Speaker 1: Hey, everybody, Chuck here with this week Saturday Select. That's
Speaker 1: when Josh and I curate specially selected episodes to rerun
Speaker 1: that may be a few years old. They may be
Speaker 1: oh heck, they may be ten years old, maybe even older.
Speaker 1: You never know, because a lot of people don't know
Speaker 1: these episodes even exist. So that's why we do this.
Speaker 1: So anyway, this one's on birth order. It's called is
Speaker 1: Birth Order Important? I believe this was originally a Chuck
Speaker 1: idea to begin with. This is from April twenty three,
Speaker 1: twenty nineteen, and I am just pretty obsessed with birth order,
Speaker 1: and so that's why I picked it to begin with,
Speaker 1: and that's why I'm picking it again right now.
Speaker 2: Welcome to Stuff You Should Know, a production of iHeartRadio.
Speaker 3: Hey, and welcome to the podcast. I'm Josh Clark. There's
Speaker 3: Charles Aby, Chuck Bryant, there's Jerry over there, and this
Speaker 3: is Stuff If you Should Know. Jerry cast Jerry, were
Speaker 3: you a uh what was your birth order? Oh, Jerry's
Speaker 3: a middle child two of two or two of more.
Speaker 3: So you're the baby.
Speaker 1: You don't know this?
Speaker 3: No? Did you? Sure?
Speaker 1: No? I've know Jerry for like thirteen years. Hey, So
Speaker 1: have I, Well, not that long twelve years, so have I?
Speaker 1: No no comment?
Speaker 3: What am I?
Speaker 1: I don't know? That's right, I know what I'm the baby,
Speaker 1: you know that.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I didn't ask what you were. I know you
Speaker 3: know what you are? What am I?
Speaker 1: This isn't quiz not You're not gonna just yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: I wasn't calling you out. Oh well I was calling
Speaker 1: you out. You were in a humorous way, and I
Speaker 1: called you out. It's hard not to look at this
Speaker 1: stuff through your own lens though, of your own family.
Speaker 3: You know, are you changing the subject?
Speaker 1: Well, no, I'm getting on with it. Oh okay, because
Speaker 1: as the youngest of three and all of us have
Speaker 1: three distinct personalities, it's hard not to kind of like
Speaker 1: think about birth order right and if that's a thing right,
Speaker 1: And it may be and it may not be. Yeah,
Speaker 1: depends on which scientist you're asking.
Speaker 3: I tend to think like, there's just no way it
Speaker 3: doesn't have any effect.
Speaker 1: Now there, I think it definitely has an effect. But
Speaker 1: as we will see, it is one part of a
Speaker 1: huge pie.
Speaker 3: Yes, that.
Speaker 1: Indicates what kind of person and personality you might have. Well.
Speaker 3: Plus also it's devilishly tricky to analyze to study because
Speaker 3: of how big that pie is. Yeah, there's so much
Speaker 3: going on with your personality that to just pinpoint one thing,
Speaker 3: even a big thing like that where you're born in
Speaker 3: a family, but it's just tough to pin down. So
Speaker 3: you're the youngest, right, good guess, Yes, I am. I
Speaker 3: knew you were the youngest. I'm like, I wear that
Speaker 3: on my sleeve.
Speaker 1: I feel like I kind of do too.
Speaker 3: Mmy, I guess in some ways, but like I was
Speaker 3: reading this checklist for the youngest. Yeah, I'm like, yeah,
Speaker 3: I guess. So let's let's let's do it.
Speaker 1: Should we go over that that stuff first?
Speaker 3: Yeah? Totally all right.
Speaker 1: So this is like the sort of macro view of
Speaker 1: how a lot of people think of birth order pop psychology.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so if you were born into a family, there's
Speaker 3: basically four ways that you can be born in some
Speaker 3: sort of order. You can be the first born, you
Speaker 3: can be a middle child, or you can be the
Speaker 3: last born. And then if you're a real outlier, Okay,
Speaker 3: you're right, so there's five or triplet. Oh god, yeah,
Speaker 3: get me started. Let's just say a multi okay, a multi,
Speaker 3: or you can be an only child too, sure, and
Speaker 3: all of them have distinct personalities, again according to pop psychology,
Speaker 3: but also according to every person who's ever been born
Speaker 3: into a family, especially and so with the firstborn. The
Speaker 3: whole theory of basically birth order, where you're born into
Speaker 3: the family unit that you're born into, and what effect
Speaker 3: that has on your personality and how it develops, It
Speaker 3: all seems to come down to this idea that you
Speaker 3: are born into a family where there is a finite
Speaker 3: resource called parental attention, and then that is a pie
Speaker 3: that gets increasingly divided up into smaller and smaller pieces
Speaker 3: the more and more children that are born, because your
Speaker 3: parents can't possibly give five kids the same amount of
Speaker 3: attention that they could give an only child. It's just
Speaker 3: not possible. And so what dynamics are created in the
Speaker 3: personality of the kids born into that family depending on
Speaker 3: how many others are born and depending on where they
Speaker 3: fall in that birth order. That's kind of the premise
Speaker 3: of the whole thing. And over time people have said, well,
Speaker 3: this is what the firstborn's like, this is what the
Speaker 3: middles like, this is what.
Speaker 1: The yeah, and there were I mean a lot of
Speaker 1: this are these are generalizations, but they are generalizations. Like
Speaker 1: you said, that kind of everyone who's ever been in
Speaker 1: a family can kind of say, yeah, that's kind of true, right.
Speaker 1: You know, when you have an only or your first kid,
Speaker 1: they this article references as that first sort of experiment.
Speaker 1: You don't know what you're doing yet You're probably going
Speaker 1: all in, depending on how lazy you are, how motivated
Speaker 1: you are as a parent with this, you know, being
Speaker 1: a super parent. And then if supposedly as you have
Speaker 1: more children you get it's not only as your attention divided,
Speaker 1: I think, but there's the notion that you also are like,
Speaker 1: you know, I probably don't need to be as crazy
Speaker 1: with number two and number three, leave them to their
Speaker 1: own devices as a third kid. I'm not going to
Speaker 1: get into too many depressing details of my family growing up,
Speaker 1: but like by the time I was ten and eleven,
Speaker 1: my parents had other things going on. Yeah, and I
Speaker 1: wasn't fair with.
Speaker 3: Other kids on the side.
Speaker 1: Not exactly. I wasn't fair old by any means, but
Speaker 1: I was. I did not have rules imposed on me
Speaker 1: like my brother and sister did. I did not have.
Speaker 1: I was allowed to go to Panama City for spring
Speaker 1: break and they weren't. I was allowed to kind of
Speaker 1: do my own thing, and I was trustworthy, so that
Speaker 1: probably had a lot to do with it. Yeah, if
Speaker 1: I would have been a real problem, they might have
Speaker 1: clamped down a little more, or maybe not.
Speaker 3: And they probably wouldn't have necessarily clamped down like we
Speaker 3: need to give Chuck way more attention and guidance than
Speaker 3: we have been. They would have probably been.
Speaker 1: Like crime and punishment.
Speaker 3: They would have been like we're sending Chuck to rehab
Speaker 3: or whatever, you know what I mean, Let rehab take
Speaker 3: care of her, reform school or something like that. Because
Speaker 3: once you get X number of kids in, you're just
Speaker 3: so tired. Yeah, so tired. And you're older too. Sure,
Speaker 3: like when you're chasing a little kid around in like
Speaker 3: your forties or fifties, that's different than when you're chasing
Speaker 3: a little kid around in your mid twenties.
Speaker 1: I can't imagine a world of difference.
Speaker 3: You know. So there's there's there's a lot of resources,
Speaker 3: not just you know, parents' attention, but also their time,
Speaker 3: intellectual attention that they'll give a kid, like and say
Speaker 3: like hanging out, teaching the kid to read that kind
Speaker 3: of stuff, and just attention in general, and also financial resources,
Speaker 3: the family's resources in general, are a pie that must
Speaker 3: be divided among.
Speaker 1: All the financial, emotional, all that stuff instructive. So generally speaking, firstborn's,
Speaker 1: people say, tend to be very conscientious and structured and
Speaker 1: reliable and achieve high achievers.
Speaker 3: Yeah, because their parents are focusing like a laser on them.
Speaker 3: They know everything that kids got going on, maybe a
Speaker 3: little too much, and the kid is responding to this
Speaker 3: by basically becoming a perfectionist and really wanting to be
Speaker 3: around their parents and.
Speaker 1: Their parents' friends.
Speaker 3: More mature, very much mature, because they're all of the
Speaker 3: people are most of the people are hanging out with
Speaker 3: are adults.
Speaker 1: Yep.
Speaker 3: Okay, so that's a firstborn typically, right, everybody knows it.
Speaker 3: Don't try to deny it.
Speaker 1: Middles in general are people pleasing, which is so my brother.
Speaker 3: That's weird to me because when I think of middle children,
Speaker 3: I think of jam Brady and Jan Brady was not
Speaker 3: a people pleaser. She was just you know, a lump,
Speaker 3: like a lump with a cloud over head.
Speaker 1: Poor Jan.
Speaker 3: But that's true, Like I would not characterize jam Brady
Speaker 3: as a people pleaser, would you know? Like she was
Speaker 3: going to burn something down eventually. If the Brady bunch
Speaker 3: had stayed on the air long enough.
Speaker 1: Was also a blended family. So what was uh yeah,
Speaker 1: who was the It was Bobby and then Peter was from.
Speaker 3: The lateral, I guess you'd call it was he was
Speaker 3: he a people pleaser or just Jan more than Jan.
Speaker 3: But blended families do confound things. We'll get into that
Speaker 3: yet for.
Speaker 1: Sure, but people pleasing, somewhat rebellious, which is not my
Speaker 1: brother at all, large social circle, not really my brother,
Speaker 1: and a peacemaker, totally my brother. He's the best, He's
Speaker 1: the best. And then the youngings, youngies young'in's like us,
Speaker 1: most free spirited, fun loving, uncomplicated, manipulative. I've been called
Speaker 1: some of these things severing degrees, self centered, attention seeking and.
Speaker 3: Outgoing check and check.
Speaker 1: But combined you and I and we're sort of like
Speaker 1: the proto youngest uncomplicated.
Speaker 3: Though I'm like, I don't get that. I'm exquisitely complicated.
Speaker 1: I'm on the surface you wouldn't think it, but I'm
Speaker 1: pretty complicated, sure, as we all know in this room.
Speaker 3: But that's the only one that I'm like that I question. Yeah,
Speaker 3: all the rest of them are like, yeah, that makes sense.
Speaker 1: It's like the Chinese zodiac. You look at that menu
Speaker 1: and you're like total dog.
Speaker 3: Yes, and movie guy pant sounds great right now?
Speaker 1: Only no siblings. You are what they call almost like
Speaker 1: a super firstborn.
Speaker 3: So sounds scary.
Speaker 1: All the traits of a firstborn on steroids, very much perfectionists,
Speaker 1: very much more mature for your age, conscientious, diligent, prone.
Speaker 3: To be leader, can leap over tall buildings.
Speaker 1: And then this is where it gets interesting, and this
Speaker 1: sort of starts.
Speaker 3: To finally, everybody, this is where it starts to get interested.
Speaker 1: Well, this is where it gets in a little bit,
Speaker 1: like how complicated it can get because there's so many
Speaker 1: factors at play, Like what if you're in a blended family,
Speaker 1: because that kind of throws it all out of whack. Yeah, dude, can.
Speaker 3: If you're born a firstborn and you your parents, your
Speaker 3: parents get divorce and you go with your mom who
Speaker 3: gets remarried to a dude who has.
Speaker 1: Brady Yes to a smashing cool architect.
Speaker 3: For sure, and he has a kid that's a little
Speaker 3: older than you, Greg, Greg's the firstborn. You're not the
Speaker 3: firstborn anymore. The best you can hope for is to
Speaker 3: form some sort of confederacy or alliance with Greg to
Speaker 3: rule the rest of the siblings. But you're not the
Speaker 3: head honcho anymore. You're not in charge. That's a big deal.
Speaker 3: I can't imagine many more traumatic experiences, especially when that
Speaker 3: follows closely on the heels of your parents divorce or
Speaker 3: the death of like your other parent. That's got to
Speaker 3: be one of the most traumatic things a kid can
Speaker 3: go through is to lose their identified perch in the
Speaker 3: family order.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and that's we were talking about, like the firstborn,
Speaker 1: like the baby of the family. If all of a
Speaker 1: sudden there's a younger, no good, no, Like I remember
Speaker 1: my parents for some reason talking about adopting a kid.
Speaker 1: I can't remember how old I was. I must have
Speaker 1: been about seven, and I remember breaking down and crying
Speaker 1: and just being like, you can't do this, you cannot
Speaker 1: bring it someone younger and cuter right than me. And
Speaker 1: that happens blended family. All of a sudden, you have
Speaker 1: be a younger or god forbid, a baby. Just forget
Speaker 1: about it.
Speaker 3: I can't compete with that.
Speaker 1: You gotta kill that baby.
Speaker 3: Well, that's what happened too. When Brady Bunch started to
Speaker 3: lose ratings. Apparently your family was losing ratings. So they
Speaker 3: brought in cousin Oliver a new baby, and I don't
Speaker 3: think Bobby was very happy about that either.
Speaker 1: No, but just think about jan it all makes a
Speaker 1: little bit more sense. Like she was like, I'm the
Speaker 1: middle child, and then they brought in three more and
Speaker 1: she was like, I'm even more.
Speaker 3: Middle Yeah, you're deluded. The middle child is deluded. And
Speaker 3: if you have multiple middle children, forget about it.
Speaker 1: That's right. However, here's the thing with blended families. They
Speaker 1: say by about the age of five that a lot
Speaker 1: of your personality is set. So if you're older than
Speaker 1: five and all of a sudden your family is blended,
Speaker 1: they say, it may not make that much of a difference.
Speaker 3: No, no, No, that's where it's trouble. If you're younger than
Speaker 3: five and you your personality is a little more plastic.
Speaker 3: If you were born a baby of the family and
Speaker 3: suddenly you're a first born or you're not there, or
Speaker 3: you're a middle kid, yeah, you'll adapt to that a
Speaker 3: lot better than you would if you're like older and
Speaker 3: you're you're more solid in your birth order.
Speaker 1: Yeah. I didn't mean not trouble. What I meant was like,
Speaker 1: if you're like twelve years old and the family blending happens,
Speaker 1: it's trouble, but it's not like your personality is like
Speaker 1: all of a sudden, I'm the youngest or you know
Speaker 1: what I mean, Like, you don't all of a sudden
Speaker 1: swap to a different birth order personality, I don't think.
Speaker 3: Right, But if you're younger and it happens, you.
Speaker 1: Do right under the age of five, which.
Speaker 3: Goes to show that if this is a thing, and
Speaker 3: we'll talk about whether it is or not soon. Yeah,
Speaker 3: it has nothing to do with biology, has everything to
Speaker 3: do with with nurture, not nature, because a kid can
Speaker 3: adapt depending on when this happens, they can adapt to
Speaker 3: a change in birth order if they're young enough. Yeah,
Speaker 3: that means it has nothing to do with biology. It's
Speaker 3: all the environment you're raised in, which is the most
Speaker 3: boneheadedly obvious thing on the planet.
Speaker 1: And then before we take a break, there are also
Speaker 1: gap children. Supposedly, if there's at least a five year
Speaker 1: gap between births, then it just sort of resets.
Speaker 3: That was like me and my oldest sister. She was
Speaker 3: thirteen years older than me, right, she was just like
Speaker 3: this older, cool person, but not like an old, older sister,
Speaker 3: not at all overbearing, like really like for me, I
Speaker 3: guess a little bit, yeah, or like a second mom
Speaker 3: kind of to an extent.
Speaker 1: Because that does happen too if there's a big gap
Speaker 1: or a big family. Like I dated a girl in
Speaker 1: New Jersey that had that was like six or seven
Speaker 1: of them, and by the time she came around, she
Speaker 1: was kind of fully being raised by her siblings.
Speaker 3: Right, right, So what happens when there's enough of a gap,
Speaker 3: a new family birth order forms. So like if you
Speaker 3: have an oldest and then there's multiple years, like say
Speaker 3: ten years between your oldest and your middle and then
Speaker 3: two years between your middle and your baby, the middle
Speaker 3: and the baby are going to form a firstborn and
Speaker 3: a last born type relationship.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and the last born is always going to be
Speaker 1: the last born, yes, regardless of gap.
Speaker 3: But then twins, like you were saying, is one last
Speaker 3: confounding thing. They twins or triplets multiples as you call them. Yeah,
Speaker 3: I think so. They form their own family unit within
Speaker 3: the family two with each other. And apparently no matter
Speaker 3: where they're born, twins never act like middle kids. They
Speaker 3: always act like the firstborn or the baby, but to
Speaker 3: one another.
Speaker 1: Right, and I think they generally come together to kill
Speaker 1: the parents.
Speaker 3: Basically, right, they hold hands, it's like an elevator of
Speaker 3: blood washes around them.
Speaker 1: And then finally, with adoption, they say that depending on
Speaker 1: when your child has adopted, the same kind of scenario
Speaker 1: scenario happens as in like with gapped and blended.
Speaker 3: Families, Whereas, if the kid's young enough, he or she
Speaker 3: will tailor their their their birth ordered to the family
Speaker 3: that they're adopted into. But if they're older, there'll be trouble.
Speaker 1: All right, that's a good overview, I think.
Speaker 3: I think it was a great overview, Chuck. We're glowing
Speaker 3: from it.
Speaker 1: We're gonna you do have that overview, glow. We're gonna
Speaker 1: take a break, and we're gonna talk about science right after.
Speaker 3: This, all right, Chuck, as promised, we're going to talk
Speaker 3: about science, because, like I said, this is so owe
Speaker 3: headed and obvious that every single person who's ever been
Speaker 3: born into a family, everybody knows the stuff. But as
Speaker 3: far as science is concerned, this is not proven that
Speaker 3: birth order effects as they're called, actually exist. That science
Speaker 3: is saying, hold your cell, your role, everybody. We can't
Speaker 3: actually prove that what everybody knows is actually true. Some
Speaker 3: studies show that, yes, there is such a thing as
Speaker 3: birth order effects. Other studies show that there is no
Speaker 3: birth order effect whatsoever. And then some studies suggest that
Speaker 3: if there are birth order effects, they're so small that
Speaker 3: they are basically a blip on your personality. That all
Speaker 3: the other factors that form your personality, things like the
Speaker 3: socioeconomic status of the family you're born into, your racial background,
Speaker 3: your gender, all the other stuff that is what really
Speaker 3: forms your personality, not the order you're born into your family.
Speaker 3: That's kind of science's position right now.
Speaker 1: Yeah, But what they all agree on is that it
Speaker 1: is therapy.
Speaker 3: Cash cow right, that, yes, it's a good it's a
Speaker 3: useful framework to approach psychotherapy from it.
Speaker 1: They all want to talk about it at high hourly rates.
Speaker 3: See. To me, I'm like, this is sure, this is
Speaker 3: exactly what forms your personality. But I get science's position.
Speaker 3: I respect it.
Speaker 1: So if we go back in time to the early
Speaker 1: nineteen hundreds, it was a man named Alfred Adler. He
Speaker 1: was a part of a He was a contemporary of Freud,
Speaker 1: and this is when all these dudes were getting together
Speaker 1: to talk about all this stuff. In this burgeoning science,
Speaker 1: and they all thought they were so cool and important,
Speaker 1: And he was one of the only ones among his
Speaker 1: peers though at the time, that was talking about birth
Speaker 1: order that early. And he went on to form what
Speaker 1: we know is Atlarian psychology or individual psychology, and it's
Speaker 1: based therapy based on how you perceive your own level
Speaker 1: of power in your family, at your workplace.
Speaker 3: In the world at large in general, like your perceived power,
Speaker 3: place of position, or status.
Speaker 1: Right. Yeah, And if he believed in birth order having
Speaker 1: a significant influence on your personality, then that in turn
Speaker 1: would influence how powerful you may or may not feel.
Speaker 3: Yeah, Because the Adler, if how you perceived your own
Speaker 3: power not necessarily how powerful you were, but your own
Speaker 3: perception of power was the driving force of like how
Speaker 3: you interacted with the world your personality, birth order would
Speaker 3: make total sense because birth order, as everybody knows, is
Speaker 3: nothing but positions of superiority or inferiority. Yeah, And it's
Speaker 3: as simple as that. Because when you're born and you're
Speaker 3: a little kid, and you're born into a family with
Speaker 3: an older sibling, they are a couple of steps ahead
Speaker 3: of you because they've already been through a bunch of
Speaker 3: stuff Yeah, so they're inherently superior to you. They can
Speaker 3: also beat you up on a very basic level. They
Speaker 3: can twist your arm behind your back until it feels
Speaker 3: like it's going to break. And Maria, how many times
Speaker 3: you say uncle, uncle? Uncle? They won't stop until they're satisfied.
Speaker 1: Or protect you, like my big brother did. That's great
Speaker 1: from his friends that were jerks to me. Right, he
Speaker 1: wouldn't stand for it.
Speaker 3: No, a couple of.
Speaker 1: We went at it too, you know, we were brothers.
Speaker 1: But sure he never picked on me. No, you know why,
Speaker 1: because you chuck and he's Scott.
Speaker 3: Right.
Speaker 1: In the eighties is when, I mean, there were always
Speaker 1: studies starting since Adler and freud'stein, but in the nineteen
Speaker 1: eighties is when it really blew up thanks to the
Speaker 1: Big Five in cocaine, the Big Five personality trait view
Speaker 1: of things, and that's when things in the eighties, that's
Speaker 1: when everybody was just like eating the stuff up.
Speaker 3: Yeah, because so the Big Five personality inventory is we've
Speaker 3: talked about it before, but basically it is a self
Speaker 3: reported measure that is actually valid. It actually works, like
Speaker 3: you can say this person is highly neurotic, or this
Speaker 3: person is extroverted or well three others that I can't
Speaker 3: bring to mind right now. But these things are also
Speaker 3: kind of broken into subcategories, like these are big umbrella
Speaker 3: terms have more specific subcategories. But it's actually valid, Like
Speaker 3: somebody who fills this survey out, it's going to be
Speaker 3: an accurate assessment of their personality. So if you have
Speaker 3: somebody's personality, that's huge, Right, you can say, all right,
Speaker 3: if this person's neurotic, they're highly neurotic. Let's see what
Speaker 3: birth order they are. Oh, they're a middle child. Let's
Speaker 3: compare them to other middle children who filled out this
Speaker 3: personality survey scored high on neurosis, And all of a sudden,
Speaker 3: we can show if you're a middle child, you're a
Speaker 3: far likelier to be highly neurotic under the Big five
Speaker 3: personality inventory. Then a firstborn is right, boom bam, you
Speaker 3: just proved that birth order effects exist? Or did you?
Speaker 1: Yeah, They're like we can put people further into a
Speaker 1: box and label them. Sure, or did you? Because that
Speaker 1: is sort of the paradox that arrive that we arrive at,
Speaker 1: which is you pointed to it a little bit earlier.
Speaker 1: There are so many, so many influences that go into
Speaker 1: what makes you you that it's hard to look at
Speaker 1: birth order as a mere small part of that. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so so like you can't account you can account for
Speaker 1: some of these and studying it, right, you know, there's
Speaker 1: a lot of studies over the years and they do
Speaker 1: their best, but you can't account for all of them.
Speaker 3: Well, okay, so we'll go back to that example. So
Speaker 3: you've you've just gone to your peers and said, look,
Speaker 3: I have just proven that middle children are highly neurotic
Speaker 3: compared to other children in birth orders. Right, yeah, then
Speaker 3: you're shaking your own fists around your your shoulders in triumph.
Speaker 3: And they said, well, wait a minute, Wait a minute,
Speaker 3: did you control for socioeconomic background? And you go no,
Speaker 3: I didn't. Well wait did you control for race?
Speaker 1: No?
Speaker 3: Did you control for gender?
Speaker 1: No?
Speaker 3: And so all of a sudden you realize there's all
Speaker 3: these different independent variables out tons in this case would
Speaker 3: be confounding variables that might actually be the thing influencing it.
Speaker 3: It might be the fact that they are women born
Speaker 3: into families of a low ceoeconomic state that is driving neuroses.
Speaker 3: That that's actually the thing that is driving it rather
Speaker 3: than birth order. It has nothing to do with being
Speaker 3: a middle child. It's just a fluke, a coincidence. And
Speaker 3: like you said, there's so many confounding variables and so
Speaker 3: many things that make our personalities who we are. That
Speaker 3: some people who are like birth order effects do not exist.
Speaker 3: Basically say that any birth order study that shows that
Speaker 3: they do exist has some confounding variable that's the actual
Speaker 3: hidden thing that's driving it that you can't possibly control
Speaker 3: for everything to make a perfect, perfectly designed experiment for birthwork.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like when you start to think about, like if
Speaker 1: you were just to sit there and sort of jot
Speaker 1: down things as non scientists, just regular schmos like us,
Speaker 1: and just jot down a list of what other factors
Speaker 1: might be at play, we could probably come up with
Speaker 1: a list of one hundred things between.
Speaker 3: Us let's start now.
Speaker 1: But that would like if I was studying the stuff
Speaker 1: and I started to make that list, I would just
Speaker 1: walk away and go into another line of study. Sure,
Speaker 1: I would be like, dude, I just you know where
Speaker 1: your parents married, where they divorce, When did they get divorced?
Speaker 3: Did you like hot dogs?
Speaker 1: You live with mom or dad? How far apart did
Speaker 1: they live? What could do? Were you suburban? Were you Urbana?
Speaker 1: Where did you live in an excurb Did you grow
Speaker 1: up in the woods? Did you start work at twelve?
Speaker 1: For you like old timing, I started to work at twelve.
Speaker 1: I guess I did too. I had a paper route. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I was a bus boy.
Speaker 3: Oh nice? Oh wait was that where the guy put
Speaker 3: his foot into the Yeah, brothers do what a criminal?
Speaker 1: I told you that's a title Max. Now that restaurant,
Speaker 1: but not too long ago. Yeah, go JJ's barbecue title Max.
Speaker 1: Now they're putting their foot on titles, just stomping on them.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but they got your money, your money, your real money.
Speaker 1: They're never gonna sponsor us. Now. Another few things that
Speaker 1: can confound these studies are things and and Ed helped
Speaker 1: us put this research together, things like demographic shifts. So
Speaker 1: he gave a great example of like the baby boom,
Speaker 1: if there's a big population bulge that also coincides with
Speaker 1: a lot of other stuff. And the example he uses
Speaker 1: prevalence of cigarette smoking. There may be a false correlation
Speaker 1: there between being a first born and smoking, whereas if
Speaker 1: you were second born twelve years later. I guess that
Speaker 1: would fall outside that range though of gap.
Speaker 3: Child maybe, but that's even more confounding. The point's still valid,
Speaker 3: sure that, Like, there's just way more firstborns who smoke
Speaker 3: than second borns. But that's because those spoking was more
Speaker 3: prevalent when there were a bunch of kids born who
Speaker 3: were all of the same cohort and all firstborns. Right,
Speaker 3: that's just one of the ways this thing can be confounded.
Speaker 1: Yeah, well, this one really speaks to me, which is
Speaker 1: labeled as growth. When a birth order effect does appear,
Speaker 1: it is strongest when they subject is with their siblings.
Speaker 3: Yeah, when you're a family or union, its back into
Speaker 3: It is.
Speaker 1: So funny how that happens. Yeah, I see myself do it.
Speaker 1: Like good example, I turned forty eight a couple of
Speaker 1: weeks ago. My family, my sister and her husband happened
Speaker 1: to be in town. Didn't come for that, but we
Speaker 1: were texting and I was like, hey, let's all you know,
Speaker 1: this is great, let's all go out to dinner. She's like, oh,
Speaker 1: I didn't want to. I just figured you wouldn't want
Speaker 1: to spend your birthday with your friend. You'd want to
Speaker 1: spend your birthday with your friends and not your family.
Speaker 1: And I saw Michelle when she got in town, and
Speaker 1: she said the same thing in person, and I was like, dude,
Speaker 1: I'm forty eight. Yeah, it's like I'm not twenty two
Speaker 1: year old chuck, I know some burnout like I used
Speaker 1: to be. And she just sort of laughed. But that's
Speaker 1: a perfect example of how like, no matter what happens
Speaker 1: in my life, I will always be the baby. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and she will probably feel like she has to look
Speaker 1: out for me, which is a nice feeling. It is
Speaker 1: I see Emily fall into patterns with her family. Well,
Speaker 1: she is a She's an interesting case because she was
Speaker 1: an only and then has a half brother and a
Speaker 1: half sister. Her dad. Yeah, her dad went and had
Speaker 1: a son with another woman, and then her mom got
Speaker 1: married to her father in law, Steve, who already had
Speaker 1: a daughter. So it's this sort of a weird mix.
Speaker 1: But I just mean in general, not even with siblings,
Speaker 1: you know, just in how their family dynamic is. She's
Speaker 1: a different person when we go over there, all of us.
Speaker 3: I think everybody is around their family so strange.
Speaker 1: So this is when it sort of started me down
Speaker 1: the path of like what is personality? Is a personality trait?
Speaker 1: Is it? This? Just is it repeated behaviors? Is it
Speaker 1: a set of behaviors, Like is that personality?
Speaker 3: Are you asking me?
Speaker 1: Yeah? I mean I don't even know, Like what is personality?
Speaker 1: We should do a show on that.
Speaker 3: Oh, we totally should. But from what I understand, just
Speaker 3: kind of briefly put it, personality is the kind of
Speaker 3: predictable way that you'll react to the world. Right. Is
Speaker 3: it easy for somebody to press your buttons? Are you
Speaker 3: laid back? Are you like could somebody? However, if somebody
Speaker 3: were presented with this is going terribly If somebody represented
Speaker 3: with a like an event in life, Okay, you could say,
Speaker 3: Josh would probably respond to like that, Yeah, that's a personality.
Speaker 1: Right, But is that something inherent or is it birth
Speaker 1: or order or no? Is it just a collection of
Speaker 1: learned behavior?
Speaker 3: I think it's a collection of learned and reinforced behaviors too.
Speaker 3: If you're told you're the baby the family all the time,
Speaker 3: you're gonna act like the baby of the family. You're
Speaker 3: gonna act self centered, you're gonna act manipulative. It's reinforced.
Speaker 3: If you're told you you can do anything, you can
Speaker 3: go out and do anything. You can literally walk through
Speaker 3: walls because someone told you to. They reinforce that behavior.
Speaker 3: But I think that's what personality is. And this is
Speaker 3: just me talking. I also believe in birth order effects,
Speaker 3: by the way, but I think that that is it's
Speaker 3: learned and reinforced, which means it can be unlearned. You
Speaker 3: can learn to be different.
Speaker 1: Yeah. At that same birthday dinner, I picked up the
Speaker 1: check for everyone, and there was a bit of a
Speaker 1: not an argument letty's struggle. My mom and I were,
Speaker 1: you know, kind of off to the side with the
Speaker 1: people who work there doing the credit card battle, and
Speaker 1: she wasn't super happy and I should have just let
Speaker 1: her pay. But it's part of that thing, like I'm
Speaker 1: the baby of the family, and I kind of just
Speaker 1: finally told a sec Listen, Mom, it's like it's my
Speaker 1: turn to pay nice. You know, I'm not the baby anymore.
Speaker 1: Like quit writing me a check for one hundred dollars
Speaker 1: on my birthday.
Speaker 3: Do you do you catch this?
Speaker 1: I mean I generally just put it in my kid's
Speaker 1: bank account.
Speaker 3: Oh that's a good thing, you know. Yeah, we don't
Speaker 3: catch the ones.
Speaker 1: Because I also don't want to take away the joy
Speaker 1: that she gets from writing me that hundred dollars. Yes, sure,
Speaker 1: that's not cool. No, it's like I don't need that
Speaker 1: from her, but like that's what brings her joy.
Speaker 3: Yeah, giving you money, it's complicated. So let me teach
Speaker 3: you a little trick. Oh okay, if you don't want
Speaker 3: to get into that tussle, if you just wanted to
Speaker 3: be done, sorry, it's too late. When you order, when
Speaker 3: you hand the menu back to the server, just have
Speaker 3: be holding your credit card with your thumb and give
Speaker 3: them a look. It's universal, dude, They all know, and
Speaker 3: they'll take it and be like, and you got to first.
Speaker 3: Nobody else does that. They always wait and they pretend
Speaker 3: to go to the bathroom, like after everybody's done. It
Speaker 3: so obvious. You got to start before the food even comes,
Speaker 3: before the drinks even come.
Speaker 1: You know what I did? What when we got to
Speaker 1: the restaurant, the very first thing I did was go
Speaker 1: up to the manager while everyone was being seated. I said, listen, dude,
Speaker 1: my mom's going to try and pay, or one of
Speaker 1: these other trumps in my family's going to try and pay.
Speaker 1: He's like, I don't want any of them paying. It's
Speaker 1: like twelve people. I picked the place. I picked a
Speaker 1: nicer place. It's like I don't want to do that.
Speaker 1: And I was like, so, just here's my credit card.
Speaker 1: Please make sure that the server there's no battle.
Speaker 3: They didn't follow your orders.
Speaker 1: No, because my mom she tried to jump me later
Speaker 1: on the side and didn't realize I had already jumped her.
Speaker 3: So it should have been done.
Speaker 1: I know. But then when we went over there, he
Speaker 1: was like, listen, man, your mom is over here now,
Speaker 1: like she's the mom. We generally side with the parents
Speaker 1: on this stuff.
Speaker 3: What place was this?
Speaker 1: It was just a restaurant.
Speaker 3: I demand to know. I'm mad.
Speaker 1: I my move should have just trumped all moves because
Speaker 1: it was No. I agree, and that's what I basically said.
Speaker 1: And I was like, listen, man, I was like, there
Speaker 1: are factors at play here that I don't want to
Speaker 1: talk about. It's like, just please. And my mom got
Speaker 1: a little mad, and then.
Speaker 3: I was I blame this manager. I think you should
Speaker 3: expose them. Well, I'm glad it all worked out in
Speaker 3: the end.
Speaker 1: Man, Should we take a break.
Speaker 3: I thought we were right now.
Speaker 1: No, all right, we'll be back right for this.
Speaker 3: All right, we're back, Chuck. Yes, And like we said,
Speaker 3: we showed science is kind of like we're not quite
Speaker 3: sure about the birth order effect. That hasn't kept like
Speaker 3: a whole cottage like field of psychology from continuing since
Speaker 3: the eighties basically non stop. Like if you go look
Speaker 3: at birth order effects, there's it's very rare you're going
Speaker 3: to run into anything that says like this is all
Speaker 3: b Yes. Most of it's like, yeah, this is true.
Speaker 3: Everybody knows it. There have been some like dominent people
Speaker 3: in favor of like like let's say, yes, there is
Speaker 3: such thing as birth effects. And there was one guy
Speaker 3: in particular who made a big splash in nineteen ninety
Speaker 3: six with a book called Born to Rebel. Yeah sol Away, Yeah,
Speaker 3: Frank Soloway, Frank J. Soloway, if you want to be
Speaker 3: fancy about it. And he got a MacArthur Genius grant
Speaker 3: in nineteen eighty four to kind of study this and
Speaker 3: write about it, and he did. He wrote a book
Speaker 3: called Born to Rebel. It was about birth order and
Speaker 3: the whole premise of the book was he looked at
Speaker 3: scientific revolutions throughout the ages. It's pretty interesting identified which
Speaker 3: scientists were on which side of it, either in support
Speaker 3: of this revolutionary thinking or opposed to it, meaning that
Speaker 3: they were in favor of keeping the status quo, and
Speaker 3: then determined what birth order they had. And he found
Speaker 3: after this study, which is really it was a big study.
Speaker 1: Yeah, they did.
Speaker 3: It was a pretty a lot of legwork and a
Speaker 3: lot of research, he determined that first borns are much
Speaker 3: more likely to support the status quo, whereas second borns
Speaker 3: or later borns he calls them, are much more likely
Speaker 3: to support revolutionary thinking.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and just one example, as far as he used Darwinism,
Speaker 1: he said, later borns between eighteen fifty nine and eighteen
Speaker 1: seventy five were four point six times more likely than
Speaker 1: firstborns to support Darwinism.
Speaker 3: Thinking yeah, yeah, so yeah, And that was one of
Speaker 3: many examples that I think there were one hundred and
Speaker 3: twenty one historical events with sixty five hundred individuals either
Speaker 3: supporting or opposing them. So it was a big, big
Speaker 3: work for sure.
Speaker 1: Yeah. And one of his I mean he put some
Speaker 1: reasoning behind it too. He was like, if you're a
Speaker 1: later born, you might have a hard time competing with
Speaker 1: your older who might have a tighter bond with the parents. Maybe,
Speaker 1: and so that sort of symbolically forces you as to
Speaker 1: be almost an out within your own family. So you
Speaker 1: may be more prone to join up with an outsider opinion.
Speaker 3: Right to go, look outside of the family union and
Speaker 3: all of the values and the ideas that it holds,
Speaker 3: to make your own mark in order to get attention
Speaker 3: or support or whatever from your parents. Whereas if you're
Speaker 3: a first born, you just got the easiest thing to
Speaker 3: do is to just fall in line with your parents
Speaker 3: and hence support the status quo. It makes sense, but
Speaker 3: Born to Rebel was torn apart by some scientists. Sure
Speaker 3: it's like this is just pure pop psychology tripe. I
Speaker 3: think that's an unfair characterization of it. Like, the guy
Speaker 3: worked for basically twenty something years on this stuff, and
Speaker 3: it was a very robust study. One of the pitfalls
Speaker 3: that he seemed to have run into, though, was he
Speaker 3: was analyzing historical figures, which is really sticky stuff. Yeah,
Speaker 3: you can't analyze people even from Afar, even if they're
Speaker 3: content prairie let alone, they've been dead for a couple
Speaker 3: hundred years. To base it on that is kind of
Speaker 3: is kind of difficult and tricky, But I just want
Speaker 3: to say he worked really hard on it.
Speaker 1: Another part plucked from his research I thought was pretty
Speaker 1: interesting was the idea that part of this less rebellious
Speaker 1: nature of a firstborn might be due to the long
Speaker 1: standing but now sort of antiquated practice of primogeniture, which is,
Speaker 1: the firstborn gets the inheritance, so they're more likely, just
Speaker 1: through thousands of years of this, more inclined to like
Speaker 1: not ruffle the feathers of the parents, right.
Speaker 3: And then the later borns who are like, I've got
Speaker 3: basically zero chance of inheriting the family titles in a state,
Speaker 3: I'll just go do my own thing. I don't have
Speaker 3: to fall in line. That makes sense as well.
Speaker 1: And the other interesting thing with that is another factor
Speaker 1: was the removal of a child from a family. He's
Speaker 1: found that a later born who was removed from the
Speaker 1: family and reared by relative will end up behaving like
Speaker 1: a typical firstborn. And again I'm assuming if that's under
Speaker 1: the age of like five.
Speaker 3: But I wonder so I'm wondering if that just is
Speaker 3: supported by other research, or if all of the parenting
Speaker 3: magazine articles that mention that whole, you know, the personality
Speaker 3: is tailored, is really just citing that work. Because that's
Speaker 3: one of the big problems with pop psychology in general
Speaker 3: is it's self reinforcing. One person says one thing and
Speaker 3: it gets picked up by a bunch of people and
Speaker 3: they're all pointing to the same thing. But since so
Speaker 3: many of them are pointing, there's so many of them
Speaker 3: out there doing the pointing, right, it seems like it's
Speaker 3: a very robust and like a widespread body of work,
Speaker 3: when really it was just one study that said one
Speaker 3: thing that everybody's citing.
Speaker 1: Well, yeah, like in his case, he likes to cite
Speaker 1: this Norwegian study. It found a difference of two point
Speaker 1: three IQ points between first and second and born children,
Speaker 1: sample size of two hundred and forty one thousand subjects.
Speaker 3: That's big.
Speaker 1: It is big, But then you know ed sort of
Speaker 1: brings up a good point, like okay, maybe, but like
Speaker 1: is a two point three first of all IQ tests
Speaker 1: are problematic, they're bond for like a lot of reasons,
Speaker 1: possibly bunk. But even if they're not, is a two
Speaker 1: point three IQ point difference even meaningful? Yeah enough to
Speaker 1: be like, well look two points.
Speaker 3: So no, it's not meaningful in that like you know,
Speaker 3: that doesn't that's not going to lead to any like
Speaker 3: closed doors or open doors or anything. It's just such
Speaker 3: a narrow difference but if that's like an average, and
Speaker 3: it's it is found across you know, firstborns and later borns,
Speaker 3: like like in a very large population like that it is,
Speaker 3: it does make you wonder, like what would that come from?
Speaker 3: It does raise more questions. Yeah, you know what I mean. So, Yeah,
Speaker 3: it's an insignificant difference as far as like actual intelligence goes,
Speaker 3: but it does suggest that there's something weird going on
Speaker 3: there that does have to do with birth order.
Speaker 1: Well, I guess that brings us to this really interesting
Speaker 1: thing that I had never heard of before. Oh, y,
Speaker 1: had you heard of this fraternal birth order effect? Which
Speaker 1: is basically the idea and a lot of studies have
Speaker 1: backed this up. Meta analysis of tons of studies have
Speaker 1: backed this up. The idea is that if you have
Speaker 1: multiple boys in your family, each successive boy that's born
Speaker 1: and this is it's just boys, has a higher chance
Speaker 1: of being gay.
Speaker 3: Right.
Speaker 1: I didn't think And when I first saw that, I
Speaker 1: was like, that can't be real, right, And then I
Speaker 1: did a lot more poking around. I was like, Wow,
Speaker 1: it is real. The statistics sort of bear it out.
Speaker 3: Yeah. If there's a big disagreement about whether actual just
Speaker 3: regular birth order effects exist. This one is much more
Speaker 3: supported by the data. Yeah, this the fraternal birth order effect,
Speaker 3: and so much so that there was a sexologist, which
Speaker 3: if that were my feel is study, I'd be like,
Speaker 3: call me sexologists, Josh, please, I can't find his name
Speaker 3: is Ray something he said, and I'm not sure what
Speaker 3: he was basing this on, but he said that there
Speaker 3: is an increase of thirty three percent in likelihood that
Speaker 3: you will be gay with each additional older brother you have.
Speaker 1: Now, so that means if you're born into a family
Speaker 1: and you're the youngest of four brothers.
Speaker 3: I did this math.
Speaker 1: What does that mean? Because I know these people family.
Speaker 3: Zero percent chance, I guess that that you are going
Speaker 3: to be hetero, that you were one hundred percent chance
Speaker 3: going to be gay?
Speaker 1: Right, Well, how many it could be one hundred and
Speaker 1: sixty percent? Right, it just keeps going right, Yeah, I
Speaker 1: think that can't be right.
Speaker 3: Eventually you become so gay you pop out the other
Speaker 3: side and you're straight because you have like ten brothers.
Speaker 1: Well, I did see that meta analysis of multiple multiple
Speaker 1: studies indicated that between fifteen and twenty nine percent of
Speaker 1: gay males owe their sexual orientation to this effect.
Speaker 3: Supposedly Okay, so so, and we should say there are
Speaker 3: some studies that have not found this. There was a
Speaker 3: big one that had it was like a survey of
Speaker 3: British young men that surveyed like eleven thousand of them
Speaker 3: or whatever and did not find this. But so many
Speaker 3: studies have found it that science is like this, this
Speaker 3: actually might be a thing, and we're not quite sure
Speaker 3: what it is. And at first they explained it that
Speaker 3: the more boys there are, the less social pressure there
Speaker 3: are for you to be like hetero and and responsible
Speaker 3: for carrying on the family line right right, right, like
Speaker 3: after two three brothers who are gonna, you know, carry
Speaker 3: on the family line, go go crazy, go do what
Speaker 3: you want, And that that was the idea behind why
Speaker 3: it became likelier that you would be gay if you
Speaker 3: had more older brothers. There's a couple of things with that.
Speaker 3: It kind of suggests that like being gay or not
Speaker 3: as a choice, are being straight or not as a
Speaker 3: choice rather than something biological, right whatever, That has kind
Speaker 3: of gone out the window with another really surprising finding
Speaker 3: that has to do with handedness that really undermines that
Speaker 3: whole idea.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so this is so just mind blowing and interesting.
Speaker 1: So the increase in probability of a boy becoming gay
Speaker 1: is only only if that boy is right handed. Right
Speaker 1: handed yep, So if you're left handed. Among left handed men,
Speaker 1: there was no statistical difference in the incidence of homosexuality,
Speaker 1: even if you've got a thousand brothers.
Speaker 3: And the weird thing about that is that they've found
Speaker 3: if you are taking birth order out of the equation,
Speaker 3: if you are left handed, there is a slightly higher
Speaker 3: incidence of being gay, just period, yes, for being left handed,
Speaker 3: and that's with men and women apparently, So the idea
Speaker 3: that not only does it not make you more likely
Speaker 3: to be gay in as far as fraternal birth order
Speaker 3: is concerned, it actually negates the effects of fraternal birth order.
Speaker 3: It negates it. It shows that that social pressure from
Speaker 3: brothers doesn't have anything to do with it, right, because
Speaker 3: a right handed or a left handed kid is not
Speaker 3: going to be under any more or less social pressure
Speaker 3: from older brothers to be straight. Right, that makes zero
Speaker 3: sense whatsoever. And that would also suggest it's handedness, that
Speaker 3: it has something to do with genetics too.
Speaker 1: If you're ambidextriousity bisexual, I guess so, where's that study
Speaker 1: that makes sense? So I did a little more digging
Speaker 1: in this, but I don't understand it at all. But
Speaker 1: more recently, as in just a couple of years ago,
Speaker 1: they think they found an actual physiological biological explanation for that. Oh,
Speaker 1: did you understand that.
Speaker 3: I don't know if they found it or if somebody
Speaker 3: made it up, and everybody's.
Speaker 1: Like, no, I read a bunch of papers that said that,
Speaker 1: you know, they think this may be it, okay, but
Speaker 1: I didn't get it.
Speaker 3: So what they think is that a mom. When a
Speaker 3: mom carries a boy, her body has a reaction to
Speaker 3: the male male proteins, the stuff that makes him a
Speaker 3: male creates an allergic reaction of sorts in the mom,
Speaker 3: and the mom produces antibodies. The first time the mom's
Speaker 3: bodies totally caught off guard, has basically no effects whatsoever
Speaker 3: on the boy's development as a boy. As more and
Speaker 3: more boys are born, and just state in that same
Speaker 3: poor mom, the antibodies get better and better at recognizing
Speaker 3: these proteins and can actually get to the point where
Speaker 3: they affect the expression of these proteins, and so what
Speaker 3: makes the boy straight from the basis of these proteins
Speaker 3: is actually affected and they develop differently starting in the
Speaker 3: womb because the mom has developed antibodies to basically maleness,
Speaker 3: which is the most mind boggling, amazing idea I've ever heard.
Speaker 1: That summary was so much better than the scientific paper
Speaker 1: summaries that I read today. Good John, thank you you
Speaker 1: should do that.
Speaker 3: Thank I do for a living. I just did.
Speaker 1: Well, that's a good point. I thought this was interesting too.
Speaker 1: I mean, we've kind of gone over most of these
Speaker 1: birth order theories I think in general, but this one
Speaker 1: I don't think we super touched on, and I think
Speaker 1: it's really interesting. The confluence theory. So this is sort
Speaker 1: of like resource solution of parents that we were talking about, Yeah,
Speaker 1: like only so much emotional support or financial support to
Speaker 1: go around, But this takes it down to the sibling level,
Speaker 1: and it's sort of basically like if you were first born,
Speaker 1: you are then have a degraded emotional environment and intellectual
Speaker 1: environment once you get a younger. Yeah. So it's like
Speaker 1: playing tennis against better or worse competition. If you're the
Speaker 1: better tennis player, you're not going to play as good
Speaker 1: against a lesser tennis player. And they're saying that that
Speaker 1: kind of happens with firstborns. Because they have to spend
Speaker 1: time with this dumb kid, this dumb baby.
Speaker 3: But the dumb baby gets a leg up exactly.
Speaker 1: That's when you play tennis against someone better than you. Eventually,
Speaker 1: that's called the tutor effect. They surpassed that firstborn.
Speaker 3: The student becomes the mass. That's right, exactly, and your
Speaker 3: skin turns to alabaster.
Speaker 1: Really interesting, says Sting said Sting. Well the Police, Oh okay,
Speaker 1: Oh sure, I thought you were like a dream of
Speaker 1: the Blue Turtle. Sting.
Speaker 3: No, I'm more of a nothing like the sun.
Speaker 1: Yes, synchronicity, that's good too. I'm still mad at them
Speaker 1: for that reunion tour.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, they really phoned it in. You said, just
Speaker 3: phoned it in? Hey, I saw for some so I
Speaker 3: just thought of the Police, and then Stuart Copeland, which
Speaker 3: made me think of Less Claypool. Remember he's in that
Speaker 3: band with Less Claypool and Trey Anastasio.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's called kill Me.
Speaker 3: No, it's the three talented individuals. But then that made
Speaker 3: me think of Less Claypool, who was in a documentary
Speaker 3: I just saw on The Residents. Have you seen it?
Speaker 1: No? The Residents were the mystery band, right, that were
Speaker 1: the big ping pong heads.
Speaker 3: Eyeballs, eyeballs right, still are a mystery band, still going
Speaker 3: really Yeah, they're good, but it's good. It's like it's
Speaker 3: an intellectual kind of like examination of their history and everything,
Speaker 3: but it's really interesting. But Less Claypool's in it.
Speaker 1: Do you think when Less Claypool, fish guy what's his name?
Speaker 3: Tresso and Stuart Copeland.
Speaker 1: And Stuart Copan you think when they got together to
Speaker 1: form that band, all they did was just sort of
Speaker 1: work out who's solo is next. Probably it's like, I
Speaker 1: want to do the bass solo first, and then we
Speaker 1: can go right into the guitar solo and then the
Speaker 1: drum solo and then the song's over.
Speaker 3: Hopefully the birth order of the three worked out so
Speaker 3: that it all They were like, yes, this all makes
Speaker 3: sense to me.
Speaker 1: Man, there's nothing better than old videos of Stuart Copeland
Speaker 1: pitching fits.
Speaker 3: Oh Diddy, I always heard it was thing that was
Speaker 3: a jerk to Stuart Copeland. Was Stuart Copeland's jerk?
Speaker 1: Well, Stuart Copeland was a hot head and Steven was
Speaker 1: a could poke his buttons. Oh yeah, it's pretty fun.
Speaker 1: There's Stuart pretty Opland. No, don't feel bad for Stuart Copeman.
Speaker 3: He might be. I think he might be the best
Speaker 3: drummer I ever lived, everybody says Neil Pert. I don't know, man,
Speaker 3: Stuart Copeland was pretty good.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, and like crazy, uh, like doing his own thing.
Speaker 3: And he's from Macon. What yeah, Macon, Georgia, Macon, Georgia.
Speaker 1: Wow, I didn't know that.
Speaker 3: This concludes this episode of stuff you should know. If
Speaker 3: you want know more about birth order, go talk to
Speaker 3: your family. We don't care. Since I said that's time
Speaker 3: for listener mail.
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