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Speaker 1: Hey, there, everybody, Amy and TJ. He of another episode

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Speaker 1: of Amy and TJ. And a question for the audience,

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Speaker 1: A question for everybody, Really, what kind of relationship do

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Speaker 1: you have with your parents if when you call them,

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Speaker 1: the first thing out of your parents' mouth is is

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Speaker 1: this a butt dial? What possible relationship? I mean, what

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Speaker 1: could that say? Would you say, Robes about the relationship

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Speaker 1: with the parents.

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Speaker 2: So that was that just happened. I so the reason

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Speaker 2: why my dad said this. I called my dad and

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Speaker 2: the first thing of his mouth is, well, this must

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Speaker 2: be a butt dial.

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Speaker 1: And there are witnesses we have, like our producers and

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Speaker 1: Andy and him in the room as always, and everybody

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Speaker 1: could hear the first he didn't say hello, and no

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Speaker 2: He didn't say, hey, sweetie, nothing must be a mistake.

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Speaker 2: Never call me, No, because I call my mom. I

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Speaker 2: don't hardly ever call my dad. I almost singularly call

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Speaker 2: my mom. I don't know, it's just been the way

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Speaker 2: it's always been. And then if I can't get my mom,

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Speaker 2: I'll call my dad. Andy says the same. Wow, So

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Speaker 2: it's just I don't know my dad. I think he's

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Speaker 2: retired now, but he was always busy he was always working,

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Speaker 2: he was always overseas somewhere. He was constantly gone, so

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Speaker 2: I didn't want to bother him. So my mom was

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Speaker 2: always the go to and I think I just got

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Speaker 2: just call my dad. So that's why he just said

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Speaker 2: this must be.

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Speaker 1: But do you think you got into the habit or

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Speaker 1: that is natural? That is a natural thing, Emma, which

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Speaker 1: one do you do when you call? Do you call mom?

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Speaker 1: You call dad naturally?

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Speaker 2: My mom naturally. And I wish my dad would call

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Speaker 2: me more. Oh, shout out to the dad.

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Speaker 1: Wow, and Andy you says you're you call your mom.

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Speaker 3: My mom at least once a day.

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Speaker 2: I love that.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, we just do casual check ins. But my dad's

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Speaker 3: same thing, like he's always I just I don't know,

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Speaker 3: maybe it's just growing up and he was always busy,

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Speaker 3: so I'm like, I don't want to bother him.

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Speaker 2: They have other call they're always on call.

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Speaker 1: And that's the thing. I don't call anybody. I know

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Speaker 1: that I end up talking to my dad more. And

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Speaker 1: what does he do and what does he say, call

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Speaker 2: He does? And then you say, well, his mom there.

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Speaker 2: I don't know, she's somewhere like they you must have

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Speaker 2: a huge house because he never knows, or your mom

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Speaker 2: is she's somewhere in the house, but just call her,

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Speaker 2: Like he can't be bothered to go find her.

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Speaker 1: His house is not that big. They just find places

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Speaker 1: to hide from each other.

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Speaker 2: This corners from one another.

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Speaker 1: Right, it's but the thing it is bad, I think

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Speaker 1: they say, right, guys are more like this. Men when

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Speaker 1: They don't come back much, they don't call much. And

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Speaker 1: you've seen this happen. I will call them or they

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Speaker 1: call me, and the first thing out of my mouth.

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Speaker 2: Is who died? And I would say, you have a

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Speaker 2: fifty to fifty response on that were fifty percent of

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Speaker 2: And actually you aren't wrong. There have been deaths multiple

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Speaker 2: times when you've asked that question.

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Speaker 1: Yes, but that's on me that I don't talk to

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Speaker 1: them with enough regularity. So if I do get a call,

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Speaker 1: it's because something that big has happened. The other one

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Speaker 1: and the other way they say it. They'll call answer

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Speaker 1: sometime and the first thing out of their mouths is

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Speaker 2: Because they know what I'm assuming.

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Speaker 1: Everything's okay, We are doing we have great relationships with

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Speaker 1: our parents. Wow, is what we're trying to say.

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Speaker 2: Feeling amazing about that yet and I actually it even

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Speaker 1: So, yes, that's on the home front with the folks.

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Speaker 1: We told you all about some health issues are parents

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Speaker 1: but they will. We have been doing some traveling here

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Speaker 1: as of late, with all kinds of weird experiences on planes.

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Speaker 1: We had to go to La or quick. We had

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Speaker 1: two trips, one to LA for the iHeartRadio.

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Speaker 2: War and then we interviewed Cheryl Cherlberg.

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Speaker 1: Which was great. But some of those plane rights are fabulous.

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Speaker 2: They're entertaining for not the reasons you would think. It's

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Speaker 2: not the it's not the in air entertainment. It's just

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Speaker 1: And can we say please to everybody, please take take

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Speaker 1: this to heart. You gotta treat these flight attendants better.

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Speaker 1: I mean these folks for reasons I don't quite understand.

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Speaker 1: People treat them like you, Like you are my servant.

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Speaker 1: You are almost you're my slave. And doesn't matter where

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Speaker 1: and we've seen this so much. Everybody has. If you travel,

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Speaker 1: if you haven't seen it, then you're the one doing it.

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Speaker 1: But these folks are as salt of the earth a

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Speaker 1: lot of times, and they are having a tough time

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Speaker 1: That's that's my PSA about because I love, like, you.

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Speaker 2: Know, flight attendants have been so kind and so and

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Speaker 2: they were working their butts off the entire time on

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Speaker 2: little sleep oftentimes. And I have to say what we've noticed,

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Speaker 2: You're like, wow, we're all just you know, trying to

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Speaker 2: how to describe its jarring, even at six thirty in

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Speaker 2: flight attendants are so kind and so soothing. It's just

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Speaker 2: it's a nice well end or button too that experience.

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Speaker 1: That's the issue that the passengers are now in such

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Speaker 1: bad move from going to airport that they get on

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Speaker 2: It's a vicious cycle of anchor.

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Speaker 1: You've seen this happen a lot of times, folks. You

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Speaker 1: would be surprised how far you can get with a

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Speaker 1: flight attendant by being nice the yes or him yes,

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Speaker 1: because they have not they're not used to be treat

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Speaker 1: pardon me, excuse me? Could I please the simplest of things,

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Speaker 1: and they are so kind and it's reciprocal. I'd just

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and that is contagious as well, So you just

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Speaker 2: spread that little bit of joy. You feel better, You

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Speaker 2: just in a betterment.

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Speaker 1: What was my There was the flight to it, the

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Speaker 1: one where I was just recently accused of stealing somebody's

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Speaker 2: I think, La?

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Speaker 1: This was Fri.

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Speaker 2: It actually happened.

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Speaker 1: She witnessed this. I don't know which one those Jet Blue, yes,

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Speaker 1: so I have no problem. This is how I went down.

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Speaker 1: And this is something we'll get into this later about

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Speaker 1: things you've witnessed as watching a black man go through

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Speaker 1: some of the same I guess scenarios in life, but

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Speaker 2: Over and apologized profusely because she was mortified.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, but it wasn't her. But the woman was

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Speaker 1: the one f lady. She said, yeah, she's crazy, she's

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Speaker 2: You came over here, said some lady just accuse me

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Speaker 2: what just happened? And sure enough, I'm watching it all

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Speaker 2: and I mean that is something that, yeah, only certain

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Speaker 2: Other than that, maybe she's listening, yeah, yeah on what

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Speaker 2: that cell phone I took of her? Right, Yes, she's

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Speaker 2: got a handy just downloaded the podcast.

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Speaker 1: But a lot of our shot research.

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Speaker 4: Right.

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Speaker 1: We said, we told you all we might do our

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Speaker 1: next podcast from an island. We are not recording from

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Speaker 1: an island now.

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Speaker 2: We had too much fun. I think we woke up

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Speaker 2: a couple days. Do you want to record a podcast?

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Speaker 2: We looked at each other. Nah, we don't.

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Speaker 1: We didn't even ask no.

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Speaker 2: It was like, yeah, that ship is sailed. We're gonna

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Speaker 2: We're gonna do that when we get back.

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Speaker 1: But it was nice to get I mean, you don't

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Speaker 1: I just say thank you as well. It's no small thing.

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Speaker 2: You know, it was a blast, and I love watching

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Speaker 1: That's my girl. She's a water bug, man, she really is.

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Speaker 2: It's so fun not to be a disciplinarian like that.

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Speaker 1: Before we got out of here on this one. We

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Speaker 1: time for work. It's almost you can find your perfect

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Speaker 1: It's so the travel name and get it and all that.

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Speaker 1: Things to avoid in a travel partner.

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Speaker 2: Yes, because you know a lot of people travel with

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Speaker 3: So number one is untrustworthiness, meaning like an untrustworthy friend

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I probably wouldn't want an untrustworthy friend period to

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Speaker 1: But the stakes are higher. If you can't, you can't.

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Speaker 3: Number two is negativity. Nothing's perfect, but when someone's too

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Speaker 1: Let's just unpacking here.

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Speaker 2: Yes, negativity can absolutely ruin a vacation.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, negativity, I mean it is contagious. It's it infects everything.

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Speaker 1: I'm always for whatever reason, no matter where I'm going,

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Speaker 1: Traveling is kind of fun. It's an experience. If you're

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and you can laugh at you can laugh at

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Speaker 3: Oh wow, have you ever traveled with somebody who is

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Speaker 2: I multiple times. Yes, with friends and with family, yes.

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Speaker 2: I absolutely have gone and said I will never travel

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Speaker 3: which is inflexibility. How things can change, like roads could

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, that's awful. You have to be as much

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Speaker 1: You have to be flexible, and that's you always build

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's just enjoy the process, the ups and the downs.

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Speaker 1: and I want to go down and physically look at

437
00:20:37,200 --> 00:20:39,320
Speaker 1: where I'm going to be boarding my plane an hour

438
00:20:39,400 --> 00:20:42,880
Speaker 1: ahead of time. And that has worked for me. I'm

439
00:20:42,920 --> 00:20:46,360
Speaker 1: just the early guy. Robes you sometimes, for whatever reason,

440
00:20:46,359 --> 00:20:48,679
Speaker 1: you would prefer to be five minutes late somewhere then

441
00:20:48,720 --> 00:20:50,800
Speaker 1: have to wait one minute. You know what I'm saying.

442
00:20:50,840 --> 00:20:53,960
Speaker 1: I would It's a bizarre thing, like why we got

443
00:20:53,960 --> 00:20:56,480
Speaker 1: to come in high It's not necessary, it's true to

444
00:20:56,480 --> 00:20:57,040
Speaker 1: cut it down.

445
00:20:57,119 --> 00:20:59,320
Speaker 2: I heard. I actually just because I agree and you

446
00:20:59,440 --> 00:21:02,280
Speaker 2: appointed that, and it actually has changed my stress level

447
00:21:02,480 --> 00:21:04,840
Speaker 2: to not be worried about being late all the time.

448
00:21:04,880 --> 00:21:07,320
Speaker 2: It's going to happen every now and then, whether you

449
00:21:07,320 --> 00:21:10,080
Speaker 2: you know, put in extra time or not. But someone

450
00:21:10,080 --> 00:21:12,919
Speaker 2: said the best way to reduce stress is wherever you

451
00:21:13,000 --> 00:21:16,399
Speaker 2: have to be, consider your travel time, double it and

452
00:21:16,520 --> 00:21:19,320
Speaker 2: leave then, and then your life and your day will

453
00:21:19,359 --> 00:21:20,960
Speaker 2: be that much less stressful.

454
00:21:21,359 --> 00:21:23,600
Speaker 1: Got that from my dad, and I appreciate that. I

455
00:21:23,640 --> 00:21:26,000
Speaker 1: mean now more than ever, but always early.

456
00:21:27,840 --> 00:21:31,920
Speaker 3: Number four is being dramatic. Overly dramatic or grandstanding behavior

457
00:21:32,040 --> 00:21:34,680
Speaker 3: is received poorly regardless of where you are in the world.

458
00:21:37,160 --> 00:21:39,840
Speaker 2: Well are you looking at me? Yeah?

459
00:21:39,960 --> 00:21:43,520
Speaker 4: Oh I was, of course I'm looking at you, okay

460
00:21:43,760 --> 00:21:44,639
Speaker 4: looking no?

461
00:21:44,640 --> 00:21:47,400
Speaker 2: No, no, as being the overly dramatic one. I don't

462
00:21:47,400 --> 00:21:49,800
Speaker 2: think I am. On trips am I you just.

463
00:21:50,359 --> 00:21:52,720
Speaker 1: We talked about this on a previous one, right, you

464
00:21:52,720 --> 00:21:56,480
Speaker 1: don't have moods. You just have levels of intensity at

465
00:21:56,520 --> 00:22:01,280
Speaker 1: the airport. It can be a nine easy are easy?

466
00:22:01,520 --> 00:22:05,640
Speaker 1: So yeah, you're you're, you're, Yeah, you're a dramatic one.

467
00:22:05,680 --> 00:22:09,000
Speaker 2: Well, dramatic. So I was actually thinking about being in

468
00:22:09,040 --> 00:22:11,320
Speaker 2: restaurants and you know, you're in a restaurant, you're in

469
00:22:11,359 --> 00:22:13,879
Speaker 2: a public place and you're you know, you're out to

470
00:22:13,960 --> 00:22:18,880
Speaker 2: eat at a destination and someone's just the loud, boisterous,

471
00:22:19,280 --> 00:22:21,440
Speaker 2: just obnoxious one. That's not someone I would want to

472
00:22:21,440 --> 00:22:24,280
Speaker 2: travel with. I've even said like, I couldn't if they

473
00:22:24,359 --> 00:22:26,320
Speaker 2: laughed like that or they talked like that, I could

474
00:22:26,320 --> 00:22:27,080
Speaker 2: not travel with them.

475
00:22:27,119 --> 00:22:27,639
Speaker 1: I've heard that.

476
00:22:28,160 --> 00:22:29,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, so we've seen those people.

477
00:22:30,080 --> 00:22:33,080
Speaker 1: What was the thing? What was the number again? Where

478
00:22:33,080 --> 00:22:33,840
Speaker 1: were that coming from?

479
00:22:34,840 --> 00:22:35,040
Speaker 4: Four?

480
00:22:35,840 --> 00:22:36,680
Speaker 1: Yeah? What was the one?

481
00:22:36,720 --> 00:22:37,280
Speaker 3: You just did it?

482
00:22:37,400 --> 00:22:39,880
Speaker 2: Dramatic like the dramatic loud people.

483
00:22:39,720 --> 00:22:45,959
Speaker 1: That's annoying people. Dramatic Okay, sorry, dramatic is you know,

484
00:22:46,119 --> 00:22:49,760
Speaker 1: people going a little too much. My bag's only two pounds. Oh,

485
00:22:50,160 --> 00:22:53,840
Speaker 1: like dramatic in terms of just everything is dramatic and okay,

486
00:22:53,920 --> 00:22:55,800
Speaker 1: there's a lot of stress.

487
00:22:55,840 --> 00:23:01,720
Speaker 2: Like we heard in the customs line, Calm down, sir, Yes, no,

488
00:23:01,800 --> 00:23:04,960
Speaker 2: dramatic people, Yeah, no, No, we don't do that or annoying.

489
00:23:05,520 --> 00:23:07,879
Speaker 3: It does say it can draw unwanted attention though, So

490
00:23:07,880 --> 00:23:10,399
Speaker 3: to your point, Okay, maybe if you are with, like

491
00:23:10,440 --> 00:23:13,239
Speaker 3: in a group situation, and someone who you're traveling with

492
00:23:13,480 --> 00:23:14,879
Speaker 3: is obnoxious.

493
00:23:14,520 --> 00:23:16,840
Speaker 2: That's what I was thinking. Yeah, I was thinking more

494
00:23:16,840 --> 00:23:19,320
Speaker 2: obnoxious than dramatic traveling groups.

495
00:23:22,200 --> 00:23:25,520
Speaker 3: Number five is selfishness. Unless you travel alone, there's always

496
00:23:25,560 --> 00:23:28,520
Speaker 3: some degree of compromise that you have to succumb to

497
00:23:28,760 --> 00:23:29,960
Speaker 3: when traveling with others.

498
00:23:30,000 --> 00:23:34,160
Speaker 1: We're golden there, Yeah, we're really good, totally golden, amazing.

499
00:23:34,640 --> 00:23:36,879
Speaker 3: Number six and this one seems like something you're doing

500
00:23:37,200 --> 00:23:41,480
Speaker 3: TJ Excessive risk taking. Being adventurous and going out of

501
00:23:41,480 --> 00:23:43,400
Speaker 3: your comfort zone can be a good thing. But risk

502
00:23:43,440 --> 00:23:46,359
Speaker 3: taking behavior is not South Africa shark diving.

503
00:23:46,600 --> 00:23:49,200
Speaker 1: Well, it's in a cage.

504
00:23:49,359 --> 00:23:50,440
Speaker 2: I mean what he keeps telling.

505
00:23:51,520 --> 00:23:54,360
Speaker 1: No on vaca, I am not adventurous at all on vacation,

506
00:23:55,760 --> 00:23:58,000
Speaker 1: and you know, I want to sit and do nothing.

507
00:23:58,040 --> 00:23:59,840
Speaker 1: I want to eat, I want to drink. I want

508
00:23:59,880 --> 00:24:01,760
Speaker 1: to go on my runs in the morning and maybe

509
00:24:01,760 --> 00:24:02,359
Speaker 1: get on a boat.

510
00:24:02,680 --> 00:24:08,040
Speaker 2: Yeah. I do love the adventure. So yeah, just but

511
00:24:08,359 --> 00:24:10,800
Speaker 2: risk taking, Yeah, I am a risk taker, but I

512
00:24:10,800 --> 00:24:12,879
Speaker 2: don't do it with you. I don't ask you to

513
00:24:12,880 --> 00:24:14,600
Speaker 2: do it with me. I'm saying they were saying warning

514
00:24:14,640 --> 00:24:16,320
Speaker 2: signs that you might not be a good travel partner.

515
00:24:16,359 --> 00:24:17,280
Speaker 2: I can do that on my own.

516
00:24:17,320 --> 00:24:19,720
Speaker 1: Everybody's trying to figure this out. Okay, what did you

517
00:24:19,760 --> 00:24:20,800
Speaker 1: just say.

518
00:24:21,640 --> 00:24:25,520
Speaker 2: I'm saying that if I do do the adventure risk taking.

519
00:24:25,320 --> 00:24:26,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, you don't do that stuff with me.

520
00:24:26,640 --> 00:24:28,239
Speaker 2: I wouldn't do it with you. Okay, right, you got

521
00:24:28,280 --> 00:24:30,600
Speaker 2: to do it with like minded people, is what I'm saying.

522
00:24:30,720 --> 00:24:33,680
Speaker 2: But sorry, that was too complicated.

523
00:24:42,880 --> 00:24:45,480
Speaker 1: So what is this adventurous or risk taking thing you

524
00:24:45,760 --> 00:24:49,040
Speaker 1: are not doing? Like you haven't planned.

525
00:24:48,760 --> 00:24:52,000
Speaker 2: It climbing Everest or Ocatagua or any of the other

526
00:24:52,119 --> 00:24:53,600
Speaker 2: peaks that have been on my list.

527
00:24:53,640 --> 00:24:54,600
Speaker 1: When are those things happening?

528
00:24:54,640 --> 00:24:55,000
Speaker 2: I don't know.

529
00:24:55,240 --> 00:24:59,800
Speaker 1: Okay, Okay, what thing have you missed out on by

530
00:25:00,119 --> 00:25:01,040
Speaker 1: in a relationship with me?

531
00:25:01,720 --> 00:25:02,560
Speaker 2: Taking those strips?

532
00:25:02,800 --> 00:25:04,399
Speaker 1: No, but you never had them playing.

533
00:25:04,440 --> 00:25:06,320
Speaker 2: But I would have probably planned them if you were.

534
00:25:06,320 --> 00:25:07,600
Speaker 1: With me, So you weren't.

535
00:25:08,880 --> 00:25:09,840
Speaker 2: Not what I'm saying.

536
00:25:09,960 --> 00:25:12,520
Speaker 1: Okay, I was messing with you the last part. But

537
00:25:12,520 --> 00:25:15,960
Speaker 1: but why what's keeping there? Shouldn't be anything about me

538
00:25:16,000 --> 00:25:17,399
Speaker 1: that's keeping you from doing taking those strips.

539
00:25:17,800 --> 00:25:21,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, one day, I took a lot of them. I've

540
00:25:21,200 --> 00:25:24,560
Speaker 2: taken a break. Okay, would you go white water rafting?

541
00:25:25,320 --> 00:25:29,840
Speaker 1: M hmm, what's that again? You're getting the big round

542
00:25:29,880 --> 00:25:33,040
Speaker 1: thing and they give you a raft, right, even though

543
00:25:33,119 --> 00:25:34,560
Speaker 1: it doesn't make a difference.

544
00:25:34,640 --> 00:25:35,840
Speaker 2: And then you have a helmet.

545
00:25:36,119 --> 00:25:43,320
Speaker 1: Okay, anything that requires requires a helmet the water okay, okay,

546
00:25:43,440 --> 00:25:44,480
Speaker 1: not my kind of boating.

547
00:25:44,520 --> 00:25:48,800
Speaker 2: All right, okay, we can talk about this later.

548
00:25:48,800 --> 00:25:50,760
Speaker 1: You wanted to hike, yes, said you want to hike.

549
00:25:50,800 --> 00:25:53,119
Speaker 1: I do want to hike, which means walk in the

550
00:25:53,160 --> 00:25:55,080
Speaker 1: woods at an elevated.

551
00:25:55,280 --> 00:25:57,360
Speaker 2: Yes, climb a mountain. It doesn't have to be one

552
00:25:57,359 --> 00:25:58,320
Speaker 2: of the big peaks.

553
00:25:58,880 --> 00:26:01,040
Speaker 1: But hiking is different. I'm not I'm a mountain client

554
00:26:01,320 --> 00:26:02,120
Speaker 1: is hiking? Right? Yeah?

555
00:26:02,160 --> 00:26:05,400
Speaker 2: Yeah? Like I wanted to hike through Provence and go

556
00:26:05,440 --> 00:26:08,280
Speaker 2: from village to village see and then do like a

557
00:26:08,320 --> 00:26:09,080
Speaker 2: wine tasting.

558
00:26:09,160 --> 00:26:09,960
Speaker 1: Why didn't we do that?

559
00:26:10,400 --> 00:26:12,840
Speaker 2: Because you're allergic to lavender?

560
00:26:13,200 --> 00:26:28,520
Speaker 1: You don't like I begged. You say we're this close,

561
00:26:28,600 --> 00:26:31,359
Speaker 1: we got to go to Privance. You got wish we

562
00:26:31,440 --> 00:26:32,399
Speaker 1: are gone.

563
00:26:33,240 --> 00:26:35,200
Speaker 2: I do want to go, but you're allergic to lavendar.

564
00:26:35,240 --> 00:26:37,960
Speaker 2: I don't want to have you sneeze the whole time.

565
00:26:39,880 --> 00:26:42,320
Speaker 1: That is the most random thing.

566
00:26:42,640 --> 00:26:46,000
Speaker 2: Sorry, wait, how did we get here? Adventure and rest taking?

567
00:26:46,160 --> 00:26:48,080
Speaker 1: Oh my god. Yes, go to the next with Andy

568
00:26:48,119 --> 00:26:48,919
Speaker 1: pole Man.

569
00:26:49,560 --> 00:26:52,000
Speaker 3: Lack of empathy. If you get sick or lose something

570
00:26:52,040 --> 00:26:53,479
Speaker 3: on the road, you want to be with someone who

571
00:26:53,560 --> 00:26:54,560
Speaker 3: cares and can help you.

572
00:26:54,840 --> 00:27:05,400
Speaker 4: Agreed, you want that, sure, but you know what, say

573
00:27:05,400 --> 00:27:06,400
Speaker 4: say it again, Say it again.

574
00:27:06,880 --> 00:27:09,560
Speaker 3: Lack of empathy. And you're sick or lose something, you

575
00:27:09,640 --> 00:27:12,080
Speaker 3: wants to be with someone who cares and can help you.

576
00:27:12,320 --> 00:27:20,080
Speaker 1: Okay, Okay, we just go to the next one. Empathy. Yes, okay,

577
00:27:20,480 --> 00:27:23,560
Speaker 1: I know I'm thinking about you abandoning. Sabina and I

578
00:27:23,600 --> 00:27:26,400
Speaker 1: at the airport when we got back to the other day.

579
00:27:26,680 --> 00:27:30,360
Speaker 2: Because I had global entry and it was about an

580
00:27:30,359 --> 00:27:34,960
Speaker 2: hour and a half line, and so I just said,

581
00:27:35,000 --> 00:27:38,400
Speaker 2: see you back in New York City, okay, And Alisa

582
00:27:38,440 --> 00:27:42,639
Speaker 2: was waiting for me. Keep going, you said, it's okay, sweety,

583
00:27:42,680 --> 00:27:43,040
Speaker 2: you can.

584
00:27:42,920 --> 00:27:46,080
Speaker 1: Go one more time. You got anything else, that's it

585
00:27:46,280 --> 00:27:48,199
Speaker 1: all right, You can go to the next one.

586
00:27:49,560 --> 00:27:52,600
Speaker 3: Number eight is budgetary differences. If one of you is

587
00:27:52,640 --> 00:27:54,760
Speaker 3: a big spender and the other needs to be thrifty,

588
00:27:54,840 --> 00:28:00,360
Speaker 3: it can affect every situation from the flights to the hotels.

589
00:28:01,280 --> 00:28:04,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, I've had that before, but no, we don't have

590
00:28:04,680 --> 00:28:09,360
Speaker 1: that issue at all. Yeah, and we always we split everything. Yeah,

591
00:28:09,400 --> 00:28:12,720
Speaker 1: it's always fifty to fifty and yeah, we've.

592
00:28:12,520 --> 00:28:15,320
Speaker 2: Never no, I've never never argued about that.

593
00:28:15,440 --> 00:28:17,760
Speaker 3: Yeah, So it's a red flag also for someone who

594
00:28:17,760 --> 00:28:20,240
Speaker 3: you've traveled with. So has that ever been an issue

595
00:28:20,240 --> 00:28:22,320
Speaker 3: where you've been on maybe a vacation with a friend

596
00:28:22,880 --> 00:28:24,959
Speaker 3: that you've said to yourself like, oh, I thought we

597
00:28:24,960 --> 00:28:26,639
Speaker 3: were going to go spend and now we're not.

598
00:28:27,359 --> 00:28:30,160
Speaker 2: I think I've discussed that beforehand, like because if you're

599
00:28:30,160 --> 00:28:32,720
Speaker 2: going to be doing like communal activities. Yeah, I mean

600
00:28:32,880 --> 00:28:35,199
Speaker 2: I've definitely had those conversations. You have to.

601
00:28:35,280 --> 00:28:38,480
Speaker 1: I think I've I've had those issues, but I was

602
00:28:38,480 --> 00:28:43,800
Speaker 1: the friend on the broke in my friends are they do?

603
00:28:43,880 --> 00:28:46,400
Speaker 2: Well, You're like, can't stay at that hotel, but I'll

604
00:28:46,440 --> 00:28:47,720
Speaker 2: get about a half mile away.

605
00:28:47,800 --> 00:28:49,680
Speaker 1: We can stay at the same spot if you you

606
00:28:49,680 --> 00:28:51,760
Speaker 1: can get the guy you know in the management office

607
00:28:51,800 --> 00:28:56,200
Speaker 1: the compy two nights. Oh yeah, I have stood around

608
00:28:56,360 --> 00:29:01,560
Speaker 1: in high roller roulette rooms Vegas with nothing to do

609
00:29:02,960 --> 00:29:06,800
Speaker 1: but watch my high roll of friend Campbell. Oh yeah,

610
00:29:06,840 --> 00:29:10,440
Speaker 1: I've been that guy. Okay, he tells drinks, I need

611
00:29:10,480 --> 00:29:11,840
Speaker 1: a cigar anybody.

612
00:29:12,400 --> 00:29:15,120
Speaker 2: Yes, but that could be a problem if you don't

613
00:29:15,160 --> 00:29:15,960
Speaker 2: have your attitude.

614
00:29:16,800 --> 00:29:19,440
Speaker 3: Number nine is drinking too much. There's nothing wrong with

615
00:29:19,480 --> 00:29:21,720
Speaker 3: partying while you're away, but if you're carrying your friends

616
00:29:21,720 --> 00:29:24,120
Speaker 3: home every night, then it can be a problem.

617
00:29:24,400 --> 00:29:24,800
Speaker 2: Agreed.

618
00:29:26,120 --> 00:29:28,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, No, I've never vacation with somebody like that.

619
00:29:28,560 --> 00:29:32,200
Speaker 2: I've never had that experience ever where someone gets that. Nah,

620
00:29:32,360 --> 00:29:33,840
Speaker 2: I mean usually I don't know. I feel like you

621
00:29:33,920 --> 00:29:35,720
Speaker 2: know your friend group and who you're traveling with.

622
00:29:35,880 --> 00:29:38,200
Speaker 1: Is that because you're the one usually being carried stop?

623
00:29:38,320 --> 00:29:40,360
Speaker 2: That is not no, not I have a.

624
00:29:40,360 --> 00:29:41,800
Speaker 1: I don't even have a smile on my face. It's

625
00:29:41,800 --> 00:29:42,880
Speaker 1: not a serious question.

626
00:29:43,000 --> 00:29:43,880
Speaker 2: I was never made.

627
00:29:45,160 --> 00:29:51,280
Speaker 1: That never happened, So what I heard isn't true. Where

628
00:29:51,280 --> 00:29:52,800
Speaker 1: are you going with you anywhere?

629
00:29:55,400 --> 00:29:58,840
Speaker 3: Number ten is jealousy, So the green eyed monster may

630
00:29:58,880 --> 00:30:01,280
Speaker 3: be more likely to strike traveling. So if it's an

631
00:30:01,320 --> 00:30:03,840
Speaker 3: issue with the friends while at home, it will probably

632
00:30:03,880 --> 00:30:07,160
Speaker 3: be there when you leave. People who are too possessive

633
00:30:07,560 --> 00:30:10,360
Speaker 3: they can create a major headache on your Oh. It

634
00:30:10,440 --> 00:30:13,520
Speaker 3: can be hard to spot, but you want someone who's

635
00:30:13,520 --> 00:30:13,880
Speaker 3: happy for.

636
00:30:13,880 --> 00:30:16,880
Speaker 2: You, happy for you. Possessive also, like I was like, okay,

637
00:30:16,920 --> 00:30:19,280
Speaker 2: I can see that. Where were you looking at that woman?

638
00:30:19,440 --> 00:30:20,960
Speaker 2: Or that kind of a thing back and forth, like

639
00:30:21,000 --> 00:30:25,560
Speaker 2: even with if it's like a significant other, like possessiveness, jealousy, Like.

640
00:30:27,160 --> 00:30:32,640
Speaker 1: I don't think I have that. No, folks are like

641
00:30:32,720 --> 00:30:34,680
Speaker 1: checking you out. I'm jealous that they're checking you out.

642
00:30:34,840 --> 00:30:38,880
Speaker 2: I don't know if that's one of them. Like jealousy, possessiveness, Yeah, says.

643
00:30:38,760 --> 00:30:41,880
Speaker 3: Jealous friends and partners tend to pick fights, easily, take offense,

644
00:30:41,920 --> 00:30:43,680
Speaker 3: and have poor respect for your boundaries.

645
00:30:44,000 --> 00:30:46,840
Speaker 2: Oh no, I've never had that.

646
00:30:47,320 --> 00:30:49,680
Speaker 1: Oh, I don't think we have that. And I don't

647
00:30:49,720 --> 00:30:51,080
Speaker 1: travel with friends like ever.

648
00:30:51,600 --> 00:30:54,560
Speaker 2: I've traveled a lot with friends. I'm never yeah, luckily,

649
00:30:54,640 --> 00:30:59,680
Speaker 2: but that yes, would be awful and reflax all right.

650
00:31:00,560 --> 00:31:05,640
Speaker 2: I like these quizzes. We passed them, which.

651
00:31:05,760 --> 00:31:07,240
Speaker 1: Where he's going to get one? He's going to get

652
00:31:07,280 --> 00:31:07,680
Speaker 1: us one of these.

653
00:31:07,760 --> 00:31:09,880
Speaker 2: I know. I'm actually looking forward to the time when

654
00:31:09,920 --> 00:31:12,120
Speaker 2: we're like, ooh that might be an issue.

655
00:31:12,120 --> 00:31:15,320
Speaker 1: Well, this has been great, and we will we will

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Speaker 1: leave you all with them. Oh robes, this is vacation robes.

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Speaker 1: This is rested robes. Nowhere else you'll go back to

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Speaker 1: sedated robes. Next to the exciting that we have both

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Speaker 1: officially signed up for the Chicago Marathon.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, officially this morning.

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Speaker 1: Officially, Yes, are going to be doing the Chicago Marathon.

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Speaker 1: You've done it once before, to be my first time around.

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Speaker 2: It's wonderful, wonderful marathon, and we are so excited. We

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Speaker 2: have friends running with us too. And you also signed

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Speaker 2: up for the New York City Marathon.

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Speaker 1: I am going to do them back to back this year. Me,

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Speaker 1: that dude that for years said to you, I'm not

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Speaker 1: a runner, I'm not going to be a runner. I

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Speaker 1: will never run a marathon, has now signed up for

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Speaker 1: two that are three weeks apart I think this year.

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Speaker 1: So that's exciting.

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Speaker 2: Everything is got a lot to look forward to.

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Speaker 1: We do. We appreciate you all as always for checking

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Speaker 1: us out. You can find us on Instagram the show

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Speaker 1: at Amy and TJ Podcast. You can find us on

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Speaker 1: our pages as well. But for now, Amy and TJ,

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Speaker 1: We'll see y'all soon