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Speaker 1: The Fresh Show is on. It's Stay or Go all right,

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Speaker 1: Kelly is here? Hi, Kelly, Good morning, Good morning Kelly.

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Speaker 1: What's going on in your life, in your relationship? You're

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Speaker 1: a newlywed. Congratulations, I am.

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Speaker 2: Thank you so much. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: So, my husband and I.

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Speaker 2: Have been married for just over a year and we've

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Speaker 2: got a baby on the way. Things are actually going

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Speaker 2: really well. You know, I love my husband, but we

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Speaker 2: have kind of an issue that's really starting to concern

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Speaker 2: me and I could really use your advice.

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Speaker 3: Hmm.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, this is where you should turn. Anytime

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Speaker 1: you have a difficult decision to make, you should turn

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Speaker 1: to us. I mean who else who else would you

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Speaker 1: turn to? Obviously, So congratulations on the on the marriage,

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Speaker 1: Congratulations on the baby.

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Speaker 2: What is the issue though, Well, so, he won't give

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Speaker 2: a joint bank account, and every time that we've talked

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Speaker 2: about it, he just says, you know, his money is

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Speaker 2: his and my money is mine, and if I ever

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Speaker 2: need money for the baby or anything, you know, I'll

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Speaker 2: just pay for it and ask him for the money

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Speaker 2: back or you know whatever. But I mean, I just

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Speaker 2: I don't understand why he won't. Just get a joint

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Speaker 2: bank account just seems like the most rational thing to

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Speaker 2: do here, especially before.

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Speaker 4: The baby gets here.

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Speaker 2: And I'm just tired of fighting, and I just i

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Speaker 2: just want some advice, Like what should I do?

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Speaker 1: I mean, so you split the bills, I assume, or

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Speaker 1: you have some sort of arrangement where you pay this

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Speaker 1: and he pays that and and that works.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but I mean that's before baby gets here and

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Speaker 2: you know other things. I just think we should be

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Speaker 2: able to have a joint account for both of us

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Speaker 2: to put into and both of us be able to

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Speaker 2: take from as needed.

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Speaker 1: Why is that so important to you? Because I suppose

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Speaker 1: if things are working and you guys keep your finances separate,

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Speaker 1: I mean I don't. I'm I'm trying to understand the

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Speaker 1: psychology here, Like do you feel to have more money

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Speaker 1: than you and you feel like you know, he could

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Speaker 1: run away with it? Is it? Is it that it

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Speaker 1: would help you to feel like there's a just something

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Speaker 1: that you're both contributing to that money is coming out of.

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Speaker 1: I mean, what is it for you? Like? Why is

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Speaker 1: that so important?

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Speaker 2: I mean, I just want a joint account. You know,

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Speaker 2: I came into this marriage of first, you know, with

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Speaker 2: my account and then and his account, and you know

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Speaker 2: we were together for a while, but this is part

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Speaker 2: of us being like joining together as a as a family,

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Speaker 2: and we should have you know, something that reflects that,

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Speaker 2: and that can't be you know that that's to me.

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Speaker 2: It seems like a lack of trust or something like

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Speaker 2: that on his side. And you know, he does make

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Speaker 2: more money than me, and he's certainly going to be

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Speaker 2: making more money than me when I'm you know, on

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Speaker 2: maternity believe, and you know, I don't know how long

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Speaker 2: it will be before I go back to work.

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Speaker 1: So now, Kelly, I don't mean to be critical of you.

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Speaker 1: I don't know you, of course, but uh, I'm just

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Speaker 1: going to ask the question, as you did call up here,

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Speaker 1: is do you have a good hold on your finances?

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Speaker 1: Like do you have debt? Do you are you a spender?

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Speaker 1: I mean, is there any reason that would preclude him

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Speaker 1: from saying this is a great idea, let's put all

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Speaker 1: our money together, Like does he have any sort of

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Speaker 1: if you're being self aware, does he have any basis

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Speaker 1: for saying I'm more responsible with money than Kelly is.

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Speaker 2: Other than the fact that he makes more. Now honestly,

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Speaker 2: I think it's a control thing and it's starting to

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Speaker 1: Okay, so then what is what is the alternative? If

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Speaker 1: he were to say to you, we're keeping our finances separate,

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Speaker 1: that's what I'm comfortable with. Do you leave him? Or

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Speaker 1: are you just angry? I mean, what sort of what?

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Speaker 1: What's the recourse?

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Speaker 2: And that's kind of what I'm calling you guys. I mean,

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Speaker 2: I guess should I say or should I go? I mean,

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Speaker 2: I don't know if that's uh.

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Speaker 1: Well, we get to make it out. That's wow. Oh good, Okay,

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Speaker 1: no pressure or anything, all right? Eight five nine one

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Speaker 1: three five is our number. You can call him text

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Speaker 1: the same number. What was that? Were we going to say?

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Speaker 2: Well? I mean, I obviously don't want to leave, but

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Speaker 2: I mean I do think that joint finances is something

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Speaker 2: that's big enough to be, you know, a leaving offense

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Speaker 2: or you know, I don't want to give him an ultimatum,

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Speaker 2: but I feel strongly enough about this that if you

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Speaker 2: won't sit and talk to me about it, then you know,

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Speaker 2: I will make other arrangements.

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Speaker 1: So all the money that you guys make together, all

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Speaker 1: of it should go into one account and you both

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Speaker 1: should have access, and that's what you want, that's what

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Speaker 1: makes you feel better.

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Speaker 2: I personally think that we should have a joint account,

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Speaker 2: that's like a shared account, and that's what I've been

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Speaker 2: asking for. But he doesn't even want to do that.

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Speaker 2: He just wants to keep it his and his, you know,

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Speaker 2: and mine and mine. I'm like, why don't we just

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Speaker 2: have a central, you know, even seven account, especially for

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Speaker 2: you know, for the baby and stuff like that.

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Speaker 1: And he's not even.

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Speaker 2: Open to it.

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Speaker 1: So I would love your advice.

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Speaker 2: I'd love to hear what your audience have to say.

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Speaker 1: I keep the radio on that I heard app on

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Speaker 1: and we're gonna a heart app. I don't like I

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Speaker 1: became Southern right there. And then I want to talk

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Speaker 1: about you now behind your back and come up with

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Speaker 1: a solution. And then you have to do what we say.

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Speaker 1: So good luck to you, Kelly, hmm, thank you, thank

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Speaker 1: you for calling. I don't know, Kiki. I mean, you're single,

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Speaker 1: even though you've lived with the man. He's lived with you,

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Speaker 1: that's right, for six years. Do you see a world

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Speaker 1: where you combine your finances into one.

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Speaker 4: Yes, especially if we have a baby.

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Speaker 5: And I'm going on maternity leave and I may need

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Speaker 5: extra help from him or whatever. I don't want to

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Speaker 5: have to ask you every single time I need to

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Speaker 5: buy formula, Like, let's let's put it, let's get an

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Speaker 5: account together where we can pay our bills out of

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Speaker 5: we can pay for child expenses. And if I'm expressing

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Speaker 5: that to you and that's you are absolutely shutting it

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Speaker 5: down to me, that's a major RIF flag because what

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Speaker 5: are you doing?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's why I asked the question about her spending,

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Speaker 1: because it's like, you know, some of some people save

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Speaker 1: a lot, and some people were raised to spend in

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Speaker 1: a certain way, and then some people have a different

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Speaker 1: perspective on it. And short of being in massive debt,

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Speaker 1: I don't know that any one is right or wrong.

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Speaker 1: But I mean, if I were to get with somebody

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Speaker 1: who's like I get paid, I spend it all, that's

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Speaker 1: fine if it as long as some of that's going

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Speaker 1: to the stuff that we decide worth, you know, allocating

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Speaker 1: to one another. But if you want to spend all

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Speaker 1: your money, fine, but you don't get to spend all

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Speaker 1: my money too, Because I feel better at night knowing

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Speaker 1: that I'm saving a certain percentage or whatever. I don't

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Speaker 1: you know what I mean? So, like, people can have

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Speaker 1: different philosophies about money, and as long as everybody's contributing

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Speaker 1: what you know to what you agreed to as a couple,

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Speaker 1: then I guess I think having separate accounts might actually

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Speaker 1: be more healthy because it's like, again, if hey, look,

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Speaker 1: if we're splitting this and you're paying for that, and

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Speaker 1: I'm paying for this, and then you want to go

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Speaker 1: spend the rest of it, I mean, I guess that's

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Speaker 1: up to you. But again, that doesn't mean that you

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Speaker 1: get to adapt that spending to also my money, because well,

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Speaker 1: my you know, my psychology and the way that I

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Speaker 1: need to save and structure things and the money I

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Speaker 1: need to have in the bank that matters too.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, But I think if we both agree on what

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Speaker 5: we're going to put into this account and what it's for,

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Speaker 5: and we both stick to stick to that, then I

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Speaker 5: don't see there's an issue. I think it's okay for

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Speaker 5: him to have a separate account. But your wife is

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Speaker 5: telling you she wants to have something that you shared.

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Speaker 1: One yes, and I agree with that. Well, yeah, I'm

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Speaker 1: fine with a shared account, but she's saying she wants

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Speaker 1: commingling of all the funds. I did ask that question.

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Speaker 1: I said, the only way you're happy is if everybody

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Speaker 1: puts everything together into one and that's what she wants.

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Speaker 5: Well, see, I would, I would tell her that we're

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Speaker 5: putting everything together and then keep a separate.

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Speaker 6: Yes, she'd be even okay with just a shared account.

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Speaker 1: And he doesn't even want to do that. But at

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Speaker 1: the end, I asked her, I said, so you want

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Speaker 1: all the money commingled, and she said, yes, So are

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Speaker 1: you're okay? Yeah, So I suppose some form of account

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Speaker 1: where we both contribute X amount of dollars and then

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Speaker 1: we both have access to it. That's a nice that's

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Speaker 1: a nice compromise. Yeah, sure, but you know, then we

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Speaker 1: got Paulina over here, who's going to go buy chains

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Speaker 1: and medallions with it? Right?

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Speaker 4: Why do you think I don't have a joint account.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, he doesn't trust me. See, But that's the thing.

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Speaker 1: Hobby is a hobby more of like a he's more

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Speaker 1: of a like structured saver. And yes, he's you're not

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Speaker 1: and you know, and I'm not calling you out. These

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Speaker 1: are things you've said on the air before. No, but

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Speaker 1: I just I just mean, don't you think That's probably

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Speaker 1: why he's not all in on a joint account, because

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Speaker 1: if all your money went into one, then you guys

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Speaker 1: have a little bit of a different philosophy on spending.

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Speaker 4: Yes and no.

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Speaker 7: Because for us, what we're doing is keeping separate accounts,

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Speaker 7: you know, before marriage accounts, and I have access to them.

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Speaker 7: I can see things I want to, which I think

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Speaker 7: is very fair in marriage. I'm married to you, but

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Speaker 7: I just don't we don't need to combine them, in

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Speaker 7: my opinion, because I just feel like I'm not going

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Speaker 7: to be able to contribute, not even nearly as much

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Speaker 7: as he does, because he is better with money and

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Speaker 7: I'm still paying off debt from right, you know, ten

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Speaker 7: fifteen years ago, So I'm kind of cleaning that up

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Speaker 7: first before we do anything joints. But however, I do

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Speaker 7: want to do with joint savings or something for like

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Speaker 7: the rainy days that probably will come in the future that.

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Speaker 4: You can't predict for.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, like that's where all our tax returns and stuff

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Speaker 6: that we get as gifts go into a joint savings account.

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Speaker 6: But as far as regular accounts now, we both Jess

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Speaker 6: and I have separate accounts. I mean, it's for our situation.

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Speaker 6: It works because I pay majority of the bills. So

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Speaker 6: it's just like and she saves her money, you know

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Speaker 6: what I'm saying, So she we use her money for

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Speaker 6: whatever vacations and this and that and whatever the kids

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Speaker 6: need and stuff and groceries. So I mean it works

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Speaker 6: out because, like I said, I would be in Pauline's

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Speaker 6: both too.

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Speaker 1: Like I am a spender, So.

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Speaker 6: I think Jess wouldn't trust me if we had a

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Speaker 6: No, damn well we put three thousand dollars this in

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Speaker 1: So what what say you on this? Do you think

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Speaker 8: Well, I mean every marriage is different. But I've been

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Speaker 8: He makes more money than I.

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Speaker 9: Do, but it's like mortgagees stay, the bills are paid.

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Speaker 1: what I wonder is is she being fair saying I'm

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Speaker 1: and I'll reimburse you. Like that sounds a little That

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Speaker 1: him for reimbursing that.

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Speaker 8: That's great for whatever we need.

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Speaker 1: That's cool that but that company reimburses people for stuff.

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Speaker 7: Like, I'm not like your child not going to go

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Speaker 4: Like I'd rather just go on the account. We do

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Speaker 7: We have a joint credit card because I want those

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Speaker 7: he regretted it one time because you know, I did

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Speaker 1: See, yeah, this is a someone's saying in the text.

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Speaker 1: These are discussions that you should be proactive about. These

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Speaker 1: you said it. It's like, if we have ten thousand

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Speaker 1: It's like I would argue, if we have ten thousand

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Speaker 1: That's how But again I don't know. You know, I

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Speaker 10: I just can never do that. If he wants, he's

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Speaker 1: I've seen it my couch, Jason, because like, would you

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Speaker 1: You know, yeah, fair enough. There's also a transparency thing

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Speaker 4: That's sure, right?

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Speaker 1: Again, is it because she's going to spend it? Is

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Speaker 3: Well, my wife and I we have separate accounts. We

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Speaker 1: To my account. It's a good man, no, no good

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Speaker 1: a good day, glad you call man. Hey Caitlin, Hello,

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Speaker 1: We have showed each other.

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Speaker 9: What we have, but you know, we kept things separate.

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Speaker 9: W we were dating, we kept things separate we were engaged,

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Speaker 9: and when we got married, we're like, why change it, Like,

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Speaker 9: finances is the number one cause of the divorce, and

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Speaker 9: this has worked for us, so let's just keep it

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Speaker 9: going how we're doing. And it's worked out really well.

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Speaker 2: We have zero fights.

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Speaker 1: Okay, finances works for you, Thank you, Caitlin. Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: that would be weird, Like imagine if I actually know

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Speaker 1: somebody who this happened to on a much smaller scale.

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Speaker 1: But he married into a very, very wealthy family, Like

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Speaker 1: he was a I won't say what he did, but

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Speaker 1: he worked for the city and he made not a

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Speaker 1: ton of money, and he married somebody who had a

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Speaker 1: trust fund worth hundreds of millions of dollars, Like she

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Speaker 1: had a ton of money, and it didn't really make

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Speaker 1: any sense for him to do the job he was

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Speaker 1: doing because there was just so much money that whatever.

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Speaker 1: But every time he wanted to go to them all,

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Speaker 1: or every time he wanted to buy new shoes, or

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Speaker 1: if he had a suggestion for a vacation or something,

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Speaker 1: he had to go to her and be like, can

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Speaker 1: I have the money to do this, honey kind of thing.

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Speaker 1: It got to the point where the patriarch of the family,

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Speaker 1: the guy who made all the money actually put him

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Speaker 1: on the payroll and gave him a job to quote

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Speaker 1: unquote job to do, so that he basically had money

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Speaker 1: in his pocket to do something with it was his own.

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Speaker 1: Like what if you wanted to buy her a gift?

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Speaker 1: Like it was a legitimate thought about this, but like

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Speaker 1: what she had all the money, what if he wanted

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Speaker 1: to go buy or ring. He had to literally go

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Speaker 1: and say, honey, I need ten thousand dollars to go

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Speaker 1: buy you this or that. Because they decided together that

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Speaker 1: he wasn't going to do this job that paid X

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Speaker 1: because they had all the money they needed and they

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Speaker 1: were going to raise the kids together and do all

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Speaker 1: these different things. But I'd never really thought about that before,

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Speaker 1: Like you got all the money in the world, but

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Speaker 1: you got a power dynamic going there, where like now

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Speaker 1: he's got to ask for permission to do stuff, and

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Speaker 1: that's not cool, or at least he felt that. I

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Speaker 1: don't know if that was true. It's a good family, right,

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Speaker 1: Well here's twenty thousand. Yeah, oh I tried to marry in.

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Speaker 4: It, right, she got a system?

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Speaker 1: Yeah right, well no, trust me, right, all of a

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Speaker 1: sudden Jason straight so extremely interested. Well, didn't have to

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Speaker 1: ask for permission, but the Entertainer Report will do it.

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Speaker 1: Next sho is Shelley hundred and fifty bucks after that

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Speaker 1: Fred show