WEBVTT - Ep185: Side(heaux)Hustles Feat Ashleigh Tribble 0:00:03.160 --> 0:00:07.800 We ain't here, y'all, we beck again for another motherfucking 0:00:07.840 --> 0:00:12.600 episode of horrible Decisions. I am one half of the 0:00:12.640 --> 0:00:15.800 host of this show, and I go by Mandy b 0:00:15.960 --> 0:00:17.960 a k A pit Sign, a k A full Core 0:00:18.040 --> 0:00:21.920 Pumps a k A Mandy Baskins a k A debt bitch. Hi, 0:00:22.160 --> 0:00:24.880 I'm wheezy. I'm going to practice my phone sex operator 0:00:24.960 --> 0:00:28.640 voice because that's technically a possible side ho hustle. This 0:00:28.760 --> 0:00:31.840 voice that I'm doing right now is Kelly, and I 0:00:31.880 --> 0:00:34.640 don't know where she's from yet, but actually, what's yours? 0:00:35.159 --> 0:00:40.080 I have a Heather voice. Heathern No, It's like, OK, hi, man, 0:00:40.080 --> 0:00:43.880 he was Heather good? Yeah? Is this what you guys 0:00:43.880 --> 0:00:45.920 want to pay to hear that? Well? They want to 0:00:45.960 --> 0:00:48.199 pay me to hear my voice? Um, I got a 0:00:48.200 --> 0:00:50.519 little bit of rest, So I'm gonna be like you 0:00:50.560 --> 0:00:53.560 want me to know? That's exactly what I'll be like wood, 0:00:55.920 --> 0:00:58.240 Just so y'all know, you guys hear a third voice 0:00:58.240 --> 0:01:00.680 in the mic. And guys, we have a repeat guests 0:01:00.680 --> 0:01:02.760 one of the phase that we've had on the show. 0:01:03.080 --> 0:01:07.880 We are joined today with Ashley Chubby Baby, one of 0:01:07.959 --> 0:01:10.440 my favorite pages. I mean, it's funny because like I 0:01:10.480 --> 0:01:12.160 was reading that she put blogger and I'm like, what's 0:01:12.160 --> 0:01:15.560 her blog? But technically instagrams are blog. Yeah, because I 0:01:15.600 --> 0:01:17.240 ain't gonna hold you. I can't get past a lot 0:01:17.240 --> 0:01:19.720 of your captions because it'd be like four paragraphs. I 0:01:19.760 --> 0:01:23.520 know people that have I like, I am not here 0:01:23.640 --> 0:01:27.760 forgot down paragraphs. I hate it, Like, okay, if I 0:01:27.760 --> 0:01:31.640 watch your lives man, okay, okay, your videos, I go 0:01:31.680 --> 0:01:33.360 through all your instagrams. I was like, she's having a 0:01:33.440 --> 0:01:36.800 great and a great meme online that says, uh, if 0:01:36.800 --> 0:01:38.920 you see a long paragraph before a picture, it either 0:01:39.000 --> 0:01:44.760 means congratulations or sorry that happened to you. But Ashley, 0:01:44.760 --> 0:01:46.480 if you guys don't know, she did one of our 0:01:46.480 --> 0:01:50.120 Body Positivity BBWT episodes and it was really fun. And 0:01:50.200 --> 0:01:52.160 this time we're not gonna talk about the same ship. 0:01:52.320 --> 0:01:55.280 But I feel like, a wait, it was Devil Dick Portal. 0:01:55.400 --> 0:01:57.960 It was double but we also said, Wade, Yeah, we're 0:01:58.040 --> 0:02:02.040 very good about handing the conversations. Okay, we did handle 0:02:02.080 --> 0:02:04.160 a lot. We handle the last I wanted to talk about, 0:02:04.240 --> 0:02:07.000 like top side whole hustle today because everybody needs some 0:02:07.040 --> 0:02:09.160 extra cash and food and anybody in this world, all 0:02:09.160 --> 0:02:14.359 of us, the billionaires that are in debt, everybody, but 0:02:14.600 --> 0:02:16.040 we I just felt like I want of the third 0:02:16.080 --> 0:02:17.840 bikes if we could go through this, and actually it's 0:02:17.840 --> 0:02:20.120 perfect for it. So let's do a quick catch up 0:02:20.280 --> 0:02:24.960 and anthy, what do you have? I mean, I'm like 0:02:25.240 --> 0:02:30.360 just giddy. Oh sorry, just went on. You could also 0:02:30.400 --> 0:02:32.959 be an athlete because but I'm keeping up with the 0:02:33.040 --> 0:02:36.000 niggas on the bubble. Um we're not really, Um, I 0:02:36.040 --> 0:02:39.120 don't know, I'm like super giddy. Um, I don't know. 0:02:39.160 --> 0:02:42.000 Every time I talk about this boyfriend now, I just 0:02:42.120 --> 0:02:46.200 smile and like my cheeks hurt. So um, we're good. 0:02:46.320 --> 0:02:48.480 I went out of town and we shared like I 0:02:48.600 --> 0:02:52.560 miss youth for the first time. So that's cute. Um. 0:02:52.600 --> 0:02:54.560 And it's funny because my friend hit me. It was like, 0:02:55.240 --> 0:02:58.280 so I had a dream, you know that he wanted 0:02:58.320 --> 0:03:00.760 to restrict you know that he wanted to some restrictions 0:03:00.760 --> 0:03:03.000 on you because which I've traveled every week for the 0:03:03.040 --> 0:03:05.840 last three weeks. He knows I'd be around you know, 0:03:06.639 --> 0:03:09.000 rich niggers, you know what I mean, and my friends. 0:03:09.000 --> 0:03:11.640 He's met quite a few of them and they SHOs 0:03:12.040 --> 0:03:15.160 so um, I guess you know, we just kind of 0:03:15.240 --> 0:03:19.200 had the conversation because I know my lifestyle is different, um, 0:03:19.280 --> 0:03:21.639 and it's so it's just funny because my friend was like, yeah, 0:03:21.680 --> 0:03:23.560 so I had a dream that he wanted to put 0:03:23.600 --> 0:03:28.160 restrictions on on you and all of your extra activities. 0:03:28.440 --> 0:03:30.000 And I said it to him. I was like, look, 0:03:30.040 --> 0:03:33.240 my friend having a dream about us. And his response 0:03:33.400 --> 0:03:35.920 was just maybe smiling more. He was like, you should 0:03:36.000 --> 0:03:39.840 let her know. She confused restrictions with restraints and was 0:03:39.920 --> 0:03:42.880 just basically like, you know, we talked about our boundaries 0:03:43.120 --> 0:03:45.840 and I'm fine with everything you do. He's like, I'll 0:03:45.880 --> 0:03:47.080 let you know as soon as I have a problem 0:03:47.120 --> 0:03:49.680 with anything. And I'm just like a really good with 0:03:49.880 --> 0:03:55.280 any new relationship the end. People wait till they're too 0:03:55.320 --> 0:03:58.920 far gone, or wait till the problem arises, until they 0:03:58.920 --> 0:04:01.880 create boundaries, which good and I just like it too. 0:04:01.960 --> 0:04:05.080 So um, shout out Glamazon tell me she came over 0:04:05.280 --> 0:04:07.960 my house to record. We recorded, and we did like 0:04:08.000 --> 0:04:12.880 a two part episodes for periods this, and so we're 0:04:12.880 --> 0:04:16.080 sitting there talking and of course we're talking about sex 0:04:16.120 --> 0:04:18.920 and we're talking about relationships and stuff like that, and 0:04:19.000 --> 0:04:22.240 so I get into like, yeah, well I don't even 0:04:22.240 --> 0:04:24.400 get to be dominant with him. And I like get 0:04:24.400 --> 0:04:26.480 into like this little funk because I am the most 0:04:26.480 --> 0:04:30.880 submissive that I have ever been with any partner. I'd 0:04:30.880 --> 0:04:33.880 be hating it, but like so literally I'm I'm on 0:04:33.920 --> 0:04:36.279 the couch like telling till on me how much he 0:04:36.360 --> 0:04:39.880 dominates me. And here he goes getting in his back. 0:04:39.960 --> 0:04:41.840 He's like, well, I let you dominate. And I'm like, 0:04:42.360 --> 0:04:45.640 when you'll let me dominate, Nigga, when do I dominate? 0:04:45.720 --> 0:04:48.359 And he's like, well, when we go to the sex 0:04:48.800 --> 0:04:50.360 what not the sex but when we go to the 0:04:50.440 --> 0:04:53.000 nude beach. He was like, that's you taking me to 0:04:53.040 --> 0:04:55.719 an environment that you're very comfortable with and I'm letting 0:04:55.760 --> 0:04:58.000 you be the leader. Um. When we went to the 0:04:58.000 --> 0:04:59.960 sex club, he was like, that's your environment. He's like, 0:05:00.040 --> 0:05:02.559 you also have brought me around a lot of your friends, 0:05:02.760 --> 0:05:05.039 like you play with people at the sex book. Uh yeah, 0:05:05.120 --> 0:05:07.440 two of the girls. I didn't want any of the guys, 0:05:07.440 --> 0:05:09.440 which I think he thought I had my guard up. 0:05:09.480 --> 0:05:11.919 I think he Loki wants me to play with other guys. 0:05:12.040 --> 0:05:14.719 Love that. Yeah, So like it's just it's just really 0:05:14.800 --> 0:05:17.200 dope because he's just like he's almost like you're sitting 0:05:17.200 --> 0:05:19.360 there and you're like, well, she like, do you feel 0:05:19.360 --> 0:05:24.039 the gilt? Yeah? Well. So it's weird because throughout this podcast, 0:05:24.040 --> 0:05:28.280 we like talked so much about swinging, opening open relationships, 0:05:28.279 --> 0:05:30.720 polly blah blah blah blah. And it's so crazy because 0:05:30.720 --> 0:05:33.160 as much as I've talked about I love MMF and 0:05:33.200 --> 0:05:35.480 how it was fun, I don't know if I don't 0:05:35.520 --> 0:05:37.800 want to do it with him. So I'm in this 0:05:37.839 --> 0:05:40.800 space where I'm like, damn, that's the only person I 0:05:40.839 --> 0:05:43.080 want to do. Yeah, this stuff that I just don't 0:05:43.080 --> 0:05:46.599 want to do. I do really terrible things, like I'll 0:05:46.640 --> 0:05:49.040 see somebody out that I want to fuck. I don't 0:05:49.160 --> 0:05:51.800 think about sucking him alone. I think about sucking him 0:05:51.800 --> 0:05:53.880 with my NU every time that makes sense, I'm like, 0:05:53.920 --> 0:05:55.599 oh my god, I wanted to come in the room 0:05:55.600 --> 0:05:58.400 and starting facebuck me, like I'll fucking masturbate about a 0:05:58.440 --> 0:06:01.960 daydream bread. It's so weird. I don't know why I 0:06:02.080 --> 0:06:05.160 laid with him last night after he goddamn ship out 0:06:05.160 --> 0:06:07.200 of me, like where I'm like, I'm leaned over the bed, 0:06:07.200 --> 0:06:09.760 I'm crossed. I'd be like, wait, I'm gonna get you 0:06:09.800 --> 0:06:12.359 your rag. But nig I gotta breathe first, and so 0:06:12.400 --> 0:06:14.320 I'll be like, and you want me to fuck you 0:06:14.440 --> 0:06:16.200 with someone else? And this is how you fuck me? 0:06:16.279 --> 0:06:18.679 Like I can barely keep up with you. Well maybe 0:06:18.680 --> 0:06:20.640 he could just do like a half beat juice day. 0:06:21.240 --> 0:06:25.320 Here we go. So what about you? What's going on? Well, 0:06:25.480 --> 0:06:30.080 let me tell y'all. Everything's great and the same as 0:06:30.120 --> 0:06:34.840 far as my love. And so let's talk about a bit. 0:06:34.880 --> 0:06:37.719 Sha needs another side hustle hustle in her name's Anushka, 0:06:39.839 --> 0:06:46.240 a Caucasian cunt. Wow, I was so who is not 0:06:46.279 --> 0:06:49.000 even horrible decisions related? This ship just happened to me 0:06:49.200 --> 0:06:51.479 and it showed so much growth. I go shopping the 0:06:51.520 --> 0:06:54.039 other day because I needed an outfit for something very particular, 0:06:54.320 --> 0:06:55.640 and I go to a story that I can't name 0:06:55.640 --> 0:06:57.440 because they reached out to me after I talked about 0:06:57.440 --> 0:06:59.360 it in my live. It's a very popular story, kind 0:06:59.360 --> 0:07:01.400 of hype beast. Either be a line outside. But I 0:07:01.440 --> 0:07:04.240 needed something in particular, so I go downstairs. I get 0:07:04.279 --> 0:07:07.200 this jacket. It's comed de Garson. It's three hundred and 0:07:07.279 --> 0:07:10.160 forty dollars. It's a trench coat, was perfect fault piece, 0:07:10.360 --> 0:07:11.600 and it had a belt to go with it. That 0:07:11.720 --> 0:07:14.560 was forty or sixty bucks. I get to the register 0:07:14.680 --> 0:07:21.880 in this Caucasian Nushka said, she goes, um, it's that alten. 0:07:22.000 --> 0:07:23.840 I was like yeah, And so she takes the jacket 0:07:23.840 --> 0:07:26.840 and she goes, this is not sixty dollars. Did you know? 0:07:26.880 --> 0:07:30.640 This wasn't sixty dollars? And I'm like what? Because I 0:07:30.680 --> 0:07:32.320 was confused, I thought maybe she's gonna say the belt 0:07:32.360 --> 0:07:35.200 was on sale. Yeah, the belt is sixty dollars, but 0:07:35.280 --> 0:07:38.560 the jacket is three hundred forty. So I don't know 0:07:38.600 --> 0:07:41.440 if you knew, yes, I knew that, why would you 0:07:41.480 --> 0:07:43.720 bring that up? Like bring the coat up there and 0:07:43.720 --> 0:07:46.080 be like heya. The same way when you go out 0:07:46.120 --> 0:07:48.360 to eat, if you go to order another drink, they 0:07:48.400 --> 0:07:50.280 gotta let you not. So it's not free, it's gonna 0:07:50.280 --> 0:07:54.360 be in. It's gonna be enough. It does. I don't 0:07:54.400 --> 0:07:57.880 want to say to the Caucasian cunts that listen to 0:07:57.920 --> 0:08:01.400 this show, I only can name Shannon, there's not another way, 0:08:01.960 --> 0:08:03.720 all right, there's a lot of them, bro I'm sure 0:08:03.640 --> 0:08:13.520 the actually in barbers andsion. I'm using the term Caucasian 0:08:13.520 --> 0:08:16.280 cunts so abrasively is because she felt like she threw 0:08:16.280 --> 0:08:18.560 it at me. So here's what happened through her Caucasian 0:08:19.240 --> 0:08:21.520 I immediately am about to start going off about how 0:08:21.560 --> 0:08:24.360 I have money, and then I thought, let me relax. 0:08:24.600 --> 0:08:28.120 I said, you know what do you guys work on commission? 0:08:28.160 --> 0:08:30.840 Oh my god, you had your pretty woman moment a bit. 0:08:30.960 --> 0:08:32.880 She goes, what we do when we don't? I said, 0:08:33.040 --> 0:08:35.240 what do you mean? I've always wanted this show, which 0:08:35.280 --> 0:08:38.760 I didn't better. Okay, she goes, um, well, we do, 0:08:38.800 --> 0:08:40.360 but it has to be over five dred. I was like, oh, 0:08:40.400 --> 0:08:42.240 I'm only at like four something. She's like yeah. I 0:08:42.280 --> 0:08:44.720 was like, you know what, I actually wanted some airmax 0:08:45.000 --> 0:08:46.520 in a seven and a half. Can you go get 0:08:46.559 --> 0:08:48.880 them for me? She takes about ten or fifteen minutes 0:08:48.880 --> 0:08:51.240 because apparently they were really hard to find, and she 0:08:51.280 --> 0:08:53.319 comes back almost sweating, like I had to go get 0:08:53.320 --> 0:08:55.520 it today. I was like, thank you so much. Can 0:08:55.559 --> 0:08:58.480 you hand it to me? Let me take it. She's like, okay. 0:08:58.960 --> 0:09:01.240 There was a black girl that was helping someone else 0:09:01.559 --> 0:09:04.439 got across the storm and I walked over to her 0:09:04.440 --> 0:09:07.560 with my things worth five hundred dollars and she's like, 0:09:08.320 --> 0:09:09.600 do you need help? I was like, oh, yeah, I 0:09:09.640 --> 0:09:12.400 just need you to ring me up because the news 0:09:12.640 --> 0:09:15.480 isn't able to do so. And she's looking at me 0:09:15.559 --> 0:09:17.599 and she's like, what THEO is going on to The 0:09:17.600 --> 0:09:19.520 black girl started laughing, and I mean she had a 0:09:19.559 --> 0:09:24.000 mask of Jesus. So anyway, she fucking finishes with her client, 0:09:24.080 --> 0:09:26.360 she starts talking me. She actually had nothing, but I 0:09:26.440 --> 0:09:28.520 could tell she's trying to laugh. So then a news 0:09:28.640 --> 0:09:32.079 girl goes, oh, my associate ideas three four. I said, no, 0:09:32.200 --> 0:09:35.360 she doesn't need it, honey, she doesn't need it. So 0:09:35.480 --> 0:09:37.120 now the black girl want to be petty too, because 0:09:37.120 --> 0:09:39.199 she already could tell how upset I am. She's like, 0:09:39.360 --> 0:09:42.199 you know what, we got some real cute rings, not 0:09:42.320 --> 0:09:44.000 to you like rings. Let me go take I'm my girls, 0:09:44.000 --> 0:09:46.439 take me to get them, bitch. The rings were like 0:09:46.480 --> 0:09:48.000 eighty bucks. I didn't really want to spend it, but 0:09:48.040 --> 0:09:49.640 I bought it. I was like, what else can you 0:09:49.720 --> 0:09:53.160 get me? What else can you do? She's showing me 0:09:53.240 --> 0:09:55.120 this jacket right that I don't want to see. But 0:09:55.200 --> 0:09:57.480 I noticed that a Nushka standing by persons. I was like, 0:09:57.559 --> 0:10:03.640 show me those bags rushed by. Now I knew she 0:10:03.880 --> 0:10:05.960 was helping someone else, right, She's trying on the top. 0:10:06.880 --> 0:10:08.280 Tell me why it's happed. The black girl was like, 0:10:08.520 --> 0:10:11.040 what do you think? Give your expert opinion? I love it? 0:10:11.200 --> 0:10:13.280 Do you like it? Or what do you think? This 0:10:13.480 --> 0:10:16.440 witch wanted to kill me? Hanny? Anyway, my total came 0:10:16.480 --> 0:10:19.040 to about eight hundred something dollars and I just want 0:10:19.080 --> 0:10:20.920 to say, did I expect to spend that note? But 0:10:21.040 --> 0:10:26.160 to the feeling of fucking this bitch over was absolutely amazing, 0:10:26.240 --> 0:10:28.600 And then you redistributed that wealth to another book. Really, 0:10:28.640 --> 0:10:31.280 did you know what? I'm not going to shop at 0:10:31.280 --> 0:10:33.439 this story anymore? But then I was like, she's just 0:10:33.520 --> 0:10:37.679 a bitch, you know, like fuck her and I really 0:10:37.720 --> 0:10:39.640 want to write about you'll review about it. But instead, 0:10:39.960 --> 0:10:42.080 when I get confirmation that I can drop this story y' 0:10:42.080 --> 0:10:44.160 all because they hit me up about my experience, I'm 0:10:44.240 --> 0:10:46.840 going to tell you that black girl's name. She was fun. 0:10:47.040 --> 0:10:50.120 She had a little um, what's this thing called a 0:10:50.160 --> 0:10:53.120 little septum piercing. You know, she's a little cling back 0:10:53.360 --> 0:10:56.040 black bitch. I'm telling you I'll funk with her. I 0:10:56.160 --> 0:10:57.839 was like, you listen to horrible decision. I'm gonna talk 0:10:57.840 --> 0:11:01.319 about yes, hello, hi there, So anyway, um, that was 0:11:01.360 --> 0:11:04.960 my pretty woman moment. Big mistake, Big mistake. I would 0:11:04.960 --> 0:11:08.920 have still said that on the way huge. Yes, I 0:11:09.000 --> 0:11:10.679 had to go have her get them sneakers too, And 0:11:10.720 --> 0:11:12.480 I know she was so upset she kept walking by 0:11:12.520 --> 0:11:14.520 the register to see if the girl put her number. 0:11:15.000 --> 0:11:16.760 Said now, honey, when you email me, let's receipt. If 0:11:16.760 --> 0:11:18.960 I don't see your my name, I'm returning to ship. 0:11:19.240 --> 0:11:23.520 She was like, hil how has how has quarantine been 0:11:23.600 --> 0:11:26.840 for you? Ashley? Oh my god? All of my little 0:11:26.880 --> 0:11:30.240 long post the job and we got to talk about 0:11:30.280 --> 0:11:32.160 one that you do that people are kind of like 0:11:32.600 --> 0:11:37.959 about my favorite people ever, one of my faves in 0:11:38.960 --> 0:11:41.360 y'all have heard me talk about my socks and ship. 0:11:41.520 --> 0:11:44.280 You know what I'm saying. Markets back up. We were 0:11:44.320 --> 0:11:46.199 in the red a few weeks ago and guess what. 0:11:46.800 --> 0:11:49.080 Ian hit up the group chat and was like, y'all 0:11:49.120 --> 0:11:51.640 need to be getting rich. Get these Tesla stocks. Put 0:11:51.679 --> 0:11:53.839 a low. That's what I get now that I'm a 0:11:53.960 --> 0:11:57.240 part of the Red Panda Stock Club. Oh my Goddy, 0:11:57.280 --> 0:11:59.120 and I hate that name, but whatever, it saves me 0:11:59.200 --> 0:12:02.679 money and makes me any so our horrible decisions listeners 0:12:02.720 --> 0:12:06.200 get half off of Ian's club. The Master investor is Ian. 0:12:06.440 --> 0:12:09.199 That's who I'm talking about, is a black owned company. 0:12:09.520 --> 0:12:14.680 Black dude. He's fire, he's smart. He got me rich 0:12:15.640 --> 0:12:17.640 by the way, rich broke. I'll mean rich rich. I 0:12:17.679 --> 0:12:19.520 ain't trying to sell a false pretense. I'm just saying 0:12:19.520 --> 0:12:21.480 I'm the nigga got my ship up right now. My 0:12:21.559 --> 0:12:25.839 Portsmolio was a up. I love it. I've got some 0:12:26.000 --> 0:12:28.840 in savings and some with Ian. He is super helpful, 0:12:29.160 --> 0:12:31.800 loves helping black people, especially women. I think he got 0:12:31.840 --> 0:12:33.960 a little home with him. But anyway, like I said 0:12:34.080 --> 0:12:36.679 in the description of the show, notes, there's a link 0:12:36.720 --> 0:12:39.120 you're gonna click that's gonna take you to his site 0:12:39.160 --> 0:12:41.760 and it's going to be half off. Now. If you 0:12:41.880 --> 0:12:44.360 aren't sold by that yet, okay, if you don't want 0:12:44.360 --> 0:12:47.480 to join his stock club, check Ian out on market mondays. 0:12:47.480 --> 0:12:50.079 He's on YouTube. He's a podcast now and he does 0:12:50.120 --> 0:12:53.200 it with Earn your Leisure. They are so helpful, they 0:12:53.240 --> 0:12:55.640 are so smart, and they really want to help us 0:12:55.720 --> 0:12:59.440 get our finances together. Don't just invest in yourself, invest 0:12:59.800 --> 0:13:02.480 in niggles that I'm let me apple and test like 0:13:02.559 --> 0:13:04.640 I'm a money to me. I'm gonna get a little 0:13:04.679 --> 0:13:06.000 cut and Shi. You know what I'm saying. I'm a 0:13:06.120 --> 0:13:09.720 shareholder now, and not to mention, I'm not reading a chart. 0:13:10.160 --> 0:13:12.400 I'm not doing anything I don't want to do ship. 0:13:12.640 --> 0:13:14.400 That's why I'm part of the stock club. So thank 0:13:14.440 --> 0:13:16.280 you so much. Do the work for me, Ian, let 0:13:16.360 --> 0:13:18.400 him do the work for you, and let's enjoy the 0:13:18.440 --> 0:13:23.680 horrible decisions. Baby. You always post when you're on bumble 0:13:23.760 --> 0:13:26.240 or tender when guys ask you do you have roommates 0:13:26.320 --> 0:13:28.400 or not? Oh my god, you just saw that. But 0:13:28.520 --> 0:13:30.280 you've done it a lot. I have, and I saw 0:13:30.360 --> 0:13:32.120 some people be like, oh, he take stuff too personal, 0:13:32.240 --> 0:13:34.280 some fake page, but I blocked them. I don't know 0:13:34.280 --> 0:13:35.640 who that was, but I was like, I don't engage 0:13:35.679 --> 0:13:38.480 with Bernard. I'm always interested in what people think, because 0:13:38.520 --> 0:13:40.560 when men have asked me that, I didn't necessarily think 0:13:40.600 --> 0:13:43.280 creepy immediately when you made a great point, tell us 0:13:43.360 --> 0:13:44.960 why it's so creepy for a guy to ask us 0:13:44.960 --> 0:13:48.160 if we live alone? And well, first of all, pre COVID, 0:13:48.400 --> 0:13:52.160 that was a very popular question, and as someone that 0:13:52.280 --> 0:13:56.400 does have roommates, I understand like being able to be 0:13:57.200 --> 0:13:59.440 courteous of that situation and be like, oh, well, if 0:13:59.480 --> 0:14:02.120 I come over, but I'm just like, that's if we 0:14:02.200 --> 0:14:05.360 get further into the conversation. These are questions that are 0:14:05.440 --> 0:14:08.640 happening pretty early on, Like there's not a raport yet, 0:14:09.080 --> 0:14:11.319 so I'm just like, why are you concerned? Like I'm 0:14:11.400 --> 0:14:13.839 I like kind of calm down about the where do 0:14:13.920 --> 0:14:15.719 you live? Thing because I'm like, if you see on 0:14:15.840 --> 0:14:17.840 the app like I'm a little bit away, like you could, 0:14:19.160 --> 0:14:21.440 I think it's it's so much of a New York thing. 0:14:22.240 --> 0:14:24.240 This is a New York it is a New York thing. 0:14:24.320 --> 0:14:27.880 But like at the same time, um, I don't ask 0:14:27.960 --> 0:14:30.080 men if they live by themselves. Even when I was 0:14:30.120 --> 0:14:33.800 in college, I didn't, like I was fucking I have roommates, 0:14:33.920 --> 0:14:36.640 Like it wasn't you know we I think take offense 0:14:36.680 --> 0:14:38.320 to it. But it's crazy because you even saying you 0:14:38.320 --> 0:14:40.680 don't ask men if they have roommates. That's something where 0:14:40.720 --> 0:14:43.360 I think technically, as women, we should know we're walking 0:14:43.400 --> 0:14:45.760 into a house. We should but I didn't. Actually I 0:14:45.920 --> 0:14:49.240 never we should know. We should, but I don't bring 0:14:49.320 --> 0:14:51.360 it up because I'm not presumptuous enough to think that 0:14:51.520 --> 0:14:54.840 that's where this is going necessarily. And like the excuses 0:14:54.880 --> 0:14:56.520 that I've been getting is like this is a tuck 0:14:56.600 --> 0:14:58.640 up at I'm like, yeah, but this app also for 0:14:58.760 --> 0:15:00.480 people that want to meet friends. I know people have 0:15:00.560 --> 0:15:03.000 got married on this app. So either way, even if 0:15:03.040 --> 0:15:04.520 it is a hook up, why don't we get to 0:15:04.600 --> 0:15:06.880 that point first before we set up logistics because you're 0:15:06.960 --> 0:15:09.360 already out the gate being like do you live by yourself? 0:15:09.480 --> 0:15:11.200 So let me tell you the tweet and let me 0:15:11.240 --> 0:15:12.880 know if you if you agree with it. So there's 0:15:12.880 --> 0:15:15.520 a tweet that went viral this week and it said 0:15:15.560 --> 0:15:17.560 that when you live in New York and a guy 0:15:17.680 --> 0:15:19.760 spends the night over your house two nights in a row, 0:15:19.800 --> 0:15:21.520 you think he really likes you. Little do you know 0:15:21.600 --> 0:15:22.960 he's just trying to get away from his mama and 0:15:23.000 --> 0:15:26.080 aunts and cousins. And they don't have a home, they 0:15:26.120 --> 0:15:27.680 don't have a home, or they don't have a home 0:15:28.040 --> 0:15:30.240 because really just be trying to spend the night in 0:15:30.760 --> 0:15:36.240 they do homosexuals up here And how do you? Where 0:15:36.280 --> 0:15:38.040 do you? Because I want to know, like are you 0:15:38.080 --> 0:15:41.200 in the village? Are That's why I calmed down that. 0:15:41.360 --> 0:15:43.800 But when you're alone or roommates, I got it, yeah, 0:15:43.840 --> 0:15:47.440 because like it's just also as someone that's recently had 0:15:47.520 --> 0:15:50.240 to deal with like being like assaulted, Like I don't 0:15:50.320 --> 0:15:53.240 really want to share that information with a stranger man, 0:15:53.920 --> 0:15:57.440 like and so the contact like I was even I 0:15:57.480 --> 0:15:59.040 can't believe you asked about because I was literally in 0:15:59.080 --> 0:16:01.280 the car likes onting to this person that like I 0:16:01.400 --> 0:16:03.800 really like, So I'm kind of disappointed that you posted 0:16:03.880 --> 0:16:07.040 like I think you may be posted different. These are 0:16:07.080 --> 0:16:09.680 all different people. These are all different people, and I'm 0:16:09.680 --> 0:16:12.160 just like, this is not the same conversation because don't 0:16:12.200 --> 0:16:15.400 know what to say either. So where do you live? 0:16:15.520 --> 0:16:20.640 Is a good? Like as soon as the nickel tell 0:16:20.640 --> 0:16:22.600 me he lived in Brooklyn or somewhere far, I'm like, 0:16:22.800 --> 0:16:25.120 this isn't gonna work, Like I need you to be 0:16:25.280 --> 0:16:29.240 uptown New Rochelle Yonkers, like you say Brooklyn, It's gonna 0:16:29.280 --> 0:16:31.040 take me an hour and a half to get to. Also, 0:16:31.120 --> 0:16:32.760 why are you not asking me to meet in a 0:16:32.800 --> 0:16:35.840 public place first? Valid? Why are we leaving with COVID? 0:16:36.480 --> 0:16:40.120 So I want to people outside. It's bumping in Brooklyn, 0:16:40.200 --> 0:16:42.360 but everybody's outside with masks and it's just like I've 0:16:42.400 --> 0:16:44.520 actually been asked by people, do you want to go 0:16:44.560 --> 0:16:47.800 get a drink outside? Because like they're asking park dates 0:16:47.840 --> 0:16:49.800 and stuff, so like they're getting creative, but it's just 0:16:49.920 --> 0:16:52.960 like there is an overwhelming amount of like men that 0:16:53.040 --> 0:16:54.680 are just like, do you live by yourself? Because they're 0:16:54.720 --> 0:16:59.200 already presuming that they're allowed in my personal person because 0:16:59.280 --> 0:17:01.880 I really ever took into account how creepy that was. 0:17:02.360 --> 0:17:04.920 And for men, for that tip and for Mandy's tip 0:17:05.000 --> 0:17:07.120 for women, definitely before you walk in the house, ask 0:17:07.200 --> 0:17:08.960 someone else. Yeah, I think you need Yeah, I think 0:17:09.000 --> 0:17:10.960 it's I think it's women like now that even just 0:17:11.040 --> 0:17:13.040 you bringing it up, like well out of respect, I 0:17:13.080 --> 0:17:15.359 don't care if he has roommates, which is fair, but 0:17:15.560 --> 0:17:18.240 as a woman, if you're dating and now you're going 0:17:18.359 --> 0:17:21.640 to his place, I think it's important to know are 0:17:21.680 --> 0:17:24.680 you living with two helpings? Am I gonna walk into 0:17:24.720 --> 0:17:26.480 a living room of men? Like you know that think 0:17:26.480 --> 0:17:30.399 it's weird because men usually volunteered that information. I've never 0:17:30.440 --> 0:17:32.480 had to ask you because they volunteered that information. They're like, 0:17:32.560 --> 0:17:34.080 oh well well yeah, they feel like they had to 0:17:34.119 --> 0:17:39.200 act to they didn't ask your as Yeah. It's like 0:17:39.280 --> 0:17:41.560 always like, oh, my roommates or whatever the funk, or 0:17:41.600 --> 0:17:43.440 I have roommates and then they'll be like what about 0:17:43.440 --> 0:17:45.560 your place, and it's like, Okay, I heard some people saying, well, 0:17:45.560 --> 0:17:47.560 they're trying to figure out who's gonna host, and I'm like, okay, 0:17:47.600 --> 0:17:49.040 but we're not at that part of the conversation and 0:17:49.160 --> 0:17:50.920 so and that's where the disconnect is coming from. We're 0:17:50.960 --> 0:17:53.560 not even on the same page about how this is 0:17:53.560 --> 0:17:56.040 going to pan out yet, and you're already planning on 0:17:56.640 --> 0:17:58.720 my place being the place we're doing that. So we 0:17:58.800 --> 0:18:01.800 have a lot of male listener for men who are 0:18:01.920 --> 0:18:03.800 on these apps because right now, because a lot of 0:18:03.880 --> 0:18:05.760 us aren't leaving our houses, often a lot of people 0:18:05.760 --> 0:18:08.879 are swiping more than ever. What would be your bit 0:18:08.920 --> 0:18:10.959 of advice for our male listeners as to how they 0:18:11.040 --> 0:18:14.159 approach going about asking about your living situation or or 0:18:14.320 --> 0:18:16.400 what time frame is that okay to ask? Make sure 0:18:16.440 --> 0:18:20.119 you establish a rapport first, um, because like I said before, 0:18:20.160 --> 0:18:22.119 there wasn't like there wasn't like a thing where we 0:18:22.160 --> 0:18:23.760 were like already like oh my god, oh my god, 0:18:23.800 --> 0:18:25.920 and we've been talking for a bit and then you asked, 0:18:25.960 --> 0:18:27.800 it was like very much like these are within the 0:18:27.880 --> 0:18:31.320 first couple of messages. So that's where I'm like, this 0:18:31.480 --> 0:18:33.800 is creepy, because like we just swipt on each other. 0:18:34.280 --> 0:18:36.399 We just got past the me moving into my new 0:18:36.480 --> 0:18:38.840 place thing, and now you're like, well do you live 0:18:38.880 --> 0:18:40.399 by yourself? Because those are the only ones that I 0:18:40.520 --> 0:18:43.080 posted because I have lots of screenshots on my phone 0:18:43.480 --> 0:18:45.040 and like, these are the only ones that I could 0:18:45.080 --> 0:18:48.639 like find where they're all consistently asking me where I live, 0:18:48.640 --> 0:18:50.440 because the other ones are buried and stuff because I 0:18:50.480 --> 0:18:53.360 have too many pictures. But it's just like, if you're 0:18:53.520 --> 0:18:56.200