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Speaker 1: The nikast. Here's Nikki. Hello here, I am happy Tuesday.

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Speaker 1: How's it going, guys? It's the winter solstice, right, isn't

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Speaker 1: it means it's winter today it's like the shortest Yeah,

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Speaker 1: happy winter. It's like the shortest day of the year

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Speaker 1: or something like that. Sure doesn't feel like it. This morning,

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Speaker 1: the moon was out. I don't understand the moon. Like

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Speaker 1: sometimes the moon's like out during the day and it's

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Speaker 1: just like, I just the moon is a shifty uh shifty.

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Speaker 1: I can't. I don't. My brain is not working yet today.

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Speaker 1: But he's just uh, he plays by his own rules,

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Speaker 1: the moon. And do you know why the moon would

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Speaker 1: be out during the day? Does that think it make

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Speaker 1: sense to you? I think from uh what I've learned,

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Speaker 1: the moon is always out. It's just that we don't

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Speaker 1: see it because of clouds where the sun is too bright.

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Speaker 1: But I think it's just out through the whole. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: don't write into us and tell us what that does.

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Speaker 1: I could easily google it if I care. So I

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Speaker 1: just I have a feeling like if I knew that,

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Speaker 1: I would be compelled to be like, let me let

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Speaker 1: her know. Um, but I I'll look it up if

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Speaker 1: I if I want to know. Um, But yeah, there's

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Speaker 1: a man. There's some things that I don't know. Do

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Speaker 1: you know how long it takes the Sun's rays to

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Speaker 1: hit the earth? Apparently my my friend got a cognitive

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Speaker 1: like test done to check his like if he's um

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Speaker 1: stupid or not or whatever, and um, there's a picture

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Speaker 1: that's askew and it was bothering me. Um. And one

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Speaker 1: of the questions was like, what how long did it

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Speaker 1: take the Sun's raise to hit Earth? And it's eight

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Speaker 1: minutes and thirty seconds? Who, like, I could have it

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Speaker 1: could have been anywhere from point zero one seconds to

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Speaker 1: ten thousand years. You know what, I would not have

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Speaker 1: said a dozen years because the speed of light is

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Speaker 1: pretty fucking fast. And I know that if the sun explodes,

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Speaker 1: like will die and it's not I've never heard the

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Speaker 1: thing of like it could explode and we wouldn't know

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Speaker 1: it yet that would happen if it exploded, it would

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Speaker 1: take eight minutes and thirty seconds for us to see it.

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Speaker 1: I guess I was just what I was just about

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Speaker 1: to ask, what are we supposed to do with that information?

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Speaker 1: Why is it useful? Um, it's just nice to know

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Speaker 1: the speed of light. I guess it's just that's a

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Speaker 1: good point. Why is it useful? I don't. I don't know,

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Speaker 1: um because there's no like the speed of light is

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Speaker 1: so fast that I guess. What is interesting though, is

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Speaker 1: when you look at stars, you're looking at the past.

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Speaker 1: That that to me is cool. And I mean also

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Speaker 1: the sun you're looking at eight minutes ago, but I

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Speaker 1: think the stars is like really really long time ago.

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Speaker 1: Um Man. I was reading about like on Reddit, they

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Speaker 1: had this thing called like what's this? It was an

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Speaker 1: ask Creddit and it was like what's the scariest what's

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Speaker 1: the most disturbing thing? You know, or like something the

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Speaker 1: most unsettling thing. And there's this theory called the dark

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Speaker 1: forest theory. Have you ever heard of it? Tell? Okay,

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Speaker 1: So there's like so there's a huge chance that there

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Speaker 1: is intelligent life somewhere in either our galaxy or other galaxies.

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Speaker 1: There's just they've they've done all the equations and there's

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Speaker 1: like some kind of model math equation that's like, let

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Speaker 1: me just do it, like I remember it. They determined

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Speaker 1: that there must be intelligent life out there. The odds

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Speaker 1: the dark force theory is that there's just no way

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Speaker 1: if we are, it's like one in a billion chance

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Speaker 1: or something like, it's some astronomical number that that those

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Speaker 1: the the theory is is that these um these people

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Speaker 1: are all hiding in the forest, all these intelligent lives.

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Speaker 1: If if you're intelligent enough, you know that any other

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Speaker 1: civilization that you find in the galaxy would destroy you

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Speaker 1: immediately because it would be a threat to your you know, survival,

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Speaker 1: so in our forests or like on other planets, other planets,

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Speaker 1: So if there are there, probably are intelligent civilizations and

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Speaker 1: that life form, based on what life is is you

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Speaker 1: just want to survive at any cost, So knowing that

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Speaker 1: that there's something out there, you want to stay hidden.

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Speaker 1: To go out and look for it is the dumbest

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Speaker 1: probably or based upon you know that the odds, there

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Speaker 1: we are. We've only been around for like ten thousand

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Speaker 1: that they're out there, and they're hiding because they don't

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Speaker 1: want to engage, and as soon as we find them,

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Speaker 1: they're going to be forced to destroy us immediately, and

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Speaker 1: they will be able to because they are so much

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Speaker 1: more advanced than us. So the idea that we are

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Speaker 1: out looking for them is like the dumbest thing in

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Speaker 1: the world to do, and we should absolutely stop. That's

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Speaker 1: the dark Forest theory, and that any second we're going

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Speaker 1: that that that we're like the dumbest people to be,

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Speaker 1: like where are you guys knowing that the sole mission

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Speaker 1: of any civilization is to destroy anything that would threaten

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Speaker 1: it equals they're more advanced. They would destroy us immediately

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Speaker 1: without question, or enslave us or whatever that is. So

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Speaker 1: we're done to go looking for them. I believe, I

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Speaker 1: I believe to like I think it's very selfish to

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Speaker 1: think that we're the only living civilizations. But I'm not

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Speaker 1: looking for them. I'm not. I'm fine with never discovering

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Speaker 1: an alien, right. Um, I never wanted to see one either.

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Speaker 1: The other day, Andrew tells me that he walked into

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Speaker 1: our apartment and we have all these wires that are

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Speaker 1: for when those cameras were tracking my life, those cameras,

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Speaker 1: And we don't know, we have yet to know, and

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Speaker 1: that's a lie. I just want to be honest with you.

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Speaker 1: I do know, but I can't tell you. But there's

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Speaker 1: all these lights up in my house, and there's all

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Speaker 1: long wire is just dangling like an arc. And Andrew

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Speaker 1: like a lot. And I was like, dude, it's the air.

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Speaker 1: a lot. And I go, I've already seen it. Like

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Speaker 1: when I see a wire swaying, I don't go ghosts.

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Speaker 1: I go, what is the physical what's the scientific explanation

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Speaker 1: for this? Because it ain't ghost. Ghosts cannot be because

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Speaker 1: if they are, I will not sleep. I made a

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Speaker 1: deal with myself at an early age that ghosts may

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Speaker 1: the dark. I would never I would I wouldn't able

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Speaker 1: to exist. Honestly, know what, My life as a child

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Speaker 1: ghosts weren't even registering. I thought, you know, aliens are

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Speaker 1: much more of a threat to me than ghosts. I

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Speaker 1: had heard too many stories. I knew about the Men

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Speaker 1: knew that meant the Men in Black show up if

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Speaker 1: at one point where I go, ghosts aren't real, Nikki,

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Speaker 1: because if they are, if people that's the thing about um,

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Speaker 1: Sarah Silverman, and you have a joke about people protesting

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Speaker 1: at abortion clinics, and if you really thought that babies

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Speaker 1: they should be out there protesting, like if that's what

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Speaker 1: we feel. Animals, just like Luigi are being murdered, which,

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Speaker 1: glad it's dead. Um, so that like it was just

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Speaker 1: the way. This cold weather is interesting, but gonna move back,

428
00:22:53,280 --> 00:22:55,120
Speaker 1: like you're you're you don't have as much free time

429
00:22:55,119 --> 00:22:59,280
Speaker 1: now and yesterday she's at work all day. You Yeah,

430
00:22:59,280 --> 00:23:00,800
Speaker 1: I mean, it could be the zolaf, but I'm thinking

431
00:23:00,800 --> 00:23:02,360
Speaker 1: there's a lot of other things. So there's a ton

432
00:23:02,359 --> 00:23:07,240
Speaker 1: of and you were doing this a lot before. True, true, whoa,

433
00:23:09,160 --> 00:23:12,960
Speaker 1: But I gotta tell you, I, uh are you coming again?

434
00:23:13,800 --> 00:23:15,600
Speaker 1: You can just feel your penis again. I can feel

435
00:23:15,600 --> 00:23:20,680
Speaker 1: my penis again. It's like I'm born again. Uh virgin

436
00:23:20,920 --> 00:23:23,439
Speaker 1: who could feel as dick? Wait, I'm sorry, I missed it.

437
00:23:23,520 --> 00:23:28,400
Speaker 1: So you're you're getting off? He got on? Well Beautron? Yeah,

438
00:23:28,440 --> 00:23:31,280
Speaker 1: and well Beturn apparently is better with the orgasms and

439
00:23:31,359 --> 00:23:35,400
Speaker 1: sexual drive. Why wouldn't everyone give you well Betron first? Then?

440
00:23:36,320 --> 00:23:39,320
Speaker 1: Because I think they got to deal with the zoloft people.

441
00:23:39,720 --> 00:23:41,800
Speaker 1: I just think some people can still come. I think

442
00:23:41,880 --> 00:23:43,840
Speaker 1: I wasn't that great of a comer to begin with,

443
00:23:44,840 --> 00:23:47,760
Speaker 1: so maybe there's people that come within two seconds. My

444
00:23:47,840 --> 00:23:50,400
Speaker 1: friends are in a new relationship. He's four years old,

445
00:23:50,640 --> 00:23:56,440
Speaker 1: she's um, wait four years he's forty. You said four

446
00:23:56,480 --> 00:23:58,440
Speaker 1: years old. I said forty, But it might have come

447
00:23:58,440 --> 00:24:04,120
Speaker 1: out like forty but he's forty years old. Or maybe

448
00:24:04,160 --> 00:24:09,280
Speaker 1: I did say he's forty three. Maybe I did. It

449
00:24:09,320 --> 00:24:14,480
Speaker 1: could happen, um, and they were there, they just met.

450
00:24:14,680 --> 00:24:17,080
Speaker 1: My friend and Chris and I were in l a

451
00:24:18,320 --> 00:24:23,400
Speaker 1: UM about a month ago at this point, and Chris

452
00:24:23,400 --> 00:24:26,720
Speaker 1: has two friends that they met that he knows separately

453
00:24:26,800 --> 00:24:30,159
Speaker 1: from once from like a work situation, a girl, and

454
00:24:30,200 --> 00:24:33,399
Speaker 1: then the other is like friends with his through his brother.

455
00:24:33,800 --> 00:24:37,399
Speaker 1: I know the man in this scenario known him for

456
00:24:37,440 --> 00:24:41,200
Speaker 1: a while. The girl Chris had become really good friends

457
00:24:41,200 --> 00:24:43,560
Speaker 1: with since Chris and I had broken up. But now

458
00:24:43,640 --> 00:24:45,720
Speaker 1: Chris and I are hanging out again. I was like

459
00:24:45,800 --> 00:24:47,840
Speaker 1: dying to meet her because they're so close and she

460
00:24:47,960 --> 00:24:50,560
Speaker 1: just seems awesome. So I was in l a with

461
00:24:50,640 --> 00:24:52,840
Speaker 1: Chris and I was like, I'd really like to have

462
00:24:52,960 --> 00:24:58,320
Speaker 1: a dinner with Nick this this girl, And because I

463
00:24:58,320 --> 00:25:00,119
Speaker 1: I just need a new l a friend, and she

464
00:25:00,240 --> 00:25:02,800
Speaker 1: just sounds if he's so close to her, like I'm

465
00:25:03,040 --> 00:25:06,439
Speaker 1: it's gonna work out for me. And um, he's like,

466
00:25:06,520 --> 00:25:08,800
Speaker 1: you know what, I love to bang out to like

467
00:25:08,920 --> 00:25:12,840
Speaker 1: friends in one dinner, Like I'll invite Ryan and Nick.

468
00:25:13,440 --> 00:25:15,560
Speaker 1: So we go to this dinner. We have a great

469
00:25:15,600 --> 00:25:19,000
Speaker 1: time just hanging out. They meet each other, but like

470
00:25:19,040 --> 00:25:21,679
Speaker 1: we're just talking about all different things. She's seeing a

471
00:25:21,720 --> 00:25:24,720
Speaker 1: guy at the time, he's like just getting out of

472
00:25:24,720 --> 00:25:29,800
Speaker 1: a thing. There is literally no spark between them. There's nothing.

473
00:25:29,840 --> 00:25:35,960
Speaker 1: There is nothing that's important. It's it's it's a square table,

474
00:25:36,640 --> 00:25:39,800
Speaker 1: it's Ryan, it's Nick. But they're next to each other. Yeah,

475
00:25:39,840 --> 00:25:41,920
Speaker 1: but it's like I'm next to Nick and I'm next

476
00:25:41,920 --> 00:25:45,080
Speaker 1: to Like it's it's not there on one side of

477
00:25:45,119 --> 00:25:47,880
Speaker 1: the table and it's four it's a square and there, Yes,

478
00:25:47,960 --> 00:25:50,679
Speaker 1: they're not across from each other there next but literally,

479
00:25:50,720 --> 00:25:53,720
Speaker 1: if you would have asked, no spark. And I even

480
00:25:53,720 --> 00:25:56,000
Speaker 1: asked them later on, like was there anything there that night,

481
00:25:56,040 --> 00:25:58,360
Speaker 1: and they were like no, Like we were just having

482
00:25:58,359 --> 00:26:00,800
Speaker 1: a good time talking openly about sex and dating. But

483
00:26:01,040 --> 00:26:04,040
Speaker 1: she was in seeing someone and that she was very

484
00:26:04,040 --> 00:26:07,440
Speaker 1: into and he was just getting out of something with

485
00:26:07,560 --> 00:26:10,760
Speaker 1: someone who is far too young for him, you know,

486
00:26:10,840 --> 00:26:17,359
Speaker 1: like you and but still no Brenna's I know I

487
00:26:17,440 --> 00:26:19,800
Speaker 1: miss her baby too. She texted me last night she

488
00:26:19,840 --> 00:26:27,520
Speaker 1: was so nice. Um so uh then after this was

489
00:26:28,440 --> 00:26:37,639
Speaker 1: a week so then within so right after that, we

490
00:26:37,640 --> 00:26:39,320
Speaker 1: took a picture at the end of the dinner, just

491
00:26:39,359 --> 00:26:41,560
Speaker 1: to be like, that was such a fun dinner, like,

492
00:26:41,640 --> 00:26:45,639
Speaker 1: let's take a picture. Ryan tags us all in the

493
00:26:45,680 --> 00:26:48,920
Speaker 1: photo and he gets her Instagram. They apparently just start

494
00:26:49,040 --> 00:26:50,680
Speaker 1: d m N after that, just friendly, like it was

495
00:26:50,720 --> 00:26:53,800
Speaker 1: so funny, meaning you like, he has no intention she

496
00:26:53,800 --> 00:26:56,040
Speaker 1: she was, you know, just light dems. And then all

497
00:26:56,080 --> 00:26:59,600
Speaker 1: of a sudden something happens and Nick is a really

498
00:26:59,600 --> 00:27:01,719
Speaker 1: good right, They're like really good and Ryan is just

499
00:27:01,760 --> 00:27:06,520
Speaker 1: an emotionally secure, like just confident person apparently as a

500
00:27:06,560 --> 00:27:08,719
Speaker 1: huge dick that got revealed at dinner too. That couldn't

501
00:27:08,720 --> 00:27:14,040
Speaker 1: have hurt um. And he's a short guy though, huge dick,

502
00:27:14,119 --> 00:27:17,080
Speaker 1: short guy. But it gets and he's on He's on

503
00:27:17,080 --> 00:27:18,600
Speaker 1: the radio at l A. He's a part of the

504
00:27:18,680 --> 00:27:22,920
Speaker 1: Ellen or the um what the number one radio morning

505
00:27:23,000 --> 00:27:25,760
Speaker 1: radio show in l A Ellen Ellen and Ryan. But

506
00:27:25,840 --> 00:27:28,679
Speaker 1: it's Ellen's show. From she used to be with another

507
00:27:28,720 --> 00:27:30,040
Speaker 1: guy in the radio. I don't know, I should know

508
00:27:30,160 --> 00:27:35,160
Speaker 1: these things. So they leave, they start deeming and there

509
00:27:35,200 --> 00:27:39,600
Speaker 1: they fell in love. Within four days, They're like they

510
00:27:39,600 --> 00:27:42,800
Speaker 1: see they see each other. I think right away, like

511
00:27:43,080 --> 00:27:45,399
Speaker 1: the next day, maybe two days later, she cuts it

512
00:27:45,400 --> 00:27:47,840
Speaker 1: off with the guy she's seeing. They start dating. They

513
00:27:47,880 --> 00:27:50,520
Speaker 1: are official within less than a week. He's on the

514
00:27:50,600 --> 00:27:52,960
Speaker 1: radio every morning. He brings on the radio to declare

515
00:27:53,000 --> 00:27:55,199
Speaker 1: that their official. I go to dinner with them just

516
00:27:55,240 --> 00:27:58,439
Speaker 1: this past week because I was in l A. And

517
00:27:58,480 --> 00:28:00,159
Speaker 1: we go to the same place where they met. We

518
00:28:00,200 --> 00:28:02,000
Speaker 1: have they haven't been back. It was four weeks to

519
00:28:02,000 --> 00:28:04,760
Speaker 1: the day where they met. And I'm sitting next to

520
00:28:04,760 --> 00:28:07,159
Speaker 1: two people that are like a couple. Like they're the

521
00:28:07,160 --> 00:28:10,720
Speaker 1: most comfortable couple. There's no like new couple energy of

522
00:28:10,760 --> 00:28:13,199
Speaker 1: like this, like we're so in love, Like where you go.

523
00:28:13,320 --> 00:28:16,159
Speaker 1: This is not sustainable. It's just they just fell in

524
00:28:16,200 --> 00:28:19,360
Speaker 1: love instantly and they're done. They're getting married. They're like

525
00:28:19,480 --> 00:28:22,399
Speaker 1: they're done. They just know. Wait, what does she do

526
00:28:22,480 --> 00:28:26,160
Speaker 1: in l A? She is a writer, director, She just

527
00:28:26,400 --> 00:28:29,440
Speaker 1: she is one of the most incredible people. She's very

528
00:28:29,480 --> 00:28:33,560
Speaker 1: like independent, and she's forty three I think or what.

529
00:28:35,600 --> 00:28:39,120
Speaker 1: So they both have like fulfilled somewhat in their passion

530
00:28:39,720 --> 00:28:42,560
Speaker 1: of what they wanted to do. Ryan goes to bed

531
00:28:42,600 --> 00:28:45,160
Speaker 1: at eight pm because he has to be up for

532
00:28:45,240 --> 00:28:47,880
Speaker 1: radio at like three in the morning, and timing sounds

533
00:28:47,920 --> 00:28:50,480
Speaker 1: perfect for them. It's it's all about timing. It's all

534
00:28:50,480 --> 00:28:51,960
Speaker 1: about luck and timing. And we were thinking about it

535
00:28:52,000 --> 00:28:54,320
Speaker 1: and we're like, oh my god. If Chris wouldn't have

536
00:28:54,320 --> 00:28:57,080
Speaker 1: gotten exposed to COVID in St. Louis, he would have

537
00:28:57,120 --> 00:28:59,960
Speaker 1: come out earlier to l A. But because he got exposed,

538
00:29:00,000 --> 00:29:02,080
Speaker 1: he came out later and we stayed an extra day,

539
00:29:02,160 --> 00:29:04,520
Speaker 1: which led to this dinner. If he would have gotten

540
00:29:04,560 --> 00:29:07,080
Speaker 1: exposed to COVID, they wouldn't have met. Like it's all

541
00:29:07,080 --> 00:29:09,720
Speaker 1: of these like things that happened, like but truly anything,

542
00:29:09,760 --> 00:29:14,840
Speaker 1: I mean, Noah with you and um and an AUV, Like,

543
00:29:14,880 --> 00:29:17,520
Speaker 1: do you ever think about those that one thing that

544
00:29:17,560 --> 00:29:20,440
Speaker 1: could have been different that would have led for you

545
00:29:20,480 --> 00:29:22,880
Speaker 1: to not be living in Arizona right now with your

546
00:29:22,920 --> 00:29:26,200
Speaker 1: fiance and you know, oh my gosh, especially since we

547
00:29:26,240 --> 00:29:28,880
Speaker 1: met for the first time in eleven but didn't start

548
00:29:28,960 --> 00:29:36,440
Speaker 1: dating until I'm glad. Yeah, like through like the metal

549
00:29:36,480 --> 00:29:39,480
Speaker 1: scene and stuff, So he was like in my peripheral

550
00:29:39,600 --> 00:29:44,280
Speaker 1: but we didn't start dating because of Instagram until was

551
00:29:44,320 --> 00:29:46,440
Speaker 1: there a no in two thousand eleven where you like, man,

552
00:29:46,480 --> 00:29:49,760
Speaker 1: that's a hot guy, Like, was there a well, I

553
00:29:49,760 --> 00:29:51,920
Speaker 1: thought he was really hot, but I was like, oh,

554
00:29:52,000 --> 00:29:53,920
Speaker 1: he's like the frontman of a band. I'm not going

555
00:29:53,960 --> 00:29:55,920
Speaker 1: for this again, And I was. I was in a

556
00:29:55,960 --> 00:29:59,240
Speaker 1: relationship anyway with another guy in a band. Right, I'm

557
00:29:59,280 --> 00:30:01,200
Speaker 1: not going for this again. And right at the same

558
00:30:01,200 --> 00:30:04,560
Speaker 1: time that I'm doing, I already know that it's a

559
00:30:04,560 --> 00:30:06,720
Speaker 1: bad decision that I'm actively in, so I'm not going

560
00:30:06,800 --> 00:30:08,800
Speaker 1: to go for it while I'm going through this position.

561
00:30:10,280 --> 00:30:11,760
Speaker 1: And I mean the same thing with you and Brennan,

562
00:30:11,880 --> 00:30:14,240
Speaker 1: Like if you would never have ye if I didn't

563
00:30:14,240 --> 00:30:17,000
Speaker 1: move here, well, yeah, if you didn't move here, if

564
00:30:17,040 --> 00:30:19,320
Speaker 1: you wouldn't have been on the podcast where she heard

565
00:30:19,480 --> 00:30:21,520
Speaker 1: something on that podcast that made her go, this guy

566
00:30:21,720 --> 00:30:24,480
Speaker 1: is worth following, Or if you had met Ashley and

567
00:30:24,560 --> 00:30:26,040
Speaker 1: rain now you wouldn't have been on that podcast, you

568
00:30:26,120 --> 00:30:28,280
Speaker 1: might have not have heard of you, And like there's

569
00:30:28,280 --> 00:30:30,360
Speaker 1: all these things that like I remember one time I

570
00:30:30,440 --> 00:30:33,400
Speaker 1: was in um New Orleans and I was going to

571
00:30:33,480 --> 00:30:36,240
Speaker 1: go put like three dollars on black, like I was

572
00:30:36,280 --> 00:30:38,600
Speaker 1: just gonna go fucking let's just do it. And I

573
00:30:38,640 --> 00:30:40,520
Speaker 1: remember I stopped to tie my shoe or to fix

574
00:30:40,600 --> 00:30:42,600
Speaker 1: my boot, and I was with my ex boyfriend and

575
00:30:42,600 --> 00:30:45,520
Speaker 1: he was like, because you're doing this, that outcomes going

576
00:30:45,560 --> 00:30:50,200
Speaker 1: to be different than if you didn't stop. Show. Yeah,

577
00:30:50,240 --> 00:30:55,560
Speaker 1: it's so interesting. Um yes, yes I did. I I remember, Yeah,

578
00:30:55,600 --> 00:30:57,320
Speaker 1: we I doubled it. Then I quit. I'm really good

579
00:30:57,360 --> 00:31:00,400
Speaker 1: at like, I'm good. That's you. You quit after just

580
00:31:00,440 --> 00:31:04,160
Speaker 1: winning once? Oh yeah, I win once I'm done. I'm good.

581
00:31:06,880 --> 00:31:08,640
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, and it feels terrible. That's why I don't

582
00:31:08,640 --> 00:31:11,040
Speaker 1: do it. When did you lose? And how much? Like

583
00:31:11,320 --> 00:31:14,320
Speaker 1: because I think the most is a couple of hundred bucks,

584
00:31:14,320 --> 00:31:16,479
Speaker 1: Like I wouldn't. I've always set a limit where this

585
00:31:16,560 --> 00:31:18,400
Speaker 1: is the amount I'm willing to lose. And once this

586
00:31:18,520 --> 00:31:20,920
Speaker 1: is over, I paid for the fun of gambling that away,

587
00:31:21,560 --> 00:31:24,360
Speaker 1: all the fun. Yeah, I mean I was in college.

588
00:31:24,360 --> 00:31:29,640
Speaker 1: I was. I just if something feels bad enough, right,

589
00:31:30,880 --> 00:31:34,080
Speaker 1: if the if the pain is worse than the game,

590
00:31:35,160 --> 00:31:40,240
Speaker 1: I like, that's insane, it's insane in the membrane, It's

591
00:31:40,840 --> 00:31:43,640
Speaker 1: that's what drinking eventually became It's like the fun of

592
00:31:43,680 --> 00:31:47,280
Speaker 1: getting drunk was always fun. Let's clock that at about it.

593
00:31:47,280 --> 00:31:49,520
Speaker 1: It was. It was a ten at times, and then

594
00:31:49,520 --> 00:31:52,440
Speaker 1: it became about a six around the time that my

595
00:31:52,520 --> 00:31:56,239
Speaker 1: hangovers became tens in terms of pain. As soon as

596
00:31:56,240 --> 00:31:59,440
Speaker 1: the hangover outweighed the good bye. It's the problem. Was

597
00:31:59,720 --> 00:32:02,680
Speaker 1: the first time I ever gambled and played blackjack, I

598
00:32:02,680 --> 00:32:06,880
Speaker 1: won two thousand dollars off like forty. I went out,

599
00:32:06,920 --> 00:32:10,040
Speaker 1: I bought a PlayStation, bought a TV, bought a couch,

600
00:32:10,600 --> 00:32:14,719
Speaker 1: like bought like like literally a week later, I pawned

601
00:32:14,720 --> 00:32:18,760
Speaker 1: it all back and I still didn't learn my lesson.

602
00:32:18,840 --> 00:32:20,800
Speaker 1: It was like a year later that I learned my lesson.

603
00:32:20,880 --> 00:32:23,640
Speaker 1: But like, yeah, it's dangerous. It's win winning the first

604
00:32:23,680 --> 00:32:26,720
Speaker 1: time is the worst possible thing that could happen in gambling.

605
00:32:26,880 --> 00:32:30,080
Speaker 1: I think unless you've got this mental fortitude where you're

606
00:32:30,120 --> 00:32:33,480
Speaker 1: just like stand up, you do it one time. Most

607
00:32:33,520 --> 00:32:36,440
Speaker 1: people that do stand up, as you know, their first

608
00:32:36,440 --> 00:32:39,120
Speaker 1: time on stage, they killed. And people that have done

609
00:32:39,120 --> 00:32:41,960
Speaker 1: stand up and give up usually did it one time

610
00:32:42,000 --> 00:32:43,640
Speaker 1: and they had they bombed and it was such a

611
00:32:43,680 --> 00:32:46,120
Speaker 1: bad It's bombing is the worst feeling in the world.

612
00:32:46,440 --> 00:32:48,800
Speaker 1: And killing is the best feeling. And if you start

613
00:32:48,840 --> 00:32:50,920
Speaker 1: with killing the first time you're on stage, invite a

614
00:32:50,920 --> 00:32:54,320
Speaker 1: bunch of friends and everything. People do that your first

615
00:32:54,360 --> 00:32:57,440
Speaker 1: time because you're gonna suck. You are going to bomb eventually.

616
00:32:57,440 --> 00:32:59,960
Speaker 1: But if you have that win, you'll always remember the

617
00:33:00,040 --> 00:33:02,040
Speaker 1: feeling and you'll be chasing the dragon. It's like Heroin,

618
00:33:02,120 --> 00:33:04,480
Speaker 1: You're always chasing that first high. But I guess I

619
00:33:04,520 --> 00:33:06,440
Speaker 1: got so far because we did that one show and

620
00:33:06,480 --> 00:33:09,160
Speaker 1: they gave me six D dollars and chips and I

621
00:33:09,240 --> 00:33:11,600
Speaker 1: just cashed it. I didn't even play one hand. And

622
00:33:11,640 --> 00:33:14,719
Speaker 1: I was like, that's growth or I'm lazy and I'm tired,

623
00:33:14,840 --> 00:33:18,160
Speaker 1: But I think it's growth growth, right, Like to not

624
00:33:18,520 --> 00:33:22,560
Speaker 1: for sure you black jack, like I missed, you could

625
00:33:22,560 --> 00:33:24,800
Speaker 1: like play with the chips and play with them. Then

626
00:33:26,480 --> 00:33:27,920
Speaker 1: I don't act like that's the fun of that's what

627
00:33:27,960 --> 00:33:30,760
Speaker 1: people do. With drinking. I just like the taste. I

628
00:33:30,840 --> 00:33:33,360
Speaker 1: miss having a beer after work. It's like, then have

629
00:33:33,480 --> 00:33:35,520
Speaker 1: a non alcoholic beer after work if you love the

630
00:33:35,600 --> 00:33:38,360
Speaker 1: taste so much. It's you don't feel like we like

631
00:33:39,080 --> 00:33:42,160
Speaker 1: we're too serious about like do we miss things because

632
00:33:42,200 --> 00:33:46,280
Speaker 1: of that? Like not just drinking, but just like I'm

633
00:33:46,280 --> 00:33:49,880
Speaker 1: not gambling. I'm good now, but part of me misses

634
00:33:50,040 --> 00:33:54,800
Speaker 1: the debauchery and the and the vices and stuff like

635
00:33:54,840 --> 00:33:57,160
Speaker 1: that where it's like, okay, I stopped taking yourself so

636
00:33:57,200 --> 00:34:00,840
Speaker 1: fucking seriously too. Yeah. I feel like now though, I'm

637
00:34:00,880 --> 00:34:05,760
Speaker 1: getting high off of things that like feelings and vulnerability

638
00:34:05,800 --> 00:34:10,759
Speaker 1: and um intimacy and like things I was scared to do,

639
00:34:10,840 --> 00:34:13,799
Speaker 1: like playing guitar for people or like that that to

640
00:34:13,880 --> 00:34:16,040
Speaker 1: me was always like, oh my god, that's like doing hair.

641
00:34:16,200 --> 00:34:18,160
Speaker 1: That's so scary. I don't want to do that because

642
00:34:18,880 --> 00:34:22,279
Speaker 1: it's being embarrassed is scarier to me than doing drugs.

643
00:34:22,280 --> 00:34:25,560
Speaker 1: Like being doing something that I think is like good

644
00:34:25,719 --> 00:34:28,920
Speaker 1: and it's not is more of a risk than dancing

645
00:34:29,040 --> 00:34:31,160
Speaker 1: naked on a bar, because I you know what I mean,

646
00:34:31,200 --> 00:34:34,480
Speaker 1: like whatever kind of now, I just think there's different things,

647
00:34:34,520 --> 00:34:36,960
Speaker 1: And I always just think you had your fun, NICKI

648
00:34:37,160 --> 00:34:40,160
Speaker 1: like it's done, like you. If you didn't get it done,

649
00:34:40,200 --> 00:34:42,839
Speaker 1: then then it wasn't worth doing. Part of me thinks

650
00:34:42,880 --> 00:34:44,760
Speaker 1: I guess if I didn't get the high of stand

651
00:34:44,840 --> 00:34:48,160
Speaker 1: up and like that feeling of putting myself out there,

652
00:34:48,200 --> 00:34:54,640
Speaker 1: that I probably would still be or not. I think

653
00:34:54,640 --> 00:34:58,320
Speaker 1: you would find it elsewhere, hopefully I would be fulfilled

654
00:34:58,320 --> 00:35:01,040
Speaker 1: in whatever I did. Oh if I was aren't doing guitar,

655
00:35:01,360 --> 00:35:07,440
Speaker 1: or I wasn't masturbating, or I wasn't you know, you

656
00:35:07,560 --> 00:35:11,080
Speaker 1: gotta have something I'm not. That was my thing. I'd

657
00:35:11,080 --> 00:35:13,080
Speaker 1: go to a bar by myself, sit at the bar

658
00:35:13,160 --> 00:35:15,840
Speaker 1: and meet people and just sit on the corner and

659
00:35:16,080 --> 00:35:18,400
Speaker 1: who knows where my night's gonna go. Like there was

660
00:35:18,440 --> 00:35:21,359
Speaker 1: that feeling of like, you know, get it somewhere else,

661
00:35:21,600 --> 00:35:24,600
Speaker 1: neither get it with sex or like, you know, you

662
00:35:24,680 --> 00:35:28,680
Speaker 1: just that's why people go from being junkies to sex addicts.

663
00:35:28,680 --> 00:35:30,640
Speaker 1: It's like, well, that's the lesser thing. That's not going

664
00:35:30,680 --> 00:35:33,640
Speaker 1: to kill you as fast, you know, or it's not

665
00:35:33,640 --> 00:35:35,759
Speaker 1: going to be as painful in the short term as

666
00:35:35,880 --> 00:35:39,120
Speaker 1: that other thing was. But we're always just like replacing

667
00:35:39,160 --> 00:35:44,960
Speaker 1: things food, sex, we'd um we'd just became for me,

668
00:35:45,040 --> 00:35:50,399
Speaker 1: like it became it wasn't giving me. The returns were

669
00:35:50,440 --> 00:35:52,520
Speaker 1: not as great as the negatives, Like it just was

670
00:35:53,440 --> 00:35:55,880
Speaker 1: the number one thing for me is my brain and

671
00:35:55,920 --> 00:35:57,760
Speaker 1: like being able to get work done and be smart

672
00:35:57,800 --> 00:36:00,360
Speaker 1: and funny, and it was just making me on funny.

673
00:36:00,440 --> 00:36:03,000
Speaker 1: I just the second I found that it was struggling

674
00:36:03,160 --> 00:36:06,359
Speaker 1: to think of a line, and I was like, oh,

675
00:36:06,360 --> 00:36:09,960
Speaker 1: it's because I'm high, Like I know it, is that done? Done?

676
00:36:10,800 --> 00:36:14,319
Speaker 1: Do you think is there any resentment like towards like

677
00:36:14,600 --> 00:36:17,319
Speaker 1: me living with you where like maybe I could have

678
00:36:17,360 --> 00:36:24,319
Speaker 1: said something before like yeah, no, it's it's no one

679
00:36:24,400 --> 00:36:26,320
Speaker 1: because I know you've you've had that in the past,

680
00:36:26,360 --> 00:36:31,600
Speaker 1: like with your anorexia stuff like where people anything. Yeah, yeah,

681
00:36:31,840 --> 00:36:36,879
Speaker 1: I just feel like but all the time. People write

682
00:36:36,880 --> 00:36:38,279
Speaker 1: to me all the time and say, my sister is

683
00:36:38,320 --> 00:36:40,560
Speaker 1: antorectic and I don't know what to do? Can you

684
00:36:40,600 --> 00:36:44,560
Speaker 1: give me any advice? And I say, honestly, there's nothing

685
00:36:44,600 --> 00:36:47,080
Speaker 1: you can do right now. You know what you can say.

686
00:36:47,440 --> 00:36:49,719
Speaker 1: You can say, hey, when you're ready to, if you

687
00:36:49,719 --> 00:36:51,480
Speaker 1: want to talk about this, I will talk about it

688
00:36:51,520 --> 00:36:54,200
Speaker 1: with you and give and have no judgment, no shame.

689
00:36:54,239 --> 00:36:55,800
Speaker 1: I don't say what it is if you want to

690
00:36:55,800 --> 00:36:58,360
Speaker 1: talk about Yeah, like I noticed that you're doing something

691
00:36:58,400 --> 00:37:00,920
Speaker 1: with food and your body and I don't care. I

692
00:37:00,920 --> 00:37:03,640
Speaker 1: don't judge it at all. There you know a Lance

693
00:37:03,680 --> 00:37:05,360
Speaker 1: Moore set shared in her documentary, and I thought this

694
00:37:05,400 --> 00:37:07,959
Speaker 1: was such a beautiful example of someone being supportive about

695
00:37:07,960 --> 00:37:10,759
Speaker 1: an eating disorder because people don't understand eating disorders. If

696
00:37:10,800 --> 00:37:12,200
Speaker 1: you don't have one, you don't get it. And it

697
00:37:12,239 --> 00:37:16,120
Speaker 1: seems fucking weird. And her friend walked in on her

698
00:37:16,280 --> 00:37:18,560
Speaker 1: sticking your finger down her throat, which is a very

699
00:37:19,040 --> 00:37:21,440
Speaker 1: insane thing to see if you don't understand what that is.

700
00:37:21,520 --> 00:37:23,640
Speaker 1: Even when I was antorextic, I did not understand. Believe me,

701
00:37:23,640 --> 00:37:25,960
Speaker 1: I thought it was like gross and weird. Turns out

702
00:37:26,000 --> 00:37:29,279
Speaker 1: I ended up doing it a lot myself. But her

703
00:37:29,360 --> 00:37:32,799
Speaker 1: friend just hugged her and said and just rubbed her

704
00:37:32,840 --> 00:37:34,680
Speaker 1: back as she was over the toilet and said, if

705
00:37:34,680 --> 00:37:37,160
Speaker 1: you want to, I'm always here for you. And I'm

706
00:37:37,320 --> 00:37:40,520
Speaker 1: I'm like, what's going on? And but she said the

707
00:37:40,960 --> 00:37:42,960
Speaker 1: key was there's no judgment, because I think when I

708
00:37:43,000 --> 00:37:45,320
Speaker 1: was antorectic and people were just like, what are you doing?

709
00:37:45,800 --> 00:37:48,719
Speaker 1: Will you just eat? Something like this is weird? Like

710
00:37:48,800 --> 00:37:51,520
Speaker 1: it was always met with like your choosing this and

711
00:37:51,560 --> 00:37:54,560
Speaker 1: you're weird. Like just talk to people that have anorexia

712
00:37:54,719 --> 00:37:58,360
Speaker 1: and bolimia or like addictions, like they have cancer. You

713
00:37:58,400 --> 00:38:01,240
Speaker 1: wouldn't yell at someone for having sir, You just wouldn't

714
00:38:01,800 --> 00:38:05,760
Speaker 1: or so just always and and I the best advice

715
00:38:05,800 --> 00:38:08,759
Speaker 1: I give is just tell them when you want to

716
00:38:08,800 --> 00:38:11,879
Speaker 1: talk to someone about this, I'm here and I will

717
00:38:11,920 --> 00:38:14,560
Speaker 1: never judge you, no matter how bad it is. You

718
00:38:14,560 --> 00:38:16,920
Speaker 1: can totally be honest with me. That's important because when

719
00:38:16,960 --> 00:38:19,719
Speaker 1: you're able to get honest about what you're doing, that's

720
00:38:19,719 --> 00:38:22,280
Speaker 1: when you're able to change. You know, in twelve step.

721
00:38:22,360 --> 00:38:25,160
Speaker 1: The first step is just admitting you have a problem.

722
00:38:25,280 --> 00:38:27,719
Speaker 1: And when you are confronted by people who are like,

723
00:38:27,800 --> 00:38:30,320
Speaker 1: I'm worried about you, all you do is denyed, denied,

724
00:38:30,320 --> 00:38:32,400
Speaker 1: deny you, and then you start lying to yourself. But

725
00:38:32,440 --> 00:38:34,920
Speaker 1: if you're met with someone that goes, I see what's happening.

726
00:38:35,600 --> 00:38:37,600
Speaker 1: No judgment. But when you're ready to talk to someone,

727
00:38:37,680 --> 00:38:39,319
Speaker 1: I love you and I will not judge you, and

728
00:38:39,360 --> 00:38:41,000
Speaker 1: I know I don't understand it, but I'll try to.

729
00:38:41,600 --> 00:38:43,840
Speaker 1: And I love you and I know you're not trying

730
00:38:43,880 --> 00:38:47,719
Speaker 1: to do this and this isn't this Like I'm here

731
00:38:47,719 --> 00:38:51,480
Speaker 1: for you, and then you then DM me when they

732
00:38:51,520 --> 00:38:52,839
Speaker 1: when they come to you with that, and then I'll

733
00:38:52,880 --> 00:38:55,080
Speaker 1: tell you, tell you what to do. But until they

734
00:38:55,120 --> 00:38:59,240
Speaker 1: want to get healthy, they're not gonna They're just going

735
00:38:59,280 --> 00:39:01,319
Speaker 1: down on a ton of people in a theater like

736
00:39:01,480 --> 00:39:06,800
Speaker 1: is that? Um? Do they speak eloquently? Am I eloquent?

737
00:39:07,080 --> 00:39:12,080
Speaker 1: Would they have her baby? His baby? Um? What that

738
00:39:12,200 --> 00:39:15,560
Speaker 1: line changed her life? That one of the other day

739
00:39:15,680 --> 00:39:18,279
Speaker 1: he was like you, I remember you and Lauren when

740
00:39:18,280 --> 00:39:21,200
Speaker 1: you were eleven twelve. We're talking and will you go

741
00:39:21,320 --> 00:39:28,880
Speaker 1: down on And it's unbelievable you're in the singing. It's

742
00:39:28,960 --> 00:39:32,680
Speaker 1: just like what ters just say, But we don't know

743
00:39:32,719 --> 00:39:35,600
Speaker 1: what that means? Yeah, down on you in a theater

744
00:39:35,719 --> 00:39:38,560
Speaker 1: is so is a perfect way to write that lyric

745
00:39:38,640 --> 00:39:40,960
Speaker 1: because kids will not know what that means. Sing that

746
00:39:41,080 --> 00:39:43,640
Speaker 1: all day. Kids they don't know. Oh you think that's

747
00:39:43,760 --> 00:39:45,959
Speaker 1: what That's why you get from it that kids don't

748
00:39:45,960 --> 00:39:48,440
Speaker 1: know what they're what she was saying, no idea what

749
00:39:48,480 --> 00:39:50,600
Speaker 1: that meant? Down on you in the theater means nothing.

750
00:39:50,680 --> 00:39:52,239
Speaker 1: I can see your dad like pulling out of the

751
00:39:52,280 --> 00:39:56,520
Speaker 1: movies parking lot like, no, we're not seeing hidding whatever.

752
00:39:56,640 --> 00:39:59,719
Speaker 1: I don't know somebody about Mary. We don't give kids

753
00:39:59,840 --> 00:40:02,760
Speaker 1: enough credit to know that they know that it's something

754
00:40:02,800 --> 00:40:05,640
Speaker 1: they don't understand, and they are okay with that. There's

755
00:40:05,640 --> 00:40:08,000
Speaker 1: a million things a day that kids can encounter and

756
00:40:08,040 --> 00:40:10,319
Speaker 1: they go, I don't know what that is because I'm

757
00:40:10,320 --> 00:40:12,640
Speaker 1: a kid. Yeah, It's like when I was singing Nirvana

758
00:40:12,800 --> 00:40:15,279
Speaker 1: as even though I was singing it probably incorrectly what

759
00:40:16,120 --> 00:40:19,240
Speaker 1: Vanna is talking about neither. I don't think you're supposed

760
00:40:19,239 --> 00:40:24,280
Speaker 1: to It's seriously, most of their lyrics make no fucking sense,

761
00:40:24,320 --> 00:40:29,600
Speaker 1: even as an adult. But we kids do not know.

762
00:40:29,920 --> 00:40:36,040
Speaker 1: Unless it's a visual like pornographic graphic video. Kids do

763
00:40:36,160 --> 00:40:39,399
Speaker 1: not know, and they don't care. They just go, that's

764
00:40:39,400 --> 00:40:41,239
Speaker 1: an adult thing. I don't even want to know about that.

765
00:40:41,280 --> 00:40:43,919
Speaker 1: They're not like I want to do that. So stop

766
00:40:43,960 --> 00:40:48,080
Speaker 1: policing your Children's just the things they see and the

767
00:40:48,080 --> 00:40:50,959
Speaker 1: things they read. Let them experience the world and give

768
00:40:51,000 --> 00:40:53,600
Speaker 1: them the autonomy to go, that's an adult thing. And

769
00:40:53,640 --> 00:40:55,239
Speaker 1: I'm gonna wait till I get to the age where

770
00:40:55,239 --> 00:40:57,000
Speaker 1: I can do that. So you're kind of, in a

771
00:40:57,000 --> 00:41:00,160
Speaker 1: way giving them the benefit of doubt. They they're they're

772
00:41:00,200 --> 00:41:03,919
Speaker 1: smart enough to understand wow. Also knowing that they're smart

773
00:41:04,000 --> 00:41:06,479
Speaker 1: enough to know they're dumb, and that they're dumb because

774
00:41:06,480 --> 00:41:08,640
Speaker 1: they're young. I did I remember being a kid and

775
00:41:08,640 --> 00:41:12,000
Speaker 1: being like parent. People seem to like this thing called coffee.

776
00:41:12,120 --> 00:41:15,160
Speaker 1: It looks disgusting to me. It smells gross. I guess

777
00:41:15,200 --> 00:41:17,200
Speaker 1: I'll figure it out. When I'm an adult. They used

778
00:41:17,239 --> 00:41:19,400
Speaker 1: to write checks. I'd see my mom write in cursive

779
00:41:19,440 --> 00:41:22,640
Speaker 1: and I'd go, I didn't go, why can't I write cursive?

780
00:41:22,719 --> 00:41:24,880
Speaker 1: I'd go, that's a thing I'm going to learn someday.

781
00:41:24,960 --> 00:41:27,080
Speaker 1: I don't know it yet. It's like when I would

782
00:41:27,120 --> 00:41:30,000
Speaker 1: listen to Two Live Crew and there was a line

783
00:41:30,080 --> 00:41:31,839
Speaker 1: I still remember. I was like, it was my first

784
00:41:31,880 --> 00:41:34,279
Speaker 1: tape I ever got. I was like, nine, Two Live

785
00:41:34,360 --> 00:41:37,920
Speaker 1: Crew is the dirtiest rap music, and they're nibble on

786
00:41:37,960 --> 00:41:41,439
Speaker 1: my dick like a rat does cheese. Well that's once

787
00:41:41,480 --> 00:41:43,719
Speaker 1: you know what a dick is. No, no, no, no.

788
00:41:43,840 --> 00:41:46,200
Speaker 1: But I'm saying like I didn't really like know what

789
00:41:46,239 --> 00:41:49,120
Speaker 1: blow jobs were at that time. I found it hilarious,

790
00:41:49,200 --> 00:41:53,399
Speaker 1: just a visual of someone. It wasn't like a sexual thing.

791
00:41:53,520 --> 00:41:59,760
Speaker 1: It wasn't, but it was hilarious. Let's get to the news.

792
00:41:58,040 --> 00:42:07,960
Speaker 1: You heard her first. Just let it wait for a while.

793
00:42:08,040 --> 00:42:11,319
Speaker 1: I mean, I wasn't seeing how long I could do

794
00:42:11,360 --> 00:42:14,239
Speaker 1: it without you. I mean you were the first one

795
00:42:14,280 --> 00:42:17,880
Speaker 1: to talk. By the way, True, it's Tuesday, folks. You

796
00:42:17,920 --> 00:42:22,239
Speaker 1: know what that means. It is Tuesday. All the swells

797
00:42:22,680 --> 00:42:27,319
Speaker 1: for everybody out there except for um lance. Actually we

798
00:42:27,320 --> 00:42:30,759
Speaker 1: can't say jacket in a study that asked about the

799
00:42:30,800 --> 00:42:32,839
Speaker 1: willingness to do like you were saying, a girl named

800
00:42:32,840 --> 00:42:38,359
Speaker 1: Anna study and a study in a study Okay, when

801
00:42:38,360 --> 00:42:42,520
Speaker 1: I got in, Colin U. In the study that asked

802
00:42:42,560 --> 00:42:45,640
Speaker 1: about the willingness to date someone based on their number

803
00:42:46,040 --> 00:42:49,719
Speaker 1: of previous sexual partners, let me guess men were less

804
00:42:49,800 --> 00:42:53,880
Speaker 1: likely to date women if the number was women aund

805
00:42:54,640 --> 00:42:57,800
Speaker 1: which I don't agree with, but that's what the study says.

806
00:42:58,000 --> 00:43:00,640
Speaker 1: But it was a small study of just one guy.

807
00:43:00,680 --> 00:43:06,120
Speaker 1: I think, what did he pull people at his Thanksgiving dinner? What? What? Okay?

808
00:43:06,160 --> 00:43:08,760
Speaker 1: So it's in a small study and a small study

809
00:43:08,960 --> 00:43:15,040
Speaker 1: and a study okay that an ideal is two to

810
00:43:15,120 --> 00:43:18,160
Speaker 1: three partners was ideal and a preference for some experience

811
00:43:18,239 --> 00:43:22,160
Speaker 1: over no experience. I mean this. I read the article.

812
00:43:22,280 --> 00:43:24,360
Speaker 1: It went from like ten to like sixty, which I

813
00:43:24,360 --> 00:43:26,080
Speaker 1: thought was no, Well what about you? I mean, we

814
00:43:26,120 --> 00:43:29,239
Speaker 1: know Andrew's answers preferably zero, but with the experience of

815
00:43:29,239 --> 00:43:32,360
Speaker 1: someone who's been with fifty so that's most men. Know.

816
00:43:32,440 --> 00:43:35,640
Speaker 1: What what is your ideal number of partners for a

817
00:43:35,680 --> 00:43:38,719
Speaker 1: man that you're with in a perfect world? Oh? Ideal?

818
00:43:40,280 --> 00:43:42,120
Speaker 1: I used to care about it. I used to like

819
00:43:42,200 --> 00:43:44,600
Speaker 1: not want to know anything, but now I understand that

820
00:43:44,640 --> 00:43:48,160
Speaker 1: everyone has history, including me, so I don't I don't care.

821
00:43:48,560 --> 00:43:52,440
Speaker 1: Like even if it's like hundreds, I wouldn't care. Agreed,

822
00:43:52,560 --> 00:43:55,000
Speaker 1: I wouldn't have anything. I would be more turned on

823
00:43:55,040 --> 00:43:57,160
Speaker 1: if it was hundreds, because I feel like, Wow, this

824
00:43:57,200 --> 00:44:01,120
Speaker 1: guy got it out of the system, like he's he's

825
00:44:01,160 --> 00:44:04,239
Speaker 1: and I get out of hundreds he's decided to stay

826
00:44:04,239 --> 00:44:07,439
Speaker 1: with me, and that before and that blows my mind.

827
00:44:07,640 --> 00:44:11,839
Speaker 1: That's sentence. What no the idea that like I won

828
00:44:13,239 --> 00:44:14,640
Speaker 1: when I just think they're just at a point where

829
00:44:14,640 --> 00:44:16,239
Speaker 1: they're ready to settle down. It's like if I could

830
00:44:16,239 --> 00:44:18,240
Speaker 1: have been number three, three and they wouldn't have stopped.

831
00:44:18,440 --> 00:44:20,319
Speaker 1: You just convince yourself of that a little bit, and

832
00:44:20,560 --> 00:44:22,719
Speaker 1: you they have a lot of experience, so they must

833
00:44:22,719 --> 00:44:24,680
Speaker 1: know what's good. I mean, you're not. You might be

834
00:44:24,719 --> 00:44:25,880
Speaker 1: at a point in your life where you're ready to

835
00:44:25,920 --> 00:44:27,960
Speaker 1: settle down, but you're not going to particularly settle down

836
00:44:28,000 --> 00:44:30,680
Speaker 1: with someone that isn't good at the thing that you

837
00:44:30,719 --> 00:44:33,359
Speaker 1: have a lot of experience with. So I'm probably can

838
00:44:34,200 --> 00:44:38,000
Speaker 1: guess that I'm in the top if he's gonna settle

839
00:44:38,000 --> 00:44:40,719
Speaker 1: down with me, regardless of if he's tired or not. Yes,

840
00:44:41,280 --> 00:44:44,000
Speaker 1: so Andrew's answer though he said, it's not zero, it

841
00:44:44,080 --> 00:44:48,640
Speaker 1: really is zero zero, Shut up, it's not it's one. No,

842
00:44:48,920 --> 00:44:52,520
Speaker 1: it's Honestly, I would say, depending on the age of

843
00:44:52,560 --> 00:44:55,480
Speaker 1: the woman, I would say five to ten is a

844
00:44:55,520 --> 00:44:58,680
Speaker 1: solid number that I would think. You want them, you don't.

845
00:44:58,680 --> 00:45:01,399
Speaker 1: I don't want a zero. It doesn't make sense say

846
00:45:01,440 --> 00:45:03,680
Speaker 1: I don't want them to what Finnish sessence, I don't

847
00:45:03,680 --> 00:45:06,280
Speaker 1: want them. I don't want them to be a zero

848
00:45:06,360 --> 00:45:08,600
Speaker 1: where they haven't experienced sex at all. And then I'm

849
00:45:08,640 --> 00:45:13,200
Speaker 1: the first person. It's a lot of pressures. Yeah, not

850
00:45:13,320 --> 00:45:17,120
Speaker 1: about their pleasure, it's just because that too. Yeah, I

851
00:45:17,160 --> 00:45:21,040
Speaker 1: want them to at least come once before we UM.

852
00:45:21,200 --> 00:45:27,160
Speaker 1: I agree. I also, you know, the realistic either after

853
00:45:27,280 --> 00:45:33,080
Speaker 1: me yes or darn daring daring and there I say

854
00:45:34,640 --> 00:45:39,919
Speaker 1: for me, it's like, honestly, I don't I don't care.

855
00:45:40,400 --> 00:45:42,680
Speaker 1: I don't care. I would like it to be up

856
00:45:42,760 --> 00:45:45,839
Speaker 1: twenty or more. Look, I used to have a lot

857
00:45:45,840 --> 00:45:50,839
Speaker 1: of guy that likes sex and that UM has had

858
00:45:50,840 --> 00:45:52,759
Speaker 1: a lot of it, to have a lot of experience

859
00:45:52,800 --> 00:45:56,200
Speaker 1: and like know how to fund good I think though

860
00:45:56,239 --> 00:45:58,480
Speaker 1: I think the fear for me, at least earlier on

861
00:45:59,120 --> 00:46:01,240
Speaker 1: is like the girl had sex with like two guys,

862
00:46:01,320 --> 00:46:04,600
Speaker 1: like in high school, It's like whoa to fucking like

863
00:46:04,640 --> 00:46:08,759
Speaker 1: it was like the numbers seemed bigger. Also STDs like

864
00:46:08,840 --> 00:46:13,800
Speaker 1: I had a fear of those, probably arational, irrational fear

865
00:46:13,840 --> 00:46:16,239
Speaker 1: of it. I don't think I'm alone there. I think

866
00:46:16,239 --> 00:46:18,279
Speaker 1: a lot of people. So if you hear like he's

867
00:46:18,320 --> 00:46:22,480
Speaker 1: fomen like, but I think if he's still alive, then

868
00:46:22,520 --> 00:46:26,600
Speaker 1: he's probably okay, and it's like all been treated or

869
00:46:26,680 --> 00:46:30,360
Speaker 1: he has herpies and I can avoid it. Yes, no more, No,

870
00:46:30,520 --> 00:46:33,239
Speaker 1: I think you look at you look I don't have

871
00:46:33,239 --> 00:46:37,760
Speaker 1: herpes yet, double down, bringing a new strain. They need friends,

872
00:46:38,000 --> 00:46:41,760
Speaker 1: give him a roommate. Can your herpes meet my herpies?

873
00:46:41,960 --> 00:46:45,479
Speaker 1: Oh my god? The dating now called? Um I think

874
00:46:46,600 --> 00:46:50,480
Speaker 1: her herpeses h date. I think it's called or something. Yeah,

875
00:46:50,520 --> 00:46:53,799
Speaker 1: I mean I think that's smart. Why not? Um No?

876
00:46:53,840 --> 00:46:55,880
Speaker 1: But yeah, No, I think you look at it. You

877
00:46:55,920 --> 00:46:59,040
Speaker 1: look at it way more, maybe irrationally. The other way.

878
00:46:59,040 --> 00:47:00,279
Speaker 1: I want to say, if you have an had sex

879
00:47:00,320 --> 00:47:01,920
Speaker 1: with twenty people and you're a man listening being like

880
00:47:01,920 --> 00:47:04,920
Speaker 1: I couldn't get nickick Glaser because I haven't. That's not

881
00:47:05,000 --> 00:47:07,439
Speaker 1: like a deal breaker. I'm just saying. And I don't

882
00:47:07,440 --> 00:47:09,080
Speaker 1: think that you don't funk good. If you've only had

883
00:47:09,120 --> 00:47:11,759
Speaker 1: two partners or one or zero partners, you could be

884
00:47:11,840 --> 00:47:14,800
Speaker 1: a virgin and get married and then funk that person perfectly.

885
00:47:14,840 --> 00:47:17,640
Speaker 1: I think that, honestly, a lot of times sex creates

886
00:47:17,680 --> 00:47:20,799
Speaker 1: bad habits that leads you further away from being able

887
00:47:20,840 --> 00:47:23,160
Speaker 1: to please a partner that you're trying because you think

888
00:47:23,200 --> 00:47:25,760
Speaker 1: all women are like the person you were with before,

889
00:47:26,560 --> 00:47:28,319
Speaker 1: and then you do the same things, and it's hard

890
00:47:28,360 --> 00:47:31,000
Speaker 1: to break those habits than build them. So I think

891
00:47:31,080 --> 00:47:34,560
Speaker 1: that either way can be fine. Yeah, and I I

892
00:47:34,600 --> 00:47:37,839
Speaker 1: swear like I really am, Like I wouldn't like if

893
00:47:37,840 --> 00:47:39,080
Speaker 1: you told me you're not. I don't want to hear

894
00:47:39,080 --> 00:47:42,399
Speaker 1: about it in detail, Like you know, number fifteen had

895
00:47:42,680 --> 00:47:46,120
Speaker 1: a more veins on his dick than seventeen. I don't

896
00:47:46,160 --> 00:47:48,439
Speaker 1: want the details. But the number I don't think would

897
00:47:48,440 --> 00:47:50,920
Speaker 1: really bother him unless it was like six dollars. I

898
00:47:50,960 --> 00:47:53,360
Speaker 1: can't believe my number because I've only had sex with

899
00:47:53,440 --> 00:47:56,000
Speaker 1: one person in the past eight years. Oh, I thought

900
00:47:56,000 --> 00:47:59,839
Speaker 1: you're making a joke. No, Oh, No, I've only sex

901
00:47:59,840 --> 00:48:02,400
Speaker 1: with one person in the last eight years. Yeah, my

902
00:48:02,480 --> 00:48:06,040
Speaker 1: number is sixteen. You did it. I mean you probably

903
00:48:06,040 --> 00:48:08,799
Speaker 1: did fifteen in the matter of like three months. So

904
00:48:08,840 --> 00:48:12,759
Speaker 1: by the time I was twenty nine was when I

905
00:48:13,000 --> 00:48:16,839
Speaker 1: stopped having sex with anyone new and I got all

906
00:48:16,840 --> 00:48:21,520
Speaker 1: my numbers, and I mean I got fifteen in by nine.

907
00:48:21,600 --> 00:48:23,879
Speaker 1: That's crazy. That's the other thing to the older you get.

908
00:48:24,320 --> 00:48:26,480
Speaker 1: You're a guy in your single Let's say you have

909
00:48:26,560 --> 00:48:30,879
Speaker 1: sex twice in a month. You know, that's twenty four

910
00:48:30,920 --> 00:48:36,319
Speaker 1: women times ten. Like I'm friends with guys and I

911
00:48:36,360 --> 00:48:40,680
Speaker 1: go since we've been friends in the years, I can count,

912
00:48:41,680 --> 00:48:43,960
Speaker 1: I mean, I lose count. There are so many, So

913
00:48:44,040 --> 00:48:46,680
Speaker 1: don't pretend like your number isn't in the double digits

914
00:48:46,760 --> 00:48:49,200
Speaker 1: upper double digits. There's just no way we've been friends

915
00:48:49,200 --> 00:48:52,279
Speaker 1: for a year. You're in your late thirties. There's no

916
00:48:52,400 --> 00:48:54,719
Speaker 1: way you've been a comic for this long on the

917
00:48:54,800 --> 00:48:58,520
Speaker 1: road and I've witnessed this much. You've done a lot

918
00:48:58,840 --> 00:49:02,040
Speaker 1: before then. It's just there's statistically, there's no and they

919
00:49:02,080 --> 00:49:05,560
Speaker 1: always played dumb like I don't know, probably like around forty.

920
00:49:05,600 --> 00:49:09,040
Speaker 1: I'm like, I can it was forty in the last month. Dude,

921
00:49:09,120 --> 00:49:11,600
Speaker 1: don't fucking lie. Just I know you're in denial of

922
00:49:11,600 --> 00:49:13,160
Speaker 1: it because it makes you feel like you might have

923
00:49:13,480 --> 00:49:17,640
Speaker 1: diseases or whatever it is or like, but people just

924
00:49:17,680 --> 00:49:20,120
Speaker 1: really underestimate their number. I think men do because men

925
00:49:20,160 --> 00:49:23,080
Speaker 1: don't add it up. Men don't. You can't even remember

926
00:49:23,120 --> 00:49:25,719
Speaker 1: the names of you couldn't if if you had a

927
00:49:25,760 --> 00:49:28,480
Speaker 1: gun to your head, remember and I do. I think

928
00:49:28,520 --> 00:49:31,319
Speaker 1: they're all named Jennifer. If you had a gun to

929
00:49:31,320 --> 00:49:33,279
Speaker 1: your head, what would you guess as the number right now?

930
00:49:33,360 --> 00:49:41,320
Speaker 1: Within five seconds? Five four? Okay? Maybe? Yeah, it's weird

931
00:49:41,360 --> 00:49:44,360
Speaker 1: like to say that number though, because I like, in

932
00:49:44,400 --> 00:49:47,280
Speaker 1: the last you know, a couple of years, COVID obviously

933
00:49:47,360 --> 00:49:52,080
Speaker 1: changed some things, but like it was all within a window,

934
00:49:52,160 --> 00:49:54,759
Speaker 1: like all these like little window like I binge and

935
00:49:54,800 --> 00:49:56,680
Speaker 1: then it's like, I'm gone. You didn't have sex for

936
00:49:56,760 --> 00:49:59,440
Speaker 1: a while, you weren't having I mean, you watch your

937
00:49:59,480 --> 00:50:06,120
Speaker 1: fertinity what and then you didn't have sex for like

938
00:50:06,280 --> 00:50:11,000
Speaker 1: maybe five women in college my twenties, I just drinking.

939
00:50:11,880 --> 00:50:14,600
Speaker 1: It's a it's a blur. So it's like, I don't

940
00:50:15,280 --> 00:50:17,239
Speaker 1: you know, I look at it as a chunk of

941
00:50:17,320 --> 00:50:20,760
Speaker 1: time as opposed to go every Yeah, I look at Chunky's,

942
00:50:21,280 --> 00:50:25,120
Speaker 1: I call him. But if you go through like you know,

943
00:50:25,520 --> 00:50:27,640
Speaker 1: you have that time and you start going to specifics

944
00:50:27,680 --> 00:50:29,960
Speaker 1: of each story of each like not a mistake, but

945
00:50:30,080 --> 00:50:33,960
Speaker 1: like it's I can count, I've I've made list when

946
00:50:33,960 --> 00:50:36,319
Speaker 1: I'm poured on planes of every guy I've kissed or

947
00:50:36,640 --> 00:50:39,680
Speaker 1: every guy like hooked up with, like I I have listened.

948
00:50:39,840 --> 00:50:41,920
Speaker 1: It's so funny because I know my number is sixteen

949
00:50:42,000 --> 00:50:44,000
Speaker 1: or seventeen, Like I kind of forget which one it is.

950
00:50:44,440 --> 00:50:46,319
Speaker 1: There's always sometimes I get to it and I'm making

951
00:50:46,360 --> 00:50:49,440
Speaker 1: a listen, I'm like, how am I missing three guys?

952
00:50:49,480 --> 00:50:51,760
Speaker 1: Like where the funk are those? Because I know that

953
00:50:51,920 --> 00:50:53,560
Speaker 1: I've done the math at one point and it was

954
00:50:53,600 --> 00:50:56,960
Speaker 1: definitely sixteen or seventeen. Where are these three guys? Who

955
00:50:57,000 --> 00:50:59,520
Speaker 1: were they? I don't remember. It's so wild to not

956
00:50:59,560 --> 00:51:02,600
Speaker 1: remember then that have a blurred have a blurry face

957
00:51:02,640 --> 00:51:08,120
Speaker 1: in real life, like I'll never yet. Yeah, I mean, yeah,

958
00:51:08,160 --> 00:51:10,759
Speaker 1: you could really wrap your brains like I can't. Oh

959
00:51:10,800 --> 00:51:13,440
Speaker 1: my god, I did that, Like I have those moments

960
00:51:13,440 --> 00:51:16,680
Speaker 1: sometimes sex is insane. You were inside someone your penis

961
00:51:16,719 --> 00:51:20,560
Speaker 1: and you were going on them and you can't remember that,

962
00:51:20,640 --> 00:51:23,040
Speaker 1: Like what the funk? Is like, I really do think

963
00:51:23,040 --> 00:51:26,840
Speaker 1: we disassociate during sex because it's too weird to remember

964
00:51:26,920 --> 00:51:30,720
Speaker 1: how gross we look. Let's get to the next story. UM.

965
00:51:30,920 --> 00:51:35,640
Speaker 1: Sex in the City writer Candace Bushnell, sixty years old,

966
00:51:35,719 --> 00:51:39,839
Speaker 1: admits she regrets choosing a career over having children as

967
00:51:39,880 --> 00:51:42,920
Speaker 1: she is now truly alone when I was in my

968
00:51:42,960 --> 00:51:48,120
Speaker 1: thirties and forty Ever, Shoes Lover, I hate Sex in

969
00:51:48,120 --> 00:51:53,200
Speaker 1: the City so much. It's so disgusting. It was bad

970
00:51:53,800 --> 00:51:59,239
Speaker 1: high lover and sarahsko Parker is suddenly this like like, oh,

971
00:51:59,320 --> 00:52:03,719
Speaker 1: I'm too embarrassed to talk about my sex life, and

972
00:52:03,440 --> 00:52:06,040
Speaker 1: and they have to say their age every second and

973
00:52:06,040 --> 00:52:08,839
Speaker 1: they have to It is so obnoxious. It's the kiss thing.

974
00:52:09,000 --> 00:52:11,359
Speaker 1: One of my best friends UM who listened to the show,

975
00:52:11,440 --> 00:52:15,120
Speaker 1: Laura Cotler, she told me that, like the end of

976
00:52:15,160 --> 00:52:17,360
Speaker 1: episode get through that I've only watched the first episode,

977
00:52:17,400 --> 00:52:19,920
Speaker 1: get through the end of episode three because the kiss

978
00:52:20,000 --> 00:52:22,840
Speaker 1: thing ever happens, and it's it should be we should

979
00:52:22,840 --> 00:52:26,440
Speaker 1: do a whole collection of kiss about the series Seismicity.

980
00:52:26,520 --> 00:52:29,040
Speaker 1: How many kids there are? It's the whole show is kissed.

981
00:52:29,040 --> 00:52:31,799
Speaker 1: The podcast thing, like the host like not thinking she

982
00:52:32,320 --> 00:52:36,880
Speaker 1: is sexual enough and she's like it's just painful. And

983
00:52:36,920 --> 00:52:41,799
Speaker 1: then the Peloton scene. I'm just Charlotte is such a

984
00:52:41,920 --> 00:52:45,400
Speaker 1: little like Charlotte's always so uptight, thin, she would never

985
00:52:45,760 --> 00:52:47,920
Speaker 1: Whenever I watched the old Sex in the City, I

986
00:52:48,040 --> 00:52:51,040
Speaker 1: hated Charlotte and Samantha as friends, Like there's no way

987
00:52:51,040 --> 00:52:53,480
Speaker 1: they would ever be friends. And then Charlotte at the

988
00:52:54,120 --> 00:52:58,920
Speaker 1: piano recital like scolds Miranda for bringing wine, like and

989
00:52:58,960 --> 00:53:04,040
Speaker 1: the Miranda like need wine was everything was even Miranda

990
00:53:04,120 --> 00:53:07,200
Speaker 1: going back to that class and like talking and trying

991
00:53:07,239 --> 00:53:11,760
Speaker 1: to be like woke. It's just it's it's it's Closa.

992
00:53:12,160 --> 00:53:16,000
Speaker 1: It was the Peloton scene with Brandon because I am

993
00:53:17,160 --> 00:53:19,800
Speaker 1: She's like, you're not going on pet Like, can you

994
00:53:19,920 --> 00:53:23,120
Speaker 1: believe Peloton gave gave the rights to that scene because

995
00:53:23,200 --> 00:53:27,239
Speaker 1: I dont I would never want to get on a

996
00:53:27,280 --> 00:53:31,400
Speaker 1: Peloton bike if I was a man, and never he

997
00:53:31,719 --> 00:53:33,719
Speaker 1: why would they ever sign off on that they thought

998
00:53:33,760 --> 00:53:35,160
Speaker 1: that was going to be good for them? And then

999
00:53:35,239 --> 00:53:39,080
Speaker 1: add insult to into commerce is a sex predator? Did

1000
00:53:39,080 --> 00:53:42,320
Speaker 1: you hear the stories that came out about Christmas whatever

1001
00:53:42,320 --> 00:53:45,239
Speaker 1: his name is, Who gives a fuck, dude? They are

1002
00:53:45,719 --> 00:53:51,560
Speaker 1: very he's a rapist allegedly, but read the stories you guys.

1003
00:53:51,600 --> 00:53:54,520
Speaker 1: If you don't know, read the girls testimonials of what

1004
00:53:54,600 --> 00:53:58,440
Speaker 1: happened to them both in two thousand to two thousand

1005
00:53:58,520 --> 00:54:02,080
Speaker 1: five and two thousand fifteen. That if he did two

1006
00:54:02,280 --> 00:54:05,399
Speaker 1: very similar things decade apart, he did a lot more

1007
00:54:05,440 --> 00:54:09,440
Speaker 1: in between, a lot more. He's a bad guy. Well,

1008
00:54:09,600 --> 00:54:12,680
Speaker 1: this woman says, oh, and by the yeah, it was

1009
00:54:12,800 --> 00:54:16,600
Speaker 1: interesting though, like it was like emotional, like Brennan started

1010
00:54:16,640 --> 00:54:20,960
Speaker 1: crying because she was thinking about me. And then I

1011
00:54:21,120 --> 00:54:23,880
Speaker 1: like literally the next day got salmon. I was like, well,

1012
00:54:23,880 --> 00:54:28,400
Speaker 1: I meanings salmon is Sam Gonna. I don't know, dude,

1013
00:54:28,400 --> 00:54:30,640
Speaker 1: nothing makes sense, Okay. When I was in my this

1014
00:54:30,680 --> 00:54:34,400
Speaker 1: woman because it's healthy, healthy, I just like, then you

1015
00:54:34,480 --> 00:54:37,240
Speaker 1: choke on a bone and just like just the smallest

1016
00:54:37,239 --> 00:54:40,640
Speaker 1: bone ever. You just why was he sitting there? Just

1017
00:54:40,719 --> 00:54:42,560
Speaker 1: kind of like I guess you get days after you

1018
00:54:42,600 --> 00:54:44,480
Speaker 1: have a heart attack and you just live, but you

1019
00:54:44,600 --> 00:54:47,600
Speaker 1: just like kind of slump in the corner, like you're

1020
00:54:47,719 --> 00:54:50,239
Speaker 1: waiting at the airport and there's no seats and you're

1021
00:54:50,239 --> 00:54:52,359
Speaker 1: at your gate, Like why was he just sitting there?

1022
00:54:53,600 --> 00:54:57,200
Speaker 1: And everyone's like because his phone fell in the shower

1023
00:54:57,280 --> 00:55:01,319
Speaker 1: so it wasn't working. I guess right, Yeah, those things

1024
00:55:01,320 --> 00:55:03,799
Speaker 1: are he definitely has at least a twelve and those

1025
00:55:03,840 --> 00:55:06,880
Speaker 1: things are water purfos. Fuck, they don't give me that, alright,

1026
00:55:07,160 --> 00:55:11,000
Speaker 1: uh sirie, Okay, but this woman, let's hear. I just

1027
00:55:11,000 --> 00:55:13,319
Speaker 1: want to read this. Yeah, because when I was in

1028
00:55:13,360 --> 00:55:15,759
Speaker 1: my thirties and forties, I didn't think about it. Then

1029
00:55:15,800 --> 00:55:18,279
Speaker 1: when I got divorced and I was in my fifties,

1030
00:55:18,560 --> 00:55:20,960
Speaker 1: I started to see the impact of not having children

1031
00:55:21,239 --> 00:55:23,760
Speaker 1: and of truly being alone. I do see that people

1032
00:55:23,760 --> 00:55:26,000
Speaker 1: with children have an anchor in a way that people

1033
00:55:26,000 --> 00:55:31,000
Speaker 1: who have no kids don't. Okay, I want to hear

1034
00:55:31,040 --> 00:55:36,439
Speaker 1: about that feeling, because I just don't. I'm pretty sure

1035
00:55:36,520 --> 00:55:41,360
Speaker 1: that I'm not going to be a mother, and that's

1036
00:55:41,920 --> 00:55:44,319
Speaker 1: um I'm gonna And if I get to the point

1037
00:55:44,360 --> 00:55:48,319
Speaker 1: where i'm Canvas's age, I'm sixty, I would foster a

1038
00:55:48,560 --> 00:55:51,719
Speaker 1: teenager that needs like I would just find some way

1039
00:55:51,760 --> 00:55:53,520
Speaker 1: to get kids in my life. I would go volunteer

1040
00:55:53,520 --> 00:55:56,160
Speaker 1: with I was thinking that she could adopt, But I mean,

1041
00:55:56,160 --> 00:56:01,200
Speaker 1: do they give she's a billionaire so or million multi

1042
00:56:02,880 --> 00:56:06,120
Speaker 1: million something like that. She's yeah, she doesn't, Yeah she

1043
00:56:06,160 --> 00:56:10,280
Speaker 1: could probably so then but then you adopt your sixty,

1044
00:56:10,760 --> 00:56:13,200
Speaker 1: what age do you adopt se That's what I'm saying,

1045
00:56:13,200 --> 00:56:17,759
Speaker 1: foster like or like, just go go be around young

1046
00:56:17,800 --> 00:56:19,520
Speaker 1: people if you need that in your life. And I

1047
00:56:19,600 --> 00:56:21,640
Speaker 1: understand that's not the same as having your own kids,

1048
00:56:21,640 --> 00:56:24,120
Speaker 1: but who's to say your kids wouldn't have been drug

1049
00:56:24,120 --> 00:56:27,879
Speaker 1: addicts that fucking hate your guts, Like if you're that rich, yeah,

1050
00:56:27,920 --> 00:56:31,879
Speaker 1: it's yeah, and I mean, you know, and you don't

1051
00:56:31,880 --> 00:56:33,879
Speaker 1: want to talk dirty on the podcast, but I would

1052
00:56:33,920 --> 00:56:35,800
Speaker 1: love to if she wrote a book about that feeling

1053
00:56:35,800 --> 00:56:37,640
Speaker 1: and about like the regret. I would love to read

1054
00:56:37,680 --> 00:56:40,600
Speaker 1: that and hear more about that, because it just doesn't

1055
00:56:40,640 --> 00:56:42,920
Speaker 1: sound like, okay, they seem more grounded. What do you

1056
00:56:42,920 --> 00:56:46,440
Speaker 1: mean by that? I just God, that's scene where Carrie

1057
00:56:46,520 --> 00:56:50,440
Speaker 1: looks at those heels and goes high love her. I

1058
00:56:50,480 --> 00:56:53,439
Speaker 1: wanted to barf I and Kirsten wrote to me and said,

1059
00:56:53,480 --> 00:56:58,040
Speaker 1: I hate the normalization or the um of wearing stilettos.

1060
00:56:58,360 --> 00:57:02,480
Speaker 1: Stilettos are so bad for women's feet and this this

1061
00:57:02,520 --> 00:57:05,000
Speaker 1: is making it seem like acceptable and that's the way. No,

1062
00:57:05,360 --> 00:57:08,040
Speaker 1: girls do not. Do you remember the first pair of

1063
00:57:08,120 --> 00:57:10,680
Speaker 1: high heels you ever put on? And do you remember

1064
00:57:11,280 --> 00:57:15,000
Speaker 1: the first commercial or movie or thing going, I need

1065
00:57:15,040 --> 00:57:17,360
Speaker 1: to stand up like a fucking like a deer on

1066
00:57:17,400 --> 00:57:20,360
Speaker 1: my toes, like no, no, you don't remember it, but

1067
00:57:20,400 --> 00:57:22,800
Speaker 1: I mean it was always there. It's always there. I know.

1068
00:57:22,920 --> 00:57:25,080
Speaker 1: It's interesting that never leaves you. I mean, I will

1069
00:57:25,120 --> 00:57:27,040
Speaker 1: say that Sex in the City she's like a very

1070
00:57:27,120 --> 00:57:31,400
Speaker 1: cool writer, like stand like body chick who stands up

1071
00:57:31,440 --> 00:57:33,840
Speaker 1: for herself and is doesn't wear a ship ton of

1072
00:57:33,880 --> 00:57:36,120
Speaker 1: makeup and just dresses funky and fun. And she's wearing

1073
00:57:36,120 --> 00:57:39,240
Speaker 1: stilettos everywhere. Like she didn't make stilettos look like this

1074
00:57:39,400 --> 00:57:42,000
Speaker 1: dainty I'm going to be a wife and just be

1075
00:57:42,080 --> 00:57:44,080
Speaker 1: a good woman type thing. She made it look like

1076
00:57:44,120 --> 00:57:47,400
Speaker 1: a like a rebellious kind of statement of like I

1077
00:57:47,480 --> 00:57:49,320
Speaker 1: like these things that I'm going to wear them. But

1078
00:57:49,360 --> 00:57:55,320
Speaker 1: it's like footbinding. It is literal footbinding, modern day footbinding women.

1079
00:57:55,360 --> 00:57:58,760
Speaker 1: I feel like for women, you know, it's like the

1080
00:57:58,840 --> 00:58:01,160
Speaker 1: idea of like womanhood and it's like now you get

1081
00:58:01,160 --> 00:58:03,960
Speaker 1: to put on like your heels and make and makeup too.

1082
00:58:04,080 --> 00:58:07,160
Speaker 1: You know, it's just like now you're old enough, Like

1083
00:58:07,240 --> 00:58:10,360
Speaker 1: there's this like window. It's like a mitzvah for Christian

1084
00:58:10,360 --> 00:58:13,520
Speaker 1: women is makeup wasn't it creepy when Atlantis Moore said

1085
00:58:13,520 --> 00:58:17,400
Speaker 1: in the documentary said when she reached when she was

1086
00:58:17,920 --> 00:58:19,800
Speaker 1: like when she got into she was a pop star,

1087
00:58:19,840 --> 00:58:21,440
Speaker 1: we gotta go to break. When she was a pop star,

1088
00:58:22,040 --> 00:58:26,920
Speaker 1: before the age of fifteen, men would she looked, you know, hot,

1089
00:58:27,480 --> 00:58:30,360
Speaker 1: like she looked older, she looks mature. But men would

1090
00:58:30,360 --> 00:58:32,320
Speaker 1: not hit on her until she turned fifteen. And then

1091
00:58:32,400 --> 00:58:34,840
Speaker 1: something happened. When she was fourteen, they'd kind of go, oh,

1092
00:58:34,840 --> 00:58:37,480
Speaker 1: you're fourteen, kick can't do that. When she turned fifteen,

1093
00:58:38,120 --> 00:58:43,600
Speaker 1: the fucking floodgates open. I think it's just the age

1094
00:58:43,600 --> 00:58:46,760
Speaker 1: where men go that's a sexual woman, or like they

1095
00:58:46,800 --> 00:58:49,560
Speaker 1: just there's something about fourteen that still seems like a girl,

1096
00:58:49,680 --> 00:58:53,600
Speaker 1: and fifteen just seems like I know it's not technically legal,

1097
00:58:53,720 --> 00:58:56,720
Speaker 1: but like she wants it. It's disgusting. Let's get let's

1098
00:58:56,720 --> 00:58:58,320
Speaker 1: go take a break, and then we'll be back with

1099
00:58:58,920 --> 00:59:06,560
Speaker 1: why do I Care? Why do I care? Why do

1100
00:59:06,640 --> 00:59:13,120
Speaker 1: I care? Spiderman producer warned Tom Holland and Zadiah that

1101
00:59:13,160 --> 00:59:17,360
Speaker 1: they should not date, and uh yes, he still did. He.

1102
00:59:17,520 --> 00:59:19,920
Speaker 1: She also warned Toby maguire and Kristen Dud's not today.

1103
00:59:20,000 --> 00:59:23,560
Speaker 1: She also warned Um, Andrew Garfield and Amastone not to date,

1104
00:59:23,600 --> 00:59:28,160
Speaker 1: and they all did. Listen, this is gonna happen if

1105
00:59:28,160 --> 00:59:31,400
Speaker 1: you're dating someone and they are involved in a movie

1106
00:59:31,640 --> 00:59:34,440
Speaker 1: that is a huge blockbuster where you have to do

1107
00:59:34,480 --> 00:59:37,400
Speaker 1: all this press together and like honestly fall in love

1108
00:59:37,480 --> 00:59:42,160
Speaker 1: on camera, like if my husband were an actor. But bye,

1109
00:59:42,680 --> 00:59:44,760
Speaker 1: you're not. You're gonna fall in love with every if

1110
00:59:44,800 --> 00:59:47,200
Speaker 1: you go and dancing with the stars, I'll see I'll

1111
00:59:47,200 --> 00:59:48,760
Speaker 1: see you when you get kicked off and you realize

1112
00:59:48,800 --> 00:59:51,040
Speaker 1: this is all fantasy. You're gonna fall in love with

1113
00:59:51,080 --> 00:59:54,200
Speaker 1: that person. It's gonna happen. The Brad and Angelina effect.

1114
00:59:54,560 --> 00:59:57,640
Speaker 1: It's you sit on someone next next to someone on

1115
00:59:57,680 --> 00:59:59,880
Speaker 1: a plane just and and talk to them the whole time,

1116
01:00:00,160 --> 01:00:02,520
Speaker 1: and you tell me that you're not more attracted to

1117
01:00:02,560 --> 01:00:04,080
Speaker 1: that man, that you were not attracted to do it

1118
01:00:04,160 --> 01:00:07,240
Speaker 1: first after that plane, right. It is the proximity. It

1119
01:00:07,320 --> 01:00:10,160
Speaker 1: is being forced to talk with where you're That's why

1120
01:00:10,160 --> 01:00:12,720
Speaker 1: I asked about the Nick and Ryan thing of where

1121
01:00:12,760 --> 01:00:16,360
Speaker 1: they were sitting, because I was wondering how you I

1122
01:00:16,360 --> 01:00:18,080
Speaker 1: could force I could get two people to fall in love.

1123
01:00:18,480 --> 01:00:21,840
Speaker 1: I really could. I'd say, talk to each other with

1124
01:00:21,880 --> 01:00:26,280
Speaker 1: your faces this close together on a plane, forced forced closeness.

1125
01:00:26,280 --> 01:00:29,080
Speaker 1: It breeds intimacy, and it doesn't matter if you have

1126
01:00:29,080 --> 01:00:31,440
Speaker 1: a partner at home, it doesn't matter. So don't you

1127
01:00:31,440 --> 01:00:33,920
Speaker 1: think the movie makes more money the fact that they

1128
01:00:33,960 --> 01:00:35,600
Speaker 1: are dating? And of course I want to go see

1129
01:00:35,600 --> 01:00:37,800
Speaker 1: it because it's hot and I know that they're like

1130
01:00:37,920 --> 01:00:40,280
Speaker 1: hot for each other. The story I went on YouTube.

1131
01:00:40,320 --> 01:00:43,400
Speaker 1: I just typed in Tom Holland and just watch them

1132
01:00:43,440 --> 01:00:46,360
Speaker 1: and oh my god, I'm getting literally my vagina just

1133
01:00:46,440 --> 01:00:49,080
Speaker 1: tingled because of what I watched on The Morning Show yesterday?

1134
01:00:49,120 --> 01:00:54,120
Speaker 1: Have you finished The Morning Show Season two? Oh? I can't,

1135
01:00:54,280 --> 01:00:57,040
Speaker 1: Like I'm eating shivers. You guys know that I love

1136
01:00:57,160 --> 01:00:59,360
Speaker 1: romantic scenes. By the way, people have been sending me

1137
01:00:59,400 --> 01:01:01,680
Speaker 1: so many roman antic scenes where the guy like confesses

1138
01:01:01,720 --> 01:01:04,760
Speaker 1: his love or like there's that like watershed moment of

1139
01:01:04,800 --> 01:01:07,920
Speaker 1: like I love you and I've loved you for a while. Dude,

1140
01:01:08,400 --> 01:01:10,680
Speaker 1: someone sent me one between two girls on this like

1141
01:01:10,720 --> 01:01:14,120
Speaker 1: Emily Dickinson movie that was hot as fun. I've never

1142
01:01:14,160 --> 01:01:19,280
Speaker 1: gotten into lesbian like romantic uh moment stuff, So any

1143
01:01:19,320 --> 01:01:23,800
Speaker 1: of these scenes I can't believe no one mentioned or

1144
01:01:23,840 --> 01:01:27,640
Speaker 1: suggested maybe I didn't see it the Morning Show? Who

1145
01:01:27,680 --> 01:01:29,920
Speaker 1: do you think spoiler land to turn it off if

1146
01:01:29,960 --> 01:01:32,760
Speaker 1: you're if you're if you haven't finished Morning Show right now,

1147
01:01:32,840 --> 01:01:37,800
Speaker 1: like skip ahead thirty seconds and no, dude, it's fucking

1148
01:01:37,880 --> 01:01:41,560
Speaker 1: crut up and Witherspoon. He shows up better door to

1149
01:01:41,560 --> 01:01:45,600
Speaker 1: help her find her brother because her brother's same there

1150
01:01:45,600 --> 01:01:48,400
Speaker 1: it's it's shady, but then that he's just like, I

1151
01:01:48,440 --> 01:01:49,960
Speaker 1: need to tell you something. They're like on the streets

1152
01:01:49,960 --> 01:01:51,880
Speaker 1: and like looking for her brother and he's just like

1153
01:01:52,520 --> 01:01:55,000
Speaker 1: I love you, and it's just like, oh god, he

1154
01:01:55,160 --> 01:02:00,640
Speaker 1: is so hot. I can't take it for the broth. Yeah,

1155
01:02:00,640 --> 01:02:02,640
Speaker 1: because he was like it was funny because all of

1156
01:02:02,680 --> 01:02:04,200
Speaker 1: a sudden she gets a call and they're like, we

1157
01:02:04,240 --> 01:02:08,600
Speaker 1: found your brother and she's like, I can't deal with it.

1158
01:02:08,680 --> 01:02:13,360
Speaker 1: Was that banging and showed them banging. No, No, it's

1159
01:02:13,400 --> 01:02:15,600
Speaker 1: just I don't need to see banging. I need to

1160
01:02:15,640 --> 01:02:17,560
Speaker 1: see the moment where the guy just is like his

1161
01:02:17,640 --> 01:02:20,280
Speaker 1: defenses go down and he's like, I'm in love with you.

1162
01:02:20,560 --> 01:02:25,840
Speaker 1: Like that moment that breaks the tension, now, can you

1163
01:02:26,560 --> 01:02:29,200
Speaker 1: It is interesting when it's seen just out of context,

1164
01:02:29,240 --> 01:02:31,440
Speaker 1: can like get you there where you can kind of

1165
01:02:31,440 --> 01:02:33,840
Speaker 1: put it all together, but the fact that you've watched

1166
01:02:33,880 --> 01:02:38,000
Speaker 1: the whole show probably adds obviously. Oh yeah, you need

1167
01:02:38,080 --> 01:02:40,360
Speaker 1: that because you need all of the sexual tension building

1168
01:02:40,440 --> 01:02:43,280
Speaker 1: up to it. It's the breaking of the thing that

1169
01:02:43,320 --> 01:02:46,400
Speaker 1: you go, is it there? I'm sensing that it's there,

1170
01:02:46,720 --> 01:02:50,280
Speaker 1: but am I wrong about this? And then it all Okay,

1171
01:02:50,360 --> 01:02:56,320
Speaker 1: let's get for the reddit dump. This is your reddit dump?

1172
01:02:57,320 --> 01:02:59,919
Speaker 1: All right? Does the reddit dump? Um? Okay? I thought

1173
01:03:00,000 --> 01:03:03,520
Speaker 1: you might like this. This is on a reddit TikTok cringe,

1174
01:03:03,640 --> 01:03:06,320
Speaker 1: which often has tiktoks that are interesting. Sometimes they're cringe e.

1175
01:03:06,400 --> 01:03:08,880
Speaker 1: I don't know which. This one was kind of both.

1176
01:03:09,320 --> 01:03:12,760
Speaker 1: It was a girl talking about um posing with your boyfriend.

1177
01:03:12,760 --> 01:03:14,840
Speaker 1: It's it's now the season where you're posing with your

1178
01:03:14,880 --> 01:03:17,440
Speaker 1: boyfriend and she's like, she writes, writes how to pose

1179
01:03:17,480 --> 01:03:19,520
Speaker 1: with a short king. So she's dating a guy who's

1180
01:03:19,560 --> 01:03:23,760
Speaker 1: shorter than now it's well, yeah, but I'm saying he

1181
01:03:23,840 --> 01:03:25,680
Speaker 1: kind of looks like Tom holland he's so cute. She's

1182
01:03:25,760 --> 01:03:29,240
Speaker 1: so hot. She looks like, um, she looks like Galagha

1183
01:03:29,280 --> 01:03:35,880
Speaker 1: dott Um And this is her talking about that, right,

1184
01:03:36,720 --> 01:03:40,360
Speaker 1: So it's kind of funny because she's throwing him under

1185
01:03:40,400 --> 01:03:43,120
Speaker 1: the She's like kind of dismissing him the whole time

1186
01:03:43,160 --> 01:03:44,920
Speaker 1: as the joke, even though people are probably be like,

1187
01:03:44,920 --> 01:03:46,960
Speaker 1: what a fucking dumb twatch. She doesn't let him talk,

1188
01:03:47,000 --> 01:03:48,760
Speaker 1: But that's the joke, is that he's short, and so

1189
01:03:48,840 --> 01:03:51,320
Speaker 1: she's kind of like, just just be here, honey, And

1190
01:03:51,360 --> 01:03:53,320
Speaker 1: he's totally in on the joke. It's easy for him

1191
01:03:53,320 --> 01:03:56,480
Speaker 1: to get under the bus. Mm hmm. I'm a talk

1192
01:03:56,600 --> 01:03:59,720
Speaker 1: queen and I'm married to a short king, right, Josh right.

1193
01:04:00,240 --> 01:04:03,880
Speaker 1: So it is holiday season, and we know that means pictures.

1194
01:04:04,120 --> 01:04:07,400
Speaker 1: We all want pictures with our significant other, even if

1195
01:04:07,440 --> 01:04:10,400
Speaker 1: they are a little bit shorter than you. I want

1196
01:04:10,400 --> 01:04:13,240
Speaker 1: to look cute and I want to wear heels too,

1197
01:04:15,800 --> 01:04:17,600
Speaker 1: So I want to show you how to pose with

1198
01:04:17,760 --> 01:04:25,560
Speaker 1: your short king or your short queen, very short human. Okay,

1199
01:04:25,600 --> 01:04:28,040
Speaker 1: So what she does is so she's about I would say,

1200
01:04:28,040 --> 01:04:30,880
Speaker 1: almost a foot taller than him. What she does, it's

1201
01:04:31,160 --> 01:04:33,200
Speaker 1: it's I've never done this because I had a Oh

1202
01:04:33,360 --> 01:04:36,800
Speaker 1: did Luigi just baby? He looked like one of your

1203
01:04:36,800 --> 01:04:39,680
Speaker 1: short He looked like the short king. Next year, the

1204
01:04:39,760 --> 01:04:44,000
Speaker 1: short king. Yeah, Luigi is the short king marrying the

1205
01:04:44,000 --> 01:04:48,920
Speaker 1: shorter queen. He's such as sweetie lately. I, um, he

1206
01:04:49,000 --> 01:04:51,680
Speaker 1: just wants love lately. So I'll talk like this when

1207
01:04:51,720 --> 01:04:53,320
Speaker 1: I do it, because he just likes when I talk

1208
01:04:53,400 --> 01:04:56,880
Speaker 1: like this. So what she does is she puts her

1209
01:04:57,040 --> 01:05:02,080
Speaker 1: she puts the her front leg in front. She puts

1210
01:05:02,080 --> 01:05:03,840
Speaker 1: one leg in front of her back leg, and on

1211
01:05:03,920 --> 01:05:07,280
Speaker 1: her back leg, she bends it so that you don't

1212
01:05:07,320 --> 01:05:09,560
Speaker 1: see her leg bending in the back. Let me, let

1213
01:05:09,560 --> 01:05:11,320
Speaker 1: me stand up and do this for you guys, just

1214
01:05:11,360 --> 01:05:13,800
Speaker 1: show you. Okay, she won't look like a pirate though,

1215
01:05:14,960 --> 01:05:21,080
Speaker 1: Like okay, So it's like this, yeah, like like this

1216
01:05:22,080 --> 01:05:28,480
Speaker 1: and this, wouldn't she straight in the front leg? Yeah? This,

1217
01:05:31,440 --> 01:05:34,600
Speaker 1: you do it a lot? You do it. No, I'm

1218
01:05:34,640 --> 01:05:38,960
Speaker 1: Stewart accused me of it. I was gonna sit on.

1219
01:05:38,960 --> 01:05:42,520
Speaker 1: I'm very aware of my button and Luigi um John Stewart.

1220
01:05:42,960 --> 01:05:45,240
Speaker 1: When I met him, I took a picture with him

1221
01:05:45,240 --> 01:05:47,600
Speaker 1: and he goes, I saw what you did there, thanks

1222
01:05:47,600 --> 01:05:50,640
Speaker 1: a lot, And I was like what. He was like,

1223
01:05:51,000 --> 01:05:53,520
Speaker 1: I'm a short guy. You had to bend down, you

1224
01:05:53,800 --> 01:05:56,560
Speaker 1: to bet down? I was like, I swear I didn't.

1225
01:05:57,000 --> 01:05:59,120
Speaker 1: I really didn't. Even you do it in um when

1226
01:05:59,120 --> 01:06:02,360
Speaker 1: you do peture, it's not like a mean thing, but

1227
01:06:02,400 --> 01:06:04,840
Speaker 1: you just have I think it's a tendency for you

1228
01:06:04,880 --> 01:06:08,240
Speaker 1: to because you're really good at it, just the same level.

1229
01:06:08,280 --> 01:06:10,160
Speaker 1: I don't want it. I like to be close to

1230
01:06:10,240 --> 01:06:11,920
Speaker 1: their head. You don't have to pat him on the

1231
01:06:11,920 --> 01:06:19,280
Speaker 1: head and go. Do you take a picture with me? Little? Oh?

1232
01:06:19,320 --> 01:06:21,000
Speaker 1: You would sit on my lap? Tell me what you

1233
01:06:21,040 --> 01:06:24,000
Speaker 1: went for Christmas? All right? The next thing on reddit

1234
01:06:24,080 --> 01:06:28,800
Speaker 1: tomp um, Oh, shut up, bitch. No, I'm like yelling

1235
01:06:28,840 --> 01:06:30,920
Speaker 1: at her about the thing that I just said. Okay,

1236
01:06:31,080 --> 01:06:36,160
Speaker 1: so stop, okay um? What is hot when you're This

1237
01:06:36,240 --> 01:06:38,560
Speaker 1: is on ask Creddit. What is hot when you're horny?

1238
01:06:38,600 --> 01:06:42,720
Speaker 1: But isn't when you're not? Here's some answers. It's always

1239
01:06:42,720 --> 01:06:45,040
Speaker 1: fun to read cream pieing a one night stand. It

1240
01:06:45,040 --> 01:06:47,080
Speaker 1: sounds really sexy and exciting at the moment, but it's

1241
01:06:47,080 --> 01:06:52,240
Speaker 1: a horrible idea. Otherwise, creampying if you don't know, is yeah,

1242
01:06:52,600 --> 01:06:54,919
Speaker 1: pulling my hair. I have a very sensitive scalp. Nothing

1243
01:06:54,920 --> 01:06:56,920
Speaker 1: pisses me off quicker than getting my hair yanked on,

1244
01:06:57,040 --> 01:06:59,440
Speaker 1: unless it's during sexy times and I love it. Wow.

1245
01:06:59,480 --> 01:07:01,720
Speaker 1: Do I relate to that one? And you need to

1246
01:07:01,760 --> 01:07:04,400
Speaker 1: grab it a lot of it, not a little bit,

1247
01:07:04,480 --> 01:07:06,160
Speaker 1: don't let's not even talk about the time you grabbed

1248
01:07:06,160 --> 01:07:08,160
Speaker 1: a couple of strands of Brenda's hair. It makes me

1249
01:07:08,360 --> 01:07:11,480
Speaker 1: I can't even listen to it. It makes me so sad. Um.

1250
01:07:11,760 --> 01:07:13,280
Speaker 1: Someone said, I used to date a girl who was

1251
01:07:13,320 --> 01:07:15,760
Speaker 1: into huge toys and fisting. I was happy to indulge.

1252
01:07:15,800 --> 01:07:18,040
Speaker 1: We would take videos in pictures. One time, after a session,

1253
01:07:18,080 --> 01:07:19,680
Speaker 1: she was kind of like, fun, I think I'm starting

1254
01:07:19,720 --> 01:07:21,840
Speaker 1: to cross the line. She asked me to delete it,

1255
01:07:21,840 --> 01:07:24,200
Speaker 1: and we had some drinks, and after after four she

1256
01:07:24,280 --> 01:07:26,560
Speaker 1: was like, hey, you didn't delete those picks yet, have you?

1257
01:07:26,800 --> 01:07:28,600
Speaker 1: Then she took a second look and she began talking

1258
01:07:28,600 --> 01:07:30,760
Speaker 1: about trying more stuff. We broke up because her job

1259
01:07:30,760 --> 01:07:33,080
Speaker 1: took her elsewhere and my field was pretty sparse. There

1260
01:07:33,320 --> 01:07:36,760
Speaker 1: still think of her most days. I don't understand video

1261
01:07:36,840 --> 01:07:38,880
Speaker 1: of it. She didn't want to see a video of

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01:07:38,880 --> 01:07:42,520
Speaker 1: her getting fisted until after she got drunk, because after

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Speaker 1: when she sobered up, she's like, oh, I shouldn't have

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01:07:44,840 --> 01:07:49,280
Speaker 1: done that to um doing things during sex that You're like,

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01:07:49,360 --> 01:07:52,000
Speaker 1: I don't need to see that. Ship Um, do you

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01:07:52,000 --> 01:07:56,160
Speaker 1: have anything that you said? All that stuff? I mean,

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01:07:56,680 --> 01:07:59,200
Speaker 1: there's times where you end up eating the girl out

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01:07:59,280 --> 01:08:01,080
Speaker 1: or blowing and you're under the bed. You don't even

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01:08:01,120 --> 01:08:06,000
Speaker 1: know how you got under. Uh. Ask credit, Um, what

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01:08:06,160 --> 01:08:08,480
Speaker 1: is your worst experience on drugs? These are always my

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01:08:08,520 --> 01:08:09,840
Speaker 1: favorite to read. If you want to have a good

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01:08:09,880 --> 01:08:11,960
Speaker 1: old time, go to ask credit and just read people's

1273
01:08:11,960 --> 01:08:14,560
Speaker 1: responses because you just get they all the best responses

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01:08:14,600 --> 01:08:17,599
Speaker 1: get up voted. Someone said, I once on shrooms convinced

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01:08:17,640 --> 01:08:20,839
Speaker 1: myself I didn't exist. My eyes were just movie screens

1276
01:08:20,840 --> 01:08:24,240
Speaker 1: and I was watching someone else live their life. Um.

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01:08:24,479 --> 01:08:26,640
Speaker 1: Someone said, I've had something similar before, and weed was

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01:08:26,680 --> 01:08:31,040
Speaker 1: truly terrifying. It's basically depersonalization. Um. I went into edibles

1279
01:08:31,040 --> 01:08:32,920
Speaker 1: thinking it would be real chill, and I experienced deep

1280
01:08:32,920 --> 01:08:36,240
Speaker 1: personalization bad for like three hours. It was the strangest thing.

1281
01:08:36,640 --> 01:08:38,960
Speaker 1: Someone said, did a dab, threw up, slept on my

1282
01:08:39,000 --> 01:08:42,559
Speaker 1: friend's carpet for fourteen hours. Someone said called nine one

1283
01:08:42,640 --> 01:08:44,640
Speaker 1: one one time on mushrooms because I was smoking a

1284
01:08:44,680 --> 01:08:47,599
Speaker 1: blunt and tripped myself out, trip myself out thinking about

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01:08:47,600 --> 01:08:50,040
Speaker 1: my lungs. Asked them to come to my house with

1286
01:08:50,080 --> 01:08:52,320
Speaker 1: some oxygen and to leave the lights on, lights and

1287
01:08:52,360 --> 01:08:58,559
Speaker 1: sirens off. Good times. I've never done salvia. No can

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01:08:58,600 --> 01:09:00,960
Speaker 1: I just say never? Do salth you guys. I've done

1289
01:09:00,960 --> 01:09:02,800
Speaker 1: it once and I didn't have this experience. But I've

1290
01:09:02,840 --> 01:09:05,439
Speaker 1: read so many forums where people have done salvia, which

1291
01:09:05,439 --> 01:09:08,400
Speaker 1: is it's like this legal thing that's like you smoke

1292
01:09:08,479 --> 01:09:11,200
Speaker 1: it and you tripp for like seconds, but it feels

1293
01:09:11,200 --> 01:09:13,920
Speaker 1: like an eternity, and people have the worst trips ever.

1294
01:09:14,400 --> 01:09:15,920
Speaker 1: Someone said I smoke pot for the first time in

1295
01:09:15,920 --> 01:09:18,919
Speaker 1: almost twenty years to distress and ended up experiencing experiencing

1296
01:09:18,960 --> 01:09:21,360
Speaker 1: massive anxiety. I think I smoked too much because I

1297
01:09:21,400 --> 01:09:23,479
Speaker 1: had to remind myself to breathe. It felt like my

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01:09:23,520 --> 01:09:25,240
Speaker 1: brain was forgetting to tell my body to do it.

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01:09:25,240 --> 01:09:27,320
Speaker 1: That seems like something that would happen to you. Yeah,

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01:09:27,640 --> 01:09:29,759
Speaker 1: I mean I went to the e er multiple times,

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01:09:29,760 --> 01:09:31,800
Speaker 1: but the one on weed where I ended up in

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01:09:31,840 --> 01:09:34,160
Speaker 1: the heart word for three days. There you go. That's

1303
01:09:34,439 --> 01:09:37,800
Speaker 1: gotta be it. Someone said, bought salvia at our f

1304
01:09:37,960 --> 01:09:41,759
Speaker 1: s U weekend Wednesday market thing scariest drug I've ever taken.

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01:09:41,840 --> 01:09:43,599
Speaker 1: One friend said he went back in time and saw

1306
01:09:43,680 --> 01:09:46,280
Speaker 1: his dead dad. The drug kicks and so fast, gives

1307
01:09:46,280 --> 01:09:49,320
Speaker 1: you no time to assimilate. Someone said tried salvia once

1308
01:09:49,400 --> 01:09:51,320
Speaker 1: never again, thought I was trapped in a new state

1309
01:09:51,360 --> 01:09:53,840
Speaker 1: of life where I had no body. Worst ever, someone

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01:09:53,880 --> 01:09:55,760
Speaker 1: said I was trapped in the universe that was just

1311
01:09:55,840 --> 01:09:58,120
Speaker 1: one third inch of standing water. I was actually standing

1312
01:09:58,120 --> 01:10:01,719
Speaker 1: on a pool table. Someone said why do people do salvia? Seriously,

1313
01:10:01,720 --> 01:10:03,720
Speaker 1: I've never heard anything fun that comes of it. Is

1314
01:10:03,760 --> 01:10:08,599
Speaker 1: it just people wanting to test their limits? Um? Someone

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01:10:08,600 --> 01:10:11,040
Speaker 1: said salvia gave me anxiety for months after so not

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01:10:11,080 --> 01:10:13,320
Speaker 1: worth so not worth it. It made me question reality

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01:10:13,400 --> 01:10:15,800
Speaker 1: and three D space. It all felt so much less

1318
01:10:15,800 --> 01:10:19,400
Speaker 1: real about having reality steamrolled by It all felt so

1319
01:10:19,479 --> 01:10:22,360
Speaker 1: much less real after having my reality steamrolled by salvia.

1320
01:10:22,600 --> 01:10:25,920
Speaker 1: I get freaked out when thinking about materials and surfaces,

1321
01:10:25,920 --> 01:10:28,680
Speaker 1: trying to understand what they are actually made of. I

1322
01:10:28,720 --> 01:10:30,760
Speaker 1: get that they're made of atoms, but what exactly does

1323
01:10:30,800 --> 01:10:33,280
Speaker 1: that mean? What is it? What is it? I guess

1324
01:10:33,280 --> 01:10:35,320
Speaker 1: it's hard to explain, but thankfully that doesn't affect my

1325
01:10:35,360 --> 01:10:38,200
Speaker 1: daily life anymore. Someone said I've never heard of a

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01:10:38,240 --> 01:10:41,360
Speaker 1: single person that ever enjoyed salvia. I've heard many first

1327
01:10:41,360 --> 01:10:46,800
Speaker 1: person accounts of trips, and they all sound like unmitigated nightmares. Um.

1328
01:10:46,920 --> 01:10:48,960
Speaker 1: Someone said, got stuck in the woods at a music

1329
01:10:49,000 --> 01:10:51,759
Speaker 1: festival on acid because I was afraid that the cars

1330
01:10:51,760 --> 01:10:57,519
Speaker 1: and the parking lot were out to eat me. Final thought.

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01:10:58,560 --> 01:11:01,920
Speaker 1: Um oh, someone said, what is this? What is something

1332
01:11:02,000 --> 01:11:04,479
Speaker 1: you call by a company name instead of the actual

1333
01:11:04,560 --> 01:11:08,240
Speaker 1: thing it is? This is an ask credit? Um. Some

1334
01:11:08,479 --> 01:11:11,240
Speaker 1: examples include what was that jeep? I don't even know

1335
01:11:11,320 --> 01:11:14,320
Speaker 1: what that is besides a jeep, but apparently that's the brand.

1336
01:11:15,720 --> 01:11:18,519
Speaker 1: Well I thought jeep was a car, but it's a brand.

1337
01:11:18,560 --> 01:11:19,960
Speaker 1: Oh you thought it was a type of car, like

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01:11:19,960 --> 01:11:22,519
Speaker 1: a sedan or something. Yeah, like there could be a

1339
01:11:22,520 --> 01:11:25,760
Speaker 1: Tesla jeep. Yeah, exactly. It's like what Andrew did a

1340
01:11:25,760 --> 01:11:29,080
Speaker 1: prank call and he said, I'm calling from Macy's about

1341
01:11:29,120 --> 01:11:31,800
Speaker 1: the Zara sweater you didn't return. And I go, dude,

1342
01:11:32,360 --> 01:11:35,120
Speaker 1: you're talking about something You can't return a Zara sweater

1343
01:11:35,160 --> 01:11:40,439
Speaker 1: to Macy's. A jeep isn't a kind of carp it's

1344
01:11:40,479 --> 01:11:44,719
Speaker 1: a cleanex okay. Um. I had a coworker that called

1345
01:11:44,720 --> 01:11:49,080
Speaker 1: all donuts Dunkin Donuts and it drove me crazy. Someone said, um,

1346
01:11:49,120 --> 01:11:57,080
Speaker 1: there's some interesting ones in here. Taser taser is a room. Yes, Um,

1347
01:11:57,479 --> 01:12:00,320
Speaker 1: do you know that taser is an act? And him

1348
01:12:00,320 --> 01:12:07,920
Speaker 1: for Thomas A. Swift's electric rifle. Um, Alan Wrench's Frisbee,

1349
01:12:08,600 --> 01:12:14,880
Speaker 1: velcro kevlar, Dumpster. That one's an interesting one. Uh tape, Yeah,

1350
01:12:15,040 --> 01:12:18,559
Speaker 1: dumpster is the actual brand duct tape roller blades. They're

1351
01:12:18,560 --> 01:12:24,160
Speaker 1: actually called inline skates roller blades brand. Um oh not okay,

1352
01:12:24,160 --> 01:12:26,439
Speaker 1: so this isn't what the op asked for. OPI on

1353
01:12:26,479 --> 01:12:29,599
Speaker 1: Reddit as original poster the person that posts the question,

1354
01:12:30,040 --> 01:12:33,240
Speaker 1: but all edited images are referred to as photoshop, regardless

1355
01:12:33,240 --> 01:12:42,000
Speaker 1: of what software was used. Jaccuzzy, Zamboni, Tupperware, um, trampoline,

1356
01:12:42,680 --> 01:12:50,040
Speaker 1: post Its, Xerox, Chapstick, Google, band Aid. Who's doing anything

1357
01:12:50,120 --> 01:12:52,360
Speaker 1: but googling? Though? Like you're not going to alta vista

1358
01:12:52,720 --> 01:12:58,920
Speaker 1: or web crawler? Yeah, what is that? Then? What's that called?

1359
01:13:00,120 --> 01:13:04,400
Speaker 1: It's called like a plaster at least that's what they

1360
01:13:04,479 --> 01:13:08,519
Speaker 1: call them in um Britain, a plasta Um. What is

1361
01:13:08,600 --> 01:13:13,280
Speaker 1: something common that has never happened to you? This is

1362
01:13:13,320 --> 01:13:16,680
Speaker 1: on ask men. Never been in a fight, being a

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01:13:16,720 --> 01:13:19,160
Speaker 1: guest on someone else's wedding. Literally every person I know

1364
01:13:19,320 --> 01:13:22,840
Speaker 1: has been on one but me. Nope, I'm afraid the

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01:13:22,840 --> 01:13:26,120
Speaker 1: first wedding I'll ever tend would be my own. You're

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01:13:26,200 --> 01:13:29,400
Speaker 1: lucky if that's never had You haven't not like a

1367
01:13:30,120 --> 01:13:34,360
Speaker 1: like may pick my nose in some blood, but never like. Wow,

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01:13:35,200 --> 01:13:39,280
Speaker 1: that's interesting. Broken bones someone said, never had a broken bone.

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01:13:39,360 --> 01:13:44,880
Speaker 1: You haven't stitches, but no broken bone? Yeah? My um,

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01:13:45,600 --> 01:13:50,200
Speaker 1: heel bone the hardest bon Jumping over a fence, being

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01:13:50,200 --> 01:13:53,120
Speaker 1: stood up for a date. Someone said, never been mutually

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01:13:53,200 --> 01:13:59,280
Speaker 1: in love. Oh that's sad um. Chickenpox someone said they've

1373
01:13:59,320 --> 01:14:04,320
Speaker 1: never had Well, they'll get it. Top three green flags.

1374
01:14:04,520 --> 01:14:09,680
Speaker 1: This is for dating advice, dating underscore advice flags like

1375
01:14:09,800 --> 01:14:18,559
Speaker 1: think like bosnia um. Number one his kindness to everyone,

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01:14:18,640 --> 01:14:21,760
Speaker 1: not just me and his friends, family, to open communication

1377
01:14:21,800 --> 01:14:24,800
Speaker 1: about how he feels outside of and inside of the relationship.

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01:14:25,160 --> 01:14:27,679
Speaker 1: A good sense of humor and optimism. Oh my god,

1379
01:14:27,800 --> 01:14:30,000
Speaker 1: hold on, we have a couple of minutes. I wanted

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01:14:30,000 --> 01:14:32,240
Speaker 1: to get to this. I'm reading the book Attached, and

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01:14:32,280 --> 01:14:34,120
Speaker 1: I promised i'd finish it because no I told no

1382
01:14:34,240 --> 01:14:36,320
Speaker 1: I would, so although I would have already put it down,

1383
01:14:36,400 --> 01:14:39,880
Speaker 1: I keep reading it. Last night I couldn't sleep. Holy funck?

1384
01:14:39,960 --> 01:14:43,040
Speaker 1: Am I anxious? Attached? And you guys got to read

1385
01:14:43,080 --> 01:14:45,719
Speaker 1: this book because it makes you feel so less crazy

1386
01:14:46,120 --> 01:14:49,760
Speaker 1: for being a girl that overthinks things. Anxious Attached people?

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01:14:49,800 --> 01:14:52,680
Speaker 1: I did not know this pay attention to details that

1388
01:14:52,800 --> 01:14:55,360
Speaker 1: other people just do not And it's not because they're crazy,

1389
01:14:55,479 --> 01:14:59,280
Speaker 1: it's because they and oh my god, the statistics are

1390
01:14:59,320 --> 01:15:02,760
Speaker 1: so crazy. In the dating pool, there is not going

1391
01:15:02,800 --> 01:15:04,880
Speaker 1: to be as many you're always looking for a secure

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01:15:04,920 --> 01:15:07,639
Speaker 1: partner if you're anxious attached. Always like if you find

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01:15:07,680 --> 01:15:11,320
Speaker 1: someone who is, there's anxious attached, there's secure attached, and

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01:15:11,360 --> 01:15:15,320
Speaker 1: then there's um avoidant. Most of the dating pool is

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01:15:15,320 --> 01:15:18,840
Speaker 1: avoidant attached because avoidant people avoid relationships, so they're always

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01:15:18,880 --> 01:15:20,320
Speaker 1: getting thrown out of them and they're back in the

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01:15:20,400 --> 01:15:22,320
Speaker 1: dating pool. So most of the people that you're gonna

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01:15:22,439 --> 01:15:24,639
Speaker 1: date are going to be avoidant. And the second you're

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01:15:24,760 --> 01:15:26,720
Speaker 1: if you're an anxious attached person, which a lot of

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01:15:26,760 --> 01:15:30,839
Speaker 1: women are and men, the second you sense that they're avoidant,

1401
01:15:30,840 --> 01:15:33,000
Speaker 1: get the funk out because it's not going to change

1402
01:15:33,520 --> 01:15:35,959
Speaker 1: and you need to look for the red flags of avoidance.

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01:15:36,000 --> 01:15:39,400
Speaker 1: So this this book, though the chapter don't avoid anxious Attached,

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01:15:39,400 --> 01:15:40,720
Speaker 1: I didn't even want to read it because I'm, like,

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01:15:41,040 --> 01:15:42,479
Speaker 1: I know, I probably am. I don't want to be

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01:15:42,600 --> 01:15:44,920
Speaker 1: labeled this thing that has the word anxious in it.

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01:15:45,280 --> 01:15:47,639
Speaker 1: That makes me feel like I'm a clingy like needy.

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01:15:48,479 --> 01:15:51,000
Speaker 1: You know nothing is ever going to be enough. I

1409
01:15:51,120 --> 01:15:54,519
Speaker 1: want love, please please me think kind of girl, But

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01:15:54,680 --> 01:15:57,719
Speaker 1: I am, and there's nothing wrong with it. Anxious attached

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01:15:57,760 --> 01:16:01,720
Speaker 1: people are not bad because they feel unlovable or they

1412
01:16:01,760 --> 01:16:03,760
Speaker 1: feel like they're not good enough. Yes, those are kind

1413
01:16:03,760 --> 01:16:05,360
Speaker 1: of things about it. But the reason you are is

1414
01:16:05,400 --> 01:16:07,240
Speaker 1: because the way you were raised and because you didn't

1415
01:16:07,240 --> 01:16:09,040
Speaker 1: get your needs met at some certain point. It's not

1416
01:16:09,120 --> 01:16:11,640
Speaker 1: your fault, and it doesn't mean you're unlovable, doesn't mean

1417
01:16:11,680 --> 01:16:13,760
Speaker 1: you can can't have a stable relationship. You don't even

1418
01:16:13,800 --> 01:16:15,960
Speaker 1: need to fix yourself. You just need to find someone

1419
01:16:16,080 --> 01:16:20,000
Speaker 1: who's secure attached, because when you're anxious attached, things that

1420
01:16:20,920 --> 01:16:25,080
Speaker 1: um make you that trigger your anxiety are like like

1421
01:16:25,200 --> 01:16:27,920
Speaker 1: I'm someone who will know exactly. They gave an example

1422
01:16:27,960 --> 01:16:29,920
Speaker 1: of like here's a guy that's anxious attached, and he

1423
01:16:30,000 --> 01:16:31,720
Speaker 1: knows how many times the phone rang before it went

1424
01:16:31,760 --> 01:16:34,080
Speaker 1: to voicemail. Then he knows he called again, Now it

1425
01:16:34,200 --> 01:16:37,240
Speaker 1: ranged this many times. Then he realizes it was seven

1426
01:16:37,360 --> 01:16:40,240
Speaker 1: minutes before she got back to me. What was she

1427
01:16:40,320 --> 01:16:43,000
Speaker 1: doing that? Like knows all the times? Knows Like, okay,

1428
01:16:43,040 --> 01:16:44,920
Speaker 1: they posted they watched my first story, but then they

1429
01:16:45,000 --> 01:16:47,479
Speaker 1: dropped off, like I know all of those things when

1430
01:16:47,479 --> 01:16:50,879
Speaker 1: I'm into someone. Anxious people are constantly looking for validation

1431
01:16:50,960 --> 01:16:53,439
Speaker 1: that the person they are into does not like them.

1432
01:16:53,840 --> 01:16:55,960
Speaker 1: And then as soon as they get validation based on

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01:16:56,080 --> 01:16:57,880
Speaker 1: one of these things that they see that other people,

1434
01:16:57,960 --> 01:17:04,519
Speaker 1: by the way, are anxious people actually do their rights. Well,

1435
01:17:04,600 --> 01:17:07,200
Speaker 1: they're right. Anxious people notice things they've done tests that

1436
01:17:07,360 --> 01:17:10,400
Speaker 1: that you know, um, either avoidant or secure people just

1437
01:17:10,479 --> 01:17:14,120
Speaker 1: don't notice. We pick up on little micro aggressions, micro

1438
01:17:14,240 --> 01:17:17,240
Speaker 1: things because we're always looking for someone to not like us.

1439
01:17:18,200 --> 01:17:20,000
Speaker 1: And so when you find when someone does one of

1440
01:17:20,080 --> 01:17:22,400
Speaker 1: those things, it validates that they are leaving you, and

1441
01:17:22,479 --> 01:17:25,200
Speaker 1: you get and you do this thing called um forget

1442
01:17:25,240 --> 01:17:28,080
Speaker 1: what the word is, but you you go into this

1443
01:17:28,240 --> 01:17:30,600
Speaker 1: mode of anxiety. It triggers it. You can be a

1444
01:17:30,720 --> 01:17:33,639
Speaker 1: normal person and then it triggers this anxiety. And all

1445
01:17:33,760 --> 01:17:35,200
Speaker 1: that it takes for you to get out of this

1446
01:17:35,360 --> 01:17:38,040
Speaker 1: level of anxiety is a secure person. So a secure

1447
01:17:38,080 --> 01:17:41,960
Speaker 1: person might in and inadvertently trigger your anxiety. Let's say

1448
01:17:42,120 --> 01:17:44,280
Speaker 1: like for this example, this guy was calling his girlfriend.

1449
01:17:44,760 --> 01:17:46,880
Speaker 1: It rang three times, it went to voicemail. The next time,

1450
01:17:46,920 --> 01:17:49,040
Speaker 1: it rang not even once, and it went to voicemail,

1451
01:17:49,040 --> 01:17:51,680
Speaker 1: and he starts spiraling an hour. In that hour, he

1452
01:17:51,840 --> 01:17:54,960
Speaker 1: spirals he's because he's insecure. She doesn't like me anymore,

1453
01:17:55,120 --> 01:17:58,720
Speaker 1: she's avoiding me. Then, like all these things, turns out

1454
01:17:58,760 --> 01:18:00,240
Speaker 1: her boss was right there and she was a middle

1455
01:18:00,240 --> 01:18:02,240
Speaker 1: of the things that she couldn't talk in the second

1456
01:18:02,320 --> 01:18:05,000
Speaker 1: she communicated that his anxiety is quelled and he's back

1457
01:18:05,040 --> 01:18:09,120
Speaker 1: to normal and everything's fine. So the thing about anxious

1458
01:18:09,400 --> 01:18:12,400
Speaker 1: attached people is they're not They will always get back

1459
01:18:12,400 --> 01:18:14,639
Speaker 1: to a stasis. They're not going to stay anxious if

1460
01:18:14,760 --> 01:18:17,200
Speaker 1: you are just with a secure person who tells you

1461
01:18:17,320 --> 01:18:20,479
Speaker 1: the truth and is not fucking with you. Now, avoidant

1462
01:18:20,479 --> 01:18:23,759
Speaker 1: people are constantly not telling the truth. They're constantly trying

1463
01:18:23,840 --> 01:18:27,400
Speaker 1: to mislead you, do things that will make you feel

1464
01:18:27,560 --> 01:18:31,280
Speaker 1: less than judge. You leave things ambiguous, So they're going

1465
01:18:31,400 --> 01:18:37,559
Speaker 1: to torture unintentionally and anxious attached person. The interesting thing

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01:18:37,680 --> 01:18:41,280
Speaker 1: is the dating pill is filled with avoidant people. Avoidance

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01:18:41,560 --> 01:18:45,120
Speaker 1: never end up with other avoidance. There's been study after study.

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01:18:45,320 --> 01:18:48,880
Speaker 1: Anxious attached always ends up with avoidant attached or secure attached.

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01:18:49,000 --> 01:18:51,280
Speaker 1: You should always try to end up with secure attached.

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01:18:51,640 --> 01:18:54,000
Speaker 1: Anxious I don't they didn't really talk about the sets

1471
01:18:54,000 --> 01:18:56,040
Speaker 1: of anxious and anxious. I think that that's probably a

1472
01:18:56,120 --> 01:18:58,680
Speaker 1: thing that happens but doesn't last as long avoidant and

1473
01:18:58,680 --> 01:19:02,280
Speaker 1: avoidant never get together. And what they said about anxious

1474
01:19:02,280 --> 01:19:03,840
Speaker 1: attach people is if you go on a date with

1475
01:19:03,920 --> 01:19:08,519
Speaker 1: someone who is secure, generally they they do not validate.

1476
01:19:08,640 --> 01:19:11,080
Speaker 1: The feeling that you have is that you're unlovable and

1477
01:19:11,160 --> 01:19:13,400
Speaker 1: that you're going to be left, So they seem boring.

1478
01:19:13,880 --> 01:19:15,679
Speaker 1: And after a while, which is what I was talking about,

1479
01:19:16,200 --> 01:19:18,639
Speaker 1: when you're in a relationship that goes up and down

1480
01:19:18,760 --> 01:19:21,439
Speaker 1: and every time you're anxious you get soothed, you start

1481
01:19:21,520 --> 01:19:25,200
Speaker 1: to equate anxiety with soothing, the soothing that follows, and

1482
01:19:25,320 --> 01:19:27,240
Speaker 1: you start to like it. You start to like the

1483
01:19:27,240 --> 01:19:29,559
Speaker 1: anxiety because you know that you're gonna be soothed afterwards.

1484
01:19:29,600 --> 01:19:31,880
Speaker 1: In this way that feels so good and so put

1485
01:19:31,920 --> 01:19:33,960
Speaker 1: you at such peace. So when you meet someone that's

1486
01:19:34,000 --> 01:19:37,600
Speaker 1: just stable and there's no wave, they seem boring. And

1487
01:19:37,680 --> 01:19:41,160
Speaker 1: what they found was that if anxious attach people wait

1488
01:19:41,280 --> 01:19:44,040
Speaker 1: that feeling out the boring nous and stick it through

1489
01:19:44,160 --> 01:19:46,360
Speaker 1: even though the person is boring and they're getting like

1490
01:19:46,680 --> 01:19:49,800
Speaker 1: boring alerts to be like this guy sucks, he's boring,

1491
01:19:50,200 --> 01:19:52,040
Speaker 1: waited out because what they found in studies is that

1492
01:19:52,080 --> 01:19:56,719
Speaker 1: anxious attached people, when they make judgments about things like okay,

1493
01:19:56,800 --> 01:19:58,599
Speaker 1: it took him that long to write, he's not gonna

1494
01:19:58,640 --> 01:20:02,560
Speaker 1: he doesn't like me anymore, they were usually right. But

1495
01:20:02,680 --> 01:20:04,760
Speaker 1: they were right. They were right so much more of

1496
01:20:04,840 --> 01:20:08,240
Speaker 1: the time. They're they're usually right when they make these judgments,

1497
01:20:08,600 --> 01:20:12,960
Speaker 1: but their rightness goes up exponentially when they wait five

1498
01:20:13,240 --> 01:20:15,800
Speaker 1: seconds a minute and make a decision. So they were

1499
01:20:15,840 --> 01:20:18,720
Speaker 1: doing these tests where like they show a person's expression

1500
01:20:18,800 --> 01:20:20,760
Speaker 1: and they have to guess is that person mad at

1501
01:20:20,800 --> 01:20:23,160
Speaker 1: me or not? Or is that a bad expression? And

1502
01:20:23,479 --> 01:20:26,000
Speaker 1: when the anxious test person had no time limits of

1503
01:20:26,120 --> 01:20:28,840
Speaker 1: like now answer, they just answered right away and they

1504
01:20:28,880 --> 01:20:30,559
Speaker 1: were right, let's say eight percent of the time. I'm

1505
01:20:30,600 --> 01:20:32,920
Speaker 1: just making up these numbers. But when they were forced

1506
01:20:32,960 --> 01:20:35,000
Speaker 1: to not submit their answer about what they thought that

1507
01:20:35,040 --> 01:20:38,280
Speaker 1: person's expression was until a minute, where they were like,

1508
01:20:38,400 --> 01:20:40,320
Speaker 1: think about it for a minute, you have to you're

1509
01:20:40,360 --> 01:20:43,000
Speaker 1: forced to that person was right a hundred percent of

1510
01:20:43,040 --> 01:20:45,760
Speaker 1: the time. So if you're an anxious attached person, you've

1511
01:20:45,760 --> 01:20:48,320
Speaker 1: got to read this book. Whether you're attached like which

1512
01:20:48,400 --> 01:20:52,160
Speaker 1: whatever way it is fucking It's so fascinating, and I'm

1513
01:20:52,200 --> 01:20:54,360
Speaker 1: someone that knows a lot about this stuff, so I

1514
01:20:54,400 --> 01:20:56,479
Speaker 1: feel like a lot of books talked down to me

1515
01:20:56,640 --> 01:20:59,280
Speaker 1: and like hold my hand through things that I'm very

1516
01:20:59,320 --> 01:21:01,000
Speaker 1: well versed in because I've been going to therapy for

1517
01:21:01,120 --> 01:21:03,760
Speaker 1: since i was eighteen. This book is opening my eyes

1518
01:21:03,800 --> 01:21:06,280
Speaker 1: to many new things every time I read it, So

1519
01:21:06,479 --> 01:21:08,360
Speaker 1: I can't recommend it enough. And I gotta go to

1520
01:21:08,479 --> 01:21:11,360
Speaker 1: therapy right now so I'll see it tomorrow. Don't be

1521
01:21:11,520 --> 01:21:12,800
Speaker 1: Cat and Jes