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Speaker 1: Welcome to Reasonably Shady, a production of the Black Effect

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Speaker 1: podcast Network and iHeartRadio. Welcome to another episode of Reasonably Shady.

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Speaker 1: I am Jell Bryant. What's up? What's up y'all? This

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Speaker 1: Robin Dixon? Thank you again for being here. Yes, yes,

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Speaker 1: so good to see you. Robin. Yes, you too, I

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Speaker 1: mean you just you know, a bright ball of sunshine. Really, yes,

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Speaker 1: you don't feel that, you don't feel your your bright

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Speaker 1: ball of sunshiness? Is it because I'm pale? Because I

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Speaker 1: didn't say that. I think that's I'm just I was

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Speaker 1: referring to your energy, okay, is very sunshiny and bright

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Speaker 1: and you know, just uplifts people. You're welcome. Hallelujah. Thank you.

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Speaker 1: Wait a minute, speaking of this is so off the cuff.

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Speaker 1: So I took my kids to twins to Hampton University,

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Speaker 1: which I went. I grab. I'm a graduate of Hampton University.

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Speaker 1: It's an HBC. You get into it. It's one of

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Speaker 1: the best, Thank you very much. Anyway, I went to

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Speaker 1: Hampton at a private tour for them. Nice. I guess

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Speaker 1: the dean of admissions did her research and figured out

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Speaker 1: who their father is. So our tour guide was the

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Speaker 1: kid on campus who's a minister and training so and literally,

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Speaker 1: oh my god, was like once he figured I mean, yeah,

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Speaker 1: he knew who we were, but like seven minutes into

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Speaker 1: the tour, yeah, he was like, um, you know, Pastor

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Speaker 1: Brian is my favorite pastor and oh my gosh. At

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Speaker 1: some point, you know, can I talk to him? I said,

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Speaker 1: I just immediately faced time Jamal. I was like, Jamal,

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Speaker 1: this is your number one fan right here. And the

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Speaker 1: boy did a shout, like a holy girld shout. He

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Speaker 1: was like kicking his legs kicking, like are going I

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Speaker 1: don't promise you. He made me screenshot the FaceTime of

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Speaker 1: him talking to Jamal, Oh my god and send it

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Speaker 1: to him. Okay, last, but not least, so towards the

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Speaker 1: end of the day, where this kid all day and

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Speaker 1: by the way, this kid is phenomenal, Like he is

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Speaker 1: hands down gonna change the world one day. Okay, okay.

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Speaker 1: So I had stepped out of the room at some

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Speaker 1: point and he was showing my kids that he has

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Speaker 1: an app. He has a preaching app. So if you

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Speaker 1: press a button, it'll give you the background music. It's like, dumb,

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Speaker 1: he can just start preaching. And so he was like

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Speaker 1: he made fun of Jamal's preaching. I was on the

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Speaker 1: floor laughing. Okay, so, oh my god. Then he was like,

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Speaker 1: all right, I want to show y'all video I preached

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Speaker 1: my Applebee's order. He was like, can I get the

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Speaker 1: twelve we with the side out of ice tea? Oh

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Speaker 1: my god? Okay, okay, does he want to be a

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Speaker 1: preacher or an actor? Listen that close? But it was,

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Speaker 1: it was he was amazing. Anyway, how do we start

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Speaker 1: talking about that? Because you said, well, would he do

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Speaker 1: it for some because you said I was a ball

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Speaker 1: of sunshine? I don't know. Okay, wait, so I so

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Speaker 1: since you were saying that, how do your kids feel

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Speaker 1: about like when people instantly want to start talking about

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Speaker 1: like church or preaching or like you know what I'm saying,

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Speaker 1: when they treat them like they think they want to like, um, okay,

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Speaker 1: so my kids will very much smile on your face

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Speaker 1: and entertain you. But because they are preachers children, yeah,

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Speaker 1: they don't want to hear that, right, Yeah, Like their

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Speaker 1: father doesn't even talk to them that way. Right. So

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Speaker 1: I don't want to say it's a turn off, but

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Speaker 1: it's like nothing that they're entertained about, like that they

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Speaker 1: want to discuss. But they'll still be nice about it. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: they'll they'll still be very nice. But um, the twins

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Speaker 1: will Grace might tell you stop talking. Okay, but they

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Speaker 1: but this guy, you know, you overlooked it because this

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Speaker 1: guy was just so dynamic on so many levels. So anyway, um,

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Speaker 1: reasonably shady moment, do you have one of the week? Okay.

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Speaker 1: So so the other day, I'm driving in the car

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Speaker 1: with my kids and my father calls me, and I

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Speaker 1: have my phone connected to the bluetooth, the speakers and

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Speaker 1: all that type of stuff. I hate that. That makes

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Speaker 1: me so nervous, I know, right, you never know what

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Speaker 1: they're gonna say, yeah, or like I might be on

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Speaker 1: a dating that somebody else calls. Oh, I don't do

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Speaker 1: that anymore, but yeah if yeah, back in the dead.

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Speaker 1: Definitely got to disconnect the bluetooth. Anyway. So so my

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Speaker 1: father calls and he's like, oh, Robin, I'm watching the news.

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Speaker 1: I'm listening to them talk about China and Russia and

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Speaker 1: what in Ukraine and you know, North Korea, and I

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Speaker 1: just want to tell you, you you know, to tell the

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Speaker 1: kids to make sure that they're doing their school work,

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Speaker 1: make sure that they are, you know, getting good grades

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Speaker 1: and you know, doing well in school, because if they

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Speaker 1: gotta if there's gonna be a World War three and

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Speaker 1: they gotta draft, the military has to draft people. You know,

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Speaker 1: they want to be doing good in school. So because

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Speaker 1: they're they're going to draft to people that aren't doing

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Speaker 1: the arts, they got to draft the D students, not

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Speaker 1: the A students. Okay, I don't think it works that way,

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Speaker 1: but I'm pretty sure this is not working that way.

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Speaker 1: He's like, you know what I mean, if they just

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Speaker 1: stay in school and you know, go, you don't get

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Speaker 1: their education. But you know, if they're not in school

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Speaker 1: they're not doing well, then you know, I just you know,

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Speaker 1: I just I just just just tell them, just tell

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Speaker 1: them just to do good in school, am I. They're

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Speaker 1: like in the car listening to this, like they're like,

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Speaker 1: what is he talking about? Like, because they have no

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Speaker 1: concept of the draft, right, they're like, pop, Pap is turban.

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Speaker 1: So after that, we get home the next few days,

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Speaker 1: like anytime Biden is on the news talking about Ukraine,

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Speaker 1: they are like, Okay, well, what does that mean they're

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Speaker 1: gonna be? Are we gonna be? What do you mean?

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Speaker 1: China said that they're like literally watching every headline on

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Speaker 1: the team. Listen, those kids, they're about to be drafted.

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Speaker 1: And I'm like, are you scared that we're going to

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Speaker 1: go to war? He's like yeah. I'm like, oh my god,

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Speaker 1: but are they a students? Be students? I mean they're

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Speaker 1: a and B Okay, Carter, maybe you see. I don't know,

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Speaker 1: but like I'm sure first of all, you can explain

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Speaker 1: to them we have a military. Well, but my father

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Speaker 1: seems to think if our military has to go up

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Speaker 1: against Russia, we need every miner in North Korea at

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Speaker 1: the same time that we are in trouble, and they

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Speaker 1: we have to go back to the draft. Okay, because

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Speaker 1: he was drafted, he said, you know he oh he was, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I know what he said. But my father he wasn't

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Speaker 1: like was that an embellishment? Your father's not drafted? I

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Speaker 1: think he was. He said he did something he wasn't

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Speaker 1: like on the you know, on the field, shooting people. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: he was like a medical person. Oh, but but they did.

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Speaker 1: He had to go. He had to go. Okay, Okay, Well,

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Speaker 1: so that is so he has PTSD from the draft.

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Speaker 1: I got that is he does not what his grandkids

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Speaker 1: at least he has a good memory. Okay, he does,

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Speaker 1: you know, but I want you to tell him he

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Speaker 1: has nothing to do with what their grades are. As dude,

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Speaker 1: who gets drafted. Okay, I'm like, you a whole doctor

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Speaker 1: and you got drafted. Hey, So so honestly, I think

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Speaker 1: they should actually probably become like the d students. They

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Speaker 1: gonna leave these students out because they don't know how

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Speaker 1: to follow instructions or something. I don't know. I'm hilarious. Yes, well,

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Speaker 1: my reasonably shady moment of the week is not that

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Speaker 1: horrific or tragic and anyway, uh and yeah, and I

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Speaker 1: hope that never happens. I celebrated Valentine's Day, yes, and

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Speaker 1: I guess I didn't get a Teddy Bear, but I

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Speaker 1: was kind of wishing I did. Teddy bears are so cute. Anyway,

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Speaker 1: I got caviar. One of the things I got was caviar, like,

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Speaker 1: because you know, we've been going to some restaurants and

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Speaker 1: they've been offering caviar. Like one of the old places

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Speaker 1: that we went to, the Guesthouse um in New York,

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Speaker 1: they have avocado with like caviar on time. It's the

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Speaker 1: best thing ever. So and he cooks. So anyway, we

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Speaker 1: tore us caviar up. Oh my god, like I was

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Speaker 1: like in heaven. I was like, this is everything. Oh

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Speaker 1: my gosh, this is amazing that it did. So when

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Speaker 1: I got home, I've been on a caviar search. I'm like,

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Speaker 1: I'm just gonna get something whole fuck. So I literally

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Speaker 1: took a because so there is caviar offered that Whole

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Speaker 1: food Okay, there's a there's a section. Took a picture

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Speaker 1: I send it to him and I was like, oh,

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Speaker 1: who is him? Jason? And I was because he cooks,

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Speaker 1: so he knows, he's got knowledge. And I was like,

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Speaker 1: which one should I buy? And he's like, none of those?

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Speaker 1: And then I was like, what you, Lyne, You don't

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Speaker 1: know what you're talking about. So I go back to

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Speaker 1: Whole Foods. This is leading up to recently. Okay, I

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Speaker 1: in the seafood section about the caviar. I was like,

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Speaker 1: which one is good? Because there's a range. There's something

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Speaker 1: that are fourteen dollars and there's something that are ninety

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Speaker 1: five dollars. But it's all the same size. Okay. He

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Speaker 1: spending all that money. If you don't happy, I said, sir.

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Speaker 1: Sir said, sir, take money out of this conversation. Forget

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Speaker 1: they all at the same price. Which one is better

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Speaker 1: than the rest? He was like, I don't know, I

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Speaker 1: He was like, Giselle, we can't get caviar in this

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Speaker 1: it's sold in Russia and it's illegal. Bluga caviar is

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Speaker 1: illegal in the United States. Okay. So I was like,

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Speaker 1: but you bought me the biggest ten I've ever seen,

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Speaker 1: So I was like, maybe I shouldn't tell say that

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Speaker 1: it was Jason. It was not Jason, because I don't

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Speaker 1: want to get him in trouble. This was a guy

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Speaker 1: that I'm dating and his name is he so Leroy

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Speaker 1: slash Henry on Valatiz's day gave me a huge thing

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Speaker 1: of caviar. So, okay, wait, did you sit there's caviar

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Speaker 1: at the restaurant. Oh yes, I don't know how they

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Speaker 1: get it. Nobody talks about how they get it. Okay,

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Speaker 1: So the shady part is the freaking whole foods. Like

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Speaker 1: what the hell are y'all selling? So it's not so,

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Speaker 1: that's not so it's not real cavear. It's so, then

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Speaker 1: it's not. But it looks, it looks. I don't what.

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Speaker 1: I need to research it. So it's only a certain

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Speaker 1: type of caviar. You can't get here. You can't get

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Speaker 1: you can't don't get like the real good Cathy good

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Speaker 1: here in this country, supposedly according to Leroy. So and

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Speaker 1: I'm wanting the so actually the shady people of the Russians. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: we did not have to go into this fight with

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Speaker 1: Ukraine and the United States that got damn Putin. He's

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Speaker 1: messing up everything because I want my caviar. Is that

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Speaker 1: why it's illegal Putin? I'm gonna if it's Russia, we

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Speaker 1: just gotta blame Putin. Really, yeah, Russian is equal to Putin.

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Speaker 1: I need more information on this cavear. Well, that's just crazy.

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Speaker 1: And I am now like I told him, I told

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Speaker 1: Henry slash Leroy, he has created a monster because I

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Speaker 1: am the caviar queen. Really, yes, I'm loving it. What

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Speaker 1: done it several ways, okay, and I'm talking about Cathy.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, so like you can have it like on

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Speaker 1: one episode, right, Yeah? I saw one episode? Yes, okay,

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Speaker 1: probably no Russia. Knowing the United States, Oh yeah, she

418
00:23:59,760 --> 00:24:04,400
Speaker 1: probably the Biden was probably like this part deal right

419
00:24:04,480 --> 00:24:07,919
Speaker 1: that we're getting high today, but she it's too controversial

420
00:24:07,960 --> 00:24:10,280
Speaker 1: to really talk about. Yeah, she can't talk about her experience,

421
00:24:10,280 --> 00:24:14,160
Speaker 1: like none of that. Yeah, yeah, that's too much. It

422
00:24:14,160 --> 00:24:17,040
Speaker 1: feels so good to be here, especially with my beautiful,

423
00:24:17,160 --> 00:24:21,600
Speaker 1: amazing wife and with all of y'all here today. I

424
00:24:21,640 --> 00:24:24,720
Speaker 1: want to thank everyone, and let's keep fighting the brain

425
00:24:24,840 --> 00:24:29,159
Speaker 1: home every American still detained overseas. Hopefully she can at

426
00:24:29,240 --> 00:24:31,200
Speaker 1: least just talk about her mental like how she's doing

427
00:24:31,280 --> 00:24:33,400
Speaker 1: and stuff like that. I would love to know how

428
00:24:33,440 --> 00:24:36,159
Speaker 1: she's doing and just just like and you know, just

429
00:24:36,280 --> 00:24:40,080
Speaker 1: obviously grateful that that situation is over, but you know,

430
00:24:40,119 --> 00:24:42,440
Speaker 1: the like the PTSD of it, like it's got to

431
00:24:42,480 --> 00:24:45,000
Speaker 1: be just right. But I'm I was really happy to

432
00:24:45,000 --> 00:24:46,879
Speaker 1: see that she's back on the basketball court because just

433
00:24:47,000 --> 00:24:49,720
Speaker 1: I know, you know, being around athletes all my life,

434
00:24:49,720 --> 00:24:51,800
Speaker 1: like I know that that sport is their life and

435
00:24:51,960 --> 00:24:55,280
Speaker 1: so and that is their way of coping with what

436
00:24:55,320 --> 00:24:57,560
Speaker 1: they've dealt with with life. You know, like Wam when

437
00:24:57,560 --> 00:25:00,119
Speaker 1: he was in high school, he lost his two parents

438
00:25:00,960 --> 00:25:06,440
Speaker 1: to AIDS and the basketball court was like he literally

439
00:25:06,520 --> 00:25:08,919
Speaker 1: like I can't remember his mom or his dad one

440
00:25:08,960 --> 00:25:10,960
Speaker 1: of them passed, and he literally played in a basketball

441
00:25:10,960 --> 00:25:13,159
Speaker 1: game like that night or the next day. Yeah, like

442
00:25:13,320 --> 00:25:16,760
Speaker 1: that's like their way of coping. And so for her, yes,

443
00:25:16,880 --> 00:25:18,760
Speaker 1: this is great that she can get back on the court,

444
00:25:19,040 --> 00:25:21,560
Speaker 1: take her mind off of it, do something that she loves.

445
00:25:21,680 --> 00:25:26,119
Speaker 1: But it's also important that she's getting that therapy yes,

446
00:25:26,160 --> 00:25:29,560
Speaker 1: because once the ball, you know, once the game is

447
00:25:29,560 --> 00:25:32,639
Speaker 1: over and she's not playing anymore or she is downtime,

448
00:25:32,800 --> 00:25:35,560
Speaker 1: then all that coming back. Yeah, all that negative stuff

449
00:25:35,560 --> 00:25:37,800
Speaker 1: just comes back. And I'm happy she's she's got her

450
00:25:37,800 --> 00:25:42,120
Speaker 1: wife yea, so hopefully she can be a great support system. Yeah, okay,

451
00:25:42,160 --> 00:25:45,840
Speaker 1: I have a question. Yeah, so you know about a

452
00:25:45,840 --> 00:25:48,000
Speaker 1: new car kind of I don't know, four months ago,

453
00:25:48,080 --> 00:25:51,080
Speaker 1: four five months ago. And the guy that sold me

454
00:25:51,160 --> 00:25:55,560
Speaker 1: the car, older white gentleman. This is what he's doing

455
00:25:56,040 --> 00:25:59,399
Speaker 1: in his retirement. He's like made his millions. He's he

456
00:25:59,480 --> 00:26:03,680
Speaker 1: loves cars. He's selling cars in his retirement. Ok So

457
00:26:04,560 --> 00:26:06,360
Speaker 1: he texts me the other day and he was like,

458
00:26:06,680 --> 00:26:08,480
Speaker 1: and he's a cool he's a cool guy. He texts

459
00:26:08,480 --> 00:26:12,439
Speaker 1: me he was like, yo, I gotta Matt Black, Gwagon,

460
00:26:12,800 --> 00:26:14,760
Speaker 1: Red and Terrior. If you know any of your friends

461
00:26:15,000 --> 00:26:18,879
Speaker 1: Ronin that wants to it's here. So I was like,

462
00:26:19,080 --> 00:26:21,280
Speaker 1: I was like, okay, I'll tell my friends. And then

463
00:26:21,280 --> 00:26:25,040
Speaker 1: he says, you know, how have you been. I was like, oh,

464
00:26:25,040 --> 00:26:27,400
Speaker 1: I'm good. This is all via text. He's like how

465
00:26:27,400 --> 00:26:29,680
Speaker 1: the girls. I was like, the girls are great. So

466
00:26:30,760 --> 00:26:35,640
Speaker 1: then he says, yeah, So right after I bought my car.

467
00:26:36,160 --> 00:26:38,600
Speaker 1: Maybe a couple of weeks later, I was in the

468
00:26:38,720 --> 00:26:42,919
Speaker 1: sushi spot and with the kids. He walks in with

469
00:26:42,960 --> 00:26:44,560
Speaker 1: his son, and well, I was like all excited to

470
00:26:44,600 --> 00:26:46,720
Speaker 1: see him. He comes over, he says, how to the girls,

471
00:26:46,800 --> 00:26:48,680
Speaker 1: by the way, when I bought the car. Of course,

472
00:26:48,720 --> 00:26:50,480
Speaker 1: at some point in time in the whole process, the

473
00:26:50,560 --> 00:26:53,720
Speaker 1: girls are in the dealership. They're like, let us see

474
00:26:53,800 --> 00:26:56,480
Speaker 1: what's going on. They're saying how to everybody. It was

475
00:26:56,560 --> 00:26:58,439
Speaker 1: just like they were having a meet and greet in

476
00:26:58,440 --> 00:27:01,800
Speaker 1: a freaking dealership, so everybody is like asking about the girls.

477
00:27:02,520 --> 00:27:04,200
Speaker 1: He was with his son. I said how to his son,

478
00:27:04,359 --> 00:27:06,520
Speaker 1: And then like when I went to go pay the bill,

479
00:27:06,560 --> 00:27:08,040
Speaker 1: they were like, oh no, the guy crossed the way

480
00:27:08,080 --> 00:27:10,720
Speaker 1: paid for y'all's foods. I was like, oh, you bought

481
00:27:10,720 --> 00:27:12,640
Speaker 1: food for me and my kids. I wish I would

482
00:27:12,640 --> 00:27:14,680
Speaker 1: have known. I would have ordered everything, right, But anyway,

483
00:27:14,880 --> 00:27:17,640
Speaker 1: I thought that was really nice. Right. So then at

484
00:27:17,640 --> 00:27:20,560
Speaker 1: the end of the text message, he's like, so you know,

485
00:27:20,600 --> 00:27:23,840
Speaker 1: we gotta go back to that sushi restaurant. Oh, he's

486
00:27:23,840 --> 00:27:27,760
Speaker 1: trying to take your date. So I said, oh, okay,

487
00:27:28,000 --> 00:27:29,440
Speaker 1: and he was like, let me know when you have time.

488
00:27:29,480 --> 00:27:32,200
Speaker 1: I'm sure, you're very busy. Oh my god. I was like, okay,

489
00:27:32,280 --> 00:27:37,679
Speaker 1: so it was it was a very soft yeah, ask

490
00:27:38,280 --> 00:27:42,520
Speaker 1: of is it a date? Yes, that's a date that yes?

491
00:27:43,080 --> 00:27:46,040
Speaker 1: Does that? So that's my question. A is it a date? B?

492
00:27:47,240 --> 00:27:49,080
Speaker 1: Because you know, white guys come at you and I

493
00:27:49,119 --> 00:27:53,399
Speaker 1: think and done, nobody come after me. Men approached women

494
00:27:53,600 --> 00:27:58,280
Speaker 1: culturally different. This is my experience. Black guys are like,

495
00:27:58,880 --> 00:28:02,480
Speaker 1: what up, hey, Aby, what you're doing? My friends go

496
00:28:02,560 --> 00:28:04,840
Speaker 1: with your shake like it's like you know, you get

497
00:28:04,880 --> 00:28:09,040
Speaker 1: all kinds of nonsense. And then this white man approach

498
00:28:09,359 --> 00:28:12,560
Speaker 1: very subtle, very subtle, Yeah, to the point where you

499
00:28:12,560 --> 00:28:16,560
Speaker 1: don't even know if it's a goddamn date, right, So um,

500
00:28:16,600 --> 00:28:19,560
Speaker 1: it was kind of slick. It wasn't slick, kind of

501
00:28:19,800 --> 00:28:22,080
Speaker 1: it sounded kind of slick. Well, when he when he

502
00:28:22,119 --> 00:28:24,840
Speaker 1: paid for our food that day, I was like, that

503
00:28:24,920 --> 00:28:28,000
Speaker 1: was a car from him. I bought a car from him, right,

504
00:28:28,040 --> 00:28:30,960
Speaker 1: So I'm like, it's a little bit of like your commission, right,

505
00:28:31,720 --> 00:28:34,840
Speaker 1: no big deal, but just being nice. Yeah, Okay, so

506
00:28:34,880 --> 00:28:36,359
Speaker 1: now that I know it's a date, that hope that

507
00:28:36,440 --> 00:28:39,880
Speaker 1: changes everything. So no, but see that would be really

508
00:28:39,920 --> 00:28:42,240
Speaker 1: you said he's older, Like how older is he? Because

509
00:28:42,280 --> 00:28:44,360
Speaker 1: then you have the whole spectrum. You got the older man,

510
00:28:44,480 --> 00:28:49,840
Speaker 1: the younger man. Um, he's I don't know. If I

511
00:28:49,840 --> 00:28:53,480
Speaker 1: had to get he has grown kids, like out of college, okay,

512
00:28:53,800 --> 00:28:55,760
Speaker 1: if I had to guess, I thought he was married.

513
00:28:57,040 --> 00:29:00,440
Speaker 1: I don't know. I'm going to totally put that on

514
00:29:00,720 --> 00:29:02,920
Speaker 1: Pauls because I don't even know what it is. But

515
00:29:02,960 --> 00:29:05,440
Speaker 1: I see him occasionally, because you know, I'm always in downtown,

516
00:29:05,600 --> 00:29:10,360
Speaker 1: but there's a he's fishing. He's fishing. If you say, okay, yes,

517
00:29:10,440 --> 00:29:12,680
Speaker 1: let's go to dinner or whatever, let's go get to she,

518
00:29:12,800 --> 00:29:17,840
Speaker 1: then that's like, oh okay, she's interested, oh wows. Or

519
00:29:17,880 --> 00:29:19,400
Speaker 1: maybe it was just like he just wants to like

520
00:29:19,720 --> 00:29:22,040
Speaker 1: chit chat with me because he thinks I'm cool. No,

521
00:29:22,840 --> 00:29:26,200
Speaker 1: he's I'm not really cool. Well, he thinks you're cool

522
00:29:26,240 --> 00:29:28,880
Speaker 1: and you're beautiful, okay, and he wants to get to

523
00:29:28,920 --> 00:29:31,880
Speaker 1: know you better her. Okay. I asked my kids and

524
00:29:31,920 --> 00:29:33,800
Speaker 1: they were like, I don't know. I was like, is

525
00:29:33,800 --> 00:29:35,840
Speaker 1: this a date? And they were like, I don't know.

526
00:29:36,040 --> 00:29:39,280
Speaker 1: You said he made his millions on me. Yeah, listen, listen,

527
00:29:39,440 --> 00:29:42,840
Speaker 1: we're gonna move on. I meant to talk to you

528
00:29:42,840 --> 00:29:46,640
Speaker 1: about that. I had something to say about traders to traders. Okay, sorry,

529
00:29:46,680 --> 00:29:51,920
Speaker 1: we got an email about traders. Yes, okay, please read

530
00:29:51,960 --> 00:29:58,000
Speaker 1: an email. Okay, so this is from Yvette Um. She said, hello,

531
00:29:58,200 --> 00:30:01,240
Speaker 1: I have some tea. After listening to last podcast episode,

532
00:30:01,240 --> 00:30:04,160
Speaker 1: I started to watch the show The Traders. Boy was

533
00:30:04,200 --> 00:30:07,920
Speaker 1: I surprised instantly after seeing my coworker on the show

534
00:30:08,040 --> 00:30:12,520
Speaker 1: and she was the winner. No way, yes, yeah, okay,

535
00:30:12,520 --> 00:30:15,160
Speaker 1: we're not gonna say her name. Yes, yes, talk about

536
00:30:15,240 --> 00:30:18,800
Speaker 1: someone living a double life. I would have never imagined

537
00:30:18,840 --> 00:30:20,800
Speaker 1: in a million years that she would be on a

538
00:30:20,840 --> 00:30:23,240
Speaker 1: show like this. And to sweeten the pot, I learned

539
00:30:23,280 --> 00:30:25,440
Speaker 1: she was also on Survivor in two thousand and eight.

540
00:30:25,640 --> 00:30:28,320
Speaker 1: I recently saw her at the airport looking incognito, and

541
00:30:28,360 --> 00:30:30,040
Speaker 1: she called me over and we learned we were both

542
00:30:30,080 --> 00:30:32,960
Speaker 1: going to the same destination. I walked away thinking, why

543
00:30:32,960 --> 00:30:35,800
Speaker 1: does she look so undercover? Now, I'm assuming she probably

544
00:30:35,840 --> 00:30:38,760
Speaker 1: didn't want to be recognized at the airport. Yes, none

545
00:30:38,760 --> 00:30:42,760
Speaker 1: of us do. But that's amazing. That's so cool though,

546
00:30:42,800 --> 00:30:45,080
Speaker 1: Like you turn it on, like, oh, let me see

547
00:30:45,120 --> 00:30:46,800
Speaker 1: the show that Robin and just I was talking about it,

548
00:30:46,800 --> 00:30:51,640
Speaker 1: and you see your co worker that's playing a whole game,

549
00:30:52,200 --> 00:30:55,280
Speaker 1: game game, and and go getting back to traders really

550
00:30:55,360 --> 00:30:57,920
Speaker 1: quickly there, um have you have you seen it? Carly?

551
00:30:58,200 --> 00:31:01,040
Speaker 1: So there? Just what do you call those things that

552
00:31:01,160 --> 00:31:05,560
Speaker 1: they do? The competitions, the challenges, the challenges, the hell

553
00:31:05,800 --> 00:31:08,920
Speaker 1: oh okay, remember you said about the one that you

554
00:31:08,960 --> 00:31:13,120
Speaker 1: would be like absolutely not. Yeah, with the um the rodents, yes,

555
00:31:13,320 --> 00:31:16,440
Speaker 1: and the bugs fall on their head and like I

556
00:31:16,960 --> 00:31:19,720
Speaker 1: watching it gave me the ebb of scratching. Yeah, that

557
00:31:20,400 --> 00:31:22,200
Speaker 1: I would have quit. Yeah, I would have said I've

558
00:31:22,240 --> 00:31:24,800
Speaker 1: had enough. But how about Kate with her one challenge

559
00:31:25,520 --> 00:31:28,600
Speaker 1: and she was kicking up sabotage the challenge and she's

560
00:31:28,640 --> 00:31:34,400
Speaker 1: still listen, Kate said, Kate, she's she originally is from

561
00:31:34,400 --> 00:31:37,400
Speaker 1: below Jack. She's a Bravo lab. She said, send me home,

562
00:31:37,480 --> 00:31:39,880
Speaker 1: y'all right, you please Spanish me kill me in the

563
00:31:39,920 --> 00:31:41,480
Speaker 1: middle of the night. She wanted to go home. She

564
00:31:41,560 --> 00:31:43,200
Speaker 1: was like, please kill me in the middle of the night.

565
00:31:44,840 --> 00:31:46,440
Speaker 1: And they were like, no, we're gonna keep it. We're

566
00:31:46,480 --> 00:31:53,040
Speaker 1: gonna keep you. Okay. Did you think so the curly

567
00:31:53,080 --> 00:31:57,400
Speaker 1: hair guy, Yeah, I thought. I really felt like the

568
00:31:57,480 --> 00:32:00,720
Speaker 1: producers told him to do that dumb that he did.

569
00:32:01,600 --> 00:32:03,800
Speaker 1: See I don't want Yeah, we gotta talk offline, but

570
00:32:03,840 --> 00:32:05,520
Speaker 1: you know what I'm talking about. Yeah, I know exactly

571
00:32:05,560 --> 00:32:07,040
Speaker 1: what you're talking about. It seemed like it was. It

572
00:32:07,080 --> 00:32:09,680
Speaker 1: was probably a producers discussion. But you know, anytime you

573
00:32:09,720 --> 00:32:11,640
Speaker 1: have a conversation with a producer, it's always on you

574
00:32:12,160 --> 00:32:15,080
Speaker 1: as to whether or not you want to fulfill the

575
00:32:15,120 --> 00:32:18,120
Speaker 1: producer requests, right, And I just want to let y'all

576
00:32:18,120 --> 00:32:20,760
Speaker 1: know half the time I tell them producers, no, I'm lyine.

577
00:32:20,800 --> 00:32:29,760
Speaker 1: I just go ahead on and do it. We're gonna

578
00:32:29,760 --> 00:32:31,920
Speaker 1: answer a couple more questions that y'all asked us on

579
00:32:32,200 --> 00:32:35,560
Speaker 1: ask us anything because I felt like they were good,

580
00:32:35,600 --> 00:32:37,360
Speaker 1: and I've been meaning to talk about this, so I

581
00:32:37,440 --> 00:32:40,320
Speaker 1: just so we're gonna do it now. It says, hi, ladies,

582
00:32:40,360 --> 00:32:45,120
Speaker 1: please talk in detail about your journey with fibroids. So

583
00:32:45,200 --> 00:32:47,920
Speaker 1: I'm gonna give you all the short version, because I

584
00:32:48,080 --> 00:32:51,600
Speaker 1: don't think we've talked about it right. We were saving it. No,

585
00:32:51,640 --> 00:32:53,960
Speaker 1: I don't think we've talked about it now. Okay, So

586
00:32:54,160 --> 00:32:57,400
Speaker 1: if you watch Potomac, I talk about the fact that

587
00:32:57,440 --> 00:33:00,480
Speaker 1: I have to have a hysterect to me. So about

588
00:33:00,520 --> 00:33:03,200
Speaker 1: two years ago, my doctors were monitoring me because my

589
00:33:03,240 --> 00:33:05,280
Speaker 1: five boards were I had like two or three five

590
00:33:05,280 --> 00:33:06,680
Speaker 1: boards and they were kind of like big, but not

591
00:33:06,760 --> 00:33:09,640
Speaker 1: really that big. And then, now, how did they know

592
00:33:09,680 --> 00:33:11,120
Speaker 1: that you have five words? Because they could when you

593
00:33:11,160 --> 00:33:13,520
Speaker 1: went for your annual, they could feel that they were

594
00:33:13,560 --> 00:33:15,520
Speaker 1: there or did you have some sort of complaint and

595
00:33:15,560 --> 00:33:18,160
Speaker 1: they both did a sonogram and all that type of

596
00:33:18,240 --> 00:33:20,440
Speaker 1: both they kind of could feel that something was going on,

597
00:33:21,200 --> 00:33:25,200
Speaker 1: and then sex was uncomfortable. Stuff was it was just weird.

598
00:33:26,000 --> 00:33:28,840
Speaker 1: So I had a sonogram and then and my doctor

599
00:33:28,920 --> 00:33:31,360
Speaker 1: was like they're there. They were like maybe two inches

600
00:33:31,440 --> 00:33:34,120
Speaker 1: or something like. She was like, they're gonna go away

601
00:33:34,160 --> 00:33:36,600
Speaker 1: or we're just gonna leave it alone. So after time

602
00:33:36,680 --> 00:33:39,680
Speaker 1: goes by, they had like blown up. They were like

603
00:33:39,800 --> 00:33:44,160
Speaker 1: nine ten inches or centimeters centimeters or centimeters. Yeah, yeah,

604
00:33:44,200 --> 00:33:47,280
Speaker 1: they were like I had a baby in my stuff, okay.

605
00:33:47,480 --> 00:33:49,600
Speaker 1: And they were in the uterine lining, so it's nowhere

606
00:33:49,640 --> 00:33:53,440
Speaker 1: you could get them out without tearing up my uterus.

607
00:33:54,360 --> 00:33:57,760
Speaker 1: So made the decision or not we The doctor said

608
00:33:57,800 --> 00:33:59,360
Speaker 1: you gonna have to get you uterus taken out and

609
00:33:59,400 --> 00:34:03,440
Speaker 1: I was like, what what you mean? And I was

610
00:34:03,560 --> 00:34:06,880
Speaker 1: very traumatized just because that I equate that to being

611
00:34:06,880 --> 00:34:11,959
Speaker 1: a woman, as most women do. But my doctor was like,

612
00:34:12,520 --> 00:34:15,760
Speaker 1: you have three kids, now you're gonna have more. No,

613
00:34:16,480 --> 00:34:19,560
Speaker 1: so it's gonna go right, and we're gonna keep your

614
00:34:19,560 --> 00:34:23,279
Speaker 1: ovaries so that you don't like go into full blown menopause.

615
00:34:23,520 --> 00:34:28,319
Speaker 1: Oh so the day came, you don't still get a period? No, no,

616
00:34:28,360 --> 00:34:30,239
Speaker 1: you can't get a period. No, okay, right, because that's

617
00:34:30,760 --> 00:34:36,200
Speaker 1: period free. Okay, yay, nice, Okay, that's over. I threw

618
00:34:36,280 --> 00:34:39,080
Speaker 1: my um tampons and pads at my kids. I said,

619
00:34:39,280 --> 00:34:44,879
Speaker 1: have fun. No, I didn't do that rude anyway. So

620
00:34:45,400 --> 00:34:47,920
Speaker 1: that day they told us gonna be like a three

621
00:34:47,920 --> 00:34:50,480
Speaker 1: and a half hour surgery. My sister was with me.

622
00:34:50,920 --> 00:34:53,480
Speaker 1: She was contacting Robin and a couple other friends of

623
00:34:53,480 --> 00:34:54,960
Speaker 1: mine to make sure because you know, when you have

624
00:34:55,000 --> 00:34:56,880
Speaker 1: a friend that's going in a surgery, it's always like,

625
00:34:57,560 --> 00:34:59,759
Speaker 1: what's going on? What's going on? And there? What can

626
00:34:59,800 --> 00:35:02,160
Speaker 1: I do? Well, not that, but it's like, you know,

627
00:35:02,360 --> 00:35:05,040
Speaker 1: it could be touch and gold because they're like knocked out.

628
00:35:05,200 --> 00:35:07,920
Speaker 1: And anyway, my doctors got in there and it was

629
00:35:07,920 --> 00:35:10,400
Speaker 1: a disaster. They didn't know what the hell they were seeing.

630
00:35:10,640 --> 00:35:15,280
Speaker 1: My uterus was connected to my bladder via scar tissue

631
00:35:16,080 --> 00:35:19,080
Speaker 1: because of my C section when I had the twins

632
00:35:19,360 --> 00:35:22,239
Speaker 1: sixteen years ago. So scar tissue just kind of like

633
00:35:22,239 --> 00:35:25,319
Speaker 1: grows in your body any kind of way, and it

634
00:35:26,000 --> 00:35:28,600
Speaker 1: and I had been peeing weird for like years and

635
00:35:28,680 --> 00:35:30,840
Speaker 1: didn't put and didn't know what do you mean weird?

636
00:35:31,239 --> 00:35:33,240
Speaker 1: I had to like pee all the time, like only

637
00:35:33,239 --> 00:35:36,400
Speaker 1: in the morning, okay, And then I was p free,

638
00:35:36,440 --> 00:35:38,040
Speaker 1: like I don't I mean, it was just something was

639
00:35:38,080 --> 00:35:40,720
Speaker 1: going on my bladder and I just thought it was normal.

640
00:35:40,880 --> 00:35:44,640
Speaker 1: That was just how I am. So surgery ended up

641
00:35:44,640 --> 00:35:46,920
Speaker 1: being like eight and a half hours. It scared everybody

642
00:35:46,920 --> 00:35:50,279
Speaker 1: to death. Robin, who doesn't get concerned about anything, was

643
00:35:50,320 --> 00:35:56,359
Speaker 1: concerned about me. And thank god she you know, she

644
00:35:56,520 --> 00:36:01,600
Speaker 1: is a human guys. And but long story short, is

645
00:36:01,600 --> 00:36:03,439
Speaker 1: the best thing that I've ever could have done. Yeah,

646
00:36:03,680 --> 00:36:06,360
Speaker 1: because I feel I'm not blow I was feeling bloated.

647
00:36:06,600 --> 00:36:10,400
Speaker 1: Yeah for two years you never looked bloated, but I

648
00:36:10,760 --> 00:36:14,160
Speaker 1: mean I felt that, yeah, it's gone. It's And I

649
00:36:14,360 --> 00:36:17,040
Speaker 1: know there's other ways of handling five boys. There's like

650
00:36:17,120 --> 00:36:20,319
Speaker 1: ablasion and all these other ways. I feel like, if

651
00:36:20,480 --> 00:36:22,040
Speaker 1: if you're at a place where you don't want any

652
00:36:22,120 --> 00:36:26,399
Speaker 1: more children, and the ablazing works, but I think they

653
00:36:26,400 --> 00:36:29,279
Speaker 1: can come back and you just don't want that. I

654
00:36:29,360 --> 00:36:31,160
Speaker 1: just want to get rid of it. I'm very happy

655
00:36:31,160 --> 00:36:35,680
Speaker 1: with my decision. And so what else differences in like

656
00:36:35,719 --> 00:36:40,319
Speaker 1: how you feel are there? I feel like a little

657
00:36:40,360 --> 00:36:45,280
Speaker 1: sexually it's great. Um, And I don't know why. Okay,

658
00:36:45,320 --> 00:36:48,680
Speaker 1: first of all, after you have it done the way

659
00:36:48,680 --> 00:36:50,520
Speaker 1: that they have to sell you back up, you cannot

660
00:36:50,680 --> 00:36:54,840
Speaker 1: have anything in the vagina, they say for so I

661
00:36:55,040 --> 00:36:57,200
Speaker 1: think it was like my doctor said, like six weeks

662
00:36:58,040 --> 00:37:01,239
Speaker 1: or eight weeks. Maybe it was six weeks okay, like

663
00:37:01,280 --> 00:37:04,279
Speaker 1: a baby, right. So I went to my six week

664
00:37:04,400 --> 00:37:06,239
Speaker 1: checkup and she like felt and did a bunch of

665
00:37:06,239 --> 00:37:08,640
Speaker 1: stuff and she was like, yep, six more weeks. Oh.

666
00:37:08,680 --> 00:37:11,520
Speaker 1: I was like, what are you talking about? So she

667
00:37:11,680 --> 00:37:15,239
Speaker 1: was like, yeah, you're not really healed up. So I said,

668
00:37:15,320 --> 00:37:18,760
Speaker 1: oh god. And she said, and when you do decide

669
00:37:18,920 --> 00:37:22,359
Speaker 1: puts something up in there, you have to be very gentle. Yeah.

670
00:37:22,360 --> 00:37:25,880
Speaker 1: And I was like, that's not what I'm gonna do.

671
00:37:26,960 --> 00:37:31,080
Speaker 1: I'm gonna get rick rickety row anyway, So long story short,

672
00:37:31,160 --> 00:37:33,800
Speaker 1: it's just I don't know. I just feel comfortable with everything.

673
00:37:34,360 --> 00:37:38,919
Speaker 1: I feel lighter. I feel like I shouldn't. I had

674
00:37:39,000 --> 00:37:40,920
Speaker 1: like I felt like I had toxins in my body

675
00:37:41,800 --> 00:37:45,920
Speaker 1: and they're they're gone, so I feel better. Did it

676
00:37:45,960 --> 00:37:48,000
Speaker 1: affect I mean you always had like it, you always

677
00:37:48,040 --> 00:37:50,640
Speaker 1: seem to have like high energy. But did it affect anything,

678
00:37:50,920 --> 00:37:53,719
Speaker 1: you know, as far as your energy or your you know,

679
00:37:53,960 --> 00:37:56,560
Speaker 1: your mood or anything. No, No, not my energy. But

680
00:37:56,560 --> 00:38:01,200
Speaker 1: but it was like working out, my stomach wouldn't go down. Okay,

681
00:38:01,960 --> 00:38:05,359
Speaker 1: so that's that's been removed. Yeah, So mentally I just

682
00:38:05,440 --> 00:38:07,839
Speaker 1: was like pissed off because I'm doing all this working

683
00:38:07,840 --> 00:38:13,120
Speaker 1: out stomach still big. So yes, to answer all the questions,

684
00:38:13,280 --> 00:38:16,279
Speaker 1: I'm happy that I did it. Um, you know, I

685
00:38:16,320 --> 00:38:19,399
Speaker 1: am over fifty the age of fifty, so for me,

686
00:38:20,160 --> 00:38:22,200
Speaker 1: it was the right move. I know that some women

687
00:38:22,200 --> 00:38:24,719
Speaker 1: who are younger are still trying to have children it

688
00:38:24,800 --> 00:38:27,279
Speaker 1: might not be right. But if if you're over fifty, yeah,

689
00:38:27,400 --> 00:38:29,959
Speaker 1: get that thing taken out and throw that thing straight

690
00:38:29,960 --> 00:38:32,400
Speaker 1: in the trash can. Yeah. And just I mean I

691
00:38:32,760 --> 00:38:36,560
Speaker 1: assume you know everyone is going to their regular checkups

692
00:38:36,560 --> 00:38:38,400
Speaker 1: and stuff, but like if you're not pleased, do so,

693
00:38:38,600 --> 00:38:41,759
Speaker 1: because you know your doctor can pretty much detect that

694
00:38:41,800 --> 00:38:45,880
Speaker 1: type of stuff. You know, how how they changed, like

695
00:38:46,040 --> 00:38:48,040
Speaker 1: getting a PAP smear from like every one year to

696
00:38:48,120 --> 00:38:51,359
Speaker 1: every three years two or is it two or three?

697
00:38:51,440 --> 00:38:54,080
Speaker 1: They'd be changed check three every year, right, so it's

698
00:38:54,160 --> 00:38:57,600
Speaker 1: paps every three years. But which makes people think you

699
00:38:57,680 --> 00:39:00,680
Speaker 1: don't need to go to your doctor. You only have

700
00:39:00,719 --> 00:39:03,560
Speaker 1: to go to your doctor every three years. My doctor's like,

701
00:39:03,600 --> 00:39:07,319
Speaker 1: I'm it's so frustrated at that advice because she's like, no,

702
00:39:07,360 --> 00:39:10,080
Speaker 1: you still need to come every year and get examined

703
00:39:10,200 --> 00:39:12,680
Speaker 1: and get checked out. So you know, if you're not

704
00:39:12,719 --> 00:39:15,200
Speaker 1: going to your doctor every year, please go yes, and

705
00:39:15,200 --> 00:39:17,879
Speaker 1: and thank god nothing was cancerous because they do check

706
00:39:17,920 --> 00:39:22,160
Speaker 1: for everything to make sure it's not so robin. This

707
00:39:22,239 --> 00:39:25,160
Speaker 1: is for me and you will you discourage your children

708
00:39:25,200 --> 00:39:29,440
Speaker 1: from pledging a fraternity of sorority. So you know, it's

709
00:39:29,480 --> 00:39:33,080
Speaker 1: funny when um my father's a Kappa, he's in a fraternity.

710
00:39:33,800 --> 00:39:37,680
Speaker 1: I'm in a sorority. I'm a Delta. And when woman's

711
00:39:37,680 --> 00:39:41,239
Speaker 1: at Maryland. He played basketball Maryland and he wanted to

712
00:39:41,280 --> 00:39:44,960
Speaker 1: pledge Kappa, like he actually that thought came into his

713
00:39:45,040 --> 00:39:48,759
Speaker 1: head and I was like, no, do not do it

714
00:39:48,920 --> 00:39:53,439
Speaker 1: because he's on the basketball team. There's like anyone. First

715
00:39:53,440 --> 00:39:56,359
Speaker 1: of all, it's hard enough being a student period, right,

716
00:39:56,719 --> 00:40:00,480
Speaker 1: it's super hard being a student athlete. It's hard being

717
00:40:00,520 --> 00:40:05,720
Speaker 1: a student who's pledging a fraternity or sorority. The thought

718
00:40:05,719 --> 00:40:08,840
Speaker 1: of him being a student athlete who's pledging a fraternity.

719
00:40:08,880 --> 00:40:11,080
Speaker 1: All at the same time, I was like, no, you're

720
00:40:11,120 --> 00:40:13,440
Speaker 1: going to ruin. Like I knew, because I know what

721
00:40:13,520 --> 00:40:16,719
Speaker 1: goes into it. I said that time, um, you know,

722
00:40:16,719 --> 00:40:19,279
Speaker 1: I knew it would go into it. How much time

723
00:40:19,280 --> 00:40:21,280
Speaker 1: it would take, How he would be up all night?

724
00:40:21,320 --> 00:40:23,920
Speaker 1: He maybe, And I said no, absolutely not like what

725
00:40:25,360 --> 00:40:28,960
Speaker 1: but Robin, they would have they would have his older brothers, yeah,

726
00:40:29,160 --> 00:40:31,080
Speaker 1: big brothers, whatever. They would have allowed him to, like

727
00:40:31,320 --> 00:40:33,759
Speaker 1: go to practice, go to his games, do everything he's

728
00:40:33,760 --> 00:40:37,480
Speaker 1: supposed to do. No, I mean yes, I mean yeah, yeah,

729
00:40:37,480 --> 00:40:39,000
Speaker 1: they would have allowed him go to practice. But he

730
00:40:39,040 --> 00:40:42,920
Speaker 1: would have been extremely tired. His grades would have suffered.

731
00:40:42,960 --> 00:40:44,760
Speaker 1: Like he would have been. He would have been a kappa.

732
00:40:44,840 --> 00:40:47,759
Speaker 1: He would have been stepping. Yeah. I wouldn't say yo

733
00:40:47,800 --> 00:40:51,239
Speaker 1: fa no yo baby Ye, he'd have been baby yo.

734
00:40:51,480 --> 00:40:53,919
Speaker 1: He had his cane, he'd be trawing it around, he'd

735
00:40:53,960 --> 00:40:57,279
Speaker 1: be thrawing it right here. How he really wouldn't but

736
00:40:57,600 --> 00:40:59,920
Speaker 1: he wouldn't know. But I was like, no, no, I'm sorry.

737
00:41:00,000 --> 00:41:04,319
Speaker 1: There's that you stepped on his dreams. I wasn't a dream.

738
00:41:04,480 --> 00:41:08,120
Speaker 1: It was just like a thought, like okay, I say,

739
00:41:08,200 --> 00:41:10,000
Speaker 1: like he really wanted to do it really bad, but

740
00:41:10,040 --> 00:41:12,360
Speaker 1: I was just like, no. So anyway, if my children

741
00:41:12,480 --> 00:41:17,640
Speaker 1: are UM college athletes, then absolutely not, they're not. What

742
00:41:18,000 --> 00:41:21,799
Speaker 1: so listen, no, you gotta you need to keep your scholarship,

743
00:41:21,880 --> 00:41:26,960
Speaker 1: your your athletic scholarship. These coaches they're they're they're not

744
00:41:27,000 --> 00:41:29,080
Speaker 1: going to allow They're not gonna be pledging them to

745
00:41:29,120 --> 00:41:32,680
Speaker 1: the point where they're gonna lose their scholarship. Come on, now, okay,

746
00:41:32,800 --> 00:41:35,840
Speaker 1: this is twenty twenty three, those days over, well, I

747
00:41:35,840 --> 00:41:37,719
Speaker 1: don't know. I'm sorry. I want them to focus on

748
00:41:37,920 --> 00:41:40,600
Speaker 1: keeping their scholarship. So what about your girls? Yeah? Absolutely,

749
00:41:40,840 --> 00:41:45,319
Speaker 1: okay AKA if they even utter adele or a tough,

750
00:41:46,520 --> 00:41:50,239
Speaker 1: it's a no. The end. It's so funny because I

751
00:41:50,280 --> 00:41:53,520
Speaker 1: told I talked the other day about UM. I took

752
00:41:53,520 --> 00:41:55,960
Speaker 1: Angel on the door to Hampton and of course I'm

753
00:41:56,000 --> 00:41:57,640
Speaker 1: like looking for my little sore wroars, I'm looking for

754
00:41:57,719 --> 00:42:01,479
Speaker 1: a pink in a green and no I didn't see

755
00:42:01,520 --> 00:42:05,200
Speaker 1: not nare one. And I was so towards the end

756
00:42:05,520 --> 00:42:09,640
Speaker 1: of the tour I told them the dean of emissions,

757
00:42:09,680 --> 00:42:11,200
Speaker 1: I was like, I was hoping to see my little

758
00:42:11,440 --> 00:42:13,480
Speaker 1: sore Wars. She was like, oh, you pledge, what are you?

759
00:42:13,520 --> 00:42:15,720
Speaker 1: I was like, uh, because she's she was a Delta,

760
00:42:16,160 --> 00:42:19,360
Speaker 1: I was like, m whatever, I said, I'm an aka,

761
00:42:19,480 --> 00:42:21,320
Speaker 1: like I want to see my little pinky green people.

762
00:42:21,680 --> 00:42:24,280
Speaker 1: And so by the end of it they found somebody

763
00:42:24,480 --> 00:42:26,920
Speaker 1: come and say hi to me. Okay, that was so funny.

764
00:42:27,000 --> 00:42:28,520
Speaker 1: So you know it. Now, since we're on the topic

765
00:42:28,520 --> 00:42:32,160
Speaker 1: of Sobrits, we've got another question. Ashley asked, I'd love

766
00:42:32,200 --> 00:42:34,359
Speaker 1: to hear what y'all have to say about belonging to

767
00:42:34,400 --> 00:42:36,800
Speaker 1: a black sority. Seems like black soritis are so different

768
00:42:36,800 --> 00:42:41,080
Speaker 1: than white sorities. So Ashley's white. Also more about Jessy

769
00:42:41,120 --> 00:42:44,000
Speaker 1: as a mom because their girls are so amazing. So yes,

770
00:42:44,120 --> 00:42:48,120
Speaker 1: the experience. So I went to a predominantly white institution.

771
00:42:48,200 --> 00:42:50,880
Speaker 1: I went to University of Maryland, So when you know,

772
00:42:50,960 --> 00:42:53,160
Speaker 1: you can, I can definitely see the difference between the

773
00:42:53,200 --> 00:42:56,680
Speaker 1: black sororities and the white sorities. Yes, one of the

774
00:42:56,760 --> 00:43:02,160
Speaker 1: main differences, honestly is more so going into like adulthood,

775
00:43:02,680 --> 00:43:05,759
Speaker 1: where you know, I pledged, Delta Sigma Data sorority, and

776
00:43:05,840 --> 00:43:08,000
Speaker 1: I am a delta for life, and so I can

777
00:43:08,400 --> 00:43:12,640
Speaker 1: continue in my you know, participating in my sorority, in

778
00:43:12,719 --> 00:43:15,319
Speaker 1: my graduate chapter and my alumni chapter as we call

779
00:43:15,360 --> 00:43:17,600
Speaker 1: it um, for the rest of my life. Like you know,

780
00:43:17,680 --> 00:43:20,319
Speaker 1: So like where the white sororities, it's like they go

781
00:43:20,360 --> 00:43:23,000
Speaker 1: to college a pledge of sority and then it's over.

782
00:43:23,120 --> 00:43:25,759
Speaker 1: It's over. Like it's not that they're you know, no

783
00:43:25,800 --> 00:43:28,680
Speaker 1: longer a member of that sority, but they don't continue

784
00:43:29,239 --> 00:43:33,000
Speaker 1: like their membership kind of in that sority. It's just

785
00:43:33,080 --> 00:43:36,799
Speaker 1: kind of like a temporary thing. Um. I mean, that's

786
00:43:36,800 --> 00:43:39,920
Speaker 1: like one of the big differences. And then you know,

787
00:43:40,040 --> 00:43:46,240
Speaker 1: our sororities are rooted in like community service, social you know, activism,

788
00:43:46,280 --> 00:43:49,720
Speaker 1: and you know we have we have like purposes for

789
00:43:50,200 --> 00:43:52,879
Speaker 1: we do what we do. We're not just like a

790
00:43:53,200 --> 00:43:56,560
Speaker 1: social club. Yes, you know, we're not just there to party.

791
00:43:56,600 --> 00:43:59,279
Speaker 1: We're there to serve the community. We're there to like

792
00:43:59,480 --> 00:44:03,680
Speaker 1: you know, trying to create change. And um, I know,

793
00:44:03,880 --> 00:44:08,080
Speaker 1: my sorority was really big in the women's suffrage movement

794
00:44:09,280 --> 00:44:12,479
Speaker 1: and you know back whatever years years ago to help

795
00:44:12,920 --> 00:44:15,600
Speaker 1: get women the right to vote. So it's like stuff

796
00:44:15,640 --> 00:44:18,440
Speaker 1: like that like, we actually have more of a purpose

797
00:44:18,480 --> 00:44:21,640
Speaker 1: I will say, outside of just being social and my sorority,

798
00:44:21,480 --> 00:44:25,759
Speaker 1: the Aks, we get people into the White House. So um, yeah,

799
00:44:25,800 --> 00:44:29,680
Speaker 1: there's that. Kamala Harris is a member of my sorority, yes,

800
00:44:29,800 --> 00:44:32,560
Speaker 1: the VP. Anyway, moving on to okay, so this is

801
00:44:32,640 --> 00:44:39,640
Speaker 1: interesting not Robin's sorority. So Robin this lady Jean Jean

802
00:44:39,920 --> 00:44:42,560
Speaker 1: Pierre wants to know what keeps our friendships so solid?

803
00:44:43,000 --> 00:44:47,320
Speaker 1: Oh that's a gen. Jen Jim was on the podcast

804
00:44:47,360 --> 00:44:50,400
Speaker 1: with us. Oh why is she asking a stupid question?

805
00:44:51,560 --> 00:44:55,080
Speaker 1: Wait a minute, Not okay, because she knows us right right,

806
00:44:55,280 --> 00:44:58,160
Speaker 1: But I think, you know, I think that's a good

807
00:44:58,239 --> 00:45:01,839
Speaker 1: question because as we you know, as you might see

808
00:45:01,960 --> 00:45:04,359
Speaker 1: on a you know, TV show, or as you just

809
00:45:04,480 --> 00:45:07,080
Speaker 1: ventured through your adulthood, like you see, you see that

810
00:45:07,280 --> 00:45:12,000
Speaker 1: keeping friends is not easy. Oh so that's true. Yeah,

811
00:45:12,120 --> 00:45:15,080
Speaker 1: I think we're honest with each other. Yeah. I think

812
00:45:15,400 --> 00:45:17,040
Speaker 1: I get on your nerves and you just deal with

813
00:45:17,080 --> 00:45:25,880
Speaker 1: it the end. Yeah, Um, you know, I don't know.

814
00:45:26,000 --> 00:45:28,319
Speaker 1: I think I don't know. I think I'm a good

815
00:45:28,320 --> 00:45:30,040
Speaker 1: friend to like my friends. I guess, yes, it's I

816
00:45:30,040 --> 00:45:32,960
Speaker 1: think you just have to know, like who your friends

817
00:45:33,000 --> 00:45:35,400
Speaker 1: are and the type of friendship you are going to

818
00:45:35,480 --> 00:45:37,719
Speaker 1: get out of them. So, like I saw this really

819
00:45:37,760 --> 00:45:39,440
Speaker 1: good post did I save it? It was like you

820
00:45:39,480 --> 00:45:42,640
Speaker 1: should have seven different types of friends. Maybe we should.

821
00:45:42,840 --> 00:45:44,320
Speaker 1: I don't know. We could say that for another podcast,

822
00:45:44,520 --> 00:45:46,520
Speaker 1: but it was like, you know, a friend to hang

823
00:45:46,560 --> 00:45:49,560
Speaker 1: out with, A friend that makes you laugh, a friend

824
00:45:49,800 --> 00:45:51,879
Speaker 1: you know that you tell your secrets to, You tell

825
00:45:51,880 --> 00:45:54,400
Speaker 1: your secrets to a friend that you ask for advice

826
00:45:54,440 --> 00:45:55,680
Speaker 1: a friend, you know what I mean. And so I

827
00:45:55,719 --> 00:45:58,400
Speaker 1: just feel like when you know the type of friend

828
00:45:58,440 --> 00:46:03,239
Speaker 1: that that friend is, then when they aren't doing the

829
00:46:03,280 --> 00:46:05,440
Speaker 1: other things that they aren't, you're not upset about it,

830
00:46:05,600 --> 00:46:07,480
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. It's like managing your expectations

831
00:46:07,480 --> 00:46:10,239
Speaker 1: between your friends that Yeah, I like that, okay, And

832
00:46:10,320 --> 00:46:14,360
Speaker 1: not all friends are created equal exactly, yesh. Yeah, but

833
00:46:14,400 --> 00:46:17,840
Speaker 1: I just think our friendship, like we have a similar

834
00:46:17,880 --> 00:46:20,760
Speaker 1: sense of humor. Yeah, we don't take ourselves too seriously.

835
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Speaker 1: Now we have kind of been on the receiving end,

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00:46:24,719 --> 00:46:26,760
Speaker 1: you know, not just from the show, but just throughout

837
00:46:26,800 --> 00:46:29,799
Speaker 1: our life of the same type of scrutiny, yes, and

838
00:46:29,960 --> 00:46:32,000
Speaker 1: so we kind of have developed the same type of

839
00:46:32,040 --> 00:46:37,239
Speaker 1: like hard shell um where like we just look at

840
00:46:37,280 --> 00:46:39,759
Speaker 1: life a little bit differently than other people might. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: And that's so like where I could probably like say

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Speaker 1: something to you, I could probably say something to you

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Speaker 1: that's not going to hurt your feelings, And I might

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Speaker 1: say that the same thing to Carly and it might

845
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Speaker 1: hurt her feelings. Do you know what I mean? So

846
00:46:52,160 --> 00:46:54,959
Speaker 1: it's like I mean, but we pay Carly the big bucks,

847
00:46:54,960 --> 00:47:00,120
Speaker 1: so she doesn't have feelings. Okay, there's that. I that

848
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Speaker 1: I've ever heard carle Fro. Maybe I haven't yet, Yeah

849
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Speaker 1: I heard, so I we play with the big bart.

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Speaker 1: But you know what I say, I don't know. I

851
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Speaker 1: just I don't know. I just think. You know, when

852
00:47:12,120 --> 00:47:15,120
Speaker 1: you have friends that you click with, your click with them? Yeah, no,

853
00:47:15,239 --> 00:47:17,239
Speaker 1: I agree, I agree. All right, So we were gonna

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00:47:17,280 --> 00:47:19,160
Speaker 1: do a reason? Is it reasonable or is it shady?

855
00:47:19,280 --> 00:47:21,919
Speaker 1: Do we have time for one? We have a whole bunch.

856
00:47:23,239 --> 00:47:25,320
Speaker 1: I want to do this one. I thought, Okay, pretty interesting.

857
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Speaker 1: Um it was actually um sent to me and day

858
00:47:30,840 --> 00:47:34,640
Speaker 1: oh yes, I liked the dms. So the question is

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00:47:34,719 --> 00:47:36,880
Speaker 1: it reasonable or is it shady for a This is

860
00:47:36,920 --> 00:47:40,760
Speaker 1: from a guy from a female close friend to consistently

861
00:47:41,120 --> 00:47:45,160
Speaker 1: vocalize their disdain for male gay people when her male

862
00:47:45,320 --> 00:47:49,040
Speaker 1: best friend is also gay. Why am I the exception?

863
00:47:49,719 --> 00:47:52,200
Speaker 1: Wait a minute, he gay? He's gay, Okay, everybody's gay here.

864
00:47:52,960 --> 00:47:55,920
Speaker 1: He's gaya, she's not. That's like one of his like

865
00:47:56,000 --> 00:48:00,359
Speaker 1: female best friends. Okay um, And she vocalized, is her

866
00:48:00,440 --> 00:48:05,040
Speaker 1: disdain for male gay people? Why she do that? That's shady? Right?

867
00:48:05,480 --> 00:48:09,919
Speaker 1: So I was like, I got questions. Okay, okay, okay,

868
00:48:09,960 --> 00:48:12,080
Speaker 1: what's the question. I'm like, how long have y'all been friends?

869
00:48:12,120 --> 00:48:13,840
Speaker 1: And can you tell me an example of something? She

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00:48:13,880 --> 00:48:16,560
Speaker 1: would say, oh, you asked, Yeah, okay. I was like this,

871
00:48:16,680 --> 00:48:21,200
Speaker 1: I'm like what that is? I mean, why are we friends? Here? Right? Right?

872
00:48:21,880 --> 00:48:24,880
Speaker 1: This is from Will. So he said, we've been friends

873
00:48:24,880 --> 00:48:27,719
Speaker 1: for roughly eleven years. She loves to tell me, I

874
00:48:27,840 --> 00:48:29,920
Speaker 1: love you as a person, but I don't agree or

875
00:48:29,920 --> 00:48:33,319
Speaker 1: support that lifestyle. He married a man in November, and

876
00:48:33,360 --> 00:48:35,680
Speaker 1: she made up an excuse not to attend the wedding,

877
00:48:35,880 --> 00:48:38,839
Speaker 1: which was she gave birth in September and wasn't sure

878
00:48:38,880 --> 00:48:41,600
Speaker 1: how her healing process was going to be. After the wedding,

879
00:48:41,600 --> 00:48:44,759
Speaker 1: her father came in town to visit her and saw

880
00:48:44,960 --> 00:48:47,680
Speaker 1: his saved the date on her refrigerator, and that made

881
00:48:47,760 --> 00:48:50,960
Speaker 1: him upset, and she couldn't wait to tell him what

882
00:48:51,080 --> 00:48:54,520
Speaker 1: her father said. He said, I heard the first disparaging

883
00:48:54,560 --> 00:48:56,560
Speaker 1: comment and immediately told her to stop. I said, I

884
00:48:56,600 --> 00:48:58,480
Speaker 1: respect you, I respect your father's opinion, but I don't

885
00:48:58,480 --> 00:49:00,799
Speaker 1: need to hear it. And then she brings it up

886
00:49:00,800 --> 00:49:03,880
Speaker 1: again and stuff like that. So then I was like, Okay,

887
00:49:04,400 --> 00:49:07,279
Speaker 1: were you openly gay when you two first met and

888
00:49:07,280 --> 00:49:09,759
Speaker 1: became friends? And he said he was not. He said

889
00:49:09,760 --> 00:49:12,480
Speaker 1: she actually she actually flirted with me a lot when

890
00:49:12,520 --> 00:49:14,719
Speaker 1: we met through mutual friends. I was uncomfortable side to

891
00:49:14,719 --> 00:49:16,400
Speaker 1: tell her, so she was sad. So she's mad that

892
00:49:16,440 --> 00:49:18,680
Speaker 1: he's gay because she wants to date them. Right, So

893
00:49:18,719 --> 00:49:20,640
Speaker 1: I'm like, is there a jealousy there? Because I mean,

894
00:49:20,680 --> 00:49:23,000
Speaker 1: but if they've been friends for eleven years, I think

895
00:49:23,120 --> 00:49:25,960
Speaker 1: you know I'm the majority of their friendship. He was

896
00:49:26,440 --> 00:49:30,520
Speaker 1: openly gay, right, I'm just like, they're not friends there,

897
00:49:30,719 --> 00:49:33,560
Speaker 1: that's not your friend. A friend supports you, right, A

898
00:49:33,560 --> 00:49:35,799
Speaker 1: friend would show up at your wedding even if she

899
00:49:35,840 --> 00:49:38,759
Speaker 1: didn't feel like that's what she believes. Right, you still

900
00:49:38,760 --> 00:49:40,279
Speaker 1: show up when you support you and you keep your

901
00:49:40,280 --> 00:49:43,200
Speaker 1: mouth shut, yes, like you wouldn't right, even if that

902
00:49:43,320 --> 00:49:47,280
Speaker 1: doesn't like I think as a friend, if that's something

903
00:49:47,320 --> 00:49:50,640
Speaker 1: that she doesn't believe or whatever, I think as a friend,

904
00:49:50,680 --> 00:49:54,279
Speaker 1: it's on her to try to get to a place

905
00:49:54,280 --> 00:49:57,360
Speaker 1: of understanding, right, Right, And so maybe that's a different

906
00:49:57,400 --> 00:49:59,879
Speaker 1: type of conversation with him, you know what I'm saying.

907
00:50:00,120 --> 00:50:01,920
Speaker 1: If it's something that she's just stuck on and she's

908
00:50:02,200 --> 00:50:06,200
Speaker 1: really appreciates his friendship doesn't approve of the lifestyle, well,

909
00:50:06,560 --> 00:50:09,839
Speaker 1: let me learn, let me figure out, let me learn

910
00:50:09,840 --> 00:50:12,399
Speaker 1: how to accept. Can you like teach me? Help me?

911
00:50:12,560 --> 00:50:14,560
Speaker 1: But like, as a friend, you don't sit there and

912
00:50:14,640 --> 00:50:17,479
Speaker 1: continuously tell him I don't respect your lifestyle. My father

913
00:50:17,520 --> 00:50:21,640
Speaker 1: don't respect it. And that's ridiculous, right, he needs the curb.

914
00:50:21,760 --> 00:50:25,799
Speaker 1: That's not your friend. She's shady. Yeah, and don't look back, right.

915
00:50:26,080 --> 00:50:28,680
Speaker 1: I feel like I still need more. I'm like, okay, so,

916
00:50:28,840 --> 00:50:31,759
Speaker 1: how how does this friendship fulfill him? Like? I need

917
00:50:31,800 --> 00:50:33,960
Speaker 1: more information? You know, I'm right? How are you even

918
00:50:33,960 --> 00:50:37,520
Speaker 1: still friends? How? Like? What else is there going on

919
00:50:37,600 --> 00:50:41,200
Speaker 1: in the friendship that makes you even want to be father? Yeah?

920
00:50:41,239 --> 00:50:45,400
Speaker 1: And I'm sure whoever he's marrying can't standa right, So

921
00:50:45,480 --> 00:50:48,359
Speaker 1: that's friction, right, And I'm sure she was jealous with that.

922
00:50:48,400 --> 00:50:50,719
Speaker 1: I mean, it's just this, but if she's pregnant having

923
00:50:50,719 --> 00:50:52,400
Speaker 1: a baby, she has her own life, she's got her

924
00:50:52,400 --> 00:50:55,400
Speaker 1: own relationship clearly. But yeah, I don't know. I'm just

925
00:50:55,520 --> 00:51:00,399
Speaker 1: I've rather I said, what's a big anything that makes

926
00:51:00,480 --> 00:51:03,719
Speaker 1: zero sense? Yeah, I mean that would be the same, Like,

927
00:51:03,760 --> 00:51:06,000
Speaker 1: I don't know, It's like that'd be like if I

928
00:51:06,080 --> 00:51:09,600
Speaker 1: was mad that Cow doesn't like me, and then he's

929
00:51:09,640 --> 00:51:12,720
Speaker 1: got a boo and I don't like his boo because

930
00:51:12,840 --> 00:51:15,640
Speaker 1: Cow's then acting gay or whatever. I don't know. I

931
00:51:15,640 --> 00:51:18,720
Speaker 1: don't know, Like I just can't see in any world

932
00:51:18,800 --> 00:51:22,120
Speaker 1: where a friend feels it's okay to tell someone that

933
00:51:22,160 --> 00:51:24,719
Speaker 1: they don't approve of their lifestyle. When this it's not

934
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Speaker 1: like it's not like he's like robbing a bank, like

935
00:51:27,320 --> 00:51:30,960
Speaker 1: he's a bank robber, or you know, even he's you know,

936
00:51:31,400 --> 00:51:33,560
Speaker 1: he's doing drugs or he's drinking alcohol. Like this is

937
00:51:33,600 --> 00:51:35,399
Speaker 1: nothing that he can change, you know what I'm saying.

938
00:51:35,480 --> 00:51:37,440
Speaker 1: It's not like so I'm just like, what is the

939
00:51:37,520 --> 00:51:40,400
Speaker 1: point here? I don't know. I don't like it. He

940
00:51:40,480 --> 00:51:44,200
Speaker 1: needs to run run. Yeah, yes, and that is our episode, guys.

941
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Speaker 1: I'm sorry. Yes, that's our episode, so don't ever get

942
00:51:48,280 --> 00:51:51,799
Speaker 1: to live your life either reasonable hit or about thy

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