1 00:00:21,800 --> 00:00:24,919 Speaker 1: Hey everyone, Emily A Baddi here. You are listening to 2 00:00:25,520 --> 00:00:31,240 Speaker 1: five minute Friday from Hurdle. Wow. Firstly, I can't believe 3 00:00:31,280 --> 00:00:34,080 Speaker 1: that this episode marks the end of season fifteen. It 4 00:00:34,080 --> 00:00:39,280 Speaker 1: feels like this really really breathed by. And also that 5 00:00:39,440 --> 00:00:44,280 Speaker 1: this is the last episode in year five of Hurdle. 6 00:00:44,400 --> 00:00:48,600 Speaker 1: Hurdle's birthday is on December thirty first, and come January first, 7 00:00:48,800 --> 00:00:51,519 Speaker 1: we are relaunching the show. You're going to see new 8 00:00:51,560 --> 00:00:55,480 Speaker 1: cover art in your podcast feed wherever you get your podcasts. 9 00:00:55,600 --> 00:00:59,000 Speaker 1: You're going to see a completely new look. Over on social, 10 00:00:59,320 --> 00:01:02,800 Speaker 1: we are going to be completely reinvigorating the not so 11 00:01:03,000 --> 00:01:06,280 Speaker 1: Secret Hurdler's Facebook group. So if you're not in there 12 00:01:06,440 --> 00:01:08,920 Speaker 1: just yet, click on over to the show notes and 13 00:01:09,360 --> 00:01:11,399 Speaker 1: join us over there. There's gonna be a lot of 14 00:01:11,400 --> 00:01:15,360 Speaker 1: fun things to come. And yeah, I'm just I'm a 15 00:01:15,400 --> 00:01:18,959 Speaker 1: really big fan of fresh starts, and I am also 16 00:01:19,120 --> 00:01:22,880 Speaker 1: of the mindset that every single second is the opportunity 17 00:01:22,959 --> 00:01:27,000 Speaker 1: to begin again. We don't necessarily need January one to 18 00:01:27,120 --> 00:01:30,840 Speaker 1: be a symbol for change. However, with that said, I 19 00:01:31,000 --> 00:01:34,080 Speaker 1: love me a January one. I love the turning of 20 00:01:34,120 --> 00:01:36,680 Speaker 1: a new year. I love evaluating where I'm at I 21 00:01:36,720 --> 00:01:41,760 Speaker 1: love fresh beginnings, and so it is coming not just 22 00:01:41,959 --> 00:01:44,880 Speaker 1: for all of us, so to speak, with the turn 23 00:01:45,280 --> 00:01:50,560 Speaker 1: into twenty twenty four, but also for hurdle. On that note, 24 00:01:50,960 --> 00:01:53,400 Speaker 1: the holiday week, so many of you already listening to this. 25 00:01:53,560 --> 00:01:56,000 Speaker 1: Maybe you're logged off for the next seven days, maybe 26 00:01:56,040 --> 00:01:58,600 Speaker 1: you're working at some point in the next seven days, 27 00:01:58,600 --> 00:02:01,840 Speaker 1: whatever the case may be, I want to tell you 28 00:02:01,880 --> 00:02:06,400 Speaker 1: something that I took a while to learn as an entrepreneur, 29 00:02:06,920 --> 00:02:11,200 Speaker 1: and that is that it can wait. Maybe you're not 30 00:02:11,960 --> 00:02:15,680 Speaker 1: off of work and you are getting after it over 31 00:02:15,720 --> 00:02:18,240 Speaker 1: the next week and you're trying to do business with 32 00:02:18,320 --> 00:02:22,200 Speaker 1: people that aren't around, or perhaps you're kind of giving 33 00:02:22,240 --> 00:02:26,239 Speaker 1: yourself a hard time about taking some time to relax 34 00:02:26,360 --> 00:02:30,320 Speaker 1: and recharge this time of year. Whatever your situation is, 35 00:02:31,000 --> 00:02:36,320 Speaker 1: whatever you're stressing about right now, it can wait. And 36 00:02:37,360 --> 00:02:42,799 Speaker 1: regardless of what your family situation is, you deserve to 37 00:02:43,280 --> 00:02:46,920 Speaker 1: dial it back a little bit and know that the 38 00:02:47,160 --> 00:02:50,600 Speaker 1: urgency that maybe you feel at other points in time, 39 00:02:51,160 --> 00:02:55,120 Speaker 1: you don't need to let that infiltrate into your mindset. 40 00:02:55,560 --> 00:03:00,640 Speaker 1: Right this moment in our go go go culture, the hustle, 41 00:03:00,760 --> 00:03:05,480 Speaker 1: the comparison, all these things, it's so normal and understandable 42 00:03:05,840 --> 00:03:10,040 Speaker 1: that we are constantly comparing ourselves to what everybody else 43 00:03:10,040 --> 00:03:13,840 Speaker 1: has going on. But in this time of the year 44 00:03:13,919 --> 00:03:18,280 Speaker 1: that is so often that emphasis is on family. Be 45 00:03:18,480 --> 00:03:23,200 Speaker 1: present with where your feet are, Be where your feet are, 46 00:03:24,000 --> 00:03:27,919 Speaker 1: know that the other things they'll be there next week, 47 00:03:28,240 --> 00:03:32,200 Speaker 1: and dare I say it the week after that. I 48 00:03:32,360 --> 00:03:35,840 Speaker 1: also will throw this caveat in there that a lot 49 00:03:35,960 --> 00:03:38,840 Speaker 1: of us feel some kind of way when someone else 50 00:03:38,920 --> 00:03:42,680 Speaker 1: comes to us with an urgent issue. But someone else's 51 00:03:42,760 --> 00:03:48,200 Speaker 1: sense of urgency isn't your responsibility, especially right now when 52 00:03:48,200 --> 00:03:51,400 Speaker 1: you have other priorities. So there's a way to handle 53 00:03:51,400 --> 00:03:54,480 Speaker 1: these interactions with grace and kindness, and there's a way 54 00:03:54,480 --> 00:03:57,280 Speaker 1: for you to uphold your boundaries. I encourage you to 55 00:03:57,320 --> 00:03:59,680 Speaker 1: do whatever it is that you have to do right 56 00:03:59,720 --> 00:04:03,520 Speaker 1: now to give yourself a little bit of an exhil 57 00:04:04,000 --> 00:04:06,920 Speaker 1: My question for you this week, what is one thing 58 00:04:06,960 --> 00:04:09,440 Speaker 1: you're looking forward to before the end of the year. 59 00:04:09,960 --> 00:04:13,120 Speaker 1: What is one thing maybe one person you're going to see, 60 00:04:13,200 --> 00:04:15,760 Speaker 1: what activity you're going to do, something new you're going 61 00:04:15,840 --> 00:04:19,440 Speaker 1: to try that you are looking forward to over the 62 00:04:19,480 --> 00:04:26,120 Speaker 1: next week before twenty twenty four And now I'll listener question. 63 00:04:26,839 --> 00:04:29,920 Speaker 2: Hi, Emily This is Brain from Washington, d C. I've 64 00:04:29,960 --> 00:04:32,359 Speaker 2: actually been a fan for a very long time. I 65 00:04:32,520 --> 00:04:35,400 Speaker 2: found you on Instagram back in twenty seventeen, and I 66 00:04:35,440 --> 00:04:39,440 Speaker 2: remember the first episode of Hurdle you ever released. So 67 00:04:40,000 --> 00:04:42,520 Speaker 2: I got laid off last week and this is the 68 00:04:42,520 --> 00:04:45,479 Speaker 2: first time this has ever happened to me. Ultimately, I 69 00:04:45,480 --> 00:04:47,039 Speaker 2: actually think this is going to be a good thing. 70 00:04:47,279 --> 00:04:49,159 Speaker 2: I had in aligned with my company for a while, 71 00:04:49,480 --> 00:04:51,360 Speaker 2: but I felt very loyal to the people I worked 72 00:04:51,360 --> 00:04:54,479 Speaker 2: with and the work I was doing, and I also 73 00:04:54,560 --> 00:04:57,760 Speaker 2: feel financially stable that I'm not worried about that right now, 74 00:04:57,920 --> 00:05:00,000 Speaker 2: and I've been reaching out to old bosses and college 75 00:05:00,279 --> 00:05:03,600 Speaker 2: for a new job. But the one thing that I'm 76 00:05:03,680 --> 00:05:07,479 Speaker 2: worried about is actually all the free time I'm going 77 00:05:07,560 --> 00:05:10,640 Speaker 2: to be having for a while. I'm definitely someone who 78 00:05:10,760 --> 00:05:14,800 Speaker 2: enjoys working, being productive, being needed, and I think, like 79 00:05:14,839 --> 00:05:17,599 Speaker 2: a lot of Americans, I put a lot of my 80 00:05:17,720 --> 00:05:22,560 Speaker 2: self worth into being productive, which I don't like. So 81 00:05:22,680 --> 00:05:25,960 Speaker 2: my question is, do you have any advice on how 82 00:05:26,000 --> 00:05:29,600 Speaker 2: to fill my abundant free time that I have right now? 83 00:05:30,320 --> 00:05:34,000 Speaker 2: And if you have any advice on how to quiet 84 00:05:34,080 --> 00:05:38,560 Speaker 2: my overactive brain and maybe not fall into a pit 85 00:05:38,720 --> 00:05:44,320 Speaker 2: of self doubt or unworthiness while allowing myself to rest. 86 00:05:44,520 --> 00:05:47,920 Speaker 2: Maybe I we'd love to hear any thoughts or advice 87 00:05:47,960 --> 00:05:50,680 Speaker 2: you have, and I really look forward to all the 88 00:05:50,680 --> 00:05:52,400 Speaker 2: content that's coming in twenty twenty four. 89 00:05:52,600 --> 00:05:55,039 Speaker 1: First of all, I love a listener question from a 90 00:05:55,040 --> 00:05:57,680 Speaker 1: long time hurdler. Thank you so much for your support 91 00:05:57,960 --> 00:06:00,599 Speaker 1: over the years. And you know that I love coming 92 00:06:00,680 --> 00:06:03,080 Speaker 1: to Washington, d C. So sending so much love down 93 00:06:03,480 --> 00:06:06,920 Speaker 1: to you there. And Hey, as you know, because you've 94 00:06:06,960 --> 00:06:09,480 Speaker 1: been listening for a while, I've gone through this and 95 00:06:09,800 --> 00:06:13,239 Speaker 1: I hear you there. All of everything that you're saying 96 00:06:13,320 --> 00:06:17,680 Speaker 1: is entirely understandable. Right The uncertainty is something that can 97 00:06:17,720 --> 00:06:22,039 Speaker 1: be anxiety provoking. I too put a lot of my 98 00:06:22,120 --> 00:06:25,680 Speaker 1: worth into what I do for work. But what I'm 99 00:06:25,720 --> 00:06:28,760 Speaker 1: hearing you say even in asking this question, is that 100 00:06:28,880 --> 00:06:32,160 Speaker 1: you know that there is so much opportunity ahead of 101 00:06:32,160 --> 00:06:35,919 Speaker 1: you right now, right now, you have the opportunity to 102 00:06:36,000 --> 00:06:40,600 Speaker 1: take this time and do something with it. So I 103 00:06:40,640 --> 00:06:44,440 Speaker 1: suggest to you a bit of a reframe. I suggest 104 00:06:44,520 --> 00:06:47,640 Speaker 1: to you, what is it that you can do right 105 00:06:47,680 --> 00:06:52,400 Speaker 1: now that really serves you the person that has nothing 106 00:06:52,440 --> 00:06:55,760 Speaker 1: to do with your work. What is it that excites you. 107 00:06:55,880 --> 00:06:57,600 Speaker 1: What is it that you've been putting off? Who is 108 00:06:57,640 --> 00:06:59,520 Speaker 1: it that you want to connect with? How do you 109 00:06:59,560 --> 00:07:01,800 Speaker 1: want to be in your body and your health and 110 00:07:01,800 --> 00:07:06,480 Speaker 1: your mental well being. Take this opportunity for a proper reset, 111 00:07:07,279 --> 00:07:11,360 Speaker 1: knowing that all of the work and everything and the 112 00:07:11,360 --> 00:07:14,280 Speaker 1: theme of today's episode, it's gonna be there for you 113 00:07:14,320 --> 00:07:16,480 Speaker 1: when you're ready to get back to it. This is 114 00:07:16,560 --> 00:07:21,240 Speaker 1: truly an opportunity for you. This is something that happened 115 00:07:21,360 --> 00:07:25,160 Speaker 1: for you, So treat it as such, treat it as 116 00:07:25,200 --> 00:07:28,840 Speaker 1: a gift. And again, I get it. It's not necessarily 117 00:07:28,920 --> 00:07:31,960 Speaker 1: easy to reframe in that way to make this mental switch, 118 00:07:32,480 --> 00:07:35,960 Speaker 1: But know that the sooner that you give in to 119 00:07:36,000 --> 00:07:38,679 Speaker 1: the possibilities that are in front of you, the sooner 120 00:07:38,800 --> 00:07:41,920 Speaker 1: that energy will greet you right. The sooner your energy 121 00:07:41,920 --> 00:07:44,840 Speaker 1: will find like energy, and what is for you and 122 00:07:44,880 --> 00:07:47,720 Speaker 1: what is meant to be for you will really start 123 00:07:47,760 --> 00:07:50,400 Speaker 1: to feel like you are in alignment. That's when the 124 00:07:50,400 --> 00:07:53,560 Speaker 1: good opportunity starts showing up. When we stop worrying and 125 00:07:53,600 --> 00:07:56,520 Speaker 1: trying to control the things that we aren't really able 126 00:07:56,600 --> 00:08:00,320 Speaker 1: to control, and we just give in and allow So 127 00:08:01,200 --> 00:08:05,520 Speaker 1: allow see how that feels, and document it. Write things down, 128 00:08:05,560 --> 00:08:08,200 Speaker 1: pay attention to what's going on in your heart and 129 00:08:08,280 --> 00:08:11,200 Speaker 1: your mind and your body. I promise you, and you 130 00:08:11,360 --> 00:08:13,480 Speaker 1: even said this. I know that this was supposed to 131 00:08:13,480 --> 00:08:15,160 Speaker 1: happen for me. I know that this is going to 132 00:08:15,160 --> 00:08:17,280 Speaker 1: be good for me, So allow it to be good 133 00:08:17,320 --> 00:08:20,200 Speaker 1: for you. Instead of stressing about the things that you 134 00:08:20,240 --> 00:08:24,720 Speaker 1: cannot control. I know you've got this soon to be 135 00:08:24,840 --> 00:08:30,600 Speaker 1: another hurdle conquered. Have a great holiday weekend everyone, and 136 00:08:30,840 --> 00:08:33,160 Speaker 1: I will catch you in the new year.