WEBVTT - Featuring Madison Beer 0:00:00.080 --> 0:00:06.200 M Hi, guys, and welcome back to this week's episode 0:00:06.200 --> 0:00:08.480 of Let's Be Real Podcast. I'm your host, Sammy Jay, 0:00:08.800 --> 0:00:10.880 and this week I got to chat with the incredibly 0:00:10.920 --> 0:00:13.920 talented Madison Beer. Now you may know her from her 0:00:14.000 --> 0:00:17.560 music from social media, but I genuinely love this conversation 0:00:17.640 --> 0:00:20.400 so much because we talk a lot about how social 0:00:20.440 --> 0:00:24.079 media has negatively affected her even though her career started 0:00:24.120 --> 0:00:28.320 on social media. We talk about anxiety, touring music, girl 0:00:28.400 --> 0:00:38.320 supporting girls, and so much more. I hope you guys enjoy. Yeah, Addison, 0:00:38.400 --> 0:00:40.840 I am so excited that you are on my podcast. 0:00:41.080 --> 0:00:43.800 It's Friday. First of all, Happy Friday. I have no 0:00:43.880 --> 0:00:46.120 idea what day of the week it is or what 0:00:46.280 --> 0:00:49.159 planet I'm on anymore, So Happy Friday, I guess, no 0:00:49.280 --> 0:00:51.519 clue I know, But I mean, you're going on tour 0:00:51.640 --> 0:00:54.440 so soon, leaving tomorrow. How do we feel about this? 0:00:54.560 --> 0:00:59.280 Very excited, nervous. I'm like the most happy excited I've 0:00:59.280 --> 0:01:02.480 been in so long, and I'm just like, I really 0:01:02.560 --> 0:01:05.039 can't wait. It's been a very very long time since 0:01:05.040 --> 0:01:08.000 I've toured or like done a concert, um, and I've 0:01:08.000 --> 0:01:10.679 just been in rehearsals for the past month. So I 0:01:10.720 --> 0:01:13.720 can't believe it's here, and I'm really really excited. What 0:01:13.760 --> 0:01:16.240 are you looking forward to most? Um? I think it's 0:01:16.280 --> 0:01:18.759 like I've done. You know, I did a concert live 0:01:18.760 --> 0:01:21.520 stream when my album came out. Um, I did. I've 0:01:21.560 --> 0:01:24.039 done like a few things here and there, but I 0:01:24.160 --> 0:01:27.160 haven't performed any of this album or these songs for 0:01:27.240 --> 0:01:30.600 my fans. So I think just like finally singing them 0:01:30.640 --> 0:01:32.840 with them is going to be really magical and awesome. 0:01:32.920 --> 0:01:35.600 And um, I think that's probably what I'm the most 0:01:35.640 --> 0:01:39.160 excited for, is to just like hear them sing these 0:01:39.160 --> 0:01:41.400 songs back to me. It's really cool, going to be 0:01:41.440 --> 0:01:43.880 really cool. Like you said, you did the live stream performance, 0:01:43.920 --> 0:01:46.240 but there's nothing like a live audience and getting that 0:01:46.360 --> 0:01:49.760 like immediate feedback. What is that feeling like when you're 0:01:49.840 --> 0:01:53.280 just on stage people know the words what you've written 0:01:53.520 --> 0:01:57.000 relating to your experiences. Yeah, I mean it's a it's 0:01:57.040 --> 0:01:59.360 a really special thing. It's something that like you can't 0:01:59.560 --> 0:02:01.200 I don't know think, especially that I haven't done it 0:02:01.200 --> 0:02:03.200 in so long. I really don't take it for granted, 0:02:03.240 --> 0:02:05.000 not that I did before, but you know, it's like 0:02:05.400 --> 0:02:07.400 I can't believe I'm able to actually get back out 0:02:07.440 --> 0:02:10.200 there with them and do this, you know, And it's 0:02:10.200 --> 0:02:12.200 really surreal because we've we've been through in a global 0:02:12.200 --> 0:02:14.320 pandemic for the past year and a half and now 0:02:14.600 --> 0:02:17.600 we're finally returning to a sense of normalcy and getting 0:02:17.639 --> 0:02:22.480 to actually see humans in person again. It's like Theies 0:02:22.520 --> 0:02:25.280 all over again. Yeah, it's really wild, I think. I 0:02:25.280 --> 0:02:27.639 think it's also just like a lot of this music 0:02:28.120 --> 0:02:31.320 came out during Quarantine, during the heype of it all, 0:02:31.440 --> 0:02:34.680 So I think that like just having that connection that 0:02:34.720 --> 0:02:37.720 we've had online in real life for the first time, 0:02:37.760 --> 0:02:39.960 it's going to be really special. Because I just I 0:02:40.000 --> 0:02:42.760 did a radio show two months ago now, and there 0:02:42.800 --> 0:02:44.839 was only like a hundred people in the crowd, not 0:02:44.960 --> 0:02:46.799 all of which were my fans, like some of them 0:02:46.800 --> 0:02:49.520 were there for other people or whatever. And I was 0:02:49.960 --> 0:02:52.880 immediately crying when people started singing my song back to me, 0:02:52.919 --> 0:02:54.880 even it was just like fifty people. So I can't 0:02:54.880 --> 0:02:56.880 imagine how it's going to feel when it's a whole 0:02:56.919 --> 0:03:00.520 venue of people there for me. You gotta docu meant that, like, 0:03:00.680 --> 0:03:02.520 do you have a diary or like a journal to 0:03:02.560 --> 0:03:05.600 write Steven? Yeah, yeah, And I'm gonna have a I'm 0:03:05.600 --> 0:03:09.440 gonna do like video tour diaries. I think, um, like 0:03:09.520 --> 0:03:12.400 every once a week hopefully we'll get them out. But 0:03:12.400 --> 0:03:14.320 we're gonna we're gonna document as much as we can. 0:03:14.639 --> 0:03:17.240 I think it's going to be really special and I 0:03:17.240 --> 0:03:19.640 want to make sure all of it is documented in there. 0:03:20.280 --> 0:03:23.120 This album, you know, it got postponed first because of COVID, 0:03:23.280 --> 0:03:25.959 and then it got postponed again. But it's been out 0:03:26.000 --> 0:03:28.840 for a while. What has it been like creating art 0:03:29.560 --> 0:03:33.359 during such a surreal time period in all of our lives. 0:03:33.400 --> 0:03:36.600 Has it made it more difficult or has it helped 0:03:36.600 --> 0:03:39.240 your creative process? Would you say? Um? I think that 0:03:39.280 --> 0:03:41.960 at first it was kind of this obviously like bummer 0:03:42.000 --> 0:03:43.640 of a thing, and I was just like, damn my, 0:03:43.960 --> 0:03:47.480 you know, album has to be postponed and tour and everything, 0:03:47.520 --> 0:03:49.200 and it was kind of just this like heavy thing 0:03:49.240 --> 0:03:53.080 at first. But I tried to, as I do with 0:03:53.120 --> 0:03:56.000 most things, like find the positive through line I can, 0:03:57.200 --> 0:04:00.160 and that was, you know, getting to spend time my 0:04:00.200 --> 0:04:02.920 fans that I wouldn't have otherwise, which was like going 0:04:03.000 --> 0:04:06.200 on live streams and talking to them and just you know, 0:04:06.240 --> 0:04:11.240 having a more like honest dialogue between us. I was 0:04:11.280 --> 0:04:14.240 able to just like talk to them and it was 0:04:14.280 --> 0:04:16.200 really special and I'm really happy that I was able 0:04:16.240 --> 0:04:19.080 to do that. But to answer your question, I yeah, 0:04:19.120 --> 0:04:21.200 I mean I think that it didn't really hinder or 0:04:21.560 --> 0:04:24.240 like motivate me creatively. It was kind of just like 0:04:25.120 --> 0:04:27.760 weird that I couldn't do in person music sessions or 0:04:27.760 --> 0:04:30.520 writing sessions. But it also you know, gave me the 0:04:30.560 --> 0:04:32.480 ability to like want to write on my own and 0:04:32.520 --> 0:04:34.200 like not need a whole crew of people with me. 0:04:34.240 --> 0:04:36.719 And it definitely made me a better writer in a 0:04:36.760 --> 0:04:40.200 lot of ways. And um, yeah, it taught me so much. 0:04:40.279 --> 0:04:43.080 I I but I wouldn't say it like hinder the 0:04:43.120 --> 0:04:45.480 process too too much. What would you say the biggest 0:04:45.560 --> 0:04:50.520 lesson you've learned about yourself through quarantine and just past 0:04:50.520 --> 0:04:53.040 a year and a half, Um, I mean I learned 0:04:53.080 --> 0:04:55.960 a lot about myself. I um did a lot of 0:04:56.000 --> 0:04:59.080 like self reflection and just like you know, I just 0:04:59.120 --> 0:05:01.919 wanted to get to a place where I was like, Okay, 0:05:01.960 --> 0:05:04.520 we have you know, a month whatever it is. Obviously 0:05:04.560 --> 0:05:05.720 at the time, I didn't know how long it was 0:05:05.760 --> 0:05:08.360 going to be. But remember when it was two weeks. Yeah, 0:05:08.440 --> 0:05:10.400 literally and people, O, my god, we're gonna be obst 0:05:10.640 --> 0:05:13.400 for two weeks and I know another break. It's it's 0:05:13.440 --> 0:05:15.719 crazy and I think that like I haven't really had 0:05:15.800 --> 0:05:18.400 time the last ten years that I started this to 0:05:18.480 --> 0:05:21.359 like slow down and you know, just decompress and be 0:05:21.440 --> 0:05:24.640 like who are you? What? What? Like? What are you what? Who? 0:05:24.760 --> 0:05:27.440 What makes you tick? Like just really doing like a 0:05:27.480 --> 0:05:30.080 deep dive by myself, I think was really important to 0:05:30.160 --> 0:05:33.359 me and it ended up being really like worthwhile and 0:05:33.360 --> 0:05:35.479 I'm so happy that I was able to do that. 0:05:35.960 --> 0:05:38.960 But um, it was definitely still like a lot um. 0:05:39.000 --> 0:05:42.320 I think I'm someone who relies on other people or 0:05:42.360 --> 0:05:44.680 I used to at least for a lot of my happiness, 0:05:44.680 --> 0:05:47.880 and yeah, you know that was at first really difficult 0:05:48.000 --> 0:05:52.000 to stay happy, um and not slip back into like 0:05:52.040 --> 0:05:55.560 a severe depression. So I think also just learning how 0:05:55.600 --> 0:05:57.400 to like self soothe and be on my own and 0:05:57.440 --> 0:06:00.359 not rely on others was huge for me. So I'm 0:06:00.400 --> 0:06:03.360 you know, I'm grateful for for what it did provide 0:06:03.360 --> 0:06:05.960 and give to me, And like you said, like it's 0:06:06.279 --> 0:06:08.919 for me. Also, I have a struggle of anxiety my 0:06:09.160 --> 0:06:13.360 entire life. In a very isolating situation. It can be 0:06:14.360 --> 0:06:16.920 kind it could get bad fast if you're also have 0:06:16.920 --> 0:06:21.479 anxiety or depression everything. Yeah, and distraction can just be 0:06:21.520 --> 0:06:24.240 your best friend. Was there a certain show that you 0:06:24.240 --> 0:06:28.600 watched during quarantine that just helped get you through? It 0:06:28.640 --> 0:06:31.880 feels like such a fever dream that I don't really 0:06:31.880 --> 0:06:34.440 even remember anything I did. I know I watched like 0:06:34.520 --> 0:06:37.440 Tiger King and like whatever, all those viral things everywhere 0:06:37.720 --> 0:06:41.040 we're watching. But I honestly, like I swear, I spent 0:06:41.120 --> 0:06:43.560 nine of my time like on live streams talking to 0:06:43.600 --> 0:06:46.320 my fans. Like that's what really I guess distracted and 0:06:46.360 --> 0:06:47.880 took up a lot of my time. Was I was like, 0:06:47.880 --> 0:06:50.839 how can I get to, you know, know them better 0:06:51.320 --> 0:06:53.240 than I already do, and like how can I create 0:06:53.279 --> 0:06:56.400 this genuine friendship with my fans? Like I've never had 0:06:56.440 --> 0:06:58.159 this much time to just sit and talk to them 0:06:58.160 --> 0:07:01.320 and like have fun and just chat um ever and 0:07:01.400 --> 0:07:04.080 so it was. It was really fun. We had We 0:07:04.160 --> 0:07:06.479 made the best of it what we could, so we 0:07:06.520 --> 0:07:08.640 had a good time. Yeah, you're You're so right. This 0:07:08.800 --> 0:07:11.120 entire year and a half has felt like a fever dream. 0:07:11.160 --> 0:07:13.960 I think you you just put it perfectly. Yeah, I was. 0:07:14.360 --> 0:07:17.120 I was seventeen going the pandemic and now I'm now 0:07:17.200 --> 0:07:19.320 and I was a junior. Now I'm a freshman in college. 0:07:19.720 --> 0:07:23.400 What yeah, I was. I literally had just celebrated my 0:07:23.800 --> 0:07:26.720 like twenty first birthday. My birthday's March fits. It was 0:07:26.760 --> 0:07:29.840 like the last thing to happen prior to like lockdown, 0:07:30.000 --> 0:07:32.960 like a week before lockdown. Literally, so I had like 0:07:33.000 --> 0:07:35.080 this party and then it was locked down, and so 0:07:35.120 --> 0:07:36.640 I went to New York and so I yeah, I 0:07:36.680 --> 0:07:39.840 literally entered quarantine twenty one and now I'm like almost 0:07:39.840 --> 0:07:44.360 twenty three. Really weird. What is the past year and 0:07:44.400 --> 0:07:48.320 a half. I don't I don't know. It's really wild. 0:07:48.520 --> 0:07:51.120 It's like it's it's hard to realize that we're also 0:07:51.160 --> 0:07:54.280 like living through such an historical time. It's like, you know, 0:07:54.280 --> 0:07:57.080 we read about this in school that happened, and we're like, oh, well, 0:07:57.080 --> 0:07:59.360 like nothing like that's ever happened to us or in 0:07:59.360 --> 0:08:02.200 our time, but this will be the time and in 0:08:02.440 --> 0:08:04.880 life that gets taught in schools one day and people 0:08:04.880 --> 0:08:06.920 will be like, wow, those people live through a pandemic, 0:08:07.000 --> 0:08:09.720 Like how crazy? What was that? Like? My answer, I 0:08:09.760 --> 0:08:12.280 don't know. I still don't know. No, I'll be talking 0:08:12.280 --> 0:08:15.280 to my grandkids. I'll be like, yeah, no, clue No 0:08:15.760 --> 0:08:19.760 mentally blocked it out a long time ago deleted. Something 0:08:19.760 --> 0:08:22.480 that I've been forgetting is to like give ourselves like 0:08:22.520 --> 0:08:25.280 more grace that we are going through still such a 0:08:26.320 --> 0:08:29.640 fucked up time period, just in general, um, that we 0:08:29.680 --> 0:08:31.760 all need to just be nicer to ourselves, which is 0:08:32.160 --> 0:08:33.600 it can be hard to do because we've gotten so 0:08:33.640 --> 0:08:36.120 normal to this being the new normal. I've tried telling 0:08:36.160 --> 0:08:38.480 that to some of my friends who are in college 0:08:38.640 --> 0:08:40.960 or you know, my my brother, for example, graduated his 0:08:41.000 --> 0:08:45.160 senior year on Zoom whatever same. But people people like that, 0:08:45.240 --> 0:08:47.760 I try to explain to them, like, it's okay if 0:08:47.800 --> 0:08:52.120 you feel sad about this and you mourn something huge 0:08:52.200 --> 0:08:54.440 that you had worked you know, all of high school 0:08:54.520 --> 0:08:57.400 up to and whatever, like, it's totally I think that 0:08:57.400 --> 0:08:59.600 that's where a lot of people got it a bit 0:08:59.600 --> 0:09:02.560 wrong to me was when people were like, oh, um, 0:09:02.600 --> 0:09:05.400 you know, we should all be like try to make 0:09:05.480 --> 0:09:08.000 the best out of this. I'm like, yes, for sure, 0:09:08.200 --> 0:09:10.199 always I think you should try to make the best 0:09:10.200 --> 0:09:13.080 out of situations. But without being said, I think validating 0:09:13.080 --> 0:09:17.720 your emotions and experienced with this happening and feeling feeling 0:09:17.840 --> 0:09:20.839 robbed of certain things is valid and I and I 0:09:20.920 --> 0:09:23.120 would hate to see I think it just drives you 0:09:23.160 --> 0:09:26.280 into more of like a negative space when you're like 0:09:26.320 --> 0:09:28.920 invalidating your own experiences. And I think that it's okay 0:09:28.920 --> 0:09:30.640 to like, like I had to validate that to myself. 0:09:30.679 --> 0:09:32.360 I had to be like, it's okay that you're upset 0:09:32.400 --> 0:09:34.520 that your tour got canceled. That's a really valid thing 0:09:34.520 --> 0:09:38.120 to be upset about. And um, you know, my little 0:09:38.160 --> 0:09:39.679 brother came to me and he was like, I feel 0:09:39.760 --> 0:09:43.720 almost guilty for feeling sad that my senior year got canceled, 0:09:43.760 --> 0:09:45.760 because you know, there're obviously are people who are dealing 0:09:45.840 --> 0:09:49.280 with much worse things like family members passing away and 0:09:49.320 --> 0:09:51.920 like people in the hospitals and things like that. And 0:09:51.960 --> 0:09:53.880 of course, I think that's great that he acknowledged that 0:09:53.880 --> 0:09:55.760 that's going on. But I think it's important to still 0:09:55.920 --> 0:09:58.160 be able to like be like, well, I'm still having 0:09:58.200 --> 0:10:01.640 a hard time, and um, I just yeah, I was. 0:10:01.679 --> 0:10:03.319 I thought it was sweet that he like obviously was 0:10:03.360 --> 0:10:05.319 thinking about other people. I think that that's like such 0:10:05.360 --> 0:10:07.720 a great quality. But also you have to you have 0:10:07.760 --> 0:10:09.920 to validate your own experiences and you have to be 0:10:09.960 --> 0:10:13.360 able to be like I'm going through something weird and hard, 0:10:13.400 --> 0:10:15.360 and still to this day, you know, people are and 0:10:15.400 --> 0:10:17.960 we are and um you know zoom and all that 0:10:18.000 --> 0:10:20.440 stuff is still really really new to us. And I 0:10:20.440 --> 0:10:23.040 think it's it's really important for your mental health to 0:10:23.080 --> 0:10:25.200 take a second and be like, this has been a 0:10:25.240 --> 0:10:28.480 fucking weird, hard year and a half. Now, Like it's 0:10:28.480 --> 0:10:30.679 okay to feel weird about it, and it's okay to 0:10:30.760 --> 0:10:33.320 like more in your you know, the last two years 0:10:33.320 --> 0:10:36.079 of your life. It's okay. I feel that because I 0:10:36.120 --> 0:10:38.040 feel like I've done that too, where I don't want to. 0:10:38.840 --> 0:10:41.160 I'm sure many other people listening can relate like people 0:10:41.200 --> 0:10:43.120 are going through so much worse. At the same time, 0:10:43.320 --> 0:10:46.000 it doesn't make what we're going through less valid, which 0:10:46.040 --> 0:10:48.600 I think is an important reminder. And I think also 0:10:48.640 --> 0:10:50.719 with the pandemic, the way we've kept in touch is 0:10:50.800 --> 0:10:55.120 through social media. I've struggled just balancing a healthy relationship 0:10:55.120 --> 0:10:57.679 with social media my entire life. I'm sure you get 0:10:57.679 --> 0:10:58.920 this what you also have to think of it as 0:10:58.920 --> 0:11:01.600 a business. But the same time, like I'm nineteen years old, 0:11:01.679 --> 0:11:03.520 I'm a nineteen year old girl in social media can 0:11:03.559 --> 0:11:07.520 just get so toxic so fast. Have you found a 0:11:07.960 --> 0:11:11.040 way to manage that balance or is that still something 0:11:11.080 --> 0:11:13.520 you're working on. Um. I think it's like a forever 0:11:14.120 --> 0:11:18.360 like ever evolving process for me. It changes also, like 0:11:18.440 --> 0:11:22.080 with my mental state. It like sometimes I can, you know, 0:11:22.360 --> 0:11:25.040 allow myself to scroll on TikTok for five hours and 0:11:25.080 --> 0:11:26.920 just be like whatever, I'm fine, And then other days 0:11:26.920 --> 0:11:28.800 it will send me into a panic attack and I 0:11:28.840 --> 0:11:30.959 just don't want to even a lot. So I think 0:11:30.960 --> 0:11:33.559 it depends on my mood, it depends on what's going 0:11:33.600 --> 0:11:36.200 on in my life. But I'm really good. I've you know, 0:11:36.280 --> 0:11:38.560 I see a therapist twice a week who's amazing, and 0:11:38.600 --> 0:11:44.280 I work really diligently about like knowing when I should 0:11:44.320 --> 0:11:46.679 indulge in that and when I shouldn't, and like when 0:11:46.720 --> 0:11:48.280 it's worth it and when it's not. And I feel 0:11:48.320 --> 0:11:50.920 like I'm good about trying to be self aware. Also 0:11:51.000 --> 0:11:53.040 so sorry if my voice is so raspy. I've been 0:11:53.080 --> 0:11:55.160 singing like every single day in rehearsals and I feel 0:11:55.160 --> 0:11:59.520 like I sound like, No, you sound great, you sound great. Um. 0:11:59.600 --> 0:12:02.439 But yeah, like if I'm feeling like shit and if 0:12:02.440 --> 0:12:05.000 I've had a long day and if I feel stressed 0:12:05.120 --> 0:12:08.000 and insecure and like I don't want to read what 0:12:08.120 --> 0:12:09.800 a million people have to say about me. I just 0:12:09.880 --> 0:12:12.520 I just create that barrier in that boundary. And I'm like, no, 0:12:12.720 --> 0:12:15.360 we're not going to sit on social media tonight because 0:12:15.360 --> 0:12:16.760 I know that if I see something or if I 0:12:16.760 --> 0:12:20.120 read something, I'm gonna fucking feel like shit. So I 0:12:20.120 --> 0:12:22.680 think it's important to just listen to your mind and 0:12:22.720 --> 0:12:25.440 your heart and your body. And if you're heart in 0:12:25.480 --> 0:12:27.800 mind is telling you like, hey, maybe tonight it's not 0:12:27.840 --> 0:12:31.200 the best night to do this, then you just should 0:12:31.240 --> 0:12:33.720 like listen. Do you know what's really helped? I saw 0:12:33.720 --> 0:12:36.880 the Social Dilemma? Did you ever see that? Terrifying? Oh? Yes, 0:12:36.960 --> 0:12:40.640 it's terrifying. And so after watching that doc, I turned 0:12:40.679 --> 0:12:43.720 off notifications for all social media except Gmail because I 0:12:43.720 --> 0:12:46.240 have to use that, and I they've stayed off ever 0:12:46.320 --> 0:12:49.680 since I've watched it. And it's actually great because I 0:12:49.840 --> 0:12:51.320 only go on when I want to go on and 0:12:51.320 --> 0:12:53.080 not want to get an alert that someone wants to 0:12:53.080 --> 0:12:55.920 contact me, right right, Yeah, I have. I mean, like 0:12:56.000 --> 0:12:59.680 I can show you I literally have. My social media 0:12:59.760 --> 0:13:02.480 is all or like dark. You know, they all have 0:13:02.600 --> 0:13:05.120 time on them, so like you open Instagram and it's 0:13:05.200 --> 0:13:07.720 just I have to I have to bypass that. If 0:13:07.760 --> 0:13:09.800 I want to use Instagram today, I need to click 0:13:10.080 --> 0:13:12.959 ignore limit, which then gives you like, okay, do you 0:13:13.000 --> 0:13:15.360 want to ignore it for a minute or fifteen minutes 0:13:15.440 --> 0:13:17.440 or ignore it for the whole day. And I'll never 0:13:17.600 --> 0:13:19.640 ever click ignore it for the whole day. But like, 0:13:19.760 --> 0:13:21.679 it's it's nice that I have to kind of like 0:13:21.840 --> 0:13:24.280 have these checkpoints of not just because you know, it's 0:13:24.320 --> 0:13:27.080 I think like as young people, it's like we just 0:13:27.679 --> 0:13:30.600 naturally go to Twitter and we'll just scroll on Instagram 0:13:30.679 --> 0:13:34.280 or whatever it is, and I think that it's like 0:13:34.880 --> 0:13:40.720 important for people to like have this checkpoint that's like okay, TikTok, 0:13:40.760 --> 0:13:42.720 do I want to bypass this? Yes or no? And 0:13:42.760 --> 0:13:45.920 you have to actually like log in your head these 0:13:46.120 --> 0:13:48.719 these time limits. Like I I feel like I used 0:13:48.720 --> 0:13:50.480 to also look at my screen time and it was 0:13:50.520 --> 0:13:53.320 like hours and hours and hours that I spent on 0:13:53.480 --> 0:13:56.720 social media and I'd be like, what, yeah, that's so 0:13:56.800 --> 0:13:59.760 much of my life and my time, and I'm just 0:13:59.800 --> 0:14:03.320 like this is terrible, like horrible. So at least when 0:14:03.320 --> 0:14:06.719 you have themers, you're like logging it, you know, you're like, hey, 0:14:06.720 --> 0:14:10.200 that was only fifteen minutes that was minutes. I'm definitely 0:14:10.240 --> 0:14:14.880 gonna explore the time limit thing. I uh my software 0:14:14.960 --> 0:14:17.000 of high school, my anxiety was like the worst it 0:14:17.120 --> 0:14:21.760 ever got um and social media just got so toxic. 0:14:22.160 --> 0:14:24.080 And on a winter break, I shot off my phone 0:14:24.080 --> 0:14:26.400 completely for two weeks and I was like, if my 0:14:26.440 --> 0:14:29.080 friends want to contact me, they can call my home phone. 0:14:29.720 --> 0:14:33.280 And I was spending like thirteen hours on my phone 0:14:33.280 --> 0:14:36.000 a day, and I had so much extra time. I 0:14:36.000 --> 0:14:37.800 taught myself the ukulele because I was like, I don't 0:14:37.800 --> 0:14:39.520 know what to do with this extra time in my life. 0:14:39.720 --> 0:14:42.040 Good for you, that's I think that's amazing, and I 0:14:42.120 --> 0:14:44.280 think that it's really like dope that you had that 0:14:44.880 --> 0:14:47.960 like inner dialogue to tell you, hey, like let's let's chill, 0:14:48.080 --> 0:14:50.120 Like it's too much. A lot of people don't have that, 0:14:50.240 --> 0:14:53.400 and so it's that's really that's awesome. Okay, we have 0:14:53.440 --> 0:14:55.280 to take a quick break, but when we come back, 0:14:55.360 --> 0:14:58.480 let's talk more about your experience with social media and 0:14:58.600 --> 0:15:00.800 the impact it's had on your min health. I also 0:15:00.840 --> 0:15:02.600 want to talk about your passion about being a mental 0:15:02.640 --> 0:15:06.480 health advocate, your new music, and so much more. Yeah, 0:15:14.280 --> 0:15:17.240 I can feel myself starting to go down the not 0:15:17.440 --> 0:15:20.360 so great feeling of social media. Again, for everyone listening, 0:15:20.520 --> 0:15:23.840 please remember at the highlight reel, it is not anyone's 0:15:23.880 --> 0:15:26.520 life at all. I think it's a yeah, I mean, 0:15:26.560 --> 0:15:27.960 I think it's crazy we even have to say that, 0:15:28.000 --> 0:15:30.440 Like I think that it's like you should just know 0:15:30.640 --> 0:15:32.680 of course people are only putting out what they want 0:15:32.760 --> 0:15:36.680 you to see and like they're only their best and um, 0:15:36.680 --> 0:15:40.640 it's not it's it's it's not reality. I try to 0:15:40.680 --> 0:15:43.040 I try to remind my fans and like just people 0:15:43.040 --> 0:15:44.800 who follow me that as much as I can. Where 0:15:44.840 --> 0:15:46.720 I'm like, you guys do know I don't look like 0:15:46.760 --> 0:15:49.200 this all the time, right, you guys are fully aware that, 0:15:49.280 --> 0:15:51.200 Like I spent two hours in here and makeup before 0:15:51.200 --> 0:15:54.160 I took this selfie and like whatever it might be, Um, 0:15:54.200 --> 0:15:56.640 I think it's so important, Like people need to just 0:15:56.720 --> 0:16:00.480 understand that, especially even I've found it's not not even 0:16:00.560 --> 0:16:04.600 really the like people who post selfies really look super 0:16:04.600 --> 0:16:06.440 fire all the time and stuff like that. That gets 0:16:06.480 --> 0:16:09.320 to me. It's more like I found myself for a 0:16:09.360 --> 0:16:13.680 really long time looking at people's relationships and people's lives, 0:16:13.760 --> 0:16:16.160 being like, well they seem like they're so happy all 0:16:16.160 --> 0:16:19.440 the time, and they're traveling and this person they're dating, 0:16:19.440 --> 0:16:21.000 they seem so happy with them, and da da da 0:16:21.040 --> 0:16:24.280 da da. And I was always comparing like my relationships 0:16:24.280 --> 0:16:25.960 to that. But in reality, like a lot of the 0:16:26.000 --> 0:16:28.600 couples you see posting online that are like the happiest 0:16:28.640 --> 0:16:32.160 couples ever, like fighting NonStop and like have issues and 0:16:32.200 --> 0:16:34.400 they're not posting like, hey, me and my boyfriend has 0:16:34.400 --> 0:16:39.200 gone to a fight like this. It's just not reality. 0:16:39.280 --> 0:16:41.200 So I think it's it's super important to just take 0:16:41.240 --> 0:16:43.520 everything with a grain of salt and really trying not 0:16:43.560 --> 0:16:48.040 to compare your life or relationships to you know, any 0:16:48.040 --> 0:16:50.840 of that. It's just it's just not worth it. It's 0:16:50.880 --> 0:16:53.320 really not ingradius on the pot and he kicked up 0:16:54.120 --> 0:16:55.880 and he said something to me that, like I've just 0:16:55.920 --> 0:16:58.240 been thinking ever since you was You're right where you're 0:16:58.280 --> 0:17:01.000 supposed to be. You're not behind anybody, you're not ahead. 0:17:01.040 --> 0:17:03.480 You're on your own journey and that is where and 0:17:03.520 --> 0:17:06.160 that's true for all of us for sure. Yeah, that's 0:17:06.200 --> 0:17:09.919 like I hate anything comparison, Like I'm just like, no, 0:17:10.440 --> 0:17:12.840 do not compare yourself to each other, like only one 0:17:12.880 --> 0:17:15.240 of you. You're on your own path. Yeah, there's only 0:17:15.280 --> 0:17:17.800 one of you, and like you were here on this planet, 0:17:17.840 --> 0:17:21.639 I believe to fulfill like your own ship, not anyone else's. 0:17:21.680 --> 0:17:25.200 Don't compare your life to anyone else's. Um. I think 0:17:25.240 --> 0:17:28.520 also like it's hard being our age now because like 0:17:28.560 --> 0:17:31.560 you see kids our age like who are millionaires and 0:17:31.560 --> 0:17:34.080 who are super successful and who are just like running companies, 0:17:34.080 --> 0:17:37.000 and you're like, what the fuck, Like it's really hard 0:17:37.040 --> 0:17:40.240 to not compare, Like I have friends who are um 0:17:40.240 --> 0:17:41.840 my age and who will be like, I feel like 0:17:41.880 --> 0:17:46.080 I'm a failure because I'm not like a multimillionaire because 0:17:46.080 --> 0:17:48.600 on social media, that's like all you see and I'm 0:17:48.600 --> 0:17:51.040 just like, yo, that's so not reality, and like you 0:17:51.080 --> 0:17:53.480 need to stop being so hard on yourself. But I understand, 0:17:53.520 --> 0:17:56.080 like you might think that this is like what goes on, 0:17:56.160 --> 0:17:59.000 but it's it's not, and it's it's sad. I think 0:17:59.040 --> 0:18:01.479 a lot of people who do really great discredit themselves 0:18:01.480 --> 0:18:04.160 because they compare themselves to people online. And I think 0:18:04.240 --> 0:18:07.119 also we're living in such a weird world where people 0:18:07.160 --> 0:18:09.560 on social media are making millions of dollars and their 0:18:09.640 --> 0:18:12.920 fourteen and we have to like that's just because you're 0:18:12.960 --> 0:18:16.200 not that does not mean you are any less than Yeah, 0:18:16.400 --> 0:18:20.040 it's a wild, wild time. It's really really crazy, and 0:18:20.080 --> 0:18:22.719 it's really bad on the psyche, Like let's not forget 0:18:22.800 --> 0:18:27.040 like it's it's really intense for a kid. Um. I 0:18:27.119 --> 0:18:29.400 mean I was twelve on social media and it had 0:18:29.440 --> 0:18:31.920 its effects on me in a major way. And I've 0:18:31.960 --> 0:18:34.480 had to now be in like extensive therapy and I've 0:18:34.480 --> 0:18:37.359 gone through a lot of ship mentally that like I 0:18:37.400 --> 0:18:39.680 do credit being on social media is super young. I 0:18:39.960 --> 0:18:42.280 think that that had a really really negative impact on 0:18:42.520 --> 0:18:45.520 the way I viewed myself mental health. Um, having like 0:18:45.560 --> 0:18:47.879 people just like talk about you in a negative way 0:18:47.920 --> 0:18:50.160 all the time is not It's not something like you're 0:18:50.160 --> 0:18:54.800 meant to process. So especially when you're growing up and 0:18:54.960 --> 0:18:57.960 people are critiquing you for when they don't know you. Yeah, 0:18:58.040 --> 0:18:59.760 I have no idea who I am, let alone, Like 0:18:59.800 --> 0:19:02.119 do these people know who I am? So it's it 0:19:02.200 --> 0:19:04.639 was really difficult. And I think there's a lot of kids, 0:19:04.640 --> 0:19:07.080 like literally kids on social media now that I'm I'm 0:19:07.080 --> 0:19:09.120 really worried for and I just I just hope that they, 0:19:09.680 --> 0:19:12.240 you know, look out for themselves the best they can. 0:19:12.320 --> 0:19:15.399