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Speaker 1: This is the Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous podcast

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Speaker 1: with her Radio. We're live from Squaw Valley and tahoe

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Speaker 1: yep I Heart set us up with a really cool

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Speaker 1: cabins we're in. We're kind of having a three three

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Speaker 1: on three dates, especially about to pay Oh my gosh. Okay,

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Speaker 1: So basically, Jet Jess I just called you guys, Jen.

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Speaker 1: That is your couple names Jen, So Ben and Jess

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Speaker 1: are here, Dean and Kaylin, Becca and Garrett, but they're leaving,

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Speaker 1: they're not sleeping over at this cabin and then Jared

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Speaker 1: and myself. So we're spending Valentine's Day together, us three

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Speaker 1: bachelor couples and this podcast we're going to talk about

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Speaker 1: our stories, you know, our love stories, and we're also

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Speaker 1: going to play this really fun truth or dare game

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Speaker 1: called was it Kinky Kicky Too? Their dare? So I

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Speaker 1: love truth toooth has always been my thing. Dairs are

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Speaker 1: like bedroom dairs. So I'm not sure if we're really

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Speaker 1: gonna be acting, but we're having a great Valentine's Day

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Speaker 1: and we're gonna be really open with you guys. It's

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Speaker 1: one of those pick a stick games. Here's how the

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Speaker 1: game's gonna work. We're gonna bring the couples up here

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Speaker 1: into our little studio. They're gonna sit down, We're gonna

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Speaker 1: mike them up, and then I'm gonna at random pull

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Speaker 1: a stick out of the tube and ask that question.

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Speaker 1: For example, give us an example question. For example, I

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Speaker 1: just pulled a stick. It's a truth stick. It says

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Speaker 1: what person from high school would you most want to

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Speaker 1: answer that question a little awkward at times, we're gonna

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Speaker 1: try to censor you have an answer. I really don't

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Speaker 1: think I do like I mean I honestly, my my

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Speaker 1: high school was was great. We had a lot of fun.

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Speaker 1: I had a lot of like friends that were girls,

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Speaker 1: game is gonna be blast. We're gonna have a lot

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Speaker 1: of fun this episode. In addition to this kinky truth

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Speaker 1: questions about their lives, uh figure out where they're at,

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Speaker 1: tell some love stories, and also hopefully encourage all of

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Speaker 1: to just continue to pursue love because love is love

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Speaker 1: is love Again. We're in Squaw Valley in Nevada, hanging

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Speaker 1: out for the Almost Famous podcast. Hey, let's take a break.

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Speaker 1: When we come back, we're gonna have Becca and Garrett

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Speaker 1: as our first guest. All right, we are back. We've

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Speaker 1: be playing a little game with them. Since it's Valentine's

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Speaker 1: Day episode, We're gonna be doing a love game. But first,

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Speaker 1: I want to talk to you guys about life on

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Speaker 1: the road with Ben Higgins. Becca, what is one thing

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Speaker 1: that you've learned about Benna is surprising? Over the past

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Speaker 1: I have learned so much about Ben. I just learned

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Speaker 1: I'm very jealous because I, at some point in my

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Speaker 1: PODCAST told me to email her and then I didn't

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Speaker 1: do it too it was too late. No, I did email,

423
00:22:19,280 --> 00:22:21,159
Speaker 1: but then I never followed up. Long story short anyway,

424
00:22:21,320 --> 00:22:23,440
Speaker 1: so this is fantastic. I also I am a big

425
00:22:23,480 --> 00:22:26,840
Speaker 1: follow uper Like he'll just forget that the email was set,

426
00:22:26,880 --> 00:22:29,520
Speaker 1: and I don't forget opportunity that didn't happen. I don't

427
00:22:29,560 --> 00:22:31,760
Speaker 1: like to bother people. Don't get the opportunity. Jared. If

428
00:22:31,800 --> 00:22:34,760
Speaker 1: I email someone and din't respond, oh, well, what happened yesterday?

429
00:22:35,000 --> 00:22:37,359
Speaker 1: I know I gret up for him, and then she goes,

430
00:22:37,640 --> 00:22:40,080
Speaker 1: oh my god, I forgot all about it. So the

431
00:22:40,200 --> 00:22:45,320
Speaker 1: dark hole of my email I would have totally forgotten. Okay, Ashley,

432
00:22:45,480 --> 00:22:50,960
Speaker 1: what makes Jared angrier than it should? Everything? Everything, and

433
00:22:51,200 --> 00:22:54,440
Speaker 1: it cannot be football related or any Boston sports related.

434
00:22:54,440 --> 00:22:59,000
Speaker 1: Please I have an answer. But you go probably traveling traffic, traffic,

435
00:22:59,160 --> 00:23:02,560
Speaker 1: anything that's transport. Oh, if you want to hear a

436
00:23:02,600 --> 00:23:05,879
Speaker 1: fight that we had last week, So we were on

437
00:23:05,920 --> 00:23:08,680
Speaker 1: our way to a movie downtown l A. We were

438
00:23:08,720 --> 00:23:10,240
Speaker 1: even like, I wanted to go to one of those

439
00:23:10,280 --> 00:23:12,720
Speaker 1: lounge theaters where they they serve you dinner during it

440
00:23:12,760 --> 00:23:15,320
Speaker 1: and then you get a recliner. So we even were like,

441
00:23:16,480 --> 00:23:18,920
Speaker 1: we're gonna need We're gonna need an hour for traffic.

442
00:23:19,640 --> 00:23:23,800
Speaker 1: And when we accepted this, he got very angry. And

443
00:23:23,840 --> 00:23:27,880
Speaker 1: then we were in traffic and he was angry about traffic,

444
00:23:27,920 --> 00:23:30,200
Speaker 1: and we were planning a trip to see Jaden Tannard

445
00:23:30,200 --> 00:23:32,160
Speaker 1: in Orange County the next day, and I was like, Jared,

446
00:23:32,440 --> 00:23:35,080
Speaker 1: I truly don't know if this is gonna like it's

447
00:23:35,160 --> 00:23:37,720
Speaker 1: if it's worth it, because you get so angry from

448
00:23:37,760 --> 00:23:41,040
Speaker 1: traffic that I think that like, you need to pick

449
00:23:41,040 --> 00:23:44,320
Speaker 1: your mental health over this, and then he said, I'm

450
00:23:44,320 --> 00:23:46,760
Speaker 1: gonna be fine, Like I know, I'm really angry in traffic,

451
00:23:46,800 --> 00:23:49,080
Speaker 1: but then I get there and I'm happy. It was

452
00:23:49,119 --> 00:23:51,800
Speaker 1: that not the case. You were fine. But was it

453
00:23:51,960 --> 00:23:53,960
Speaker 1: worth I'm not sure that it was worth it. It

454
00:23:54,000 --> 00:23:58,120
Speaker 1: was worth an hour of anger anger management. Maybe if

455
00:23:58,240 --> 00:24:01,600
Speaker 1: you're you're you and I'm not me being like scared

456
00:24:01,640 --> 00:24:04,320
Speaker 1: in the passenger seats. Are you really scared of There

457
00:24:04,359 --> 00:24:06,639
Speaker 1: was a couple of moments where you pressed on the

458
00:24:06,680 --> 00:24:11,080
Speaker 1: gas like very much control of the car. Don't let

459
00:24:11,119 --> 00:24:15,439
Speaker 1: her full you been so this is this is what

460
00:24:15,520 --> 00:24:19,320
Speaker 1: makes me super angry is when Jared's angry, he uses

461
00:24:19,359 --> 00:24:21,640
Speaker 1: the F word. I yell at myself constantly. He says,

462
00:24:23,160 --> 00:24:26,480
Speaker 1: screaming it not at me here It isn't a big

463
00:24:26,560 --> 00:24:30,680
Speaker 1: cussor like he doesn't like he causes more than that

464
00:24:30,800 --> 00:24:35,040
Speaker 1: to him, but I a but like when he gets mad,

465
00:24:35,440 --> 00:24:38,480
Speaker 1: that effort flies out of his mouth every third word,

466
00:24:38,680 --> 00:24:41,879
Speaker 1: and I just feel very uncomfortable. I'm working on it.

467
00:24:41,920 --> 00:24:44,160
Speaker 1: I it's when I get angry, I I yell at

468
00:24:44,160 --> 00:24:48,600
Speaker 1: myself because here's here's here's my answer is that I

469
00:24:48,720 --> 00:24:52,040
Speaker 1: overreact when I do something stupid, and I just beat

470
00:24:52,080 --> 00:24:54,120
Speaker 1: myself to hell over it. It's so stupid. Last night's

471
00:24:54,119 --> 00:24:58,000
Speaker 1: perfect example. I literally heat it up pizza and he

472
00:24:58,359 --> 00:25:02,680
Speaker 1: out dropped the p I dropped the pizza on the floor,

473
00:25:04,560 --> 00:25:08,080
Speaker 1: and I was like, I have such idiot, And then

474
00:25:08,119 --> 00:25:09,879
Speaker 1: like ten minutes later, I was like, I dropped pizza

475
00:25:09,880 --> 00:25:12,680
Speaker 1: on the floor. Why am I beating myself over there?

476
00:25:12,720 --> 00:25:16,479
Speaker 1: Actually mad third degree burns on his hands because then

477
00:25:16,480 --> 00:25:18,840
Speaker 1: I just get angry. I'm like, why how did I

478
00:25:18,920 --> 00:25:22,160
Speaker 1: drop pizza? How did I do that? It's the dumbest thing.

479
00:25:22,240 --> 00:25:24,360
Speaker 1: Or if I'll forget to do something, I'm like, oh,

480
00:25:24,359 --> 00:25:27,560
Speaker 1: I'm such an idiot. God, I sucked. And she's like,

481
00:25:27,600 --> 00:25:30,240
Speaker 1: halm down, you you forgot to put the envelope in

482
00:25:30,280 --> 00:25:33,960
Speaker 1: the mail. You're fine. Well, it's worth noting team they're

483
00:25:34,040 --> 00:25:37,440
Speaker 1: very much in love um and we very much loved

484
00:25:37,480 --> 00:25:43,000
Speaker 1: Jared this. This is the first Valentine's Day that they've

485
00:25:43,000 --> 00:25:45,239
Speaker 1: spent together as a married couple, which obviously this will

486
00:25:45,280 --> 00:25:48,040
Speaker 1: be the first year they spent together as a married couple. Jared,

487
00:25:48,040 --> 00:25:50,399
Speaker 1: We've been playing this game kinky truth or dare Actuley

488
00:25:50,400 --> 00:25:52,840
Speaker 1: typically is pulling out the sticks, but I'm going to

489
00:25:52,920 --> 00:25:55,760
Speaker 1: pull them out this time. The question I want to

490
00:25:55,800 --> 00:25:58,960
Speaker 1: ask you and Ashley you both have to answer this now,

491
00:25:59,080 --> 00:26:02,880
Speaker 1: is what is your ultimate role play fantasy? Now, when

492
00:26:02,880 --> 00:26:05,199
Speaker 1: I say this, please don't jump to conclusions that this

493
00:26:05,280 --> 00:26:11,520
Speaker 1: has to be sexual. This is about your intimacy with

494
00:26:11,560 --> 00:26:15,879
Speaker 1: your partner. What is your ultimate role play fantasy? I

495
00:26:15,880 --> 00:26:17,639
Speaker 1: mean the only thing I can think it's sexual? So

496
00:26:19,280 --> 00:26:22,159
Speaker 1: you can jump he would play cops and robbers in

497
00:26:22,200 --> 00:26:26,879
Speaker 1: our spare time? Is that we're to Uh, I know

498
00:26:26,920 --> 00:26:28,359
Speaker 1: what Jared's is. He's not going to share it on

499
00:26:28,400 --> 00:26:34,640
Speaker 1: the podcast. What do you think it is? What it is?

500
00:26:34,800 --> 00:26:37,520
Speaker 1: I mean, you have a pretty good idea. Does it

501
00:26:37,600 --> 00:26:41,320
Speaker 1: have to do with any Boston sports team? It's more

502
00:26:41,320 --> 00:26:45,879
Speaker 1: of like, uh, I have like looked at there's like

503
00:26:45,920 --> 00:26:53,080
Speaker 1: some Patriots laingerie and Okay, so I was like, I

504
00:26:53,160 --> 00:26:55,080
Speaker 1: was like, is he gonna like this? Like, is he

505
00:26:55,119 --> 00:26:56,960
Speaker 1: gonna even want me to spend a hundred dollars on

506
00:26:57,000 --> 00:27:03,040
Speaker 1: this bra? Probably not. I like Tom Brady's pick, like

507
00:27:03,520 --> 00:27:06,040
Speaker 1: I love Tom ready, but not in that way I

508
00:27:06,080 --> 00:27:09,000
Speaker 1: would say, yeah. I mean obviously as as men like

509
00:27:09,080 --> 00:27:11,880
Speaker 1: I I am a big fan of lingerie, big supporter,

510
00:27:12,640 --> 00:27:15,160
Speaker 1: but like I guess more of just like a fantasy

511
00:27:15,240 --> 00:27:19,800
Speaker 1: is more of um, yeah, I mean, are you going

512
00:27:19,840 --> 00:27:22,920
Speaker 1: to say no, you can't say it. You can't say it.

513
00:27:22,960 --> 00:27:25,800
Speaker 1: You guys can probably get an idea. I don't think

514
00:27:25,800 --> 00:27:29,200
Speaker 1: I have any idea. Do you want to give us anything? Like,

515
00:27:29,359 --> 00:27:32,120
Speaker 1: what is some fantasy that you have in your relationship

516
00:27:32,320 --> 00:27:36,560
Speaker 1: with Ashley? Kids? A bigger house? Oh well, that obviously

517
00:27:36,760 --> 00:27:41,320
Speaker 1: begin a family, buying buying a house. Owning property would

518
00:27:41,359 --> 00:27:44,520
Speaker 1: be a big goal of ours. That's a great I've

519
00:27:44,520 --> 00:27:48,280
Speaker 1: never owned property, so I really would like ultimate fantasy

520
00:27:48,440 --> 00:27:51,600
Speaker 1: with your relationship with Jared, which your ultimate fantasy with me,

521
00:27:52,600 --> 00:27:55,320
Speaker 1: A fantasy would have would be to have more closet space,

522
00:27:56,400 --> 00:27:59,600
Speaker 1: an easy fantasy. Really, you have all the closets. If

523
00:27:59,640 --> 00:28:03,480
Speaker 1: this listeners, If this uh interview has has not summed

524
00:28:03,600 --> 00:28:08,040
Speaker 1: up a marriage a marriage, I don't know what else would.

525
00:28:08,040 --> 00:28:09,399
Speaker 1: I don't know if we're going to get an answer

526
00:28:09,480 --> 00:28:12,359
Speaker 1: out of Ashley actually gonna give us an answer. No,

527
00:28:12,640 --> 00:28:15,720
Speaker 1: you're not gonna give us an answer. Fantasy, a fantasy

528
00:28:15,760 --> 00:28:18,479
Speaker 1: of okay, fine, I have a fantasy, a fantasy that

529
00:28:18,560 --> 00:28:22,280
Speaker 1: Jared like grabs me on the couch and embraces me

530
00:28:22,400 --> 00:28:25,160
Speaker 1: tightly every night. That is a great fantasy. I think

531
00:28:25,160 --> 00:28:28,840
Speaker 1: that's very, very sweet. And every night, you know, sometimes

532
00:28:28,880 --> 00:28:31,280
Speaker 1: you just want to you want to lean on your

533
00:28:31,359 --> 00:28:35,879
Speaker 1: side and get a nice rest. A week where Jared

534
00:28:35,960 --> 00:28:38,400
Speaker 1: leans towards me on the couch would be a fantasy.

535
00:28:38,520 --> 00:28:43,440
Speaker 1: I leaned towards you once, asked, never again, Jared, are

536
00:28:43,440 --> 00:28:45,160
Speaker 1: you gonna have that couch alone? Jared? I want to

537
00:28:45,200 --> 00:28:48,360
Speaker 1: talk about her her closet fantasy. We have six closets.

538
00:28:48,400 --> 00:28:51,880
Speaker 1: You have four dedicated to your clothes, the other one filled.

539
00:28:52,200 --> 00:28:54,240
Speaker 1: You still have so much blank space in there. You

540
00:28:54,280 --> 00:28:56,280
Speaker 1: can use some mine. I don't want to. I like

541
00:28:56,360 --> 00:28:58,000
Speaker 1: it all organized the way it is. I don't want

542
00:28:58,120 --> 00:29:00,840
Speaker 1: using my closet either. Hey good, thanks for co to

543
00:29:00,920 --> 00:29:04,440
Speaker 1: the podcast, Ashley. Thank you for sharing your husband with us. Jared,

544
00:29:04,680 --> 00:29:08,200
Speaker 1: we love you. We thank you, Uh please uh come

545
00:29:08,240 --> 00:29:10,680
Speaker 1: back soon. Interview with just later going to be like

546
00:29:10,720 --> 00:29:12,200
Speaker 1: this or is this is still going to be like

547
00:29:12,280 --> 00:29:14,880
Speaker 1: that first year in you guys are probably just still

548
00:29:15,200 --> 00:29:19,480
Speaker 1: giggling while folding laundry stage. Yeah, we were definitely giggling.

549
00:29:20,040 --> 00:29:23,040
Speaker 1: I want to giggle off. Get out of here, Jared,

550
00:29:23,040 --> 00:29:26,320
Speaker 1: get out of here, and then need one to pay

551
00:29:26,360 --> 00:29:28,960
Speaker 1: me up against the wall. Those fun times. But you

552
00:29:28,960 --> 00:29:30,640
Speaker 1: should definitely listen to help I Suck a Dating and

553
00:29:30,640 --> 00:29:32,760
Speaker 1: I'm a radio podcast with Dean Angler and myself. We

554
00:29:32,760 --> 00:29:34,760
Speaker 1: talk about all things dating. It's great, it's wonderful. She

555
00:29:34,760 --> 00:29:36,680
Speaker 1: should also follow us on social media. We are at

556
00:29:36,720 --> 00:29:40,600
Speaker 1: help I right post pictures of Dean's face, so you

557
00:29:40,600 --> 00:29:42,000
Speaker 1: should totally check it out because I know you love

558
00:29:42,040 --> 00:29:52,560
Speaker 1: Dean's face. Okay, pod guys, we have Kalin coming onto

559
00:29:52,560 --> 00:29:55,200
Speaker 1: our podcast. Kalin is one of our favorite people in

560
00:29:55,200 --> 00:29:58,080
Speaker 1: the world. She is the mother to Pappy and the

561
00:29:58,240 --> 00:30:02,920
Speaker 1: girlfriend to Dean Kalen. Dean's not up here right now.

562
00:30:03,000 --> 00:30:05,840
Speaker 1: This is a couple's focused podcast, so I'm a little

563
00:30:05,880 --> 00:30:10,680
Speaker 1: bit disappointed. Why isn't he here? Um, well, you know Dean.

564
00:30:10,720 --> 00:30:12,600
Speaker 1: You know Dean very well, and you know how difficult

565
00:30:12,640 --> 00:30:16,200
Speaker 1: Dean likes to be. So Dean decided when we first

566
00:30:16,200 --> 00:30:18,880
Speaker 1: started dating that we won't do joint interviews. Yeah, I mean,

567
00:30:19,000 --> 00:30:21,040
Speaker 1: if you guys remember he didn't do it when we

568
00:30:21,040 --> 00:30:23,400
Speaker 1: were at the I Heart Festival in September and he's

569
00:30:23,480 --> 00:30:25,800
Speaker 1: still sticking to this rule. Yeah, we had to do

570
00:30:25,840 --> 00:30:28,160
Speaker 1: the newly wed game, but apart. So it's been eight

571
00:30:28,160 --> 00:30:31,000
Speaker 1: months and still no joint interviews. What's the purpose to

572
00:30:31,040 --> 00:30:34,240
Speaker 1: this mystery. Uh do he just likes to be different

573
00:30:34,400 --> 00:30:36,200
Speaker 1: and this is just one way to be different. I

574
00:30:36,240 --> 00:30:38,520
Speaker 1: guess I don't know. Oh my god, we have to

575
00:30:38,560 --> 00:30:40,320
Speaker 1: talk about the fact that he's been wearing a wedding

576
00:30:40,400 --> 00:30:44,680
Speaker 1: ring lately. So first he tried he first tried to

577
00:30:44,720 --> 00:30:47,320
Speaker 1: fool me into saying that you guys got married while

578
00:30:47,320 --> 00:30:50,400
Speaker 1: you were in Europe, and I still believe that you did.

579
00:30:50,760 --> 00:30:58,480
Speaker 1: I don't know if I'm allowed to talk about this, Okay,

580
00:30:58,520 --> 00:31:00,760
Speaker 1: But he's wearing a wedding band, Dina is wearing a

581
00:31:00,760 --> 00:31:04,440
Speaker 1: wedding band. Is this a symbol of his love and

582
00:31:04,480 --> 00:31:07,600
Speaker 1: devotion commitment to you? It could be. I think it is.

583
00:31:07,760 --> 00:31:10,680
Speaker 1: And I think he wore started wearing it after his

584
00:31:10,760 --> 00:31:14,120
Speaker 1: injury because you just were there by his side, nursing him,

585
00:31:14,200 --> 00:31:16,880
Speaker 1: taking care of him. And I think it's really really cute.

586
00:31:16,920 --> 00:31:18,960
Speaker 1: I feel like that was such a defining moment in

587
00:31:18,960 --> 00:31:21,400
Speaker 1: your relationship. No, I think I was just talking to

588
00:31:21,480 --> 00:31:25,560
Speaker 1: Jess about this. Actually, Um, we had forty days consecutively together,

589
00:31:25,640 --> 00:31:30,000
Speaker 1: like forty five days, whereas before five consecutive days and

590
00:31:30,040 --> 00:31:33,200
Speaker 1: we were never part in this forty five days, and

591
00:31:33,240 --> 00:31:36,120
Speaker 1: so previously it was like spend a week together, spend

592
00:31:36,160 --> 00:31:38,040
Speaker 1: a week off for two weeks together, two weeks off,

593
00:31:38,600 --> 00:31:41,400
Speaker 1: and this kind of like forced us together for a

594
00:31:41,400 --> 00:31:43,280
Speaker 1: long period of time. And I was like, this could

595
00:31:43,320 --> 00:31:45,000
Speaker 1: make or break. Guess like, we haven't been together for

596
00:31:45,040 --> 00:31:47,440
Speaker 1: this long. We both need our time apart, so how's

597
00:31:47,480 --> 00:31:49,520
Speaker 1: this going to go? And it definitely brought us a

598
00:31:49,520 --> 00:31:51,680
Speaker 1: lot closer, So I'm super. I mean, it sucks to

599
00:31:51,720 --> 00:31:55,160
Speaker 1: say like he broke his leg, but it definitely did

600
00:31:55,200 --> 00:31:57,920
Speaker 1: a good job in a relationship bring us together. How

601
00:31:58,000 --> 00:32:00,120
Speaker 1: are you indean doing that? I mean, I know it's

602
00:32:00,160 --> 00:32:02,719
Speaker 1: a very like general, like really terrible question, like how

603
00:32:02,760 --> 00:32:05,560
Speaker 1: are you doing? But you sit here now, after fort

604
00:32:05,640 --> 00:32:10,200
Speaker 1: or five days together, you have helped nurse him back

605
00:32:10,200 --> 00:32:12,960
Speaker 1: to health. He is wearing a ring. I don't know

606
00:32:13,000 --> 00:32:15,720
Speaker 1: if it's even worth. Never got tired of each other.

607
00:32:16,440 --> 00:32:19,560
Speaker 1: How are you doing? Um? I think we're good. I

608
00:32:19,560 --> 00:32:22,280
Speaker 1: think we're the best we've ever been. I think our

609
00:32:22,320 --> 00:32:25,000
Speaker 1: relationship just continues to go stronger and stronger. We just

610
00:32:25,040 --> 00:32:28,760
Speaker 1: have this trust between each other, and um, it's good.

611
00:32:28,800 --> 00:32:31,960
Speaker 1: I I get annoyed people very easily. I wish that

612
00:32:32,000 --> 00:32:33,400
Speaker 1: wasn't a trait that I had, but I do and

613
00:32:33,440 --> 00:32:35,840
Speaker 1: I need time alone. But with him, I realized this,

614
00:32:35,880 --> 00:32:38,160
Speaker 1: and I was traveling with other people, I was like,

615
00:32:38,640 --> 00:32:40,440
Speaker 1: he is one person that I spent time with and

616
00:32:40,480 --> 00:32:42,320
Speaker 1: I like, yeah, he gets on my nerves sometimes, but

617
00:32:42,360 --> 00:32:44,440
Speaker 1: I don't really. I'm never like, God, I just need

618
00:32:44,440 --> 00:32:46,280
Speaker 1: like a ton of time away from you. There are

619
00:32:46,320 --> 00:32:48,400
Speaker 1: like little times here and there, but for the most part,

620
00:32:48,440 --> 00:32:51,160
Speaker 1: like I can travel with this guy for forever and

621
00:32:51,360 --> 00:32:53,680
Speaker 1: just be really happy and content with that. That's one

622
00:32:53,760 --> 00:32:56,080
Speaker 1: of the things that made me realize. I was like, oh,

623
00:32:56,560 --> 00:32:59,000
Speaker 1: Jared and I can really really be together because we

624
00:32:59,120 --> 00:33:02,000
Speaker 1: just never get tired of each other whenever you need

625
00:33:02,000 --> 00:33:05,080
Speaker 1: space from each other. Really, yeah, it's it's a cool

626
00:33:05,120 --> 00:33:07,160
Speaker 1: thing for someone who's like we both get annoyed with

627
00:33:07,240 --> 00:33:09,400
Speaker 1: each other or not each other. Like people were just

628
00:33:09,440 --> 00:33:11,680
Speaker 1: like we were the super people who need time alone.

629
00:33:11,720 --> 00:33:14,080
Speaker 1: Me too. I never thought i'd be able to have like, well,

630
00:33:14,120 --> 00:33:15,920
Speaker 1: I thought I could have a husband, but I'd be like,

631
00:33:15,920 --> 00:33:18,040
Speaker 1: oh my god, I'll be craving my alone time and

632
00:33:18,320 --> 00:33:20,320
Speaker 1: how is it going to be living with somebody who's

633
00:33:20,360 --> 00:33:23,880
Speaker 1: not a family member. And it wasn't weird at all.

634
00:33:25,400 --> 00:33:27,600
Speaker 1: That's great. You just mentioned that Dean is a little

635
00:33:27,640 --> 00:33:31,840
Speaker 1: difficult sometimes. How has it been for you kind of

636
00:33:31,880 --> 00:33:36,120
Speaker 1: processing through building your relationship with somebody that is like

637
00:33:36,200 --> 00:33:40,240
Speaker 1: almost enjoys being difficult. He does enjoy being difficult. He does. Um,

638
00:33:40,280 --> 00:33:43,280
Speaker 1: he definitely does. And I was actually just talking about

639
00:33:43,680 --> 00:33:45,800
Speaker 1: our dog was perfect before I left for BALI. I

640
00:33:45,840 --> 00:33:47,560
Speaker 1: left for eight days and I came back and the

641
00:33:47,600 --> 00:33:50,560
Speaker 1: dog is now a terror. Um, And I blame it

642
00:33:50,560 --> 00:33:54,800
Speaker 1: all Indean, But I don't know dating him, it's it's

643
00:33:54,880 --> 00:33:57,880
Speaker 1: a very unique relationship. And I don't think I could

644
00:33:58,400 --> 00:34:01,160
Speaker 1: date anyone else after dating him, just because I love

645
00:34:01,360 --> 00:34:04,040
Speaker 1: the way he challenges me. I love his difficultness. At

646
00:34:04,080 --> 00:34:07,080
Speaker 1: times it is frustrating, but I just love that it's

647
00:34:07,160 --> 00:34:12,399
Speaker 1: not it's a very unpredictable relationship. I think unpredictability would

648
00:34:12,400 --> 00:34:14,759
Speaker 1: be a good way to describe Dean. Dean I would

649
00:34:14,760 --> 00:34:17,359
Speaker 1: imagine as a great partner to you, Kalen. We want

650
00:34:17,360 --> 00:34:20,319
Speaker 1: to learn a little bit more about your relationship. The

651
00:34:20,400 --> 00:34:22,400
Speaker 1: very first question we have for any couple coming up

652
00:34:22,440 --> 00:34:25,240
Speaker 1: here to night is where's the very first place? Where's

653
00:34:25,280 --> 00:34:28,239
Speaker 1: the very first restaurant you ate yet together? Oh? Um,

654
00:34:28,280 --> 00:34:30,640
Speaker 1: I think the first restaurant we ate at together side

655
00:34:30,640 --> 00:34:33,439
Speaker 1: from Paradise was in l a X one of those

656
00:34:33,480 --> 00:34:36,359
Speaker 1: restaurants in there. Maybe after that, I don't My first

657
00:34:36,440 --> 00:34:40,000
Speaker 1: meal with Dean was also really that's so funny by

658
00:34:40,040 --> 00:34:42,640
Speaker 1: it today, I was like, why does that place feel meaningful?

659
00:34:42,680 --> 00:34:45,239
Speaker 1: I was like, Oh, that's where I really met Dean

660
00:34:45,320 --> 00:34:47,719
Speaker 1: for the first Yes, we came back from Europe right

661
00:34:47,719 --> 00:34:50,239
Speaker 1: after his accident, and we're like, that's very sad. That's alre.

662
00:34:50,280 --> 00:34:52,239
Speaker 1: We had our first meal together outside of Paradise. That

663
00:34:52,320 --> 00:34:56,000
Speaker 1: was like technically our first date. That's incredible. Okay, So

664
00:34:56,239 --> 00:34:59,120
Speaker 1: we're also playing a game called Kinky truth or dare.

665
00:34:59,520 --> 00:35:05,600
Speaker 1: Ashley has reached into the funnel here and pulled out

666
00:35:06,440 --> 00:35:08,719
Speaker 1: She's going to ask you, I'm shaking it now you

667
00:35:08,840 --> 00:35:10,399
Speaker 1: here and kind of get an idea of what it is.

668
00:35:10,560 --> 00:35:12,400
Speaker 1: Actually pull that out and ask one of the truth

669
00:35:12,560 --> 00:35:15,320
Speaker 1: to Caitlin for her to answer about her relationship. I

670
00:35:15,320 --> 00:35:17,520
Speaker 1: don't know. This feels like the Elite Daily article I

671
00:35:17,560 --> 00:35:20,959
Speaker 1: had about Lub yesterday. I had an interview about Lub

672
00:35:21,080 --> 00:35:25,200
Speaker 1: yesterday and it was very awkward. I'll say that, Um,

673
00:35:25,239 --> 00:35:30,319
Speaker 1: so this is up that Alley who taught you the

674
00:35:30,400 --> 00:35:34,120
Speaker 1: most about sex and how to please a partner? I

675
00:35:34,160 --> 00:35:36,080
Speaker 1: have to talk. Let's not make this just about say

676
00:35:36,600 --> 00:35:39,240
Speaker 1: you could pfy it. Let's like say, like, who taught

677
00:35:39,280 --> 00:35:44,759
Speaker 1: you the most about intimacy physical intimacy? Mm hmm, I

678
00:35:44,800 --> 00:35:47,520
Speaker 1: think okay. In my relationship with Dean, it's just it

679
00:35:47,719 --> 00:35:49,799
Speaker 1: is so we can be so honest, we can be

680
00:35:49,920 --> 00:35:52,080
Speaker 1: I've never been fully myself. And we were actually talking

681
00:35:52,120 --> 00:35:55,680
Speaker 1: about this on our drive up, Um that in past

682
00:35:55,719 --> 00:35:58,040
Speaker 1: relationships they haven't gone through the trials and trip relations

683
00:35:58,080 --> 00:36:00,160
Speaker 1: or had hardships in their life like we have. We've

684
00:36:00,160 --> 00:36:02,279
Speaker 1: had to hide that part of us. So with Dean,

685
00:36:02,320 --> 00:36:04,440
Speaker 1: I feel like I've just learned so much about myself

686
00:36:04,880 --> 00:36:07,680
Speaker 1: in terms of intimacy, in terms of everything that I'm

687
00:36:07,760 --> 00:36:11,440
Speaker 1: He's just taught me a lot. So Dean as a person,

688
00:36:12,640 --> 00:36:18,680
Speaker 1: even with his difficulty, has taught you incredible intimacy in

689
00:36:18,719 --> 00:36:21,600
Speaker 1: all parts of your life. Kleen, what have you taught Dean?

690
00:36:21,680 --> 00:36:26,880
Speaker 1: You think? Um? I always get asked this, and I

691
00:36:26,880 --> 00:36:29,960
Speaker 1: always I'm like, I don't know. UM. I know that

692
00:36:30,000 --> 00:36:31,440
Speaker 1: I've learned so much from him, and I know he's

693
00:36:31,480 --> 00:36:33,920
Speaker 1: learned from me. Whether it be we both have to

694
00:36:33,960 --> 00:36:35,520
Speaker 1: leave in patience for each other because we both are

695
00:36:35,520 --> 00:36:38,760
Speaker 1: so different. Um. But he's also I feel like opened

696
00:36:38,840 --> 00:36:41,880
Speaker 1: up more with me too. I don't know, how do

697
00:36:41,920 --> 00:36:46,359
Speaker 1: you say no when he smiles? I can't. It's so frustrating.

698
00:36:46,600 --> 00:36:48,239
Speaker 1: Now I have a dog he gives me puppy eyes,

699
00:36:48,239 --> 00:36:49,719
Speaker 1: but I also have Dean who gives like the best

700
00:36:49,760 --> 00:36:51,919
Speaker 1: puppy eyes, and he'll do something to make me mad

701
00:36:52,000 --> 00:36:54,240
Speaker 1: or piss me off, and then I'm like, I forgive

702
00:36:54,280 --> 00:36:56,360
Speaker 1: you because you're just so freaking handsome and cute and

703
00:36:56,400 --> 00:37:02,120
Speaker 1: you're so sweetest. Yes, be hard to be Dean canon Less.

704
00:37:02,120 --> 00:37:06,800
Speaker 1: Be hard to be you too. You're absolutely beautiful. You're glowing. Caln,

705
00:37:06,800 --> 00:37:08,480
Speaker 1: thank you for coming on our podcast. It means a

706
00:37:08,480 --> 00:37:10,520
Speaker 1: lot for us for you to come up here, uh

707
00:37:10,600 --> 00:37:13,320
Speaker 1: speak with us about this relationship, even though Dean won't.

708
00:37:13,560 --> 00:37:17,640
Speaker 1: We appreciate you come up. We'll see, I don't know,

709
00:37:17,680 --> 00:37:21,799
Speaker 1: we'll see how we can drag stick you know what,

710
00:37:21,960 --> 00:37:26,320
Speaker 1: worried about the popsicle sticks. I'm a little worried. Um, Calen,

711
00:37:26,320 --> 00:37:29,359
Speaker 1: will let you go for now, get back downstairs, warm

712
00:37:29,440 --> 00:37:30,880
Speaker 1: up a bit. Thank you for coming on the podcast.

713
00:37:30,880 --> 00:37:42,560
Speaker 1: Thank you so much. We just talked to Kaylin, which

714
00:37:42,640 --> 00:37:48,279
Speaker 1: is the half of this ungler uh Calin relationship. That

715
00:37:48,320 --> 00:37:53,279
Speaker 1: we that we so well nobody knows, you know, is

716
00:37:53,360 --> 00:38:01,440
Speaker 1: Caitlin's last name Ungler? Now maybe it's Millard? You Miller? Well,

717
00:38:01,480 --> 00:38:03,560
Speaker 1: we hinted at it earlier. Dean you said it's the

718
00:38:03,560 --> 00:38:05,480
Speaker 1: only reason you're up here. It's not the only reason

719
00:38:05,600 --> 00:38:06,880
Speaker 1: you're up here. But we'll get out of the way

720
00:38:06,960 --> 00:38:09,439
Speaker 1: right just right off the top, you have a ring

721
00:38:09,640 --> 00:38:13,040
Speaker 1: on your finger? What does it represent? And why is

722
00:38:13,080 --> 00:38:15,000
Speaker 1: it there? He just updated it, by the way, he

723
00:38:15,080 --> 00:38:17,040
Speaker 1: got a new ring, like this is something that he's

724
00:38:17,040 --> 00:38:19,120
Speaker 1: really planning on having on his finger for a while.

725
00:38:19,480 --> 00:38:21,280
Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, I got I got my finger measures

726
00:38:21,280 --> 00:38:25,120
Speaker 1: and about this nice black ring. Um, I don't I

727
00:38:25,120 --> 00:38:28,160
Speaker 1: appreciate your asking a question right where on your left hand? Yes?

728
00:38:28,560 --> 00:38:30,960
Speaker 1: Where on my left ring finger? I appreciate that question.

729
00:38:31,000 --> 00:38:33,279
Speaker 1: I love that you guys are interested in and me

730
00:38:33,440 --> 00:38:37,759
Speaker 1: and my girlfriend's life. Um, I don't think I'm the

731
00:38:37,800 --> 00:38:39,839
Speaker 1: one that can answer this question for you guys, though.

732
00:38:39,840 --> 00:38:41,239
Speaker 1: I think it's it's she's the one that has to

733
00:38:41,280 --> 00:38:42,960
Speaker 1: answer that. She said that she couldn't answer it. She

734
00:38:43,000 --> 00:38:46,080
Speaker 1: said she wasn't allowed. I'm not allowed to answer this.

735
00:38:46,160 --> 00:38:49,680
Speaker 1: I think she's the one that's it's the problem. With

736
00:38:49,719 --> 00:38:54,000
Speaker 1: this whole thing right now? Is I get what Dean's doing.

737
00:38:54,600 --> 00:38:58,879
Speaker 1: He's he's a very smart man. He is. He knows

738
00:38:59,000 --> 00:39:01,239
Speaker 1: what he's setting us up for here. Because they will

739
00:39:01,280 --> 00:39:04,960
Speaker 1: never do a interview together. She's gonna blame it on him.

740
00:39:05,000 --> 00:39:06,480
Speaker 1: He's gonna blame on her, and they will never get

741
00:39:06,520 --> 00:39:09,200
Speaker 1: him the same dark room to ask him both at

742
00:39:09,239 --> 00:39:12,000
Speaker 1: the same time to say what did she really say that?

743
00:39:12,040 --> 00:39:14,440
Speaker 1: She was, Okay, So you guys are creating it so

744
00:39:14,440 --> 00:39:16,400
Speaker 1: that there's always a mystery or under a relationship and

745
00:39:16,440 --> 00:39:18,200
Speaker 1: that people never stop talking about. That's crazy that she

746
00:39:18,200 --> 00:39:19,880
Speaker 1: said that. I was allowed to answer because she's the

747
00:39:19,880 --> 00:39:23,160
Speaker 1: one that has the answer to it. It's like, are

748
00:39:23,280 --> 00:39:26,239
Speaker 1: you engaged? Are you like wearing the man engage and ring?

749
00:39:26,440 --> 00:39:29,480
Speaker 1: Listen again. I really appreciate you guys being interested in this,

750
00:39:29,600 --> 00:39:31,839
Speaker 1: but I can't answer it. She was, she's gonna get

751
00:39:31,920 --> 00:39:34,920
Speaker 1: upset with her. We're moving on here, Dean. We've been

752
00:39:35,000 --> 00:39:38,440
Speaker 1: up here asking about relationships, Kaylin. I'll just give it

753
00:39:38,440 --> 00:39:40,439
Speaker 1: a hint. She explained your relationship as something that she's

754
00:39:40,480 --> 00:39:42,719
Speaker 1: learned so much from you on She's talked about that

755
00:39:43,080 --> 00:39:45,560
Speaker 1: she could travel the world with you. I think she

756
00:39:45,560 --> 00:39:48,120
Speaker 1: said forever or a long time, never get tired of him,

757
00:39:48,239 --> 00:39:50,839
Speaker 1: and never get tired of you. Dean. We asked her

758
00:39:50,880 --> 00:39:52,600
Speaker 1: a question that I don't think she has a great

759
00:39:52,640 --> 00:39:54,440
Speaker 1: answer too, because I don't think she's the one that

760
00:39:54,440 --> 00:39:57,760
Speaker 1: can answer it. Dean, what have you learned from Kalin?

761
00:39:59,120 --> 00:40:01,680
Speaker 1: What have I learned from Kalin? And she didn't want

762
00:40:01,680 --> 00:40:04,560
Speaker 1: to self describe Ben, I get it. I'm glad she

763
00:40:04,600 --> 00:40:06,719
Speaker 1: did it. Oh did you ask Klein what I learned

764
00:40:06,719 --> 00:40:10,319
Speaker 1: from her? Like? She yeah, yeah, Um, what have I

765
00:40:10,400 --> 00:40:13,240
Speaker 1: learned from Calin? I think I've learned that it's totally

766
00:40:13,239 --> 00:40:15,319
Speaker 1: okay to be exactly the person that you want to

767
00:40:15,360 --> 00:40:18,719
Speaker 1: be because She's someone that celebrates the weird quirkiness that

768
00:40:18,760 --> 00:40:21,200
Speaker 1: I have consistently possessed, and I feel like in past

769
00:40:21,200 --> 00:40:23,080
Speaker 1: relationships I've always kind of hit that a little bit.

770
00:40:23,760 --> 00:40:26,640
Speaker 1: But with Klin, both of us, in my opinion, are

771
00:40:26,680 --> 00:40:30,279
Speaker 1: able to be super super goofy all the time, and uh,

772
00:40:30,360 --> 00:40:32,239
Speaker 1: for the first time in a relationship for me, I've

773
00:40:32,280 --> 00:40:34,480
Speaker 1: been able to like it's like celebrated, you know what

774
00:40:34,520 --> 00:40:36,120
Speaker 1: I mean, Because I've always been like a really weird guy,

775
00:40:36,160 --> 00:40:38,560
Speaker 1: at least self described as one. But in relationships I

776
00:40:38,600 --> 00:40:40,000
Speaker 1: feel like I always had as I had like certain

777
00:40:40,040 --> 00:40:41,839
Speaker 1: parts of me. Uh, and then this one, I feel

778
00:40:41,880 --> 00:40:45,600
Speaker 1: like I don't have to So that's uh, That's what

779
00:40:45,680 --> 00:40:47,520
Speaker 1: I've learned from her, that I can be exactly who

780
00:40:47,560 --> 00:40:49,520
Speaker 1: I am and not have to worry about being judged

781
00:40:49,800 --> 00:40:54,040
Speaker 1: or criticized. Why is it when people bring up the

782
00:40:54,040 --> 00:40:56,880
Speaker 1: longevity of a relationship you get so weary or like

783
00:40:56,960 --> 00:40:59,799
Speaker 1: awkward or unsure, like I feel like you're never the

784
00:40:59,800 --> 00:41:02,239
Speaker 1: guy that was like wants to say that he can

785
00:41:02,280 --> 00:41:04,920
Speaker 1: see himself with so and so, and look at him

786
00:41:04,960 --> 00:41:07,040
Speaker 1: getting awkward and like a decade what do you mean?

787
00:41:07,080 --> 00:41:09,440
Speaker 1: I don't understand the question. I feel like you always

788
00:41:09,480 --> 00:41:11,440
Speaker 1: get like I feel like you'll never be able to

789
00:41:12,200 --> 00:41:14,120
Speaker 1: Will you ever be comfortable saying that you're down to

790
00:41:14,120 --> 00:41:18,120
Speaker 1: commit to somebody for a lifetime? Um, I mean, let's

791
00:41:18,160 --> 00:41:20,520
Speaker 1: be honest, a lifetime. That's there's a lot of variables

792
00:41:20,520 --> 00:41:21,799
Speaker 1: that go into what a life like? Are you a

793
00:41:21,800 --> 00:41:24,440
Speaker 1: guy that sees himself married? See like, look at the

794
00:41:24,440 --> 00:41:27,359
Speaker 1: way he spends every question. I'm just saying that who

795
00:41:27,400 --> 00:41:28,960
Speaker 1: are we to say what the rest of our lives

796
00:41:28,960 --> 00:41:31,200
Speaker 1: are gonna look like? Let's phrase this question in a

797
00:41:31,280 --> 00:41:34,560
Speaker 1: dean one please. We spoke with Dean a few months

798
00:41:34,600 --> 00:41:36,200
Speaker 1: ago and he said something that's stuck with me that

799
00:41:36,280 --> 00:41:38,480
Speaker 1: I'm very happy about because I do love this man,

800
00:41:39,239 --> 00:41:41,759
Speaker 1: he said, and I don't want to put words in

801
00:41:41,760 --> 00:41:45,000
Speaker 1: your mouthter Dean, please correct me. Is that he has

802
00:41:45,680 --> 00:41:50,279
Speaker 1: envisioned longer lasting relationships more now than he probably did

803
00:41:50,320 --> 00:41:53,200
Speaker 1: two years ago, three years ago, that the progression of

804
00:41:53,320 --> 00:41:56,560
Speaker 1: his romantic life has increased to where it's opened his

805
00:41:56,560 --> 00:41:58,440
Speaker 1: eyes up to new possibilities that three years ago you

806
00:41:58,480 --> 00:42:00,360
Speaker 1: never thought you would feel in his That's thing you

807
00:42:00,480 --> 00:42:03,600
Speaker 1: learned because of the Bachelor experience. Um, it's hard to

808
00:42:03,600 --> 00:42:05,800
Speaker 1: say no to that, because everything that's happened after the

809
00:42:05,800 --> 00:42:08,080
Speaker 1: Bachelor experience was because of the Bachelor experience in a way,

810
00:42:08,120 --> 00:42:09,680
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, You can always trace it

811
00:42:09,680 --> 00:42:12,040
Speaker 1: back to being on the Bachelor. I think that the

812
00:42:12,040 --> 00:42:15,480
Speaker 1: biggest thing that's changed in my life has just been, Uh,

813
00:42:16,160 --> 00:42:18,040
Speaker 1: I love myself a lot more than I used to.

814
00:42:18,040 --> 00:42:19,760
Speaker 1: And you always hear like these you know, these hippie

815
00:42:19,760 --> 00:42:22,560
Speaker 1: dippie self love type stuff. But the Dean from two

816
00:42:22,600 --> 00:42:24,600
Speaker 1: years ago that was fresh off of the first Bachelor

817
00:42:24,600 --> 00:42:27,600
Speaker 1: in Paradise was like super anxious all the time. Insecure, etcetera.

818
00:42:28,000 --> 00:42:31,600
Speaker 1: And now I still am like working on myself, of course,

819
00:42:31,640 --> 00:42:33,799
Speaker 1: but I like the things that I'm doing now a

820
00:42:33,800 --> 00:42:35,279
Speaker 1: lot more than I was doing then, which was like

821
00:42:35,440 --> 00:42:37,040
Speaker 1: back then, I was like going to bars with my

822
00:42:37,080 --> 00:42:38,719
Speaker 1: friends and getting drunk. But now I'm like doing the

823
00:42:38,719 --> 00:42:40,240
Speaker 1: things that I want to, like going out and exploring

824
00:42:40,320 --> 00:42:42,680
Speaker 1: nature and taking pictures and scott having and rock climbing

825
00:42:42,680 --> 00:42:44,759
Speaker 1: and skiing all that kind of stuff. So I think

826
00:42:44,800 --> 00:42:46,440
Speaker 1: that because of The Bachelor, I've been able to do

827
00:42:46,480 --> 00:42:48,560
Speaker 1: those things, and because of those things, I am the

828
00:42:48,560 --> 00:42:51,719
Speaker 1: person that I am now. When because I'm sorry to

829
00:42:51,719 --> 00:42:54,359
Speaker 1: tie this off back into the original question, because I

830
00:42:54,400 --> 00:42:56,120
Speaker 1: feel like I'm a lot more comfortable with who I

831
00:42:56,160 --> 00:42:59,520
Speaker 1: am now. The longevity of relationships or all that kind

832
00:42:59,560 --> 00:43:02,640
Speaker 1: of stuff seems to fit in my life a lot more.

833
00:43:02,880 --> 00:43:04,520
Speaker 1: It makes a lot more sense for me, now, you

834
00:43:04,520 --> 00:43:07,719
Speaker 1: know what I mean. How does Klin fit into that? Then? She?

835
00:43:08,520 --> 00:43:10,080
Speaker 1: What do you mean in terms of like the things

836
00:43:10,080 --> 00:43:12,520
Speaker 1: that I'm interested in doing? Like, so your life has changed.

837
00:43:12,520 --> 00:43:16,160
Speaker 1: You're exploring, which exploration typically is a pretty isolating event,

838
00:43:16,160 --> 00:43:18,520
Speaker 1: which is great. It's a it's a good thing. But

839
00:43:18,560 --> 00:43:21,680
Speaker 1: there's adventures there. Skydiving, these these things are happening just

840
00:43:21,760 --> 00:43:24,400
Speaker 1: for anybody out there listening, Like, we see you on

841
00:43:24,440 --> 00:43:26,719
Speaker 1: the road, we see you doing amazing things. But how

842
00:43:26,800 --> 00:43:30,359
Speaker 1: does Kaylin now fit into that? And is it This

843
00:43:30,400 --> 00:43:33,080
Speaker 1: is gonna be a pretty harsh, aggressive question, but because

844
00:43:33,120 --> 00:43:38,319
Speaker 1: I don't know what anybody is it Like, do you

845
00:43:38,360 --> 00:43:42,279
Speaker 1: like having her there? Because those are fun things to

846
00:43:42,280 --> 00:43:46,680
Speaker 1: do alone? Do you like having Klin at these adventures? Uh?

847
00:43:46,880 --> 00:43:49,719
Speaker 1: There are times where I will purposefully plan a trip

848
00:43:49,760 --> 00:43:51,360
Speaker 1: by myself because I sometimes I like to use that

849
00:43:51,360 --> 00:43:54,520
Speaker 1: time to like decompress and unwind and explore myself a

850
00:43:54,560 --> 00:43:56,759
Speaker 1: little bit. But the great great thing about her is

851
00:43:56,800 --> 00:43:59,479
Speaker 1: she is curious. She is still learning a lot about

852
00:43:59,480 --> 00:44:01,640
Speaker 1: herself while I continue to learn about myself, and so

853
00:44:01,680 --> 00:44:05,320
Speaker 1: she's open to basically anything, right, Like, so say I'm

854
00:44:05,400 --> 00:44:07,200
Speaker 1: I want to go travel to this weird place, You'd

855
00:44:07,200 --> 00:44:08,160
Speaker 1: be like, dude, I want to come with you. That

856
00:44:08,200 --> 00:44:10,960
Speaker 1: sounds awesome. A lot of people aren't that way, And

857
00:44:10,960 --> 00:44:13,440
Speaker 1: so it's great about like her. The mode that she's

858
00:44:13,480 --> 00:44:15,920
Speaker 1: in now as a self discovery mode, which means she's like,

859
00:44:16,320 --> 00:44:18,279
Speaker 1: I'm game for anything. For the most part, I've tried

860
00:44:18,280 --> 00:44:21,200
Speaker 1: to get her to skydive she doesn't skydive, but um,

861
00:44:21,239 --> 00:44:23,200
Speaker 1: but yeah, she's been super supportive a lot, right, And

862
00:44:23,239 --> 00:44:24,480
Speaker 1: you're right, it is a weird thing, Like how does

863
00:44:24,520 --> 00:44:26,439
Speaker 1: that fit in? Because you and I have talked about

864
00:44:26,480 --> 00:44:28,560
Speaker 1: like traveling to South America and stuff and how you

865
00:44:28,600 --> 00:44:31,319
Speaker 1: did the Inca Trail and how isolated that was, but

866
00:44:31,360 --> 00:44:32,680
Speaker 1: you like grew from it and learned from it and

867
00:44:32,680 --> 00:44:34,279
Speaker 1: some things you have to do alone. But sometimes it's

868
00:44:34,320 --> 00:44:36,160
Speaker 1: nice to have like a partner with you to experience

869
00:44:36,200 --> 00:44:38,440
Speaker 1: us together. That's great. I'm learning about myself and we'll

870
00:44:38,440 --> 00:44:40,319
Speaker 1: talk about that later in the podcast. But I get

871
00:44:40,360 --> 00:44:43,320
Speaker 1: where you're coming from. Being in a cabin with you guys.

872
00:44:43,800 --> 00:44:46,720
Speaker 1: The three of us together reminds me of Winter Games.

873
00:44:47,600 --> 00:44:51,680
Speaker 1: You're ex Leslie got engaged this week. Any words, Congratulations

874
00:44:51,800 --> 00:44:54,160
Speaker 1: And I know it's the only word I've got. I

875
00:44:54,160 --> 00:44:58,160
Speaker 1: think that's a great word. What else you gonna say? Uh, Dean,

876
00:44:58,200 --> 00:45:01,759
Speaker 1: We've been playing a game with our guests. Um, it's

877
00:45:01,800 --> 00:45:04,920
Speaker 1: been great. Actually, I've had a terrific time doing it.

878
00:45:05,120 --> 00:45:07,759
Speaker 1: I'm gonna ask you one question here and uh, and

879
00:45:07,760 --> 00:45:09,600
Speaker 1: then Ashley will take over a game that we call

880
00:45:09,760 --> 00:45:13,720
Speaker 1: Kinky Truth or Dare. My game is just a question

881
00:45:13,760 --> 00:45:17,200
Speaker 1: about your partner. So answer this about Caitlin. What is

882
00:45:17,200 --> 00:45:20,120
Speaker 1: her favorite purchase that she's made this year? Well, her

883
00:45:20,160 --> 00:45:23,040
Speaker 1: name is Caitlin, first and foremost. Did I say Caitlin?

884
00:45:23,840 --> 00:45:26,440
Speaker 1: I think I met Caitlin did. Yeah, it's a it's

885
00:45:26,480 --> 00:45:29,040
Speaker 1: a pretty it's it's a strange name. The favorite purchase

886
00:45:29,080 --> 00:45:32,440
Speaker 1: that she's made, Yeah, she's made this year. That's a

887
00:45:32,480 --> 00:45:35,360
Speaker 1: really difficult question. The year is young. So let me

888
00:45:35,360 --> 00:45:38,880
Speaker 1: just think back a couple of months. Uh, as you

889
00:45:38,880 --> 00:45:40,640
Speaker 1: think about this, Ashley is going to reach into our

890
00:45:40,719 --> 00:45:42,759
Speaker 1: kinky truth or dare and just pulling out, actually hold

891
00:45:42,800 --> 00:45:46,960
Speaker 1: onto that until Dean answers, is the clean one? There's cleaner? Yeah,

892
00:45:47,000 --> 00:45:51,520
Speaker 1: we've pulled out those ones in here. Man, her favorite

893
00:45:51,520 --> 00:45:53,959
Speaker 1: thing that she's purchased. I want to say, I'm gonna

894
00:45:54,000 --> 00:45:56,520
Speaker 1: go a little bit before. I'm gonna say a plane

895
00:45:56,520 --> 00:45:59,040
Speaker 1: ticket to Europe to spend time with me while I recovered.

896
00:45:59,440 --> 00:46:01,160
Speaker 1: That's awesome. Uh. I don't want to speak for her.

897
00:46:01,160 --> 00:46:03,000
Speaker 1: I don't want to put words in her mouth, but

898
00:46:03,360 --> 00:46:05,719
Speaker 1: I know that she really wanted to be there for me,

899
00:46:05,880 --> 00:46:07,879
Speaker 1: and I think that that's really like the only big

900
00:46:07,920 --> 00:46:10,520
Speaker 1: purchase that she's made that I can think of in

901
00:46:10,560 --> 00:46:12,399
Speaker 1: the past couple of months. I remember the last time

902
00:46:12,400 --> 00:46:15,000
Speaker 1: we asked a question like that at the I Heart Festival.

903
00:46:15,200 --> 00:46:17,040
Speaker 1: That was the thing that she said about you. It

904
00:46:17,120 --> 00:46:19,919
Speaker 1: was like that you guys had supports on airline tickets. Yeah,

905
00:46:19,920 --> 00:46:22,160
Speaker 1: that's kind of our thing is we like to travel together,

906
00:46:22,360 --> 00:46:24,319
Speaker 1: you know, and hopefully we can continue that. I do

907
00:46:24,480 --> 00:46:27,120
Speaker 1: say as a friend that was let's give an ode

908
00:46:27,120 --> 00:46:31,560
Speaker 1: to Kalin. Here is when you got hurt. That was

909
00:46:31,600 --> 00:46:37,120
Speaker 1: a very big topic around kind of felt like everywhere

910
00:46:37,680 --> 00:46:41,480
Speaker 1: and she has can we just can I speak for you?

911
00:46:41,600 --> 00:46:43,360
Speaker 1: Or how has she been as your nurse? It was

912
00:46:43,440 --> 00:46:46,000
Speaker 1: so cute to see her just like jet off the

913
00:46:46,040 --> 00:46:47,960
Speaker 1: next day or two. I mean, not to discredit her,

914
00:46:48,000 --> 00:46:49,600
Speaker 1: she was already kind of planning on coming to Europe.

915
00:46:50,120 --> 00:46:52,040
Speaker 1: But listen, don't get me wrong. The fact that she's

916
00:46:52,040 --> 00:46:54,520
Speaker 1: stuck with me in Europe throughout the entire thing and

917
00:46:54,560 --> 00:46:58,319
Speaker 1: like changed your plans. I when I got back from that,

918
00:46:58,320 --> 00:47:01,160
Speaker 1: when I arrived back in America through except my accident,

919
00:47:01,719 --> 00:47:03,160
Speaker 1: I was re reflecting on it a little bit and

920
00:47:03,200 --> 00:47:05,719
Speaker 1: I was like, that experience really really sucked, but it

921
00:47:05,800 --> 00:47:07,960
Speaker 1: sucked a lot less because Kitlin was with me and

922
00:47:08,000 --> 00:47:09,959
Speaker 1: I was trying to imagine going through all that without

923
00:47:10,040 --> 00:47:11,920
Speaker 1: having her by my side to you know, do like

924
00:47:12,000 --> 00:47:14,319
Speaker 1: ridiculous things like basically helped me put my socks on,

925
00:47:14,360 --> 00:47:15,560
Speaker 1: help me get out of bed so I could walk

926
00:47:15,600 --> 00:47:18,120
Speaker 1: over to the bathroom, like that kind of ridiculous stuff. Uh,

927
00:47:18,400 --> 00:47:21,480
Speaker 1: like the really really non glamorous stuff. And she definitely

928
00:47:21,560 --> 00:47:23,560
Speaker 1: made that whole experience a lot less miserable than it

929
00:47:23,600 --> 00:47:26,759
Speaker 1: could have been. So that's cool. And that's when you

930
00:47:26,800 --> 00:47:32,680
Speaker 1: decided to wear a ring. Sure, what's the kicky truth day?

931
00:47:32,760 --> 00:47:35,680
Speaker 1: Let's get that. Have you ever caught yourself turned on

932
00:47:36,040 --> 00:47:44,000
Speaker 1: by something completely inappropriate? Absolutely? Yeah, it was an example. Uh,

933
00:47:44,160 --> 00:47:46,520
Speaker 1: I can't think of a specific example, but any boy

934
00:47:46,560 --> 00:47:50,319
Speaker 1: that answers that question saying no is lying to a

935
00:47:50,360 --> 00:47:55,239
Speaker 1: gust of winds. There's a time in my life that

936
00:47:55,960 --> 00:47:58,799
Speaker 1: my one of my best friends, he was my offensive line.

937
00:47:58,880 --> 00:48:01,319
Speaker 1: He was the sinner when I was. When I was

938
00:48:01,480 --> 00:48:03,439
Speaker 1: when I was in high school and one football prize

939
00:48:03,520 --> 00:48:05,560
Speaker 1: goes dude, high school stucks? Was like why he goes?

940
00:48:05,680 --> 00:48:07,279
Speaker 1: There's just moments you just want to hump a wall.

941
00:48:09,320 --> 00:48:11,239
Speaker 1: When I was when I was nineteen or twenty year

942
00:48:11,239 --> 00:48:12,600
Speaker 1: like right around that age, I was working as a

943
00:48:12,640 --> 00:48:15,440
Speaker 1: bellhop at a hotel and Aspen, and I was, you know,

944
00:48:15,480 --> 00:48:16,880
Speaker 1: it's like a slow time of the season. So I

945
00:48:16,920 --> 00:48:18,439
Speaker 1: was like reading a book at the bell hoop stand

946
00:48:18,480 --> 00:48:19,600
Speaker 1: and I was reading this book and there was like

947
00:48:19,640 --> 00:48:21,120
Speaker 1: something happening in the book. I was like, wow, this

948
00:48:21,160 --> 00:48:23,560
Speaker 1: is getting hot. And I swear I was just standing

949
00:48:23,600 --> 00:48:26,280
Speaker 1: there and like things started happening to me, like down below.

950
00:48:26,760 --> 00:48:29,000
Speaker 1: And the thing is, I'm wearing like a bellhop uniform,

951
00:48:29,040 --> 00:48:31,480
Speaker 1: like slacks, tucked in shirt, so you can see everything

952
00:48:31,480 --> 00:48:33,440
Speaker 1: that's happening. And like a car pulls up and I'm like,

953
00:48:33,440 --> 00:48:35,160
Speaker 1: what am I spent? Like I can't go help them

954
00:48:35,280 --> 00:48:37,920
Speaker 1: right now like that, you know, So it definitely happens.

955
00:48:38,000 --> 00:48:40,400
Speaker 1: And and that's a great question. I love that. I

956
00:48:40,400 --> 00:48:43,239
Speaker 1: think anybody out there listening to oh I just said yeah,

957
00:48:43,320 --> 00:48:45,840
Speaker 1: just like I mean, I think anything like any boy

958
00:48:45,880 --> 00:48:48,440
Speaker 1: that doesn't say yeah, Like there's been moments in your

959
00:48:48,480 --> 00:48:50,560
Speaker 1: life you're like, I hope nobody ever finds out what

960
00:48:50,719 --> 00:48:53,640
Speaker 1: my mind is thinking, because this it feels weird for

961
00:48:53,680 --> 00:48:55,840
Speaker 1: me and you. There's a tree over there that was

962
00:48:55,840 --> 00:48:59,279
Speaker 1: looking good for whatever reason, and something happened. It's messed up.

963
00:48:59,320 --> 00:49:01,520
Speaker 1: That's a great question, and as I think I will say,

964
00:49:01,560 --> 00:49:04,839
Speaker 1: I'll admit, like in the nineties, like I feel like

965
00:49:04,880 --> 00:49:07,360
Speaker 1: I was oddly turned on by like a cartoon or

966
00:49:07,360 --> 00:49:11,120
Speaker 1: to sure. Okay, actually you're not weird. Anybody out there

967
00:49:11,160 --> 00:49:13,919
Speaker 1: listening Sorry sorry, yeah yeah, an even out there listening

968
00:49:13,960 --> 00:49:17,759
Speaker 1: to this has experienced uh, weirdness in their life before Dean.

969
00:49:17,960 --> 00:49:19,960
Speaker 1: We love you, we think you. Thank you for coming

970
00:49:20,000 --> 00:49:22,719
Speaker 1: on the podcast. Get back downstairs, warm up by the fire,

971
00:49:23,080 --> 00:49:25,520
Speaker 1: Go grab the next guest. We're excited to talk to

972
00:49:25,960 --> 00:49:33,040
Speaker 1: Jess Bringer up. Please on it. Thank you so much

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Speaker 1: All right, Justica Clark is in the room. You guys

993
00:50:55,680 --> 00:50:59,400
Speaker 1: are so cute, Like the love is so fresh, and

994
00:50:59,600 --> 00:51:03,120
Speaker 1: like you look at each other so adoringly. Still, when

995
00:51:03,160 --> 00:51:05,520
Speaker 1: do you think that will go away? I hope never,

996
00:51:06,440 --> 00:51:08,120
Speaker 1: That's what we all actually. When do you think it's

997
00:51:08,120 --> 00:51:12,840
Speaker 1: gonna go away? Probably soon? No, I think that because

998
00:51:12,920 --> 00:51:14,920
Speaker 1: Jared and I got engaged so fast that, like, I

999
00:51:14,960 --> 00:51:17,440
Speaker 1: think our honeymoon phase is over fast. Also because we

1000
00:51:17,520 --> 00:51:19,880
Speaker 1: knew each other for three years before we were together.

1001
00:51:20,480 --> 00:51:24,239
Speaker 1: I think our honeymoon phase left a little quicker than normal, because, like,

1002
00:51:26,000 --> 00:51:28,040
Speaker 1: how do you keep a spark when you've known somebody

1003
00:51:28,120 --> 00:51:30,680
Speaker 1: for so long. I mean, you do you find ways.

1004
00:51:31,560 --> 00:51:34,840
Speaker 1: But like the look that you guys have, I agree,

1005
00:51:34,960 --> 00:51:38,000
Speaker 1: do you ever actually think or wish that you would

1006
00:51:38,000 --> 00:51:43,880
Speaker 1: have waited longer to get engaged? No, not married. I

1007
00:51:43,960 --> 00:51:46,000
Speaker 1: think we could have waited to get engaged, like another

1008
00:51:46,080 --> 00:51:48,040
Speaker 1: six months. I don't wish for it, but like we

1009
00:51:48,120 --> 00:51:50,279
Speaker 1: could have done it for sure, But then I would

1010
00:51:50,280 --> 00:51:53,480
Speaker 1: have kind of thrown off our wedding timing because you know,

1011
00:51:53,640 --> 00:51:56,680
Speaker 1: you usually get engaged and then like you have a

1012
00:51:56,760 --> 00:51:58,320
Speaker 1: year to play on your wedding. I think that's like

1013
00:51:58,400 --> 00:52:02,960
Speaker 1: average these days. And if we had gotten engaged in December,

1014
00:52:03,120 --> 00:52:05,200
Speaker 1: then we'd have to really turn around the summer wedding,

1015
00:52:05,200 --> 00:52:06,919
Speaker 1: and I really wanted a summer wedding. Do you guys

1016
00:52:07,000 --> 00:52:09,920
Speaker 1: know what season you want your future possible wedding to

1017
00:52:09,960 --> 00:52:11,920
Speaker 1: be in? And like how often do we talk about marriage?

1018
00:52:12,320 --> 00:52:13,880
Speaker 1: Like is that weird for me to bring up or

1019
00:52:14,200 --> 00:52:17,320
Speaker 1: have you talked about have you talked about it? We

1020
00:52:17,440 --> 00:52:20,759
Speaker 1: talked about it, um, So we'd have to get married

1021
00:52:20,800 --> 00:52:23,320
Speaker 1: in a certain time frame because of my little brother.

1022
00:52:24,040 --> 00:52:26,560
Speaker 1: Explain this is because he's a base player. He's a

1023
00:52:26,600 --> 00:52:31,680
Speaker 1: baseball player, so he's only off November to February. Damn,

1024
00:52:32,000 --> 00:52:34,240
Speaker 1: and he's got to be involved. I have two brothers.

1025
00:52:34,520 --> 00:52:38,240
Speaker 1: That's a cold season. Yeah, well I wouldn't mind. Like Christmas,

1026
00:52:38,760 --> 00:52:40,880
Speaker 1: I love Christmas. I was told this and I was like,

1027
00:52:40,920 --> 00:52:43,200
Speaker 1: you're gonna be kidding me. We're playing this big day

1028
00:52:43,239 --> 00:52:45,880
Speaker 1: around your little brother. And she's like, yep, it's important.

1029
00:52:45,920 --> 00:52:47,520
Speaker 1: And I was like, all right, and I'm not kidding.

1030
00:52:47,520 --> 00:52:49,120
Speaker 1: As soon as Jessica and I start to get really

1031
00:52:49,200 --> 00:52:52,480
Speaker 1: serious and her family, you know, started to understand that,

1032
00:52:52,719 --> 00:52:55,280
Speaker 1: like this was a long term thing. I was laughing

1033
00:52:55,400 --> 00:52:57,759
Speaker 1: because I got multiple text from multiple people and her

1034
00:52:57,800 --> 00:53:00,360
Speaker 1: family going, you know, there's a tight time for you

1035
00:53:00,400 --> 00:53:04,359
Speaker 1: guys to get married. Well, you're only child, you don't

1036
00:53:04,680 --> 00:53:08,320
Speaker 1: people have brothers, so it's like your brothers, they're vital.

1037
00:53:08,760 --> 00:53:11,919
Speaker 1: Philip Philip Phillips all about Philip, but it is Phillips World,

1038
00:53:13,080 --> 00:53:16,640
Speaker 1: not too far into the future. But how long do

1039
00:53:16,800 --> 00:53:21,000
Speaker 1: you guys think people should be engaged for? Like what's

1040
00:53:21,000 --> 00:53:23,759
Speaker 1: an ideal engagement amount of time? Now that we're talking about,

1041
00:53:23,840 --> 00:53:27,960
Speaker 1: you know, weddings, I've heard six months. So there's multiple

1042
00:53:28,040 --> 00:53:30,359
Speaker 1: camps on this. Some people said that you should use

1043
00:53:30,440 --> 00:53:35,880
Speaker 1: the engagement period as the wedding planning period, you shouldn't

1044
00:53:35,960 --> 00:53:38,919
Speaker 1: stay in it very long because if you get into

1045
00:53:39,000 --> 00:53:40,920
Speaker 1: it long and you're not planning a wedding, and then

1046
00:53:40,960 --> 00:53:43,360
Speaker 1: you can be in limbo for a while. Yea, I

1047
00:53:43,760 --> 00:53:47,800
Speaker 1: have a different feeling than six months, mostly because I

1048
00:53:47,840 --> 00:53:49,840
Speaker 1: think as soon as you engage, you should start planning

1049
00:53:49,880 --> 00:53:54,719
Speaker 1: the wedding. But I also think that we, like so

1050
00:53:54,960 --> 00:53:59,000
Speaker 1: many people stress themselves out because their wedding is four

1051
00:53:59,040 --> 00:54:00,840
Speaker 1: months away. Three months it too much. That's what I

1052
00:54:00,920 --> 00:54:02,480
Speaker 1: just said, Like you need, I feel like you need

1053
00:54:02,520 --> 00:54:04,680
Speaker 1: a hear you need. You should start planning it, but

1054
00:54:04,760 --> 00:54:07,239
Speaker 1: you should pick the place you want, the time you want,

1055
00:54:07,320 --> 00:54:09,320
Speaker 1: the location you want. You should start prepping so that

1056
00:54:09,360 --> 00:54:13,120
Speaker 1: it's not like three months of just stress and like chaos.

1057
00:54:13,760 --> 00:54:16,080
Speaker 1: You start prepping right away, but you give yourself the

1058
00:54:16,120 --> 00:54:18,239
Speaker 1: time to enjoy it, like it's a fun time and

1059
00:54:18,280 --> 00:54:20,000
Speaker 1: you're never gonna get that time back, so why just

1060
00:54:20,120 --> 00:54:24,280
Speaker 1: jump into that next season? Like enjoy being asked about

1061
00:54:24,280 --> 00:54:28,920
Speaker 1: your wedding, Enjoy being like the still the couple that's engaged,

1062
00:54:29,120 --> 00:54:31,680
Speaker 1: and like people want to know about like your friends

1063
00:54:31,719 --> 00:54:33,880
Speaker 1: and your family. You're engaged, when's the wedding? When are

1064
00:54:33,920 --> 00:54:36,960
Speaker 1: the like what's it gonna be like? Because actually you're

1065
00:54:37,000 --> 00:54:40,080
Speaker 1: married now, I imagine that it's a whole new type

1066
00:54:40,120 --> 00:54:43,080
Speaker 1: of exciting. But there is a drop off a little

1067
00:54:43,120 --> 00:54:46,600
Speaker 1: bit from that like engagement period. So we found the

1068
00:54:46,680 --> 00:54:49,759
Speaker 1: honeymoon was great for the drop off to avoid the

1069
00:54:49,840 --> 00:54:52,880
Speaker 1: drop off because we went straight to the honeymoon and

1070
00:54:52,960 --> 00:54:55,360
Speaker 1: then we kind of like took a month to do

1071
00:54:55,600 --> 00:54:58,200
Speaker 1: very little work and we kind of eased our way

1072
00:54:58,239 --> 00:55:01,040
Speaker 1: out of it. That was the best way of like

1073
00:55:01,239 --> 00:55:04,920
Speaker 1: not having that holy moly, it's over now what feeling?

1074
00:55:05,560 --> 00:55:08,799
Speaker 1: But it can happen everybody. A lot of people talk about.

1075
00:55:08,840 --> 00:55:10,880
Speaker 1: I think it's also not putting too much pressure on

1076
00:55:10,960 --> 00:55:13,839
Speaker 1: the wedding, and like, I think I've been to enough

1077
00:55:13,880 --> 00:55:15,759
Speaker 1: weddings and been in enough fittings that I've realized that

1078
00:55:15,800 --> 00:55:18,560
Speaker 1: the wedding is for the people that attend and like

1079
00:55:19,040 --> 00:55:21,680
Speaker 1: you as a couple don't even really hardly remember it

1080
00:55:21,800 --> 00:55:24,320
Speaker 1: from what a lot of people have. But don't do that.

1081
00:55:24,920 --> 00:55:26,560
Speaker 1: Don't do that, because I heard a lot of people

1082
00:55:26,600 --> 00:55:29,359
Speaker 1: say that too. But Jared and I feel completely different. Really,

1083
00:55:29,560 --> 00:55:33,200
Speaker 1: we feel like we were completely engaged with each other

1084
00:55:33,360 --> 00:55:35,719
Speaker 1: the entire day, like we made it about us and

1085
00:55:35,800 --> 00:55:38,520
Speaker 1: not the other people. And that's what we that's the

1086
00:55:38,840 --> 00:55:40,680
Speaker 1: advice that we give to people. Were like, your guests

1087
00:55:40,719 --> 00:55:44,719
Speaker 1: are great, show love to your guests, but like, don't

1088
00:55:44,800 --> 00:55:46,920
Speaker 1: sit there for five minutes with each person, like a

1089
00:55:47,000 --> 00:55:51,160
Speaker 1: quick hello is fine. Spend that time with each other. Yeah,

1090
00:55:51,400 --> 00:55:53,600
Speaker 1: I get that well in the cool part for Jesse

1091
00:55:53,640 --> 00:55:56,000
Speaker 1: and I and it will last us longer this honeymoon

1092
00:55:56,160 --> 00:55:58,759
Speaker 1: or like this super like fun exciting period. I hope

1093
00:55:58,760 --> 00:56:01,080
Speaker 1: it lasts forever. I do. I know it's a wishful

1094
00:56:01,120 --> 00:56:03,399
Speaker 1: thing because you are distance. I was going to say,

1095
00:56:03,520 --> 00:56:05,600
Speaker 1: a huge piece of this is we're long distance, and

1096
00:56:05,640 --> 00:56:09,560
Speaker 1: it's been amazing, blessing. There's been moments that it's terrible,

1097
00:56:09,680 --> 00:56:11,640
Speaker 1: like when I'm doing something really fun or she's doing

1098
00:56:11,719 --> 00:56:13,320
Speaker 1: something really fun and we want to be together for it.

1099
00:56:13,360 --> 00:56:15,480
Speaker 1: Like there's moments like dang it, I wish I wish

1100
00:56:15,520 --> 00:56:17,719
Speaker 1: it was easier. But for the most part, there is

1101
00:56:17,800 --> 00:56:20,879
Speaker 1: something that I don't take for granted. By walking around

1102
00:56:20,920 --> 00:56:23,520
Speaker 1: the corner when I haven't seen Jess in two weeks

1103
00:56:23,560 --> 00:56:25,680
Speaker 1: and she shows up and she's there, and I'm like,

1104
00:56:25,880 --> 00:56:30,160
Speaker 1: you've like it's just like this excitement and like I

1105
00:56:30,360 --> 00:56:33,480
Speaker 1: am enjoying this period too, Like even a couple of

1106
00:56:33,560 --> 00:56:36,440
Speaker 1: days ago, I was practicing for Bachelor Live on stage

1107
00:56:37,000 --> 00:56:40,239
Speaker 1: and I heard that Jess was in my dressing room.

1108
00:56:40,520 --> 00:56:42,920
Speaker 1: And I walked outside of stage and walked back to

1109
00:56:42,960 --> 00:56:44,320
Speaker 1: my dress room, and there she was right when I

1110
00:56:44,320 --> 00:56:46,719
Speaker 1: opened up the door, and I was like, my heart sank,

1111
00:56:46,800 --> 00:56:49,759
Speaker 1: Like I was just like yeah, like you know, and

1112
00:56:49,840 --> 00:56:51,800
Speaker 1: I'm like, I don't ever want to take this away, Like,

1113
00:56:51,920 --> 00:56:53,440
Speaker 1: and I know when you spend day after day, like

1114
00:56:53,480 --> 00:56:55,239
Speaker 1: you were just saying with Jared, you wake up morning

1115
00:56:55,280 --> 00:56:57,080
Speaker 1: after morning, you sit there night after night. Once you

1116
00:56:57,120 --> 00:56:58,960
Speaker 1: got to do all these things together, I know that

1117
00:56:59,200 --> 00:57:03,400
Speaker 1: leaves has to Yeah, and I this is advice that

1118
00:57:03,440 --> 00:57:06,000
Speaker 1: I always tell couples that don't live together. So we didn't.

1119
00:57:06,040 --> 00:57:08,480
Speaker 1: I was not down to live together until we were engaged.

1120
00:57:08,840 --> 00:57:10,800
Speaker 1: But we were all in together for six months or

1121
00:57:10,840 --> 00:57:13,799
Speaker 1: not even by the time we got engaged. We get

1122
00:57:14,239 --> 00:57:15,480
Speaker 1: by the time we moved in. I think we were

1123
00:57:15,560 --> 00:57:19,080
Speaker 1: together for four and some months. Um. But what I

1124
00:57:19,240 --> 00:57:21,560
Speaker 1: missed so much is that period where we didn't live

1125
00:57:21,600 --> 00:57:24,880
Speaker 1: together and I'd hear his steps walking up to my

1126
00:57:25,000 --> 00:57:27,680
Speaker 1: door and my heart would sink every time, and it's

1127
00:57:27,720 --> 00:57:30,400
Speaker 1: so fun. And then you like light candles, and you

1128
00:57:30,520 --> 00:57:34,600
Speaker 1: make dinner, and you shower beforehand and you put makeup on.

1129
00:57:35,320 --> 00:57:37,440
Speaker 1: Just like that extra effort where you feel like you're

1130
00:57:37,440 --> 00:57:40,720
Speaker 1: really dating that goes away when you live together because

1131
00:57:40,960 --> 00:57:43,400
Speaker 1: it's not a novelty to see them, but it also

1132
00:57:43,560 --> 00:57:46,600
Speaker 1: like takes next your effort. Like I feel like you

1133
00:57:46,880 --> 00:57:49,520
Speaker 1: could recreate it everyone. I do recreate it every once

1134
00:57:49,560 --> 00:57:51,040
Speaker 1: at all. Yes, it just you have to put in

1135
00:57:51,080 --> 00:57:53,760
Speaker 1: the effort, so it's not the same like feeling of

1136
00:57:53,880 --> 00:57:56,080
Speaker 1: like your heart drops to your toes and you deal,

1137
00:57:56,200 --> 00:57:59,360
Speaker 1: but you can still. It just is a whole different

1138
00:57:59,440 --> 00:58:01,560
Speaker 1: way of me in the relationship. I guess yeah. But

1139
00:58:01,640 --> 00:58:03,640
Speaker 1: I have friends who have done long distance all through

1140
00:58:03,760 --> 00:58:05,600
Speaker 1: dating and then they get married and they're like, it's

1141
00:58:05,600 --> 00:58:07,720
Speaker 1: actually awesome to be sitting on the couch and look

1142
00:58:07,760 --> 00:58:10,640
Speaker 1: and they're there instead of y'all being however many miles

1143
00:58:10,640 --> 00:58:12,480
Speaker 1: apart when you get to a certain point, I'm just

1144
00:58:12,640 --> 00:58:15,320
Speaker 1: totally sure, but it does go away, all right. Well,

1145
00:58:15,400 --> 00:58:18,360
Speaker 1: I picked a pop popsicle stick before you came up here, Jas,

1146
00:58:18,600 --> 00:58:23,520
Speaker 1: and the question was, when did you know that you're

1147
00:58:23,600 --> 00:58:29,640
Speaker 1: really into Ben? What was the moment? I think, well,

1148
00:58:29,680 --> 00:58:32,600
Speaker 1: after our first phone call, I hung up the phone,

1149
00:58:32,800 --> 00:58:35,240
Speaker 1: and I was at my parents house and I looked

1150
00:58:35,280 --> 00:58:37,400
Speaker 1: at my brother and I was like, I'm either going

1151
00:58:37,480 --> 00:58:39,360
Speaker 1: to date this guy or never ever meet this guy.

1152
00:58:40,080 --> 00:58:42,360
Speaker 1: And like I kind of knew even though when we

1153
00:58:42,440 --> 00:58:44,400
Speaker 1: hung up the first time and then was like, I'll

1154
00:58:44,440 --> 00:58:45,960
Speaker 1: get a good friend out of this at least, and

1155
00:58:46,040 --> 00:58:48,400
Speaker 1: I was like, Bill might not never hear from that's

1156
00:58:48,440 --> 00:58:49,880
Speaker 1: what you said to her. I was like, well, I

1157
00:58:49,960 --> 00:58:51,840
Speaker 1: first thing comes to worst, like it's really nice talking

1158
00:58:51,880 --> 00:58:54,080
Speaker 1: to you. If if all fails, I'll get a good

1159
00:58:54,080 --> 00:58:56,560
Speaker 1: friend out of it, Oh my goodness. But I will

1160
00:58:56,600 --> 00:58:58,760
Speaker 1: say the time where I was like I'm in big

1161
00:58:58,880 --> 00:59:01,680
Speaker 1: trouble was after first day together. We were talking about

1162
00:59:01,720 --> 00:59:05,680
Speaker 1: this today. Um, we he hadn't event that morning and

1163
00:59:05,760 --> 00:59:07,560
Speaker 1: so we didn't really get that much time together. And

1164
00:59:07,640 --> 00:59:09,640
Speaker 1: then we went to a late lunch that lasted three

1165
00:59:09,720 --> 00:59:14,440
Speaker 1: hours at this restaurant in Evergreen, Colorado. We we went

1166
00:59:14,520 --> 00:59:17,080
Speaker 1: there for our one year too. But um, after I

1167
00:59:17,200 --> 00:59:21,480
Speaker 1: left that lunch and just the idea like there's this

1168
00:59:21,600 --> 00:59:23,760
Speaker 1: feeling if I could tell him anything and he wouldn't

1169
00:59:23,800 --> 00:59:25,160
Speaker 1: judge me, and I never really had that with a

1170
00:59:25,240 --> 00:59:27,080
Speaker 1: guy before. And like we just sat and talked and

1171
00:59:27,160 --> 00:59:29,400
Speaker 1: talked and talked. I think I left that lunch and

1172
00:59:29,440 --> 00:59:32,280
Speaker 1: I was like, oh no. And then I remember climb

1173
00:59:32,320 --> 00:59:34,400
Speaker 1: my mom from the airport, flying home from Denver after

1174
00:59:34,440 --> 00:59:37,960
Speaker 1: the first time, and being like, he's my boyfriend, and um,

1175
00:59:38,200 --> 00:59:41,600
Speaker 1: I don't think we'll ever break up. Oh my god,

1176
00:59:42,080 --> 00:59:46,160
Speaker 1: is so freaking cute. Did you say you're my girlfriend

1177
00:59:46,200 --> 00:59:47,680
Speaker 1: when you dropped her off there? I don't think I've

1178
00:59:47,680 --> 00:59:50,560
Speaker 1: ever said this yet, so h No. Before that, we

1179
00:59:50,640 --> 00:59:53,040
Speaker 1: hadn't talked on the phone and FaceTime for three weeks.

1180
00:59:53,200 --> 00:59:57,200
Speaker 1: She showed up to my house and she was your

1181
00:59:57,200 --> 00:59:59,680
Speaker 1: girlfriend before you kissed. No. I opened up the door

1182
00:59:59,720 --> 01:00:01,280
Speaker 1: and there she was. I walked out and I kissed

1183
01:00:01,280 --> 01:00:03,760
Speaker 1: her right away. She comes inside, she saits on my

1184
01:00:03,840 --> 01:00:05,720
Speaker 1: couch with me and relying on my couch just kind

1185
01:00:05,760 --> 01:00:08,040
Speaker 1: of talking and catching up and like just kind of

1186
01:00:08,080 --> 01:00:09,960
Speaker 1: holding each other. And I was like, you know, just

1187
01:00:10,240 --> 01:00:13,360
Speaker 1: like I would love for you to just be my girlfriend.

1188
01:00:14,240 --> 01:00:17,160
Speaker 1: And that was like and at the time I just

1189
01:00:17,360 --> 01:00:19,760
Speaker 1: knew it, like it's weird. I've said this in the

1190
01:00:19,800 --> 01:00:22,240
Speaker 1: podcast before, but my dad once when I asked him, like,

1191
01:00:22,320 --> 01:00:25,120
Speaker 1: how do you know when you found the one, He's like,

1192
01:00:25,480 --> 01:00:26,800
Speaker 1: he's like, I don't know if you can explain it

1193
01:00:27,160 --> 01:00:30,360
Speaker 1: you when you know, you know, like it's a feeling,

1194
01:00:30,440 --> 01:00:33,120
Speaker 1: it's a this emotion, it's a commitment. It's looking across

1195
01:00:33,240 --> 01:00:35,800
Speaker 1: the table at somebody and going through your ups and downs,

1196
01:00:35,840 --> 01:00:39,320
Speaker 1: through your failures and faults, like I just know I

1197
01:00:39,440 --> 01:00:41,640
Speaker 1: want to be beside you. And it was like that

1198
01:00:41,840 --> 01:00:44,840
Speaker 1: first moment, and really weeks leading up to that, over

1199
01:00:44,880 --> 01:00:46,760
Speaker 1: the phone with her, that I was like, this girl

1200
01:00:46,920 --> 01:00:49,800
Speaker 1: just has something about her that I wanna always support,

1201
01:00:49,920 --> 01:00:52,560
Speaker 1: Like she just has a purity of soul, a purity

1202
01:00:52,640 --> 01:00:55,280
Speaker 1: of heart, a desire to love people, a desire to

1203
01:00:55,360 --> 01:00:58,720
Speaker 1: love me, support me that, like, why would I ever

1204
01:00:58,840 --> 01:01:00,800
Speaker 1: want to give that up? Would you say I love

1205
01:01:00,880 --> 01:01:05,360
Speaker 1: you first? I said it first. I thought he was

1206
01:01:05,400 --> 01:01:08,200
Speaker 1: going to say it first. So I kept waiting and waiting,

1207
01:01:08,240 --> 01:01:10,000
Speaker 1: and I told everyone else except for him that I

1208
01:01:10,080 --> 01:01:12,880
Speaker 1: was in love with him, And then it was. He

1209
01:01:13,040 --> 01:01:16,160
Speaker 1: was in Nashville for his thirtieth birthday and my brother's

1210
01:01:16,200 --> 01:01:20,360
Speaker 1: twenty first birthday. Philip again, we did a Twain party.

1211
01:01:21,000 --> 01:01:23,400
Speaker 1: We had a joint party. We did a joint party

1212
01:01:23,480 --> 01:01:25,520
Speaker 1: for Philip and myself because we're birthdays are like a

1213
01:01:25,600 --> 01:01:28,400
Speaker 1: day apart and at one point this year, Phillips like,

1214
01:01:28,520 --> 01:01:30,560
Speaker 1: did you ever you came to my birthday party? Right?

1215
01:01:30,560 --> 01:01:32,320
Speaker 1: And I was like, cool, Philip, that was a joint

1216
01:01:32,360 --> 01:01:39,400
Speaker 1: birthday party for anyways. But um, we were staying at

1217
01:01:39,400 --> 01:01:41,560
Speaker 1: my parents house that weekend. Been was staying in Philips

1218
01:01:41,600 --> 01:01:44,720
Speaker 1: room and I was staying in my old bedroom. And

1219
01:01:44,880 --> 01:01:46,640
Speaker 1: we were saying good night, and we kissed good night,

1220
01:01:46,640 --> 01:01:48,720
Speaker 1: and I was like, I gotta tell you something. He

1221
01:01:48,960 --> 01:01:52,560
Speaker 1: was like, what you's so scared? I was like, I

1222
01:01:52,640 --> 01:01:56,439
Speaker 1: love you and knows it nice? I love you too. Yeah,

1223
01:01:56,600 --> 01:02:00,560
Speaker 1: so cute. There we go. And now we sit here today,

1224
01:02:01,040 --> 01:02:05,360
Speaker 1: Um Ashley, we play. Let's play the one card game

1225
01:02:06,560 --> 01:02:08,480
Speaker 1: with Jess before you send you back off. Jess, it's

1226
01:02:08,520 --> 01:02:10,200
Speaker 1: been nice having you up here. You're a good guest.

1227
01:02:10,320 --> 01:02:13,040
Speaker 1: Thanks for having me. Okay, you're going to answer the

1228
01:02:13,160 --> 01:02:15,200
Speaker 1: question for each other, like I'm going to ask you

1229
01:02:15,280 --> 01:02:17,560
Speaker 1: the question, Jess, and then you're going to be like

1230
01:02:17,760 --> 01:02:22,200
Speaker 1: Ben would say this, Okay, if Ben could have an

1231
01:02:22,240 --> 01:02:24,760
Speaker 1: unlimited supply of one thing for the rest of his life,

1232
01:02:24,840 --> 01:02:29,000
Speaker 1: excluding money, what would it be exactly? What? This is

1233
01:02:29,040 --> 01:02:34,080
Speaker 1: such an easy question? Is it like any category anything

1234
01:02:34,120 --> 01:02:43,680
Speaker 1: other than money? Um? Burbon No, yeah, massages. Oh well,

1235
01:02:43,880 --> 01:02:46,160
Speaker 1: is that why you're such a good masseuse? Oh yeah,

1236
01:02:46,360 --> 01:02:48,200
Speaker 1: it's because I love them so much and I will

1237
01:02:48,240 --> 01:02:49,840
Speaker 1: take them. This is something that Jess and I have

1238
01:02:49,920 --> 01:02:51,760
Speaker 1: had to work through in our relationship. I would take

1239
01:02:51,800 --> 01:02:55,320
Speaker 1: a massa massage from anyone if they're willing to. And

1240
01:02:55,400 --> 01:02:57,480
Speaker 1: it's like, there's nothing I was gonna say, Is it

1241
01:02:57,560 --> 01:03:00,680
Speaker 1: weird if I asked him for a massage? Because it is. No,

1242
01:03:00,840 --> 01:03:03,200
Speaker 1: it's not. This is the thing. So I don't act

1243
01:03:03,360 --> 01:03:06,640
Speaker 1: like massages like I don't enjoy them. Oh my god. Yes,

1244
01:03:07,040 --> 01:03:11,160
Speaker 1: you're with Ben, the best missus I've ever had, including professionals,

1245
01:03:11,320 --> 01:03:13,280
Speaker 1: and you don't want to be touched by him like

1246
01:03:13,600 --> 01:03:16,760
Speaker 1: a massage? Why not? I just don't like. I mean,

1247
01:03:16,840 --> 01:03:18,680
Speaker 1: if Ben did, I wouldn't care. But I'm not going

1248
01:03:18,760 --> 01:03:21,000
Speaker 1: to advantage she doesn't desire, so why would I like

1249
01:03:21,080 --> 01:03:23,680
Speaker 1: it's not something that she wants from me. Yeah, I

1250
01:03:23,760 --> 01:03:26,080
Speaker 1: know he likes it, and so like my thing is,

1251
01:03:26,160 --> 01:03:28,920
Speaker 1: I'll always get you a massage, like always, because I

1252
01:03:29,040 --> 01:03:31,000
Speaker 1: know how much you love it, and so that's like

1253
01:03:31,120 --> 01:03:34,160
Speaker 1: my go to gift for him as a massage. Do

1254
01:03:34,320 --> 01:03:36,040
Speaker 1: you give it to him or do you book one?

1255
01:03:36,080 --> 01:03:38,320
Speaker 1: For him, I usually book it since we do distance,

1256
01:03:38,400 --> 01:03:41,440
Speaker 1: but if we're together, I'll rab your neck, my neck.

1257
01:03:41,680 --> 01:03:45,200
Speaker 1: Jared's not so into them either, Like I will be like, hey,

1258
01:03:45,280 --> 01:03:46,840
Speaker 1: but you want me a massagey, And He's like, what

1259
01:03:46,960 --> 01:03:48,920
Speaker 1: if you want to? I'm like if I want, like,

1260
01:03:49,000 --> 01:03:50,800
Speaker 1: I like no, I don't need my hands to feel

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Speaker 1: like so well, and it's like one of my love languages,

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Speaker 1: like I love coming behind my buddies or like you

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Speaker 1: ask at the studio and just like grabbing your shoulders

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Speaker 1: and like rubbing your neck, like because my granddad that

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Speaker 1: was his thing. My granddad, he was a car dealer,

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Speaker 1: but like I always noticed how with people, his friends

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Speaker 1: and his family, he would always come up to you

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Speaker 1: and you would just grab your neck and your neck

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Speaker 1: and say how are you doing? And you just lightly

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Speaker 1: do it. And it was like something that stuck with

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Speaker 1: me and it was it's a very cool moment. I think, Um,

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Speaker 1: but she doesn't desire them. She's also so tiny that

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Speaker 1: like for me to get a massage, like I need deep,

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Speaker 1: like I need somebody like get in there. So she's

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Speaker 1: sweet and she buys me them. Um, I would say

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Speaker 1: for Jess, my answer would be facials or anything to

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Speaker 1: do with the skins, like skin products and facials. If

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Speaker 1: she could be insane, Yeah, she really likes to take

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Speaker 1: care of her skin. Yeah. Well, I had a really

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Speaker 1: bad acne for a long period of girl. Me too,

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Speaker 1: So that's why I'm obsessed with skincare because mine was

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Speaker 1: so bad. I don't want to go back. And now

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Speaker 1: it's like kind of fascinates me that like what you

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Speaker 1: can do to help better it and actually seeing visible results.

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Speaker 1: But I think a lot of people who had had

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Speaker 1: had acne star goals are like that can do one

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Speaker 1: more question. We're gonna out here. Okay, Okay, I'm just

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Speaker 1: gonna go the one here that's kind of fun. If

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Speaker 1: Ben how to eat a spoonful of his favorite condiment,

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Speaker 1: what condiment would that be? I know this one too.

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Speaker 1: There's two I would both consider, right, they're my favorite food?

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Speaker 1: Catch up and ranch? Nope, neither horse radish and mustard.

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Speaker 1: Have you talked to a lot about horsewadish? Ye have

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Speaker 1: a little I have a little secret going on the

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Speaker 1: lone right now with it. When it comes to horsehradder,

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Speaker 1: I always forget that you like horse radish because you

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Speaker 1: can't eat shellfish and I associate horseradish with and then mustard.

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Speaker 1: I love yellow mustard. I would eat yellow mustard on

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Speaker 1: chips like I do. I put yellow mustard in a

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Speaker 1: bowl with cheese and pepper and I'll eat it with

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Speaker 1: tortilla chips. And I think it's fan freakantastic. I've never

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Speaker 1: seen you do that. Well, I love you do that.

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Speaker 1: When I'm not around, I hide it, j So for

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Speaker 1: Jess it would be, oh, this is this is a

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Speaker 1: tough one. Um, because she's a light salad dressing girl. Um,

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Speaker 1: I would say that I'm going to throw it out there.

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Speaker 1: And I know she loves her hot dogs and she

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Speaker 1: loves ketchup on her hot dogs. Yeah, so it's got

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Speaker 1: to be catchup. Jess. You've been a great guest. Love you, Ashley.

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Speaker 1: That's a good podcast. That's fun. Um. We'll be back

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Speaker 1: really soon to break down The Bachelor this week. Until then,

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Speaker 1: make sure you go to batchlor Live on stage dot

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Speaker 1: com for tickets the show. Ashley. You also, before we leave,

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Speaker 1: I just want to ask, Um, is there anything big

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Speaker 1: going on in your life right now that our listeners

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Speaker 1: should know about? Are you do you think I'm pregnant

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Speaker 1: or something? Oh, I didn't mean that. That's the only

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Speaker 1: thing I can think that people think it's big in

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Speaker 1: my life. Are you pregnant? No, I just got my

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Speaker 1: period today. Okay with that. I've been follow the Benn

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Speaker 1: and Ashley I Almost Famous podcast on iHeart Radio or

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Speaker 1: subscribe wherever you listen to podcasts.