1 00:00:00,440 --> 00:00:02,520 Speaker 1: Wake that ass up in the morning. 2 00:00:02,800 --> 00:00:07,360 Speaker 2: Breakfast Club Morning, everybody in the j n V. 3 00:00:07,600 --> 00:00:10,480 Speaker 3: Jess hilarious, Charlamagne the gud We are the breakfast Club. 4 00:00:10,680 --> 00:00:12,520 Speaker 4: We got a special guest in the belt because today 5 00:00:12,520 --> 00:00:16,279 Speaker 4: it's National co Parenting Day, So we had to bring 6 00:00:16,320 --> 00:00:19,000 Speaker 4: in a man who I feel like him and just 7 00:00:19,079 --> 00:00:21,880 Speaker 4: have one of the best co parenting relationships I've ever seen. 8 00:00:22,760 --> 00:00:25,840 Speaker 1: Room is here, Room is here. I got trouble already 9 00:00:26,200 --> 00:00:26,479 Speaker 1: use of you. 10 00:00:27,080 --> 00:00:28,080 Speaker 2: You got it already. 11 00:00:28,160 --> 00:00:30,400 Speaker 1: I got in trouble caause of you already. Wow, what happened? 12 00:00:30,680 --> 00:00:33,239 Speaker 3: Just say, I want to know who gave Room some 13 00:00:33,280 --> 00:00:35,880 Speaker 3: LIQUIDORPOI And I was like, I didn't give it to it. 14 00:00:36,000 --> 00:00:38,440 Speaker 1: I just told him where the ball was. Yes, help yourself, 15 00:00:38,440 --> 00:00:39,800 Speaker 1: help yourself, that's fine. 16 00:00:40,479 --> 00:00:42,360 Speaker 5: And you said it was You said it was apple juice. 17 00:00:43,080 --> 00:00:44,360 Speaker 5: And so I was about to take a step and 18 00:00:44,400 --> 00:00:44,639 Speaker 5: I was. 19 00:00:44,560 --> 00:00:47,159 Speaker 1: Like, was not you know one apple juice? I just 20 00:00:47,200 --> 00:00:50,040 Speaker 1: ain't thank you. Was gonna pick the cup up you and. 21 00:00:50,120 --> 00:00:53,200 Speaker 4: Just have the best co parenting situation I've ever witnessed. 22 00:00:53,200 --> 00:00:54,200 Speaker 4: How did y'all get to this point? 23 00:00:54,240 --> 00:00:54,400 Speaker 2: Brong? 24 00:00:54,480 --> 00:00:56,880 Speaker 1: And she thinks she my mother first and foremost, But 25 00:00:57,600 --> 00:01:02,560 Speaker 1: it took Tom it took tom. I felt like, when 26 00:01:02,600 --> 00:01:06,280 Speaker 1: you take the feelings out of it and you realize 27 00:01:06,319 --> 00:01:10,000 Speaker 1: that the child is the most important part of the relationship, 28 00:01:10,000 --> 00:01:11,920 Speaker 1: because it's still a realyship, whether you're intimate or not, 29 00:01:13,680 --> 00:01:17,559 Speaker 1: you can do magical things, magical things. And I think 30 00:01:17,640 --> 00:01:19,720 Speaker 1: that me being a dad that I was and that 31 00:01:19,760 --> 00:01:23,720 Speaker 1: I am still today, I wanted that. I felt like 32 00:01:23,720 --> 00:01:25,560 Speaker 1: if we wasn't gonna be together, it was no need 33 00:01:25,560 --> 00:01:30,480 Speaker 1: for us to beef. We've created over time. Whereas now 34 00:01:30,520 --> 00:01:33,200 Speaker 1: she's my best friend, She's my safe space. I feel like, 35 00:01:33,240 --> 00:01:35,760 Speaker 1: you know, I convent to her because sometimes all the 36 00:01:35,800 --> 00:01:39,080 Speaker 1: time I need it. But I feel like when I 37 00:01:39,120 --> 00:01:41,440 Speaker 1: was pouring into these other women, they would use it 38 00:01:41,440 --> 00:01:41,959 Speaker 1: against me. 39 00:01:42,360 --> 00:01:42,920 Speaker 6: M M. 40 00:01:43,040 --> 00:01:46,679 Speaker 1: Whereas though now and now that she's pregnant, I don't 41 00:01:46,720 --> 00:01:49,920 Speaker 1: really call it and say certain things because I know 42 00:01:49,960 --> 00:01:53,440 Speaker 1: she's going through certain things mentally now. So just as 43 00:01:53,480 --> 00:01:55,600 Speaker 1: always with my safe space though, so it's like she's 44 00:01:55,640 --> 00:01:57,680 Speaker 1: always been the person that I go to a call, 45 00:01:58,800 --> 00:02:01,920 Speaker 1: give me advice, some advice on take, but just to hear, 46 00:02:02,400 --> 00:02:03,960 Speaker 1: but just to hear her give it to you, just 47 00:02:03,960 --> 00:02:06,840 Speaker 1: to know that she care, because I don't really have nobody. 48 00:02:06,920 --> 00:02:08,360 Speaker 3: How did y'all, how did y'all meet how did you 49 00:02:08,400 --> 00:02:10,560 Speaker 3: meet Jess? And how did y'all start dating? 50 00:02:10,639 --> 00:02:11,079 Speaker 2: Back then? 51 00:02:11,280 --> 00:02:11,880 Speaker 1: What did you see it? 52 00:02:11,919 --> 00:02:13,280 Speaker 3: When it was like, oh, this is this is somebody 53 00:02:13,240 --> 00:02:14,840 Speaker 3: I want to know that. It's crazy because we grew 54 00:02:14,880 --> 00:02:16,440 Speaker 3: up on the smile. He's starting to smile. 55 00:02:17,120 --> 00:02:19,680 Speaker 1: Because we grew up in the same church. But we 56 00:02:19,720 --> 00:02:24,520 Speaker 1: didn't know. We didn't know my mom, my mom was alive, 57 00:02:24,560 --> 00:02:26,799 Speaker 1: my mom down. When I was ten, my mom was alive. 58 00:02:26,960 --> 00:02:29,040 Speaker 1: We went to the same church. My mom died. My 59 00:02:29,080 --> 00:02:32,480 Speaker 1: father like really took me away from everybody. So now 60 00:02:32,520 --> 00:02:36,600 Speaker 1: it was like fast forward with Mike seventeen. It's Facebook 61 00:02:36,919 --> 00:02:41,160 Speaker 1: and it's after my Space Facebook, and she came across 62 00:02:41,200 --> 00:02:44,600 Speaker 1: my timeline and I was like, okay, so I did 63 00:02:44,600 --> 00:02:47,960 Speaker 1: a dot dot dot and I put a basketball emoji. 64 00:02:48,720 --> 00:02:50,560 Speaker 2: You thought she was a w just. 65 00:02:50,440 --> 00:02:56,400 Speaker 1: Shut up play with you. She bid on it take okay. 66 00:02:56,639 --> 00:02:59,520 Speaker 1: She she was like what I forgot what she said, 67 00:02:59,520 --> 00:03:02,119 Speaker 1: but I was like, I was just I think. 68 00:03:02,120 --> 00:03:03,720 Speaker 2: I was like, I'm just coming to get my ball. 69 00:03:03,760 --> 00:03:04,960 Speaker 2: Coming to get was mine something? 70 00:03:05,000 --> 00:03:05,880 Speaker 6: I said, what is this? 71 00:03:06,080 --> 00:03:07,280 Speaker 2: And you want a basketball room? 72 00:03:07,320 --> 00:03:10,560 Speaker 1: I need to know I've seen it somewhere. Basketball No 73 00:03:10,680 --> 00:03:12,600 Speaker 1: I seen somebody do that, like. 74 00:03:12,639 --> 00:03:13,080 Speaker 2: I don't know what. 75 00:03:13,160 --> 00:03:20,760 Speaker 1: I've seen it basketball year, so I'm like, I don't know. 76 00:03:20,800 --> 00:03:23,200 Speaker 1: I did it because I thought it was it was corny, 77 00:03:23,240 --> 00:03:23,919 Speaker 1: but I thought. 78 00:03:23,680 --> 00:03:25,480 Speaker 2: It was you know, but it worked. It got our attention. 79 00:03:25,520 --> 00:03:27,160 Speaker 2: What do you think just when you saw the basketball? 80 00:03:27,440 --> 00:03:29,880 Speaker 5: I just I said, what the is this? I just 81 00:03:30,000 --> 00:03:32,680 Speaker 5: typed that back and like he said, it was my ball. 82 00:03:33,000 --> 00:03:35,760 Speaker 5: It's my ball and I'm coming to get I'm coming 83 00:03:35,800 --> 00:03:37,440 Speaker 5: to get it or something like I'm coming to get 84 00:03:37,440 --> 00:03:37,760 Speaker 5: with mine. 85 00:03:37,760 --> 00:03:40,920 Speaker 6: And I was like, okay, what's that. I knew what 86 00:03:40,960 --> 00:03:43,119 Speaker 6: I was giving, what it was about. 87 00:03:42,840 --> 00:03:43,960 Speaker 2: It, but it worked. 88 00:03:44,680 --> 00:03:45,000 Speaker 1: It worked. 89 00:03:45,040 --> 00:03:47,240 Speaker 3: So you started talking, where was your first date? What 90 00:03:47,360 --> 00:03:49,240 Speaker 3: was your first when you started first talking? What was 91 00:03:49,240 --> 00:03:52,920 Speaker 3: your honest? Man, Jasica did a lot. 92 00:03:53,720 --> 00:03:57,080 Speaker 1: I'm gonna say this before a lot of these young 93 00:03:57,120 --> 00:03:58,360 Speaker 1: guys became Jody. 94 00:03:58,440 --> 00:04:01,800 Speaker 2: I was Jody and. 95 00:04:05,120 --> 00:04:07,040 Speaker 1: That first date, big date. I'm gonna say it with 96 00:04:07,120 --> 00:04:11,440 Speaker 1: six flags, Okay, okaying, all right, big. 97 00:04:11,560 --> 00:04:14,520 Speaker 2: I never had a birth certificate that my mom died. 98 00:04:15,400 --> 00:04:15,920 Speaker 2: It was here. 99 00:04:16,640 --> 00:04:18,240 Speaker 1: My dad didn't want to come here to get it 100 00:04:18,279 --> 00:04:21,160 Speaker 1: in New York because he was born in I was 101 00:04:21,160 --> 00:04:23,760 Speaker 1: going to Staated Island. So my dad didn't want to 102 00:04:23,760 --> 00:04:25,240 Speaker 1: get it. So for a long time I just had 103 00:04:25,240 --> 00:04:27,839 Speaker 1: a college I D. I was driving on a college 104 00:04:27,839 --> 00:04:32,960 Speaker 1: I D. But Jessica, it was the simplest one to 105 00:04:33,040 --> 00:04:35,520 Speaker 1: let me drive with no ID. I met with no license, 106 00:04:35,760 --> 00:04:38,080 Speaker 1: you know, I was. I was responsible though, so I 107 00:04:38,160 --> 00:04:39,680 Speaker 1: used to work at the car wash. I used to 108 00:04:39,720 --> 00:04:44,400 Speaker 1: clean it, shine it up, jealumtizing old nine yards. But 109 00:04:44,480 --> 00:04:46,800 Speaker 1: our first date with six Flags that morning, I went 110 00:04:47,000 --> 00:04:49,600 Speaker 1: to get my permit before we left for six Flags. 111 00:04:49,640 --> 00:04:51,919 Speaker 1: But I felt I went in there on my high horses. 112 00:04:51,960 --> 00:04:56,640 Speaker 1: That's why I felt at first, big written flag. It 113 00:04:56,680 --> 00:05:01,200 Speaker 1: was written, but it was a computer written get written difficult. 114 00:05:01,520 --> 00:05:03,200 Speaker 1: I failed the one where it said put on your 115 00:05:03,240 --> 00:05:04,880 Speaker 1: high beings or your low beings when it's when it's 116 00:05:05,160 --> 00:05:06,960 Speaker 1: like when it's raining or something like that, or when 117 00:05:06,960 --> 00:05:08,240 Speaker 1: it's the ground most slippery. 118 00:05:08,440 --> 00:05:10,320 Speaker 2: Did you have shades on when you took No. 119 00:05:11,040 --> 00:05:13,840 Speaker 1: I ain't really wear shades like that. I did, But 120 00:05:13,880 --> 00:05:17,880 Speaker 1: there was another you know, yeah, but first big date, 121 00:05:17,920 --> 00:05:20,040 Speaker 1: six Flags. But before that we did a lot of 122 00:05:20,120 --> 00:05:22,320 Speaker 1: other things. But after that it was we did a 123 00:05:22,320 --> 00:05:26,599 Speaker 1: lot like she introduced me to a lot. Actually we 124 00:05:26,680 --> 00:05:29,560 Speaker 1: both was the same age, but she helped make me 125 00:05:29,600 --> 00:05:32,080 Speaker 1: become God, you're. 126 00:05:32,000 --> 00:05:36,680 Speaker 2: Becoming a man, coming to man and then yeah, then boom. 127 00:05:36,800 --> 00:05:40,039 Speaker 3: I just always says that you are you were overprotective, 128 00:05:40,080 --> 00:05:40,960 Speaker 3: make sure she was good. 129 00:05:41,440 --> 00:05:43,719 Speaker 1: But she always said you can't fight. Oh my god, 130 00:05:44,120 --> 00:05:44,920 Speaker 1: she never seen me fight. 131 00:05:47,040 --> 00:05:47,880 Speaker 2: We fought. 132 00:05:47,960 --> 00:05:49,440 Speaker 6: I got that from. 133 00:05:51,560 --> 00:05:53,000 Speaker 2: Of course I'm not going to fight her. 134 00:05:53,040 --> 00:05:55,159 Speaker 1: Bro Oh it's crazy because I just got a picture 135 00:05:56,920 --> 00:05:57,520 Speaker 1: from the window. 136 00:05:57,560 --> 00:06:02,880 Speaker 2: You bust the minds one window? Would I fish? What 137 00:06:02,880 --> 00:06:03,400 Speaker 2: what happened? 138 00:06:03,520 --> 00:06:04,680 Speaker 3: You can't be herd And if she could break a 139 00:06:04,720 --> 00:06:06,400 Speaker 3: window from a fist out when you're trying to fight, 140 00:06:06,600 --> 00:06:07,080 Speaker 3: what happened? 141 00:06:07,080 --> 00:06:07,240 Speaker 1: Wrong? 142 00:06:07,800 --> 00:06:14,719 Speaker 2: To take a sip thinking about that? What happened? All right? 143 00:06:14,880 --> 00:06:15,440 Speaker 2: I was just talking. 144 00:06:15,480 --> 00:06:17,599 Speaker 1: I was just in North Carolina this weekend. I was 145 00:06:17,640 --> 00:06:20,880 Speaker 1: just talking about this, like how my step brothers was 146 00:06:20,960 --> 00:06:24,280 Speaker 1: like corny and ship right my step like, Jessica pull up, 147 00:06:24,480 --> 00:06:28,600 Speaker 1: mindre ate together. Jasica pulls up. I had a girl 148 00:06:28,640 --> 00:06:31,320 Speaker 1: in the house. So my brother like he comes to 149 00:06:31,400 --> 00:06:34,120 Speaker 1: the top of the steps, like just at the door. 150 00:06:34,120 --> 00:06:35,160 Speaker 1: I'm like, all right, here I come. 151 00:06:36,720 --> 00:06:37,200 Speaker 2: The nigga. 152 00:06:37,240 --> 00:06:38,360 Speaker 1: Don't even wait for me to come. 153 00:06:38,680 --> 00:06:40,280 Speaker 2: He let her in. He let her in. Oh boy, 154 00:06:41,200 --> 00:06:43,279 Speaker 2: I walked right past him and his friends with the 155 00:06:43,320 --> 00:06:51,800 Speaker 2: girl Jessica get in steps. 156 00:06:49,080 --> 00:06:51,039 Speaker 6: That she wrote, but what did I see when I 157 00:06:51,040 --> 00:06:51,640 Speaker 6: walked down the steps? 158 00:06:51,720 --> 00:06:54,240 Speaker 2: Jerne, you didn't see? And then she tries to fassage 159 00:06:54,240 --> 00:06:54,680 Speaker 2: this story. 160 00:06:55,000 --> 00:07:00,080 Speaker 1: Ashton, I had a portable rocking bassing that we can 161 00:07:00,160 --> 00:07:02,000 Speaker 1: put it in the trunk, send it to her, bring 162 00:07:02,040 --> 00:07:04,719 Speaker 1: it back. Ashton was in a portable rocking joint. Me 163 00:07:04,760 --> 00:07:07,080 Speaker 1: and the girl was on on the bed. I had 164 00:07:07,120 --> 00:07:09,880 Speaker 1: on basketball short she had on her uniform pants. She 165 00:07:10,000 --> 00:07:12,480 Speaker 1: gonna say, she's been saying she was the middle of 166 00:07:12,520 --> 00:07:16,960 Speaker 1: CEO correct the military. 167 00:07:17,720 --> 00:07:18,680 Speaker 2: She's a correctional officer. 168 00:07:19,280 --> 00:07:22,040 Speaker 1: So like she's sitting she's facing me, but her legs 169 00:07:22,080 --> 00:07:24,200 Speaker 1: is like you know how that goes just to come 170 00:07:24,240 --> 00:07:25,640 Speaker 1: down and says she keeps. She gonna say, oh, we 171 00:07:25,640 --> 00:07:29,600 Speaker 1: was naked. We was not naked. Its been happening. I 172 00:07:29,640 --> 00:07:33,720 Speaker 1: don't get naked. And when she topped it up, oh 173 00:07:33,760 --> 00:07:36,600 Speaker 1: my gosh, she's never gonna tells anyway, she banged the girl. 174 00:07:36,920 --> 00:07:37,640 Speaker 2: You beat up the girl. 175 00:07:37,760 --> 00:07:39,680 Speaker 1: She didn't beat up bang popped us and I. 176 00:07:39,640 --> 00:07:40,360 Speaker 2: Picked up. 177 00:07:41,720 --> 00:07:43,360 Speaker 1: And walked up the stairs and through outside. 178 00:07:43,640 --> 00:07:44,480 Speaker 6: You could never lift me. 179 00:07:44,840 --> 00:07:47,720 Speaker 1: You never see what I'm saying, she never wants to 180 00:07:47,880 --> 00:07:49,520 Speaker 1: She never wants to admit the truth. 181 00:07:50,320 --> 00:07:51,880 Speaker 2: Couldn't fight. No, I ain't. 182 00:07:51,720 --> 00:07:54,720 Speaker 5: Know she could fight or not. But she d the 183 00:07:54,800 --> 00:07:57,800 Speaker 5: one time. And then she she put on her uniform 184 00:07:57,880 --> 00:07:59,880 Speaker 5: and went unless went upstairs. 185 00:08:00,240 --> 00:08:04,720 Speaker 2: Is truth, I promised you. I wish it was that that. 186 00:08:05,080 --> 00:08:08,240 Speaker 6: No, And my son was not in no portable nothing. 187 00:08:08,280 --> 00:08:10,320 Speaker 5: He was on the floor on a blanket and the 188 00:08:10,400 --> 00:08:12,840 Speaker 5: cat was looking at him like he wanted to eat him. 189 00:08:13,120 --> 00:08:19,000 Speaker 1: Yes, under the carpet. So I will never lay my 190 00:08:19,040 --> 00:08:20,200 Speaker 1: I wouldn't even lay on the floor. 191 00:08:21,360 --> 00:08:22,640 Speaker 6: So I was my son on the floor. 192 00:08:22,800 --> 00:08:24,640 Speaker 1: My son was in a portable bassinet. 193 00:08:25,160 --> 00:08:26,960 Speaker 2: Okay, y'all were arguing about this for eleven. 194 00:08:28,240 --> 00:08:30,320 Speaker 1: Never want to tell you she was drunk out of 195 00:08:30,360 --> 00:08:32,199 Speaker 1: her mind. And I'm trying to figure out I was 196 00:08:32,240 --> 00:08:33,080 Speaker 1: just getting off of work. 197 00:08:34,440 --> 00:08:37,880 Speaker 5: I didn't, damn you didn't just get off where he 198 00:08:37,960 --> 00:08:40,240 Speaker 5: was fired at that time. So I got fired right 199 00:08:40,280 --> 00:08:43,400 Speaker 5: after that. I was working at McDonald's. That's when I 200 00:08:43,440 --> 00:08:48,440 Speaker 5: was stealing this is and then if I was drinking, okay, 201 00:08:48,440 --> 00:08:49,880 Speaker 5: I was drinking on the job, but I was at work. 202 00:08:50,800 --> 00:08:52,920 Speaker 5: So and then I came to get my son and 203 00:08:53,040 --> 00:08:53,840 Speaker 5: it did not come. 204 00:08:53,800 --> 00:08:56,040 Speaker 1: Get your son, because it was my weekend. So what 205 00:08:56,160 --> 00:08:58,200 Speaker 1: I was getting until Monday from day kid, why would 206 00:08:58,200 --> 00:08:59,640 Speaker 1: you coming? No, he was coming to be nosy. 207 00:09:00,160 --> 00:09:00,920 Speaker 6: I didn't have to come to me. 208 00:09:01,640 --> 00:09:03,240 Speaker 2: You was looking for the passing your winter. 209 00:09:03,280 --> 00:09:04,160 Speaker 1: If you get. 210 00:09:05,920 --> 00:09:12,520 Speaker 2: She because go home. Eleven years you still years old? 211 00:09:12,559 --> 00:09:13,480 Speaker 1: Man, that's my god. 212 00:09:14,480 --> 00:09:15,200 Speaker 2: How did you break the women? 213 00:09:15,400 --> 00:09:18,199 Speaker 1: That was her hands and you walked out this? No, 214 00:09:18,880 --> 00:09:21,839 Speaker 1: I threw ass out. 215 00:09:21,679 --> 00:09:23,079 Speaker 6: Not that you was not that strong. 216 00:09:23,480 --> 00:09:23,880 Speaker 4: You did not. 217 00:09:24,040 --> 00:09:26,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean I had you and it was steps 218 00:09:27,800 --> 00:09:29,560 Speaker 1: jazz that right. 219 00:09:29,400 --> 00:09:32,000 Speaker 6: There had never ever eaten right now, could not do that. 220 00:09:32,320 --> 00:09:35,440 Speaker 6: You hit the window because I was just really really 221 00:09:35,720 --> 00:09:38,160 Speaker 6: because he wouldn't give me my son. She's give me 222 00:09:38,160 --> 00:09:38,480 Speaker 6: my son. 223 00:09:38,559 --> 00:09:40,840 Speaker 2: You called the police and say I didn't call the police. 224 00:09:40,920 --> 00:09:41,439 Speaker 6: Call the police. 225 00:09:41,559 --> 00:09:48,760 Speaker 1: Never called the police. Yeah, I didn't call the police. Pause, listen, everybody, 226 00:09:49,520 --> 00:09:53,000 Speaker 1: very everybody here this well, I'm from the jail. 227 00:09:52,840 --> 00:09:54,360 Speaker 6: Is right there, right around the corner. 228 00:09:54,440 --> 00:09:54,880 Speaker 1: You can walk. 229 00:09:54,880 --> 00:09:56,320 Speaker 2: It's two minutes the commotion. 230 00:09:56,360 --> 00:09:56,960 Speaker 6: He walked to us. 231 00:09:57,280 --> 00:09:59,680 Speaker 1: I don't know how they came. I thought my stepmother called, 232 00:09:59,679 --> 00:10:01,800 Speaker 1: my god mother call one. It was my step mother house, 233 00:10:01,800 --> 00:10:03,480 Speaker 1: my god mother house. Somebody called because I ain't call 234 00:10:03,520 --> 00:10:06,839 Speaker 1: the police. My phone was cracked because you cracked the 235 00:10:06,920 --> 00:10:09,319 Speaker 1: phone his phone, but he can still everybody in the 236 00:10:09,360 --> 00:10:10,079 Speaker 1: house had the phone. 237 00:10:10,280 --> 00:10:13,040 Speaker 5: He called my he called the police on me and 238 00:10:13,080 --> 00:10:16,480 Speaker 5: then going and then when the police came, I was 239 00:10:16,559 --> 00:10:17,400 Speaker 5: I just sat in my car. 240 00:10:17,480 --> 00:10:17,959 Speaker 6: I was mad. 241 00:10:18,040 --> 00:10:19,120 Speaker 5: I was like, no, I can't move here to get 242 00:10:19,120 --> 00:10:21,160 Speaker 5: my son. And Nicole did tell me your come on 243 00:10:21,240 --> 00:10:22,600 Speaker 5: this pull off. He's not giving you the baby. He'd 244 00:10:22,600 --> 00:10:24,480 Speaker 5: not giving you the baby. I was like, all right, cool, 245 00:10:24,520 --> 00:10:26,800 Speaker 5: but I was mad, so I didn't pull off. Police 246 00:10:26,840 --> 00:10:30,440 Speaker 5: paddy wagon pulled up and got out, and you was like, 247 00:10:30,679 --> 00:10:33,040 Speaker 5: she right there. 248 00:10:36,679 --> 00:10:38,240 Speaker 1: Was I trying to get you? How did I try 249 00:10:38,280 --> 00:10:39,920 Speaker 1: to get you locked up when I'm the same one 250 00:10:40,040 --> 00:10:42,200 Speaker 1: call trying to bail you out with no money. 251 00:10:42,760 --> 00:10:44,320 Speaker 6: I don't know why you ever thought you could build 252 00:10:44,320 --> 00:10:45,000 Speaker 6: somebody out with no mindy. 253 00:10:45,000 --> 00:10:49,199 Speaker 1: I ain't sleep that night, ChEI out. You have a 254 00:10:49,240 --> 00:10:51,520 Speaker 1: been you ever went through a woman phone? Of course? 255 00:10:52,200 --> 00:10:54,240 Speaker 1: Could you eat after that? Yes? 256 00:10:54,480 --> 00:10:57,319 Speaker 2: You could? Well I couldn't. I'm comparing that to you 257 00:10:57,360 --> 00:10:59,679 Speaker 2: when she went to jail. I couldn't eat. I couldn't sleep, 258 00:11:00,240 --> 00:11:01,920 Speaker 2: you know, and sick. I was sick. 259 00:11:02,360 --> 00:11:04,559 Speaker 1: I didn't I didn't want jail. Why the would I 260 00:11:04,559 --> 00:11:06,559 Speaker 1: call the police. So, how did you push the window? 261 00:11:06,600 --> 00:11:08,079 Speaker 1: That's what I had brought. 262 00:11:08,040 --> 00:11:08,640 Speaker 2: Up to it. 263 00:11:08,760 --> 00:11:12,400 Speaker 6: And then I just he had a. 264 00:11:12,320 --> 00:11:14,840 Speaker 1: Honda Honda call six. 265 00:11:15,120 --> 00:11:15,400 Speaker 2: No it was. 266 00:11:16,280 --> 00:11:17,240 Speaker 1: It was my first car and. 267 00:11:17,240 --> 00:11:18,760 Speaker 2: It just got ain't like it when I got it 268 00:11:19,320 --> 00:11:24,959 Speaker 2: because you're jealous. Now, that's what freedom. I had. 269 00:11:25,000 --> 00:11:27,280 Speaker 1: Freedom once I got it, right much. She couldn't call 270 00:11:27,320 --> 00:11:29,559 Speaker 1: me say bring me my car back, Jody right. 271 00:11:29,800 --> 00:11:33,480 Speaker 2: I never called you that. I never called you. She 272 00:11:33,520 --> 00:11:34,360 Speaker 2: took you to get the car. 273 00:11:34,640 --> 00:11:35,760 Speaker 6: I ain't never seen nobody. 274 00:11:35,559 --> 00:11:38,400 Speaker 1: When we when we when we got when I got 275 00:11:38,480 --> 00:11:38,840 Speaker 1: the car. 276 00:11:39,120 --> 00:11:42,120 Speaker 2: When I got in the car, she was like, I 277 00:11:42,160 --> 00:11:43,079 Speaker 2: don't like this ship. 278 00:11:43,160 --> 00:11:45,080 Speaker 6: I said, yeah, so this means you Redy really be 279 00:11:45,160 --> 00:11:45,720 Speaker 6: doing you. 280 00:11:45,800 --> 00:11:46,679 Speaker 2: Because she was doing you. 281 00:11:46,720 --> 00:11:48,960 Speaker 6: He would drop me off the work and go act 282 00:11:49,040 --> 00:11:49,800 Speaker 6: like he in class. 283 00:11:50,160 --> 00:11:53,160 Speaker 1: I was stud then I was there to beat for 284 00:11:53,240 --> 00:11:53,679 Speaker 1: my associates. 285 00:11:53,720 --> 00:11:54,120 Speaker 2: That's I did. 286 00:11:54,200 --> 00:11:55,440 Speaker 1: I went to class because that's why you got off 287 00:11:55,480 --> 00:11:57,199 Speaker 1: work two o'clock. You had to be to work six o'clock. 288 00:11:57,200 --> 00:11:58,920 Speaker 1: So I was getting up five am every morning. We 289 00:11:58,920 --> 00:12:00,640 Speaker 1: got to your work. You got to job by five 290 00:12:00,720 --> 00:12:04,120 Speaker 1: forty five. I got out of class at one thirty. 291 00:12:04,600 --> 00:12:07,520 Speaker 1: Did my homework for the fifteen minutes, came the cold Spring, 292 00:12:07,559 --> 00:12:09,040 Speaker 1: make Downalds and picked you up. Then we went home. 293 00:12:09,080 --> 00:12:11,080 Speaker 2: That was my routine. Money to Friday, won a lot 294 00:12:11,120 --> 00:12:15,080 Speaker 2: of things. But did you hurt your hand? No, it 295 00:12:15,120 --> 00:12:15,640 Speaker 2: didn't hurt. 296 00:12:15,559 --> 00:12:17,480 Speaker 6: Until I got in jail. I ain't gonna lie when 297 00:12:17,520 --> 00:12:19,240 Speaker 6: I got in jail, but it hurts. 298 00:12:19,360 --> 00:12:20,000 Speaker 2: She sobered up. 299 00:12:20,120 --> 00:12:22,600 Speaker 6: This is the crazy thing. I was not that drunk. 300 00:12:22,920 --> 00:12:25,600 Speaker 6: So then when I got to guess. 301 00:12:25,440 --> 00:12:26,320 Speaker 1: Who did my job? 302 00:12:26,760 --> 00:12:31,280 Speaker 5: Damn gotten no gas? Who did my intake? The damn girl. 303 00:12:31,040 --> 00:12:32,160 Speaker 6: Who was with him? 304 00:12:32,280 --> 00:12:33,199 Speaker 2: The one did you punched? 305 00:12:33,280 --> 00:12:35,520 Speaker 6: Yeap, yes she went. 306 00:12:35,640 --> 00:12:36,480 Speaker 2: She didn't do that. 307 00:12:37,280 --> 00:12:42,920 Speaker 6: Ye did the same girl that I popped. 308 00:12:42,960 --> 00:12:45,400 Speaker 5: Yeah, she did it, but she didn't say nothing because 309 00:12:45,440 --> 00:12:47,160 Speaker 5: she couldn't be caught up in nothing like that. 310 00:12:48,000 --> 00:12:48,439 Speaker 6: Got fired. 311 00:12:48,480 --> 00:12:51,559 Speaker 5: Yeah, I straight sold on her, like yeah, because I 312 00:12:51,640 --> 00:12:51,960 Speaker 5: was like. 313 00:12:51,880 --> 00:12:53,679 Speaker 1: So you talk absolutely seems like. 314 00:12:53,760 --> 00:12:54,920 Speaker 2: This is just a little wow. 315 00:12:55,480 --> 00:12:57,640 Speaker 5: How could you actually want to fuck with a nigga 316 00:12:57,640 --> 00:13:01,560 Speaker 5: who laid his baby and the cats. 317 00:13:01,160 --> 00:13:02,840 Speaker 1: On the on the carpet. 318 00:13:02,920 --> 00:13:06,120 Speaker 4: I ain't mad at that on that very much because 319 00:13:06,120 --> 00:13:07,520 Speaker 4: you don't know what she could have tried to do 320 00:13:07,600 --> 00:13:08,600 Speaker 4: to you in that situation. 321 00:13:08,720 --> 00:13:09,720 Speaker 2: So you gotta put everything on. 322 00:13:10,080 --> 00:13:12,640 Speaker 6: I was like, no, it was ghetto will be gotten, 323 00:13:12,720 --> 00:13:13,520 Speaker 6: and that's what it was. 324 00:13:13,840 --> 00:13:16,240 Speaker 4: So now when you hear this story and you say 325 00:13:16,240 --> 00:13:19,319 Speaker 4: to yourself, why they there on National co Parent Day 326 00:13:19,400 --> 00:13:21,839 Speaker 4: because they are like the best of friends. Now they 327 00:13:21,840 --> 00:13:23,800 Speaker 4: call each other, just calls you her brother, how do 328 00:13:23,800 --> 00:13:24,600 Speaker 4: you feel about that? 329 00:13:25,400 --> 00:13:26,320 Speaker 1: How did y'all get there? 330 00:13:26,360 --> 00:13:27,959 Speaker 2: Do you look at her like your sister created and 331 00:13:28,040 --> 00:13:28,959 Speaker 2: you said, mama. 332 00:13:29,240 --> 00:13:30,400 Speaker 6: I was gonna say what she said? 333 00:13:30,800 --> 00:13:33,000 Speaker 2: Created that like my mother, Like when we are the 334 00:13:33,000 --> 00:13:34,280 Speaker 2: town and she had like my mother. 335 00:13:34,559 --> 00:13:37,839 Speaker 1: I ain't gonna disclose too much, but she thinks she 336 00:13:37,920 --> 00:13:40,600 Speaker 1: my mother. No, I just know she likes to control, 337 00:13:41,160 --> 00:13:43,160 Speaker 1: like she know how I am though like me and alone. 338 00:13:43,640 --> 00:13:46,720 Speaker 1: I think part of that controlling Parut is like, don'kay, 339 00:13:47,120 --> 00:13:49,400 Speaker 1: brod be twenty of us. I don't want to be 340 00:13:49,480 --> 00:13:51,400 Speaker 1: with y'all. So guess what I'm gonna do? 341 00:13:51,400 --> 00:13:53,319 Speaker 5: And he can go out of town with these twenty 342 00:13:53,360 --> 00:13:55,400 Speaker 5: people and then be like all right, I'm like, no, 343 00:13:55,679 --> 00:13:56,160 Speaker 5: we could. 344 00:13:55,960 --> 00:13:56,679 Speaker 1: Be all on the sprinter. 345 00:13:56,800 --> 00:13:57,360 Speaker 6: What's going on? 346 00:13:57,520 --> 00:14:00,240 Speaker 1: No sprint or whatever state we go to. Bro, I'm 347 00:14:00,240 --> 00:14:03,160 Speaker 1: won't even gonna go with a rental or slingshot or 348 00:14:03,160 --> 00:14:06,320 Speaker 1: something better not be raining. But I think that that 349 00:14:06,320 --> 00:14:11,640 Speaker 1: controlling part comes into just because she cares. And sometimes 350 00:14:11,720 --> 00:14:15,439 Speaker 1: especially when I'm under the influence, I've done dumbass ship. 351 00:14:16,920 --> 00:14:19,880 Speaker 3: So as good as you know that, I don't know 352 00:14:19,920 --> 00:14:21,360 Speaker 3: if you heard just assist in the back. 353 00:14:23,080 --> 00:14:25,480 Speaker 1: Everybody like you know, everybody knows, but I hold myself 354 00:14:25,480 --> 00:14:27,440 Speaker 1: accountable to that mind you Now, I ain't gonna say 355 00:14:27,440 --> 00:14:28,800 Speaker 1: you I learned from woman sick because I did a 356 00:14:28,880 --> 00:14:29,400 Speaker 1: dumb ass. 357 00:14:29,240 --> 00:14:30,240 Speaker 2: Ship over and over again. 358 00:14:31,040 --> 00:14:33,240 Speaker 1: But I think in that aspect, that's when the mother, 359 00:14:33,800 --> 00:14:37,120 Speaker 1: the mother with the v coming, but the brother calling 360 00:14:37,200 --> 00:14:39,880 Speaker 1: me brother and sister were like, honestly without the child 361 00:14:40,000 --> 00:14:44,280 Speaker 1: like it it's there. It's it's seemed like Amazon cameras off, 362 00:14:44,440 --> 00:14:46,320 Speaker 1: like you can't fake this or make this ship up. 363 00:14:46,360 --> 00:14:49,560 Speaker 5: Oh yeah, Rome started that room started calling me sis first, 364 00:14:49,880 --> 00:14:52,400 Speaker 5: and then I started calling him bro. I you know, 365 00:14:52,800 --> 00:14:55,240 Speaker 5: I'm like, yeah, we do have like a sibling dynamic 366 00:14:55,360 --> 00:14:58,720 Speaker 5: in some way. You know, he's still confides in my mom. 367 00:14:59,000 --> 00:15:02,560 Speaker 5: He like my mom is our mother. Like it's not 368 00:15:03,280 --> 00:15:05,920 Speaker 5: it ain't nothing crazy, it's nothing intimate. Like seriously, I 369 00:15:06,040 --> 00:15:08,600 Speaker 5: always say this, people be like yeah, right, I can 370 00:15:08,760 --> 00:15:11,920 Speaker 5: literally walk past and I don't do this. But what 371 00:15:11,920 --> 00:15:14,240 Speaker 5: I'm saying, I can walk past this man NIGGD and 372 00:15:14,360 --> 00:15:16,520 Speaker 5: he does they be like, girl, what like put that out? 373 00:15:16,720 --> 00:15:18,200 Speaker 5: I'm talking about seriously, like. 374 00:15:18,880 --> 00:15:20,800 Speaker 1: How do y'all know each other's spouses or each other's 375 00:15:20,800 --> 00:15:22,720 Speaker 1: boyfriend and girlfriend? Like how do you deal with his girl? 376 00:15:23,280 --> 00:15:25,760 Speaker 2: And how do you deal with with you have seventeen 377 00:15:25,880 --> 00:15:26,520 Speaker 2: baby mamas? 378 00:15:27,640 --> 00:15:27,880 Speaker 1: Five? 379 00:15:28,200 --> 00:15:29,840 Speaker 2: Okay, I never told you he had. 380 00:15:29,920 --> 00:15:35,320 Speaker 1: Nobody always tried. It's cool. Though, it's cool, get five. 381 00:15:35,560 --> 00:15:38,520 Speaker 1: But this is this and now this was the friction 382 00:15:38,680 --> 00:15:40,360 Speaker 1: part and we got over that. But this the fri 383 00:15:40,440 --> 00:15:42,000 Speaker 1: The friction part was my mom my business. I don't 384 00:15:42,000 --> 00:15:46,280 Speaker 1: getting her ship, but the friction part was her getting 385 00:15:46,320 --> 00:15:49,800 Speaker 1: into minds. But she's still a woman. I'm still a man. 386 00:15:50,280 --> 00:15:52,040 Speaker 1: So women tend to do that. And this is not 387 00:15:53,160 --> 00:15:55,920 Speaker 1: no shame of women. I don't mean no disrespect by 388 00:15:56,000 --> 00:15:57,960 Speaker 1: saying it, but I think women tend to do that, 389 00:15:58,040 --> 00:15:59,280 Speaker 1: especially a woman that care about you. 390 00:16:00,240 --> 00:16:02,920 Speaker 3: She said, sometimes you make bad decisions and she's there 391 00:16:03,160 --> 00:16:04,560 Speaker 3: as your sister to make sure you're. 392 00:16:04,480 --> 00:16:09,160 Speaker 1: Good, regardless if it's life relationship or whatever. Correct she 393 00:16:09,200 --> 00:16:12,640 Speaker 1: said with me personally, I never really like I talk 394 00:16:12,720 --> 00:16:14,200 Speaker 1: to her about certain things, but I never really like 395 00:16:14,320 --> 00:16:18,160 Speaker 1: my family to get into no intimate situation. Yeah, because 396 00:16:18,160 --> 00:16:21,160 Speaker 1: guess what, y'all can feel a way about this person, however, 397 00:16:21,240 --> 00:16:23,840 Speaker 1: I'll want, whether it's negative of good. If I'm gonna 398 00:16:23,880 --> 00:16:25,360 Speaker 1: deal with this person, I'm gonna deal with her like 399 00:16:26,000 --> 00:16:28,280 Speaker 1: the female can smack shit out me yesterday. 400 00:16:28,760 --> 00:16:29,280 Speaker 6: Mm hmmm. 401 00:16:30,000 --> 00:16:32,840 Speaker 1: I might get over it and fucking them all. But 402 00:16:33,280 --> 00:16:35,360 Speaker 1: it's like, that's why I always That's how I was 403 00:16:35,440 --> 00:16:38,360 Speaker 1: always able to distinguish the two. Like when Jessica will 404 00:16:38,400 --> 00:16:40,560 Speaker 1: have men when she come to me, like, I don't know, 405 00:16:41,040 --> 00:16:43,440 Speaker 1: like I ain't never pillow talking or sneak dish or 406 00:16:43,480 --> 00:16:45,360 Speaker 1: nothing like I don't really care for Like it ain't 407 00:16:45,400 --> 00:16:47,920 Speaker 1: nothing a nigga have that I don't if you put 408 00:16:47,960 --> 00:16:49,200 Speaker 1: it in that sense. But when she comes to me 409 00:16:49,280 --> 00:16:51,800 Speaker 1: with a man, I tell her ain't right. 410 00:16:52,160 --> 00:16:53,800 Speaker 2: But both of y'all got to share, though, because you're 411 00:16:53,800 --> 00:16:55,080 Speaker 2: gonna want to know who around your son. 412 00:16:56,200 --> 00:16:58,400 Speaker 1: I never did though, Yeah, I never so in the 413 00:16:58,480 --> 00:17:00,440 Speaker 1: beginning stage. Yeah, don't have this nigga my summer. But 414 00:17:01,120 --> 00:17:03,320 Speaker 1: I grew out of that. So now it's I trust 415 00:17:03,360 --> 00:17:05,600 Speaker 1: my child mom enough to she won't bring no fans 416 00:17:05,840 --> 00:17:08,200 Speaker 1: sit around my child. So I don't say, oh, don't 417 00:17:08,200 --> 00:17:10,320 Speaker 1: have this nigga. That's never been a problem. It has 418 00:17:10,359 --> 00:17:15,040 Speaker 1: been a problem. Was motherfucker's envy me except for my 419 00:17:15,200 --> 00:17:18,240 Speaker 1: last dog. Yeah, my dogs. 420 00:17:19,400 --> 00:17:22,920 Speaker 2: Who's the dog? My dog? Chris, Chris, Chris, my dog. 421 00:17:23,000 --> 00:17:24,280 Speaker 1: I ain't gonna hold you. He I think he's the 422 00:17:24,560 --> 00:17:28,480 Speaker 1: I think like honestly, me and jess Man like, I 423 00:17:28,520 --> 00:17:31,680 Speaker 1: think it's been times where a woman didn't like me 424 00:17:31,760 --> 00:17:32,640 Speaker 1: and her situation. 425 00:17:33,280 --> 00:17:36,720 Speaker 5: But guess what, bye, yeah more so on and yeah, 426 00:17:36,760 --> 00:17:38,960 Speaker 5: it'll be more so on his end because it's much 427 00:17:39,080 --> 00:17:43,440 Speaker 5: more of them. But the thing is, the thing is, 428 00:17:43,640 --> 00:17:47,520 Speaker 5: like I don't like when because I even tell him 429 00:17:47,520 --> 00:17:50,159 Speaker 5: what he's going wrong to, Like, yo, don't cheat her 430 00:17:50,280 --> 00:17:50,440 Speaker 5: like that? 431 00:17:50,560 --> 00:17:53,200 Speaker 6: This is how how how you going to introduce me 432 00:17:53,240 --> 00:17:53,399 Speaker 6: to it? 433 00:17:53,480 --> 00:17:53,600 Speaker 2: Now? 434 00:17:53,920 --> 00:17:56,080 Speaker 5: Now I done got to know where you know, and 435 00:17:56,600 --> 00:17:58,159 Speaker 5: whether she had a kid or not. Most of the 436 00:17:58,200 --> 00:18:00,440 Speaker 5: time it's the ones that have the kids. But it's like, yo, 437 00:18:00,720 --> 00:18:04,840 Speaker 5: you gotta do right or just be single, Like, don't 438 00:18:04,960 --> 00:18:08,800 Speaker 5: keep hurting women in the process of trying to find 439 00:18:08,840 --> 00:18:10,280 Speaker 5: what you're looking for. I mean, I know that's all 440 00:18:10,320 --> 00:18:13,000 Speaker 5: a part of dating, but when you have kids, it's different, 441 00:18:13,119 --> 00:18:15,880 Speaker 5: you know, and then here be like, oh, that's why 442 00:18:15,880 --> 00:18:17,600 Speaker 5: I don't like you to be getting into it, you know, 443 00:18:17,760 --> 00:18:20,479 Speaker 5: And then I don't like he he attracts a lot 444 00:18:20,480 --> 00:18:23,840 Speaker 5: of toxic women to like abusive relationships where women will 445 00:18:23,880 --> 00:18:24,760 Speaker 5: put their hands on them. 446 00:18:24,760 --> 00:18:27,560 Speaker 6: I'm like, what, all right, you know? But he don't. 447 00:18:28,320 --> 00:18:30,600 Speaker 5: He's like, no, but I might be fucking with it 448 00:18:30,680 --> 00:18:33,080 Speaker 5: them all what she just blacks your eye? 449 00:18:33,119 --> 00:18:33,840 Speaker 6: What are you talking about? 450 00:18:33,960 --> 00:18:35,760 Speaker 5: You know what I'm saying, like, no, we're not doing it. 451 00:18:35,880 --> 00:18:41,440 Speaker 5: But okay, well she busts your nose whatever. Women have 452 00:18:41,600 --> 00:18:42,520 Speaker 5: put their hands. 453 00:18:42,320 --> 00:18:46,320 Speaker 1: On you, and that's why, and that's why she's my dog, 454 00:18:46,520 --> 00:18:49,280 Speaker 1: Like I think she's the only one, really honestly, the 455 00:18:49,400 --> 00:18:52,680 Speaker 1: one to get the fuck under my skin. Like it's 456 00:18:52,680 --> 00:18:54,679 Speaker 1: a certain word place she used and I don't care 457 00:18:54,760 --> 00:18:57,879 Speaker 1: what tone she used it in, but to say that, 458 00:18:59,320 --> 00:19:02,160 Speaker 1: it's like I was really never taught how to love 459 00:19:03,359 --> 00:19:05,440 Speaker 1: like fem I lost my mom at ten years old. 460 00:19:05,520 --> 00:19:08,879 Speaker 1: My heart, I'm moving my dad, and when I move 461 00:19:08,920 --> 00:19:10,600 Speaker 1: with my dad, my dad move my dad and my 462 00:19:10,640 --> 00:19:12,760 Speaker 1: step mom, which is my mom. Now me and my 463 00:19:12,800 --> 00:19:14,800 Speaker 1: mom have a great relationship. That's my step mom and 464 00:19:16,280 --> 00:19:21,960 Speaker 1: my dad was married, but my dad was cheating, like saying, 465 00:19:22,440 --> 00:19:26,000 Speaker 1: like my dad, my dad showing me ship that all right, 466 00:19:26,840 --> 00:19:30,520 Speaker 1: I'm thinking cool. So like when even when I started 467 00:19:30,880 --> 00:19:32,960 Speaker 1: dealing with women and stuff like that, multiple women and. 468 00:19:32,920 --> 00:19:36,119 Speaker 2: All that, my dad was like, yeah, so absolutely. 469 00:19:36,720 --> 00:19:40,560 Speaker 1: And I'm thinking it's cool because that's that's That's what 470 00:19:40,600 --> 00:19:42,560 Speaker 1: I'm saying from being taught like and every man in 471 00:19:42,640 --> 00:19:45,280 Speaker 1: my life that I looked at as a role model 472 00:19:45,320 --> 00:19:50,560 Speaker 1: to me was the same way. So it's like what 473 00:19:50,720 --> 00:19:53,200 Speaker 1: you expect. But the good thing is now it's like 474 00:19:53,560 --> 00:19:55,639 Speaker 1: I'm old enough now in mind you I ain't perfect. 475 00:19:55,680 --> 00:19:56,800 Speaker 1: Now I'm seeing it. 476 00:19:57,280 --> 00:19:59,840 Speaker 2: I'm trying to, you know, change it. 477 00:20:00,400 --> 00:20:02,639 Speaker 1: But I never was taught to love properly, so and 478 00:20:02,800 --> 00:20:04,840 Speaker 1: I never my trust issues is fucked up from my dad, 479 00:20:05,040 --> 00:20:08,800 Speaker 1: Like brought my trust issues fighting met her because I'm 480 00:20:08,840 --> 00:20:11,560 Speaker 1: saying what he's doing, but I'm saying when it's done 481 00:20:11,600 --> 00:20:14,239 Speaker 1: to him, his reactions like damn, my nigga, you were 482 00:20:14,320 --> 00:20:17,480 Speaker 1: just doing this? How you gonna get mad? Right? So 483 00:20:17,680 --> 00:20:21,199 Speaker 1: it's like every relationship I've went into. I had an 484 00:20:21,200 --> 00:20:23,680 Speaker 1: exploration date me, I put an X ray on myself. 485 00:20:23,720 --> 00:20:25,119 Speaker 1: I said, she's gonna get, she gonna get get what 486 00:20:25,160 --> 00:20:25,800 Speaker 1: I'm getting I'm gone. 487 00:20:26,320 --> 00:20:26,639 Speaker 2: M hm. 488 00:20:27,560 --> 00:20:32,280 Speaker 1: So I never really gave a woman the what's the 489 00:20:32,320 --> 00:20:34,640 Speaker 1: word I'm looking for. I never really gave a woman commitment, 490 00:20:35,400 --> 00:20:37,159 Speaker 1: not even commitment, but I've never gave the woman a 491 00:20:37,280 --> 00:20:39,320 Speaker 1: chance to really love me. But even with the kids, 492 00:20:39,359 --> 00:20:42,800 Speaker 1: like even having kids, No, I haven't. And this is 493 00:20:42,880 --> 00:20:45,040 Speaker 1: like I said, no distress to my children moms. A 494 00:20:45,160 --> 00:20:48,399 Speaker 1: lot of my my children came out of vulnerability. M 495 00:20:49,040 --> 00:20:51,600 Speaker 1: explain found on that and i'ma explaining that. So I 496 00:20:51,640 --> 00:20:55,160 Speaker 1: will meet a woman who I may feel like she's 497 00:20:55,240 --> 00:20:57,880 Speaker 1: what I need, another safe place or whatever the case 498 00:20:57,920 --> 00:21:00,000 Speaker 1: may be. But I'm already vulnerable from a previous relationship, 499 00:21:01,080 --> 00:21:03,760 Speaker 1: have a child, knowing I don't want to be with 500 00:21:03,840 --> 00:21:07,960 Speaker 1: this woman. I don't want to. I don't I really 501 00:21:07,960 --> 00:21:09,320 Speaker 1: don't want to be with her, but I feel like 502 00:21:09,359 --> 00:21:11,160 Speaker 1: I'm forced to be with her because of a child. 503 00:21:11,880 --> 00:21:12,280 Speaker 2: Mhmm. 504 00:21:12,920 --> 00:21:15,960 Speaker 1: And I've done that. 505 00:21:18,680 --> 00:21:22,600 Speaker 2: You know multiple times you needed a therapist, not another baby, Mama, 506 00:21:22,680 --> 00:21:24,320 Speaker 2: I need correct but. 507 00:21:24,600 --> 00:21:27,040 Speaker 1: At the time of need, at the time of vulnerability. 508 00:21:27,640 --> 00:21:30,080 Speaker 1: You know women, you know women, women can they be 509 00:21:30,160 --> 00:21:30,639 Speaker 1: masked up? 510 00:21:32,760 --> 00:21:35,560 Speaker 5: And also you know, just on an accountability part, which 511 00:21:35,560 --> 00:21:38,320 Speaker 5: he has taken over his recent years, is like you 512 00:21:39,000 --> 00:21:43,119 Speaker 5: was looking for like your mom and women, and you 513 00:21:43,200 --> 00:21:45,560 Speaker 5: would never get that, you know what I'm saying, because 514 00:21:45,640 --> 00:21:49,600 Speaker 5: you was trying to look for an emotional connection with 515 00:21:50,040 --> 00:21:53,760 Speaker 5: with you know, nurturing also and then like you was 516 00:21:53,880 --> 00:21:57,040 Speaker 5: really really search searching for Keisha, keisha'ss mother, You were 517 00:21:57,080 --> 00:22:00,920 Speaker 5: really searching for her and women. You know, that's a 518 00:22:00,960 --> 00:22:01,640 Speaker 5: different type. 519 00:22:01,440 --> 00:22:02,239 Speaker 6: Of love, you know what I mean. 520 00:22:02,600 --> 00:22:05,880 Speaker 1: I think different women always dealt with different women because 521 00:22:05,880 --> 00:22:07,159 Speaker 1: different women had certain. 522 00:22:09,400 --> 00:22:11,639 Speaker 2: What is it, certain things, certain aspects of. 523 00:22:11,680 --> 00:22:14,359 Speaker 1: Her, aspects of it. But like I never knew how 524 00:22:14,400 --> 00:22:17,600 Speaker 1: to be alone, bro, Like I would be single and 525 00:22:17,760 --> 00:22:21,760 Speaker 1: my own apartment and all that and let it go 526 00:22:21,960 --> 00:22:25,000 Speaker 1: and go move with a woman because I never knew. 527 00:22:25,160 --> 00:22:27,360 Speaker 1: Really I don't know how to I don't like being 528 00:22:27,400 --> 00:22:30,000 Speaker 1: lonely like so it's like a lot of the times 529 00:22:30,000 --> 00:22:32,760 Speaker 1: when I say this ship is real, like I don't 530 00:22:32,760 --> 00:22:34,119 Speaker 1: know if a lot of other men like me. But 531 00:22:34,200 --> 00:22:36,119 Speaker 1: when being lonely, bro, you go through s. She I 532 00:22:36,119 --> 00:22:37,520 Speaker 1: don't give how much money you got, I don't care 533 00:22:37,520 --> 00:22:39,880 Speaker 1: about none of that. But like I never really knew 534 00:22:39,880 --> 00:22:42,840 Speaker 1: how to be alone, Like I feel like I gotta 535 00:22:42,880 --> 00:22:45,560 Speaker 1: have somebody laying next to me because even before my 536 00:22:45,600 --> 00:22:48,200 Speaker 1: mom died. My mom was sleepnked. This is a back 537 00:22:48,240 --> 00:22:48,600 Speaker 1: then thing. 538 00:22:48,720 --> 00:22:49,399 Speaker 2: How old were you with you? 539 00:22:50,400 --> 00:22:51,640 Speaker 1: I was ten, but I was a mommy's boy. 540 00:22:51,800 --> 00:22:55,880 Speaker 2: Did you ever did you ever really properly so grieving? 541 00:22:56,920 --> 00:22:56,960 Speaker 4: No? 542 00:22:57,359 --> 00:22:59,440 Speaker 1: I never really grieved. All I did was I thought 543 00:22:59,480 --> 00:23:01,320 Speaker 1: it was gonna help by going to school for social work, 544 00:23:01,760 --> 00:23:04,919 Speaker 1: because that's what she was. But I never really probably 545 00:23:04,920 --> 00:23:06,320 Speaker 1: a grieved and that's a that's a process. 546 00:23:06,400 --> 00:23:06,520 Speaker 4: Now. 547 00:23:06,640 --> 00:23:08,480 Speaker 1: I do want to get, you know, back in the gym. 548 00:23:08,800 --> 00:23:10,040 Speaker 1: I do want to get a therapist, but I don't 549 00:23:10,040 --> 00:23:12,520 Speaker 1: want everything else around me to be intact so that 550 00:23:12,560 --> 00:23:15,360 Speaker 1: I could fully commit, because if I ain't fully committed, 551 00:23:15,680 --> 00:23:16,560 Speaker 1: it ain't gonna work. 552 00:23:16,840 --> 00:23:19,560 Speaker 6: And then as I also feel like your your dad 553 00:23:19,640 --> 00:23:21,800 Speaker 6: didn't get you any tape my. 554 00:23:21,840 --> 00:23:24,159 Speaker 1: Dad honestly, I felt like me personally, And this is 555 00:23:24,160 --> 00:23:25,959 Speaker 1: probably the first time I said this, like I did. 556 00:23:26,400 --> 00:23:28,480 Speaker 1: I think my father really wanted me for a check 557 00:23:30,560 --> 00:23:34,680 Speaker 1: and exactly what I said, like the money and lied 558 00:23:34,720 --> 00:23:36,680 Speaker 1: to me for so long. I lost a scholarship because 559 00:23:36,680 --> 00:23:40,640 Speaker 1: of my dad because at the time, where I wanted 560 00:23:40,640 --> 00:23:42,399 Speaker 1: to go, I wanted to get away from them, so 561 00:23:42,560 --> 00:23:45,120 Speaker 1: I had I had a couple of scholarships. I had 562 00:23:45,160 --> 00:23:47,800 Speaker 1: like over thirty acceptances. I got to accept it to 563 00:23:47,880 --> 00:23:49,879 Speaker 1: a school in Florida. 564 00:23:50,280 --> 00:23:52,119 Speaker 6: I think, isn't did your mom leave you money or. 565 00:23:52,200 --> 00:23:52,639 Speaker 2: Yeah my mom? 566 00:23:52,760 --> 00:23:55,320 Speaker 1: Yeah, my mom, So my mom left mine. The government 567 00:23:55,359 --> 00:23:57,840 Speaker 1: gave you a job, my mom, My mom left money. 568 00:23:57,880 --> 00:23:59,879 Speaker 1: My mom was getting money and you know, social Security. 569 00:24:00,240 --> 00:24:02,399 Speaker 1: So it was like my dad was making bank like 570 00:24:02,480 --> 00:24:04,400 Speaker 1: I did that. I ain't even say the calculations. Calculations 571 00:24:04,520 --> 00:24:06,359 Speaker 1: is crazy. What's your relationship with your dad now? 572 00:24:06,400 --> 00:24:07,280 Speaker 2: Is be okay? 573 00:24:07,800 --> 00:24:12,159 Speaker 1: You know, be all right? He you know, he's still 574 00:24:12,280 --> 00:24:15,160 Speaker 1: living with that regret, and I feel like that's why 575 00:24:15,240 --> 00:24:19,280 Speaker 1: we can't really get there. But yeah, like I feel like. 576 00:24:19,400 --> 00:24:22,200 Speaker 2: My dad wanted me for a check man moved a scholarship. 577 00:24:22,880 --> 00:24:27,240 Speaker 1: I lovet scholarship. I lost a scholarship because August, like 578 00:24:27,320 --> 00:24:29,000 Speaker 1: twov she's full school was supposed to start. 579 00:24:29,240 --> 00:24:29,879 Speaker 2: I had got it. 580 00:24:30,440 --> 00:24:32,560 Speaker 1: I was leaving like my mom's side. They bought all 581 00:24:32,600 --> 00:24:34,960 Speaker 1: my dorm stuff and all of that. All my life, 582 00:24:35,000 --> 00:24:37,600 Speaker 1: my father always said, yeah, when you get eighteen, you're 583 00:24:37,600 --> 00:24:39,119 Speaker 1: gonna have money. You can go get your car, you 584 00:24:39,160 --> 00:24:40,520 Speaker 1: can go do what you want, you go to school, 585 00:24:40,520 --> 00:24:42,240 Speaker 1: whatever the case. Me to be all right, cool, I 586 00:24:42,320 --> 00:24:46,680 Speaker 1: get eighteen, I graduate. It's nothing there, I asked my father. 587 00:24:46,760 --> 00:24:48,960 Speaker 1: I'm like, well, there's still no answer to the father 588 00:24:49,080 --> 00:24:51,840 Speaker 1: never even answered, so I know I got a scholarship. 589 00:24:51,840 --> 00:24:54,960 Speaker 1: I had a partial scholarship, So a partial scholarship with 590 00:24:55,160 --> 00:24:57,960 Speaker 1: the you're paying the school and on and room and 591 00:24:58,040 --> 00:25:01,520 Speaker 1: board that's at the school I was going through. That 592 00:25:01,600 --> 00:25:05,280 Speaker 1: was about sixteen seventeen thousand semester. I had like a 593 00:25:05,400 --> 00:25:08,520 Speaker 1: forty two thousand dollars partial joint. So my dad was 594 00:25:08,520 --> 00:25:11,320 Speaker 1: always saying, all right, I got the rest. I got 595 00:25:11,359 --> 00:25:13,919 Speaker 1: the rest. So two weeks before I was supposed to leave, 596 00:25:13,960 --> 00:25:15,640 Speaker 1: So a month before I supposed to be, my family 597 00:25:15,720 --> 00:25:17,920 Speaker 1: got all my door and stuff. A week before I 598 00:25:17,920 --> 00:25:19,480 Speaker 1: was supposed to leave, my father called me up to 599 00:25:19,520 --> 00:25:22,760 Speaker 1: the room and he like, I didn't even say what 600 00:25:22,800 --> 00:25:24,840 Speaker 1: he said. I'm like, he like, you can't go to school. 601 00:25:25,480 --> 00:25:28,600 Speaker 1: I'm like, why not, Like nigga, I'm an age student, 602 00:25:29,320 --> 00:25:31,600 Speaker 1: like I work hard for it. I was an athlete. 603 00:25:31,640 --> 00:25:33,919 Speaker 1: I was a student. I ain't getting no office from 604 00:25:34,000 --> 00:25:36,840 Speaker 1: basketball my junior senior year. So I gave up and said, 605 00:25:36,840 --> 00:25:38,639 Speaker 1: fuck it, I'm gonna fall back on my grades. You 606 00:25:38,760 --> 00:25:42,200 Speaker 1: always said I had the money. The money wasn't there. 607 00:25:42,960 --> 00:25:46,119 Speaker 1: He spent it all. And you know, we turned eighteen, 608 00:25:46,720 --> 00:25:50,160 Speaker 1: like seventeen and a half, it stopped coming. But even 609 00:25:50,480 --> 00:25:52,920 Speaker 1: even if it come again, when I'm eighteen, that's one check, 610 00:25:53,480 --> 00:25:56,760 Speaker 1: all the rest gone. And my stepmother used to always 611 00:25:56,760 --> 00:25:58,320 Speaker 1: tell him, my step and I love my stepmother for this, 612 00:25:58,359 --> 00:25:59,960 Speaker 1: and I wish I'd known this when I was younger. 613 00:26:00,520 --> 00:26:02,200 Speaker 1: But my stepmother used to always tell them put that 614 00:26:02,280 --> 00:26:05,680 Speaker 1: money up. But she never came to me because she 615 00:26:05,680 --> 00:26:07,920 Speaker 1: didn't want to overstep the boundaries of her husband. And 616 00:26:08,000 --> 00:26:10,119 Speaker 1: I understood it. But now that I'm grown and we 617 00:26:10,240 --> 00:26:13,080 Speaker 1: have conversations now, it's like I understood it because my 618 00:26:13,160 --> 00:26:16,960 Speaker 1: father always tried to make people hate me. I hated 619 00:26:17,000 --> 00:26:18,720 Speaker 1: my step Yeah, I hated my step mother growing up, 620 00:26:18,800 --> 00:26:21,560 Speaker 1: but it was never heard. It was him. Lights ain't 621 00:26:21,600 --> 00:26:23,680 Speaker 1: get cut off. We had Christmases because of my stepmam. 622 00:26:24,080 --> 00:26:26,399 Speaker 1: My dudes got paid. My senior du I'm talking abu 623 00:26:26,400 --> 00:26:28,040 Speaker 1: middle school dudes, Mi bro, you' getting money for me. 624 00:26:28,119 --> 00:26:30,120 Speaker 1: My middle school dues, my stepmother paid them. My step 625 00:26:30,200 --> 00:26:31,320 Speaker 1: mother and my teachers paid them. 626 00:26:31,560 --> 00:26:31,800 Speaker 2: Wow. 627 00:26:32,480 --> 00:26:34,760 Speaker 1: High school dues, my stepmother paid them. And my friends. 628 00:26:34,760 --> 00:26:37,200 Speaker 1: I got two friends thead Mother's paid all that, so 629 00:26:37,320 --> 00:26:38,920 Speaker 1: it was like my dad really crushed me. Man. I 630 00:26:38,960 --> 00:26:40,679 Speaker 1: told my dad a couple of weeks ago. Man I said, bro, 631 00:26:40,760 --> 00:26:42,200 Speaker 1: you hate me, not literally saying you hate me, but 632 00:26:42,240 --> 00:26:43,720 Speaker 1: you hate me so much because I got you. I 633 00:26:43,800 --> 00:26:44,480 Speaker 1: caught your ways. 634 00:26:44,960 --> 00:26:45,439 Speaker 2: I said, what the. 635 00:26:45,400 --> 00:26:47,080 Speaker 1: Difference between me and I'm young and I'm chaying I'm 636 00:26:47,080 --> 00:26:49,720 Speaker 1: gonna change them. You're twenty years older than me, You're 637 00:26:49,960 --> 00:26:50,760 Speaker 1: still doing. 638 00:26:50,600 --> 00:26:53,000 Speaker 2: The same thing. You want to break those cycles. 639 00:26:52,760 --> 00:26:54,720 Speaker 1: And I want to. It's not even me breaking a cycle, bro, 640 00:26:54,760 --> 00:26:57,200 Speaker 1: I just I don't like being like this, Like I 641 00:26:57,280 --> 00:27:00,320 Speaker 1: don't like hurting people. I don't like hurting women, don't 642 00:27:00,400 --> 00:27:02,200 Speaker 1: like I never really heard. I'm so loyal to my 643 00:27:02,320 --> 00:27:05,520 Speaker 1: friends that any little disloyal thing they do to me, 644 00:27:05,600 --> 00:27:08,720 Speaker 1: they cut off. So it's like the shit be hurting man, 645 00:27:08,760 --> 00:27:10,840 Speaker 1: And it's like, damn, I already had nobody. So then 646 00:27:10,840 --> 00:27:13,800 Speaker 1: when I got a child, mom, I cherish it. I 647 00:27:13,880 --> 00:27:16,840 Speaker 1: tell how trash the really ones you love, the really 648 00:27:16,880 --> 00:27:18,800 Speaker 1: ones that's genuinely there for you, the ones that you 649 00:27:18,840 --> 00:27:20,200 Speaker 1: ain't got to do nothing for them, And I really 650 00:27:20,320 --> 00:27:21,880 Speaker 1: love you because guess what, at the end of the day, 651 00:27:21,880 --> 00:27:25,600 Speaker 1: when shit goes if shit go bad, they're gonna be 652 00:27:25,600 --> 00:27:26,440 Speaker 1: the one you came on. 653 00:27:26,680 --> 00:27:28,239 Speaker 4: You know, there's this thing when when you start going 654 00:27:28,240 --> 00:27:29,920 Speaker 4: to therapy you'll hear about. It's this thing called the 655 00:27:30,040 --> 00:27:32,840 Speaker 4: mother womb, and it's a type of attachment trauma that 656 00:27:32,960 --> 00:27:38,040 Speaker 4: instills deeply rooted beliefs that make the child feel unloved, abandoned, 657 00:27:38,200 --> 00:27:41,000 Speaker 4: unworthy of care, and numb to their feelings. 658 00:27:41,800 --> 00:27:45,080 Speaker 1: That is that feel like you mass low loss, mass 659 00:27:45,119 --> 00:27:47,879 Speaker 1: low loss. It's done you as a child, will affect 660 00:27:47,920 --> 00:27:49,480 Speaker 1: you as an adult, but it will not define you. 661 00:27:49,760 --> 00:27:50,119 Speaker 2: That's right. 662 00:27:50,920 --> 00:27:53,919 Speaker 1: So it's like it's crazy because going to schools, like, man, 663 00:27:53,960 --> 00:27:56,760 Speaker 1: you're reading this sh I'm like, man, it's me. It's me, 664 00:27:57,040 --> 00:27:58,720 Speaker 1: Like you know, I'm thinking of my own therapists. But 665 00:27:58,800 --> 00:28:00,800 Speaker 1: you know, every therapist need a therapist, and that's how 666 00:28:00,800 --> 00:28:04,879 Speaker 1: they that's how they able to be effective. So it's like, man, like, no, 667 00:28:04,960 --> 00:28:07,280 Speaker 1: I've been through I ain't have a bad upbringing, but 668 00:28:07,320 --> 00:28:10,840 Speaker 1: I've been through some traumatic situations, man, and you know, 669 00:28:10,960 --> 00:28:13,560 Speaker 1: like I ain't. They ain't gonna define me like them 670 00:28:13,600 --> 00:28:16,000 Speaker 1: babies and mom Man, I love them babies. I feel 671 00:28:16,000 --> 00:28:17,800 Speaker 1: like if it were't for my babies, I'd have crashed. 672 00:28:17,520 --> 00:28:19,400 Speaker 2: Out long time ago, long time ago. 673 00:28:19,560 --> 00:28:21,040 Speaker 1: And that's what I said. I got them babies, and 674 00:28:21,160 --> 00:28:22,359 Speaker 1: out of all my truck I got, I got I 675 00:28:22,440 --> 00:28:25,720 Speaker 1: got two children moms like that. My last one, you know, 676 00:28:25,920 --> 00:28:28,600 Speaker 1: she she made no harm by certain things, but I 677 00:28:28,680 --> 00:28:30,680 Speaker 1: got that one, and I got this one to my left, 678 00:28:30,720 --> 00:28:33,480 Speaker 1: man my dog. And it's like she give me hope 679 00:28:33,520 --> 00:28:35,120 Speaker 1: every day. She don't even know it, like even when 680 00:28:35,600 --> 00:28:37,159 Speaker 1: you know, we might not even argue, but like it 681 00:28:37,240 --> 00:28:39,600 Speaker 1: be days I wake up, she's doing you all right? 682 00:28:39,680 --> 00:28:42,560 Speaker 1: How you feeling, just because I know that she needed 683 00:28:43,200 --> 00:28:46,640 Speaker 1: like when you when you when you the the shoulders 684 00:28:46,840 --> 00:28:49,680 Speaker 1: in the head of families or communities, bro. Like it's 685 00:28:49,720 --> 00:28:52,360 Speaker 1: a lot, you know, honestly, I think them people need 686 00:28:52,440 --> 00:28:54,480 Speaker 1: it the most. So I give her her flowers every 687 00:28:54,520 --> 00:28:57,400 Speaker 1: day and I feel like man like without a yeah. 688 00:28:57,760 --> 00:28:58,680 Speaker 2: I think you're on the right back. 689 00:28:58,840 --> 00:29:01,040 Speaker 4: You know, they stay healing the mother when first starts 690 00:29:01,080 --> 00:29:04,400 Speaker 4: with acknowledging the pain and then seeking professional help. What 691 00:29:04,520 --> 00:29:08,200 Speaker 4: you want to do, cultivating healthy relationships, what y'all have done, 692 00:29:08,440 --> 00:29:11,040 Speaker 4: and you're focusing on self care personal growth. Yes, right, 693 00:29:11,240 --> 00:29:12,520 Speaker 4: you're definitely on the right path. 694 00:29:12,600 --> 00:29:14,840 Speaker 1: Just won't get that mass time take time, you know, 695 00:29:15,040 --> 00:29:15,840 Speaker 1: but it'll be there. 696 00:29:16,240 --> 00:29:19,000 Speaker 4: How did y'all that's the most imant thing, that the 697 00:29:19,000 --> 00:29:20,400 Speaker 4: most I won't say most important, one of the most 698 00:29:20,400 --> 00:29:20,880 Speaker 4: important things. 699 00:29:20,920 --> 00:29:23,400 Speaker 2: How did y'all realize we don't have feelings for each other? 700 00:29:23,520 --> 00:29:23,800 Speaker 5: No more? 701 00:29:24,280 --> 00:29:24,320 Speaker 4: Like? 702 00:29:24,680 --> 00:29:26,920 Speaker 2: How did that just go away? Like y'all have y'all 703 00:29:26,960 --> 00:29:28,520 Speaker 2: love each other? But not in that way. 704 00:29:28,600 --> 00:29:30,760 Speaker 1: I got my answer, you want to go first, you 705 00:29:30,800 --> 00:29:33,000 Speaker 1: can go first, because I'm still thinking when I stopped 706 00:29:33,040 --> 00:29:36,240 Speaker 1: caring about when she dealt with when I wouldn't even 707 00:29:36,360 --> 00:29:40,520 Speaker 1: like I wouldn't even care, Like, how did that take? 708 00:29:43,880 --> 00:29:44,040 Speaker 4: Oh? 709 00:29:45,840 --> 00:29:46,320 Speaker 6: Three years? 710 00:29:47,000 --> 00:29:49,000 Speaker 1: So like when Ashton was like three, yeah, it was 711 00:29:49,040 --> 00:29:52,000 Speaker 1: still really yeah, it was like three years, but at 712 00:29:52,040 --> 00:29:56,320 Speaker 1: that but honestly that three years, like I had called 713 00:29:56,360 --> 00:30:00,080 Speaker 1: her a big check. So it's like when I I 714 00:30:00,160 --> 00:30:02,840 Speaker 1: was almost half a million nigga, So it was like 715 00:30:03,480 --> 00:30:06,960 Speaker 1: it was the pain that I had. Whatever the case 716 00:30:07,120 --> 00:30:08,840 Speaker 1: I would I would pay. I would like just buy 717 00:30:08,840 --> 00:30:09,720 Speaker 1: ship to block it out. 718 00:30:10,480 --> 00:30:12,760 Speaker 2: But other than that, like, you ain't trying to stunt 719 00:30:12,760 --> 00:30:13,280 Speaker 2: on her a little bit? 720 00:30:13,520 --> 00:30:16,640 Speaker 1: No, I never, no, I never, no, I never. 721 00:30:16,760 --> 00:30:17,400 Speaker 6: I'm waiting for that. 722 00:30:17,680 --> 00:30:20,640 Speaker 1: I never intentionally stunned on her. I never did that. 723 00:30:20,920 --> 00:30:21,080 Speaker 2: Never. 724 00:30:22,200 --> 00:30:24,840 Speaker 1: I did everything she possibly could ask me to do. 725 00:30:25,920 --> 00:30:30,120 Speaker 1: And she said on one of these souls something about 726 00:30:30,120 --> 00:30:32,040 Speaker 1: a B G. E. Bill And I'm addressed that I 727 00:30:32,120 --> 00:30:37,960 Speaker 1: never wanted that. I'm addressed that now the bi so 728 00:30:38,160 --> 00:30:41,840 Speaker 1: so I'm explaining her lights got cut off. I got 729 00:30:41,960 --> 00:30:44,520 Speaker 1: a five hundred dollar checking Listen. No, it wasn't right 730 00:30:44,560 --> 00:30:49,320 Speaker 1: then and there. It's over time because like mind a 731 00:30:49,360 --> 00:30:49,920 Speaker 1: lot of my place. 732 00:30:50,000 --> 00:30:50,360 Speaker 2: She helped me. 733 00:30:50,440 --> 00:30:52,360 Speaker 1: She helped me get a lot on the back end, 734 00:30:52,480 --> 00:30:55,120 Speaker 1: but in a time like I helped her. Whatever the case, 735 00:30:55,280 --> 00:30:56,480 Speaker 1: I didn't know she was moving with a man. 736 00:30:57,160 --> 00:30:58,040 Speaker 6: I didn't move with a man. 737 00:30:58,120 --> 00:30:59,360 Speaker 1: Well she moved the man in with her. 738 00:31:00,240 --> 00:31:03,080 Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, after he had you and the dog too. 739 00:31:03,400 --> 00:31:07,520 Speaker 1: Now before in my business. So I don't know that 740 00:31:07,600 --> 00:31:10,280 Speaker 1: he's not there, so boom hiss his So his's his. 741 00:31:10,520 --> 00:31:13,320 Speaker 1: Here's my logic, And I'm a say what I'm gonna 742 00:31:13,320 --> 00:31:16,120 Speaker 1: say to her after I explain it. My logic was, 743 00:31:16,200 --> 00:31:19,840 Speaker 1: all right, man is in the house. Boom be eagy 744 00:31:19,880 --> 00:31:24,520 Speaker 1: cut off, right, I'm thinking, like damn, So she like 745 00:31:24,600 --> 00:31:26,480 Speaker 1: was wrong. I'm like, well, I take my son with me. 746 00:31:27,640 --> 00:31:30,680 Speaker 1: But that wasn't me talking. That was the girlfriend I 747 00:31:30,760 --> 00:31:31,680 Speaker 1: had talking. 748 00:31:31,800 --> 00:31:33,040 Speaker 6: Oh, ship, you ain't tell me that. 749 00:31:33,120 --> 00:31:34,840 Speaker 1: I never told you that because as a woman, you 750 00:31:34,880 --> 00:31:36,560 Speaker 1: ain't trying to hear that, and I as wants as 751 00:31:36,600 --> 00:31:39,040 Speaker 1: a man, and you be and me, I don't want 752 00:31:39,040 --> 00:31:40,600 Speaker 1: to hear that. So I didn't want to tell you 753 00:31:40,720 --> 00:31:42,600 Speaker 1: that because I have felt less of a man. 754 00:31:43,960 --> 00:31:47,520 Speaker 3: So yeah, but I'm understand him. If somebody else is 755 00:31:47,560 --> 00:31:49,040 Speaker 3: smacking the cheeks, you listen. 756 00:31:49,160 --> 00:31:51,440 Speaker 1: So the girlfriend was living in the house, so the 757 00:31:51,480 --> 00:31:54,520 Speaker 1: girlfriend was like, don't talk about no house ahead. 758 00:31:54,600 --> 00:31:59,840 Speaker 2: So the girlfriend was like, I took a certain amount 759 00:31:59,840 --> 00:32:00,760 Speaker 2: of money out the bank. I did. 760 00:32:00,920 --> 00:32:04,520 Speaker 1: She was with me, she like, mind you the certain 761 00:32:04,520 --> 00:32:07,040 Speaker 1: amount of money. I had to call because I was 762 00:32:07,080 --> 00:32:08,560 Speaker 1: gonna break it in half give it to Jessica and 763 00:32:08,600 --> 00:32:10,600 Speaker 1: I take the rest. And I was going me and 764 00:32:10,720 --> 00:32:12,880 Speaker 1: Ashton man as that's all I did, shot and Ashton. 765 00:32:13,840 --> 00:32:15,920 Speaker 1: So I was gonna give it that. But the girl like, 766 00:32:16,000 --> 00:32:19,440 Speaker 1: why are you giving it to Jessica. I'm like, cause 767 00:32:19,480 --> 00:32:22,320 Speaker 1: she needed and she like, I never said them here. 768 00:32:22,840 --> 00:32:26,760 Speaker 1: I never said the reason. I never said the reason. Yeah, yeah, yeah, 769 00:32:27,040 --> 00:32:31,040 Speaker 1: I never said the reason though. She was like, what 770 00:32:31,200 --> 00:32:33,280 Speaker 1: exactly do she needs? Because I know you ain't giving her. No, 771 00:32:33,480 --> 00:32:35,600 Speaker 1: she don't need a bag or nothing like that. I'm like, no, 772 00:32:35,720 --> 00:32:38,360 Speaker 1: it's something else. She like, well, don't she got a 773 00:32:38,440 --> 00:32:43,400 Speaker 1: nigga living with her, And mind you, I'm drinking at 774 00:32:43,400 --> 00:32:44,920 Speaker 1: the time. Are you thinking the same thing. 775 00:32:45,240 --> 00:32:47,800 Speaker 6: I'm like, you weren't even thinking that till she said it. 776 00:32:48,040 --> 00:32:49,880 Speaker 1: I wasn't thinking that, but I'm drinking. But when she 777 00:32:50,040 --> 00:32:51,880 Speaker 1: say it, because I'm not, like I said, bro like 778 00:32:51,920 --> 00:32:54,480 Speaker 1: wives and girlfriends. I seen. I've seen. I've seen men 779 00:32:54,760 --> 00:32:57,680 Speaker 1: crumble and go against a family because of her wife 780 00:32:57,800 --> 00:32:58,440 Speaker 1: or a girlfriend. 781 00:32:58,480 --> 00:32:59,000 Speaker 2: I've seen it. 782 00:33:00,400 --> 00:33:02,080 Speaker 1: And I'm like, you know what, You're right? 783 00:33:02,920 --> 00:33:05,400 Speaker 2: Why you ain't as just though crazy people say. 784 00:33:05,960 --> 00:33:08,160 Speaker 1: Because I was a young emotional boy. 785 00:33:08,520 --> 00:33:10,200 Speaker 6: Who had just ran into a bunch of money and 786 00:33:11,240 --> 00:33:11,760 Speaker 6: came with that. 787 00:33:12,720 --> 00:33:15,520 Speaker 1: The bitches every my nigga, I'm hurt, hurt young man, 788 00:33:15,560 --> 00:33:17,520 Speaker 1: got a lot of money. Everybody and fucked me over. Nigga, 789 00:33:17,520 --> 00:33:19,320 Speaker 1: I got some money, I'm doing the funk. I wanted 790 00:33:19,360 --> 00:33:22,240 Speaker 1: to make myself happy, and that's how my nigga went broke. 791 00:33:23,120 --> 00:33:24,480 Speaker 1: Like it was times when I'm not happy, but I 792 00:33:24,680 --> 00:33:27,240 Speaker 1: go spend money just because I'm not like, Oh, the 793 00:33:27,320 --> 00:33:28,240 Speaker 1: coaches came out like that. 794 00:33:29,200 --> 00:33:30,240 Speaker 6: Everybody except me. 795 00:33:31,960 --> 00:33:35,320 Speaker 2: You feel I was like and granted. 796 00:33:35,960 --> 00:33:39,360 Speaker 1: Right now on today, I'm gonna say I truly, sincerely 797 00:33:39,840 --> 00:33:43,760 Speaker 1: apologized for not taking care of you the way I 798 00:33:43,920 --> 00:33:48,680 Speaker 1: should have, and I'm gonna take my glasses look because 799 00:33:48,760 --> 00:33:50,040 Speaker 1: for a long time. 800 00:33:50,880 --> 00:33:53,440 Speaker 2: That ship hurt me. And it's like. 801 00:33:56,040 --> 00:33:59,120 Speaker 1: I never ever, ever, especially I never ever ever ever 802 00:33:59,280 --> 00:34:02,440 Speaker 1: meant to do that. And it's like, now, that's why 803 00:34:02,440 --> 00:34:06,640 Speaker 1: I even I worked so hard today and just try 804 00:34:06,720 --> 00:34:13,160 Speaker 1: to even just give you something. But in due time, 805 00:34:13,200 --> 00:34:14,880 Speaker 1: that shit gonna come back. I ain't you know. I 806 00:34:14,880 --> 00:34:16,719 Speaker 1: hadn't made that shit back when broke again, made it 807 00:34:16,800 --> 00:34:19,680 Speaker 1: back broke again. But my biggest downfall, the comments denominated, 808 00:34:19,840 --> 00:34:23,480 Speaker 1: was alcohol and women. So that shit, them two problems 809 00:34:23,600 --> 00:34:26,760 Speaker 1: never allowed me to really reach my full potential. Because 810 00:34:26,920 --> 00:34:28,480 Speaker 1: even when I seen a couple of years ago, you've 811 00:34:28,480 --> 00:34:31,680 Speaker 1: seen it twenty nineteen when I was single, when I 812 00:34:31,719 --> 00:34:34,720 Speaker 1: went moved back by myself, I ran that motherfucker. 813 00:34:34,400 --> 00:34:35,880 Speaker 6: Up, flourish ran. 814 00:34:36,440 --> 00:34:37,960 Speaker 1: That's one thing I know how that I'm running up. 815 00:34:38,120 --> 00:34:42,960 Speaker 1: But women holding me back. Man, I'm sorry that I 816 00:34:43,080 --> 00:34:44,680 Speaker 1: didn't do what I was supposed to do, and a 817 00:34:44,719 --> 00:34:46,279 Speaker 1: lot of motherfucker said what I was in your job? 818 00:34:46,320 --> 00:34:47,959 Speaker 1: That one you done. I felt that was my duty. 819 00:34:48,360 --> 00:34:50,239 Speaker 1: But because I had certain people in my in my 820 00:34:50,400 --> 00:34:52,960 Speaker 1: ear that I thought had their best interest in me. 821 00:34:53,120 --> 00:34:56,680 Speaker 1: But when that bag ran out, they left. Yeah, I'm sorry. 822 00:34:57,040 --> 00:34:58,000 Speaker 1: I'm not a sorry person. 823 00:34:58,080 --> 00:35:02,960 Speaker 6: I apologize, Okay, I appreciate that, And but listen, I 824 00:35:03,200 --> 00:35:03,480 Speaker 6: was not. 825 00:35:04,120 --> 00:35:07,279 Speaker 5: I was talking to a nigga. He moved in months after. 826 00:35:07,320 --> 00:35:08,959 Speaker 5: You think a nigga was gonna move into a dark house. 827 00:35:09,360 --> 00:35:11,239 Speaker 5: You think you think I wanted the niggas see how 828 00:35:11,239 --> 00:35:14,480 Speaker 5: I was living. No, And when you said I asked you, like, yo, 829 00:35:14,640 --> 00:35:18,000 Speaker 5: can you just get my lights on? I'll pay you back, 830 00:35:18,040 --> 00:35:19,600 Speaker 5: That's when I was scamming and doing all that shit. 831 00:35:19,640 --> 00:35:21,880 Speaker 5: That shit got slow too, So I'm like, all right, 832 00:35:21,960 --> 00:35:24,120 Speaker 5: you was like, no, I take my son. Nobody taking 833 00:35:24,160 --> 00:35:26,480 Speaker 5: my kid, not even as father. Like, as long as 834 00:35:26,560 --> 00:35:28,880 Speaker 5: Ash was instead of the dark, we was good, you 835 00:35:28,960 --> 00:35:30,960 Speaker 5: know what I'm saying. Like I still had candles, we 836 00:35:31,160 --> 00:35:32,920 Speaker 5: was playing, We was doing all that. We would stay 837 00:35:32,960 --> 00:35:36,600 Speaker 5: outside until it went until it got dark, and then 838 00:35:36,640 --> 00:35:39,000 Speaker 5: we would go in the house. And him, he ain't 839 00:35:39,000 --> 00:35:40,600 Speaker 5: never asked me why the lights ain't coming on. 840 00:35:41,200 --> 00:35:41,759 Speaker 6: It don't matter. 841 00:35:41,840 --> 00:35:43,239 Speaker 5: So as long as he was good, I was good. 842 00:35:43,239 --> 00:35:46,080 Speaker 5: I just wanted to be able, you know what I'm saying, 843 00:35:46,120 --> 00:35:47,400 Speaker 5: and just be like, yo, get. 844 00:35:47,280 --> 00:35:50,480 Speaker 1: My life and you should have. But guess what that 845 00:35:50,600 --> 00:35:53,000 Speaker 1: made you a demon? And when I say demon, I said, 846 00:35:53,040 --> 00:35:56,480 Speaker 1: in the best way, that turned you up. And I 847 00:35:56,520 --> 00:35:58,480 Speaker 1: got to teach my kids, especially my oldest boy. Might 848 00:35:58,560 --> 00:36:00,759 Speaker 1: let me bro like, I don't want you to go 849 00:36:00,880 --> 00:36:02,799 Speaker 1: through something bad to learn a lesson. I don't think 850 00:36:02,800 --> 00:36:04,600 Speaker 1: everybody should have to go through something bad andle a lesson. 851 00:36:05,200 --> 00:36:09,759 Speaker 1: But in your case, I feel like, yeah, I put 852 00:36:09,800 --> 00:36:12,640 Speaker 1: that battery in your back, and know when that battery 853 00:36:12,719 --> 00:36:15,399 Speaker 1: came in your back, you you ain't treat me no way. 854 00:36:16,080 --> 00:36:18,960 Speaker 1: It took still a minute for us to create that bond. 855 00:36:20,360 --> 00:36:21,799 Speaker 2: But y'all have it now. And I think y'all both 856 00:36:21,800 --> 00:36:23,320 Speaker 2: should give each other some grades because y'all. 857 00:36:25,440 --> 00:36:27,520 Speaker 1: And I always was a hurt young man, so right, 858 00:36:27,680 --> 00:36:30,759 Speaker 1: But I love this story. It shows the foundation and 859 00:36:31,480 --> 00:36:32,839 Speaker 1: now and how y'all treat each other. 860 00:36:32,920 --> 00:36:33,040 Speaker 2: Now. 861 00:36:33,280 --> 00:36:34,480 Speaker 3: You know, I don't know you, but the way she 862 00:36:34,640 --> 00:36:36,960 Speaker 3: talks about you on the radio, and and like you said, 863 00:36:37,040 --> 00:36:39,600 Speaker 3: she is a mother, she protects you, she holds you down. 864 00:36:39,920 --> 00:36:41,600 Speaker 1: I just love to see it. You know. 865 00:36:41,760 --> 00:36:43,719 Speaker 2: Sometimes I'll be telling us stuff talking about room like that. 866 00:36:43,920 --> 00:36:46,920 Speaker 6: He always didn't like why you be talking about But 867 00:36:47,239 --> 00:36:48,160 Speaker 6: I get it. 868 00:36:48,280 --> 00:36:49,480 Speaker 2: She don't mean no harm, but she. 869 00:36:49,520 --> 00:36:53,560 Speaker 1: Don't like I said, man like I wish a lot 870 00:36:53,600 --> 00:36:59,600 Speaker 1: of other people but take from us. And that's why 871 00:36:59,680 --> 00:37:00,759 Speaker 1: this ship got to be on TV. 872 00:37:00,880 --> 00:37:01,959 Speaker 2: That's why y'all writing a book. 873 00:37:02,600 --> 00:37:06,399 Speaker 1: Yeah, book coming, everything book coming, everything coming? 874 00:37:06,680 --> 00:37:08,880 Speaker 4: You think the most important thing? Because I want you 875 00:37:08,920 --> 00:37:10,239 Speaker 4: all to save a lot of this. But what's the 876 00:37:10,320 --> 00:37:12,319 Speaker 4: most important thing? It takes the cold parent if y'all 877 00:37:12,520 --> 00:37:15,719 Speaker 4: you're just leaving on that because the national core parents 878 00:37:15,719 --> 00:37:16,000 Speaker 4: to day. 879 00:37:16,120 --> 00:37:19,800 Speaker 5: Yo, if I started off communication, like a lot of 880 00:37:20,000 --> 00:37:23,200 Speaker 5: people be scared to hurt each other feelings and a 881 00:37:23,239 --> 00:37:26,680 Speaker 5: lot of people be afraid to have uncomfortable conversations, whether 882 00:37:26,680 --> 00:37:32,880 Speaker 5: it's about kids, unhashed differences whatever. Like one day me 883 00:37:32,960 --> 00:37:35,120 Speaker 5: and Rome just literally met up and just we just 884 00:37:35,200 --> 00:37:37,960 Speaker 5: talked about everything that. You know, he felt like I 885 00:37:38,040 --> 00:37:40,359 Speaker 5: did him wrong in certain situations, and then he felt 886 00:37:40,400 --> 00:37:42,960 Speaker 5: like like I will always try because he says, I'm 887 00:37:43,000 --> 00:37:45,759 Speaker 5: controlling a lot, and I do take that, you know 888 00:37:45,800 --> 00:37:47,600 Speaker 5: what I'm saying, Yeah, I own that, I do. 889 00:37:48,400 --> 00:37:51,000 Speaker 6: Like I was trying to control how he parents. Sometimes 890 00:37:51,080 --> 00:37:53,560 Speaker 6: like how he would raise Ash and all of that 891 00:37:53,640 --> 00:37:54,160 Speaker 6: type of stuff. 892 00:37:54,200 --> 00:37:57,680 Speaker 5: We just put everything on the table and just just 893 00:37:57,800 --> 00:37:59,560 Speaker 5: was like, all right, you're moving forward because it's really 894 00:37:59,640 --> 00:38:04,759 Speaker 5: about Ash and that's really like when we after that, 895 00:38:04,880 --> 00:38:05,919 Speaker 5: it was like no looking back. 896 00:38:05,880 --> 00:38:09,319 Speaker 6: It's like all right, whatever. Cool. It was just communication. 897 00:38:09,960 --> 00:38:13,200 Speaker 1: But its I think that it's a couple of things, man, communication, 898 00:38:14,160 --> 00:38:18,080 Speaker 1: feelings out of it, ego out of it, ego for sure, 899 00:38:18,520 --> 00:38:22,360 Speaker 1: and just man, both parties, both parties gotta be in 900 00:38:22,440 --> 00:38:24,319 Speaker 1: it though. Man Like, I feel like you know now, 901 00:38:24,640 --> 00:38:26,600 Speaker 1: like even at my kids school and ship, man like, 902 00:38:26,760 --> 00:38:30,040 Speaker 1: dang you should the man. I think that's sucked up 903 00:38:31,480 --> 00:38:34,680 Speaker 1: that your kids school, my children, my own children. I 904 00:38:34,760 --> 00:38:38,080 Speaker 1: feel like, you know, the father is not a norm 905 00:38:38,560 --> 00:38:39,799 Speaker 1: so I always been. 906 00:38:40,080 --> 00:38:40,359 Speaker 2: I ain't. 907 00:38:40,440 --> 00:38:42,359 Speaker 1: It's not I want. I didn't say a changeing norm, 908 00:38:42,400 --> 00:38:43,120 Speaker 1: but I've changed it on. 909 00:38:44,280 --> 00:38:45,000 Speaker 2: Like it's me. 910 00:38:45,880 --> 00:38:47,840 Speaker 1: You ain't got to call the mother, you know, I 911 00:38:47,920 --> 00:38:50,920 Speaker 1: DM maxon, call your father, Yeah that's me. Call me, 912 00:38:51,160 --> 00:38:54,359 Speaker 1: don't call the others. I'm hands on. I'm gonna be there. 913 00:38:55,000 --> 00:38:58,240 Speaker 1: And my oldest eleven man young, I just sat to school, 914 00:38:59,200 --> 00:39:01,359 Speaker 1: sat in the class with him the whole day. 915 00:39:01,680 --> 00:39:04,320 Speaker 6: They call you, but Ash called me on the side 916 00:39:05,200 --> 00:39:07,120 Speaker 6: my dad much. 917 00:39:08,760 --> 00:39:10,400 Speaker 1: But that was a thing too. We had to she 918 00:39:10,520 --> 00:39:13,000 Speaker 1: had to learn don't don't don't try to take the 919 00:39:13,120 --> 00:39:16,400 Speaker 1: father from the child. Let me father him. Because I 920 00:39:16,480 --> 00:39:19,040 Speaker 1: refuse for my son to become a statistic I refuse 921 00:39:19,200 --> 00:39:21,200 Speaker 1: my son to become a young, hurt little boy. I 922 00:39:21,280 --> 00:39:23,080 Speaker 1: refuse from my son to grow up not knowing how 923 00:39:23,080 --> 00:39:24,800 Speaker 1: to love a woman. I refuse my son to be 924 00:39:24,880 --> 00:39:28,279 Speaker 1: so many things that his father was. I'm still young, 925 00:39:28,360 --> 00:39:31,000 Speaker 1: so I'm still you know, I told I told Naia early. 926 00:39:31,080 --> 00:39:32,880 Speaker 1: I said, man, like you know, one of my I'm 927 00:39:32,880 --> 00:39:34,360 Speaker 1: gonna write my right. I'm gonna write my rights to 928 00:39:34,480 --> 00:39:35,240 Speaker 1: my boys. 929 00:39:35,320 --> 00:39:39,440 Speaker 2: I got still unlearning, unlearning right, correct, correct, unlearning to learn. 930 00:39:39,400 --> 00:39:41,040 Speaker 1: When this co parents ain't easy. 931 00:39:41,120 --> 00:39:43,279 Speaker 6: Man, and I used to be I used to be 932 00:39:44,200 --> 00:39:44,759 Speaker 6: hold on him. 933 00:39:44,840 --> 00:39:47,080 Speaker 5: How he was so hard on my son, Like no, 934 00:39:47,400 --> 00:39:49,800 Speaker 5: like you like's gotta want to talk to you. You 935 00:39:49,880 --> 00:39:53,200 Speaker 5: gotta make him want to talk to you, like he 936 00:39:53,400 --> 00:39:55,719 Speaker 5: used to like, come and talk to me about things 937 00:39:55,800 --> 00:39:57,560 Speaker 5: he was scared to go to his father about now 938 00:39:57,600 --> 00:39:59,759 Speaker 5: because it was any abusive relationships anything. It was just 939 00:39:59,840 --> 00:40:01,720 Speaker 5: like I can't talk today. 940 00:40:01,760 --> 00:40:03,680 Speaker 1: No, it was my son problem. 941 00:40:04,120 --> 00:40:05,719 Speaker 2: And I like to said, I'm creating a young man. Man. 942 00:40:06,120 --> 00:40:12,680 Speaker 1: My some problem was he don't like confor not confrontation, 943 00:40:13,000 --> 00:40:15,000 Speaker 1: but he don't like to confront a man. 944 00:40:16,160 --> 00:40:16,200 Speaker 4: You. 945 00:40:16,280 --> 00:40:19,560 Speaker 1: When I say that me his father, he don't like 946 00:40:19,640 --> 00:40:21,040 Speaker 1: to And I tell her, I said, Bro, you don't 947 00:40:21,120 --> 00:40:23,799 Speaker 1: like something. You tell me I'm not like my father. 948 00:40:24,000 --> 00:40:26,480 Speaker 1: Shut the fuck up. Oh I'm your father. No, no, 949 00:40:26,680 --> 00:40:29,480 Speaker 1: ain't none of that same black And we go to 950 00:40:29,560 --> 00:40:31,080 Speaker 1: McDonald's and i'd be like, all right, do you six? 951 00:40:31,360 --> 00:40:33,000 Speaker 1: Oh dad, I don't want that. All right, what you want? 952 00:40:33,320 --> 00:40:36,239 Speaker 1: It's the same concept. I get his head done. Now 953 00:40:36,280 --> 00:40:38,600 Speaker 1: you want hair? Oh dad, I don't like that. Tell me, 954 00:40:38,680 --> 00:40:40,080 Speaker 1: don't go back and tell your mother. That's why I'm 955 00:40:40,120 --> 00:40:42,440 Speaker 1: getting mad because he was just with me and I 956 00:40:42,520 --> 00:40:43,839 Speaker 1: just asked you. He ain't say nothing. 957 00:40:44,200 --> 00:40:46,080 Speaker 2: You want to communicate. I want to communicate. 958 00:40:46,800 --> 00:40:48,440 Speaker 1: When you communicate with me, you look me in my 959 00:40:48,520 --> 00:40:50,320 Speaker 1: eyes and tell me, Dad, I don't want this. You 960 00:40:50,320 --> 00:40:53,000 Speaker 1: ain't gonna be disrespectful when you said, I want to 961 00:40:53,080 --> 00:40:57,000 Speaker 1: my baby getting better. But I'm here, So it's like, 962 00:40:57,960 --> 00:41:00,719 Speaker 1: I don't know. Man, it's not hard easy, it's fun. 963 00:41:01,440 --> 00:41:03,920 Speaker 1: You have to make it, make it a little bit. 964 00:41:04,040 --> 00:41:05,759 Speaker 1: But it's like, I don't like to do that. 965 00:41:05,920 --> 00:41:06,840 Speaker 2: It's just man like. 966 00:41:07,160 --> 00:41:09,040 Speaker 1: I don't know. It's a mom is different than when 967 00:41:09,040 --> 00:41:11,600 Speaker 1: a dad raising. I'm doing everything that I wanted. I 968 00:41:11,719 --> 00:41:13,640 Speaker 1: wanted my father to come up my squell, wanted my 969 00:41:13,719 --> 00:41:15,279 Speaker 1: dad to talk to me. I wanted my dad to 970 00:41:15,360 --> 00:41:17,560 Speaker 1: ask me what I wanted. I wanted my dad to 971 00:41:17,600 --> 00:41:19,560 Speaker 1: come to my basketball game, my baseball game. My dad 972 00:41:19,640 --> 00:41:22,960 Speaker 1: been a one baseball game out of four years, two 973 00:41:23,040 --> 00:41:24,600 Speaker 1: basketball games out of four years. 974 00:41:25,080 --> 00:41:26,640 Speaker 2: You got to make sure you're raising your child out 975 00:41:26,640 --> 00:41:27,680 Speaker 2: of out of level or no. 976 00:41:27,840 --> 00:41:29,440 Speaker 1: And I don't want to live here, and that's that 977 00:41:29,920 --> 00:41:32,440 Speaker 1: I was scared of my father talk in my mouth. 978 00:41:32,840 --> 00:41:34,680 Speaker 1: I got picked bus, I got a bust the whip. 979 00:41:35,000 --> 00:41:36,200 Speaker 2: Multip All fathers raised this. 980 00:41:37,360 --> 00:41:39,200 Speaker 4: Multip All fathers rais us how to figureuse They didn't 981 00:41:39,200 --> 00:41:40,919 Speaker 4: want us to end up going down the same path 982 00:41:41,000 --> 00:41:41,520 Speaker 4: they went down. 983 00:41:41,520 --> 00:41:42,880 Speaker 2: So we got to figure out how to raise our 984 00:41:42,920 --> 00:41:43,640 Speaker 2: kids out of love. 985 00:41:43,840 --> 00:41:46,120 Speaker 1: But you know, if mom's moms get this, and I 986 00:41:46,160 --> 00:41:47,600 Speaker 1: think I got that. And I told my dad a 987 00:41:47,640 --> 00:41:49,880 Speaker 1: couple of ago, bro like, you know, because he always 988 00:41:49,880 --> 00:41:51,319 Speaker 1: come to me with my father said, I don't want 989 00:41:51,320 --> 00:41:53,440 Speaker 1: to hear that ship that I'm a man now. He 990 00:41:53,440 --> 00:41:55,359 Speaker 1: ain't gonna tell me how the fuck up. I don't 991 00:41:55,360 --> 00:41:56,840 Speaker 1: want to hear that ship. Your father wasn't farther. He 992 00:41:56,920 --> 00:41:57,480 Speaker 1: was a provider. 993 00:41:58,200 --> 00:42:02,520 Speaker 2: I'm a nurturer. I'm a dad father, nurture of my baby. 994 00:42:02,760 --> 00:42:06,200 Speaker 6: Even your response to your dad is angry because. 995 00:42:05,920 --> 00:42:09,000 Speaker 1: He always My response to my dad is what he's 996 00:42:09,040 --> 00:42:09,480 Speaker 1: given to me. 997 00:42:09,640 --> 00:42:11,279 Speaker 2: Now, Like I'm a man now. 998 00:42:11,400 --> 00:42:13,680 Speaker 1: So it's like I don't have to take that ship. 999 00:42:14,040 --> 00:42:14,520 Speaker 2: I leave. 1000 00:42:15,239 --> 00:42:19,120 Speaker 5: But he's trying to explain, trying to explain, don't just 1001 00:42:19,200 --> 00:42:20,200 Speaker 5: now figuring. 1002 00:42:20,440 --> 00:42:22,080 Speaker 1: He's still ain't figured it out. So it's like you 1003 00:42:22,280 --> 00:42:23,840 Speaker 1: in the room and this meet and be in the 1004 00:42:23,920 --> 00:42:25,160 Speaker 1: room because you know, I don't call you about this 1005 00:42:25,280 --> 00:42:26,719 Speaker 1: type of stuff. But this is me being in the room. 1006 00:42:26,800 --> 00:42:31,440 Speaker 1: It ain't is he. It's a different story, man. 1007 00:42:31,480 --> 00:42:32,640 Speaker 2: I got somebody for you to talk to him. I 1008 00:42:32,680 --> 00:42:34,359 Speaker 2: got a therapist. I got a good therapist. I got 1009 00:42:34,360 --> 00:42:34,879 Speaker 2: a lot of them. 1010 00:42:35,400 --> 00:42:37,640 Speaker 1: No, no, no, I'm not saying it like that. 1011 00:42:37,840 --> 00:42:39,719 Speaker 2: I'm talking about a real professional, and I got a 1012 00:42:39,840 --> 00:42:40,440 Speaker 2: real Yes. 1013 00:42:41,480 --> 00:42:43,399 Speaker 6: I don't want to require what you want. 1014 00:42:43,880 --> 00:42:45,640 Speaker 1: I think I got somebody in mind for you doing 1015 00:42:45,880 --> 00:42:47,600 Speaker 1: I want a woman, you want a woman. I got 1016 00:42:47,640 --> 00:42:51,080 Speaker 1: you I don't like, man, I got you, Yeah, I 1017 00:42:51,560 --> 00:42:51,800 Speaker 1: got you. 1018 00:42:52,320 --> 00:42:53,520 Speaker 2: You know exactly what you talk to. 1019 00:42:53,880 --> 00:42:55,840 Speaker 1: That's cool, man. I'm always open to it, man. But 1020 00:42:55,920 --> 00:42:57,360 Speaker 1: you know, other than that, like you gotta want it 1021 00:42:57,360 --> 00:43:01,120 Speaker 1: for yourself, and do you you know I've been there, man, Okay, 1022 00:43:01,760 --> 00:43:03,640 Speaker 1: cut back. You know, my biggest thing was just cutting 1023 00:43:03,680 --> 00:43:06,320 Speaker 1: back on the alcohol. Like now I do it for recregation. 1024 00:43:08,760 --> 00:43:09,840 Speaker 2: Thank you for this is recording. 1025 00:43:10,120 --> 00:43:15,240 Speaker 1: Drink coffee, take a shot, drink no coffee. 1026 00:43:16,800 --> 00:43:17,920 Speaker 2: This is a great conversation. 1027 00:43:18,080 --> 00:43:20,040 Speaker 4: I'm sure it's a discussion that will continue on not 1028 00:43:20,120 --> 00:43:21,880 Speaker 4: even just the monkst you know, just in Rome. But 1029 00:43:21,920 --> 00:43:23,719 Speaker 4: this is the month anybody out there, you know, dealing 1030 00:43:23,760 --> 00:43:25,839 Speaker 4: with coparents issue. But I think Rome, you know, Rome 1031 00:43:25,960 --> 00:43:27,759 Speaker 4: is talking to a lot of different issues that a 1032 00:43:27,800 --> 00:43:28,279 Speaker 4: lot of us. 1033 00:43:28,320 --> 00:43:29,440 Speaker 2: Men go through, you know what I mean. 1034 00:43:29,560 --> 00:43:32,920 Speaker 4: So I'm happy that you was vulnerable this morning, that's right, 1035 00:43:32,960 --> 00:43:35,279 Speaker 4: you know what I mean. And their book is coming 1036 00:43:35,360 --> 00:43:39,479 Speaker 4: soon be a Black Privilege published Simon the Shoes, all right. 1037 00:43:39,400 --> 00:43:41,880 Speaker 2: Well it's wrong. Yes, it's the Breakfast Club in the morning. 1038 00:43:42,680 --> 00:43:44,720 Speaker 1: Wake that ass up in the morning. 1039 00:43:44,880 --> 00:43:45,840 Speaker 2: The Breakfast Club