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Speaker 1: To Jenna, we start, you've been doing all kinds of

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Speaker 1: you know what I mean, Flatbush? You know you know

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Speaker 1: well let's get some examples. Let's just say that you

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Speaker 1: make it feel that way? Way to get her to change?

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Speaker 1: A good way a good way to have to mention it.

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Speaker 1: the differences? Um? Well, I don't like when people like thrust.

421
00:27:07,440 --> 00:27:09,240
Speaker 1: I don't like when people use their finger. At the

422
00:27:09,280 --> 00:27:11,719
Speaker 1: same time, I like it like nice and gentle. I

423
00:27:11,760 --> 00:27:14,240
Speaker 1: always compare it to like a little kitten laughing some

424
00:27:14,359 --> 00:27:18,639
Speaker 1: milk out of a bowl, you know what. That's how

425
00:27:19,560 --> 00:27:23,480
Speaker 1: Andrew's so funny. I like it really rough, Like I

426
00:27:23,560 --> 00:27:26,639
Speaker 1: like to get bit a little bit sucked really hard.

427
00:27:27,080 --> 00:27:32,080
Speaker 1: I'm psycho. I just I don't mind a finger. I like, like,

428
00:27:32,119 --> 00:27:35,919
Speaker 1: I like variety of things, but like you have to

429
00:27:35,960 --> 00:27:37,800
Speaker 1: eat me out till I come, that's for sure. I

430
00:27:37,840 --> 00:27:39,800
Speaker 1: just feel like if you know what you're doing down there,

431
00:27:39,880 --> 00:27:42,359
Speaker 1: because I've never had to be taught how to give head,

432
00:27:42,600 --> 00:27:44,440
Speaker 1: Like nobody ever had to say to me, like that's

433
00:27:44,480 --> 00:27:47,320
Speaker 1: not what, that's not right doing, Like that's not for me.

434
00:27:47,400 --> 00:27:50,119
Speaker 1: I should like born with that knowledge if I was

435
00:27:50,200 --> 00:27:55,679
Speaker 1: born as what they say about me. They're fair about me,

436
00:27:56,359 --> 00:27:59,000
Speaker 1: they do Angela and step and they always say like

437
00:27:59,040 --> 00:28:01,080
Speaker 1: I was born on how to give up. But I

438
00:28:01,160 --> 00:28:03,320
Speaker 1: just look at it like I know I didn't have

439
00:28:03,400 --> 00:28:05,840
Speaker 1: to be taught, so you figure it out too, and like,

440
00:28:05,920 --> 00:28:08,320
Speaker 1: I don't have no problem talking to you later, but

441
00:28:08,480 --> 00:28:10,879
Speaker 1: not while we're having sex, like if I'm all talking

442
00:28:10,880 --> 00:28:14,160
Speaker 1: about as far as moaning or like saying your name

443
00:28:14,280 --> 00:28:16,520
Speaker 1: stuff like that, but if it's like I want you

444
00:28:16,560 --> 00:28:18,360
Speaker 1: to do it like this, unless it's like harder when

445
00:28:18,400 --> 00:28:22,720
Speaker 1: we're like like I'm about now. You know that's weird

446
00:28:22,760 --> 00:28:24,679
Speaker 1: to me because I already did it, Like what do

447
00:28:24,720 --> 00:28:30,400
Speaker 1: you want to think? Do you think that it's it's

448
00:28:30,480 --> 00:28:33,200
Speaker 1: easier to like how did you learn how to give that?

449
00:28:33,400 --> 00:28:35,880
Speaker 1: You study? You looked at you watch some point now

450
00:28:35,880 --> 00:28:38,920
Speaker 1: like okay, I've seen porn. I've seen porn obviously, and

451
00:28:38,960 --> 00:28:41,600
Speaker 1: I just what I thought about it, honestly, is like

452
00:28:41,720 --> 00:28:44,800
Speaker 1: how would I want to feel? How would I wanted

453
00:28:44,840 --> 00:28:49,280
Speaker 1: to feel my deck? Like yeah, I'm like I'm like

454
00:28:49,480 --> 00:28:53,000
Speaker 1: if I was a penis, how would I want to fail?

455
00:28:53,000 --> 00:28:55,200
Speaker 1: So my first thing was like cover your teeth because

456
00:28:55,200 --> 00:28:57,360
Speaker 1: you don't want to scrape the teeth. And then everything

457
00:28:57,400 --> 00:29:00,360
Speaker 1: else I feel like, just flow like she came out

458
00:29:00,400 --> 00:29:05,680
Speaker 1: sucking on an umbilical coursebody like how somebody squirms, how

459
00:29:05,720 --> 00:29:07,960
Speaker 1: they moan like I feel like you just have to

460
00:29:08,120 --> 00:29:11,160
Speaker 1: listen to their body or you do. I feel like

461
00:29:11,320 --> 00:29:15,440
Speaker 1: guys different guys like to get their dicks up differently too, Yeah,

462
00:29:15,960 --> 00:29:19,640
Speaker 1: yeah we do, we do. You don't like use two hands,

463
00:29:19,920 --> 00:29:22,640
Speaker 1: Some guys want you to just use on one hand.

464
00:29:22,960 --> 00:29:25,520
Speaker 1: Someone they don't know what they want and tell them

465
00:29:25,560 --> 00:29:29,520
Speaker 1: they get it, you get what I'm saying, Like is

466
00:29:29,560 --> 00:29:34,600
Speaker 1: the thing I feel like maybe because a man is

467
00:29:34,640 --> 00:29:38,360
Speaker 1: more like he's his whole, his body parts private out

468
00:29:39,000 --> 00:29:58,960
Speaker 1: that big private jet, the African thing, but a woman

469
00:29:59,120 --> 00:30:02,040
Speaker 1: is inside I'm saying, she's you can't see everything, So

470
00:30:02,080 --> 00:30:06,360
Speaker 1: I'm wondering, like, because men are studying other men in porn,

471
00:30:07,040 --> 00:30:09,760
Speaker 1: maybe they can't really see where their tongue is. They can't.

472
00:30:09,760 --> 00:30:13,840
Speaker 1: They don't other than the kitten licking the bowl, like, yeah,

473
00:30:14,000 --> 00:30:20,240
Speaker 1: I can see that, but when you watch the woman

474
00:30:20,320 --> 00:30:23,560
Speaker 1: and point, you can see it. Like everything she's doing,

475
00:30:23,640 --> 00:30:25,920
Speaker 1: it's all out there and all and I wonder it's

476
00:30:25,920 --> 00:30:28,640
Speaker 1: a little bit more difficult for us to learn because

477
00:30:28,640 --> 00:30:31,080
Speaker 1: we're like, you can't unless you had like this like

478
00:30:31,480 --> 00:30:35,320
Speaker 1: camera right up there watching every movement of the time.

479
00:30:35,600 --> 00:30:37,960
Speaker 1: But some of them are bad listeners. And if we

480
00:30:38,080 --> 00:30:41,320
Speaker 1: say like it's about listening to the body, I feel

481
00:30:41,360 --> 00:30:43,680
Speaker 1: like they're just so busy worrying about what they want

482
00:30:43,680 --> 00:30:46,000
Speaker 1: to do or like what they think is right, that

483
00:30:46,040 --> 00:30:48,680
Speaker 1: they don't, you know, communicate with your body, because at

484
00:30:48,720 --> 00:30:51,640
Speaker 1: times like that squirm is more like but they think

485
00:30:52,920 --> 00:30:55,160
Speaker 1: you can tell the difference if you pay attention. I

486
00:30:55,160 --> 00:30:56,959
Speaker 1: don't like the way to eat pussy and porn. They

487
00:30:57,040 --> 00:30:59,440
Speaker 1: never know what the fun they're doing imporn. It doesn't

488
00:30:59,480 --> 00:31:03,640
Speaker 1: look like they're always like, uh, that's how you pussy.

489
00:31:04,240 --> 00:31:08,600
Speaker 1: The women's pussy better important than men do. Yeah, it's done.

490
00:31:09,680 --> 00:31:12,080
Speaker 1: It's a good way to learn from a woman that

491
00:31:12,720 --> 00:31:15,400
Speaker 1: the last episode of Insecure, East was upset about the

492
00:31:15,400 --> 00:31:18,400
Speaker 1: fact that she really like trained her dude Lawrence to

493
00:31:18,480 --> 00:31:20,960
Speaker 1: be in this new relationship that he's in now he's

494
00:31:21,000 --> 00:31:23,480
Speaker 1: like a better guy. Was there a woman that trained you,

495
00:31:23,600 --> 00:31:25,440
Speaker 1: you think to be the man that you are today

496
00:31:26,040 --> 00:31:30,040
Speaker 1: and you get credit to Definitely, Definitely I was in

497
00:31:30,080 --> 00:31:34,520
Speaker 1: a long term relationship with a woman who she really

498
00:31:34,520 --> 00:31:39,120
Speaker 1: shaped me, Like she took me from my like teenage

499
00:31:39,160 --> 00:31:44,320
Speaker 1: self into young adulthood. She she taught me cultural things

500
00:31:44,400 --> 00:31:47,560
Speaker 1: like this simple ship, like I didn't know about wine.

501
00:31:48,320 --> 00:31:52,640
Speaker 1: I didn't know, um like what I should do on

502
00:31:52,680 --> 00:31:54,920
Speaker 1: the day. I was very shy. I come from being

503
00:31:54,920 --> 00:31:57,680
Speaker 1: like a very shy kid. And she would take me

504
00:31:57,720 --> 00:32:00,120
Speaker 1: to advanced concerts which I've never been to. It I

505
00:32:00,240 --> 00:32:02,800
Speaker 1: was broke. She was paying for the ship. We would

506
00:32:02,880 --> 00:32:04,960
Speaker 1: go and she'd be like, yo, you need to put

507
00:32:05,000 --> 00:32:07,800
Speaker 1: yourself forward. That's the manager right there. That's the green

508
00:32:07,880 --> 00:32:11,360
Speaker 1: room where there. Let's talk to the security. Get yourself

509
00:32:11,400 --> 00:32:13,720
Speaker 1: in there. That's so and so, Like you need to

510
00:32:13,760 --> 00:32:17,480
Speaker 1: meet you know if it's like some o g rapper, like,

511
00:32:17,520 --> 00:32:21,360
Speaker 1: oh that's black thought right there, go talk to him

512
00:32:20,720 --> 00:32:29,320
Speaker 1: and let her right. She was like, you bet we

513
00:32:29,400 --> 00:32:31,840
Speaker 1: still we still know, we're still great friends. Like that's

514
00:32:31,880 --> 00:32:35,320
Speaker 1: my best friend. So yeah, yeah, I have. I have

515
00:32:35,360 --> 00:32:38,280
Speaker 1: good relationship with with every woman that I've been with.

516
00:32:38,360 --> 00:32:42,720
Speaker 1: To be honest, why didn't it work? I mean I

517
00:32:42,760 --> 00:32:48,200
Speaker 1: think you you grow and you find out, um that

518
00:32:48,360 --> 00:32:51,800
Speaker 1: maybe I look at everything like the chemistry experiment, like

519
00:32:51,920 --> 00:32:54,320
Speaker 1: some some some people you just know the top you're

520
00:32:54,320 --> 00:32:56,960
Speaker 1: gonna be like this other times, like you put two

521
00:32:57,080 --> 00:32:59,560
Speaker 1: substances together, they made chill for a second, but then

522
00:32:59,600 --> 00:33:02,520
Speaker 1: they boy all over over time. That's how that that's

523
00:33:02,560 --> 00:33:04,800
Speaker 1: how we were, like we we were too similar in

524
00:33:04,840 --> 00:33:07,920
Speaker 1: certain ways that we were cool. But you leave us

525
00:33:07,920 --> 00:33:10,600
Speaker 1: in the pot too long, we're gonna keep button heads.

526
00:33:10,640 --> 00:33:13,440
Speaker 1: But like that's that's that's the the O G best

527
00:33:13,440 --> 00:33:18,920
Speaker 1: friend and like your girls, Yeah she does, she does,

528
00:33:18,960 --> 00:33:20,920
Speaker 1: and she'll tell me, like, what's great it is like

529
00:33:20,960 --> 00:33:24,640
Speaker 1: I consult her, she consults me. I consult her. So

530
00:33:24,800 --> 00:33:28,240
Speaker 1: she's meeting a new guy SHO should or women. I'll

531
00:33:28,280 --> 00:33:32,000
Speaker 1: be like, yeah, I know, you know, be careful because

532
00:33:32,320 --> 00:33:34,400
Speaker 1: you have a habit of doing this. And then she'll

533
00:33:34,400 --> 00:33:38,560
Speaker 1: tell me like, yo, don't confuse um your business practices

534
00:33:38,560 --> 00:33:40,960
Speaker 1: with your relationship practices. I know how you like to

535
00:33:41,000 --> 00:33:44,240
Speaker 1: do that. So she she finds she's like a therapist

536
00:33:44,320 --> 00:33:47,640
Speaker 1: for me in certain ways, which prevents me from being

537
00:33:47,840 --> 00:33:52,160
Speaker 1: like this insecure I need therapy guy and placing that

538
00:33:52,240 --> 00:33:56,520
Speaker 1: on a new level. So like and insecure. Have you

539
00:33:56,600 --> 00:34:01,360
Speaker 1: ever um gone back to an X for like comfort,

540
00:34:01,440 --> 00:34:03,720
Speaker 1: because it seems like he got out of or he's

541
00:34:03,760 --> 00:34:06,400
Speaker 1: having a little bit of trouble in his situation and

542
00:34:06,480 --> 00:34:08,680
Speaker 1: he's it looks like he's running back to his act.

543
00:34:08,920 --> 00:34:10,880
Speaker 1: So have you ever ran back to an act and

544
00:34:10,920 --> 00:34:15,040
Speaker 1: actually end up going back to them? Oh? Yeah, that's

545
00:34:15,040 --> 00:34:19,640
Speaker 1: where I'm most savage, Like my, yeah, that's my My

546
00:34:19,760 --> 00:34:23,120
Speaker 1: funk ups in life are usually not in the relationship,

547
00:34:23,400 --> 00:34:28,640
Speaker 1: that in that gray area after the relationship. I'm I'm

548
00:34:28,680 --> 00:34:31,439
Speaker 1: such I'm a determined person. So when she don't work,

549
00:34:32,360 --> 00:34:35,600
Speaker 1: I don't get why it doesn't work. So I'll go

550
00:34:35,760 --> 00:34:37,960
Speaker 1: back and then you know, you get lonely and so

551
00:34:38,000 --> 00:34:41,239
Speaker 1: you I'll go back and I'll try to and this

552
00:34:41,280 --> 00:34:44,399
Speaker 1: is where the manipulation comes in. That's the negative part

553
00:34:44,440 --> 00:34:48,440
Speaker 1: of it. And I'll reel them in, make them trust

554
00:34:48,520 --> 00:34:50,520
Speaker 1: like this could work, and I actually do believe it

555
00:34:50,560 --> 00:34:53,640
Speaker 1: in the moment, but there's a but there's a reason

556
00:34:53,640 --> 00:34:56,239
Speaker 1: why I didn't work in the first place. It never

557
00:34:56,320 --> 00:34:59,480
Speaker 1: works out. And that's where it gets ugly because I'm

558
00:34:59,600 --> 00:35:05,839
Speaker 1: dating people while I'm trying to reel and you know, yeah,

559
00:35:06,160 --> 00:35:08,240
Speaker 1: but I don't do this no more like I'm done.

560
00:35:08,320 --> 00:35:11,000
Speaker 1: Like I got I realized I'm really good with black

561
00:35:11,000 --> 00:35:13,280
Speaker 1: and white ship the agreement has got to be clear.

562
00:35:13,800 --> 00:35:16,759
Speaker 1: If it's not clear and as great, it's gonna be. Lady,

563
00:35:16,760 --> 00:35:18,880
Speaker 1: say you feel about a guy you're dating betting friends

564
00:35:18,880 --> 00:35:22,400
Speaker 1: with his ex and like, no, no, it's not happening.

565
00:35:22,680 --> 00:35:24,600
Speaker 1: I can have sex with any of my exes right

566
00:35:24,600 --> 00:35:27,040
Speaker 1: now if I wanted to. Hell, you know, don't talk

567
00:35:27,080 --> 00:35:32,239
Speaker 1: to your ex girlfriend please for me, I feel like

568
00:35:32,280 --> 00:35:36,560
Speaker 1: this one. Once you've been my ex, we're not friends anymore.

569
00:35:36,640 --> 00:35:39,319
Speaker 1: That's it. So why would I let my man be

570
00:35:39,400 --> 00:35:42,640
Speaker 1: friends with his ex? It doesn't make any sense because

571
00:35:42,640 --> 00:35:45,720
Speaker 1: you're secure. You're secure if you If y'all was really

572
00:35:45,760 --> 00:35:48,839
Speaker 1: secure about about your partners, you wouldn't be worried about

573
00:35:49,520 --> 00:35:51,560
Speaker 1: I know, but it's not. I don't mean I trust

574
00:35:51,640 --> 00:35:54,120
Speaker 1: my man. I just don't trust the dirty slust that

575
00:35:54,200 --> 00:35:58,000
Speaker 1: he was with before me. You know what I'm saying now,

576
00:35:59,400 --> 00:36:02,399
Speaker 1: I get with saying. I get what she's saying. But

577
00:36:02,640 --> 00:36:05,439
Speaker 1: you feel I definitely feel you, But I just think

578
00:36:05,480 --> 00:36:08,560
Speaker 1: just the fact of um, just anything like for what

579
00:36:08,800 --> 00:36:11,960
Speaker 1: all y'all obviously broke up for a reason. It didn't work,

580
00:36:12,120 --> 00:36:14,080
Speaker 1: So what are you doing? Like if y'all want to

581
00:36:14,080 --> 00:36:17,600
Speaker 1: be yeah, being corgeous if you have a kid together,

582
00:36:17,640 --> 00:36:20,680
Speaker 1: that's something else. But like being cordial is fine. But

583
00:36:20,760 --> 00:36:22,840
Speaker 1: as far as like I feel like being like really

584
00:36:22,880 --> 00:36:24,960
Speaker 1: tight friends, that's just weird to me. And I just

585
00:36:25,000 --> 00:36:28,359
Speaker 1: feel like maybe even a certain level of respect maybe

586
00:36:28,360 --> 00:36:31,000
Speaker 1: if I meet her or something like that. I don't know,

587
00:36:31,080 --> 00:36:32,600
Speaker 1: but it's just like what are you What are y'all doing?

588
00:36:32,800 --> 00:36:38,480
Speaker 1: What if she's like married or something already, why it's

589
00:36:38,520 --> 00:36:41,319
Speaker 1: weird to me that for me I had And I'm

590
00:36:41,360 --> 00:36:43,839
Speaker 1: not just talking about like women I dated. I'm talking

591
00:36:43,880 --> 00:36:46,839
Speaker 1: about women I really had a serious relationship with. If

592
00:36:46,880 --> 00:36:49,719
Speaker 1: I invest in time with them, am I gonna just

593
00:36:49,719 --> 00:36:53,960
Speaker 1: throw them to the side, Like because you did that

594
00:36:54,000 --> 00:36:58,279
Speaker 1: with the relationship, that kind of relationship. I didn't want

595
00:36:58,280 --> 00:37:00,880
Speaker 1: to throw them away as friends. To me, it also

596
00:37:00,960 --> 00:37:04,480
Speaker 1: shows like what he how that how that person is

597
00:37:04,960 --> 00:37:08,000
Speaker 1: who could be towards you? Like you know what I'm saying.

598
00:37:08,920 --> 00:37:11,319
Speaker 1: You know with me, here's what you get, Here's what

599
00:37:11,360 --> 00:37:15,000
Speaker 1: you get with me. You know you know that I'm

600
00:37:15,040 --> 00:37:17,640
Speaker 1: still gonna be good to their families. I still take

601
00:37:17,680 --> 00:37:20,879
Speaker 1: care of them. I still like I'm not going over

602
00:37:20,960 --> 00:37:23,600
Speaker 1: and holding them in my lap and doing the same things,

603
00:37:23,640 --> 00:37:26,200
Speaker 1: but at least I'm in touch I'll still face time

604
00:37:26,280 --> 00:37:29,440
Speaker 1: them and I know I know their their community, their

605
00:37:29,520 --> 00:37:32,040
Speaker 1: friend circle. I'm not gonna just throw them by the

606
00:37:32,080 --> 00:37:35,279
Speaker 1: wayside because that that that relationship meant something to me.

607
00:37:35,560 --> 00:37:38,320
Speaker 1: So if I'm with the woman now and she sees that, yeah,

608
00:37:38,480 --> 00:37:40,920
Speaker 1: it maybe like damn, I hope he never goes back.

609
00:37:41,000 --> 00:37:44,240
Speaker 1: But if she's secured with me, if I'm secured with myself,

610
00:37:44,560 --> 00:37:47,439
Speaker 1: then then I think that it's all positive. It's it's

611
00:37:47,480 --> 00:37:50,680
Speaker 1: nothing and she can. I know women that I've I've

612
00:37:50,800 --> 00:37:53,960
Speaker 1: dated who will then ask one of my ex is

613
00:37:54,000 --> 00:37:57,960
Speaker 1: about me? And and that's kind of what you know

614
00:37:58,040 --> 00:38:01,920
Speaker 1: you see in insecure right now? Yeah, yeah, that's you

615
00:38:02,040 --> 00:38:07,480
Speaker 1: know you don't want to hear that story. I'm actually

616
00:38:07,560 --> 00:38:10,400
Speaker 1: right now. I want women to know everything about me

617
00:38:10,520 --> 00:38:13,839
Speaker 1: early on because eventually I want to form some sort

618
00:38:13,840 --> 00:38:16,799
Speaker 1: of union or marriage. And honestly, the quicker we can,

619
00:38:17,360 --> 00:38:21,280
Speaker 1: we can get through all the trauma and all the yeah,

620
00:38:21,320 --> 00:38:23,880
Speaker 1: all the bullshit like just know me, Like no, you

621
00:38:23,960 --> 00:38:27,000
Speaker 1: can ask you anything. I feel like friends, you know,

622
00:38:27,040 --> 00:38:30,280
Speaker 1: access should be enemies, because then there's something wrong, there's

623
00:38:30,320 --> 00:38:33,920
Speaker 1: something there's something bad there. But you know, to be

624
00:38:34,040 --> 00:38:37,160
Speaker 1: speaking all the time. I mean, if you see challa, Hey,

625
00:38:37,200 --> 00:38:39,879
Speaker 1: what's up are you doing? No problem with that, but

626
00:38:40,239 --> 00:38:43,640
Speaker 1: to have an ongoing relationship after you broke up, you

627
00:38:43,719 --> 00:38:45,800
Speaker 1: might as well have stayed together. Well, what are you

628
00:38:45,840 --> 00:38:50,200
Speaker 1: worried about? I don't think it's even a wor thing. Girl,

629
00:38:50,320 --> 00:38:53,920
Speaker 1: It's so for me. I don't feel like it's necessarily

630
00:38:53,920 --> 00:38:56,160
Speaker 1: a worried thing. But I just know, like I said,

631
00:38:56,400 --> 00:38:59,000
Speaker 1: I know how my excess felt about me, or like

632
00:38:59,280 --> 00:39:01,960
Speaker 1: I've had my like a ex the other day hit

633
00:39:02,000 --> 00:39:04,120
Speaker 1: me talking about something I love you, and it's like

634
00:39:04,160 --> 00:39:06,840
Speaker 1: I had to block him because it's like, bro, Like

635
00:39:06,920 --> 00:39:08,880
Speaker 1: what if I moved on and had a whole another

636
00:39:08,960 --> 00:39:12,320
Speaker 1: relationship and now my man just seen that on the phone.

637
00:39:12,360 --> 00:39:15,640
Speaker 1: You get what I'm trying to me? Yeah, that's me.

638
00:39:16,480 --> 00:39:18,000
Speaker 1: You know what else I think to Like, I have

639
00:39:18,120 --> 00:39:21,880
Speaker 1: a wreakingto I'm cool, but I respected they're in a relationship,

640
00:39:21,960 --> 00:39:24,600
Speaker 1: and I never want the woman to feel uncomfortable. So

641
00:39:24,680 --> 00:39:27,200
Speaker 1: I would like set some boundaries where I know, like, Okay,

642
00:39:27,239 --> 00:39:29,719
Speaker 1: he's in a relationship. I don't want anybody to think anything.

643
00:39:30,000 --> 00:39:32,080
Speaker 1: I don't want his girl to be upset. So I'll

644
00:39:32,160 --> 00:39:34,480
Speaker 1: check in, you know, if there's like an event, I

645
00:39:34,560 --> 00:39:37,120
Speaker 1: might invite you to my birthday. Pritay all good and

646
00:39:37,200 --> 00:39:39,359
Speaker 1: it's like her, But I'm also not gonna be like

647
00:39:39,520 --> 00:39:44,600
Speaker 1: calling you at midnight. But that makes sense. But you

648
00:39:44,640 --> 00:39:47,799
Speaker 1: can't control people actions. So whether they're friends with their

649
00:39:47,800 --> 00:39:50,160
Speaker 1: ex or whatever, if they're gonna sunk, they're gonna suck

650
00:39:50,200 --> 00:39:53,560
Speaker 1: somebody regardless. So it's not like I'm gonna dive myself

651
00:39:53,600 --> 00:39:57,000
Speaker 1: in front of a friendship. But I just know about temptations,

652
00:39:57,239 --> 00:39:58,799
Speaker 1: and I know how it is when you know how

653
00:39:58,840 --> 00:40:01,440
Speaker 1: someone is in the bed or when you're getting lonely

654
00:40:01,680 --> 00:40:03,759
Speaker 1: and they're there for you and being close. It's just

655
00:40:03,800 --> 00:40:06,000
Speaker 1: a temptation factor and it's just kind of like if

656
00:40:06,040 --> 00:40:08,839
Speaker 1: it didn't work, let it go, feel like it doesn't count.

657
00:40:08,880 --> 00:40:10,719
Speaker 1: If you suck your exit like it didn't count. That's

658
00:40:10,880 --> 00:40:13,600
Speaker 1: I do that, and it's not still to the day.

659
00:40:13,719 --> 00:40:17,799
Speaker 1: But no, but yet, you know, for ther y'all know,

660
00:40:17,920 --> 00:40:20,480
Speaker 1: for the longest, I've always felt like that. But now

661
00:40:20,640 --> 00:40:23,839
Speaker 1: like I learned my lesson because of a situation that

662
00:40:23,880 --> 00:40:26,319
Speaker 1: I had where I took back an act. But like

663
00:40:26,400 --> 00:40:27,719
Speaker 1: I used to be like that. I used to be

664
00:40:27,760 --> 00:40:29,680
Speaker 1: like you should have a sex. I used to give

665
00:40:29,719 --> 00:40:31,600
Speaker 1: that advice out like you should have sex with your acts.

666
00:40:31,600 --> 00:40:34,600
Speaker 1: At least you're not adding a body or something like that, right,

667
00:40:34,680 --> 00:40:37,600
Speaker 1: you know whatever. But that's not that's not a good

668
00:40:37,600 --> 00:40:40,120
Speaker 1: way to think because you're still giving your energy to

669
00:40:40,239 --> 00:40:45,560
Speaker 1: somebody that doesn't deserve it. So let me let me

670
00:40:45,600 --> 00:40:48,960
Speaker 1: ask you all this. So, so let me ask you

671
00:40:48,960 --> 00:40:53,000
Speaker 1: all this about the function way of of human beings. Right,

672
00:40:54,200 --> 00:40:58,200
Speaker 1: do you think that people are hard wired for monogamy?

673
00:41:00,520 --> 00:41:03,840
Speaker 1: I think I think when people get to a certain

674
00:41:03,880 --> 00:41:05,880
Speaker 1: age in it and it's like a lot of effort

675
00:41:06,000 --> 00:41:08,840
Speaker 1: to try to do too much. I think people do.

676
00:41:09,280 --> 00:41:11,799
Speaker 1: I know for myself, Like when I was younger, I'll

677
00:41:11,920 --> 00:41:14,719
Speaker 1: date several people, have a good time, But as you

678
00:41:14,760 --> 00:41:16,719
Speaker 1: get older and busier and you want to settle down.

679
00:41:16,719 --> 00:41:19,160
Speaker 1: I think it's just like the knowing that you have

680
00:41:19,280 --> 00:41:21,520
Speaker 1: this one person that you have to deal with, it

681
00:41:21,600 --> 00:41:25,160
Speaker 1: just feels better to me. I feel you you get like,

682
00:41:25,480 --> 00:41:28,399
Speaker 1: getting busy is a huge factor. Sorry, you you're about

683
00:41:28,440 --> 00:41:31,279
Speaker 1: to say something no, no, no, go go no. I

684
00:41:31,320 --> 00:41:37,839
Speaker 1: mean like, but even with that, you're you're you're trying

685
00:41:37,880 --> 00:41:42,000
Speaker 1: to say that every like this person is enough to

686
00:41:42,040 --> 00:41:45,240
Speaker 1: satisfy all your needs. Yeah, I feel that way also

687
00:41:45,320 --> 00:41:49,800
Speaker 1: because I just said like, I'm more about being probably comfortable.

688
00:41:49,880 --> 00:41:52,560
Speaker 1: If I decided to be with you now, then that

689
00:41:52,640 --> 00:41:54,719
Speaker 1: means that that's something real. When I was younger, I

690
00:41:54,719 --> 00:41:57,200
Speaker 1: didn't take certain things into consideration. I just was having

691
00:41:57,239 --> 00:41:59,600
Speaker 1: a good time and like we could date for two

692
00:41:59,640 --> 00:42:02,440
Speaker 1: weeks and yeah my boyfriend. Now it's like, okay, we

693
00:42:02,520 --> 00:42:04,400
Speaker 1: have to date for a year before I feel like

694
00:42:05,160 --> 00:42:07,640
Speaker 1: that next. Yep, that's how I am for me. Once

695
00:42:07,719 --> 00:42:09,520
Speaker 1: you have sex with me, you're my boyfriend. That's it.

696
00:42:11,080 --> 00:42:16,360
Speaker 1: Like sex not your mind. Now you come on. I

697
00:42:16,400 --> 00:42:18,759
Speaker 1: feel like I feel like I feel like God has

698
00:42:18,800 --> 00:42:21,840
Speaker 1: a very funny sense of people, Marie. He made women

699
00:42:23,000 --> 00:42:26,200
Speaker 1: more intuing monogamy and manner like what what I want

700
00:42:26,200 --> 00:42:29,080
Speaker 1: to be with everybody? I don't feel like all men

701
00:42:29,120 --> 00:42:33,600
Speaker 1: are like that. Mendo like that more monogamist and we

702
00:42:33,680 --> 00:42:36,560
Speaker 1: are women not to not to death. But I'm saying

703
00:42:36,600 --> 00:42:44,279
Speaker 1: some of the I'm actually I'm great at monogamy. Okay, yes,

704
00:42:45,480 --> 00:42:50,840
Speaker 1: the longest eight years Okay that it was like some

705
00:42:50,960 --> 00:42:54,200
Speaker 1: marriage ship and I never cheated in eight years. Wow,

706
00:42:54,320 --> 00:42:57,800
Speaker 1: that's amazing. So you could be with one person married

707
00:42:57,800 --> 00:42:59,319
Speaker 1: and no one else and that could be your hall.

708
00:43:01,600 --> 00:43:05,360
Speaker 1: Uh you know, I don't know. I don't know. I

709
00:43:05,560 --> 00:43:08,319
Speaker 1: don't know anymore I do. I do know this, like

710
00:43:08,480 --> 00:43:12,080
Speaker 1: when i'm if I commit in monogamy not cheating, like

711
00:43:12,160 --> 00:43:14,560
Speaker 1: I've never cheated my life, I don't and I don't

712
00:43:14,600 --> 00:43:17,440
Speaker 1: think I would. But but when I think about marriage

713
00:43:17,480 --> 00:43:20,759
Speaker 1: long term and so that do us part, that's that

714
00:43:20,960 --> 00:43:24,400
Speaker 1: just sounds right for failure, Like it just it doesn't

715
00:43:24,880 --> 00:43:27,520
Speaker 1: you grow, You evolved the same person that you marry,

716
00:43:27,640 --> 00:43:29,879
Speaker 1: the same person that you met when you dated, when

717
00:43:29,880 --> 00:43:31,600
Speaker 1: you fell in love. It is not the person that

718
00:43:31,600 --> 00:43:35,400
Speaker 1: you're gonna be with over the years. Like people change

719
00:43:35,880 --> 00:43:38,960
Speaker 1: months a month, people change year to year for sure,

720
00:43:40,280 --> 00:43:43,920
Speaker 1: and ask people evolved, you can't expect them to be

721
00:43:44,040 --> 00:43:46,880
Speaker 1: locked into some agreement. So to me, I want to

722
00:43:46,920 --> 00:43:49,600
Speaker 1: be with a woman who can evolve over time, and

723
00:43:49,640 --> 00:43:52,840
Speaker 1: it's okay with a little bit of uncertainty down the

724
00:43:52,840 --> 00:43:57,640
Speaker 1: line initially foundation develop it. I actually I don't have

725
00:43:57,760 --> 00:44:00,960
Speaker 1: time to be running around with a million women. I

726
00:44:00,960 --> 00:44:04,319
Speaker 1: don't want to anymore. And honestly, I never really was

727
00:44:04,440 --> 00:44:07,680
Speaker 1: that guy anyway. I would love to lock something down.

728
00:44:08,040 --> 00:44:11,239
Speaker 1: I just know that over time, like the agreement has

729
00:44:11,280 --> 00:44:14,400
Speaker 1: to change. I believe in agreements, so say and I

730
00:44:14,400 --> 00:44:16,600
Speaker 1: actually don't care about certain things. I don't care if

731
00:44:16,640 --> 00:44:20,319
Speaker 1: a woman I'm with is gonna occasionally make make out

732
00:44:20,320 --> 00:44:26,879
Speaker 1: with somebody. I really don't care. Oh my god. I mean,

733
00:44:27,640 --> 00:44:31,160
Speaker 1: look if she you know, if she has that, I

734
00:44:31,280 --> 00:44:39,319
Speaker 1: try to stay away. But to me, I'm not mad

735
00:44:39,320 --> 00:44:44,160
Speaker 1: at that. I'm not mad at if she if she's

736
00:44:44,160 --> 00:44:47,480
Speaker 1: an amazing woman and I'm feeling it like whatever, I

737
00:44:47,520 --> 00:44:50,600
Speaker 1: really I'm open to certain things like it just does.

738
00:44:50,719 --> 00:44:53,440
Speaker 1: It doesn't matter every every time. I don't need you

739
00:44:53,640 --> 00:44:57,640
Speaker 1: to be a standard orthodox person. That's the thing. As

740
00:44:57,680 --> 00:44:59,960
Speaker 1: long as we can come up with a deal. Even

741
00:45:00,320 --> 00:45:02,480
Speaker 1: I'm cool, I can see me down the line being

742
00:45:02,520 --> 00:45:05,480
Speaker 1: with a woman with even if it's my wife, and

743
00:45:05,520 --> 00:45:08,560
Speaker 1: striking an agreement where she can be with other men

744
00:45:08,880 --> 00:45:11,600
Speaker 1: as well. Like I don't. I'm not tripping off that

745
00:45:11,640 --> 00:45:14,120
Speaker 1: that she doesn't kill me. What I care about is

746
00:45:14,160 --> 00:45:17,960
Speaker 1: that we hold each other down. We we support each other,

747
00:45:18,040 --> 00:45:20,000
Speaker 1: We're there when we need. We know that none of

748
00:45:20,040 --> 00:45:23,680
Speaker 1: these other relationships are as strong as ours, y'all. I

749
00:45:23,680 --> 00:45:26,800
Speaker 1: don't know if y'all watch House of Cars when it

750
00:45:26,960 --> 00:45:30,160
Speaker 1: was popping um, and you know their relationship was weird,

751
00:45:30,200 --> 00:45:34,759
Speaker 1: the Underwood family. But no other relationship that they had

752
00:45:34,960 --> 00:45:39,080
Speaker 1: because they were like polyamorous, Um, no other relationship could

753
00:45:39,120 --> 00:45:42,839
Speaker 1: penetrate there for most of the shame. And that's that's

754
00:45:42,880 --> 00:45:44,719
Speaker 1: kind of how I look at it. No matter what

755
00:45:44,760 --> 00:45:47,239
Speaker 1: the foundation is the foundation. But I do feel like

756
00:45:47,280 --> 00:45:50,760
Speaker 1: sometimes there's always signs of weakness where you feel like, um,

757
00:45:50,800 --> 00:45:53,880
Speaker 1: maybe the other relationships starts to make you feel better

758
00:45:53,920 --> 00:45:57,360
Speaker 1: than that one. And I think that's where a woman

759
00:45:58,400 --> 00:46:00,400
Speaker 1: it's always gonna feel away about, because that's kind of

760
00:46:00,400 --> 00:46:03,200
Speaker 1: like when a woman brings another woman into the bed

761
00:46:03,280 --> 00:46:05,840
Speaker 1: for a threesome and it's like, okay, I want to

762
00:46:05,840 --> 00:46:07,600
Speaker 1: three something, you want to three some cool, Now we

763
00:46:07,680 --> 00:46:10,439
Speaker 1: do the threesome, and then what happens. Then man goes

764
00:46:10,480 --> 00:46:13,440
Speaker 1: out and impregnates the girl on the side, and you

765
00:46:13,440 --> 00:46:15,839
Speaker 1: know something like that, all the women falls in love

766
00:46:15,840 --> 00:46:18,759
Speaker 1: with too. Yeah, but nine times out of turn, it's

767
00:46:18,800 --> 00:46:21,399
Speaker 1: always the man that messes up, goes behind the back

768
00:46:21,840 --> 00:46:24,640
Speaker 1: and ends up getting the side check, or the threesome

769
00:46:24,680 --> 00:46:27,520
Speaker 1: girl pregnant or it's sucking her behind the back. So

770
00:46:27,719 --> 00:46:29,520
Speaker 1: that's what the problem is. I don't think it's ever

771
00:46:29,640 --> 00:46:32,279
Speaker 1: that women will look at it like we won't ever

772
00:46:32,400 --> 00:46:35,160
Speaker 1: accept something like that. I think it's like when it

773
00:46:35,200 --> 00:46:36,880
Speaker 1: comes to things like that and you're like, all right,

774
00:46:36,920 --> 00:46:40,160
Speaker 1: well say you kiss somebody cool, I don't know about it.

775
00:46:40,239 --> 00:46:42,560
Speaker 1: Next thing you know she's your wife too, then that's

776
00:46:42,600 --> 00:46:44,399
Speaker 1: a problem, you know what I mean. And I don't

777
00:46:44,440 --> 00:46:46,799
Speaker 1: know if that's the conversation here having with them, like

778
00:46:46,840 --> 00:46:49,600
Speaker 1: they're just gonna be somebody that I fun here and there,

779
00:46:49,880 --> 00:46:52,239
Speaker 1: or is it like I'm getting another girlfriend, I'm getting

780
00:46:52,280 --> 00:46:54,640
Speaker 1: another wife. You know what I mean? You gotta I

781
00:46:54,640 --> 00:46:58,200
Speaker 1: think you got up front as well as possible. That's

782
00:46:58,239 --> 00:47:02,040
Speaker 1: the main thing. One thing I found out is if

783
00:47:02,080 --> 00:47:07,480
Speaker 1: you can be upfront, women are much more not like

784
00:47:07,560 --> 00:47:10,640
Speaker 1: to not like they're gonna agree with everything, but they're

785
00:47:10,680 --> 00:47:13,520
Speaker 1: much more open than You never know what a woman

786
00:47:13,600 --> 00:47:16,680
Speaker 1: will are. She might be like I'm down that I'd

787
00:47:16,760 --> 00:47:21,359
Speaker 1: rather know, or or she'll be like, look, I'm glad

788
00:47:21,400 --> 00:47:23,279
Speaker 1: you told me that, but I don't ever want to know.

789
00:47:23,719 --> 00:47:27,799
Speaker 1: And make sure there's a week in between anybody and

790
00:47:27,880 --> 00:47:32,840
Speaker 1: only on the road and don't fall up. That's very specific.

791
00:47:41,320 --> 00:47:43,320
Speaker 1: Now I would be like, you can't eat her pussy,

792
00:47:43,640 --> 00:47:45,359
Speaker 1: that would be a rule, and you have to wear

793
00:47:45,360 --> 00:47:47,879
Speaker 1: a condom. Like to me, those are more and more

794
00:47:47,960 --> 00:47:53,840
Speaker 1: a rule than anything. Yeah, I feel you feel relationships. Man. No,

795
00:47:54,120 --> 00:47:56,680
Speaker 1: I'm not saying I'm okay with that, but I'm saying

796
00:47:56,719 --> 00:47:59,839
Speaker 1: if those were more so something that somebody laid out

797
00:48:00,080 --> 00:48:02,440
Speaker 1: other than I'm just going behind your back and cheating

798
00:48:02,480 --> 00:48:06,439
Speaker 1: on you, at least they're giving you. Yeah, I agree

799
00:48:06,480 --> 00:48:08,960
Speaker 1: with and you can't buy have a no kiss and

800
00:48:09,400 --> 00:48:14,319
Speaker 1: you can't buy. But I think also getting tested. You

801
00:48:14,320 --> 00:48:17,080
Speaker 1: have to get tested within like a certain range too,

802
00:48:17,200 --> 00:48:20,279
Speaker 1: because I mean, I've obviously worked out in agreements and

803
00:48:20,280 --> 00:48:22,919
Speaker 1: I made sure the worst the worst thing to do

804
00:48:23,160 --> 00:48:25,680
Speaker 1: is the worst feeling to have is feeling like you

805
00:48:25,719 --> 00:48:29,200
Speaker 1: put a woman's body and health at right and she

806
00:48:29,320 --> 00:48:32,600
Speaker 1: didn't know it. That's the first thing we say to Yeah, yeah,

807
00:48:32,640 --> 00:48:36,920
Speaker 1: I've always made sure to get tested and and that's

808
00:48:36,920 --> 00:48:44,320
Speaker 1: how you know what I mean, I've remained disease free. Um. Yeah,

809
00:48:44,320 --> 00:48:46,960
Speaker 1: it is now last question before because I know you

810
00:48:47,040 --> 00:48:48,920
Speaker 1: know we're almost at an hour. This is only supposed

811
00:48:48,920 --> 00:48:51,120
Speaker 1: to be half an hour. But what would rules be

812
00:48:51,440 --> 00:48:53,479
Speaker 1: if a woman could see other men? Like, what would

813
00:48:53,480 --> 00:48:55,120
Speaker 1: you tell her the rules out for her to be

814
00:48:55,160 --> 00:49:00,440
Speaker 1: able to do that. Here's a little trick this is

815
00:49:01,160 --> 00:49:05,239
Speaker 1: I've noticed that the more open, and I am the

816
00:49:05,320 --> 00:49:10,319
Speaker 1: less the woman wants to go out and be with

817
00:49:10,400 --> 00:49:13,880
Speaker 1: a million people. If I'm like, yo, I here's what

818
00:49:13,920 --> 00:49:16,839
Speaker 1: I care about. UM, I only care about that you're

819
00:49:17,080 --> 00:49:21,239
Speaker 1: you're safe, you get tested. UM, if you start to

820
00:49:21,280 --> 00:49:24,680
Speaker 1: have developed feelings, just tell me early, like I'd rather

821
00:49:24,760 --> 00:49:27,600
Speaker 1: have that early. I just want to know up front. Um,

822
00:49:27,640 --> 00:49:34,200
Speaker 1: I actually like to know. I like to know the guy. Wow. Yeah,

823
00:49:35,080 --> 00:49:37,520
Speaker 1: and that might that might be some control ship, to

824
00:49:37,600 --> 00:49:40,399
Speaker 1: be honest, like, that might be some territory ship. What

825
00:49:42,000 --> 00:49:56,840
Speaker 1: did he see you? I didn't know? Yeah, sounds like that.

826
00:49:56,920 --> 00:50:03,319
Speaker 1: Sounds like a reverse psychology. That's how you back. I

827
00:50:03,440 --> 00:50:09,279
Speaker 1: preface it's a little, but my rules are simple, like

828
00:50:09,360 --> 00:50:14,000
Speaker 1: I just don't I would like I feel confident in

829
00:50:13,880 --> 00:50:16,920
Speaker 1: and me and me and her. I know that what

830
00:50:17,719 --> 00:50:21,080
Speaker 1: how I am, I'm unique enough for her and she's

831
00:50:21,160 --> 00:50:23,400
Speaker 1: unique enough for me. So I'm not really threatened by

832
00:50:23,400 --> 00:50:26,200
Speaker 1: by anybody. UM. I just needed I just needed to

833
00:50:26,239 --> 00:50:30,239
Speaker 1: be safe and I needed to not be UM like

834
00:50:30,440 --> 00:50:32,560
Speaker 1: I wanted to know. I want to know what it is.

835
00:50:32,600 --> 00:50:37,040
Speaker 1: So if it's developing into something more than just casual

836
00:50:37,160 --> 00:50:39,680
Speaker 1: sex or something just like, protect my heart, don't just

837
00:50:39,719 --> 00:50:43,440
Speaker 1: protect my body. Protect my heart on movie dates and

838
00:50:43,520 --> 00:51:00,880
Speaker 1: watching Insecure together. Yeah, TikTok Yea said, I think honestly

839
00:51:00,960 --> 00:51:03,799
Speaker 1: on the front end is everything. But here's the thing

840
00:51:03,800 --> 00:51:07,080
Speaker 1: about honestly on the front end, it takes something Like

841
00:51:07,160 --> 00:51:10,160
Speaker 1: I said earlier, it takes kind of process. I realized, like,

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Speaker 1: and if you date like an introvert, it's even worse

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Speaker 1: because they won't even tell you for for months and months.

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Speaker 1: And so I I used to do this thing in

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Speaker 1: relationships that I got from this book called the Spirit

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Speaker 1: of Intimacy where every month we would have this ritual together,

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Speaker 1: like we put candles in the circle would be bass

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Speaker 1: naked um back to back, and we would lay out, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: you gotta do that. So once you give your sacrament

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Speaker 1: and ancestors, you talk about your relationship and you talk

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Speaker 1: about things that you made. Uh, it's a safe space

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Speaker 1: basically for y'all to to express this. So that way,

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Speaker 1: every month, no matter what, y'all have a space where

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Speaker 1: y'all communicate. And that when I did that, my relationships

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Speaker 1: were so strong. And when I failed to do that,

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Speaker 1: that's when things got weak because that resentment starts growing

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Speaker 1: because y'all, y'all say some things that happened halfway through

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Speaker 1: the month, So I think putting, yeah, putting those practices

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Speaker 1: in a huge relationships, especially if you're dating the introver.

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Speaker 1: All right, well, we appreciate that. That sounds really good.

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Speaker 1: You didn't naked invent your candles. In a second, he's

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Speaker 1: gonna be like, Jamnie, I just wanted to talk about

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Speaker 1: that should be your next listening session, like just everybody

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Speaker 1: sit in the room but naked, like listen to the

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Speaker 1: album the last night. Well, Stanner, we appreciate you so

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Speaker 1: much and I always appreciate your honesty and fund conversations.

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Speaker 1: So we'll be following and making sure we tune in

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Speaker 1: to your page right now to here everything you're talking about.

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Speaker 1: And you have your book club. I was telling you

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Speaker 1: I have a book club too, so you know I

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Speaker 1: love that. So we'll do a complation. Yeah, we might

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Speaker 1: do that. I might bring you on os is called

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Speaker 1: the Lit Review Black Men's book Club hosted Body Intoxicated

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Speaker 1: Uncle's Um. So I would love I would love to

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Speaker 1: have you on for sure. So thank you for bringing

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Speaker 1: me on the lip service. Thank you all for keeping

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Speaker 1: it a hundred and lying. I mean, uh, but I

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Speaker 1: wish you'll will with your partners and your lovers. You know,

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Speaker 1: I don't know which y'all got quarantine bays, but I

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Speaker 1: wish you will. Yes, Thank you,