WEBVTT - This Ain't Gon Work 0:00:00.680 --> 0:00:06.360 Talk. We're just too unapologetically black women with an opinion 0:00:06.960 --> 0:00:11.280 who talked back? What's up y'all shoes. If you tuning 0:00:11.280 --> 0:00:13.240 in for a new episode that we talked back, it's 0:00:13.280 --> 0:00:16.880 your co host A J. Holiday. The show is dedicated 0:00:16.880 --> 0:00:19.880 to you, niggas and these holes and everybody in between. 0:00:21.079 --> 0:00:23.480 That would be me. Hey, y'all, I love y'all. This 0:00:23.560 --> 0:00:26.360 is me Tim Van. Thank y'all for tuning in again. Hey, 0:00:26.400 --> 0:00:30.720 hey j Girl, Hey girl. We had a time last night. 0:00:30.840 --> 0:00:33.920 Then we even at the time this weekend, y'all. I know, man, 0:00:34.159 --> 0:00:36.919 a real good time. Was we supposed to have that 0:00:37.000 --> 0:00:38.879 good of a time? I don't know. I think that 0:00:38.960 --> 0:00:40.920 was the whole plan. I think they wanted us to 0:00:40.960 --> 0:00:44.839 have a good time. Me A J. And the h 0:00:44.960 --> 0:00:47.640 B I C of Black Effect. We all went out 0:00:47.720 --> 0:00:51.960 to We went to Memphis. We got invited to Memphis 0:00:52.000 --> 0:00:58.280 by St. Jude's to participate in there's homecoming celebration. Um, 0:00:58.400 --> 0:01:00.639 if you don't know what St. Jus is, it's hospital 0:01:01.280 --> 0:01:03.880 and they helped with childhood cancer and we received a 0:01:03.880 --> 0:01:06.360 lot of great information and they had a lot of 0:01:06.360 --> 0:01:08.240 events for us to attend, and it was such a 0:01:08.240 --> 0:01:10.600 good time. We had so much fun, and we got 0:01:10.640 --> 0:01:13.880 to learn a lot about Memphis and about the hospital. Yeah, 0:01:13.920 --> 0:01:17.160 and it's like literally a home coming. So you had 0:01:17.400 --> 0:01:21.440 people from different HBC used, he had all the Divine 0:01:21.560 --> 0:01:24.679 nine in the building, ski Ween and all this good stuff. 0:01:24.720 --> 0:01:27.040 It was really good and they invited. My favorite part 0:01:27.160 --> 0:01:32.080 was the food. My favorite part was the actual uh, 0:01:32.360 --> 0:01:35.960 the sneaker ball. I enjoyed the sneaker Ball. I had 0:01:36.000 --> 0:01:39.720 a lot of fun. They had UM a singer named 0:01:39.760 --> 0:01:44.920 Dough Jones. She came out and she performed, and she 0:01:45.160 --> 0:01:49.120 is just phenomenal y'all. If you haven't heard her music, 0:01:49.720 --> 0:01:52.960 she sees that song when I Pray. I really loved 0:01:53.000 --> 0:01:55.000 that song. If I get married, I would really love 0:01:55.040 --> 0:01:59.760 for Doe to come out and serenade me and my guests. Um. 0:01:59.800 --> 0:02:02.440 Then they also had Eric Bellingery performed. It was a 0:02:02.480 --> 0:02:05.200 list of people that came out and performed throughout the 0:02:05.240 --> 0:02:08.760 weekend and it was a great time. Yeah. I ended 0:02:08.840 --> 0:02:12.079 up on the shuttle with UH with Dope. I was like, girl, 0:02:12.360 --> 0:02:16.600 Beyonce could fucking never do that? Beyonce, hold on beyond. 0:02:16.840 --> 0:02:21.800 Let's this a whole debate. Yes, Beyonce is a great singer, right, 0:02:22.320 --> 0:02:26.040 but let's be honest. Beyonce beyond Yes, she's a great performer, 0:02:26.080 --> 0:02:28.840 and beyonce voice wasn't always what it is now, right, 0:02:28.880 --> 0:02:30.840 she had to go through lessons. Now the real singer 0:02:30.919 --> 0:02:34.840 to me is Kelly Rowland. But do baby, that girl 0:02:34.919 --> 0:02:38.959 can She got some pipes, y'all. She was hitting them notes. 0:02:39.000 --> 0:02:41.919 I was like, damn, just when I think I can 0:02:41.960 --> 0:02:44.240 sing a little bit, I realized I can't sing worth it. 0:02:44.520 --> 0:02:46.920 You ain never thought that I can't hold out that 0:02:46.960 --> 0:02:51.760 I can hold a little note. So, um, somebody told 0:02:51.760 --> 0:02:53.520 me not to tell y'all this, and y'all should tell 0:02:53.520 --> 0:02:55.440 me if I should tell y'all. Are not, But I'm 0:02:55.440 --> 0:02:59.480 about to tell y'all. So I was in the airport 0:02:59.560 --> 0:03:02.840 coming back from Memphis, and I was at the bar 0:03:03.720 --> 0:03:07.639 and the bartender treated me so bad, y'all. I mean, 0:03:07.680 --> 0:03:10.840 I've never had anybody treat me so bad as far 0:03:10.880 --> 0:03:15.800 as customer services concerned. The woman slammed the fries in 0:03:15.880 --> 0:03:19.040 my face. I spilled my drink. She just left it there. 0:03:19.200 --> 0:03:22.680 The Patriots had to give me napkins, and then she slammed, 0:03:23.639 --> 0:03:27.440 um my ticket down on the counter for French fries. 0:03:27.480 --> 0:03:29.360 That's all I ordered, And I didn't eat them because 0:03:29.400 --> 0:03:32.880 she never came back to offer me catch up, honey, mustard, 0:03:34.000 --> 0:03:38.680 a napkin, nothing the whole time. Barbecue, barbecue, sauce, not nothing. 0:03:38.960 --> 0:03:41.320 She's just so rude to me because she felt like 0:03:41.320 --> 0:03:43.800 I wasn't trying to spend a lot of money. It's 0:03:43.920 --> 0:03:45.640 in the airport and I'm just sitting at the bar 0:03:45.680 --> 0:03:47.960 in mind of my business. I'm not bothering. Do y'all 0:03:47.960 --> 0:03:51.880 know this woman called the police on me. This woman 0:03:51.920 --> 0:03:53.720 really called the police on me. I'm making a long 0:03:53.760 --> 0:03:57.920 story short, but yeah, she called the police on me, 0:03:58.000 --> 0:04:00.920 and the police had to tell her that, yeah, we 0:04:00.960 --> 0:04:03.160 can't make her pay for food that she did not eat. 0:04:03.800 --> 0:04:05.400 I mean, me and this woman was going back and 0:04:05.440 --> 0:04:09.280 forth and I wanted to motherfucking Frisbee throw that fucking 0:04:09.360 --> 0:04:11.280 bowl of fresh fries at that bitch. I sew the 0:04:11.320 --> 0:04:15.120 guy like she had the right one that day. Can 0:04:15.120 --> 0:04:18.839 I be honest with you in for a second when 0:04:18.880 --> 0:04:21.640 you when you you kept calling the phone right so 0:04:21.720 --> 0:04:23.440 like the phone rang like twice and it was in 0:04:23.480 --> 0:04:27.400 the bed with me. Remember when I faced time you 0:04:27.440 --> 0:04:29.679 but you ain't seeing my body like going up and down. 0:04:30.360 --> 0:04:34.840 I was fucking I'm about to go to jail, and 0:04:35.000 --> 0:04:43.200 she fucking like. I'm just like like on FaceTime like 0:04:43.240 --> 0:04:45.520 this my head bobbing, and I'm like and I'm like, 0:04:45.760 --> 0:04:50.480 I'm so mad right now. Yeah, And he's like, as crazy, 0:04:50.680 --> 0:04:57.320 I don't calling my bad friend. I was in the 0:04:57.320 --> 0:04:59.119 middle of some ship. I know you had a whole 0:04:59.720 --> 0:05:04.560 god them red alert. I'm sorry, Okay, the police couldn't 0:05:04.560 --> 0:05:06.240 do nothing to me because I didn't do nothing wrong, 0:05:06.480 --> 0:05:08.640 but the fact that another black woman called a police 0:05:08.640 --> 0:05:10.480 on me, she was just trying to have a power 0:05:10.560 --> 0:05:14.640 moment over me. Girl. I was like, the lesson that 0:05:14.680 --> 0:05:16.640 you're trying to teach me, you're gonna learn today, So 0:05:16.760 --> 0:05:20.040 continue on because I'm not paying for that ship. And 0:05:20.120 --> 0:05:25.279 I'm going to send an email tomorrow about my customer. Yeah, 0:05:25.279 --> 0:05:27.680 hell yeah, we're doing all things caring this year. If 0:05:27.720 --> 0:05:30.720 you're playing around, so I'm sending emails to corporate on 0:05:30.800 --> 0:05:32.880 your host and I can't wait. That's all. I don't 0:05:32.920 --> 0:05:35.240 eat out for real. Why are you being so mean 0:05:35.279 --> 0:05:39.719 to me? Because those bitches be disgruntled, they'd be disgruntled 0:05:39.720 --> 0:05:41.400 a lot, and they wouldn't do a white person. And 0:05:41.400 --> 0:05:43.720 I was the only black person at the only other 0:05:43.760 --> 0:05:46.920 black person besides her, and she treated me like straight shit. 0:05:48.000 --> 0:05:50.160 We do each other like that. I don't. I don't do. 0:05:50.200 --> 0:05:51.480 I go out of my way to say hi to 0:05:51.560 --> 0:05:54.359 black people when I see them, eye contact Hi. You 0:05:54.360 --> 0:05:56.400 know what I'm saying, even if they keep walking past 0:05:56.440 --> 0:05:58.760 me like I tried to. I'm just a nice person 0:05:59.400 --> 0:06:02.240 black people. I'm nice to everybody, you know, anybody that's 0:06:02.279 --> 0:06:05.320 kind to me. I'm kind bat you know. And for 0:06:05.360 --> 0:06:07.200 you to treat me like that, girl, I can't wait 0:06:07.240 --> 0:06:08.560 to see if i can get your job in my 0:06:08.600 --> 0:06:10.760 back pocket. And I'm gonna try my best because you 0:06:10.880 --> 0:06:12.800 if you're treating me like that, you probably treating other 0:06:12.839 --> 0:06:14.880 black people like that at that bar. And that's not right. 0:06:15.279 --> 0:06:17.320 You called a police. What the police came and beat 0:06:17.400 --> 0:06:21.120 my ass and killed me or something? Right over a 0:06:21.200 --> 0:06:25.279 bowl of French fries. Girl, You lucky I had somewhere 0:06:25.360 --> 0:06:27.920 to be because I'd have been waiting on you at 0:06:27.960 --> 0:06:31.680 the dog. I'm giving you a reason to call the 0:06:31.720 --> 0:06:40.719 police this time, I hope. Right. So let's get into 0:06:40.960 --> 0:06:43.159 us and let's get in a stupid ending. That news 0:06:43.200 --> 0:06:47.200 today's crea, Yes, let's talk about it. She like you 0:06:47.360 --> 0:06:51.360 and peeting on y'all Golden showers. And you know everybody's 0:06:51.400 --> 0:06:55.360 been talking about her relationship with P Diddy, and now 0:06:55.480 --> 0:07:05.040 the P instead of puff and now stands for Urine Karsha. 0:07:05.160 --> 0:07:07.039 We gotta do a whole episode on black women in 0:07:07.120 --> 0:07:10.600 kink because I can't get into the spit in the mouth, 0:07:10.840 --> 0:07:14.840 the p the poop, the B D s M. Ship 0:07:14.920 --> 0:07:17.000 Like I might know, I might want to get tied 0:07:17.120 --> 0:07:20.680 up and I like a little violence, you know, choke me, 0:07:21.920 --> 0:07:26.040 you know that type of ship. But listen, piano is 0:07:26.760 --> 0:07:28.840 just kind of that's where I draw the line. Pe 0:07:29.000 --> 0:07:32.000 and poop, That's just like, that's where I draw the line. 0:07:32.960 --> 0:07:35.320 I'm not doing that because it's like your body's waste. 0:07:35.320 --> 0:07:39.360 I don't understand why anybody would want somebody's bodily waste 0:07:39.400 --> 0:07:42.440 on them in a pleasurable way. I don't know the 0:07:42.440 --> 0:07:46.000 psychic behind it, but hey, whatever floats your boat because 0:07:46.000 --> 0:07:49.760 it's warm. Or I know a guy who said he'd 0:07:49.760 --> 0:07:55.080 like to pee inside a woman, like like what about U? 0:07:55.080 --> 0:07:59.920 T eyes? Like? What like pe inside me? Oh ahead, 0:08:00.160 --> 0:08:02.040 how do you even do that? When I erect penis 0:08:02.080 --> 0:08:03.520 like that? He said he can do it? Oh, I 0:08:03.520 --> 0:08:06.480 guess you do pee, I don't know what the fuck. 0:08:06.800 --> 0:08:09.440 So if somebody offer you a million dollars right now, 0:08:09.520 --> 0:08:12.520 one million dollars and you can see it sitting on 0:08:12.520 --> 0:08:15.360 the table like motherfucker may wear the laid out and 0:08:15.520 --> 0:08:17.960 was like a j you can have this money. I don't. 0:08:18.120 --> 0:08:20.960 I'm good. If you let me pee on you, you 0:08:20.960 --> 0:08:26.680 wouldn't take it? Yes, okay, I look it ain't that 0:08:26.760 --> 0:08:31.160 bade one m for a little golden shower. That's different. 0:08:31.600 --> 0:08:34.240 Do you think that Karsia is just getting a million 0:08:34.240 --> 0:08:37.679 dollars every time you get piste on? No from ditty. 0:08:38.000 --> 0:08:40.560 You can pee on me right now for about fifty bands. 0:08:40.559 --> 0:08:48.760 It's a recession. Ain't gotta be a price tag on 0:08:48.840 --> 0:08:52.760 because I'm just not doing that because I'm n I 0:08:52.840 --> 0:08:57.200 have a goal to me. I need a fucking M 0:08:57.240 --> 0:08:59.280 by forty, like that's the goal. I need a couple 0:08:59.280 --> 0:09:01.319 of ms by four. So if that's gonna get me 0:09:01.360 --> 0:09:04.960 one step closer, just a little warmth, right, little yurine 0:09:05.080 --> 0:09:07.720 like maybe little mellow yellow, I I will do it. 0:09:07.760 --> 0:09:09.720 I'd like take me the Capital Grill and get me 0:09:09.760 --> 0:09:13.439 like four dirty martinis in dinner and fifty dollars that 0:09:13.480 --> 0:09:18.640 we could make it happen. It's raining bands. Okay, let 0:09:18.679 --> 0:09:24.240 me get that. Listen. So she took the Twitter and 0:09:24.280 --> 0:09:27.040 she said, um, now, y'all know I don't give a 0:09:27.080 --> 0:09:30.160 fuck that. Let me tell you. My mama always says 0:09:30.200 --> 0:09:32.560 my grandma would tell her when you find a person 0:09:32.600 --> 0:09:37.040 I don't care about nothing, leave them to funk alone. Okay, 0:09:37.080 --> 0:09:38.800 So she said, y'all know, I don't give a fuck. 0:09:39.120 --> 0:09:43.000 Reach and Roulette eight for the week, whatever that means. 0:09:43.040 --> 0:09:44.440 I want to get that game. It don't come out 0:09:44.520 --> 0:09:47.280 till March, though, So I'm gonna get it though, because 0:09:47.320 --> 0:09:49.440 I want to play. But I ain't peeing. We ain't 0:09:49.440 --> 0:09:52.520 nobody peeing on me. That's an actual game. It's a 0:09:52.559 --> 0:09:57.800 current game that she played on the show. Interesting. I 0:09:57.840 --> 0:09:59.719 want to hear from our listeners and maybe I'll put 0:09:59.760 --> 0:10:03.160 that out. They're like, what's the craziest thing your significant 0:10:03.160 --> 0:10:06.720 other or some random nigga from I don't know, Pieces 0:10:06.720 --> 0:10:11.520 of Fish ever did to you? What is the nasty 0:10:11.800 --> 0:10:14.120 We're gonna do that episode. Maybe we'll bring some people 0:10:14.160 --> 0:10:16.240 on to talk about it. No, I tell you what 0:10:16.320 --> 0:10:19.520 the nastiest thing that I'm a whisper. So my mama 0:10:19.559 --> 0:10:22.760 don't hear it. So when I was in college, my 0:10:22.880 --> 0:10:25.240 roommate she came in the room and she was all 0:10:25.320 --> 0:10:27.040 like freaked out and ship and I was like, girl, 0:10:27.080 --> 0:10:31.200 what's wrong with you? She was like, bitch, my nigga 0:10:32.040 --> 0:10:35.160 just bust on my ass and then licked it off. 0:10:39.000 --> 0:10:41.600 Lika came up, come off her butt, and I got 0:10:41.679 --> 0:10:43.280 a big old ass. But she had a big old 0:10:43.320 --> 0:10:45.960 ass in college, so I know he was doing a 0:10:46.000 --> 0:10:48.520 lot of licking. And I think she actually broke up 0:10:48.520 --> 0:10:50.360 with him, like maybe a couple of weeks after that. 0:10:50.360 --> 0:10:56.240 Ship surely then after rightfully, so like I'll be looking 0:10:56.240 --> 0:10:58.160 at you like, nigga, would you do that to him? Man? 0:10:58.360 --> 0:11:01.240 Like right, did you you like to taste of that? 0:11:01.760 --> 0:11:03.680 Because I can't produce it right, and I don't like 0:11:03.760 --> 0:11:06.480 the taste of it. You eat it? Not mean? Right? 0:11:08.000 --> 0:11:12.520 Speaking of weird, a Utah woman marries her cousin all right, 0:11:12.600 --> 0:11:15.439 So she went on TikTok. This woman named Marcella Hill. 0:11:16.200 --> 0:11:18.800 Her and her husband Page found out they were third 0:11:18.840 --> 0:11:21.640 cousins while looking online for baby names. So the woman 0:11:21.760 --> 0:11:24.480 is pregnant and they're looking trying to name the baby, 0:11:24.840 --> 0:11:28.319 and they're looking at their like ancestry and they realized 0:11:28.400 --> 0:11:32.600 that her grandma was first cousins or something like that 0:11:32.640 --> 0:11:36.199 with her his grandfather, and so they called their grandparents 0:11:36.280 --> 0:11:40.640 and it was like, yeah, they're my cousin. What do 0:11:40.679 --> 0:11:44.559 you do when you find out that you're you're you're 0:11:44.600 --> 0:11:47.960 married to your third cousin? That I don't feel like 0:11:47.960 --> 0:11:52.679 they haven't in Black families married girl, what's not? Maybe 0:11:52.679 --> 0:11:55.400 not married, but definitely smashing because I feel like I've 0:11:55.480 --> 0:11:58.800 smashed the fifth cousin before, after third, it don't matter. 0:12:01.040 --> 0:12:04.040 I'm like my older cousin was like, you know that's 0:12:04.040 --> 0:12:06.120 your cousin, right, I'm like, know the funk it ain't 0:12:06.120 --> 0:12:16.080 because if it is, it's too late, it's too late. Yeah, 0:12:16.120 --> 0:12:18.280 And as dick a little something like, damn this little 0:12:18.280 --> 0:12:25.880 dick running our family. I don't know, I don't know. Yeah, 0:12:25.880 --> 0:12:27.600 it's too late now they gotta say. I mean, I'm 0:12:27.600 --> 0:12:29.400 not leaving my husband because I found out he my 0:12:29.440 --> 0:12:32.240 cousin and when I got a baby by him, all right, 0:12:32.280 --> 0:12:34.400 who else gonna know that? I feel like people probably 0:12:34.440 --> 0:12:37.400 come across family members all the time at some point, yea, 0:12:37.720 --> 0:12:40.920 especially from certain areas, you know what I'm saying, Like 0:12:41.320 --> 0:12:43.680 certain places A lot of people be related. They don't 0:12:43.720 --> 0:12:46.520 cross breathe. Yeah, we like I look back at my 0:12:46.559 --> 0:12:49.040 family tree, there was like some definitely some cross breathing 0:12:49.080 --> 0:12:52.320 going off, and it was closer. It was close, you know, 0:12:53.000 --> 0:12:54.920 you look down the family tree is like, hold on, 0:12:55.040 --> 0:12:59.720 wait this say she married him, but that looked like 0:13:00.600 --> 0:13:06.840 her uncle, nephew or something like that, right, that happens. 0:13:08.280 --> 0:13:12.120 Speaking of pregnant ladies, so chris Sean Rock says that 0:13:12.240 --> 0:13:19.200 she is having Blue Faces baby potentially twins, and I 0:13:19.240 --> 0:13:23.040 don't know man, so blue Faces like well, Rock has 0:13:23.040 --> 0:13:26.079 had encounters with ten different men in the last year. 0:13:26.160 --> 0:13:28.839 Until I see a DNA test, then it's not mine 0:13:29.400 --> 0:13:33.000 to answer your questions. Yes, me and Rock are officially done. 0:13:33.080 --> 0:13:37.160 It's strictly, strictly business. I tried it and clearly it 0:13:37.240 --> 0:13:42.240 wasn't giving. Before she announced, Um, she's pregnant with somebody 0:13:42.240 --> 0:13:45.280 else baby, not mine. I love to catch your motherfucking 0:13:45.360 --> 0:13:49.440 lying with substantial evidence is such a sweet victory. So 0:13:49.480 --> 0:13:51.120 now all of a sudden, this girl is pregnant. Now 0:13:51.160 --> 0:13:54.280 you're gonna really cut it off right If she's actually pregnant. 0:13:54.320 --> 0:14:00.880 She posted um some positive pregnancy tests on online uh um. 0:14:00.880 --> 0:14:05.040 Her her fucking mental health is declining. Yeah, did you 0:14:05.080 --> 0:14:08.160 see she was just recently on an interview UM and 0:14:08.240 --> 0:14:11.040 a therapy session on the show drinking a bottle of 0:14:11.080 --> 0:14:17.200 motherfucking patron. Who would la she would never go for 0:14:17.240 --> 0:14:19.440 no ship like that. You're drinking patron in her face? 0:14:19.480 --> 0:14:27.080 Like that hold on in therapy allowed her to drinking. No, no, no, 0:14:27.160 --> 0:14:30.760 I said she would never. She was in a I forgot. 0:14:30.840 --> 0:14:33.920 The therapist is a black eye who's on on that 0:14:34.080 --> 0:14:37.200 UM on the show with him, and she was drinking 0:14:37.480 --> 0:14:44.120 from the bottle. Yes, but you're pregnant. I'm confused, So um, 0:14:44.240 --> 0:14:47.120 I I would I hope she's not pregnant too, so 0:14:47.160 --> 0:14:49.480 that she can get time to get her mental health 0:14:49.520 --> 0:14:52.680 together and maybe, you know, take a break from this guy. 0:14:52.720 --> 0:14:56.360 They young, he needs to grow up. He's reproducing. He 0:14:56.440 --> 0:14:59.840 has multiple kids already. You know these people, it's like 0:15:00.480 --> 0:15:04.880 it's like niggas really be having babies quicker than regular 0:15:04.920 --> 0:15:10.280 black people. It's like, what the fuck, Like they just 0:15:10.280 --> 0:15:12.160 got all the time in the world and get pregnant. 0:15:12.160 --> 0:15:14.360 God damn. You know women, I know right now I'm 0:15:14.360 --> 0:15:17.360 struggling to have one baby, and I see a lot 0:15:17.440 --> 0:15:20.960 of women like, uh, saying, girl, call me and I 0:15:21.080 --> 0:15:23.440 take you to the UH to them people to get 0:15:23.480 --> 0:15:24.840 rid of that, and then we can go to get 0:15:24.920 --> 0:15:29.120 drinks after. Stuff like that is so ignorant the way 0:15:29.160 --> 0:15:31.840 we promote abortion in our community, like that as ignorant 0:15:31.840 --> 0:15:34.680 as because that girl already says she's having her baby, 0:15:34.760 --> 0:15:37.240 So why would any other woman be suggesting that she 0:15:37.360 --> 0:15:40.760 had an abortion. Plus she already had abortions, you know, 0:15:40.960 --> 0:15:43.560 and then you don't know until you're in your late 0:15:43.600 --> 0:15:46.200 thirties you really really want to have a baby. Well, 0:15:46.240 --> 0:15:49.400 here's the reason why there's suggesting that she having an 0:15:49.400 --> 0:15:52.680 abortion is because now you have, once you have a 0:15:52.760 --> 0:15:55.040 child with someone, you have to deal with in the 0:15:55.080 --> 0:15:57.840 rest of your life, you know. And that's obviously what 0:15:57.960 --> 0:16:02.080 she wants. Toxic situation. And that's why I would assume 0:16:02.080 --> 0:16:04.080 that other women are like, girl, don't do that, you know, 0:16:04.200 --> 0:16:06.320 just let it go. But she's already had abortions, and 0:16:06.400 --> 0:16:08.360 she didn't leave him alone. She literally has this nigga 0:16:08.440 --> 0:16:12.240 face and name tattooed on her body multiple times. She 0:16:12.400 --> 0:16:15.400 doesn't she doesn't seem like a stable mind. I don't 0:16:15.440 --> 0:16:18.760 think that she should be procreating right now. But that's 0:16:18.760 --> 0:16:20.600 not for me to say, you know what I'm saying, like, 0:16:20.680 --> 0:16:22.720 that's not for another woman to suggest her to have 0:16:22.720 --> 0:16:25.040 an abortion on top of the fact that she's already 0:16:25.040 --> 0:16:27.800 had multiple abortions. What about you know what she what 0:16:27.920 --> 0:16:30.640 she's putting her body through and her mental health? Right, 0:16:31.440 --> 0:16:36.240 you ain't never took nobody to get an abortion before. No, 0:16:36.360 --> 0:16:42.440 I funded one before. But no, no, I definitely have 0:16:42.520 --> 0:16:46.040 taken a friend of to to the to the to 0:16:46.080 --> 0:16:48.880 the shop. But let me tell you it was it was. 0:16:49.240 --> 0:16:51.360 It was bad because I was like, my friend, you know, 0:16:51.400 --> 0:16:53.040 whatever you need, I got you. And it wasn't an 0:16:53.040 --> 0:16:55.120 easy thing for her, you know, like, I don't think 0:16:55.120 --> 0:16:57.880 it's you know, some people are very desensitized to it 0:16:57.880 --> 0:17:01.280 and they can do it without thinking twice. But my 0:17:01.360 --> 0:17:04.840 friend wasn't that person. I'm not that person. And we 0:17:04.960 --> 0:17:08.000 pull up and they had them signs outside, like you know, 0:17:08.040 --> 0:17:10.800 the people who be protesting. Yeah. I was like, which 0:17:10.840 --> 0:17:13.200 one of y'all? And I immediately folded on that bitch. 0:17:13.240 --> 0:17:19.680 I was like this, huh. She was like damn, damn. 0:17:20.200 --> 0:17:23.280 I was like, I'm sorry. It was pressure bench. They 0:17:23.320 --> 0:17:25.400 had that little white baby holding that little white dog 0:17:25.440 --> 0:17:30.600 baby out there. Oh, goodness. And then we went inside 0:17:30.640 --> 0:17:33.000 and it was a lady in there with four kids. 0:17:35.119 --> 0:17:39.280 The babies were in there with her. She didn't even 0:17:39.320 --> 0:17:41.280 have anybody to watch her kids for her while she 0:17:42.280 --> 0:17:45.080 Why are you fucking That's what we need to reevaluate. 0:17:45.440 --> 0:17:50.120 We gotta have a little bit more accountability, yes, because 0:17:50.359 --> 0:17:55.040 abortion is not birth control. Okay, birth control is what 0:17:55.080 --> 0:17:58.240 happens before you get pregnant. Well, lot of you don't 0:17:58.240 --> 0:18:02.679 get pregnant. You're not, And that's fucked up. That is 0:18:02.760 --> 0:18:05.000 so fucked up. That is fucked up. And I feel 0:18:05.040 --> 0:18:06.639 like that's what we need that I feel like a 0:18:06.680 --> 0:18:09.680 woman can control getting pregnant. We can all these apps 0:18:09.720 --> 0:18:12.440 out here now where you can monitor your ovulation and 0:18:12.520 --> 0:18:15.000 your and your cycle and all that ship like they 0:18:15.200 --> 0:18:17.240 literally work. My should be down to a t. I 0:18:17.320 --> 0:18:19.000 use my days. I've been using it for a year. 0:18:19.760 --> 0:18:24.080 My ovulation, Yeah, you got fit b it. Apple doesn't 0:18:24.119 --> 0:18:26.800 now like checking your fu heart rate all day long 0:18:26.880 --> 0:18:30.879 everything like you can. You're fucking lazy. There's no reason. 0:18:32.480 --> 0:18:34.800 I mean, it can happen, right, But if you're just 0:18:35.119 --> 0:18:36.880 you can let a nigga come in you all day long. 0:18:37.000 --> 0:18:43.040 Just don't do it around your ovulation time. Yeah, use condoms. 0:18:43.119 --> 0:18:46.159 I'm an advocate for that. That part, that part you 0:18:46.200 --> 0:18:49.200 have birth control, which is before even a plan B. 0:18:49.400 --> 0:18:51.720 If you gotta go that route, you got seventy two 0:18:51.800 --> 0:18:53.879 hours after that nigga came in you. And if you 0:18:53.960 --> 0:18:55.920 fucking with somebody who can't afford to buy you a 0:18:56.000 --> 0:18:59.920 damn uh fifty dollar playing b bill, you already fucking up. 0:19:00.119 --> 0:19:02.119 Like women, got it, we gotta take more responsibility for 0:19:02.119 --> 0:19:05.000 this bullshit and not be suggesting other young black women. 0:19:05.440 --> 0:19:08.760 And they have they have another one that's even cheaper 0:19:08.760 --> 0:19:11.840 than that, like LoVa Nestra, something like that, long long 0:19:11.920 --> 0:19:18.960 and something. It's like a but they have the same ingredients. Yeah, yeah, 0:19:19.160 --> 0:19:22.360 you can get this up. So what's the ladies take 0:19:22.400 --> 0:19:25.919 accountability for your body? You know? Yeah, it's not the 0:19:25.920 --> 0:19:29.200 men's responsibility. The condoms really not even responsibility at that point, 0:19:29.240 --> 0:19:30.720 because they're gonna try to put that dick in you 0:19:30.880 --> 0:19:34.600 raw every time you have to say what a condomat 0:19:35.240 --> 0:19:38.840 If you're dealing with anybody who's not irresponsible, some of 0:19:38.840 --> 0:19:42.000 these niggas is not at the same rate. We can't 0:19:42.000 --> 0:19:45.960 we can't blame the men though. It's us. It's us 0:19:46.680 --> 0:19:49.040 we got control over that ship. If you're working with 0:19:49.080 --> 0:19:51.119 somebody who just goes, you don't think he's just sticking 0:19:51.119 --> 0:19:54.119 his dick in somebody else the same way. Child, Please, 0:19:55.080 --> 0:19:57.919 I don't know. I feel like I'm preaching to the choir. Right. 0:19:59.520 --> 0:20:01.800 Oh that's y'all can't stand me because I'm pull that 0:20:01.880 --> 0:20:07.280 hole that mirror up on your ass real quick, boy, 0:20:07.359 --> 0:20:10.200 Fuck you, Nigga commented on the Instagram page. Stop but 0:20:10.280 --> 0:20:12.639 he can't stand me sometimes stand these nuts? How about 0:20:12.640 --> 0:20:17.000 that with your bit ass. We're gonna break through. We'll 0:20:17.040 --> 0:20:25.320 be right back, all right. So we're back, y'all. And 0:20:25.359 --> 0:20:28.560 you know what I want to talk about today? What 0:20:28.680 --> 0:20:31.480 are like some of the proper methods or some of 0:20:31.480 --> 0:20:33.359 the methods that you used to break up? Because I 0:20:33.359 --> 0:20:36.240 can tell you guys, in my last relationship, I literally 0:20:36.240 --> 0:20:38.720 had to go to therapy. It was like one of 0:20:38.760 --> 0:20:42.080 the hardest things I ever had to do, you know, 0:20:42.080 --> 0:20:44.479 because one part of your mind is like, damn, you know, 0:20:45.119 --> 0:20:47.760 maybe we could work it out because you got those 0:20:47.760 --> 0:20:50.520 good times you keep thinking about, right, But then if 0:20:50.560 --> 0:20:56.159 the bad times it's just like over powering overpowering the 0:20:56.200 --> 0:20:58.159 good times, get the funk up out of there. But 0:20:58.200 --> 0:21:01.400 I literally had to go to a therapist to break up, 0:21:01.720 --> 0:21:06.600 like a breakup therapist, and it made it easier because 0:21:06.600 --> 0:21:08.879 then you know, I was I had to recognize like 0:21:08.920 --> 0:21:11.160 why why am I going to say in this relationship? 0:21:11.200 --> 0:21:15.200 Like it makes you hold of mirror for the most part. 0:21:15.359 --> 0:21:18.280 You know, a therapist, they really don't give you answers. 0:21:18.720 --> 0:21:23.280 They forced you to find your answers. Yeah. Um. And 0:21:23.320 --> 0:21:25.440 it was actually two different therapists. One was a woman, 0:21:25.480 --> 0:21:27.760 one was a man. The woman was like, what you 0:21:27.840 --> 0:21:31.800 gonna do? She wasn't trying to tell me what to do, 0:21:31.920 --> 0:21:35.000 but she was like, bitch, you know what to do essentially, 0:21:36.240 --> 0:21:38.840 And the guy, of course, was like, well maybe it 0:21:38.880 --> 0:21:41.680 could be worked out. And I'm like, no, right, there's 0:21:41.720 --> 0:21:45.160 no salvaging this none, not at all, And I don't 0:21:45.160 --> 0:21:47.920 need any more couples therapy, and then I need therapy 0:21:47.960 --> 0:21:50.199 for me at this Then at that point, it's like 0:21:50.400 --> 0:21:53.400 when you stay in something that really holds no value, 0:21:54.320 --> 0:21:56.760 then you gotta be accountable for still being there, you 0:21:56.800 --> 0:22:00.960 know exactly, because then you ain't got nobody to blame yourself. 0:22:01.720 --> 0:22:04.600 M yep. And so for years I had nobody to 0:22:04.640 --> 0:22:06.520 blame but myself and not even at the end, I'm 0:22:06.520 --> 0:22:09.560 still not trying to blame him, but it still ends 0:22:09.600 --> 0:22:12.000 with you. You know what I'm saying. People only do 0:22:12.040 --> 0:22:14.760 what you're allowed them to do for one and you 0:22:15.000 --> 0:22:16.679 women know when it's time to go. I feel like 0:22:16.720 --> 0:22:20.040 oftentimes we stay in in situations longer than we should, 0:22:20.080 --> 0:22:23.520 even men. I feel like men actually do suffer and 0:22:23.520 --> 0:22:28.880 bad relationships longer, especially the deal. Yeah, they'll just deal 0:22:29.200 --> 0:22:31.560 because you know, they'll see the bigger pictures. Women be 0:22:31.600 --> 0:22:34.680 like my happiness. They'll go find the happiness outside of 0:22:34.760 --> 0:22:37.960 the relationship to fulfill them so they can stay in 0:22:38.000 --> 0:22:43.359 the relationship exactly. So you know, I'm on clubhouse, you know, 0:22:43.440 --> 0:22:46.320 not even a lot anymore. But the main thing black 0:22:46.359 --> 0:22:49.680 men love to say is the statistics on how black 0:22:49.720 --> 0:22:54.520