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Speaker 1: A you found the Second Date podcast. Thank you so

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Speaker 1: much too. Finally, it's pretty easy actually, thanks for being here.

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Speaker 1: I love it. I love it. And hey, just a reminder,

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Speaker 1: if you want to endure or punish yourself for forty

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Speaker 1: five more minutes, we've got a full show, whole hour.

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Speaker 2: I dare you to try it.

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Speaker 1: At the Brook and Jeffrey Feed. But for now we'll

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Speaker 1: get into some questionable relationship advice.

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Speaker 3: Second date, up date.

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Speaker 4: For a date? Would you rather be silently ghosted or

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Speaker 4: blatantly canceled on?

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Speaker 1: Yikes? And at least you would know if you're blatantly

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Speaker 1: canceled on?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, but wondering I can make up my own excuse,

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Speaker 5: like I'm too perfect?

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Speaker 6: Yeah, you know what I mean?

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Speaker 4: Is that what you're doing when you're ghosted? There's still

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Speaker 4: that like glimmer of hope that maybe they got the

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Speaker 4: wrong bar or maybe they.

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Speaker 1: Got a rest their phone broke.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, because they fell down a man hole and they

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Speaker 4: can't get out. Oh did you then to story for yourself? There?

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Speaker 4: That makes you feel good. But today one of our listeners, Jillian,

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Speaker 4: thought she had a second date locked down until she

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Speaker 4: got one very strange last minute text, calling it off,

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Speaker 4: and now she's really confused and needs our help. Jillian,

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Speaker 4: Welcome to the show.

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Speaker 7: Hi, thank you.

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Speaker 1: My interest is so Pete. I don't want to know

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Speaker 1: what that text message says that someone wassed.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, so let's start at the beginning of your story.

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Speaker 4: How did you meet this guy? What's his name?

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Speaker 7: His names Zach?

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Speaker 1: Okay?

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Speaker 4: Okay, where did you and Zach meet?

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Speaker 8: So?

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Speaker 7: We met at a bar?

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Speaker 1: Oh in real life?

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Speaker 7: In real life? Yeah, I know. So it was like

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Speaker 7: last Friday night. I had been planning on staying in,

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Speaker 1: That's what it always happens, right, I know, right, which

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Speaker 1: means that you weren't looking your best. You're probably kind

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Speaker 4: But yes, okay, it's a harsh.

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Speaker 1: No, I don't mean that in a mean way.

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Speaker 7: I was looking at okay, Dea is me there? Yeah?

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Speaker 7: Then I had this like feeling after I got home

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Speaker 7: from work where I was like, no, you know what,

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Speaker 7: I actually don't want to have a cozy night in.

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Speaker 7: I want to go do something.

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Speaker 6: Feeling. I always have the feeling to go. You get

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Speaker 6: that feeling to go out.

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Speaker 1: So fun you bring in the good energy.

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Speaker 4: Okay, So where do you go.

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Speaker 7: So I called my girlfriend. We go to a bar

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Speaker 7: and then I see this guy and I like, I

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Speaker 7: don't usually make the first move, like ever, but I

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Speaker 1: I thought you were gonna say, but I was kind

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Speaker 4: Did it.

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Speaker 7: Right there. They were talking about the movie Wicked, oh,

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Speaker 5: And okay, right off the pack, don't argue about a

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Speaker 2: Know that there's two guys arguing over wicket together.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I feel like I already know why he's not

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Speaker 1: But yeah, no, Oul, come on, Yeah, if you like

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Speaker 7: So anyway, we ended up talking for a while. We

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Speaker 7: went to another bar together, just the two of us. Okay, yeah,

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Speaker 7: well she was kind of done. She was like, yeah,

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Speaker 7: and we had plans for a second date. We were

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Speaker 1: So you guys even talked about where and when and

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Speaker 7: Yeah, all of it. And so then shere's the crazy part.

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Speaker 7: That morning that we're supposed to go out, I get

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Speaker 4: Yeah, what does that mean?

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Speaker 5: I don't know.

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Speaker 7: I texted it back and I was like, what are

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Speaker 1: Does he think that you're in a relationship or something.

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Speaker 1: That's the first thing that I think, Oh yeah.

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Speaker 4: We should have asked, are you currently with somebody?

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Speaker 1: No?

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Speaker 4: No, okay, She's like kids, Yeah, what's wrong with that?

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Speaker 1: And that's so strange too, because you don't have any

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Speaker 7: Yeah, you know, right exactly?

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Speaker 1: If you Google search your name, is there like a

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Speaker 7: I don't even know if he knows my last name

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Speaker 6: Last name is Dahmer.

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Speaker 8: I don't know.

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Speaker 7: Yeah. My best guess is that maybe one of his

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Speaker 7: you know, like dark bar. I don't know.

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Speaker 6: Oh yeah, you know.

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Speaker 5: What that's happened in my friend group before. She was

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Speaker 5: some other girl bro. Never mind, it could be that.

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Speaker 1: Like a girl from the dating apps. Yeah, he was

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Speaker 1: just so bold and that you don't follow it up,

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Speaker 1: Like if you're gonna be accused, just tell me what

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Speaker 1: I've been accused of.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, it's just so frustrating. Like I've texted him a

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Speaker 7: few times being like, hey, I don't even need to

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Speaker 7: go out again, I just want to know what are

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Speaker 1: Well, and you need to know for future dates because

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Speaker 1: what if other men say the same thing and you

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Speaker 1: still don't know what you know?

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Speaker 2: You're how is your purposely using him for something?

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Speaker 1: Just tell us now.

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Speaker 4: At least mass texting him makes you sound super laid

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Speaker 4: When we call him now and try and ask him

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Speaker 1: Will we ask him what the hell that text message meant?

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Speaker 4: Really, pile on and tell everything is done wrong in his.

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Speaker 1: Life and his opinions that wicked suck y good.

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Speaker 4: We will beat him into a second date update coming

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Speaker 4: up right after this second date update. I can't believe

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Speaker 4: we never caught the nursery rhyme connection because our listener, Jillian,

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Speaker 4: I met a guy named Zach Zack and Jill. Zach

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Speaker 4: and Jill you mean Jack and Jill, but it sounds

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Speaker 1: Okay, someone someone flugged preschool in this room and it

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Speaker 6: I'm trying to rhyme, Jill.

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Speaker 4: Sorry for trying to draw a connection. I thought it

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Speaker 4: was a cute story, right. They met at a bar.

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Speaker 4: They were drinking pails of white claw together. Rhyme goes,

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Speaker 4: Jill said great to another date, and Zach canceled last second. Okay,

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Speaker 4: that's where we are today. Like a total jerk, Zach

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Speaker 4: and said, I'm on to you. Date canceled.

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Speaker 6: So Zach just is fetching a pail of water right now.

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Speaker 1: He's rolling down a hill. I think white Claw.

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Speaker 6: I got the nursery right now.

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Speaker 4: The whole thing is confusing, especially to Jillian, because there

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Speaker 4: was no explanation for what he meant by I'm on

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Speaker 1: It's so accusatory. I mean, the thing is is that

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Speaker 1: although Jeff you're calling him a jerk, he thinks she's

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Speaker 1: a jerk, is what it sounds like.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, but we don't know why.

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Speaker 1: Exactly I'm on to you.

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Speaker 5: We'll raise an eyebrow to anybody. Yeah, walk up to

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Speaker 1: Like, what you feel guilty? Yeah, no matter what do Yeah,

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Speaker 1: my guess is that he's going to be coming in

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Speaker 6: It's not going to be I just thought, what if

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Speaker 6: it's his tagline? What if he answers it like I'm

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Speaker 9: Hell?

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Speaker 6: You know what if that's his thing?

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Speaker 4: Are you ready? I'm ready? So that was a question

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Speaker 3: Okay, Hello, Hey is this Zach?

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Speaker 8: Yes, who's speaking?

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Speaker 1: Interesting? Hey, Zach, welcome to the show.

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Speaker 3: What is this Hello?

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Speaker 4: Sorry? Sorry for that. She was so flirty with that question.

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Speaker 4: This is there a radio show. We're called Brooke and

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Speaker 4: Jeffrey in the Morning. This is a segment called second

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Speaker 4: Date Update. Okay, you could help us because we have

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Speaker 4: a listener who you met up with the other night.

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Speaker 4: Her name is Jillian.

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Speaker 1: You guys met at a bar.

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Speaker 8: Oh my god, are you joking?

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Speaker 1: No?

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Speaker 8: No, yeah, she keeps texting me.

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Speaker 4: Yes, right, I can hear your confused. Can I tell

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Speaker 4: you what we know from what Jillian told us, because

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Speaker 4: she said, you guys met at the bar the other night,

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Speaker 4: you hit it off, ended up separating from your friend

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Speaker 4: group to just hang out one on one, and then

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Speaker 4: arranged a second meetup. Had it all planned out until

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Speaker 4: the day of she got this cryptic text from you

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Speaker 4: saying I'm on to you.

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Speaker 6: Yeah.

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Speaker 8: Wow, Okay, so she'd told you a lot.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, because I mean, honestly, she has no idea what

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Speaker 1: you're referring to in that text message.

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Speaker 8: Well, I can explain that that.

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Speaker 4: Would be great, because she just does not understand what happened,

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Speaker 4: if she did something wrong. We're just trying to give

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Speaker 5: We asked, are you in the middle of some awful dealings?

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Speaker 5: And she's like, I am not in the midst of evil,

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Speaker 5: so you know what I mean. So she has no

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Speaker 8: Okay. So the day of the next date, I went

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Speaker 8: the spartender recognizes me and he says, hey, are you

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Speaker 8: hanging out with Gillian again anytime soon?

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Speaker 1: Oh? They know her at the bar. Oh, like she's

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Speaker 8: Okay, well that's what I was thinking. So I say,

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Speaker 8: what's going on? How do you know her? And he

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Speaker 6: That's why she decided to go. From I'm staying home,

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Speaker 3: That's a compliment she said to you.

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Speaker 4: She mentioned that the night that she was going out

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Speaker 1: Why does that make you so upset?

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Speaker 8: Well, I'm just another cute guy at a bar to her.

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Speaker 8: And it's just kind of shady that she is talking

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Speaker 5: It's nice to be the cute guy, but now it's

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, exactly.

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Speaker 8: I didn't feel special at all and pretty weird to me.

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Speaker 1: Now you should feel special. You're on a radio show.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and she calls us every day though she's before ever.

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Speaker 4: Actually she specifically reached out so that we could get

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Speaker 7: Right, I guess.

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Speaker 8: I mean now you have your reason.

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Speaker 6: It does soe like she's like always on the other line.

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry, No, I'm not sorry.

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Speaker 7: When did ieme wrong? Listen? First of all, I do

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Speaker 6: Oh, she did mention that to us, Zach.

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Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, are you still there, Zach?

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Speaker 8: Yeah, I'm not sure what to believe anymore. I mean

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Speaker 3: This is all kind of shady, dude.

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Speaker 1: It would have been such a good pickup line to

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Speaker 6: To go for that?

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Speaker 7: Well it would Yeah, you're right, Maybe I'll just say it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, No, I asked for hot guys and they delivered you.

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Speaker 1: So tell us how that goes.

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Speaker 4: Not as romantic to a guy's year as you probably think.

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Speaker 1: Don't think anyone's will give a romance at a bar, Jeff.

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Speaker 1: They're just looking to talk.

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Speaker 4: More clearly, someone who is looking for romances, Zach. And

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Speaker 7: That is absolutely not accurate. I can see why he

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Speaker 4: And we do appreciate you coming forward, Jillian and actually

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Speaker 4: I've never done that. You told us you were going

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Speaker 1: Which Alexis is definitely picking up.

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Speaker 2: I think every bar should just start posting who's there

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Speaker 7: You should feel special. The bartender said, there were lots

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Speaker 1: Oh look at that stand out. You're a standout cutie, Zach.

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Speaker 8: It's the strange to pretend like it wasn't all set up.

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Speaker 4: Well, now that all the information is out there, can

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Speaker 1: I mean, if anything, Zach, it shows what a on

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Speaker 6: Yeah, she definitely.

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Speaker 1: Got her her life organized.

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Speaker 5: And if you guys start dating, She'll call the bar

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Speaker 9: That's a good point since I met you, so all right,

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Speaker 9: I mean, I'm willing to try again.

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Speaker 4: Okay, really wow, that was so heartfelt, Zach. I really

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Speaker 6: I wonder if this is like setting her up and

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Speaker 4: Up now, because if you actually agree to meet up

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Speaker 4: Feels like very like you're brushing us off.

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Speaker 6: Yes, in the room, can feel something weird.

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Speaker 2: I didn't expect big reactions from men anymore.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, Zach, be honest. It doesn't sound like you're actually

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Speaker 4: Okay, I mean, look now they're both ghosting each other

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Speaker 1: Tale is Freaking Jeffrey in the morning.

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Speaker 4: I swear, sometimes you can just tell when somebody isn't

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Speaker 4: But if someone's not into it, you don't want to

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Speaker 4: go along with it. Honey, will you marry me? Fine? No.

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Speaker 1: Does she give photos? I know more about it?

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Speaker 6: What does she get out of it? She get tipped more.

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Speaker 1: It's a guy. It was a guy bar.

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Speaker 6: It still is making.

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Speaker 1: He just gets somebody else to come to the bar.

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Speaker 1: Bars are always looking for more women.

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Speaker 4: All the bartenders out there. Make sure you text into

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Speaker 4: seven eight, five nine too when you have cute guys

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Speaker 4: and the Alexis knows where and when to.

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Speaker 6: Go, even if it's nine am.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, she'll be means to you.

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Speaker 4: If you need help with your dating life, email the show.

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Speaker 4: We'll call that person who's not calling you back and

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Speaker 4: go check out all of our second dates up where

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Speaker 4: our podcasts are at Brooke and

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Speaker 3: Jeffery, Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning,