Speaker 1: Welcome to Reasonably Shady, a production of the Black Effect
Speaker 1: podcast Network and iHeartRadio. Welcome to another episode of Reasonably Shady.
Speaker 1: I am Jell Bryant. What's up? What's up y'all? This
Speaker 1: Robin Dixon? Thank you again for being here. Yes, yes,
Speaker 1: so good to see you. Robin. Yes, you too, I
Speaker 1: mean you just you know, a bright ball of sunshine. Really, yes,
Speaker 1: you don't feel that, you don't feel your your bright
Speaker 1: ball of sunshiness? Is it because I'm pale? Because I
Speaker 1: didn't say that. I think that's I'm just I was
Speaker 1: referring to your energy, okay, is very sunshiny and bright
Speaker 1: and you know, just uplifts people. You're welcome. Hallelujah. Thank you.
Speaker 1: Wait a minute, speaking of this is so off the cuff.
Speaker 1: So I took my kids to twins to Hampton University,
Speaker 1: which I went. I grab. I'm a graduate of Hampton University.
Speaker 1: It's an HBC. You get into it. It's one of
Speaker 1: the best, Thank you very much. Anyway, I went to
Speaker 1: Hampton at a private tour for them. Nice. I guess
Speaker 1: the dean of admissions did her research and figured out
Speaker 1: who their father is. So our tour guide was the
Speaker 1: kid on campus who's a minister and training so and literally,
Speaker 1: oh my god, was like once he figured I mean, yeah,
Speaker 1: he knew who we were, but like seven minutes into
Speaker 1: the tour, yeah, he was like, um, you know, Pastor
Speaker 1: Brian is my favorite pastor and oh my gosh. At
Speaker 1: some point, you know, can I talk to him? I said,
Speaker 1: I just immediately faced time Jamal. I was like, Jamal,
Speaker 1: this is your number one fan right here. And the
Speaker 1: boy did a shout, like a holy girld shout. He
Speaker 1: was like kicking his legs kicking, like are going I
Speaker 1: don't promise you. He made me screenshot the FaceTime of
Speaker 1: him talking to Jamal, Oh my god and send it
Speaker 1: to him. Okay, last, but not least, so towards the
Speaker 1: end of the day, where this kid all day and
Speaker 1: by the way, this kid is phenomenal, Like he is
Speaker 1: hands down gonna change the world one day. Okay, okay.
Speaker 1: So I had stepped out of the room at some
Speaker 1: point and he was showing my kids that he has
Speaker 1: an app. He has a preaching app. So if you
Speaker 1: press a button, it'll give you the background music. It's like, dumb,
Speaker 1: he can just start preaching. And so he was like
Speaker 1: he made fun of Jamal's preaching. I was on the
Speaker 1: floor laughing. Okay, so, oh my god. Then he was like,
Speaker 1: all right, I want to show y'all video I preached
Speaker 1: my Applebee's order. He was like, can I get the
Speaker 1: twelve we with the side out of ice tea? Oh
Speaker 1: my god? Okay, okay, does he want to be a
Speaker 1: preacher or an actor? Listen that close? But it was,
Speaker 1: it was he was amazing. Anyway, how do we start
Speaker 1: talking about that? Because you said, well, would he do
Speaker 1: it for some because you said I was a ball
Speaker 1: of sunshine? I don't know. Okay, wait, so I so
Speaker 1: since you were saying that, how do your kids feel
Speaker 1: about like when people instantly want to start talking about
Speaker 1: like church or preaching or like you know what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: when they treat them like they think they want to like, um, okay,
Speaker 1: so my kids will very much smile on your face
Speaker 1: and entertain you. But because they are preachers children, yeah,
Speaker 1: they don't want to hear that, right, Yeah, Like their
Speaker 1: father doesn't even talk to them that way. Right. So
Speaker 1: I don't want to say it's a turn off, but
Speaker 1: it's like nothing that they're entertained about, like that they
Speaker 1: want to discuss. But they'll still be nice about it. Yeah,
Speaker 1: they'll they'll still be very nice. But um, the twins
Speaker 1: will Grace might tell you stop talking. Okay, but they
Speaker 1: but this guy, you know, you overlooked it because this
Speaker 1: guy was just so dynamic on so many levels. So anyway, um,
Speaker 1: reasonably shady moment, do you have one of the week? Okay.
Speaker 1: So so the other day, I'm driving in the car
Speaker 1: with my kids and my father calls me, and I
Speaker 1: have my phone connected to the bluetooth, the speakers and
Speaker 1: all that type of stuff. I hate that. That makes
Speaker 1: me so nervous, I know, right, you never know what
Speaker 1: they're gonna say, yeah, or like I might be on
Speaker 1: a dating that somebody else calls. Oh, I don't do
Speaker 1: that anymore, but yeah if yeah, back in the dead.
Speaker 1: Definitely got to disconnect the bluetooth. Anyway. So so my
Speaker 1: father calls and he's like, oh, Robin, I'm watching the news.
Speaker 1: I'm listening to them talk about China and Russia and
Speaker 1: what in Ukraine and you know, North Korea, and I
Speaker 1: just want to tell you, you you know, to tell the
Speaker 1: kids to make sure that they're doing their school work,
Speaker 1: make sure that they are, you know, getting good grades
Speaker 1: and you know, doing well in school, because if they
Speaker 1: gotta if there's gonna be a World War three and
Speaker 1: they gotta draft, the military has to draft people. You know,
Speaker 1: they want to be doing good in school. So because
Speaker 1: they're they're going to draft to people that aren't doing
Speaker 1: the arts, they got to draft the D students, not
Speaker 1: the A students. Okay, I don't think it works that way,
Speaker 1: but I'm pretty sure this is not working that way.
Speaker 1: He's like, you know what I mean, if they just
Speaker 1: stay in school and you know, go, you don't get
Speaker 1: their education. But you know, if they're not in school
Speaker 1: they're not doing well, then you know, I just you know,
Speaker 1: I just I just just just tell them, just tell
Speaker 1: them just to do good in school, am I. They're
Speaker 1: like in the car listening to this, like they're like,
Speaker 1: what is he talking about? Like, because they have no
Speaker 1: concept of the draft, right, they're like, pop, Pap is turban.
Speaker 1: So after that, we get home the next few days,
Speaker 1: like anytime Biden is on the news talking about Ukraine,
Speaker 1: they are like, Okay, well, what does that mean they're
Speaker 1: gonna be? Are we gonna be? What do you mean?
Speaker 1: China said that they're like literally watching every headline on
Speaker 1: the team. Listen, those kids, they're about to be drafted.
Speaker 1: And I'm like, are you scared that we're going to
Speaker 1: go to war? He's like yeah. I'm like, oh my god,
Speaker 1: but are they a students? Be students? I mean they're
Speaker 1: a and B Okay, Carter, maybe you see. I don't know,
Speaker 1: but like I'm sure first of all, you can explain
Speaker 1: to them we have a military. Well, but my father
Speaker 1: seems to think if our military has to go up
Speaker 1: against Russia, we need every miner in North Korea at
Speaker 1: the same time that we are in trouble, and they
Speaker 1: we have to go back to the draft. Okay, because
Speaker 1: he was drafted, he said, you know he oh he was, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I know what he said. But my father he wasn't
Speaker 1: like was that an embellishment? Your father's not drafted? I
Speaker 1: think he was. He said he did something he wasn't
Speaker 1: like on the you know, on the field, shooting people. Yeah,
Speaker 1: he was like a medical person. Oh, but but they did.
Speaker 1: He had to go. He had to go. Okay, Okay, Well,
Speaker 1: so that is so he has PTSD from the draft.
Speaker 1: I got that is he does not what his grandkids
Speaker 1: at least he has a good memory. Okay, he does,
Speaker 1: you know, but I want you to tell him he
Speaker 1: has nothing to do with what their grades are. As dude,
Speaker 1: who gets drafted. Okay, I'm like, you a whole doctor
Speaker 1: and you got drafted. Hey, So so honestly, I think
Speaker 1: they should actually probably become like the d students. They
Speaker 1: gonna leave these students out because they don't know how
Speaker 1: to follow instructions or something. I don't know. I'm hilarious. Yes, well,
Speaker 1: my reasonably shady moment of the week is not that
Speaker 1: horrific or tragic and anyway, uh and yeah, and I
Speaker 1: hope that never happens. I celebrated Valentine's Day, yes, and
Speaker 1: I guess I didn't get a Teddy Bear, but I
Speaker 1: was kind of wishing I did. Teddy bears are so cute. Anyway,
Speaker 1: I got caviar. One of the things I got was caviar, like,
Speaker 1: because you know, we've been going to some restaurants and
Speaker 1: they've been offering caviar. Like one of the old places
Speaker 1: that we went to, the Guesthouse um in New York,
Speaker 1: they have avocado with like caviar on time. It's the
Speaker 1: best thing ever. So and he cooks. So anyway, we
Speaker 1: tore us caviar up. Oh my god, like I was
Speaker 1: like in heaven. I was like, this is everything. Oh
Speaker 1: my gosh, this is amazing that it did. So when
Speaker 1: I got home, I've been on a caviar search. I'm like,
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna get something whole fuck. So I literally
Speaker 1: took a because so there is caviar offered that Whole
Speaker 1: food Okay, there's a there's a section. Took a picture
Speaker 1: of the section. I don't know what I'm doing, and
Speaker 1: I send it to him and I was like, oh,
Speaker 1: who is him? Jason? And I was because he cooks,
Speaker 1: so he knows, he's got knowledge. And I was like,
Speaker 1: which one should I buy? And he's like, none of those?
Speaker 1: And then I was like, what you, Lyne, You don't
Speaker 1: know what you're talking about. So I go back to
Speaker 1: Whole Foods. This is leading up to recently. Okay, I
Speaker 1: go back to Whole Foods and I asked the man
Speaker 1: in the seafood section about the caviar. I was like,
Speaker 1: which one is good? Because there's a range. There's something
Speaker 1: that are fourteen dollars and there's something that are ninety
Speaker 1: five dollars. But it's all the same size. Okay. He
Speaker 1: was like, you might as well just get the fourteen
Speaker 1: dollars one because I mean, it ain't no sense. It's
Speaker 1: spending all that money. If you don't happy, I said, sir.
Speaker 1: Sir said, sir, take money out of this conversation. Forget
Speaker 1: they all at the same price. Which one is better
Speaker 1: than the rest? He was like, I don't know, I
Speaker 1: don't know. I don't buy those other ones. I said,
Speaker 1: kill me. So moving on. So I'm like, okay, Jason,
Speaker 1: can you do some research? Can you like figure it out?
Speaker 1: He was like, Giselle, we can't get caviar in this
Speaker 1: country legally. And I was like what. He was like,
Speaker 1: it's sold in Russia and it's illegal. Bluga caviar is
Speaker 1: illegal in the United States. Okay. So I was like,
Speaker 1: but you bought me the biggest ten I've ever seen,
Speaker 1: like the huge one. Yeah. He's like, yeah, I got people.
Speaker 1: So I was like, maybe I shouldn't tell say that
Speaker 1: it was Jason. It was not Jason, because I don't
Speaker 1: want to get him in trouble. This was a guy
Speaker 1: that I'm dating and his name is he so Leroy
Speaker 1: slash Henry on Valatiz's day gave me a huge thing
Speaker 1: of caviar. So, okay, wait, did you sit there's caviar
Speaker 1: at the restaurant. Oh yes, I don't know how they
Speaker 1: get it. Nobody talks about how they get it. Okay,
Speaker 1: So the shady part is the freaking whole foods. Like
Speaker 1: what the hell are y'all selling? So it's not so,
Speaker 1: that's not so it's not real cavear. It's so, then
Speaker 1: it's not. But it looks, it looks. I don't what.
Speaker 1: I need to research it. So it's only a certain
Speaker 1: type of caviar. You can't get here. You can't get
Speaker 1: you can't don't get like the real good Cathy good
Speaker 1: here in this country, supposedly according to Leroy. So and
Speaker 1: I'm wanting the so actually the shady people of the Russians. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we did not have to go into this fight with
Speaker 1: Ukraine and the United States that got damn Putin. He's
Speaker 1: messing up everything because I want my caviar. Is that
Speaker 1: why it's illegal Putin? I'm gonna if it's Russia, we
Speaker 1: just gotta blame Putin. Really, yeah, Russian is equal to Putin.
Speaker 1: I need more information on this cavear. Well, that's just crazy.
Speaker 1: And I am now like I told him, I told
Speaker 1: Henry slash Leroy, he has created a monster because I
Speaker 1: am the caviar queen. Really, yes, I'm loving it. What
Speaker 1: does it taste like? M It's like okay, so we've
Speaker 1: done it several ways, okay, and I'm talking about Cathy.
Speaker 1: I'm like, so like you can have it like on
Speaker 1: a cracker, just plane, or you can put butter on
Speaker 1: the cracker and then put that on top. Oh so good.
Speaker 1: It's like kind of salty, but like fishy. Yeah, the butter,
Speaker 1: it like exacerbates the taste. I was being adventurous, so
Speaker 1: we had sushi too, so I was like putting it
Speaker 1: on top of the sushika. Oh my god, so good.
Speaker 1: Like it's so good, Like what can I get a
Speaker 1: it's close to what it's close to, like smoked salmon,
Speaker 1: I don't know, maybe, but way better the consistencies like
Speaker 1: baldly like we're moving on. But I'm a cavall, So
Speaker 1: if anybody can give us so caviar information as to
Speaker 1: where you all can ship some to me sneakedly the
Speaker 1: good kind, feel free? Yeah, contact um carly Okay, yes,
Speaker 1: the end. I know, I know we're gonna talk about traders,
Speaker 1: but I do want to talk about one thing in
Speaker 1: particular because I got kind of that was what is?
Speaker 1: So what I cleared myself it's a problem. Yes, why
Speaker 1: like what it's about to come out to own That's
Speaker 1: what I want to know. Okay. So there was a
Speaker 1: headline a couple of weeks ago and it said male
Speaker 1: fertility specialists are concerned, huh that the average erect penis
Speaker 1: length has increased, oh by twenty and scientists don't know why.
Speaker 1: This is so intriguing to me. So all of these years,
Speaker 1: penises have been whatever they've been, right, ranging from the
Speaker 1: different people, right, and we have we have dispelled size
Speaker 1: is equal to why? I know? Why tell me penis
Speaker 1: sizes have grown? Right? Yes? Okay, so you know typically
Speaker 1: they say, what black men have larger penises than white men,
Speaker 1: right right, that's that's that's the word, or you know,
Speaker 1: white men Asian man. Period. So as time goes on,
Speaker 1: we have more interracial couples, okay, more by racial children,
Speaker 1: by racial people, we have you know, more black people
Speaker 1: kind of just the hour, I think if we look
Speaker 1: at the population of our country, yes, and I wonder
Speaker 1: if it's just a US study or is this like
Speaker 1: a worldwide let me say, let's say, let's just keep
Speaker 1: it to the US. Okay, So as we look at
Speaker 1: the population of the US, it has changed, right, like
Speaker 1: the demographics the numbers of you know, white people versus
Speaker 1: you know, black people and in Latino people or whatever
Speaker 1: people of color. All right, okay, so that number has
Speaker 1: you know, shifted, shifted. So as the as we have
Speaker 1: more people of color, yes, that equals big pleas have bigger, more,
Speaker 1: bigger penises. Why haven't I promish you that's not it?
Speaker 1: I didn't. It makes sense to me. That doesn't make sense. Okay,
Speaker 1: but let's let's even let's even know what makes sense?
Speaker 1: No kind of but not really. So who's measuring the
Speaker 1: penis is the scientists. It's just like you signed up
Speaker 1: for Okay, they had a study, all right, Three three
Speaker 1: thousand men signed up for this study over the course
Speaker 1: of a year to measure penis sizes. That's what the
Speaker 1: study is for. Or did they get this from like urologists.
Speaker 1: But when you go to a neurologist, your penis is
Speaker 1: not hard. One's never told me that the urologist has
Speaker 1: measured his erect penis never Okay, so he goes because
Speaker 1: his biological father had um, what's the cancer, prostate cancers?
Speaker 1: So like he's like one is like on top of it.
Speaker 1: So he visits his urologists. Okay, they've never measured, never
Speaker 1: erect penis. Well this, this particular article said that they
Speaker 1: believe it's caused by early puberty. So people are hitting
Speaker 1: puberty early. Boys are hitting puberty earlier, they have more
Speaker 1: time for their penis to grow. Maybe, okay, maybe, but
Speaker 1: why is there early puberty because of the food, Because
Speaker 1: of the hormones in the food. I think. So I
Speaker 1: was gonna say that too, you were not. I was
Speaker 1: Why don't you think I asked you that? Because I
Speaker 1: was going to say, because it all hormones in the food. Well, listen,
Speaker 1: all I can say is our children's children, the daughters,
Speaker 1: they'll be happy every happy campers. Okay, I ain't at listen.
Speaker 1: Twenty four percent that's like that's that's a quarter large.
Speaker 1: So if you had a penis, that was like oh
Speaker 1: oh wait wait wait In this article they said the
Speaker 1: average penis size was like five inches. Wait erect that's
Speaker 1: what they said, average erect penis sizes five inches, they said,
Speaker 1: drastically increased over the past twenty years by twenty four percent. YadA, YadA, YadA. Okay.
Speaker 1: It says, according to the study, the average length of
Speaker 1: the erect penis across all areas and decades was roughly
Speaker 1: five point five inches. Don't nobody want that five point
Speaker 1: This is before the increase, or this is before the
Speaker 1: increase after it might be I don't know ten point
Speaker 1: seven Okay. I have a question for all of our
Speaker 1: male listeners. I don't know if this is inappropriate or
Speaker 1: well probably can you a message us and let us
Speaker 1: know if you have measured your penis? All? Oh, is
Speaker 1: that a thing? I feel like a boy like I
Speaker 1: feel like sometime in their life all males have measured
Speaker 1: their penis. I don't think so what really, you don't
Speaker 1: like a teenage boy like? Okay, So imagine how they
Speaker 1: would do that. They have to go get a ruler.
Speaker 1: H huh, step one and then then it's erect and
Speaker 1: then they're like putting a ruler next to it. Just
Speaker 1: let us know, okay, if you all you know, if
Speaker 1: you feel comfortable letting us know if at some point
Speaker 1: in your life whether you were twelve or twenty two
Speaker 1: or forty two? What you're working with? Have you measured
Speaker 1: your penis? Yeah? Let us know what do you do
Speaker 1: periodic penis checks? Like are you like, oh, it's my
Speaker 1: penis the same size? Like, oh, is it getting bigger?
Speaker 1: It's getting bigger? It has it gotten smaller? Older? And
Speaker 1: if it is because of hormones? Are you do you
Speaker 1: want to eat more McDonald's so you can have a
Speaker 1: bigger petis? I need to know the answer to these questions. Okay, anyway,
Speaker 1: let's we gotta talk about Traders because a couple of
Speaker 1: months ago or a couple of weeks ago, I told
Speaker 1: you about Traders. Yeah, you had not hit on the
Speaker 1: one episode, right, Yeah? I saw one episode? Yes, okay,
Speaker 1: so Traders Guys is on Peacock, the streaming service Peacock
Speaker 1: ten episode you've you've now finished? I watched it, okay,
Speaker 1: the whole thing. Yes? Were you dying on the last episode?
Speaker 1: I was like, put me in coach like I would. Yes, Yes,
Speaker 1: so you definitely want you want to be all season two? Yes?
Speaker 1: You know it would be really cool if we both
Speaker 1: did it. Yes, but I would know if you're lying, Robin, No,
Speaker 1: you wouldn't Okay, maybe not No, Okay, do you know
Speaker 1: how how crazy that would be cool? They would kick
Speaker 1: us off so we get banished the first episode because
Speaker 1: they'd be like these two all grow up to no good,
Speaker 1: get them out of here, right, Okay? So this was,
Speaker 1: this was and I don't want to spoil it for anybody,
Speaker 1: but sorry, we're gonna spoil it. So the person at
Speaker 1: the end that one, yeah, gangster, she played that game
Speaker 1: gangster you know a DM turn. No, sure didn't, because
Speaker 1: like I love when I see people do things in
Speaker 1: there and I just want to give them like their
Speaker 1: their cribs. Okay, DM, I'm gonna I'm gonna tell you
Speaker 1: what I said. And she responded, Okay, um, it's it's
Speaker 1: not like exciting, but like I gotta find it. Yeah, Okay.
Speaker 1: When she kicked off the curly head guy, uh huh?
Speaker 1: Were you like? I see you? I see you. You're
Speaker 1: a bad bitch. Honestly, she did what I would have done, right,
Speaker 1: She did what I would have done. Really, yes, because
Speaker 1: I'm like, you're a liability. You gotta go. You're in
Speaker 1: such a liability, yeah, like you gotta go. She did
Speaker 1: what I would have done. The whole time. She did
Speaker 1: that last episode though, h that was that was I mean,
Speaker 1: she had to do she had to listen that, but
Speaker 1: it was so Gangstar like she was a goat. I know,
Speaker 1: I don't want to spoil it for people, but like
Speaker 1: now I feel like we have spoiled it because we've okay,
Speaker 1: I see, Okay. The one thing that would kind of
Speaker 1: irritate me though, were the people who would be like
Speaker 1: they were talking about some other person and they were like,
Speaker 1: she said, it's just a game. She's got to be
Speaker 1: a trader, right, And I'm like, you have you guys, Okay.
Speaker 1: I had a couple of questions. One is everyone get
Speaker 1: paid for just being on the show. I assume so, right,
Speaker 1: So then that leads me to ask, do you get
Speaker 1: paid the longer that you're there? A I assume so?
Speaker 1: And like the guy at the end who was like,
Speaker 1: I'm blessed, I'm good, I'll back out right, he was
Speaker 1: basically saying I didn't I've made enough money on this show, right,
Speaker 1: I'm good, but you still want that extra twenty five
Speaker 1: hundred thousand dollars right twenty five? That's what I meant
Speaker 1: to say. So I DM this person at because I
Speaker 1: was like, I can't take it. I reach out to you.
Speaker 1: So I DM John. I was like, just watched the
Speaker 1: last episode of Traders. Exclamation point exclamation point unbelievably gangster,
Speaker 1: is what I said to her. And then I said
Speaker 1: I have to say this far goodbye Ari, and I
Speaker 1: said you're the goat and all caps. She was like,
Speaker 1: thank you, lady. Exclamation point, exclamation point exclamation point with
Speaker 1: like ten hearts. Um her whole y'all have got to
Speaker 1: see it, but her whole like demeanor, Yeah, so unassuming. Yeah,
Speaker 1: So I feel like I can't go on there and
Speaker 1: win because everybody's gonna know, just by the nature of
Speaker 1: the fact that I'm like super shady individual that I'm
Speaker 1: up to something, They're gonna they're just like they assumed
Speaker 1: was like, um like resident Brandy and Kate the whole time.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, They're gonna Kate won by default,
Speaker 1: like she was winning by default. Like, so I saw,
Speaker 1: but they might do a thing where well, wait, well
Speaker 1: we we knowed it just Zella Trader, but let's keep
Speaker 1: her around, yeah, like Kate, Yeah, so that we don't
Speaker 1: get voted off, you know. So I saw Kyle in
Speaker 1: New York and I and the first thing I said
Speaker 1: to him, I was like, y'all, I was watching Traders.
Speaker 1: I was like, you figured it out. He was like, hell, yeah,
Speaker 1: I figured it out, he said, but I couldn't figure
Speaker 1: out how to how to make it work and how
Speaker 1: to like tell people without it backfiring. So I couldn't
Speaker 1: figure that part out, right because it's like the first seat,
Speaker 1: first season, so you can't you just kind of just
Speaker 1: you're winging it right. So but he yeah, he definitely
Speaker 1: could tell. He's he was ready. Yeah, but you know
Speaker 1: what I said. Okay, So watching the finale and how
Speaker 1: they revealed, like how they how they would do their reveals,
Speaker 1: they have to do them different the next episode, like
Speaker 1: the next seasons, because you're gonna expect the last person
Speaker 1: that goes to be the Trader, do you know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying? Like, yes, so it yes, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean. I'm like, they can't do it the same
Speaker 1: way that they did it because you're going to expect
Speaker 1: that they're gaving the Trader for last, right, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean? Speaking of who's not a Trader, can
Speaker 1: we talk about Britney Griner? Yeah, I was so excited
Speaker 1: to see, like is she on the team? She signed
Speaker 1: a one year deal with UM the Phoenix Mercury, so
Speaker 1: she's back on the basketball court. Yeah, that is so
Speaker 1: exciting her story. Can you imagine, like I want the
Speaker 1: made for TV movie. I want like like what she
Speaker 1: experienced and like, I mean, I just think about, like gosh,
Speaker 1: what like thank God that she's home. Can you imagine
Speaker 1: like she was there for a long time? Ten months, right, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I thought it was a year. Okay, now whatever it
Speaker 1: was was like way too long. But I wonder if
Speaker 1: she we talked about this before, if she has made
Speaker 1: a deal with the government that she's not going to
Speaker 1: talk about I know, Yeah, I wonder that too. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and probably so knowing Russia because she hasn't done an interview, true, yeah,
Speaker 1: probably no Russia. Knowing the United States, Oh yeah, she
Speaker 1: probably the Biden was probably like this part deal right
Speaker 1: that we're getting high today, but she it's too controversial
Speaker 1: to really talk about. Yeah, she can't talk about her experience,
Speaker 1: like none of that. Yeah, yeah, that's too much. It
Speaker 1: feels so good to be here, especially with my beautiful,
Speaker 1: amazing wife and with all of y'all here today. I
Speaker 1: want to thank everyone, and let's keep fighting the brain
Speaker 1: home every American still detained overseas. Hopefully she can at
Speaker 1: least just talk about her mental like how she's doing
Speaker 1: and stuff like that. I would love to know how
Speaker 1: she's doing and just just like and you know, just
Speaker 1: obviously grateful that that situation is over, but you know,
Speaker 1: the like the PTSD of it, like it's got to
Speaker 1: be just right. But I'm I was really happy to
Speaker 1: see that she's back on the basketball court because just
Speaker 1: I know, you know, being around athletes all my life,
Speaker 1: like I know that that sport is their life and
Speaker 1: so and that is their way of coping with what
Speaker 1: they've dealt with with life. You know, like Wam when
Speaker 1: he was in high school, he lost his two parents
Speaker 1: to AIDS and the basketball court was like he literally
Speaker 1: like I can't remember his mom or his dad one
Speaker 1: of them passed, and he literally played in a basketball
Speaker 1: game like that night or the next day. Yeah, like
Speaker 1: that's like their way of coping. And so for her, yes,
Speaker 1: this is great that she can get back on the court,
Speaker 1: take her mind off of it, do something that she loves.
Speaker 1: But it's also important that she's getting that therapy yes,
Speaker 1: because once the ball, you know, once the game is
Speaker 1: over and she's not playing anymore or she is downtime,
Speaker 1: then all that coming back. Yeah, all that negative stuff
Speaker 1: just comes back. And I'm happy she's she's got her
Speaker 1: wife yea, so hopefully she can be a great support system. Yeah, okay,
Speaker 1: I have a question. Yeah, so you know about a
Speaker 1: new car kind of I don't know, four months ago,
Speaker 1: four five months ago. And the guy that sold me
Speaker 1: the car, older white gentleman. This is what he's doing
Speaker 1: in his retirement. He's like made his millions. He's he
Speaker 1: loves cars. He's selling cars in his retirement. Ok So
Speaker 1: he texts me the other day and he was like,
Speaker 1: and he's a cool he's a cool guy. He texts
Speaker 1: me he was like, yo, I gotta Matt Black, Gwagon,
Speaker 1: Red and Terrior. If you know any of your friends
Speaker 1: Ronin that wants to it's here. So I was like,
Speaker 1: I was like, okay, I'll tell my friends. And then
Speaker 1: he says, you know, how have you been. I was like, oh,
Speaker 1: I'm good. This is all via text. He's like how
Speaker 1: the girls. I was like, the girls are great. So
Speaker 1: then he says, yeah, So right after I bought my car.
Speaker 1: Maybe a couple of weeks later, I was in the
Speaker 1: sushi spot and with the kids. He walks in with
Speaker 1: his son, and well, I was like all excited to
Speaker 1: see him. He comes over, he says, how to the girls,
Speaker 1: by the way, when I bought the car. Of course,
Speaker 1: at some point in time in the whole process, the
Speaker 1: girls are in the dealership. They're like, let us see
Speaker 1: what's going on. They're saying how to everybody. It was
Speaker 1: just like they were having a meet and greet in
Speaker 1: a freaking dealership, so everybody is like asking about the girls.
Speaker 1: He was with his son. I said how to his son,
Speaker 1: And then like when I went to go pay the bill,
Speaker 1: they were like, oh no, the guy crossed the way
Speaker 1: paid for y'all's foods. I was like, oh, you bought
Speaker 1: food for me and my kids. I wish I would
Speaker 1: have known. I would have ordered everything, right, But anyway,
Speaker 1: I thought that was really nice. Right. So then at
Speaker 1: the end of the text message, he's like, so you know,
Speaker 1: we gotta go back to that sushi restaurant. Oh, he's
Speaker 1: trying to take your date. So I said, oh, okay,
Speaker 1: and he was like, let me know when you have time.
Speaker 1: I'm sure, you're very busy. Oh my god. I was like, okay,
Speaker 1: so it was it was a very soft yeah, ask
Speaker 1: of is it a date? Yes, that's a date that yes?
Speaker 1: Does that? So that's my question. A is it a date? B?
Speaker 1: Because you know, white guys come at you and I
Speaker 1: think and done, nobody come after me. Men approached women
Speaker 1: culturally different. This is my experience. Black guys are like,
Speaker 1: what up, hey, Aby, what you're doing? My friends go
Speaker 1: with your shake like it's like you know, you get
Speaker 1: all kinds of nonsense. And then this white man approach
Speaker 1: very subtle, very subtle, Yeah, to the point where you
Speaker 1: don't even know if it's a goddamn date, right, So um,
Speaker 1: it was kind of slick. It wasn't slick, kind of
Speaker 1: it sounded kind of slick. Well, when he when he
Speaker 1: paid for our food that day, I was like, that
Speaker 1: was a car from him. I bought a car from him, right,
Speaker 1: So I'm like, it's a little bit of like your commission, right,
Speaker 1: no big deal, but just being nice. Yeah, Okay, so
Speaker 1: now that I know it's a date, that hope that
Speaker 1: changes everything. So no, but see that would be really
Speaker 1: you said he's older, Like how older is he? Because
Speaker 1: then you have the whole spectrum. You got the older man,
Speaker 1: the younger man. Um, he's I don't know. If I
Speaker 1: had to get he has grown kids, like out of college, okay,
Speaker 1: if I had to guess, I thought he was married.
Speaker 1: I don't know. I'm going to totally put that on
Speaker 1: Pauls because I don't even know what it is. But
Speaker 1: I see him occasionally, because you know, I'm always in downtown,
Speaker 1: but there's a he's fishing. He's fishing. If you say, okay, yes,
Speaker 1: let's go to dinner or whatever, let's go get to she,
Speaker 1: then that's like, oh okay, she's interested, oh wows. Or
Speaker 1: maybe it was just like he just wants to like
Speaker 1: chit chat with me because he thinks I'm cool. No,
Speaker 1: he's I'm not really cool. Well, he thinks you're cool
Speaker 1: and you're beautiful, okay, and he wants to get to
Speaker 1: know you better her. Okay. I asked my kids and
Speaker 1: they were like, I don't know. I was like, is
Speaker 1: this a date? And they were like, I don't know.
Speaker 1: You said he made his millions on me. Yeah, listen, listen,
Speaker 1: we're gonna move on. I meant to talk to you
Speaker 1: about that. I had something to say about traders to traders. Okay, sorry,
Speaker 1: we got an email about traders. Yes, okay, please read
Speaker 1: an email. Okay, so this is from Yvette Um. She said, hello,
Speaker 1: I have some tea. After listening to last podcast episode,
Speaker 1: I started to watch the show The Traders. Boy was
Speaker 1: I surprised instantly after seeing my coworker on the show
Speaker 1: and she was the winner. No way, yes, yeah, okay,
Speaker 1: we're not gonna say her name. Yes, yes, talk about
Speaker 1: someone living a double life. I would have never imagined
Speaker 1: in a million years that she would be on a
Speaker 1: show like this. And to sweeten the pot, I learned
Speaker 1: she was also on Survivor in two thousand and eight.
Speaker 1: I recently saw her at the airport looking incognito, and
Speaker 1: she called me over and we learned we were both
Speaker 1: going to the same destination. I walked away thinking, why
Speaker 1: does she look so undercover? Now, I'm assuming she probably
Speaker 1: didn't want to be recognized at the airport. Yes, none
Speaker 1: of us do. But that's amazing. That's so cool though,
Speaker 1: Like you turn it on, like, oh, let me see
Speaker 1: the show that Robin and just I was talking about it,
Speaker 1: and you see your co worker that's playing a whole game,
Speaker 1: game game, and and go getting back to traders really
Speaker 1: quickly there, um have you have you seen it? Carly?
Speaker 1: So there? Just what do you call those things that
Speaker 1: they do? The competitions, the challenges, the challenges, the hell
Speaker 1: oh okay, remember you said about the one that you
Speaker 1: would be like absolutely not. Yeah, with the um the rodents, yes,
Speaker 1: and the bugs fall on their head and like I
Speaker 1: watching it gave me the ebb of scratching. Yeah, that
Speaker 1: I would have quit. Yeah, I would have said I've
Speaker 1: had enough. But how about Kate with her one challenge
Speaker 1: and she was kicking up sabotage the challenge and she's
Speaker 1: still listen, Kate said, Kate, she's she originally is from
Speaker 1: below Jack. She's a Bravo lab. She said, send me home,
Speaker 1: y'all right, you please Spanish me kill me in the
Speaker 1: middle of the night. She wanted to go home. She
Speaker 1: was like, please kill me in the middle of the night.
Speaker 1: And they were like, no, we're gonna keep it. We're
Speaker 1: gonna keep you. Okay. Did you think so the curly
Speaker 1: hair guy, Yeah, I thought. I really felt like the
Speaker 1: producers told him to do that dumb that he did.
Speaker 1: See I don't want Yeah, we gotta talk offline, but
Speaker 1: you know what I'm talking about. Yeah, I know exactly
Speaker 1: what you're talking about. It seemed like it was. It
Speaker 1: was probably a producers discussion. But you know, anytime you
Speaker 1: have a conversation with a producer, it's always on you
Speaker 1: as to whether or not you want to fulfill the
Speaker 1: producer requests, right, And I just want to let y'all
Speaker 1: know half the time I tell them producers, no, I'm lyine.
Speaker 1: I just go ahead on and do it. We're gonna
Speaker 1: answer a couple more questions that y'all asked us on
Speaker 1: ask us anything because I felt like they were good,
Speaker 1: and I've been meaning to talk about this, so I
Speaker 1: just so we're gonna do it now. It says, hi, ladies,
Speaker 1: please talk in detail about your journey with fibroids. So
Speaker 1: I'm gonna give you all the short version, because I
Speaker 1: don't think we've talked about it right. We were saving it. No,
Speaker 1: I don't think we've talked about it now. Okay, So
Speaker 1: if you watch Potomac, I talk about the fact that
Speaker 1: I have to have a hysterect to me. So about
Speaker 1: two years ago, my doctors were monitoring me because my
Speaker 1: five boards were I had like two or three five
Speaker 1: boards and they were kind of like big, but not
Speaker 1: really that big. And then, now, how did they know
Speaker 1: that you have five words? Because they could when you
Speaker 1: went for your annual, they could feel that they were
Speaker 1: there or did you have some sort of complaint and
Speaker 1: they both did a sonogram and all that type of
Speaker 1: both they kind of could feel that something was going on,
Speaker 1: and then sex was uncomfortable. Stuff was it was just weird.
Speaker 1: So I had a sonogram and then and my doctor
Speaker 1: was like they're there. They were like maybe two inches
Speaker 1: or something like. She was like, they're gonna go away
Speaker 1: or we're just gonna leave it alone. So after time
Speaker 1: goes by, they had like blown up. They were like
Speaker 1: nine ten inches or centimeters centimeters or centimeters. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: they were like I had a baby in my stuff, okay.
Speaker 1: And they were in the uterine lining, so it's nowhere
Speaker 1: you could get them out without tearing up my uterus.
Speaker 1: So made the decision or not we The doctor said
Speaker 1: you gonna have to get you uterus taken out and
Speaker 1: I was like, what what you mean? And I was
Speaker 1: very traumatized just because that I equate that to being
Speaker 1: a woman, as most women do. But my doctor was like,
Speaker 1: you have three kids, now you're gonna have more. No,
Speaker 1: so it's gonna go right, and we're gonna keep your
Speaker 1: ovaries so that you don't like go into full blown menopause.
Speaker 1: Oh so the day came, you don't still get a period? No, no,
Speaker 1: you can't get a period. No, okay, right, because that's
Speaker 1: period free. Okay, yay, nice, Okay, that's over. I threw
Speaker 1: my um tampons and pads at my kids. I said,
Speaker 1: have fun. No, I didn't do that rude anyway. So
Speaker 1: that day they told us gonna be like a three
Speaker 1: and a half hour surgery. My sister was with me.
Speaker 1: She was contacting Robin and a couple other friends of
Speaker 1: mine to make sure because you know, when you have
Speaker 1: a friend that's going in a surgery, it's always like,
Speaker 1: what's going on? What's going on? And there? What can
Speaker 1: I do? Well, not that, but it's like, you know,
Speaker 1: it could be touch and gold because they're like knocked out.
Speaker 1: And anyway, my doctors got in there and it was
Speaker 1: a disaster. They didn't know what the hell they were seeing.
Speaker 1: My uterus was connected to my bladder via scar tissue
Speaker 1: because of my C section when I had the twins
Speaker 1: sixteen years ago. So scar tissue just kind of like
Speaker 1: grows in your body any kind of way, and it
Speaker 1: and I had been peeing weird for like years and
Speaker 1: didn't put and didn't know what do you mean weird?
Speaker 1: I had to like pee all the time, like only
Speaker 1: in the morning, okay, And then I was p free,
Speaker 1: like I don't I mean, it was just something was
Speaker 1: going on my bladder and I just thought it was normal.
Speaker 1: That was just how I am. So surgery ended up
Speaker 1: being like eight and a half hours. It scared everybody
Speaker 1: to death. Robin, who doesn't get concerned about anything, was
Speaker 1: concerned about me. And thank god she you know, she
Speaker 1: is a human guys. And but long story short, is
Speaker 1: the best thing that I've ever could have done. Yeah,
Speaker 1: because I feel I'm not blow I was feeling bloated.
Speaker 1: Yeah for two years you never looked bloated, but I
Speaker 1: mean I felt that, yeah, it's gone. It's And I
Speaker 1: know there's other ways of handling five boys. There's like
Speaker 1: ablasion and all these other ways. I feel like, if
Speaker 1: if you're at a place where you don't want any
Speaker 1: more children, and the ablazing works, but I think they
Speaker 1: can come back and you just don't want that. I
Speaker 1: just want to get rid of it. I'm very happy
Speaker 1: with my decision. And so what else differences in like
Speaker 1: how you feel are there? I feel like a little
Speaker 1: sexually it's great. Um, And I don't know why. Okay,
Speaker 1: first of all, after you have it done the way
Speaker 1: that they have to sell you back up, you cannot
Speaker 1: have anything in the vagina, they say for so I
Speaker 1: think it was like my doctor said, like six weeks
Speaker 1: or eight weeks. Maybe it was six weeks okay, like
Speaker 1: a baby, right. So I went to my six week
Speaker 1: checkup and she like felt and did a bunch of
Speaker 1: stuff and she was like, yep, six more weeks. Oh.
Speaker 1: I was like, what are you talking about? So she
Speaker 1: was like, yeah, you're not really healed up. So I said,
Speaker 1: oh god. And she said, and when you do decide
Speaker 1: puts something up in there, you have to be very gentle. Yeah.
Speaker 1: And I was like, that's not what I'm gonna do.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna get rick rickety row anyway, So long story short,
Speaker 1: it's just I don't know. I just feel comfortable with everything.
Speaker 1: I feel lighter. I feel like I shouldn't. I had
Speaker 1: like I felt like I had toxins in my body
Speaker 1: and they're they're gone, so I feel better. Did it
Speaker 1: affect I mean you always had like it, you always
Speaker 1: seem to have like high energy. But did it affect anything,
Speaker 1: you know, as far as your energy or your you know,
Speaker 1: your mood or anything. No, No, not my energy. But
Speaker 1: but it was like working out, my stomach wouldn't go down. Okay,
Speaker 1: so that's that's been removed. Yeah, So mentally I just
Speaker 1: was like pissed off because I'm doing all this working
Speaker 1: out stomach still big. So yes, to answer all the questions,
Speaker 1: I'm happy that I did it. Um, you know, I
Speaker 1: am over fifty the age of fifty, so for me,
Speaker 1: it was the right move. I know that some women
Speaker 1: who are younger are still trying to have children it
Speaker 1: might not be right. But if if you're over fifty, yeah,
Speaker 1: get that thing taken out and throw that thing straight
Speaker 1: in the trash can. Yeah. And just I mean I
Speaker 1: assume you know everyone is going to their regular checkups
Speaker 1: and stuff, but like if you're not pleased, do so,
Speaker 1: because you know your doctor can pretty much detect that
Speaker 1: type of stuff. You know, how how they changed, like
Speaker 1: getting a PAP smear from like every one year to
Speaker 1: every three years two or is it two or three?
Speaker 1: They'd be changed check three every year, right, so it's
Speaker 1: paps every three years. But which makes people think you
Speaker 1: don't need to go to your doctor. You only have
Speaker 1: to go to your doctor every three years. My doctor's like,
Speaker 1: I'm it's so frustrated at that advice because she's like, no,
Speaker 1: you still need to come every year and get examined
Speaker 1: and get checked out. So you know, if you're not
Speaker 1: going to your doctor every year, please go yes, and
Speaker 1: and thank god nothing was cancerous because they do check
Speaker 1: for everything to make sure it's not so robin. This
Speaker 1: is for me and you will you discourage your children
Speaker 1: from pledging a fraternity of sorority. So you know, it's
Speaker 1: funny when um my father's a Kappa, he's in a fraternity.
Speaker 1: I'm in a sorority. I'm a Delta. And when woman's
Speaker 1: at Maryland. He played basketball Maryland and he wanted to
Speaker 1: pledge Kappa, like he actually that thought came into his
Speaker 1: head and I was like, no, do not do it
Speaker 1: because he's on the basketball team. There's like anyone. First
Speaker 1: of all, it's hard enough being a student period, right,
Speaker 1: it's super hard being a student athlete. It's hard being
Speaker 1: a student who's pledging a fraternity or sorority. The thought
Speaker 1: of him being a student athlete who's pledging a fraternity.
Speaker 1: All at the same time, I was like, no, you're
Speaker 1: going to ruin. Like I knew, because I know what
Speaker 1: goes into it. I said that time, um, you know,
Speaker 1: I knew it would go into it. How much time
Speaker 1: it would take, How he would be up all night?
Speaker 1: He maybe, And I said no, absolutely not like what
Speaker 1: but Robin, they would have they would have his older brothers, yeah,
Speaker 1: big brothers, whatever. They would have allowed him to, like
Speaker 1: go to practice, go to his games, do everything he's
Speaker 1: supposed to do. No, I mean yes, I mean yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: they would have allowed him go to practice. But he
Speaker 1: would have been extremely tired. His grades would have suffered.
Speaker 1: Like he would have been. He would have been a kappa.
Speaker 1: He would have been stepping. Yeah. I wouldn't say yo
Speaker 1: fa no yo baby Ye, he'd have been baby yo.
Speaker 1: He had his cane, he'd be trawing it around, he'd
Speaker 1: be thrawing it right here. How he really wouldn't but
Speaker 1: he wouldn't know. But I was like, no, no, I'm sorry.
Speaker 1: There's that you stepped on his dreams. I wasn't a dream.
Speaker 1: It was just like a thought, like okay, I say,
Speaker 1: like he really wanted to do it really bad, but
Speaker 1: I was just like, no. So anyway, if my children
Speaker 1: are UM college athletes, then absolutely not, they're not. What
Speaker 1: so listen, no, you gotta you need to keep your scholarship,
Speaker 1: your your athletic scholarship. These coaches they're they're they're not
Speaker 1: going to allow They're not gonna be pledging them to
Speaker 1: the point where they're gonna lose their scholarship. Come on, now, okay,
Speaker 1: this is twenty twenty three, those days over, well, I
Speaker 1: don't know. I'm sorry. I want them to focus on
Speaker 1: keeping their scholarship. So what about your girls? Yeah? Absolutely,
Speaker 1: okay AKA if they even utter adele or a tough,
Speaker 1: it's a no. The end. It's so funny because I
Speaker 1: told I talked the other day about UM. I took
Speaker 1: Angel on the door to Hampton and of course I'm
Speaker 1: like looking for my little sore wroars, I'm looking for
Speaker 1: a pink in a green and no I didn't see
Speaker 1: not nare one. And I was so towards the end
Speaker 1: of the tour I told them the dean of emissions,
Speaker 1: I was like, I was hoping to see my little
Speaker 1: sore Wars. She was like, oh, you pledge, what are you?
Speaker 1: I was like, uh, because she's she was a Delta,
Speaker 1: I was like, m whatever, I said, I'm an aka,
Speaker 1: like I want to see my little pinky green people.
Speaker 1: And so by the end of it they found somebody
Speaker 1: come and say hi to me. Okay, that was so funny.
Speaker 1: So you know it. Now, since we're on the topic
Speaker 1: of Sobrits, we've got another question. Ashley asked, I'd love
Speaker 1: to hear what y'all have to say about belonging to
Speaker 1: a black sority. Seems like black soritis are so different
Speaker 1: than white sorities. So Ashley's white. Also more about Jessy
Speaker 1: as a mom because their girls are so amazing. So yes,
Speaker 1: the experience. So I went to a predominantly white institution.
Speaker 1: I went to University of Maryland, So when you know,
Speaker 1: you can, I can definitely see the difference between the
Speaker 1: black sororities and the white sorities. Yes, one of the
Speaker 1: main differences, honestly is more so going into like adulthood,
Speaker 1: where you know, I pledged, Delta Sigma Data sorority, and
Speaker 1: I am a delta for life, and so I can
Speaker 1: continue in my you know, participating in my sorority, in
Speaker 1: my graduate chapter and my alumni chapter as we call
Speaker 1: it um, for the rest of my life. Like you know,
Speaker 1: So like where the white sororities, it's like they go
Speaker 1: to college a pledge of sority and then it's over.
Speaker 1: It's over. Like it's not that they're you know, no
Speaker 1: longer a member of that sority, but they don't continue
Speaker 1: like their membership kind of in that sority. It's just
Speaker 1: kind of like a temporary thing. Um. I mean, that's
Speaker 1: like one of the big differences. And then you know,
Speaker 1: our sororities are rooted in like community service, social you know, activism,
Speaker 1: and you know we have we have like purposes for
Speaker 1: we do what we do. We're not just like a
Speaker 1: social club. Yes, you know, we're not just there to party.
Speaker 1: We're there to serve the community. We're there to like
Speaker 1: you know, trying to create change. And um, I know,
Speaker 1: my sorority was really big in the women's suffrage movement
Speaker 1: and you know back whatever years years ago to help
Speaker 1: get women the right to vote. So it's like stuff
Speaker 1: like that like, we actually have more of a purpose
Speaker 1: I will say, outside of just being social and my sorority,
Speaker 1: the Aks, we get people into the White House. So um, yeah,
Speaker 1: there's that. Kamala Harris is a member of my sorority, yes,
Speaker 1: the VP. Anyway, moving on to okay, so this is
Speaker 1: interesting not Robin's sorority. So Robin this lady Jean Jean
Speaker 1: Pierre wants to know what keeps our friendships so solid?
Speaker 1: Oh that's a gen. Jen Jim was on the podcast
Speaker 1: with us. Oh why is she asking a stupid question?
Speaker 1: Wait a minute, Not okay, because she knows us right right,
Speaker 1: But I think, you know, I think that's a good
Speaker 1: question because as we you know, as you might see
Speaker 1: on a you know, TV show, or as you just
Speaker 1: ventured through your adulthood, like you see, you see that
Speaker 1: keeping friends is not easy. Oh so that's true. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I think we're honest with each other. Yeah. I think
Speaker 1: I get on your nerves and you just deal with
Speaker 1: it the end. Yeah, Um, you know, I don't know.
Speaker 1: I think I don't know. I think I'm a good
Speaker 1: friend to like my friends. I guess, yes, it's I
Speaker 1: think you just have to know, like who your friends
Speaker 1: are and the type of friendship you are going to
Speaker 1: get out of them. So, like I saw this really
Speaker 1: good post did I save it? It was like you
Speaker 1: should have seven different types of friends. Maybe we should.
Speaker 1: I don't know. We could say that for another podcast,
Speaker 1: but it was like, you know, a friend to hang
Speaker 1: out with, A friend that makes you laugh, a friend
Speaker 1: you know that you tell your secrets to, You tell
Speaker 1: your secrets to a friend that you ask for advice
Speaker 1: a friend, you know what I mean. And so I
Speaker 1: just feel like when you know the type of friend
Speaker 1: that that friend is, then when they aren't doing the
Speaker 1: other things that they aren't, you're not upset about it,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. It's like managing your expectations
Speaker 1: between your friends that Yeah, I like that, okay, And
Speaker 1: not all friends are created equal exactly, yesh. Yeah, but
Speaker 1: I just think our friendship, like we have a similar
Speaker 1: sense of humor. Yeah, we don't take ourselves too seriously.
Speaker 1: Now we have kind of been on the receiving end,
Speaker 1: you know, not just from the show, but just throughout
Speaker 1: our life of the same type of scrutiny, yes, and
Speaker 1: so we kind of have developed the same type of
Speaker 1: like hard shell um where like we just look at
Speaker 1: life a little bit differently than other people might. Yeah.
Speaker 1: And that's so like where I could probably like say
Speaker 1: something to you, I could probably say something to you
Speaker 1: that's not going to hurt your feelings, And I might
Speaker 1: say that the same thing to Carly and it might
Speaker 1: hurt her feelings. Do you know what I mean? So
Speaker 1: it's like I mean, but we pay Carly the big bucks,
Speaker 1: so she doesn't have feelings. Okay, there's that. I that
Speaker 1: I've ever heard carle Fro. Maybe I haven't yet, Yeah
Speaker 1: I heard, so I we play with the big bart.
Speaker 1: But you know what I say, I don't know. I
Speaker 1: just I don't know. I just think. You know, when
Speaker 1: you have friends that you click with, your click with them? Yeah, no,
Speaker 1: I agree, I agree. All right, So we were gonna
Speaker 1: do a reason? Is it reasonable or is it shady?
Speaker 1: Do we have time for one? We have a whole bunch.
Speaker 1: I want to do this one. I thought, Okay, pretty interesting.
Speaker 1: Um it was actually um sent to me and day
Speaker 1: oh yes, I liked the dms. So the question is
Speaker 1: it reasonable or is it shady for a This is
Speaker 1: from a guy from a female close friend to consistently
Speaker 1: vocalize their disdain for male gay people when her male
Speaker 1: best friend is also gay. Why am I the exception?
Speaker 1: Wait a minute, he gay? He's gay, Okay, everybody's gay here.
Speaker 1: He's gaya, she's not. That's like one of his like
Speaker 1: female best friends. Okay um, And she vocalized, is her
Speaker 1: disdain for male gay people? Why she do that? That's shady? Right?
Speaker 1: So I was like, I got questions. Okay, okay, okay,
Speaker 1: what's the question. I'm like, how long have y'all been friends?
Speaker 1: And can you tell me an example of something? She
Speaker 1: would say, oh, you asked, Yeah, okay. I was like this,
Speaker 1: I'm like what that is? I mean, why are we friends? Here? Right? Right?
Speaker 1: This is from Will. So he said, we've been friends
Speaker 1: for roughly eleven years. She loves to tell me, I
Speaker 1: love you as a person, but I don't agree or
Speaker 1: support that lifestyle. He married a man in November, and
Speaker 1: she made up an excuse not to attend the wedding,
Speaker 1: which was she gave birth in September and wasn't sure
Speaker 1: how her healing process was going to be. After the wedding,
Speaker 1: her father came in town to visit her and saw
Speaker 1: his saved the date on her refrigerator, and that made
Speaker 1: him upset, and she couldn't wait to tell him what
Speaker 1: her father said. He said, I heard the first disparaging
Speaker 1: comment and immediately told her to stop. I said, I
Speaker 1: respect you, I respect your father's opinion, but I don't
Speaker 1: need to hear it. And then she brings it up
Speaker 1: again and stuff like that. So then I was like, Okay,
Speaker 1: were you openly gay when you two first met and
Speaker 1: became friends? And he said he was not. He said
Speaker 1: she actually she actually flirted with me a lot when
Speaker 1: we met through mutual friends. I was uncomfortable side to
Speaker 1: tell her, so she was sad. So she's mad that
Speaker 1: he's gay because she wants to date them. Right, So
Speaker 1: I'm like, is there a jealousy there? Because I mean,
Speaker 1: but if they've been friends for eleven years, I think
Speaker 1: you know I'm the majority of their friendship. He was
Speaker 1: openly gay, right, I'm just like, they're not friends there,
Speaker 1: that's not your friend. A friend supports you, right, A
Speaker 1: friend would show up at your wedding even if she
Speaker 1: didn't feel like that's what she believes. Right, you still
Speaker 1: show up when you support you and you keep your
Speaker 1: mouth shut, yes, like you wouldn't right, even if that
Speaker 1: doesn't like I think as a friend, if that's something
Speaker 1: that she doesn't believe or whatever, I think as a friend,
Speaker 1: it's on her to try to get to a place
Speaker 1: of understanding, right, Right, And so maybe that's a different
Speaker 1: type of conversation with him, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: If it's something that she's just stuck on and she's
Speaker 1: really appreciates his friendship doesn't approve of the lifestyle, well,
Speaker 1: let me learn, let me figure out, let me learn
Speaker 1: how to accept. Can you like teach me? Help me?
Speaker 1: But like, as a friend, you don't sit there and
Speaker 1: continuously tell him I don't respect your lifestyle. My father
Speaker 1: don't respect it. And that's ridiculous, right, he needs the curb.
Speaker 1: That's not your friend. She's shady. Yeah, and don't look back, right.
Speaker 1: I feel like I still need more. I'm like, okay, so,
Speaker 1: how how does this friendship fulfill him? Like? I need
Speaker 1: more information? You know, I'm right? How are you even
Speaker 1: still friends? How? Like? What else is there going on
Speaker 1: in the friendship that makes you even want to be father? Yeah?
Speaker 1: And I'm sure whoever he's marrying can't standa right, So
Speaker 1: that's friction, right, And I'm sure she was jealous with that.
Speaker 1: I mean, it's just this, but if she's pregnant having
Speaker 1: a baby, she has her own life, she's got her
Speaker 1: own relationship clearly. But yeah, I don't know. I'm just
Speaker 1: I've rather I said, what's a big anything that makes
Speaker 1: zero sense? Yeah, I mean that would be the same, Like,
Speaker 1: I don't know, It's like that'd be like if I
Speaker 1: was mad that Cow doesn't like me, and then he's
Speaker 1: got a boo and I don't like his boo because
Speaker 1: Cow's then acting gay or whatever. I don't know. I
Speaker 1: don't know, Like I just can't see in any world
Speaker 1: where a friend feels it's okay to tell someone that
Speaker 1: they don't approve of their lifestyle. When this it's not
Speaker 1: like it's not like he's like robbing a bank, like
Speaker 1: he's a bank robber, or you know, even he's you know,
Speaker 1: he's doing drugs or he's drinking alcohol. Like this is
Speaker 1: nothing that he can change, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: It's not like so I'm just like, what is the
Speaker 1: point here? I don't know. I don't like it. He
Speaker 1: needs to run run. Yeah, yes, and that is our episode, guys.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry. Yes, that's our episode, so don't ever get
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