1 00:00:21,880 --> 00:00:25,439 Speaker 1: Hey, everybody, em Lea Badi here you are listening to 2 00:00:26,200 --> 00:00:31,160 Speaker 1: another installment of five Minute Friday from Hurdle. It's funny 3 00:00:31,760 --> 00:00:36,159 Speaker 1: I'm actually recording this. I'm in Portland right now, Portland, Oregon. 4 00:00:36,240 --> 00:00:39,120 Speaker 1: I'm here for the weekend to catch up with one 5 00:00:39,159 --> 00:00:45,320 Speaker 1: of Hurdle's most listened to guests. I'd be curious to 6 00:00:45,360 --> 00:00:48,159 Speaker 1: know if you can guess who that is. And I'm 7 00:00:48,200 --> 00:00:54,120 Speaker 1: also here to check out Nike Cross Nationals. I am 8 00:00:54,160 --> 00:00:56,120 Speaker 1: so excited to be here. It's my second time coming 9 00:00:56,120 --> 00:00:58,480 Speaker 1: to this event. I remember the first time I came, 10 00:00:58,560 --> 00:01:02,400 Speaker 1: I was just like so blown up way by the camaraderie. 11 00:01:02,520 --> 00:01:07,319 Speaker 1: You know, I only briefly participated in high school sports. 12 00:01:07,680 --> 00:01:10,759 Speaker 1: I played volleyball for freshman year, and then I fell 13 00:01:10,800 --> 00:01:14,119 Speaker 1: off because I couldn't run a mile in under ten minutes, 14 00:01:14,160 --> 00:01:17,520 Speaker 1: which to this day i'm always you know, I feel 15 00:01:17,520 --> 00:01:19,840 Speaker 1: some kind of way that that was a credential, but nevertheless, 16 00:01:20,880 --> 00:01:26,240 Speaker 1: I never really got to witness firsthand the true impact 17 00:01:26,360 --> 00:01:29,200 Speaker 1: of sport on a woman kind of coming into their 18 00:01:29,240 --> 00:01:32,520 Speaker 1: own at that age. And so the first time I remember, 19 00:01:32,600 --> 00:01:35,000 Speaker 1: I think it was about four or five years ago maybe, 20 00:01:35,040 --> 00:01:37,160 Speaker 1: and it was just so impactful to be here, and 21 00:01:37,440 --> 00:01:42,800 Speaker 1: I'm so grateful to be back in Oregon for this opportunity. 22 00:01:42,880 --> 00:01:45,639 Speaker 1: But anyway, I digress, that's not what a five Minute 23 00:01:45,959 --> 00:01:48,640 Speaker 1: Friday is about. This week. I'm laughing, like I said, 24 00:01:48,680 --> 00:01:50,880 Speaker 1: because I feel like I'm recording this in like a 25 00:01:50,880 --> 00:01:55,840 Speaker 1: dimly lit hotel room. It's dark outside, and I just 26 00:01:55,960 --> 00:02:00,320 Speaker 1: had like Delilah vibes, so I was talking in to 27 00:02:00,400 --> 00:02:03,440 Speaker 1: this microphone. Did anyone ever listen to Delilah? Is this 28 00:02:03,600 --> 00:02:06,600 Speaker 1: just a Connecticut thing? Do she stream all over the country? 29 00:02:06,640 --> 00:02:10,360 Speaker 1: I'm unsure. Anyway, today for five Minute Friday, what I 30 00:02:10,400 --> 00:02:14,000 Speaker 1: really want to talk about outside of my past listening 31 00:02:14,280 --> 00:02:19,240 Speaker 1: to Delilah on the radio is something that I was 32 00:02:19,280 --> 00:02:23,200 Speaker 1: reminded of this week after I shared my story with 33 00:02:23,240 --> 00:02:26,160 Speaker 1: depression and when Live on the Feed last Wednesday. I'll 34 00:02:26,160 --> 00:02:29,520 Speaker 1: make sure to put that episode link in the show notes, 35 00:02:29,560 --> 00:02:34,600 Speaker 1: but it was just another reminder of that concept that 36 00:02:34,639 --> 00:02:37,840 Speaker 1: we hear so often reiterated, that you really don't know 37 00:02:37,880 --> 00:02:41,639 Speaker 1: what's going on with someone unless you really make an 38 00:02:41,760 --> 00:02:45,040 Speaker 1: effort to ask them, and that we may so often 39 00:02:45,080 --> 00:02:47,920 Speaker 1: think that we have a concept of what's going on 40 00:02:48,000 --> 00:02:50,720 Speaker 1: with someone in their life based on what we see 41 00:02:50,919 --> 00:02:54,520 Speaker 1: on social media when that is just not always the 42 00:02:54,560 --> 00:02:58,600 Speaker 1: case right. An important reminder because it is easy to 43 00:02:58,680 --> 00:03:03,240 Speaker 1: make those some based off of what someone may share 44 00:03:03,680 --> 00:03:09,560 Speaker 1: on their own quote unquote highlight reel. I was messaged 45 00:03:09,600 --> 00:03:12,239 Speaker 1: by so many of you over the last week and 46 00:03:12,280 --> 00:03:16,960 Speaker 1: a half about your experiences, both with maybe a similar 47 00:03:17,000 --> 00:03:21,080 Speaker 1: situation with navigating anxiety and depression, and then also with 48 00:03:21,120 --> 00:03:25,440 Speaker 1: other things, and there was one interaction in particular that 49 00:03:25,639 --> 00:03:28,360 Speaker 1: really touched me with someone that I would say I 50 00:03:28,360 --> 00:03:31,680 Speaker 1: don't necessarily have a great relationship with, but we have 51 00:03:32,360 --> 00:03:37,200 Speaker 1: work together in the past, and after seeing what I 52 00:03:37,280 --> 00:03:40,840 Speaker 1: shared on Instagram about my experience with depression, she messaged 53 00:03:40,840 --> 00:03:43,880 Speaker 1: me and opened up about hers and I was so 54 00:03:44,160 --> 00:03:48,280 Speaker 1: touched that she would feel comfortable to do that, that 55 00:03:48,680 --> 00:03:52,960 Speaker 1: she would feel as though it was a welcome thing 56 00:03:53,040 --> 00:03:56,800 Speaker 1: for her to message me, not necessarily out of the blue, 57 00:03:56,880 --> 00:03:59,400 Speaker 1: because as I mentioned, I did share my experience, but 58 00:04:00,200 --> 00:04:03,440 Speaker 1: after her and I haven't spoken for some time, to 59 00:04:03,480 --> 00:04:08,800 Speaker 1: tell me what she'd been through and tell me also 60 00:04:09,720 --> 00:04:15,960 Speaker 1: how my story really impacted her. And aside from those 61 00:04:16,000 --> 00:04:19,120 Speaker 1: sentiments of you just don't know what someone's going through offline, 62 00:04:20,360 --> 00:04:28,240 Speaker 1: it really was a moment for me to remember the 63 00:04:28,360 --> 00:04:31,680 Speaker 1: opportunity just to be good, right, just to be a 64 00:04:31,760 --> 00:04:38,080 Speaker 1: kind person, just to listen. And I've said this on 65 00:04:38,120 --> 00:04:40,680 Speaker 1: the show before. You know, we learned by listening, we 66 00:04:40,760 --> 00:04:45,320 Speaker 1: don't learn by speaking. And in this moment, I recognize 67 00:04:45,440 --> 00:04:49,600 Speaker 1: that it was really an opportunity for her to speak, 68 00:04:49,680 --> 00:04:52,720 Speaker 1: to speak her truth, for someone to hear her out, 69 00:04:52,760 --> 00:04:55,960 Speaker 1: and I was happy to be there to do that 70 00:04:56,080 --> 00:05:02,159 Speaker 1: for her. It also, this whole situ really reminds me 71 00:05:02,360 --> 00:05:05,920 Speaker 1: of how maybe I feel on the inverse side when 72 00:05:06,320 --> 00:05:09,000 Speaker 1: someone I care about is going through something that I 73 00:05:09,120 --> 00:05:13,200 Speaker 1: may not really fully comprehend. Right at this point, I've 74 00:05:13,200 --> 00:05:17,240 Speaker 1: had a few different girlfriends now go through the IVF process, 75 00:05:17,279 --> 00:05:21,479 Speaker 1: and it's truly heartbreaking to know that they're struggling and 76 00:05:21,640 --> 00:05:25,560 Speaker 1: also know that I can't really sympathize truly with what 77 00:05:25,680 --> 00:05:31,080 Speaker 1: they're going through. I've connected some of my friends who 78 00:05:31,120 --> 00:05:35,880 Speaker 1: are going through a similar struggle, so to speak, to 79 00:05:35,960 --> 00:05:38,359 Speaker 1: talk to one another about that struggle, because I know 80 00:05:38,440 --> 00:05:40,880 Speaker 1: that it is just easier to connect with someone who 81 00:05:40,920 --> 00:05:47,720 Speaker 1: truly does understand. And so this week I was reminded 82 00:05:47,720 --> 00:05:53,440 Speaker 1: that there's nothing wrong, so to speak, with not understanding. 83 00:05:53,680 --> 00:05:56,200 Speaker 1: There is something wrong when you can't have sympathy maybe 84 00:05:56,200 --> 00:05:59,440 Speaker 1: for someone in their time of trouble, but there's nothing 85 00:05:59,520 --> 00:06:03,520 Speaker 1: wrong with not fully understanding if you haven't been through 86 00:06:03,560 --> 00:06:07,159 Speaker 1: that situation, how could you. But we can always be 87 00:06:07,320 --> 00:06:11,120 Speaker 1: kind to one another, and we also owe it to 88 00:06:11,160 --> 00:06:14,760 Speaker 1: ourselves to have grace when there is a situation that 89 00:06:14,800 --> 00:06:16,760 Speaker 1: we may not be able to show up as we 90 00:06:16,880 --> 00:06:20,400 Speaker 1: wish that we could. There is nothing I want more 91 00:06:20,480 --> 00:06:23,599 Speaker 1: than to be able to provide absolutely everything I could 92 00:06:23,640 --> 00:06:26,560 Speaker 1: for my good friends who are maybe trying to conceive 93 00:06:26,600 --> 00:06:30,840 Speaker 1: in having trouble. But I just myself have never been 94 00:06:30,960 --> 00:06:35,400 Speaker 1: through that hurdle, and so I can ask and offer 95 00:06:35,760 --> 00:06:40,599 Speaker 1: and be there in the capacity that I have shown 96 00:06:40,640 --> 00:06:44,640 Speaker 1: that I can. But I can't get down on myself 97 00:06:45,600 --> 00:06:49,280 Speaker 1: for not being perhaps the person that they need to 98 00:06:49,400 --> 00:06:53,680 Speaker 1: talk to during that time. And that's just all of 99 00:06:53,720 --> 00:06:57,720 Speaker 1: this some of my learnings in the last couple of weeks. Again, 100 00:06:57,760 --> 00:06:59,000 Speaker 1: I do want to say thank you to so many 101 00:06:59,040 --> 00:07:01,159 Speaker 1: of you who have reached out and who have been 102 00:07:01,200 --> 00:07:04,599 Speaker 1: open with me on your journey. And I hope that again, 103 00:07:04,680 --> 00:07:09,039 Speaker 1: by sharing what I've been through, it makes some of 104 00:07:09,080 --> 00:07:11,040 Speaker 1: you feel a little bit less alone and whatever it 105 00:07:11,080 --> 00:07:16,400 Speaker 1: is that you're navigating. My prompt for you this week? 106 00:07:17,240 --> 00:07:21,720 Speaker 1: Who is someone that you could better show up for? 107 00:07:23,360 --> 00:07:28,440 Speaker 1: Who is someone in your life that you could better 108 00:07:28,480 --> 00:07:33,240 Speaker 1: show up for? And by the way, it's okay if 109 00:07:33,280 --> 00:07:38,800 Speaker 1: that person is yourself. And now a listener question. 110 00:07:39,640 --> 00:07:45,040 Speaker 2: Hi, Emily, your last five Minute Friday just kind of 111 00:07:45,040 --> 00:07:46,720 Speaker 2: brought this up for me, and I was curious. I 112 00:07:46,760 --> 00:07:48,160 Speaker 2: don't know if you've touched on it before in a 113 00:07:48,160 --> 00:07:51,920 Speaker 2: previous episode, so thanks, feel free to say that. But 114 00:07:53,400 --> 00:08:00,040 Speaker 2: I follow Instagram, I guess influencer track club Bait, and 115 00:08:00,040 --> 00:08:05,880 Speaker 2: she talks a lot about easy runs, and so I 116 00:08:05,920 --> 00:08:11,440 Speaker 2: was curious kind of touching based on easy runs and 117 00:08:11,480 --> 00:08:17,520 Speaker 2: how they help you run faster and going based off 118 00:08:17,520 --> 00:08:22,200 Speaker 2: of effort instead of time. I find that for me personally, 119 00:08:22,320 --> 00:08:27,000 Speaker 2: like the time doesn't make me feel pressured. It helps 120 00:08:27,000 --> 00:08:29,200 Speaker 2: me kind of base where I'm at and I need 121 00:08:29,240 --> 00:08:32,040 Speaker 2: to go faster do I need to go slower? But 122 00:08:32,080 --> 00:08:35,000 Speaker 2: I'm just curious more about the impact of easy running 123 00:08:35,160 --> 00:08:37,200 Speaker 2: on your long term game. 124 00:08:37,679 --> 00:08:41,080 Speaker 1: Okay, this is a good one, you know. I think 125 00:08:41,120 --> 00:08:44,120 Speaker 1: that it's easy to get competitive with ourselves and want 126 00:08:44,160 --> 00:08:47,280 Speaker 1: to pick up the pace. I could say that like 127 00:08:47,400 --> 00:08:53,760 Speaker 1: physically literally and also kind of metaphorically as well, we 128 00:08:53,800 --> 00:08:58,880 Speaker 1: can get competitive with ourselves and the point of taking 129 00:08:58,920 --> 00:09:01,439 Speaker 1: things easy, the point of taking things slow, the point 130 00:09:01,440 --> 00:09:05,040 Speaker 1: of maybe having some grace with yourself, is that it 131 00:09:05,200 --> 00:09:11,960 Speaker 1: provides the opportunity to recover. If we want to perform 132 00:09:12,160 --> 00:09:15,480 Speaker 1: at our best, there are going to be times where 133 00:09:15,520 --> 00:09:20,920 Speaker 1: we need to take it easy, period, and the easy runs, 134 00:09:20,960 --> 00:09:26,640 Speaker 1: so to speak, those easy moments are what gives your 135 00:09:26,679 --> 00:09:30,600 Speaker 1: body the runway that it needs to show up and 136 00:09:30,640 --> 00:09:34,559 Speaker 1: put out during those hard efforts. You know, I follow 137 00:09:34,640 --> 00:09:37,440 Speaker 1: this person that you mentioned on Instagram as well, and 138 00:09:38,320 --> 00:09:42,720 Speaker 1: I totally see where she's coming from. Right. For us 139 00:09:43,000 --> 00:09:47,760 Speaker 1: to really be able to put our body through the ringer, 140 00:09:48,480 --> 00:09:51,880 Speaker 1: if you will, you've got to let your body recover. 141 00:09:52,280 --> 00:09:57,360 Speaker 1: And that's the point of those easy runs, that active recovery. 142 00:09:58,559 --> 00:09:58,719 Speaker 2: Right. 143 00:10:00,000 --> 00:10:04,400 Speaker 1: There are going to be times and places for us 144 00:10:04,840 --> 00:10:06,960 Speaker 1: to really push ourselves to the limit. But if you 145 00:10:07,040 --> 00:10:09,080 Speaker 1: do that each and every day, then you're going to 146 00:10:09,160 --> 00:10:13,959 Speaker 1: realize really fast that you are and will be exhausted. 147 00:10:15,120 --> 00:10:20,200 Speaker 1: So be easy on yourself. Feel free to take it 148 00:10:20,320 --> 00:10:23,600 Speaker 1: easy both in your runs and in your life, knowing 149 00:10:24,320 --> 00:10:29,840 Speaker 1: that this grace will empower you to maybe get that 150 00:10:29,960 --> 00:10:34,440 Speaker 1: extra edge to go after the more taxing effort that 151 00:10:34,520 --> 00:10:39,520 Speaker 1: you have been thinking about for some time, and know 152 00:10:39,679 --> 00:10:43,920 Speaker 1: that it's okay if you've got to, like, you know, 153 00:10:44,120 --> 00:10:47,479 Speaker 1: unplug a little bit, because we all do get competitive, 154 00:10:47,480 --> 00:10:50,920 Speaker 1: and yes we even get competitive with one another. But 155 00:10:51,040 --> 00:10:53,640 Speaker 1: you've got to do what feels good for you and 156 00:10:53,800 --> 00:10:58,959 Speaker 1: your body, whether it's actually an easy run or maybe 157 00:10:59,000 --> 00:11:03,800 Speaker 1: you need to just be easy on yourself and your emotions. 158 00:11:04,720 --> 00:11:08,360 Speaker 1: I hope that's hopeful. Make sure you're following along with 159 00:11:08,400 --> 00:11:11,559 Speaker 1: me over on socials. It's over at Hurdle Podcast and 160 00:11:11,640 --> 00:11:16,880 Speaker 1: at Emily a Body Another Hurdle Conquered. Catch you guys 161 00:11:16,920 --> 00:11:17,360 Speaker 1: next time