1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:02,840 Speaker 1: A random kid told me I'm his real father. I 2 00:00:02,920 --> 00:00:05,559 Speaker 1: told him I don't care. I don't want a relationship 3 00:00:05,559 --> 00:00:09,000 Speaker 1: with you. Am I the a hole daddy is that you? 4 00:00:09,000 --> 00:00:09,960 Speaker 1: You're my real dad? 5 00:00:10,320 --> 00:00:11,640 Speaker 2: This is just turning sexual now. 6 00:00:11,920 --> 00:00:17,239 Speaker 1: The voice was way too much. Oh Dad, I think 7 00:00:17,280 --> 00:00:19,560 Speaker 1: this guy's winning the Father of the Year award right here. 8 00:00:19,720 --> 00:00:22,120 Speaker 1: This is what fatherhood is all about, you know, denying 9 00:00:22,160 --> 00:00:24,840 Speaker 1: you're the real father, not taking any responsibility. 10 00:00:24,840 --> 00:00:27,280 Speaker 3: If you think about it, Ganghis Khan was the best 11 00:00:27,320 --> 00:00:30,080 Speaker 3: father because he fathered the most amount of kids quantity 12 00:00:30,120 --> 00:00:33,320 Speaker 3: over quality. Genghis Khan crushed it. Like three percent of 13 00:00:33,320 --> 00:00:35,600 Speaker 3: all people are related to Ganghis Khan. You're the biggest 14 00:00:35,680 --> 00:00:38,440 Speaker 3: daddy of all time, exactly. You can't freaking spend all 15 00:00:38,479 --> 00:00:40,120 Speaker 3: this time with your kids if you want to be 16 00:00:40,159 --> 00:00:41,320 Speaker 3: the biggest daddy of all time. 17 00:00:41,520 --> 00:00:43,200 Speaker 1: The only way you could spend time with your kids 18 00:00:43,200 --> 00:00:46,960 Speaker 1: as a conference. Hello everyone, How are we doing today? 19 00:00:47,360 --> 00:00:49,919 Speaker 2: Dad? When are you gonna come to my big bucket? 20 00:00:50,400 --> 00:00:50,880 Speaker 2: Lo key? 21 00:00:51,240 --> 00:00:54,000 Speaker 1: That would be kind of crazy just to have like 22 00:00:54,160 --> 00:00:58,800 Speaker 1: millions of children Los Angeles? Are we doing? Babe? Boy? 23 00:00:59,040 --> 00:01:00,000 Speaker 1: Misses you? 24 00:01:00,240 --> 00:01:01,000 Speaker 2: I miss you. 25 00:01:01,560 --> 00:01:04,720 Speaker 1: I missed you too, motherfucker. But I'm up here. Whoa 26 00:01:05,319 --> 00:01:07,760 Speaker 1: that's gonna be this dish? Is this ginghis khan? Only 27 00:01:07,760 --> 00:01:11,000 Speaker 1: one way to find out bangdas deck that ginghis dong? Yeah, 28 00:01:11,120 --> 00:01:15,080 Speaker 1: bangdus dong gangh is khong more like bngdis dong. Oh, goodness, 29 00:01:15,240 --> 00:01:17,360 Speaker 1: let's get into it. From eighteen to twenty five, I 30 00:01:17,480 --> 00:01:20,960 Speaker 1: was an absolute wild child. Lots of beer and lots 31 00:01:20,959 --> 00:01:23,479 Speaker 1: of hookups where we didn't even know each other's names. 32 00:01:23,520 --> 00:01:24,400 Speaker 2: What's your body count? 33 00:01:24,760 --> 00:01:29,119 Speaker 1: Twelve million king is Khan. I was dealing with lots 34 00:01:29,120 --> 00:01:31,760 Speaker 1: of damage, to the point where I don't remember most 35 00:01:31,800 --> 00:01:34,400 Speaker 1: of those years. Now at almost forty, I'm much better 36 00:01:34,440 --> 00:01:37,399 Speaker 1: now with therapy and alcohols anonymous and my saint of 37 00:01:37,440 --> 00:01:40,840 Speaker 1: a wife. But that's the important background. I was clear 38 00:01:40,880 --> 00:01:43,080 Speaker 1: with my wife that it is quite possible that I 39 00:01:43,120 --> 00:01:44,320 Speaker 1: have some kids out there. 40 00:01:44,440 --> 00:01:47,520 Speaker 2: I was raw dug in every port in town, baby. 41 00:01:47,240 --> 00:01:51,800 Speaker 1: Go dis gracious, every country, every country surrounding the Mongolian region. 42 00:01:51,920 --> 00:01:57,400 Speaker 2: Luckily they don't know why what Yeah, every. 43 00:01:57,200 --> 00:02:00,440 Speaker 1: Town father is into the building. Though at the women 44 00:02:00,480 --> 00:02:03,360 Speaker 1: I slept with have no way of contacting me to 45 00:02:03,440 --> 00:02:03,840 Speaker 1: be sure. 46 00:02:04,040 --> 00:02:07,160 Speaker 3: Just lowly likes it, baby, leave no trace. It's like 47 00:02:07,200 --> 00:02:10,359 Speaker 3: going to national Park, You know exactly have have fifty 48 00:02:10,400 --> 00:02:11,240 Speaker 3: children at once? 49 00:02:11,360 --> 00:02:13,280 Speaker 2: You could Genghis did it? I guess you could? 50 00:02:13,360 --> 00:02:15,600 Speaker 3: Father, Like if you had twins every time and you're 51 00:02:15,639 --> 00:02:18,280 Speaker 3: fucking three times a day, that's like one thousand kids 52 00:02:18,320 --> 00:02:20,280 Speaker 3: a year more two thousand kids a year. 53 00:02:20,520 --> 00:02:25,000 Speaker 1: Or thirty forty years. Shit, dude, what is sixty thousand kids? 54 00:02:25,040 --> 00:02:28,000 Speaker 1: Sixty thousand eighty seven thousand kids. I do not want 55 00:02:28,000 --> 00:02:29,359 Speaker 1: that child support? Am I right? 56 00:02:29,400 --> 00:02:29,600 Speaker 2: Phil? 57 00:02:30,200 --> 00:02:32,399 Speaker 3: Also, Genghis Khan had one hundred and twenty kids, only 58 00:02:32,440 --> 00:02:34,880 Speaker 3: one hundred and twenty tradition claims, Oh. 59 00:02:34,680 --> 00:02:36,560 Speaker 1: Yeah, probably more? What is this tradition? 60 00:02:37,120 --> 00:02:39,960 Speaker 3: The number of women who were impregnated by Genghis Khan 61 00:02:40,240 --> 00:02:44,320 Speaker 3: is unknown, but estimates range from hundreds to thousands. Research 62 00:02:44,400 --> 00:02:47,160 Speaker 3: has shown that zero point five percent of all males 63 00:02:47,200 --> 00:02:49,639 Speaker 3: living today are descended from Genghis Khan, which means he 64 00:02:49,680 --> 00:02:51,359 Speaker 3: has six million descendants. 65 00:02:51,639 --> 00:02:56,120 Speaker 1: Wow. Compound interest baby works with bank accounts and children. So, 66 00:02:56,560 --> 00:03:00,000 Speaker 1: speaking of budgets, my wife budgeted some savings for if 67 00:03:00,000 --> 00:03:02,360 Speaker 1: if we ever have to pay child support for a 68 00:03:02,400 --> 00:03:06,120 Speaker 1: couple of kids. She's forward thinking for real, But just 69 00:03:06,280 --> 00:03:08,760 Speaker 1: ask that I get a paternity test before we welcome 70 00:03:08,800 --> 00:03:10,560 Speaker 1: them in. We have no kids of our own and 71 00:03:10,639 --> 00:03:14,040 Speaker 1: don't really want any. When your spouse is helping you 72 00:03:14,200 --> 00:03:18,079 Speaker 1: plan for multiple potential children that you might have his 73 00:03:18,240 --> 00:03:21,480 Speaker 1: child support, you are living a great life. Oh boy. 74 00:03:21,600 --> 00:03:24,640 Speaker 1: Last year, a sixteen year old boy contacted me saying 75 00:03:24,800 --> 00:03:27,120 Speaker 1: that I was his real father. 76 00:03:27,040 --> 00:03:28,680 Speaker 2: Real Like there's a fake father. 77 00:03:28,600 --> 00:03:30,440 Speaker 1: Like I want to be a real boy. We'll call 78 00:03:30,520 --> 00:03:33,280 Speaker 1: him ka Kay claimed to be the son of one 79 00:03:33,280 --> 00:03:35,880 Speaker 1: of my old classmates, and that his mom had raised 80 00:03:35,920 --> 00:03:38,680 Speaker 1: him by herself because she didn't want to cause any trouble. 81 00:03:38,840 --> 00:03:41,520 Speaker 1: But she had told him about me the whole time, 82 00:03:41,640 --> 00:03:43,760 Speaker 1: and he spent a lot of his life googling me. 83 00:03:43,880 --> 00:03:46,480 Speaker 1: He had finally worked up the courage to contact me 84 00:03:46,640 --> 00:03:48,160 Speaker 1: and asked if we could meet. 85 00:03:48,240 --> 00:03:49,600 Speaker 2: That's kind of cute. 86 00:03:49,720 --> 00:03:52,320 Speaker 3: Years of googling your dad and then finally work with 87 00:03:52,360 --> 00:03:56,200 Speaker 3: the courage to just send that first message. Yeah, that's cute. 88 00:03:56,280 --> 00:03:58,200 Speaker 3: If I had a sixteen year old kid, I would 89 00:03:58,200 --> 00:03:58,560 Speaker 3: meet him. 90 00:03:58,600 --> 00:03:59,360 Speaker 1: I would be excited. 91 00:03:59,440 --> 00:04:01,880 Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm like, oh my god, I could like almost 92 00:04:01,960 --> 00:04:03,760 Speaker 3: drink with my son. I can smoke a sag with 93 00:04:03,800 --> 00:04:05,680 Speaker 3: my son in money Cut, I could drink with him 94 00:04:05,720 --> 00:04:06,160 Speaker 3: in Russia. 95 00:04:06,200 --> 00:04:08,480 Speaker 1: Moved to Russia, drink some vodka. Now that's great a 96 00:04:08,640 --> 00:04:11,560 Speaker 1: parenting right there. Since I can neither confirm nor deny 97 00:04:11,680 --> 00:04:14,280 Speaker 1: sleeping with his mother, I agreed to meet between our 98 00:04:14,320 --> 00:04:15,000 Speaker 1: two towns. 99 00:04:15,080 --> 00:04:17,440 Speaker 3: This is my mom, remember her? No, and sorry, I 100 00:04:17,520 --> 00:04:19,440 Speaker 3: only banged tens. Never would have happened. 101 00:04:19,480 --> 00:04:21,400 Speaker 1: Not a ten on the radar. She's maybe a solid 102 00:04:21,440 --> 00:04:24,760 Speaker 1: eight or nine. I drove about five hours and he 103 00:04:24,880 --> 00:04:27,599 Speaker 1: drove about forty five minutes. Though I did tell him 104 00:04:27,600 --> 00:04:29,839 Speaker 1: about my wife's request, he was fine with that, betting 105 00:04:29,839 --> 00:04:32,680 Speaker 1: the paternity test. We met after the paternity kit got here, 106 00:04:32,839 --> 00:04:34,880 Speaker 1: he did the spit thing, gave it back, and we 107 00:04:34,920 --> 00:04:37,479 Speaker 1: sat and talked and had lunch, and then drove back home. 108 00:04:37,600 --> 00:04:38,320 Speaker 2: I think they're related. 109 00:04:38,360 --> 00:04:38,960 Speaker 1: Oh he's a father. 110 00:04:39,120 --> 00:04:39,840 Speaker 2: Yeah, they gotta be. 111 00:04:40,160 --> 00:04:42,400 Speaker 1: We were not a match. 112 00:04:42,760 --> 00:04:47,600 Speaker 3: Oh that's tragic because not only does this kid learn 113 00:04:47,760 --> 00:04:50,440 Speaker 3: that OPI is not the father, but he also learns 114 00:04:50,560 --> 00:04:51,599 Speaker 3: that his mom was a hoe. 115 00:04:51,720 --> 00:04:55,760 Speaker 1: Jesus Christ, oh man, Samuel, Samuel, Samuel. That's a tragic 116 00:04:55,800 --> 00:04:58,320 Speaker 1: double WHAMMI. That is not a fun day for a 117 00:04:58,400 --> 00:05:01,680 Speaker 1: sixteen year old boy. My profile done a while ago, 118 00:05:02,040 --> 00:05:04,159 Speaker 1: just so that it was out there in case any 119 00:05:04,240 --> 00:05:06,159 Speaker 1: kids found me that way. Okay, So I guess, like 120 00:05:06,200 --> 00:05:08,799 Speaker 1: a genetic profile, like a twenty three ande meters something 121 00:05:08,839 --> 00:05:11,000 Speaker 1: like that. Oh, he's doing his homework for real, Kay 122 00:05:11,040 --> 00:05:13,720 Speaker 1: and I are not related. I contacted him, gave him 123 00:05:13,720 --> 00:05:16,120 Speaker 1: all of his data, and I let him down gently. 124 00:05:16,440 --> 00:05:20,200 Speaker 1: He was devastated, crying, claiming that it wasn't real that 125 00:05:20,279 --> 00:05:22,960 Speaker 1: he had spent his entire life idolizing me, and then 126 00:05:23,000 --> 00:05:24,240 Speaker 1: I had to be his dad. 127 00:05:24,560 --> 00:05:28,640 Speaker 2: Oh dun, dude, dude. 128 00:05:29,240 --> 00:05:32,720 Speaker 1: He begged me to have a relationship. Oh but I'm 129 00:05:32,720 --> 00:05:36,080 Speaker 1: not entirely interested in building one with a random kid. 130 00:05:36,120 --> 00:05:39,000 Speaker 1: I apologized again, but left it at that. His mom 131 00:05:39,080 --> 00:05:41,680 Speaker 1: reached out, begging me as well, saying that she was 132 00:05:41,760 --> 00:05:44,440 Speaker 1: so sure I was the father that it's destroying him 133 00:05:44,520 --> 00:05:46,000 Speaker 1: not knowing who his real dad is. 134 00:05:46,240 --> 00:05:48,720 Speaker 2: I mean, like, how many people did you hook up with? 135 00:05:48,800 --> 00:05:51,120 Speaker 1: I mean, it could literally be one other person, that's 136 00:05:51,160 --> 00:05:52,680 Speaker 1: all it takes. 137 00:05:52,880 --> 00:05:55,400 Speaker 3: Exactly exactly, so it could be like I mean, for 138 00:05:55,480 --> 00:05:57,520 Speaker 3: all we know, it could be like another three hundred. 139 00:05:57,320 --> 00:05:59,360 Speaker 1: Dudes, she could be KINGI is gone, She. 140 00:05:59,320 --> 00:06:02,200 Speaker 2: Could be the game. Dude. How is she so sure? 141 00:06:02,360 --> 00:06:05,279 Speaker 1: I mean they've both spent probably sixteen years. By telling 142 00:06:05,400 --> 00:06:07,320 Speaker 1: the son, she's reinforcing it back to. 143 00:06:07,279 --> 00:06:10,280 Speaker 3: Herself, Dude, you know, like trace back your steps, remember 144 00:06:10,279 --> 00:06:13,039 Speaker 3: where you put things, and like maybe you can figure. 145 00:06:12,720 --> 00:06:14,760 Speaker 1: Out where you put them in, where you put them out. Yeah, 146 00:06:14,800 --> 00:06:17,440 Speaker 1: exactly where you sat, where you sat up, where you 147 00:06:17,839 --> 00:06:19,440 Speaker 1: arched your back, where you threw it back. 148 00:06:19,600 --> 00:06:21,680 Speaker 2: Yep, all those lets we traced your steps. I remember 149 00:06:21,720 --> 00:06:22,160 Speaker 2: that father. 150 00:06:22,240 --> 00:06:22,520 Speaker 1: I said. 151 00:06:22,520 --> 00:06:23,320 Speaker 2: It was a real shame. 152 00:06:23,440 --> 00:06:26,080 Speaker 1: But the father isn't me. I am not dad material, 153 00:06:26,240 --> 00:06:28,960 Speaker 1: especially not for somebody else's kid. This just came up 154 00:06:29,000 --> 00:06:31,839 Speaker 1: in a convo recently and sparked an argument. Some say 155 00:06:31,880 --> 00:06:34,719 Speaker 1: it's fine, Others say it's cruel to abandon a kid 156 00:06:34,720 --> 00:06:37,880 Speaker 1: who spent his entire life believing he was mine. So 157 00:06:38,120 --> 00:06:40,919 Speaker 1: am I the asshole here? I want to know what 158 00:06:40,960 --> 00:06:41,440 Speaker 1: everyone else? 159 00:06:41,440 --> 00:06:43,800 Speaker 3: Thanks for your answers in the comments, but no way 160 00:06:43,920 --> 00:06:46,560 Speaker 3: of One of our followers was like, Sam, I've been 161 00:06:46,600 --> 00:06:49,480 Speaker 3: idolizing you for the past three years. You're my daddy, 162 00:06:49,680 --> 00:06:53,360 Speaker 3: depending on how hot she was Like, don't kidding, I'm kidding. 163 00:06:54,080 --> 00:06:55,599 Speaker 2: No, it's not I'm kidding. I'm kidding. 164 00:06:55,760 --> 00:06:57,559 Speaker 1: Just like call me, go to Bali, go to Bali 165 00:06:57,720 --> 00:07:00,840 Speaker 1: surfing an area that we're in, and just see how 166 00:07:00,839 --> 00:07:01,400 Speaker 1: I protected you. 167 00:07:01,680 --> 00:07:02,400 Speaker 2: You really protected it? 168 00:07:02,520 --> 00:07:05,480 Speaker 1: And just reach up and touch his buddocks while he's 169 00:07:05,480 --> 00:07:07,600 Speaker 1: doing a handstand. That's the way to meet him. Yeah, 170 00:07:07,680 --> 00:07:09,920 Speaker 1: if you see me in public, slap my ass. There 171 00:07:09,960 --> 00:07:10,240 Speaker 1: we go. 172 00:07:10,360 --> 00:07:14,320 Speaker 3: I don't know if I want that, Okay, I'll take it. Yeah, 173 00:07:14,360 --> 00:07:15,040 Speaker 3: no grabbing, but. 174 00:07:15,000 --> 00:07:15,520 Speaker 2: You can slap. 175 00:07:15,560 --> 00:07:17,360 Speaker 1: There we go. Touch, don't feel, Touch. 176 00:07:17,200 --> 00:07:17,680 Speaker 2: Don't feel. 177 00:07:17,720 --> 00:07:18,160 Speaker 1: That's the rule. 178 00:07:18,240 --> 00:07:20,240 Speaker 3: But yeah, I mean if some like random person of 179 00:07:20,240 --> 00:07:22,239 Speaker 3: the internet was like, you're my dad, and just because 180 00:07:22,240 --> 00:07:24,320 Speaker 3: they built this fantasy in their heads doesn't mean that 181 00:07:24,440 --> 00:07:27,520 Speaker 3: I have to like play into their fantasy and fulfill 182 00:07:27,600 --> 00:07:30,800 Speaker 3: every want and desire and every hole that they want failled. 183 00:07:31,400 --> 00:07:33,160 Speaker 2: Damn, I'm talking about the holes in their hearts. 184 00:07:33,240 --> 00:07:35,200 Speaker 1: Oh oh wow, the holes in their heart. 185 00:07:35,320 --> 00:07:37,680 Speaker 3: Right, yeah, I'm not going to fail every one of 186 00:07:37,680 --> 00:07:39,560 Speaker 3: their holes just because they called me daddy. 187 00:07:39,640 --> 00:07:41,320 Speaker 2: Of course I'm considered though. 188 00:07:41,280 --> 00:07:43,760 Speaker 1: Starting now, all the times in the past that was 189 00:07:43,800 --> 00:07:45,960 Speaker 1: a different story. The day is a new day, gentlemen, 190 00:07:46,520 --> 00:07:48,040 Speaker 1: Samuel Daughner is starting a new. 191 00:07:47,920 --> 00:07:51,640 Speaker 2: Oh no, I'm saving my genitals for Ashley, that's right. 192 00:07:51,720 --> 00:07:53,440 Speaker 1: Yeah, I like how you almost had heart. 193 00:07:53,480 --> 00:07:57,400 Speaker 3: But then yeah, yeah, my dad sent me an email 194 00:07:57,640 --> 00:07:59,000 Speaker 3: saying that I shouldn't sleep around. 195 00:07:59,200 --> 00:08:01,360 Speaker 1: Wow, that is. This is so incredible. 196 00:08:01,520 --> 00:08:04,280 Speaker 3: He said something sacred in you. It's actually really well 197 00:08:04,320 --> 00:08:04,720 Speaker 3: thought out. 198 00:08:04,800 --> 00:08:08,680 Speaker 1: Honestly, that is really sweet and really all I'm gonna say. 199 00:08:08,680 --> 00:08:09,200 Speaker 2: I love you dead. 200 00:08:09,320 --> 00:08:11,440 Speaker 1: I actually love that a lot. I feel like that's 201 00:08:11,480 --> 00:08:14,200 Speaker 1: a good approach from father to son. That's a sweet move. 202 00:08:14,320 --> 00:08:16,360 Speaker 1: I like that. It's very kind. This is not me 203 00:08:16,440 --> 00:08:17,560 Speaker 1: trying to earn brownie points. 204 00:08:17,760 --> 00:08:20,040 Speaker 3: You become a beacon of light for so many to 205 00:08:20,240 --> 00:08:23,000 Speaker 3: so many and are building a media entertainment company that 206 00:08:23,080 --> 00:08:26,200 Speaker 3: is producing incredible impactful content both with heart and humor. 207 00:08:26,320 --> 00:08:28,640 Speaker 2: Wow, that's a lot of guy. 208 00:08:29,000 --> 00:08:32,160 Speaker 3: As we've talked, we entrepreneurs move so fast sometimes we 209 00:08:32,240 --> 00:08:34,760 Speaker 3: forget about ourselves and the incredible, deep inner work that 210 00:08:34,760 --> 00:08:37,640 Speaker 3: we need to do, which, by the way, is life long. 211 00:08:37,800 --> 00:08:40,679 Speaker 3: You can't ever stop improving. One thing I thought of 212 00:08:40,960 --> 00:08:43,520 Speaker 3: from my own self is early on understanding to some 213 00:08:43,559 --> 00:08:45,640 Speaker 3: degree what I hold sacred in myself and letting that 214 00:08:45,679 --> 00:08:48,240 Speaker 3: guide me. That said, even the most sacred in us 215 00:08:48,360 --> 00:08:50,360 Speaker 3: will get challenged through our life, but if we do 216 00:08:50,400 --> 00:08:53,640 Speaker 3: the inner work, we always come back. Perhaps my early 217 00:08:53,679 --> 00:08:57,400 Speaker 3: Catholic upbringing set some things in me, first the commandments, 218 00:08:57,400 --> 00:08:59,880 Speaker 3: but later on for me they became my sacred acknowledgment. 219 00:09:00,240 --> 00:09:02,560 Speaker 3: I wanted deep relationships, and I sought them in all 220 00:09:02,600 --> 00:09:06,760 Speaker 3: my houses, relationship, friendship, family, business, external. That way, I 221 00:09:06,840 --> 00:09:09,480 Speaker 3: always knew who had my back. I urge you to explore, 222 00:09:09,520 --> 00:09:12,920 Speaker 3: to take time for you to understand what's sacred to Samuel, 223 00:09:13,160 --> 00:09:15,360 Speaker 3: not just your values, but the deep understanding of why 224 00:09:15,360 --> 00:09:17,880 Speaker 3: the universe put you here in the first place. Every 225 00:09:17,920 --> 00:09:20,720 Speaker 3: action we take or inaction informs who would become I 226 00:09:20,760 --> 00:09:22,640 Speaker 3: often have told you in your life, the people that 227 00:09:22,760 --> 00:09:25,920 Speaker 3: you surround yourself with in every manner become you, and 228 00:09:25,960 --> 00:09:28,520 Speaker 3: you become them. This is not being judgmental of your 229 00:09:28,559 --> 00:09:32,120 Speaker 3: activities or choices. I told them that I hooked up 230 00:09:32,120 --> 00:09:36,080 Speaker 3: with the Australian girl, but just a father reminding you 231 00:09:36,320 --> 00:09:38,320 Speaker 3: of the hike we took, the words we spoke, and 232 00:09:38,360 --> 00:09:41,840 Speaker 3: how you agreed that you needed to care for you first, health, body, 233 00:09:41,880 --> 00:09:44,520 Speaker 3: and spirit. Choosing a business partner or a life partner, 234 00:09:44,600 --> 00:09:46,600 Speaker 3: if you are aiming to be in it for life, 235 00:09:46,640 --> 00:09:49,240 Speaker 3: then you best find a partner who can run alongside you, 236 00:09:49,360 --> 00:09:51,720 Speaker 3: not copying your gate or looking through your eyes the 237 00:09:51,760 --> 00:09:53,760 Speaker 3: trails you run over, but someone who wants to go 238 00:09:53,800 --> 00:09:56,559 Speaker 3: the distance, who enjoys life, true gifts that Mother Nature 239 00:09:56,559 --> 00:10:00,240 Speaker 3: provides naturally and is not ephemeral or fleeting desires, moves 240 00:10:00,280 --> 00:10:03,160 Speaker 3: towards what is most sacred and what makes us most 241 00:10:03,240 --> 00:10:06,040 Speaker 3: pure spirit with love, your friend first and always your father. 242 00:10:06,679 --> 00:10:10,280 Speaker 1: Oh my god, I'm sorry. I'm sorry, but that is 243 00:10:10,360 --> 00:10:14,000 Speaker 1: such a beautiful and passionate way to tell your son 244 00:10:14,080 --> 00:10:16,600 Speaker 1: not to stick his penis in people, Like, I am 245 00:10:16,640 --> 00:10:19,319 Speaker 1: blown away. I think that is. I think it's really sweet. 246 00:10:19,400 --> 00:10:22,160 Speaker 3: He's like always really good about like like, hey, I'm 247 00:10:22,200 --> 00:10:24,720 Speaker 3: not judging you, but like, yeah, make sure what you're 248 00:10:24,760 --> 00:10:27,160 Speaker 3: doing actually aligns with your values. 249 00:10:26,800 --> 00:10:29,079 Speaker 1: And like also father to son, I feel like that's. 250 00:10:28,880 --> 00:10:32,200 Speaker 3: A very He's great. He's great, great guy. So I'm 251 00:10:32,200 --> 00:10:37,360 Speaker 3: gonna not sleep around unless they call me daddy. Asterisk 252 00:10:38,280 --> 00:10:40,480 Speaker 3: oh man to this next story. 253 00:10:40,559 --> 00:10:41,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, let's fuck it up. 254 00:10:42,160 --> 00:10:45,080 Speaker 3: My wife just found out that she's infertile, so now 255 00:10:45,080 --> 00:10:48,240 Speaker 3: we're getting a divorce. We both wanted children, and I'm 256 00:10:48,320 --> 00:10:50,120 Speaker 3: furious with her. Am I the asshole? 257 00:10:50,200 --> 00:10:51,800 Speaker 1: How dare your ovaries not work? 258 00:10:51,840 --> 00:10:52,040 Speaker 2: I know? 259 00:10:52,160 --> 00:10:53,719 Speaker 3: Come on now, I'm bringing all the semen to the 260 00:10:53,760 --> 00:10:56,600 Speaker 3: Semen party and your guy doesn't even have a party. 261 00:10:56,600 --> 00:10:58,480 Speaker 1: There no kids. I got a whole daycare coming in. 262 00:10:58,559 --> 00:11:01,280 Speaker 3: I got a whole freaking arm trying to break down 263 00:11:01,320 --> 00:11:04,720 Speaker 3: your fortress, swimming and your fortresses she doesn't even have 264 00:11:04,760 --> 00:11:05,440 Speaker 3: anything in it. 265 00:11:05,400 --> 00:11:08,200 Speaker 1: Trying to weasel its way into all the kooks and crannies. 266 00:11:07,920 --> 00:11:11,520 Speaker 3: And yeah, your knooks and cranny is are barren. Oh goodness, 267 00:11:11,559 --> 00:11:14,000 Speaker 3: like a dusty dust bowl. We have been married for 268 00:11:14,080 --> 00:11:17,200 Speaker 3: five years. We've been trying to conceive for some time. 269 00:11:17,320 --> 00:11:19,560 Speaker 3: We ran through an array of tests and found out 270 00:11:19,600 --> 00:11:22,560 Speaker 3: she couldn't get pregnant. IVF is not an option. Starting 271 00:11:22,559 --> 00:11:24,880 Speaker 3: a family and raising children were something we both want 272 00:11:24,960 --> 00:11:27,240 Speaker 3: to do. It was pretty shocking. My wife has taken 273 00:11:27,280 --> 00:11:30,040 Speaker 3: it very badly. She has been moody and angry. I've 274 00:11:30,080 --> 00:11:32,040 Speaker 3: tried to give her space and try to talk to 275 00:11:32,080 --> 00:11:34,760 Speaker 3: her about it, but she lashes out at both. It 276 00:11:34,760 --> 00:11:36,520 Speaker 3: has been a week and she said she wanted to 277 00:11:36,559 --> 00:11:39,160 Speaker 3: file for divorce and be done with our marriage. 278 00:11:39,240 --> 00:11:41,920 Speaker 1: So she is wanting to end it. 279 00:11:41,920 --> 00:11:44,320 Speaker 3: Yeah, because I guess I don't know. She can't deal 280 00:11:44,360 --> 00:11:45,280 Speaker 3: with the fact that I don't know. 281 00:11:45,320 --> 00:11:45,640 Speaker 2: We'll see. 282 00:11:45,720 --> 00:11:47,640 Speaker 3: She sounds angry when she talks about it, and she 283 00:11:47,679 --> 00:11:49,160 Speaker 3: said it was better that we get it over and 284 00:11:49,200 --> 00:11:51,320 Speaker 3: done with now, we got into an argument and she 285 00:11:51,440 --> 00:11:53,600 Speaker 3: said I should find a woman who could give me 286 00:11:53,640 --> 00:11:56,160 Speaker 3: what I want. Is it like now she knows that 287 00:11:56,240 --> 00:11:58,800 Speaker 3: he wants kids, She's like, I can't. I'm like, I'm 288 00:11:58,840 --> 00:12:00,800 Speaker 3: never going to be enough for you. It's like you 289 00:12:00,920 --> 00:12:02,920 Speaker 3: have this plan of what you think your partner is 290 00:12:02,960 --> 00:12:04,960 Speaker 3: going to be. She's like, I'm not that for you. 291 00:12:05,080 --> 00:12:06,360 Speaker 1: Does Opie still feel that way? 292 00:12:06,400 --> 00:12:08,320 Speaker 3: Well, I've tried to convince her that I have no 293 00:12:08,440 --> 00:12:10,640 Speaker 3: intention of leaving her. She doesn't believe me. I don't 294 00:12:10,640 --> 00:12:12,280 Speaker 3: know what to do here. I know she's just trying 295 00:12:12,280 --> 00:12:14,120 Speaker 3: to deal with all these emotions by turning it into 296 00:12:14,160 --> 00:12:16,160 Speaker 3: an anger and then projecting it on me. I don't 297 00:12:16,160 --> 00:12:17,800 Speaker 3: know how to deal with it. She's supposed to be 298 00:12:17,840 --> 00:12:20,360 Speaker 3: the rational one the relationship. We've gone through a lot, 299 00:12:20,440 --> 00:12:22,800 Speaker 3: and she has dealt with everything with calmness. I know 300 00:12:22,880 --> 00:12:24,719 Speaker 3: she's hurting a lot. I just wish I could help 301 00:12:24,720 --> 00:12:26,559 Speaker 3: her feel a bit better. And there is an update. 302 00:12:26,559 --> 00:12:28,280 Speaker 3: I want to know if anyone in this situation, like 303 00:12:28,720 --> 00:12:31,560 Speaker 3: anyone who can't have kids, how did you deal with 304 00:12:31,600 --> 00:12:35,440 Speaker 3: that news? Yeah, and also in this situation, like it 305 00:12:35,559 --> 00:12:38,800 Speaker 3: seems like the partner is feeling inadequate, and that's leading 306 00:12:38,840 --> 00:12:41,080 Speaker 3: her to like sabotage the relationship a bit. 307 00:12:41,120 --> 00:12:42,520 Speaker 2: But I don't know, what do you think Opie should do? 308 00:12:42,640 --> 00:12:45,800 Speaker 1: I think, what are all the ways that the relationship 309 00:12:45,840 --> 00:12:48,760 Speaker 1: could move forward, like, for instance, adoption, right, like, hey, 310 00:12:48,840 --> 00:12:51,200 Speaker 1: we don't have to have a biological child, let's like 311 00:12:51,280 --> 00:12:53,920 Speaker 1: start the adoption process together. I feel like right now, 312 00:12:54,040 --> 00:12:57,280 Speaker 1: maybe the insecurity that she's feeling is overtaking and is 313 00:12:57,320 --> 00:12:57,920 Speaker 1: like very. 314 00:12:57,760 --> 00:13:02,199 Speaker 3: Powerful, Yeah, very difficult news, especially if you've wanted kids exactly. 315 00:13:02,280 --> 00:13:04,720 Speaker 1: So maybe that is like, oh, hey, let's start the 316 00:13:05,160 --> 00:13:09,160 Speaker 1: adoption process together. That's like okay, Well that's a commitment, right, 317 00:13:09,280 --> 00:13:11,920 Speaker 1: like starting on the on the path to doing adoption 318 00:13:12,040 --> 00:13:14,559 Speaker 1: if he's like ready for that. But as one example, 319 00:13:14,640 --> 00:13:16,319 Speaker 1: like what are all the ways that he could kind 320 00:13:16,320 --> 00:13:18,360 Speaker 1: of like propose to her, like, hey, I actually am 321 00:13:18,400 --> 00:13:20,280 Speaker 1: in this and let me, you know, show you that 322 00:13:20,360 --> 00:13:22,360 Speaker 1: I'm committed to you and staying with you in a relationship. 323 00:13:22,360 --> 00:13:24,120 Speaker 1: Well let's get into this update and see what happened. 324 00:13:24,160 --> 00:13:25,240 Speaker 1: So a lot has happened. 325 00:13:25,320 --> 00:13:27,319 Speaker 3: I asked her that if she wanted to get divorced 326 00:13:27,400 --> 00:13:29,480 Speaker 3: in six months time, we could get one, but we 327 00:13:29,480 --> 00:13:30,720 Speaker 3: should drop it for now. 328 00:13:30,880 --> 00:13:31,560 Speaker 2: She agreed to it. 329 00:13:31,600 --> 00:13:33,360 Speaker 3: I took over most of the cooking, and I pretty 330 00:13:33,400 --> 00:13:36,000 Speaker 3: made all of her favorite dishes. She was still angry, 331 00:13:36,080 --> 00:13:38,160 Speaker 3: but less so. Two days ago, she was finally in 332 00:13:38,160 --> 00:13:40,600 Speaker 3: a place to process her emotions. She spent half the 333 00:13:40,679 --> 00:13:43,560 Speaker 3: night crying in my arms. It was heartbreaking, but I 334 00:13:43,640 --> 00:13:46,080 Speaker 3: held on. Today this morning, I cracked a joke and 335 00:13:46,120 --> 00:13:48,440 Speaker 3: she laughed. After what feels like a long time, she 336 00:13:48,520 --> 00:13:50,839 Speaker 3: said she was going to start therapy because she wanted 337 00:13:50,880 --> 00:13:54,240 Speaker 3: to be in a good mental place before we started 338 00:13:54,559 --> 00:13:59,679 Speaker 3: the adoption process. There's a lot of work ahead of us, 339 00:13:59,679 --> 00:14:03,079 Speaker 3: but I'm fairly certain I'm not getting divorced in six months. CLDR. 340 00:14:03,160 --> 00:14:04,920 Speaker 3: I took care of her while she processed it. She's 341 00:14:04,960 --> 00:14:07,160 Speaker 3: doing better now and she's planning to go to therapy. 342 00:14:07,200 --> 00:14:11,680 Speaker 1: Wow, that is the wholesome, beautiful outcome that we all 343 00:14:11,760 --> 00:14:12,280 Speaker 1: live for. 344 00:14:12,440 --> 00:14:14,160 Speaker 2: That's great. That's great. I'm so happy for op. 345 00:14:14,360 --> 00:14:17,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, and hopefully the adoption process goes well, they get 346 00:14:17,800 --> 00:14:19,080 Speaker 1: a kid and happily ever after. 347 00:14:19,320 --> 00:14:22,040 Speaker 3: Yeah, there's a lot of ways to skin a cat 348 00:14:22,200 --> 00:14:23,200 Speaker 3: or to skin a child. 349 00:14:23,240 --> 00:14:23,440 Speaker 2: You know. 350 00:14:23,560 --> 00:14:26,920 Speaker 3: That is one way of metaphorically describing it, and I'm 351 00:14:26,920 --> 00:14:28,600 Speaker 3: sticking with it. But let's get to this next story. 352 00:14:28,720 --> 00:14:30,600 Speaker 2: Let's do it.