Speaker 1: Hey, there, everybody, Amy and TJ. He of another episode
Speaker 1: of Amy and TJ. And a question for the audience,
Speaker 1: A question for everybody, Really, what kind of relationship do
Speaker 1: you have with your parents if when you call them,
Speaker 1: the first thing out of your parents' mouth is is
Speaker 1: this a butt dial? What possible relationship? I mean, what
Speaker 1: could that say? Would you say, Robes about the relationship
Speaker 1: with the parents.
Speaker 2: So that was that just happened. I so the reason
Speaker 2: why my dad said this. I called my dad and
Speaker 2: the first thing of his mouth is, well, this must
Speaker 2: be a butt dial.
Speaker 1: And there are witnesses we have, like our producers and
Speaker 1: Andy and him in the room as always, and everybody
Speaker 1: could hear the first he didn't say hello, and no
Speaker 1: first thing.
Speaker 2: He didn't say, hey, sweetie, nothing must be a mistake.
Speaker 2: Never call me, No, because I call my mom. I
Speaker 2: don't hardly ever call my dad. I almost singularly call
Speaker 2: my mom. I don't know, it's just been the way
Speaker 2: it's always been. And then if I can't get my mom,
Speaker 2: I'll call my dad. Andy says the same. Wow, So
Speaker 2: it's just I don't know my dad. I think he's
Speaker 2: retired now, but he was always busy he was always working,
Speaker 2: he was always overseas somewhere. He was constantly gone, so
Speaker 2: I didn't want to bother him. So my mom was
Speaker 2: always the go to and I think I just got
Speaker 2: into the habit. So now I just rarely would ever
Speaker 2: just call my dad. So that's why he just said
Speaker 2: this must be.
Speaker 1: But do you think you got into the habit or
Speaker 1: that is natural? That is a natural thing, Emma, which
Speaker 1: one do you do when you call? Do you call mom?
Speaker 1: You call dad naturally?
Speaker 2: My mom naturally. And I wish my dad would call
Speaker 2: me more. Oh, shout out to the dad.
Speaker 1: Wow, and Andy you says you're you call your mom.
Speaker 3: My mom at least once a day.
Speaker 2: I love that.
Speaker 3: Yeah, we just do casual check ins. But my dad's
Speaker 3: same thing, like he's always I just I don't know,
Speaker 3: maybe it's just growing up and he was always busy,
Speaker 3: so I'm like, I don't want to bother him.
Speaker 2: They have other call they're always on call.
Speaker 1: And that's the thing. I don't call anybody. I know
Speaker 1: that I end up talking to my dad more. And
Speaker 1: what does he do and what does he say, call
Speaker 1: your mama, call your mom?
Speaker 2: He does? And then you say, well, his mom there.
Speaker 2: I don't know, she's somewhere like they you must have
Speaker 2: a huge house because he never knows, or your mom
Speaker 2: is she's somewhere in the house, but just call her,
Speaker 2: Like he can't be bothered to go find her.
Speaker 1: His house is not that big. They just find places
Speaker 1: to hide from each other.
Speaker 2: This corners from one another.
Speaker 1: Right, it's but the thing it is bad, I think
Speaker 1: they say, right, guys are more like this. Men when
Speaker 1: they leave the home, they are gone. Yeah, they're not.
Speaker 1: They don't come back much, they don't call much. And
Speaker 1: girls are different. But my to the point with my
Speaker 1: you've seen this happen. I will call them or they
Speaker 1: call me, and the first thing out of my mouth.
Speaker 2: Is who died? And I would say, you have a
Speaker 2: fifty to fifty response on that were fifty percent of
Speaker 2: the time he's like, well, we got the funeral that
Speaker 2: we're going to. Oh my gosh, I thought you were kidding,
Speaker 2: And actually you aren't wrong. There have been deaths multiple
Speaker 2: times when you've asked that question.
Speaker 1: Yes, but that's on me that I don't talk to
Speaker 1: them with enough regularity. So if I do get a call,
Speaker 1: it's because something that big has happened. The other one
Speaker 1: and the other way they say it. They'll call answer
Speaker 1: sometime and the first thing out of their mouths is
Speaker 1: nobody's dead.
Speaker 2: Because they know what I'm assuming.
Speaker 1: Everything's okay, We are doing we have great relationships with
Speaker 1: our parents. Wow, is what we're trying to say.
Speaker 2: Feeling amazing about that yet and I actually it even
Speaker 2: shocked me that he said that, but I everybody heard,
Speaker 2: so there's no denying it. That did just happen.
Speaker 1: So, yes, that's on the home front with the folks.
Speaker 1: We told you all about some health issues are parents
Speaker 1: were having. Everybody right now is holding up and doing
Speaker 1: okay at least give you that update. But everybody seems
Speaker 1: to be doing all right. Not quite traveling yet, no,
Speaker 1: but they will. We have been doing some traveling here
Speaker 1: as of late, with all kinds of weird experiences on planes.
Speaker 1: We had to go to La or quick. We had
Speaker 1: two trips, one to LA for the iHeartRadio.
Speaker 2: War and then we interviewed Cheryl Cherlberg.
Speaker 1: Which was great. But some of those plane rights are fabulous.
Speaker 2: They're entertaining for not the reasons you would think. It's
Speaker 2: not the it's not the in air entertainment. It's just
Speaker 2: the people around you entertainment.
Speaker 1: And can we say please to everybody, please take take
Speaker 1: this to heart. You gotta treat these flight attendants better.
Speaker 1: I mean these folks for reasons I don't quite understand.
Speaker 1: People treat them like you, Like you are my servant.
Speaker 1: You are almost you're my slave. And doesn't matter where
Speaker 1: you if you're sitting in the row row one through five,
Speaker 1: or you sitting and row twenty five through thirty six. Everybody,
Speaker 1: and we've seen this so much. Everybody has. If you travel,
Speaker 1: if you haven't seen it, then you're the one doing it.
Speaker 1: But these folks are as salt of the earth a
Speaker 1: lot of times, and they are having a tough time
Speaker 1: and struggling, and you're treating them the way you're treating them. Please,
Speaker 1: That's that's my PSA about because I love, like, you.
Speaker 2: Know, flight attendants have been so kind and so and
Speaker 2: they were working their butts off the entire time on
Speaker 2: little sleep oftentimes. And I have to say what we've noticed,
Speaker 2: and maybe varies from airport to airport, but you start
Speaker 2: out with TSA agents who are yelling and like, you know, screaming,
Speaker 2: You're like, wow, we're all just you know, trying to
Speaker 2: get somewhere and just it's just I don't even know
Speaker 2: how to describe its jarring, even at six thirty in
Speaker 2: the morning. And then you get on the plane. The
Speaker 2: flight attendants are so kind and so soothing. It's just
Speaker 2: it's a nice well end or button too that experience.
Speaker 1: That's the issue that the passengers are now in such
Speaker 1: bad move from going to airport that they get on
Speaker 1: the plane in a bad mood and then mistreat the
Speaker 1: flight attend.
Speaker 2: It's a vicious cycle of anchor.
Speaker 1: You've seen this happen a lot of times, folks. You
Speaker 1: would be surprised how far you can get with a
Speaker 1: flight attendant by being nice the yes or him yes,
Speaker 1: because they have not they're not used to be treat
Speaker 1: it well. You have been a witness to this on
Speaker 1: a bunch of flights with me just being yes, ma'am,
Speaker 1: pardon me, excuse me? Could I please the simplest of things,
Speaker 1: give them a little respect. They're showering us with stuff. Yeah, right,
Speaker 1: and they are so kind and it's reciprocal. I'd just
Speaker 1: be a little nice to them. You'd be shocked off
Speaker 1: where you could go.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and that is contagious as well, So you just
Speaker 2: spread that little bit of joy. You feel better, You
Speaker 2: walk off the plane to wherever you're going, and you're
Speaker 2: just in a betterment.
Speaker 1: What was my There was the flight to it, the
Speaker 1: one where I was just recently accused of stealing somebody's
Speaker 1: cell phone on a flight? Where are we going?
Speaker 2: I think, La?
Speaker 1: This was Fri.
Speaker 2: It actually happened.
Speaker 1: She witnessed this. I don't know which one those Jet Blue, yes,
Speaker 1: jet Blue. Can't remember what flight number. If I could,
Speaker 1: I would tell you. But the woman was sitting in
Speaker 1: seat one F yes she was. I was in five C,
Speaker 1: so I have no problem. This is how I went down.
Speaker 1: And this is something we'll get into this later about
Speaker 1: things you've witnessed as watching a black man go through
Speaker 1: some of the same I guess scenarios in life, but
Speaker 1: getting treated different. So this situation, I use the bathroom
Speaker 1: up front that was right next to the cockpit, and
Speaker 1: I come out and there's a want the flight tenants
Speaker 1: standing there and this little lady, she's a really short lady, white,
Speaker 1: dirty blonde hair. I can't remember the eye color, but
Speaker 1: she's standing there and the flight did you see a
Speaker 1: phone in there? And immediately turn around and I said,
Speaker 1: oh no, I didn't see anything. The woman from one
Speaker 1: f the passenger says and steps towards me and gestures like,
Speaker 1: I can't show you all. You can't see me, but
Speaker 1: gestures almost like she's about to frisk me, and says, oh,
Speaker 1: you don't.
Speaker 2: Have it to me in.
Speaker 1: The front of the plane, so flat out accusing me
Speaker 1: of taking her phone. And so at this point she's
Speaker 1: a short lady, so I actually scooched. I crouched down.
Speaker 1: I put my hands on my knees and get down
Speaker 1: to her level and I say, ma'am, are you telling
Speaker 1: me I took your phone? And then she says, oh no,
Speaker 1: but it's in and then kind of ignores me. Flight
Speaker 1: attendant goes crazy with me. It's just overly apologetic. Da
Speaker 1: da da da da. I get back to my seat
Speaker 1: next to Rose five seat right, and I don't sit
Speaker 1: in my seat. I sit on the armrest. Oh yeah,
Speaker 1: you were hot, so I could be above and everybody
Speaker 1: could see me. And I stood there and watched her
Speaker 1: go through this process up there with this phone. Sure enough,
Speaker 1: found her phone in a seat somewhere yep. So now
Speaker 1: she turns to me mortified and is screaming across the
Speaker 1: five rows. I'm so sorry, I'm so sorry, and.
Speaker 2: Sorry just doesn't cut it at that point.
Speaker 1: And I was, I was, and I have to be calm,
Speaker 1: I have to be. If there weren't more people around,
Speaker 1: I don't think I would have bent down and would
Speaker 1: have been as assertive as I was, because I wouldn't
Speaker 1: have a witness to that. I wasn't aggressive towards or
Speaker 1: whatever it may be. But that was a wild flight experience.
Speaker 2: Over and apologized profusely because she was mortified.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, but it wasn't her. But the woman was
Speaker 1: the one f lady. She said, yeah, she's crazy, she's
Speaker 1: been she's been difficult to whatever it was. But that
Speaker 1: actually happened.
Speaker 2: You came over here, said some lady just accuse me
Speaker 2: of taking her phone. I was like, what when? Did
Speaker 2: what just happened? And sure enough, I'm watching it all
Speaker 2: play out, and you were sitting up on that armrest,
Speaker 2: and I mean that is something that, yeah, only certain
Speaker 2: people would be exposed to, man, but it was awful.
Speaker 2: Other than that, maybe she's listening, yeah, yeah on what
Speaker 2: that cell phone I took of her? Right, Yes, she's
Speaker 2: got a handy just downloaded the podcast.
Speaker 1: But a lot of our shot research.
Speaker 4: Right.
Speaker 1: We said, we told you all we might do our
Speaker 1: next podcast from an island. We are not recording from
Speaker 1: an island now.
Speaker 2: We had too much fun. I think we woke up
Speaker 2: a couple days. Do you want to record a podcast?
Speaker 2: We looked at each other. Nah, we don't.
Speaker 1: We didn't even ask no.
Speaker 2: It was like, yeah, that ship is sailed. We're gonna
Speaker 2: We're gonna do that when we get back.
Speaker 1: But it was nice to get I mean, you don't
Speaker 1: realize how much the city can kind of wear on
Speaker 1: you New York until you get out and you can
Speaker 1: see the sky and you can see a sunrise, and
Speaker 1: you can hear something in the morning that doesn't sound
Speaker 1: like horns or construction. It's just it was wonderful to
Speaker 1: get away for a lot.
Speaker 2: It was so nice. And it's funny though, just I've
Speaker 2: gotten used to your sleep habits now, but it is remarkable.
Speaker 2: It does not matter where we are. We could have
Speaker 2: the laziest of days with nothing to do. And he
Speaker 2: is up at four am, and I'm talking sometimes three
Speaker 2: point fifty nine, but almost to the exact second four
Speaker 2: am he's up, and so he is rustling around, and
Speaker 2: I think I got up with you one day and
Speaker 2: then kind of fell asleep on you on the couch.
Speaker 2: But we watched the sunrise, and you watched it as
Speaker 2: well with Sabine one day. So that is the beauty
Speaker 2: of getting up better early. You get to watch the sunrise.
Speaker 1: I alleged you to read the text message from Sabine,
Speaker 1: and she was because I was already down by the
Speaker 1: water waiting for the sunrise. And sunrise it ticks twenty,
Speaker 1: I think it was it.
Speaker 2: You'd already been up for two and a half hours,
Speaker 2: been up.
Speaker 1: And I texted me, hey, if you get up, you
Speaker 1: want to see the sunrise, because I knew you weren't awake,
Speaker 1: And Sabine said, your woman is still asleep in here.
Speaker 2: That'shious. Oh my gosh, you didn't tell me that.
Speaker 1: She was almost getting on to me for leaving.
Speaker 2: That's money asleep.
Speaker 1: And then I'd say, well, you want to wake her up.
Speaker 1: She's sitting nam on my way. We left you that morning, Yeah.
Speaker 2: Sunrise, but you did text me and tell me what
Speaker 2: you were doing. I woke up like at six thirty
Speaker 2: five almost, and so then I did the next two mornings.
Speaker 2: I did watch the sunrise with you because I wanted
Speaker 2: to do it. But yes, there, you better get to
Speaker 2: bed early when you're on vacation with TJ, because you
Speaker 2: are still going to be getting up at four ams.
Speaker 1: Okay, but I didn't set an alarm. That's a natural
Speaker 1: alarm clock. I have at some internal clock. I wish
Speaker 1: I was not awake, you know, I wasn't.
Speaker 2: I know, I will, I know, I know. It's well,
Speaker 2: I will say, you got up today. I was so
Speaker 2: excited at five point thirty.
Speaker 1: A big morning.
Speaker 2: It was. It was so amazing because we stayed up
Speaker 2: really late watching basketball. But I was like, honestly, the
Speaker 2: sun was starting to I was like, oh my gosh,
Speaker 2: he's not awake yet. And then I was like, I
Speaker 2: can steal a few more minutes. Yeah, that's what happens.
Speaker 2: I get really excited.
Speaker 1: My sorry, but really, I'm sorry about the vacation. I
Speaker 1: none I could do about it. I'm four am. I
Speaker 1: wish I was still sleeping. No, I know, I got it.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry.
Speaker 2: It's all right. Sorry, it's one of the prices I'm
Speaker 2: willing to pay, and.
Speaker 1: I just say thank you as well. It's no small thing.
Speaker 1: This was the first trip that you and I and
Speaker 1: Sabane have been on together, just the three of us,
Speaker 1: and it was who nahala and we had a great time.
Speaker 1: But you it's it's no small thing these moments, and
Speaker 1: with the past year and a half, there have been
Speaker 1: milestones here and there, milestones that seem very small outside
Speaker 1: of our experience, but in this particular experience, they are milestone.
Speaker 1: So she was great and you were great, and you
Speaker 1: jumped in when I was too chicken or too lazy
Speaker 1: to do something.
Speaker 2: To snork but then you did it the next day
Speaker 2: and you loved it and started talking about scuba diving
Speaker 2: and going in shortcages. You went like from one extreme
Speaker 2: to the other in one day. I was like, Wow,
Speaker 2: you should just snorkle more. Let's see what else you
Speaker 2: might be willing to do.
Speaker 1: I miss it, though, I just I don't get in
Speaker 1: the water a lot, but I do miss it, so
Speaker 1: you're right, though I didn't want to snorkel, and I
Speaker 1: can't wait to go to South Africa and do shark
Speaker 1: diy with the gray Whites, So that's what I am.
Speaker 2: You know, it was a blast, and I love watching
Speaker 2: you be such a great dad to Sabine. It makes
Speaker 2: me love you even more. It's so sweet to see
Speaker 2: how much she looks up to you, and I just
Speaker 2: I love your relationship.
Speaker 1: That's my girl. She's a water bug, man, she really is.
Speaker 1: And I had to ask everyone. I don't know who
Speaker 1: to ask. You have and you have niece's nephew who says, right, yep,
Speaker 1: what's the And anybody tell me this what is the
Speaker 1: right age? Because I've been against it from jump Street
Speaker 1: that a little girl, it's okay to put her in
Speaker 1: a bikini a two piece I think twelve thirteen.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I was gonna say ten, okay. And I always
Speaker 2: put my little girls in bikinis, like when they were little.
Speaker 2: I just thought they're cute, little round bellies and I mean,
Speaker 2: they're just so cute. And then I think they always
Speaker 2: had both they like I never, but I never. They
Speaker 2: never had skimpy ones or like I would never have
Speaker 2: let them have like, you know, yes, revealing bikinis. You
Speaker 2: can have cute, kind of sporty looking bikinis, like kind
Speaker 2: of like what you would Yeah, okay, yeah, there's the
Speaker 2: difference between like a string bikini and like a sporty
Speaker 2: like Oh that's what I'm saying so you can as
Speaker 2: long as like, yes, I had control over what kind
Speaker 2: like we bought, like nice little girl ones from Target.
Speaker 2: You know, it wasn't like they were getting a a bikinis.
Speaker 2: But yes, it's and a lot of people have different opinion.
Speaker 1: This has been a thing with me into being four
Speaker 1: years and years and years, and I've been against her
Speaker 1: having a bikini for uh forever. So it came up
Speaker 1: again in conversation on this trip. But I was just
Speaker 1: curious of other people's opinions there and maybe to eat
Speaker 1: his or her own.
Speaker 2: Yeah, no, I think that's it's something that is so personal.
Speaker 2: Everyone's got their kind of rites of passage and different
Speaker 2: milestones and different things.
Speaker 1: But again I will say here, thank you. You have
Speaker 1: been fantastic with a little one and on this trip
Speaker 1: absolutely as well. And it's fun to see you'll cut
Speaker 1: up the way y'all do and even oh team up
Speaker 1: on me.
Speaker 2: It's so fun not to be a disciplinarian like that.
Speaker 2: Honestly has been a gift. It's just been because I've
Speaker 2: always had to be, you know, the heavy hand, and
Speaker 2: so now I just get to be the fun ant.
Speaker 1: The fun.
Speaker 2: Yeah, like that's kind of how I look like I
Speaker 2: think the relationship haz.
Speaker 1: Everybody should figure that one out.
Speaker 2: Well, yeah, like everyone has a fun aunt aunt.
Speaker 1: Oh not dad.
Speaker 2: It's just that's a whole other thing. I wasn't even
Speaker 2: going okay, okay.
Speaker 1: Before we got out of here on this one. We
Speaker 1: were talking about, of course, vacations. And you and I
Speaker 1: have traveled well together for a loan, a long long
Speaker 1: time for work. It's almost you can find your perfect
Speaker 1: meat for this and that and the other. It's like,
Speaker 1: it's kind of cool to find a good travel meat.
Speaker 1: It's so the travel name and get it and all that.
Speaker 1: But Andy has found us another list here and you
Speaker 1: I forgot which one we're doing, and so you tell
Speaker 1: me what this one is, and you're gonna test us. Okay.
Speaker 3: So these are the ten red flags to avoid in
Speaker 3: a travel partner.
Speaker 1: Things to avoid in a travel partner.
Speaker 2: Yes, because you know a lot of people travel with
Speaker 2: friends or you know, maybe their boyfriend for the first time,
Speaker 2: and you know you don't know how it's going to be,
Speaker 2: and so these are things you can look for in
Speaker 2: your friends and say maybe never again, okay, all right,
Speaker 2: and to.
Speaker 1: Go all right.
Speaker 3: So number one is untrustworthiness, meaning like an untrustworthy friend
Speaker 3: or partner is a red flag because you need a
Speaker 3: friend to be honest with you while navigating a new place.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I probably wouldn't want an untrustworthy friend period to
Speaker 2: do anything with.
Speaker 1: But the stakes are higher. If you can't, you can't.
Speaker 1: I don't know. Maybe they were supposed to take care
Speaker 1: of the car. Maybe they were supposed to book a
Speaker 1: hotel that had the right security in the right neighborhood. Oh, yeah,
Speaker 1: that's a Whooh, that's an issue. We don't have that issue,
Speaker 1: Thank goodness, Thank goodness. Man.
Speaker 3: Number two is negativity. Nothing's perfect, but when someone's too
Speaker 3: preoccupied with complaining about the experience, it can cloud your experience.
Speaker 1: Let's just unpacking here.
Speaker 2: Yes, negativity can absolutely ruin a vacation.
Speaker 1: I agree, But we don't have it when we travel.
Speaker 1: We we like marvel at it around us.
Speaker 2: Yeah, negativity, I mean it is contagious. It's it infects everything.
Speaker 2: So a negative person is not someone i'd want to travel.
Speaker 4: Oh.
Speaker 1: I'm always for whatever reason, no matter where I'm going,
Speaker 1: Traveling is kind of fun. It's an experience. If you're
Speaker 1: going for work or I just kind of enjoy it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and you can laugh at you can laugh at
Speaker 2: all the mistakes that happen because you know there'll be
Speaker 2: good stories later on. That's how I look at it.
Speaker 3: Oh wow, have you ever traveled with somebody who is
Speaker 3: really negative? Like, have you ever had someone that you've
Speaker 3: literally just left the trip with and been like, I
Speaker 3: never want to travel with you again? Because I have personally.
Speaker 2: I multiple times. Yes, with friends and with family, yes.
Speaker 1: Relative relatives for you or work.
Speaker 3: I would say work. There's definitely been some work trips
Speaker 3: where have been like never again.
Speaker 1: Oh that's what for stuff?
Speaker 2: Was that? Yes?
Speaker 1: Work stuff. There are people I have I think I've
Speaker 1: gone into managers before and say OW will never travel.
Speaker 2: I absolutely have gone and said I will never travel
Speaker 2: with this person ever again. Enjoy and here's why and
Speaker 2: very valid, documentable reasons.
Speaker 3: I think that's a good way to segue into number three,
Speaker 3: which is inflexibility. How things can change, like roads could
Speaker 3: be closed, flights can be late. But you can't have
Speaker 3: somebody who's saying like we will catch this flight only
Speaker 3: this flight. I cannot move my stuff.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, that's awful. You have to be as much
Speaker 1: as we travel, you have you get it. You get it.
Speaker 1: You have to be flexible, and that's you always build
Speaker 1: that in. Foolishness is built in as soon as we.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's just enjoy the process, the ups and the downs.
Speaker 3: Do you like getting at the airport at the same time,
Speaker 3: whereas one earth like, do you get there early late?
Speaker 2: Okay, so I would consider myself not early, but not late.
Speaker 2: TJ is early, and I have absolutely jumped in on
Speaker 2: that because it is less stressful and you can have
Speaker 2: fun at the airport, people watching whatever, and you never
Speaker 2: have to worry if there's an accident or there's a
Speaker 2: gate change or whatever. You're you're there, and so your
Speaker 2: stress level immediately goes way down from the start of
Speaker 2: your trip. And I think that is the key, honestly,
Speaker 2: that I was missing. I cut it a little too
Speaker 2: close sometimes.
Speaker 1: Okay, I'm early. A rule I've had for a long
Speaker 1: long time. I want to eyeball my gate an hour
Speaker 1: before that flight leaves. I want to be through security,
Speaker 1: and I want to go down and physically look at
Speaker 1: where I'm going to be boarding my plane an hour
Speaker 1: ahead of time. And that has worked for me. I'm
Speaker 1: just the early guy. Robes you sometimes, for whatever reason,
Speaker 1: you would prefer to be five minutes late somewhere then
Speaker 1: have to wait one minute. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: I would It's a bizarre thing, like why we got
Speaker 1: to come in high It's not necessary, it's true to
Speaker 1: cut it down.
Speaker 2: I heard. I actually just because I agree and you
Speaker 2: appointed that, and it actually has changed my stress level
Speaker 2: to not be worried about being late all the time.
Speaker 2: It's going to happen every now and then, whether you
Speaker 2: you know, put in extra time or not. But someone
Speaker 2: said the best way to reduce stress is wherever you
Speaker 2: have to be, consider your travel time, double it and
Speaker 2: leave then, and then your life and your day will
Speaker 2: be that much less stressful.
Speaker 1: Got that from my dad, and I appreciate that. I
Speaker 1: mean now more than ever, but always early.
Speaker 3: Number four is being dramatic. Overly dramatic or grandstanding behavior
Speaker 3: is received poorly regardless of where you are in the world.
Speaker 2: Well are you looking at me? Yeah?
Speaker 4: Oh I was, of course I'm looking at you, okay
Speaker 4: looking no?
Speaker 2: No, no, as being the overly dramatic one. I don't
Speaker 2: think I am. On trips am I you just.
Speaker 1: We talked about this on a previous one, right, you
Speaker 1: don't have moods. You just have levels of intensity at
Speaker 1: the airport. It can be a nine easy are easy?
Speaker 1: So yeah, you're you're, you're, Yeah, you're a dramatic one.
Speaker 2: Well, dramatic. So I was actually thinking about being in
Speaker 2: restaurants and you know, you're in a restaurant, you're in
Speaker 2: a public place and you're you know, you're out to
Speaker 2: eat at a destination and someone's just the loud, boisterous,
Speaker 2: just obnoxious one. That's not someone I would want to
Speaker 2: travel with. I've even said like, I couldn't if they
Speaker 2: laughed like that or they talked like that, I could
Speaker 2: not travel with them.
Speaker 1: I've heard that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so we've seen those people.
Speaker 1: What was the thing? What was the number again? Where
Speaker 1: were that coming from?
Speaker 4: Four?
Speaker 1: Yeah? What was the one?
Speaker 3: You just did it?
Speaker 2: Dramatic like the dramatic loud people.
Speaker 1: That's annoying people. Dramatic Okay, sorry, dramatic is you know,
Speaker 1: people going a little too much. My bag's only two pounds. Oh,
Speaker 1: like dramatic in terms of just everything is dramatic and okay,
Speaker 1: there's a lot of stress.
Speaker 2: Like we heard in the customs line, Calm down, sir, Yes, no,
Speaker 2: dramatic people, Yeah, no, No, we don't do that or annoying.
Speaker 3: It does say it can draw unwanted attention though, So
Speaker 3: to your point, Okay, maybe if you are with, like
Speaker 3: in a group situation, and someone who you're traveling with
Speaker 3: is obnoxious.
Speaker 2: That's what I was thinking. Yeah, I was thinking more
Speaker 2: obnoxious than dramatic traveling groups.
Speaker 3: Number five is selfishness. Unless you travel alone, there's always
Speaker 3: some degree of compromise that you have to succumb to
Speaker 3: when traveling with others.
Speaker 1: We're golden there, Yeah, we're really good, totally golden, amazing.
Speaker 3: Number six and this one seems like something you're doing
Speaker 3: TJ Excessive risk taking. Being adventurous and going out of
Speaker 3: your comfort zone can be a good thing. But risk
Speaker 3: taking behavior is not South Africa shark diving.
Speaker 1: Well, it's in a cage.
Speaker 2: I mean what he keeps telling.
Speaker 1: No on vaca, I am not adventurous at all on vacation,
Speaker 1: and you know, I want to sit and do nothing.
Speaker 1: I want to eat, I want to drink. I want
Speaker 1: to go on my runs in the morning and maybe
Speaker 1: get on a boat.
Speaker 2: Yeah. I do love the adventure. So yeah, just but
Speaker 2: risk taking, Yeah, I am a risk taker, but I
Speaker 2: don't do it with you. I don't ask you to
Speaker 2: do it with me. I'm saying they were saying warning
Speaker 2: signs that you might not be a good travel partner.
Speaker 2: I can do that on my own.
Speaker 1: Everybody's trying to figure this out. Okay, what did you
Speaker 1: just say.
Speaker 2: I'm saying that if I do do the adventure risk taking.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you don't do that stuff with me.
Speaker 2: I wouldn't do it with you. Okay, right, you got
Speaker 2: to do it with like minded people, is what I'm saying.
Speaker 2: But sorry, that was too complicated.
Speaker 1: So what is this adventurous or risk taking thing you
Speaker 1: are not doing? Like you haven't planned.
Speaker 2: It climbing Everest or Ocatagua or any of the other
Speaker 2: peaks that have been on my list.
Speaker 1: When are those things happening?
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 1: Okay, Okay, what thing have you missed out on by
Speaker 1: in a relationship with me?
Speaker 2: Taking those strips?
Speaker 1: No, but you never had them playing.
Speaker 2: But I would have probably planned them if you were.
Speaker 1: With me, So you weren't.
Speaker 2: Not what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: Okay, I was messing with you the last part. But
Speaker 1: but why what's keeping there? Shouldn't be anything about me
Speaker 1: that's keeping you from doing taking those strips.
Speaker 2: Yeah, one day, I took a lot of them. I've
Speaker 2: taken a break. Okay, would you go white water rafting?
Speaker 1: M hmm, what's that again? You're getting the big round
Speaker 1: thing and they give you a raft, right, even though
Speaker 1: it doesn't make a difference.
Speaker 2: And then you have a helmet.
Speaker 1: Okay, anything that requires requires a helmet the water okay, okay,
Speaker 1: not my kind of boating.
Speaker 2: All right, okay, we can talk about this later.
Speaker 1: You wanted to hike, yes, said you want to hike.
Speaker 1: I do want to hike, which means walk in the
Speaker 1: woods at an elevated.
Speaker 2: Yes, climb a mountain. It doesn't have to be one
Speaker 2: of the big peaks.
Speaker 1: But hiking is different. I'm not I'm a mountain client
Speaker 1: is hiking? Right? Yeah?
Speaker 2: Yeah? Like I wanted to hike through Provence and go
Speaker 2: from village to village see and then do like a
Speaker 2: wine tasting.
Speaker 1: Why didn't we do that?
Speaker 2: Because you're allergic to lavender?
Speaker 1: You don't like I begged. You say we're this close,
Speaker 1: we got to go to Privance. You got wish we
Speaker 1: are gone.
Speaker 2: I do want to go, but you're allergic to lavendar.
Speaker 2: I don't want to have you sneeze the whole time.
Speaker 1: That is the most random thing.
Speaker 2: Sorry, wait, how did we get here? Adventure and rest taking?
Speaker 1: Oh my god. Yes, go to the next with Andy
Speaker 1: pole Man.
Speaker 3: Lack of empathy. If you get sick or lose something
Speaker 3: on the road, you want to be with someone who
Speaker 3: cares and can help you.
Speaker 4: Agreed, you want that, sure, but you know what, say
Speaker 4: say it again, Say it again.
Speaker 3: Lack of empathy. And you're sick or lose something, you
Speaker 3: wants to be with someone who cares and can help you.
Speaker 1: Okay, Okay, we just go to the next one. Empathy. Yes, okay,
Speaker 1: I know I'm thinking about you abandoning. Sabina and I
Speaker 1: at the airport when we got back to the other day.
Speaker 2: Because I had global entry and it was about an
Speaker 2: hour and a half line, and so I just said,
Speaker 2: see you back in New York City, okay, And Alisa
Speaker 2: was waiting for me. Keep going, you said, it's okay, sweety,
Speaker 2: you can.
Speaker 1: Go one more time. You got anything else, that's it
Speaker 1: all right, You can go to the next one.
Speaker 3: Number eight is budgetary differences. If one of you is
Speaker 3: a big spender and the other needs to be thrifty,
Speaker 3: it can affect every situation from the flights to the hotels.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I've had that before, but no, we don't have
Speaker 1: that issue at all. Yeah, and we always we split everything. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's always fifty to fifty and yeah, we've.
Speaker 2: Never no, I've never never argued about that.
Speaker 3: Yeah, So it's a red flag also for someone who
Speaker 3: you've traveled with. So has that ever been an issue
Speaker 3: where you've been on maybe a vacation with a friend
Speaker 3: that you've said to yourself like, oh, I thought we
Speaker 3: were going to go spend and now we're not.
Speaker 2: I think I've discussed that beforehand, like because if you're
Speaker 2: going to be doing like communal activities. Yeah, I mean
Speaker 2: I've definitely had those conversations. You have to.
Speaker 1: I think I've I've had those issues, but I was
Speaker 1: the friend on the broke in my friends are they do?
Speaker 2: Well, You're like, can't stay at that hotel, but I'll
Speaker 2: get about a half mile away.
Speaker 1: We can stay at the same spot if you you
Speaker 1: can get the guy you know in the management office
Speaker 1: the compy two nights. Oh yeah, I have stood around
Speaker 1: in high roller roulette rooms Vegas with nothing to do
Speaker 1: but watch my high roll of friend Campbell. Oh yeah,
Speaker 1: I've been that guy. Okay, he tells drinks, I need
Speaker 1: a cigar anybody.
Speaker 2: Yes, but that could be a problem if you don't
Speaker 2: have your attitude.
Speaker 3: Number nine is drinking too much. There's nothing wrong with
Speaker 3: partying while you're away, but if you're carrying your friends
Speaker 3: home every night, then it can be a problem.
Speaker 2: Agreed.
Speaker 1: Yeah, No, I've never vacation with somebody like that.
Speaker 2: I've never had that experience ever where someone gets that. Nah,
Speaker 2: I mean usually I don't know. I feel like you
Speaker 2: know your friend group and who you're traveling with.
Speaker 1: Is that because you're the one usually being carried stop?
Speaker 2: That is not no, not I have a.
Speaker 1: I don't even have a smile on my face. It's
Speaker 1: not a serious question.
Speaker 2: I was never made.
Speaker 1: That never happened, So what I heard isn't true. Where
Speaker 1: are you going with you anywhere?
Speaker 3: Number ten is jealousy, So the green eyed monster may
Speaker 3: be more likely to strike traveling. So if it's an
Speaker 3: issue with the friends while at home, it will probably
Speaker 3: be there when you leave. People who are too possessive
Speaker 3: they can create a major headache on your Oh. It
Speaker 3: can be hard to spot, but you want someone who's
Speaker 3: happy for.
Speaker 2: You, happy for you. Possessive also, like I was like, okay,
Speaker 2: I can see that. Where were you looking at that woman?
Speaker 2: Or that kind of a thing back and forth, like
Speaker 2: even with if it's like a significant other, like possessiveness, jealousy, Like.
Speaker 1: I don't think I have that. No, folks are like
Speaker 1: checking you out. I'm jealous that they're checking you out.
Speaker 2: I don't know if that's one of them. Like jealousy, possessiveness, Yeah, says.
Speaker 3: Jealous friends and partners tend to pick fights, easily, take offense,
Speaker 3: and have poor respect for your boundaries.
Speaker 2: Oh no, I've never had that.
Speaker 1: Oh, I don't think we have that. And I don't
Speaker 1: travel with friends like ever.
Speaker 2: I've traveled a lot with friends. I'm never yeah, luckily,
Speaker 2: but that yes, would be awful and reflax all right.
Speaker 2: I like these quizzes. We passed them, which.
Speaker 1: Where he's going to get one? He's going to get
Speaker 1: us one of these.
Speaker 2: I know. I'm actually looking forward to the time when
Speaker 2: we're like, ooh that might be an issue.
Speaker 1: Well, this has been great, and we will we will
Speaker 1: leave you all with them. Oh robes, this is vacation robes.
Speaker 1: This is rested robes. Nowhere else you'll go back to
Speaker 1: sedated robes. Next to the exciting that we have both
Speaker 1: officially signed up for the Chicago Marathon.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, officially this morning.
Speaker 1: Officially, Yes, are going to be doing the Chicago Marathon.
Speaker 1: You've done it once before, to be my first time around.
Speaker 2: It's wonderful, wonderful marathon, and we are so excited. We
Speaker 2: have friends running with us too. And you also signed
Speaker 2: up for the New York City Marathon.
Speaker 1: I am going to do them back to back this year. Me,
Speaker 1: that dude that for years said to you, I'm not
Speaker 1: a runner, I'm not going to be a runner. I
Speaker 1: will never run a marathon, has now signed up for
Speaker 1: two that are three weeks apart I think this year.
Speaker 1: So that's exciting.
Speaker 2: Everything is got a lot to look forward to.
Speaker 1: We do. We appreciate you all as always for checking
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