Speaker 1: Second d I think the key to dating is you
Speaker 1: have to bring a little energy and excitement to the night. Okay, yeah,
Speaker 1: boring night, right. You don't want to come across as
Speaker 1: being boring and be willing to take a few risks. Okay.
Speaker 1: That's why whenever I go out on dates, when I'm
Speaker 1: with them, I always close my eyes behind the wheel
Speaker 1: for ten to twenty seconds. It's just enough risk to
Speaker 1: let my date know that if she sticks with me
Speaker 1: in her life, things will never be boring. I thought
Speaker 1: you're gonna say she would die. But whatever, it's exciting,
Speaker 1: isn't it? You know? Okay, it's the same mentality that
Speaker 1: one of our listeners, Sawyer brought to his date. He
Speaker 1: says he took a few risks and he's not sure
Speaker 1: if maybe they were a little bit too much goodness.
Speaker 1: Let's find out, Sawyer, how you doing? Hey, I'm hanging
Speaker 1: in there. How you doing? You didn't like risk anyone's life,
Speaker 1: did you? No? No? Not on this date? He pulled
Speaker 1: it back for this one. So what's the name of
Speaker 1: the girl you want us to call to day? Arianna?
Speaker 1: I know, yeah, Jose has got a big crush on
Speaker 1: Ariana Gridae, who doesn't come on. How did you meet
Speaker 1: Ariana classic these days? Met on a dating app? Okay?
Speaker 1: And how was that? I mean, like you hit her
Speaker 1: up first, and you guys talked about what I did?
Speaker 1: I did? I? Um, I hit her up first. I
Speaker 1: said I was looking for Ariana Grande but ended up
Speaker 1: with Arianna vent Here. Oh, because she's even bigger. I
Speaker 1: don't know if that's it, not like physically bigger, just
Speaker 1: you know physically too. Arianna is tiny. It's true. Just
Speaker 1: you made like an upgrade from Ariana Grande. That's what
Speaker 1: I meant. And I'm pretty sure she took it that way.
Speaker 1: I mean, she kept talking to me, so okay, you're
Speaker 1: like a big goal all the time. Yeah, but it worked?
Speaker 1: Did it work? I mean you it on a date? Right? Yeah?
Speaker 1: We did, but it almost didn't happen, you know, yeah.
Speaker 1: I mean she said she was about to delete the app,
Speaker 1: is what I mean. We all delete the app, but
Speaker 1: then you're always back on. But it's like, you know,
Speaker 1: out of what frustration frustration you're always deleted Monday through Friday,
Speaker 1: uploaded again Friday. I have two drinks on Saturday. I
Speaker 1: am So, what did you guys do for your date. Well,
Speaker 1: I wanted to show her that I was that quality guy,
Speaker 1: and so I booked a nice restaurant. That's good. And
Speaker 1: so you're I mean, you're going into this knowing that
Speaker 1: you're looking more for a relationship, not for just like
Speaker 1: Netflix and Chill, I am looking for a relationship. And regardless,
Speaker 1: she is very attractive. Okay, if so both things, both
Speaker 1: things could exist. So how did things go at the restaurant?
Speaker 1: I mean, you started off pretty well. You know, I'm
Speaker 1: a little nervous, but we decided, hey, why don't we
Speaker 1: share a fact about each other that wasn't on the
Speaker 1: on the dating app. So she says her biological father
Speaker 1: is actually a sperm donor. Yeah, that's interesting, some good
Speaker 1: dinner conversation right there. Yeah. So I just I didn't
Speaker 1: know what to say. I'm just nervous. So I made
Speaker 1: a joke and I don't know if it went over well, yeah,
Speaker 1: because that could be a sensitive topic. You know, Well,
Speaker 1: what was the joke? I said, Well, that probably increases
Speaker 1: your chance of incest. Oh yeah, that would fall flat. No,
Speaker 1: I saw that in the Chris Rock special. No, how
Speaker 1: did you respond to that? Well, she didn't know what
Speaker 1: to say, so I then came back and I said,
Speaker 1: is what I would have said if I wasn't one
Speaker 1: of those quality guys. Yeah, one of those losers that
Speaker 1: you dated on the app of the past. But luckily
Speaker 1: I never would say something like that. I think that's
Speaker 1: a good say. Yeah I shifted. Yeah. Is that the
Speaker 1: risk that you were talking about in your email? The
Speaker 1: risk that you took? Yeah, okay, that was the risk. Okay,
Speaker 1: Luckily that paid off. I think. Yeah. How was the
Speaker 1: momentum after that? I mean she laughed and we carried
Speaker 1: on and then okay, after that, it was a nice
Speaker 1: walk and at the end we shared like a really
Speaker 1: nice kiss. Oh really, what made it really nice? You know?
Speaker 1: I mean when one feels right and one doesn't feel right.
Speaker 1: Just standing there right in front of that donation clinic,
Speaker 1: it just felt right. I think. All right, so how
Speaker 1: did so how did the night end? After the kiss?
Speaker 1: Was that? It? I mean, yeah, it was it was
Speaker 1: great walk her to her car and it was you know,
Speaker 1: I figured we'd see each other and then in a
Speaker 1: couple of weeks and since then she's getting back to me.
Speaker 1: But like, the energy isn't what it was, But that
Speaker 1: just seems so weird because she was going to like
Speaker 1: delete the app because she was sick of playing games,
Speaker 1: and then it seemed like you're not doing that. Yeah,
Speaker 1: was there anything from the night that you feel like
Speaker 1: might have gone wrong and could be the reason that
Speaker 1: she's happening besides the incest joke? Well, do you know
Speaker 1: anything worse than that? I'm just thinking, like, you know,
Speaker 1: did she find another nice guy on the app? And
Speaker 1: you know what's going on? Soay, she's an attractive girl
Speaker 1: on a dating app. Their dns are probably blown up. Well,
Speaker 1: I don't know. We'll play a song, we'll come back,
Speaker 1: we'll call Ariana for you, and we'll try and get
Speaker 1: your second date update. Okay, okay, all right, hold on second.
Speaker 1: Usually when I'm on a date and somebody drops an
Speaker 1: incest joke, my shirt immediately comes on and I'm already
Speaker 1: planning our second and third dates right after. Are those
Speaker 1: dates with your sister or it's with whoever? Okay? This
Speaker 1: incests really gets me going. But that wasn't the case
Speaker 1: with one of our listeners, Sawyer Weird, who said he
Speaker 1: took a risk at dinner and made a joke about
Speaker 1: his date's biological dad being a sperm donor and the
Speaker 1: possibility of her hooking up with a half brother somewhere
Speaker 1: down the road, and now mysteriously Sawyer's not getting a
Speaker 1: call back. Weird. I mean, we say that, but I
Speaker 1: don't actually think that that's it. Yes, see, I think
Speaker 1: it's her fault. You shouldn't tell a fact like that's
Speaker 1: a weird fact. It is a weird fact. What do
Speaker 1: you expect people to say. I don't know if anybody
Speaker 1: else in the rooms thought of this, but what if
Speaker 1: she did some research after the date and found out
Speaker 1: Sawyer that you two are actually biologically related? Just saying
Speaker 1: we've heard stranger things happen on this show. Was your
Speaker 1: dad ever a donor? Not that I know of. If
Speaker 1: it was the case, are you still open for a
Speaker 1: second date? You know, I think i'd be a hard pass.
Speaker 1: I know he did. I heard it. Well, let's find
Speaker 1: out for sure. We're going to call Arianna right now.
Speaker 1: You're ready to do this, Yeah, let's do it. Okay,
Speaker 1: here we go. Hi. This is Arianna. Oh, Hi Arianna,
Speaker 1: This is Jeffrey from the radio show Brook and Jeffrey
Speaker 1: in the Morning. I was hoping you have a second day. Hi,
Speaker 1: I was hoping you have a second to talk with us? Wait,
Speaker 1: what can I help you with? We do a segment
Speaker 1: on our show. I don't know if you've heard of
Speaker 1: it before. It's called a second date update. Okay, okay.
Speaker 1: It's where if you go out on a date with
Speaker 1: someone and afterwards, if that person isn't calling you back,
Speaker 1: you can email us and we'll reach out to them
Speaker 1: for you to try and figure out the reason why
Speaker 1: they're ghosting. So why are you calling me? Well, because
Speaker 1: you went out with a guy recently and you've been
Speaker 1: kind of avoiding him lately. He wants to know the
Speaker 1: reason why. His name is Sawyer. Oh okay, okay, that
Speaker 1: was a positive. I felt like it. Yeah. Did you
Speaker 1: have a good time with h Yeah, we had a
Speaker 1: nice time. She's like, yeah, yeah, that's awesome. Yeah. He
Speaker 1: feels like you've been kind of hard to get a
Speaker 1: hold of lately, and he's not sure. Why is he
Speaker 1: reading that wrong? Yeah, I mean we we text and stuff.
Speaker 1: I mean I'm going to be in touch with him.
Speaker 1: I like him. He said, you text him, But he
Speaker 1: says it's not like before, Like now, it's very sparingly
Speaker 1: and it doesn't seem like you're that into it? Um,
Speaker 1: could you just tell him like, I'll be in touch,
Speaker 1: you know, in a couple of weeks, weeks and not
Speaker 1: to worry. And well, we can't tell him that, but
Speaker 1: it would be nice if there was a reason to
Speaker 1: go along with it, Like why should he wait a
Speaker 1: few weeks? Is there a reason? Um? Well, are you
Speaker 1: dating someone else? No? No, actually I'm not. Okay, okay,
Speaker 1: can you tell us something that we could pass along
Speaker 1: to Sawyer to help him understand because he's really confused
Speaker 1: after what he described as a really great date. I mean,
Speaker 1: he says, you, guys, this kiss was amazing, that it
Speaker 1: was pretty good. Yeah, okay, yeah, it does sound like
Speaker 1: you're into him. And I know for a fact that
Speaker 1: he likes you. So what's the problem. Okay, I just
Speaker 1: need to wait until after Valentine's Day? Oh no, why
Speaker 1: do you already have a date planned or something for
Speaker 1: Valentine's Day? No? All right, I know this sounds crazy.
Speaker 1: Give me my favorite kind. Okay, So I've done the mask,
Speaker 1: and with my schedule, like with work and everything and
Speaker 1: family and stuff, there's no way that he and I
Speaker 1: are going to be able to go on like more
Speaker 1: than three days before Valentine's Day? Okay, what's all with that?
Speaker 1: I feel like if we go out before Valentine's Day,
Speaker 1: then he's going to feel obligated to buy me a gift,
Speaker 1: and then that's going to creep me out because it's
Speaker 1: too soon to buy me a gift. Oh, I kind
Speaker 1: of understand this. So because you can only get three
Speaker 1: dates in before Valentine's Day, he would buy you a
Speaker 1: gift and you wouldn't like that. I know myself, I'll
Speaker 1: freak out. I'll be like, oh so clinging, I'm gone,
Speaker 1: and then I'm gonna and I'm gonna sabotage this thing
Speaker 1: before it even started, I will say. I mean, you
Speaker 1: gotta look at it, though, Like three dates before Valentine's Day,
Speaker 1: then suddenly that like you're not in a relationship, but
Speaker 1: you're not not in a relationship. You're like, as a
Speaker 1: man is buying you something for free, will you take it? Yes?
Speaker 1: Even if it was something that was really simple like flowers,
Speaker 1: that would creep you out. I don't know. It just
Speaker 1: it happened once in the past before and it just
Speaker 1: didn't work out. And I feel like if we just
Speaker 1: wait so afterwards, everything I'll be fine and we can
Speaker 1: take things slow and it'll be more organic and Okay,
Speaker 1: so you just want to take Valentine's Day out of
Speaker 1: the equation. So you're not going to call him until
Speaker 1: after February fourteenth? Yeah, I mean, come on, it's not
Speaker 1: that far away. Happy. I just okay, I mean, it
Speaker 1: would just be so much better if that's how you feel, like,
Speaker 1: I guess that's how you feel. But what do you
Speaker 1: want us to tell him? I don't know, tell him
Speaker 1: I'm out of town or something. You know. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: can't really tell him that because you kind of already did.
Speaker 1: You should know. Sawyers on the other line listening, and
Speaker 1: he heard everything that you just said. What, Hello, happy
Speaker 1: early Valentine's Day? Oh my god, are you guys serious
Speaker 1: right now? Yeah? How's it going? Hi? Far? Hi? Oh
Speaker 1: my god. I would imagine Ariana right now if you
Speaker 1: felt a Valentine's Day gift was creepy, that this might
Speaker 1: be a little much for you. Uh yeah, yeah, think Wow.
Speaker 1: I don't know what to say. I mean, I just look,
Speaker 1: I gotta be honest, like I would have I have
Speaker 1: played this over in my head one hundred time. I
Speaker 1: would never have thought this would have been the issue
Speaker 1: getting you a gift. I have an idea. What if
Speaker 1: we just don't get each other presence for Valentine's Day
Speaker 1: and we just say, hey, it's just another day out there.
Speaker 1: Why don't we just you know, you're saying, still go
Speaker 1: on dates before then, but agree to not give each
Speaker 1: other gifts. Totally no pressure, that's just hey, with another day. Okay,
Speaker 1: you may be the only girl that doesn't want a
Speaker 1: gift on Valentine's Yeah, now, are honest thinking, Oh, but
Speaker 1: that's going to set a precedent for the rest of
Speaker 1: our relationship. That mean we'll always skip Valentine's Day. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's not like I never want to gift. I just
Speaker 1: don't want to gift this soon. But I also feel
Speaker 1: like it's weird now because now you know, we've talked
Speaker 1: about it, so now it's kind of like the elephant
Speaker 1: in the room, you know. But maybe it's better. It's
Speaker 1: always good to have an open line of communication with
Speaker 1: somebody you're dating. And I mean, we ripped the awkward
Speaker 1: band aid off for you too. I just wish we
Speaker 1: could just wait until after. But I heard it and
Speaker 1: I got witnesses. You said you liked me you've been
Speaker 1: caught down there somewhere we're recording this. Yeah, no, I
Speaker 1: never said I didn't. No, I like you. I just
Speaker 1: want to wait. I just wanted to be normal. I
Speaker 1: feel like it's weird. I think you're overthinking. Yeah. Yeah,
Speaker 1: now it's weird if he buys you a gift, and
Speaker 1: it's also weird if he doesn't buy you a gift.
Speaker 1: What's the middle ground there? Well, I didn't think I
Speaker 1: was going to be on the radio. I just thought
Speaker 1: we would text for a few weeks and then I
Speaker 1: would work itself out. It sounds like you really want
Speaker 1: relationships to organically happen and you want to go with
Speaker 1: the flow, but you were very much over analyzing all
Speaker 1: of this. Yeah, I mean, Sawyer likes you, bottom line,
Speaker 1: and he's darling. I don't know. I'm a quality guy,
Speaker 1: and come on, you saw that on the first day.
Speaker 1: I've made you laugh. Why I put this in between us.
Speaker 1: Let's just you know, I found something I like. Usually
Speaker 1: in life I go for that, So I'm he's the
Speaker 1: type of guy that can actually tell a good incests joke,
Speaker 1: flip away, no matter what. Holidays on the horizon. That's why. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I know unless it's Siblings Day and that might be
Speaker 1: a weird one to do it on. But you know,
Speaker 1: he's lucky. I liked him because I let that joke
Speaker 1: slide come. If you were talking to your best friend
Speaker 1: right now, she would tell you to take the second date. Yeah,
Speaker 1: she would tell you you're being crazy. In fact, we
Speaker 1: will pay for that second date, Ariana, if you're willing
Speaker 1: to go out with Sawyer one more time? What do
Speaker 1: you say? What if we did it? I'm like, February fifteenth, No,
Speaker 1: just go on the date. Compromise. I mean, yeah, like,
Speaker 1: we will offer to pay for a day after Valentine's
Speaker 1: if that's what makes you feel the most comfortable. That's
Speaker 1: all I'm asking. It would be perfect, Sawyer. What do
Speaker 1: you think? Are you willing to wait until after Valentine's
Speaker 1: Day to see her one more time? Yeah? I mean listen,
Speaker 1: Oh wait, because I like you, but I'm not going
Speaker 1: to stop texting you, and it's not gonna make me
Speaker 1: stop trying. Just so you know, so you better be strong. Yeah,
Speaker 1: well you can totally text. I mean maybe even FaceTime.
Speaker 1: That was a little flirty. I don't know, guy, it
Speaker 1: sounds like you're getting a little too clingy. Alright, alright, guys,
Speaker 1: let's do it or putting on the books, Valentine's Day
Speaker 1: FaceTime Yes, that's right in the middle, and Jeffrey in
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