WEBVTT - Vacation, All I Ever Wanted 0:00:03.360 --> 0:00:06.360 Hey, there, everybody, Amy and TJ. He of another episode 0:00:06.360 --> 0:00:08.840 of Amy and TJ. And a question for the audience, 0:00:08.880 --> 0:00:11.960 A question for everybody, Really, what kind of relationship do 0:00:12.039 --> 0:00:16.160 you have with your parents if when you call them, 0:00:16.320 --> 0:00:18.439 the first thing out of your parents' mouth is is 0:00:18.480 --> 0:00:24.439 this a butt dial? What possible relationship? I mean, what 0:00:24.480 --> 0:00:27.000 could that say? Would you say, Robes about the relationship 0:00:27.040 --> 0:00:27.720 with the parents. 0:00:28.680 --> 0:00:32.280 So that was that just happened. I so the reason 0:00:32.280 --> 0:00:35.199 why my dad said this. I called my dad and 0:00:35.240 --> 0:00:38.160 the first thing of his mouth is, well, this must 0:00:38.200 --> 0:00:38.960 be a butt dial. 0:00:40.040 --> 0:00:42.199 And there are witnesses we have, like our producers and 0:00:42.200 --> 0:00:44.400 Andy and him in the room as always, and everybody 0:00:44.400 --> 0:00:46.760 could hear the first he didn't say hello, and no 0:00:47.479 --> 0:00:48.120 first thing. 0:00:48.120 --> 0:00:51.519 He didn't say, hey, sweetie, nothing must be a mistake. 0:00:52.400 --> 0:00:55.280 Never call me, No, because I call my mom. I 0:00:55.320 --> 0:00:58.720 don't hardly ever call my dad. I almost singularly call 0:00:58.760 --> 0:01:01.880 my mom. I don't know, it's just been the way 0:01:01.960 --> 0:01:03.960 it's always been. And then if I can't get my mom, 0:01:04.080 --> 0:01:08.880 I'll call my dad. Andy says the same. Wow, So 0:01:09.800 --> 0:01:12.440 it's just I don't know my dad. I think he's 0:01:12.480 --> 0:01:15.120 retired now, but he was always busy he was always working, 0:01:15.160 --> 0:01:18.200 he was always overseas somewhere. He was constantly gone, so 0:01:18.200 --> 0:01:20.160 I didn't want to bother him. So my mom was 0:01:20.160 --> 0:01:21.760 always the go to and I think I just got 0:01:21.800 --> 0:01:24.679 into the habit. So now I just rarely would ever 0:01:24.959 --> 0:01:27.759 just call my dad. So that's why he just said 0:01:27.800 --> 0:01:28.399 this must be. 0:01:28.560 --> 0:01:30.720 But do you think you got into the habit or 0:01:30.800 --> 0:01:33.520 that is natural? That is a natural thing, Emma, which 0:01:33.560 --> 0:01:35.559 one do you do when you call? Do you call mom? 0:01:35.760 --> 0:01:37.960 You call dad naturally? 0:01:38.440 --> 0:01:41.360 My mom naturally. And I wish my dad would call 0:01:41.480 --> 0:01:44.200 me more. Oh, shout out to the dad. 0:01:44.680 --> 0:01:47.920 Wow, and Andy you says you're you call your mom. 0:01:48.320 --> 0:01:49.360 My mom at least once a day. 0:01:50.720 --> 0:01:51.400 I love that. 0:01:51.680 --> 0:01:53.680 Yeah, we just do casual check ins. But my dad's 0:01:53.680 --> 0:01:55.840 same thing, like he's always I just I don't know, 0:01:55.880 --> 0:01:57.600 maybe it's just growing up and he was always busy, 0:01:57.680 --> 0:01:59.120 so I'm like, I don't want to bother him. 0:01:59.200 --> 0:02:01.280 They have other call they're always on call. 0:02:02.720 --> 0:02:05.840 And that's the thing. I don't call anybody. I know 0:02:05.920 --> 0:02:08.280 that I end up talking to my dad more. And 0:02:08.320 --> 0:02:11.040 what does he do and what does he say, call 0:02:11.080 --> 0:02:12.200 your mama, call your mom? 0:02:12.320 --> 0:02:14.360 He does? And then you say, well, his mom there. 0:02:14.600 --> 0:02:17.120 I don't know, she's somewhere like they you must have 0:02:17.160 --> 0:02:19.000 a huge house because he never knows, or your mom 0:02:19.120 --> 0:02:21.839 is she's somewhere in the house, but just call her, 0:02:21.880 --> 0:02:23.320 Like he can't be bothered to go find her. 0:02:23.560 --> 0:02:25.720 His house is not that big. They just find places 0:02:25.720 --> 0:02:26.600 to hide from each other. 0:02:27.680 --> 0:02:28.959 This corners from one another. 0:02:29.040 --> 0:02:31.600 Right, it's but the thing it is bad, I think 0:02:31.639 --> 0:02:33.560 they say, right, guys are more like this. Men when 0:02:33.560 --> 0:02:35.519 they leave the home, they are gone. Yeah, they're not. 0:02:35.600 --> 0:02:37.640 They don't come back much, they don't call much. And 0:02:37.760 --> 0:02:40.480 girls are different. But my to the point with my 0:02:40.639 --> 0:02:43.520 you've seen this happen. I will call them or they 0:02:43.560 --> 0:02:45.720 call me, and the first thing out of my mouth. 0:02:45.560 --> 0:02:51.240 Is who died? And I would say, you have a 0:02:51.360 --> 0:02:54.800 fifty to fifty response on that were fifty percent of 0:02:54.840 --> 0:02:56.720 the time he's like, well, we got the funeral that 0:02:56.760 --> 0:02:59.760 we're going to. Oh my gosh, I thought you were kidding, 0:02:59.800 --> 0:03:04.400 And actually you aren't wrong. There have been deaths multiple 0:03:04.400 --> 0:03:05.600 times when you've asked that question. 0:03:05.760 --> 0:03:08.640 Yes, but that's on me that I don't talk to 0:03:08.680 --> 0:03:11.239 them with enough regularity. So if I do get a call, 0:03:11.600 --> 0:03:13.760 it's because something that big has happened. The other one 0:03:13.760 --> 0:03:16.520 and the other way they say it. They'll call answer 0:03:16.600 --> 0:03:18.800 sometime and the first thing out of their mouths is 0:03:19.320 --> 0:03:20.399 nobody's dead. 0:03:20.639 --> 0:03:22.800 Because they know what I'm assuming. 0:03:23.480 --> 0:03:26.920 Everything's okay, We are doing we have great relationships with 0:03:26.960 --> 0:03:29.000 our parents. Wow, is what we're trying to say. 0:03:29.120 --> 0:03:31.959 Feeling amazing about that yet and I actually it even 0:03:31.960 --> 0:03:34.680 shocked me that he said that, but I everybody heard, 0:03:34.720 --> 0:03:37.120 so there's no denying it. That did just happen. 0:03:38.080 --> 0:03:40.400 So, yes, that's on the home front with the folks. 0:03:40.400 --> 0:03:44.520 We told you all about some health issues are parents 0:03:44.600 --> 0:03:47.440 were having. Everybody right now is holding up and doing 0:03:47.480 --> 0:03:50.440 okay at least give you that update. But everybody seems 0:03:50.440 --> 0:03:53.240 to be doing all right. Not quite traveling yet, no, 0:03:53.960 --> 0:03:57.000 but they will. We have been doing some traveling here 0:03:57.040 --> 0:04:01.240 as of late, with all kinds of weird experiences on planes. 0:04:01.280 --> 0:04:03.600 We had to go to La or quick. We had 0:04:03.600 --> 0:04:07.400 two trips, one to LA for the iHeartRadio. 0:04:06.760 --> 0:04:09.120 War and then we interviewed Cheryl Cherlberg. 0:04:09.720 --> 0:04:14.040 Which was great. But some of those plane rights are fabulous. 0:04:14.520 --> 0:04:17.520 They're entertaining for not the reasons you would think. It's 0:04:17.560 --> 0:04:20.080 not the it's not the in air entertainment. It's just 0:04:20.160 --> 0:04:22.200 the people around you entertainment. 0:04:21.880 --> 0:04:24.599 And can we say please to everybody, please take take 0:04:24.640 --> 0:04:28.560 this to heart. You gotta treat these flight attendants better. 0:04:28.920 --> 0:04:31.799 I mean these folks for reasons I don't quite understand. 0:04:33.120 --> 0:04:35.719 People treat them like you, Like you are my servant. 0:04:35.880 --> 0:04:38.920 You are almost you're my slave. And doesn't matter where 0:04:39.000 --> 0:04:41.279 you if you're sitting in the row row one through five, 0:04:41.440 --> 0:04:44.440 or you sitting and row twenty five through thirty six. Everybody, 0:04:44.560 --> 0:04:47.440 and we've seen this so much. Everybody has. If you travel, 0:04:47.560 --> 0:04:49.480 if you haven't seen it, then you're the one doing it. 0:04:49.760 --> 0:04:51.640 But these folks are as salt of the earth a 0:04:51.640 --> 0:04:54.520 lot of times, and they are having a tough time 0:04:54.560 --> 0:04:57.240 and struggling, and you're treating them the way you're treating them. Please, 0:04:57.760 --> 0:05:00.080 That's that's my PSA about because I love, like, you. 0:05:00.080 --> 0:05:03.279 Know, flight attendants have been so kind and so and 0:05:03.320 --> 0:05:05.800 they were working their butts off the entire time on 0:05:05.960 --> 0:05:10.760 little sleep oftentimes. And I have to say what we've noticed, 0:05:10.760 --> 0:05:14.599 and maybe varies from airport to airport, but you start 0:05:14.600 --> 0:05:20.320 out with TSA agents who are yelling and like, you know, screaming, 0:05:20.360 --> 0:05:22.320 You're like, wow, we're all just you know, trying to 0:05:22.320 --> 0:05:25.640 get somewhere and just it's just I don't even know 0:05:25.680 --> 0:05:27.919 how to describe its jarring, even at six thirty in 0:05:27.920 --> 0:05:29.479 the morning. And then you get on the plane. The 0:05:29.480 --> 0:05:31.960 flight attendants are so kind and so soothing. It's just 0:05:32.240 --> 0:05:36.160 it's a nice well end or button too that experience. 0:05:36.240 --> 0:05:41.159 That's the issue that the passengers are now in such 0:05:41.279 --> 0:05:44.839 bad move from going to airport that they get on 0:05:44.880 --> 0:05:47.919 the plane in a bad mood and then mistreat the 0:05:47.920 --> 0:05:48.680 flight attend. 0:05:48.440 --> 0:05:50.760 It's a vicious cycle of anchor. 0:05:50.839 --> 0:05:52.560 You've seen this happen a lot of times, folks. You 0:05:52.600 --> 0:05:54.440 would be surprised how far you can get with a 0:05:54.480 --> 0:05:57.280 flight attendant by being nice the yes or him yes, 0:05:57.320 --> 0:06:00.400 because they have not they're not used to be treat 0:06:00.400 --> 0:06:02.520 it well. You have been a witness to this on 0:06:02.560 --> 0:06:05.560 a bunch of flights with me just being yes, ma'am, 0:06:05.800 --> 0:06:08.479 pardon me, excuse me? Could I please the simplest of things, 0:06:08.520 --> 0:06:12.800 give them a little respect. They're showering us with stuff. Yeah, right, 0:06:12.800 --> 0:06:15.600 and they are so kind and it's reciprocal. I'd just 0:06:15.720 --> 0:06:17.880 be a little nice to them. You'd be shocked off 0:06:17.920 --> 0:06:18.440 where you could go. 0:06:18.600 --> 0:06:22.279 Yeah, and that is contagious as well, So you just 0:06:22.320 --> 0:06:24.080 spread that little bit of joy. You feel better, You 0:06:24.080 --> 0:06:26.240 walk off the plane to wherever you're going, and you're 0:06:26.279 --> 0:06:26.960 just in a betterment. 0:06:27.080 --> 0:06:28.839 What was my There was the flight to it, the 0:06:28.839 --> 0:06:31.640 one where I was just recently accused of stealing somebody's 0:06:31.640 --> 0:06:33.520 cell phone on a flight? Where are we going? 0:06:34.040 --> 0:06:34.600 I think, La? 0:06:36.400 --> 0:06:36.800 This was Fri. 0:06:37.000 --> 0:06:37.760 It actually happened. 0:06:37.839 --> 0:06:42.119 She witnessed this. I don't know which one those Jet Blue, yes, 0:06:42.240 --> 0:06:44.760 jet Blue. Can't remember what flight number. If I could, 0:06:44.839 --> 0:06:46.880 I would tell you. But the woman was sitting in 0:06:46.920 --> 0:06:49.520 seat one F yes she was. I was in five C, 0:06:49.920 --> 0:06:53.040 so I have no problem. This is how I went down. 0:06:53.680 --> 0:06:56.480 And this is something we'll get into this later about 0:06:56.520 --> 0:06:59.480 things you've witnessed as watching a black man go through 0:06:59.520 --> 0:07:03.279 some of the same I guess scenarios in life, but 0:07:03.320 --> 0:07:08.520 getting treated different. So this situation, I use the bathroom 0:07:08.600 --> 0:07:10.840 up front that was right next to the cockpit, and 0:07:10.920 --> 0:07:13.640 I come out and there's a want the flight tenants 0:07:13.640 --> 0:07:18.080 standing there and this little lady, she's a really short lady, white, 0:07:18.320 --> 0:07:21.560 dirty blonde hair. I can't remember the eye color, but 0:07:21.680 --> 0:07:23.840 she's standing there and the flight did you see a 0:07:23.880 --> 0:07:26.360 phone in there? And immediately turn around and I said, 0:07:26.440 --> 0:07:30.000 oh no, I didn't see anything. The woman from one 0:07:30.160 --> 0:07:35.360 f the passenger says and steps towards me and gestures like, 0:07:35.400 --> 0:07:37.360 I can't show you all. You can't see me, but 0:07:37.480 --> 0:07:40.560 gestures almost like she's about to frisk me, and says, oh, 0:07:40.640 --> 0:07:41.440 you don't. 0:07:41.120 --> 0:07:43.840 Have it to me in. 0:07:43.800 --> 0:07:45.640 The front of the plane, so flat out accusing me 0:07:45.720 --> 0:07:48.520 of taking her phone. And so at this point she's 0:07:48.560 --> 0:07:52.600 a short lady, so I actually scooched. I crouched down. 0:07:52.640 --> 0:07:54.760 I put my hands on my knees and get down 0:07:54.760 --> 0:07:57.560 to her level and I say, ma'am, are you telling 0:07:57.600 --> 0:08:00.920 me I took your phone? And then she says, oh no, 0:08:00.920 --> 0:08:03.120 but it's in and then kind of ignores me. Flight 0:08:03.120 --> 0:08:06.760 attendant goes crazy with me. It's just overly apologetic. Da 0:08:06.800 --> 0:08:08.360 da da da da. I get back to my seat 0:08:08.360 --> 0:08:11.440 next to Rose five seat right, and I don't sit 0:08:11.480 --> 0:08:14.680 in my seat. I sit on the armrest. Oh yeah, 0:08:14.800 --> 0:08:17.680 you were hot, so I could be above and everybody 0:08:17.680 --> 0:08:20.080 could see me. And I stood there and watched her 0:08:20.120 --> 0:08:23.200 go through this process up there with this phone. Sure enough, 0:08:23.600 --> 0:08:26.680 found her phone in a seat somewhere yep. So now 0:08:26.720 --> 0:08:30.000 she turns to me mortified and is screaming across the 0:08:30.080 --> 0:08:34.600 five rows. I'm so sorry, I'm so sorry, and. 0:08:35.000 --> 0:08:37.000 Sorry just doesn't cut it at that point. 0:08:37.040 --> 0:08:41.520 And I was, I was, and I have to be calm, 0:08:41.840 --> 0:08:44.079 I have to be. If there weren't more people around, 0:08:44.160 --> 0:08:46.160 I don't think I would have bent down and would 0:08:46.200 --> 0:08:48.560 have been as assertive as I was, because I wouldn't 0:08:48.559 --> 0:08:51.800 have a witness to that. I wasn't aggressive towards or 0:08:51.800 --> 0:08:54.560 whatever it may be. But that was a wild flight experience. 0:08:55.600 --> 0:08:58.760 Over and apologized profusely because she was mortified. 0:08:58.840 --> 0:09:01.080 Oh yeah, but it wasn't her. But the woman was 0:09:01.280 --> 0:09:05.080 the one f lady. She said, yeah, she's crazy, she's 0:09:05.080 --> 0:09:07.520 been she's been difficult to whatever it was. But that 0:09:07.960 --> 0:09:08.640 actually happened. 0:09:08.760 --> 0:09:11.600 You came over here, said some lady just accuse me 0:09:11.920 --> 0:09:14.280 of taking her phone. I was like, what when? Did 0:09:14.360 --> 0:09:17.280 what just happened? And sure enough, I'm watching it all 0:09:17.320 --> 0:09:19.679 play out, and you were sitting up on that armrest, 0:09:19.720 --> 0:09:25.280 and I mean that is something that, yeah, only certain 0:09:25.320 --> 0:09:28.679 people would be exposed to, man, but it was awful. 0:09:29.679 --> 0:09:35.640 Other than that, maybe she's listening, yeah, yeah on what 0:09:35.840 --> 0:09:38.280 that cell phone I took of her? Right, Yes, she's 0:09:38.280 --> 0:09:41.000 got a handy just downloaded the podcast. 0:09:41.520 --> 0:09:42.600 But a lot of our shot research. 0:09:42.640 --> 0:09:42.720 Right. 0:09:42.760 --> 0:09:46.040 We said, we told you all we might do our 0:09:46.200 --> 0:09:51.280 next podcast from an island. We are not recording from 0:09:51.320 --> 0:09:52.120 an island now. 0:09:52.160 --> 0:09:54.120 We had too much fun. I think we woke up 0:09:54.120 --> 0:09:55.840 a couple days. Do you want to record a podcast? 0:09:55.960 --> 0:09:58.880 We looked at each other. Nah, we don't. 0:10:00.240 --> 0:10:01.080 We didn't even ask no. 0:10:01.320 --> 0:10:03.600 It was like, yeah, that ship is sailed. We're gonna 0:10:03.760 --> 0:10:05.000 We're gonna do that when we get back. 0:10:05.200 --> 0:10:07.480 But it was nice to get I mean, you don't 0:10:07.520 --> 0:10:10.440 realize how much the city can kind of wear on 0:10:10.480 --> 0:10:13.800 you New York until you get out and you can 0:10:13.840 --> 0:10:16.080 see the sky and you can see a sunrise, and 0:10:16.120 --> 0:10:18.720 you can hear something in the morning that doesn't sound 0:10:18.760 --> 0:10:21.520 like horns or construction. It's just it was wonderful to 0:10:21.520 --> 0:10:22.120 get away for a lot. 0:10:22.200 --> 0:10:25.480 It was so nice. And it's funny though, just I've 0:10:25.480 --> 0:10:29.760 gotten used to your sleep habits now, but it is remarkable. 0:10:30.440 --> 0:10:34.480 It does not matter where we are. We could have 0:10:34.600 --> 0:10:37.320 the laziest of days with nothing to do. And he 0:10:37.480 --> 0:10:40.199 is up at four am, and I'm talking sometimes three 0:10:40.200 --> 0:10:43.559 point fifty nine, but almost to the exact second four 0:10:43.600 --> 0:10:48.240 am he's up, and so he is rustling around, and 0:10:48.320 --> 0:10:52.400 I think I got up with you one day and 0:10:52.440 --> 0:10:54.920 then kind of fell asleep on you on the couch. 0:10:55.000 --> 0:10:57.839 But we watched the sunrise, and you watched it as 0:10:57.840 --> 0:11:00.679 well with Sabine one day. So that is the beauty 0:11:00.679 --> 0:11:03.200 of getting up better early. You get to watch the sunrise. 0:11:03.480 --> 0:11:05.560 I alleged you to read the text message from Sabine, 0:11:05.600 --> 0:11:07.520 and she was because I was already down by the 0:11:07.520 --> 0:11:10.080 water waiting for the sunrise. And sunrise it ticks twenty, 0:11:10.280 --> 0:11:10.840 I think it was it. 0:11:11.040 --> 0:11:12.439 You'd already been up for two and a half hours, 0:11:12.640 --> 0:11:13.240 been up. 0:11:13.400 --> 0:11:15.120 And I texted me, hey, if you get up, you 0:11:15.120 --> 0:11:17.400 want to see the sunrise, because I knew you weren't awake, 0:11:19.000 --> 0:11:22.680 And Sabine said, your woman is still asleep in here. 0:11:22.960 --> 0:11:27.240 That'shious. Oh my gosh, you didn't tell me that. 0:11:27.520 --> 0:11:29.360 She was almost getting on to me for leaving. 0:11:30.120 --> 0:11:32.160 That's money asleep. 0:11:32.640 --> 0:11:34.880 And then I'd say, well, you want to wake her up. 0:11:34.880 --> 0:11:38.840 She's sitting nam on my way. We left you that morning, Yeah. 0:11:38.760 --> 0:11:41.280 Sunrise, but you did text me and tell me what 0:11:41.320 --> 0:11:43.720 you were doing. I woke up like at six thirty 0:11:43.720 --> 0:11:46.320 five almost, and so then I did the next two mornings. 0:11:46.320 --> 0:11:48.720 I did watch the sunrise with you because I wanted 0:11:48.720 --> 0:11:51.160 to do it. But yes, there, you better get to 0:11:51.200 --> 0:11:53.640 bed early when you're on vacation with TJ, because you 0:11:53.679 --> 0:11:55.480 are still going to be getting up at four ams. 0:11:55.480 --> 0:11:57.800 Okay, but I didn't set an alarm. That's a natural 0:11:57.840 --> 0:12:00.960 alarm clock. I have at some internal clock. I wish 0:12:01.040 --> 0:12:02.600 I was not awake, you know, I wasn't. 0:12:02.720 --> 0:12:05.840 I know, I will, I know, I know. It's well, 0:12:06.320 --> 0:12:09.520 I will say, you got up today. I was so 0:12:09.600 --> 0:12:12.040 excited at five point thirty. 0:12:13.480 --> 0:12:14.040 A big morning. 0:12:14.280 --> 0:12:16.880 It was. It was so amazing because we stayed up 0:12:16.960 --> 0:12:20.480 really late watching basketball. But I was like, honestly, the 0:12:20.600 --> 0:12:22.480 sun was starting to I was like, oh my gosh, 0:12:22.679 --> 0:12:24.200 he's not awake yet. And then I was like, I 0:12:24.240 --> 0:12:27.120 can steal a few more minutes. Yeah, that's what happens. 0:12:27.480 --> 0:12:28.440 I get really excited. 0:12:28.600 --> 0:12:30.760 My sorry, but really, I'm sorry about the vacation. I 0:12:31.480 --> 0:12:33.480 none I could do about it. I'm four am. I 0:12:33.520 --> 0:12:35.400 wish I was still sleeping. No, I know, I got it. 0:12:35.440 --> 0:12:35.960 I'm sorry. 0:12:36.200 --> 0:12:39.079 It's all right. Sorry, it's one of the prices I'm 0:12:39.120 --> 0:12:40.199 willing to pay, and. 0:12:40.160 --> 0:12:44.480 I just say thank you as well. It's no small thing. 0:12:44.600 --> 0:12:46.480 This was the first trip that you and I and 0:12:46.559 --> 0:12:48.680 Sabane have been on together, just the three of us, 0:12:48.760 --> 0:12:52.160 and it was who nahala and we had a great time. 0:12:52.200 --> 0:12:55.120 But you it's it's no small thing these moments, and 0:12:55.440 --> 0:12:57.120 with the past year and a half, there have been 0:12:57.200 --> 0:13:02.000 milestones here and there, milestones that seem very small outside 0:13:02.040 --> 0:13:06.640 of our experience, but in this particular experience, they are milestone. 0:13:06.720 --> 0:13:10.120 So she was great and you were great, and you 0:13:10.760 --> 0:13:13.960 jumped in when I was too chicken or too lazy 0:13:14.000 --> 0:13:17.280 to do something. 0:13:16.240 --> 0:13:18.360 To snork but then you did it the next day 0:13:18.480 --> 0:13:21.200 and you loved it and started talking about scuba diving 0:13:21.240 --> 0:13:24.120 and going in shortcages. You went like from one extreme 0:13:24.160 --> 0:13:27.520 to the other in one day. I was like, Wow, 0:13:27.559 --> 0:13:29.920 you should just snorkle more. Let's see what else you 0:13:29.960 --> 0:13:30.680 might be willing to do. 0:13:30.840 --> 0:13:32.880 I miss it, though, I just I don't get in 0:13:32.880 --> 0:13:34.960 the water a lot, but I do miss it, so 0:13:35.000 --> 0:13:36.840 you're right, though I didn't want to snorkel, and I 0:13:36.880 --> 0:13:39.200 can't wait to go to South Africa and do shark 0:13:39.280 --> 0:13:42.480 diy with the gray Whites, So that's what I am. 0:13:42.600 --> 0:13:44.560 You know, it was a blast, and I love watching 0:13:44.600 --> 0:13:47.640 you be such a great dad to Sabine. It makes 0:13:47.679 --> 0:13:50.280 me love you even more. It's so sweet to see 0:13:50.320 --> 0:13:52.440 how much she looks up to you, and I just 0:13:52.520 --> 0:13:53.720 I love your relationship. 0:13:53.880 --> 0:13:56.360 That's my girl. She's a water bug, man, she really is. 0:13:57.200 --> 0:13:59.440 And I had to ask everyone. I don't know who 0:13:59.480 --> 0:14:03.880 to ask. You have and you have niece's nephew who says, right, yep, 0:14:04.000 --> 0:14:07.160 what's the And anybody tell me this what is the 0:14:07.240 --> 0:14:10.640 right age? Because I've been against it from jump Street 0:14:10.880 --> 0:14:13.880 that a little girl, it's okay to put her in 0:14:13.920 --> 0:14:19.600 a bikini a two piece I think twelve thirteen. 0:14:19.760 --> 0:14:24.480 Yeah, I was gonna say ten, okay. And I always 0:14:24.560 --> 0:14:27.160 put my little girls in bikinis, like when they were little. 0:14:27.280 --> 0:14:30.000 I just thought they're cute, little round bellies and I mean, 0:14:30.600 --> 0:14:33.040 they're just so cute. And then I think they always 0:14:33.200 --> 0:14:36.160 had both they like I never, but I never. They 0:14:36.200 --> 0:14:38.360 never had skimpy ones or like I would never have 0:14:38.440 --> 0:14:42.640 let them have like, you know, yes, revealing bikinis. You 0:14:42.680 --> 0:14:45.960 can have cute, kind of sporty looking bikinis, like kind 0:14:45.960 --> 0:14:48.680 of like what you would Yeah, okay, yeah, there's the 0:14:48.720 --> 0:14:51.120 difference between like a string bikini and like a sporty 0:14:51.160 --> 0:14:53.600 like Oh that's what I'm saying so you can as 0:14:53.600 --> 0:14:55.680 long as like, yes, I had control over what kind 0:14:55.800 --> 0:14:58.080 like we bought, like nice little girl ones from Target. 0:14:58.120 --> 0:15:00.640 You know, it wasn't like they were getting a a bikinis. 0:15:00.640 --> 0:15:02.640 But yes, it's and a lot of people have different opinion. 0:15:02.720 --> 0:15:04.440 This has been a thing with me into being four 0:15:04.520 --> 0:15:06.560 years and years and years, and I've been against her 0:15:06.600 --> 0:15:11.080 having a bikini for uh forever. So it came up 0:15:11.120 --> 0:15:14.280 again in conversation on this trip. But I was just 0:15:14.400 --> 0:15:17.720 curious of other people's opinions there and maybe to eat 0:15:17.800 --> 0:15:18.560 his or her own. 0:15:18.640 --> 0:15:21.680 Yeah, no, I think that's it's something that is so personal. 0:15:22.520 --> 0:15:26.040 Everyone's got their kind of rites of passage and different 0:15:26.160 --> 0:15:28.200 milestones and different things. 0:15:29.000 --> 0:15:31.160 But again I will say here, thank you. You have 0:15:31.280 --> 0:15:34.160 been fantastic with a little one and on this trip 0:15:34.840 --> 0:15:37.480 absolutely as well. And it's fun to see you'll cut 0:15:37.560 --> 0:15:40.360 up the way y'all do and even oh team up 0:15:40.360 --> 0:15:40.600 on me. 0:15:40.920 --> 0:15:43.720 It's so fun not to be a disciplinarian like that. 0:15:43.920 --> 0:15:46.200 Honestly has been a gift. It's just been because I've 0:15:46.200 --> 0:15:48.200 always had to be, you know, the heavy hand, and 0:15:48.240 --> 0:15:50.760 so now I just get to be the fun ant. 0:15:50.880 --> 0:15:51.920 The fun. 0:15:53.000 --> 0:15:54.920 Yeah, like that's kind of how I look like I 0:15:54.960 --> 0:15:56.600 think the relationship haz. 0:15:56.640 --> 0:15:57.960 Everybody should figure that one out. 0:15:58.000 --> 0:16:00.880 Well, yeah, like everyone has a fun aunt aunt. 0:16:01.360 --> 0:16:02.120 Oh not dad. 0:16:02.280 --> 0:16:09.440 It's just that's a whole other thing. I wasn't even 0:16:09.520 --> 0:16:13.080 going okay, okay. 0:16:22.480 --> 0:16:23.960 Before we got out of here on this one. We 0:16:23.960 --> 0:16:27.680 were talking about, of course, vacations. And you and I 0:16:27.720 --> 0:16:31.160 have traveled well together for a loan, a long long 0:16:31.200 --> 0:16:36.720 time for work. It's almost you can find your perfect 0:16:36.720 --> 0:16:38.240 meat for this and that and the other. It's like, 0:16:38.480 --> 0:16:40.400 it's kind of cool to find a good travel meat. 0:16:40.640 --> 0:16:43.880 It's so the travel name and get it and all that. 0:16:43.920 --> 0:16:47.560 But Andy has found us another list here and you 0:16:47.760 --> 0:16:49.680 I forgot which one we're doing, and so you tell 0:16:49.680 --> 0:16:52.400 me what this one is, and you're gonna test us. Okay. 0:16:52.440 --> 0:16:54.760 So these are the ten red flags to avoid in 0:16:54.840 --> 0:16:55.720 a travel partner. 0:16:57.120 --> 0:17:00.000 Things to avoid in a travel partner. 0:17:00.160 --> 0:17:02.760 Yes, because you know a lot of people travel with 0:17:03.480 --> 0:17:06.640 friends or you know, maybe their boyfriend for the first time, 0:17:06.680 --> 0:17:08.800 and you know you don't know how it's going to be, 0:17:09.359 --> 0:17:10.960 and so these are things you can look for in 0:17:10.960 --> 0:17:13.679 your friends and say maybe never again, okay, all right, 0:17:13.720 --> 0:17:13.960 and to. 0:17:14.000 --> 0:17:15.400 Go all right. 0:17:15.440 --> 0:17:20.080 So number one is untrustworthiness, meaning like an untrustworthy friend 0:17:20.200 --> 0:17:22.520 or partner is a red flag because you need a 0:17:22.560 --> 0:17:25.119 friend to be honest with you while navigating a new place. 0:17:25.840 --> 0:17:28.960 Yeah, I probably wouldn't want an untrustworthy friend period to 0:17:29.000 --> 0:17:29.760 do anything with. 0:17:30.280 --> 0:17:32.960 But the stakes are higher. If you can't, you can't. 0:17:33.400 --> 0:17:34.840 I don't know. Maybe they were supposed to take care 0:17:34.880 --> 0:17:36.200 of the car. Maybe they were supposed to book a 0:17:36.240 --> 0:17:39.120 hotel that had the right security in the right neighborhood. Oh, yeah, 0:17:39.200 --> 0:17:41.760 that's a Whooh, that's an issue. We don't have that issue, 0:17:41.960 --> 0:17:43.520 Thank goodness, Thank goodness. Man. 0:17:44.080 --> 0:17:48.280 Number two is negativity. Nothing's perfect, but when someone's too 0:17:48.280 --> 0:17:52.280 preoccupied with complaining about the experience, it can cloud your experience. 0:17:52.640 --> 0:17:53.880 Let's just unpacking here. 0:17:56.040 --> 0:17:59.879 Yes, negativity can absolutely ruin a vacation. 0:18:00.400 --> 0:18:03.280 I agree, But we don't have it when we travel. 0:18:03.400 --> 0:18:06.600 We we like marvel at it around us. 0:18:06.680 --> 0:18:10.800 Yeah, negativity, I mean it is contagious. It's it infects everything. 0:18:10.880 --> 0:18:13.359 So a negative person is not someone i'd want to travel. 0:18:13.680 --> 0:18:13.840 Oh. 0:18:13.880 --> 0:18:16.880 I'm always for whatever reason, no matter where I'm going, 0:18:17.280 --> 0:18:20.320 Traveling is kind of fun. It's an experience. If you're 0:18:20.359 --> 0:18:23.040 going for work or I just kind of enjoy it. 0:18:23.119 --> 0:18:25.600 Yeah, and you can laugh at you can laugh at 0:18:25.640 --> 0:18:27.159 all the mistakes that happen because you know there'll be 0:18:27.160 --> 0:18:28.960 good stories later on. That's how I look at it. 0:18:29.880 --> 0:18:32.560 Oh wow, have you ever traveled with somebody who is 0:18:32.600 --> 0:18:34.520 really negative? Like, have you ever had someone that you've 0:18:34.560 --> 0:18:36.479 literally just left the trip with and been like, I 0:18:36.560 --> 0:18:39.920 never want to travel with you again? Because I have personally. 0:18:39.560 --> 0:18:44.600 I multiple times. Yes, with friends and with family, yes. 0:18:44.560 --> 0:18:47.280