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Speaker 1: Everybody's still Courtney with an army of normal folks. Shop

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Speaker 1: Talk number fifty six. That's a big one. That was aggressive.

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Speaker 1: It was an aggressive one. I'm glad you're still alive.

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Speaker 1: I got a question, your teeth feel still feel good?

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Speaker 1: Because I mean you went to the dust last week. Well,

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Speaker 1: we're recording this at the same time we recorded last week,

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Speaker 1: so you're a trying to be cute about it. Not

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Speaker 1: the time stamp and there you are a producer stamp

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Speaker 1: timing guy. All right, guys, Shop Talk number fifty six

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Speaker 1: is on something that is a one time it had

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Speaker 1: been a quandary for me, and at other times it

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Speaker 1: was just great. Now it's great, and it's basically called

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Speaker 1: I was miserable on Father's Day until I'll set it

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Speaker 1: up for you right after these brief messages from our

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Speaker 1: general sponsors, everybody, welcome back shop Talk number fifty six.

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Speaker 1: June fifteenth is Father's Day, and I have a special

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Speaker 1: Father's Day message that we've featured on our YouTube channel,

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Speaker 1: which you need to go check out our YouTube channel

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Speaker 1: and subscribe to it. But I'll just set it up

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Speaker 1: for you real quick. Basically, Father's Day, given the way

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Speaker 1: I grew up. It's all on the video. I know

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Speaker 1: the Father's Day, given the way I grew up against

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Speaker 1: the winds of being a father of four children, and

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Speaker 1: my struggle with the beauty of what I have now

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Speaker 1: versus some of the dysfunction I dealt with as a kid,

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Speaker 1: has always been a quandary in my life. And in

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Speaker 1: honor of all of you who have fathers, our fathers,

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Speaker 1: celebrate a father, love a father, or even wish they

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Speaker 1: had a dad and missed their father, this clip and

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Speaker 1: this shop Talk number fifty six is for you. My

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Speaker 1: dad left home when I was four, and we really

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Speaker 1: didn't have much of a relationship. He actually passed not

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Speaker 1: too long ago, and it was my stepbrother that actually

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Speaker 1: told me, and I had nothing to do with it.

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Speaker 1: We had no relationship, and there were a lot of

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Speaker 1: there are a lot of My mother was very well intentioned,

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Speaker 1: and I don't want to make it sound like she's evil,

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Speaker 1: but there were a lot of guys after that that

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Speaker 1: came into my life, and there are a lot of

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Speaker 1: guys that left, and so as a result, Father's Day

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Speaker 1: has always been a really kind of sore spot for me.

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Speaker 1: I didn't even recognize it, but in my early forties,

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Speaker 1: Lisa pointed out to me, more than pointed out, very frustratingly, said,

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Speaker 1: you know, quit being an a soul on Father's Day.

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Speaker 1: It's not about you anymore. You have your own children

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Speaker 1: and now you are a father. So I know. You

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Speaker 1: can't celebrate Father's Day from a standpoint of celebrating a father,

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Speaker 1: but you can you can celebrate Father's Day from the

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Speaker 1: standpoint of being a father. And I didn't even recognize

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Speaker 1: that I got miserable on Father's Day, but I but

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Speaker 1: I did. And and the truth is, you know, I identified

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Speaker 1: as a kid. Now I identify with the kids of

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Speaker 1: a nassis a lot more closely than I identified with

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Speaker 1: my own children. In terms of my reality, I understand

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Speaker 1: growing up without a father. I understand the kind of

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Speaker 1: hopelessness and sadnessness that accompanies not having a father in

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Speaker 1: your life and all that that entails. And I understand

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Speaker 1: the sadness, and I understand that when you're a fourteen

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Speaker 1: fifteen year old, strapping guy and you look at the

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Speaker 1: mirror and your father has no interest in you. I

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Speaker 1: understand look in the mirror and thinking something must be

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Speaker 1: wrong with me. You know, why is it that I

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Speaker 1: lack such value that my own father doesn't even want

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Speaker 1: to spend time with me, especially on Father's Day. And

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Speaker 1: I thought that for many years, and I know many

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Speaker 1: of the kids have played football for me. I an

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Speaker 1: Asses fought that for many years. And so on the

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Speaker 1: one hand, you see a grown man with a business

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Speaker 1: and some success and been married to his wife for

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Speaker 1: thirty years, and these beautiful four children who've grown up

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Speaker 1: well adjusted and happy and healthy, and you think, oh, well,

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Speaker 1: I know what that guy's life looks like. But the

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Speaker 1: truth is, you don't have no idea the trauma that

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Speaker 1: preceded the life that I have now. And as a

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Speaker 1: result of that, people have always asked me, how do

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Speaker 1: you think you connected so well with the kids of

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Speaker 1: an Asses, being this white business guy. And the truth is,

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Speaker 1: I don't identify as a white business guy, identify as

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Speaker 1: a kid that came from him a lot of trauma.

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Speaker 1: And so the truth is not really understand them more

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Speaker 1: and their reality more than I understand my own kids

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Speaker 1: reality because I didn't grow up like my kids did,

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Speaker 1: so it took a lot of work to get to

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Speaker 1: a place that Father's Day is a happy day around

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Speaker 1: my house. But Lisa Whipmack's into shape like she normally does.

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Speaker 1: And now we have good Father's Days, but it took

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Speaker 1: a long time to get there. So that's shop talk

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Speaker 1: number fifty six. I hope Father's Day is as meaningful

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Speaker 1: to all of you as it is to me, and

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Speaker 1: I hope you'll think about the power that fathers can

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Speaker 1: and should have been in their children's lives. That's shop

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Speaker 1: talk number fifty six. Hey, and you're close to becoming

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Speaker 1: a grandpa. Maybe next year do you think will be?

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Speaker 1: I mean, ain't nobody pregnant yet? Yeah? But by next

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Speaker 1: Father's Day, do you think anybody's gonna be pregnant? Maybe,

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Speaker 1: But then we'll be talking about grandparents Day. Yeah. I

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Speaker 1: guess that's hoptoten hum fifty six. We'll talk to you

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Speaker 1: next week. H