WEBVTT - Say Her Name (Breonna Taylor recap)

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<v Speaker 1>Hey y'all, Hey, what's up? And welcome to Let's Red

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<v Speaker 1>Table that I'm Tracy t Brow and I'm Cara Pressley,

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<v Speaker 1>and man, this episode, I just I'm excited to be

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<v Speaker 1>bad with our L T. T family. But it's Brianna

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<v Speaker 1>Taylor and how can you say her name without reaction,

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<v Speaker 1>without emotion? Wow, it's a lot. First of all, it's

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<v Speaker 1>hard as it was until we watched this episode, and

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<v Speaker 1>to see all that we saw, I'm so grateful that

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<v Speaker 1>they brought it to the table as they definitely need

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<v Speaker 1>their voice. Heard all of them, every single family member.

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<v Speaker 1>It was nice to see she was a girlfriend, she

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<v Speaker 1>was a sister, she was a daughter. Because I think

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<v Speaker 1>we hear the name and kind of disassociate. Some people

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<v Speaker 1>may think it's just a one off situation, but it

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<v Speaker 1>happens truly more than we know. And Cara in saying

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<v Speaker 1>that at the end of the episode, I truly didn't

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<v Speaker 1>know some of the names that been Crump said, I

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<v Speaker 1>was so who is that? Right? Right now? Let me

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<v Speaker 1>do my additional research, right And I was so angry.

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<v Speaker 1>Now you know what, angry is not hard enough. Angry

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<v Speaker 1>does not convey the frustration enough. I was living I

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<v Speaker 1>was lava hot because I just thought, really, while I'm

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<v Speaker 1>at home asleep that part. But I was happy to

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<v Speaker 1>hear from boyfriends. There were some pieces of just the

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<v Speaker 1>story and how it transpired I heard as well for

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<v Speaker 1>the first time. For the first time, right, we knew,

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<v Speaker 1>but we didn't know, and what it took to get

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<v Speaker 1>those charges dismissed for him, the fact that he missed

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<v Speaker 1>her funeral, That it was so many other pieces I

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<v Speaker 1>was upset about, Okay, because to know that the disrespect

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<v Speaker 1>for her life and the absolute disrespect shown to her mother, right,

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<v Speaker 1>and that he wasn't told what happened. He had to

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<v Speaker 1>see it on the news on TV. Okay, that while

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<v Speaker 1>you're being processed, jail is already its own stressful situation.

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<v Speaker 1>Now see, I'm gonna tell you something, car, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know nothing about jail. I don't know much about it.

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<v Speaker 1>I haven't been there, but I do know it's it's

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<v Speaker 1>not the happiest of places. Okay. Okay, you were saying that, like,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, Okay, now do we need to talk about that,

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<v Speaker 1>because you're like jealous. Already not happened, Like I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know about jail. I know based on what. I understand

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<v Speaker 1>that people are not happy about going to jail, So

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<v Speaker 1>you're right that part. I was not trying to imply

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<v Speaker 1>to you were a jailbird. That's not what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 1>I was just like you speaking the first person. So

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<v Speaker 1>I want to honor that right. I know, I completely understand,

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<v Speaker 1>but I just couldn't. I can't fathom, really, that's really

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<v Speaker 1>what I want to say, like just to be grieving

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<v Speaker 1>and then he's like freshly grieving, state of shock that

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<v Speaker 1>part right, and being processed, and even after you understand

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<v Speaker 1>what's going on, I can't go to any services. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>the whole thing had to be absolutely surreal for him,

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<v Speaker 1>poor Kenneth. And then to that, no matter how much

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<v Speaker 1>healing you go through and in the journey of that

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<v Speaker 1>and how much progress in healing he makes, there's still

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<v Speaker 1>the fight. There's still the civil fight, there's still all

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<v Speaker 1>of these things that are just lingering on that make

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<v Speaker 1>it so difficult. And that was just grieving me. I

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<v Speaker 1>felt the burden of that, the weight of that for him,

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<v Speaker 1>on top of having your last moments alone. I think

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<v Speaker 1>about Brianna often and just even when the mom heard

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<v Speaker 1>the officers tell her like she's still upstairs. There's so

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<v Speaker 1>many pieces, there's layers to this one. It's just a lot.

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<v Speaker 1>I can say this, and I've said this and almost

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<v Speaker 1>every episode because we've had such a full weighted season

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<v Speaker 1>with Red Table Talk, because we've had so many important

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<v Speaker 1>topics that have been brought to the table absolutely necessary conversations.

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<v Speaker 1>And this one, I think is even more powerful to

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<v Speaker 1>me because I heard it at the table right because

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<v Speaker 1>there were black women and black mothers and black daughters

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<v Speaker 1>and sisters and cousins that we know are at the

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<v Speaker 1>table in Jada and Gammy and Willow. That made it

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<v Speaker 1>important for them to be in the safe space of

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<v Speaker 1>the table to tell this story and then to share

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<v Speaker 1>all these details that were not readily available to the public,

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<v Speaker 1>all of the blatant disregard and disrespect and just lack

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<v Speaker 1>of concern. And as much as we love to talk

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<v Speaker 1>and have fun, it is important that our platform also

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<v Speaker 1>gives some important awareness to the injustices that are happening

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<v Speaker 1>in this country, and this Briana Taylor's story is one

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<v Speaker 1>one of them. And the fact that they are still

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<v Speaker 1>fighting to date for her, still fighting makes me sick

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<v Speaker 1>to my summit. To tell you the truth fighting and

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<v Speaker 1>that the corruption in the office is finally coming out,

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<v Speaker 1>because that's the impressed sit in the part in a

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<v Speaker 1>sad way that many times it just continues to stay

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<v Speaker 1>covered up. This is the part that makes me want

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<v Speaker 1>to literally, Okay, the governor, you see both of us.

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<v Speaker 1>All we could do is say, the governor, really, these

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<v Speaker 1>are officials. No, you know what, Okay, you know what.

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<v Speaker 1>I know that you do your level best card to

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<v Speaker 1>try to see the glass had fool and look on

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<v Speaker 1>the sunny side. And the little blue bird, the little

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<v Speaker 1>blue bird sings on your shoulder. I get it. I

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<v Speaker 1>get it. However, Comma, the governor Kentucky is a black man.

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<v Speaker 1>He is a black man, and the fact that the

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<v Speaker 1>corruption went all the way up to him and that

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<v Speaker 1>he covered it vile. And then he has the unmitigated

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<v Speaker 1>goal to run for office again. Sorry, if you don't

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<v Speaker 1>go take it's the audacity for me. I mean, don't

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<v Speaker 1>have speechless, seriously, speech again. These are elected officials that

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<v Speaker 1>we're supposed to be able to trust. And how it

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<v Speaker 1>works long ago and far away, long ago and far

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<v Speaker 1>away in the Luther band drops for us. Okay, come

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<v Speaker 1>on now in the far away lands. We used to

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<v Speaker 1>believe that when you had people that were the same skin,

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<v Speaker 1>that they were kin, that they looked out for you.

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<v Speaker 1>There was a whole neighborhood, the village, the whole mentality

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<v Speaker 1>that people that were alike supported each other supposed to be.

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<v Speaker 1>But the great Michael Jackson made a song about It's

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<v Speaker 1>called they don't care about Us, and that's on so

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<v Speaker 1>many levels. It's the first time I learned that it is.

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<v Speaker 1>Unfortunately it is accurate. We're not gonna talk about the

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<v Speaker 1>current people who got the initial c oh not giving

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<v Speaker 1>that person any credit or no no time. But I

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<v Speaker 1>will talk about the other person's name that starts with

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<v Speaker 1>the sea, and that's Supreme Court Justice Aarence Thomas. That

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<v Speaker 1>was the first lesson for me. That was the first

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<v Speaker 1>lesson for me, car when I realized what he was

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<v Speaker 1>really about, I was like, this fan has just broken

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<v Speaker 1>my heart right and was like confused about it. Clarence Thomas,

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<v Speaker 1>I was younger and working in corporate. Those are two

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<v Speaker 1>instances that have me just realized everyone is not on

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<v Speaker 1>the same wave length as you. Everyone does not think

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<v Speaker 1>the same way, and you cannot convince them to change.

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<v Speaker 1>We gotta have some change though we've got to do

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<v Speaker 1>at some point. There has to be some change. So

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<v Speaker 1>when you think about you hear stories like Brianna Taylor,

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<v Speaker 1>what is your mental and emotional journey as you process

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<v Speaker 1>what happened Carl? The first thing I think is that

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<v Speaker 1>could have been me, especially when it's women and we

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<v Speaker 1>don't see it many times. But between this and Sandra Bland,

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<v Speaker 1>in the initial moment, I think, man, that could have

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<v Speaker 1>been me. But then I think about my son like

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<v Speaker 1>it just starts to run a certain strand of anxiety

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<v Speaker 1>through my mind anytime the situation happens. But processing I

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<v Speaker 1>try to put down the phone and not scroll as

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<v Speaker 1>much during those times, or weights a little while so

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<v Speaker 1>that some more details can come out, because you don't

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<v Speaker 1>want to be overexposed and desensitized at the same time.

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<v Speaker 1>And the overexposed really though, that's the main part, because

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want to be oversaddened by it's it's something

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<v Speaker 1>to hit you in your core. But what about your tracy?

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<v Speaker 1>How do you process? They make me so angry. I

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<v Speaker 1>have an activist spirit, like there's an activist animal, like

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<v Speaker 1>the intercore of me. I want things to be well

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<v Speaker 1>because it's just wrong. Wrong is wrong, no matter how

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<v Speaker 1>you slice it. And so I know that the only

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<v Speaker 1>way that we can correct wrongs in our country is

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<v Speaker 1>through legislation and by being active. This whole term, this

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<v Speaker 1>whole season, our whole country, all of it. To your point,

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<v Speaker 1>we've had so much information, we have numbed out and

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<v Speaker 1>the Yana Van's Aunt's way of saying, neck down dead,

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<v Speaker 1>you know that people have really truly been decessitized because

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<v Speaker 1>we have access to so much information. And because of that,

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<v Speaker 1>I think that you either scroll past it or you're

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<v Speaker 1>so hyper sensitive to it that there's no kind of

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<v Speaker 1>meeting in the middle of it. So what I've tried

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<v Speaker 1>to do is honor how I feel when I see

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<v Speaker 1>things that happened like Brianna Taylor's story, and it's unfortunate

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<v Speaker 1>that this was not an exception, right, this wasn't an

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<v Speaker 1>asterisk and ad hoc. You know what I'm saying that

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<v Speaker 1>this has happened so many times. It's that I have

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<v Speaker 1>to just allow myself to feel how I feel. And

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<v Speaker 1>this is truly going to like the feeling wheel of

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<v Speaker 1>it and saying, Okay, now how do I really feel?

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<v Speaker 1>Because you can I'm mad, Well, no, how do I

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<v Speaker 1>really feel about it? Because this could have been my

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<v Speaker 1>little sister, this could have been my daughter, and the

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<v Speaker 1>hurt and are the hurt, And then I have to

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<v Speaker 1>change the hurt to action and make sure that I

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<v Speaker 1>am being part of the solution and not just talking

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<v Speaker 1>about oh yeah, that's perfect, that that's that's really important.

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<v Speaker 1>As we continue to get upset out here and just

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<v Speaker 1>again continue to not be able to fathom howard feeling

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<v Speaker 1>that it's happening, like the unbelief of it all, we

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<v Speaker 1>have to make sure we're self assessed and go out

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<v Speaker 1>here with the right perspective. And for me, the key

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<v Speaker 1>is to ensure that I keep myself current on what's happening,

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<v Speaker 1>or as current as I possibly can, and then to

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<v Speaker 1>make sure that when I'm in settings where I'm with

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<v Speaker 1>peers or more over and more importantly with younger family

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<v Speaker 1>members car that I am stressing the importance to them

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<v Speaker 1>that it is okay for you to have a voice,

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<v Speaker 1>but you need to know how to use the voice

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<v Speaker 1>and when it is appropriate. And then too, there's so

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<v Speaker 1>many stories we hear in the media now about gun

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<v Speaker 1>violence and deaths and murders, and it's it's hard it's

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<v Speaker 1>hard to hear all these stories of black deaths. As

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<v Speaker 1>you said, we're all trying to take things in our

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<v Speaker 1>own hands. You got your own freedom fighters out here.

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<v Speaker 1>But I have to continue to protect ourselves mentally, spiritually,

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<v Speaker 1>emotionally from all these things. How do you protect yourself

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<v Speaker 1>from additional trauma when news stories of black deaths appear

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<v Speaker 1>in your news feed when you're scrolling, how do you

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<v Speaker 1>prioritize your own piece well, also being outspoken? Yeah, you

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<v Speaker 1>do know that outspoken part? Then I guess, oh, we

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<v Speaker 1>see it. Actually, y'all follow Trady t bro It's it's hard,

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<v Speaker 1>it really is, and there's a sadness. And so peace

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<v Speaker 1>in the midst of chaos has to be intentional, right,

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<v Speaker 1>it has to be intentional. And so part of what

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<v Speaker 1>I try to do as a daily practice, in addition

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<v Speaker 1>to my affirmations for myself, is to focus in. And

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<v Speaker 1>I listened to a five to eight frequency that's a

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<v Speaker 1>healing frequency. And it's a healing frequency. I think I've

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<v Speaker 1>I think I've seen it referred to as a love frequency. Okay, well,

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<v Speaker 1>healing and love, you know, I can see how, Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>I do I try, And so speaking of that, I

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<v Speaker 1>try to make sure that I don't know what the

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<v Speaker 1>people are that are called and shout out to y'all

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<v Speaker 1>that are in the crystals and stuff. I love that,

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<v Speaker 1>but I don't practice it, but I appreciate it. I

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<v Speaker 1>guess that's the way to say it. And so in

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<v Speaker 1>terms of chakra, because of the way I am, my

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<v Speaker 1>heart chakra is always needing some care. I go to

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<v Speaker 1>sleep at night. To answer your question, long, long, long

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<v Speaker 1>story short, I listened to that by to eight frequency

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<v Speaker 1>at night before I go sleep. Good. I love a

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<v Speaker 1>good sleep meditation. Y'all listening to me trying to eight listen.

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<v Speaker 1>I prefer a nice guided meditation sometimes because my mind

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<v Speaker 1>will tell my mom started looking like the social train

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<v Speaker 1>scramble board. I just just thoughts everywhere was so train.

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<v Speaker 1>So yes, I have to kind of pull my scrambled thoughts.

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<v Speaker 1>And then that's the other part. We find a way

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<v Speaker 1>to laugh, We find a way to release and to

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<v Speaker 1>have some some spark. There's a golden thread inside everywheb

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<v Speaker 1>and so find an opportunity to make a connection and

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<v Speaker 1>to somehow get some joy out of your day. Every day.

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<v Speaker 1>That's every day amazing. That's what that is. This red

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<v Speaker 1>Table Talk episode was important and impactful, but it was

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<v Speaker 1>also heartbreaking and possibly triggering for people. So with our episode,

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<v Speaker 1>we wanted to give our community a gift, which means

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<v Speaker 1>we're doing things a little differently today. We don't have

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<v Speaker 1>a guest, but we do have some stories from our community,

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<v Speaker 1>some resources for you, and performances by black spoken word

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<v Speaker 1>artists who are taking tragedy and turning it into art.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, I love that because while we started out,

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<v Speaker 1>it's like back to the future. Right, this is great.

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<v Speaker 1>It's been a while since it's just been the two

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<v Speaker 1>of us, and I love, love, love having guests on right.

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<v Speaker 1>I am looking forward to us having this episode in

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<v Speaker 1>this format too, So absolutely, let's get into it. We've

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<v Speaker 1>received some emails specifically in response to Red Table Talks

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<v Speaker 1>Brianna Taylor episode, and we're going to share these stories

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<v Speaker 1>with you. Emily wrote that Brianna's story resonates with her

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<v Speaker 1>because she has endured a four year long battle in

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<v Speaker 1>court waiting for her father's murderer to be held accountable.

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<v Speaker 1>She says, our voices weren't heard so many let downs

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<v Speaker 1>from the state who represented my dead father to the

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<v Speaker 1>very end. They played with our emotions that is hurtful

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<v Speaker 1>as well when you hear different stories. I just it

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<v Speaker 1>to speak directly to Emily to thank you for sharing

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<v Speaker 1>with us, thank you for being with us, and then

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<v Speaker 1>we recognize that our voices are not heard right and

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<v Speaker 1>I want to sincerely share my sympathy with you and

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<v Speaker 1>with your family for the loss and the tragic loss

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<v Speaker 1>of your father. It's just horrible. It's horrible. And then

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<v Speaker 1>have someone literally put you in a position where you

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<v Speaker 1>have to watch, you have to bear witness to them

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<v Speaker 1>not honoring what they know to be true, and then

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<v Speaker 1>not give you in your family justice. It's horrible. It

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<v Speaker 1>just gets heavy. Story after story after story. We're just

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<v Speaker 1>gonna keep pressing forward. But thank you Emily for sharing.

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<v Speaker 1>We do hear you, we do thank you, and we

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<v Speaker 1>had another share and I'm so grateful to Emily and

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<v Speaker 1>to Katisha. Katisha brought to our attention a recent tragedy.

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<v Speaker 1>On October six, Jahim McMillan, a fifteen year old black teenager,

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<v Speaker 1>was shot by police and Gulfport, Mississippi, and the parking

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<v Speaker 1>lot of a family dollar store. McMillan's mother said that

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<v Speaker 1>when she arrived at the store after her son was shot.

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<v Speaker 1>Officers handcuffed her and walked her across the street. In

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<v Speaker 1>her email, Katitia says, we have been protesting. Stuff like

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<v Speaker 1>this happens in Mississippi often and nothing gets done about it.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm so fed up. I'm speechless. First of all, I

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<v Speaker 1>am I'm absolutely speechless. There's so much I want to

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<v Speaker 1>talk about. But I want to say this that you

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<v Speaker 1>can read more about Jaheem and our episode description or

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<v Speaker 1>online in The Guardian, ABC News or other news channels.

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<v Speaker 1>And I encourage you to do that because you think

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<v Speaker 1>about this now. Car Your son's twenty, my son's forty,

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<v Speaker 1>Your son has gone to family dollar gets shot. You

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<v Speaker 1>show up, I show up on a scene, and then

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<v Speaker 1>we're handcuffed and walked across the street. Why are you

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<v Speaker 1>handcuffing me? It's the assuming that I'm wrong for me?

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<v Speaker 1>Why am I handcuffed? I'm a human, I'm a mother

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<v Speaker 1>whose son was shot. And I am grateful that people

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<v Speaker 1>are protesting. I am grateful to hear that. And I

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<v Speaker 1>wish you, Emily and your family justice and Jaheim McMillan's

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<v Speaker 1>family absolute justice. Thank you so much, Emily and Katitia

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<v Speaker 1>for writing into us. Yes, thank you both, and you

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<v Speaker 1>can send us an email at Let's Red Table that

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<v Speaker 1>at red table talk dot com, or sound off on

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<v Speaker 1>our speak Pipe page at speak pipe dot com slash

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<v Speaker 1>Let's Red Table that we are always here to listen

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<v Speaker 1>to what you have to say, the virtual Red Table.

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<v Speaker 1>That's what it's all about. It's time for our first

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<v Speaker 1>spoken word piece. This is poet, author and speaker ri

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<v Speaker 1>l a story in Her Peace, Remember Her? Hi everyone,

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<v Speaker 1>my name is Ariel Astoria. I'm a multi passionate artist, poet,

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<v Speaker 1>author and actor. For me, turning tragedy into art means

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<v Speaker 1>that I am feeling and feeling deeply. I often think

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<v Speaker 1>that art is birthed out of tragedy oftentimes, and it's

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<v Speaker 1>in those moments when we feel and feel deeply, when

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<v Speaker 1>we experience grief and pain that we cannot help but

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<v Speaker 1>exude something beautiful. That's our This first piece I will

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<v Speaker 1>be sharing with you is titled Remember Her. I wrote

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<v Speaker 1>this poem in honor of Brianna Taylor. Say Name, Say

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<v Speaker 1>you say sayame? Be be? Oh, say name? Where is

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<v Speaker 1>her protest? Where is the rage burning for the female body?

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<v Speaker 1>Not televised, not recorded? Her death? Not a silent act

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<v Speaker 1>A violent exchange, a bullet to skin eight times, her screams,

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<v Speaker 1>her cry still echoing in the walls of an apartment

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<v Speaker 1>months home now a battle ground. She was a brief moment,

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<v Speaker 1>a hashtag, her life, a brief moment, the fury diminished

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<v Speaker 1>to fuse her murderer's homesteading comfortably, her body home, sitting

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<v Speaker 1>unrest underground. Do not forget about the black woman. Do

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<v Speaker 1>not forget about the chest that kept you in, the

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<v Speaker 1>hands that held you. They say seven is the number

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<v Speaker 1>of completion. So the irony of you not experiencing your

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<v Speaker 1>twenty seventh birthday sits as acidic as the blood seeped

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<v Speaker 1>into your apartment carpets. We are one year apart. Seven

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<v Speaker 1>was the year I found myself. Was a year I

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<v Speaker 1>found how to re speak the name God on my tongue,

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<v Speaker 1>The year I found love, the year I lived life

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<v Speaker 1>to the fullest. Your life cut short, unplugged, wiped from

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<v Speaker 1>the story. I pray you lived your best year. I

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<v Speaker 1>pray you found yourself before you lost her. I pray

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<v Speaker 1>that as the bullets hit you, that God held you

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<v Speaker 1>all in the same breath while you breathe your last breath.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sorry your life could not have been seen, this

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<v Speaker 1>fullness could not have reached completion. Your body may be buried, love,

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<v Speaker 1>but your name will not be. Okay, first, I gotta

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<v Speaker 1>get myself together, because you know I'm over here wiping

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<v Speaker 1>away tears. You know I'm grateful for tears, because hey,

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<v Speaker 1>it lets me know that I can mourn. I can.

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<v Speaker 1>I can mourn her, and I can say aloud, Brianna Taylor,

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<v Speaker 1>I miss you and you mattered, your life mattered, And

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<v Speaker 1>it is just hard. It's hard to be in a

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<v Speaker 1>position where you hear such profound words. And that spoken

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<v Speaker 1>word was beautiful. It spoke to what happened, the tray

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<v Speaker 1>chick horrific death and her short life, short short, twenty

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<v Speaker 1>six years is no time. And I literally it hit me.

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<v Speaker 1>I could have been her mother and anti god mother,

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<v Speaker 1>co worker. I have a niece named Brianna, Oh, and

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<v Speaker 1>she is in that same age group. It just hit

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<v Speaker 1>me and it hurts. But I am so grateful too

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<v Speaker 1>to hear it and the habit delivered in such a

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<v Speaker 1>beautiful and eloquent way that this spoken word was delivered,

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<v Speaker 1>so that the tragic, the trag I mean, I just

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<v Speaker 1>keep saying that word literally but it is necessary to

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<v Speaker 1>be able to articulate it in more than one way. Absolutely,

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<v Speaker 1>And so I'm grateful for this artist that she was

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<v Speaker 1>able to to give us that, because if any other

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<v Speaker 1>one person hears it, who doesn't understand the plight of

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<v Speaker 1>Brianna Taylor's family or mother and doesn't have the opportunity

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<v Speaker 1>to say, Okay, what happened, it was an accident, or

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<v Speaker 1>try to somehow minimize the experience when you hear that,

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<v Speaker 1>there's no way to deny it. Yeah, it's I want

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<v Speaker 1>to say, these situations are harder than a random shooting

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<v Speaker 1>or because this is the cause and from officials that

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<v Speaker 1>we trust, and the further we get into our future,

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<v Speaker 1>the more we need to continually say that the good

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<v Speaker 1>guys do not always just wear the uniform. They're not

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<v Speaker 1>just always coming to save the day. And and I

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<v Speaker 1>think that's the harder place for people who are the

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<v Speaker 1>upstanding citizen and trying to look at the bright side

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<v Speaker 1>of things, like myself, because the true side is that

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<v Speaker 1>the bright side can be the dark side to how

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<v Speaker 1>do I tell my grandson and granddaughter you really can't

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<v Speaker 1>trust every police officer that part when they're supposed to

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<v Speaker 1>protect and serve. How do you say that? But we

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<v Speaker 1>do have to acknowledge it because it's the truth. What

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<v Speaker 1>do you how do you give them that? How do

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<v Speaker 1>they even process that? How do you reconcile that with? Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I know I'm supposed to call the police if something happens,

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<v Speaker 1>but I can't trust the police. Will the police see me?

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<v Speaker 1>That's why the movie When They See Us was so important.

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<v Speaker 1>Those were truly babies. Brianna was still a baby. Mm hmm. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>This that was That was a beautiful piece, absolutely beautiful. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I've got to get myself together, so we're gonna take

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<v Speaker 1>a quick break, but when we get back, we'll be

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<v Speaker 1>sharing seven ways you can make a difference in the

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<v Speaker 1>world today. And I'm gonna blow my note okay for you.

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<v Speaker 1>Here are seven ways you can make an impact. This

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<v Speaker 1>is so important. I'm excited about these because we are

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<v Speaker 1>all trying to make an impact where we can number one, vote, vote,

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<v Speaker 1>vote and vote and vote and vote in every election. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>stop just waiting on the big ones. Vote for all

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<v Speaker 1>the people, all the offices, national Okay votes, y'all. This

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<v Speaker 1>is one of the most important ways for our voices

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<v Speaker 1>to be heard the twenties two United States and mid

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<v Speaker 1>term elections are on November eight, not the seventh, not

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<v Speaker 1>the ninth. Eight. Register to vote and find early voting

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<v Speaker 1>locations in your state at vote dot org. Another great

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<v Speaker 1>way to support the movement is to volunteer to register voters.

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<v Speaker 1>That part, and I'm gonna tell you what, you also

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<v Speaker 1>need to go to vote dot org and check your

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<v Speaker 1>registration status. Why we're talking about that because I am emphatic,

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<v Speaker 1>as you almost know. If you have not followed me,

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<v Speaker 1>then you haven't seen it. But if you do, you

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<v Speaker 1>know that I talked about how important it is to

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<v Speaker 1>be registered, informed, and engaged. But what I can tell

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<v Speaker 1>you is that there are literally examples when I was

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<v Speaker 1>registering voters where current voters have been purged out of

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<v Speaker 1>the system and long term non voters were still active.

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<v Speaker 1>So go to vote dot org and make sure you

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<v Speaker 1>check your status before it's time for you to go

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<v Speaker 1>and vote, because it will be too late if you don't.

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<v Speaker 1>Number two, donate, donate, donate, Donate to causes that need funding,

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<v Speaker 1>and especially look for grassroots organizations that may need more

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<v Speaker 1>help than national organizations. Oh that's a good one. I

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<v Speaker 1>love to donate locally right people you actually see in

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<v Speaker 1>your community. Super important. Number three, support families directly. You

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<v Speaker 1>can usually find crowdsource campaigns online when a tragedy occurs,

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<v Speaker 1>so just triple check that the campaign is legit and

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<v Speaker 1>that the money will go straight to the effective family.

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<v Speaker 1>So she researched. That's good. Number four. Show up to

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<v Speaker 1>a protest. Yes. Protests are so incredibly important to the

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<v Speaker 1>visibility and success of civil rights campaigns. Carr, have you

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<v Speaker 1>ever participating in the protest? Yes? Actually led a protest? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I did when Trayvon Martin had his tragedy, unfortunately a

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<v Speaker 1>few years ago. And I say a few because it

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<v Speaker 1>literally feels like it's still just happens. But the ironic parties.

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<v Speaker 1>He was born on my birthday and died on my

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<v Speaker 1>son's birthday. Um, just the dates, and we just were like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>we have to do something about this. So I got

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<v Speaker 1>my son and my nephew, we made posters and we

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<v Speaker 1>filled out all the city paperwork and we went out

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<v Speaker 1>there and we had about a thousand people coming. We

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<v Speaker 1>were on the front page of the paper, the Richmond

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<v Speaker 1>Times Dispatch. So shout out to my city for supporting

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<v Speaker 1>me and I'm happy I was able to do that.

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<v Speaker 1>It was super important at the time because my son

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<v Speaker 1>likes skills. I like skills. I just it was It's

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<v Speaker 1>bigger than the candy and the small nuances of the case,

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<v Speaker 1>but it was. It just touched home. That's fantastic. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know what I asked them. I think I know

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<v Speaker 1>the answer. What do you think I was gonna say?

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<v Speaker 1>Tony Brackton sang a song about it. You want to

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<v Speaker 1>hear it? Here you go? How many ways? Right? Number five?

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<v Speaker 1>Educate yourself, read a book, listen to a podcast, whichever

0:28:29.840 --> 0:28:32.359
<v Speaker 1>way you learn best. Just make sure you know the

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<v Speaker 1>correct history and do the work to combat your own prejudices. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>that's super important, especially in the day of the scroll.

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<v Speaker 1>We will scroll past just the heading and think we

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<v Speaker 1>got the whole articles. So thank you got the whole shebanging.

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<v Speaker 1>And we're also super creative. We can create stories just

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<v Speaker 1>from your headlines. It's like, okay, no, that's not what

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<v Speaker 1>that was. So make sure you read research and learn. Yes.

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<v Speaker 1>support Black Owned to find black owned businesses in your

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<v Speaker 1>area at support Black Owned dot Com. I love that. So, Cora,

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<v Speaker 1>what are you some of your favorite black owned businesses?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh Man, that's a few locally. I love them. Clothing business,

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<v Speaker 1>it feels good to say men wearing black owned clothes.

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<v Speaker 1>So shout out to Redborn Kings, shout out to Pretty

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<v Speaker 1>Monster Zoo. That's one of my girlfriends who has her

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<v Speaker 1>own T shirt line, Very Bold t Shirts and Mama

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<v Speaker 1>Joe's collection. I love them. They're all local in the

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<v Speaker 1>DMV and Richmond areas. What about you? There's so many

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<v Speaker 1>fantastic black owned businesses, and I have to be intentional

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<v Speaker 1>and and shout out three black owned businesses that are

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<v Speaker 1>local to Memphis and that are women lead. One is

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<v Speaker 1>Virtual Busions Brand at ww up your dot bb brand

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<v Speaker 1>dot com. They do brand management for projects and virtual assistance.

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<v Speaker 1>I absolutely adore Pops Colonel Gourmet Popcorn. I actually gave

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<v Speaker 1>some of that popcorn to Jada last year when we

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<v Speaker 1>came to Calabasas at Pops Colonels dot com. And then

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<v Speaker 1>No Definition Streetwear is phenomenal. She started this business and

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<v Speaker 1>has just taken off with no definition dot com. It's

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<v Speaker 1>street where it's jeans, it's sweats, it's t shirts, it's earrings,

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<v Speaker 1>and she makes all of them herself. Phenomenal black owned businesses.

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<v Speaker 1>Check them out. Love that love that. We all like

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<v Speaker 1>to look at the snacks. So I need to come

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<v Speaker 1>back to Memphis. This is what I'm hearing right that

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<v Speaker 1>eats eats number seven last, but definitely not least. Sign petitions.

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<v Speaker 1>So whenever you see one, take two minutes out of

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<v Speaker 1>your day to read about it and sign it if

0:30:52.360 --> 0:30:54.440
<v Speaker 1>you definitely agree with it. We have a list of

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<v Speaker 1>impactful petitions you can sign today, organizations you can donate to,

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<v Speaker 1>and transfer woman of books to read all In our

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<v Speaker 1>episode description, I'm super excited to introduce our next spoken

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<v Speaker 1>word artist because he is the first poet laureate from

0:31:15.840 --> 0:31:20.040
<v Speaker 1>my hometown of Richmond, Virginia, Roscoe Burnham's. He is here

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<v Speaker 1>with his peace metaphysics, one on one for white privilege.

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<v Speaker 1>I am Douglas Powell, artistically known as Roscoe Burnham's, and

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<v Speaker 1>I am the first poet laureate of Richardmond, Virginia. Using

0:31:37.120 --> 0:31:43.040
<v Speaker 1>trauma as a vehicle to create art is how we

0:31:43.120 --> 0:31:47.200
<v Speaker 1>connect to people. It's how we relate. Everyone knows pain,

0:31:48.160 --> 0:31:53.640
<v Speaker 1>and whether it's personal trauma or cultural trauma. Capturing these feelings,

0:31:54.080 --> 0:31:58.840
<v Speaker 1>these moments, these emotions into a poem or a song,

0:31:59.520 --> 0:32:04.160
<v Speaker 1>or onto a canvas or into fashion resonates with people

0:32:04.200 --> 0:32:07.880
<v Speaker 1>in a different way. And for people who haven't necessarily

0:32:07.920 --> 0:32:10.840
<v Speaker 1>experienced that type of trauma, it gives them a better

0:32:10.960 --> 0:32:14.440
<v Speaker 1>understanding of who you are and what you've experienced. And

0:32:14.480 --> 0:32:19.080
<v Speaker 1>for people who have experienced that type of trauma, it

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<v Speaker 1>makes them feel less alone. Everyone wants to be understood,

0:32:22.600 --> 0:32:25.880
<v Speaker 1>everyone wants to be heard, Everyone wants to be loved.

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<v Speaker 1>So this poem addresses privilege in America when it comes

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<v Speaker 1>to race. The poem is entitled Metaphysics one on one

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<v Speaker 1>Metaphysics one oh one for white privilege. So, like, if

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<v Speaker 1>a tree falls in the forest and the people in

0:32:46.640 --> 0:32:50.760
<v Speaker 1>the forest claim not to hear it didn't make a sound.

0:32:51.800 --> 0:32:55.600
<v Speaker 1>What if that tree was rosewood burning? What if that

0:32:55.680 --> 0:32:58.280
<v Speaker 1>tree were planted right in the middle of Tulsa, Oklahoma.

0:32:58.320 --> 0:33:01.160
<v Speaker 1>What if that tree were dark shade of brown? Would

0:33:01.160 --> 0:33:05.160
<v Speaker 1>it matter then? Or are you one of those all

0:33:05.360 --> 0:33:09.080
<v Speaker 1>trees matter kind of people? What if the tree didn't

0:33:09.080 --> 0:33:13.360
<v Speaker 1>just fall, What if the tree were chopped down. What

0:33:13.440 --> 0:33:17.920
<v Speaker 1>if the axe was targeting that tree? Now? What if

0:33:17.960 --> 0:33:21.040
<v Speaker 1>that tree made up about the forest, but for some

0:33:21.120 --> 0:33:24.600
<v Speaker 1>reason made up six of the caskets. What if that

0:33:24.680 --> 0:33:27.840
<v Speaker 1>tree had both of his branches stretched like the first

0:33:27.920 --> 0:33:30.800
<v Speaker 1>day of spring? What if that tree tried to comply

0:33:31.000 --> 0:33:34.720
<v Speaker 1>and still died? Is his death still a death? Is

0:33:34.720 --> 0:33:39.040
<v Speaker 1>it death? A death when no one recognizes the life.

0:33:40.080 --> 0:33:44.400
<v Speaker 1>Metaphysics is a broad philosophy full of questions, challenges what

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<v Speaker 1>we think is real? How things can be both seen

0:33:47.680 --> 0:33:51.120
<v Speaker 1>and unseen at once? Like sound, like breath, like god,

0:33:51.200 --> 0:33:55.360
<v Speaker 1>like death? Like people of color in America? Now the

0:33:55.440 --> 0:33:59.000
<v Speaker 1>nature of being? That is the perennial topic in metaphysics,

0:33:59.080 --> 0:34:03.120
<v Speaker 1>and when discussing race poses a question that only white

0:34:03.120 --> 0:34:05.920
<v Speaker 1>people get to ask themselves in this country, what does

0:34:06.000 --> 0:34:10.799
<v Speaker 1>it mean to be? And that's privilege. The ability to

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<v Speaker 1>question and then decide, the ability to create the standard

0:34:14.280 --> 0:34:16.920
<v Speaker 1>or the norm and live in it without even knowing it,

0:34:17.000 --> 0:34:20.080
<v Speaker 1>the ability to tell. Because people of color and America

0:34:20.080 --> 0:34:25.720
<v Speaker 1>are often told what to be be. Cargo, be commodity,

0:34:25.719 --> 0:34:29.080
<v Speaker 1>be cash, crop be free, but this water fountain free,

0:34:29.120 --> 0:34:33.640
<v Speaker 1>be this side of the border be underfunded, underprivileged, underrepresented,

0:34:33.760 --> 0:34:38.480
<v Speaker 1>but overwhelmed. Be affirmative action because they swear that you

0:34:38.600 --> 0:34:42.839
<v Speaker 1>got it by affirmative action, But honestly, affirmative action has

0:34:42.840 --> 0:34:45.480
<v Speaker 1>helped more white women than any other demographic. So really

0:34:45.520 --> 0:34:49.680
<v Speaker 1>it's um be just enough to make a campus look diverse.

0:34:50.360 --> 0:34:54.920
<v Speaker 1>Be hired, Be just enough to make an office look diverse,

0:34:54.960 --> 0:34:57.120
<v Speaker 1>and be voting when they need you, voting when it's

0:34:57.160 --> 0:34:59.960
<v Speaker 1>convenient and when they don't. Be gerrymandered out of a voice.

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<v Speaker 1>Be quiet, because if it doesn't make a sound, well

0:35:03.640 --> 0:35:06.840
<v Speaker 1>then it doesn't exist. This country is all white noise,

0:35:06.920 --> 0:35:09.840
<v Speaker 1>all static and erasure. And just because you didn't create

0:35:09.880 --> 0:35:12.719
<v Speaker 1>the interference doesn't mean you don't benefit from it. But

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<v Speaker 1>you can't make the struggle. In my skin of theory,

0:35:15.400 --> 0:35:18.400
<v Speaker 1>we are not a hypothesis. We are absolute. We are

0:35:18.440 --> 0:35:21.480
<v Speaker 1>an axiom. We are an undeniable truth. And the truth

0:35:21.719 --> 0:35:26.480
<v Speaker 1>is it isn't always rebel flags and maga hats that

0:35:26.719 --> 0:35:31.759
<v Speaker 1>is our plight. Sometimes it's the people standing idly by

0:35:31.960 --> 0:35:41.240
<v Speaker 1>pretending they don't hear us fall. Oh my goodness, Roscoe

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<v Speaker 1>does it again? That was amazing? Yes, it was, oh

0:35:45.320 --> 0:35:50.280
<v Speaker 1>okay powerful? What if we were a tree? I love

0:35:50.360 --> 0:35:55.280
<v Speaker 1>that because that's truly what we are. We are strength,

0:35:55.560 --> 0:36:02.080
<v Speaker 1>we are multi leveled, we are used, we are useful.

0:36:02.480 --> 0:36:05.920
<v Speaker 1>We are nature, and we are natural. We are trees.

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<v Speaker 1>It was the tree targeted by acts for me, tree

0:36:09.920 --> 0:36:15.000
<v Speaker 1>targeted by an ask and which acts several and who's

0:36:15.040 --> 0:36:18.239
<v Speaker 1>yielding it. It's got to take it down. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>thank you, thank you Roscoe for that powerful, powerful piece,

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<v Speaker 1>prolific words, beautiful. Absolutely, We're gonna take a short break

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<v Speaker 1>right now, and when we return, we'll welcome mental health

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<v Speaker 1>expert Britney cop who is going to dispel some common

0:36:36.200 --> 0:36:42.120
<v Speaker 1>myths about therapy for our mental health moment. All right,

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<v Speaker 1>we are back with another vitally important mental health moment.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm excited about this new part of the show. It's

0:36:49.360 --> 0:36:52.759
<v Speaker 1>a nice moment to just talk to someone successful. And

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<v Speaker 1>today we get to welcome licensed therapist Brittney cob to

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<v Speaker 1>Let's Red table back. Brittney works as a consultant social

0:37:00.400 --> 0:37:05.879
<v Speaker 1>media influencer to promote mental wellness, educate others, and fight

0:37:05.960 --> 0:37:09.920
<v Speaker 1>this thing was associated with therapy and mental health, especially

0:37:10.000 --> 0:37:12.680
<v Speaker 1>in the black community. She's here today to help us

0:37:12.719 --> 0:37:16.520
<v Speaker 1>better understand the obstacles people face and caring for their

0:37:16.600 --> 0:37:19.360
<v Speaker 1>mental health and hopefully we can knock a few of

0:37:19.400 --> 0:37:23.319
<v Speaker 1>those them for ourselves and our listeners today. So thank

0:37:23.320 --> 0:37:27.360
<v Speaker 1>you Brittany for joining us, Thank you for having me. Yes,

0:37:27.600 --> 0:37:29.640
<v Speaker 1>we appreciate you. It's nice to see you at this

0:37:29.719 --> 0:37:35.680
<v Speaker 1>virtual red table. Britta, appreciate y'all invited me here. Yeah,

0:37:35.800 --> 0:37:39.600
<v Speaker 1>no problem, Thank you so much for accepting that invite. Right. Well,

0:37:39.680 --> 0:37:42.360
<v Speaker 1>you are an advocate for mental health in the black community,

0:37:42.440 --> 0:37:46.480
<v Speaker 1>and we know that treatments like therapy and prescriptions for antidepressants, Um,

0:37:46.520 --> 0:37:50.279
<v Speaker 1>sometimes they're considered unnecessary, or they may seem like too much,

0:37:50.360 --> 0:37:53.120
<v Speaker 1>or it's just not something we're used to. Often, Um,

0:37:53.120 --> 0:37:54.960
<v Speaker 1>there's the idea that we just need to be strong

0:37:55.280 --> 0:37:58.279
<v Speaker 1>and get through it. Right. So, what hurdles do the

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<v Speaker 1>black community face when they're seeing getting mental health care

0:38:01.239 --> 0:38:03.879
<v Speaker 1>outside of what we just listed, right, Yeah, I mean

0:38:04.120 --> 0:38:07.920
<v Speaker 1>so many. I think the ones that stick out to

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<v Speaker 1>me the most, the first one really is just there's

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of shame still. You know, there's so many

0:38:15.320 --> 0:38:19.800
<v Speaker 1>harmful beliefs and messages that we have internalized develout mental

0:38:19.800 --> 0:38:25.480
<v Speaker 1>health and about therapy. Also like internal beliefs about opening

0:38:25.560 --> 0:38:30.120
<v Speaker 1>up to people and sharing being vulnerable and admitting that

0:38:30.160 --> 0:38:33.400
<v Speaker 1>we don't have all the answers we need help, and

0:38:33.480 --> 0:38:38.320
<v Speaker 1>so a lot of that shame we carry into adulthood,

0:38:38.640 --> 0:38:43.960
<v Speaker 1>and patterns we learn in childhood just trying to survive,

0:38:44.360 --> 0:38:48.600
<v Speaker 1>we carry into adulthood, and those patterns like will go

0:38:48.760 --> 0:38:53.239
<v Speaker 1>completely against what actually helps us thrive and connect and

0:38:53.280 --> 0:38:57.080
<v Speaker 1>build healthy relationships with people. And so until we can

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<v Speaker 1>like recondition our brains to to to not see mental

0:39:02.120 --> 0:39:05.680
<v Speaker 1>health and asking for help as a negative thing, you know,

0:39:05.719 --> 0:39:07.960
<v Speaker 1>I think that's that's one of the biggest hurdles that

0:39:08.120 --> 0:39:12.040
<v Speaker 1>I see right now. Another one is distrust in the

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<v Speaker 1>medical and in the mental health field. You know, the

0:39:14.320 --> 0:39:18.440
<v Speaker 1>system of mental health. It wasn't form taking into consideration

0:39:18.800 --> 0:39:24.360
<v Speaker 1>our culture, our ethnicity, race, these are important things to consider,

0:39:25.120 --> 0:39:29.239
<v Speaker 1>and if there's a lack of cultural sensitivity, there's a

0:39:29.320 --> 0:39:34.359
<v Speaker 1>lack of trust. Oh wow, yeah, that's that's very very true. Now.

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<v Speaker 1>I love that you said that, because I think sometimes

0:39:37.440 --> 0:39:41.560
<v Speaker 1>we do just stay with our parameters of what we know.

0:39:41.680 --> 0:39:43.960
<v Speaker 1>What happens in my house stays in this house, and

0:39:43.960 --> 0:39:46.680
<v Speaker 1>there are so many other things on top of what

0:39:46.680 --> 0:39:49.279
<v Speaker 1>we're used to that need to just be unlearned. Right,

0:39:49.320 --> 0:39:51.799
<v Speaker 1>We need to learn new language and new ways of

0:39:51.960 --> 0:39:56.759
<v Speaker 1>doing things. Yeah. Absolutely, I appreciate that transparency, because man,

0:39:56.800 --> 0:40:00.800
<v Speaker 1>do we meet this topic. Yes, the stigmas rounding mental

0:40:00.800 --> 0:40:03.840
<v Speaker 1>health care so often cause people to shy away from

0:40:03.920 --> 0:40:05.719
<v Speaker 1>some sort of treatment. We just talked about that a

0:40:05.760 --> 0:40:08.600
<v Speaker 1>little bit. So we would love for you to debunk

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<v Speaker 1>some of these misconceptions for us. I'm gonna ramble off

0:40:11.840 --> 0:40:15.080
<v Speaker 1>a list and I want you to to let us

0:40:15.120 --> 0:40:17.279
<v Speaker 1>know what what would be like the opposite language. How

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<v Speaker 1>can we debunk this? So let me get started. Number one,

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<v Speaker 1>if I seek therapy it means I'm weak? What does

0:40:24.320 --> 0:40:27.520
<v Speaker 1>it actually mean if you seek there? Yeah? Yeah, again,

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<v Speaker 1>like that's a perfect example of what we've been conditioned

0:40:31.160 --> 0:40:34.200
<v Speaker 1>to believe about these things. But I do think therapy

0:40:34.239 --> 0:40:39.719
<v Speaker 1>can be really scary because it's exposing, it's vulnerable, and

0:40:39.760 --> 0:40:44.240
<v Speaker 1>so a part of the work is again redefining what's

0:40:44.280 --> 0:40:48.080
<v Speaker 1>normal to us. And so for me, seeking therapy is

0:40:48.640 --> 0:40:50.920
<v Speaker 1>a sign that you care about your well being, you

0:40:50.920 --> 0:40:54.640
<v Speaker 1>want to make changes, you want to feel better, and

0:40:55.239 --> 0:40:59.400
<v Speaker 1>that takes courage to actually say I can't do this alone.

0:40:59.640 --> 0:41:03.279
<v Speaker 1>That's wrong, right. Oh. I love that somebody's gonna set

0:41:03.320 --> 0:41:07.160
<v Speaker 1>themselves free. You are not weak. You're actually courageous for

0:41:07.280 --> 0:41:10.560
<v Speaker 1>saying something's got to change. Okay, I love that We're

0:41:10.680 --> 0:41:14.040
<v Speaker 1>have to a good start. Number two, A therapist will

0:41:14.080 --> 0:41:18.000
<v Speaker 1>just try to blame my parents for my problems. Yeah,

0:41:18.200 --> 0:41:21.080
<v Speaker 1>that's a that's a major one to So therapy is

0:41:21.080 --> 0:41:24.960
<v Speaker 1>not about blaming anybody, you know, it's really just about

0:41:25.080 --> 0:41:29.239
<v Speaker 1>understanding the family system that you come from, who you

0:41:29.360 --> 0:41:32.960
<v Speaker 1>come from, because those things can be impacting how you

0:41:33.000 --> 0:41:35.960
<v Speaker 1>show up today and in the present in your life,

0:41:36.200 --> 0:41:41.160
<v Speaker 1>in your relationships. Those things can be really impactful when

0:41:41.160 --> 0:41:46.759
<v Speaker 1>it comes to just building relationships and thriving. And yeah,

0:41:47.040 --> 0:41:49.319
<v Speaker 1>it can be difficult. Some therapy is not really even

0:41:49.360 --> 0:41:53.960
<v Speaker 1>about going deep into your childhood. It just depends on

0:41:54.040 --> 0:41:56.440
<v Speaker 1>what you're going to therapy for. But it's definitely not

0:41:56.520 --> 0:41:59.560
<v Speaker 1>about blaming anyone, right, I was gonna say that to

0:41:59.640 --> 0:42:01.200
<v Speaker 1>a different So maybe what you're in the room for.

0:42:01.400 --> 0:42:03.960
<v Speaker 1>But I love that it's not about blame, just more

0:42:04.000 --> 0:42:08.440
<v Speaker 1>so understanding, right what happened? Right? A love that alright.

0:42:08.560 --> 0:42:11.239
<v Speaker 1>Number three. If I have a faith background, I don't

0:42:11.280 --> 0:42:14.239
<v Speaker 1>need therapy. This one kind of resonates with me as well.

0:42:14.239 --> 0:42:16.200
<v Speaker 1>Like I hear a lot of people say, just pray

0:42:16.239 --> 0:42:18.520
<v Speaker 1>about it, you know, pray more, worry less, Like we

0:42:18.600 --> 0:42:21.320
<v Speaker 1>have all these plaques and phrases and things and quotes,

0:42:21.400 --> 0:42:25.840
<v Speaker 1>and how does faith really tap into therapy? Yeah, So

0:42:25.960 --> 0:42:29.959
<v Speaker 1>therapists are hell to an ethical standard and a big

0:42:30.000 --> 0:42:32.359
<v Speaker 1>part of that standard is meeting people where they are

0:42:32.600 --> 0:42:35.600
<v Speaker 1>and respecting all of who they are and what makes

0:42:35.640 --> 0:42:39.080
<v Speaker 1>them who they are. And so religion and spirituality can

0:42:39.080 --> 0:42:41.840
<v Speaker 1>be a really big source of strength for many people,

0:42:42.480 --> 0:42:45.239
<v Speaker 1>and so that is something that can be built into

0:42:45.320 --> 0:42:48.200
<v Speaker 1>your treatment. And when people are looking for a therapists,

0:42:48.520 --> 0:42:52.480
<v Speaker 1>it's important to know what's important to you when you're

0:42:52.520 --> 0:42:55.239
<v Speaker 1>looking for someone. When you're looking for a therapist, pull

0:42:55.280 --> 0:42:59.520
<v Speaker 1>up their bio, read their information, what they stand for,

0:42:59.719 --> 0:43:03.359
<v Speaker 1>what are trained in, call them for consultation, And within

0:43:03.400 --> 0:43:05.560
<v Speaker 1>the consultation you can ask questions like, how do you

0:43:05.560 --> 0:43:10.480
<v Speaker 1>feel about spirituality and therapy together? How can you support

0:43:10.560 --> 0:43:14.120
<v Speaker 1>me and implement my personal beliefs and practices into the

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<v Speaker 1>work that we're gonna do together. I love that. I

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<v Speaker 1>love that because like, if there's no common ground, then

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<v Speaker 1>it's okay too to say maybe this therapist isn't for me. Right, So,

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<v Speaker 1>I remember when I started therapy, I was very heavy

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<v Speaker 1>on the fact that I want someone who has children,

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<v Speaker 1>at least one and preferably a team because I was

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<v Speaker 1>going through it. You should have some standards so you

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<v Speaker 1>can say exactly what you need in therapy. That's so important. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>I like that. Okay, another one. Antidepressants will change my personality.

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<v Speaker 1>That's definitely a stick. Why do you feel about that? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm a huge advocate of medication, but it's not for everyone.

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<v Speaker 1>Antidepressants will have side effects, but the purpose of taking

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<v Speaker 1>medication is to help alleviate symptoms and change how you

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<v Speaker 1>feel in a positive way. And so if there's concerns

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<v Speaker 1>about a changing your personality and it's a negative change,

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<v Speaker 1>it's important to have those conversations with your doctor. The

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<v Speaker 1>right doctor is going to listen to you and they're

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<v Speaker 1>gonna want to hear your concerns, right right. I love that.

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<v Speaker 1>I love that you said that because if there is

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<v Speaker 1>a change you don't like, you can speak up, right.

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<v Speaker 1>I think people think if they start, they have to

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<v Speaker 1>be stuck with it. And I love that you said

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<v Speaker 1>it's supposed to change them for the greater or to

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<v Speaker 1>become their best self. Because I think people may have

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<v Speaker 1>a fear of losing like themselves right and changing altogether right,

0:44:40.000 --> 0:44:43.640
<v Speaker 1>legit fears too, right, Well, thank you for helping us

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<v Speaker 1>debunk some of these misconceptions. I feel like we just

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<v Speaker 1>have to have more conversations to help keep the conversation

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<v Speaker 1>going forward. Right. So another thing I feel like, I

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<v Speaker 1>think one reason people fear therapy is the idea that

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just supposed to tell my secrets to a stranger. Right,

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<v Speaker 1>It's just very generalized. So what is your advice to

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<v Speaker 1>someone with this fear? How should they build on that

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<v Speaker 1>trust with their new therapist. I think the first thing

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<v Speaker 1>is just recognizing that being afraid is normal. It's normal

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<v Speaker 1>for therapy to be a scary process meeting someone for

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<v Speaker 1>the first time, especially not knowing what to expect, what

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<v Speaker 1>they're gonna ask, what is the process going to be like?

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<v Speaker 1>I would also say, like, it's not really your job

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<v Speaker 1>to build trust with your therapist. It's your therapist job

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<v Speaker 1>to build trust with you and create an environment where

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<v Speaker 1>you feel safe enough to open up, and that's gonna

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<v Speaker 1>take time. So I would encourage people to just be

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<v Speaker 1>open to the process, and a part of that is

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<v Speaker 1>accepting that it's going to be scary. I would encourage

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<v Speaker 1>them to be open to speaking with the therapist about

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<v Speaker 1>some of those fears because the therapist is able to

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<v Speaker 1>work with you and help ease some of those fears

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<v Speaker 1>that you have. Okay, I love that though. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>it's all about working together, and I think it just

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<v Speaker 1>feels like for some people like they're going into this,

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<v Speaker 1>especially if they're already coming into therapy feeling alone, they

0:46:14.600 --> 0:46:16.799
<v Speaker 1>may feel like it's just another task on my list

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<v Speaker 1>that I have to do alone. But what I'm hearing

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<v Speaker 1>is it's definitely a team work environment. And again, your

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<v Speaker 1>therapist should help to build that trust with you as well,

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<v Speaker 1>so hopefully they'll have some strategies that can help many

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<v Speaker 1>different people. I know there's not just one way to

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<v Speaker 1>do this therapy thing, so hopefully we all have some

0:46:33.360 --> 0:46:37.960
<v Speaker 1>new good perspectives about it today. Well, thank you so

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<v Speaker 1>much for coming to the Virtual Red Table Brittany and

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<v Speaker 1>sharing your insights with us. You can learn more from

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<v Speaker 1>Brittany about these topics and others at a Black Female

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<v Speaker 1>Therapist dot org. Thank you, Brittany, thank you so much

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<v Speaker 1>for having me. We are ending this episode with some

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<v Speaker 1>hope and joy. Oh we need a will help enjoy.

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<v Speaker 1>This is ariale Estoria once again, this time with her

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<v Speaker 1>poem this Here Joy. I wrote this here Joy in

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<v Speaker 1>a season where I was overwhelmed with all of the

0:47:15.760 --> 0:47:19.520
<v Speaker 1>grief and trauma we experience as black people, and I

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<v Speaker 1>just needed a breath of fresh air, so I wrote one.

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<v Speaker 1>When black people tap into joy, Heaven's gates open, and

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<v Speaker 1>what you feel is not the wind but angels dancing

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<v Speaker 1>in the trees, singing symphonies of this here is on

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<v Speaker 1>earth as it is in heaven. Floodgates are opened. Tears

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<v Speaker 1>may fall, but not in vain, no trace of pain,

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<v Speaker 1>just the release that joy can be felt without guilt

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<v Speaker 1>or wondering when the door will come knocking with anything

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<v Speaker 1>but good news. See this here is good news too.

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<v Speaker 1>When black people tap into joy, this is the sweetest

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<v Speaker 1>of size, a sigh that has not been held by

0:48:00.600 --> 0:48:04.440
<v Speaker 1>generations of breaths not breathed, a sigh that releases the

0:48:04.480 --> 0:48:09.959
<v Speaker 1>stifled screams Ei. There is no room here for unnecessary opinions.

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<v Speaker 1>When black people tap into joy, it is worship. It

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<v Speaker 1>is all of the symphonies colliding into one smile, one dimple,

0:48:20.000 --> 0:48:24.359
<v Speaker 1>one pure, bless filled, blessed like joy. That is one

0:48:24.440 --> 0:48:28.440
<v Speaker 1>thing that cannot be taken away, this joy, this felt

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<v Speaker 1>in the depth of our being, an audacious, fool and

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<v Speaker 1>courageous and the greatest prayer we've ever prayed. When black

0:48:36.560 --> 0:48:40.800
<v Speaker 1>people tap into joy, our bodies can't help but dance

0:48:41.200 --> 0:48:45.800
<v Speaker 1>and shake and move the moment, the movement when something

0:48:45.880 --> 0:48:48.960
<v Speaker 1>takes over your whole being and the weight of racism

0:48:49.000 --> 0:48:51.799
<v Speaker 1>and violent systems that were never meant to hold you

0:48:51.960 --> 0:48:57.080
<v Speaker 1>finally take a back seat and cannot claim this joy,

0:48:57.360 --> 0:49:01.960
<v Speaker 1>and we dance I mean off, and we're allowed when

0:49:02.000 --> 0:49:05.280
<v Speaker 1>we want to be. Because when black people tap into joy,

0:49:05.440 --> 0:49:09.160
<v Speaker 1>that there there's a holy moment. And what do you

0:49:09.239 --> 0:49:13.279
<v Speaker 1>do in the sight of such sacredness? You take it in,

0:49:14.239 --> 0:49:19.719
<v Speaker 1>but you cannot take it away. It's beautiful. I love

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<v Speaker 1>that because they spoke. It spoke so much to what

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<v Speaker 1>we are. Black people have to but we have to be,

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<v Speaker 1>not even just are what we have to be. I've

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<v Speaker 1>I've always felt a sense of but yeah, but I

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<v Speaker 1>mean like just to be weighted at It's like we

0:49:37.840 --> 0:49:40.600
<v Speaker 1>don't even have the energy too. We have to constantly

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<v Speaker 1>pressed toward rise up, be more. Shout dr by Angelo,

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<v Speaker 1>come on now, tapping into our let us have it

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<v Speaker 1>let us here, let us feel it. It's real and

0:49:54.440 --> 0:49:56.440
<v Speaker 1>the thing that makes it so real is that you

0:49:56.560 --> 0:49:58.560
<v Speaker 1>have to be able. I mean, you think about it.

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<v Speaker 1>The joy, the enjoy is really the audaciousness, as she

0:50:03.560 --> 0:50:07.279
<v Speaker 1>said in her poem, that we we have it. It's

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<v Speaker 1>an eight at this point, that part. We want to

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<v Speaker 1>take a moment. Silence on podcasts are hard because it's

0:50:18.400 --> 0:50:20.600
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