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Speaker 1: That this way up with Angela Yee.

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Speaker 2: I feel like I did a whole interview because I've

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Speaker 2: been talking to this woman. But it's a Wealth Wednesday.

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Speaker 2: Of course, my partner, Stacy Tisdaily is here with me.

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Speaker 3: Happy Wealth Wednesdays. Everybody who couldn't talk to this amazing

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Speaker 3: woman that you'll all about.

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Speaker 4: To hear few Thank you.

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Speaker 3: We're really excited. We have a Joy Hunt here today

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Speaker 3: and she is the founder at see you at the

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Speaker 3: Bank University Business Group. Serial entrepreneur, like crazy, You're in hair,

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Speaker 3: You're in hair extensions, You're in auto, you're in everything,

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Speaker 3: tax pro jim fitness, business coaching. How does somebody who

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Speaker 3: starts out as a lawyer see all these business opportunities.

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Speaker 4: I don't like to look at titles, so I'm looking

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Speaker 4: like where is the money? Where do I see an

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Speaker 4: opportunity and that's where I go. So I'm not really

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Speaker 4: is the best opportunity and then that's where I'm going.

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Speaker 2: That's a hard thing for some people to see because

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Speaker 2: I feel like structure is so important too, right, Like

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Speaker 2: a hairstore before and it worked for a little while

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Speaker 2: until it didn't. But it also is being able to

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Speaker 2: like get the right people in position to run things.

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Speaker 1: So how difficult is that?

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Speaker 2: Because sometimes if you can't be there because you have

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Speaker 4: It's very hard to find a team. So it's hard

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Speaker 4: to find someone who's gonna work like you and who's

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Speaker 4: going to keep your same culture, your same values, your

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Speaker 4: same system. So you're in the beginning. You're gonna have

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Speaker 4: to be there. And that's kind of the answer that

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Speaker 4: people I want to start a business and hire someone,

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Speaker 4: they're gonna steal from you. They gonna not gonna run

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Speaker 4: it right, They're gonna run into the ground. So you

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Speaker 2: That's important because I've had like some of tragic business

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Speaker 2: partner stories and even just aside from that, also people

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Speaker 2: of way that you would like, say, they have a

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Speaker 2: nasty personality, but that's not how you want your business

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Speaker 2: to be perceived. Like you're not going to come in

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Speaker 2: here and the person is rude and nasty, and then

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Speaker 3: Correct of your brand? Correct?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Wow?

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Speaker 1: So what was that first business that you did.

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Speaker 4: My very first business was my law practice. I quit

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Speaker 4: working for a law firm when asked a protection and

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Speaker 4: I went started the Hunt Law Group.

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Speaker 3: And they know, you had a lot of business success

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Speaker 3: with your partner, and then you really kind of went

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Speaker 3: change everything and now you've just built these amazing franchises

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Speaker 4: Sure? So three years ago, I was in a toxic

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Speaker 4: marriage ten years and it turned abusive and I was like,

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Speaker 4: And then a month later he took all the money

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Speaker 4: so February of twenty twenty two, my mom paid my rent. Dang. Wow.

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Speaker 3: blown up case of it, but domestic violence cases, how

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Speaker 3: most ninety nine percent of them actually start in financial abuse. Correct,

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Speaker 3: And you were really in a financially abusive relationship.

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Speaker 4: So when you're with a controlling person, you don't see

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Speaker 4: a lower limit. And then when I when I would

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Speaker 4: By the time the woman realized she is being financially abused,

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Speaker 3: You have to come back. Sorry, I was just gonna

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Speaker 3: we always have Ken Pentago from the National Network to

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Speaker 3: End Domestic Violence, Yeah, to talk about financial abuse. And

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Speaker 3: just before we leave this top, what would you tell

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Speaker 4: I would say, Number one, don't say anything to your abuser.

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Speaker 4: He's only gonna make things worse. You need to go

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Speaker 4: get a plan so you can't just leave, because if

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Speaker 4: money to leave. Number Two, you don't want to like

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Speaker 4: take them off. You want to have a plan. Don't

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Speaker 4: that you know that may mean you may have to

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Speaker 4: in real estate, like go actually start earning some money,

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Speaker 1: You gotta be prepared.

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Speaker 2: I appreciate you for sharing that because I see so

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Speaker 2: many times women who are in situations and people kind

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Speaker 2: of act like, well, why didn't she just leave? Well,

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Speaker 2: you saw what was going on. But it's not as

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Speaker 2: simple as saying what he said, what did he put

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Speaker 1: I'm out?

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Speaker 2: Normally it does not happen that way, correct, And it

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Speaker 2: also mentally can break you down where you start, and

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Speaker 1: A lot of times, like you're sometimes you don't even

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Speaker 3: You're ashamed of it.

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Speaker 1: You feel like it's your faults.

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Speaker 4: They isolate you, so you know, no no real friends

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Speaker 4: want to admit that I was in this, like no,

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Speaker 4: it can't be this. A lot of times there's gonna

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Speaker 4: be we are tied together. So I have a my

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Speaker 4: don't know how to put yourself first, which I was,

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Speaker 4: I was. I was the person that's going to take

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Speaker 2: And you're not alone, Like it's so many smart women

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Speaker 3: You're here right here for three years.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it's it's it's a lot. It's a lot, and

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Speaker 4: I want people to understand, Hey, it's not your fault

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Speaker 4: because the person that you got with, they were totally

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Speaker 3: When you and I spoke, you said, one of the

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Speaker 3: things that you coach people is use your personal story,

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Speaker 4: So I believe that your test is your testimony. And

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Speaker 4: so if whatever you have gone through, that's what makes

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Speaker 4: want to stand on that not be ashamed of that.

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Speaker 4: So if you were raped, if you were home, if

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Speaker 4: whatever it is, embrace that and then share your story

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Speaker 4: get better, because I kept thinking it's gonna get better,

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Speaker 4: it's not changed. And then someone hopped in the comments,

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Speaker 4: oh my gosh, that happened to me. I totally understand.

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Speaker 4: not alone. Number two, your abuser wants you to be caught.

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Speaker 1: It's empowering to be able to tell you a story.

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Speaker 1: What can he do about it?

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Speaker 4: They want you just to die off and you know,

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Speaker 4: best life. And it's like, no, I'm going to speak

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Speaker 4: up about what I endure, but more importantly, how I

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Speaker 4: overcame and forget what I did, what I went through,

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Speaker 4: How I overcame it, and so whatever you're going through

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Speaker 2: Also, So let's follow your journey. You said you lived

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Speaker 2: You're from Lave. You moved to Orlando from Houston. Okay,

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Speaker 2: So when did you move to Orlando?

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Speaker 4: I was I was shot at November of twenty twenty one. Okay,

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Speaker 4: So I was going to Orlando to get away, okay

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Speaker 3: So in addition to being part of your tribe, what

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Speaker 4: Teaching number one, how to structure your business to make

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Speaker 1: We would need that.

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Speaker 3: Wait, back up, back up, free money, free money.

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Speaker 2: So so many grants available that I don't know how

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Speaker 3: It don't cost money.

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Speaker 4: And so when you exhaust all your resources and going

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Speaker 2: What's great about grants is that you don't have to

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Speaker 3: And they're not that. I mean, we recommend everyone do

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Speaker 4: A lot of times. A lot of times people think

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Speaker 3: Okay, now you send text that to me when we're done, And.

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Speaker 4: It's like you can. You can apply the business grants.

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Speaker 1: Let me ask you.

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Speaker 1: So what have you found?

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Speaker 4: So right now in the business grant community, a lot

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Speaker 2: Okay, good to know, because I was like, what is

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Speaker 1: Who dubbed you the business best?

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Speaker 2: What would you say are the three biggest challenges that

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Speaker 4: The three biggest challenges is Number one, not realizing that

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Speaker 4: Correct. So I believe in focusing on your strengths and

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Speaker 2: Now, Creme de la Creme, you started that but didn't

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Speaker 2: So I want to know what was going on in

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Speaker 4: And after watching that movie and I'm seeing all these

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Speaker 4: So I was like, this is gonna be big. Let

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Speaker 4: You can just get hair extensions. So once you see

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Speaker 4: any kind of loyalty program that they come in they'll

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Speaker 4: get double points on those days. You want to bring

443
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Speaker 4: traffic to your slower days so that they can kind

444
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Speaker 4: of still bring money for you.

445
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Speaker 1: Just start asking some questions.

446
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Speaker 3: Oh wow, wow, wow, who is your ideal client. Who's

447
00:19:48,040 --> 00:19:51,280
Speaker 3: the ideal entrepreneur? You can work with any type of entrepreneur.

448
00:19:53,960 --> 00:19:55,440
Speaker 4: I can work with you. Now, I'm not going to

449
00:19:55,480 --> 00:19:58,159
Speaker 4: say any entrepreneurs. You aren't, if you aren't driven, if

450
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Speaker 4: if I'm gonna have a whole bunch of excuses. No,

451
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Speaker 4: But my target audience will be three, three different people.

452
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Speaker 4: Number one is gonna be my startup. They're trying to

453
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Speaker 4: get it going or they got the visit, but they

454
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Speaker 4: don't have any sales, and they're trying to figure how

455
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Speaker 4: do I get this bad boy going? That's number one.

456
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Speaker 4: Number two is going to be a six figure entrepreneur

457
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Speaker 4: who was at who's stuck at a ceiling. I can't

458
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Speaker 4: get past this income. I need to tweak something, but

459
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Speaker 4: what is it? And my third one is the monkey

460
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Speaker 4: is on my neck. I have gotten into a problem

461
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Speaker 4: and I don't know how to get out of this

462
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Speaker 4: and I need some direction. So those are gonna be

463
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Speaker 4: my three target audience.

464
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Speaker 3: And what's the process do you do? Like calls, coaching calls.

465
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Speaker 4: I have a mentorship program, I have consultations, and I

466
00:20:46,160 --> 00:20:48,359
Speaker 4: have a community, so I can kind of fit you

467
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Speaker 4: in one of those price points.

468
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Speaker 2: See and what I love you also were in like

469
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Speaker 2: the automotive business yeh, collision, I mean this is and

470
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Speaker 2: then tax preparation. I feel like these are all things

471
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Speaker 2: that are like so different from each other, but there

472
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Speaker 2: is one thing that remains the same, and that is

473
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Speaker 2: business is business.

474
00:21:07,280 --> 00:21:09,840
Speaker 4: Business is business. And once you get the blueprint of

475
00:21:09,880 --> 00:21:12,720
Speaker 4: how to start, structure and fund your business, all you

476
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Speaker 4: do is just change the product in our service. But

477
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Speaker 4: I will say this, you have to make one business hot.

478
00:21:18,119 --> 00:21:20,360
Speaker 4: You can't start three at one time. So you got

479
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Speaker 4: to get one house. Alf I have all these business

480
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Speaker 4: I didn't have them all at one time. So I'm

481
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Speaker 4: gonna have one that's hot, and then I'll get another

482
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Speaker 4: one going, and then I'll get another one going. I

483
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Speaker 4: may let go of this one. You're gonna You're gonna

484
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Speaker 4: always say ahead of the industry trends, what's going on

485
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Speaker 4: in your industry, what's going on so you can make

486
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Speaker 4: moves ahead of time versus being reactive.

487
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Speaker 1: What are your thoughts about partnerships too, because I know

488
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Speaker 1: I touched on that earlier.

489
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Speaker 2: Now, one of my homegirls is like, I don't never

490
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Speaker 2: partner with anybody because I just can't do it.

491
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Speaker 1: And I know another guy he has a food.

492
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Speaker 2: Franchise, does it by himself, and he's like, I don't

493
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Speaker 2: want to deal with a partner. It just never works out.

494
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Speaker 2: But I've had both experiences. I have a partner that

495
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Speaker 2: it works, but then I've had some like you know,

496
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Speaker 2: like I said, more.

497
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Speaker 1: Of them haven't work than have.

498
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Speaker 2: So I want to know what your thoughts are on

499
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Speaker 2: that and what type of business best. The advice you can.

500
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Speaker 4: Give a business partnership is like a marriage, So you

501
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Speaker 4: don't want to just jump into bed or jump into

502
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Speaker 4: business is anybody, because it's so hard to make a

503
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Speaker 4: business partnership work. It's hard to find someone who's gonna

504
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Speaker 4: work at that same level, have that same work ethic,

505
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Speaker 4: have that same vision, have the same mindset as to

506
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Speaker 4: what we're doing with the business, how we're treating the customers,

507
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Speaker 4: how we're spending the money. It is hard, and the

508
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Speaker 4: problem is a lot of times we just jump in

509
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Speaker 4: because we're cool. We have this idea, not realizing we

510
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Speaker 4: are on two different spectrums. On work ethic. Our work

511
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Speaker 4: seven days a week, you were banking hours. It's never

512
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Speaker 4: going to work. So I would say in the unless

513
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Speaker 4: you know, like just I would say, pump your Brakes

514
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Speaker 4: on getting a partner. Just try to do a joint venture.

515
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Speaker 4: Try to I don't I'm not a fan of a

516
00:23:04,480 --> 00:23:08,800
Speaker 4: partnersment unless you just know that this is we are vibing.

517
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Speaker 4: We have the same not the same vision for the business.

518
00:23:12,240 --> 00:23:15,120
Speaker 4: What is our work ethic? What do I consider working?

519
00:23:15,840 --> 00:23:18,240
Speaker 4: What's your view on customer service? How do you want

520
00:23:18,280 --> 00:23:21,800
Speaker 4: to spend the money? Do you want to reinvest in marketing?

521
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Speaker 4: Like all of these things you got to kind of

522
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Speaker 4: know in the beginning, So you need to kind of

523
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Speaker 4: have all this discussion before the money is made, because

524
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Speaker 4: once that money is made, that's when the problem starts

525
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Speaker 4: to go.

526
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Speaker 3: I think it's a relationship to when almost being like

527
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Speaker 3: a soulful connection Wealth Wednesdays Angela, just as you get

528
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Speaker 3: to know her as a person. I think I always

529
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Speaker 3: tell people she thinks it's like bad luck to treat

530
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Speaker 3: people badly, and I feel that as well. And that's

531
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Speaker 3: a wonderful place to come together a partnership. So having

532
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Speaker 3: those values correct and.

533
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Speaker 2: I think that's like one of the most critical just

534
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Speaker 2: for people, Like behind the scenes, Stacy's going to be

535
00:24:00,080 --> 00:24:02,080
Speaker 2: than when it does the prep calls and make sure

536
00:24:02,280 --> 00:24:04,320
Speaker 2: she knows I'm going to do my own research, but

537
00:24:04,400 --> 00:24:07,560
Speaker 2: she'll put together like a whole sheet of like, Okay,

538
00:24:07,600 --> 00:24:10,160
Speaker 2: here's some bullet points so that we can supplement that

539
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Speaker 2: with the work that I'm doing.

540
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Speaker 4: And that's to find someone who's strong where you're weak,

541
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Speaker 4: right or strong.

542
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Speaker 3: It's like a compliment. But I think one of the

543
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Speaker 3: things that's really made this work fantastically is that just

544
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Speaker 3: blind something's happened, and we blindly trust each other. Trust

545
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Speaker 3: each other.

546
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Speaker 2: And then you also have books that are available for people.

547
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Speaker 2: So let's just say that's a good way to start.

548
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Speaker 2: Right right package wrong address? Tell me about that?

549
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Speaker 4: So right is the wrong partnership?

550
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Speaker 1: I was there, you go.

551
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Speaker 4: So I'm writing a book or I wrote a book

552
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Speaker 4: on what I had to do to overcome getting myself

553
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Speaker 4: out that dark season. I wanted to give up and

554
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Speaker 4: then have to go back and fight out and kind

555
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Speaker 4: of just fight for my true passion. So when you

556
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Speaker 4: are going through a dark time with whatever it is,

557
00:25:02,160 --> 00:25:04,400
Speaker 4: a lot of times you want to give up, and

558
00:25:04,600 --> 00:25:06,600
Speaker 4: it's it's to one thing just to kind of get

559
00:25:06,640 --> 00:25:09,040
Speaker 4: yourself back together. It's another thing to then go and

560
00:25:09,160 --> 00:25:12,240
Speaker 4: thrive to live your best life. And I want everyone

561
00:25:12,280 --> 00:25:14,800
Speaker 4: to be living their best life because for several years

562
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Speaker 4: I was just existing. I was on the back burner.

563
00:25:17,640 --> 00:25:20,040
Speaker 4: I wasn't really living I was I was existing. I

564
00:25:20,080 --> 00:25:21,960
Speaker 4: was drained, I was tired, I was doaying for everyone

565
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Speaker 4: else except from me. So my right package at the

566
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Speaker 4: wrong address means nothing is wrong with you. You were

567
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Speaker 4: at the wrong address. Whether it's the relationship, the partnership,

568
00:25:34,200 --> 00:25:37,879
Speaker 4: the job, the friendship, nothing was wrong with you. You

569
00:25:37,920 --> 00:25:40,840
Speaker 4: were just at the wrong address. So just return to

570
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Speaker 4: Cinder and we're gonna now reroute you to go to

571
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Speaker 4: the right actress. A lot of times when things don't

572
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Speaker 4: work out, the relationship, the job, the friendship, we think

573
00:25:48,480 --> 00:25:53,359
Speaker 4: is change. Sometimes nothing is wrong with you. You were

574
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Speaker 4: just at the wrong place.

575
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Speaker 3: You give away a lot for free, a lot of

576
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Speaker 3: free resources. Tell our audi into.

577
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Speaker 4: That I have free ebooks. I have a free masterclass

578
00:26:04,640 --> 00:26:07,080
Speaker 4: every Sunday and Thursday, how to structure fund to market

579
00:26:07,080 --> 00:26:10,160
Speaker 4: your business. I want to get the word out there

580
00:26:10,200 --> 00:26:14,080
Speaker 4: as to how to properly run your business because I

581
00:26:14,080 --> 00:26:17,520
Speaker 4: feel everyone needs to have another sema income. In this administration,

582
00:26:17,680 --> 00:26:19,840
Speaker 4: we all need to have another streaman income. But I

583
00:26:19,920 --> 00:26:22,520
Speaker 4: want people to be financially independent, so they can kind

584
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Speaker 4: of thrive on their own.

585
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Speaker 3: And how many people are in your community now.

586
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Speaker 4: I have thousands?

587
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Speaker 2: You know what I like about this? To you also

588
00:26:30,359 --> 00:26:32,919
Speaker 2: stress the importance of knowing your business inside.

589
00:26:32,560 --> 00:26:35,679
Speaker 4: Out, inside out, so there is no such thing on

590
00:26:35,760 --> 00:26:38,560
Speaker 4: the start that usn't have someone else running. You need

591
00:26:38,600 --> 00:26:43,840
Speaker 4: to know every single part of the business, every every lane, everything.

592
00:26:44,080 --> 00:26:47,159
Speaker 4: If not, your employees will run over you. So I

593
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Speaker 4: believe like in my dealership, I know how to wash

594
00:26:49,560 --> 00:26:52,840
Speaker 4: the cars, I know how to detail the cars. I

595
00:26:52,880 --> 00:26:56,520
Speaker 4: know about all the sales contracts. So if your employee's

596
00:26:56,520 --> 00:26:58,720
Speaker 4: not doing it right, how do you not know it's

597
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Speaker 4: not right? And it's hair salon. I don't have no license.

598
00:27:01,560 --> 00:27:03,320
Speaker 4: I can do a soone. I can cut it off,

599
00:27:03,800 --> 00:27:06,200
Speaker 4: I can color I know on them tracks ain't laid right.

600
00:27:06,200 --> 00:27:10,679
Speaker 4: Because you have to know everything in your business. If not,

601
00:27:10,760 --> 00:27:13,600
Speaker 4: your employees will play with you. And then number two,

602
00:27:13,840 --> 00:27:15,600
Speaker 4: how are you going to be the CEO the expert?

603
00:27:15,680 --> 00:27:17,560
Speaker 4: You don't know everything exactly?

604
00:27:17,600 --> 00:27:19,720
Speaker 2: What do you think about now going through what you've

605
00:27:19,760 --> 00:27:21,640
Speaker 2: gone through going into business with your partner?

606
00:27:22,880 --> 00:27:24,320
Speaker 1: What would you tell people about that?

607
00:27:24,400 --> 00:27:26,760
Speaker 2: Because there are a lot of people who are like, well,

608
00:27:26,800 --> 00:27:29,880
Speaker 2: you know, we are she's giving me the death stairs.

609
00:27:29,960 --> 00:27:32,600
Speaker 3: If you guys can see the stair, Oh my god.

610
00:27:33,400 --> 00:27:35,760
Speaker 2: But it is a real thing, it is right, And

611
00:27:35,840 --> 00:27:38,719
Speaker 2: so what are some safety precautions you can put in

612
00:27:38,720 --> 00:27:41,360
Speaker 2: place to make sure you're protected, because even in that instance,

613
00:27:41,440 --> 00:27:43,720
Speaker 2: people are still going to do that safety what do

614
00:27:43,760 --> 00:27:46,720
Speaker 2: you need to have in place to make sure that

615
00:27:46,840 --> 00:27:49,640
Speaker 2: you're protected just in case, just like a pre nup,

616
00:27:49,720 --> 00:27:50,600
Speaker 2: things don't work out.

617
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Speaker 4: So I would say, treat the business like it's a

618
00:27:53,280 --> 00:27:57,440
Speaker 4: real business. Yes, that's your best friend, your husband, your mom,

619
00:27:57,520 --> 00:28:02,520
Speaker 4: your dad, have the proper contracts, have the proper documentation.

620
00:28:03,160 --> 00:28:06,919
Speaker 4: Run it like it's a real business. So at work,

621
00:28:07,040 --> 00:28:09,680
Speaker 4: it's not mom or dad or wife, it's we're running

622
00:28:09,680 --> 00:28:13,480
Speaker 4: it like for real employees. I think both men and

623
00:28:13,560 --> 00:28:18,000
Speaker 4: women should look into having a prenuptial agreement or a

624
00:28:18,080 --> 00:28:22,520
Speaker 4: post nuptial agreement. You just never know what will happen.

625
00:28:22,600 --> 00:28:25,639
Speaker 4: And it's just marriage insurance. Like you have car insurance.

626
00:28:26,040 --> 00:28:28,040
Speaker 4: You don't want to use it, you know, but if

627
00:28:28,040 --> 00:28:30,240
Speaker 4: you get hit, you want to be able to be protected.

628
00:28:30,359 --> 00:28:35,400
Speaker 2: So I know, my car just got total really, oh

629
00:28:35,440 --> 00:28:37,280
Speaker 2: my gosh, And I would say, thank god I had

630
00:28:37,280 --> 00:28:40,320
Speaker 2: all my insurance place. But yeah, So you don't want

631
00:28:40,360 --> 00:28:40,880
Speaker 2: a car to.

632
00:28:40,840 --> 00:28:44,840
Speaker 4: Hit your marriage, correct, So it's just wi while we

633
00:28:44,920 --> 00:28:48,000
Speaker 4: are happy, lovey dovey, we're gonna just break down how

634
00:28:48,120 --> 00:28:51,360
Speaker 4: you want to divide things if something were to go wrong.

635
00:28:51,640 --> 00:28:53,680
Speaker 4: But I don't want anything to go wrong, so we

636
00:28:53,760 --> 00:28:55,200
Speaker 4: hope to never have to use it.

637
00:28:55,560 --> 00:28:58,600
Speaker 2: You know, how did you manage to build yourself back

638
00:28:58,680 --> 00:29:00,440
Speaker 2: up like you said you were in a diar time?

639
00:29:00,800 --> 00:29:03,000
Speaker 2: What were those first steps that you took and what

640
00:29:03,120 --> 00:29:04,080
Speaker 2: gave you that motivation?

641
00:29:04,600 --> 00:29:08,000
Speaker 4: My son? So if I didn't have my son, I

642
00:29:08,000 --> 00:29:11,960
Speaker 4: would be right now in Dallas, Texas on my mama's couch,

643
00:29:12,080 --> 00:29:15,000
Speaker 4: probably twenty pounds heavier, and I would have checked out

644
00:29:15,520 --> 00:29:17,280
Speaker 4: like it was. It was just I didn't have it.

645
00:29:17,440 --> 00:29:21,520
Speaker 4: You mean to do a whole nother round of business,

646
00:29:21,560 --> 00:29:24,040
Speaker 4: and I was like, I'm done. But I had my

647
00:29:24,160 --> 00:29:26,160
Speaker 4: son and I wanted to be the mom that he

648
00:29:26,200 --> 00:29:30,560
Speaker 4: could be proud of. Number one. Number two, he's used

649
00:29:30,600 --> 00:29:31,440
Speaker 4: to a certain life.

650
00:29:31,520 --> 00:29:31,719
Speaker 3: You know.

651
00:29:31,920 --> 00:29:34,440
Speaker 4: Now, I'm like, okay, what we're gonna do? So my

652
00:29:34,520 --> 00:29:39,560
Speaker 4: son was a big factor. Number two. God was God

653
00:29:39,680 --> 00:29:42,200
Speaker 4: was my strength to kind of keep my mind together.

654
00:29:42,760 --> 00:29:46,720
Speaker 4: Number three, he wasn't gonna meet me a year later

655
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Speaker 4: at that same place. I was not gonna be at

656
00:29:50,920 --> 00:29:53,640
Speaker 4: that same place a year later, whenever I ran to

657
00:29:53,680 --> 00:29:56,720
Speaker 4: him again, I was not gonna be that same person.

658
00:29:56,760 --> 00:30:01,120
Speaker 4: So I used my anger, I used my sad I

659
00:30:01,240 --> 00:30:04,240
Speaker 4: use all that umph for good.

660
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Speaker 1: In a productive way.

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Speaker 3: Talking about that, like channeling those strong emotions. A lot

662
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Speaker 3: of people don't like feeling uncomfortable. They feel anxious or something.

663
00:30:12,040 --> 00:30:14,640
Speaker 3: They think something's wrong and retreat. You just got to

664
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Speaker 3: use those feelings.

665
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Speaker 4: Oh you gotta, you gotta, you gotta knock an elephant

666
00:30:18,040 --> 00:30:20,640
Speaker 4: right and it's right right in the head. So I

667
00:30:21,080 --> 00:30:23,680
Speaker 4: use all that. I don't want to say anger. It

668
00:30:23,720 --> 00:30:25,640
Speaker 4: was anger at the beginning. I use all that up,

669
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Speaker 4: all that anger, sadness, energy, energy, the energy, and I said,

670
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Speaker 4: I'm about to I'm just about to be the best

671
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Speaker 4: person I can be.

672
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Speaker 1: Yeah, and it's okay.

673
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Speaker 2: You gotta take the time to feel the emotions first,

674
00:30:38,000 --> 00:30:40,240
Speaker 2: sitting on your mama's couch for But I.

675
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Speaker 4: See, I didn't have that time because the second I moved,

676
00:30:44,280 --> 00:30:46,719
Speaker 4: the money got taken and I'm locked out. So I

677
00:30:46,840 --> 00:30:49,560
Speaker 4: was mad, like God, I can't I don't even have

678
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Speaker 4: time to kind of grieve.

679
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Speaker 3: I can't for a second.

680
00:30:52,680 --> 00:30:54,400
Speaker 4: But then I was like, you know what, God, if

681
00:30:54,440 --> 00:30:57,320
Speaker 4: you're putting me in this, that means that I'm built

682
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Speaker 4: for it, because God doesn't give you anything else that.

683
00:31:00,360 --> 00:31:01,280
Speaker 3: You can't handle.

684
00:31:01,880 --> 00:31:04,040
Speaker 4: So I was like, you know what, I'm strong enough.

685
00:31:04,040 --> 00:31:05,840
Speaker 4: I'm about to just go. I'm about to just go

686
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Speaker 4: kill it. I didn't know how I was going to

687
00:31:07,720 --> 00:31:10,080
Speaker 4: do it, though, So now God, you got me in well,

688
00:31:10,160 --> 00:31:14,480
Speaker 4: I'm in this. You gotta get you got me in this, Okay,

689
00:31:14,520 --> 00:31:15,760
Speaker 4: you got to get me out of this. And so

690
00:31:15,920 --> 00:31:19,080
Speaker 4: I just I prayed, I listened, but I worked every

691
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Speaker 4: single day.

692
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Speaker 2: You also talk about self care a lot, and I

693
00:31:22,360 --> 00:31:24,080
Speaker 2: want you to tell me what you did for self

694
00:31:24,080 --> 00:31:27,360
Speaker 2: care because sometimes people feel like working every day. While

695
00:31:27,360 --> 00:31:30,160
Speaker 2: it is a survival thing too, sometimes it can be

696
00:31:30,200 --> 00:31:33,920
Speaker 2: a distraction for other things and handling like the emotions

697
00:31:33,960 --> 00:31:36,320
Speaker 2: that are going on. So what's the balance there and

698
00:31:36,360 --> 00:31:37,560
Speaker 2: what did you do for self care?

699
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Speaker 4: For self care, I made sure that every single week

700
00:31:40,640 --> 00:31:43,760
Speaker 4: I was doing something for me, whether it's nails, lashes,

701
00:31:44,000 --> 00:31:48,280
Speaker 4: and we see it going. You know, I certainly do shopping.

702
00:31:49,280 --> 00:31:51,640
Speaker 4: I'm always going to make sure that I'm doing something

703
00:31:51,760 --> 00:31:56,680
Speaker 4: for me. And then you can't do everything So that

704
00:31:56,760 --> 00:31:59,160
Speaker 4: means that the dishes sitnes sink because you want to

705
00:31:59,200 --> 00:32:01,400
Speaker 4: go spend time with your with your son and watch

706
00:32:01,400 --> 00:32:06,400
Speaker 4: your TV. That's fine. Nothing has to be perfect. You

707
00:32:06,840 --> 00:32:09,480
Speaker 4: have to be okay. And a lot of times we

708
00:32:09,560 --> 00:32:12,880
Speaker 4: get overwhelmed trying to make the house good and cook

709
00:32:13,000 --> 00:32:15,920
Speaker 4: everything and football and this and that, and it's like, girl,

710
00:32:15,960 --> 00:32:17,760
Speaker 4: you got you gotta put something down. So what you're

711
00:32:17,760 --> 00:32:19,680
Speaker 4: gonna put down to make sure that you're okay. So

712
00:32:19,760 --> 00:32:23,320
Speaker 4: I'm so conscious of making sure that I am good

713
00:32:23,520 --> 00:32:26,160
Speaker 4: every single day cause you're empty. You can't pour into

714
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Speaker 4: anyone else.

715
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Speaker 3: And this is amazing. When you take that time, all

716
00:32:29,360 --> 00:32:32,520
Speaker 3: of a sudden, things get better. Business correct, business, things

717
00:32:32,560 --> 00:32:33,440
Speaker 3: just change.

718
00:32:33,120 --> 00:32:34,680
Speaker 4: Correct, You feel better about yourself.

719
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Speaker 2: And I always stress the imparance of us, so making

720
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Speaker 2: sure that you get outside because I think we can

721
00:32:40,960 --> 00:32:43,440
Speaker 2: be in our bubble. When you're starting a business, you

722
00:32:43,480 --> 00:32:46,640
Speaker 2: feel very lonely. You're trying to hustle, but sometimes you

723
00:32:46,680 --> 00:32:49,240
Speaker 2: do just have to come outside, meet people, talk with people.

724
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Speaker 2: Amazing things can happen.

725
00:32:50,800 --> 00:32:54,440
Speaker 4: Correct, And you can network, Yep, the network.

726
00:32:54,480 --> 00:32:56,440
Speaker 1: Work the network, you know what I'm saying.

727
00:32:56,760 --> 00:32:59,520
Speaker 4: Network, or just take some time out, Just just take

728
00:32:59,560 --> 00:33:01,960
Speaker 4: some time out and just go go to a movie,

729
00:33:02,360 --> 00:33:04,440
Speaker 4: go walk, do whatever it did is you're just stuck

730
00:33:04,440 --> 00:33:07,640
Speaker 4: in that house. How are you being your best self?

731
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Speaker 4: Your best self physically, mentally, emotionally. It's like a total package.

732
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Speaker 1: How old is your son now?

733
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Speaker 4: Twelve?

734
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Speaker 2: And so do you talk to him about like what

735
00:33:17,600 --> 00:33:20,200
Speaker 2: you've been through? Because for women that have hit you

736
00:33:20,280 --> 00:33:22,239
Speaker 2: up and said I've been I've been there, I've done that,

737
00:33:22,520 --> 00:33:23,960
Speaker 2: how do you navigate that?

738
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Speaker 4: So it's kind of like a two edged sword. My

739
00:33:28,440 --> 00:33:34,240
Speaker 4: son was eight when the violence started to get bad.

740
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Speaker 4: So when daddy is throwing things at mommy, he's gonna

741
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Speaker 4: run in front of daddy and say no, Daddy, don't

742
00:33:39,280 --> 00:33:41,520
Speaker 4: do that. So he saw the violence. And then he

743
00:33:41,640 --> 00:33:45,840
Speaker 4: was there when my husband shot at me. So he's

744
00:33:45,880 --> 00:33:47,640
Speaker 4: there when I have to then pack up my up

745
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Speaker 4: my mid so he's run the moor. He saw everything.

746
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Speaker 4: So I don't have anything. I don't have to explain

747
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Speaker 4: anything to him.

748
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Speaker 1: He was there.

749
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Speaker 4: He was there. So when we were in Houston, we

750
00:34:00,800 --> 00:34:05,360
Speaker 4: flew first class. We came back, uh cheap in the

751
00:34:05,400 --> 00:34:08,920
Speaker 4: economy seats. He had never flown coach and sorry, I

752
00:34:08,960 --> 00:34:11,200
Speaker 4: remember got on the plane and he's like Mommy, the

753
00:34:11,239 --> 00:34:13,399
Speaker 4: seats stopped at eight and I'm like, no, Ducy, there's

754
00:34:13,400 --> 00:34:15,319
Speaker 4: some more seats in back. And his eyes got big.

755
00:34:15,360 --> 00:34:18,160
Speaker 4: He was like, we're not sitting in and I was like, no,

756
00:34:18,239 --> 00:34:20,640
Speaker 4: we're not. And he can just see like the discipointment

757
00:34:20,680 --> 00:34:22,480
Speaker 4: in my face. When we finally got in the back,

758
00:34:22,560 --> 00:34:27,000
Speaker 4: I'm feeling so bad, like, oh my God. And then

759
00:34:27,120 --> 00:34:30,520
Speaker 4: God just said, girl, you could have been dead. You

760
00:34:30,600 --> 00:34:32,640
Speaker 4: over here crime because you know what I'm saying, And

761
00:34:32,640 --> 00:34:35,759
Speaker 4: he goes, Mommy. I said, Ducie, just give me, give

762
00:34:35,960 --> 00:34:38,560
Speaker 4: me six months, give me six months. I'm gonna get

763
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Speaker 4: us back.

764
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Speaker 3: Because the lesson is him seeing you get out of it.

765
00:34:41,800 --> 00:34:42,240
Speaker 4: Correct.

766
00:34:42,320 --> 00:34:43,759
Speaker 3: So that's he saw.

767
00:34:43,920 --> 00:34:47,520
Speaker 4: He saw that like Benny, Hannah's turned into little Caesars.

768
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Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying, Like, you know, things broke,

769
00:34:49,560 --> 00:34:52,640
Speaker 4: things were different. I was very transparent. You know, hey,

770
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Speaker 4: we're gonna go to fun Spot, not Disneyland, like like

771
00:34:55,320 --> 00:34:57,839
Speaker 4: the little local like things were different. But I said,

772
00:34:57,880 --> 00:35:00,560
Speaker 4: just give me six months, Just give me six months.

773
00:35:00,600 --> 00:35:03,040
Speaker 3: And they don't care. They'd rather see their mom happy,

774
00:35:03,440 --> 00:35:04,120
Speaker 3: they really would.

775
00:35:04,200 --> 00:35:05,560
Speaker 1: I'm still down for a little season.

776
00:35:07,000 --> 00:35:11,040
Speaker 4: It is the bomb. It is a bomb. So over time,

777
00:35:11,320 --> 00:35:13,280
Speaker 4: you know he's been singing me, and I'm like, you know, Ducie,

778
00:35:13,320 --> 00:35:15,720
Speaker 4: if I'm on the zoom, I'm making money. I'm making

779
00:35:15,760 --> 00:35:18,480
Speaker 4: money for your Amazon, So don't come in here. You

780
00:35:18,480 --> 00:35:21,879
Speaker 4: know what I'm saying. Right, I'm very transparent, but he's

781
00:35:21,920 --> 00:35:24,360
Speaker 4: seeing me over time grow and it's so cute. This

782
00:35:24,440 --> 00:35:27,200
Speaker 4: other day, one of his friends, his mom and the

783
00:35:27,320 --> 00:35:29,920
Speaker 4: dad are breaking up. Goes, Mommy, don't you need another

784
00:35:29,920 --> 00:35:32,800
Speaker 4: assistant because you're busy? Can you hire her for your business?

785
00:35:32,880 --> 00:35:42,160
Speaker 4: I'm like, look at him, person, so making sure that

786
00:35:42,239 --> 00:35:45,120
Speaker 4: he sees that. You know, one monkey doesn't stop the show.

787
00:35:45,160 --> 00:35:47,800
Speaker 4: So something happens to you, you got to still get

788
00:35:47,840 --> 00:35:50,520
Speaker 4: back up. As long as God keeps waking you up,

789
00:35:50,760 --> 00:35:53,000
Speaker 4: you have to get back up because it's not just

790
00:35:53,040 --> 00:35:55,840
Speaker 4: for you, it's whose life are you going to impact

791
00:35:55,920 --> 00:35:57,839
Speaker 4: by your story? Bout you not giving up?

792
00:35:58,200 --> 00:36:01,480
Speaker 3: They see everything like got a divorce. My son was

793
00:36:01,520 --> 00:36:04,480
Speaker 3: eleven years old, and I remember being terrified, like for months,

794
00:36:04,520 --> 00:36:06,399
Speaker 3: talking to people everything. How am I going to tell

795
00:36:06,480 --> 00:36:08,759
Speaker 3: him about this? So I just told him Mommy and

796
00:36:08,840 --> 00:36:11,960
Speaker 3: daddy are best friends. They love each other. They're not

797
00:36:12,040 --> 00:36:14,400
Speaker 3: like boyfriend and girlfriends, so they're not like husband and

798
00:36:14,440 --> 00:36:17,279
Speaker 3: wife so they're going to live into separate places. He

799
00:36:17,400 --> 00:36:19,080
Speaker 3: just looked up at me and he said, I know.

800
00:36:20,280 --> 00:36:21,719
Speaker 1: I was like waiting for you to tell me.

801
00:36:21,800 --> 00:36:24,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, exactly. They know, they know, they know, And for

802
00:36:25,000 --> 00:36:28,120
Speaker 3: so many women you talked about how difficult it is

803
00:36:28,120 --> 00:36:31,279
Speaker 3: to get out of financially abusive situations and things, but

804
00:36:31,320 --> 00:36:34,200
Speaker 3: your children know. And I found a lot of strength

805
00:36:34,239 --> 00:36:39,520
Speaker 3: that wasn't an abusive relationship at all, but just knowing

806
00:36:39,600 --> 00:36:42,520
Speaker 3: that stepping out of it is what they will see

807
00:36:42,680 --> 00:36:45,239
Speaker 3: and what they will remember, and if you stay in it,

808
00:36:45,239 --> 00:36:48,160
Speaker 3: you're kind of condoning it. Correct, So you're teaching this,

809
00:36:48,280 --> 00:36:50,239
Speaker 3: You're teaching your son it's okay to be a man

810
00:36:50,320 --> 00:36:52,680
Speaker 3: like this. It's not. You wouldn't want your child to

811
00:36:52,680 --> 00:36:54,840
Speaker 3: stay in a relationship. You gotta leave it, that's it.

812
00:36:54,960 --> 00:36:58,560
Speaker 4: Because I remember me and my husband, we were already

813
00:36:58,560 --> 00:37:01,239
Speaker 4: divorcing because he got it up. I was like, he's

814
00:37:01,280 --> 00:37:02,920
Speaker 4: not seeing how a woman should be treated, Like, we

815
00:37:02,960 --> 00:37:04,960
Speaker 4: just need to leave. So we were in counseling. We

816
00:37:04,960 --> 00:37:09,560
Speaker 4: were just we were divorcing, right, So after all this

817
00:37:09,680 --> 00:37:12,880
Speaker 4: happened before we actually packed up moved to Florida, but

818
00:37:12,960 --> 00:37:15,400
Speaker 4: we I had moved out, I said, he asked me,

819
00:37:15,400 --> 00:37:18,040
Speaker 4: mam are are you gonna get back with daddy? And

820
00:37:18,080 --> 00:37:19,440
Speaker 4: I said, well, do see what do you want? I

821
00:37:19,440 --> 00:37:22,440
Speaker 4: want to see hear what he said? He was like, no,

822
00:37:22,920 --> 00:37:25,160
Speaker 4: I want someone, you know, who's not going to yell

823
00:37:25,200 --> 00:37:27,640
Speaker 4: at you. And I want someone who's you don't have

824
00:37:27,680 --> 00:37:29,880
Speaker 4: to keep asking money, go to h GV. That's our

825
00:37:29,920 --> 00:37:32,239
Speaker 4: grocery store. And I want someone who's not going to

826
00:37:32,360 --> 00:37:36,120
Speaker 4: kill you. And tears just came down my eye because

827
00:37:36,120 --> 00:37:39,280
Speaker 4: I was like, for all these years, I am trying

828
00:37:39,320 --> 00:37:43,680
Speaker 4: to hold this family together, for the image and the

829
00:37:43,760 --> 00:37:47,640
Speaker 4: two parents and all of this, and is like he was,

830
00:37:48,280 --> 00:37:50,840
Speaker 4: He's just like, I don't want you with this person.

831
00:37:51,120 --> 00:37:54,239
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's what people do. They hold it together. That's

832
00:37:54,280 --> 00:37:56,759
Speaker 3: what we're taught, right, And I was totally on that

833
00:37:56,800 --> 00:37:59,239
Speaker 3: same track. And a friend of mine cold cocked me.

834
00:37:59,320 --> 00:38:02,920
Speaker 3: Her mother had passed, stayed in an unhappy marriage, and

835
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Speaker 3: I didn't know that her mother had passed, And I

836
00:38:05,040 --> 00:38:06,560
Speaker 3: was like, should I get a divorce? I don't know,

837
00:38:06,880 --> 00:38:09,000
Speaker 3: and she told me, from the child's point of view,

838
00:38:09,360 --> 00:38:12,920
Speaker 3: my mother stayed together for the children. I'm the reason

839
00:38:12,960 --> 00:38:15,640
Speaker 3: my mother died an unhappy woman. Don't do that to

840
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Speaker 3: your child. I never thought of it that way.

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Speaker 4: Mmm. It's like whoa yeah, because you think that two

842
00:38:20,440 --> 00:38:23,359
Speaker 4: parent homes what they need. But if it is, if

843
00:38:23,360 --> 00:38:27,080
Speaker 4: it's cussing, and if it's toxic, this is this is

844
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Speaker 4: what you're This is what you are teaching your kids right.

845
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Speaker 3: In their name.

846
00:38:30,800 --> 00:38:32,359
Speaker 4: It's correct, it's not.

847
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Speaker 2: I sed tod when my parents didn't get divorced till

848
00:38:34,960 --> 00:38:37,000
Speaker 2: we left for college. But it was like they held

849
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Speaker 2: it together until we moved out the house. And I

850
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Speaker 2: was like, y'all could have been doed that, you know,

851
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Speaker 2: because you can see it right. Yeah, you want a

852
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Speaker 2: couch every night.

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Speaker 1: It's the point. But that's you know, so so yeah.

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Speaker 3: So I thank you for being this one in so

855
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Speaker 3: many different directions. Back to your entrepreneurs working, they find you,

856
00:38:54,200 --> 00:38:56,280
Speaker 3: it's all part of it. It is very important.

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Speaker 4: You can find me at see you at the bank

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Speaker 1: I love this well, thank you so much for joining us.

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Speaker 4: I appreciate you.

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Speaker 3: Happy Wealth Wednesdays, everybody.

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Speaker 1: Thank you business bestie

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Speaker 4: Wall Up