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Speaker 1: My best friend kicked me out of our apartment because

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Speaker 1: his girlfriend told him to. Interesting, and this stands with

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Speaker 1: the question of should you cut off friends, family, or

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Speaker 1: partners who damage your livelihood. So Sad Mistake eighty nine

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Speaker 1: nineteen says, sorry, a bit of a confusing title, but

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Speaker 1: this is still fresh and I'm still dealing with things.

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Speaker 1: I'm just using this to get this off my chest mainly,

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Speaker 1: but if I can get some validation too, then that'd

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Speaker 1: be good. So I, twenty one female have been friends

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Speaker 1: with twenty one male Mike big name for sixteen years.

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Speaker 1: Oh wow, I'm already sensing that her being a girl

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Speaker 1: and him being a guy is going to be an issue.

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Speaker 2: And with the girlfriend, Oh oh, I see, I see,

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Speaker 2: Oh I see?

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Speaker 1: I said, OK, so why she might kick her out?

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Speaker 2: Gotcha?

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Speaker 1: We became friends officially in kindergarten, but our parents were

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Speaker 1: college friends. I honestly can't even call him best friend.

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Speaker 1: He's like a sibling, and in a way we were

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Speaker 1: raised as siblings, grew family holidays, sleepovers, family vacations on

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Speaker 1: both sides. At one point we even all live together

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Speaker 1: for a year. I'm saying this because I know some

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Speaker 1: people will ask no there's been no crushes or feelings

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Speaker 1: on either side at all. We haven't kissed, confessed feelings,

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Speaker 1: or had crushes. It's been strictly sibling like. And I'm

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Speaker 1: saying that now because of what Mike's girlfriend has been saying.

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Speaker 2: Oof jelly Geeth freaking jealous seeing how close you guys are.

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Speaker 2: I wish I had that, Yeah, I wish I had

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Speaker 2: them inside jokes.

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Speaker 1: I don't know, man, Just I hate when people get

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Speaker 2: Just be like Sophie and I. Yeah, you could barely

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Speaker 2: stand each other. We live together. Great.

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Speaker 1: Oh, I thought you meant have our friendship.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, like it works out. Our sibling ship.

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Speaker 1: Our sibling ship. Mike and I share an apartment together

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Speaker 1: near campus. We both attend college together. Around seven months ago,

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Speaker 1: Mike me his girlfriend twenty one female, April fake name.

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Speaker 2: I'm against the fake name. Just dog some if you're mad.

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Speaker 1: Also, just don't tell me it's a fake name. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: make me believe, Yeah, let me suspend my disbelief. Now.

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Speaker 1: I thought we got along. Okay, I've only met her

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Speaker 1: a couple of times because she has anxiety, but I

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Speaker 1: had no problem at all with her until recently. Besides

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Speaker 1: some minor things.

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Speaker 2: Sorry, real quick. I know that she has anxiety. Is

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Speaker 2: that a slight red flag? How do we interpret that?

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Speaker 2: Like she has anxiety, like she has anxiety talking to people,

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Speaker 1: Oh, I don't think. I think people have different I mean,

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Speaker 1: as a person with anxiety. I think sometimes people just

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Speaker 1: don't want to let like necessarily, like it takes them

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Speaker 1: longer to meet, you know, new new people. M I

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Speaker 1: think they have to like where they have to be

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Speaker 1: in the place where they feel comfortable. I don't think

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Speaker 1: that's necessarily a red flag. Sometimes she would interject when

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Speaker 1: Mike would call me a sister. It wasn't alway but normally, like, well,

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Speaker 1: technically you aren't siblings. Why are you emphasizing that though?

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Speaker 1: Wouldn't you want the opposite when you want to go

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Speaker 1: to siblings? You're like siblings, right, which is one hundred

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Speaker 1: percent true, But it's how we viewed each other since

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Speaker 1: we were kids. So almost a month ago, my class

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Speaker 1: got canceled, so I came home early. I walk in

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Speaker 1: and ride on the couch. Is Mike and April having

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Speaker 1: spicy sleep, put a sock on the door, if I

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Speaker 1: have a sock on the door outside, if you had

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Speaker 1: a sock on our outside, I like, that's what I.

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Speaker 3: Think.

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Speaker 1: One that well. I think it's ridiculous to do it

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Speaker 1: in a public area.

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Speaker 2: Not public, it's my house, I know, But when you

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Speaker 2: live with people, is that a public? Private public area?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, private public area. I'm sorry. If you were engaged

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Speaker 1: in any sort of activity like that in the downstairs area,

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Speaker 1: I would be furious. I would be furious, honestly, even

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Speaker 1: if I didn't see it, Just like if I found

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Speaker 2: You live with someone, I think any public area like that,

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Speaker 2: I disagree. You should never never off bounce, off.

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Speaker 1: Bounce any public area in the house out of bounds.

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Speaker 1: Keep it in the bedroom unless you live alone, and

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Speaker 2: Use the part you pay for.

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Speaker 1: I scream, run to my room, me though, and frantically

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Speaker 1: I would be gone longer this matter. I made him

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Speaker 1: clean the couch, All good, right? Oh, I hate that.

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Speaker 3: No.

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Speaker 1: April for some reason got upset and felt that her words,

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Speaker 1: I did that on purpose. She opened the door to

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Speaker 1: and that it was inappropriate of me to walk in

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Speaker 2: I'm just trying to get mad at something, dude.

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Speaker 1: It's like, it's so inappropriate that you walked into the

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Speaker 1: living room as wild my own couch. Yeah, honestly burn

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Speaker 1: that couch. Burn it again. This was in the living room,

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Speaker 1: absolutely disgusting in my opinion, but I moved on because

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Speaker 1: it's not a big deal. Embarrassing, but nothing crazy Anyway.

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Speaker 1: Mike has been stressed recently because April has been asking

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Speaker 1: him to distance from me. I thought she was just embarrassed,

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Speaker 1: which I understood, so I tried to be friendly and apologized.

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Speaker 2: And her anxiety's kicking him probably crazy.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, April, this is your fault. This is

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Speaker 1: your own fault. Well, last weekend, Mike set me down

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Speaker 1: and basically said that I had to move out because

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Speaker 1: was floored. You can't just unless you are the freaking landlord,

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Speaker 1: you can't just tell her to move out. And also, op,

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Speaker 1: I'm so sorry. He is not a good friend. He's

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Speaker 1: not a good friend. If he is taking his girlfriend's side,

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Speaker 1: then he's too far gone.

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Speaker 2: I would say you need to move out. I could

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Speaker 2: see where April is moving in and they're like, hey,

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Speaker 2: how can we help with you move out? We're kind

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Speaker 2: of planning towards this. Yeah, that would be a cool conversation.

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Speaker 2: I'd be all right with that.

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Speaker 1: This is ridiculous. I got so upset. I don't think

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Speaker 1: I've yelled and cried that much in my life. The

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Speaker 1: basics is that he doesn't want me to then don't

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Speaker 1: ask her to. But he's pressured from his girlfriend and

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Speaker 1: he really loves her, so he wants to make her happy.

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Speaker 2: Toxic BXIC.

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Speaker 1: If you are putting your friend's feelings, you know, when

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Speaker 1: they've not done anything wrong, under your girlfriend's you know,

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Speaker 1: to splitting you up, that's toxic. He thinks that this

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Speaker 1: distance between us. This will absolutely change your friendship. Your

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Speaker 1: friendship is maybe over see if he had asked me

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Speaker 1: to move out, I'd understand, which is what you said? Okay, yeah,

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Speaker 1: maybe you want to take your relationship to the next

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Speaker 1: level exactly, But it was a demand, and not only that.

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Speaker 1: He wanted to put space between our friendship.

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Speaker 2: Ah, the girlfriend is infiltrating.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, why don't you move out? Dude? Ooh it was

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Speaker 1: effing hurtful. I've known him for sixteen years and that's it.

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Speaker 1: I've gone for someone he's known for seven months' whis

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Speaker 1: seven months and you're sacrificing your sixteen year friendship. I

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Speaker 1: said he was choosing a short relationship over his sister,

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Speaker 1: and that I don't want him to contact me if

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Speaker 1: he's going to be like that, he said, I was overreacting.

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Speaker 1: How is she overreacting? You're kicking her out of her home?

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Speaker 1: But I called my parents and got them to pick

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Speaker 1: me up literally, thank god they don't live far away.

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Speaker 1: But like, what if they did? What did he expect

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Speaker 1: me to effing do to sleep outside or something? Anyway,

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Speaker 1: I obviously had to tell my parents what was going on,

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Speaker 1: some of my things the next day. They called Mike's

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Speaker 1: parents and kind of chewed them out a little, and

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Speaker 1: from my understanding, they called Mike and did the same.

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Speaker 1: Mike messaged me to say that he was upset I

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Speaker 1: couldn't be civil and that he feels like I'm throwing

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Speaker 1: away a friendship. I blocked him shortly after, Mike, you

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Speaker 1: are throwing away the friendship. You are the one who's

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Speaker 1: causing all of the problems, and the fact that he

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Speaker 1: can't realize that.

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Speaker 2: Is Wait, how old are are they?

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Speaker 1: They're in college.

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Speaker 2: I think he's just doing this for some pood tang.

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Speaker 2: He's just thrown it all away because he's finally like,

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Speaker 2: oh my gosh.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: No.

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Speaker 1: I think he's being very immature, which makes sense because

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Speaker 1: he's in college, h and he's throwing away this, this

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Speaker 2: It's yeah, whack.

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Speaker 1: I don't like him. I've taken some time off classes,

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Speaker 1: but I'm so effing hurt and upset. It hurts that

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Speaker 1: Mike's parents. Like I said previously, our parents are really

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Speaker 1: His parents have been really kind and apologetic, even though

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Speaker 1: like I've made this into a bigger mess. This is

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Speaker 1: not your fault, op, this is Mike. Sorry if it's

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Speaker 1: a bit chaotic. I'm on the phone and still a

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Speaker 1: bit emotional. Also, I know I didn't have to leave.

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Speaker 1: Me and Mike both pay an equal amount of rent

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Speaker 1: for the apartment, but I didn't want to stay in

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Speaker 2: Has he even thought about the financial aspect of this.

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Speaker 1: No, it seems like he's not even considering it because like,

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Speaker 1: is his girlfriend moving in? Is she going to pay it?

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Speaker 1: Has he even found a new roommate. He's just it

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Speaker 1: seems like he's in this like snap judgment phase. I

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Speaker 1: just want to fix things for my girlfriend and you know,

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Speaker 1: go along with her wishes immediately, and I'm not going

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Speaker 2: Here's my point.

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Speaker 1: What is your point?

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Speaker 2: So this relationship it's in college. Him and April aren't

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Speaker 2: gonna last very long. Yeah, would you still take him

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Speaker 2: back as a brother once they break up.

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Speaker 1: I'm thinking that if my brother did this to me,

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Speaker 1: he would have to apologize a lot. Like let's say

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Speaker 1: like two months later, they break up or something, and

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Speaker 1: he comes back and is like, I'm so sorry that

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Speaker 1: was unacceptable. But I think if it was my brother,

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Speaker 1: I probably I probably would eventually.

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Speaker 2: Like let's say you and I live together. Yes, I

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Speaker 2: kick you out because my girlfriend is uncomfortable with you.

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Speaker 2: And then, given the context of our relationship, we've known

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Speaker 2: each other for a like probably a year. Well, yeah,

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Speaker 2: we'll just add ten years to it. Okay, we've known

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Speaker 2: each other for half a year and ten yeah, or

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Speaker 1: We have an edit and well comments edit. I read

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Speaker 2: Don't get over it.

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Speaker 1: They will. I think they will absolutely get over this.

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Speaker 1: the end of this episode. Thank you so much for watching,

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Speaker 3: This is an episode from Deep within the Archives.

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Speaker 4: Time for okop Relash.

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Speaker 3: I'm furious because my brother spent two hundred thousand dollars

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Speaker 3: of my inheritance on food and games. But it gets worse.

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Speaker 3: It's light work, light work. We were doing day three ubers,

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Speaker 3: Oh you're gonna get some maybe like Clash of Clans,

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Speaker 3: making sure you get that that gold, Gotta get a baby,

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Speaker 3: gotta get that. Okay, it's okay, Yeah, angry Birds. I

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Speaker 3: don't know what other and what other games do people play?

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Speaker 3: Mafia Mob thing, Yeah, Mafia Mob you know that one.

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Speaker 3: Let's see. I am nineteen and I currently live in

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Speaker 3: I were young. Eldest was eleven, second the brother in

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Speaker 4: Bro Get turning eighteen and getting two hundred and thirty

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Speaker 3: I thought you were about to say, is like damn

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Speaker 3: two hundred thirty thousand hours five parents, wank wank. I

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Speaker 3: decided to split the money into two accounts, seventy five

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Speaker 3: I wasn't spending much every month, and my grandma has

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Speaker 3: the money. Oh my god, my savings account had also

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Speaker 3: been taken from I'll admit I really should have been

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Speaker 4: Oh my god. And he's like not even eighteen years old.

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Speaker 3: So no, no, So he the brother is like twenty one,

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Speaker 3: probably twenty twenty. Oh my crow, throw him in jail,

436
00:21:49,400 --> 00:21:53,000
Speaker 3: like that is bad. So we're still going a little

437
00:21:53,000 --> 00:21:55,800
Speaker 3: bit okay. So he spent it all a whole one

438
00:21:55,920 --> 00:21:59,480
Speaker 3: hundred and ninety seven thousand dollars, Oh my god, John,

439
00:21:59,640 --> 00:22:01,560
Speaker 3: what is and spend one hundred andety seven thousand dollars?

440
00:22:01,640 --> 00:22:01,800
Speaker 1: Right?

441
00:22:02,080 --> 00:22:04,960
Speaker 3: Maybe like cars, down payment on a house, down payment

442
00:22:05,000 --> 00:22:07,600
Speaker 3: on a house, A vote, I get some big things, right? Yeah? No,

443
00:22:07,960 --> 00:22:10,639
Speaker 3: what did he do? Sam? What did all on food

444
00:22:10,800 --> 00:22:16,320
Speaker 3: and in game purchases? How it's a line of Uber eats, Postmates,

445
00:22:16,400 --> 00:22:19,240
Speaker 3: and game purchases. My grandma wants me to forgive him

446
00:22:19,400 --> 00:22:21,520
Speaker 3: and let him work to make the money back. But

447
00:22:21,600 --> 00:22:26,439
Speaker 3: this man just finished community college and has no work experience.

448
00:22:26,560 --> 00:22:28,600
Speaker 3: It would take years for him to make that money

449
00:22:28,600 --> 00:22:31,400
Speaker 3: back of minimum wage. So should I call the police

450
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Speaker 3: and have him arrested? Is there any way to get

451
00:22:34,520 --> 00:22:38,800
Speaker 3: that money back? My mind is completely blown round. That

452
00:22:38,840 --> 00:22:42,359
Speaker 3: would suck so much? What two hundred k? Two hundred

453
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Speaker 3: k gone?

454
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Speaker 4: OPI probably planned their life around being able to have

455
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Speaker 4: this money. Yeah, Like, and also it seems like they

456
00:22:51,320 --> 00:22:53,479
Speaker 4: were very responsible because it's like they set it up

457
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Speaker 4: for their grandma. You know. It's like, all right, I

458
00:22:56,359 --> 00:22:58,600
Speaker 4: know that I'm getting twelve k deducted a year. Like,

459
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Speaker 4: I mean, those are small things, but it generally sounds

460
00:23:02,160 --> 00:23:03,840
Speaker 4: like OP probably had a pretty good.

461
00:23:03,960 --> 00:23:07,800
Speaker 3: Handle handle on things, and like, but yeah, shit, show dude,

462
00:23:07,920 --> 00:23:10,480
Speaker 3: Oh just spend that much on that? Oh my god,

463
00:23:10,560 --> 00:23:13,080
Speaker 3: to spend that much on like in game purchases and

464
00:23:13,240 --> 00:23:17,000
Speaker 3: uber eats, bro like a how much Uber eats? You

465
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Speaker 3: get it?

466
00:23:17,440 --> 00:23:19,480
Speaker 4: I guess it has to be the in game purchases,

467
00:23:19,800 --> 00:23:22,520
Speaker 4: which is like insane, like how much are you playing,

468
00:23:22,720 --> 00:23:25,119
Speaker 4: you know, paying on classes. Maybe she could sue, like

469
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Speaker 4: for clash of Clans to give them a sack or whatever.

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Speaker 3: So there's an update.

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Speaker 2: Oh oh god.

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Speaker 3: So question one is how do you get access to this? Right? True?

504
00:24:56,960 --> 00:24:58,840
Speaker 3: Apparently my grandma sends him to the store with her

505
00:24:58,880 --> 00:25:02,159
Speaker 3: ATM card to get money. He memorized her card and

506
00:25:02,280 --> 00:25:04,919
Speaker 3: pin found the account shared with me and took from it.

507
00:25:05,040 --> 00:25:07,600
Speaker 3: Oh my god. And there's another update. I've managed to

508
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Speaker 3: convince my grandma, after a long argument about this potentially

509
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Speaker 3: ruining his life, to sue the bank for negligence and

510
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Speaker 3: speak to a lawyer. We're going to see if the

511
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Speaker 3: court would be willing to send him to a mental institution,

512
00:25:19,320 --> 00:25:21,800
Speaker 3: said jail, which I don't know. I feel like that

513
00:25:21,880 --> 00:25:24,719
Speaker 3: might be worse. I don't know, man, I don't know.

514
00:25:25,720 --> 00:25:28,080
Speaker 3: We haven't gotten him arrested yet, but I told her

515
00:25:28,160 --> 00:25:31,040
Speaker 3: if need be, I would call them myself. I like

516
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Speaker 3: to clarify my grandmother's intentions on protecting him like this.

517
00:25:34,160 --> 00:25:36,639
Speaker 3: My mother committed suicide right after my father died. My

518
00:25:36,680 --> 00:25:39,159
Speaker 3: grandma felt responsible for not helping her and seeing the

519
00:25:39,200 --> 00:25:41,320
Speaker 3: depression that took hold of her. She explained to me

520
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Speaker 3: that she knew something was mentally wrong with my mother

521
00:25:43,440 --> 00:25:45,400
Speaker 3: and was trying to make up for it by ignoring

522
00:25:45,440 --> 00:25:48,199
Speaker 3: my mother's mental state by shielding him. She had no

523
00:25:48,320 --> 00:25:51,320
Speaker 3: plane stealing my inheritance other than giving him her card.

524
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Speaker 3: So I went to the bank because he went through

525
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Speaker 3: my grandmother's account. The bank says we have no claim,

526
00:25:56,880 --> 00:25:58,800
Speaker 3: no case to sue the bank with. There's nothing I

527
00:25:58,800 --> 00:26:01,520
Speaker 3: can do to get the money back. I'm ruined financially.

528
00:26:01,600 --> 00:26:03,440
Speaker 3: All I can do is sue him and put him

529
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Speaker 3: in jail, but I'm never gonna see that money again.

530
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Speaker 3: I'd like to thank everyone once again for their help,

531
00:26:07,520 --> 00:26:09,800
Speaker 3: and I'm sorry if I haven't responded to messages, I

532
00:26:09,840 --> 00:26:15,720
Speaker 3: guess I'm just screwed. Oh wow, oh p The brother

533
00:26:15,840 --> 00:26:19,320
Speaker 3: is such a dick though. Wow, like imagine having that,

534
00:26:19,560 --> 00:26:21,800
Speaker 3: like what happened to the I wonder like what the

535
00:26:21,840 --> 00:26:24,520
Speaker 3: older older brother thinks, because like there's the Moral brothers,

536
00:26:24,560 --> 00:26:26,639
Speaker 3: the one that stole everything from op. I wonder what

537
00:26:26,720 --> 00:26:30,240
Speaker 3: the older brother thinks. And also what was the time

538
00:26:30,359 --> 00:26:33,320
Speaker 3: span in which he did this? Like two years or

539
00:26:33,359 --> 00:26:34,720
Speaker 3: a year or two years? I think it was a

540
00:26:34,800 --> 00:26:38,520
Speaker 3: year or two years, I mean blowing two hundred k

541
00:26:39,240 --> 00:26:39,879
Speaker 3: two years.

542
00:26:40,560 --> 00:26:43,600
Speaker 4: And it's and it's so terrible because like it would

543
00:26:43,600 --> 00:26:45,840
Speaker 4: be one thing if he bought like you know, cars

544
00:26:45,880 --> 00:26:47,920
Speaker 4: and like others, you can sell that. You can sell

545
00:26:47,920 --> 00:26:50,960
Speaker 4: that and recoup some of the money were in an

546
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Speaker 4: in game purchase.

547
00:26:51,920 --> 00:26:53,920
Speaker 3: Unless he's gonna like maybe he can sell his Classic

548
00:26:53,920 --> 00:26:56,440
Speaker 3: Clans account. What if? What if? What if?

549
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Speaker 4: Like you know, because like games are like introducing NFTs

550
00:26:58,760 --> 00:27:01,600
Speaker 4: and stuff. What if he actually like bought like game

551
00:27:01,720 --> 00:27:04,920
Speaker 4: NFTs and ended up being worth like millions of dollars.

552
00:27:05,160 --> 00:27:08,359
Speaker 3: Well, the NFT market has crashed, so it's probably screwed

553
00:27:08,400 --> 00:27:13,200
Speaker 3: either way, but damn that sucks. Guys, watch your bank accounts,

554
00:27:13,320 --> 00:27:16,200
Speaker 3: please please just look at to make sure no one's stealing,

555
00:27:16,280 --> 00:27:19,199
Speaker 3: like you give your family member, like just here's what

556
00:27:19,240 --> 00:27:21,439
Speaker 3: you do. There's money like I was.

557
00:27:21,560 --> 00:27:23,360
Speaker 4: I was about to say, hire someone to do I'm like, wait,

558
00:27:23,400 --> 00:27:27,520
Speaker 4: that's actually worse, Like just figure out way to watch

559
00:27:27,520 --> 00:27:28,080
Speaker 4: your finances.

560
00:27:28,119 --> 00:27:30,160
Speaker 3: Watch you watch your finances.

561
00:27:30,720 --> 00:27:33,159
Speaker 4: My girlfriend broke up with me, had a baby with

562
00:27:33,200 --> 00:27:36,000
Speaker 4: another man. Now she's dying and wants me to adopt

563
00:27:36,000 --> 00:27:42,000
Speaker 4: the kid. Okay, op, but dumb, dumb but dumb, dumb

564
00:27:42,440 --> 00:27:46,320
Speaker 4: but dumb, dumb but dumb, dumb.

565
00:27:47,920 --> 00:27:56,639
Speaker 3: Dumb store store, store, and the crowd goes wild. That

566
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Speaker 3: was That was John's nineteen sixties talk show, Wow, Thank

567
00:28:02,119 --> 00:28:04,399
Speaker 3: you so much, welcome.

568
00:28:04,640 --> 00:28:07,040
Speaker 4: My girlfriend broke up with me, had a baby with

569
00:28:07,119 --> 00:28:09,920
Speaker 4: another man. Now she's dying and wants me to adopt

570
00:28:09,920 --> 00:28:10,359
Speaker 4: the kid.

571
00:28:10,520 --> 00:28:13,360
Speaker 3: That is a roller coaster, But I want to strap

572
00:28:13,440 --> 00:28:15,959
Speaker 3: in and get ready to go on the loop to loops.

573
00:28:16,000 --> 00:28:18,000
Speaker 3: Not a situation I would want to be in. No,

574
00:28:18,080 --> 00:28:20,360
Speaker 3: but I want to hear about it and live vicariously

575
00:28:20,440 --> 00:28:21,160
Speaker 3: through others pain.

576
00:28:21,400 --> 00:28:24,080
Speaker 4: I thirty one M met my ex girlfriend twenty nine

577
00:28:24,160 --> 00:28:26,919
Speaker 4: female on a dating app around seven years ago. She

578
00:28:27,000 --> 00:28:29,080
Speaker 4: had a son just six months. All of the time

579
00:28:29,240 --> 00:28:33,040
Speaker 4: she was with multiple guys and ended up pregnant, still

580
00:28:33,080 --> 00:28:34,800
Speaker 4: not knowing who the biological father is.

581
00:28:34,840 --> 00:28:37,119
Speaker 3: Ooh big oof.

582
00:28:36,600 --> 00:28:38,880
Speaker 4: Ouch, But it wasn't that much of an issue to

583
00:28:38,920 --> 00:28:41,440
Speaker 4: me because she seemed like a great person and we

584
00:28:41,480 --> 00:28:44,080
Speaker 4: had a lot in common. After a few weeks of

585
00:28:44,160 --> 00:28:46,560
Speaker 4: chatting and talking online, we went on a first date

586
00:28:46,600 --> 00:28:48,719
Speaker 4: and had a great time. After that, we just started

587
00:28:48,720 --> 00:28:51,880
Speaker 4: hanging out whenever she could, and shortly after she introduced

588
00:28:51,920 --> 00:28:55,200
Speaker 4: me to her son. A few months into our relationship,

589
00:28:55,320 --> 00:28:56,800
Speaker 4: we moved in together to save money.

590
00:28:56,880 --> 00:28:58,880
Speaker 3: Dude, you should it move in with someone to save

591
00:28:59,400 --> 00:29:02,560
Speaker 3: money if it's a romantic partner, because that's when things

592
00:29:02,600 --> 00:29:04,120
Speaker 3: can go buy it.

593
00:29:04,000 --> 00:29:06,120
Speaker 4: And a few months like that's not a lot of time.

594
00:29:06,200 --> 00:29:08,640
Speaker 4: I started helping take care of her child whenever I could,

595
00:29:08,760 --> 00:29:10,880
Speaker 4: and we really grew fond of each other, and he

596
00:29:10,960 --> 00:29:13,920
Speaker 4: even started calling me Papa, and we just went along

597
00:29:13,920 --> 00:29:16,960
Speaker 4: with it since my girlfriend didn't mind. Now, almost five

598
00:29:17,120 --> 00:29:20,600
Speaker 4: years into our relationship, she told me that she wants

599
00:29:20,680 --> 00:29:23,640
Speaker 4: to break up with me because I became boring and

600
00:29:23,840 --> 00:29:26,480
Speaker 4: not an active person like I used to be.

601
00:29:26,760 --> 00:29:30,160
Speaker 3: That hurts man, not even like yeah, you know, I

602
00:29:30,160 --> 00:29:33,080
Speaker 3: think our lives are just going in different directions, like

603
00:29:33,160 --> 00:29:38,520
Speaker 3: you're boring and you're fat and ugly, and I at too.

604
00:29:38,880 --> 00:29:40,960
Speaker 4: We used to go on hikes and travel around the

605
00:29:40,960 --> 00:29:44,560
Speaker 4: country on weekends, so I obviously don't do that much anymore.

606
00:29:44,920 --> 00:29:47,200
Speaker 4: And she also said I work too much, you know,

607
00:29:47,400 --> 00:29:48,040
Speaker 4: the cherry on.

608
00:29:48,040 --> 00:29:51,280
Speaker 3: The cake, damn, trying to provide for the family.

609
00:29:51,360 --> 00:29:53,160
Speaker 4: It was a rough time after that, and I had

610
00:29:53,200 --> 00:29:55,640
Speaker 4: a hard time accepting it, although not as hard as

611
00:29:55,680 --> 00:29:58,240
Speaker 4: explaining to a five year old that he'll no longer

612
00:29:58,320 --> 00:29:58,920
Speaker 4: be seeing.

613
00:29:58,720 --> 00:30:00,520
Speaker 3: As popable, oh bro.

614
00:30:01,200 --> 00:30:03,800
Speaker 4: But I managed to get over it in a few months.

615
00:30:03,920 --> 00:30:06,560
Speaker 4: I found a better job that allowed me to work remotely,

616
00:30:06,920 --> 00:30:08,240
Speaker 4: and I had a lot of free time, so I

617
00:30:08,320 --> 00:30:10,880
Speaker 4: actually ended up exploring a few other countries.

618
00:30:11,120 --> 00:30:14,720
Speaker 3: Sick, Sometimes you gotta drop the baggage to become a

619
00:30:14,800 --> 00:30:17,600
Speaker 3: free man. Don't check it in, just put it on.

620
00:30:17,680 --> 00:30:18,680
Speaker 3: Carry on now.

621
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Speaker 4: A few days ago, I got a call from my ex,

622
00:30:22,200 --> 00:30:24,320
Speaker 4: so you know, time is passed, okay.

623
00:30:24,560 --> 00:30:27,280
Speaker 3: She said that she is sick and in the hospital.

624
00:30:27,560 --> 00:30:30,680
Speaker 4: She removed one of the tumors in her breast, but

625
00:30:30,840 --> 00:30:34,560
Speaker 4: recently found another tumor in her other breast and she

626
00:30:34,680 --> 00:30:36,640
Speaker 4: will need that removed as well. So like this is

627
00:30:37,080 --> 00:30:40,360
Speaker 4: this is serious, serious stuff right here? Yeah, she is

628
00:30:40,440 --> 00:30:43,200
Speaker 4: scared that she might die if it doesn't work out.

629
00:30:43,360 --> 00:30:46,160
Speaker 4: Oh no, asked me if i'd be willing to become

630
00:30:46,240 --> 00:30:49,080
Speaker 4: her son's legal guardian and adopt him since she has

631
00:30:49,080 --> 00:30:49,960
Speaker 4: no one else to ask.

632
00:30:50,160 --> 00:30:53,320
Speaker 3: Frick, dude, that is such a tough ask.

633
00:30:53,560 --> 00:30:57,400
Speaker 4: Now, as mentioned, I live a different lifestyle now, he's

634
00:30:57,440 --> 00:30:59,120
Speaker 4: no longer boring because of her.

635
00:30:59,360 --> 00:31:00,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, he ain't got the time.

636
00:31:01,240 --> 00:31:04,280
Speaker 4: I travel a lot. I invest in myself. So I

637
00:31:04,360 --> 00:31:07,200
Speaker 4: told her that I can't do that. She told me

638
00:31:07,280 --> 00:31:09,560
Speaker 4: that her son misses me and would love to see me,

639
00:31:10,120 --> 00:31:13,560
Speaker 4: but I said no again, And after I said no again,

640
00:31:13,680 --> 00:31:17,360
Speaker 4: she started crying, calling me names before just ending the call.

641
00:31:17,440 --> 00:31:19,680
Speaker 4: Now I talked to my sister and my parents about this,

642
00:31:20,000 --> 00:31:22,360
Speaker 4: and they told me that it's an effed up thing

643
00:31:22,400 --> 00:31:26,000
Speaker 4: to refuse after all those years that we spent together.

644
00:31:26,640 --> 00:31:31,000
Speaker 4: I feel like trash now. So the question is am

645
00:31:31,040 --> 00:31:33,640
Speaker 4: I the a hole for not wanting to adopt my

646
00:31:33,880 --> 00:31:38,560
Speaker 4: dying ex girlfriend's child. Quick story? Before I was building

647
00:31:38,560 --> 00:31:42,480
Speaker 4: a podcast business, my little entrepreneurial booty was selling stuff

648
00:31:42,520 --> 00:31:43,560
Speaker 4: online in middle school.

649
00:31:43,560 --> 00:31:44,640
Speaker 3: In high school, it was.

650
00:31:44,600 --> 00:31:45,360
Speaker 2: Me and my mommy.

651
00:31:45,400 --> 00:31:47,760
Speaker 4: We'd be in the garage selling all kinds of stuff

652
00:31:47,800 --> 00:31:51,280
Speaker 4: and I hated shipping. But you know what changed the

653
00:31:51,360 --> 00:31:54,600
Speaker 4: game for me? Ship station, and if y'all are selling

654
00:31:54,680 --> 00:31:57,840
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Speaker 3: Baby knocks Baby whoa dude? Frick Like, dude, this is

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Speaker 3: so tough. I don't think he's an a hole for

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Speaker 3: saying no. I mean, like it's like it's not his

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Speaker 3: Like the nicest thing he could do would be to

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Speaker 3: adopt his ex girlfriends, his dying ex girlfriend's kid. But

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Speaker 3: like it's not his responsibility, right, Like he's he's not

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Speaker 3: related by blood. He dated this girl for a couple

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Speaker 3: but that doesn't mean that it's suddenly his kid. And

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Speaker 3: also the girl broke up with him exactly.

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Speaker 4: Actually, there there was an interesting comment that I pulled

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Speaker 4: in that in that regard. So this is from Unpopular Kryptonite.

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Speaker 4: Great handle there.

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Speaker 3: Oh I actually got some kryptonite right here. Uh oh bute,

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Speaker 3: Yeah that is right there, Crystal, I've been crystaled. I'm

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Speaker 3: a Crystal boy. Now do Crystal saying sports sports? Crystal

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Speaker 3: sport boys. So on?

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Speaker 4: Popular Kryptonite says not the a whole don't do it.

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Speaker 4: The kid doesn't remember you, it's been two years. She

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Speaker 4: her since you were so boring.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, you know, I totally forgot how mean she

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Speaker 3: was when she broke up with her.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: That's the thing is like she's like, you're so boring,

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Speaker 4: Like I ask one of your more.

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Speaker 3: Savage super savage. Oh yeah, I mean in the end,

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Speaker 3: although really quick, I don't like. If you want an

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Speaker 3: empathetic answer, the Reddit comments are the worst place, you

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Speaker 3: know how if you want to go there for the empathy, like.

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Speaker 2: You're you're not.

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Speaker 3: Like, if you want to become a better person, just

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Speaker 3: just don't take the advice of Reddit comments. Reddit comments

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Speaker 3: are like that that girl is you know, crazy or

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Speaker 3: she's a complete b. But you know, we were out

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Speaker 3: here trying to be mother Teresa. We're so you know,

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Speaker 3: we're trying to be better humans. Had a little sugar

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Speaker 3: to your society, you know what I mean? Like I

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Speaker 3: had an ex girlfriend of like three years. She has

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Speaker 3: a couple of sisters or like like what no, of

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Speaker 3: four or five years ago? Like you dated her for

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Speaker 3: four or five years. So I did her for two

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Speaker 3: years and it ended like four or five years ago. Okay,

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Speaker 3: got it?

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Speaker 1: Got it.

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Speaker 3: If she suddenly said, Sam, I'm dying, can you adopt

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Speaker 3: my sister? I would be like, Bro, you broke up

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Speaker 3: with me? Yeah, it's I don't I don't think. I'm like,

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Speaker 3: uh no, I you know that I've moved on. I'm

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Speaker 3: I think.

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Speaker 4: I think that's like basically, if you break up with someone,

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Speaker 4: it's an opt out for their family essentially, Like you're

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Speaker 4: basically saying, like I don't want you in my life, like, yeah,

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Speaker 4: I don't want you.

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Speaker 3: I don't want you in my life, go in my

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Speaker 3: family's life. Yeah, And you can't just like say like hey,

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Speaker 3: someone else in your family, just like hey, like I

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Speaker 3: need your help. Like that's not how it works. No, No,

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Speaker 3: if like, oh he really wanted to, that's fine. But yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 3: like I think it's okay for her to ask, that's

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Speaker 3: a fair Yeah, but I don't think it's Op's responsibility

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