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Speaker 1: This is How Men Think with broths Like and Gavin

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Speaker 1: de grab and I heard Radio Podcasts. Welcome to another

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Speaker 1: episode of How Men Think. My name is brooks Like.

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Speaker 1: And last week we had an amazing guest on, Mr

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Speaker 1: Tyler Rich and we answered listener questions. So we answered

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Speaker 1: your questions and we love doing those shows. And this

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Speaker 1: week we have another special guest on to answer more

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Speaker 1: of your questions. Last week, it was a lot of

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Speaker 1: questions from listeners that were about fatherhood, and neither Tyler

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Speaker 1: nor I were fathers, so we thought, to serve the

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Speaker 1: mission of the community, we need to bring an out

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Speaker 1: standing father on to answer some of these questions. So

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Speaker 1: we have an amazing guest. Everybody is gonna just fan

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Speaker 1: girl when I say this name. Here at the moment,

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Speaker 1: we have an amazing guest on with us. He is

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Speaker 1: a father, but he has many more things than that

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Speaker 1: as well. Um. He is a music superstar, a living legend.

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Speaker 1: He's also an actor, host, a Broadway star, a voiceover artist,

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Speaker 1: a dancer, media personality, everything you name it. This man

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Speaker 1: is from the band in Sync. His name is Mr Joey,

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Speaker 1: but tone Joey. What's up, Buddy Man? Doing all right?

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Speaker 1: I'm great, and I guarantee listening in their cars or

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Speaker 1: in their homes, that the ladies are just screaming and

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Speaker 1: going wild. Well, hopefully that screaming to lead in their cars.

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Speaker 1: I don't want to get the little little deaf there,

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Speaker 1: so make sure it's a a relatively nice scream, but

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Speaker 1: not as loud. I hope that loud. You guys deserve

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Speaker 1: that you deserve that you are a living legend. Dude.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm gonna get any girl in my phone.

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Speaker 1: Any friends of mine are gonna send me text messages

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Speaker 1: as soon as this is over it. I'm here to

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Speaker 1: help anytime. If I'm here to help, if you need anything,

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Speaker 1: don't worry about it. No, it's it's great to be

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Speaker 1: on man, I really appreciate it. It's interesting, you know,

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Speaker 1: from from different perspectives from different man and it's it's

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Speaker 1: fun to be on something like this to get my

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Speaker 1: perspectives appreciate again. Yeah, and I'm looking forward to getting

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Speaker 1: your perspective as well, because I've said on to show

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Speaker 1: many times, I think the greatest, my ultimate destiny, the

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Speaker 1: greatest thing I could ever do in my life is

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Speaker 1: be a loving husband and a loving father and I'm

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Speaker 1: not yet a father, so I always appreciate when we

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Speaker 1: have people who are fathers on the show. So I

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Speaker 1: get to ask to ask questions and and sort of

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Speaker 1: just armed myself to become a father and prepared to

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Speaker 1: become a father. But also serves our community amazingly as well.

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Speaker 1: I also just want to tip my cap to user,

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Speaker 1: because you are a man of many hats um, and

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Speaker 1: it's impressive to see you go across industry and have

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Speaker 1: so many talents. You're obviously known as a performer, but

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Speaker 1: you have so many other talents. Yeah, it's it's nice

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Speaker 1: that so far someone has not told me I sucked yet,

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Speaker 1: which is good. That's always a good It's always a

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Speaker 1: good indication that you're doing something right. Um. Also, I

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Speaker 1: shall say, um, I don't know if you remember it

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Speaker 1: room two of our friends, very very very good dancers

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Speaker 1: got married. Yeah you got up and sang, um that

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Speaker 1: was that was and Sasha probably then yeah, buddy, if

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Speaker 1: you lit the whole fun it was. So that night

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Speaker 1: some of it. Tordsend was a little bit of a

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Speaker 1: know if you knew what happened to me that night. Um,

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Speaker 1: so everybody in the room is professional dancers, including yourself

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Speaker 1: being on Dancing with the Stars. I think you were

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Speaker 1: Dancing with the Stars, right yea, So, um, everybody in

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Speaker 1: like three of us. And I put on my suit,

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Speaker 1: put on this nice black suit to come to this wedding,

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Speaker 1: and I'm like, wow, my suit is a little tight.

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Speaker 1: You know, this was a suit from when I was

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Speaker 1: So I also I want to get into more of

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Speaker 1: have a new show, common knowledge, a lot of stuff

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Speaker 1: But to serve our community first, I want to ask

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Speaker 1: She says, guys with kids, how are you surviving this time? Marriage, dating, parenting?

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Speaker 1: is his girlfriend. And Matt and my daughter kept looking

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00:18:46,440 --> 00:18:48,280
Speaker 1: as she got all the going there's no way in

426
00:18:48,359 --> 00:18:52,399
Speaker 1: hell that Matt was dating that girl, No way, because

427
00:18:52,440 --> 00:18:54,280
Speaker 1: he's like he's like a Tom Young, like a young

428
00:18:54,320 --> 00:18:56,600
Speaker 1: goofy Tom Hanks kind of thing. And then you have

429
00:18:56,960 --> 00:18:59,600
Speaker 1: you know, Isabel, who's this tall, beautiful Brazilian. So it's

430
00:18:59,600 --> 00:19:03,040
Speaker 1: it's a areas how that whole thing, you know, you know,

431
00:19:03,320 --> 00:19:05,479
Speaker 1: it goes down. But again for me, it was like,

432
00:19:05,520 --> 00:19:07,720
Speaker 1: I want to make sure that I'm in this with

433
00:19:07,760 --> 00:19:10,480
Speaker 1: her before they meet my kids, you know, And I

434
00:19:10,520 --> 00:19:12,159
Speaker 1: think for me that's when I did that. But you know,

435
00:19:12,200 --> 00:19:14,800
Speaker 1: again to each his own, toever. You know, sometimes people

436
00:19:15,080 --> 00:19:16,960
Speaker 1: fall in love, they move in very quickly and that's

437
00:19:17,040 --> 00:19:19,399
Speaker 1: that's that's their that's their bag, that's what they like.

438
00:19:19,880 --> 00:19:21,639
Speaker 1: But for me, I know that I would take the

439
00:19:21,680 --> 00:19:26,119
Speaker 1: time before I introduce my significant other to my kids

440
00:19:26,119 --> 00:19:29,119
Speaker 1: because again that's a hard thing, especially depending on the

441
00:19:29,160 --> 00:19:31,879
Speaker 1: age as well. Like my little one really doesn't know

442
00:19:31,920 --> 00:19:34,359
Speaker 1: as much. It didn't really know as I didn't know.

443
00:19:36,119 --> 00:19:38,320
Speaker 1: They're not stupid. Let's be real here, kids are not stupid.

444
00:19:38,600 --> 00:19:40,800
Speaker 1: They they will they will see things and they will

445
00:19:40,840 --> 00:19:43,159
Speaker 1: know things. And even like sometimes you know, as she

446
00:19:43,240 --> 00:19:45,600
Speaker 1: was getting a little older and I was dating Isabelle,

447
00:19:45,720 --> 00:19:49,119
Speaker 1: there has been questions like legit, like you know, uh,

448
00:19:49,160 --> 00:19:51,120
Speaker 1: you know you still married to mommy? Do you still

449
00:19:51,160 --> 00:19:53,080
Speaker 1: love mommy? And you kind of go, yeah, we still

450
00:19:53,080 --> 00:19:55,639
Speaker 1: love each other, but we're just not together in a relationship.

451
00:19:56,000 --> 00:19:58,080
Speaker 1: We're always still gonna be there for each other. We're

452
00:19:58,080 --> 00:20:01,120
Speaker 1: always gonna be there for you. And it's a tough

453
00:20:01,160 --> 00:20:03,360
Speaker 1: it's a it's it's not an easy thing to kind

454
00:20:03,400 --> 00:20:07,040
Speaker 1: of talk about it, especially when the kids can't understand

455
00:20:07,040 --> 00:20:10,359
Speaker 1: it or they don't grasp you know. They're they're taught

456
00:20:10,680 --> 00:20:12,800
Speaker 1: to love one another, to love people, and if you

457
00:20:12,840 --> 00:20:15,280
Speaker 1: really care about that person, you know, maybe you get

458
00:20:15,280 --> 00:20:16,760
Speaker 1: married with them and you have kids with them, and

459
00:20:16,760 --> 00:20:20,240
Speaker 1: that's that's the that's the thing. It's never, well, what

460
00:20:20,240 --> 00:20:21,919
Speaker 1: happens if you get married or you're together and you

461
00:20:21,920 --> 00:20:24,600
Speaker 1: guys really really don't really see eye to eye anymore?

462
00:20:24,840 --> 00:20:26,880
Speaker 1: And how does that work when you actually go through

463
00:20:27,080 --> 00:20:29,919
Speaker 1: a separation or divorce or not being with them. So

464
00:20:29,960 --> 00:20:32,840
Speaker 1: it's hard to really explain that to kids. But as

465
00:20:32,880 --> 00:20:36,200
Speaker 1: they get older, they do start to understand and they

466
00:20:36,240 --> 00:20:38,719
Speaker 1: have I think for me, they have a little bit

467
00:20:38,720 --> 00:20:42,760
Speaker 1: of appreciation of how me and Kelly kind of handled

468
00:20:42,800 --> 00:20:45,199
Speaker 1: what we did as far as going into that with

469
00:20:45,200 --> 00:20:48,960
Speaker 1: our children. Amazing. Yeah, two years is long. I I

470
00:20:49,000 --> 00:20:52,119
Speaker 1: wouldn't guess, obviously, because I'm not in that situation. Maybe

471
00:20:52,800 --> 00:20:54,080
Speaker 1: off the top of my head and maybe would have

472
00:20:54,119 --> 00:20:56,240
Speaker 1: guessed like four or six months. But like the fact

473
00:20:56,240 --> 00:20:59,200
Speaker 1: that you were that thorough, that thorough, Like I really

474
00:20:59,680 --> 00:21:01,439
Speaker 1: just as you how much you love and want to

475
00:21:01,480 --> 00:21:04,800
Speaker 1: protect a few daughters because you don't know. Yeah, especially

476
00:21:04,800 --> 00:21:06,320
Speaker 1: in a situation that I'm in. You don't know what

477
00:21:06,400 --> 00:21:09,400
Speaker 1: the what the what the reasoning of whatever. The girl

478
00:21:09,480 --> 00:21:11,680
Speaker 1: that I just say side I decided to meet or

479
00:21:11,680 --> 00:21:14,080
Speaker 1: whatever has a different intention you don't. I don't know,

480
00:21:14,240 --> 00:21:16,359
Speaker 1: So I want to make sure that it's legit, it's real.

481
00:21:16,880 --> 00:21:18,560
Speaker 1: It's not like, you know, a flash in the pan.

482
00:21:18,600 --> 00:21:20,960
Speaker 1: It could have been a rebounder. You don't know. You

483
00:21:20,960 --> 00:21:23,640
Speaker 1: know again, you never know until you really go Okay,

484
00:21:23,720 --> 00:21:25,280
Speaker 1: that's the person I really want to be with for

485
00:21:25,280 --> 00:21:26,560
Speaker 1: for the rest of my life or for a really

486
00:21:26,640 --> 00:21:28,880
Speaker 1: long time, and I want them to be a part

487
00:21:28,960 --> 00:21:32,560
Speaker 1: of my life with my children. Yeah. Wow, great answer,

488
00:21:32,640 --> 00:21:45,640
Speaker 1: Thanks Joy, he said, you got another one. Yes, this

489
00:21:45,680 --> 00:21:49,400
Speaker 1: is from anonymous how do dads cope with their daughters

490
00:21:49,480 --> 00:21:51,640
Speaker 1: or sons that are getting older and leaving the house

491
00:21:51,680 --> 00:21:54,520
Speaker 1: and starting their own lives. How do you navigate that transition?

492
00:21:56,200 --> 00:21:58,960
Speaker 1: I said, Brianna, get the hell out. No, I'm kidding.

493
00:22:02,320 --> 00:22:06,920
Speaker 1: I bought it. Get the hell out. You know what's

494
00:22:06,920 --> 00:22:09,720
Speaker 1: so funny, there's there's different there's different kids. Kids are

495
00:22:09,760 --> 00:22:12,960
Speaker 1: gonna be different, um like for instance, and again, it's

496
00:22:13,040 --> 00:22:17,120
Speaker 1: interesting how dynamic and how different my daughters are from

497
00:22:17,119 --> 00:22:20,480
Speaker 1: each other. Where you have Brianna, who is never really

498
00:22:20,480 --> 00:22:23,600
Speaker 1: a hugger. She'll hug you and stuff, but never hug strangers.

499
00:22:23,920 --> 00:22:26,720
Speaker 1: She was never like even the type to give a hug.

500
00:22:26,760 --> 00:22:30,160
Speaker 1: To my parents. We would tell her, you know, all right, yeah,

501
00:22:30,240 --> 00:22:32,960
Speaker 1: lean over and and and and give your forehead basically

502
00:22:32,960 --> 00:22:34,359
Speaker 1: because she would go to hug, but she would just

503
00:22:34,400 --> 00:22:37,479
Speaker 1: lean her forehead to her shoulder, never wrap their arms

504
00:22:37,560 --> 00:22:41,080
Speaker 1: or even like my parents, her grandparents, she was there

505
00:22:41,119 --> 00:22:43,960
Speaker 1: like that. Chloe's a different story. Chloe hugs and loves everyone.

506
00:22:44,640 --> 00:22:46,680
Speaker 1: And the reason why I saying that is with Brianne.

507
00:22:46,720 --> 00:22:50,040
Speaker 1: With Brianna, my older one, she was excited and ready

508
00:22:50,520 --> 00:22:52,240
Speaker 1: at the house, not like you're like, oh my god,

509
00:22:52,240 --> 00:22:53,840
Speaker 1: I can't wait to get out of you drive me crazy.

510
00:22:54,080 --> 00:22:56,119
Speaker 1: It's more or less of I really want to go

511
00:22:56,160 --> 00:22:59,280
Speaker 1: into the world, and I think we have I think

512
00:22:59,400 --> 00:23:01,040
Speaker 1: I'd like to say and think that we did a

513
00:23:01,080 --> 00:23:04,600
Speaker 1: good job on prepping her to be smart about things,

514
00:23:04,640 --> 00:23:07,000
Speaker 1: to be independent, to be an independent person, and not

515
00:23:07,040 --> 00:23:10,679
Speaker 1: really rely on other people all the time, because there

516
00:23:10,680 --> 00:23:13,399
Speaker 1: are times that people are you know, it's it's just

517
00:23:13,520 --> 00:23:17,480
Speaker 1: it's a true fact. Everybody is never not everyone's always

518
00:23:17,520 --> 00:23:19,320
Speaker 1: gonna be there for you. It may happen a lot

519
00:23:19,320 --> 00:23:21,840
Speaker 1: of times, but not everybody is always gonna be So

520
00:23:21,840 --> 00:23:24,160
Speaker 1: how do you think for yourself? You know. So it's

521
00:23:24,160 --> 00:23:26,960
Speaker 1: funny to watch her because, especially in college, when she

522
00:23:27,000 --> 00:23:29,200
Speaker 1: has a roommate and she's in the dorm and it's

523
00:23:29,200 --> 00:23:32,359
Speaker 1: almost like not that she's bathing the roommate, but she

524
00:23:32,440 --> 00:23:37,560
Speaker 1: has that motherly I guess feeling instinct, yeah, instincts where

525
00:23:37,760 --> 00:23:39,000
Speaker 1: she's like, oh my god, I had to clean the

526
00:23:39,080 --> 00:23:40,560
Speaker 1: room today, or I have my god, this was messy.

527
00:23:40,600 --> 00:23:42,520
Speaker 1: And to make sure this, I said, oh, you're finally

528
00:23:42,600 --> 00:23:44,520
Speaker 1: learning about things. I'm like, wait until you get a

529
00:23:44,600 --> 00:23:46,400
Speaker 1: job now. And now she's been getting you know, she's

530
00:23:46,440 --> 00:23:48,879
Speaker 1: working now and now it's a whole another thing. But

531
00:23:49,040 --> 00:23:51,800
Speaker 1: she was, you know, for me, it's it's sad. Of course,

532
00:23:51,960 --> 00:23:55,240
Speaker 1: it's so weird to see your child grow up. It's

533
00:23:55,400 --> 00:23:57,640
Speaker 1: there always people always say it, People always say this stuff,

534
00:23:57,680 --> 00:23:59,080
Speaker 1: and you always go, well, you don't, you never, you

535
00:23:59,080 --> 00:24:01,199
Speaker 1: don't understand less you have a child. And it is

536
00:24:01,240 --> 00:24:03,679
Speaker 1: so true. And it's not like shove me, get down

537
00:24:03,720 --> 00:24:05,600
Speaker 1: your throat, like, oh my god, you know what you're doing.

538
00:24:05,720 --> 00:24:08,240
Speaker 1: It's more or less of It is a such an

539
00:24:08,280 --> 00:24:11,960
Speaker 1: odd feeling to have somebody that you loved that from

540
00:24:12,000 --> 00:24:14,960
Speaker 1: the very beginning could never even speak to you or

541
00:24:15,040 --> 00:24:16,919
Speaker 1: talk to you when the kid was born, that you

542
00:24:16,960 --> 00:24:19,120
Speaker 1: have so much love for this person, and now this

543
00:24:19,160 --> 00:24:23,000
Speaker 1: person is a grown ass woman and she's doing things

544
00:24:23,080 --> 00:24:26,560
Speaker 1: and going through things that you did before, but in

545
00:24:26,640 --> 00:24:32,680
Speaker 1: a different path. And it's weird to go, Okay, I've

546
00:24:32,680 --> 00:24:36,520
Speaker 1: seen you sing at a kid's school play, you know,

547
00:24:36,600 --> 00:24:40,000
Speaker 1: singing Yankee Doodle Danny in kindergarten. And now you're walking

548
00:24:40,000 --> 00:24:43,160
Speaker 1: down getting your diploma, and now you're going into college

549
00:24:43,160 --> 00:24:45,160
Speaker 1: and you go, what the hell just happened? How did

550
00:24:45,200 --> 00:24:48,000
Speaker 1: that time go? And it's it's an emotional roller coaster.

551
00:24:48,119 --> 00:24:49,960
Speaker 1: It is I mean, I got I cried like a

552
00:24:50,040 --> 00:24:55,600
Speaker 1: freaking baby when I left her. I remember this, I

553
00:24:55,640 --> 00:24:57,480
Speaker 1: actually left her. I was like, all right, cool, and

554
00:24:57,480 --> 00:25:00,320
Speaker 1: I was like in the dorm and I'm like, you're

555
00:25:00,320 --> 00:25:03,560
Speaker 1: all settled in. I'm like, all right, I said, the

556
00:25:03,600 --> 00:25:06,119
Speaker 1: only thing for me when I got upset and I

557
00:25:06,119 --> 00:25:07,520
Speaker 1: told her, I said, I was like, I got teared

558
00:25:07,560 --> 00:25:09,720
Speaker 1: saying it because I said to her, listen, I said,

559
00:25:09,760 --> 00:25:11,320
Speaker 1: here's the here's the thing that sucks, and said, it's

560
00:25:11,359 --> 00:25:12,760
Speaker 1: great that you're going and doing all the things that

561
00:25:12,760 --> 00:25:14,640
Speaker 1: you're doing. The only thing that sucks is and I'm

562
00:25:14,720 --> 00:25:17,800
Speaker 1: used to traveling anyway. So therefore we have We're good

563
00:25:18,119 --> 00:25:20,000
Speaker 1: with each other in a sense of calling each other,

564
00:25:20,080 --> 00:25:22,400
Speaker 1: face timing each other. The hardest part is is when

565
00:25:22,440 --> 00:25:24,960
Speaker 1: I come home to Florida and I want to see you,

566
00:25:25,119 --> 00:25:28,480
Speaker 1: You're not there. You're a Michigan to see you for

567
00:25:28,680 --> 00:25:30,560
Speaker 1: a lot of the other holidays that you normally I

568
00:25:30,640 --> 00:25:33,680
Speaker 1: normally see, you're not there. So that kind of tradition

569
00:25:33,680 --> 00:25:35,240
Speaker 1: and that kind of stuff is where it hurts home

570
00:25:35,240 --> 00:25:38,320
Speaker 1: and you're like, sucks, you know. But again, it's one

571
00:25:38,320 --> 00:25:39,760
Speaker 1: of those things where you have to let you kild fly.

572
00:25:40,040 --> 00:25:42,480
Speaker 1: You have to let them to to make those mistakes.

573
00:25:42,480 --> 00:25:44,960
Speaker 1: And you know, even now, there's so many times that

574
00:25:45,000 --> 00:25:47,639
Speaker 1: we bumped heads. And one time I said something that

575
00:25:47,680 --> 00:25:49,600
Speaker 1: she actually told me to go f myself, which I

576
00:25:49,640 --> 00:25:51,320
Speaker 1: was like, whoa, I mean, you want to get deep

577
00:25:51,359 --> 00:25:54,439
Speaker 1: with stuff? And we we had a heated argument. We

578
00:25:54,480 --> 00:25:58,600
Speaker 1: had a we had a heated argument. Can I criss

579
00:25:58,600 --> 00:26:00,639
Speaker 1: on here? No? I can't cross. You want easy to

580
00:26:00,800 --> 00:26:03,199
Speaker 1: believe it to be things? You should believe it? Oh yeah, no,

581
00:26:03,200 --> 00:26:06,320
Speaker 1: no legit I I we had an argument about something

582
00:26:06,480 --> 00:26:09,040
Speaker 1: and I I said something that I shouldn't have that

583
00:26:09,119 --> 00:26:12,080
Speaker 1: triggered her to get upset because she was I've never

584
00:26:12,080 --> 00:26:14,119
Speaker 1: seen to be very outspoken like that. And I'm like,

585
00:26:14,680 --> 00:26:17,359
Speaker 1: you got you're very passionate, you're very upset, and the

586
00:26:17,400 --> 00:26:19,680
Speaker 1: way it came out again, I should have said this again,

587
00:26:19,880 --> 00:26:21,520
Speaker 1: we don't say the right things all the time, but

588
00:26:21,560 --> 00:26:23,399
Speaker 1: I was like, you're really upset? Are you were in

589
00:26:23,440 --> 00:26:27,440
Speaker 1: your period? And that set off a whole another level

590
00:26:27,480 --> 00:26:30,120
Speaker 1: of something that I've never seen before. So that's why

591
00:26:30,160 --> 00:26:32,280
Speaker 1: she told me to go. Basically, she said, you can

592
00:26:32,320 --> 00:26:34,080
Speaker 1: go yourself. It's what she said to me. And I

593
00:26:34,080 --> 00:26:36,679
Speaker 1: went and I stepped back for a second and I

594
00:26:36,720 --> 00:26:38,719
Speaker 1: just let her go out. She get all steamed up.

595
00:26:38,760 --> 00:26:41,320
Speaker 1: She tells me everything. I go, okay, I left room.

596
00:26:41,359 --> 00:26:42,800
Speaker 1: I went back in the room and I said, do

597
00:26:42,920 --> 00:26:46,160
Speaker 1: me a favor. I said, you know, I know that

598
00:26:46,200 --> 00:26:49,360
Speaker 1: we do have great conversations again, and it's it's amazing

599
00:26:49,400 --> 00:26:52,200
Speaker 1: to me how she is very open to a lot

600
00:26:52,240 --> 00:26:55,440
Speaker 1: of things that not even myself, or sometimes I would

601
00:26:55,440 --> 00:26:58,760
Speaker 1: think even my friends kids would never say to them

602
00:26:58,840 --> 00:27:03,719
Speaker 1: or openly say to them. But it's interesting where I

603
00:27:03,760 --> 00:27:05,920
Speaker 1: was like, do me a favor. I said, we can

604
00:27:05,960 --> 00:27:08,239
Speaker 1: have conversations. You can be mad at me, you can

605
00:27:08,280 --> 00:27:10,360
Speaker 1: go inside and say I said, if you ever say

606
00:27:10,359 --> 00:27:12,600
Speaker 1: that ever again, I will beat your ass. I said,

607
00:27:12,640 --> 00:27:14,560
Speaker 1: you want to know what a grown person would do

608
00:27:14,600 --> 00:27:17,440
Speaker 1: to a grown person. You're grown woman, though, I will

609
00:27:17,560 --> 00:27:19,960
Speaker 1: beat your ass because I'm your father. I said, don't

610
00:27:20,000 --> 00:27:22,120
Speaker 1: ever speak to me like that ever again. I said,

611
00:27:22,160 --> 00:27:23,600
Speaker 1: we don't. We don't have that. Guy said, I don't

612
00:27:23,600 --> 00:27:25,439
Speaker 1: speak to you like that. You don't speak to me

613
00:27:25,560 --> 00:27:27,199
Speaker 1: like that. I said, we don't do that. So she

614
00:27:27,280 --> 00:27:29,440
Speaker 1: apologized and everything, and again, these these are these are

615
00:27:29,440 --> 00:27:31,160
Speaker 1: moments that you know, we don't like to talk about,

616
00:27:31,200 --> 00:27:34,119
Speaker 1: but they happen. Having your own kid to tell me

617
00:27:34,200 --> 00:27:37,080
Speaker 1: go screw myself after she got mad at something else.

618
00:27:37,119 --> 00:27:38,480
Speaker 1: And again it was a whole other thing, and I

619
00:27:38,520 --> 00:27:42,040
Speaker 1: was just like, let's all calm down. I'm not your friend,

620
00:27:42,040 --> 00:27:45,080
Speaker 1: I'm your father. So that's that's the first. And it's

621
00:27:45,080 --> 00:27:47,400
Speaker 1: so it's so funny to see people too when they

622
00:27:47,440 --> 00:27:49,240
Speaker 1: see me because I'm like a twelve year old kids

623
00:27:49,240 --> 00:27:51,280
Speaker 1: you don't like having fun? Is that It's hilarious when

624
00:27:51,280 --> 00:27:53,600
Speaker 1: a lot of friends of mine see me and they're like, damn,

625
00:27:53,600 --> 00:27:56,000
Speaker 1: you really reprimand your kids are You're really telling them

626
00:27:56,000 --> 00:27:57,720
Speaker 1: don't do that? Or how did you see that? That

627
00:27:57,760 --> 00:28:00,160
Speaker 1: your kids doing that and you're yelling at her? They're

628
00:28:00,160 --> 00:28:02,000
Speaker 1: only done, I said, I see everything. I said, we

629
00:28:02,119 --> 00:28:05,000
Speaker 1: just noticed it. It's just an instinct. It happens. It

630
00:28:05,119 --> 00:28:07,120
Speaker 1: is what it is. But you know, like I said,

631
00:28:07,119 --> 00:28:08,880
Speaker 1: getting back to the to that question, in a sense

632
00:28:08,880 --> 00:28:13,159
Speaker 1: of like it's it's it's tough. It is, it's just

633
00:28:13,240 --> 00:28:15,280
Speaker 1: all around tough. You try to deal with it the

634
00:28:15,280 --> 00:28:18,720
Speaker 1: best you can uh and learn how to go about it.

635
00:28:18,760 --> 00:28:21,320
Speaker 1: And again, everybody's path is completely different. You know, mine

636
00:28:21,400 --> 00:28:24,040
Speaker 1: is where I never even went to college. My kids

637
00:28:24,080 --> 00:28:26,560
Speaker 1: going to college. I never went. So I look at

638
00:28:26,560 --> 00:28:29,240
Speaker 1: her going. I don't know what to tell you. I've

639
00:28:29,280 --> 00:28:31,000
Speaker 1: never been to college. I don't even know what it's like.

640
00:28:31,640 --> 00:28:34,720
Speaker 1: My college years was touring the world. Yeah, so I

641
00:28:34,720 --> 00:28:37,040
Speaker 1: don't know. You know, it's different old. How old were

642
00:28:37,040 --> 00:28:42,040
Speaker 1: you when you left home? Um? I didn't well specifically

643
00:28:42,040 --> 00:28:45,480
Speaker 1: really leave home, but as far as traveling, and I

644
00:28:45,520 --> 00:28:46,880
Speaker 1: was gone from about two and a half years is

645
00:28:46,920 --> 00:28:48,520
Speaker 1: when I was right out of high school, almost like

646
00:28:48,560 --> 00:28:51,400
Speaker 1: eighteen or nineteen years old. The age that my my

647
00:28:51,440 --> 00:28:53,960
Speaker 1: daughter left college really was the time I left. I

648
00:28:54,040 --> 00:28:57,720
Speaker 1: left the team to pursue hockey, and I remember leaving.

649
00:28:57,760 --> 00:29:00,000
Speaker 1: I was gone for about a month and then I'm

650
00:29:00,000 --> 00:29:02,080
Speaker 1: remember writing a letter to my parents and my brother

651
00:29:02,120 --> 00:29:03,560
Speaker 1: and sister and like I can't do this. I miss

652
00:29:03,600 --> 00:29:06,840
Speaker 1: you guys too much. Like I was crying. Um, it's

653
00:29:06,840 --> 00:29:09,520
Speaker 1: like my heart was breaking that I was away from home.

654
00:29:09,560 --> 00:29:11,560
Speaker 1: I was living with another family in a different town,

655
00:29:11,640 --> 00:29:14,520
Speaker 1: five hours away. And I put it in a little

656
00:29:14,560 --> 00:29:17,600
Speaker 1: desk drawer in my in my bedroom and I never

657
00:29:17,640 --> 00:29:19,920
Speaker 1: mailed it. And I kind of just got over that

658
00:29:20,000 --> 00:29:22,560
Speaker 1: hurdle all of a sudden, and then after that I

659
00:29:22,600 --> 00:29:24,560
Speaker 1: was fine. I was like, I want to pursue hockey

660
00:29:24,600 --> 00:29:27,400
Speaker 1: for a life like I want. You know, this is

661
00:29:27,440 --> 00:29:29,560
Speaker 1: just I'm just feeling this way, but I want to pursue.

662
00:29:29,640 --> 00:29:31,320
Speaker 1: This means everything to me. And once I got over

663
00:29:31,360 --> 00:29:34,080
Speaker 1: that hurdle, I just you know, took off. But my parents,

664
00:29:34,080 --> 00:29:36,400
Speaker 1: I don't think we're ready for me to go. Um,

665
00:29:36,520 --> 00:29:38,920
Speaker 1: God bless their heart because when they dropped up, we

666
00:29:38,960 --> 00:29:40,840
Speaker 1: all cried. They bawled their eyes out, and then they

667
00:29:40,880 --> 00:29:44,000
Speaker 1: get in the car and they drossed home. Um, they

668
00:29:44,040 --> 00:29:46,000
Speaker 1: weren't ready for me to go. But I think it

669
00:29:46,080 --> 00:29:48,120
Speaker 1: was an ultimate form of love to show me, like

670
00:29:48,760 --> 00:29:51,680
Speaker 1: for him to be what he wants to be, he

671
00:29:51,720 --> 00:29:55,120
Speaker 1: needs to play against better competition and this is do that.

672
00:29:55,680 --> 00:29:58,760
Speaker 1: So literally, I'm sure their hearts broke, but like in

673
00:29:58,920 --> 00:30:00,880
Speaker 1: giving me love, that was probably the way that they

674
00:30:00,880 --> 00:30:03,840
Speaker 1: saw that they could most give me love. And you

675
00:30:03,880 --> 00:30:05,840
Speaker 1: know what I And the most amazing thing about that

676
00:30:05,920 --> 00:30:08,320
Speaker 1: is if if and and as kids we don't think

677
00:30:08,360 --> 00:30:12,520
Speaker 1: about it, but and now that I think about it,

678
00:30:12,520 --> 00:30:15,080
Speaker 1: because I probably wouldn't let her go if I didn't

679
00:30:15,120 --> 00:30:17,920
Speaker 1: think she was able to do it. Do you know

680
00:30:17,920 --> 00:30:21,160
Speaker 1: what I mean? I think parents, if parents knew that

681
00:30:21,240 --> 00:30:23,560
Speaker 1: their kid was about to fail, or do something. And

682
00:30:23,600 --> 00:30:25,320
Speaker 1: you know, I'm just saying it just forget it happens.

683
00:30:25,320 --> 00:30:28,520
Speaker 1: We're all, we all play Devil's African stuff. But I think, like,

684
00:30:28,560 --> 00:30:30,160
Speaker 1: you know, especially with my kid, I was like, you

685
00:30:30,160 --> 00:30:32,760
Speaker 1: know what, you're ready. I can't stop you anymore. I can't.

686
00:30:32,880 --> 00:30:34,840
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna cuttle you. I'm not gonna baby you.

687
00:30:34,840 --> 00:30:38,200
Speaker 1: You're you're a grown kid. You've made enough decisions in

688
00:30:38,200 --> 00:30:40,880
Speaker 1: your life to prove to me what that you can

689
00:30:40,960 --> 00:30:42,800
Speaker 1: make a normal decision in your life, you know what

690
00:30:42,840 --> 00:30:46,080
Speaker 1: I mean. So it was kind of interesting to to

691
00:30:46,080 --> 00:30:48,600
Speaker 1: to let that go. And I think that's what it is.

692
00:30:48,640 --> 00:30:50,800
Speaker 1: I think for even for an adult to say, you

693
00:30:50,800 --> 00:30:55,120
Speaker 1: know what, I know you're ready to let yourself to

694
00:30:55,200 --> 00:30:57,560
Speaker 1: let to go. They might not be ready, but I

695
00:30:57,600 --> 00:30:59,360
Speaker 1: know you're ready, you know what I mean. It's it's

696
00:30:59,560 --> 00:31:01,960
Speaker 1: it's interest because I think that's thinking about that. I

697
00:31:01,960 --> 00:31:04,400
Speaker 1: don't think I would let her go if she was ready. Um,

698
00:31:04,400 --> 00:31:06,360
Speaker 1: how does that? How does that feel for you? Is

699
00:31:06,400 --> 00:31:08,640
Speaker 1: there is there like a real internal sense of pride,

700
00:31:08,680 --> 00:31:11,760
Speaker 1: like I believe she's ready, Like I think I've I

701
00:31:11,760 --> 00:31:13,800
Speaker 1: think I've been the best parent I could for her,

702
00:31:13,840 --> 00:31:16,880
Speaker 1: and like yeah, you know, and again. You know, it

703
00:31:16,920 --> 00:31:19,920
Speaker 1: feels good when other people say it, obviously, you know

704
00:31:20,120 --> 00:31:22,000
Speaker 1: when when it's word of mouth, when all of a sudden,

705
00:31:22,040 --> 00:31:26,480
Speaker 1: you know, I've had Yeah, And again, it's always weird

706
00:31:26,520 --> 00:31:29,440
Speaker 1: and interesting because of who I am. Some people take

707
00:31:29,480 --> 00:31:31,880
Speaker 1: that into consideration. Think about it. You know, where some

708
00:31:31,920 --> 00:31:33,400
Speaker 1: people just might want to come up to me and say,

709
00:31:33,440 --> 00:31:35,400
Speaker 1: oh my god, your daughter is such an amazing kid,

710
00:31:35,440 --> 00:31:37,520
Speaker 1: just because they wanted to talk to me. But there

711
00:31:37,520 --> 00:31:39,080
Speaker 1: are some people out there that are like, you know what,

712
00:31:39,640 --> 00:31:42,480
Speaker 1: They're like friends of mine that are like, dude, that's

713
00:31:42,480 --> 00:31:45,040
Speaker 1: your kid. That's weird. First of all, they said, because

714
00:31:45,480 --> 00:31:49,560
Speaker 1: how the hell did that amazing woman come out of you?

715
00:31:49,720 --> 00:31:52,640
Speaker 1: Basically in a sense like you taught like I know

716
00:31:52,720 --> 00:31:55,360
Speaker 1: you from like farting around in rooms and being silly,

717
00:31:55,440 --> 00:31:57,840
Speaker 1: and you know, again being twelve years old, they're like,

718
00:31:58,000 --> 00:32:02,520
Speaker 1: she is so ahead of her time. Even though she's

719
00:32:02,520 --> 00:32:06,080
Speaker 1: still a kid and she still plays and has kid tendencies,

720
00:32:06,360 --> 00:32:10,440
Speaker 1: she was very adult older for her age. Like I mean,

721
00:32:10,440 --> 00:32:12,680
Speaker 1: we went to for instance, the stupidest, funniest thing too,

722
00:32:12,680 --> 00:32:15,320
Speaker 1: and I want to kill somebody is we went to

723
00:32:15,440 --> 00:32:17,520
Speaker 1: Lance's wedding. We're at Lance's wedding. Him and Michael were

724
00:32:17,520 --> 00:32:21,280
Speaker 1: getting married and some people haven't seen me in a while,

725
00:32:21,320 --> 00:32:22,920
Speaker 1: and some people I know and stuff, and I'm walking

726
00:32:22,960 --> 00:32:25,120
Speaker 1: around and Brianna was with me and and and Kelly

727
00:32:25,120 --> 00:32:29,440
Speaker 1: actually my exit that we were separated, and Brown was

728
00:32:29,440 --> 00:32:31,720
Speaker 1: walking around and some guys starts talking to Brianna and

729
00:32:31,720 --> 00:32:34,640
Speaker 1: he's like basically hitting on her. And I'm like watching

730
00:32:34,760 --> 00:32:37,840
Speaker 1: as this is going down, I'm like, this is gonna

731
00:32:37,880 --> 00:32:41,000
Speaker 1: be funny. I walk up and the guy's like, oh, Joey,

732
00:32:41,000 --> 00:32:43,040
Speaker 1: what's up there? And I know. The guy like oh,

733
00:32:43,200 --> 00:32:45,760
Speaker 1: it's like, oh, do you know. I'm like, yeah, that's Brianna,

734
00:32:45,840 --> 00:32:51,360
Speaker 1: my daughter. He went, oh okay, I'm like, yeah, daughter.

735
00:32:51,720 --> 00:32:54,120
Speaker 1: I was like that. All I say was that's my daughter.

736
00:32:55,240 --> 00:32:57,200
Speaker 1: And he had no idea. He thought it was just

737
00:32:57,240 --> 00:32:59,160
Speaker 1: some chick at them at the wedding and he was

738
00:32:59,200 --> 00:33:01,680
Speaker 1: just trying to hit on. I was like, by the way,

739
00:33:01,720 --> 00:33:03,760
Speaker 1: she's seventeen. And that was the time too. I'm like,

740
00:33:03,800 --> 00:33:08,000
Speaker 1: she's seventeen and I would kill you, there's no way.

741
00:33:08,240 --> 00:33:11,280
Speaker 1: So again, it's really funny, like how mature she has

742
00:33:11,640 --> 00:33:14,400
Speaker 1: has gotten. And I guess, you know again, I commend

743
00:33:15,000 --> 00:33:17,280
Speaker 1: obviously myself. Yeah, I put about the the back and

744
00:33:17,280 --> 00:33:19,040
Speaker 1: and my acts as well. You know. Again, it's like

745
00:33:19,480 --> 00:33:22,440
Speaker 1: we may not be the great the greatest people in

746
00:33:22,440 --> 00:33:25,120
Speaker 1: a relationship wise as far as the marriage is concerned,

747
00:33:25,360 --> 00:33:27,360
Speaker 1: but I definitely know that we have been damn good

748
00:33:27,400 --> 00:33:30,240
Speaker 1: parents to to keep our kids in the right path

749
00:33:30,720 --> 00:33:34,840
Speaker 1: whether or whatever happens in our relationship. You know, if

750
00:33:34,840 --> 00:33:36,640
Speaker 1: we try to keep that, Yeah, we try to keep

751
00:33:36,680 --> 00:33:40,920
Speaker 1: that that very kind of on the same path for them. Yeah,

752
00:33:41,560 --> 00:33:45,360
Speaker 1: true North compass point for kids. Yeah, to put them

753
00:33:45,360 --> 00:33:47,920
Speaker 1: first and and be there for them. Good for you, guys,

754
00:33:59,640 --> 00:34:01,280
Speaker 1: we don't much more time with you know, you have

755
00:34:01,320 --> 00:34:04,320
Speaker 1: a heart out here. Shortly, Um, eatan, what kind of

756
00:34:04,400 --> 00:34:05,840
Speaker 1: do we want to get to another final question? Or

757
00:34:05,880 --> 00:34:08,600
Speaker 1: do we want to get some fire? Fire fire some

758
00:34:08,680 --> 00:34:10,920
Speaker 1: questions and I'll answer as quickly as I can. I know,

759
00:34:11,160 --> 00:34:12,640
Speaker 1: we go into a whole freaking thing. I love to

760
00:34:12,920 --> 00:34:16,280
Speaker 1: talk about this because I got a quick one. So, um,

761
00:34:16,640 --> 00:34:18,560
Speaker 1: you probably get these all the time. But like our

762
00:34:18,640 --> 00:34:21,000
Speaker 1: our listeners are, like I said, are probably fan girling

763
00:34:21,080 --> 00:34:25,440
Speaker 1: right now. So, um, what's the most challenging part of

764
00:34:25,480 --> 00:34:28,799
Speaker 1: being known from a boy bound boy band? And what's

765
00:34:28,840 --> 00:34:31,359
Speaker 1: the best part? So most challenging and most and the

766
00:34:31,400 --> 00:34:36,000
Speaker 1: best um you know, in the beginning of it, like

767
00:34:36,040 --> 00:34:38,160
Speaker 1: after we split. I think the challenging part from being

768
00:34:38,160 --> 00:34:40,440
Speaker 1: at a boy band was was breaking that mold. Was

769
00:34:40,520 --> 00:34:44,239
Speaker 1: trying to not be a guy from Men Sync and

770
00:34:44,360 --> 00:34:46,680
Speaker 1: again we were and I was, and it is what

771
00:34:46,760 --> 00:34:48,799
Speaker 1: it is that I had the popularity it was it

772
00:34:48,840 --> 00:34:50,319
Speaker 1: was more or less of really trying to break that

773
00:34:50,400 --> 00:34:52,680
Speaker 1: mold because people all they did was just see me

774
00:34:52,760 --> 00:34:54,080
Speaker 1: as a as a guy in a group. And you

775
00:34:54,080 --> 00:34:56,279
Speaker 1: look at a lot of other groups out there, that's

776
00:34:56,320 --> 00:34:58,560
Speaker 1: what a lot of them known for some of them

777
00:34:58,600 --> 00:35:00,200
Speaker 1: now of course. Or you got you know, like into

778
00:35:00,280 --> 00:35:03,319
Speaker 1: Jackson Bybe, you got Michael Jackson, you got with even

779
00:35:03,320 --> 00:35:06,400
Speaker 1: within Sick, you got justin Um. You know, with Backstreet,

780
00:35:07,160 --> 00:35:09,920
Speaker 1: you don't really have a specific solo person or somebody

781
00:35:09,960 --> 00:35:12,319
Speaker 1: that's out there, you know, making it their own. They

782
00:35:12,360 --> 00:35:14,360
Speaker 1: do individual things like Nick does and stuff like that,

783
00:35:14,400 --> 00:35:16,839
Speaker 1: but not really I don't know, not really made. Other

784
00:35:17,080 --> 00:35:20,480
Speaker 1: things are completely out outside of just music, you know

785
00:35:20,520 --> 00:35:22,440
Speaker 1: what I mean, Like for instance, because I like how

786
00:35:22,480 --> 00:35:25,840
Speaker 1: you reinvented yourself in many lanes, Well I looked at

787
00:35:25,880 --> 00:35:27,239
Speaker 1: the whole picture. Yeah, I gotta look at the whole

788
00:35:27,239 --> 00:35:29,520
Speaker 1: big picture. You know, for instance, say Real Quick Dance

789
00:35:29,600 --> 00:35:31,920
Speaker 1: with the Stars was a great platform. Yeah it's not

790
00:35:31,960 --> 00:35:33,960
Speaker 1: my forte. I mean, yeah, I danced a little bit,

791
00:35:33,960 --> 00:35:36,239
Speaker 1: but you know what, people saw my personality and that

792
00:35:36,480 --> 00:35:39,239
Speaker 1: helped me get another gig. And I did a show

793
00:35:39,280 --> 00:35:41,480
Speaker 1: called the Singing b Singing Be went to TV Guide

794
00:35:41,520 --> 00:35:43,080
Speaker 1: Network and I did I was doing the Red Carpet

795
00:35:43,120 --> 00:35:45,080
Speaker 1: for TV Guy Network and it just kept going on

796
00:35:45,120 --> 00:35:47,600
Speaker 1: and on. Thank goodness that the albums the show called

797
00:35:47,600 --> 00:35:49,680
Speaker 1: common Oledge. So I think if I didn't do those

798
00:35:49,680 --> 00:35:52,399
Speaker 1: shows to show my personality, I would have never been

799
00:35:52,400 --> 00:35:56,160
Speaker 1: able to reinvent myself. Yeah awesome. Um, what's the best

800
00:35:56,200 --> 00:36:02,319
Speaker 1: part of being known from a boy band? M There's

801
00:36:02,320 --> 00:36:04,120
Speaker 1: a few things. There was no social media back then.

802
00:36:04,160 --> 00:36:09,040
Speaker 1: That's a good thing. Uh. I'll just say, if you screaming,

803
00:36:09,080 --> 00:36:11,760
Speaker 1: women just coming up to you and oh my god,

804
00:36:12,080 --> 00:36:14,439
Speaker 1: you know what, it's it's one of those things. It's

805
00:36:14,600 --> 00:36:18,319
Speaker 1: I one of the one of the harder things was

806
00:36:18,320 --> 00:36:20,160
Speaker 1: was really traveling around a lot back in the day.

807
00:36:20,200 --> 00:36:23,000
Speaker 1: I remember how hard it was though, where we could

808
00:36:23,000 --> 00:36:24,880
Speaker 1: not even go to the bathroom by ourselves, had a

809
00:36:24,960 --> 00:36:27,359
Speaker 1: security guard have to go into the bathroom make sure

810
00:36:27,360 --> 00:36:29,040
Speaker 1: that there was nobody in there kind of thing. Now

811
00:36:29,080 --> 00:36:31,280
Speaker 1: it's a little bit more lenient, it's a lot more relaxed.

812
00:36:31,320 --> 00:36:35,680
Speaker 1: I like this better. Um, you know, do I do?

813
00:36:35,760 --> 00:36:37,880
Speaker 1: I of course do. I love performing with the guys stuff,

814
00:36:37,880 --> 00:36:39,759
Speaker 1: And then of course I didn't. It still would love

815
00:36:39,760 --> 00:36:41,799
Speaker 1: to if that ever comes about. How's it gonna happen?

816
00:36:41,840 --> 00:36:44,160
Speaker 1: Probably not at the moment, I'm already answering that question.

817
00:36:44,880 --> 00:36:47,080
Speaker 1: But it's just one of those things where you just,

818
00:36:47,239 --> 00:36:51,279
Speaker 1: you know, it take you take different things one step

819
00:36:51,280 --> 00:36:52,880
Speaker 1: at a time, you know. And for me it's like

820
00:36:53,440 --> 00:36:55,399
Speaker 1: I try not to dwell on things are like, o oh,

821
00:36:55,480 --> 00:36:56,839
Speaker 1: in the past, you know, we were this, and we

822
00:36:56,840 --> 00:36:59,160
Speaker 1: were that. You know, that was the best days. I

823
00:36:59,160 --> 00:37:01,360
Speaker 1: think the whole thing was just an amazing experience. It

824
00:37:01,480 --> 00:37:03,399
Speaker 1: was something a part of my life that I will

825
00:37:03,440 --> 00:37:06,360
Speaker 1: never forget and always cherish. I never I'm not the

826
00:37:06,360 --> 00:37:08,080
Speaker 1: type of person it's like, oh, those are my days

827
00:37:08,080 --> 00:37:09,960
Speaker 1: when I was young. I didn't know any better. We

828
00:37:09,960 --> 00:37:12,480
Speaker 1: were making a crapload of money, millions of fans, and

829
00:37:12,520 --> 00:37:16,759
Speaker 1: we had great music and what else is it? So? Um?

830
00:37:16,800 --> 00:37:19,359
Speaker 1: I had a friend, an next athlete, once tell me

831
00:37:20,080 --> 00:37:24,600
Speaker 1: never try and replace sports. But also I know that

832
00:37:24,680 --> 00:37:27,400
Speaker 1: you will always be the athlete that you are. So

833
00:37:27,440 --> 00:37:29,080
Speaker 1: like a lot of guys will come out of sports

834
00:37:29,120 --> 00:37:31,919
Speaker 1: and say, oh, I was a professional athlete like you are.

835
00:37:32,239 --> 00:37:34,239
Speaker 1: Like if you want a gold medal, if you want

836
00:37:34,239 --> 00:37:36,920
Speaker 1: a gold medal in the Olympics, you are an Olympic champion.

837
00:37:37,120 --> 00:37:38,560
Speaker 1: You are. Yeah, you know what can take that away

838
00:37:38,560 --> 00:37:41,160
Speaker 1: from you? No one continue You still are that. But

839
00:37:41,239 --> 00:37:45,160
Speaker 1: then the challenges you know you are a member of

840
00:37:45,200 --> 00:37:48,000
Speaker 1: in Sync. You are, but you have done things now,

841
00:37:48,040 --> 00:37:50,799
Speaker 1: But I am also now, I am this, Now I

842
00:37:50,800 --> 00:37:54,560
Speaker 1: am I've gone through that journey myself in identity of

843
00:37:54,600 --> 00:37:57,000
Speaker 1: like I am still a hockey player even though I retired.

844
00:37:57,080 --> 00:38:00,719
Speaker 1: I am that. I'm also a podcast post and I'm

845
00:38:00,760 --> 00:38:04,120
Speaker 1: also these other things you know. So um, I think

846
00:38:04,120 --> 00:38:08,239
Speaker 1: people get stuck in an identity, especially in uh a

847
00:38:08,360 --> 00:38:10,720
Speaker 1: notable one of one of fame or where where people

848
00:38:10,760 --> 00:38:14,520
Speaker 1: identify them as of course, people could still identify you

849
00:38:14,560 --> 00:38:17,160
Speaker 1: as a member of in Sync, but you've gone on

850
00:38:17,200 --> 00:38:19,799
Speaker 1: to do so many other things that well, and is

851
00:38:19,880 --> 00:38:22,680
Speaker 1: that And it's interesting to see now too because now

852
00:38:22,719 --> 00:38:24,879
Speaker 1: I never know it's it's it's actually quite It's almost

853
00:38:24,880 --> 00:38:26,719
Speaker 1: like a little game now for me because when people

854
00:38:26,760 --> 00:38:28,040
Speaker 1: come up, I never know what they're I never know

855
00:38:28,120 --> 00:38:30,360
Speaker 1: what they're gonna say, because sometimes it's like the older

856
00:38:30,440 --> 00:38:32,680
Speaker 1: the young, older women that are in their thirties and

857
00:38:32,760 --> 00:38:34,160
Speaker 1: forties are like, oh my gosh, I love you, and in

858
00:38:34,120 --> 00:38:36,000
Speaker 1: in sync the grandmother will look at me and go,

859
00:38:36,040 --> 00:38:37,720
Speaker 1: oh my god, you were great at Dance with the Stars,

860
00:38:37,920 --> 00:38:39,879
Speaker 1: or I love you my big fact Greek wedding. Young

861
00:38:39,960 --> 00:38:43,200
Speaker 1: kids will say, holy cow, I loved you from Impractical Jokers,

862
00:38:43,280 --> 00:38:45,240
Speaker 1: or you were great on the Mask Singer. So my

863
00:38:45,239 --> 00:38:48,239
Speaker 1: my stuff is spread out so much, which is really cool,

864
00:38:48,239 --> 00:38:50,720
Speaker 1: I guess because the demographic for me has been again

865
00:38:50,760 --> 00:38:53,040
Speaker 1: it's been such a widespread So I think that's another

866
00:38:53,160 --> 00:38:55,480
Speaker 1: thing in credit to where when I do Common Knowledge

867
00:38:55,480 --> 00:38:58,080
Speaker 1: to show that's on Game Show Network right now, so

868
00:38:58,080 --> 00:39:01,080
Speaker 1: many different kids and from kids two adults to everybody

869
00:39:01,120 --> 00:39:03,719
Speaker 1: can watch it. It's a fun family game and the

870
00:39:03,840 --> 00:39:05,960
Speaker 1: things that I've done have spenned over a lot of

871
00:39:05,960 --> 00:39:09,040
Speaker 1: different generations. Believe it or not, Uh to be able

872
00:39:09,080 --> 00:39:12,200
Speaker 1: to thank goodness, people still recognize me. It's not oh,

873
00:39:12,239 --> 00:39:14,719
Speaker 1: you're from that band that justin Timberlake was in which

874
00:39:14,800 --> 00:39:16,200
Speaker 1: you know, we get we get all the time. But

875
00:39:16,239 --> 00:39:20,040
Speaker 1: it is what it is, and but I don't care. Man,

876
00:39:20,040 --> 00:39:23,200
Speaker 1: it's credit to you for reinventing yourself, for continually doing

877
00:39:23,600 --> 00:39:25,440
Speaker 1: things in life, versus you could I you could have

878
00:39:25,480 --> 00:39:27,480
Speaker 1: just cashed out and said, okay, I'm good. I was

879
00:39:27,560 --> 00:39:31,080
Speaker 1: and seeing dressed in life. But but it's not exactly.

880
00:39:31,160 --> 00:39:34,440
Speaker 1: I love to entertain. I love. Yeah, I love to entertain.

881
00:39:34,480 --> 00:39:36,879
Speaker 1: I love I love different things. I love. I love

882
00:39:36,920 --> 00:39:40,560
Speaker 1: that I'm able to have a variety of life in

883
00:39:40,600 --> 00:39:43,040
Speaker 1: the sense of where one day I'm in a booth dute,

884
00:39:43,080 --> 00:39:45,759
Speaker 1: I've alwiced over for a cartoon. The next minute, I'm

885
00:39:45,800 --> 00:39:47,600
Speaker 1: hosting a show for the Game Show Network. Then I'm

886
00:39:47,640 --> 00:39:49,839
Speaker 1: doing pranks and jokes with a practical jokes. I mean,

887
00:39:50,120 --> 00:39:52,239
Speaker 1: who the hell would not want what I'm doing. I

888
00:39:52,239 --> 00:39:55,359
Speaker 1: mean it's amazing. Again, I've always you know, KMA lucky

889
00:39:55,360 --> 00:39:57,640
Speaker 1: stars and blessed the stuff that I've done. And again

890
00:39:57,760 --> 00:40:01,520
Speaker 1: I I do also handed to my ex but also

891
00:40:01,560 --> 00:40:04,400
Speaker 1: my kids for allowing me, because sometimes that's not easy

892
00:40:04,440 --> 00:40:06,880
Speaker 1: when you know the parents are always gone and the

893
00:40:06,960 --> 00:40:08,920
Speaker 1: kids are not, like, well, why does daddy always have

894
00:40:08,960 --> 00:40:10,960
Speaker 1: to leave? And that happened with my younger one. My

895
00:40:11,000 --> 00:40:13,480
Speaker 1: older one now when she was younger, Why is daddy

896
00:40:13,480 --> 00:40:15,959
Speaker 1: always leaving? And it's always well, daddy has to work.

897
00:40:16,000 --> 00:40:18,759
Speaker 1: And I was literally, plain simple. Do you like the

898
00:40:18,760 --> 00:40:21,200
Speaker 1: house you're living in? Do you like the school that

899
00:40:21,239 --> 00:40:23,960
Speaker 1: you're in? You like the car that mommy drives? Well,

900
00:40:24,480 --> 00:40:26,560
Speaker 1: daddy has to do these things in order to have

901
00:40:26,800 --> 00:40:29,480
Speaker 1: these things. Dude, I can't imagine how hard that must

902
00:40:29,480 --> 00:40:30,759
Speaker 1: because I have a two and a half year old

903
00:40:30,800 --> 00:40:33,560
Speaker 1: husky who's my boy. He's like he's like laying on

904
00:40:33,600 --> 00:40:38,279
Speaker 1: the floor over here. Um, but like when I leave,

905
00:40:38,400 --> 00:40:40,560
Speaker 1: he just stands at the door and howls and like

906
00:40:40,640 --> 00:40:43,560
Speaker 1: claws the door and howls, and it just breaks my

907
00:40:43,680 --> 00:40:47,279
Speaker 1: heart when I take him everywhere with me. So when

908
00:40:47,280 --> 00:40:50,320
Speaker 1: I do have to leave where somewhere where he can't come, um,

909
00:40:50,360 --> 00:40:53,600
Speaker 1: it just breaks his heart. And it must be amplified

910
00:40:53,640 --> 00:40:56,319
Speaker 1: a million times. When you have kids that are looking

911
00:40:56,360 --> 00:40:59,120
Speaker 1: at people say that, I think it's the same. I

912
00:40:59,160 --> 00:41:01,000
Speaker 1: know it sounds crazy me to say that, because I've

913
00:41:01,040 --> 00:41:03,480
Speaker 1: seen people with their dogs. I mean, even my girlfriend

914
00:41:03,480 --> 00:41:07,960
Speaker 1: has a dog. We have a multipoo, and that is

915
00:41:07,960 --> 00:41:11,160
Speaker 1: her kid. That's amazing. I mean, like no joke. It's

916
00:41:11,200 --> 00:41:12,799
Speaker 1: like she literally said to me one day and I

917
00:41:12,800 --> 00:41:14,879
Speaker 1: looked at it. I was like, really, she goes, well,

918
00:41:14,960 --> 00:41:17,120
Speaker 1: you know, if if he doesn't go, I don't go.

919
00:41:17,360 --> 00:41:20,920
Speaker 1: You know what. Fair enough? I was like, and I

920
00:41:20,880 --> 00:41:22,719
Speaker 1: don't even said that. I could. I can't be mad

921
00:41:22,719 --> 00:41:25,200
Speaker 1: at her. I could be like, well the dog, that's

922
00:41:25,200 --> 00:41:27,120
Speaker 1: her kid. You know, you gotta start thinking about it

923
00:41:27,160 --> 00:41:29,360
Speaker 1: that way. Not many people think that, So again, it

924
00:41:29,920 --> 00:41:32,680
Speaker 1: does magnify it because I think the only difference is

925
00:41:32,680 --> 00:41:35,719
Speaker 1: is with a child, when they get older, they communicate

926
00:41:35,760 --> 00:41:38,280
Speaker 1: and they say, daddy, don't leave. You know. A puppy

927
00:41:38,400 --> 00:41:41,239
Speaker 1: is sometimes crying because maybe they saying, daddy don't leave.

928
00:41:41,239 --> 00:41:42,839
Speaker 1: But daddy don't leave. I want you to play her, daddy,

929
00:41:42,880 --> 00:41:45,359
Speaker 1: I gotta I want to eat, you know. But it's

930
00:41:45,440 --> 00:41:48,200
Speaker 1: it's interesting when the kid, When the kid does say

931
00:41:48,239 --> 00:41:51,600
Speaker 1: stuff like that, it breaks your freaking heart. It makes

932
00:41:51,640 --> 00:41:56,360
Speaker 1: you just you're like, gosh, it's like man, you know, like,

933
00:41:56,600 --> 00:41:58,520
Speaker 1: you know, it's amazing how different things is. You can

934
00:41:58,560 --> 00:42:01,560
Speaker 1: get older triggers, you know. I gotta I gotta a

935
00:42:01,600 --> 00:42:03,600
Speaker 1: Father's Day card the very the very first time I

936
00:42:03,640 --> 00:42:06,480
Speaker 1: ever got a Father's Day card. I'll remember this to

937
00:42:06,560 --> 00:42:09,319
Speaker 1: the day I die. I gotta thing sent in the mail.

938
00:42:09,400 --> 00:42:11,440
Speaker 1: I was on tour and it came into the mail

939
00:42:11,760 --> 00:42:13,960
Speaker 1: at the arena and I opened up and it was

940
00:42:14,000 --> 00:42:18,560
Speaker 1: a book that my ex made with with Brianna, like hey,

941
00:42:18,600 --> 00:42:20,000
Speaker 1: do you know where my daddy is? And always like

942
00:42:20,040 --> 00:42:21,719
Speaker 1: these cute little pictures of like Carl looking through the

943
00:42:21,800 --> 00:42:23,759
Speaker 1: cabinet and stuff like that, or hang on and then

944
00:42:23,800 --> 00:42:26,440
Speaker 1: set me a whole Father's Day thing. I lost it.

945
00:42:26,640 --> 00:42:31,160
Speaker 1: I lost, legitimately, absolutely lost. And that's another thing about

946
00:42:31,160 --> 00:42:34,840
Speaker 1: met out there. Stop being strong, be the be the

947
00:42:34,840 --> 00:42:37,640
Speaker 1: worst that you can be. It's okay. It is okay

948
00:42:37,680 --> 00:42:39,799
Speaker 1: to cry when you read a Hallmark card in your

949
00:42:39,800 --> 00:42:41,919
Speaker 1: forty three years old, or it's okay to to get

950
00:42:41,960 --> 00:42:44,600
Speaker 1: teary eyed when you see the soldier coming home to

951
00:42:44,680 --> 00:42:47,080
Speaker 1: their daughter or their son. I lose that. I lose.

952
00:42:47,280 --> 00:42:48,919
Speaker 1: I've never like I'm like God, I'm a big man.

953
00:42:49,360 --> 00:42:51,759
Speaker 1: Now I lose. I lose. I lose absolutely too. I

954
00:42:51,760 --> 00:42:54,000
Speaker 1: never did during during playing sports. I never did. But

955
00:42:54,040 --> 00:42:56,080
Speaker 1: I've learned that. I've learned that side of my life

956
00:42:56,160 --> 00:42:58,400
Speaker 1: and developed that side of my heart and the emotional

957
00:42:58,400 --> 00:43:01,040
Speaker 1: intelligence and beat in two with that and not trying

958
00:43:01,080 --> 00:43:02,880
Speaker 1: to suppress that, and my life is so much more

959
00:43:02,920 --> 00:43:06,759
Speaker 1: fulfilled and happy. Yeah, I'm so much more expressed and

960
00:43:06,840 --> 00:43:11,600
Speaker 1: I find a greater capacity to express love because of it. Yeah.

961
00:43:11,880 --> 00:43:14,520
Speaker 1: I love that you say that for our community because

962
00:43:14,520 --> 00:43:16,759
Speaker 1: I always try and be an advocate for that on

963
00:43:16,760 --> 00:43:19,399
Speaker 1: this show as well. Um, so high five to you

964
00:43:19,480 --> 00:43:23,239
Speaker 1: for being like truly a masculine and in touch with

965
00:43:23,280 --> 00:43:26,000
Speaker 1: their emotions. Yeah. Man, nobody, nobody is perfect. And again

966
00:43:26,080 --> 00:43:28,359
Speaker 1: we all we all have different spides to us, and

967
00:43:28,880 --> 00:43:31,480
Speaker 1: you know, certain things may touch others in certain ways,

968
00:43:31,520 --> 00:43:35,719
Speaker 1: but again it's it's for me, it's it's life. You know,

969
00:43:35,760 --> 00:43:38,280
Speaker 1: if it's something moves you that much and that emotion

970
00:43:38,920 --> 00:43:42,000
Speaker 1: that it's telling you something, it's telling you something. You know,

971
00:43:42,080 --> 00:43:44,239
Speaker 1: it's say that moved you and that felt you in

972
00:43:44,280 --> 00:43:47,000
Speaker 1: a way that you've never done before, and you're like, wow,

973
00:43:47,040 --> 00:43:49,759
Speaker 1: that just took me. You know. Again, certain movies, now,

974
00:43:49,960 --> 00:43:51,840
Speaker 1: anything that has to do with a daughter and and

975
00:43:51,880 --> 00:43:55,160
Speaker 1: a father's I lose. It's a ram Like. I love

976
00:43:55,239 --> 00:43:58,359
Speaker 1: that real quick. I want to ask you one last

977
00:43:58,400 --> 00:44:02,920
Speaker 1: question or um it's it's probably the hardest question of

978
00:44:02,960 --> 00:44:05,080
Speaker 1: the world to be short on, but I just want

979
00:44:05,120 --> 00:44:08,760
Speaker 1: to respect your time. But um, what is the absolute

980
00:44:08,840 --> 00:44:14,920
Speaker 1: best and most fulfilling thing about being a father. The

981
00:44:14,960 --> 00:44:19,239
Speaker 1: most fulfilling thing is just seeing your kid succeeding in

982
00:44:19,280 --> 00:44:23,920
Speaker 1: whatever that whatever that is in that moment. It's not like,

983
00:44:24,040 --> 00:44:27,680
Speaker 1: you know, making money and being successful. It's it's literally

984
00:44:27,800 --> 00:44:30,439
Speaker 1: you know, oh wow, she just walked for the first time.

985
00:44:30,560 --> 00:44:33,360
Speaker 1: That's amazing. You know, those are for those moments for

986
00:44:33,480 --> 00:44:36,000
Speaker 1: me are fulfilling, especially when and another thing that people

987
00:44:36,040 --> 00:44:38,040
Speaker 1: have asked me, and you could actually go look a

988
00:44:38,120 --> 00:44:40,160
Speaker 1: lot of a lot of interviews when people always ask me, well,

989
00:44:40,239 --> 00:44:43,880
Speaker 1: what's the one major thing in your life that was

990
00:44:43,920 --> 00:44:46,680
Speaker 1: a pinpoint or a pivot or the most amazing thing?

991
00:44:46,719 --> 00:44:48,680
Speaker 1: You know, what's one of the performances And I'm like, well,

992
00:44:48,680 --> 00:44:50,600
Speaker 1: it's not really so much performance. It's when I had

993
00:44:50,680 --> 00:44:54,279
Speaker 1: my kids. That's the most rewarding thing for me. Yes,

994
00:44:54,520 --> 00:44:56,480
Speaker 1: is it amazing to have the awards? It's amazing. To

995
00:44:56,520 --> 00:44:59,959
Speaker 1: perform is amazing. Oh yeah, it's amazing. But it's amaz

996
00:45:00,000 --> 00:45:04,719
Speaker 1: eason to have someone that you've created basically, and even

997
00:45:04,719 --> 00:45:07,440
Speaker 1: if you haven't, even if you have adopted, that's another thing.

998
00:45:07,480 --> 00:45:09,520
Speaker 1: And if you adopted a child, it's still in a

999
00:45:09,560 --> 00:45:12,720
Speaker 1: sense your flesh and blood because you were teaching that child,

1000
00:45:13,200 --> 00:45:15,520
Speaker 1: the way that you were taught when you were younger

1001
00:45:15,760 --> 00:45:18,400
Speaker 1: by your parents or whoever taught you, and how to

1002
00:45:18,600 --> 00:45:20,960
Speaker 1: move that along and how to how to I don't know,

1003
00:45:21,280 --> 00:45:24,359
Speaker 1: get it to the next generation. So for me to know,

1004
00:45:26,280 --> 00:45:29,200
Speaker 1: it's weird for me to know, especially too, it's it's

1005
00:45:29,239 --> 00:45:31,520
Speaker 1: interesting to think about this, but for me to know

1006
00:45:32,360 --> 00:45:34,440
Speaker 1: that I have not failed my children is one of

1007
00:45:34,480 --> 00:45:37,400
Speaker 1: the greatest rewards as well. I think, you know what,

1008
00:45:37,480 --> 00:45:39,279
Speaker 1: I mean to see my kid look up and go,

1009
00:45:39,360 --> 00:45:41,840
Speaker 1: you know what, that's my dad. My dad may not

1010
00:45:41,920 --> 00:45:45,080
Speaker 1: be perfect, he's a door, but he's done a lot

1011
00:45:45,120 --> 00:45:47,120
Speaker 1: of good things in life for me and for my

1012
00:45:47,200 --> 00:45:49,319
Speaker 1: family and just for just in general where he makes

1013
00:45:49,320 --> 00:45:51,680
Speaker 1: people happy. And that's that's kind of one of the

1014
00:45:51,719 --> 00:45:54,000
Speaker 1: things that that I'm most proud of to know that

1015
00:45:54,040 --> 00:45:57,040
Speaker 1: my kid knows that my kids know that value and

1016
00:45:57,120 --> 00:46:01,319
Speaker 1: know that that after I'm dead and gone, that they

1017
00:46:01,400 --> 00:46:05,640
Speaker 1: know what I did, whatever I did was hopefully a

1018
00:46:05,719 --> 00:46:07,600
Speaker 1: great lesson and a value to them that they can

1019
00:46:07,640 --> 00:46:09,480
Speaker 1: live on to tell their kids or their family or

1020
00:46:09,520 --> 00:46:12,239
Speaker 1: their friends or whoever. So yeah, I love it, man,

1021
00:46:12,480 --> 00:46:16,080
Speaker 1: I love it. I love your mission. Um Where can

1022
00:46:16,080 --> 00:46:23,040
Speaker 1: our community find the one and only Mr I am everywhere. No,

1023
00:46:24,600 --> 00:46:26,920
Speaker 1: I mean on on Instagram and on on YouTube and

1024
00:46:26,920 --> 00:46:29,960
Speaker 1: on stuff. Obviously Real Joey Fatone at Real Joey Fatone

1025
00:46:30,000 --> 00:46:32,520
Speaker 1: is my Instagram and Twitter. But also there's a show

1026
00:46:32,560 --> 00:46:36,839
Speaker 1: that I host Monday, Wednesdays and Fridays on YouTube at

1027
00:46:36,880 --> 00:46:40,920
Speaker 1: around two o'clock two o'clock Eastern time, eleven o'clock, uh Pacific,

1028
00:46:41,000 --> 00:46:44,399
Speaker 1: the California area over there, um where we it's called

1029
00:46:44,440 --> 00:46:46,880
Speaker 1: what does Joey Know? I have a host, Jason Logan,

1030
00:46:46,960 --> 00:46:49,480
Speaker 1: he doesn't. Me and him basically host a show where

1031
00:46:49,480 --> 00:46:51,560
Speaker 1: we have a different celebrities and we interview them, we

1032
00:46:51,600 --> 00:46:53,360
Speaker 1: play certain songs to see if they can guess and

1033
00:46:53,360 --> 00:46:55,640
Speaker 1: see if they know it. That's another thing. Common Knowledge

1034
00:46:55,640 --> 00:46:57,759
Speaker 1: is still airing right now. And actually the cool thing

1035
00:46:57,800 --> 00:46:59,920
Speaker 1: about Common Knowledge is is it's gonna be airing on

1036
00:47:00,200 --> 00:47:03,880
Speaker 1: Fox at one pm I believe, starting I think uh

1037
00:47:03,960 --> 00:47:06,320
Speaker 1: sometime in mid August or the second week of August.

1038
00:47:06,400 --> 00:47:10,200
Speaker 1: But it's gonna be in like Orlando, Tampa, in New York, Chicago,

1039
00:47:10,440 --> 00:47:13,759
Speaker 1: l a, UM, a bunch of major cities, but on

1040
00:47:13,840 --> 00:47:17,080
Speaker 1: Fox affiliates. So we're hopefully gonna be getting syndicated. So

1041
00:47:17,120 --> 00:47:19,160
Speaker 1: that's gonna be happening, and we're shooting more episodes in

1042
00:47:19,239 --> 00:47:22,960
Speaker 1: January three. It's August. Thank you. See you know more

1043
00:47:22,960 --> 00:47:25,360
Speaker 1: than I do. So August three grab even quicker than

1044
00:47:25,440 --> 00:47:27,600
Speaker 1: I thought. So August three year, we're gonna they're gonna

1045
00:47:27,600 --> 00:47:29,439
Speaker 1: start showing that. So please guys check it out. That'd

1046
00:47:29,440 --> 00:47:31,160
Speaker 1: be amazing. Let me know if it sucks. But it's

1047
00:47:31,160 --> 00:47:32,680
Speaker 1: a lot of fun. It's a fun thing. And then

1048
00:47:32,680 --> 00:47:34,560
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be doing some more stuff when practical jokers,

1049
00:47:34,560 --> 00:47:37,040
Speaker 1: when I start shooting again, so we have the after

1050
00:47:37,080 --> 00:47:38,920
Speaker 1: party show that I host. My brother in law used

1051
00:47:38,960 --> 00:47:40,680
Speaker 1: to watch that show all the time when he loved

1052
00:47:40,760 --> 00:47:44,439
Speaker 1: was so funny all the time. The nuts these guys

1053
00:47:44,440 --> 00:47:47,680
Speaker 1: are nuts, buddy. I I want to thank you one

1054
00:47:47,760 --> 00:47:50,799
Speaker 1: for being open and honest with us but to um

1055
00:47:51,200 --> 00:47:53,400
Speaker 1: pleasure you can do our community. But for being an

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Speaker 1: amazing dad. Like I said the show, I have the

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Speaker 1: utmost respect and tip my cap to every father out there. Uh.

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Speaker 1: I think that's the greatest destiny in life, to become

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Speaker 1: a father and a loving husband and a partner. And

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Speaker 1: so I tip my cap to you. And then also

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Speaker 1: from a personal standpoint too, I also am inspired by you.

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Speaker 1: How you came up as a member of instinct and

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Speaker 1: pivoted your career and you close you went on too

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Speaker 1: different lanes and do in my life as I am

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Speaker 1: an athlete was did live that athlete life. And now

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Speaker 1: there's other things in the world, other ways I want

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Speaker 1: to make an impact, other things. I want to challenge myself.

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Speaker 1: But I could live my life. I'm not growing and

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Speaker 1: challenging and meeting new people and stuff. And so to see,

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Speaker 1: I always love when I see people crossing lanes and

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Speaker 1: when I get to have conversations with them. So you're

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Speaker 1: an inspiration to me. My man, Thank you so much.

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Speaker 1: We can't wait to see what you do next. I

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Speaker 1: appreciate you, man. Thank you for having me on any anytime. Seriously,

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Speaker 1: I mean for me. You know I don't I don't

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Speaker 1: talk a whole lot about it. A lot of times

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Speaker 1: I think not not It's not just because I don't

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Speaker 1: want to. I think it's more or less of just

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Speaker 1: like just like anything, it's it's the right time in

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Speaker 1: the right place. This is a podcast for that. You know,

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Speaker 1: if you're gonna talk to me about my career, we'll

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Speaker 1: talk about my career. But you know, it's it's different

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Speaker 1: people that are different listeners that are listening you know

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Speaker 1: what I'm saying. So it's kind of nice to where

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Speaker 1: we had these conversations. Let's get into those conversations, and

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Speaker 1: again they might not be the nicest conversations. Nobody is perfect.

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Speaker 1: That's the one thing we we we all have to

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Speaker 1: really when we all should realize that, we know, we

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Speaker 1: realize that everything is not always freaking rainbows and roses.

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Speaker 1: It's it's it's grind, it's grueling, parent thing could be

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Speaker 1: a big painted the ass. It's just tough, but it's

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Speaker 1: how you navigate and make it your own and make

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Speaker 1: it to where you know you're learning. You're giving life

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Speaker 1: lessons and you're learning them as well. I'm always learning

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Speaker 1: every day. So I appreciate you. Thank you. Also, just

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Speaker 1: to end it, just the other day, I was over

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Speaker 1: at Sasha and Emma's for a barbecue and we're talking

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Speaker 1: about their wedding, and I said, that was one of

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Speaker 1: the funnest nights of my life. To do it again,

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Speaker 1: like every year, just something right, if they do it,

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Speaker 1: we'll see you there and I'll jump up, yeah, hell yeah,

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Speaker 1: and make sure you don't rap your pants this time. Alright, uh,

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Speaker 1: thank you for serving our community. Until next week, everybody,

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Speaker 1: take care of one another, love one another, and we'll

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Speaker 1: see you back here for another episode of How Men

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Speaker 1: Think