WEBVTT - Second Date Update: I'm Onto You

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<v Speaker 1>A you found the Second Date podcast. Thank you so

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<v Speaker 1>much too. Finally, it's pretty easy actually, thanks for being here.

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<v Speaker 1>I love it. I love it. And hey, just a reminder,

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<v Speaker 1>if you want to endure or punish yourself for forty

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<v Speaker 1>five more minutes, we've got a full show, whole hour.

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<v Speaker 2>I dare you to try it.

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<v Speaker 1>At the Brook and Jeffrey Feed. But for now we'll

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<v Speaker 1>get into some questionable relationship advice.

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<v Speaker 3>Second date, up date.

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<v Speaker 4>For a date? Would you rather be silently ghosted or

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<v Speaker 4>blatantly canceled on?

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<v Speaker 1>Yikes? And at least you would know if you're blatantly

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<v Speaker 1>canceled on?

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, but wondering I can make up my own excuse,

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<v Speaker 5>like I'm too perfect?

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, you know what I mean?

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<v Speaker 4>Is that what you're doing when you're ghosted? There's still

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<v Speaker 4>that like glimmer of hope that maybe they got the

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<v Speaker 4>wrong bar or maybe they.

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<v Speaker 1>Got a rest their phone broke.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, because they fell down a man hole and they

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<v Speaker 4>can't get out. Oh did you then to story for yourself? There?

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<v Speaker 4>That makes you feel good. But today one of our listeners, Jillian,

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<v Speaker 4>thought she had a second date locked down until she

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<v Speaker 4>got one very strange last minute text, calling it off,

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<v Speaker 4>and now she's really confused and needs our help. Jillian,

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<v Speaker 4>Welcome to the show.

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<v Speaker 7>Hi, thank you.

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<v Speaker 1>My interest is so Pete. I don't want to know

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<v Speaker 1>what that text message says that someone wassed.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, so let's start at the beginning of your story.

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<v Speaker 4>How did you meet this guy? What's his name?

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<v Speaker 7>His names Zach?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay?

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, where did you and Zach meet?

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<v Speaker 8>So?

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<v Speaker 7>We met at a bar?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh in real life?

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<v Speaker 7>In real life? Yeah, I know. So it was like

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<v Speaker 7>last Friday night. I had been planning on staying in,

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<v Speaker 7>like not going out at all that night.

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<v Speaker 1>That's what it always happens, right, I know, right, which

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<v Speaker 1>means that you weren't looking your best. You're probably kind

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<v Speaker 1>of a mess.

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<v Speaker 4>But yes, okay, it's a harsh.

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<v Speaker 1>No, I don't mean that in a mean way.

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<v Speaker 7>I was looking at okay, Dea is me there? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 7>Then I had this like feeling after I got home

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<v Speaker 7>from work where I was like, no, you know what,

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<v Speaker 7>I actually don't want to have a cozy night in.

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<v Speaker 7>I want to go do something.

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<v Speaker 6>Feeling. I always have the feeling to go. You get

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<v Speaker 6>that feeling to go out.

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<v Speaker 1>So fun you bring in the good energy.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, So where do you go.

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<v Speaker 7>So I called my girlfriend. We go to a bar

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<v Speaker 7>kind of by my place and we're just hanging out

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<v Speaker 7>and then I see this guy and I like, I

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<v Speaker 7>don't usually make the first move, like ever, but I

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<v Speaker 7>was kind of like listening to their not listening to

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<v Speaker 7>their conversation. But I was at the bar trying to

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<v Speaker 7>get a drink.

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<v Speaker 1>I thought you were gonna say, but I was kind

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<v Speaker 1>of drunk, so I.

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<v Speaker 4>Did it.

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<v Speaker 7>Right there. They were talking about the movie Wicked, oh,

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<v Speaker 7>and I had just seen it, and their opinions were

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<v Speaker 7>like totally wrong. So I jumped in to tell him

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<v Speaker 7>why he was wrong, but also just like to flirt

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<v Speaker 7>with him.

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<v Speaker 5>And okay, right off the pack, don't argue about a

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<v Speaker 5>man with way, I just.

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<v Speaker 2>Know that there's two guys arguing over wicket together.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I feel like I already know why he's not

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<v Speaker 4>calling you back.

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<v Speaker 1>But yeah, no, Oul, come on, Yeah, if you like

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<v Speaker 1>touch their arm and stuff, then they love an argument.

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<v Speaker 7>So anyway, we ended up talking for a while. We

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<v Speaker 7>went to another bar together, just the two of us. Okay, yeah,

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<v Speaker 7>well she was kind of done. She was like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 7>I came out for you, so if you're good, like bye,

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<v Speaker 7>and we had plans for a second date. We were

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<v Speaker 7>going to go to this bar that has ski ball

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<v Speaker 7>and I was going to beat him at skyball and

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<v Speaker 7>I was ki oh my gosh.

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<v Speaker 1>So you guys even talked about where and when and

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<v Speaker 1>all of it.

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<v Speaker 7>Yeah, all of it. And so then shere's the crazy part.

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<v Speaker 7>That morning that we're supposed to go out, I get

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<v Speaker 7>a text from him that says, I'm onto you, dates

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<v Speaker 7>off on to you, on you, I'm on to you.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, what does that mean?

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<v Speaker 5>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 7>I texted it back and I was like, what are

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<v Speaker 7>you talking about? And then he just couldn't answer me.

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<v Speaker 1>Does he think that you're in a relationship or something.

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<v Speaker 1>That's the first thing that I think, Oh yeah.

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<v Speaker 4>We should have asked, are you currently with somebody?

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<v Speaker 1>No?

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<v Speaker 4>No, okay, She's like kids, Yeah, what's wrong with that?

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<v Speaker 1>And that's so strange too, because you don't have any

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<v Speaker 1>like it's not like you can ask his friends. You

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<v Speaker 1>don't know anybody that he knows.

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<v Speaker 7>Yeah, you know, right exactly?

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<v Speaker 1>If you Google search your name, is there like a

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<v Speaker 1>weird news article that comes up of somebody who with

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<v Speaker 1>a shared name.

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<v Speaker 7>I don't even know if he knows my last name

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<v Speaker 7>to google me at all, but also like, I don't

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<v Speaker 7>think anything crazy comes up.

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<v Speaker 6>Last name is Dahmer.

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<v Speaker 8>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 4>I swear I paid to have all those articles to

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<v Speaker 4>let it y.

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<v Speaker 7>Yeah. My best guess is that maybe one of his

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<v Speaker 7>friends like thought I was someone else that they recognize me,

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<v Speaker 7>you know, like dark bar. I don't know.

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<v Speaker 6>Oh yeah, you know.

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<v Speaker 5>What that's happened in my friend group before. She was

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<v Speaker 5>some other girl bro. Never mind, it could be that.

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<v Speaker 1>Like a girl from the dating apps. Yeah, he was

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<v Speaker 1>just so bold and that you don't follow it up,

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<v Speaker 1>Like if you're gonna be accused, just tell me what

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<v Speaker 1>I've been accused of.

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<v Speaker 7>Yeah, it's just so frustrating. Like I've texted him a

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<v Speaker 7>few times being like, hey, I don't even need to

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<v Speaker 7>go out again, I just want to know what are

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<v Speaker 7>you upset about? And I don't get anything.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, and you need to know for future dates because

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<v Speaker 1>what if other men say the same thing and you

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<v Speaker 1>still don't know what you know?

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<v Speaker 2>You're how is your purposely using him for something?

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<v Speaker 1>Just tell us now.

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<v Speaker 4>At least mass texting him makes you sound super laid

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<v Speaker 4>back and chill, so he has nothing to complain about.

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<v Speaker 4>When we call him now and try and ask him

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<v Speaker 4>why he didn't follow through with the second date that

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<v Speaker 4>you had already arranged with him.

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<v Speaker 1>Will we ask him what the hell that text message meant?

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<v Speaker 4>Really, pile on and tell everything is done wrong in his.

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<v Speaker 1>Life and his opinions that wicked suck y good.

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<v Speaker 4>We will beat him into a second date update coming

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<v Speaker 4>up right after this second date update. I can't believe

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<v Speaker 4>we never caught the nursery rhyme connection because our listener, Jillian,

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<v Speaker 4>I met a guy named Zach Zack and Jill. Zach

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<v Speaker 4>and Jill you mean Jack and Jill, but it sounds

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<v Speaker 4>it sounds pretty close.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, someone someone flugged preschool in this room and it

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<v Speaker 1>was definitely not Zach.

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<v Speaker 6>I'm trying to rhyme, Jill.

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<v Speaker 4>Sorry for trying to draw a connection. I thought it

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<v Speaker 4>was a cute story, right. They met at a bar.

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<v Speaker 4>They were drinking pails of white claw together. Rhyme goes,

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<v Speaker 4>Jill said great to another date, and Zach canceled last second. Okay,

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<v Speaker 4>that's where we are today. Like a total jerk, Zach

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<v Speaker 4>reached out to Jillian the day of their second meetup

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<v Speaker 4>and said, I'm on to you. Date canceled.

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<v Speaker 6>So Zach just is fetching a pail of water right now.

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<v Speaker 1>He's rolling down a hill. I think white Claw.

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<v Speaker 6>I got the nursery right now.

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<v Speaker 4>The whole thing is confusing, especially to Jillian, because there

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<v Speaker 4>was no explanation for what he meant by I'm on

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<v Speaker 4>to you.

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<v Speaker 1>It's so accusatory. I mean, the thing is is that

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<v Speaker 1>although Jeff you're calling him a jerk, he thinks she's

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<v Speaker 1>a jerk, is what it sounds like.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, but we don't know why.

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<v Speaker 1>Exactly I'm on to you.

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<v Speaker 5>We'll raise an eyebrow to anybody. Yeah, walk up to

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<v Speaker 5>me and say that right now, I'd be.

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<v Speaker 1>Like, what you feel guilty? Yeah, no matter what do Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>my guess is that he's going to be coming in

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<v Speaker 1>hot like a text like that.

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<v Speaker 6>It's not going to be I just thought, what if

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<v Speaker 6>it's his tagline? What if he answers it like I'm

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<v Speaker 6>onto you?

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<v Speaker 9>Hell?

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<v Speaker 6>You know what if that's his thing?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, you probably don't want to end up with him. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 4>probably not dial his number. See how he answers the

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<v Speaker 4>phone if he picks up, and hopefully get an explanation.

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<v Speaker 4>Are you ready? I'm ready? So that was a question

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<v Speaker 4>just to myself when he's talking to jeff.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, Hello, Hey is this Zach?

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<v Speaker 8>Yes, who's speaking?

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<v Speaker 1>Interesting? Hey, Zach, welcome to the show.

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<v Speaker 3>What is this Hello?

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<v Speaker 4>Sorry? Sorry for that. She was so flirty with that question.

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<v Speaker 4>This is there a radio show. We're called Brooke and

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<v Speaker 4>Jeffrey in the Morning. This is a segment called second

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<v Speaker 4>Date Update. Okay, you could help us because we have

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<v Speaker 4>a listener who you met up with the other night.

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<v Speaker 4>Her name is Jillian.

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<v Speaker 1>You guys met at a bar.

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<v Speaker 8>Oh my god, are you joking?

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<v Speaker 1>No?

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<v Speaker 8>No, yeah, she keeps texting me.

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<v Speaker 4>Yes, right, I can hear your confused. Can I tell

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<v Speaker 4>you what we know from what Jillian told us, because

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<v Speaker 4>she said, you guys met at the bar the other night,

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<v Speaker 4>you hit it off, ended up separating from your friend

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<v Speaker 4>group to just hang out one on one, and then

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<v Speaker 4>arranged a second meetup. Had it all planned out until

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<v Speaker 4>the day of she got this cryptic text from you

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<v Speaker 4>saying I'm on to you.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 8>Wow, Okay, so she'd told you a lot.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, because I mean, honestly, she has no idea what

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<v Speaker 1>you're referring to in that text message.

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<v Speaker 8>Well, I can explain that that.

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<v Speaker 4>Would be great, because she just does not understand what happened,

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<v Speaker 4>if she did something wrong. We're just trying to give

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<v Speaker 4>her some clarity.

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<v Speaker 5>We asked, are you in the middle of some awful dealings?

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<v Speaker 5>And she's like, I am not in the midst of evil,

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<v Speaker 5>so you know what I mean. So she has no

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<v Speaker 5>idea what you're talking about.

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<v Speaker 8>Okay. So the day of the next date, I went

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<v Speaker 8>back to the bar that we had met at and

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<v Speaker 8>the spartender recognizes me and he says, hey, are you

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<v Speaker 8>hanging out with Gillian again anytime soon?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh? They know her at the bar. Oh, like she's

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<v Speaker 1>a regular or something.

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<v Speaker 8>Okay, well that's what I was thinking. So I say,

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<v Speaker 8>what's going on? How do you know her? And he

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<v Speaker 8>says that she calls the bar like every night, asking

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<v Speaker 8>if there's any cute guys there.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh really, this world just opened up? Are you serious?

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<v Speaker 1>She calls it ahead of time, just to see if

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<v Speaker 1>it's worth her time to go down there.

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<v Speaker 8>Yeah, not just that place. Apparently she does that all

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<v Speaker 8>over town.

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<v Speaker 1>How do you know all over town?

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<v Speaker 8>Yes, that's what the bartender said. So I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>So are you upset that you were the cute guy

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<v Speaker 1>that the bartender reported on a compliment or.

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<v Speaker 4>The fact that she calls the bar every single night

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<v Speaker 4>going out.

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<v Speaker 1>There, Like she doesn't go to the bar every night though.

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<v Speaker 4>Unless there's cute guys.

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<v Speaker 8>Enough.

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<v Speaker 6>That's why she decided to go. From I'm staying home,

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<v Speaker 6>I'm going out.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, there's worth you're going out for.

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<v Speaker 3>That's a compliment she said to you.

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<v Speaker 4>She mentioned that the night that she was going out

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<v Speaker 4>and met you, she was considering staying in, but something

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<v Speaker 4>changed her mind and she wanted to go out that

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<v Speaker 4>night instead.

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<v Speaker 8>Okay, so it.

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<v Speaker 4>Turns out that something was a phone call to the

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<v Speaker 4>bar to ask if there's any good looking guys there,

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<v Speaker 4>but we didn't know that.

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<v Speaker 1>Why does that make you so upset?

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<v Speaker 8>Well, I'm just another cute guy at a bar to her.

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<v Speaker 8>And it's just kind of shady that she is talking

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<v Speaker 8>how spontaneous this whole thing was, when really she kind

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<v Speaker 8>of planned the whole.

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<v Speaker 1>It feels like you were deceived a little bit.

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<v Speaker 5>It's nice to be the cute guy, but now it's

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<v Speaker 5>like you don't feel special because every night there's another cute.

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<v Speaker 2>Guy, and I just feel it's weird someone pretends they

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<v Speaker 2>just met you randomly when they didn't acting a bit.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, yeah, exactly.

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<v Speaker 8>I didn't feel special at all and pretty weird to me.

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<v Speaker 1>Now you should feel special. You're on a radio show.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, and she calls us every day though she's before ever.

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<v Speaker 4>Actually she specifically reached out so that we could get

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<v Speaker 4>in contact with you to find this information out. That

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<v Speaker 4>should mean something.

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<v Speaker 7>Right, I guess.

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<v Speaker 8>I mean now you have your reason.

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<v Speaker 4>Uh okay, well, thank you for that, and we're thankful.

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<v Speaker 4>But who I think is more appreciative is actually Jillian,

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<v Speaker 4>who is on the other line listening to this conversation.

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<v Speaker 6>It does soe like she's like always on the other line.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my, this is the only one actually making phone

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<v Speaker 1>calls these days.

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<v Speaker 3>Jillian, are you there?

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<v Speaker 7>I'm here, and I have quite a bit to say

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<v Speaker 7>in response to that.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sorry, No, I'm not sorry.

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<v Speaker 7>When did ieme wrong? Listen? First of all, I do

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<v Speaker 7>not call them every night like Friday and Saturday nights. Okay, okay,

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<v Speaker 7>And like listen, if I'm at home, I want to

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<v Speaker 7>have to like put on pants and like make up,

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<v Speaker 7>and you know, like just to go to a bar

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<v Speaker 7>when there's nobody there, and so I'll call be like, hey,

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<v Speaker 7>is it popping. There are a lot of guys there,

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<v Speaker 7>what's going on? But I was not lying you guys

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<v Speaker 7>when I said I almost never approach anybody.

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<v Speaker 6>Oh, she did mention that to us, Zach.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, yeah, are you still there, Zach?

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<v Speaker 8>Yeah, I'm not sure what to believe anymore. I mean

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<v Speaker 8>she's saying one thing to you guys, the bytender says

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<v Speaker 8>a different thing than me. So I don't know.

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<v Speaker 3>This is all kind of shady, dude.

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<v Speaker 1>It would have been such a good pickup line to

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<v Speaker 1>walk up to him and be like, hey, I called

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<v Speaker 1>ahead of time and they said you were here, You're.

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<v Speaker 6>To go for that?

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<v Speaker 7>Well it would Yeah, you're right, Maybe I'll just say it.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, No, I asked for hot guys and they delivered you.

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<v Speaker 1>So tell us how that goes.

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<v Speaker 4>Not as romantic to a guy's year as you probably think.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't think anyone's will give a romance at a bar, Jeff.

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<v Speaker 1>They're just looking to talk.

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<v Speaker 4>More clearly, someone who is looking for romances, Zach. And

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<v Speaker 4>he feels like he's not special, that he's just one

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<v Speaker 4>of many guys. You would have taken any cute guy

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<v Speaker 4>at the bar that night, and he just happened to

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<v Speaker 4>be there.

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<v Speaker 7>That is absolutely not accurate. I can see why he

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<v Speaker 7>would think that, but it's it's so true.

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<v Speaker 4>And we do appreciate you coming forward, Jillian and actually

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<v Speaker 4>admitting that you did this, because I think a lot

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<v Speaker 4>of people would deny it or try to like be like, no,

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<v Speaker 4>I've never done that. You told us you were going

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<v Speaker 4>to stay in, but you had a special feeling. And

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<v Speaker 4>the special feeling was a call to the bar asking

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<v Speaker 4>them to scope out hot guys for you.

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<v Speaker 1>Which Alexis is definitely picking up.

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<v Speaker 2>I think every bar should just start posting who's there

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<v Speaker 2>online that.

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<v Speaker 7>You should feel special. The bartender said, there were lots

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<v Speaker 7>of cute guys, but you were the cutest, and you're

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<v Speaker 7>the one I talked to.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh look at that stand out. You're a standout cutie, Zach.

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<v Speaker 8>It's the strange to pretend like it wasn't all set up.

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<v Speaker 4>Well, now that all the information is out there, can

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<v Speaker 4>we book ski ball again and actually follow through with

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<v Speaker 4>the second date that you had already planned for each

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<v Speaker 4>other before this misunderstanding.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, if anything, Zach, it shows what a on

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<v Speaker 1>top organized woman she is.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, she definitely.

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<v Speaker 1>Got her her life organized.

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<v Speaker 5>And if you guys start dating, She'll call the bar

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<v Speaker 5>make sure it's all ugly guys the next time she goes.

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<v Speaker 9>That's a good point since I met you, so all right,

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<v Speaker 9>I mean, I'm willing to try again.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, really wow, that was so heartfelt, Zach. I really

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<v Speaker 4>buy it.

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<v Speaker 1>I know.

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<v Speaker 6>I wonder if this is like setting her up and

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<v Speaker 6>gets stood.

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<v Speaker 4>Up now, because if you actually agree to meet up

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<v Speaker 4>with her, we will pay for the date.

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<v Speaker 8>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, again, it just.

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<v Speaker 4>Feels like very like you're brushing us off.

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<v Speaker 6>Yes, in the room, can feel something weird.

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't expect big reactions from men anymore.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, Zach, be honest. It doesn't sound like you're actually

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<v Speaker 4>gonna call her, are you?

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<v Speaker 7>Yeah? Probably not?

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, I mean, look now they're both ghosting each other

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<v Speaker 4>for each other. Yeah, two ghosts make a right, It's

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<v Speaker 4>not it. I think it is Zach and Jill. That's

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<v Speaker 4>how the fairy.

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<v Speaker 1>Tale is Freaking Jeffrey in the morning.

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<v Speaker 4>I swear, sometimes you can just tell when somebody isn't

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<v Speaker 4>fully into it and they're just saying yes to go

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<v Speaker 4>along with pure pressure.

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<v Speaker 1>I wanted him to be in it, Yeah.

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<v Speaker 6>But there was something in his voice. I was like, yeah, yeah, sure,

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<v Speaker 6>I mean.

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<v Speaker 1>He was still the hottest guy in the bar. Maybe

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<v Speaker 1>that's why he doesn't carry has options, I think.

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<v Speaker 4>But if someone's not into it, you don't want to

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<v Speaker 4>go along with it. Honey, will you marry me? Fine? No.

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<v Speaker 4>The great thing about it is both of them were

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<v Speaker 4>actually honest with us. In the end, she admitted that

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<v Speaker 4>she calls ahead to bars to scope cute guys out.

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<v Speaker 4>He admits he'll say yes to dates when he doesn't

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<v Speaker 4>really care to actually meet up with him.

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<v Speaker 2>So many questions for the bar telling her type?

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<v Speaker 1>Does she give photos? I know more about it?

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<v Speaker 6>What does she get out of it? She get tipped more.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a guy. It was a guy bar.

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<v Speaker 6>It still is making.

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<v Speaker 1>He just gets somebody else to come to the bar.

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<v Speaker 1>Bars are always looking for more women.

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<v Speaker 4>All the bartenders out there. Make sure you text into

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<v Speaker 4>seven eight, five nine too when you have cute guys

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<v Speaker 4>and the Alexis knows where and when to.

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<v Speaker 6>Go, even if it's nine am.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, she'll be means to you.

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<v Speaker 4>If you need help with your dating life, email the show.

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<v Speaker 4>We'll call that person who's not calling you back and

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<v Speaker 4>go check out all of our second dates up where

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<v Speaker 4>our podcasts are at Brooke and

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<v Speaker 3>Jeffery, Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning,