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Speaker 1: All right, listen now before we get to today's strawberry letter,

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Speaker 1: and it's a good one. The subject how important is

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Speaker 1: physical attraction? We gotta send some prayers out and some

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Speaker 1: good vibes over to our our our listeners. In the Northeast,

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Speaker 1: they are bracing for yet another blast of winter, as

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Speaker 1: winter storm warnings are in effect from eastern Pennsylvania all

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Speaker 1: the way north to Maine. And while accumulation amounts very widely,

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Speaker 1: forecasters say some we'll see ten inches of snow or more,

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Speaker 1: with some areas, yeah, getting up to twenty inches. Uh.

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Speaker 1: Please check your local stations for state of emergency information,

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Speaker 1: school closures and more. Okay, so be aware of that.

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Speaker 1: Ten to twenty inches in some places. That's a lot. Yes,

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Speaker 1: it has, Yes, it has. Because you think it's over.

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Speaker 1: It's almost spring. Yea yeah, it's almost spring. And here

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Speaker 1: they're getting what you WoT. All right, Tommy, let's go.

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Speaker 1: It's time the show. I don't see it. Three people

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Speaker 1: and he stared, I'm doing they know you. It's time

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Speaker 1: strappery letter. All right, thank you, enough you subject how

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Speaker 1: important is physical attraction. Here's Stephen Shirley. I am a

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Speaker 1: fourty year old female, no kids, and never been married.

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Speaker 1: I've been dating a man for two months and he's

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Speaker 1: a great guy that's consistent, thoughtful, and a hard worker.

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Speaker 1: He has all of the qualities I'm looking for in

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Speaker 1: a mate. But here's my problem. I'm not physically attracted

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Speaker 1: to him. He's a little overweight and he's really shy.

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Speaker 1: We have a decent enough time together when we go out,

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Speaker 1: but he's not very talkative, so I do most of

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Speaker 1: the talking. He's already telling me that he loves me,

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Speaker 1: and he knows my feelings aren't the same for him,

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Speaker 1: yet he has he He has been talking about marriage,

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Speaker 1: and I told him that he was moving too fast

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Speaker 1: for me. I feel like I'm just going through the

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Speaker 1: motions because I like the companionship. I am trying hard

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Speaker 1: to feel butterflies or some kind of attraction to him,

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Speaker 1: but there's nothing there. I was told that I should

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Speaker 1: be with someone who loves me more than I love him.

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Speaker 1: Is this true? How could I be in love? How

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Speaker 1: could he be in love with me after only two months?

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Speaker 1: If I continue to date him, well, I eventually want

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Speaker 1: to have sex with him? Well I ever love him

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Speaker 1: as much as he loves me? Or should I end

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Speaker 1: this now so he doesn't end up getting hurt? Please help?

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Speaker 1: Or do you have a lot of questions? I mean

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Speaker 1: it's only been two months. I say, slow down. You

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Speaker 1: want him to slow down? I want you to slow

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Speaker 1: down too, because you're really getting ahead of yourself. Um.

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Speaker 1: You know with all these questions, a little some of

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Speaker 1: them a little crazy. UM, I think these are the

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Speaker 1: certains you should have. Is he a good man? Do

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Speaker 1: his actions match with his word? Does he treat you well?

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Speaker 1: I mean you already said that he was thoughtful, he

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Speaker 1: was a hard worker. You know, you said you like

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Speaker 1: the companionship, all of that stuff. Uh, you know, the

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Speaker 1: negatives were that he wasn't very talkative and you have

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Speaker 1: to do most of the talking when you're together, and

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Speaker 1: that you know that you're not attracted to him. I

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Speaker 1: get that, But but you know the hard worker, the

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Speaker 1: good man, and you know, does he does he mean

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Speaker 1: what he say? Things like that? Those are some of

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Speaker 1: the characteristics that you look for in a good man.

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Speaker 1: So to answer your question, though, yes, physical attraction is important,

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Speaker 1: but if you're gonna look like to build a relationship

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Speaker 1: or eventually get into a marriage with someone down the line,

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Speaker 1: you need more than just the physical Okay, you need

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Speaker 1: you just need more than that. I mean, that's not

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Speaker 1: going to sustain you, sustain you throughout a marriage and

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Speaker 1: Two months is a very short period. Uh. You know,

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Speaker 1: you might have a change of heart. You might grow

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Speaker 1: to care about this man if he treats you you know,

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Speaker 1: very well and all of that, uh you know. And

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Speaker 1: if not, you know, you can let him go and

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Speaker 1: be free for another woman. But if it doesn't work,

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Speaker 1: it doesn't work. But I think I still think two

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Speaker 1: I can't believe you didn't miss this whole letter, did

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Speaker 1: I selling you such a nice person, wonderful things you

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Speaker 1: is about. Enlighten us, Steve, How important is physical attraction?

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Speaker 1: Let me just get to what this letters about. This

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Speaker 1: physically attracted to huh, you're gonna say that? Just start Hello, Hello, checkmate.

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Speaker 1: I've been dating a man for two months. He's a

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Speaker 1: He's a little overweight and he's really shy. Bam, that's

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Speaker 1: what the latter about. Ugly, he fat and he know it.

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Speaker 1: What this is about this man is ugly, he fat,

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Speaker 1: and he know it. Listen to me, I'm not physically

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Speaker 1: but he's not very talking. He's not talking to because

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Speaker 1: he can't believe you still him. He can't believe you

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Speaker 1: still him, so he tried not to say too much

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Speaker 1: so he don't blow it. So he's sitting there, man,

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Speaker 1: I can't oh my damn mouth, hold on, hold up,

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Speaker 1: So I do most of the talking. He letting you

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Speaker 1: telling you that it's because he ain't never got this

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Speaker 1: the same. I ain't been farther, be far. No way

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Speaker 1: not seeing he's been talking about Madge and not telling

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Speaker 1: me moving too fast. What you meant was he'd been

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Speaker 1: talking about Madge and you don't know if you can

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Speaker 1: to death. Do your part. That's what this letter is about.

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Speaker 1: We come back the rest of the same. Oh, it's

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Speaker 1: gonna be more of the same, all right. The subject

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Speaker 1: is how important is physical attraction anything. He's a fourty

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Speaker 1: year old female wanting to know how important is physical attraction.

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Speaker 1: He's a little overweight and shy. He talked, she talked

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Speaker 1: a lot. He doesn't talk at all. We'll be back

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Speaker 1: not physically attracted to him ugly, We'll be back with

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Speaker 1: most ugly he is. Steve's response, Come on, Steve, right now.

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Speaker 1: We need you for Part two. Well here, how Shirley

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Speaker 1: didn't understand physical important? It's physical or trash? Well is everything?

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Speaker 1: says she's not physically attracted to him. He's a little

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Speaker 1: That's why he shot. He has heard this refun He

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Speaker 1: just waiting on you to repeat it. That's the shyness.

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Speaker 1: Now you gotta do all the talking because you're talking

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Speaker 1: to and he quiet you. Damn right it quiet. He

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Speaker 1: trying not to blow it. He's even talking about marriage.

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Speaker 1: I told him he's moving too fast for me. That's

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Speaker 1: too fast for you. Ain't nothing too fast ask for him.

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Speaker 1: like the companionship. I am trying hard to feel butterflies

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Speaker 1: or some kind of attraction to him, but there's nothing.

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Speaker 1: Now it's hard to feel something for ugly person. You

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Speaker 1: want butterflies hard. See butterflies is a fluttering in your

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Speaker 1: your store that's another feeling. See, butterflies is something fluttering

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Speaker 1: in your stomach when you're looking at a man and

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Speaker 1: it tans your stomach and you feel a little you

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Speaker 1: feel swallowing it, and you had you know, you know

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Speaker 1: how you feel right for you throw up? I don't

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Speaker 1: That's because he other ste she says, he's a good man.

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Speaker 1: Most ugly men make good men. We have to we

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Speaker 1: But I got I got some other things working for

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Speaker 1: I don't say now now he ain't done that. Now,

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Speaker 1: have it. He already got that for you. Now, how

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Speaker 1: for two months. Dinner, laughing, having fun. You damn right,

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Speaker 1: that not now, that's when it's gonna get real hard.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna just tell you right now what means it's

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Speaker 1: hard to have sex with an ugly person. I've done

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Speaker 1: with an ugly person is afterwards. What do you mean?

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Speaker 1: Because you got to deal with yourself. After that, you

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Speaker 1: gotta go to the Lord ask for forgiveness. You ever

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Speaker 1: up looking at him. You're gonna realize what you're doing. Well,

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Speaker 1: I ever love him as much as he loves me.

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Speaker 1: That's impossible. You can't love ugly. They love it, how

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Speaker 1: do you know? And ugly? A lot of times in

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Speaker 1: my life. I'll put some loving on you. Girl. You

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Speaker 1: ain't been no well because I loved you? Or should

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Speaker 1: I end this right now so he doesn't end up

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Speaker 1: getting hurt? He hurt every morning when he looked up looking.

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Speaker 1: You can't hurt people, know more, unless either took all

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Speaker 1: It's hard to hurt ugly people. We already to hurt. Oh,

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Speaker 1: now it's we. It's been weed. I know what I'm

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Speaker 1: talking about. What I'm staying that is up. Tommy ain't

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Speaker 1: not riding with y'all here thinking you attracted with your

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Speaker 1: strange looking you're the one like a turtle, built like

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Speaker 1: one too that high? What is that? That's a shill?

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Speaker 1: He got, No, John Lyne, I don't think he cute

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Speaker 1: could hold up? He could that be time? No, no, no,

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Speaker 1: not any time, no no, no. Key had never been

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Speaker 1: ain't shot to combat to his ugliness and to the opposite.

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Speaker 1: We have to count forward with here, so he overacts

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Speaker 1: to act like he's not learned that at the school.

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Speaker 1: Down the detail, US or Instagram, what's your thoughts on

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Speaker 1: today's strawberry letters? Became a theater major to deal with

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Speaker 1: his looks. Better Join me tomorrow at one ThM Eastern

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Speaker 1: Time on Facebook Live. Okay, you're listening to the Steve

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Speaker 1: Harvey Morning Show.