1 00:00:21,800 --> 00:00:25,280 Speaker 1: Hey, Hey, Emily, A body here coming to you from 2 00:00:25,560 --> 00:00:29,960 Speaker 1: my hotel room in Shamani in France. I have been 3 00:00:30,000 --> 00:00:34,120 Speaker 1: here all week for ut MB, which stands for the 4 00:00:34,200 --> 00:00:38,960 Speaker 1: Ultra Trail Dumont Blanc. It's a single stage mountain ultra 5 00:00:39,360 --> 00:00:43,440 Speaker 1: marathon and no I am not here to run it. 6 00:00:43,600 --> 00:00:46,800 Speaker 1: I was invited to come out by the good people 7 00:00:46,840 --> 00:00:50,880 Speaker 1: at Strava, and we have had ourselves quite a time. 8 00:00:51,720 --> 00:00:55,000 Speaker 1: Aside from doing all of the touristy things like eating 9 00:00:55,080 --> 00:01:00,920 Speaker 1: baguettes and raclette and fun too and gelato oh aka, 10 00:01:01,160 --> 00:01:05,160 Speaker 1: just eating my way through this adorable little town, I 11 00:01:05,400 --> 00:01:10,880 Speaker 1: also went paragliding yesterday, which was absolutely phenomenal. A huge 12 00:01:10,880 --> 00:01:14,000 Speaker 1: thank you to my friends that work at Hoka for 13 00:01:14,080 --> 00:01:17,240 Speaker 1: inviting me to come and do that. And I also 14 00:01:17,319 --> 00:01:21,960 Speaker 1: went on a very technical They called it a trail run, 15 00:01:22,040 --> 00:01:24,400 Speaker 1: but I would beg to differ. I would say it 16 00:01:24,440 --> 00:01:28,119 Speaker 1: was certainly a hike. We went on a really beautiful 17 00:01:28,400 --> 00:01:32,120 Speaker 1: trail run slash hike this morning in which I was 18 00:01:32,319 --> 00:01:38,640 Speaker 1: actually like hiking up the mountain aside next to Michael Horbath, 19 00:01:38,680 --> 00:01:41,360 Speaker 1: who is the CEO and co founder of Strava. It 20 00:01:41,400 --> 00:01:43,920 Speaker 1: was me and him tag teaming our way up there. 21 00:01:44,040 --> 00:01:47,480 Speaker 1: It was super challenging, and that's exactly what I want 22 00:01:47,520 --> 00:01:51,559 Speaker 1: to talk about for five Minute Friday this week. There 23 00:01:51,680 --> 00:01:55,720 Speaker 1: were so many times during the hike on Thursday that 24 00:01:55,960 --> 00:02:01,200 Speaker 1: I just felt so like, what am I doing here? 25 00:02:01,720 --> 00:02:04,640 Speaker 1: I looked around me, and it seemed as though everyone 26 00:02:04,680 --> 00:02:11,840 Speaker 1: else was very comfortable, almost as though hiking is clearly 27 00:02:12,400 --> 00:02:15,520 Speaker 1: a part of their regular routine. Now, it's not so surprising. 28 00:02:15,760 --> 00:02:19,000 Speaker 1: I would think that you know me pretty well by 29 00:02:19,080 --> 00:02:21,760 Speaker 1: now for listening to the show. I am not an 30 00:02:21,800 --> 00:02:26,240 Speaker 1: avid hiker, and I went out onto these trails literally 31 00:02:26,240 --> 00:02:29,240 Speaker 1: thinking you were going to do like a trail run. Well, no, 32 00:02:29,600 --> 00:02:31,919 Speaker 1: I mean we gained over I think it was thirteen 33 00:02:32,040 --> 00:02:34,840 Speaker 1: hundred feet of elevation, which some people listening to this 34 00:02:34,919 --> 00:02:37,520 Speaker 1: might be like, Oh, that's not too bad. It felt 35 00:02:37,560 --> 00:02:41,840 Speaker 1: like summoning Everest to me and literally at times like 36 00:02:41,919 --> 00:02:45,520 Speaker 1: scaling rocks with holds that had been put there by 37 00:02:45,960 --> 00:02:52,360 Speaker 1: hikers before us, and really really challenging. At times. I 38 00:02:52,360 --> 00:02:54,079 Speaker 1: looked around me and I was like, I need to 39 00:02:54,120 --> 00:02:56,120 Speaker 1: be the person that like steps off to the side 40 00:02:56,160 --> 00:02:59,360 Speaker 1: so that someone else who may be more well versed 41 00:02:59,400 --> 00:03:01,280 Speaker 1: in this type of terrain and if they want to 42 00:03:01,320 --> 00:03:03,440 Speaker 1: like move a little bit faster than me, I should 43 00:03:03,520 --> 00:03:07,240 Speaker 1: let them go by. So we're on the descent. So 44 00:03:07,280 --> 00:03:09,639 Speaker 1: we made it to the top. We stopped at this 45 00:03:09,840 --> 00:03:13,520 Speaker 1: beautiful lake and we're on our way down, and I 46 00:03:13,639 --> 00:03:16,760 Speaker 1: noticed that the guide who I am following, he is 47 00:03:16,880 --> 00:03:20,280 Speaker 1: kind of running down this like winding path which is 48 00:03:20,320 --> 00:03:23,079 Speaker 1: super rocky. And for me, as I'm trying to make 49 00:03:23,120 --> 00:03:25,280 Speaker 1: sure that I'm taking care of my feet, my prime 50 00:03:25,320 --> 00:03:27,240 Speaker 1: goal right now is to make it to the starting 51 00:03:27,240 --> 00:03:30,480 Speaker 1: line of my marathon in October, I didn't want to 52 00:03:30,520 --> 00:03:32,440 Speaker 1: be too risky, so I was just trying to move 53 00:03:33,000 --> 00:03:35,960 Speaker 1: a little cautiously, and I noticed that he was moving 54 00:03:35,960 --> 00:03:37,520 Speaker 1: at a faster clip than I. So I went to 55 00:03:37,520 --> 00:03:39,200 Speaker 1: go step to the side and I turned back and 56 00:03:39,240 --> 00:03:42,240 Speaker 1: there were two women coming up behind me, and I said, hey, 57 00:03:42,280 --> 00:03:43,400 Speaker 1: if you want to go ahead, I'm just going to 58 00:03:43,400 --> 00:03:45,840 Speaker 1: take a second. And she said to me one of them, 59 00:03:45,880 --> 00:03:47,840 Speaker 1: she said, well, are you taking a second because you 60 00:03:47,920 --> 00:03:50,040 Speaker 1: feel like you're not going fast enough? Because if that's 61 00:03:50,080 --> 00:03:52,000 Speaker 1: the case, you are doing just fine and keep going 62 00:03:52,040 --> 00:03:55,280 Speaker 1: at your own pace. She continued on and said, I 63 00:03:55,320 --> 00:03:59,000 Speaker 1: have felt that way before. I can totally relate. I 64 00:03:59,080 --> 00:04:02,560 Speaker 1: really needed that because that's exactly why I was pulling 65 00:04:02,560 --> 00:04:04,000 Speaker 1: off to the side. I felt as though I was 66 00:04:04,040 --> 00:04:07,240 Speaker 1: holding others back, and I didn't want to be that person. 67 00:04:07,960 --> 00:04:11,640 Speaker 1: And it made me think about how often like that 68 00:04:11,760 --> 00:04:13,800 Speaker 1: was the story that I was telling myself. The story 69 00:04:13,800 --> 00:04:15,960 Speaker 1: that I was telling myself was that I was inconveniencing 70 00:04:15,960 --> 00:04:19,000 Speaker 1: everyone around me. But the reality was is that no 71 00:04:19,040 --> 00:04:22,000 Speaker 1: one was paying attention to how I was making my 72 00:04:22,040 --> 00:04:25,400 Speaker 1: way down the mountain, and I wasn't inconveniencing anyone around me. 73 00:04:25,880 --> 00:04:28,800 Speaker 1: But it's a prime example of me being my own 74 00:04:28,800 --> 00:04:32,479 Speaker 1: biggest critic and me assuming that because I'm not a veteran, 75 00:04:32,560 --> 00:04:35,840 Speaker 1: because this isn't something I'm doing frequently, that I'm not 76 00:04:35,960 --> 00:04:38,800 Speaker 1: doing it good enough. It was a reminder for me 77 00:04:38,960 --> 00:04:41,760 Speaker 1: that whatever you have to give any certain task in 78 00:04:41,800 --> 00:04:45,560 Speaker 1: the moment, that is good enough, and that showing up 79 00:04:45,600 --> 00:04:50,080 Speaker 1: within itself was a victory to begin with. And so 80 00:04:51,040 --> 00:04:54,120 Speaker 1: I did it. I climbed the mountain, I submitted the mountain, 81 00:04:54,160 --> 00:04:56,919 Speaker 1: and I made it way back down and I had 82 00:04:57,440 --> 00:05:01,760 Speaker 1: an apparel sprits which tasted extra lif and that was that, 83 00:05:02,279 --> 00:05:05,240 Speaker 1: and I felt really accomplished and really proud of myself. 84 00:05:05,839 --> 00:05:08,359 Speaker 1: It is so easy to be your own biggest critic, 85 00:05:08,720 --> 00:05:11,279 Speaker 1: But don't let that little voice in your head prevent 86 00:05:11,440 --> 00:05:15,000 Speaker 1: you from doing things at your own pace, going after 87 00:05:15,240 --> 00:05:19,400 Speaker 1: your potential on your own timeline. And maybe most importantly, 88 00:05:19,640 --> 00:05:23,680 Speaker 1: don't be afraid to be a beginner, because really you 89 00:05:23,839 --> 00:05:27,279 Speaker 1: only get to be a beginner once, and everyone around 90 00:05:27,320 --> 00:05:31,440 Speaker 1: you is a beginner at something. So maybe my prompt 91 00:05:31,440 --> 00:05:34,320 Speaker 1: for you this week, in fact, this is it. What 92 00:05:35,240 --> 00:05:38,600 Speaker 1: is something that you have wanted to begin. Maybe it's 93 00:05:38,680 --> 00:05:41,960 Speaker 1: a new hobby, a new activity, and maybe that little 94 00:05:42,040 --> 00:05:44,640 Speaker 1: voice is the thing that's holding you back. What is 95 00:05:44,680 --> 00:05:47,840 Speaker 1: something that you want to begin? And maybe that little 96 00:05:47,920 --> 00:05:50,760 Speaker 1: voice has been the thing that's holding you back, And 97 00:05:50,839 --> 00:05:57,800 Speaker 1: now is your opportunity to say ssh not now? All right, 98 00:05:57,839 --> 00:05:58,599 Speaker 1: all right now. 99 00:05:59,160 --> 00:06:02,479 Speaker 2: A listener question, Hi, Emily, I've heard you mentioned on 100 00:06:02,520 --> 00:06:04,960 Speaker 2: the podcast a couple times that you're working with a 101 00:06:05,000 --> 00:06:06,919 Speaker 2: life coach, and I was wondering if you would be 102 00:06:06,960 --> 00:06:09,520 Speaker 2: willing to talk a little bit more about it. How 103 00:06:09,560 --> 00:06:11,400 Speaker 2: did you decide that you wanted to work with a 104 00:06:11,400 --> 00:06:14,000 Speaker 2: life coach, How did you find a life coach, what 105 00:06:14,120 --> 00:06:17,320 Speaker 2: qualifications did you look for, and just what your overall 106 00:06:17,360 --> 00:06:20,600 Speaker 2: experience of life coaching has been, Like I know you've 107 00:06:20,600 --> 00:06:22,839 Speaker 2: seen a therapist in the past, so I'm curious to 108 00:06:22,880 --> 00:06:25,240 Speaker 2: know how it compares to therapy and what advice you'd 109 00:06:25,279 --> 00:06:27,719 Speaker 2: give to someone if they're wondering whether they should find 110 00:06:27,760 --> 00:06:30,960 Speaker 2: a therapist or find a life coach. Anything you'd be 111 00:06:31,000 --> 00:06:33,680 Speaker 2: willing to share about the experience would be really appreciated. 112 00:06:33,960 --> 00:06:35,560 Speaker 2: Thanks so much. Let the podcast. 113 00:06:36,520 --> 00:06:40,080 Speaker 1: Hey, Hey, good question. I have been getting many messages 114 00:06:40,120 --> 00:06:42,080 Speaker 1: and a few emails about this, in fact, so I'm 115 00:06:42,120 --> 00:06:46,440 Speaker 1: happy to differentiate between a life coach and a therapist 116 00:06:46,520 --> 00:06:49,920 Speaker 1: properly here. So the biggest difference between therapy and life 117 00:06:49,920 --> 00:06:53,840 Speaker 1: coaching is really the focus of the work. Therapy focuses 118 00:06:53,880 --> 00:06:56,880 Speaker 1: on mental health and emotional healing, so you're probably going 119 00:06:56,960 --> 00:06:59,440 Speaker 1: to talk a lot about things that have happened in 120 00:06:59,480 --> 00:07:02,279 Speaker 1: the past and traumas and how those impact the way 121 00:07:02,279 --> 00:07:05,680 Speaker 1: that you go about your life right now, whereas life 122 00:07:05,760 --> 00:07:11,440 Speaker 1: coaching is really really homed in on setting and achieving goals. 123 00:07:11,600 --> 00:07:15,320 Speaker 1: I found my life coach through a referral from a 124 00:07:15,320 --> 00:07:19,040 Speaker 1: good friend, and I am super satisfied with the work 125 00:07:19,040 --> 00:07:21,760 Speaker 1: that we've been doing. I do feel, as a goal 126 00:07:21,920 --> 00:07:28,280 Speaker 1: oriented individual that this really ties together the emotional and 127 00:07:28,320 --> 00:07:31,640 Speaker 1: mental support that I'm looking for, while also helping me 128 00:07:32,000 --> 00:07:36,400 Speaker 1: think ahead and focus on the goals that I am after. 129 00:07:37,160 --> 00:07:39,680 Speaker 1: A really big focus for me when I started seeing 130 00:07:39,720 --> 00:07:42,240 Speaker 1: my life coach, and this is something I hear often, 131 00:07:42,360 --> 00:07:46,160 Speaker 1: is that I wanted to get unstuck in some of 132 00:07:46,480 --> 00:07:50,160 Speaker 1: the different aspects of my life, both personally and professionally, 133 00:07:50,360 --> 00:07:53,720 Speaker 1: and so working with her has really helped me to 134 00:07:53,760 --> 00:07:56,200 Speaker 1: do that, has really helped me get out of my 135 00:07:56,360 --> 00:07:59,280 Speaker 1: own way in pursuit of the things that excite me 136 00:07:59,640 --> 00:08:03,320 Speaker 1: and light my soul on fire a little bit. Typically speaking, 137 00:08:03,600 --> 00:08:06,880 Speaker 1: therapy often doesn't have a set end date, so it's 138 00:08:06,880 --> 00:08:10,440 Speaker 1: not a time limited process, whereas a lot of coaching 139 00:08:10,520 --> 00:08:15,400 Speaker 1: clients work with a life coach for a certain duration 140 00:08:15,520 --> 00:08:18,760 Speaker 1: of time to work on a specific goal. Again, to 141 00:08:18,880 --> 00:08:23,320 Speaker 1: reiterate kind of the point of life coaching, coaching really 142 00:08:23,360 --> 00:08:27,240 Speaker 1: focuses on improving the here and now, let's say it. 143 00:08:27,320 --> 00:08:30,800 Speaker 1: So the goal in coaching, as opposed to therapy isn't 144 00:08:30,840 --> 00:08:33,480 Speaker 1: really to go back and address it or heal it 145 00:08:33,679 --> 00:08:38,000 Speaker 1: or change it. Instead, some past things are just referenced 146 00:08:38,120 --> 00:08:44,920 Speaker 1: in relation to what you are trying to implement moving forward. Lastly, 147 00:08:45,200 --> 00:08:47,599 Speaker 1: on what to look for in a life coach is 148 00:08:47,640 --> 00:08:49,760 Speaker 1: that if that is something that you are interested in. 149 00:08:50,280 --> 00:08:55,200 Speaker 1: There are so many different educational avenues that one can 150 00:08:55,240 --> 00:08:58,240 Speaker 1: go down to pursue working as a life coach. There's 151 00:08:58,280 --> 00:09:02,520 Speaker 1: no one governing body that says this is a good certification, 152 00:09:02,640 --> 00:09:05,960 Speaker 1: this isn't a good certification. I really liked that the 153 00:09:06,160 --> 00:09:09,720 Speaker 1: individual that I work with went through the IPEC program, 154 00:09:09,760 --> 00:09:12,280 Speaker 1: which is one I've mentioned here before. It is the 155 00:09:12,320 --> 00:09:16,280 Speaker 1: one that I am currently enrolled in myself at the moment. 156 00:09:16,840 --> 00:09:20,199 Speaker 1: It wasn't and is not a I'm going to go 157 00:09:20,280 --> 00:09:22,160 Speaker 1: take a course for a weekend and suddenly I'm a 158 00:09:22,200 --> 00:09:25,880 Speaker 1: life coach thing. It's actually, you know, between seven and 159 00:09:26,000 --> 00:09:29,880 Speaker 1: eight months of coaching work involving tons and tons of 160 00:09:29,960 --> 00:09:34,439 Speaker 1: hours of practice and schooling. And that makes me comfortable 161 00:09:34,520 --> 00:09:38,040 Speaker 1: knowing that I am working with an individual who has 162 00:09:38,120 --> 00:09:41,680 Speaker 1: that next level skill set and has really put in 163 00:09:41,760 --> 00:09:45,120 Speaker 1: the time and effort to understand how to help others 164 00:09:45,200 --> 00:09:49,839 Speaker 1: level up to their own potential. And so aside from 165 00:09:50,200 --> 00:09:53,520 Speaker 1: checking into what credentials they may have and where they 166 00:09:53,840 --> 00:09:58,560 Speaker 1: studied or learned their skill set, I also would just 167 00:09:59,200 --> 00:10:03,960 Speaker 1: say that the right fit for you is really going 168 00:10:04,080 --> 00:10:07,080 Speaker 1: to be also based on personality. So find someone that 169 00:10:07,080 --> 00:10:10,440 Speaker 1: makes you feel comfortable, that makes you feel empowered, and 170 00:10:10,880 --> 00:10:14,920 Speaker 1: that makes you feel as though you are ready to 171 00:10:15,040 --> 00:10:18,480 Speaker 1: tackle the things that are ahead of you. I think 172 00:10:18,520 --> 00:10:23,160 Speaker 1: that's it for this week. Another hurdle conquered. I'll catch 173 00:10:23,160 --> 00:10:23,920 Speaker 1: you guys next time.