1 00:00:19,239 --> 00:00:21,680 Speaker 1: Hello, everyone, it's your girl Cheeky's and you've reached the 2 00:00:21,720 --> 00:00:24,320 Speaker 1: voicemail box for Dear Cheeky's. I'm here to give you 3 00:00:24,400 --> 00:00:27,440 Speaker 1: advice on anything and everything you need help with. Maybe 4 00:00:27,440 --> 00:00:29,600 Speaker 1: you're going through a breakup, maybe you're having issues with 5 00:00:29,640 --> 00:00:32,279 Speaker 1: your family, or maybe you need help figuring out how 6 00:00:32,320 --> 00:00:34,720 Speaker 1: to balance your checkbook or how to start a business, 7 00:00:34,840 --> 00:00:38,120 Speaker 1: whatever the cases, I want to hear from you. Remember 8 00:00:38,240 --> 00:00:40,599 Speaker 1: these are my thoughts and opinions. And if you're suffering 9 00:00:40,600 --> 00:00:42,760 Speaker 1: from an issue or hardship, you should seek help from 10 00:00:42,760 --> 00:00:45,760 Speaker 1: a qualified professional. All right, Now, go ahead and leave 11 00:00:45,800 --> 00:00:47,120 Speaker 1: your question at the sound of the beat. 12 00:00:48,960 --> 00:00:52,360 Speaker 2: Hi, Cheeky's. I hope you're doing good. I've been a 13 00:00:52,440 --> 00:00:55,080 Speaker 2: very big fan of your mom, and my daughter is 14 00:00:55,400 --> 00:00:57,840 Speaker 2: now a big fan of yours, and our lives have 15 00:00:58,160 --> 00:01:01,160 Speaker 2: kind of like been very similar a single mom, and 16 00:01:01,320 --> 00:01:04,240 Speaker 2: I've had to raise my children being you know, the 17 00:01:04,720 --> 00:01:09,000 Speaker 2: alpha female and being dominant and making decisions. And I'm 18 00:01:09,080 --> 00:01:12,600 Speaker 2: kind of in fear that this position that I'm in 19 00:01:13,280 --> 00:01:17,520 Speaker 2: is putting it as an illemplo, you know, to my daughter. 20 00:01:17,880 --> 00:01:21,200 Speaker 2: But I'm in fear that I'm kind of instilling so 21 00:01:21,319 --> 00:01:24,120 Speaker 2: much power into her that I'm scared that she's not 22 00:01:24,240 --> 00:01:27,160 Speaker 2: going to be in her gentle era. Like her viewpoints 23 00:01:27,200 --> 00:01:29,160 Speaker 2: as a female is that you got to be an 24 00:01:29,200 --> 00:01:32,120 Speaker 2: alpha female, and I'm kind of in fear with that. 25 00:01:32,240 --> 00:01:34,440 Speaker 2: And I guess my question to you is you grew 26 00:01:34,560 --> 00:01:38,360 Speaker 2: up with an alpha female and how you've managed that 27 00:01:38,680 --> 00:01:41,760 Speaker 2: so that it doesn't affect you with your relationships? And 28 00:01:41,800 --> 00:01:44,039 Speaker 2: what can I expect and what I should do for 29 00:01:44,160 --> 00:01:46,680 Speaker 2: my daughter so that I can give her the opportunity, 30 00:01:46,720 --> 00:01:50,200 Speaker 2: you know, to live life and love and find love 31 00:01:50,280 --> 00:01:53,440 Speaker 2: and allow a man to lead, because I know what 32 00:01:53,560 --> 00:01:56,480 Speaker 2: single parents we kind of take that role differently, but 33 00:01:56,560 --> 00:01:58,680 Speaker 2: I like my daughter to be able to allow somebody 34 00:01:58,760 --> 00:01:59,559 Speaker 2: to love her that way. 35 00:02:02,360 --> 00:02:05,840 Speaker 1: Bianca, this is an amazing question. This is a great question. 36 00:02:06,360 --> 00:02:09,760 Speaker 1: It definitely was born to an alpha woman and raised 37 00:02:09,760 --> 00:02:13,880 Speaker 1: by her, so it was very difficult for me to 38 00:02:14,000 --> 00:02:18,359 Speaker 1: find the balance. Balance is everything in life. I talk 39 00:02:18,400 --> 00:02:21,520 Speaker 1: about it all the time on the podcast because that's 40 00:02:21,600 --> 00:02:25,680 Speaker 1: what has helped me live a more peaceful life, a 41 00:02:25,760 --> 00:02:30,800 Speaker 1: happier life. And my mom was very She was definitely 42 00:02:30,800 --> 00:02:35,880 Speaker 1: a leader, a provider, and it was difficult for her 43 00:02:35,960 --> 00:02:39,480 Speaker 1: to find a man that was also very confident in himself. 44 00:02:39,520 --> 00:02:44,080 Speaker 1: And secure in himself to handle a woman that is 45 00:02:44,120 --> 00:02:46,400 Speaker 1: also a leader. You know what I mean. Right now, 46 00:02:46,400 --> 00:02:48,680 Speaker 1: I'm going to therapy with Emilio because I'm trying to 47 00:02:48,919 --> 00:02:51,960 Speaker 1: still still it's an everyday thing, find that balance and 48 00:02:52,000 --> 00:02:53,960 Speaker 1: allow my man to lead. But he also has to 49 00:02:54,000 --> 00:02:57,280 Speaker 1: step up and be willing to lead and want to 50 00:02:57,320 --> 00:02:59,680 Speaker 1: do that. So right now, that's what we're trying. We're 51 00:02:59,720 --> 00:03:02,960 Speaker 1: navigating through that. So I completely get it. And the 52 00:03:03,000 --> 00:03:05,280 Speaker 1: best advice I can give you is, yes, tell your 53 00:03:05,360 --> 00:03:09,560 Speaker 1: daughter to be a strong woman, to be brave, to 54 00:03:09,639 --> 00:03:12,520 Speaker 1: be courageous, all those amazing things that are going to 55 00:03:12,560 --> 00:03:15,120 Speaker 1: help her through life, regardless whether she's a girl or 56 00:03:15,120 --> 00:03:17,880 Speaker 1: a boy or doesn't matter. We should all have those traits. 57 00:03:18,000 --> 00:03:21,240 Speaker 1: And we're no longer in its saigos where it's the 58 00:03:21,320 --> 00:03:25,880 Speaker 1: woman is quiet and you know, kay, that doesn't exist anymore. 59 00:03:25,960 --> 00:03:28,360 Speaker 1: But we do have to also teach her to be 60 00:03:28,480 --> 00:03:32,600 Speaker 1: soft and to allow her man to lead her. And 61 00:03:32,840 --> 00:03:35,160 Speaker 1: the best way to do that is also picking and 62 00:03:35,240 --> 00:03:38,520 Speaker 1: choosing your battles. I think that's a huge one in 63 00:03:38,560 --> 00:03:41,640 Speaker 1: a relationship. I'm assuming she's she's young. I don't know 64 00:03:41,680 --> 00:03:46,080 Speaker 1: her age, but it's gonna be an everyday thing where 65 00:03:46,360 --> 00:03:49,720 Speaker 1: we really embrace our masculine side as well as our 66 00:03:49,760 --> 00:03:55,400 Speaker 1: feminine side. So it's just being open to being not submissive, 67 00:03:55,600 --> 00:03:59,280 Speaker 1: but to compromising with your partner. You know, It's all balance, 68 00:03:59,400 --> 00:04:01,040 Speaker 1: and that's the best way I can put it, to 69 00:04:01,080 --> 00:04:03,800 Speaker 1: be honest, because unless I have like a specific scenario. 70 00:04:04,360 --> 00:04:06,720 Speaker 1: But I also had to say, Okay, that was my 71 00:04:06,800 --> 00:04:10,040 Speaker 1: mom and I respect her and that's how she ran 72 00:04:10,120 --> 00:04:14,240 Speaker 1: her household and her relationships. But I want to have 73 00:04:14,280 --> 00:04:17,400 Speaker 1: a long lasting relationship. I really want to have a 74 00:04:17,440 --> 00:04:21,480 Speaker 1: successful relationship, and that also takes me stepping back a 75 00:04:21,560 --> 00:04:26,239 Speaker 1: little bit, being okay with my man leading and wanting 76 00:04:26,320 --> 00:04:30,440 Speaker 1: to compromise and find that balance between being too masculine 77 00:04:30,920 --> 00:04:32,640 Speaker 1: or too feminine, you know what I mean. I hope 78 00:04:32,640 --> 00:04:35,040 Speaker 1: that helps because it is a great question and it's 79 00:04:35,040 --> 00:04:37,480 Speaker 1: a very difficult one to answer in a specific way. 80 00:04:37,760 --> 00:04:40,640 Speaker 1: But just remember balance. There's nothing wrong with being soft, 81 00:04:40,839 --> 00:04:42,640 Speaker 1: and I always say this. My mom taught me to 82 00:04:42,640 --> 00:04:45,120 Speaker 1: be hard on the outside, but always with a tender heart. 83 00:04:45,320 --> 00:04:51,160 Speaker 1: So maybe you can tell your daughter that. Okay. Our 84 00:04:51,200 --> 00:04:53,839 Speaker 1: next question comes from an anonymous listener. 85 00:04:53,920 --> 00:05:03,880 Speaker 3: Let's see in bomb so Lem sa Quezon Mohr, Cat 86 00:05:03,880 --> 00:05:10,240 Speaker 3: Miro mucho JOm la manga gastrica or baranombre steps claro 87 00:05:10,440 --> 00:05:19,440 Speaker 3: is a yah yomi research jo yaista i janoosa alguna 88 00:05:19,480 --> 00:05:28,320 Speaker 3: steps Kjenica or Jackie pasado jas como s rear on 89 00:05:28,640 --> 00:05:36,680 Speaker 3: commosa losnos alcante la commer normal stadia and pre up 90 00:05:37,120 --> 00:05:43,680 Speaker 3: is pos the s the claroma po tips tingas mireque 91 00:05:44,000 --> 00:05:49,640 Speaker 3: list is Jackie, the cilantro con arnica uber pronto. 92 00:05:51,240 --> 00:05:59,200 Speaker 1: Presso him support tomar arme to bregunda is the maybe 93 00:05:59,480 --> 00:06:11,640 Speaker 1: cantao contestartnidos armanas amegas persona, la manga e la lomas 94 00:06:11,640 --> 00:06:16,960 Speaker 1: importante is las vita minas por comas star comien dolosufiente 95 00:06:17,480 --> 00:06:25,680 Speaker 1: o comantes citar vitamina sol jero calcium, la multi vitamin 96 00:06:26,040 --> 00:06:33,400 Speaker 1: B twelves as vitaminas elctor mahino almed tomas the chubo 97 00:06:33,480 --> 00:06:49,159 Speaker 1: one ps mast car and pelasua osa sopitas cosas simage 98 00:06:50,320 --> 00:06:59,120 Speaker 1: doctor follow it so not congas cosmago it be and 99 00:06:59,520 --> 00:07:30,559 Speaker 1: two par a the jugos a sopitas comasa super Okay. 100 00:07:32,720 --> 00:07:34,880 Speaker 1: It was when on everyone here, I want to say 101 00:07:34,920 --> 00:07:36,800 Speaker 1: in English, she was just basically saying that she's going 102 00:07:36,840 --> 00:07:39,600 Speaker 1: to get the gastric sleeve, and she was just asking 103 00:07:40,120 --> 00:07:41,960 Speaker 1: what she should do and how long it's going to 104 00:07:42,040 --> 00:07:44,080 Speaker 1: take for her to eat, and what's the most important thing, 105 00:07:44,320 --> 00:07:46,680 Speaker 1: because she knows that my sisters have gotten it, I 106 00:07:46,760 --> 00:07:48,280 Speaker 1: have a few friends or whatnot. So I was just 107 00:07:48,320 --> 00:07:51,200 Speaker 1: telling her that vitamins are super important chowbo ones and 108 00:07:51,400 --> 00:07:53,280 Speaker 1: that she's not gonna be able to eat like solid food. 109 00:07:53,360 --> 00:07:55,520 Speaker 1: She's gonna be pretty frustrated, I think, like the first month. 110 00:07:55,960 --> 00:07:58,280 Speaker 1: So that's basically what I was telling her. Anonymous listener, 111 00:07:58,360 --> 00:08:11,200 Speaker 1: thank you so much much as pregun. Okay, now we're 112 00:08:11,200 --> 00:08:12,800 Speaker 1: going with Marie. 113 00:08:14,200 --> 00:08:16,840 Speaker 4: Hi Chikis. I admire you for the strong woman that 114 00:08:16,960 --> 00:08:19,480 Speaker 4: you have become after everything that you have been through 115 00:08:19,520 --> 00:08:24,320 Speaker 4: from family and drama to friends to toxic relationships. 116 00:08:23,720 --> 00:08:24,200 Speaker 2: In the past. 117 00:08:24,480 --> 00:08:26,720 Speaker 4: Now my question for you, chikis, is there was a 118 00:08:26,760 --> 00:08:28,960 Speaker 4: point in your life where you were married with Lorenzo 119 00:08:29,120 --> 00:08:31,560 Speaker 4: and you had a little war going on with his 120 00:08:31,840 --> 00:08:35,240 Speaker 4: ex wife. How did you overcome that? That's exactly what 121 00:08:35,320 --> 00:08:38,360 Speaker 4: I'm going through. What's your advice. I know at the 122 00:08:38,520 --> 00:08:41,200 Speaker 4: end you and her were talking, which in this case 123 00:08:41,320 --> 00:08:43,839 Speaker 4: is not my case. My husband has moved on with me. 124 00:08:44,400 --> 00:08:47,640 Speaker 4: We have two beautiful daughters. We've been married for eight years. However, 125 00:08:48,400 --> 00:08:51,800 Speaker 4: in this situation, it's the money that's in between. Where 126 00:08:51,800 --> 00:08:54,640 Speaker 4: she wants money left and right, he said, up to date, 127 00:08:54,679 --> 00:08:57,120 Speaker 4: of course, a child support. He has paid her more 128 00:08:57,200 --> 00:09:01,280 Speaker 4: than sixty five grand in almony. Thank god he's done 129 00:09:01,320 --> 00:09:09,360 Speaker 4: with that. You simply cannot better. Pus want a persona. 130 00:09:11,080 --> 00:09:13,760 Speaker 4: We have moved around with our lives, but her shadow 131 00:09:13,920 --> 00:09:17,319 Speaker 4: is following us in our future. How do you overcome that? 132 00:09:17,800 --> 00:09:20,199 Speaker 4: With the advice that you have for me for my 133 00:09:20,360 --> 00:09:26,080 Speaker 4: husband THEO College to Concerto. 134 00:09:26,760 --> 00:09:31,480 Speaker 1: Wow, you guys even having really good questions come in Mari. Look, 135 00:09:31,520 --> 00:09:32,920 Speaker 1: first of all, thank you so much for all those 136 00:09:32,920 --> 00:09:35,440 Speaker 1: beautiful things you said to me. I appreciate it so much. 137 00:09:35,720 --> 00:09:39,280 Speaker 1: And also I get you girl. Oh my gosh, it's very, very, 138 00:09:39,400 --> 00:09:42,120 Speaker 1: very difficult. My mom would say the same thing. Gayness 139 00:09:42,480 --> 00:09:47,160 Speaker 1: thats and I thought, well, I don't know if I 140 00:09:47,240 --> 00:09:48,760 Speaker 1: want kids, so if they have kids, and I don't 141 00:09:48,760 --> 00:09:51,880 Speaker 1: feel the pressure, And now I feel and see the difference, 142 00:09:52,000 --> 00:09:55,440 Speaker 1: you know, because Emo has no kids. But thank goodness, 143 00:09:55,480 --> 00:09:57,520 Speaker 1: you have a great man. That's great to hear. I 144 00:09:57,679 --> 00:09:59,400 Speaker 1: just can't believe that it's been eight years now and 145 00:09:59,520 --> 00:10:02,439 Speaker 1: she's still buggin. She's a bugaboo, and that sucks. That 146 00:10:02,520 --> 00:10:04,720 Speaker 1: means that she's not happy, because if she was happy, 147 00:10:04,800 --> 00:10:07,800 Speaker 1: she wouldn't care that he's moved on and try to 148 00:10:07,840 --> 00:10:10,040 Speaker 1: make his life miserable. So something's going on within her, 149 00:10:10,120 --> 00:10:12,800 Speaker 1: So just understand that. And the good thing is that 150 00:10:13,040 --> 00:10:15,360 Speaker 1: you seem to be a very mature woman. And it's 151 00:10:15,480 --> 00:10:18,920 Speaker 1: very important that we always keep the children in mind, 152 00:10:19,000 --> 00:10:21,640 Speaker 1: you know, because there are children, they have kids, So 153 00:10:22,480 --> 00:10:25,199 Speaker 1: the fact that you're even asking this is means and 154 00:10:25,360 --> 00:10:27,559 Speaker 1: is an indication to me that you are a good person. 155 00:10:27,679 --> 00:10:30,079 Speaker 1: So I think there's nothing really that you can do 156 00:10:30,200 --> 00:10:34,319 Speaker 1: because I always tried with my ex's X and no 157 00:10:34,440 --> 00:10:37,520 Speaker 1: matter what, I try to keep the peace. And thank goodness, 158 00:10:37,559 --> 00:10:38,719 Speaker 1: we got to the point where I think she was 159 00:10:38,800 --> 00:10:40,400 Speaker 1: just a little bit more open and she's like, Okay, 160 00:10:40,440 --> 00:10:44,199 Speaker 1: this girl has good intentions. But it didn't take eight years, 161 00:10:44,280 --> 00:10:45,559 Speaker 1: you know what I mean. It took like, I don't know, 162 00:10:45,640 --> 00:10:48,079 Speaker 1: like maybe two, and it was pretty crazy. But I 163 00:10:48,240 --> 00:10:50,679 Speaker 1: was always very open to having a relationship with her 164 00:10:51,080 --> 00:10:56,120 Speaker 1: because of their daughter, you know, and that's very important, 165 00:10:56,480 --> 00:11:00,599 Speaker 1: and always speak highly of their mother in front of 166 00:11:00,640 --> 00:11:03,240 Speaker 1: the kids, and you know, I'm sure you do, but 167 00:11:03,360 --> 00:11:05,720 Speaker 1: that's all that stuff matters, because then the kids will 168 00:11:05,920 --> 00:11:08,000 Speaker 1: start turning on you and it's just this whole thing. 169 00:11:08,160 --> 00:11:12,199 Speaker 1: But anyways, my advice to you is really just keeping 170 00:11:12,240 --> 00:11:14,280 Speaker 1: the peace between you and your husband and your family 171 00:11:14,480 --> 00:11:18,400 Speaker 1: and not allowing her to come and make you guys argue. 172 00:11:18,520 --> 00:11:21,240 Speaker 1: You know, let her be her and still and always 173 00:11:21,280 --> 00:11:24,199 Speaker 1: stay open to having a relationship with her hopefully in 174 00:11:24,240 --> 00:11:26,960 Speaker 1: the future. Let's pray that she heals and finds someone 175 00:11:27,000 --> 00:11:29,560 Speaker 1: good if she hasn't already, so that she doesn't try 176 00:11:29,640 --> 00:11:33,960 Speaker 1: to make your life miserable. But honestly, it's tough because 177 00:11:34,040 --> 00:11:36,280 Speaker 1: you can't force someone. You can't force someone to want 178 00:11:36,320 --> 00:11:38,959 Speaker 1: to be your friend, to be cool with you. In reality, 179 00:11:39,040 --> 00:11:42,360 Speaker 1: it's something she needs to work through and her thoughts 180 00:11:42,440 --> 00:11:45,120 Speaker 1: and her emotions. There's something that she needs to heal. 181 00:11:45,800 --> 00:11:48,160 Speaker 1: So my best advice is just keep the peace. Girl, 182 00:11:48,360 --> 00:11:52,200 Speaker 1: no tepells. Don't even let her get under your skin. 183 00:11:52,320 --> 00:11:54,839 Speaker 1: I know it's hard, but don't you know you have 184 00:11:54,920 --> 00:11:57,559 Speaker 1: a good man. He did his part, he paid his alimony, 185 00:11:57,559 --> 00:12:00,319 Speaker 1: he's paying child support. Like that's a good man, feel me, 186 00:12:00,440 --> 00:12:03,439 Speaker 1: So take care of that. Focus on your relationship and 187 00:12:04,280 --> 00:12:05,960 Speaker 1: just say, you know what, I'm gonna take a deep breath. 188 00:12:06,000 --> 00:12:07,600 Speaker 1: God is going to heal her. Keep saying that God 189 00:12:07,679 --> 00:12:08,880 Speaker 1: is going to heal her and we're gonna have a 190 00:12:08,920 --> 00:12:11,760 Speaker 1: good relationship. Affirm a girl. I care you, marl okay, 191 00:12:13,640 --> 00:12:17,199 Speaker 1: and I hope the situation resolves because it is very stressful. 192 00:12:17,880 --> 00:12:20,960 Speaker 1: So I'm sending you a big, big, big big hug 193 00:12:21,720 --> 00:12:22,760 Speaker 1: because I feel you, girl. 194 00:12:22,880 --> 00:12:23,439 Speaker 2: I fail you. 195 00:12:28,040 --> 00:12:30,920 Speaker 1: Okay, Guys, So our last question comes from Janet. 196 00:12:31,120 --> 00:12:35,920 Speaker 5: Hi Jeekie's I've been following you for a long, long 197 00:12:36,040 --> 00:12:40,040 Speaker 5: long time. When I saw that I was able to 198 00:12:40,160 --> 00:12:42,760 Speaker 5: leave you a message, I just want to say that 199 00:12:43,760 --> 00:12:47,240 Speaker 5: I want to express a lot of things, but one 200 00:12:47,320 --> 00:12:51,240 Speaker 5: thing I do want to say is that I need 201 00:12:51,440 --> 00:12:56,760 Speaker 5: some guidance of how I can proceed in having my 202 00:12:56,960 --> 00:13:01,959 Speaker 5: children back. The reason being because my baby daddy was 203 00:13:02,080 --> 00:13:06,080 Speaker 5: just waiting for the moment for me to leave the household. 204 00:13:06,760 --> 00:13:10,200 Speaker 5: After that, I wasn't able to come back. He changed 205 00:13:10,280 --> 00:13:13,600 Speaker 5: the doorknobs. I call the police a bunch of times. 206 00:13:13,840 --> 00:13:18,719 Speaker 5: Basically they told me you are calling us too much. 207 00:13:19,520 --> 00:13:22,199 Speaker 5: Is not an emergency in a civil manner. 208 00:13:22,559 --> 00:13:24,000 Speaker 1: So I was basically. 209 00:13:23,760 --> 00:13:27,920 Speaker 5: Homeless and thank God that I still have my parents 210 00:13:28,559 --> 00:13:33,839 Speaker 5: and they took me in, but I'm still fighting to 211 00:13:34,040 --> 00:13:37,920 Speaker 5: have my children back. I don't have enough funds. 212 00:13:38,920 --> 00:13:42,800 Speaker 1: Oh my goodness, Janet, this is a tough one. Oh 213 00:13:43,440 --> 00:13:47,640 Speaker 1: it's a tough one because I mean, an attorney costs money. 214 00:13:47,960 --> 00:13:50,240 Speaker 1: You know, a family attorney. I'm sure there are some 215 00:13:50,480 --> 00:13:54,719 Speaker 1: that work off contingency. Maybe you can sue him in 216 00:13:54,840 --> 00:13:57,920 Speaker 1: some way, and if you're able to get any money 217 00:13:57,960 --> 00:14:00,440 Speaker 1: from him, then that's how From whatever money you from him, 218 00:14:00,440 --> 00:14:02,400 Speaker 1: and say it's ten thousand dollars, the attorney will take 219 00:14:02,440 --> 00:14:05,320 Speaker 1: a certain percentage, so they work for you and won't 220 00:14:05,360 --> 00:14:07,120 Speaker 1: get paid until you get paid, if that makes sense, 221 00:14:07,160 --> 00:14:10,360 Speaker 1: So off contingency. But this is tough, babe, because I 222 00:14:10,400 --> 00:14:13,400 Speaker 1: don't know the situation. I don't have enough details. Because 223 00:14:13,400 --> 00:14:16,760 Speaker 1: if you left the house, then he can state that 224 00:14:16,960 --> 00:14:20,400 Speaker 1: you abandon the household. So that's something I just don't 225 00:14:20,440 --> 00:14:23,280 Speaker 1: know enough details to give you my best advice. But 226 00:14:23,480 --> 00:14:25,680 Speaker 1: for sure I would say an attorney and try to 227 00:14:25,720 --> 00:14:28,720 Speaker 1: find one that will not work for free, but not 228 00:14:28,960 --> 00:14:32,240 Speaker 1: ask for you to pay him upfront, because you do 229 00:14:32,400 --> 00:14:34,760 Speaker 1: need a family attorney, Like that's the best thing you Like, 230 00:14:34,920 --> 00:14:37,280 Speaker 1: there's no other way, even if even the cops can't 231 00:14:37,320 --> 00:14:40,440 Speaker 1: help unless there is some type of abuse or something 232 00:14:40,560 --> 00:14:43,480 Speaker 1: like that. But the good thing is you have a 233 00:14:43,560 --> 00:14:45,160 Speaker 1: roof over your head, your parents are there for you. 234 00:14:45,280 --> 00:14:48,720 Speaker 1: Thank Goodness, and pray your way through this. Do not 235 00:14:48,880 --> 00:14:52,520 Speaker 1: lose hope. If there's any way you can contact your children, 236 00:14:52,640 --> 00:14:54,800 Speaker 1: try in every single way. Write them a letter, I 237 00:14:54,840 --> 00:14:56,320 Speaker 1: don't know, like, leave them a gift in front of 238 00:14:56,360 --> 00:14:58,480 Speaker 1: the house, something so that they know you are trying. 239 00:14:59,360 --> 00:15:01,720 Speaker 1: And take picks and have all that documented so when 240 00:15:01,760 --> 00:15:04,440 Speaker 1: they get old enough they know Mom just didn't abandon us, 241 00:15:04,480 --> 00:15:05,960 Speaker 1: Mom just didn't leave because you don't know what he's 242 00:15:06,000 --> 00:15:08,560 Speaker 1: telling them. So just make sure you do as much 243 00:15:08,600 --> 00:15:11,200 Speaker 1: as you can and document it all so that they 244 00:15:11,280 --> 00:15:14,200 Speaker 1: know that you were trying. And I'm praying for you, 245 00:15:14,560 --> 00:15:16,560 Speaker 1: I really am. And I wish I had better advice 246 00:15:16,680 --> 00:15:19,160 Speaker 1: because the truth is this is this one's tough, especially 247 00:15:19,160 --> 00:15:20,600 Speaker 1: if I don't have a lot of details. But I 248 00:15:20,680 --> 00:15:23,720 Speaker 1: am wishing you the best, babe, And pray, pray, pray, pray, pray. 249 00:15:23,920 --> 00:15:28,680 Speaker 1: Do not know that's keep praying. Prayer moves mountains. Faith 250 00:15:28,760 --> 00:15:31,680 Speaker 1: moves mountains. So I'm with you. I'm with you in prayer. Okay, 251 00:15:31,800 --> 00:15:34,560 Speaker 1: I hope everything works out. Okay, guys, that's the end 252 00:15:34,560 --> 00:15:36,800 Speaker 1: of the episode. I really hoped I was able to 253 00:15:36,840 --> 00:15:38,720 Speaker 1: help you guys. 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