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Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with and Tanya rap An iHeartRadio podcast.

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Speaker 2: Hello, everybody, we are scrubbing in.

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Speaker 1: Scrub dub dumb.

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Speaker 2: I'm not in a very good mood today. Wow, Like

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Speaker 2: I the period feels near.

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Speaker 1: You still have gotten it?

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Speaker 2: No, I'm always like, I'm not like right on the dot.

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Speaker 2: We can't start every conversation about my period. But yeah,

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Speaker 2: that's that's a little bit about me.

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Speaker 1: So you're in a bad mood, a good mood.

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Speaker 3: I'm not in a bad mood. I'm just kinda like, e.

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Speaker 1: Well, I'm coming too.

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Speaker 3: That's not good. You can't be when I'm and I

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Speaker 3: already claimed.

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Speaker 1: Eh, well, I amn't been a because I've been.

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Speaker 4: Weeks.

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Speaker 1: I know, no one week. It's been one week. It

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Speaker 1: is weird.

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Speaker 3: It's felt like a long time.

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Speaker 1: It's like a long time for me too. But let

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Speaker 1: me tell you Internally, I'm yeah, okay. Externally I'm that's fine.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I need the internal too.

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Speaker 1: Well, let me tell you something. I if you're feeling black, eh, eh,

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Speaker 1: you made my birthday so special?

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Speaker 3: Really?

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Speaker 1: Yes?

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Speaker 4: Wow?

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Speaker 1: Like you made my birthday wow? Yeah? How it was

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Speaker 1: just you? It was all you?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, there really wasn't in competition actually everyone else is

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Speaker 2: out of town.

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Speaker 1: No, but like, honestly, I really like and it was

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Speaker 1: so sweet. At the end of the day when we

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Speaker 1: got home and we're like getting ready for bed, Robbie

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Speaker 1: like looks at me and he was just like that

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Speaker 1: guys a really good friend. And I like started crying

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Speaker 1: because I was reading your card and I was like,

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Speaker 1: she really is, Like it was just like the perfect day.

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Speaker 1: It was like exactly what I wanted to do. She

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Speaker 1: took me to the spa, we got a massage, we

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Speaker 1: spent quality time. We sat by the pool, we had lunch, and.

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Speaker 5: We were just like gal pals and dinner and dinner

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Speaker 5: all at one place, all at one place. We stayed

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Speaker 5: in one spot, and I don't know, just you just

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Speaker 5: really made my birthday.

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Speaker 1: You made my birthday.

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Speaker 3: Wow, I'm so happy to hear that.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, because I sometimes feel like you're definitely a type

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Speaker 2: of person who loves. I feel like a group of people,

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Speaker 2: you know, like you love like friends and celebrating and stuff. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: and it was just timing. A lot of your friends

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Speaker 2: were out of town or you know, it was just

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Speaker 2: a weekend where people weren't available. So I was like,

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Speaker 2: I hope that I was. I was like, I hope

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Speaker 2: this felt like enough for her.

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Speaker 1: It was more than enough. It was so nice.

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Speaker 3: It was really fun. I had a great day as well.

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Speaker 1: Felt like quality time, which I loved.

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Speaker 3: It was quality time.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I had what I would say, also one of

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Speaker 2: the best massages I've had. You know how sometimes you

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Speaker 2: go to like if you you go with someone and

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Speaker 2: and they're like, that was the best massage I've ever had,

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Speaker 2: And then the other person comes out and they're like

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Speaker 2: that was terrible, Like I couldn't wait for it to

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Speaker 2: be over.

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Speaker 3: I feel like that's how it always goes.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: And the girl that did mine was actually the girl

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Speaker 2: that when Tanya got engaged and she was getting a

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Speaker 2: massage at that spa, she handed her.

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Speaker 3: The note wow. So yeah, so she was my massage therapist.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. She was the first person I like cried to

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Speaker 1: and was like.

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Speaker 6: I'm getting engaged.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, she had me right back.

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Speaker 6: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: So I was like, you're you're a star for uh,

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Speaker 2: like you're literally a story of the story.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: So I had a really good massage and then I

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Speaker 2: got out and I was like, please let Tanya have

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Speaker 2: had a massage and she also had one, and then

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Speaker 2: we had lunch.

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Speaker 3: I had the best beats I've ever had in her

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Speaker 3: life at the moment, it was definitely the best beats

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Speaker 3: I've ever had in my life. Did this last week

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Speaker 3: for Marky?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, super setta however you say it.

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Speaker 3: And so it was like the hot honey with.

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Speaker 2: Like the salami, the spicy salami, but it was just

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Speaker 2: cooked to perfection, was like so hot when it came out.

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Speaker 3: We were by the pool. It was just like there

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Speaker 3: was nothing that.

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Speaker 1: There were no notes, no notes, she had no notes.

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Speaker 3: It was incredible. What was the place called Dante Dante?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, shout out, shout out, and I gotta let

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Speaker 1: us wrapped cheeseburger. Yeah, it was actually really good.

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Speaker 3: Doesn't have the same Yeah it does.

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Speaker 1: Oh my gosh. When you're on your period.

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Speaker 3: It's like I put super food and the super food

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Speaker 3: did that make No?

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Speaker 1: I don't get the joke.

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Speaker 3: It's not. The joke was that you didn't understand grammar.

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Speaker 1: That there's superfoods and there are superfoods, right, that's it.

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Speaker 1: You all made it like this big funny joke, and

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Speaker 1: I was like, there's no funniness to this the funny joke.

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Speaker 2: The funniest part about it was that you didn't get

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Speaker 2: what we were saying.

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Speaker 1: I still don't think I get it.

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Speaker 3: You get it.

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Speaker 2: You just described it, so you do get it, okay, okay,

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Speaker 2: But there wasn't like an inside joke. It was just

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Speaker 2: intelligent people, three intelligent people.

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Speaker 6: Wow wow second.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but you know what, I actually didn't do it

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Speaker 1: over you know what I did it and do on

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Speaker 1: my birthday that I do every year on my birthday,

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Speaker 1: I always light the things on fire that I was

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Speaker 1: and because I just wasn't feeling well, like I wasn't

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Speaker 1: feeling my total self and I'm still not fully back

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Speaker 1: and I want to be really present, so I've just

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Speaker 1: like tabled that. But I'm still going to do it.

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Speaker 4: Okay.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think that intentions don't have to be on

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Speaker 2: a certain day.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, thank you so much. You know, I use my

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Speaker 1: birthday as like the marker because I want to do

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Speaker 1: it every year. But it's like, I'm not going to

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Speaker 6: I think you will forget to do it. I'm not

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Speaker 6: going to I predict you won't do it.

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Speaker 3: Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa.

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Speaker 6: You're still not fully back.

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Speaker 1: I know, but just just bite you. I'm going to

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Speaker 1: do it today.

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Speaker 2: I was actually looking through all of our birthdays, your

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Speaker 2: birthdays that we've celebrated together, and there was one in

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Speaker 2: like twenty eighteen or something where we were at the

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Speaker 2: Maybourne Spa, but it was the montage.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I.

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Speaker 1: Always I go back on because I go into my

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Speaker 1: memories and I can see, like, uh, there was a

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Speaker 1: birthday where we went to the beach.

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Speaker 2: Now up on fire yeah yea, yeah yeah yeah yeah,

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Speaker 3: We were lighting snuff on fire on the beach, which felt.

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Speaker 1: That's what they do, they like have bmpfires on the

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Speaker 2: Yeah, we weren't in one of those areas anyhow, but

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Speaker 2: we set the intentions that night. Yeah, and then I

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Speaker 2: got home. We got home at the end of the night.

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Speaker 1: And Robbie was like, Beca's a really great friend, I know.

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Speaker 1: And then she posts this reel that she made sends

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Speaker 1: me down another crying spiral. So you really turned it out.

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Speaker 1: I just to say wow, thank you.

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Speaker 2: All day. She was like, I'm just waiting for my reel.

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Speaker 2: I'm like, I like you, I'm literally wait you.

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Speaker 3: I'm trying to be present with you for your birthday.

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Speaker 1: I was, actually, you know what's so.

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Speaker 6: Crazy, it's not special if you asked it for the

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Speaker 6: reel all day and then you gave you.

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Speaker 1: A I knew it was coming. I was just waiting

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Speaker 1: for it. But the thing that was really interesting about

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Speaker 1: that day is like, I know that we're always like

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Speaker 1: and I on my birthday, like you get a bunch

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Speaker 1: of text messages, so you're responding to people and stuff

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Speaker 1: like that. I was so present that day, Like I

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Speaker 1: was super super present the whole day.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I know, me too. And so that's when you

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Speaker 2: were asking about your reel. I was like, I'm torn here.

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Speaker 1: I haven't been that president at I haven't been that

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Speaker 2: It's nice, huh, Yeah, it was nice. I went to

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Speaker 2: present all day. I literally didn't have my phone, it

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Speaker 2: was in my bag, and Robbie and Tanya had texted

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Speaker 2: me asking for recommendations for my Orca and I hadn't

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Speaker 2: when I when they first texted me, and so I

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Speaker 2: And then Tanya is like, hello, is this thing on?

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Speaker 1: We texted her at like nine am and I hadn't

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Speaker 6: So I was like, hello, We're good for becr.

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Speaker 2: That's when you like look at the gift of find

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Speaker 2: my friends that I have given you, and you.

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Speaker 3: Go, oh, she's at the beach. She's probably being present.

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Speaker 1: You know, it's weird. I didn't even look at your

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Speaker 3: I don't use it for good. You don't use it

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Speaker 3: for good, just for me.

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Speaker 2: The Yeah, So yeah, it was.

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Speaker 3: So nice being present both those days.

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Speaker 1: Wow. Yeah I didn't have that after Thursday. Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I was just back on.

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Speaker 2: I hate like sometimes I just want to like toss

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Speaker 2: my phone and get a jitterbug.

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Speaker 1: It's a jitterbug.

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Speaker 3: It's funny. You should ask.

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Speaker 2: It's a flip phone with large numbers. It's for elderly

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Speaker 2: and it just basically is for like calling and it

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Speaker 2: has big numbers.

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Speaker 1: Because okay, so what is it You don't like to

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Speaker 1: engage with people or you want to do it on

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Speaker 1: your own.

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Speaker 2: Time being engaged with people, Like if I get to

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Speaker 2: do a scrubbing and meetup where like we go to

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Speaker 2: the beach and I can, like in person engage with people,

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Speaker 2: Like I love that, But.

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Speaker 1: You don't like when people text you when you don't

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Speaker 3: I hate that. I literally hate that that we are.

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Speaker 2: At everyone's bacon call back in call with our phones,

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Speaker 2: like it bugs me a lot. So I love one

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Speaker 1: Please? So what does she say?

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Speaker 3: My dad is iconic?

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Speaker 2: Most things that you are scared to do aren't as

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Speaker 2: I think we set ourselves up with fear of thinking

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Speaker 1: So maybe what you're saying is I should write down

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Speaker 1: Nah huh.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, if it's what you want to do, you have

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Speaker 6: Facts.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Also, I wanted to talk to you about what modern

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but first we're going to take a break.

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Speaker 2: So your brand is modern Woman's modern woman energy.

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Speaker 3: You are a modern woman. Yeah, everyone should be a

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Speaker 2: But if people were like, what is the definition of

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Speaker 1: There's no because it's a woman that is following the

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Speaker 3: So there's no boundaries for the monetary, no parameters, and

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Speaker 2: What makes that different than being a woman, Like, what's

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Speaker 1: The full conviction, the doing it unapologetically, not having to

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Speaker 2: But what if it's something that's like not what if

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Speaker 1: Oh, like I want to marry.

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Speaker 1: I was gonna say, Tom Cruise, he's not married, who's

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Speaker 3: So there are parameters.

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Speaker 1: Well, just a moral compass, if you will.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, just and unapologetic is a big word right there. Unapologetic, unashamed, passionate, loyal,

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Speaker 7: I like the compass thing because the modern women and

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Speaker 7: that's it tells you where to go.

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Speaker 8: Exactly, there's no limit, that's right.

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Speaker 1: The modern woman energy is that compass, that that north

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Speaker 2: I was just asking because someone I've seen I've meant

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Speaker 3: Thank Keana is terrified of you. She should should be.

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Speaker 3: Like they responded to you or something.

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Speaker 4: Thank you.

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Speaker 2: Okay, I still don't have full clarity, but as long

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Speaker 3: That's what matters.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, Love Island finale.

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Speaker 1: Did you watch?

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Speaker 3: No?

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Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, how can I do this podcast?

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Speaker 3: But I know enough. I've seen enough that we can discuss.

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Speaker 1: Okay, that's fine. It was a boring episode the finale. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it's always boring.

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Speaker 6: The thing that's the thing, always boring.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so once the once they find love, yeah, it's like, man,

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Speaker 3: What you watch it for us, for love.

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Speaker 1: Correct. But once I settle into the love, I don't

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Speaker 3: See it unfold.

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Speaker 1: Take that to a reality show, you know what I mean?

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Speaker 1: Another another reality show where I can follow your love,

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Speaker 3: So were you happy with the winners?

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Speaker 2: Uh?

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Speaker 3: Wait, do you vote?

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Speaker 2: No?

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Speaker 1: Because I've never I've never watched in real time? Does

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Speaker 3: I thought you watched this whole season a real time.

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Speaker 1: This is the first season I've ever watched in real time.

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Speaker 2: The whole thing, k was that you were upset because

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Speaker 1: And then I got here and I'm just like not

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Speaker 3: It's just too much. It was too much, too much, okay, Okay,

454
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Speaker 3: So to the modern woman.

455
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Speaker 2: The modern woman votes when she wants to vot, or

456
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Speaker 2: doesn't vote when she doesn't want to.

457
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Speaker 1: Know and To be honest, I wasn't like rooting for

458
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Speaker 1: any of them, Like, there wasn't one couple that I

459
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Speaker 1: was like, they have to win. To be honest, who

460
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Speaker 1: would you did it?

461
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Speaker 3: Did who?

462
00:20:00,119 --> 00:20:02,280
Speaker 1: Like? I wasn't compelled to vote, like I wasn't like

463
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Speaker 1: like when I'm watching the UK, I'm like, ah, can't

464
00:20:06,240 --> 00:20:10,080
Speaker 1: can't shance two years ago?

465
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Speaker 3: Okay, So the couple who won were you happy with it?

466
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Speaker 3: Were they who you were ready for the most? Should

467
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Speaker 3: we give a spoiler alert?

468
00:20:19,359 --> 00:20:19,560
Speaker 4: Yeah?

469
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Speaker 3: Spoiler alert?

470
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Speaker 1: So if you have not watched those us in finale

471
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Speaker 1: Love ISLANDA and.

472
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Speaker 2: Have someone else stayed off social media to avoid spoilers.

473
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Speaker 1: Skip the next thirty seconds.

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Speaker 3: Okay, So the winners were.

475
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Speaker 1: Cordell and Serena.

476
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Speaker 3: I'm actually happy.

477
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Speaker 1: I mean, I'm like, I liked it because in the

478
00:20:47,720 --> 00:20:50,239
Speaker 1: very first episode they coupled up together and they were

479
00:20:50,240 --> 00:20:52,560
Speaker 1: wearing the exact same color. So to me, it just

480
00:20:52,560 --> 00:20:53,439
Speaker 1: felt very meant to be.

481
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Speaker 3: Yeah, do you think the invisible.

482
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Speaker 1: String, you know, like there was an invisible string tying

483
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Speaker 1: them together the whole way.

484
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Speaker 6: Seconds by the way, okay.

485
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Speaker 2: So you you were good with them, and then do

486
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Speaker 2: you think any of these couples lost outside of this show.

487
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Speaker 1: No, I think they might. I think they they have

488
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Speaker 1: the best chance out of any of them.

489
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Speaker 3: What's your prediction for length of time they stay together?

490
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Speaker 4: A year?

491
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Speaker 3: Oh my god? Wow?

492
00:21:21,440 --> 00:21:24,000
Speaker 6: Okay, but I like your idea of a different reality

493
00:21:24,040 --> 00:21:27,480
Speaker 6: show afterwards. You could call it Love Mainland.

494
00:21:27,320 --> 00:21:31,080
Speaker 1: Yes, Love on the Mainland Yes. But I will say

495
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Speaker 1: the best little treat that we got last night was

496
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Speaker 1: ari Aanomatics confirming that they will have a reunion, which

497
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Speaker 1: I'm very looking forward to.

498
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Speaker 3: Is that not normal?

499
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Speaker 1: No, I've never had reunions. Oh and I also was

500
00:21:46,680 --> 00:21:50,800
Speaker 1: watching Chicks in Office Fran and Rhea on Aftersun, which

501
00:21:50,840 --> 00:21:52,960
Speaker 1: was so cool. Do you know that they got there?

502
00:21:53,040 --> 00:21:55,160
Speaker 1: It was all like their listeners, like rallied to get

503
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Speaker 1: them there. That's so cool because they talked about it

504
00:21:57,280 --> 00:21:57,680
Speaker 1: so much.

505
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Speaker 3: That's so cool. I know it's giving scrubber energy.

506
00:22:00,920 --> 00:22:02,919
Speaker 1: It's giving scrubber energy. But I was like such a

507
00:22:02,960 --> 00:22:05,640
Speaker 1: fan watching. I've never I don't really like After Sun. Yeah,

508
00:22:05,640 --> 00:22:06,920
Speaker 1: but I was watching to support our.

509
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Speaker 3: Girls, love the Chicks thee.

510
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Speaker 1: In the Office. Yeah, but I did message. I think

511
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Speaker 1: I messaged Fran because I want to know in real time,

512
00:22:19,520 --> 00:22:22,080
Speaker 1: like when was this filmed? Do you know what I mean?

513
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Speaker 1: When did they film after Sun? Because it airs on Saturday,

514
00:22:24,840 --> 00:22:26,359
Speaker 1: So like, did they film it on Friday? Is it

515
00:22:26,400 --> 00:22:29,040
Speaker 1: like twenty four hours ahead? Because it's all happening in

516
00:22:29,080 --> 00:22:31,640
Speaker 1: real time? But how much is real time? Real time?

517
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Speaker 3: Is I should text them?

518
00:22:32,600 --> 00:22:35,080
Speaker 1: I did? I mean, I I DMed her, but she's

519
00:22:35,080 --> 00:22:38,840
Speaker 1: probably inundated with all these dms.

520
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Speaker 2: So the interesting part to me, what y'all can actually

521
00:22:42,600 --> 00:22:45,200
Speaker 2: contribute to this, even not watching Love Island, is that

522
00:22:45,800 --> 00:22:47,919
Speaker 2: they get off the show and they they haven't had

523
00:22:47,960 --> 00:22:49,960
Speaker 2: their phones. They don't know what's going on, and so

524
00:22:50,760 --> 00:22:52,960
Speaker 2: they have no idea if people like them or not.

525
00:22:53,280 --> 00:22:54,600
Speaker 2: You know, they don't know if they're going to be

526
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Speaker 2: liked or if they're going to be like the villain

527
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Speaker 2: or whatever.

528
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Speaker 3: They just have no idea. So one of the girls,

529
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Speaker 3: her name is Leah, she I don't know.

530
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Speaker 2: I felt like just the recent episodes people became like

531
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Speaker 2: obsessed with her.

532
00:23:06,840 --> 00:23:09,280
Speaker 1: Yeah, because in the beginning I did not like her.

533
00:23:10,080 --> 00:23:12,359
Speaker 2: She's just outspoken, she kind of spoke her mind, but

534
00:23:12,400 --> 00:23:14,520
Speaker 2: I didn't really I didn't know to.

535
00:23:14,560 --> 00:23:17,880
Speaker 1: Vote Andrea out. I was like, that's dirty, that is

536
00:23:18,000 --> 00:23:20,440
Speaker 1: not how you play Love Island. Yeah that's wrong.

537
00:23:20,560 --> 00:23:23,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, But anyways, she all of a sudden popped off

538
00:23:23,880 --> 00:23:26,320
Speaker 2: and she's like so popular, and she gets out and

539
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Speaker 2: by the time the.

540
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Speaker 3: Last episode aired, which I get, I guess they get.

541
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Speaker 2: They don't get their phone till their final episode is aired.

542
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Speaker 3: She has a million followers.

543
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Speaker 5: Wow.

544
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Speaker 6: Wow.

545
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Speaker 1: For reference, the rest of them have like one hundred

546
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Speaker 1: to two hundred thousand.

547
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Speaker 6: That's millions more people than watched our video last week. Yeah. Yeah,

548
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Speaker 6: it's viral.

549
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Speaker 2: That's viral, and and people don't really get that type

550
00:23:47,280 --> 00:23:48,919
Speaker 2: of following anymore. Like when I feel like when I

551
00:23:48,960 --> 00:23:51,000
Speaker 2: was on The Bachelor, that kind of era, you would

552
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Speaker 2: get that type of following coming off of a reality show,

553
00:23:53,400 --> 00:23:55,879
Speaker 2: but a lot of people now with TikTok and stuff,

554
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Speaker 2: they don't have that same People just don't do the

555
00:23:59,080 --> 00:23:59,960
Speaker 2: follow like that anymore.

556
00:24:00,359 --> 00:24:04,200
Speaker 1: For reference, with a Bachelorette this season, let's see, I

557
00:24:04,200 --> 00:24:05,080
Speaker 1: don't know how many.

558
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Speaker 3: Followers she has, but her season's airing.

559
00:24:09,960 --> 00:24:12,560
Speaker 1: Okay, then who was the last bachelorette besides her? Who

560
00:24:12,600 --> 00:24:13,119
Speaker 1: is before her?

561
00:24:13,720 --> 00:24:15,439
Speaker 3: Uh? Who was before her?

562
00:24:15,560 --> 00:24:21,160
Speaker 1: Charity lawsome charity lawson two hundred ninety four thousand.

563
00:24:20,880 --> 00:24:24,760
Speaker 4: Followers and people love charity, so just for reference.

564
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Speaker 3: Yeah, so it's pretty crazy.

565
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Speaker 2: I was thinking about that, like coming off and not

566
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Speaker 2: knowing if you were gonna like we had anxiety every

567
00:24:32,600 --> 00:24:35,119
Speaker 2: week watching The Bachelor, being like, you know, what are

568
00:24:35,119 --> 00:24:36,840
Speaker 2: people going to say? Well, how what's this going to

569
00:24:36,920 --> 00:24:41,000
Speaker 2: look like? How this episode come together? And I can't

570
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Speaker 2: imagine the whole time thinking like I saw someone's uh

571
00:24:44,400 --> 00:24:46,840
Speaker 2: this TikToker say like she's gonna get out and she's

572
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Speaker 2: probably like, yeah, I might have a little bit of

573
00:24:48,400 --> 00:24:52,639
Speaker 2: a platform, but you go in so blind, you know, Yeah,

574
00:24:52,680 --> 00:24:53,879
Speaker 2: how crazy that must be.

575
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Speaker 1: She's from La, Like, she lives just she lives just

576
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Speaker 1: up the freeway. So maybe we could try and get

577
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Speaker 1: her on the podcast. Yes, I would love to Sam.

578
00:25:06,400 --> 00:25:09,280
Speaker 2: Well, it was the most watched I think in the

579
00:25:09,320 --> 00:25:13,040
Speaker 2: whole series of Love Island. It was I want to

580
00:25:13,080 --> 00:25:17,399
Speaker 2: say it was or maybe just USA Okay, one of

581
00:25:17,440 --> 00:25:19,560
Speaker 2: the most stream shows of the summer over the last

582
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Speaker 2: few months.

583
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Speaker 1: That's what I'm talking about.

584
00:25:22,440 --> 00:25:24,600
Speaker 3: Your bestie keeps winning? Are automatics?

585
00:25:25,119 --> 00:25:27,040
Speaker 1: Are you happy that it's over?

586
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Speaker 6: You are with Sheila Burkhartzmeyer on Facebook and the Facebook

587
00:25:34,160 --> 00:25:38,240
Speaker 6: grouper posted my thoughts after listening this week's pod Love

588
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Speaker 6: Island is the New Station nineteen. You can't make me

589
00:25:40,760 --> 00:25:42,720
Speaker 6: watch Principle.

590
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Speaker 1: Oh my goodness. Well, I have a little bit of

591
00:25:47,600 --> 00:25:50,000
Speaker 1: like emptiness today, like I don't know what I'm going

592
00:25:50,040 --> 00:25:52,440
Speaker 1: to watch tonight. I'm like sad about it. I don't

593
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Speaker 1: have my sims to like check up on later.

594
00:25:55,040 --> 00:25:55,840
Speaker 6: Nice sims.

595
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Speaker 1: I never played a SIM, but I saw meme that

596
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Speaker 1: it felt very accurate.

597
00:26:01,119 --> 00:26:04,080
Speaker 2: I think the meme you're talking about was Arianna posted

598
00:26:04,160 --> 00:26:07,359
Speaker 2: like me watching like saying, oh, was it looking after

599
00:26:07,440 --> 00:26:08,520
Speaker 2: my sims or something.

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Speaker 1: I don't know what I'm gonna do. I might I

601
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Speaker 1: might watch old seasons.

602
00:26:13,840 --> 00:26:19,679
Speaker 3: Yeah, maybe into Nature.

603
00:26:21,520 --> 00:26:21,920
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah.

604
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Speaker 2: I had a full day with Phoebe yesterday speaking of nature,

605
00:26:25,320 --> 00:26:29,040
Speaker 2: because like Tanya's Birthday, I left her for all day

606
00:26:29,160 --> 00:26:31,080
Speaker 2: and then the beach day on Saturday, I left her

607
00:26:31,080 --> 00:26:33,919
Speaker 2: all day and I was having so much guilt. And

608
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Speaker 2: also she's not like I don't know what's going on

609
00:26:35,920 --> 00:26:37,800
Speaker 2: in your grass, she's digressing in her cough.

610
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Speaker 3: I don't know what to do.

611
00:26:38,840 --> 00:26:41,240
Speaker 2: I haven't slept through the night in like a week

612
00:26:41,280 --> 00:26:44,440
Speaker 2: and a half, and we're both upset with each other

613
00:26:44,600 --> 00:26:47,320
Speaker 2: during those moments. Anyways, I was like I'm gonna take

614
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Speaker 2: her to the beach or take her to the park.

615
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Speaker 3: And then we went to the beach and it was

616
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Speaker 3: so fun. She just like kept staring at me all day.

617
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Speaker 2: And I saw this thing that was like taking your

618
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Speaker 2: dogs everywhere will slow you down.

619
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Speaker 3: But like maybe that's the point emotional.

620
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Speaker 1: I know. I like read this thing about like just

621
00:27:03,880 --> 00:27:07,680
Speaker 1: taking a dog on a ten minute drive does something

622
00:27:07,720 --> 00:27:12,040
Speaker 1: like stimulates them beyond whatever. And I'm like, I I

623
00:27:12,080 --> 00:27:14,280
Speaker 1: want to take her everywhere, Like I want to take

624
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Speaker 1: her everywhere.

625
00:27:15,200 --> 00:27:17,160
Speaker 3: Maybe hates the car though, so I.

626
00:27:17,280 --> 00:27:20,199
Speaker 1: St sunny, but I think internally they love it. I

627
00:27:20,240 --> 00:27:22,760
Speaker 1: don't know. She likes to put her head out the

628
00:27:22,760 --> 00:27:27,320
Speaker 1: window and have the wind blows. She doesn't like like

629
00:27:28,080 --> 00:27:30,040
Speaker 1: she hates getting in the car, like she will stick

630
00:27:30,080 --> 00:27:31,320
Speaker 1: her paws on the ground.

631
00:27:31,040 --> 00:27:32,840
Speaker 6: Like I think you should listen to her.

632
00:27:33,160 --> 00:27:35,880
Speaker 1: No, So she has to go places like take her places.

633
00:27:36,280 --> 00:27:38,639
Speaker 1: But when she's in the car, she loves to have

634
00:27:38,680 --> 00:27:41,080
Speaker 1: her head out in the in the wind. She loves

635
00:27:41,119 --> 00:27:45,920
Speaker 1: it tails wagging her head's in the wind like free willy.

636
00:27:46,119 --> 00:27:46,320
Speaker 3: Yeah.

637
00:27:46,400 --> 00:27:49,600
Speaker 2: But aside from those few moments where her head sticking

638
00:27:49,600 --> 00:27:54,800
Speaker 2: out the window, Phoebe is like a nervous wreck, anxious wreck, anxious,

639
00:27:55,160 --> 00:27:55,800
Speaker 2: very anxious.

640
00:27:55,920 --> 00:27:58,800
Speaker 3: Yeah, but anyways, it was it was a nice day

641
00:27:58,800 --> 00:27:59,280
Speaker 3: with chicken.

642
00:27:59,600 --> 00:28:02,400
Speaker 2: So I'm taking her just to the vet today because

643
00:28:02,400 --> 00:28:05,200
Speaker 2: now i think maybe she has a parasite and that's

644
00:28:05,240 --> 00:28:06,560
Speaker 2: what's causing the cough.

645
00:28:06,600 --> 00:28:08,040
Speaker 3: I don't know what to do anymore. I'm just like

646
00:28:08,720 --> 00:28:10,240
Speaker 3: googling everything I can.

647
00:28:10,400 --> 00:28:12,080
Speaker 1: No and she can't tell you what's wrong.

648
00:28:12,640 --> 00:28:15,280
Speaker 2: No, she she'll let out the worst sounding cough you've

649
00:28:15,280 --> 00:28:18,320
Speaker 2: ever heard. It'll be like it's two am. Every single night.

650
00:28:18,320 --> 00:28:20,800
Speaker 2: It's like write at two am, and we just stare

651
00:28:20,800 --> 00:28:23,159
Speaker 2: at each other, like she does this loud, like goose

652
00:28:23,200 --> 00:28:25,240
Speaker 2: honking cough and then she like stares at me, and

653
00:28:25,280 --> 00:28:26,200
Speaker 2: I like I'm sat.

654
00:28:26,119 --> 00:28:28,840
Speaker 3: Up like staring at her. We just look at each

655
00:28:28,840 --> 00:28:32,920
Speaker 3: other and I'm like, are you okay? We just lay

656
00:28:32,960 --> 00:28:35,440
Speaker 3: back down. Yeah, it's tough.

657
00:28:35,600 --> 00:28:36,240
Speaker 1: It's tough.

658
00:28:38,480 --> 00:28:42,040
Speaker 3: You got an or a ring? Speaking of sleep, I.

659
00:28:41,960 --> 00:28:44,920
Speaker 1: Did get an ring. Yeah, nobody is Like I've been

660
00:28:44,960 --> 00:28:46,760
Speaker 1: like waiting for somebody to be like, hey, cool or

661
00:28:46,760 --> 00:28:48,120
Speaker 1: a ring, and like nobody's said it.

662
00:28:48,440 --> 00:28:50,640
Speaker 3: Kind of like it's not as like fresh and new

663
00:28:50,680 --> 00:28:51,440
Speaker 3: as it once was.

664
00:28:52,480 --> 00:28:54,800
Speaker 2: What like I think people would have expected you to

665
00:28:54,840 --> 00:28:55,560
Speaker 2: already have one.

666
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Speaker 6: Yeah, that was very twenty twenty three.

667
00:28:57,680 --> 00:29:02,600
Speaker 1: Well okay, so what took so long? It's new and

668
00:29:02,720 --> 00:29:08,640
Speaker 1: I'm doing it to to monitor my temperature with my ovulation.

669
00:29:09,480 --> 00:29:11,640
Speaker 3: Oh I see, that's right.

670
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Speaker 6: It begins my advance. What begins the process?

671
00:29:15,800 --> 00:29:21,800
Speaker 1: Yes, my hyper fixation of my ovulation if I am ovulating. Yeah, yeah, yeah,

672
00:29:22,160 --> 00:29:23,080
Speaker 1: early it does.

673
00:29:23,200 --> 00:29:25,200
Speaker 6: But that's okay.

674
00:29:25,240 --> 00:29:32,560
Speaker 1: Early on time is on time. However, I've been hyper

675
00:29:32,600 --> 00:29:37,120
Speaker 1: focused on my sleep pat patterns and I'm like so

676
00:29:37,760 --> 00:29:40,880
Speaker 1: hyper aware of my sleep patterns it's like crazy, and

677
00:29:40,920 --> 00:29:42,520
Speaker 1: I get so excited when I wake up and I

678
00:29:42,600 --> 00:29:44,640
Speaker 1: have like optimal sleep, and I got into like the

679
00:29:44,680 --> 00:29:47,040
Speaker 1: good rem numbers and stuff like I feel like I'm

680
00:29:47,080 --> 00:29:48,080
Speaker 1: like a student at school.

681
00:29:48,240 --> 00:29:50,160
Speaker 3: But if you do bad, do you overthink it?

682
00:29:50,280 --> 00:29:51,320
Speaker 2: Or are you just like, oh, I had a bad

683
00:29:51,400 --> 00:29:53,520
Speaker 2: night of sleep or you like what did I do different?

684
00:29:53,600 --> 00:29:55,760
Speaker 1: Well, because I've been like six so it's been hard

685
00:29:55,880 --> 00:29:58,000
Speaker 1: because I'm like I could tell I had a bad

686
00:29:58,080 --> 00:29:59,880
Speaker 1: night's sleep, you know, like I was coughing all nights,

687
00:30:00,160 --> 00:30:02,280
Speaker 1: Like that makes sense. I didn't get to ram or whatever.

688
00:30:02,720 --> 00:30:05,200
Speaker 1: But yeah, I'm like super.

689
00:30:06,320 --> 00:30:11,320
Speaker 3: Fixated on my or ring I surround myself with people

690
00:30:11,400 --> 00:30:14,840
Speaker 3: who have fixations, and I don't know how this happened

691
00:30:14,880 --> 00:30:15,560
Speaker 3: because I don't.

692
00:30:15,760 --> 00:30:18,000
Speaker 2: I don't do it really and maybe I do and

693
00:30:18,040 --> 00:30:20,640
Speaker 2: it's not I need to think about this because I'm like,

694
00:30:20,720 --> 00:30:22,040
Speaker 2: do I have fixations?

695
00:30:22,040 --> 00:30:22,680
Speaker 3: But I don't know.

696
00:30:23,240 --> 00:30:28,120
Speaker 2: I don't recognize them as fixations. But Tanya specifically and.

697
00:30:28,000 --> 00:30:31,120
Speaker 3: Ali specifically, well, it'll be all of.

698
00:30:31,080 --> 00:30:33,160
Speaker 2: A sudden, it's like I can't eat anything out of

699
00:30:33,200 --> 00:30:34,080
Speaker 2: plastic containers.

700
00:30:34,200 --> 00:30:36,760
Speaker 3: Everything must be glass, and they get rid of every.

701
00:30:36,480 --> 00:30:38,959
Speaker 2: Plastic container in their house or then it's like I

702
00:30:39,040 --> 00:30:42,239
Speaker 2: need to take I should be eating. Ali went through

703
00:30:42,240 --> 00:30:43,840
Speaker 2: the space where it was like two she had to

704
00:30:43,840 --> 00:30:46,160
Speaker 2: eat two dates for her gut health, and I'm like,

705
00:30:47,800 --> 00:30:54,080
Speaker 2: how oh no, that.

706
00:30:54,160 --> 00:30:55,080
Speaker 1: Is so funny.

707
00:30:56,320 --> 00:31:00,080
Speaker 2: But isn't that interesting that you attract Like maybe what.

708
00:31:01,720 --> 00:31:02,560
Speaker 1: Is your opposite?

709
00:31:03,480 --> 00:31:06,320
Speaker 6: Yeah, like opposites attract.

710
00:31:07,200 --> 00:31:08,720
Speaker 3: I suppose kind of something.

711
00:31:10,480 --> 00:31:14,080
Speaker 1: No, Honestly, it is weird, like how much Ali and

712
00:31:14,120 --> 00:31:16,960
Speaker 1: I hyper fixate on things and like it'll be that

713
00:31:17,000 --> 00:31:18,440
Speaker 1: thing of the moment, right.

714
00:31:18,360 --> 00:31:20,680
Speaker 6: It's the episode of your sitcom like we've talked about

715
00:31:20,680 --> 00:31:21,120
Speaker 6: in the past.

716
00:31:21,280 --> 00:31:23,240
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like it is like that is like I am

717
00:31:23,400 --> 00:31:25,160
Speaker 1: so hyper focused on that right now.

718
00:31:25,280 --> 00:31:27,000
Speaker 6: Right this week time to gets an orr ring. That's

719
00:31:27,040 --> 00:31:28,360
Speaker 6: a show, right, yep?

720
00:31:28,520 --> 00:31:30,520
Speaker 2: And and Ali will go, oh yeah, I was talking

721
00:31:30,520 --> 00:31:32,800
Speaker 2: to Tony about this, and I'm like, y'all aren't allowed

722
00:31:33,320 --> 00:31:37,520
Speaker 2: to talk. It's too much like fixation in one space.

723
00:31:38,360 --> 00:31:41,160
Speaker 2: But what I really appreciate is that for a minute

724
00:31:41,160 --> 00:31:43,200
Speaker 2: they were talking in a group chat that I was

725
00:31:43,280 --> 00:31:45,479
Speaker 2: involved in, and I was like, I don't want to

726
00:31:45,480 --> 00:31:48,680
Speaker 2: be here, like y'all please take this side, you know.

727
00:31:48,760 --> 00:31:49,920
Speaker 3: So I have to be grateful.

728
00:31:50,400 --> 00:31:52,480
Speaker 2: I have to be grateful that they have continued their

729
00:31:52,520 --> 00:31:56,520
Speaker 2: own conversation. But it's just interesting that you like attract

730
00:31:57,000 --> 00:31:59,560
Speaker 2: the opposite even in friendships, you know, because like Haley

731
00:31:59,560 --> 00:32:00,560
Speaker 2: and I are very opposite.

732
00:32:00,920 --> 00:32:02,880
Speaker 1: But it's interesting to me because I do feel like

733
00:32:02,920 --> 00:32:05,120
Speaker 1: you just don't have It's not that you don't care,

734
00:32:06,080 --> 00:32:10,840
Speaker 1: but like you really you embody care free energy.

735
00:32:11,520 --> 00:32:14,640
Speaker 2: Because it's just a lot of effort to try and

736
00:32:14,680 --> 00:32:16,040
Speaker 2: control everything.

737
00:32:17,240 --> 00:32:20,960
Speaker 1: It's like you don't care about anything. And that comes

738
00:32:20,960 --> 00:32:23,360
Speaker 1: off like in a negative way, but it's not.

739
00:32:23,920 --> 00:32:24,760
Speaker 3: I don't take it that way.

740
00:32:24,800 --> 00:32:27,680
Speaker 1: It's not. It's like it's she's so cool, calm and

741
00:32:27,720 --> 00:32:31,680
Speaker 1: collected about everything, Like I don't know how to explain it.

742
00:32:31,680 --> 00:32:34,880
Speaker 1: It's so interesting to me. I wish I had that.

743
00:32:35,080 --> 00:32:37,760
Speaker 8: Do you seem very balanced? That's what I thout.

744
00:32:38,280 --> 00:32:42,320
Speaker 2: I just don't feel like I have as much control.

745
00:32:43,320 --> 00:32:43,800
Speaker 3: I think.

746
00:32:44,040 --> 00:32:46,840
Speaker 2: I think there's this Okay, I started thinking about this

747
00:32:47,240 --> 00:32:49,600
Speaker 2: all of a sudden, and maybe it's because we have

748
00:32:49,640 --> 00:32:51,880
Speaker 2: social media, so people have an outlet to get their

749
00:32:51,920 --> 00:32:54,280
Speaker 2: information out and it has potential to go viral and

750
00:32:54,320 --> 00:32:57,920
Speaker 2: reach people. But all of a sudden, there's experts on everything.

751
00:32:58,000 --> 00:33:00,280
Speaker 2: It's like, all of a sudden, your cortisol levels, Hi,

752
00:33:00,360 --> 00:33:01,240
Speaker 2: this is what you need to do.

753
00:33:01,280 --> 00:33:03,120
Speaker 3: And it's like I had never even heard about my

754
00:33:03,200 --> 00:33:04,120
Speaker 3: cortisol levels.

755
00:33:04,120 --> 00:33:06,520
Speaker 2: So it's like, why, all of a sudden are there

756
00:33:06,560 --> 00:33:10,960
Speaker 2: are all these experts and why in the ancient times.

757
00:33:11,000 --> 00:33:13,160
Speaker 3: We didn't have any of this stuff and everyone.

758
00:33:12,960 --> 00:33:14,920
Speaker 6: Was fine living longer.

759
00:33:15,040 --> 00:33:15,200
Speaker 1: Yeah?

760
00:33:18,080 --> 00:33:20,480
Speaker 3: Really, I thought they lived way longer back in the day.

761
00:33:20,640 --> 00:33:22,719
Speaker 1: No, So it's funny that you say that, because I

762
00:33:22,760 --> 00:33:26,120
Speaker 1: feel like ever since my hashimotoves diagnosis, people will like

763
00:33:26,120 --> 00:33:28,320
Speaker 1: come to me asking me for like medical advice, and

764
00:33:28,360 --> 00:33:31,480
Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm not a doctor, nor do I ever

765
00:33:31,560 --> 00:33:33,440
Speaker 1: claim to be. And I try to like say that

766
00:33:33,480 --> 00:33:35,959
Speaker 1: as so much because I'm like I don't. I'm very

767
00:33:36,000 --> 00:33:40,440
Speaker 1: much an advocate for like be your own biggest advocate,

768
00:33:40,640 --> 00:33:45,239
Speaker 1: because everything isn't a one size fits all, right, So

769
00:33:45,400 --> 00:33:47,920
Speaker 1: I think that's like my mentality is like really dig in, like,

770
00:33:47,960 --> 00:33:51,360
Speaker 1: don't take one person's word for it, get several opinions,

771
00:33:51,400 --> 00:33:52,480
Speaker 1: and like do your research.

772
00:33:52,560 --> 00:33:55,680
Speaker 2: But I appreciate that because you've had you had your experience,

773
00:33:55,680 --> 00:33:56,600
Speaker 2: and that's what you share.

774
00:33:56,840 --> 00:33:58,640
Speaker 3: But you're not trying to be like, this is what

775
00:33:58,800 --> 00:34:01,000
Speaker 3: you have to do. You're just like, this is what

776
00:34:01,080 --> 00:34:01,400
Speaker 3: I did.

777
00:34:01,560 --> 00:34:03,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, you can try it if you want, right, But anyways,

778
00:34:04,800 --> 00:34:07,240
Speaker 2: it's like tracking our sleep. It's just like there's all

779
00:34:07,320 --> 00:34:09,800
Speaker 2: these things where I'm like, but are they kind of

780
00:34:09,840 --> 00:34:11,960
Speaker 2: come out ten years later or five years from and

781
00:34:12,080 --> 00:34:13,600
Speaker 2: be like that was so bad for you to wear

782
00:34:13,640 --> 00:34:16,160
Speaker 2: that electronic thing on your finger and sleep in it.

783
00:34:17,160 --> 00:34:20,319
Speaker 1: I think about that too. I think about that with

784
00:34:20,400 --> 00:34:23,520
Speaker 1: electric cars too. Are you sitting on a cell phone

785
00:34:23,520 --> 00:34:23,879
Speaker 1: all day?

786
00:34:24,000 --> 00:34:27,000
Speaker 6: Yeah, that's possibility. I think about that with AirPods. Everyone's

787
00:34:27,000 --> 00:34:29,120
Speaker 6: got air pods. Yeah, And I resisted because I think

788
00:34:29,120 --> 00:34:31,120
Speaker 6: you're just beaming cancer into your head. I don't think

789
00:34:31,160 --> 00:34:33,680
Speaker 6: it's great, I know, but we'll never know until it's

790
00:34:33,719 --> 00:34:34,839
Speaker 6: too late for everybody.

791
00:34:34,960 --> 00:34:35,200
Speaker 5: Yeah.

792
00:34:35,440 --> 00:34:40,080
Speaker 2: Shoot that that ORR rings reminds me of the promise

793
00:34:40,200 --> 00:34:40,800
Speaker 2: ring that Robbi.

794
00:34:41,200 --> 00:34:45,239
Speaker 1: It does, it does give. It has similar similar qualities,

795
00:34:45,239 --> 00:34:47,520
Speaker 1: except that this is smaller. The or A ring is

796
00:34:47,520 --> 00:34:49,240
Speaker 1: smaller bea.

797
00:34:49,280 --> 00:34:52,319
Speaker 6: The life expectancy in eighteen sixty was thirty nine years old.

798
00:34:53,280 --> 00:34:56,560
Speaker 3: I'm talking like ancient. I'm talking a full time.

799
00:34:56,680 --> 00:35:01,640
Speaker 6: Oh my god, I'm not really well. I don't know.

800
00:35:03,560 --> 00:35:06,479
Speaker 2: I didn't realize that. Okay, then I take it back.

801
00:35:06,600 --> 00:35:10,279
Speaker 2: Maybe there's knowledge with knowledge is health.

802
00:35:10,040 --> 00:35:11,760
Speaker 6: And power, technology and medical.

803
00:35:12,600 --> 00:35:14,319
Speaker 1: But no, it's like so true because I look at

804
00:35:14,360 --> 00:35:16,719
Speaker 1: you and I'm like, I wish I had some of

805
00:35:16,760 --> 00:35:19,560
Speaker 1: your energy just in general. But sometimes I think it

806
00:35:19,680 --> 00:35:22,759
Speaker 1: swings like too far because you're like the last person

807
00:35:22,800 --> 00:35:23,600
Speaker 1: to walk on a plane.

808
00:35:24,280 --> 00:35:28,000
Speaker 2: I was about to talk about but because you brought

809
00:35:28,080 --> 00:35:32,680
Speaker 2: up gate and anxiety at the airport, which what exactly

810
00:35:33,200 --> 00:35:35,120
Speaker 2: how would you define gate anxiety?

811
00:35:35,320 --> 00:35:37,400
Speaker 1: So let's say I have to pee so bad, like

812
00:35:37,440 --> 00:35:40,120
Speaker 1: I'm about to pee. I've been holding it through the

813
00:35:40,120 --> 00:35:42,799
Speaker 1: TSA line. I am through TSA and there is a

814
00:35:42,840 --> 00:35:46,040
Speaker 1: bathroom right there. I cannot go to that bathroom that's

815
00:35:46,120 --> 00:35:47,800
Speaker 1: right there. I have to go to my gate first,

816
00:35:47,880 --> 00:35:49,759
Speaker 1: make sure that the gate is there, make sure that

817
00:35:49,760 --> 00:35:53,040
Speaker 1: it's going to my destination, make sure that everything is fine,

818
00:35:53,200 --> 00:35:56,040
Speaker 1: and then I can relieve myself. I have to get

819
00:35:56,080 --> 00:35:58,439
Speaker 1: to the gate before I can do anything.

820
00:35:58,680 --> 00:36:02,320
Speaker 3: Just because it may have changed.

821
00:36:02,400 --> 00:36:06,440
Speaker 1: It may have changed, it may be it may not exist.

822
00:36:06,760 --> 00:36:10,239
Speaker 1: I might have seen something weird. I don't know.

823
00:36:10,320 --> 00:36:12,640
Speaker 3: But if you're at the airport, how early do you

824
00:36:12,680 --> 00:36:13,320
Speaker 3: get to the airport?

825
00:36:13,360 --> 00:36:19,440
Speaker 1: Two hours depends if it's like quick flight or if

826
00:36:19,480 --> 00:36:20,440
Speaker 1: it's like international.

827
00:36:20,600 --> 00:36:20,880
Speaker 2: I'll go.

828
00:36:21,080 --> 00:36:22,840
Speaker 1: I'll try to be there an hour before.

829
00:36:23,719 --> 00:36:26,680
Speaker 3: Oh, an hour before international.

830
00:36:26,280 --> 00:36:28,359
Speaker 1: Like make sure that I'm like at my gate an

831
00:36:28,400 --> 00:36:28,960
Speaker 1: hour before.

832
00:36:29,040 --> 00:36:32,439
Speaker 2: Okay, so you have enough. You have plenty of time

833
00:36:32,600 --> 00:36:34,239
Speaker 2: to go pee and then go see your gate.

834
00:36:34,280 --> 00:36:36,360
Speaker 1: Correct, But I can't do it. No, I have to

835
00:36:36,360 --> 00:36:36,759
Speaker 1: see the gate.

836
00:36:37,840 --> 00:36:39,839
Speaker 6: Yes, I have to make sure my gate exists. Yeah,

837
00:36:39,920 --> 00:36:41,200
Speaker 6: and then I can go do other things.

838
00:36:41,239 --> 00:36:43,880
Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, get a sandwich and get a salad.

839
00:36:45,080 --> 00:36:47,759
Speaker 2: You can get a sandwich too, that's fine, right whatever, Yeah,

840
00:36:47,800 --> 00:36:49,080
Speaker 2: not everyone's gluten free.

841
00:36:49,000 --> 00:36:52,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, but like, I can't do any of that until

842
00:36:52,120 --> 00:36:52,759
Speaker 1: I see my gate.

843
00:36:52,880 --> 00:36:55,040
Speaker 6: Yes, you have to prove it exists and that it's

844
00:36:55,080 --> 00:36:56,759
Speaker 6: going to the right place. And everything's fine.

845
00:36:56,840 --> 00:36:58,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's all on the same time.

846
00:36:58,360 --> 00:37:01,200
Speaker 3: Why couldn't it change after you look at it?

847
00:37:01,200 --> 00:37:03,959
Speaker 1: It certainly can, and it has. It definitely has.

848
00:37:04,000 --> 00:37:05,719
Speaker 6: That's what the app is for. But I still need

849
00:37:05,719 --> 00:37:07,400
Speaker 6: to see it with my own eyes first.

850
00:37:07,480 --> 00:37:09,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, okay.

851
00:37:09,040 --> 00:37:11,480
Speaker 1: Check the people out. How many people are there.

852
00:37:12,160 --> 00:37:14,000
Speaker 7: I'm also afraid that if I go to like the bathroom,

853
00:37:14,000 --> 00:37:15,799
Speaker 7: I go to a restaurant, I'm not gonna be able

854
00:37:15,800 --> 00:37:18,280
Speaker 7: to find, like, I'm gonna get lost. But if I

855
00:37:18,320 --> 00:37:20,120
Speaker 7: look at the gate first, it's done.

856
00:37:20,120 --> 00:37:21,800
Speaker 8: I know where that is. Then I can go off

857
00:37:22,080 --> 00:37:23,000
Speaker 8: check check.

858
00:37:23,360 --> 00:37:28,520
Speaker 3: Wow, okay, great, you don't have that.

859
00:37:30,160 --> 00:37:33,640
Speaker 2: I just trust that my updated texts that are coming

860
00:37:33,680 --> 00:37:38,160
Speaker 2: through or are accurate, and I get there right when

861
00:37:38,160 --> 00:37:41,160
Speaker 2: it's time to get on the plane. That's my dream.

862
00:37:41,200 --> 00:37:43,879
Speaker 2: When I walk up and they're boarding, I'm like, this

863
00:37:43,920 --> 00:37:44,400
Speaker 2: is perfect.

864
00:37:44,480 --> 00:37:48,319
Speaker 1: I've timed it, honestly, saying that would give me so

865
00:37:48,440 --> 00:37:51,279
Speaker 1: much anxiety if you were already and I when I

866
00:37:51,400 --> 00:37:52,879
Speaker 1: arrive and people are standing, like.

867
00:37:52,880 --> 00:37:55,600
Speaker 6: Oh no. If people are standing and I walk around

868
00:37:55,640 --> 00:37:57,960
Speaker 6: the corner, I'm like, oh my god, oh my god.

869
00:37:58,400 --> 00:38:01,239
Speaker 3: Stands for no just standing around in the way for

870
00:38:01,280 --> 00:38:01,719
Speaker 3: no reason.

871
00:38:01,719 --> 00:38:05,160
Speaker 2: Its like if everyone sat down until their group was called,

872
00:38:05,600 --> 00:38:09,680
Speaker 2: that group stands up, lines up. We are animals. When

873
00:38:09,920 --> 00:38:12,160
Speaker 2: when I get off the plane, when I'm.

874
00:38:12,000 --> 00:38:14,680
Speaker 3: Waiting for bad any of y'all do this.

875
00:38:15,000 --> 00:38:17,560
Speaker 2: When I get off the plane and I'm at baggage

876
00:38:17,560 --> 00:38:21,000
Speaker 2: claim and there is a row of men with their

877
00:38:21,080 --> 00:38:26,320
Speaker 2: knees up against the luggage belt your suitcase, just stand

878
00:38:26,400 --> 00:38:28,759
Speaker 2: back because as soon as I go and someone's to

879
00:38:28,840 --> 00:38:31,600
Speaker 2: my way, I'm so aggressive with it, like I will.

880
00:38:31,800 --> 00:38:33,960
Speaker 2: I don't mind if I hit them in the elbow

881
00:38:34,080 --> 00:38:35,759
Speaker 2: or in the hip because I'm like, get out of

882
00:38:35,800 --> 00:38:40,520
Speaker 2: my way, scoop back like a normal person and wait

883
00:38:40,600 --> 00:38:41,719
Speaker 2: for the bag to get there.

884
00:38:44,719 --> 00:38:46,360
Speaker 7: With THEO drives me crazy because I always have that

885
00:38:46,440 --> 00:38:48,920
Speaker 7: big case of gear when I'm having somewhere and like

886
00:38:49,120 --> 00:38:50,920
Speaker 7: I have to knock an old lady.

887
00:38:50,680 --> 00:38:53,200
Speaker 8: Down to get it. It's a bummer. I don't want

888
00:38:53,239 --> 00:38:54,080
Speaker 8: to assault anybody.

889
00:38:54,400 --> 00:38:55,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm fine.

890
00:38:55,320 --> 00:38:58,200
Speaker 2: I don't have any issue like elbowing a man, but

891
00:38:58,360 --> 00:39:00,160
Speaker 2: like I'll be gentle if it's an old lad.

892
00:39:00,280 --> 00:39:02,439
Speaker 6: You know what I do hate we're talking about plane

893
00:39:02,440 --> 00:39:04,920
Speaker 6: behavior is when the plane stops, you're on the plane

894
00:39:05,120 --> 00:39:08,280
Speaker 6: and the clap nope, And that's kind of nice stop

895
00:39:09,400 --> 00:39:12,080
Speaker 6: lights come on. Everyone stands up. So that's together thing

896
00:39:12,080 --> 00:39:14,359
Speaker 6: that the people in the back decide, I'm getting off

897
00:39:14,360 --> 00:39:16,480
Speaker 6: this plane first, and they walk down the aisle as

898
00:39:16,480 --> 00:39:19,400
Speaker 6: far as they can, right past you, like there's a

899
00:39:19,440 --> 00:39:21,640
Speaker 6: way to get off the plane. It goes, it goes,

900
00:39:22,440 --> 00:39:24,520
Speaker 6: it goes. People just said no, I'm going and then

901
00:39:24,560 --> 00:39:26,560
Speaker 6: there's the You look up and there's just somebody standing

902
00:39:26,560 --> 00:39:29,000
Speaker 6: in the aisle next to your seat. Drives me nuts.

903
00:39:29,160 --> 00:39:30,960
Speaker 2: That also drives me nuts, and I just have to

904
00:39:30,960 --> 00:39:35,200
Speaker 2: hope that maybe they're rushing to catch another flight, And

905
00:39:35,239 --> 00:39:37,520
Speaker 2: that's just what I have to think, because otherwise there's

906
00:39:37,560 --> 00:39:41,480
Speaker 2: just no excuse for that behavior. You really, the airport

907
00:39:41,520 --> 00:39:45,440
Speaker 2: brings out the absolute worst qualities in every single person.

908
00:39:46,600 --> 00:39:49,960
Speaker 1: I don't think so, No, it does. It does agree.

909
00:39:50,760 --> 00:39:52,960
Speaker 6: We were getting our luggage once at LAX and it

910
00:39:53,000 --> 00:39:55,279
Speaker 6: was delayed, like the luggage were taking forever to come off,

911
00:39:55,320 --> 00:39:57,319
Speaker 6: and because there were so many flights landing at the

912
00:39:57,320 --> 00:39:59,480
Speaker 6: same time, and because of that, there were so many

913
00:39:59,560 --> 00:40:01,800
Speaker 6: hundreds of people and baggae claim all at the same time.

914
00:40:01,920 --> 00:40:04,480
Speaker 6: And on top of that, for some reason, an alarm

915
00:40:04,600 --> 00:40:08,840
Speaker 6: was going off and it was a high pitch alarm

916
00:40:09,040 --> 00:40:11,360
Speaker 6: and it was like, this is a social experiment. This

917
00:40:11,440 --> 00:40:13,640
Speaker 6: is like how long before these people start to murder

918
00:40:13,680 --> 00:40:16,480
Speaker 6: each other? It's like the Hunger Games in here. This

919
00:40:16,560 --> 00:40:18,880
Speaker 6: is insane. So yes, I agree with you.

920
00:40:19,360 --> 00:40:23,120
Speaker 2: Not the worst, Yeah, but I love watching people reunite

921
00:40:23,120 --> 00:40:23,680
Speaker 2: and stuff.

922
00:40:23,960 --> 00:40:26,120
Speaker 3: That's a good part. Oh my gosh, I like this

923
00:40:26,239 --> 00:40:27,160
Speaker 3: Hailey so much.

924
00:40:27,200 --> 00:40:29,640
Speaker 2: I'm like done, Like it's I get to see her

925
00:40:29,680 --> 00:40:32,000
Speaker 2: this weekend. So I'm like, I think, because I know

926
00:40:32,080 --> 00:40:35,960
Speaker 2: it's close, there's this feeling of like the I think

927
00:40:36,000 --> 00:40:38,120
Speaker 2: I've had to be strong for two weeks where I'm like,

928
00:40:38,200 --> 00:40:40,920
Speaker 2: I'm good, we'll get there, the time will come. But

929
00:40:41,040 --> 00:40:44,640
Speaker 2: this week, and maybe because of my period, I'm like, I'm.

930
00:40:44,880 --> 00:40:47,880
Speaker 3: Done, I'm done waiting. When are you leaving Thursday?

931
00:40:48,320 --> 00:40:48,720
Speaker 2: Wow?

932
00:40:48,840 --> 00:40:49,520
Speaker 6: Yeah?

933
00:40:49,880 --> 00:40:51,120
Speaker 1: Is she gonna pick you u from the airport?

934
00:40:51,480 --> 00:40:54,080
Speaker 3: Probably not, She's probably working, But it's okay.

935
00:40:54,640 --> 00:40:57,560
Speaker 1: Airports always get me emotional because I always think about that.

936
00:40:57,640 --> 00:41:02,080
Speaker 1: I'm like someone's leaving and saying goodbye and someone's greeting

937
00:41:02,080 --> 00:41:06,080
Speaker 1: them on the other side, or someone's waiting, yeah he

938
00:41:06,120 --> 00:41:07,120
Speaker 1: sounds waiting to see them.

939
00:41:07,160 --> 00:41:11,480
Speaker 3: But also there's been like this power outage or power outage.

940
00:41:13,880 --> 00:41:15,759
Speaker 7: I set that to my phone background to fit in

941
00:41:15,800 --> 00:41:18,640
Speaker 7: with everybody, the blue screen and the little sad face

942
00:41:19,840 --> 00:41:23,239
Speaker 7: that CrowdStrike. It was a cybersecurity company uploaded a bad

943
00:41:23,360 --> 00:41:26,080
Speaker 7: update took down the computers.

944
00:41:26,160 --> 00:41:27,520
Speaker 3: I think, dang well.

945
00:41:27,680 --> 00:41:29,880
Speaker 2: I also had this thing because we always think of

946
00:41:29,880 --> 00:41:31,560
Speaker 2: people leaving and then going to see each other, but

947
00:41:31,560 --> 00:41:33,680
Speaker 2: it's also thinking about the people that are traveling for

948
00:41:33,840 --> 00:41:38,600
Speaker 2: like every occasion, like going to celebrate someone or going

949
00:41:38,640 --> 00:41:41,440
Speaker 2: to grieve someone. And like people were like saying they

950
00:41:41,440 --> 00:41:44,160
Speaker 2: were missing weddings and funerals because of this outage, and

951
00:41:44,200 --> 00:41:46,440
Speaker 2: I was like, oh my gosh, like beyond just the

952
00:41:46,480 --> 00:41:49,520
Speaker 2: frustration of trying to go somewhere, even if work or whatever,

953
00:41:49,600 --> 00:41:53,360
Speaker 2: it's like big events that people, you know. Yeah, anyways,

954
00:41:53,920 --> 00:42:01,799
Speaker 2: we have a anonymous Dear bonya request, but we're gonna

955
00:42:01,800 --> 00:42:02,759
Speaker 2: take a break and we'll be up.

956
00:42:18,960 --> 00:42:19,439
Speaker 3: All right.

957
00:42:19,640 --> 00:42:23,279
Speaker 2: We are back, So we have Dear Bonnie help from

958
00:42:23,360 --> 00:42:24,760
Speaker 2: anonymous Mark.

959
00:42:25,000 --> 00:42:27,640
Speaker 6: Thank you so much loving the weekly segment. Dear Bonia,

960
00:42:27,680 --> 00:42:29,520
Speaker 6: and I would love your advice from my own situation.

961
00:42:29,640 --> 00:42:29,920
Speaker 4: Please.

962
00:42:29,920 --> 00:42:32,400
Speaker 6: I'm a female. I've been a relationship with my girlfriend

963
00:42:32,440 --> 00:42:34,640
Speaker 6: for six years now. She's always said that part of

964
00:42:34,680 --> 00:42:36,680
Speaker 6: the reason she felt for me was my positive outlook

965
00:42:36,760 --> 00:42:39,759
Speaker 6: on life, including when things go wrong. Well, the last

966
00:42:39,840 --> 00:42:42,160
Speaker 6: year or so, she's become such a negative person. It

967
00:42:42,200 --> 00:42:45,399
Speaker 6: truly affects my energy being a female myself. I try

968
00:42:45,440 --> 00:42:48,719
Speaker 6: to understand mood shifts, hormones, but it's a daily thing.

969
00:42:48,760 --> 00:42:51,280
Speaker 6: At this point, within the first hour of being awake,

970
00:42:51,480 --> 00:42:53,560
Speaker 6: it's complaints and it's going to take it home. It's

971
00:42:53,560 --> 00:42:55,920
Speaker 6: how bad everything throughout the day has gone. When I

972
00:42:56,000 --> 00:42:58,200
Speaker 6: try to spin things around, look at the positive, it's

973
00:42:58,200 --> 00:43:00,680
Speaker 6: now taken that I'm not seeing her feelings. How do

974
00:43:00,760 --> 00:43:03,279
Speaker 6: I approach this without a completely hurting her. I want

975
00:43:03,320 --> 00:43:06,359
Speaker 6: to be a supportive partner, but it's truly draining. Thank

976
00:43:06,400 --> 00:43:09,680
Speaker 6: you for the weekly laughs. I definitely need them.

977
00:43:10,400 --> 00:43:15,840
Speaker 3: This sucks because it's so valid to have bad days.

978
00:43:15,600 --> 00:43:18,280
Speaker 2: And like want your partner to just be like, I'm sorry,

979
00:43:18,360 --> 00:43:21,719
Speaker 2: Like that sucks, but a daily occurrence would be so

980
00:43:22,320 --> 00:43:23,400
Speaker 2: drain exhausting.

981
00:43:27,200 --> 00:43:28,760
Speaker 6: Sorry, we have no advice for your.

982
00:43:30,200 --> 00:43:30,640
Speaker 8: Good luck.

983
00:43:30,880 --> 00:43:32,520
Speaker 3: Well, I think here's the thing.

984
00:43:32,640 --> 00:43:35,080
Speaker 1: Is she like going through something like is she depressed?

985
00:43:35,200 --> 00:43:37,560
Speaker 1: Or like maybe there's something that we're missing, some information

986
00:43:37,640 --> 00:43:38,240
Speaker 1: that we're missing.

987
00:43:38,880 --> 00:43:43,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think that when you are in a highly

988
00:43:43,360 --> 00:43:45,560
Speaker 2: defensive state, there's no.

989
00:43:47,200 --> 00:43:50,440
Speaker 3: Like, there's no win for the other person.

990
00:43:50,920 --> 00:43:54,479
Speaker 2: Because if you're in a negative headspace and you can't

991
00:43:54,480 --> 00:43:57,160
Speaker 2: get out of it, whether you're in a depressed or

992
00:43:57,239 --> 00:44:02,240
Speaker 2: there's something going on hormonally or mentally, and someone tries

993
00:44:02,320 --> 00:44:06,239
Speaker 2: to be like, look at the positive, it can be

994
00:44:06,320 --> 00:44:07,320
Speaker 2: so infuriating.

995
00:44:07,640 --> 00:44:11,720
Speaker 1: And it's also like I was thinking, if you maybe

996
00:44:11,760 --> 00:44:15,560
Speaker 1: try to like say, hey, you've been a little negative lately,

997
00:44:15,680 --> 00:44:18,000
Speaker 1: I feel like you've been complaining a lot, that might

998
00:44:18,080 --> 00:44:20,839
Speaker 1: set her off even worse. Or if you suggest going

999
00:44:20,840 --> 00:44:24,240
Speaker 1: to therapy, that might set her off even worse.

1000
00:44:24,360 --> 00:44:26,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, But I think at least with therapy you can

1001
00:44:26,480 --> 00:44:28,560
Speaker 2: be like, hey, I really want to be there for you,

1002
00:44:28,600 --> 00:44:30,239
Speaker 2: and I feel like I'm not doing it the right

1003
00:44:30,280 --> 00:44:34,680
Speaker 2: way because I want to be like a positive spot

1004
00:44:34,680 --> 00:44:39,480
Speaker 2: in your day, but I'm having a hard time reaching.

1005
00:44:39,040 --> 00:44:39,759
Speaker 1: You in that way.

1006
00:44:39,880 --> 00:44:42,040
Speaker 2: So I think that maybe going to a therapist and

1007
00:44:42,080 --> 00:44:44,319
Speaker 2: having a third party can help me understand how to

1008
00:44:44,440 --> 00:44:47,880
Speaker 2: be there to support you because if you're feeling down

1009
00:44:48,040 --> 00:44:51,560
Speaker 2: or everything feels dark, you know, I don't want you

1010
00:44:51,640 --> 00:44:53,239
Speaker 2: to have a life like that, And it's also hard

1011
00:44:53,280 --> 00:44:53,560
Speaker 2: for me.

1012
00:44:53,520 --> 00:44:54,160
Speaker 3: As a partner.

1013
00:44:54,360 --> 00:44:56,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, and I want to be able to be there

1014
00:44:56,120 --> 00:44:58,800
Speaker 2: for you. So I know that every time there's couples

1015
00:44:58,880 --> 00:45:01,120
Speaker 2: like issues, we're always like. But I just think it

1016
00:45:01,200 --> 00:45:06,320
Speaker 2: adds an outside perspective and gives her a safe place

1017
00:45:06,400 --> 00:45:10,719
Speaker 2: to talk about maybe what's causing it and get the

1018
00:45:10,840 --> 00:45:13,160
Speaker 2: questions to be like what can you do to be

1019
00:45:13,239 --> 00:45:16,719
Speaker 2: there for her? Because I don't think that it's fair

1020
00:45:16,760 --> 00:45:22,120
Speaker 2: that you have to go through life walking on eggshells, yeah,

1021
00:45:21,719 --> 00:45:26,680
Speaker 2: and having to just take the negativity without having a

1022
00:45:26,719 --> 00:45:27,600
Speaker 2: response to it.

1023
00:45:27,880 --> 00:45:29,640
Speaker 1: And we also don't know. She didn't say how long

1024
00:45:29,680 --> 00:45:30,440
Speaker 1: this has been going on.

1025
00:45:30,960 --> 00:45:31,919
Speaker 3: She said the last year.

1026
00:45:32,360 --> 00:45:33,320
Speaker 1: That's a long time.

1027
00:45:33,440 --> 00:45:36,120
Speaker 3: It's a long time. It does affect you.

1028
00:45:36,200 --> 00:45:39,680
Speaker 1: Because like maybe I'm thinking, like hormones, things like that

1029
00:45:39,719 --> 00:45:43,359
Speaker 1: happen in life. We all have seasons mm hmmm.

1030
00:45:43,840 --> 00:45:45,520
Speaker 2: But they've been together for six years, so I think

1031
00:45:45,560 --> 00:45:47,640
Speaker 2: it's a safe space that you can be like, Hey,

1032
00:45:48,280 --> 00:45:50,279
Speaker 2: I love you, I want to be here for you.

1033
00:45:50,320 --> 00:45:52,480
Speaker 2: I don't know what's going on, but I'm not I'm

1034
00:45:52,520 --> 00:45:56,160
Speaker 2: obviously not saying what you need to hear. But it's

1035
00:45:56,200 --> 00:45:58,360
Speaker 2: also affecting me, So what can we do?

1036
00:45:58,760 --> 00:46:02,520
Speaker 7: Yeah, I learned way too late that when people are

1037
00:46:03,200 --> 00:46:05,080
Speaker 7: in that mindset, they do not want to be told

1038
00:46:05,080 --> 00:46:08,839
Speaker 7: about the bright side of things, because I always felt

1039
00:46:08,840 --> 00:46:10,840
Speaker 7: that when I was like complaining or like seeing something

1040
00:46:11,000 --> 00:46:14,040
Speaker 7: seeing something negatively, I wanted to be told Like I

1041
00:46:14,080 --> 00:46:17,000
Speaker 7: was like looking for someone to say what you're feeling, like,

1042
00:46:17,120 --> 00:46:18,879
Speaker 7: you know, you're blowing it out of proportion in your mind,

1043
00:46:18,920 --> 00:46:21,520
Speaker 7: it's not actually that bad, but like that doesn't feel

1044
00:46:21,560 --> 00:46:23,200
Speaker 7: the same as when you're telling it to somebody else.

1045
00:46:23,719 --> 00:46:25,960
Speaker 7: And also, this person just wants to have their feelings validated.

1046
00:46:26,120 --> 00:46:27,480
Speaker 7: When it's constantly like that it's been going on for

1047
00:46:27,520 --> 00:46:28,880
Speaker 7: a year, I think this woman's depressed.

1048
00:46:29,280 --> 00:46:35,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, something complaining and constant negativity. That's like a headspace, Yeah,

1049
00:46:35,600 --> 00:46:36,920
Speaker 1: I do have.

1050
00:46:38,040 --> 00:46:40,160
Speaker 2: I think there was a time when Haley was going

1051
00:46:40,200 --> 00:46:42,919
Speaker 2: through stuff and she was really down and I would

1052
00:46:43,000 --> 00:46:46,040
Speaker 2: try to be like, you know, see the bright side,

1053
00:46:46,080 --> 00:46:48,480
Speaker 2: and she would get upset and be like, I just don't,

1054
00:46:48,560 --> 00:46:52,120
Speaker 2: like that's not helping me. And I I think I

1055
00:46:52,239 --> 00:46:54,920
Speaker 2: literally said, can you tell me what you need to

1056
00:46:54,960 --> 00:46:56,759
Speaker 2: hear from me in these moments, because I want to

1057
00:46:56,800 --> 00:46:59,080
Speaker 2: be helpful for you, and I feel like I'm trying

1058
00:46:59,120 --> 00:47:02,040
Speaker 2: to show like a differ perspective to be like, you know,

1059
00:47:02,440 --> 00:47:03,520
Speaker 2: excited about this.

1060
00:47:04,600 --> 00:47:05,360
Speaker 3: That's what I've.

1061
00:47:05,239 --> 00:47:07,520
Speaker 2: Always been able to do, like even for myself, like

1062
00:47:07,640 --> 00:47:11,319
Speaker 2: house to shift your perspective. But if you can't get

1063
00:47:11,320 --> 00:47:14,400
Speaker 2: out of the depression or the darkness, then that's horrible

1064
00:47:14,400 --> 00:47:17,520
Speaker 2: advice for that person. So I think that that's probably

1065
00:47:17,600 --> 00:47:19,720
Speaker 2: about the time that we went to a couple's therapy

1066
00:47:19,840 --> 00:47:23,319
Speaker 2: and that help, and it did.

1067
00:47:23,400 --> 00:47:25,719
Speaker 1: But some people like it, like I like, sometimes I

1068
00:47:25,719 --> 00:47:27,880
Speaker 1: can go dark and I can spiral about stuff, usually

1069
00:47:27,920 --> 00:47:31,440
Speaker 1: like it's about like age or whatever, and Robbie can

1070
00:47:31,520 --> 00:47:34,880
Speaker 1: like really give me the like positive on it, you

1071
00:47:34,920 --> 00:47:36,400
Speaker 1: know what I mean. Then he'll spin it. I'm not

1072
00:47:36,440 --> 00:47:38,400
Speaker 1: spin it, but like really make me see the other side.

1073
00:47:38,480 --> 00:47:39,279
Speaker 1: I'm like I needed that.

1074
00:47:40,080 --> 00:47:43,600
Speaker 2: So you either need a lawyer as a partner or

1075
00:47:43,800 --> 00:47:45,279
Speaker 2: a therapist.

1076
00:47:45,320 --> 00:47:48,040
Speaker 8: Someone with a confidentiality and greement exactly.

1077
00:47:48,920 --> 00:47:49,480
Speaker 3: But good luck.

1078
00:47:49,520 --> 00:47:51,120
Speaker 2: I know this is hard, and I think that you

1079
00:47:51,400 --> 00:47:54,839
Speaker 2: just being there for her but also suggesting you know

1080
00:47:55,040 --> 00:47:57,760
Speaker 2: what you can do to help.

1081
00:47:57,840 --> 00:48:00,480
Speaker 3: But also I don't think that it's it's fair for

1082
00:48:00,560 --> 00:48:00,960
Speaker 3: you to.

1083
00:48:03,280 --> 00:48:07,000
Speaker 2: Have your days and energy brought down because you're scared

1084
00:48:07,000 --> 00:48:08,879
Speaker 2: to speak up.

1085
00:48:09,000 --> 00:48:12,799
Speaker 1: I agree, and we love you and we love you,

1086
00:48:13,200 --> 00:48:14,240
Speaker 1: and that's it for now.

1087
00:48:14,480 --> 00:48:16,920
Speaker 2: It is for now, but we'll be back on Thursday.

1088
00:48:17,600 --> 00:48:21,600
Speaker 2: We have Gigi Caruso in studio in studio, so we

1089
00:48:21,680 --> 00:48:25,719
Speaker 2: got to be talking to her all about her. She

1090
00:48:25,880 --> 00:48:29,680
Speaker 2: has a foundation for it's called Here with You, which

1091
00:48:29,719 --> 00:48:34,399
Speaker 2: is about her hearing loss journey, and she has a

1092
00:48:34,440 --> 00:48:36,640
Speaker 2: brand that she's had for a long time.

1093
00:48:36,719 --> 00:48:38,320
Speaker 1: Actually she's a entrepreneur.

1094
00:48:39,480 --> 00:48:41,040
Speaker 2: So we're gonna be talking to her about all the

1095
00:48:41,120 --> 00:48:48,080
Speaker 2: things and we'll be back on Thursday.