 --> 00:35:03,720
Speaker 1: oh are they wearing a wedding ring? The only problem

731
00:35:03,719 --> 00:35:06,120
Speaker 1: I could see if someone didn't know this and they

732
00:35:06,200 --> 00:35:10,600
Speaker 1: accidentally grabbed a pink basket, not knowing surely they're labeled. Yeah,

733
00:35:10,640 --> 00:35:12,000
Speaker 1: I mean I think there was a sign. But then

734
00:35:12,040 --> 00:35:13,400
Speaker 1: what if you just like see a pink basket and

735
00:35:13,400 --> 00:35:14,840
Speaker 1: you're like, oh, I need a basket real quick, like

736
00:35:14,840 --> 00:35:19,080
Speaker 1: I'll grab that, and then you're married. So I just thought, well,

737
00:35:19,120 --> 00:35:23,480
Speaker 1: look at Finland getting creative and helping out their communities.

738
00:35:23,840 --> 00:35:24,920
Speaker 3: Would you do that?

739
00:35:26,000 --> 00:35:29,480
Speaker 4: I mean maybe because this is my this is where

740
00:35:29,520 --> 00:35:31,000
Speaker 4: my thought process went.

741
00:35:31,600 --> 00:35:33,680
Speaker 3: Maybe this was is my own trauma.

742
00:35:33,760 --> 00:35:37,000
Speaker 4: But I was like, well, how many times would I

743
00:35:37,080 --> 00:35:39,400
Speaker 4: let myself pick the pink basket and then not get

744
00:35:39,880 --> 00:35:40,360
Speaker 4: spoken to.

745
00:35:40,480 --> 00:35:44,239
Speaker 1: They're like, you're here a lot. She keeps walking around

746
00:35:44,280 --> 00:35:45,880
Speaker 1: the store with that pink basket.

747
00:35:46,120 --> 00:35:49,000
Speaker 4: But it's more so like, okay, I've I've done this

748
00:35:49,320 --> 00:35:52,000
Speaker 4: fifteen times. Nobody's ever asked me out. Should I just

749
00:35:52,239 --> 00:35:56,040
Speaker 4: stop signifying, Hey, everybody, I'm single, talk to me, because

750
00:35:56,040 --> 00:35:58,959
Speaker 4: if you pick the pink basket, you're saying I want

751
00:35:59,000 --> 00:36:02,320
Speaker 4: somebody to talk to me. Like that is pretty vulnerable.

752
00:36:02,920 --> 00:36:06,839
Speaker 4: I think, yeah, Versus it's a law and they're like,

753
00:36:06,840 --> 00:36:08,880
Speaker 4: if you're single, you must use the pink basket.

754
00:36:08,920 --> 00:36:12,360
Speaker 3: Then I would feel I wish I would rather. I

755
00:36:12,400 --> 00:36:15,840
Speaker 3: don't want them. I don't want them to That seems

756
00:36:15,960 --> 00:36:17,120
Speaker 3: very bad.

757
00:36:17,400 --> 00:36:20,040
Speaker 4: And I kind of would like it because if it

758
00:36:20,080 --> 00:36:22,319
Speaker 4: was the law, then it takes out the vulnerability and

759
00:36:22,360 --> 00:36:24,360
Speaker 4: it's just like, well, I have to have the pink basket,

760
00:36:24,600 --> 00:36:27,040
Speaker 4: so I'm not really putting myself out there, but I

761
00:36:27,080 --> 00:36:32,440
Speaker 4: am by law versus if it's just by choice, then

762
00:36:32,520 --> 00:36:35,520
Speaker 4: you're saying, I want somebody to talk to me. Then

763
00:36:35,719 --> 00:36:38,799
Speaker 4: if somebody doesn't, it's kind of like want want why

764
00:36:39,160 --> 00:36:40,160
Speaker 4: I'm trying.

765
00:36:39,840 --> 00:36:43,319
Speaker 3: Nobody, you know what I mean. That's a little bit

766
00:36:43,320 --> 00:36:43,880
Speaker 3: of my brain.

767
00:36:44,160 --> 00:36:46,120
Speaker 1: Two relationship things have popped into my head while we're

768
00:36:46,120 --> 00:36:48,439
Speaker 1: talking about this one. I am listening to a book

769
00:36:48,440 --> 00:36:50,000
Speaker 1: called Yours Truly right now, and it.

770
00:36:50,000 --> 00:36:50,720
Speaker 3: Is so cute.

771
00:36:50,760 --> 00:36:54,040
Speaker 1: Speaking of cute little relationship things, if you were looking

772
00:36:54,080 --> 00:36:58,400
Speaker 1: for something to download on audible or even if I

773
00:36:58,440 --> 00:37:00,879
Speaker 1: have the physical copy too, because I and I read.

774
00:37:01,840 --> 00:37:04,040
Speaker 1: But I was explaining this to Kat earlier when I

775
00:37:04,160 --> 00:37:06,279
Speaker 1: because you're always looking for something to listen to and

776
00:37:06,320 --> 00:37:08,879
Speaker 1: read too, and this one is just so stink and cute.

777
00:37:08,920 --> 00:37:11,439
Speaker 1: And I love that the narrators they have a girl

778
00:37:11,520 --> 00:37:14,520
Speaker 1: narrator for her part and a guy narrator because sometimes

779
00:37:14,560 --> 00:37:16,640
Speaker 1: the actor will do both voices and you're like.

780
00:37:17,160 --> 00:37:18,960
Speaker 3: That's what I'm experiencing right now.

781
00:37:19,000 --> 00:37:21,160
Speaker 1: She's trying a big man and she talks like this,

782
00:37:21,280 --> 00:37:23,080
Speaker 1: and then it's just like gives weird vibes.

783
00:37:23,360 --> 00:37:23,520
Speaker 5: This.

784
00:37:23,760 --> 00:37:26,799
Speaker 1: The actors are so good in the are they called

785
00:37:26,840 --> 00:37:31,799
Speaker 1: actors or voice actors? They are so good and I

786
00:37:31,840 --> 00:37:34,560
Speaker 1: want this situation. They are doctors though, and I'm not

787
00:37:34,600 --> 00:37:35,120
Speaker 1: a doctor.

788
00:37:35,520 --> 00:37:36,160
Speaker 3: How did they meet?

789
00:37:36,760 --> 00:37:39,360
Speaker 1: They're doctors. I don't want to give anything away. Oh okay,

790
00:37:39,640 --> 00:37:42,279
Speaker 1: but they have lunch in the supply closet, and I'm like,

791
00:37:42,360 --> 00:37:43,440
Speaker 1: I want to have lunch in this.

792
00:37:43,520 --> 00:37:45,520
Speaker 3: So it's not a break or are they doing other

793
00:37:45,520 --> 00:37:46,239
Speaker 3: things in the No.

794
00:37:46,400 --> 00:37:48,799
Speaker 1: They're just having lunch. But you'll see when you get

795
00:37:48,800 --> 00:37:50,840
Speaker 1: to know the characters' personalities. I really want you to

796
00:37:50,880 --> 00:37:53,560
Speaker 1: listen to it or read it. It's such a cute

797
00:37:53,800 --> 00:37:56,960
Speaker 1: book that came to mind because it's relationship related. Also,

798
00:37:57,360 --> 00:38:00,520
Speaker 1: my friend is in a situation right now where she

799
00:38:01,480 --> 00:38:04,439
Speaker 1: has been hanging out with this guy a little bit,

800
00:38:04,600 --> 00:38:08,080
Speaker 1: but she feels as though she's been really clear about

801
00:38:08,280 --> 00:38:13,759
Speaker 1: expectations and he still texts her all the time. And

802
00:38:13,800 --> 00:38:15,520
Speaker 1: she showed me her phone the other day. She goes,

803
00:38:15,960 --> 00:38:18,279
Speaker 1: how many times did you text someone? Before you just

804
00:38:18,680 --> 00:38:20,480
Speaker 1: chill out on it and they're not replying.

805
00:38:20,719 --> 00:38:22,799
Speaker 3: She's not wanting this, she.

806
00:38:23,040 --> 00:38:26,480
Speaker 1: Doesn't want anything. She's fine with just being friends. He

807
00:38:26,520 --> 00:38:31,600
Speaker 1: clearly wants just friends, just friends, okay, And they're in

808
00:38:31,640 --> 00:38:34,440
Speaker 1: each other's lives for various reasons. But she just wants

809
00:38:34,480 --> 00:38:37,239
Speaker 1: to like keep it cool and like if they want

810
00:38:37,239 --> 00:38:39,319
Speaker 1: to hang out every once in a while or just

811
00:38:39,440 --> 00:38:42,840
Speaker 1: as their kids want to play whatever, just as friends.

812
00:38:43,080 --> 00:38:45,680
Speaker 1: She doesn't want anything more. Why do you keep clarifying.

813
00:38:45,320 --> 00:38:47,600
Speaker 4: Because you're saying like, she's cool if they hang out.

814
00:38:47,680 --> 00:38:50,239
Speaker 4: It's like, well, if they started dating and now she's like,

815
00:38:50,280 --> 00:38:52,239
Speaker 4: I'm cool to hang out, is he going to think

816
00:38:52,280 --> 00:38:54,799
Speaker 4: like you want a casual relationship or.

817
00:38:54,760 --> 00:38:57,080
Speaker 1: You just okay, well, let's not muddy the water with

818
00:38:57,120 --> 00:39:00,960
Speaker 1: all that. It's really the how many times do you

819
00:39:01,000 --> 00:39:04,520
Speaker 1: think someone will text without getting response and they just

820
00:39:04,640 --> 00:39:07,160
Speaker 1: keep bringing the same text, which just kind of makes

821
00:39:07,200 --> 00:39:10,080
Speaker 1: me think of hinge day guy that I brought to

822
00:39:10,120 --> 00:39:12,719
Speaker 1: your rehearsal under like some guys are just like whatever.

823
00:39:13,200 --> 00:39:16,239
Speaker 1: But she showed me her phone and he had texted her,

824
00:39:16,280 --> 00:39:19,000
Speaker 1: and this is Day's worth like multiple times in a row,

825
00:39:19,160 --> 00:39:23,799
Speaker 1: just things like you know, just did the laundry or

826
00:39:23,880 --> 00:39:28,759
Speaker 1: like drive, you know, driving, wow, this weather, you know,

827
00:39:28,920 --> 00:39:32,120
Speaker 1: just but but she's not engaging at all. But then

828
00:39:32,239 --> 00:39:35,279
Speaker 1: twelve hours later he'll be like, wow, I'm tired, you know,

829
00:39:35,600 --> 00:39:39,760
Speaker 1: like be little just he's trying to tea. He's trying

830
00:39:39,840 --> 00:39:43,759
Speaker 1: to connect and she's not responding, and she's like, at

831
00:39:43,760 --> 00:39:46,840
Speaker 1: what point is he gonna get the hint? And then

832
00:39:46,880 --> 00:39:49,040
Speaker 1: eventually she feels like she has to respond, so this

833
00:39:49,120 --> 00:39:51,319
Speaker 1: is weird, but she does a very platonic answer, and

834
00:39:51,320 --> 00:39:53,800
Speaker 1: she'll engage with one thing, but then the cycle starts

835
00:39:53,800 --> 00:39:56,680
Speaker 1: back up to where it's multiple texts where she's not responding,

836
00:39:56,960 --> 00:39:57,800
Speaker 1: and then she'll.

837
00:39:57,600 --> 00:40:01,920
Speaker 3: Reply and then already said I just want to be friends.

838
00:40:01,719 --> 00:40:05,600
Speaker 1: Yes, and so maybe this is his way of being friends,

839
00:40:06,200 --> 00:40:08,360
Speaker 1: but she could tell he definitely wants more. So I

840
00:40:08,400 --> 00:40:11,279
Speaker 1: was just curious of like, at what point does he

841
00:40:11,320 --> 00:40:13,560
Speaker 1: get the hint of, like maybe I should stop texting

842
00:40:14,360 --> 00:40:19,600
Speaker 1: this person right because he's still hitting her up.

843
00:40:20,920 --> 00:40:24,520
Speaker 4: So I would think that a triple text, I mean

844
00:40:25,680 --> 00:40:30,040
Speaker 4: right now, triple text to me is really putting yourself

845
00:40:30,040 --> 00:40:33,800
Speaker 4: out there depending on what the texts say, like sometimes

846
00:40:33,800 --> 00:40:36,680
Speaker 4: it is appropriate to text. I mean, I'm saying this

847
00:40:36,719 --> 00:40:38,680
Speaker 4: for myself, because sometimes I look at my text and

848
00:40:38,680 --> 00:40:44,439
Speaker 4: it's like Catherine, Catherine, Cather Catherine five is a lot,

849
00:40:44,640 --> 00:40:48,880
Speaker 4: especially if somebody has said I'm not interested.

850
00:40:48,480 --> 00:40:50,520
Speaker 3: In you in this way.

851
00:40:50,719 --> 00:40:53,919
Speaker 4: My grace for him is what you said. Maybe he

852
00:40:54,040 --> 00:40:57,360
Speaker 4: is just trying to be normal and like he's trying

853
00:40:57,360 --> 00:41:01,600
Speaker 4: to like build a pultonic friendship with her, and these

854
00:41:01,640 --> 00:41:04,839
Speaker 4: sound like platonic texts like watching my car.

855
00:41:04,880 --> 00:41:07,080
Speaker 3: It's not like yeah, no.

856
00:41:08,719 --> 00:41:11,040
Speaker 4: So maybe he's trying to do that and he just

857
00:41:11,160 --> 00:41:17,720
Speaker 4: doesn't realize how it's coming off. So she's not asking

858
00:41:17,719 --> 00:41:19,839
Speaker 4: for my advice, but my advice would be to just

859
00:41:19,840 --> 00:41:21,880
Speaker 4: like what she's like, every once in a while, respond,

860
00:41:21,920 --> 00:41:24,040
Speaker 4: but don't continuously feed that.

861
00:41:25,120 --> 00:41:29,320
Speaker 3: But also if there's something that you want to respond to,

862
00:41:29,320 --> 00:41:29,960
Speaker 3: respond to that.

863
00:41:41,440 --> 00:41:43,080
Speaker 1: I looked at a guy on LinkedIn the other day

864
00:41:43,880 --> 00:41:45,239
Speaker 1: and I was like, do people do this?

865
00:41:46,000 --> 00:41:47,640
Speaker 3: Is this a guy? Is this a potential suitor?

866
00:41:48,040 --> 00:41:51,279
Speaker 1: I mean it was something that I heard from something. No,

867
00:41:51,360 --> 00:41:56,160
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm not, it's just a curiosity thing. But

868
00:41:57,239 --> 00:41:59,120
Speaker 1: and so then I'm like, do people look at people

869
00:41:59,120 --> 00:42:01,480
Speaker 1: and linked And it is a thing, but.

870
00:42:01,440 --> 00:42:03,239
Speaker 4: You got to be careful because they can see that

871
00:42:03,320 --> 00:42:04,840
Speaker 4: you look at them.

872
00:42:04,960 --> 00:42:07,920
Speaker 1: Well, here's the thing. I don't have a LinkedIn account,

873
00:42:07,960 --> 00:42:11,719
Speaker 1: and sometimes I'm able to look only so far. I

874
00:42:11,760 --> 00:42:16,200
Speaker 1: can't see everything. And here what's weird is maybe you

875
00:42:16,239 --> 00:42:19,760
Speaker 1: only get so many of those per month, per month,

876
00:42:20,440 --> 00:42:22,399
Speaker 1: because sometimes I'm able to look, and then other times

877
00:42:22,400 --> 00:42:24,600
Speaker 1: it's like you need an account and I'm like, well,

878
00:42:24,600 --> 00:42:26,759
Speaker 1: why was I able to see the other day?

879
00:42:27,000 --> 00:42:28,920
Speaker 3: So what did you find anything interesting?

880
00:42:29,080 --> 00:42:33,440
Speaker 1: Well, I just liked looking at previous work how long

881
00:42:34,160 --> 00:42:37,640
Speaker 1: he was staying at the jobs, and then with the

882
00:42:37,719 --> 00:42:42,200
Speaker 1: job title, I google, well, okay, well so I wonder

883
00:42:42,200 --> 00:42:45,880
Speaker 1: what they make. And then I'm just getting nosy. Yeah,

884
00:42:45,920 --> 00:42:48,240
Speaker 1: And not that matters because I take care of myself,

885
00:42:48,280 --> 00:42:49,840
Speaker 1: but I'm just curious.

886
00:42:49,960 --> 00:42:53,560
Speaker 4: People definitely do that because people it's I recommend this

887
00:42:53,680 --> 00:42:57,360
Speaker 4: if you're especially online dating or dating. This is a

888
00:42:57,480 --> 00:43:01,440
Speaker 4: date that you don't have a mutual connection where somebody

889
00:43:01,440 --> 00:43:04,279
Speaker 4: can say this is a safe normal person. You need

890
00:43:04,320 --> 00:43:06,640
Speaker 4: to google these people. And when you google them, most

891
00:43:06,680 --> 00:43:07,799
Speaker 4: of the time, when of the first things that comes

892
00:43:07,880 --> 00:43:08,200
Speaker 4: up is.

893
00:43:08,120 --> 00:43:09,319
Speaker 1: There like LinkedIn pops up.

894
00:43:09,640 --> 00:43:12,240
Speaker 4: That's would I never did that because I was always

895
00:43:12,280 --> 00:43:14,040
Speaker 4: afraid they would see that I looked at them.

896
00:43:14,840 --> 00:43:17,239
Speaker 1: Yeah, but you have a LinkedIn. See I don't, but.

897
00:43:17,200 --> 00:43:19,720
Speaker 4: I haven't gotten on my LinkedIn. I made my LinkedIn

898
00:43:19,719 --> 00:43:21,200
Speaker 4: in grad school and I've never used it.

899
00:43:21,239 --> 00:43:22,920
Speaker 1: I mean, why would I would I need? Do I

900
00:43:22,960 --> 00:43:29,160
Speaker 1: need a LinkedIn? Like? Maybe once I come a when

901
00:43:29,160 --> 00:43:31,880
Speaker 1: I finish my key No, not motivation.

902
00:43:31,880 --> 00:43:33,960
Speaker 3: A keynote, sorry, a keynote speaker.

903
00:43:34,120 --> 00:43:37,960
Speaker 1: Once I finish, which I'm I'm almost done with my speech,

904
00:43:38,719 --> 00:43:42,520
Speaker 1: then maybe I need to build a LinkedIn just for

905
00:43:42,640 --> 00:43:47,360
Speaker 1: my credibility. Okay, I found the survey. I found that

906
00:43:47,400 --> 00:43:51,080
Speaker 1: one in eight people have started a romantic relationship through LinkedIn,

907
00:43:51,280 --> 00:43:54,040
Speaker 1: while one in five have used the platform to check

908
00:43:54,080 --> 00:43:57,359
Speaker 1: out a potential partner. Nearly half of respondents also said

909
00:43:57,400 --> 00:44:01,279
Speaker 1: LinkedIn profiles feel more trustworthy than dating app profiles.

910
00:44:01,400 --> 00:44:04,120
Speaker 4: They that's actually, I mean, it's their professional life. But

911
00:44:04,239 --> 00:44:09,399
Speaker 4: like you can't lie on there, because you can say

912
00:44:09,440 --> 00:44:12,440
Speaker 4: anything about yourself on your dating app, but on your

913
00:44:12,480 --> 00:44:14,600
Speaker 4: LinkedIn you can't lie, like if this is your job

914
00:44:14,719 --> 00:44:17,120
Speaker 4: or I mean, I guess you could lie, but I

915
00:44:17,160 --> 00:44:18,120
Speaker 4: feel like you're less likely to.

916
00:44:18,360 --> 00:44:21,800
Speaker 3: I one time thought somebody was asking me out on LinkedIn.

917
00:44:23,160 --> 00:44:23,880
Speaker 1: Of what happened?

918
00:44:24,640 --> 00:44:29,960
Speaker 3: They just were networking? Oh yeah, but hey, guy did

919
00:44:29,960 --> 00:44:30,799
Speaker 3: you say, was it a guy?

920
00:44:30,880 --> 00:44:31,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, a girl could ask you.

921
00:44:32,040 --> 00:44:33,000
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, it was a guy.

922
00:44:33,160 --> 00:44:34,280
Speaker 1: I mean, you wouldn't be interesting.

923
00:44:34,280 --> 00:44:36,560
Speaker 4: I probably would't have gone. I probably would have gone

924
00:44:36,600 --> 00:44:37,680
Speaker 4: with the girl, but I would have known it was

925
00:44:37,800 --> 00:44:43,000
Speaker 4: for networking. But I was like, oh interesting, crazy this

926
00:44:43,080 --> 00:44:45,239
Speaker 4: guy found me on here, you know.

927
00:44:45,239 --> 00:44:47,080
Speaker 1: Like stop stalking me. He's like, look, I was trying

928
00:44:47,080 --> 00:44:48,240
Speaker 1: to invite you to a mixer.

929
00:44:48,600 --> 00:44:49,759
Speaker 4: And then I think he wanted to be like my

930
00:44:49,760 --> 00:44:54,880
Speaker 4: financial advisor or something, which my financial advisor is somebody

931
00:44:54,920 --> 00:44:58,319
Speaker 4: I want to dated. So full circle, but you got

932
00:44:58,760 --> 00:45:00,680
Speaker 4: you gotta be careful. They're not always asking you.

933
00:45:01,560 --> 00:45:05,520
Speaker 1: Yeah. Oh, they just want to manage my feeling really

934
00:45:05,560 --> 00:45:06,440
Speaker 1: good about myself.

935
00:45:06,440 --> 00:45:10,080
Speaker 4: I guess I've done a lot of background checks on people, though,

936
00:45:10,280 --> 00:45:14,480
Speaker 4: were you like pay the money and some for good reason?

937
00:45:15,520 --> 00:45:16,320
Speaker 3: One had a felony.

938
00:45:17,560 --> 00:45:18,680
Speaker 1: Yeah that's good to know.

939
00:45:18,840 --> 00:45:19,760
Speaker 3: Yeah.

940
00:45:19,840 --> 00:45:22,640
Speaker 1: I did the only background check, which my friend did it.

941
00:45:22,680 --> 00:45:26,120
Speaker 1: I didn't do it. I think that I've done maybe

942
00:45:26,440 --> 00:45:28,520
Speaker 1: maybe we did more, but this one is the only

943
00:45:28,520 --> 00:45:30,360
Speaker 1: one I remember. Was a really weird email that I

944
00:45:30,360 --> 00:45:33,240
Speaker 1: got from one of my neighbors about me. It was really,

945
00:45:33,280 --> 00:45:36,960
Speaker 1: really weird, and we just tried to look up stuff

946
00:45:37,040 --> 00:45:40,319
Speaker 1: about them, and then it showed on the record that

947
00:45:40,360 --> 00:45:43,000
Speaker 1: they had DUI's and I'm like, okay, this tracks. I

948
00:45:43,040 --> 00:45:47,680
Speaker 1: think maybe they drink like weird, Like was it? No?

949
00:45:47,880 --> 00:45:50,040
Speaker 1: It was just a not nice email about me and

950
00:45:50,080 --> 00:45:52,440
Speaker 1: I didn't even know them, but they were judging me

951
00:45:52,600 --> 00:45:55,000
Speaker 1: and my encounters with them, like when I would walk

952
00:45:55,040 --> 00:45:57,600
Speaker 1: my dog, if I would say hi or not, and

953
00:45:57,640 --> 00:46:00,160
Speaker 1: then they sent me it was just a really not

954
00:46:00,160 --> 00:46:05,080
Speaker 1: a nice email. But it was sent at almost midnight,

955
00:46:05,160 --> 00:46:09,560
Speaker 1: so sipping the sauce, you know, like the background check

956
00:46:09,600 --> 00:46:11,879
Speaker 1: gave me info. I think through the background track. Oh,

957
00:46:12,040 --> 00:46:13,520
Speaker 1: this is what I was trying to figure out. Why

958
00:46:13,560 --> 00:46:16,920
Speaker 1: we did the background check is because she just signed

959
00:46:16,960 --> 00:46:19,680
Speaker 1: that she lived on my street, but I didn't know

960
00:46:19,680 --> 00:46:23,400
Speaker 1: which address, so we just ran a bunch of stuff

961
00:46:23,400 --> 00:46:25,719
Speaker 1: to figure out exactly which home she was in, so

962
00:46:25,760 --> 00:46:27,799
Speaker 1: that now I know not to walk that way at all.

963
00:46:27,840 --> 00:46:30,239
Speaker 3: Ever. Did you ever see this person after and were

964
00:46:30,280 --> 00:46:30,839
Speaker 3: you like Hi?

965
00:46:31,880 --> 00:46:31,960
Speaker 2: No?

966
00:46:32,200 --> 00:46:34,720
Speaker 1: I think I just started trying to wave more to anybody.

967
00:46:34,800 --> 00:46:36,600
Speaker 1: She did sign it for all the moms on my street,

968
00:46:36,640 --> 00:46:39,120
Speaker 1: though she represented everybody.

969
00:46:39,239 --> 00:46:41,600
Speaker 3: Yeah wait wait wait wait was this in Texas or

970
00:46:41,640 --> 00:46:47,480
Speaker 3: North Carolina? No, it was here. It was here neighborhood now, Okay.

971
00:46:47,520 --> 00:46:49,440
Speaker 3: I was like, I would have known about this, No, but.

972
00:46:49,520 --> 00:46:52,359
Speaker 1: She signed it. It's like name a street name.

973
00:46:52,440 --> 00:46:55,319
Speaker 3: Just give a street name, John Street, Okay.

974
00:46:55,600 --> 00:46:59,320
Speaker 1: She would be like, she was like, sincerely, the mom's

975
00:46:59,360 --> 00:47:02,720
Speaker 1: of John Street. And I was like, wow, she's signing

976
00:47:02,719 --> 00:47:04,880
Speaker 1: it for the whole and that she'd lived on the

977
00:47:04,880 --> 00:47:05,440
Speaker 1: street forever.

978
00:47:05,800 --> 00:47:07,960
Speaker 4: But did she just say that because she wanted to

979
00:47:08,000 --> 00:47:09,200
Speaker 4: write it and then she didn't want to.

980
00:47:09,200 --> 00:47:11,480
Speaker 1: Just I think if other moms knew she was sending

981
00:47:11,560 --> 00:47:14,160
Speaker 1: that on their behalf, they would have been mortified. Yeah,

982
00:47:14,360 --> 00:47:16,719
Speaker 1: but that's why I did that background check. But I'm like, wow,

983
00:47:16,760 --> 00:47:18,640
Speaker 1: you really can't find out a lot about people. And

984
00:47:18,680 --> 00:47:20,799
Speaker 1: I hope she got help. I mean, if she I

985
00:47:20,840 --> 00:47:23,040
Speaker 1: know people that have gotten DUIs, like, they're good people.

986
00:47:23,120 --> 00:47:25,840
Speaker 1: I'm not saying she's bad. I mean, driving well you

987
00:47:25,960 --> 00:47:29,200
Speaker 1: drink is not smart, but people make stupid mistakes. And

988
00:47:30,680 --> 00:47:32,319
Speaker 1: she had that on a record. But that gave me

989
00:47:32,440 --> 00:47:35,480
Speaker 1: information of like, oh, I need to have grace for

990
00:47:35,480 --> 00:47:38,360
Speaker 1: this email because I think there might be a situation

991
00:47:38,440 --> 00:47:40,640
Speaker 1: having here and I think maybe she was drinking and

992
00:47:40,640 --> 00:47:44,440
Speaker 1: that's why she sent this very bizarre, rude email and

993
00:47:44,480 --> 00:47:49,560
Speaker 1: then signed it for the street. Yeah, but just saying

994
00:47:49,600 --> 00:47:53,799
Speaker 1: that I was unfriendly on my walks, and then.

995
00:47:53,760 --> 00:47:55,400
Speaker 3: I'm sure I'm unfriendly on walks.

996
00:47:55,600 --> 00:47:57,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, I have my earbuds and I got my dog,

997
00:47:57,719 --> 00:47:59,640
Speaker 1: or if I would turn that meant I was going

998
00:48:00,280 --> 00:48:04,440
Speaker 1: that direction. I really was perplexed by it. And then

999
00:48:05,000 --> 00:48:08,439
Speaker 1: she also said, if our kids ever want to get together,

1000
00:48:08,520 --> 00:48:12,680
Speaker 1: let her know. I'm like, sure, okay, I mean I

1001
00:48:12,760 --> 00:48:13,400
Speaker 1: never replied.

1002
00:48:13,840 --> 00:48:15,759
Speaker 3: So this was not that long ago because you had

1003
00:48:15,840 --> 00:48:16,360
Speaker 3: your kids.

1004
00:48:16,520 --> 00:48:19,640
Speaker 1: I had just gotten them. Okay, so it what I mean,

1005
00:48:19,640 --> 00:48:20,719
Speaker 1: I've had my kids now for.

1006
00:48:20,920 --> 00:48:21,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, but it wasn't I was.

1007
00:48:22,360 --> 00:48:26,640
Speaker 1: This was like fens I only lived here thirteen Yeah,

1008
00:48:26,840 --> 00:48:28,400
Speaker 1: so wow.

1009
00:48:28,239 --> 00:48:30,520
Speaker 3: Okay, wow, I would have hurt my feelings a little bit.

1010
00:48:30,920 --> 00:48:34,000
Speaker 1: It definitely did. I still have it in my email.

1011
00:48:34,480 --> 00:48:35,080
Speaker 1: I keep it.

1012
00:48:35,520 --> 00:48:37,480
Speaker 3: Oh maybe one day we'll pull it out in just

1013
00:48:37,520 --> 00:48:38,919
Speaker 3: in case, just in case.

1014
00:48:39,000 --> 00:48:41,839
Speaker 1: What I don't, I don't know. I keep a lot

1015
00:48:41,840 --> 00:48:43,520
Speaker 1: of emails, Like, if I go back, I have emails

1016
00:48:43,520 --> 00:48:44,160
Speaker 1: from my mom.

1017
00:48:44,640 --> 00:48:45,600
Speaker 3: Well, I guess I don't delve.

1018
00:48:45,640 --> 00:48:47,759
Speaker 1: I have emails from when my ex husband I first

1019
00:48:47,760 --> 00:48:51,080
Speaker 1: started emailing, like that's how we communicated because he was

1020
00:48:51,120 --> 00:48:55,320
Speaker 1: overseas and we would send emails and you could totally

1021
00:48:55,360 --> 00:48:59,400
Speaker 1: tell I was turning on the charm. I mean, so cheesy,

1022
00:49:00,080 --> 00:49:03,000
Speaker 1: but I was excited, Like you can see how you

1023
00:49:03,040 --> 00:49:05,440
Speaker 1: act in the early days.

1024
00:49:05,640 --> 00:49:06,320
Speaker 3: I wish cute.

1025
00:49:06,400 --> 00:49:09,479
Speaker 4: Patrick and I were just talking because I had another

1026
00:49:09,560 --> 00:49:13,240
Speaker 4: one of those like Instagram things that's like five questions

1027
00:49:13,239 --> 00:49:14,840
Speaker 4: to ask your partner whatever, and we did it the

1028
00:49:14,920 --> 00:49:19,239
Speaker 4: other night, and one of the questions was, who's the

1029
00:49:19,280 --> 00:49:22,480
Speaker 4: first person that you told how you felt about me?

1030
00:49:22,640 --> 00:49:25,680
Speaker 4: And then one of the questions was something about, like,

1031
00:49:26,840 --> 00:49:28,719
Speaker 4: at what point did you know you were falling from me?

1032
00:49:28,800 --> 00:49:30,040
Speaker 4: Like what did I do that made you know that

1033
00:49:30,080 --> 00:49:31,719
Speaker 4: you were falling from me or something like that, and

1034
00:49:31,760 --> 00:49:35,000
Speaker 4: we both struggled figuring out the answers to those two questions.

1035
00:49:35,040 --> 00:49:36,600
Speaker 3: And we have only.

1036
00:49:36,320 --> 00:49:37,880
Speaker 4: Been together for like four and a half years, so

1037
00:49:37,920 --> 00:49:40,120
Speaker 4: it's not like it's been a ton of time.

1038
00:49:40,520 --> 00:49:42,840
Speaker 3: So we were talking. We wish that we would have

1039
00:49:42,920 --> 00:49:43,719
Speaker 3: both kept.

1040
00:49:43,520 --> 00:49:48,600
Speaker 4: A journal when we were dating, or I guess an

1041
00:49:48,640 --> 00:49:51,719
Speaker 4: email log or something like that. And I always have

1042
00:49:51,880 --> 00:49:53,920
Speaker 4: that thought of it would be really cool if I

1043
00:49:53,920 --> 00:49:55,960
Speaker 4: had a journal and I could look back at this

1044
00:49:56,080 --> 00:49:57,719
Speaker 4: or I could see how I was feeling. But I

1045
00:49:57,800 --> 00:50:00,560
Speaker 4: cannot force myself to do it. If you're listening to

1046
00:50:00,640 --> 00:50:04,520
Speaker 4: this and you have not found your partner, I highly amy,

1047
00:50:05,520 --> 00:50:06,560
Speaker 4: will you journal already?

1048
00:50:07,320 --> 00:50:09,520
Speaker 1: Yeah? But I could do better. That's one of my hobbies.

1049
00:50:09,520 --> 00:50:11,319
Speaker 4: That would be so cool to look back and be

1050
00:50:11,440 --> 00:50:13,720
Speaker 4: Like went to dinner with the girls tonight.

1051
00:50:13,800 --> 00:50:14,640
Speaker 3: We talked about so.

1052
00:50:14,680 --> 00:50:22,200
Speaker 1: And so like with my uh ex boyfriend, my last one. Yeah,

1053
00:50:22,320 --> 00:50:24,480
Speaker 1: I only have one ex boyfriend since my marriage. And

1054
00:50:24,640 --> 00:50:27,279
Speaker 1: he on our like on our second or third date,

1055
00:50:27,320 --> 00:50:29,520
Speaker 1: we wrote some stuff down on receipts because we were

1056
00:50:29,520 --> 00:50:32,160
Speaker 1: getting to know each other and we were writing down

1057
00:50:32,239 --> 00:50:36,400
Speaker 1: the three qualities that we are looking for in a partner.

1058
00:50:37,080 --> 00:50:40,160
Speaker 1: And I kept both of our answers and I have them.

1059
00:50:40,400 --> 00:50:41,439
Speaker 1: I still have it in mind.

1060
00:50:41,480 --> 00:50:43,160
Speaker 3: What are your three qualities that you look for?

1061
00:50:43,360 --> 00:50:44,680
Speaker 1: Well, I have to go back up there and see,

1062
00:50:44,719 --> 00:50:46,279
Speaker 1: because I mean, I have more than three, but I

1063
00:50:46,280 --> 00:50:48,239
Speaker 1: don't know what three I chose. I know that his

1064
00:50:48,360 --> 00:50:51,239
Speaker 1: three he wanted someone that's kind.

1065
00:50:51,880 --> 00:50:53,560
Speaker 3: That lady on your street would not think that.

1066
00:50:53,520 --> 00:50:55,200
Speaker 1: Which I just pulled out that email, by the way,

1067
00:50:55,280 --> 00:50:56,719
Speaker 1: Oh yay to read it.

1068
00:50:56,800 --> 00:51:00,719
Speaker 3: Yes, I will. Okay, Wait, what were the other things

1069
00:51:00,719 --> 00:51:01,359
Speaker 3: he was looking for?

1070
00:51:02,640 --> 00:51:07,440
Speaker 1: Same? Faith? And I can't remember the third m hm, well,

1071
00:51:07,480 --> 00:51:10,040
Speaker 1: this was like almost coming up on two years ago.

1072
00:51:10,120 --> 00:51:11,360
Speaker 3: I think it's fine that you don't remember.

1073
00:51:11,400 --> 00:51:13,520
Speaker 1: I just was like, first I could go get it

1074
00:51:13,520 --> 00:51:16,360
Speaker 1: out on my door and show you. Okay, but I remember.

1075
00:51:16,400 --> 00:51:18,800
Speaker 1: And we went to Henrietta Red. It's on a Henrietta

1076
00:51:18,840 --> 00:51:19,560
Speaker 1: Red receipt.

1077
00:51:19,920 --> 00:51:22,439
Speaker 3: That was your Is that the date that you went

1078
00:51:22,480 --> 00:51:23,919
Speaker 3: and you wore the pink dress?

1079
00:51:25,200 --> 00:51:28,880
Speaker 1: That was the first date and that was that. That

1080
00:51:29,000 --> 00:51:31,279
Speaker 1: was a one name, a one girl named restaurant. Okay,

1081
00:51:31,280 --> 00:51:36,920
Speaker 1: I knew it was like a name now Audrey Audrey. No, no, Aubrey, Hey, Abrey,

1082
00:51:37,000 --> 00:51:39,080
Speaker 1: Hey Anita?

1083
00:51:39,440 --> 00:51:43,719
Speaker 3: Hey, what what's the age? Oh wasn't it wasn't a

1084
00:51:43,920 --> 00:51:47,520
Speaker 3: steak place? No, maybe it was Audrey.

1085
00:51:48,360 --> 00:51:50,520
Speaker 1: I did want to get some pork thing and he

1086
00:51:50,960 --> 00:51:52,960
Speaker 1: made a face and I was like, Okay, guess I'm

1087
00:51:53,000 --> 00:51:55,239
Speaker 1: not getting that. But then I learned with his daughter,

1088
00:51:55,360 --> 00:51:58,400
Speaker 1: his not his daughter, his wife's colon cancer. He just

1089
00:51:58,440 --> 00:52:01,560
Speaker 1: doesn't eat pork and thing pork. So I was like,

1090
00:52:01,600 --> 00:52:04,200
Speaker 1: guess we're not going to get that. I mean, I

1091
00:52:04,239 --> 00:52:07,080
Speaker 1: guess he will occasionally, but it's very rare.

1092
00:52:07,200 --> 00:52:09,839
Speaker 4: But he did he say like that on the first date,

1093
00:52:09,960 --> 00:52:11,440
Speaker 4: like pork is bad for you.

1094
00:52:11,480 --> 00:52:13,520
Speaker 1: No. I didn't learn until later. I just thought, well,

1095
00:52:13,520 --> 00:52:16,040
Speaker 1: that was a weird encounter, Like the server was at

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00:52:16,040 --> 00:52:18,359
Speaker 1: our table ordering and I was like questioning that one,

1097
00:52:18,400 --> 00:52:20,200
Speaker 1: and then his face and then I was like, okay,

1098
00:52:20,239 --> 00:52:21,800
Speaker 1: I guess I'm not going to get the bacon.

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00:52:21,840 --> 00:52:22,879
Speaker 3: Do you remember what you got?

1100
00:52:23,880 --> 00:52:29,160
Speaker 1: I know, I got the Pamena cheese dish there if

1101
00:52:29,200 --> 00:52:31,160
Speaker 1: it's just a thing of Pamena cheese and your dip,

1102
00:52:31,480 --> 00:52:33,279
Speaker 1: well yeah I like cheese.

1103
00:52:33,400 --> 00:52:35,080
Speaker 4: Yeah I know you do, but you don't remember what

1104
00:52:35,080 --> 00:52:36,479
Speaker 4: you got on your first like what meal?

1105
00:52:36,840 --> 00:52:37,840
Speaker 3: That stuff? I remember?

1106
00:52:37,840 --> 00:52:38,960
Speaker 1: See, I should have journaled it.

1107
00:52:39,200 --> 00:52:41,080
Speaker 3: Well, yeah, it's not the most important thing.

1108
00:52:41,280 --> 00:52:43,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, you went the femail. Yes, okay, I read

1109
00:52:43,960 --> 00:52:45,799
Speaker 1: this on the Bobby Bone Show way back too, so

1110
00:52:46,320 --> 00:52:50,600
Speaker 1: well I've never heard Okay, this was years ago?

1111
00:52:51,800 --> 00:52:56,359
Speaker 3: Mm hmm, heymy we sorry? Sorry, what year? Can you see?

1112
00:52:56,360 --> 00:52:57,280
Speaker 1: Twenty nineteen?

1113
00:52:58,719 --> 00:52:59,919
Speaker 3: That long ago? Cat?

1114
00:53:00,480 --> 00:53:02,839
Speaker 1: This was seven over, This is seven and a half

1115
00:53:02,880 --> 00:53:05,359
Speaker 1: years ago. That's a long time.

1116
00:53:05,520 --> 00:53:07,879
Speaker 4: Twenty nineteen does not feel that long ago because that's

1117
00:53:07,880 --> 00:53:08,399
Speaker 4: the year after.

1118
00:53:08,480 --> 00:53:10,520
Speaker 3: This was a pre COVID I know, but that's year

1119
00:53:10,560 --> 00:53:12,840
Speaker 3: before COVID, and COVID seems like two years ago to me.

1120
00:53:13,239 --> 00:53:17,360
Speaker 1: Okay, sorry, but everything before COVID seems like eons ago.

1121
00:53:17,440 --> 00:53:19,440
Speaker 3: Okay, okay, Amy.

1122
00:53:19,200 --> 00:53:22,799
Speaker 1: I listen every morning on my way to work. Love

1123
00:53:22,800 --> 00:53:24,920
Speaker 1: the show. I figured out a while back that you

1124
00:53:24,960 --> 00:53:27,880
Speaker 1: live on my street, as have a few other moms.

1125
00:53:28,239 --> 00:53:30,359
Speaker 1: Believe me when I tell you that when we wave

1126
00:53:30,480 --> 00:53:34,440
Speaker 1: hello as you are walking by our houses with your husband, kids, friends,

1127
00:53:34,520 --> 00:53:36,520
Speaker 1: when we are in the front yard with our kids,

1128
00:53:36,840 --> 00:53:40,160
Speaker 1: we are being neighborhood friendly like we have been for

1129
00:53:40,280 --> 00:53:42,080
Speaker 1: most of the ten to fifteen years. We have all

1130
00:53:42,080 --> 00:53:45,479
Speaker 1: lived here, So when you turn away, ignore and don't

1131
00:53:45,520 --> 00:53:49,480
Speaker 1: return the greeting, it's just rude. We all have kids,

1132
00:53:49,640 --> 00:53:52,160
Speaker 1: and we'd love for your adorable kids to join in

1133
00:53:52,640 --> 00:53:56,279
Speaker 1: with the neighborhood kids anytime. No one cares about your

1134
00:53:56,360 --> 00:54:00,720
Speaker 1: radio celebrity. We are all native Nashvillians and have plenty

1135
00:54:00,760 --> 00:54:04,319
Speaker 1: of celebrity friends. We are a fun We are a

1136
00:54:04,360 --> 00:54:08,120
Speaker 1: fun group of moms who like to drink wine on

1137
00:54:08,160 --> 00:54:11,000
Speaker 1: the porch and have a good time while keeping it real.

1138
00:54:11,880 --> 00:54:15,600
Speaker 1: Even if you're not interested or give zero cares, returning

1139
00:54:15,640 --> 00:54:24,080
Speaker 1: away or hello is just polite. Sincerely, Johnstream Moms, Does

1140
00:54:24,120 --> 00:54:26,800
Speaker 1: that make you want to walk by and be like okay.

1141
00:54:26,600 --> 00:54:29,080
Speaker 3: And also like we have plenty of celebrity and we.

1142
00:54:29,000 --> 00:54:31,000
Speaker 1: Don't care about you. First of all, I do not

1143
00:54:31,040 --> 00:54:32,280
Speaker 1: put myself in that category.

1144
00:54:32,320 --> 00:54:34,160
Speaker 4: And you know it, I was gonna say that, I

1145
00:54:34,200 --> 00:54:36,840
Speaker 4: was like you were when I met you. I was actually,

1146
00:54:37,400 --> 00:54:39,080
Speaker 4: I don't know as shocked as the word, but I

1147
00:54:39,680 --> 00:54:42,680
Speaker 4: was like, oh, she doesn't realize that more people know who.

1148
00:54:42,480 --> 00:54:48,000
Speaker 3: She is then she thinks, so you will. You would

1149
00:54:48,080 --> 00:54:49,880
Speaker 3: never consider yourself a celebrity.

1150
00:54:50,600 --> 00:54:53,480
Speaker 1: And if I like, if I'm at with my friends,

1151
00:54:53,520 --> 00:54:55,920
Speaker 1: my husband's my friends, or I've got my headphones in,

1152
00:54:56,040 --> 00:54:58,920
Speaker 1: like I I don't know if I just didn't notice,

1153
00:54:59,040 --> 00:55:01,480
Speaker 1: Like there's no way. We did walk a lot in

1154
00:55:01,480 --> 00:55:04,520
Speaker 1: that neighborhood my wed like, but think of these friends

1155
00:55:04,520 --> 00:55:07,920
Speaker 1: I'm about to name Gracie, she's like the nicest.

1156
00:55:07,480 --> 00:55:08,399
Speaker 3: Person ever heard.

1157
00:55:08,520 --> 00:55:12,359
Speaker 4: Yeah, Like we would we would wave like I did

1158
00:55:12,400 --> 00:55:13,359
Speaker 4: she live over there too?

1159
00:55:13,600 --> 00:55:13,920
Speaker 3: Yeah?

1160
00:55:13,960 --> 00:55:17,840
Speaker 1: And we had like Caroline Hobby again, one of the

1161
00:55:17,840 --> 00:55:20,399
Speaker 1: sweetest people ever. Who else was in our walking crew?

1162
00:55:20,520 --> 00:55:26,600
Speaker 1: Jackie so nice abby, Like I don't it just it

1163
00:55:26,680 --> 00:55:31,480
Speaker 1: was very perplexing to me. But also sometimes when I walk,

1164
00:55:31,520 --> 00:55:34,000
Speaker 1: I'm in my own we're like having a conversation we're

1165
00:55:34,000 --> 00:55:37,040
Speaker 1: in our own zone, so we may not see.

1166
00:55:37,080 --> 00:55:39,360
Speaker 3: But I think she wanted.

1167
00:55:39,640 --> 00:55:41,480
Speaker 4: I think she did care that you were on the

1168
00:55:41,600 --> 00:55:45,920
Speaker 4: radio and she wanted to be your friend. Because it's

1169
00:55:45,960 --> 00:55:48,400
Speaker 4: also interesting how she's like, we have plenty of celebrity friends.

1170
00:55:48,440 --> 00:55:51,480
Speaker 4: I have lived in Nashville Franklin my entire life.

1171
00:55:51,560 --> 00:55:52,160
Speaker 3: I have none.

1172
00:55:52,680 --> 00:55:54,799
Speaker 4: Like that's not like a normal I guess it's not

1173
00:55:54,880 --> 00:55:57,040
Speaker 4: abnormal when you're from here, but it also isn't like

1174
00:55:57,239 --> 00:56:00,160
Speaker 4: it's not like everybody is friends with famous people here.

1175
00:56:00,920 --> 00:56:03,000
Speaker 3: I think I don't know that that line.

1176
00:56:02,840 --> 00:56:05,719
Speaker 1: Is also the fact that I'm reading it again and

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00:56:05,760 --> 00:56:07,319
Speaker 1: I did read it on the show, and it's come

1178
00:56:07,360 --> 00:56:09,400
Speaker 1: up and numerous times on the show throughout the years.

1179
00:56:09,480 --> 00:56:11,319
Speaker 1: If I were her, I would also be like, Okay,

1180
00:56:11,440 --> 00:56:12,480
Speaker 1: let this go, like.

1181
00:56:12,600 --> 00:56:13,000
Speaker 3: Let it go.

1182
00:56:13,080 --> 00:56:14,839
Speaker 1: But it is a funny story you have let it go,

1183
00:56:15,080 --> 00:56:15,880
Speaker 1: and I'm not safe.

1184
00:56:15,920 --> 00:56:16,799
Speaker 3: I've never heard this story.

1185
00:56:16,880 --> 00:56:20,000
Speaker 1: Like I'm not giving her away at all, whatsoever. I

1186
00:56:20,000 --> 00:56:22,799
Speaker 1: would never do that. It just to me was this

1187
00:56:22,840 --> 00:56:24,480
Speaker 1: is sort of like a weird YELP review.

1188
00:56:24,560 --> 00:56:24,799
Speaker 3: I was.

1189
00:56:24,840 --> 00:56:26,719
Speaker 1: I was about to say, it's like circling back.

1190
00:56:27,320 --> 00:56:29,520
Speaker 4: She should have been posted on her Facebook, and then

1191
00:56:29,560 --> 00:56:30,680
Speaker 4: she would never have done it.

1192
00:56:30,840 --> 00:56:34,800
Speaker 1: She's like Diane with the outback, like getting all mad,

1193
00:56:34,960 --> 00:56:37,279
Speaker 1: but then comes back with a four point by And

1194
00:56:37,440 --> 00:56:40,080
Speaker 1: here she did come back like we we'd love to

1195
00:56:40,080 --> 00:56:43,680
Speaker 1: hang out with you, Like she's saying, it's like a

1196
00:56:43,760 --> 00:56:45,680
Speaker 1: it's like a weird mix of like, you know what,

1197
00:56:45,719 --> 00:56:47,319
Speaker 1: you're rude, but like let's hang out.

1198
00:56:47,440 --> 00:56:47,759
Speaker 3: You know what.

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00:56:47,840 --> 00:56:49,680
Speaker 4: I wish she would have done if she was feeling

1200
00:56:49,719 --> 00:56:52,040
Speaker 4: like you were, because this is very confusing. So I

1201
00:56:52,120 --> 00:56:55,080
Speaker 4: wish she would have been like, hey, if you're new

1202
00:56:55,120 --> 00:56:56,799
Speaker 4: to the street, like there's a group of us that

1203
00:56:56,880 --> 00:56:59,439
Speaker 4: do this whatever. We've seen you walking a couple of times.

1204
00:56:59,480 --> 00:57:01,320
Speaker 4: I know it's hard to meet new people and sometimes

1205
00:57:01,320 --> 00:57:03,560
Speaker 4: it can be intimidating, but we'd love to have you

1206
00:57:03,640 --> 00:57:06,160
Speaker 4: over one night for a glass of wine in the porch,

1207
00:57:06,239 --> 00:57:06,879
Speaker 4: or for a play date.

1208
00:57:06,800 --> 00:57:07,960
Speaker 1: With our kids, like inviting me.

1209
00:57:08,200 --> 00:57:09,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, that would.

1210
00:57:09,040 --> 00:57:11,840
Speaker 4: Be solving the same problem, because then if you were

1211
00:57:11,880 --> 00:57:13,799
Speaker 4: just really rude and didn't care about them.

1212
00:57:13,760 --> 00:57:15,200
Speaker 3: You would have ignored the email.

1213
00:57:15,640 --> 00:57:18,240
Speaker 4: But you also probably would have answered that email and

1214
00:57:18,280 --> 00:57:19,640
Speaker 4: gone and then she would have.

1215
00:57:19,600 --> 00:57:23,280
Speaker 3: Her celebrity friend interesting, Okay.

1216
00:57:24,200 --> 00:57:24,760
Speaker 1: We did it.

1217
00:57:25,360 --> 00:57:26,680
Speaker 3: I'm sorry that you got that email.

1218
00:57:27,240 --> 00:57:30,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, I was trying to pull up, like if there

1219
00:57:30,400 --> 00:57:36,160
Speaker 1: was like a cute email from between me and Ben

1220
00:57:36,160 --> 00:57:38,600
Speaker 1: in like two thousand and six somewhere of my side,

1221
00:57:38,640 --> 00:57:42,440
Speaker 1: Like I can give you an example of like my

1222
00:57:43,440 --> 00:57:48,120
Speaker 1: you know, my email flirting, which is probably like so awkward.

1223
00:57:48,640 --> 00:57:55,360
Speaker 1: Oh here's one. Hey, Oh I was email. This is

1224
00:57:55,400 --> 00:57:57,440
Speaker 1: before I even joined the Bobby Bone Show, because I

1225
00:57:57,480 --> 00:58:01,880
Speaker 1: was emailing him from my architecture granted and marble email.

1226
00:58:02,280 --> 00:58:04,440
Speaker 1: So this is so you didn't send your work email?

1227
00:58:05,400 --> 00:58:06,000
Speaker 1: Is that mad?

1228
00:58:07,080 --> 00:58:11,320
Speaker 4: That's actually crazy because your boss could read these what what?

1229
00:58:12,240 --> 00:58:14,200
Speaker 3: Really? Yes, I would never.

1230
00:58:14,880 --> 00:58:18,840
Speaker 4: I would never use my work email to any personal email.

1231
00:58:19,000 --> 00:58:20,560
Speaker 1: Let me tell you I probably did that. This was

1232
00:58:20,600 --> 00:58:23,600
Speaker 1: my first job out of college with my first real email.

1233
00:58:23,640 --> 00:58:25,880
Speaker 1: I probably was funk to have it.

1234
00:58:26,040 --> 00:58:27,919
Speaker 3: You didn't have another email I did. I had.

1235
00:58:28,120 --> 00:58:29,800
Speaker 1: I had my my gmail.

1236
00:58:29,920 --> 00:58:32,160
Speaker 3: You were like, he's Ben's gonna think it's but I

1237
00:58:32,200 --> 00:58:33,000
Speaker 3: have a work email.

1238
00:58:33,400 --> 00:58:36,439
Speaker 1: Yeah, I had a I have such a business woman.

1239
00:58:36,480 --> 00:58:38,640
Speaker 1: I'm in sales. I even had one of those next

1240
00:58:38,680 --> 00:58:42,560
Speaker 1: telephones that was also like a walk at the same time,

1241
00:58:43,000 --> 00:58:47,840
Speaker 1: Like I thought, I was so cool. Oh this is

1242
00:58:47,840 --> 00:58:50,360
Speaker 1: how I ended out. Well, I'd better let you go.

1243
00:58:50,520 --> 00:58:54,320
Speaker 1: Like after sending like three paragraphs. Well, I better let

1244
00:58:54,320 --> 00:58:56,720
Speaker 1: you go. Good luck on your papers, text, et cetera.

1245
00:58:56,760 --> 00:58:58,360
Speaker 1: I have a great day. What if I was like,

1246
00:58:58,400 --> 00:59:00,560
Speaker 1: have the day you need to have and I was

1247
00:59:00,560 --> 00:59:01,280
Speaker 1: saying that was that?

1248
00:59:01,400 --> 00:59:03,960
Speaker 3: Then wit did you send like racy emails.

1249
00:59:05,440 --> 00:59:06,040
Speaker 1: My fork?

1250
00:59:06,120 --> 00:59:07,800
Speaker 3: Well that's what I say, first of all.

1251
00:59:08,480 --> 00:59:14,600
Speaker 1: No, second of all, No, did you say like I

1252
00:59:14,640 --> 00:59:15,160
Speaker 1: miss you?

1253
00:59:15,560 --> 00:59:17,280
Speaker 3: Or I said like cutie?

1254
00:59:17,280 --> 00:59:20,439
Speaker 1: How I said? I said, work is great, selling rock

1255
00:59:20,560 --> 00:59:23,160
Speaker 1: is great, so great, I won't make you jealous with

1256
00:59:23,200 --> 00:59:23,800
Speaker 1: the details.

1257
00:59:24,800 --> 00:59:25,720
Speaker 3: He's like, tell me more.

1258
00:59:27,520 --> 00:59:29,640
Speaker 1: And then I said, Christy, that's my sister. I said,

1259
00:59:29,720 --> 00:59:40,600
Speaker 1: Christy was telling me about the plane you fly, So

1260
00:59:40,720 --> 00:59:41,240
Speaker 1: I did.

1261
00:59:43,960 --> 00:59:45,240
Speaker 3: I want to know what's so funny.

1262
00:59:45,960 --> 00:59:49,560
Speaker 1: I'm just laughing at this twenty four, twenty five year

1263
00:59:49,560 --> 00:59:52,040
Speaker 1: old me. That's like, so I did some research online.

1264
00:59:52,280 --> 00:59:54,240
Speaker 1: Pretty impressive, mister Brown.

1265
00:59:59,640 --> 01:00:01,640
Speaker 3: And I I just knowing how like you would never

1266
01:00:01,680 --> 01:00:02,680
Speaker 3: talk to him like that now?

1267
01:00:02,840 --> 01:00:04,720
Speaker 1: Yes, And he was in a special school because he

1268
01:00:04,760 --> 01:00:06,360
Speaker 1: went to the Air Force Academy and then he was

1269
01:00:06,400 --> 01:00:08,640
Speaker 1: already a pilot. He was already a pilot, but I

1270
01:00:08,640 --> 01:00:10,800
Speaker 1: guess he had to do some like special school like

1271
01:00:11,960 --> 01:00:13,000
Speaker 1: education in the military.

1272
01:00:13,000 --> 01:00:16,120
Speaker 3: Guys, like you've talked about how he was older. Yes,

1273
01:00:16,480 --> 01:00:17,480
Speaker 3: and you were like, mister.

1274
01:00:17,320 --> 01:00:19,640
Speaker 1: Brown, and I'm like, so, my sister was telling me

1275
01:00:19,640 --> 01:00:22,280
Speaker 1: about the plane you fly, so I did some research online.

1276
01:00:22,400 --> 01:00:24,960
Speaker 1: Pretty impressive, mister Brown, I said, so, what are you

1277
01:00:25,040 --> 01:00:30,520
Speaker 1: in school for if it's top secret. If it's top secret,

1278
01:00:30,560 --> 01:00:40,360
Speaker 1: I understand. Sometimes the granite industry, I told you, I

1279
01:00:40,480 --> 01:00:51,200
Speaker 1: was flarting an awkward I said, sometimes the granite industry

1280
01:00:51,200 --> 01:00:57,760
Speaker 1: prohibits me from sharing information too. Obviously they don't. And

1281
01:00:57,800 --> 01:01:00,400
Speaker 1: then I said, well, I hope things settled down for you,

1282
01:01:00,720 --> 01:01:03,120
Speaker 1: at least enough for you to know what day it is,

1283
01:01:03,240 --> 01:01:06,880
Speaker 1: I guess. In his reply, he said, things are so busy.

1284
01:01:07,120 --> 01:01:09,160
Speaker 1: What if like, after I read all these emails, I've

1285
01:01:09,240 --> 01:01:14,160
Speaker 1: like fall back in love and I'm like, hey, mister Brown,

1286
01:01:15,320 --> 01:01:17,000
Speaker 1: what in the world? I mean?

1287
01:01:17,040 --> 01:01:19,400
Speaker 4: This is like you have a legit like big tear

1288
01:01:19,440 --> 01:01:24,320
Speaker 4: coming down your cheek. Oh, I mean that is how

1289
01:01:24,640 --> 01:01:26,840
Speaker 4: That's cute, though, Amy, I don't think you're awkward.

1290
01:01:26,880 --> 01:01:30,320
Speaker 3: That is like, if you did that now would be weird.

1291
01:01:30,360 --> 01:01:32,240
Speaker 4: But like, as a twenty four year old who's like

1292
01:01:32,400 --> 01:01:36,280
Speaker 4: intrigued by this mysterious cute older guy, what is that

1293
01:01:36,320 --> 01:01:36,720
Speaker 4: your faith?

1294
01:01:37,080 --> 01:01:39,840
Speaker 1: Well, I'm counting how many paragraphs. Another reply in this

1295
01:01:40,040 --> 01:01:43,760
Speaker 1: chain was where I wrote him one, two, three. These

1296
01:01:43,760 --> 01:01:49,160
Speaker 1: are paragraphs four, five, six, seven, and the seventh paragraph

1297
01:01:49,240 --> 01:01:51,959
Speaker 1: I start that one with. Now that I rambled.

1298
01:01:51,640 --> 01:01:57,080
Speaker 3: About all that, but you couldn't have phone calls, right.

1299
01:01:57,800 --> 01:02:00,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, we weren't able to talk. But I was actually

1300
01:02:00,840 --> 01:02:03,160
Speaker 1: talking through with him that I was trying to decide

1301
01:02:03,200 --> 01:02:05,400
Speaker 1: if I was going to go join this radio show

1302
01:02:05,520 --> 01:02:07,560
Speaker 1: or not. And I was like, I think I have

1303
01:02:07,560 --> 01:02:11,080
Speaker 1: an opportunity to join the show. You probably don't know it.

1304
01:02:11,080 --> 01:02:12,760
Speaker 1: It's the Bobby Bone Show. And I'm explaining all that,

1305
01:02:12,760 --> 01:02:14,040
Speaker 1: and I'm like, but do I really want to leave

1306
01:02:14,040 --> 01:02:16,320
Speaker 1: this job to go do that? Or fast forward?

1307
01:02:16,440 --> 01:02:24,360
Speaker 5: Yeah, on my cry Okay, just brought up a good point.

1308
01:02:24,520 --> 01:02:27,760
Speaker 5: I'm like on my granted email talking about how I

1309
01:02:27,840 --> 01:02:28,280
Speaker 5: might go.

1310
01:02:28,200 --> 01:02:30,480
Speaker 1: Take another job. But the Granted people knew because I

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Speaker 1: auditioned at the mall and that audition ended up on

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Speaker 1: the radio. So I had to come clean to them,

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Speaker 1: and then I had to go do my auditions.

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Speaker 3: What is on the for the radio? What do you mean?

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Speaker 3: How did well?

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Speaker 1: The female co host was leaving, they were hiring somebody else.

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Speaker 1: The mall thing was just like a shtick, but I

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Speaker 1: thought I was really making it. So I made it

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Speaker 1: to the top two. But they ended up hiring someone

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Speaker 1: that wasn't even at the mall, which that was the

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Speaker 1: plan all along, but I didn't know it, and then

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Speaker 1: she got the job. But then later they wanted to

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Speaker 1: move her to producer and bring in a girl and

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Speaker 1: that's where but during the audition, that's where I ended

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Speaker 1: up coming in and taking the job. But during the

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Speaker 1: audition process from the mall, it was about a six

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Speaker 1: week process, and I was taking off of work in

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01:03:11,080 --> 01:03:12,840
Speaker 1: the morning to go be on the radio show. But

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Speaker 1: I would get done at nine and so then I

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Speaker 1: would go to my granted job after that, Like I

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01:03:16,320 --> 01:03:18,440
Speaker 1: would get there at five thirty in the morning, do

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Speaker 1: the radio show, then go to my granted job. And

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Speaker 1: so they knew I had to come clean to them. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I'm like technically.

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Speaker 4: They probably were like, yeah, we already know because we've

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01:03:27,080 --> 01:03:29,520
Speaker 4: been reading your love letters to your boyfriend.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. So anyways, a little peek inst sharing that and

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Speaker 1: here I just sent him. He's like, wait, what is

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01:03:38,680 --> 01:03:41,880
Speaker 1: the station? And so I sent him a link. Www.

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Speaker 1: Ninety six seven KISSFM dot com is the web address.

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Speaker 1: And then go to the Bobby Bone Show, click on

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01:03:48,520 --> 01:03:50,320
Speaker 1: the listen live button and you can hear us. I

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01:03:50,360 --> 01:03:52,400
Speaker 1: mean this is before I don't even know if we

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01:03:52,400 --> 01:03:53,480
Speaker 1: had the iHeartRadio app.

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Speaker 3: Probably not.

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Speaker 1: So anyway, there's a little stroll down memory lane. But

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Speaker 1: those is the kind of emails I keep, and I

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Speaker 1: want to keep them, and I go back. I read

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Speaker 1: once from my mom. Yeah, like those are fun. My

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Speaker 1: mom signed all of her emails speaking of like how

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Speaker 1: we're about to sign off on the show we have

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01:04:12,800 --> 01:04:14,760
Speaker 1: like our little ending. My mom signed all of her

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01:04:14,800 --> 01:04:20,400
Speaker 1: emails here to serve Judy so here to serve you

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Speaker 1: with entertainment, whether you enjoy it or you just think

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01:04:23,080 --> 01:04:26,840
Speaker 1: we're talking to hear ourselves talk one star, five stars.

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Speaker 1: We're going to be here and we hope you have

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Speaker 1: the day you need to have.

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Speaker 4: Bye.

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Speaker 1: Bye,