1 00:00:17,320 --> 00:00:20,200 Speaker 1: Hey everyone, Emily and body here you are listening to 2 00:00:20,600 --> 00:00:25,920 Speaker 1: five minute Friday Unhurdle. I'm so happy to be home 3 00:00:25,960 --> 00:00:29,600 Speaker 1: in Brooklyn. Two weeks of work travel, a little bit 4 00:00:29,640 --> 00:00:33,720 Speaker 1: of personal mixed in there, and to say that I 5 00:00:33,760 --> 00:00:37,720 Speaker 1: have missed my space as an understatement, although lots of 6 00:00:37,760 --> 00:00:42,519 Speaker 1: good things to be grateful for while over on the 7 00:00:42,520 --> 00:00:46,400 Speaker 1: West Coast, I, like many of you, am feeling really 8 00:00:46,440 --> 00:00:52,400 Speaker 1: frustrated and a little all over the place lately. I 9 00:00:52,440 --> 00:00:55,000 Speaker 1: know that so many of you come here for inspiration 10 00:00:55,080 --> 00:01:00,200 Speaker 1: and motivation, and you want the tips and tricks to 11 00:01:00,280 --> 00:01:03,960 Speaker 1: live a healthier and happier, more motivated life, and I 12 00:01:04,120 --> 00:01:07,200 Speaker 1: love giving you those things. But I would be remiss 13 00:01:07,240 --> 00:01:11,800 Speaker 1: if I didn't just say that I am tired. I 14 00:01:11,840 --> 00:01:18,280 Speaker 1: am tired. I'm tired of opening my phone and being 15 00:01:18,319 --> 00:01:24,080 Speaker 1: inundated with sadness and frustration. I am tired of feeling 16 00:01:24,800 --> 00:01:29,360 Speaker 1: like everyone is so divided. I hate what is going 17 00:01:29,400 --> 00:01:33,320 Speaker 1: on in Minnesota, and I hate seeing so much hurt, 18 00:01:33,440 --> 00:01:37,000 Speaker 1: and like many of you, I am sure I don't 19 00:01:37,040 --> 00:01:43,800 Speaker 1: want to see that anymore. With that said, I also 20 00:01:44,000 --> 00:01:50,600 Speaker 1: have some hope. And I have hope because I choose hope. 21 00:01:50,920 --> 00:01:53,720 Speaker 1: That is something that I've been coming back to a 22 00:01:53,760 --> 00:01:58,520 Speaker 1: lot lately that I have this opportunity, like Megan said 23 00:01:58,680 --> 00:02:02,800 Speaker 1: in Monday's episode, to make a choice of how a 24 00:02:02,920 --> 00:02:08,840 Speaker 1: life changing event changes me. It might not always feel easy, 25 00:02:09,080 --> 00:02:12,760 Speaker 1: And like Megan said, emotions live at first in the 26 00:02:12,800 --> 00:02:15,480 Speaker 1: body for about a ninety second period, and then what 27 00:02:15,560 --> 00:02:18,960 Speaker 1: happens is that then our thoughts get into the mix. 28 00:02:19,120 --> 00:02:23,920 Speaker 1: Then we start to storytell, and so each and every 29 00:02:24,040 --> 00:02:26,600 Speaker 1: day lately, I've been doing the best that I can 30 00:02:26,720 --> 00:02:30,560 Speaker 1: to make conscious choices about the stories that I am 31 00:02:30,600 --> 00:02:34,400 Speaker 1: telling myself, about the way that I'm speaking to myself, 32 00:02:34,880 --> 00:02:39,240 Speaker 1: and I'm checking myself because I need it. I am 33 00:02:39,320 --> 00:02:44,440 Speaker 1: checking myself, and I am finding it within me to 34 00:02:44,560 --> 00:02:49,680 Speaker 1: have grace when so much feels beyond my control, rather 35 00:02:49,880 --> 00:02:55,120 Speaker 1: than letting anger and frustration take over me, I am 36 00:02:55,280 --> 00:02:59,880 Speaker 1: asking myself what is within my power to do right now? 37 00:03:00,120 --> 00:03:02,760 Speaker 1: And sometimes we need to do that right Sometimes we 38 00:03:02,880 --> 00:03:07,440 Speaker 1: need to get a little bit micro so that we 39 00:03:08,440 --> 00:03:12,600 Speaker 1: can just keep moving forward. It's funny I say that, 40 00:03:12,680 --> 00:03:14,880 Speaker 1: and I think about how I was hanging out with 41 00:03:14,960 --> 00:03:18,600 Speaker 1: my good friend Beck's gentry this week. She's a Peloton instructor, 42 00:03:18,639 --> 00:03:21,520 Speaker 1: and she often says that forward is a pace, and 43 00:03:21,600 --> 00:03:25,720 Speaker 1: right now that rings so true for me that all 44 00:03:25,760 --> 00:03:28,760 Speaker 1: I can keep doing is moving forward. And it might 45 00:03:28,840 --> 00:03:32,240 Speaker 1: not be at the speed of which I desire. I 46 00:03:32,400 --> 00:03:38,200 Speaker 1: might not be progressing as I would like, but all 47 00:03:38,920 --> 00:03:44,480 Speaker 1: progress is progress. All progress is progress. And so on 48 00:03:44,560 --> 00:03:46,720 Speaker 1: the days where things feel heavy, and on the days 49 00:03:46,760 --> 00:03:49,000 Speaker 1: where I am feeling tired, and on the days where 50 00:03:49,280 --> 00:03:51,240 Speaker 1: I wish that I moved my body like this but 51 00:03:51,360 --> 00:03:55,160 Speaker 1: only had time to do this, and I get angry 52 00:03:55,200 --> 00:04:00,240 Speaker 1: about God knows what I find it within myself to 53 00:04:00,360 --> 00:04:05,760 Speaker 1: first choose grace and second choose myself. And choosing myself 54 00:04:05,840 --> 00:04:12,040 Speaker 1: looks like being kind, it looks like slowing down, It 55 00:04:12,120 --> 00:04:18,600 Speaker 1: looks like moving forward and recognizing that again forward is 56 00:04:18,839 --> 00:04:22,800 Speaker 1: a pace. And so this week, what I offer to 57 00:04:22,839 --> 00:04:26,120 Speaker 1: you is the encouragement to do a little bit of 58 00:04:26,160 --> 00:04:29,840 Speaker 1: a reset. This is something that I do, yes every 59 00:04:29,839 --> 00:04:31,840 Speaker 1: time that I come back from traveling, but also when 60 00:04:31,880 --> 00:04:34,839 Speaker 1: I'm just feeling really overwhelmed, and it's a set of 61 00:04:34,880 --> 00:04:37,359 Speaker 1: intentional things that make me feel like a better me. 62 00:04:38,279 --> 00:04:42,440 Speaker 1: It starts with moving my body. I then buy myself 63 00:04:42,480 --> 00:04:47,320 Speaker 1: something nourishing. Ideally that's a grocery trip. I talk to 64 00:04:47,360 --> 00:04:50,160 Speaker 1: someone that cares about me, that I have no doubt 65 00:04:50,200 --> 00:04:54,480 Speaker 1: about a good friend, a family member. And then I 66 00:04:54,560 --> 00:04:58,160 Speaker 1: sit down and I unplug, and I take some time 67 00:04:58,200 --> 00:05:02,479 Speaker 1: for myself, whether that's reading or writing or painting. I 68 00:05:02,560 --> 00:05:05,160 Speaker 1: recently bought a paint by Numbers that makes me very happy. 69 00:05:06,160 --> 00:05:09,479 Speaker 1: I do something that allows me to come back to calm, 70 00:05:09,480 --> 00:05:14,200 Speaker 1: that allows me to truly reset, and each and every 71 00:05:14,240 --> 00:05:17,479 Speaker 1: time I am so much better for it. Again, my 72 00:05:17,560 --> 00:05:20,479 Speaker 1: prompt for you is, can you do your own little reset? 73 00:05:21,200 --> 00:05:23,440 Speaker 1: I'm curious to know what the components are of that 74 00:05:23,600 --> 00:05:25,880 Speaker 1: for you, and I would love for you to tag 75 00:05:25,960 --> 00:05:32,200 Speaker 1: me in those resets over on social And now a 76 00:05:32,279 --> 00:05:36,560 Speaker 1: listener question. Hey, Emily, saw your post today about the 77 00:05:36,600 --> 00:05:39,440 Speaker 1: feeling that stays after a no. I just got a 78 00:05:39,480 --> 00:05:42,520 Speaker 1: note today that has shifted energy of mine All day. 79 00:05:42,880 --> 00:05:45,800 Speaker 1: My head is in between rejection is redirection? And am 80 00:05:45,880 --> 00:05:49,400 Speaker 1: I really good at this? Even with receiving compliments this afternoon, 81 00:05:49,480 --> 00:05:52,080 Speaker 1: it feels like it's not enough to shake this feeling off. 82 00:05:52,480 --> 00:05:54,560 Speaker 1: I guess it's showing me how much I wanted it. 83 00:05:54,680 --> 00:05:58,360 Speaker 1: Any tips on differentiating a redirection to something completely different 84 00:05:58,960 --> 00:06:02,440 Speaker 1: or to just try a different and path there? Thanks Jessica, 85 00:06:03,360 --> 00:06:06,360 Speaker 1: so This is a loaded question and a good question, 86 00:06:06,400 --> 00:06:08,799 Speaker 1: and one that I talked a lot about last week 87 00:06:08,920 --> 00:06:12,520 Speaker 1: on five Minute Friday. The resounding advice I will give 88 00:06:12,600 --> 00:06:15,560 Speaker 1: here is that when something doesn't work out for you, 89 00:06:15,720 --> 00:06:18,040 Speaker 1: it's because something better is coming in its place. And 90 00:06:18,120 --> 00:06:20,560 Speaker 1: I can promise you that I know it sounds a 91 00:06:20,560 --> 00:06:23,359 Speaker 1: little woo woo, but every time that I have gotten 92 00:06:23,400 --> 00:06:27,320 Speaker 1: to this point where I am frustrated and there are 93 00:06:27,360 --> 00:06:29,760 Speaker 1: tears and I am angry, those are the same word, 94 00:06:29,800 --> 00:06:32,960 Speaker 1: but you get what I'm saying, Eventually life shows up 95 00:06:32,960 --> 00:06:35,040 Speaker 1: for me in a way that maybe I didn't expect. 96 00:06:35,480 --> 00:06:39,040 Speaker 1: And it's always been better than I anticipated. And so 97 00:06:39,440 --> 00:06:43,599 Speaker 1: right now, in the moments where you're feeling angry, you're 98 00:06:43,640 --> 00:06:47,560 Speaker 1: feeling beside yourself, I encourage you to ask yourself, do 99 00:06:47,600 --> 00:06:50,720 Speaker 1: I have any evidence that it can't get better? Because 100 00:06:50,720 --> 00:06:53,880 Speaker 1: more often than not, the answer to that is no, 101 00:06:54,560 --> 00:06:57,680 Speaker 1: I don't. More than eighty percent of our thoughts on 102 00:06:57,720 --> 00:07:00,000 Speaker 1: any given day, the science says are negative. It is 103 00:07:00,160 --> 00:07:05,080 Speaker 1: human inclination to have a negative bias. But what if 104 00:07:05,600 --> 00:07:08,560 Speaker 1: you started to train your brain, you started to be 105 00:07:08,760 --> 00:07:13,640 Speaker 1: very intentional about looking for the good. What if it 106 00:07:13,760 --> 00:07:16,720 Speaker 1: is better than you imagined? Another piece of advice when 107 00:07:16,720 --> 00:07:19,840 Speaker 1: I'm feeling frustrated is I make it a point to 108 00:07:20,120 --> 00:07:24,240 Speaker 1: allow myself to feel that frustration before moving forward into 109 00:07:24,320 --> 00:07:26,640 Speaker 1: this what if this is the best thing that could 110 00:07:26,680 --> 00:07:29,240 Speaker 1: happen to me mode, because you don't work hard for 111 00:07:29,280 --> 00:07:32,360 Speaker 1: things not to go as you had hoped. Allow for that, 112 00:07:33,040 --> 00:07:38,400 Speaker 1: and then choose what happens next. Choose yourself by opening 113 00:07:38,440 --> 00:07:41,080 Speaker 1: yourself up to the possibility that it can get better, 114 00:07:41,480 --> 00:07:44,760 Speaker 1: and I promise you that it will. Make sure you're 115 00:07:44,760 --> 00:07:48,280 Speaker 1: following along over at Emily body Over at Hurdle podcast 116 00:07:48,360 --> 00:07:52,880 Speaker 1: on social another Hurdle conquered. Catch you guys next time.