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Speaker 1: Talk, Talk Talk. We're just two unapologetically black women with

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Speaker 1: an opinion to talk. What's up, y'all? We back? Thank

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Speaker 1: you for tuning in for a new episode that We

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Speaker 1: Talk Back, a show dedicated to you dreamers and chasers.

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Speaker 1: It's your co hosts a j holiday. What's up fake

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Speaker 1: tap and every fake TAPU and everybody in between. I

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Speaker 1: love y'all, man, I love y'all. I'm hungover right now.

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Speaker 1: It was just my birth, just like an ongoing thing

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Speaker 1: for you though, like girl, No, hey, y'all noticing a

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Speaker 1: pattern anybody. I don't be hungover every Monday. Just intervention, monch,

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Speaker 1: It's Tuesday. So now y'all sit as a d M

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Speaker 1: or at us on something. Let us know if Tam

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Speaker 1: be fucking drunk every time? Y'all hear you? If you say,

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Speaker 1: I do you a mother? Lie? So I have one

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Speaker 1: maybe two drinks? So what I'm alcoholic now? The whole

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Speaker 1: world of Ash Traded Eddie Caine, Yo, how the hell

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Speaker 1: you be remembering these goddamn movies like that? I don't okay,

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Speaker 1: I gotta be watching it. I'd be like, oh, that's

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Speaker 1: my favorite part. I love them. I love them. You know.

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Speaker 1: I'm a movie buff. How was your weekend, No, bitch,

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Speaker 1: how was your weekend? Telling it was my birthday? I

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Speaker 1: hate you missed it, but I understand going to see

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Speaker 1: your a ninety five year old aunt y'all. Yes, honey,

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Speaker 1: but I had so much fun. I love. I want

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Speaker 1: to be a birthday. I want to be a birthday.

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Speaker 1: Birthdays everybody just love it on you and giving you

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Speaker 1: shit and poor liquor down your throat, eat your koochie,

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Speaker 1: all kind of things you know I got. I'm in

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Speaker 1: a forday, I got so many roses in my apartments.

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Speaker 1: I live in a forest right now, so it's just

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Speaker 1: cake and shit over here and balloons everywhere. Don't eat it.

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Speaker 1: I hate girl, This cake so good. I got two

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Speaker 1: cakes and both of them are delicious.

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Speaker 2: But I'm gonna send them to my friends school tomorrow

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Speaker 2: because my friend baby school. Let me say that, because

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Speaker 2: I can't eat no more. My double chin is doubling

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Speaker 2: like a motherfucker right now.

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Speaker 1: But it's okay. You've been seeing them a little chin straps

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Speaker 1: on Instagram. Getting one. It don't work. I don't know.

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Speaker 1: That'shits so uncomfortable. I'll be taking that neck brace off

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Speaker 1: the ship. Women go through dog I know, I put

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Speaker 1: that ship on. My mama call me. She's like, what

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Speaker 1: wrong with you? Why are you sound like that? I

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Speaker 1: was like, what are you talking about? I'm fine, barely

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Speaker 1: could move your motherfucking mouth. And then shit, shave goodness?

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Speaker 1: What about shadd shame? How was Florida Joe? We went

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Speaker 1: to Jacksonville. My aunt actually lives right by the beach.

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Speaker 1: She is ninety five, so living by herself, walking around.

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Speaker 1: I had just seen her recently at my uncle's funeral

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Speaker 1: a couple weeks ago. I was like, man, I'm gonna

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Speaker 1: come see you. So we orchestrated that and went down

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Speaker 1: there and hung up with her. So now I'm gonna

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Speaker 1: go back because she has all the family pitches. I

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Speaker 1: need to collect all that shit because she is ninety five,

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Speaker 1: and I feel like I'm slick the family historian. I

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Speaker 1: to hold on to those things like family is fucking important.

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Speaker 1: I feel like we be forgetting our heritage where we

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Speaker 1: what is photo albums are of the past, you know exactly. So, yeah,

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Speaker 1: she got all these old ass pitches everybody obituary like

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Speaker 1: we could put a whole puzzle piece together. Her house

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Speaker 1: is like a damn museum a ship, yiad that of

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Speaker 1: course the government down there trying to take her house

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Speaker 1: because it's right on the right by the beach hard

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Speaker 1: Rock Cafe where her house is and some shit like that.

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Speaker 1: That's what they're doing. You've seen that old lady in

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Speaker 1: supposed to be helping her keep her ship. That's good man,

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Speaker 1: because you know like Gallagalla Island. So y'all, y'all remember

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Speaker 1: the cartoon Gallagalla Island that's based off of the Fusky

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Speaker 1: Island right outside of Charleston, South Carolina. And these people

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Speaker 1: have inhibited this area for ever. Yeah, right, so now

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Speaker 1: they have increased a lot of people's taxes three hundred

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Speaker 1: how like, how do we sue the counties? Right right?

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Speaker 1: That's American as apple pie. That's ship right there, boy, stealing, stealing?

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Speaker 1: Can I take your ship and make it legal eminent domain?

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Speaker 1: get rid of that type of stuff. You can just oh,

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Speaker 2: So why did the government Why I can't imminent domain somebody? Shit,

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna go imminent domain a car out this motherfucker

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Speaker 2: and say, shit, the United.

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Speaker 1: States do it all the time. I discovered it, right,

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Speaker 1: it's mine. It was just sitting here by itself. We needed.

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Speaker 1: they got they got squatters long like squatter's rule. So

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Speaker 1: like say, for instance, you're going to moving on somebody's

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Speaker 1: land or somebody's house and you've been there for ten years,

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Speaker 1: it's your shit, right, even if they was paying taxes

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Speaker 1: American listen, then the next ten years, I want to

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Speaker 1: be out of America. Like I had actually commented on

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Speaker 1: Rihanna's page the other day, I was like, girl, you

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Speaker 1: don't know know, uh, single Baysians, I'm trying to get citizenship.

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Speaker 1: And I heard it was real hard. They don't just

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Speaker 1: be given citizenship to anybody but like that is a

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Speaker 1: goal in life for me. Like I want me a

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Speaker 1: beach house with a little boy, dark skinned, with blonde hair,

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Speaker 1: and my motherfucking husband on the beach in Barbados. Like

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Speaker 1: that's goals for me. I think I could do it. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: why not?

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Speaker 2: I don't know about the blonde hair, but everything else

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Speaker 1: But I don't think that's a good idea. But you know,

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Speaker 1: the ocean turns people here blonde. And like this this

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Speaker 1: guy I have right now, he has some really nice

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Speaker 1: brown hair. I think we could possibly produce it. I

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Speaker 1: don't know you will alot with that. Let's get into

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Speaker 1: stupid internet news, y'all. Listen, we got a few things

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Speaker 1: really talk about? Is uh that Carrie Russell shit. I

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Speaker 1: wis enlist or Baptist. But I'm glad she's home. But y'all, yeah, man,

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Speaker 1: so sexy Radit is catching some backlash for going to

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Speaker 1: high school. For going to a high school, she was there, Okay,

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Speaker 1: to give our free haircuts and bundles to the students

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Speaker 1: for promp because she says she says she remembered what

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Speaker 1: might have been playing, uh, what's the song with Booty

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Speaker 1: Whole Brown? But she wasn't performing. I didn't Them kids

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Speaker 1: it's not her responsibility for them not to know it. Okay,

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Speaker 1: if y'all want her to, she's not the parent. But

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Speaker 2: What's Saint Louis School got a prom in the motherfucking

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Speaker 1: I'm confused. Maybe it's for it, maybe it was just

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Speaker 1: so them kids need hair, they need bundles. So absolutely, absolutely,

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Speaker 1: as long as she ain't and performing that song give

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Speaker 1: I wish my kid might be in the gymnasium with

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Speaker 1: think somebody said it was Keilani's baby, but she like

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Speaker 1: like the little video. She was like, wait, look a

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Speaker 1: fud the hoochie daddy. She do her little face like that.

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Speaker 1: Like I like that part because of that little video

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Speaker 1: and his baby singing it. But like the whole song

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Speaker 1: itself that they we talked about this like the lyrics,

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Speaker 1: she ain't really saying shit. Here's the thing.

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Speaker 2: The lyrics that we are allowing our kids to listen

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Speaker 2: to right now makes me scared to be an elderly person.

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Speaker 1: When I get old.

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Speaker 2: These are the people that's gonna be running the country

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Speaker 1: I'll be pretty sure our parents thought the same about

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Speaker 1: gonna be in church. Well, y'all gonna be in church

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Speaker 1: with six inches. Well, your back gonna be bad from

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Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, With your gloves on and

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Speaker 1: shit like that's how we gonna look tatted up. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: but here's the thing, they'll be growing up with a

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Speaker 1: booty hole tattooed on their side of their nick because

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Speaker 1: shut up. That grew up too. Yeah, I mean we

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Speaker 1: had music. Sukiana was in London. Did you see that video?

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Speaker 1: Sukiana went to London and she was like outside talking

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Speaker 1: about eating a nigga ass in the middle of the afternoon,

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Speaker 1: walking down the street, embarrassing me. I was embarrassed me too.

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Speaker 2: I think she's just liked to stay trending. I think

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Speaker 2: she just I don't think this is really who she is.

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Speaker 1: Because but I just saw a video with her going

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Speaker 1: hand because you know, her and Tasha k Hathen going

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Speaker 1: at it, and she was saying like, y'all think y'all

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Speaker 1: hurting me, calling me disgusting. I know, I'm disgusting, Like what,

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Speaker 1: like this is this is actually who she is? I

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Speaker 1: but this is definitely a part of her personality, that's

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Speaker 1: what she is. Well, I just want to say, and

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Speaker 1: Y'all better stop eating each other. Ass that's where duty

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Speaker 1: come from. Dodo, you're gonna.

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Speaker 2: Lick that why it's so many other healthier places on

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Speaker 2: the body to lick. I'm just saying that when you

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Speaker 2: bitch just in the hospital with Ekoli, just go ahead

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Speaker 2: and play Sukiana over the.

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Speaker 1: What Rika Badu said, Erica Badu said, I need a

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Speaker 1: rim job? Yeah, dukie Duca. Is that what she's saying.

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Speaker 1: I don't know. I think so what a rim job? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: but just don't be the eater. At least let it

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Speaker 1: be a clean one. I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I feel like after two steps from the shower, your

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Speaker 2: booty hole is again a booty hole.

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Speaker 1: Hit the air foot steps, it's back being an asshole. Babies,

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Speaker 1: you're gonna have to live that thing in the water

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Speaker 1: under the shower. Can't rip it out the plastics. It

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Speaker 1: ain't no ripping it out the plastics. They hit their oxygen.

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Speaker 1: Back to being the asshole. Okay. So speaking of the music,

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Speaker 1: me just add this on so fabulous fabulous receipt has

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Speaker 1: been receiving like mixed mixed reactions after claiming there's only

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Speaker 1: one style of female rap slash hip hop being promoted.

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Speaker 1: So he tweeted, actually it was an Instagram post. He said,

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Speaker 1: love hearing female rappers take us talk us some real shit.

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Speaker 1: Women are so strong, have so many stories and perspectives

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Speaker 1: that we need to hear in pure form. No disrespect

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Speaker 1: What are we using Kiki the Internet sweetheart to spread

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Speaker 1: a bag single promoting single parent hoodhism. Like that's not

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Speaker 1: I don't like what they doing with Kiki. I don't

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Speaker 1: Like they're literally looking in your marror what you standing

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Speaker 1: be cleaire. Rick Ross was out here calling Tony Braxton

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Speaker 1: Tootsie Row. I love Rick Ross. I love Rick Ross,

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Speaker 1: but let's money be giving these niggas audacity, a lot

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Speaker 1: of audacity. Like this week we're talking about dating with intention, y'all,

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Speaker 1: what is it? What is that exactly? What does it

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Speaker 1: what's what.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, we're trying to bring the Black family back together,

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Speaker 1: We got to get them relationships together. Man, that's a religion, relationships,

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Speaker 1: What's up, y'all? We back? Hey, y'all. It's easy and

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Speaker 1: it's a j y'all. We have a lot of conversations

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Speaker 1: I was talking to one of my friends and she

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Speaker 1: be dating with intention? I can't. You can't be dating

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Speaker 1: when you're dating with intention, no, you don't think so

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Speaker 1: I'm intentionally dating these two men to see what you want.

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Speaker 1: I like that. Nah, dating is one thing. Right, then

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Speaker 1: when you find somebody via dating right that you are

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Speaker 1: That makes sense to me, Like you have to pick

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Speaker 1: his baby mama. Yes, been with because the kids are adults.

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00:24:26,000 --> 00:24:30,720
Speaker 1: I believe. Yeah, nigga, I'm not doing it. Get somebody

422
00:24:30,720 --> 00:24:35,320
Speaker 1: else to do it. A longtime girlfriend, if we would have,

423
00:24:35,359 --> 00:24:36,879
Speaker 1: if he would have passed away, or like if somebody

424
00:24:36,880 --> 00:24:38,639
Speaker 1: who dies like they put him, put you in the

425
00:24:38,800 --> 00:24:42,399
Speaker 1: in the obituary as special special friend. Imagine being with

426
00:24:42,480 --> 00:24:44,160
Speaker 1: a nigga for ten years and I got a kid.

427
00:24:44,200 --> 00:24:46,679
Speaker 1: Nigga got you as special friend. My friend called her

428
00:24:46,680 --> 00:24:53,359
Speaker 1: boyfriend her special friend. She's an old ass lady at heart.

429
00:24:53,960 --> 00:24:57,080
Speaker 1: That's old. This is my friend, mister Earl, special friend,

430
00:24:57,960 --> 00:25:01,919
Speaker 1: Uncle Earl. So it says dating with intention refers to

431
00:25:02,160 --> 00:25:05,600
Speaker 1: entering into romantic relationships. It's plural with the s on

432
00:25:05,640 --> 00:25:09,720
Speaker 1: the end, with a clear purpose or goal in mind. Okay,

433
00:25:10,560 --> 00:25:13,280
Speaker 1: instead of casually dating for the sake so casual dating,

434
00:25:14,240 --> 00:25:17,000
Speaker 1: instead of casually dating for the sake of companionship or

435
00:25:17,040 --> 00:25:20,520
Speaker 1: temporary enjoyment. Individuals who date with intention have a deeper

436
00:25:20,640 --> 00:25:24,439
Speaker 1: understanding of what they want and are actively seeking a

437
00:25:24,520 --> 00:25:30,240
Speaker 1: long term, meaningful connection. My attention span is, I'm really

438
00:25:30,320 --> 00:25:33,360
Speaker 1: like a what do they call it, a modern day

439
00:25:33,520 --> 00:25:45,440
Speaker 1: monogamous like practice? No, I don't know serial monogamy. Shut up, No,

440
00:25:46,080 --> 00:25:49,320
Speaker 1: I am a modern day I practice modern day monogamy,

441
00:25:49,320 --> 00:25:53,479
Speaker 1: which means one dig at a time, one man at

442
00:25:53,520 --> 00:25:55,800
Speaker 1: a time, like I saw, I got, you know I might.

443
00:25:56,440 --> 00:26:00,040
Speaker 1: And when I say you talk about three summers, it

444
00:26:00,160 --> 00:26:04,480
Speaker 1: was like, shut up, just one person. And when I'm

445
00:26:04,560 --> 00:26:06,920
Speaker 1: fucking with them, I'm not just talking about sex. I'm

446
00:26:06,960 --> 00:26:10,800
Speaker 1: talking about time, communication, meeting out like all the things

447
00:26:10,880 --> 00:26:15,520
Speaker 1: I can't junk, like juggle multiple people. When you actually

448
00:26:15,560 --> 00:26:17,600
Speaker 1: trying to date with intent and you're trying to show

449
00:26:17,600 --> 00:26:20,040
Speaker 1: this one person how interested in them you are. How

450
00:26:20,040 --> 00:26:24,600
Speaker 1: do you pick one? Though? Okay, how I pick one nowadays?

451
00:26:25,200 --> 00:26:28,000
Speaker 1: So there, I have a list, first of all, right,

452
00:26:30,040 --> 00:26:33,840
Speaker 1: what's on it? I think I read my list here before,

453
00:26:33,880 --> 00:26:38,120
Speaker 1: and just recently I met a guy, and meeting him

454
00:26:38,320 --> 00:26:40,920
Speaker 1: forced me to go back and find my list because

455
00:26:40,920 --> 00:26:43,240
Speaker 1: I did this list like three years ago and I

456
00:26:43,240 --> 00:26:45,359
Speaker 1: didn't like write the list myself. I was on the

457
00:26:45,359 --> 00:26:47,640
Speaker 1: phone with one of my friends, the older lady when

458
00:26:47,640 --> 00:26:50,080
Speaker 1: I first got into trading options. I met her and

459
00:26:50,119 --> 00:26:53,159
Speaker 1: she's like a self proclaimed master manifesto, right, she actually

460
00:26:53,200 --> 00:26:55,520
Speaker 1: goes out and do conferences and shit like that. And

461
00:26:55,600 --> 00:26:59,000
Speaker 1: while having a general conversation with her, she was sitting

462
00:26:59,040 --> 00:27:00,679
Speaker 1: there right in my list, like, well, what kind of

463
00:27:00,680 --> 00:27:02,280
Speaker 1: man you're looking for, you know, because you gotta be

464
00:27:02,280 --> 00:27:05,720
Speaker 1: real specific when you're looking for somebody whatever. She was

465
00:27:05,760 --> 00:27:08,480
Speaker 1: writing my things down and then she sent me this list.

466
00:27:08,920 --> 00:27:11,520
Speaker 1: I met this guy, and I'm like, this shit is easy.

467
00:27:12,240 --> 00:27:16,440
Speaker 1: This shit is fucking too easy. To know the man

468
00:27:16,640 --> 00:27:18,720
Speaker 1: is too easy, you know what I'm saying. You know,

469
00:27:18,760 --> 00:27:20,320
Speaker 1: how you meet somebody and it's just like a lot

470
00:27:20,320 --> 00:27:24,280
Speaker 1: of Riggan Moreau, a lot of unsureness, Like you know

471
00:27:24,280 --> 00:27:26,000
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, you might be into him, but he's

472
00:27:26,040 --> 00:27:29,320
Speaker 1: not being as attentive to you in the beginning, and

473
00:27:29,320 --> 00:27:32,520
Speaker 1: shit like that. This shit easy. So I'm like, damn,

474
00:27:32,920 --> 00:27:34,560
Speaker 1: so I had to go back and look at my list, like,

475
00:27:34,600 --> 00:27:37,320
Speaker 1: did I find a nigga off the list? Did you?

476
00:27:37,720 --> 00:27:44,080
Speaker 1: I don't know. I'm outside inside right now, I'm inside outside.

477
00:27:47,040 --> 00:27:49,840
Speaker 1: You know, I feel like your list. I read my

478
00:27:49,880 --> 00:27:52,919
Speaker 1: list again. It's an earlier episode. But oh and one

479
00:27:52,960 --> 00:27:54,560
Speaker 1: of the things she missed off this list, because this

480
00:27:54,600 --> 00:27:57,760
Speaker 1: is my first thing that be on list, is fucking generous. Okay,

481
00:27:58,040 --> 00:28:02,479
Speaker 1: I need a generous nigga. She missed it, all right,

482
00:28:02,600 --> 00:28:07,560
Speaker 1: So mentally clear was the first thing spiritual? A choosy lover,

483
00:28:07,680 --> 00:28:12,480
Speaker 1: which means and you know exactly, but he been around, okay,

484
00:28:12,880 --> 00:28:15,080
Speaker 1: loves me for me. You know, I gotta be able

485
00:28:15,080 --> 00:28:19,640
Speaker 1: to be myself at all times. Okay, Uh monogamous? All right.

486
00:28:20,119 --> 00:28:24,280
Speaker 1: So when y'all on here commenting on that fucking video

487
00:28:24,320 --> 00:28:27,600
Speaker 1: that's been going viral thirty thousand times, I don't want

488
00:28:27,600 --> 00:28:30,719
Speaker 1: a man that cheats, Okay, if we're gonna be cheating,

489
00:28:31,160 --> 00:28:33,280
Speaker 1: if you cheat, I cheat, we cheat those. That's how

490
00:28:33,320 --> 00:28:38,320
Speaker 1: that's gonna work. So before you do it, just consider

491
00:28:38,520 --> 00:28:43,640
Speaker 1: who's making love to yo, old lady? Why you was

492
00:28:43,760 --> 00:28:50,120
Speaker 1: out exactly because I make niggas cry full time, all right?

493
00:28:52,600 --> 00:28:56,239
Speaker 1: Good with his hands all right, I like massages. I

494
00:28:56,240 --> 00:29:00,000
Speaker 1: actually like to watch massage porn. You ain't nothing massage porn,

495
00:29:00,120 --> 00:29:02,840
Speaker 1: and that's a thing. Yes, bitch, motherfucker's getting rubbed up

496
00:29:02,840 --> 00:29:04,320
Speaker 1: and all of a sudden it starts sucking dick and

497
00:29:04,560 --> 00:29:09,960
Speaker 1: and you don't need massages and all that. I like

498
00:29:10,040 --> 00:29:12,280
Speaker 1: massage points. I like a man that's good with his hands.

499
00:29:12,400 --> 00:29:14,360
Speaker 1: Ain't nothing worse than a nigga. Like, let me give

500
00:29:14,360 --> 00:29:20,520
Speaker 1: you a massage and do this boy, get off of me.

501
00:29:20,560 --> 00:29:24,560
Speaker 1: I wanted my back round. Oh they be too, They

502
00:29:24,680 --> 00:29:31,360
Speaker 1: be too nigga, Get off ca all of a sudden

503
00:29:33,040 --> 00:29:36,400
Speaker 1: right now they go straight to massage touch and now

504
00:29:36,440 --> 00:29:38,840
Speaker 1: you got a whole palmer ass right after that, Get

505
00:29:38,880 --> 00:29:42,360
Speaker 1: off of me, nigga. All right? Fit nice body with

506
00:29:42,440 --> 00:29:46,000
Speaker 1: a broad back like a black man. Very specific. Yes,

507
00:29:46,200 --> 00:29:50,200
Speaker 1: it's how I know God is real. Okay, them niggas

508
00:29:50,280 --> 00:29:54,800
Speaker 1: backs be wild. Now I only talk about like little wow.

509
00:29:55,800 --> 00:30:00,480
Speaker 1: I'm talking about Jonathan Major's back like like yeah, this nigga,

510
00:30:00,560 --> 00:30:04,520
Speaker 1: he can pull a tree out again, rights, back hand.

511
00:30:05,200 --> 00:30:07,680
Speaker 1: I like nice backs, Like that's my favorite part of

512
00:30:07,720 --> 00:30:09,680
Speaker 1: a man's body. It's back. And then it's like the

513
00:30:09,720 --> 00:30:12,520
Speaker 1: little v cut if he got that you know, you know,

514
00:30:12,640 --> 00:30:14,440
Speaker 1: some of y'all kind of gutties so you can't even

515
00:30:14,480 --> 00:30:17,040
Speaker 1: see the V no more, but it used to be

516
00:30:17,120 --> 00:30:20,959
Speaker 1: there attractive to me. You don't have to be the finest.

517
00:30:21,000 --> 00:30:23,440
Speaker 1: But like I said, I don't have kids yet. I

518
00:30:23,480 --> 00:30:26,840
Speaker 1: would like my mate to be aesthetically attractive to me

519
00:30:28,160 --> 00:30:34,520
Speaker 1: between the ages of thirty five and fifty. Yeah, he's like,

520
00:30:34,640 --> 00:30:36,840
Speaker 1: hell no, nigga, give me a thirty one year old.

521
00:30:37,120 --> 00:30:42,800
Speaker 1: Yeah no, like my age can marry between twenty eight

522
00:30:44,080 --> 00:30:49,800
Speaker 1: and forty two? Are you serious? Twenty eighth and forty two?

523
00:30:50,040 --> 00:30:52,080
Speaker 1: Did you want to pack bag lunch for the rest

524
00:30:52,080 --> 00:30:56,280
Speaker 1: of your life? Oh my no, I had this one

525
00:30:56,360 --> 00:30:58,320
Speaker 1: twenty eight year old. He had helped me up like this.

526
00:30:58,520 --> 00:31:00,480
Speaker 1: He was like this, and I was in the sky.

527
00:31:00,520 --> 00:31:15,320
Speaker 1: I was like this, he's so strong, big me. I

528
00:31:15,880 --> 00:31:21,400
Speaker 1: got a crazy back whole wow bag because I ain't

529
00:31:21,400 --> 00:31:22,840
Speaker 1: know little girl home to be up in the air

530
00:31:22,960 --> 00:31:25,360
Speaker 1: like that, right, that's a whole lot of shit going on.

531
00:31:26,560 --> 00:31:30,800
Speaker 1: He can have kids ages four to twenty like, so

532
00:31:31,040 --> 00:31:34,720
Speaker 1: little kids not newborns okay, and not no two three

533
00:31:34,760 --> 00:31:38,760
Speaker 1: year olds either, So four to five to twenty years old,

534
00:31:40,040 --> 00:31:42,560
Speaker 1: dog lovers, I want another dog, so you can't be

535
00:31:42,640 --> 00:31:49,440
Speaker 1: I hate animals, grateful, right, secure, confident, a reformed whore.

536
00:31:50,280 --> 00:31:53,120
Speaker 1: I like, listen, I don't really want a man if

537
00:31:53,120 --> 00:31:55,960
Speaker 1: you only fuck five people in life, because you probably

538
00:31:55,960 --> 00:31:57,880
Speaker 1: would a woman who only had sex with four to

539
00:31:58,000 --> 00:32:01,760
Speaker 1: five people. So now y'all only know wh y'all know, like,

540
00:32:02,720 --> 00:32:07,000
Speaker 1: I need you to be able to put something, because

541
00:32:07,080 --> 00:32:08,840
Speaker 1: what if you watch a lot of porn, you know

542
00:32:08,840 --> 00:32:11,120
Speaker 1: how to do all the things. First of all, don't

543
00:32:11,120 --> 00:32:13,240
Speaker 1: be watching porn and coming over here thinking I'm about

544
00:32:13,240 --> 00:32:15,640
Speaker 1: to do all this porn ship. That's that's not you

545
00:32:15,680 --> 00:32:18,760
Speaker 1: gotta be have dealt with real women, right because you're

546
00:32:18,760 --> 00:32:20,560
Speaker 1: not about to do all this slup me out ship.

547
00:32:20,680 --> 00:32:23,479
Speaker 1: So you don't want to be slooded out, but I do.

548
00:32:25,120 --> 00:32:27,880
Speaker 1: I want It's High Bridge, you know, that's my favorite ship.

549
00:32:27,960 --> 00:32:30,440
Speaker 1: I like, I'm a real Gemini, y'all. I stay in

550
00:32:30,480 --> 00:32:32,080
Speaker 1: the middle of all ships. I can see what the

551
00:32:32,080 --> 00:32:35,640
Speaker 1: fuck is going on. So I need you to You

552
00:32:35,640 --> 00:32:38,240
Speaker 1: don't want no nigga, like no, God doesn't want your

553
00:32:38,680 --> 00:32:47,120
Speaker 1: down there. You don't want that. No, But you also

554
00:32:47,120 --> 00:32:50,320
Speaker 1: don't want like no poor don't bite my pussy like

555
00:32:50,360 --> 00:32:52,040
Speaker 1: I don't want somebody who don't know how to eat

556
00:32:52,040 --> 00:32:54,720
Speaker 1: pussy gonna bite your ship like you just don't know

557
00:32:54,760 --> 00:32:56,719
Speaker 1: what you're gonna get with a guy who hasn't really

558
00:32:56,760 --> 00:32:59,480
Speaker 1: had access to pussy like that. You know, I want

559
00:32:59,560 --> 00:33:02,320
Speaker 1: you to be experienced. You can train them to do

560
00:33:02,360 --> 00:33:05,840
Speaker 1: all the things you like. I like experienced men. Okay, okay,

561
00:33:05,880 --> 00:33:15,120
Speaker 1: that's fair. I'm an experienced woman. Very no season, respectful,

562
00:33:15,880 --> 00:33:19,120
Speaker 1: you know that's on the list. Brave and a protector.

563
00:33:19,720 --> 00:33:21,920
Speaker 1: That's my list. I guess I need to create a list.

564
00:33:21,960 --> 00:33:23,920
Speaker 2: I don't even have a list written down of all

565
00:33:23,960 --> 00:33:26,880
Speaker 2: the attributes my thing be like it just be civil

566
00:33:27,000 --> 00:33:34,600
Speaker 2: like integrity, ambition, some spirituality, caring, sense of humor, some style, and.

567
00:33:34,560 --> 00:33:40,920
Speaker 1: A dick yeah man. And money. Okay, I said ambition.

568
00:33:40,960 --> 00:33:42,920
Speaker 1: If you're ambitious to I don't mean nothing. There's a

569
00:33:42,960 --> 00:33:48,320
Speaker 1: lot of broke, ass ambitious people. You had to be

570
00:33:48,320 --> 00:33:50,880
Speaker 1: able to translate that into money. Oh you're trying to

571
00:33:50,920 --> 00:33:53,320
Speaker 1: be nice. No, No, that's what I'm not, just saying

572
00:33:53,360 --> 00:33:59,200
Speaker 1: money generous with ambitions the word I use generous. I

573
00:33:59,280 --> 00:34:02,800
Speaker 1: like a generous. Typically men who are ambitious to have stuff,

574
00:34:03,160 --> 00:34:05,000
Speaker 1: But that don't mean they're gonna be generous, you know,

575
00:34:05,080 --> 00:34:06,880
Speaker 1: and it really doesn't matter how much a man makes

576
00:34:06,920 --> 00:34:09,680
Speaker 1: how much they willing to give you, right sharing me

577
00:34:09,880 --> 00:34:16,120
Speaker 1: a generous man. Yes, so that's huh. I feel like

578
00:34:16,160 --> 00:34:18,200
Speaker 1: that's a Do you think that list is fucked up?

579
00:34:20,480 --> 00:34:23,440
Speaker 1: Joy wants to know if the man has to have everything? No,

580
00:34:23,560 --> 00:34:25,520
Speaker 1: he doesn't have to have everything, cause if he had

581
00:34:25,560 --> 00:34:29,040
Speaker 1: all those that had a uh not so wild back,

582
00:34:29,120 --> 00:34:32,719
Speaker 1: you'd be Okay, Yeah, you know what I'm saying. I like,

583
00:34:33,200 --> 00:34:35,400
Speaker 1: I have a certain like aesthetic man that I like,

584
00:34:35,480 --> 00:34:39,800
Speaker 1: and it's kind of changing over time. But no, I

585
00:34:40,080 --> 00:34:43,080
Speaker 1: could go out go without some of the things, and

586
00:34:43,200 --> 00:34:45,160
Speaker 1: most of the things would probably be like the more

587
00:34:45,200 --> 00:34:51,360
Speaker 1: physical things right, but all other shit I may not not.

588
00:34:51,680 --> 00:34:54,200
Speaker 1: You have to be nice to me. To talk to

589
00:34:54,280 --> 00:34:58,360
Speaker 1: me nice, I'm gonna be amused. I'm inspire You also

590
00:34:58,360 --> 00:35:00,960
Speaker 1: want somebody who inspires me. So those are the type

591
00:35:00,960 --> 00:35:03,760
Speaker 1: of things that I'm looking for when I'm dating somebody.

592
00:35:03,800 --> 00:35:05,239
Speaker 1: I want to be able to sit down with the

593
00:35:05,280 --> 00:35:09,680
Speaker 1: person i'm with and write goals and shit like that, Like, yeah,

594
00:35:09,719 --> 00:35:12,280
Speaker 1: I haven't had anybody like that. A lot of times

595
00:35:12,280 --> 00:35:14,919
Speaker 1: you've been in situationships since this Nigga's planning his whole

596
00:35:14,920 --> 00:35:17,440
Speaker 1: life without you. Yeah, I don't want that anymore. I

597
00:35:17,480 --> 00:35:19,400
Speaker 1: feel like that's what you get when you're not dating

598
00:35:20,400 --> 00:35:23,399
Speaker 1: somebody who's also dating with intent, and y'all have now

599
00:35:23,520 --> 00:35:25,560
Speaker 1: chosen each other and y'all can do all these things.

600
00:35:26,040 --> 00:35:27,680
Speaker 2: When I was talking to this guy and I was

601
00:35:27,680 --> 00:35:29,640
Speaker 2: asking him, like, you know, what did he want in

602
00:35:29,680 --> 00:35:33,520
Speaker 2: his future? And everything was about his children. He never

603
00:35:33,560 --> 00:35:38,480
Speaker 2: said anything about a woman. Yeah, nothing about it. That's

604
00:35:38,480 --> 00:35:39,759
Speaker 2: because they turned out to him.

605
00:35:39,800 --> 00:35:42,360
Speaker 1: And he was like, I didn't even realize that that.

606
00:35:42,440 --> 00:35:44,760
Speaker 1: I didn't include that. I have to uh, maybe unpack

607
00:35:44,840 --> 00:35:49,600
Speaker 1: what that is. Well, that's because they're current, that's currently

608
00:35:49,600 --> 00:35:52,560
Speaker 1: where he's at, so he's not really thinking about having

609
00:35:52,600 --> 00:35:55,800
Speaker 1: to consider a new woman. It's just these kids. And

610
00:35:55,840 --> 00:35:57,680
Speaker 1: I feel like that's why. You know, the last person

611
00:35:57,719 --> 00:36:01,640
Speaker 1: I was dating, he had sent me a message and

612
00:36:01,680 --> 00:36:05,759
Speaker 1: he was like, you know, he worries about like being

613
00:36:05,800 --> 00:36:08,560
Speaker 1: able to take care of me and his girls, Like

614
00:36:08,600 --> 00:36:11,239
Speaker 1: why is there even like it should be? I feel

615
00:36:11,280 --> 00:36:13,160
Speaker 1: like that's something I don't want to really want to hear.

616
00:36:13,160 --> 00:36:15,680
Speaker 1: I want you to just figure it out, to do it,

617
00:36:15,719 --> 00:36:17,560
Speaker 1: because it's not hard. You know what I'm saying. You

618
00:36:17,560 --> 00:36:20,120
Speaker 1: don't have to take care of me now, right, So

619
00:36:20,480 --> 00:36:22,719
Speaker 1: why would why is that a thing that would be

620
00:36:22,960 --> 00:36:25,560
Speaker 1: on your mind? So that to me, you'll never have

621
00:36:25,600 --> 00:36:28,560
Speaker 1: another woman in your life. So just be honest with yourself, right,

622
00:36:29,080 --> 00:36:31,600
Speaker 1: and just fuck bitches for the rest of your life.

623
00:36:31,760 --> 00:36:33,640
Speaker 1: But don't fuck women who don't got kids though, because

624
00:36:33,640 --> 00:36:35,960
Speaker 1: you don't want no more kids either. Yeah, that's a lot,

625
00:36:37,120 --> 00:36:39,920
Speaker 1: you know, so get bye bye.

626
00:36:42,280 --> 00:36:45,720
Speaker 2: I'm trying to decide. Have I truly honestly been dating

627
00:36:45,800 --> 00:36:49,560
Speaker 2: with intention sometimes?

628
00:36:49,840 --> 00:36:53,960
Speaker 1: But I feel like anytime I put my intention on it,

629
00:36:53,960 --> 00:36:58,440
Speaker 1: it always is so bad. I don't think you have

630
00:36:58,480 --> 00:37:02,200
Speaker 1: to be like stressed out about dating with intention, right,

631
00:37:02,320 --> 00:37:04,400
Speaker 1: but I do think a lot of times women, the

632
00:37:04,440 --> 00:37:09,280
Speaker 1: mistake we make is asking for having these demands after

633
00:37:09,360 --> 00:37:11,840
Speaker 1: sex and stuff like that, like them first few dates.

634
00:37:12,000 --> 00:37:14,279
Speaker 1: Be honest and tell that man exactly what you want

635
00:37:14,360 --> 00:37:16,160
Speaker 1: so he knows what he's signing up for. Some of

636
00:37:16,160 --> 00:37:18,160
Speaker 1: them are still probably live to get the pussy. You know.

637
00:37:18,200 --> 00:37:21,560
Speaker 1: You just don't never know, right, But let that person

638
00:37:21,600 --> 00:37:23,640
Speaker 1: know what you're looking for. I'm not just out here

639
00:37:23,960 --> 00:37:26,759
Speaker 1: eating out with you just because I want a meal, right,

640
00:37:27,160 --> 00:37:31,520
Speaker 1: I'm actually looking for a husband. I want to be

641
00:37:31,680 --> 00:37:34,960
Speaker 1: married in two years. You know I want to have

642
00:37:35,000 --> 00:37:39,600
Speaker 1: a kid. You know, make sure you put all your deliverable.

643
00:37:39,760 --> 00:37:43,160
Speaker 1: You put it out too early. It kind of scares

644
00:37:43,239 --> 00:37:45,200
Speaker 1: niggas off a little bit, and that he's not the

645
00:37:45,239 --> 00:37:48,680
Speaker 1: one for you. If me talking about adultshit is scary

646
00:37:48,719 --> 00:37:53,279
Speaker 1: to you, get that's the statement too, Yeah, because this

647
00:37:53,360 --> 00:37:56,160
Speaker 1: is regular adultshit. And I understand, like the older we

648
00:37:56,200 --> 00:37:58,920
Speaker 1: get men have kids, right, So if you know that

649
00:37:59,000 --> 00:38:00,959
Speaker 1: you're a man that has is you don't want any

650
00:38:00,960 --> 00:38:04,279
Speaker 1: more kids? Why are you talking to me? Yeah? And

651
00:38:04,400 --> 00:38:08,719
Speaker 1: you know that right? And also this is another thing

652
00:38:08,760 --> 00:38:11,640
Speaker 1: I feel like it seemed like the onus is always

653
00:38:11,640 --> 00:38:14,200
Speaker 1: on a woman. So the man say I don't want this, right,

654
00:38:14,760 --> 00:38:17,799
Speaker 1: and then he proceeds with you. You're saying I want this,

655
00:38:18,320 --> 00:38:20,520
Speaker 1: you proceed with him. Why you stay? If you knew

656
00:38:20,600 --> 00:38:23,120
Speaker 1: I ain't want this? Nah? Fuck that? Why'd you stay

657
00:38:23,200 --> 00:38:26,839
Speaker 1: when you knew that's what I wanted. We both had

658
00:38:26,880 --> 00:38:29,720
Speaker 1: a decision to make. You chose to stay. I chose

659
00:38:29,719 --> 00:38:33,080
Speaker 1: to stay. Why is the onness always on our leve? No?

660
00:38:33,200 --> 00:38:35,840
Speaker 1: I let her know it wasn't that type of time exactly.

661
00:38:39,440 --> 00:38:41,759
Speaker 1: She got the kids this weekend. I ain't even gonna

662
00:38:41,800 --> 00:38:46,239
Speaker 1: be there, but she got my kids exactly. That's what

663
00:38:46,239 --> 00:38:48,080
Speaker 1: I'm saying. Like, they'll play with you as long as

664
00:38:48,080 --> 00:38:53,320
Speaker 1: you lit them. And that's some bullshit. Listen. So clarity

665
00:38:53,320 --> 00:38:55,480
Speaker 1: of purpose is the first part of this. It says

666
00:38:55,520 --> 00:38:59,200
Speaker 1: in individuals dating with intention have a clear understanding of

667
00:38:59,280 --> 00:39:01,600
Speaker 1: what they are looking for in a partner and what

668
00:39:01,640 --> 00:39:03,760
Speaker 1: they want to achieve in a relationship. They are focused

669
00:39:03,800 --> 00:39:07,640
Speaker 1: on finding compatible match based on shared values, life goals,

670
00:39:07,680 --> 00:39:12,839
Speaker 1: and long term compatibility. So first date, it is not

671
00:39:12,880 --> 00:39:15,120
Speaker 1: inappropriate to talk about this stuff. I feel like yall

672
00:39:15,120 --> 00:39:17,920
Speaker 1: can just kill so much time, right, you know what

673
00:39:17,920 --> 00:39:20,680
Speaker 1: I'm saying, aside from a cock shot, Like I'm gonna

674
00:39:20,680 --> 00:39:23,960
Speaker 1: tell you all these other things that I need from you.

675
00:39:24,160 --> 00:39:27,000
Speaker 2: What if you met a guy who had all those things,

676
00:39:27,040 --> 00:39:29,360
Speaker 2: I mean, he was absolutely perfect.

677
00:39:29,400 --> 00:39:34,400
Speaker 1: And then his dick wasn't enough? Then what what does

678
00:39:34,600 --> 00:39:38,799
Speaker 1: enough mean? Whatever enough mean for you? Like it wasn't No,

679
00:39:38,880 --> 00:39:41,760
Speaker 1: not a micro did, Okay, I can't deal with micro

680
00:39:42,040 --> 00:39:44,759
Speaker 1: Not a micro did. But even though micro dis me

681
00:39:44,880 --> 00:39:47,760
Speaker 1: love to Hopefully it's someone out there that just like this.

682
00:39:47,960 --> 00:39:51,759
Speaker 1: I love nothing but Micael Dicks. This is crazy, right,

683
00:39:52,080 --> 00:39:54,680
Speaker 1: A nigga penis never has to be this big. Women

684
00:39:54,760 --> 00:39:58,720
Speaker 1: can't even take all this right half the time. Okay,

685
00:39:59,239 --> 00:40:02,680
Speaker 1: it's just un realistic. And I always say five by

686
00:40:02,760 --> 00:40:05,080
Speaker 1: five to seven inches is all you need as a woman.

687
00:40:05,160 --> 00:40:10,320
Speaker 1: Anything else is ridiculous. That probably like eight inches in

688
00:40:10,520 --> 00:40:13,919
Speaker 1: with the girth on it is wild, wild back wild dick.

689
00:40:14,040 --> 00:40:21,160
Speaker 1: I don't but I want more girth than anything. So

690
00:40:21,920 --> 00:40:27,240
Speaker 1: this is this is thick. Yeah, okay, where is this going, bitch?

691
00:40:27,400 --> 00:40:28,759
Speaker 1: I don't know. I was just trying to figure out

692
00:40:28,760 --> 00:40:33,759
Speaker 1: that's like what was important. So if he just got

693
00:40:33,800 --> 00:40:37,640
Speaker 1: all the things, but no, dick I have loved. I

694
00:40:37,680 --> 00:40:40,000
Speaker 1: don't want to put that on my list who did

695
00:40:40,040 --> 00:40:42,399
Speaker 1: not have a love? And I've been cheated on by

696
00:40:42,440 --> 00:40:43,960
Speaker 1: one who doesn't have a lot of dick, and that's

697
00:40:43,960 --> 00:40:46,000
Speaker 1: the most hurtful. I love that little dick to death.

698
00:40:46,120 --> 00:40:49,000
Speaker 1: I loved it. Yeah, I loved him because he had

699
00:40:49,080 --> 00:40:51,640
Speaker 1: all the other things. So his little dick felt like

700
00:40:51,680 --> 00:40:53,560
Speaker 1: a big dick because he was so big in all

701
00:40:53,560 --> 00:40:56,919
Speaker 1: the other areas. Right, yeah, but then once you get bad,

702
00:40:56,960 --> 00:40:59,160
Speaker 1: I was like, I can't believe I've been acting like

703
00:40:59,200 --> 00:41:04,000
Speaker 1: this behind this little dick. Nail God, the nerve of

704
00:41:04,080 --> 00:41:07,120
Speaker 1: you to cheat on me with that, you can't unsuck

705
00:41:07,160 --> 00:41:09,960
Speaker 1: it through. They were talking shit, were talking shit about them. Dudes.

706
00:41:10,000 --> 00:41:12,440
Speaker 1: You can't unfucking you can't unsuck it. You was loving

707
00:41:12,480 --> 00:41:16,399
Speaker 1: that long day. My problem is you embarrassing me, letting

708
00:41:16,440 --> 00:41:18,160
Speaker 1: people know what type of dick I've been dealing with

709
00:41:18,239 --> 00:41:22,719
Speaker 1: all this time. That's why I'm mad. Now everybody know

710
00:41:22,960 --> 00:41:25,680
Speaker 1: I've been sexually frustrated for the last three years. Where

711
00:41:25,680 --> 00:41:36,840
Speaker 1: fuck you bye uh. Emotional readiness. People who date with

712
00:41:36,920 --> 00:41:40,040
Speaker 1: intention have taken the time to work on themselves, healed

713
00:41:40,040 --> 00:41:42,719
Speaker 1: from healed from pastulations. Some store working progress on that

714
00:41:42,760 --> 00:41:45,719
Speaker 1: shit and develop a strong sense of self. They are

715
00:41:45,840 --> 00:41:49,719
Speaker 1: emotionally prepared to engage in a healthy, committed partnership. You

716
00:41:49,760 --> 00:41:51,760
Speaker 1: know what I got a problem with. I'd be talking

717
00:41:51,760 --> 00:41:54,759
Speaker 1: too much about the past. You know, I've seen a

718
00:41:54,840 --> 00:41:57,359
Speaker 1: video on Instagram and I know better, right, But I

719
00:41:57,480 --> 00:41:59,640
Speaker 1: just I'm an open book. I don't mind. It's not

720
00:41:59,680 --> 00:42:02,440
Speaker 1: that I'm don't living there. Some of the shit I've

721
00:42:02,440 --> 00:42:04,680
Speaker 1: been through, it's just fucking funny and wild. I want

722
00:42:04,680 --> 00:42:06,120
Speaker 1: to tell somebody else about it.

723
00:42:06,239 --> 00:42:08,799
Speaker 2: But in the beginning, like it's off putting for me

724
00:42:08,920 --> 00:42:12,080
Speaker 2: when a man comes and trashes his ex to me

725
00:42:12,360 --> 00:42:15,439
Speaker 2: in the first day like just talking about their ex

726
00:42:15,520 --> 00:42:18,240
Speaker 2: wife all bad and talking about the ex gird.

727
00:42:18,280 --> 00:42:21,520
Speaker 1: I'd be like, do you want to know anything about me?

728
00:42:21,600 --> 00:42:23,200
Speaker 1: Or we gonna sit here and talk about this last

729
00:42:23,280 --> 00:42:25,600
Speaker 1: shit right, you know, the whole time.

730
00:42:25,719 --> 00:42:28,440
Speaker 2: So I never I don't like that. I've had that

731
00:42:28,520 --> 00:42:31,080
Speaker 2: happen and it's off put and like, what makes you

732
00:42:31,080 --> 00:42:32,839
Speaker 2: think I would want to date you now? The way

733
00:42:32,840 --> 00:42:34,719
Speaker 2: you're dragging this other person and maybe they were a

734
00:42:34,719 --> 00:42:38,000
Speaker 2: shit person, but your energy is wrong for what I

735
00:42:38,160 --> 00:42:38,719
Speaker 2: got going on?

736
00:42:38,840 --> 00:42:41,640
Speaker 1: Make me laugh, nigga? Right, yeah, I never experienced that

737
00:42:41,680 --> 00:42:44,000
Speaker 1: from a man, but I'm definitely like when you start

738
00:42:44,320 --> 00:42:47,080
Speaker 1: having them two hour long conversations with people, stuff come

739
00:42:47,080 --> 00:42:49,920
Speaker 1: out sometimes. One of my homegirls, she was like, if

740
00:42:49,960 --> 00:42:53,120
Speaker 1: you are a woman and you have a baby and

741
00:42:53,160 --> 00:42:55,040
Speaker 1: a man is not in the kid's life because he's

742
00:42:55,080 --> 00:42:58,280
Speaker 1: choosing not to and you find another man just telling

743
00:42:58,320 --> 00:43:02,799
Speaker 1: that nigga dead, don't be telling, don't be telling. Don't

744
00:43:02,840 --> 00:43:05,200
Speaker 1: be telling a lie. And that's not a lie. Like

745
00:43:05,400 --> 00:43:07,360
Speaker 1: essentially he is like you won't even take care of

746
00:43:07,400 --> 00:43:10,200
Speaker 1: your kid. You are dead. You're not dead. He's just

747
00:43:10,280 --> 00:43:13,880
Speaker 1: a dead beat dog. You don't want to let a

748
00:43:13,920 --> 00:43:17,520
Speaker 1: man know about failed relationships. That's the thing, right, because

749
00:43:17,520 --> 00:43:21,279
Speaker 1: sometimes subconsciously, subconsciously, some people don't put you through the

750
00:43:21,320 --> 00:43:23,560
Speaker 1: same shit thinking you could deal with it because you did.

751
00:43:24,280 --> 00:43:27,759
Speaker 1: You let that last nigga exactly. I literally had one

752
00:43:27,760 --> 00:43:31,919
Speaker 1: of my exes, like, okay, when I was with him,

753
00:43:32,160 --> 00:43:34,839
Speaker 1: he got his baby mama pregnant for the third time. No,

754
00:43:34,920 --> 00:43:36,839
Speaker 1: he had two kids when I met him. He got

755
00:43:36,920 --> 00:43:41,160
Speaker 1: her pregnant, right, Yes, I had a tup of pregnancy, right,

756
00:43:41,200 --> 00:43:44,000
Speaker 1: so now she has a baby. So the years later,

757
00:43:44,080 --> 00:43:47,600
Speaker 1: now I'm with another man, I'm living in a long

758
00:43:47,600 --> 00:43:51,800
Speaker 1: distant relationship. He gets somebody pregnant. I'm telling my first

759
00:43:51,800 --> 00:43:53,319
Speaker 1: ex that was on this type of time because he's

760
00:43:53,400 --> 00:43:55,319
Speaker 1: never not been trying to get with me, like get back,

761
00:43:55,360 --> 00:43:57,920
Speaker 1: get me back, right over all these years, he like,

762
00:43:58,520 --> 00:44:02,239
Speaker 1: you took that nigga back. You're trying to compare your

763
00:44:02,280 --> 00:44:04,360
Speaker 1: fuck up to his fuck up. You. The difference is

764
00:44:04,400 --> 00:44:07,080
Speaker 1: you was living five minutes from me. This nigga was

765
00:44:07,120 --> 00:44:09,480
Speaker 1: living eight hundred miles from me. Shit happens, and that's

766
00:44:09,520 --> 00:44:12,839
Speaker 1: a little bit more understandable. But he really was like

767
00:44:13,280 --> 00:44:18,720
Speaker 1: mad because I dealt with some shit from somebody else

768
00:44:18,840 --> 00:44:22,680
Speaker 1: and deal with it from him. That's crazy. You can't

769
00:44:22,680 --> 00:44:24,880
Speaker 1: get mad, so you're not gonna let me play you

770
00:44:25,000 --> 00:44:32,759
Speaker 1: like the last name. But I'm not nigga like I'm wrong. Else,

771
00:44:32,760 --> 00:44:36,000
Speaker 1: what's wrong with y'all bitches? Now, y'all just don't be

772
00:44:36,040 --> 00:44:39,319
Speaker 1: letting people play y'all like y'all used to. That's really

773
00:44:39,320 --> 00:44:41,719
Speaker 1: why they're mad at me. They really be at him,

774
00:44:41,760 --> 00:44:44,480
Speaker 1: mad because they can't, especially this younger generation of women,

775
00:44:44,920 --> 00:44:47,520
Speaker 1: like they don't. They don't girl, they don't give a fuck.

776
00:44:47,600 --> 00:44:50,759
Speaker 1: They do not give a fuck. Pimp outside, Yes, they

777
00:44:50,760 --> 00:44:53,000
Speaker 1: don't give a fuck. I just hope they're doing any careful.

778
00:44:53,160 --> 00:44:54,960
Speaker 1: The only worst part about it is that while they're

779
00:44:55,000 --> 00:44:58,000
Speaker 1: not giving a fuck, they're also still creating other humans. Right,

780
00:44:58,280 --> 00:45:00,799
Speaker 1: that's the fuck up part about it. You know you

781
00:45:00,840 --> 00:45:02,959
Speaker 1: can not give a fuck and be by your damn self.

782
00:45:03,719 --> 00:45:10,120
Speaker 1: I don't say I'll spend that five hundred what is it? Before? Yeah,

783
00:45:10,760 --> 00:45:14,600
Speaker 1: I was like, whoa, these lyrics are going there, but

784
00:45:14,760 --> 00:45:18,160
Speaker 1: emotional readiness like you, they gotta be on the same page,

785
00:45:18,360 --> 00:45:21,279
Speaker 1: and you're not gonna know that unless y'all talk about it. Right,

786
00:45:21,360 --> 00:45:24,560
Speaker 1: So instead of playing guests work and hoping he's on

787
00:45:24,600 --> 00:45:26,320
Speaker 1: the same page as you, I don't like me feeling

788
00:45:26,320 --> 00:45:28,920
Speaker 1: confused no more. Yeah, I need I need to know

789
00:45:29,000 --> 00:45:32,040
Speaker 1: exactly where I stand in your life. I don't need

790
00:45:32,040 --> 00:45:34,640
Speaker 1: you making plans for the future without me if I'm

791
00:45:34,640 --> 00:45:37,480
Speaker 1: in your life today, Like, what the fuck? Because everything

792
00:45:37,480 --> 00:45:39,759
Speaker 1: I do I'm thinking about you. I'm considering you and

793
00:45:39,800 --> 00:45:41,480
Speaker 1: everything I do, Damn, I wonder if he can do

794
00:45:41,480 --> 00:45:43,960
Speaker 1: it with me. That's how I when I'm with somebody,

795
00:45:43,960 --> 00:45:46,160
Speaker 1: even just smashing. If I'm smashing you on a damn

796
00:45:46,200 --> 00:45:49,640
Speaker 1: regular and you might smash buddy, and we go to lunch, dinner,

797
00:45:49,680 --> 00:45:51,960
Speaker 1: and I'll do all these things together, Like I'm considering

798
00:45:52,000 --> 00:45:55,320
Speaker 1: you for my future too, What do you mean smash buddy?

799
00:45:55,400 --> 00:45:58,839
Speaker 1: Fucking So, if y'all are just having a sexual relationship,

800
00:45:59,000 --> 00:46:01,520
Speaker 1: but that's a lot of these situationships, it'd be a

801
00:46:01,520 --> 00:46:04,200
Speaker 1: lot of sex involved, right, a lot of sex and

802
00:46:04,200 --> 00:46:06,800
Speaker 1: then you might eat in between, you might go on

803
00:46:06,840 --> 00:46:09,600
Speaker 1: a trip it to here and there, but it'd be

804
00:46:09,640 --> 00:46:11,960
Speaker 1: a lot of sex. To me, yeah, you do be

805
00:46:12,000 --> 00:46:13,560
Speaker 1: a lot of sex. But what I'm confused as to

806
00:46:13,560 --> 00:46:15,800
Speaker 1: what you're saying. Like, so, if you have someone who's

807
00:46:15,840 --> 00:46:18,520
Speaker 1: you're just sleeping when you still considering them in that way,

808
00:46:20,160 --> 00:46:22,520
Speaker 1: I guess I don't just be sleeping with them, you

809
00:46:22,600 --> 00:46:25,600
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, Well, then there's not a smash buddy. Then, yeah,

810
00:46:25,640 --> 00:46:27,920
Speaker 1: but you don't know what he thinks it is. So

811
00:46:28,000 --> 00:46:31,319
Speaker 1: I guess I'm calling a smash buddy because if you're

812
00:46:31,360 --> 00:46:35,160
Speaker 1: not considering me, you obviously think I'm a smash buddy.

813
00:46:35,280 --> 00:46:36,759
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. If you're not considering me

814
00:46:36,800 --> 00:46:39,839
Speaker 1: for anything else, like any real life events, you're right.

815
00:46:40,960 --> 00:46:43,239
Speaker 1: So that's just you know, I'm just going based off

816
00:46:43,280 --> 00:46:45,040
Speaker 1: what the man. I don't want to be confused. No,

817
00:46:45,200 --> 00:46:47,840
Speaker 1: I don't want to have to guess where we are anymore.

818
00:46:48,920 --> 00:46:51,239
Speaker 1: Right So, and then if I ask you, I don't

819
00:46:51,239 --> 00:46:58,040
Speaker 1: want no fucking whack ass ambiguous response like where you at?

820
00:46:59,480 --> 00:47:02,000
Speaker 1: Where are you with me? Like? Where are you? If

821
00:47:02,000 --> 00:47:04,719
Speaker 1: you even have to ask, you probably should get the

822
00:47:04,719 --> 00:47:07,200
Speaker 1: fucking out of there, you know, because I feel like

823
00:47:07,239 --> 00:47:09,880
Speaker 1: a man with real intentions for you. He makes it

824
00:47:09,960 --> 00:47:14,200
Speaker 1: clear that he's fucking with you. There's no guests work involved.

825
00:47:14,400 --> 00:47:21,279
Speaker 1: So getting with emotionally ready people right open communication, love

826
00:47:21,320 --> 00:47:25,160
Speaker 1: it communication is crucial, and dating with intention These individual

827
00:47:25,320 --> 00:47:28,440
Speaker 1: individuals are upfront and honest about their intentions. Desires and

828
00:47:28,480 --> 00:47:32,240
Speaker 1: expectations from the beginning. They express their goals and listen

829
00:47:32,360 --> 00:47:35,160
Speaker 1: actively to their partners' needs and aspirations.

830
00:47:35,360 --> 00:47:38,560
Speaker 2: I think that's important because I think oftentimes, especially younger women,

831
00:47:39,160 --> 00:47:43,439
Speaker 2: find themselves committed to a nigga that they never ask

832
00:47:43,520 --> 00:47:45,759
Speaker 2: to be in a relationship, Like he never asks you

833
00:47:45,800 --> 00:47:48,600
Speaker 2: to be his girl. Y'all never had that conversation. Y'all

834
00:47:48,600 --> 00:47:51,080
Speaker 2: never had a verbal agreement that y'all were committed. And

835
00:47:51,120 --> 00:47:55,360
Speaker 2: now you are in a committed relationship right, essentially by yourself.

836
00:47:55,360 --> 00:47:55,600
Speaker 1: You know.

837
00:47:55,719 --> 00:47:58,279
Speaker 2: So maybe he's doing all the things that would say

838
00:47:58,280 --> 00:48:00,520
Speaker 2: he's committed to you. In the event that he does

839
00:48:00,560 --> 00:48:04,760
Speaker 2: something that proves he's not, he can say we never said.

840
00:48:04,520 --> 00:48:07,080
Speaker 1: We was in there, and that's emotion. And that's why

841
00:48:07,280 --> 00:48:10,600
Speaker 1: going forward in my next relationship, if whoever is listening,

842
00:48:11,239 --> 00:48:16,080
Speaker 1: I need a certified letter, right, notarized, and it could

843
00:48:16,120 --> 00:48:18,359
Speaker 1: be in like some little shit from high school. Check

844
00:48:18,440 --> 00:48:21,200
Speaker 1: yes and no. Right, I want you to be my girl,

845
00:48:21,360 --> 00:48:23,560
Speaker 1: check yes and no. I need that. I want to

846
00:48:23,680 --> 00:48:26,319
Speaker 1: I want you to be my wife. In a little bit,

847
00:48:26,360 --> 00:48:29,040
Speaker 1: you know some something I need. I need that comforment

848
00:48:29,040 --> 00:48:32,640
Speaker 1: because I've never done that. I'm saying have you ever

849
00:48:32,719 --> 00:48:34,440
Speaker 1: had a man say, hey, man, I want you to

850
00:48:34,440 --> 00:48:37,360
Speaker 1: be my girl? Like? How long ago was that? So?

851
00:48:38,080 --> 00:48:42,040
Speaker 1: I have had a commitment phobia most of my life.

852
00:48:42,160 --> 00:48:46,480
Speaker 1: I'm working on it, and all my relationships was like

853
00:48:46,600 --> 00:48:49,319
Speaker 1: either we about to be together or we gotta leave

854
00:48:49,320 --> 00:48:52,960
Speaker 1: each other alone? What you're gonna do because I'll be like,

855
00:48:52,960 --> 00:48:54,919
Speaker 1: why we got a mother label on it? I mean,

856
00:48:55,040 --> 00:48:55,640
Speaker 1: I don't know.

857
00:48:56,239 --> 00:48:59,160
Speaker 2: That was always me so even with like my last

858
00:48:59,160 --> 00:49:02,040
Speaker 2: one and the one before that was definitely.

859
00:49:01,680 --> 00:49:07,640
Speaker 1: Like they asking you what it is? Yo? You see?

860
00:49:07,800 --> 00:49:09,840
Speaker 1: All right, y'all think i'd be tripping, but I'm dealing

861
00:49:09,840 --> 00:49:13,040
Speaker 1: with a whole grown ass man. Okay, I'm in a

862
00:49:13,080 --> 00:49:20,000
Speaker 1: fucking committed relationship fucking mentally, contractually, physically with a grown

863
00:49:20,080 --> 00:49:29,120
Speaker 1: ass lady. Boy. I'm just thinking about your relationship for

864
00:49:29,239 --> 00:49:31,880
Speaker 1: a commitment in okay, real way. But there was a

865
00:49:31,960 --> 00:49:34,520
Speaker 1: time where I was just like, why so you're emotionally

866
00:49:34,560 --> 00:49:37,480
Speaker 1: ready now for a committed relationship? Are you sure? I

867
00:49:37,560 --> 00:49:41,279
Speaker 1: am very sure? Okay, all right, that sound good. I

868
00:49:41,320 --> 00:49:43,680
Speaker 1: believe you. I don't think I would like it much, bitch.

869
00:49:43,840 --> 00:49:45,680
Speaker 1: It wouldn't be that now. It wouldn't be like.

870
00:49:47,160 --> 00:49:49,480
Speaker 2: Either, listen, you need to be my girl. We just

871
00:49:49,520 --> 00:49:51,880
Speaker 2: need to stop doing this. I don't think I'm not

872
00:49:51,920 --> 00:49:52,520
Speaker 2: there no more.

873
00:49:52,760 --> 00:49:54,960
Speaker 1: I think like I would be ready, like okay, let's

874
00:49:55,480 --> 00:49:58,560
Speaker 1: let's go ahead and do this for real, or you

875
00:49:58,560 --> 00:50:00,839
Speaker 1: can end up on the other side where you ask him,

876
00:50:00,880 --> 00:50:01,919
Speaker 1: so what we doing.

877
00:50:03,080 --> 00:50:04,759
Speaker 2: I just don't feel like I'll ever be there because

878
00:50:04,760 --> 00:50:09,000
Speaker 2: there's just so many options, like nigga, you know it's

879
00:50:09,440 --> 00:50:11,040
Speaker 2: nigga right here, right here, right here.

880
00:50:11,080 --> 00:50:13,719
Speaker 1: I feel like these dudes don't realize, like y'all, they

881
00:50:13,719 --> 00:50:15,719
Speaker 1: think they got so many options. Men don't have that

882
00:50:15,800 --> 00:50:19,440
Speaker 1: much options. Nigga, If I'm choosing you while you're balding,

883
00:50:20,160 --> 00:50:25,759
Speaker 1: while you're gaining weight, why are you doing exactly like

884
00:50:25,800 --> 00:50:28,360
Speaker 1: all of us all, we're all aging, we all, nobody's

885
00:50:28,360 --> 00:50:33,799
Speaker 1: getting any younger, and I'm still choosing you. Excuse me?

886
00:50:34,080 --> 00:50:35,799
Speaker 1: Why do you think you got all these options out here?

887
00:50:35,800 --> 00:50:37,319
Speaker 1: It's only like five bitches out here, and it's five

888
00:50:37,400 --> 00:50:42,239
Speaker 1: niggas left, like, like, what are you gonna do? But

889
00:50:42,360 --> 00:50:45,360
Speaker 1: social let's bring it back to social media. Social media

890
00:50:45,400 --> 00:50:47,640
Speaker 1: will make you feel like it's a holo dex. Yeah,

891
00:50:47,880 --> 00:50:50,919
Speaker 1: if you have access to everybody, why do you want

892
00:50:50,960 --> 00:50:57,000
Speaker 1: access to everybody who was I talking to recently that said, No,

893
00:50:57,080 --> 00:50:59,680
Speaker 1: we wasn't. This is actually I was whit with me. No,

894
00:51:05,360 --> 00:51:07,360
Speaker 1: that men really think they can suck everybody.

895
00:51:08,640 --> 00:51:12,680
Speaker 2: I don't think men think that they can't fuck nobody

896
00:51:12,960 --> 00:51:17,200
Speaker 2: dog Jordan's Do men feel like they can fuck everybody?

897
00:51:18,719 --> 00:51:21,160
Speaker 1: Yeah? I don't think that. Carlinos Miller said that on

898
00:51:21,200 --> 00:51:25,560
Speaker 1: our episode. That's when I was watching. I saw that. Yes,

899
00:51:27,600 --> 00:51:29,520
Speaker 1: it was like it's three hundred and sixty five days

900
00:51:29,520 --> 00:51:33,759
Speaker 1: in the year. But you know, and I said, I

901
00:51:33,800 --> 00:51:37,400
Speaker 1: mean you might have access, but is it is it forceful?

902
00:51:39,239 --> 00:51:41,399
Speaker 1: Did they consent? Though? You know what I'm saying, What

903
00:51:41,400 --> 00:51:44,080
Speaker 1: what are we talking about? Because you cannot, as a man,

904
00:51:44,280 --> 00:51:47,680
Speaker 1: fu who you want. I think women can. We can

905
00:51:47,680 --> 00:51:49,840
Speaker 1: go our nine Walmart and pick up some dick in

906
00:51:49,880 --> 00:51:52,880
Speaker 1: a real way. But men can't do that. No, I

907
00:51:52,880 --> 00:51:54,720
Speaker 1: don't think they can do it the same way.

908
00:51:55,040 --> 00:51:56,840
Speaker 2: But it depends on what men because I feel like

909
00:51:57,320 --> 00:51:59,360
Speaker 2: there are some men that can just have their pick.

910
00:51:59,200 --> 00:52:06,120
Speaker 1: Of the litter as some very slim usually millionaires, and

911
00:52:06,160 --> 00:52:08,759
Speaker 1: that's when it should be just out here getting all

912
00:52:08,800 --> 00:52:12,319
Speaker 1: these bitches and you don't got nothing for them. So

913
00:52:12,400 --> 00:52:14,440
Speaker 1: open communication, that's my favorite. Be able you should be

914
00:52:14,480 --> 00:52:16,680
Speaker 1: able to talk to whoever you wit, ask them questions

915
00:52:16,719 --> 00:52:20,120
Speaker 1: and they give you like real valid answers, you know,

916
00:52:20,320 --> 00:52:22,600
Speaker 1: not some beaten around the bush type shit to keep

917
00:52:22,640 --> 00:52:28,680
Speaker 1: you continuously confused about what's actually happening. Next one is

918
00:52:28,719 --> 00:52:32,879
Speaker 1: building a strong foundation. Dating with intention involves investing time

919
00:52:32,920 --> 00:52:35,960
Speaker 1: and effort and effort into building a solid foundation for

920
00:52:36,000 --> 00:52:42,080
Speaker 1: a relationship. This includes developing trust, fastening excuse me, fostered.

921
00:52:43,680 --> 00:52:50,800
Speaker 1: This involves developing trust, fostering emotional connection, and nurturing shared values.

922
00:52:50,840 --> 00:52:54,200
Speaker 1: I feel like we kind of talked about that alright, Yeah, yep.

923
00:52:55,080 --> 00:52:58,600
Speaker 1: Evaluating compatibility is the next one. Those who date with

924
00:52:58,680 --> 00:53:02,480
Speaker 1: intention are mindful of avaluating the compatibility between themselves and

925
00:53:02,520 --> 00:53:05,640
Speaker 1: their potential partners. They take the time to assess whether

926
00:53:05,640 --> 00:53:09,080
Speaker 1: the relationship aligns with their long term goals and values.

927
00:53:09,160 --> 00:53:11,879
Speaker 1: I do need to be with somebody who has the same. Yeah.

928
00:53:11,920 --> 00:53:13,759
Speaker 1: I was dating this guy. I really liked him. He

929
00:53:13,840 --> 00:53:17,760
Speaker 1: was so fine. He was a marine, he was like strong,

930
00:53:17,960 --> 00:53:20,239
Speaker 1: He just had this presence about him. He had the

931
00:53:20,280 --> 00:53:25,760
Speaker 1: most beautiful teeth and dimples, chocolate, great personality. I loved

932
00:53:25,800 --> 00:53:29,200
Speaker 1: everything about him, and I was like, Okay, I'll marry

933
00:53:29,200 --> 00:53:32,960
Speaker 1: this guy. But he did not believe in God. And

934
00:53:33,000 --> 00:53:34,920
Speaker 1: I was like, in what way did he not did

935
00:53:35,400 --> 00:53:38,239
Speaker 1: what God was within him? Or just atheists? He was

936
00:53:38,280 --> 00:53:42,120
Speaker 1: an atheist and a black atheist. And I thought, why

937
00:53:42,120 --> 00:53:44,120
Speaker 1: you said that, Like, that's a lot of people who

938
00:53:44,120 --> 00:53:47,080
Speaker 1: don't like believe in God in the same sense that

939
00:53:47,239 --> 00:53:49,840
Speaker 1: you know, Christians might. Okay, well, you don't have to

940
00:53:49,840 --> 00:53:52,239
Speaker 1: be a Christian, I said. When I said my list,

941
00:53:52,280 --> 00:53:56,400
Speaker 1: I said spirituality. So he was just didn't believe in nothing,

942
00:53:56,560 --> 00:53:58,960
Speaker 1: you know. And it just was it was like the

943
00:53:59,040 --> 00:54:01,600
Speaker 1: absence of belief to me, you know. So, but how

944
00:54:01,880 --> 00:54:04,000
Speaker 1: live in his life? How was he as a person.

945
00:54:04,600 --> 00:54:07,920
Speaker 1: He was a joyous person. Okay, like a joyous person.

946
00:54:07,920 --> 00:54:10,120
Speaker 1: But I just needed you to believe in someone. He

947
00:54:10,200 --> 00:54:12,920
Speaker 1: believed in himself, I bet you. So one day I

948
00:54:13,000 --> 00:54:17,279
Speaker 1: was in South Park Mall and these girls, they said

949
00:54:17,280 --> 00:54:19,479
Speaker 1: they was doing some study for their college or something.

950
00:54:19,520 --> 00:54:22,200
Speaker 1: They walked up on me and they started to talking

951
00:54:22,200 --> 00:54:25,040
Speaker 1: about Christianity and religion and all that, and I'm like,

952
00:54:27,239 --> 00:54:31,360
Speaker 1: she says something about Jesus Christ, and I was like,

953
00:54:31,400 --> 00:54:33,880
Speaker 1: I don't practice that, you know what I'm saying. So

954
00:54:34,800 --> 00:54:36,759
Speaker 1: she was like, well, you don't believe in nothing? I said,

955
00:54:36,760 --> 00:54:38,960
Speaker 1: I believe in me, I believe in a God and

956
00:54:39,000 --> 00:54:41,400
Speaker 1: me right, So maybe he didn't have the words to

957
00:54:41,520 --> 00:54:43,480
Speaker 1: expressed in that way. A lot. I think that's where

958
00:54:43,520 --> 00:54:46,440
Speaker 1: a lot of people are atheists. Right. They don't have

959
00:54:46,560 --> 00:54:48,160
Speaker 1: like the words me and I don't want to put

960
00:54:48,200 --> 00:54:50,520
Speaker 1: words in people's mouths, right, but they may not have

961
00:54:50,600 --> 00:54:54,600
Speaker 1: the depth to express what it is. But you absolutely,

962
00:54:54,640 --> 00:54:57,800
Speaker 1: but I believe in something. You don't have to believe.

963
00:54:57,840 --> 00:54:59,799
Speaker 1: You don't have to do anything. You don't have to.

964
00:54:59,840 --> 00:55:02,320
Speaker 1: But I would need the person that I'm with to

965
00:55:02,680 --> 00:55:06,000
Speaker 1: proclaim that, not just live their life good and treat

966
00:55:06,040 --> 00:55:09,520
Speaker 1: you to believe in God. Why because that's what I

967
00:55:09,560 --> 00:55:12,319
Speaker 1: believe in and I need us to align in that way.

968
00:55:12,440 --> 00:55:14,560
Speaker 1: That's just one thing that I desire. I guess I

969
00:55:14,640 --> 00:55:17,719
Speaker 1: understand him. I understand people when they say they don't

970
00:55:17,719 --> 00:55:20,240
Speaker 1: believe in God or they'll believe like a God exists.

971
00:55:20,719 --> 00:55:26,080
Speaker 1: This world is treacherous there, it's just a terrible kids.

972
00:55:26,360 --> 00:55:29,880
Speaker 1: Kids get done up. You know, any place where kids

973
00:55:29,920 --> 00:55:32,279
Speaker 1: get the worship happening to them like this can't be

974
00:55:32,800 --> 00:55:35,879
Speaker 1: a godly place. When I think about what God is, right,

975
00:55:35,960 --> 00:55:38,439
Speaker 1: I also think you have to consider how you view

976
00:55:38,440 --> 00:55:40,480
Speaker 1: the world too, because I see goodness where I go.

977
00:55:40,560 --> 00:55:43,640
Speaker 1: I see children thriving, I see happy kids, I see love.

978
00:55:43,680 --> 00:55:46,560
Speaker 1: But the things you don't You see the news though, right, Yeah,

979
00:55:46,600 --> 00:55:48,960
Speaker 1: I do. I do. But I choose to focus my

980
00:55:49,120 --> 00:55:51,880
Speaker 1: energy on the godly things and be the godly things

981
00:55:52,160 --> 00:55:55,000
Speaker 1: that exists. So I don't see the world as treacherous.

982
00:55:55,040 --> 00:55:56,680
Speaker 2: I try not to look at it in that light.

983
00:55:57,040 --> 00:55:58,680
Speaker 2: And I feel like the way you view the world,

984
00:55:58,800 --> 00:55:59,719
Speaker 2: you're gonna see what.

985
00:55:59,600 --> 00:56:02,960
Speaker 1: You view, you know. No, I think that you're gonna

986
00:56:02,960 --> 00:56:05,399
Speaker 1: probably manifest the things in you with your viewing, right,

987
00:56:05,440 --> 00:56:07,680
Speaker 1: But you can't just be out in the world in

988
00:56:07,719 --> 00:56:12,319
Speaker 1: ignorance as things aren't happening to people, you know, because

989
00:56:12,320 --> 00:56:15,080
Speaker 1: we see it every day all day. So him being

990
00:56:15,080 --> 00:56:17,239
Speaker 1: a good person, I feel like him being a good

991
00:56:17,239 --> 00:56:21,960
Speaker 1: person treating you nice, that is godlike, That is godly.

992
00:56:22,040 --> 00:56:25,920
Speaker 1: Just because he didn't have this self proclaimed belief like

993
00:56:26,000 --> 00:56:28,960
Speaker 1: you do, I would not have discarded him in no way.

994
00:56:29,239 --> 00:56:31,880
Speaker 2: No, he had to go get up out of there,

995
00:56:32,000 --> 00:56:34,520
Speaker 2: my boy. I'm sorry. I need you, I need you

996
00:56:34,600 --> 00:56:34,960
Speaker 2: to believe.

997
00:56:34,960 --> 00:56:36,759
Speaker 1: That's what we differ. If I was sitting down when

998
00:56:36,760 --> 00:56:39,759
Speaker 1: we do our and I have a good idea for

999
00:56:39,880 --> 00:56:44,160
Speaker 1: our dating little thing we will do one day. If

1000
00:56:44,160 --> 00:56:46,040
Speaker 1: I was sitting at the table with a man and he,

1001
00:56:47,040 --> 00:56:49,000
Speaker 1: you know, telling me all these things, and he was like,

1002
00:56:49,080 --> 00:56:51,680
Speaker 1: he's a he's an atheist or I don't believe in God,

1003
00:56:51,680 --> 00:56:53,520
Speaker 1: I would just need him to expound a little bit more,

1004
00:56:54,239 --> 00:56:56,400
Speaker 1: that's all. But if you living your life right, I

1005
00:56:56,440 --> 00:56:58,680
Speaker 1: don't believe that I'm gonna die. I don't believe in

1006
00:56:58,760 --> 00:57:01,040
Speaker 1: like a heaven and hell. I believe that's eternal. You've

1007
00:57:01,080 --> 00:57:04,080
Speaker 1: created that heaven and hell. Whatever you believe subconsciously is

1008
00:57:04,080 --> 00:57:07,319
Speaker 1: where you're going to go once you pass this realm. Right,

1009
00:57:07,400 --> 00:57:12,480
Speaker 1: So if you are living godly, if you are living

1010
00:57:12,640 --> 00:57:16,160
Speaker 1: you know, have compassion for people, consideration for people, Why

1011
00:57:16,160 --> 00:57:18,760
Speaker 1: would I go to hell? Newborn babies or whatever the

1012
00:57:18,760 --> 00:57:21,000
Speaker 1: age is that they say you got to repent by

1013
00:57:22,040 --> 00:57:24,000
Speaker 1: or when you die you're going to hell. Like kids

1014
00:57:24,000 --> 00:57:26,960
Speaker 1: haven't even had the experiences yet to be good or

1015
00:57:27,040 --> 00:57:30,320
Speaker 1: bad or repent. Why would I? Why would they go

1016
00:57:30,360 --> 00:57:32,920
Speaker 1: to hell? That doesn't make sense to me. Right, So

1017
00:57:32,960 --> 00:57:35,000
Speaker 1: it's a lot of things in the religion I don't

1018
00:57:35,040 --> 00:57:37,440
Speaker 1: agree with either. So I wouldn't dismiss that person.

1019
00:57:37,880 --> 00:57:40,600
Speaker 2: I just want someone that I can pray with and

1020
00:57:40,640 --> 00:57:43,480
Speaker 2: then if you're a person who doesn't pray because you

1021
00:57:43,520 --> 00:57:51,480
Speaker 2: don't believe in those things.

1022
00:57:48,400 --> 00:57:49,400
Speaker 1: He didn't do none of that.

1023
00:57:49,800 --> 00:57:52,400
Speaker 2: I don't think he just it was the void of

1024
00:57:52,440 --> 00:57:55,520
Speaker 2: any spirituality, and I think he needed to find whatever

1025
00:57:55,600 --> 00:57:59,320
Speaker 2: that was, you know, So it just didn't align with me.

1026
00:57:59,560 --> 00:58:01,320
Speaker 1: I want to pray over my food. I want to

1027
00:58:01,320 --> 00:58:03,720
Speaker 1: pray in the morning. I want to pray before, you know,

1028
00:58:04,160 --> 00:58:06,640
Speaker 1: if I'm having surgery. I want a man who's praying

1029
00:58:06,680 --> 00:58:12,800
Speaker 1: over me. I don't want a man's like not for

1030
00:58:12,960 --> 00:58:15,400
Speaker 1: you on the other side. No, he don't even believe

1031
00:58:15,400 --> 00:58:17,960
Speaker 1: in no other side. Perhaps, you know, he believes that

1032
00:58:18,000 --> 00:58:21,919
Speaker 1: you'll be okay. That is that is That's enough prayer,

1033
00:58:22,000 --> 00:58:24,400
Speaker 1: that's all the pride. I didn't know. I didn't belief

1034
00:58:24,520 --> 00:58:27,120
Speaker 1: that you're going to be good. I didn't know that.

1035
00:58:27,200 --> 00:58:28,280
Speaker 1: I didn't know that to be true.

1036
00:58:28,320 --> 00:58:31,400
Speaker 2: It's just like, as you assisted him the absence of yeah,

1037
00:58:31,440 --> 00:58:33,240
Speaker 2: I had to let him go on about his business.

1038
00:58:33,240 --> 00:58:35,200
Speaker 1: You thought he was a demon of your husband. I ain't.

1039
00:58:35,280 --> 00:58:40,480
Speaker 1: I wasn't gonna get a chance to find out. Squirrels

1040
00:58:41,560 --> 00:58:45,160
Speaker 1: take scuirre ass So yeah, that's what dating with intention

1041
00:58:45,360 --> 00:58:48,200
Speaker 1: is and I mean, we can go on and on

1042
00:58:48,280 --> 00:58:50,760
Speaker 1: with this this list thing. But but okay, hold on,

1043
00:58:50,880 --> 00:58:54,400
Speaker 1: and here's another thing about him. He would mock my beliefs.

1044
00:58:55,040 --> 00:59:00,360
Speaker 1: That was a problem. Give me an example, like here

1045
00:59:00,400 --> 00:59:03,080
Speaker 1: you go talking about your god again. Oh no, see

1046
00:59:03,160 --> 00:59:06,680
Speaker 1: yeah he can get the fuck now I do. That's

1047
00:59:06,680 --> 00:59:09,040
Speaker 1: a whole house divided. That's what I'm saying. Like, so

1048
00:59:09,160 --> 00:59:12,280
Speaker 1: my thing is like diet though, like nigga eating too

1049
00:59:12,360 --> 00:59:15,120
Speaker 1: much steak. Like, I'm not trying to make somebody like

1050
00:59:15,560 --> 00:59:17,360
Speaker 1: change their whole shit for me on some air cub

1051
00:59:17,400 --> 00:59:20,000
Speaker 1: I do shit. But I feel like I'm very influential,

1052
00:59:20,440 --> 00:59:22,120
Speaker 1: right and if I can point out like why you

1053
00:59:22,160 --> 00:59:25,160
Speaker 1: should be in this way or whatever. And as a woman,

1054
00:59:25,200 --> 00:59:27,400
Speaker 1: I'm responsible for the nutrition of the family. So whatever

1055
00:59:27,440 --> 00:59:29,080
Speaker 1: the fuck I'm cooking with your niggas eat and it's

1056
00:59:29,080 --> 00:59:32,160
Speaker 1: gonna be very good. Right. So I'm not overly concerned

1057
00:59:32,160 --> 00:59:34,320
Speaker 1: about somebody's diet. But I don't want to be a

1058
00:59:34,520 --> 00:59:36,440
Speaker 1: wanted to be a fight. You know what I'm saying.

1059
00:59:36,480 --> 00:59:38,560
Speaker 1: If a nigga smokes cigarettes, I'm not trying to change you.

1060
00:59:39,400 --> 00:59:41,520
Speaker 1: I'm not talking to you. I don't fuck with cigarettes.

1061
00:59:42,080 --> 00:59:44,400
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying that's a deal breaker and

1062
00:59:44,440 --> 00:59:47,800
Speaker 1: it's not even on my list. I just already automatically. No,

1063
00:59:47,840 --> 00:59:49,840
Speaker 1: I don't want you to change shit by yourself. I

1064
00:59:49,960 --> 00:59:51,960
Speaker 1: want to be able to run into somebody and like

1065
00:59:52,120 --> 00:59:54,960
Speaker 1: everything about them. I'm not trying to change you. You're

1066
00:59:55,000 --> 01:00:00,240
Speaker 1: not trying to change me. We can cohabitate. This is

1067
01:00:00,600 --> 01:00:03,280
Speaker 1: this is shallow as fuck. But I'm a say I

1068
01:00:03,360 --> 01:00:10,480
Speaker 1: don't like a man who don't drink. What man, Yeah,

1069
01:00:11,640 --> 01:00:14,320
Speaker 1: have a cocktail with me? Like, let's have a drink.

1070
01:00:14,400 --> 01:00:17,320
Speaker 1: Let's go out and have some drinks. No, you don't

1071
01:00:17,360 --> 01:00:18,800
Speaker 1: have to be an alcoholic. I don't want you to

1072
01:00:18,840 --> 01:00:20,760
Speaker 1: be an alcoholic, but I do want to. Do you

1073
01:00:20,880 --> 01:00:24,800
Speaker 1: realize that? Okay, So I have a friend. Every time

1074
01:00:25,000 --> 01:00:28,160
Speaker 1: this nigga always want to take shots. I'm like, you're alcoholic, nigga.

1075
01:00:28,240 --> 01:00:30,520
Speaker 1: I don't drink in a daytime. I don't drink as

1076
01:00:30,520 --> 01:00:32,080
Speaker 1: soon as I walk in the fucking door. I ain't

1077
01:00:32,080 --> 01:00:34,120
Speaker 1: even put my ship down yet, and you asking me

1078
01:00:34,160 --> 01:00:36,120
Speaker 1: if I want a goddamn shot, and this is my friend.

1079
01:00:36,160 --> 01:00:38,200
Speaker 1: I'm like, no, nigga, Like you might need to stop

1080
01:00:38,240 --> 01:00:43,200
Speaker 1: taking shot too. Like what you said borderline, be like balance,

1081
01:00:43,840 --> 01:00:48,160
Speaker 1: But there's no drinking. But what do they smoke? They

1082
01:00:48,200 --> 01:00:48,880
Speaker 1: do your other thing.

1083
01:00:50,040 --> 01:00:55,160
Speaker 2: That's cool, that's cool. But all right, so yeah that's cool.

1084
01:00:55,240 --> 01:00:57,240
Speaker 2: If there was a smoker and they just don't drink

1085
01:00:57,280 --> 01:00:58,400
Speaker 2: it all you the dd?

1086
01:00:59,080 --> 01:01:00,400
Speaker 1: What do you think they're gonna be lame because they

1087
01:01:00,400 --> 01:01:03,280
Speaker 1: don't smoke. I mean because they don't drink. No, not lame.

1088
01:01:03,400 --> 01:01:05,200
Speaker 2: I think there are a lot of great people who

1089
01:01:05,280 --> 01:01:09,400
Speaker 2: don't indulge. Right, I just want somebody who's gonna.

1090
01:01:09,320 --> 01:01:12,600
Speaker 1: Drink with you. Yeah, so if you meet a good guy,

1091
01:01:12,760 --> 01:01:16,240
Speaker 1: if you had your list, so you're gonna put on

1092
01:01:16,320 --> 01:01:19,840
Speaker 1: your list. This nigga gotta drink. He has to like cocktails.

1093
01:01:22,440 --> 01:01:25,040
Speaker 1: I don't know if that's shallow, but it's like, ah, bitch,

1094
01:01:25,480 --> 01:01:28,919
Speaker 1: you're mad because I don't want to poison myself. Fuck you. Yeah,

1095
01:01:29,240 --> 01:01:31,800
Speaker 1: I'm not mad. I'm not mad at all. I just

1096
01:01:32,200 --> 01:01:35,240
Speaker 1: won't fuck with you if you don't drink. I don't.

1097
01:01:35,320 --> 01:01:37,240
Speaker 1: I don't pass up your husband because he don't drink.

1098
01:01:37,280 --> 01:01:39,720
Speaker 1: Poisonous with a guy because he don't drink. You know,

1099
01:01:39,920 --> 01:01:44,360
Speaker 1: but that's what she just said, right, She ain't fucking

1100
01:01:44,400 --> 01:01:46,000
Speaker 1: with you if you don't drink. I would like a

1101
01:01:46,080 --> 01:01:47,960
Speaker 1: guy that likes to go out and have a cocktail

1102
01:01:48,000 --> 01:01:52,439
Speaker 1: every now and then. M I is that so wrong?

1103
01:01:55,120 --> 01:01:58,720
Speaker 1: No thank you for or no, look I done took

1104
01:01:58,760 --> 01:02:05,320
Speaker 1: the ship, look tell for anyway. I don't know, man,

1105
01:02:05,440 --> 01:02:11,160
Speaker 1: dating is fucking tough. It's tough, and I I don't

1106
01:02:11,200 --> 01:02:13,760
Speaker 1: feel like keep like meeting people. I don't feel like

1107
01:02:13,880 --> 01:02:17,600
Speaker 1: people that people. I do too. And I also like

1108
01:02:17,680 --> 01:02:20,680
Speaker 1: first dates, right, I like all the first experiences. I

1109
01:02:20,800 --> 01:02:23,520
Speaker 1: saw this this shit on Instagram one day. It was

1110
01:02:23,520 --> 01:02:26,400
Speaker 1: a lady. She was talking about, you know, the first

1111
01:02:26,440 --> 01:02:28,600
Speaker 1: time you have sex with somebody, like how good it be,

1112
01:02:28,760 --> 01:02:30,840
Speaker 1: like the feelings and stuff like that. She was like,

1113
01:02:30,920 --> 01:02:34,000
Speaker 1: the only way to get that intense sex every time

1114
01:02:34,360 --> 01:02:36,120
Speaker 1: is to fuck somebody new every time.

1115
01:02:37,120 --> 01:02:40,680
Speaker 2: Sometimes the first time isn't good. Sometimes I haven't experienced that.

1116
01:02:42,640 --> 01:02:45,720
Speaker 2: I haven't experience chemistry sexually.

1117
01:02:46,600 --> 01:02:49,480
Speaker 1: I just be knowing. Now. It's the back. That's why

1118
01:02:49,560 --> 01:02:55,360
Speaker 1: I like bats, depending on the back. You know. It's

1119
01:02:55,400 --> 01:03:00,520
Speaker 1: the back, the back, and that fucking forearm. That's how

1120
01:03:00,560 --> 01:03:02,120
Speaker 1: your arm is the left of the penis is what

1121
01:03:02,240 --> 01:03:06,280
Speaker 1: you're saying. How it looks so yeah, sometimes like I

1122
01:03:06,320 --> 01:03:09,880
Speaker 1: would have a big dick, but like just the stretch

1123
01:03:10,000 --> 01:03:17,720
Speaker 1: out used to judge his bitches, grab for her if

1124
01:03:17,760 --> 01:03:20,680
Speaker 1: it's thick, you know, the thick forearms, because you know

1125
01:03:20,760 --> 01:03:26,400
Speaker 1: they gotta a lot. Because a nigga like right on

1126
01:03:26,480 --> 01:03:31,480
Speaker 1: your hands, like this shoulder bench. He ain't need nothing arms.

1127
01:03:31,520 --> 01:03:33,080
Speaker 1: I ain't want a nigga lay in the pussy. I

1128
01:03:33,200 --> 01:03:36,880
Speaker 1: used to tell my ex, get up, stand up? What

1129
01:03:36,960 --> 01:03:45,320
Speaker 1: are you doing? You gotta do something? Pickups like that ship.

1130
01:03:46,080 --> 01:03:47,320
Speaker 1: I don't know when the last time you've been on

1131
01:03:47,320 --> 01:03:51,600
Speaker 1: a date? Actually day before yesterday? And how was that?

1132
01:03:51,720 --> 01:03:53,160
Speaker 1: And who was that? And how did that go? How

1133
01:03:53,200 --> 01:03:54,760
Speaker 1: did you meet them? Oh?

1134
01:03:56,720 --> 01:03:59,480
Speaker 2: I met them in Miami at a club many many

1135
01:03:59,600 --> 01:04:03,440
Speaker 2: years ago, and they were in town and we hung

1136
01:04:03,520 --> 01:04:04,000
Speaker 2: out and went.

1137
01:04:03,960 --> 01:04:06,080
Speaker 1: And got some food and then we went to a

1138
01:04:06,120 --> 01:04:10,440
Speaker 1: comedy show. So it's a good time. It's a good time. No,

1139
01:04:10,800 --> 01:04:13,600
Speaker 1: you know, nothing to run home back? Okay, nothing to

1140
01:04:13,640 --> 01:04:16,280
Speaker 1: talk about a week? Got it? No, I got it.

1141
01:04:16,800 --> 01:04:19,200
Speaker 1: We all had dating, y'all, But that was when was

1142
01:04:19,240 --> 01:04:24,000
Speaker 1: your last day? Like two weeks ago. I'm a dater though,

1143
01:04:24,520 --> 01:04:26,560
Speaker 1: like I would get you. I like to get dressed pretty,

1144
01:04:26,840 --> 01:04:29,000
Speaker 1: go to nice places and eat good food and talk

1145
01:04:29,160 --> 01:04:32,880
Speaker 1: absolutely so. And I like first dates. But I don't

1146
01:04:33,000 --> 01:04:40,720
Speaker 1: like just having to entertain multiple people like that entertain.

1147
01:04:43,920 --> 01:04:46,000
Speaker 1: I don't feel like you get somebody else to do it, man,

1148
01:04:46,080 --> 01:04:48,120
Speaker 1: I don't feel like it. But how are you gonna

1149
01:04:48,160 --> 01:04:52,320
Speaker 1: know who you're gonna meet that could be yours? I

1150
01:04:52,400 --> 01:04:57,120
Speaker 1: talked to them. I talked to them on the phone. No,

1151
01:04:57,400 --> 01:04:59,880
Speaker 1: I mean you could go out also, But you know,

1152
01:05:00,640 --> 01:05:03,160
Speaker 1: talking on the phone, like communicating, you find out a

1153
01:05:03,240 --> 01:05:06,320
Speaker 1: lot about people. That's all. I'm confused why men, and

1154
01:05:06,440 --> 01:05:10,439
Speaker 1: maybe men need to talk on the phone more, right, Yeah,

1155
01:05:10,560 --> 01:05:13,080
Speaker 1: they be so upset because y'all want to take all

1156
01:05:13,120 --> 01:05:16,200
Speaker 1: these different women on dates, right, and then you're mad

1157
01:05:16,240 --> 01:05:17,520
Speaker 1: when you don't get pussy at the end of the

1158
01:05:17,600 --> 01:05:19,440
Speaker 1: day when you really could just get a prostitute and

1159
01:05:19,560 --> 01:05:22,479
Speaker 1: fuck her, but y'all want regular women to do prostitute shit.

1160
01:05:23,040 --> 01:05:25,520
Speaker 1: And then you get mad when you don't get pussy

1161
01:05:25,800 --> 01:05:27,800
Speaker 1: at the end of all these five dates. You took

1162
01:05:27,880 --> 01:05:30,440
Speaker 1: five different bitches out, find you somebody who actually likes

1163
01:05:30,480 --> 01:05:34,520
Speaker 1: you and d yeah, and then take them off exactly

1164
01:05:34,640 --> 01:05:38,280
Speaker 1: and you got guaranteed pussy. That's how that works. Use discernment,

1165
01:05:38,680 --> 01:05:41,840
Speaker 1: have conversations like stop just trying to get a bitch

1166
01:05:41,880 --> 01:05:43,160
Speaker 1: out the house. So you can get them back in

1167
01:05:43,240 --> 01:05:45,320
Speaker 1: the house so you can fuck. I don't feel like

1168
01:05:45,440 --> 01:05:47,640
Speaker 1: guys like I'm going out on dates and I don't

1169
01:05:47,640 --> 01:05:49,520
Speaker 1: feel like they be thinking that they can fuck because

1170
01:05:49,560 --> 01:05:52,200
Speaker 1: maybe those guys are dating you with intention? Do you

1171
01:05:52,280 --> 01:05:55,200
Speaker 1: see what I'm saying? Just you, though there's somebody else

1172
01:05:55,280 --> 01:05:59,840
Speaker 1: that they're not dating with attention. You're like, all right now,

1173
01:06:00,080 --> 01:06:05,440
Speaker 1: hear it? Like they don't got the right to sit

1174
01:06:05,480 --> 01:06:10,720
Speaker 1: on the pussy. I don't know. Goodness, all right, well,

1175
01:06:10,800 --> 01:06:16,200
Speaker 1: this is fun. You can't end the damn show like that.

1176
01:06:17,280 --> 01:06:24,600
Speaker 1: I got, y'all this girl, crazy man. Listen and listen. Okay,

1177
01:06:24,800 --> 01:06:26,480
Speaker 1: let me stop calling you stupid bitch because I don't

1178
01:06:26,480 --> 01:06:31,680
Speaker 1: want nobody confuse me. No, No, they don't, girl, they don't.

1179
01:06:31,800 --> 01:06:34,240
Speaker 1: I've been reading y'all comments, and I want to reiterate

1180
01:06:34,320 --> 01:06:38,960
Speaker 1: this again. Fuck y'all. Anyway, what's up? All right? If

1181
01:06:38,960 --> 01:06:41,080
Speaker 1: you enjoyed this episode, tune in every Thursday on the

1182
01:06:41,120 --> 01:06:42,920
Speaker 1: iHeart Radio app and wherever the fuck you get your

1183
01:06:43,000 --> 01:06:48,240
Speaker 1: podcast at this Joe calls a j holiday two point Oh, y'all,

1184
01:06:48,240 --> 01:06:51,240
Speaker 1: it's me Tam. I love y'all. Once again, Remember to

1185
01:06:51,320 --> 01:06:54,640
Speaker 1: speak now and never hold your peace. This is