WEBVTT - | Ep 82 | Size Matters

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Reasonably Shady, a production of the Black Effect

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<v Speaker 1>podcast Network and iHeartRadio. Welcome to another episode of Reasonably Shady.

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<v Speaker 1>I am Jell Bryant. What's up? What's up y'all? This

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<v Speaker 1>Robin Dixon? Thank you again for being here. Yes, yes,

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<v Speaker 1>so good to see you. Robin. Yes, you too, I

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<v Speaker 1>mean you just you know, a bright ball of sunshine. Really, yes,

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<v Speaker 1>you don't feel that, you don't feel your your bright

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<v Speaker 1>ball of sunshiness? Is it because I'm pale? Because I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't say that. I think that's I'm just I was

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<v Speaker 1>referring to your energy, okay, is very sunshiny and bright

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<v Speaker 1>and you know, just uplifts people. You're welcome. Hallelujah. Thank you.

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<v Speaker 1>Wait a minute, speaking of this is so off the cuff.

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<v Speaker 1>So I took my kids to twins to Hampton University,

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<v Speaker 1>which I went. I grab. I'm a graduate of Hampton University.

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<v Speaker 1>It's an HBC. You get into it. It's one of

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<v Speaker 1>the best, Thank you very much. Anyway, I went to

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<v Speaker 1>Hampton at a private tour for them. Nice. I guess

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<v Speaker 1>the dean of admissions did her research and figured out

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<v Speaker 1>who their father is. So our tour guide was the

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<v Speaker 1>kid on campus who's a minister and training so and literally,

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<v Speaker 1>oh my god, was like once he figured I mean, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>he knew who we were, but like seven minutes into

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<v Speaker 1>the tour, yeah, he was like, um, you know, Pastor

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<v Speaker 1>Brian is my favorite pastor and oh my gosh. At

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<v Speaker 1>some point, you know, can I talk to him? I said,

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<v Speaker 1>I just immediately faced time Jamal. I was like, Jamal,

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<v Speaker 1>this is your number one fan right here. And the

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<v Speaker 1>boy did a shout, like a holy girld shout. He

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<v Speaker 1>was like kicking his legs kicking, like are going I

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<v Speaker 1>don't promise you. He made me screenshot the FaceTime of

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<v Speaker 1>him talking to Jamal, Oh my god and send it

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<v Speaker 1>to him. Okay, last, but not least, so towards the

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<v Speaker 1>end of the day, where this kid all day and

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<v Speaker 1>by the way, this kid is phenomenal, Like he is

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<v Speaker 1>hands down gonna change the world one day. Okay, okay.

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<v Speaker 1>So I had stepped out of the room at some

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<v Speaker 1>point and he was showing my kids that he has

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<v Speaker 1>an app. He has a preaching app. So if you

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<v Speaker 1>press a button, it'll give you the background music. It's like, dumb,

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<v Speaker 1>he can just start preaching. And so he was like

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<v Speaker 1>he made fun of Jamal's preaching. I was on the

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<v Speaker 1>floor laughing. Okay, so, oh my god. Then he was like,

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<v Speaker 1>all right, I want to show y'all video I preached

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<v Speaker 1>my Applebee's order. He was like, can I get the

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<v Speaker 1>twelve we with the side out of ice tea? Oh

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<v Speaker 1>my god? Okay, okay, does he want to be a

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<v Speaker 1>preacher or an actor? Listen that close? But it was,

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<v Speaker 1>it was he was amazing. Anyway, how do we start

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<v Speaker 1>talking about that? Because you said, well, would he do

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<v Speaker 1>it for some because you said I was a ball

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<v Speaker 1>of sunshine? I don't know. Okay, wait, so I so

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<v Speaker 1>since you were saying that, how do your kids feel

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<v Speaker 1>about like when people instantly want to start talking about

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<v Speaker 1>like church or preaching or like you know what I'm saying,

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<v Speaker 1>when they treat them like they think they want to like, um, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>so my kids will very much smile on your face

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<v Speaker 1>and entertain you. But because they are preachers children, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>they don't want to hear that, right, Yeah, Like their

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<v Speaker 1>father doesn't even talk to them that way. Right. So

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want to say it's a turn off, but

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<v Speaker 1>it's like nothing that they're entertained about, like that they

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<v Speaker 1>want to discuss. But they'll still be nice about it. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>they'll they'll still be very nice. But um, the twins

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<v Speaker 1>will Grace might tell you stop talking. Okay, but they

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<v Speaker 1>but this guy, you know, you overlooked it because this

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<v Speaker 1>guy was just so dynamic on so many levels. So anyway, um,

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<v Speaker 1>reasonably shady moment, do you have one of the week? Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>So so the other day, I'm driving in the car

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<v Speaker 1>with my kids and my father calls me, and I

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<v Speaker 1>have my phone connected to the bluetooth, the speakers and

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<v Speaker 1>all that type of stuff. I hate that. That makes

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<v Speaker 1>me so nervous, I know, right, you never know what

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<v Speaker 1>they're gonna say, yeah, or like I might be on

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<v Speaker 1>a dating that somebody else calls. Oh, I don't do

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<v Speaker 1>that anymore, but yeah if yeah, back in the dead.

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<v Speaker 1>Definitely got to disconnect the bluetooth. Anyway. So so my

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<v Speaker 1>father calls and he's like, oh, Robin, I'm watching the news.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm listening to them talk about China and Russia and

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<v Speaker 1>what in Ukraine and you know, North Korea, and I

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<v Speaker 1>just want to tell you, you you know, to tell the

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<v Speaker 1>kids to make sure that they're doing their school work,

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<v Speaker 1>make sure that they are, you know, getting good grades

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<v Speaker 1>and you know, doing well in school, because if they

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<v Speaker 1>gotta if there's gonna be a World War three and

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<v Speaker 1>they gotta draft, the military has to draft people. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>they want to be doing good in school. So because

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<v Speaker 1>they're they're going to draft to people that aren't doing

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<v Speaker 1>the arts, they got to draft the D students, not

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<v Speaker 1>the A students. Okay, I don't think it works that way,

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<v Speaker 1>but I'm pretty sure this is not working that way.

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<v Speaker 1>He's like, you know what I mean, if they just

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<v Speaker 1>stay in school and you know, go, you don't get

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<v Speaker 1>their education. But you know, if they're not in school

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<v Speaker 1>they're not doing well, then you know, I just you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I just I just just just tell them, just tell

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<v Speaker 1>them just to do good in school, am I. They're

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<v Speaker 1>like in the car listening to this, like they're like,

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<v Speaker 1>what is he talking about? Like, because they have no

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<v Speaker 1>concept of the draft, right, they're like, pop, Pap is turban.

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<v Speaker 1>So after that, we get home the next few days,

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<v Speaker 1>like anytime Biden is on the news talking about Ukraine,

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<v Speaker 1>they are like, Okay, well, what does that mean they're

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<v Speaker 1>gonna be? Are we gonna be? What do you mean?

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<v Speaker 1>China said that they're like literally watching every headline on

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<v Speaker 1>the team. Listen, those kids, they're about to be drafted.

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm like, are you scared that we're going to

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<v Speaker 1>go to war? He's like yeah. I'm like, oh my god,

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<v Speaker 1>but are they a students? Be students? I mean they're

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<v Speaker 1>a and B Okay, Carter, maybe you see. I don't know,

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<v Speaker 1>but like I'm sure first of all, you can explain

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<v Speaker 1>to them we have a military. Well, but my father

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<v Speaker 1>seems to think if our military has to go up

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<v Speaker 1>against Russia, we need every miner in North Korea at

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<v Speaker 1>the same time that we are in trouble, and they

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<v Speaker 1>we have to go back to the draft. Okay, because

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<v Speaker 1>he was drafted, he said, you know he oh he was, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I know what he said. But my father he wasn't

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<v Speaker 1>like was that an embellishment? Your father's not drafted? I

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<v Speaker 1>think he was. He said he did something he wasn't

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<v Speaker 1>like on the you know, on the field, shooting people. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>he was like a medical person. Oh, but but they did.

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<v Speaker 1>He had to go. He had to go. Okay, Okay, Well,

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<v Speaker 1>so that is so he has PTSD from the draft.

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<v Speaker 1>I got that is he does not what his grandkids

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<v Speaker 1>at least he has a good memory. Okay, he does,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, but I want you to tell him he

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<v Speaker 1>has nothing to do with what their grades are. As dude,

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<v Speaker 1>who gets drafted. Okay, I'm like, you a whole doctor

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<v Speaker 1>and you got drafted. Hey, So so honestly, I think

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<v Speaker 1>they should actually probably become like the d students. They

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<v Speaker 1>gonna leave these students out because they don't know how

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<v Speaker 1>to follow instructions or something. I don't know. I'm hilarious. Yes, well,

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<v Speaker 1>my reasonably shady moment of the week is not that

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<v Speaker 1>horrific or tragic and anyway, uh and yeah, and I

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<v Speaker 1>hope that never happens. I celebrated Valentine's Day, yes, and

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<v Speaker 1>I guess I didn't get a Teddy Bear, but I

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<v Speaker 1>was kind of wishing I did. Teddy bears are so cute. Anyway,

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<v Speaker 1>I got caviar. One of the things I got was caviar, like,

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<v Speaker 1>because you know, we've been going to some restaurants and

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<v Speaker 1>they've been offering caviar. Like one of the old places

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<v Speaker 1>that we went to, the Guesthouse um in New York,

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<v Speaker 1>they have avocado with like caviar on time. It's the

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<v Speaker 1>best thing ever. So and he cooks. So anyway, we

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<v Speaker 1>tore us caviar up. Oh my god, like I was

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<v Speaker 1>like in heaven. I was like, this is everything. Oh

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<v Speaker 1>my gosh, this is amazing that it did. So when

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<v Speaker 1>I got home, I've been on a caviar search. I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just gonna get something whole fuck. So I literally

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<v Speaker 1>took a because so there is caviar offered that Whole

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<v Speaker 1>food Okay, there's a there's a section. Took a picture

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<v Speaker 1>of the section. I don't know what I'm doing, and

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<v Speaker 1>I send it to him and I was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>who is him? Jason? And I was because he cooks,

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<v Speaker 1>so he knows, he's got knowledge. And I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>which one should I buy? And he's like, none of those?

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<v Speaker 1>And then I was like, what you, Lyne, You don't

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<v Speaker 1>know what you're talking about. So I go back to

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<v Speaker 1>Whole Foods. This is leading up to recently. Okay, I

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<v Speaker 1>go back to Whole Foods and I asked the man

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<v Speaker 1>in the seafood section about the caviar. I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>which one is good? Because there's a range. There's something

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<v Speaker 1>that are fourteen dollars and there's something that are ninety

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<v Speaker 1>five dollars. But it's all the same size. Okay. He

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<v Speaker 1>was like, you might as well just get the fourteen

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<v Speaker 1>dollars one because I mean, it ain't no sense. It's

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<v Speaker 1>spending all that money. If you don't happy, I said, sir.

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<v Speaker 1>Sir said, sir, take money out of this conversation. Forget

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<v Speaker 1>they all at the same price. Which one is better

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<v Speaker 1>than the rest? He was like, I don't know, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know. I don't buy those other ones. I said,

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<v Speaker 1>kill me. So moving on. So I'm like, okay, Jason,

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<v Speaker 1>can you do some research? Can you like figure it out?

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<v Speaker 1>He was like, Giselle, we can't get caviar in this

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<v Speaker 1>country legally. And I was like what. He was like,

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<v Speaker 1>it's sold in Russia and it's illegal. Bluga caviar is

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<v Speaker 1>illegal in the United States. Okay. So I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>but you bought me the biggest ten I've ever seen,

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<v Speaker 1>like the huge one. Yeah. He's like, yeah, I got people.

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<v Speaker 1>So I was like, maybe I shouldn't tell say that

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<v Speaker 1>it was Jason. It was not Jason, because I don't

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<v Speaker 1>want to get him in trouble. This was a guy

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<v Speaker 1>that I'm dating and his name is he so Leroy

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<v Speaker 1>slash Henry on Valatiz's day gave me a huge thing

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<v Speaker 1>of caviar. So, okay, wait, did you sit there's caviar

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<v Speaker 1>at the restaurant. Oh yes, I don't know how they

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<v Speaker 1>get it. Nobody talks about how they get it. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>So the shady part is the freaking whole foods. Like

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<v Speaker 1>what the hell are y'all selling? So it's not so,

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<v Speaker 1>that's not so it's not real cavear. It's so, then

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<v Speaker 1>it's not. But it looks, it looks. I don't what.

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<v Speaker 1>I need to research it. So it's only a certain

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<v Speaker 1>type of caviar. You can't get here. You can't get

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<v Speaker 1>you can't don't get like the real good Cathy good

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<v Speaker 1>here in this country, supposedly according to Leroy. So and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm wanting the so actually the shady people of the Russians. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>we did not have to go into this fight with

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<v Speaker 1>Ukraine and the United States that got damn Putin. He's

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<v Speaker 1>messing up everything because I want my caviar. Is that

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<v Speaker 1>why it's illegal Putin? I'm gonna if it's Russia, we

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<v Speaker 1>just gotta blame Putin. Really, yeah, Russian is equal to Putin.

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<v Speaker 1>I need more information on this cavear. Well, that's just crazy.

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<v Speaker 1>And I am now like I told him, I told

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<v Speaker 1>Henry slash Leroy, he has created a monster because I

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<v Speaker 1>am the caviar queen. Really, yes, I'm loving it. What

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<v Speaker 1>does it taste like? M It's like okay, so we've

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<v Speaker 1>done it several ways, okay, and I'm talking about Cathy.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, so like you can have it like on

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<v Speaker 1>a cracker, just plane, or you can put butter on

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<v Speaker 1>the cracker and then put that on top. Oh so good.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like kind of salty, but like fishy. Yeah, the butter,

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<v Speaker 1>it like exacerbates the taste. I was being adventurous, so

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<v Speaker 1>we had sushi too, so I was like putting it

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<v Speaker 1>on top of the sushika. Oh my god, so good.

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<v Speaker 1>Like it's so good, Like what can I get a

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<v Speaker 1>it's close to what it's close to, like smoked salmon,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, maybe, but way better the consistencies like

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<v Speaker 1>baldly like we're moving on. But I'm a cavall, So

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<v Speaker 1>if anybody can give us so caviar information as to

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<v Speaker 1>where you all can ship some to me sneakedly the

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<v Speaker 1>good kind, feel free? Yeah, contact um carly Okay, yes,

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<v Speaker 1>the end. I know, I know we're gonna talk about traders,

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<v Speaker 1>but I do want to talk about one thing in

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<v Speaker 1>particular because I got kind of that was what is?

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<v Speaker 1>So what I cleared myself it's a problem. Yes, why

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<v Speaker 1>like what it's about to come out to own That's

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<v Speaker 1>what I want to know. Okay. So there was a

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<v Speaker 1>headline a couple of weeks ago and it said male

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<v Speaker 1>fertility specialists are concerned, huh that the average erect penis

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<v Speaker 1>length has increased, oh by twenty and scientists don't know why.

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<v Speaker 1>This is so intriguing to me. So all of these years,

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<v Speaker 1>penises have been whatever they've been, right, ranging from the

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<v Speaker 1>different people, right, and we have we have dispelled size

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<v Speaker 1>is equal to why? I know? Why tell me penis

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<v Speaker 1>sizes have grown? Right? Yes? Okay, so you know typically

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<v Speaker 1>they say, what black men have larger penises than white men,

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<v Speaker 1>right right, that's that's that's the word, or you know,

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<v Speaker 1>white men Asian man. Period. So as time goes on,

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<v Speaker 1>we have more interracial couples, okay, more by racial children,

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<v Speaker 1>by racial people, we have you know, more black people

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<v Speaker 1>kind of just the hour, I think if we look

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<v Speaker 1>at the population of our country, yes, and I wonder

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<v Speaker 1>if it's just a US study or is this like

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<v Speaker 1>a worldwide let me say, let's say, let's just keep

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<v Speaker 1>it to the US. Okay, So as we look at

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<v Speaker 1>the population of the US, it has changed, right, like

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<v Speaker 1>the demographics the numbers of you know, white people versus

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<v Speaker 1>you know, black people and in Latino people or whatever

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<v Speaker 1>people of color. All right, okay, so that number has

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<v Speaker 1>you know, shifted, shifted. So as the as we have

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<v Speaker 1>more people of color, yes, that equals big pleas have bigger, more,

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<v Speaker 1>bigger penises. Why haven't I promish you that's not it?

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't. It makes sense to me. That doesn't make sense. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>but let's let's even let's even know what makes sense?

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<v Speaker 1>No kind of but not really. So who's measuring the

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<v Speaker 1>penis is the scientists. It's just like you signed up

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<v Speaker 1>for Okay, they had a study, all right, Three three

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<v Speaker 1>thousand men signed up for this study over the course

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<v Speaker 1>of a year to measure penis sizes. That's what the

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<v Speaker 1>study is for. Or did they get this from like urologists.

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<v Speaker 1>But when you go to a neurologist, your penis is

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<v Speaker 1>not hard. One's never told me that the urologist has

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<v Speaker 1>measured his erect penis never Okay, so he goes because

0:15:30.120 --> 0:15:35.640
<v Speaker 1>his biological father had um, what's the cancer, prostate cancers?

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<v Speaker 1>So like he's like one is like on top of it.

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<v Speaker 1>So he visits his urologists. Okay, they've never measured, never

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<v Speaker 1>erect penis. Well this, this particular article said that they

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<v Speaker 1>believe it's caused by early puberty. So people are hitting

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<v Speaker 1>puberty early. Boys are hitting puberty earlier, they have more

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<v Speaker 1>time for their penis to grow. Maybe, okay, maybe, but

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<v Speaker 1>why is there early puberty because of the food, Because

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<v Speaker 1>of the hormones in the food. I think. So I

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<v Speaker 1>was gonna say that too, you were not. I was

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<v Speaker 1>Why don't you think I asked you that? Because I

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<v Speaker 1>was going to say, because it all hormones in the food. Well, listen,

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<v Speaker 1>all I can say is our children's children, the daughters,

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<v Speaker 1>they'll be happy every happy campers. Okay, I ain't at listen.

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<v Speaker 1>Twenty four percent that's like that's that's a quarter large.

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<v Speaker 1>So if you had a penis, that was like oh

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<v Speaker 1>oh wait wait wait In this article they said the

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<v Speaker 1>average penis size was like five inches. Wait erect that's

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<v Speaker 1>what they said, average erect penis sizes five inches, they said,

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<v Speaker 1>drastically increased over the past twenty years by twenty four percent. YadA, YadA, YadA. Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>It says, according to the study, the average length of

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<v Speaker 1>the erect penis across all areas and decades was roughly

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<v Speaker 1>five point five inches. Don't nobody want that five point

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<v Speaker 1>This is before the increase, or this is before the

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<v Speaker 1>increase after it might be I don't know ten point

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<v Speaker 1>seven Okay. I have a question for all of our

0:17:09.119 --> 0:17:11.560
<v Speaker 1>male listeners. I don't know if this is inappropriate or

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<v Speaker 1>well probably can you a message us and let us

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<v Speaker 1>know if you have measured your penis? All? Oh, is

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<v Speaker 1>that a thing? I feel like a boy like I

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<v Speaker 1>feel like sometime in their life all males have measured

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<v Speaker 1>their penis. I don't think so what really, you don't

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<v Speaker 1>like a teenage boy like? Okay, So imagine how they

0:17:30.359 --> 0:17:31.800
<v Speaker 1>would do that. They have to go get a ruler.

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<v Speaker 1>H huh, step one and then then it's erect and

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<v Speaker 1>then they're like putting a ruler next to it. Just

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<v Speaker 1>let us know, okay, if you all you know, if

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<v Speaker 1>you feel comfortable letting us know if at some point

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<v Speaker 1>in your life whether you were twelve or twenty two

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<v Speaker 1>or forty two? What you're working with? Have you measured

0:17:50.480 --> 0:17:52.359
<v Speaker 1>your penis? Yeah? Let us know what do you do

0:17:52.440 --> 0:17:55.320
<v Speaker 1>periodic penis checks? Like are you like, oh, it's my

0:17:55.400 --> 0:17:57.600
<v Speaker 1>penis the same size? Like, oh, is it getting bigger?

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<v Speaker 1>It's getting bigger? It has it gotten smaller? Older? And

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<v Speaker 1>if it is because of hormones? Are you do you

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<v Speaker 1>want to eat more McDonald's so you can have a

0:18:05.800 --> 0:18:10.200
<v Speaker 1>bigger petis? I need to know the answer to these questions. Okay, anyway,

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<v Speaker 1>let's we gotta talk about Traders because a couple of

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<v Speaker 1>months ago or a couple of weeks ago, I told

0:18:14.440 --> 0:18:16.879
<v Speaker 1>you about Traders. Yeah, you had not hit on the

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<v Speaker 1>one episode, right, Yeah? I saw one episode? Yes, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>so Traders Guys is on Peacock, the streaming service Peacock

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<v Speaker 1>ten episode you've you've now finished? I watched it, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>the whole thing. Yes? Were you dying on the last episode?

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, put me in coach like I would. Yes, Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>so you definitely want you want to be all season two? Yes?

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<v Speaker 1>You know it would be really cool if we both

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<v Speaker 1>did it. Yes, but I would know if you're lying, Robin, No,

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<v Speaker 1>you wouldn't Okay, maybe not No, Okay, do you know

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<v Speaker 1>how how crazy that would be cool? They would kick

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<v Speaker 1>us off so we get banished the first episode because

0:18:53.160 --> 0:18:55.480
<v Speaker 1>they'd be like these two all grow up to no good,

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<v Speaker 1>get them out of here, right, Okay? So this was,

0:18:59.359 --> 0:19:01.320
<v Speaker 1>this was and I don't want to spoil it for anybody,

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<v Speaker 1>but sorry, we're gonna spoil it. So the person at

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<v Speaker 1>the end that one, yeah, gangster, she played that game

0:19:07.680 --> 0:19:11.680
<v Speaker 1>gangster you know a DM turn. No, sure didn't, because

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<v Speaker 1>like I love when I see people do things in

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<v Speaker 1>there and I just want to give them like their

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<v Speaker 1>their cribs. Okay, DM, I'm gonna I'm gonna tell you

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<v Speaker 1>what I said. And she responded, Okay, um, it's it's

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<v Speaker 1>not like exciting, but like I gotta find it. Yeah, Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>When she kicked off the curly head guy, uh huh?

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<v Speaker 1>Were you like? I see you? I see you. You're

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<v Speaker 1>a bad bitch. Honestly, she did what I would have done, right,

0:19:42.880 --> 0:19:46.359
<v Speaker 1>She did what I would have done. Really, yes, because

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, you're a liability. You gotta go. You're in

0:19:50.240 --> 0:19:54.000
<v Speaker 1>such a liability, yeah, like you gotta go. She did

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<v Speaker 1>what I would have done. The whole time. She did

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<v Speaker 1>that last episode though, h that was that was I mean,

0:20:03.000 --> 0:20:04.880
<v Speaker 1>she had to do she had to listen that, but

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<v Speaker 1>it was so Gangstar like she was a goat. I know,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want to spoil it for people, but like

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<v Speaker 1>now I feel like we have spoiled it because we've okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I see, Okay. The one thing that would kind of

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<v Speaker 1>irritate me though, were the people who would be like

0:20:19.119 --> 0:20:21.080
<v Speaker 1>they were talking about some other person and they were like,

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<v Speaker 1>she said, it's just a game. She's got to be

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<v Speaker 1>a trader, right, And I'm like, you have you guys, Okay.

0:20:28.440 --> 0:20:30.600
<v Speaker 1>I had a couple of questions. One is everyone get

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<v Speaker 1>paid for just being on the show. I assume so, right,

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<v Speaker 1>So then that leads me to ask, do you get

0:20:37.600 --> 0:20:40.360
<v Speaker 1>paid the longer that you're there? A I assume so?

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<v Speaker 1>And like the guy at the end who was like,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm blessed, I'm good, I'll back out right, he was

0:20:47.119 --> 0:20:50.400
<v Speaker 1>basically saying I didn't I've made enough money on this show, right,

0:20:50.440 --> 0:20:53.960
<v Speaker 1>I'm good, but you still want that extra twenty five

0:20:54.240 --> 0:20:59.040
<v Speaker 1>hundred thousand dollars right twenty five? That's what I meant

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<v Speaker 1>to say. So I DM this person at because I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, I can't take it. I reach out to you.

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<v Speaker 1>So I DM John. I was like, just watched the

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<v Speaker 1>last episode of Traders. Exclamation point exclamation point unbelievably gangster,

0:21:15.280 --> 0:21:17.520
<v Speaker 1>is what I said to her. And then I said

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<v Speaker 1>I have to say this far goodbye Ari, and I

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<v Speaker 1>said you're the goat and all caps. She was like,

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<v Speaker 1>thank you, lady. Exclamation point, exclamation point exclamation point with

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<v Speaker 1>like ten hearts. Um her whole y'all have got to

0:21:34.040 --> 0:21:39.480
<v Speaker 1>see it, but her whole like demeanor, Yeah, so unassuming. Yeah,

0:21:39.560 --> 0:21:41.800
<v Speaker 1>So I feel like I can't go on there and

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<v Speaker 1>win because everybody's gonna know, just by the nature of

0:21:45.040 --> 0:21:48.080
<v Speaker 1>the fact that I'm like super shady individual that I'm

0:21:48.160 --> 0:21:52.600
<v Speaker 1>up to something, They're gonna they're just like they assumed

0:21:52.760 --> 0:21:57.720
<v Speaker 1>was like, um like resident Brandy and Kate the whole time.

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<v Speaker 1>You know what I'm saying, They're gonna Kate won by default,

0:22:00.200 --> 0:22:03.120
<v Speaker 1>like she was winning by default. Like, so I saw,

0:22:03.240 --> 0:22:05.359
<v Speaker 1>but they might do a thing where well, wait, well

0:22:05.400 --> 0:22:08.000
<v Speaker 1>we we knowed it just Zella Trader, but let's keep

0:22:08.000 --> 0:22:10.880
<v Speaker 1>her around, yeah, like Kate, Yeah, so that we don't

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<v Speaker 1>get voted off, you know. So I saw Kyle in

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<v Speaker 1>New York and I and the first thing I said

0:22:16.000 --> 0:22:17.479
<v Speaker 1>to him, I was like, y'all, I was watching Traders.

0:22:17.520 --> 0:22:19.960
<v Speaker 1>I was like, you figured it out. He was like, hell, yeah,

0:22:19.960 --> 0:22:22.439
<v Speaker 1>I figured it out, he said, but I couldn't figure

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<v Speaker 1>out how to how to make it work and how

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<v Speaker 1>to like tell people without it backfiring. So I couldn't

0:22:29.720 --> 0:22:31.760
<v Speaker 1>figure that part out, right because it's like the first seat,

0:22:31.880 --> 0:22:34.560
<v Speaker 1>first season, so you can't you just kind of just

0:22:34.920 --> 0:22:37.680
<v Speaker 1>you're winging it right. So but he yeah, he definitely

0:22:37.720 --> 0:22:40.119
<v Speaker 1>could tell. He's he was ready. Yeah, but you know

0:22:40.119 --> 0:22:42.200
<v Speaker 1>what I said. Okay, So watching the finale and how

0:22:42.240 --> 0:22:45.240
<v Speaker 1>they revealed, like how they how they would do their reveals,

0:22:45.600 --> 0:22:48.159
<v Speaker 1>they have to do them different the next episode, like

0:22:48.200 --> 0:22:52.640
<v Speaker 1>the next seasons, because you're gonna expect the last person

0:22:53.400 --> 0:22:55.560
<v Speaker 1>that goes to be the Trader, do you know what

0:22:55.560 --> 0:22:58.280
<v Speaker 1>I'm saying? Like, yes, so it yes, you know what

0:22:58.320 --> 0:22:59.600
<v Speaker 1>I mean. I'm like, they can't do it the same

0:22:59.600 --> 0:23:02.080
<v Speaker 1>way that they did it because you're going to expect

0:23:02.880 --> 0:23:05.440
<v Speaker 1>that they're gaving the Trader for last, right, you know

0:23:05.480 --> 0:23:07.919
<v Speaker 1>what I mean? Speaking of who's not a Trader, can

0:23:07.960 --> 0:23:11.040
<v Speaker 1>we talk about Britney Griner? Yeah, I was so excited

0:23:11.080 --> 0:23:14.240
<v Speaker 1>to see, like is she on the team? She signed

0:23:14.240 --> 0:23:16.600
<v Speaker 1>a one year deal with UM the Phoenix Mercury, so

0:23:16.640 --> 0:23:20.800
<v Speaker 1>she's back on the basketball court. Yeah, that is so

0:23:20.880 --> 0:23:23.680
<v Speaker 1>exciting her story. Can you imagine, like I want the

0:23:23.720 --> 0:23:26.080
<v Speaker 1>made for TV movie. I want like like what she

0:23:26.200 --> 0:23:30.600
<v Speaker 1>experienced and like, I mean, I just think about, like gosh,

0:23:30.600 --> 0:23:32.879
<v Speaker 1>what like thank God that she's home. Can you imagine

0:23:32.880 --> 0:23:36.680
<v Speaker 1>like she was there for a long time? Ten months, right, Yeah,

0:23:37.520 --> 0:23:39.880
<v Speaker 1>I thought it was a year. Okay, now whatever it

0:23:40.040 --> 0:23:42.320
<v Speaker 1>was was like way too long. But I wonder if

0:23:42.359 --> 0:23:45.240
<v Speaker 1>she we talked about this before, if she has made

0:23:45.240 --> 0:23:46.760
<v Speaker 1>a deal with the government that she's not going to

0:23:46.840 --> 0:23:49.480
<v Speaker 1>talk about I know, Yeah, I wonder that too. Yeah,

0:23:49.480 --> 0:23:54.680
<v Speaker 1>and probably so knowing Russia because she hasn't done an interview, true, yeah,

0:23:54.760 --> 0:23:59.639
<v Speaker 1>probably no Russia. Knowing the United States, Oh yeah, she

0:23:59.760 --> 0:24:04.400
<v Speaker 1>probably the Biden was probably like this part deal right

0:24:04.480 --> 0:24:07.919
<v Speaker 1>that we're getting high today, but she it's too controversial

0:24:07.960 --> 0:24:10.280
<v Speaker 1>to really talk about. Yeah, she can't talk about her experience,

0:24:10.280 --> 0:24:14.160
<v Speaker 1>like none of that. Yeah, yeah, that's too much. It

0:24:14.160 --> 0:24:17.040
<v Speaker 1>feels so good to be here, especially with my beautiful,

0:24:17.160 --> 0:24:21.600
<v Speaker 1>amazing wife and with all of y'all here today. I

0:24:21.640 --> 0:24:24.720
<v Speaker 1>want to thank everyone, and let's keep fighting the brain

0:24:24.840 --> 0:24:29.159
<v Speaker 1>home every American still detained overseas. Hopefully she can at

0:24:29.240 --> 0:24:31.200
<v Speaker 1>least just talk about her mental like how she's doing

0:24:31.280 --> 0:24:33.400
<v Speaker 1>and stuff like that. I would love to know how

0:24:33.440 --> 0:24:36.159
<v Speaker 1>she's doing and just just like and you know, just

0:24:36.280 --> 0:24:40.080
<v Speaker 1>obviously grateful that that situation is over, but you know,

0:24:40.119 --> 0:24:42.440
<v Speaker 1>the like the PTSD of it, like it's got to

0:24:42.480 --> 0:24:45.000
<v Speaker 1>be just right. But I'm I was really happy to

0:24:45.000 --> 0:24:46.879
<v Speaker 1>see that she's back on the basketball court because just

0:24:47.000 --> 0:24:49.720
<v Speaker 1>I know, you know, being around athletes all my life,

0:24:49.720 --> 0:24:51.800
<v Speaker 1>like I know that that sport is their life and

0:24:51.960 --> 0:24:55.280
<v Speaker 1>so and that is their way of coping with what

0:24:55.320 --> 0:24:57.560
<v Speaker 1>they've dealt with with life. You know, like Wam when

0:24:57.560 --> 0:25:00.119
<v Speaker 1>he was in high school, he lost his two parents

0:25:00.960 --> 0:25:06.440
<v Speaker 1>to AIDS and the basketball court was like he literally

0:25:06.520 --> 0:25:08.919
<v Speaker 1>like I can't remember his mom or his dad one

0:25:08.960 --> 0:25:10.960
<v Speaker 1>of them passed, and he literally played in a basketball

0:25:10.960 --> 0:25:13.159
<v Speaker 1>game like that night or the next day. Yeah, like

0:25:13.320 --> 0:25:16.760
<v Speaker 1>that's like their way of coping. And so for her, yes,

0:25:16.880 --> 0:25:18.760
<v Speaker 1>this is great that she can get back on the court,

0:25:19.040 --> 0:25:21.560
<v Speaker 1>take her mind off of it, do something that she loves.

0:25:21.680 --> 0:25:26.119
<v Speaker 1>But it's also important that she's getting that therapy yes,

0:25:26.160 --> 0:25:29.560
<v Speaker 1>because once the ball, you know, once the game is

0:25:29.560 --> 0:25:32.639
<v Speaker 1>over and she's not playing anymore or she is downtime,

0:25:32.800 --> 0:25:35.560
<v Speaker 1>then all that coming back. Yeah, all that negative stuff

0:25:35.560 --> 0:25:37.800
<v Speaker 1>just comes back. And I'm happy she's she's got her

0:25:37.800 --> 0:25:42.120
<v Speaker 1>wife yea, so hopefully she can be a great support system. Yeah, okay,

0:25:42.160 --> 0:25:45.840
<v Speaker 1>I have a question. Yeah, so you know about a

0:25:45.840 --> 0:25:48.000
<v Speaker 1>new car kind of I don't know, four months ago,

0:25:48.080 --> 0:25:51.080
<v Speaker 1>four five months ago. And the guy that sold me

0:25:51.160 --> 0:25:55.560
<v Speaker 1>the car, older white gentleman. This is what he's doing

0:25:56.040 --> 0:25:59.399
<v Speaker 1>in his retirement. He's like made his millions. He's he

0:25:59.480 --> 0:26:03.680
<v Speaker 1>loves cars. He's selling cars in his retirement. Ok So

0:26:04.560 --> 0:26:06.360
<v Speaker 1>he texts me the other day and he was like,

0:26:06.680 --> 0:26:08.480
<v Speaker 1>and he's a cool he's a cool guy. He texts

0:26:08.480 --> 0:26:12.439
<v Speaker 1>me he was like, yo, I gotta Matt Black, Gwagon,

0:26:12.800 --> 0:26:14.760
<v Speaker 1>Red and Terrior. If you know any of your friends

0:26:15.000 --> 0:26:18.879
<v Speaker 1>Ronin that wants to it's here. So I was like,

0:26:19.080 --> 0:26:21.280
<v Speaker 1>I was like, okay, I'll tell my friends. And then

0:26:21.280 --> 0:26:25.040
<v Speaker 1>he says, you know, how have you been. I was like, oh,

0:26:25.040 --> 0:26:27.400
<v Speaker 1>I'm good. This is all via text. He's like how

0:26:27.400 --> 0:26:29.680
<v Speaker 1>the girls. I was like, the girls are great. So

0:26:30.760 --> 0:26:35.640
<v Speaker 1>then he says, yeah, So right after I bought my car.

0:26:36.160 --> 0:26:38.600
<v Speaker 1>Maybe a couple of weeks later, I was in the

0:26:38.720 --> 0:26:42.919
<v Speaker 1>sushi spot and with the kids. He walks in with

0:26:42.960 --> 0:26:44.560
<v Speaker 1>his son, and well, I was like all excited to

0:26:44.600 --> 0:26:46.720
<v Speaker 1>see him. He comes over, he says, how to the girls,

0:26:46.800 --> 0:26:48.680
<v Speaker 1>by the way, when I bought the car. Of course,

0:26:48.720 --> 0:26:50.480
<v Speaker 1>at some point in time in the whole process, the

0:26:50.560 --> 0:26:53.720
<v Speaker 1>girls are in the dealership. They're like, let us see

0:26:53.800 --> 0:26:56.480
<v Speaker 1>what's going on. They're saying how to everybody. It was

0:26:56.560 --> 0:26:58.439
<v Speaker 1>just like they were having a meet and greet in

0:26:58.440 --> 0:27:01.800
<v Speaker 1>a freaking dealership, so everybody is like asking about the girls.

0:27:02.520 --> 0:27:04.200
<v Speaker 1>He was with his son. I said how to his son,

0:27:04.359 --> 0:27:06.520
<v Speaker 1>And then like when I went to go pay the bill,

0:27:06.560 --> 0:27:08.040
<v Speaker 1>they were like, oh no, the guy crossed the way

0:27:08.080 --> 0:27:10.720
<v Speaker 1>paid for y'all's foods. I was like, oh, you bought

0:27:10.720 --> 0:27:12.640
<v Speaker 1>food for me and my kids. I wish I would

0:27:12.640 --> 0:27:14.680
<v Speaker 1>have known. I would have ordered everything, right, But anyway,

0:27:14.880 --> 0:27:17.640
<v Speaker 1>I thought that was really nice. Right. So then at

0:27:17.640 --> 0:27:20.560
<v Speaker 1>the end of the text message, he's like, so you know,

0:27:20.600 --> 0:27:23.840
<v Speaker 1>we gotta go back to that sushi restaurant. Oh, he's

0:27:23.840 --> 0:27:27.760
<v Speaker 1>trying to take your date. So I said, oh, okay,

0:27:28.000 --> 0:27:29.440
<v Speaker 1>and he was like, let me know when you have time.

0:27:29.480 --> 0:27:32.200
<v Speaker 1>I'm sure, you're very busy. Oh my god. I was like, okay,

0:27:32.280 --> 0:27:37.679
<v Speaker 1>so it was it was a very soft yeah, ask

0:27:38.280 --> 0:27:42.520
<v Speaker 1>of is it a date? Yes, that's a date that yes?

0:27:43.080 --> 0:27:46.040
<v Speaker 1>Does that? So that's my question. A is it a date? B?

0:27:47.240 --> 0:27:49.080
<v Speaker 1>Because you know, white guys come at you and I

0:27:49.119 --> 0:27:53.399
<v Speaker 1>think and done, nobody come after me. Men approached women

0:27:53.600 --> 0:27:58.280
<v Speaker 1>culturally different. This is my experience. Black guys are like,

0:27:58.880 --> 0:28:02.480
<v Speaker 1>what up, hey, Aby, what you're doing? My friends go

0:28:02.560 --> 0:28:04.840
<v Speaker 1>with your shake like it's like you know, you get

0:28:04.880 --> 0:28:09.040
<v Speaker 1>all kinds of nonsense. And then this white man approach

0:28:09.359 --> 0:28:12.560
<v Speaker 1>very subtle, very subtle, Yeah, to the point where you

0:28:12.560 --> 0:28:16.560
<v Speaker 1>don't even know if it's a goddamn date, right, So um,

0:28:16.600 --> 0:28:19.560
<v Speaker 1>it was kind of slick. It wasn't slick, kind of

0:28:19.800 --> 0:28:22.080
<v Speaker 1>it sounded kind of slick. Well, when he when he

0:28:22.119 --> 0:28:24.840
<v Speaker 1>paid for our food that day, I was like, that

0:28:24.920 --> 0:28:28.000
<v Speaker 1>was a car from him. I bought a car from him, right,

0:28:28.040 --> 0:28:30.960
<v Speaker 1>So I'm like, it's a little bit of like your commission, right,

0:28:31.720 --> 0:28:34.840
<v Speaker 1>no big deal, but just being nice. Yeah, Okay, so

0:28:34.880 --> 0:28:36.359
<v Speaker 1>now that I know it's a date, that hope that

0:28:36.440 --> 0:28:39.880
<v Speaker 1>changes everything. So no, but see that would be really

0:28:39.920 --> 0:28:42.240
<v Speaker 1>you said he's older, Like how older is he? Because

0:28:42.280 --> 0:28:44.360
<v Speaker 1>then you have the whole spectrum. You got the older man,

0:28:44.480 --> 0:28:49.840
<v Speaker 1>the younger man. Um, he's I don't know. If I

0:28:49.840 --> 0:28:53.480
<v Speaker 1>had to get he has grown kids, like out of college, okay,

0:28:53.800 --> 0:28:55.760
<v Speaker 1>if I had to guess, I thought he was married.

0:28:57.040 --> 0:29:00.440
<v Speaker 1>I don't know. I'm going to totally put that on

0:29:00.720 --> 0:29:02.920
<v Speaker 1>Pauls because I don't even know what it is. But

0:29:02.960 --> 0:29:05.440
<v Speaker 1>I see him occasionally, because you know, I'm always in downtown,

0:29:05.600 --> 0:29:10.360
<v Speaker 1>but there's a he's fishing. He's fishing. If you say, okay, yes,

0:29:10.440 --> 0:29:12.680
<v Speaker 1>let's go to dinner or whatever, let's go get to she,

0:29:12.800 --> 0:29:17.840
<v Speaker 1>then that's like, oh okay, she's interested, oh wows. Or

0:29:17.880 --> 0:29:19.400
<v Speaker 1>maybe it was just like he just wants to like

0:29:19.720 --> 0:29:22.040
<v Speaker 1>chit chat with me because he thinks I'm cool. No,

0:29:22.840 --> 0:29:26.200
<v Speaker 1>he's I'm not really cool. Well, he thinks you're cool

0:29:26.240 --> 0:29:28.880
<v Speaker 1>and you're beautiful, okay, and he wants to get to

0:29:28.920 --> 0:29:31.880
<v Speaker 1>know you better her. Okay. I asked my kids and

0:29:31.920 --> 0:29:33.800
<v Speaker 1>they were like, I don't know. I was like, is

0:29:33.800 --> 0:29:35.840
<v Speaker 1>this a date? And they were like, I don't know.

0:29:36.040 --> 0:29:39.280
<v Speaker 1>You said he made his millions on me. Yeah, listen, listen,

0:29:39.440 --> 0:29:42.840
<v Speaker 1>we're gonna move on. I meant to talk to you

0:29:42.840 --> 0:29:46.640
<v Speaker 1>about that. I had something to say about traders to traders. Okay, sorry,

0:29:46.680 --> 0:29:51.920
<v Speaker 1>we got an email about traders. Yes, okay, please read

0:29:51.960 --> 0:29:58.000
<v Speaker 1>an email. Okay, so this is from Yvette Um. She said, hello,

0:29:58.200 --> 0:30:01.240
<v Speaker 1>I have some tea. After listening to last podcast episode,

0:30:01.240 --> 0:30:04.160
<v Speaker 1>I started to watch the show The Traders. Boy was

0:30:04.200 --> 0:30:07.920
<v Speaker 1>I surprised instantly after seeing my coworker on the show

0:30:08.040 --> 0:30:12.520
<v Speaker 1>and she was the winner. No way, yes, yeah, okay,

0:30:12.520 --> 0:30:15.160
<v Speaker 1>we're not gonna say her name. Yes, yes, talk about

0:30:15.240 --> 0:30:18.800
<v Speaker 1>someone living a double life. I would have never imagined

0:30:18.840 --> 0:30:20.800
<v Speaker 1>in a million years that she would be on a

0:30:20.840 --> 0:30:23.240
<v Speaker 1>show like this. And to sweeten the pot, I learned

0:30:23.280 --> 0:30:25.440
<v Speaker 1>she was also on Survivor in two thousand and eight.

0:30:25.640 --> 0:30:28.320
<v Speaker 1>I recently saw her at the airport looking incognito, and

0:30:28.360 --> 0:30:30.040
<v Speaker 1>she called me over and we learned we were both

0:30:30.080 --> 0:30:32.960
<v Speaker 1>going to the same destination. I walked away thinking, why

0:30:32.960 --> 0:30:35.800
<v Speaker 1>does she look so undercover? Now, I'm assuming she probably

0:30:35.840 --> 0:30:38.760
<v Speaker 1>didn't want to be recognized at the airport. Yes, none

0:30:38.760 --> 0:30:42.760
<v Speaker 1>of us do. But that's amazing. That's so cool though,

0:30:42.800 --> 0:30:45.080
<v Speaker 1>Like you turn it on, like, oh, let me see

0:30:45.120 --> 0:30:46.800
<v Speaker 1>the show that Robin and just I was talking about it,

0:30:46.800 --> 0:30:51.640
<v Speaker 1>and you see your co worker that's playing a whole game,

0:30:52.200 --> 0:30:55.280
<v Speaker 1>game game, and and go getting back to traders really

0:30:55.360 --> 0:30:57.920
<v Speaker 1>quickly there, um have you have you seen it? Carly?

0:30:58.200 --> 0:31:01.040
<v Speaker 1>So there? Just what do you call those things that

0:31:01.160 --> 0:31:05.560
<v Speaker 1>they do? The competitions, the challenges, the challenges, the hell

0:31:05.800 --> 0:31:08.920
<v Speaker 1>oh okay, remember you said about the one that you

0:31:08.960 --> 0:31:13.120
<v Speaker 1>would be like absolutely not. Yeah, with the um the rodents, yes,

0:31:13.320 --> 0:31:16.440
<v Speaker 1>and the bugs fall on their head and like I

0:31:16.960 --> 0:31:19.720
<v Speaker 1>watching it gave me the ebb of scratching. Yeah, that

0:31:20.400 --> 0:31:22.200
<v Speaker 1>I would have quit. Yeah, I would have said I've

0:31:22.240 --> 0:31:24.800
<v Speaker 1>had enough. But how about Kate with her one challenge

0:31:25.520 --> 0:31:28.600
<v Speaker 1>and she was kicking up sabotage the challenge and she's

0:31:28.640 --> 0:31:34.400
<v Speaker 1>still listen, Kate said, Kate, she's she originally is from

0:31:34.400 --> 0:31:37.400
<v Speaker 1>below Jack. She's a Bravo lab. She said, send me home,

0:31:37.480 --> 0:31:39.880
<v Speaker 1>y'all right, you please Spanish me kill me in the

0:31:39.920 --> 0:31:41.480
<v Speaker 1>middle of the night. She wanted to go home. She

0:31:41.560 --> 0:31:43.200
<v Speaker 1>was like, please kill me in the middle of the night.

0:31:44.840 --> 0:31:46.440
<v Speaker 1>And they were like, no, we're gonna keep it. We're

0:31:46.480 --> 0:31:53.040
<v Speaker 1>gonna keep you. Okay. Did you think so the curly

0:31:53.080 --> 0:31:57.400
<v Speaker 1>hair guy, Yeah, I thought. I really felt like the

0:31:57.480 --> 0:32:00.720
<v Speaker 1>producers told him to do that dumb that he did.

0:32:01.600 --> 0:32:03.800
<v Speaker 1>See I don't want Yeah, we gotta talk offline, but

0:32:03.840 --> 0:32:05.520
<v Speaker 1>you know what I'm talking about. Yeah, I know exactly

0:32:05.560 --> 0:32:07.040
<v Speaker 1>what you're talking about. It seemed like it was. It

0:32:07.080 --> 0:32:09.680
<v Speaker 1>was probably a producers discussion. But you know, anytime you

0:32:09.720 --> 0:32:11.640
<v Speaker 1>have a conversation with a producer, it's always on you

0:32:12.160 --> 0:32:15.080
<v Speaker 1>as to whether or not you want to fulfill the

0:32:15.120 --> 0:32:18.120
<v Speaker 1>producer requests, right, And I just want to let y'all

0:32:18.120 --> 0:32:20.760
<v Speaker 1>know half the time I tell them producers, no, I'm lyine.

0:32:20.800 --> 0:32:29.760
<v Speaker 1>I just go ahead on and do it. We're gonna

0:32:29.760 --> 0:32:31.920
<v Speaker 1>answer a couple more questions that y'all asked us on

0:32:32.200 --> 0:32:35.560
<v Speaker 1>ask us anything because I felt like they were good,

0:32:35.600 --> 0:32:37.360
<v Speaker 1>and I've been meaning to talk about this, so I

0:32:37.440 --> 0:32:40.320
<v Speaker 1>just so we're gonna do it now. It says, hi, ladies,

0:32:40.360 --> 0:32:45.120
<v Speaker 1>please talk in detail about your journey with fibroids. So

0:32:45.200 --> 0:32:47.920
<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna give you all the short version, because I

0:32:48.080 --> 0:32:51.600
<v Speaker 1>don't think we've talked about it right. We were saving it. No,

0:32:51.640 --> 0:32:53.960
<v Speaker 1>I don't think we've talked about it now. Okay, So

0:32:54.160 --> 0:32:57.400
<v Speaker 1>if you watch Potomac, I talk about the fact that

0:32:57.440 --> 0:33:00.480
<v Speaker 1>I have to have a hysterect to me. So about

0:33:00.520 --> 0:33:03.200
<v Speaker 1>two years ago, my doctors were monitoring me because my

0:33:03.240 --> 0:33:05.280
<v Speaker 1>five boards were I had like two or three five

0:33:05.280 --> 0:33:06.680
<v Speaker 1>boards and they were kind of like big, but not

0:33:06.760 --> 0:33:09.640
<v Speaker 1>really that big. And then, now, how did they know

0:33:09.680 --> 0:33:11.120
<v Speaker 1>that you have five words? Because they could when you

0:33:11.160 --> 0:33:13.520
<v Speaker 1>went for your annual, they could feel that they were

0:33:13.560 --> 0:33:15.520
<v Speaker 1>there or did you have some sort of complaint and

0:33:15.560 --> 0:33:18.160
<v Speaker 1>they both did a sonogram and all that type of

0:33:18.240 --> 0:33:20.440
<v Speaker 1>both they kind of could feel that something was going on,

0:33:21.200 --> 0:33:25.200
<v Speaker 1>and then sex was uncomfortable. Stuff was it was just weird.

0:33:26.000 --> 0:33:28.840
<v Speaker 1>So I had a sonogram and then and my doctor

0:33:28.920 --> 0:33:31.360
<v Speaker 1>was like they're there. They were like maybe two inches

0:33:31.440 --> 0:33:34.120
<v Speaker 1>or something like. She was like, they're gonna go away

0:33:34.160 --> 0:33:36.600
<v Speaker 1>or we're just gonna leave it alone. So after time

0:33:36.680 --> 0:33:39.680
<v Speaker 1>goes by, they had like blown up. They were like

0:33:39.800 --> 0:33:44.160
<v Speaker 1>nine ten inches or centimeters centimeters or centimeters. Yeah, yeah,

0:33:44.200 --> 0:33:47.280
<v Speaker 1>they were like I had a baby in my stuff, okay.

0:33:47.480 --> 0:33:49.600
<v Speaker 1>And they were in the uterine lining, so it's nowhere

0:33:49.640 --> 0:33:53.440
<v Speaker 1>you could get them out without tearing up my uterus.

0:33:54.360 --> 0:33:57.760
<v Speaker 1>So made the decision or not we The doctor said

0:33:57.800 --> 0:33:59.360
<v Speaker 1>you gonna have to get you uterus taken out and

0:33:59.400 --> 0:34:03.440
<v Speaker 1>I was like, what what you mean? And I was

0:34:03.560 --> 0:34:06.880
<v Speaker 1>very traumatized just because that I equate that to being

0:34:06.880 --> 0:34:11.959
<v Speaker 1>a woman, as most women do. But my doctor was like,

0:34:12.520 --> 0:34:15.760
<v Speaker 1>you have three kids, now you're gonna have more. No,

0:34:16.480 --> 0:34:19.560
<v Speaker 1>so it's gonna go right, and we're gonna keep your

0:34:19.560 --> 0:34:23.279
<v Speaker 1>ovaries so that you don't like go into full blown menopause.

0:34:23.520 --> 0:34:28.319
<v Speaker 1>Oh so the day came, you don't still get a period? No, no,

0:34:28.360 --> 0:34:30.239
<v Speaker 1>you can't get a period. No, okay, right, because that's

0:34:30.760 --> 0:34:36.200
<v Speaker 1>period free. Okay, yay, nice, Okay, that's over. I threw

0:34:36.280 --> 0:34:39.080
<v Speaker 1>my um tampons and pads at my kids. I said,

0:34:39.280 --> 0:34:44.879
<v Speaker 1>have fun. No, I didn't do that rude anyway. So

0:34:45.400 --> 0:34:47.920
<v Speaker 1>that day they told us gonna be like a three

0:34:47.920 --> 0:34:50.480
<v Speaker 1>and a half hour surgery. My sister was with me.

0:34:50.920 --> 0:34:53.480
<v Speaker 1>She was contacting Robin and a couple other friends of

0:34:53.480 --> 0:34:54.960
<v Speaker 1>mine to make sure because you know, when you have

0:34:55.000 --> 0:34:56.880
<v Speaker 1>a friend that's going in a surgery, it's always like,

0:34:57.560 --> 0:34:59.759
<v Speaker 1>what's going on? What's going on? And there? What can

0:34:59.800 --> 0:35:02.160
<v Speaker 1>I do? Well, not that, but it's like, you know,

0:35:02.360 --> 0:35:05.040
<v Speaker 1>it could be touch and gold because they're like knocked out.

0:35:05.200 --> 0:35:07.920
<v Speaker 1>And anyway, my doctors got in there and it was

0:35:07.920 --> 0:35:10.400
<v Speaker 1>a disaster. They didn't know what the hell they were seeing.

0:35:10.640 --> 0:35:15.280
<v Speaker 1>My uterus was connected to my bladder via scar tissue

0:35:16.080 --> 0:35:19.080
<v Speaker 1>because of my C section when I had the twins

0:35:19.360 --> 0:35:22.239
<v Speaker 1>sixteen years ago. So scar tissue just kind of like

0:35:22.239 --> 0:35:25.319
<v Speaker 1>grows in your body any kind of way, and it

0:35:26.000 --> 0:35:28.600
<v Speaker 1>and I had been peeing weird for like years and

0:35:28.680 --> 0:35:30.840
<v Speaker 1>didn't put and didn't know what do you mean weird?

0:35:31.239 --> 0:35:33.240
<v Speaker 1>I had to like pee all the time, like only

0:35:33.239 --> 0:35:36.400
<v Speaker 1>in the morning, okay, And then I was p free,

0:35:36.440 --> 0:35:38.040
<v Speaker 1>like I don't I mean, it was just something was

0:35:38.080 --> 0:35:40.720
<v Speaker 1>going on my bladder and I just thought it was normal.

0:35:40.880 --> 0:35:44.640
<v Speaker 1>That was just how I am. So surgery ended up

0:35:44.640 --> 0:35:46.920
<v Speaker 1>being like eight and a half hours. It scared everybody

0:35:46.920 --> 0:35:50.279
<v Speaker 1>to death. Robin, who doesn't get concerned about anything, was

0:35:50.320 --> 0:35:56.359
<v Speaker 1>concerned about me. And thank god she you know, she

0:35:56.520 --> 0:36:01.600
<v Speaker 1>is a human guys. And but long story short, is

0:36:01.600 --> 0:36:03.439
<v Speaker 1>the best thing that I've ever could have done. Yeah,

0:36:03.680 --> 0:36:06.360
<v Speaker 1>because I feel I'm not blow I was feeling bloated.

0:36:06.600 --> 0:36:10.400
<v Speaker 1>Yeah for two years you never looked bloated, but I

0:36:10.760 --> 0:36:14.160
<v Speaker 1>mean I felt that, yeah, it's gone. It's And I

0:36:14.360 --> 0:36:17.040
<v Speaker 1>know there's other ways of handling five boys. There's like

0:36:17.120 --> 0:36:20.319
<v Speaker 1>ablasion and all these other ways. I feel like, if

0:36:20.480 --> 0:36:22.040
<v Speaker 1>if you're at a place where you don't want any

0:36:22.120 --> 0:36:26.399
<v Speaker 1>more children, and the ablazing works, but I think they

0:36:26.400 --> 0:36:29.279
<v Speaker 1>can come back and you just don't want that. I

0:36:29.360 --> 0:36:31.160
<v Speaker 1>just want to get rid of it. I'm very happy

0:36:31.160 --> 0:36:35.680
<v Speaker 1>with my decision. And so what else differences in like

0:36:35.719 --> 0:36:40.319
<v Speaker 1>how you feel are there? I feel like a little

0:36:40.360 --> 0:36:45.280
<v Speaker 1>sexually it's great. Um, And I don't know why. Okay,

0:36:45.320 --> 0:36:48.680
<v Speaker 1>first of all, after you have it done the way

0:36:48.680 --> 0:36:50.520
<v Speaker 1>that they have to sell you back up, you cannot

0:36:50.680 --> 0:36:54.840
<v Speaker 1>have anything in the vagina, they say for so I

0:36:55.040 --> 0:36:57.200
<v Speaker 1>think it was like my doctor said, like six weeks

0:36:58.040 --> 0:37:01.239
<v Speaker 1>or eight weeks. Maybe it was six weeks okay, like

0:37:01.280 --> 0:37:04.279
<v Speaker 1>a baby, right. So I went to my six week

0:37:04.400 --> 0:37:06.239
<v Speaker 1>checkup and she like felt and did a bunch of

0:37:06.239 --> 0:37:08.640
<v Speaker 1>stuff and she was like, yep, six more weeks. Oh.

0:37:08.680 --> 0:37:11.520
<v Speaker 1>I was like, what are you talking about? So she

0:37:11.680 --> 0:37:15.239
<v Speaker 1>was like, yeah, you're not really healed up. So I said,

0:37:15.320 --> 0:37:18.760
<v Speaker 1>oh god. And she said, and when you do decide

0:37:18.920 --> 0:37:22.359
<v Speaker 1>puts something up in there, you have to be very gentle. Yeah.

0:37:22.360 --> 0:37:25.880
<v Speaker 1>And I was like, that's not what I'm gonna do.

0:37:26.960 --> 0:37:31.080
<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna get rick rickety row anyway, So long story short,

0:37:31.160 --> 0:37:33.800
<v Speaker 1>it's just I don't know. I just feel comfortable with everything.

0:37:34.360 --> 0:37:38.919
<v Speaker 1>I feel lighter. I feel like I shouldn't. I had

0:37:39.000 --> 0:37:40.920
<v Speaker 1>like I felt like I had toxins in my body

0:37:41.800 --> 0:37:45.920
<v Speaker 1>and they're they're gone, so I feel better. Did it

0:37:45.960 --> 0:37:48.000
<v Speaker 1>affect I mean you always had like it, you always

0:37:48.040 --> 0:37:50.640
<v Speaker 1>seem to have like high energy. But did it affect anything,

0:37:50.920 --> 0:37:53.719
<v Speaker 1>you know, as far as your energy or your you know,

0:37:53.960 --> 0:37:56.560
<v Speaker 1>your mood or anything. No, No, not my energy. But

0:37:56.560 --> 0:38:01.200
<v Speaker 1>but it was like working out, my stomach wouldn't go down. Okay,

0:38:01.960 --> 0:38:05.359
<v Speaker 1>so that's that's been removed. Yeah, So mentally I just

0:38:05.440 --> 0:38:07.839
<v Speaker 1>was like pissed off because I'm doing all this working

0:38:07.840 --> 0:38:13.120
<v Speaker 1>out stomach still big. So yes, to answer all the questions,

0:38:13.280 --> 0:38:16.279
<v Speaker 1>I'm happy that I did it. Um, you know, I

0:38:16.320 --> 0:38:19.399
<v Speaker 1>am over fifty the age of fifty, so for me,

0:38:20.160 --> 0:38:22.200
<v Speaker 1>it was the right move. I know that some women

0:38:22.200 --> 0:38:24.719
<v Speaker 1>who are younger are still trying to have children it

0:38:24.800 --> 0:38:27.279
<v Speaker 1>might not be right. But if if you're over fifty, yeah,

0:38:27.400 --> 0:38:29.959
<v Speaker 1>get that thing taken out and throw that thing straight

0:38:29.960 --> 0:38:32.400
<v Speaker 1>in the trash can. Yeah. And just I mean I

0:38:32.760 --> 0:38:36.560
<v Speaker 1>assume you know everyone is going to their regular checkups

0:38:36.560 --> 0:38:38.400
<v Speaker 1>and stuff, but like if you're not pleased, do so,

0:38:38.600 --> 0:38:41.759
<v Speaker 1>because you know your doctor can pretty much detect that

0:38:41.800 --> 0:38:45.880
<v Speaker 1>type of stuff. You know, how how they changed, like

0:38:46.040 --> 0:38:48.040
<v Speaker 1>getting a PAP smear from like every one year to

0:38:48.120 --> 0:38:51.359
<v Speaker 1>every three years two or is it two or three?

0:38:51.440 --> 0:38:54.080
<v Speaker 1>They'd be changed check three every year, right, so it's

0:38:54.160 --> 0:38:57.600
<v Speaker 1>paps every three years. But which makes people think you

0:38:57.680 --> 0:39:00.680
<v Speaker 1>don't need to go to your doctor. You only have

0:39:00.719 --> 0:39:03.560
<v Speaker 1>to go to your doctor every three years. My doctor's like,

0:39:03.600 --> 0:39:07.319
<v Speaker 1>I'm it's so frustrated at that advice because she's like, no,

0:39:07.360 --> 0:39:10.080
<v Speaker 1>you still need to come every year and get examined

0:39:10.200 --> 0:39:12.680
<v Speaker 1>and get checked out. So you know, if you're not

0:39:12.719 --> 0:39:15.200
<v Speaker 1>going to your doctor every year, please go yes, and

0:39:15.200 --> 0:39:17.879
<v Speaker 1>and thank god nothing was cancerous because they do check

0:39:17.920 --> 0:39:22.160
<v Speaker 1>for everything to make sure it's not so robin. This

0:39:22.239 --> 0:39:25.160
<v Speaker 1>is for me and you will you discourage your children

0:39:25.200 --> 0:39:29.440
<v Speaker 1>from pledging a fraternity of sorority. So you know, it's

0:39:29.480 --> 0:39:33.080
<v Speaker 1>funny when um my father's a Kappa, he's in a fraternity.

0:39:33.800 --> 0:39:37.680
<v Speaker 1>I'm in a sorority. I'm a Delta. And when woman's

0:39:37.680 --> 0:39:41.239
<v Speaker 1>at Maryland. He played basketball Maryland and he wanted to

0:39:41.280 --> 0:39:44.960
<v Speaker 1>pledge Kappa, like he actually that thought came into his

0:39:45.040 --> 0:39:48.759
<v Speaker 1>head and I was like, no, do not do it

0:39:48.920 --> 0:39:53.439
<v Speaker 1>because he's on the basketball team. There's like anyone. First

0:39:53.440 --> 0:39:56.359
<v Speaker 1>of all, it's hard enough being a student period, right,

0:39:56.719 --> 0:40:00.480
<v Speaker 1>it's super hard being a student athlete. It's hard being

0:40:00.520 --> 0:40:05.720
<v Speaker 1>a student who's pledging a fraternity or sorority. The thought

0:40:05.719 --> 0:40:08.840
<v Speaker 1>of him being a student athlete who's pledging a fraternity.

0:40:08.880 --> 0:40:11.080
<v Speaker 1>All at the same time, I was like, no, you're

0:40:11.120 --> 0:40:13.440
<v Speaker 1>going to ruin. Like I knew, because I know what

0:40:13.520 --> 0:40:16.719
<v Speaker 1>goes into it. I said that time, um, you know,

0:40:16.719 --> 0:40:19.279
<v Speaker 1>I knew it would go into it. How much time

0:40:19.280 --> 0:40:21.280
<v Speaker 1>it would take, How he would be up all night?

0:40:21.320 --> 0:40:23.920
<v Speaker 1>He maybe, And I said no, absolutely not like what

0:40:25.360 --> 0:40:28.960
<v Speaker 1>but Robin, they would have they would have his older brothers, yeah,

0:40:29.160 --> 0:40:31.080
<v Speaker 1>big brothers, whatever. They would have allowed him to, like

0:40:31.320 --> 0:40:33.759
<v Speaker 1>go to practice, go to his games, do everything he's

0:40:33.760 --> 0:40:37.480
<v Speaker 1>supposed to do. No, I mean yes, I mean yeah, yeah,

0:40:37.480 --> 0:40:39.000
<v Speaker 1>they would have allowed him go to practice. But he

0:40:39.040 --> 0:40:42.920
<v Speaker 1>would have been extremely tired. His grades would have suffered.

0:40:42.960 --> 0:40:44.760
<v Speaker 1>Like he would have been. He would have been a kappa.

0:40:44.840 --> 0:40:47.759
<v Speaker 1>He would have been stepping. Yeah. I wouldn't say yo

0:40:47.800 --> 0:40:51.239
<v Speaker 1>fa no yo baby Ye, he'd have been baby yo.

0:40:51.480 --> 0:40:53.919
<v Speaker 1>He had his cane, he'd be trawing it around, he'd

0:40:53.960 --> 0:40:57.279
<v Speaker 1>be thrawing it right here. How he really wouldn't but

0:40:57.600 --> 0:40:59.920
<v Speaker 1>he wouldn't know. But I was like, no, no, I'm sorry.

0:41:00.000 --> 0:41:04.319
<v Speaker 1>There's that you stepped on his dreams. I wasn't a dream.

0:41:04.480 --> 0:41:08.120
<v Speaker 1>It was just like a thought, like okay, I say,

0:41:08.200 --> 0:41:10.000
<v Speaker 1>like he really wanted to do it really bad, but

0:41:10.040 --> 0:41:12.360
<v Speaker 1>I was just like, no. So anyway, if my children

0:41:12.480 --> 0:41:17.640
<v Speaker 1>are UM college athletes, then absolutely not, they're not. What

0:41:18.000 --> 0:41:21.799
<v Speaker 1>so listen, no, you gotta you need to keep your scholarship,

0:41:21.880 --> 0:41:26.960
<v Speaker 1>your your athletic scholarship. These coaches they're they're they're not

0:41:27.000 --> 0:41:29.080
<v Speaker 1>going to allow They're not gonna be pledging them to

0:41:29.120 --> 0:41:32.680
<v Speaker 1>the point where they're gonna lose their scholarship. Come on, now, okay,

0:41:32.800 --> 0:41:35.840
<v Speaker 1>this is twenty twenty three, those days over, well, I

0:41:35.840 --> 0:41:37.719
<v Speaker 1>don't know. I'm sorry. I want them to focus on

0:41:37.920 --> 0:41:40.600
<v Speaker 1>keeping their scholarship. So what about your girls? Yeah? Absolutely,

0:41:40.840 --> 0:41:45.319
<v Speaker 1>okay AKA if they even utter adele or a tough,

0:41:46.520 --> 0:41:50.239
<v Speaker 1>it's a no. The end. It's so funny because I

0:41:50.280 --> 0:41:53.520
<v Speaker 1>told I talked the other day about UM. I took

0:41:53.520 --> 0:41:55.960
<v Speaker 1>Angel on the door to Hampton and of course I'm

0:41:56.000 --> 0:41:57.640
<v Speaker 1>like looking for my little sore wroars, I'm looking for

0:41:57.719 --> 0:42:01.479
<v Speaker 1>a pink in a green and no I didn't see

0:42:01.520 --> 0:42:05.200
<v Speaker 1>not nare one. And I was so towards the end

0:42:05.520 --> 0:42:09.640
<v Speaker 1>of the tour I told them the dean of emissions,

0:42:09.680 --> 0:42:11.200
<v Speaker 1>I was like, I was hoping to see my little

0:42:11.440 --> 0:42:13.480
<v Speaker 1>sore Wars. She was like, oh, you pledge, what are you?

0:42:13.520 --> 0:42:15.720
<v Speaker 1>I was like, uh, because she's she was a Delta,

0:42:16.160 --> 0:42:19.360
<v Speaker 1>I was like, m whatever, I said, I'm an aka,

0:42:19.480 --> 0:42:21.320
<v Speaker 1>like I want to see my little pinky green people.

0:42:21.680 --> 0:42:24.280
<v Speaker 1>And so by the end of it they found somebody

0:42:24.480 --> 0:42:26.920
<v Speaker 1>come and say hi to me. Okay, that was so funny.

0:42:27.000 --> 0:42:28.520
<v Speaker 1>So you know it. Now, since we're on the topic

0:42:28.520 --> 0:42:32.160
<v Speaker 1>of Sobrits, we've got another question. Ashley asked, I'd love

0:42:32.200 --> 0:42:34.359
<v Speaker 1>to hear what y'all have to say about belonging to

0:42:34.400 --> 0:42:36.800
<v Speaker 1>a black sority. Seems like black soritis are so different

0:42:36.800 --> 0:42:41.080
<v Speaker 1>than white sorities. So Ashley's white. Also more about Jessy

0:42:41.120 --> 0:42:44.000
<v Speaker 1>as a mom because their girls are so amazing. So yes,

0:42:44.120 --> 0:42:48.120
<v Speaker 1>the experience. So I went to a predominantly white institution.

0:42:48.200 --> 0:42:50.880
<v Speaker 1>I went to University of Maryland, So when you know,

0:42:50.960 --> 0:42:53.160
<v Speaker 1>you can, I can definitely see the difference between the

0:42:53.200 --> 0:42:56.680
<v Speaker 1>black sororities and the white sorities. Yes, one of the

0:42:56.760 --> 0:43:02.160
<v Speaker 1>main differences, honestly is more so going into like adulthood,

0:43:02.680 --> 0:43:05.759
<v Speaker 1>where you know, I pledged, Delta Sigma Data sorority, and

0:43:05.840 --> 0:43:08.000
<v Speaker 1>I am a delta for life, and so I can

0:43:08.400 --> 0:43:12.640
<v Speaker 1>continue in my you know, participating in my sorority, in

0:43:12.719 --> 0:43:15.319
<v Speaker 1>my graduate chapter and my alumni chapter as we call

0:43:15.360 --> 0:43:17.600
<v Speaker 1>it um, for the rest of my life. Like you know,

0:43:17.680 --> 0:43:20.319
<v Speaker 1>So like where the white sororities, it's like they go

0:43:20.360 --> 0:43:23.000
<v Speaker 1>to college a pledge of sority and then it's over.

0:43:23.120 --> 0:43:25.759
<v Speaker 1>It's over. Like it's not that they're you know, no

0:43:25.800 --> 0:43:28.680
<v Speaker 1>longer a member of that sority, but they don't continue

0:43:29.239 --> 0:43:33.000
<v Speaker 1>like their membership kind of in that sority. It's just

0:43:33.080 --> 0:43:36.799
<v Speaker 1>kind of like a temporary thing. Um. I mean, that's

0:43:36.800 --> 0:43:39.920
<v Speaker 1>like one of the big differences. And then you know,

0:43:40.040 --> 0:43:46.240
<v Speaker 1>our sororities are rooted in like community service, social you know, activism,

0:43:46.280 --> 0:43:49.720
<v Speaker 1>and you know we have we have like purposes for

0:43:50.200 --> 0:43:52.879
<v Speaker 1>we do what we do. We're not just like a

0:43:53.200 --> 0:43:56.560
<v Speaker 1>social club. Yes, you know, we're not just there to party.

0:43:56.600 --> 0:43:59.279
<v Speaker 1>We're there to serve the community. We're there to like

0:43:59.480 --> 0:44:03.680
<v Speaker 1>you know, trying to create change. And um, I know,

0:44:03.880 --> 0:44:08.080
<v Speaker 1>my sorority was really big in the women's suffrage movement

0:44:09.280 --> 0:44:12.479
<v Speaker 1>and you know back whatever years years ago to help

0:44:12.920 --> 0:44:15.600
<v Speaker 1>get women the right to vote. So it's like stuff

0:44:15.640 --> 0:44:18.440
<v Speaker 1>like that like, we actually have more of a purpose

0:44:18.480 --> 0:44:21.640
<v Speaker 1>I will say, outside of just being social and my sorority,

0:44:21.480 --> 0:44:25.759
<v Speaker 1>the Aks, we get people into the White House. So um, yeah,

0:44:25.800 --> 0:44:29.680
<v Speaker 1>there's that. Kamala Harris is a member of my sorority, yes,

0:44:29.800 --> 0:44:32.560
<v Speaker 1>the VP. Anyway, moving on to okay, so this is

0:44:32.640 --> 0:44:39.640
<v Speaker 1>interesting not Robin's sorority. So Robin this lady Jean Jean

0:44:39.920 --> 0:44:42.560
<v Speaker 1>Pierre wants to know what keeps our friendships so solid?

0:44:43.000 --> 0:44:47.320
<v Speaker 1>Oh that's a gen. Jen Jim was on the podcast

0:44:47.360 --> 0:44:50.400
<v Speaker 1>with us. Oh why is she asking a stupid question?

0:44:51.560 --> 0:44:55.080
<v Speaker 1>Wait a minute, Not okay, because she knows us right right,

0:44:55.280 --> 0:44:58.160
<v Speaker 1>But I think, you know, I think that's a good

0:44:58.239 --> 0:45:01.839
<v Speaker 1>question because as we you know, as you might see

0:45:01.960 --> 0:45:04.359
<v Speaker 1>on a you know, TV show, or as you just

0:45:04.480 --> 0:45:07.080
<v Speaker 1>ventured through your adulthood, like you see, you see that

0:45:07.280 --> 0:45:12.000
<v Speaker 1>keeping friends is not easy. Oh so that's true. Yeah,

0:45:12.120 --> 0:45:15.080
<v Speaker 1>I think we're honest with each other. Yeah. I think

0:45:15.400 --> 0:45:17.040
<v Speaker 1>I get on your nerves and you just deal with

0:45:17.080 --> 0:45:25.880
<v Speaker 1>it the end. Yeah, Um, you know, I don't know.

0:45:26.000 --> 0:45:28.319
<v Speaker 1>I think I don't know. I think I'm a good

0:45:28.320 --> 0:45:30.040
<v Speaker 1>friend to like my friends. I guess, yes, it's I

0:45:30.040 --> 0:45:32.960
<v Speaker 1>think you just have to know, like who your friends

0:45:33.000 --> 0:45:35.400
<v Speaker 1>are and the type of friendship you are going to

0:45:35.480 --> 0:45:37.719
<v Speaker 1>get out of them. So, like I saw this really

0:45:37.760 --> 0:45:39.440
<v Speaker 1>good post did I save it? It was like you

0:45:39.480 --> 0:45:42.640
<v Speaker 1>should have seven different types of friends. Maybe we should.

0:45:42.840 --> 0:45:44.320
<v Speaker 1>I don't know. We could say that for another podcast,

0:45:44.520 --> 0:45:46.520
<v Speaker 1>but it was like, you know, a friend to hang

0:45:46.560 --> 0:45:49.560
<v Speaker 1>out with, A friend that makes you laugh, a friend

0:45:49.800 --> 0:45:51.879
<v Speaker 1>you know that you tell your secrets to, You tell

0:45:51.880 --> 0:45:54.400
<v Speaker 1>your secrets to a friend that you ask for advice

0:45:54.440 --> 0:45:55.680
<v Speaker 1>a friend, you know what I mean. And so I

0:45:55.719 --> 0:45:58.400
<v Speaker 1>just feel like when you know the type of friend

0:45:58.440 --> 0:46:03.239
<v Speaker 1>that that friend is, then when they aren't doing the

0:46:03.280 --> 0:46:05.440
<v Speaker 1>other things that they aren't, you're not upset about it,

0:46:05.600 --> 0:46:07.480
<v Speaker 1>you know what I mean. It's like managing your expectations

0:46:07.480 --> 0:46:10.239
<v Speaker 1>between your friends that Yeah, I like that, okay, And

0:46:10.320 --> 0:46:14.360
<v Speaker 1>not all friends are created equal exactly, yesh. Yeah, but

0:46:14.400 --> 0:46:17.840
<v Speaker 1>I just think our friendship, like we have a similar

0:46:17.880 --> 0:46:20.760
<v Speaker 1>sense of humor. Yeah, we don't take ourselves too seriously.

0:46:21.000 --> 0:46:24.480
<v Speaker 1>Now we have kind of been on the receiving end,

0:46:24.719 --> 0:46:26.760
<v Speaker 1>you know, not just from the show, but just throughout

0:46:26.800 --> 0:46:29.799
<v Speaker 1>our life of the same type of scrutiny, yes, and

0:46:29.960 --> 0:46:32.000
<v Speaker 1>so we kind of have developed the same type of

0:46:32.040 --> 0:46:37.239
<v Speaker 1>like hard shell um where like we just look at

0:46:37.280 --> 0:46:39.759
<v Speaker 1>life a little bit differently than other people might. Yeah.

0:46:39.760 --> 0:46:43.719
<v Speaker 1>And that's so like where I could probably like say

0:46:43.800 --> 0:46:46.080
<v Speaker 1>something to you, I could probably say something to you

0:46:46.120 --> 0:46:48.120
<v Speaker 1>that's not going to hurt your feelings, And I might

0:46:48.160 --> 0:46:50.080
<v Speaker 1>say that the same thing to Carly and it might

0:46:50.160 --> 0:46:52.120
<v Speaker 1>hurt her feelings. Do you know what I mean? So

0:46:52.160 --> 0:46:54.959
<v Speaker 1>it's like I mean, but we pay Carly the big bucks,

0:46:54.960 --> 0:47:00.120
<v Speaker 1>so she doesn't have feelings. Okay, there's that. I that

0:47:00.200 --> 0:47:02.120
<v Speaker 1>I've ever heard carle Fro. Maybe I haven't yet, Yeah

0:47:02.200 --> 0:47:06.040
<v Speaker 1>I heard, so I we play with the big bart.

0:47:08.760 --> 0:47:10.000
<v Speaker 1>But you know what I say, I don't know. I

0:47:10.040 --> 0:47:12.080
<v Speaker 1>just I don't know. I just think. You know, when

0:47:12.120 --> 0:47:15.120
<v Speaker 1>you have friends that you click with, your click with them? Yeah, no,

0:47:15.239 --> 0:47:17.239
<v Speaker 1>I agree, I agree. All right, So we were gonna

0:47:17.280 --> 0:47:19.160
<v Speaker 1>do a reason? Is it reasonable or is it shady?

0:47:19.280 --> 0:47:21.919
<v Speaker 1>Do we have time for one? We have a whole bunch.

0:47:23.239 --> 0:47:25.320
<v Speaker 1>I want to do this one. I thought, Okay, pretty interesting.

0:47:25.520 --> 0:47:30.760
<v Speaker 1>Um it was actually um sent to me and day

0:47:30.840 --> 0:47:34.640
<v Speaker 1>oh yes, I liked the dms. So the question is

0:47:34.719 --> 0:47:36.880
<v Speaker 1>it reasonable or is it shady for a This is

0:47:36.920 --> 0:47:40.760
<v Speaker 1>from a guy from a female close friend to consistently

0:47:41.120 --> 0:47:45.160
<v Speaker 1>vocalize their disdain for male gay people when her male

0:47:45.320 --> 0:47:49.040
<v Speaker 1>best friend is also gay. Why am I the exception?

0:47:49.719 --> 0:47:52.200
<v Speaker 1>Wait a minute, he gay? He's gay, Okay, everybody's gay here.

0:47:52.960 --> 0:47:55.920
<v Speaker 1>He's gaya, she's not. That's like one of his like

0:47:56.000 --> 0:48:00.359
<v Speaker 1>female best friends. Okay um, And she vocalized, is her

0:48:00.440 --> 0:48:05.040
<v Speaker 1>disdain for male gay people? Why she do that? That's shady? Right?

0:48:05.480 --> 0:48:09.919
<v Speaker 1>So I was like, I got questions. Okay, okay, okay,

0:48:09.960 --> 0:48:12.080
<v Speaker 1>what's the question. I'm like, how long have y'all been friends?

0:48:12.120 --> 0:48:13.840
<v Speaker 1>And can you tell me an example of something? She

0:48:13.880 --> 0:48:16.560
<v Speaker 1>would say, oh, you asked, Yeah, okay. I was like this,

0:48:16.680 --> 0:48:21.200
<v Speaker 1>I'm like what that is? I mean, why are we friends? Here? Right? Right?

0:48:21.880 --> 0:48:24.880
<v Speaker 1>This is from Will. So he said, we've been friends

0:48:24.880 --> 0:48:27.719
<v Speaker 1>for roughly eleven years. She loves to tell me, I

0:48:27.840 --> 0:48:29.920
<v Speaker 1>love you as a person, but I don't agree or

0:48:29.920 --> 0:48:33.319
<v Speaker 1>support that lifestyle. He married a man in November, and

0:48:33.360 --> 0:48:35.680
<v Speaker 1>she made up an excuse not to attend the wedding,

0:48:35.880 --> 0:48:38.839
<v Speaker 1>which was she gave birth in September and wasn't sure

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<v Speaker 1>how her healing process was going to be. After the wedding,

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<v Speaker 1>her father came in town to visit her and saw

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<v Speaker 1>his saved the date on her refrigerator, and that made

0:48:47.760 --> 0:48:50.960
<v Speaker 1>him upset, and she couldn't wait to tell him what

0:48:51.080 --> 0:48:54.520
<v Speaker 1>her father said. He said, I heard the first disparaging

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<v Speaker 1>comment and immediately told her to stop. I said, I

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<v Speaker 1>respect you, I respect your father's opinion, but I don't

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<v Speaker 1>need to hear it. And then she brings it up

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<v Speaker 1>again and stuff like that. So then I was like, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>were you openly gay when you two first met and

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<v Speaker 1>became friends? And he said he was not. He said

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<v Speaker 1>she actually she actually flirted with me a lot when

0:49:12.520 --> 0:49:14.719
<v Speaker 1>we met through mutual friends. I was uncomfortable side to

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<v Speaker 1>tell her, so she was sad. So she's mad that

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<v Speaker 1>he's gay because she wants to date them. Right, So

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, is there a jealousy there? Because I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>but if they've been friends for eleven years, I think

0:49:23.120 --> 0:49:25.960
<v Speaker 1>you know I'm the majority of their friendship. He was

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<v Speaker 1>openly gay, right, I'm just like, they're not friends there,

0:49:30.719 --> 0:49:33.560
<v Speaker 1>that's not your friend. A friend supports you, right, A

0:49:33.560 --> 0:49:35.799
<v Speaker 1>friend would show up at your wedding even if she

0:49:35.840 --> 0:49:38.759
<v Speaker 1>didn't feel like that's what she believes. Right, you still

0:49:38.760 --> 0:49:40.279
<v Speaker 1>show up when you support you and you keep your

0:49:40.280 --> 0:49:43.200
<v Speaker 1>mouth shut, yes, like you wouldn't right, even if that

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't like I think as a friend, if that's something

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<v Speaker 1>that she doesn't believe or whatever, I think as a friend,

0:49:50.680 --> 0:49:54.279
<v Speaker 1>it's on her to try to get to a place

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<v Speaker 1>of understanding, right, Right, And so maybe that's a different

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<v Speaker 1>type of conversation with him, you know what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 1>If it's something that she's just stuck on and she's

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<v Speaker 1>really appreciates his friendship doesn't approve of the lifestyle, well,

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<v Speaker 1>let me learn, let me figure out, let me learn

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<v Speaker 1>how to accept. Can you like teach me? Help me?

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<v Speaker 1>But like, as a friend, you don't sit there and

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<v Speaker 1>continuously tell him I don't respect your lifestyle. My father

0:50:17.520 --> 0:50:21.640
<v Speaker 1>don't respect it. And that's ridiculous, right, he needs the curb.

0:50:21.760 --> 0:50:25.799
<v Speaker 1>That's not your friend. She's shady. Yeah, and don't look back, right.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like I still need more. I'm like, okay, so,

0:50:28.840 --> 0:50:31.759
<v Speaker 1>how how does this friendship fulfill him? Like? I need

0:50:31.800 --> 0:50:33.960
<v Speaker 1>more information? You know, I'm right? How are you even

0:50:33.960 --> 0:50:37.520
<v Speaker 1>still friends? How? Like? What else is there going on

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<v Speaker 1>in the friendship that makes you even want to be father? Yeah?

0:50:41.239 --> 0:50:45.400
<v Speaker 1>And I'm sure whoever he's marrying can't standa right, So

0:50:45.480 --> 0:50:48.359
<v Speaker 1>that's friction, right, And I'm sure she was jealous with that.

0:50:48.400 --> 0:50:50.719
<v Speaker 1>I mean, it's just this, but if she's pregnant having

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<v Speaker 1>a baby, she has her own life, she's got her

0:50:52.400 --> 0:50:55.400
<v Speaker 1>own relationship clearly. But yeah, I don't know. I'm just

0:50:55.520 --> 0:51:00.399
<v Speaker 1>I've rather I said, what's a big anything that makes

0:51:00.480 --> 0:51:03.719
<v Speaker 1>zero sense? Yeah, I mean that would be the same, Like,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, It's like that'd be like if I

0:51:06.080 --> 0:51:09.600
<v Speaker 1>was mad that Cow doesn't like me, and then he's

0:51:09.640 --> 0:51:12.720
<v Speaker 1>got a boo and I don't like his boo because

0:51:12.840 --> 0:51:15.640
<v Speaker 1>Cow's then acting gay or whatever. I don't know. I

0:51:15.640 --> 0:51:18.720
<v Speaker 1>don't know, Like I just can't see in any world

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<v Speaker 1>where a friend feels it's okay to tell someone that

0:51:22.160 --> 0:51:24.719
<v Speaker 1>they don't approve of their lifestyle. When this it's not

0:51:24.800 --> 0:51:27.279
<v Speaker 1>like it's not like he's like robbing a bank, like

0:51:27.320 --> 0:51:30.960
<v Speaker 1>he's a bank robber, or you know, even he's you know,

0:51:31.400 --> 0:51:33.560
<v Speaker 1>he's doing drugs or he's drinking alcohol. Like this is

0:51:33.600 --> 0:51:35.399
<v Speaker 1>nothing that he can change, you know what I'm saying.

0:51:35.480 --> 0:51:37.440
<v Speaker 1>It's not like so I'm just like, what is the

0:51:37.520 --> 0:51:40.400
<v Speaker 1>point here? I don't know. I don't like it. He

0:51:40.480 --> 0:51:44.200
<v Speaker 1>needs to run run. Yeah, yes, and that is our episode, guys.

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