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Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya rat An iHeartRadio podcast.

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Speaker 2: Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in. It's Monday.

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Speaker 3: It's Monday, and I'm about to make Uh. I'm deciding

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Speaker 3: on making a big life change. It's going to involve you.

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Speaker 2: And I don't have a choice. No, okay, right, okay.

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Speaker 3: But yeah, I want your opinion. Well, no, we can

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Speaker 3: save it for later. Yeah, yeah, we can say it

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Speaker 3: for later.

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Speaker 2: No, I mean you you were bursting.

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Speaker 3: The scene was because I was reminded of it because

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Speaker 3: we record the podcast in my apartment and I was

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Speaker 3: just reminded of it when I got here right before

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Speaker 3: the podcast. Okay, we can catch up on a weekends, like,

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Speaker 3: how's your weekend?

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Speaker 2: Well, let's get right into it. What do you?

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Speaker 1: What is it?

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Speaker 2: So?

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Speaker 3: I was reading this article about like the germs that

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Speaker 3: we track in on our shoes into our homes, and

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Speaker 3: I've been debating on turning my house into like a

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Speaker 3: no shoe house.

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Speaker 1: Okay, I live in a no shoe house.

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Speaker 3: But here's my thing. I don't it seems very unrealistic,

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Speaker 3: Like what am I just gonna make everybody that comes

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Speaker 3: to my house just take off their shoes.

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Speaker 1: I'd be so pissed if I come into your house.

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Speaker 1: What is it like Grand Central Station?

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Speaker 2: It's a friend or two like every day I think,

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Speaker 2: I don't think it's not unrealistic. I can respect it.

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Speaker 3: And you would just take your shoes off at my

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Speaker 3: front door and leave them there.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's this was more common than you think.

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Speaker 2: I feel like people I've done like a pole in this,

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Speaker 2: and people like in different like Canada and different countries,

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Speaker 2: they are like shocked that we wear shoes inside when.

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Speaker 3: You think about it. I'm like, I was reading this

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Speaker 3: article and I was just like, I'm such a germaphoe.

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Speaker 3: The fact that I'm walking in like all these things

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Speaker 3: just on and in my bedroom, I'm just putting my

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Speaker 3: shoes just all over my carpet, and I'm like you,

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Speaker 3: but then when I'm practically going about my day. And

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Speaker 3: then I was walking through it with Red Star and

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Speaker 3: I was like, I think we should turn your house

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Speaker 3: into a no shoes house too, And then we were

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Speaker 3: like thinking the practicalness of it, and I'm like, so

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Speaker 3: then we do just have indoor shoes, and then what

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Speaker 3: do we do when we take sunny to go pee

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Speaker 3: put on have another chain of.

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Speaker 1: Shoes you like, I'll do they like, Yeah, flip flops

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Speaker 1: by the back patio for when you take the dogs out.

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Speaker 2: Yep, this is not something I'll do in my own home,

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Speaker 2: but I respect an others home. So you want me

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Speaker 2: to take my shoes off, I'm happy to do that, really, Tanya. No, maybe,

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Speaker 2: like maybe if I'm like in a rush or something.

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Speaker 2: You know what the worst is is when your shoes

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Speaker 2: are part of like a costumer outfit and people have

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Speaker 2: a party and it's a no shoe house, and you're

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Speaker 2: just like, I don't know if I can make it

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Speaker 2: to that because my whole outfit is dependent on my shoes.

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Speaker 1: Right, I'm Dorothy and my slippers.

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Speaker 4: I'm a clown without my giant shoes exactly.

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Speaker 3: Well, that feels like it wouldn't happen often.

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Speaker 2: That would that would happen once or twice a year

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Speaker 2: back yeaeah, But yeah, I I mean listen, I think

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Speaker 2: I think America is the only like that that's actually

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Speaker 2: a common practice that people wear their shoes in the house.

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Speaker 3: But like on Taco Tuesday when we have people over

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Speaker 3: and we eat outside in the backyard, are just gonna

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Speaker 3: make people take their shoes off to walk through the

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Speaker 3: house and then put them back on to go in

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Speaker 3: the backyard. And then what are you doing? You have

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Speaker 3: to pee?

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Speaker 1: Do you have any other entrance to your backyard? Do

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Speaker 1: you have a side yard? Side?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: I guess they don't have to let them in the

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Speaker 2: What if they have to.

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Speaker 1: They take off their shoes to use the bathroom.

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Speaker 2: I guess for men this is easier because y'all have

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Speaker 2: very easy accessible shoes. Like I think for women it's

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Speaker 2: like more of like a thing like if you have

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Speaker 2: heels on, or if you have like they're wearing.

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Speaker 1: Heels to Taco Tuesday. They're wearing heels to taco. That

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Speaker 2: They have bigger events than Taco Tuesday. Yeah, little more

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Speaker 2: like dress. That's right, that's pretty central over there.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's right.

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Speaker 1: Look, it's your house. Do whatever you want. I live

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Speaker 1: in a no shoe house, So does EASTI I mean,

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Speaker 1: that's you know, that's the way to be.

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Speaker 5: I was resistant to it too, because I dislike feet,

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Speaker 5: so I want as many coverings and shields feet outside.

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Speaker 5: My wife is like, you know, you just walk through

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Speaker 5: bathrooms with those dirty things.

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Speaker 2: Ye gross, But like also someone taking off their shoes

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Speaker 2: and their bare feet.

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Speaker 3: I know, I know that's what I'm like, what's the worse?

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Speaker 3: I don't know, it's the you know, yeah, it's the

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Speaker 3: what oh the devil? You know, I said, dou w Now,

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Speaker 3: I was like, huh w.

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Speaker 4: Now that means without shoes right now?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, So I don't know. I've been We've been discussing

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Speaker 3: it for the past couple of days, and I keep

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Speaker 3: toying with the idea, but not.

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Speaker 1: Where does Robbie land on this.

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Speaker 3: He's into it, like he's like, I think it's gross too,

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Speaker 3: but we just can't seem to like figure out how

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Speaker 3: to do it. Tell us about his feet, They're amazing.

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Speaker 3: They're gorgeously Harry, are the hairy? No, they're perfect, Like

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Speaker 3: he could honestly be a football little hair not much, yeah,

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Speaker 3: like the perfect amount of hair, could be a foot model.

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Speaker 3: She said on hand, Oh my god, Sonny was drinking

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Speaker 3: was like one hundred degrees and we were outside. She

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Speaker 3: was drinking it from his hands because we didn't have

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Speaker 3: And I was just like, if she only knew to

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Speaker 3: be you know, biting and and you know, looking ferociously.

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Speaker 3: She would enjoy it more. She did not enjoy it

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Speaker 3: as much as she should have.

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Speaker 2: Most people don't enjoy them as much as he was. So,

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Speaker 2: you know, Sonny is just like the rest of us.

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Speaker 2: We just say, yeah, those are nice hands, and we

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Speaker 2: move on. There's not a lot of like licking the

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. There was no appreciation.

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Speaker 2: So that involved me because you thought I was gonna

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Speaker 2: be like very anti or something.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah, I just feel like, get over it.

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Speaker 2: No, I'm respectful of people. Like if it's your home,

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Speaker 2: it's your home. Like I whether I do it, it's

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Speaker 2: all about like it's the same thing with people living

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Speaker 2: their life. Just let people live their life, do it

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Speaker 2: how they want. If you're coming into their space, respect

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Speaker 2: their space. If you're not their space and you have

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Speaker 2: a different opinion. If you want to go to the

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Speaker 2: park and you want to wear your shoes, wear your shoes.

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Speaker 2: If you want to go barefoot in the grass and

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Speaker 2: feel the earth under your toes, do that.

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Speaker 3: You know what, though, I think that's a big thing

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Speaker 3: that we don't do often. We do not let the

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Speaker 3: earth touch our actual bare feet, and I'm serious, no,

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Speaker 3: and I'm trying to do it more.

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Speaker 2: I actually agree with you here because the other day

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Speaker 2: I went so Haley and I went to the guard

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Speaker 2: two different gardens this past week. I was like, who

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Speaker 2: am I, We're going to like botanical gardens and there

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Speaker 2: was this one patch of grass where I mean, there

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Speaker 2: was a lot of grass, but we like sat down

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Speaker 2: and it was so freaking hot, and so we were

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Speaker 2: just kind of like sitting eating and resting, and I

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Speaker 2: was trying to do cartwill, which by the way, much

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Speaker 2: harder than I remember being that child. Yeah, my whole

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Speaker 2: body felt like seized after and I definitely needed to

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Speaker 2: do like proper stretching that I didn't do. But I

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Speaker 2: was like, man, it feels so good to like feel

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Speaker 2: the grass because I used to play outside and barefoot

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Speaker 2: all the time, and I just my like feelings towards

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Speaker 3: No, I think it's so important to be like connected

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Speaker 3: physically connected to the earth and mother Nature.

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Speaker 1: It's funny you mentioned this. This is in the current

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Speaker 1: issue of Woman's World magazine. If you need to relax,

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Speaker 1: take off your shoes and socks and go barefoot in

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Speaker 1: the grass because University of California scientists say touching the

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Speaker 1: soles of your feet to the ground a few minutes

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Speaker 1: a day cuts stress and eases anxiety.

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Speaker 3: I totally believe it, except you really have to be

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Speaker 3: particular about where you're doing it, because I have done

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Speaker 3: it multiple times on the grass in front of my apartment,

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Speaker 3: and like the amount of dogs that poop on there,

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Speaker 3: the amount of like like no of fence people that

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Speaker 2: La.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. And I was like doing it barefoot the other

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Speaker 3: day and I was like, you know what, this probably

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Speaker 3: their grass to appreciate.

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Speaker 1: You wipe off the dog wrap in your.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, but I walked over their barefoot, which was

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Speaker 2: That's really beautiful. Yeah, I really I understand that too.

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Speaker 2: But I also feel that like going to the beach

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Speaker 2: and feeling the sand, like there's just something about that

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Speaker 2: freedom you take.

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Speaker 3: Your shoes off, you know, feel the raw ground.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, raw dog.

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Speaker 3: It raw raw. You just got a raw dogg it sometimes.

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Speaker 2: Okay, So what happened with you this weekend? What was

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Speaker 2: your weekend? What did it entail? Or? I guess it's

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Speaker 2: week because I haven't seen you since last podcast. You know.

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Speaker 3: I had a very pleasant weekend. It was very warm,

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Speaker 3: did a lot of things. Had a really nice dinner

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Speaker 3: that ended up going till midnight, which was like so cute, Like,

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Speaker 2: I don't feel like that's that far fetch for your

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Speaker 2: you now, like in the past, i'd be like, oh

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Speaker 2: my god, but you're kind of like you kind of

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Speaker 3: That's right.

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Speaker 2: I've been with you a few times when you've done that,

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Speaker 2: That's right. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, So we had like a little bit of it

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Speaker 3: was like we had a date night early on and

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Speaker 3: then we met up with a couple of friends after. Okay,

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Speaker 3: but our date nights have been slim lately because we

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Speaker 3: both were sick, and then he had the kids for

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Speaker 3: a week for spring break, and so this was kind

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Speaker 3: of like our first date night in a minute.

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Speaker 2: That's nice. Nice to have those rekindle one on one time.

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Speaker 2: I okay, So the past twelve days I've woken up early,

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Speaker 2: like done like eight or nine o'clock workout classes, which

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Speaker 2: you know for me is like that's early for me,

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Speaker 2: especially to go like exercise.

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Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah.

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Speaker 2: I thought it was like charming that we just kept

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but you know what, ego and pride are the devil.

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Speaker 3: You know what I did.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm a think on it because I remember it

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Speaker 2: Okay, we're gonna take a little bit of a break

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Speaker 3: Yes, but you know, it's interesting because if you go

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Speaker 3: It's counter to the way I've been living my life.

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Speaker 3: But you know why I like therapy so much is

443
00:19:19,000 --> 00:19:21,920
Speaker 3: because I think everybody just thinks that they're right about everything.

444
00:19:21,960 --> 00:19:23,280
Speaker 3: You know, like you think your opinion is.

445
00:19:23,280 --> 00:19:26,359
Speaker 2: The best and you think I just am right about everything.

446
00:19:26,480 --> 00:19:28,920
Speaker 3: The way you live your life is the best way,

447
00:19:29,040 --> 00:19:31,920
Speaker 3: and everybody else like we all think we're right about

448
00:19:31,920 --> 00:19:34,639
Speaker 3: everything and we're just not. Like it's just that's not

449
00:19:34,760 --> 00:19:37,000
Speaker 3: the case. And so it's I think therapy is so

450
00:19:37,080 --> 00:19:39,280
Speaker 3: humbling in a way because it's like there's somebody that

451
00:19:39,359 --> 00:19:42,680
Speaker 3: actually challenges you the way that you think your opinions

452
00:19:42,720 --> 00:19:46,600
Speaker 3: on things, and you're like, damn, like I need that.

453
00:19:46,680 --> 00:19:47,280
Speaker 3: I love that.

454
00:19:47,880 --> 00:19:50,320
Speaker 2: I saw this in this video the other day, and

455
00:19:50,400 --> 00:19:53,760
Speaker 2: this girl and she's funny, Like I I don't know

456
00:19:53,920 --> 00:19:55,440
Speaker 2: she was being funny in this video, but she was

457
00:19:55,480 --> 00:19:59,360
Speaker 2: like the thing about me is like I am confident

458
00:19:59,359 --> 00:20:02,800
Speaker 2: that I'm always right, Like I just feel really confident

459
00:20:02,880 --> 00:20:05,639
Speaker 2: that my opinion is right. And she's like, and the

460
00:20:05,680 --> 00:20:08,520
Speaker 2: thing is like, if I'm, you know, proven wrong, I

461
00:20:08,560 --> 00:20:10,879
Speaker 2: am self aware enough to realize that I'm wrong and

462
00:20:10,920 --> 00:20:13,640
Speaker 2: I can admit it. And I really related to that.

463
00:20:14,160 --> 00:20:16,639
Speaker 3: Was she and Aris, what's her birthday? Do you know?

464
00:20:17,760 --> 00:20:19,600
Speaker 2: I don't know? But for some reason, I feel like

465
00:20:19,640 --> 00:20:20,520
Speaker 2: she might be a cancer?

466
00:20:21,080 --> 00:20:24,399
Speaker 3: No way because we apologize.

467
00:20:24,720 --> 00:20:26,000
Speaker 2: No, she said she can apologize.

468
00:20:26,080 --> 00:20:29,960
Speaker 3: Uh huh huh, Well I don't think, so do some research. Okay,

469
00:20:30,440 --> 00:20:30,920
Speaker 3: get back to me.

470
00:20:31,240 --> 00:20:34,480
Speaker 2: She couldn't possibly be a cancer. No, no, no, no, no, no, no.

471
00:20:34,560 --> 00:20:39,240
Speaker 3: Cancers are not self righteous. Yeah, you know, we should

472
00:20:39,320 --> 00:20:43,000
Speaker 3: mention something that we're really excited about. Because so Becka

473
00:20:43,000 --> 00:20:44,919
Speaker 3: and I are going to be at kissfm's Wango Tango

474
00:20:45,080 --> 00:20:48,359
Speaker 3: on June fourth, and we're actually going to make a

475
00:20:48,480 --> 00:20:53,000
Speaker 3: specific scrubbing in section, meaning like you can buy your

476
00:20:53,000 --> 00:20:56,119
Speaker 3: ticket with this code and you all are going to

477
00:20:56,200 --> 00:20:59,080
Speaker 3: be in the same seated section. It's on the floor,

478
00:20:59,200 --> 00:20:59,920
Speaker 3: so they're good.

479
00:21:00,240 --> 00:21:04,840
Speaker 2: So like scrubber section at Wango Tango. So if you're like, yeah,

480
00:21:04,960 --> 00:21:06,240
Speaker 2: it's so cute.

481
00:21:06,080 --> 00:21:07,800
Speaker 3: Because like you even go alone. You could buy a

482
00:21:07,800 --> 00:21:09,440
Speaker 3: ticket if like nobody wants to go with you, which

483
00:21:09,440 --> 00:21:10,760
Speaker 3: I don't know why they wouldn't, But if you were,

484
00:21:10,960 --> 00:21:12,600
Speaker 3: you know, happen to have the day off, you could

485
00:21:12,600 --> 00:21:14,720
Speaker 3: go alone and you're surrounded by scrub sisters.

486
00:21:14,800 --> 00:21:17,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, so you're actually not going to actually go alone.

487
00:21:17,000 --> 00:21:18,400
Speaker 3: Right your sisters.

488
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Speaker 2: I can't think of a better situation of going to

489
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Speaker 2: a concert by yourself, Like Easton, this would be your dream.

490
00:21:24,280 --> 00:21:26,199
Speaker 4: Yeah, oh yes, my dream.

491
00:21:26,680 --> 00:21:33,240
Speaker 2: Easton's actually yeah, he's gonna go with mosh Pit. But same,

492
00:21:33,560 --> 00:21:37,840
Speaker 2: I'm on the same track as you. So but so,

493
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Speaker 2: if you're a scrubber, the tickets, we have a promo

494
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Speaker 2: code for you and everything. Yeah, forty five dollars a ticket.

495
00:21:43,480 --> 00:21:46,359
Speaker 3: Let's explain it, because to me, I'd be like, how

496
00:21:46,359 --> 00:21:49,000
Speaker 3: do I do this? So you go to AXS dot

497
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Speaker 3: com and then you search Wango Tango and then you

498
00:21:53,680 --> 00:21:56,119
Speaker 3: click on that, and then when you click on that,

499
00:21:56,200 --> 00:21:59,879
Speaker 3: you can click on podcast promo and you enter the

500
00:22:00,040 --> 00:22:02,000
Speaker 3: ramo code. Scrubber. Does that make sense?

501
00:22:02,280 --> 00:22:03,240
Speaker 2: I think that was pretty good.

502
00:22:03,280 --> 00:22:05,400
Speaker 3: If you're on the website, it'll make sense to you.

503
00:22:05,440 --> 00:22:08,159
Speaker 2: We might actually yeah, I mean might actually copy and

504
00:22:08,240 --> 00:22:10,680
Speaker 2: paste all this information and posted on the scrubbing in

505
00:22:11,160 --> 00:22:14,119
Speaker 2: Facebook group and the scrubbing in Instagram just so that

506
00:22:14,160 --> 00:22:17,920
Speaker 2: it's written out. But Tania and I are gonna stop by.

507
00:22:18,320 --> 00:22:22,000
Speaker 2: It's gonna be a freaking blast. It's so cute that, like,

508
00:22:22,800 --> 00:22:24,680
Speaker 2: if you don't have anyone that can go with you,

509
00:22:24,720 --> 00:22:27,200
Speaker 2: that you're gonna have friends there automatic.

510
00:22:26,880 --> 00:22:28,359
Speaker 3: It's so cute. I can't wait to go buy and

511
00:22:28,359 --> 00:22:28,960
Speaker 3: see who's there.

512
00:22:29,480 --> 00:22:31,920
Speaker 2: And I'm sure Tania and I will be in cohesive outfits.

513
00:22:31,960 --> 00:22:34,520
Speaker 3: So you know, that's what I'm hoping for. That's really

514
00:22:34,560 --> 00:22:35,480
Speaker 3: all I'm hoping for.

515
00:22:36,600 --> 00:22:38,520
Speaker 2: So that'll be great. So make sure you go to

516
00:22:38,680 --> 00:22:43,240
Speaker 2: axs dot com search Wingo Tango, click on podcast promo

517
00:22:43,359 --> 00:22:46,880
Speaker 2: and use scrubber as the promo code to buy your ticket.

518
00:22:46,680 --> 00:22:50,200
Speaker 3: Fresh off Fresh off my boudoir photo shoot a little

519
00:22:50,240 --> 00:22:51,040
Speaker 3: bit after yours.

520
00:22:52,520 --> 00:22:53,600
Speaker 2: We're not doing that together.

521
00:22:54,840 --> 00:22:56,720
Speaker 3: Oh your date? You change your date? I was like,

522
00:22:56,720 --> 00:23:00,720
Speaker 3: Wango Tango is gonna be like my we have same date?

523
00:23:00,840 --> 00:23:02,480
Speaker 3: Oh we do end of April?

524
00:23:03,480 --> 00:23:05,000
Speaker 2: What no? Mark?

525
00:23:05,960 --> 00:23:06,200
Speaker 3: Mark?

526
00:23:07,000 --> 00:23:09,480
Speaker 2: Uh? Mid May is what we've been doing?

527
00:23:10,400 --> 00:23:13,479
Speaker 1: June fourth? Is Wango Tango? Is that not the target?

528
00:23:13,680 --> 00:23:16,240
Speaker 3: Yeah? See, we talked about this last week.

529
00:23:16,320 --> 00:23:18,679
Speaker 2: No, and then we said mid of May is what

530
00:23:18,720 --> 00:23:22,160
Speaker 2: we said, like May twenty third, Can someone please look

531
00:23:22,200 --> 00:23:26,280
Speaker 2: this up? I swear I feel one thousand percent confident

532
00:23:26,359 --> 00:23:27,159
Speaker 2: that the date was.

533
00:23:27,720 --> 00:23:29,639
Speaker 3: I said I wanted it to be Wango, and you

534
00:23:29,640 --> 00:23:31,520
Speaker 3: said you wanted it to be the wedding that you're in,

535
00:23:31,560 --> 00:23:33,359
Speaker 3: and I said, let's.

536
00:23:33,320 --> 00:23:35,560
Speaker 2: And then we said mid May. So then we said, okay,

537
00:23:35,560 --> 00:23:39,479
Speaker 2: how about the Monday, which is the May twenty third.

538
00:23:40,760 --> 00:23:42,840
Speaker 1: Hannah is going to look this up because she takes

539
00:23:42,920 --> 00:23:45,760
Speaker 1: diligent notes on every single show and she's checking them

540
00:23:45,840 --> 00:23:49,800
Speaker 1: right now. Hannah's the unsung hero. May twenty third is confirmed.

541
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Speaker 4: Wow, Oh it's that real.

542
00:23:51,880 --> 00:23:54,919
Speaker 3: That's fine. The week before Wingo, I mean, that's what

543
00:23:54,960 --> 00:23:58,320
Speaker 3: I'm shooting for. I'm shooting for that that area of

544
00:23:58,359 --> 00:23:58,720
Speaker 3: time that.

545
00:23:58,800 --> 00:24:00,960
Speaker 2: Was our that was our photos time though, that's what

546
00:24:01,000 --> 00:24:01,440
Speaker 2: we said.

547
00:24:01,600 --> 00:24:03,639
Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, so you're both.

548
00:24:03,359 --> 00:24:05,040
Speaker 1: Having a photo shoot on May twenty third.

549
00:24:06,840 --> 00:24:10,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm confused. You're confusing me.

550
00:24:10,320 --> 00:24:11,800
Speaker 3: Wait what I told you I wanted to do it

551
00:24:11,800 --> 00:24:13,440
Speaker 3: for Wingo and you said you wanted to do for JoJo's.

552
00:24:14,280 --> 00:24:15,760
Speaker 3: You could split the difference.

553
00:24:15,600 --> 00:24:17,399
Speaker 2: I know, And I said, I I need it sooner.

554
00:24:17,440 --> 00:24:18,959
Speaker 2: Than that. But then I said we could do our

555
00:24:19,119 --> 00:24:21,280
Speaker 2: I said, I said, I would still stay on track

556
00:24:21,280 --> 00:24:23,560
Speaker 2: for Wingo Tango. So then we said mid May for

557
00:24:23,600 --> 00:24:24,080
Speaker 2: the shoot.

558
00:24:24,359 --> 00:24:28,800
Speaker 3: Great, okay, it's very the same time. You know, at

559
00:24:28,800 --> 00:24:31,040
Speaker 3: that point it's like, you know, just a little selft tanner.

560
00:24:32,359 --> 00:24:34,359
Speaker 2: Oh my god, I'm just joking.

561
00:24:34,400 --> 00:24:35,560
Speaker 3: Actually no, it's a week before.

562
00:24:35,640 --> 00:24:39,480
Speaker 2: I've been working out so hard I've been noticing different.

563
00:24:39,520 --> 00:24:42,280
Speaker 2: That's what's really annoying about working out, like doing things

564
00:24:42,320 --> 00:24:46,320
Speaker 2: a healthy way, is that like you don't see instant results. Unfortunately,

565
00:24:46,640 --> 00:24:47,760
Speaker 2: take some time.

566
00:24:47,920 --> 00:24:49,639
Speaker 3: I bought an ab DOLLI you know, the thing that

567
00:24:49,680 --> 00:24:51,000
Speaker 3: you used to have in Brentwood.

568
00:24:51,480 --> 00:24:52,520
Speaker 1: I bought my table.

569
00:24:52,920 --> 00:24:56,600
Speaker 3: Yes, yeah, that guy used an ab dolly as like

570
00:24:56,600 --> 00:24:59,920
Speaker 3: her like, uh dining table because she didn't have furniture.

571
00:25:00,080 --> 00:25:01,960
Speaker 3: So we use that ab dolly to put our food

572
00:25:02,000 --> 00:25:03,959
Speaker 3: on to eat and stuff. But anyways, I bought one

573
00:25:03,960 --> 00:25:06,080
Speaker 3: because I saw a TikToker say she did it for

574
00:25:06,080 --> 00:25:08,359
Speaker 3: ten minutes a day and she like got ripped. So

575
00:25:08,440 --> 00:25:09,520
Speaker 3: I was like, I'm gonna try.

576
00:25:09,840 --> 00:25:10,600
Speaker 2: It's amazing.

577
00:25:10,800 --> 00:25:13,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's not doing much for me, but yeah, well

578
00:25:14,080 --> 00:25:16,119
Speaker 3: got some time. Yeah, I got some time. People.

579
00:25:16,800 --> 00:25:19,040
Speaker 2: I was like because Ali and I have been doing

580
00:25:19,119 --> 00:25:22,040
Speaker 2: the workouts together and like two days later, we're like,

581
00:25:22,400 --> 00:25:25,440
Speaker 2: no results, Like I haven't noticed any results in two days.

582
00:25:25,520 --> 00:25:28,960
Speaker 2: She's like saying, I feel I feel like I've gained weight,

583
00:25:29,000 --> 00:25:30,000
Speaker 2: and it was like six.

584
00:25:29,960 --> 00:25:31,840
Speaker 1: Same, let's cook at burdens.

585
00:25:31,880 --> 00:25:34,119
Speaker 2: I haven't, though, I haven't eaten fast food. That's what

586
00:25:34,160 --> 00:25:36,560
Speaker 2: I've That's what I've like. I haven't like given up

587
00:25:36,840 --> 00:25:39,399
Speaker 2: eating what I want, but I've cut out fast food

588
00:25:39,440 --> 00:25:41,639
Speaker 2: for the time being, but I'm not forever because I

589
00:25:41,680 --> 00:25:45,760
Speaker 2: love it so much. So good thanks. You liked it

590
00:25:45,800 --> 00:25:47,360
Speaker 2: too when we did those segments.

591
00:25:47,800 --> 00:25:49,880
Speaker 3: Yeah, I liked it, but I would never, like on

592
00:25:49,920 --> 00:25:52,520
Speaker 3: a weekday just go like pop sigging because.

593
00:25:52,280 --> 00:25:54,679
Speaker 2: Your boyfriend, like is a chef. He cooks for you

594
00:25:54,760 --> 00:25:58,480
Speaker 2: all the time. Like chef, he makes really delicious food

595
00:25:58,560 --> 00:25:58,880
Speaker 2: for you.

596
00:25:59,680 --> 00:26:03,040
Speaker 3: He's behind a barbie, he's a beast behind a barbecue.

597
00:26:02,480 --> 00:26:04,560
Speaker 2: And like fish dishes. I feel like he does a

598
00:26:04,600 --> 00:26:06,160
Speaker 2: really nice barbecue.

599
00:26:06,160 --> 00:26:09,320
Speaker 3: He can barbecue, like truly, like I don't know who

600
00:26:09,400 --> 00:26:14,040
Speaker 3: like the Michelin chef is, but his barbecue skills are prime.

601
00:26:14,359 --> 00:26:15,600
Speaker 3: So really, like all I have to do is just

602
00:26:15,640 --> 00:26:17,080
Speaker 3: kind of whip up a salad and you can throw

603
00:26:17,400 --> 00:26:19,880
Speaker 3: anything from the barbecue on a salad. It's quite nice.

604
00:26:20,080 --> 00:26:20,280
Speaker 2: Great.

605
00:26:20,320 --> 00:26:22,040
Speaker 1: Well, I'm with telling you, though, you got to lead

606
00:26:22,040 --> 00:26:24,359
Speaker 1: a disciplined life to a certain degree. Like I feel like,

607
00:26:24,400 --> 00:26:25,760
Speaker 1: if I am going to treat myself, there has to

608
00:26:25,800 --> 00:26:27,520
Speaker 1: be a reason. There's to be an occasion, there has

609
00:26:27,560 --> 00:26:29,160
Speaker 1: to be a weekend, there's something. If I would never

610
00:26:29,280 --> 00:26:30,960
Speaker 1: just like on a Tuesday go to McDonald it's like,

611
00:26:30,960 --> 00:26:34,640
Speaker 1: that's very odd. Yeah. And like when I'm when I'm

612
00:26:34,640 --> 00:26:37,320
Speaker 1: at the Target or the grocery store and I see

613
00:26:37,359 --> 00:26:39,440
Speaker 1: that wall of candy and stuff as you're checking out,

614
00:26:39,440 --> 00:26:41,600
Speaker 1: there's all those candy bars and everything. I think to myself,

615
00:26:42,040 --> 00:26:45,880
Speaker 1: who the hell, I would never in a million years

616
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Speaker 1: grab one of those things. And I know that they're

617
00:26:48,160 --> 00:26:50,760
Speaker 1: there for a reason people are grabbing them, but never

618
00:26:50,840 --> 00:26:53,840
Speaker 1: in my life, and never will I ever even consider

619
00:26:53,960 --> 00:26:56,919
Speaker 1: grabbing something in the checkout lane. That would never happen.

620
00:26:57,160 --> 00:26:57,720
Speaker 2: Are you kidding?

621
00:26:57,720 --> 00:26:59,640
Speaker 1: But it's so foreign and bizarre to me.

622
00:27:00,119 --> 00:27:02,800
Speaker 2: Sweet treat on the way home to unload your groceries.

623
00:27:03,280 --> 00:27:05,600
Speaker 1: Never ever would even consider it a million years.

624
00:27:05,760 --> 00:27:08,119
Speaker 2: That is so bunny. I like was raised like my

625
00:27:08,200 --> 00:27:10,600
Speaker 2: mom was like grab a candy Moore check out, Like

626
00:27:10,640 --> 00:27:14,280
Speaker 2: that's what we did. Now, I still treat myself.

627
00:27:14,200 --> 00:27:17,200
Speaker 1: That tells us a lot. Actually yeah, wait, let.

628
00:27:17,160 --> 00:27:19,120
Speaker 5: Me walk you through some pathology here. This is how

629
00:27:19,119 --> 00:27:23,840
Speaker 5: smooth my brain is. Snickers Candy did a thing years ago, hungry,

630
00:27:23,880 --> 00:27:26,480
Speaker 5: grab a Snickers. That was like their tagline, and I was.

631
00:27:26,440 --> 00:27:28,399
Speaker 4: Like, oh, Snickels is a mule replacement.

632
00:27:28,440 --> 00:27:32,080
Speaker 5: I'm hungry, I should grab a Snickers, which there's peanuts

633
00:27:32,119 --> 00:27:34,119
Speaker 5: in it, but like it's mostly that's a candy bar.

634
00:27:34,240 --> 00:27:36,080
Speaker 5: That was not the same as like a cliff bar

635
00:27:36,200 --> 00:27:38,400
Speaker 5: or something. But I still do that when I'm hungry,

636
00:27:38,440 --> 00:27:41,000
Speaker 5: I grab a Snickers. That sugar spike.

637
00:27:42,119 --> 00:27:44,720
Speaker 2: You know, I get it because when so when I

638
00:27:44,760 --> 00:27:47,680
Speaker 2: played sports in high school, if I needed like a boost,

639
00:27:47,760 --> 00:27:50,280
Speaker 2: my mom would bring me a light blue Gatorade and

640
00:27:50,320 --> 00:27:53,400
Speaker 2: a Snickers, and all of a sudden, my performance skyrocketed.

641
00:27:53,840 --> 00:27:55,720
Speaker 1: Wow, I'm telling you I was.

642
00:27:55,960 --> 00:27:59,320
Speaker 2: I was like, it almost flipped a switch in me

643
00:27:59,359 --> 00:28:01,360
Speaker 2: where I was like, maybe it was a sugar high

644
00:28:01,359 --> 00:28:02,840
Speaker 2: got me through and then I would crash.

645
00:28:02,960 --> 00:28:06,159
Speaker 3: But interesting, Yeah, you know what's so good as a

646
00:28:06,200 --> 00:28:10,600
Speaker 3: Snicker's ice cream bar? There're nothing better, nothing, nothing better

647
00:28:10,640 --> 00:28:13,399
Speaker 3: than that. Now that I'll do on a random Tuesday,

648
00:28:13,520 --> 00:28:14,600
Speaker 3: just for a pick me up.

649
00:28:15,080 --> 00:28:17,240
Speaker 2: I sent you a full boxes when you were sick and.

650
00:28:17,680 --> 00:28:19,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah those were delicious.

651
00:28:19,800 --> 00:28:23,359
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah yeah, that's so funny that you say that, Mark,

652
00:28:23,480 --> 00:28:24,760
Speaker 2: because that was so sad.

653
00:28:24,800 --> 00:28:26,159
Speaker 1: I just thought of that a target the other day

654
00:28:26,160 --> 00:28:27,480
Speaker 1: because some of them look kind of good, and I

655
00:28:27,520 --> 00:28:31,080
Speaker 1: was like, never, never in a million years, just.

656
00:28:31,040 --> 00:28:33,159
Speaker 2: Never in a millionaire, I never ever think of just

657
00:28:33,200 --> 00:28:34,480
Speaker 2: getting a treat for yourself.

658
00:28:34,880 --> 00:28:37,480
Speaker 1: No, some of them looked delicious, but if in advance

659
00:28:37,520 --> 00:28:40,520
Speaker 1: you have to schedule this, I don't really have treats

660
00:28:40,600 --> 00:28:42,960
Speaker 1: like like I would have like on Halloween. You know,

661
00:28:43,040 --> 00:28:45,080
Speaker 1: I might, you know, raid my kids bags or something,

662
00:28:45,120 --> 00:28:48,320
Speaker 1: but I'm not going to have a candy bar just

663
00:28:48,360 --> 00:28:49,200
Speaker 1: for no reason.

664
00:28:49,400 --> 00:28:51,200
Speaker 4: I got a bag of Eminem's waiting for me at

665
00:28:51,200 --> 00:28:51,880
Speaker 4: home right now.

666
00:28:51,720 --> 00:28:55,080
Speaker 2: And it's all good about my peanut or playing plain.

667
00:28:55,280 --> 00:28:57,640
Speaker 4: Milk chocolate, They're not playing anymore.

668
00:28:57,720 --> 00:29:01,240
Speaker 2: I love the milk chocolate and I love the Pena Eminem's.

669
00:29:01,280 --> 00:29:03,280
Speaker 2: Those are like one of my favorite good the movie

670
00:29:03,280 --> 00:29:09,080
Speaker 2: theater is Popcorn Pena Eminem's Dodor Pepper. All right, we'll

671
00:29:09,120 --> 00:29:11,360
Speaker 2: good to know y'all. Don't ever treat yourself unless it's

672
00:29:11,360 --> 00:29:11,880
Speaker 2: a holiday.

673
00:29:12,160 --> 00:29:13,640
Speaker 3: No, I mean I do. I do. I just treat

674
00:29:13,680 --> 00:29:16,040
Speaker 3: myself in different ways, like you know, healthy smoothie or

675
00:29:16,400 --> 00:29:21,160
Speaker 3: something like Nature's candy, Nature's candy, some coconut water, you know.

676
00:29:22,520 --> 00:29:25,160
Speaker 3: On Monday, do we need to take a break and.

677
00:29:25,120 --> 00:29:27,680
Speaker 2: Come back break and then we'll come back and do

678
00:29:27,760 --> 00:29:45,240
Speaker 2: an email. All right, you guys, we're back and we

679
00:29:45,320 --> 00:29:47,200
Speaker 2: have an email mark take it.

680
00:29:47,160 --> 00:29:49,640
Speaker 1: Away, all right, Becka, thank you very much. I don't

681
00:29:49,640 --> 00:29:54,320
Speaker 1: know how to pronounce this person's name. It's Alicia or oh, Lika.

682
00:29:55,360 --> 00:29:59,280
Speaker 1: It's a A L I C could be Alisa, could

683
00:29:59,320 --> 00:30:02,320
Speaker 1: be Alika anyway, she says. My husband and I have

684
00:30:02,320 --> 00:30:04,960
Speaker 1: been married for almost two years. We are currently remodeling

685
00:30:04,960 --> 00:30:07,680
Speaker 1: a home we purchased last October and paying two mortgages

686
00:30:07,760 --> 00:30:10,000
Speaker 1: as we kept our old home during this time so

687
00:30:10,120 --> 00:30:12,400
Speaker 1: we don't have to live in the construction, which also

688
00:30:12,440 --> 00:30:14,960
Speaker 1: means twice the bills. We have a wedding coming up

689
00:30:15,160 --> 00:30:18,520
Speaker 1: one of my husband's friends, requiring us to travel to Mexico.

690
00:30:19,040 --> 00:30:21,880
Speaker 1: The resort is beyond extra. It would cost us about

691
00:30:21,880 --> 00:30:25,120
Speaker 1: seven thousand dollars for the week, so we are trying

692
00:30:25,120 --> 00:30:27,360
Speaker 1: to be cost conscious. Elsewhere as we're spending so much

693
00:30:27,400 --> 00:30:29,400
Speaker 1: money on these houses right now, Well, his friend is

694
00:30:29,440 --> 00:30:32,160
Speaker 1: having a bachelor party, which he decided to have across

695
00:30:32,200 --> 00:30:35,480
Speaker 1: the country. Am I wrong for thinking this is way

696
00:30:35,480 --> 00:30:37,640
Speaker 1: too much to ask of people to pay that much

697
00:30:37,960 --> 00:30:41,600
Speaker 1: too vacations for your wedding? Is it unreasonable that I

698
00:30:41,640 --> 00:30:46,440
Speaker 1: don't want him to go to Florida for this? So nutsyell, nutshell.

699
00:30:46,520 --> 00:30:48,360
Speaker 1: They got two houses going on right now, mortgage is

700
00:30:48,400 --> 00:30:50,760
Speaker 1: on both, some money's tight. There's a wedding in Mexico

701
00:30:50,880 --> 00:30:53,560
Speaker 1: and the bachelor party before that is in Florida.

702
00:30:55,680 --> 00:30:58,880
Speaker 2: I don't think you're unreasonable for not wanting him to

703
00:30:58,960 --> 00:31:03,280
Speaker 2: go because of financial situation. But I also don't think

704
00:31:03,320 --> 00:31:06,640
Speaker 2: it's your friend's friend's fault that you have two mortgages

705
00:31:06,680 --> 00:31:09,640
Speaker 2: and you have different areas where you're spending more money.

706
00:31:10,240 --> 00:31:13,760
Speaker 2: But I do think that if if it's like gonna

707
00:31:13,800 --> 00:31:17,560
Speaker 2: stress cause stress on your marriage and your family dynamic,

708
00:31:17,840 --> 00:31:20,440
Speaker 2: if your husband goes to a bachelorette party, then maybe

709
00:31:20,440 --> 00:31:23,320
Speaker 2: there's a conversation of like, hey, we're going to the wedding,

710
00:31:23,360 --> 00:31:25,680
Speaker 2: We're spending so much money on this, Like maybe we

711
00:31:25,720 --> 00:31:28,520
Speaker 2: celebrate him there and like make the most of that time.

712
00:31:28,600 --> 00:31:31,560
Speaker 2: But I don't think you're unreasonable for how you feel.

713
00:31:31,600 --> 00:31:34,120
Speaker 2: And I also don't think it's your friend's like responsibility

714
00:31:34,120 --> 00:31:39,880
Speaker 2: to your husband's friends responsibility to cater to like your

715
00:31:39,920 --> 00:31:40,920
Speaker 2: financial situation.

716
00:31:42,440 --> 00:31:45,240
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think also too, there's no shame in not

717
00:31:45,440 --> 00:31:47,440
Speaker 3: going to the bachelor party, you know what I mean,

718
00:31:47,560 --> 00:31:50,720
Speaker 3: just saying I can't make it, or what.

719
00:31:50,640 --> 00:31:53,000
Speaker 1: If husband wants to? What if husband wants to and

720
00:31:53,040 --> 00:31:57,080
Speaker 1: she thinks that's a big waste of their hard earned money, Well, then.

721
00:31:57,000 --> 00:31:59,440
Speaker 3: Your husband's an adult and he can make his own decisions,

722
00:31:59,440 --> 00:32:00,480
Speaker 3: I think, I think.

723
00:32:00,320 --> 00:32:01,000
Speaker 1: Is their money?

724
00:32:01,880 --> 00:32:05,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, no, she can't.

725
00:32:05,080 --> 00:32:07,560
Speaker 1: I think you have to make mutual decisions with the

726
00:32:07,840 --> 00:32:08,600
Speaker 1: mutual money.

727
00:32:09,240 --> 00:32:11,960
Speaker 2: Well that kind of doesn't that depend on if they

728
00:32:12,040 --> 00:32:13,920
Speaker 2: share bank accounts?

729
00:32:14,000 --> 00:32:14,240
Speaker 3: Yeah?

730
00:32:14,320 --> 00:32:17,200
Speaker 1: Can we can do enough married couples share a bank

731
00:32:17,200 --> 00:32:18,720
Speaker 1: account that we could assume that I feel like she

732
00:32:18,720 --> 00:32:21,120
Speaker 1: would have specified if they have separate incomes, because that

733
00:32:21,240 --> 00:32:22,160
Speaker 1: kind of solves the problem.

734
00:32:22,360 --> 00:32:23,880
Speaker 3: I don't know, you know, I'm like on both sides

735
00:32:23,920 --> 00:32:25,800
Speaker 3: of this because I think some I think people kind

736
00:32:25,800 --> 00:32:27,880
Speaker 3: of lose their minds when they like are getting married

737
00:32:27,920 --> 00:32:30,760
Speaker 3: and they just like expect a lot of people, you

738
00:32:30,800 --> 00:32:32,640
Speaker 3: know what I mean? Like I've been to so many

739
00:32:32,640 --> 00:32:35,400
Speaker 3: weddings since I've graduated from college, and it's just like

740
00:32:37,040 --> 00:32:39,240
Speaker 3: I think people kind of like lose their minds when

741
00:32:39,240 --> 00:32:41,000
Speaker 3: they when they're in that space. But at the end

742
00:32:41,000 --> 00:32:43,200
Speaker 3: of the day, it's on you to decide what you

743
00:32:43,320 --> 00:32:46,000
Speaker 3: can and can't do for yourself, you know what I mean.

744
00:32:46,120 --> 00:32:48,960
Speaker 3: Like if because I mean, look, when it happens for me,

745
00:32:49,480 --> 00:32:51,960
Speaker 3: I probably will lose my mind and be like, let's

746
00:32:51,960 --> 00:32:54,720
Speaker 3: all go to freakin' Abita for my bacherette. You know,

747
00:32:54,960 --> 00:32:57,560
Speaker 3: like right now, like pump Springs is looking pretty nice,

748
00:32:57,600 --> 00:33:00,480
Speaker 3: but who knows when it actually happens. But it's up

749
00:33:00,480 --> 00:33:02,560
Speaker 3: to you to decide what's best for you, what's best

750
00:33:02,560 --> 00:33:04,479
Speaker 3: for your lifestyle, what's best for your situation right now,

751
00:33:04,520 --> 00:33:06,480
Speaker 3: and if it's not good if you know, you guys

752
00:33:06,480 --> 00:33:08,640
Speaker 3: are kind of dealing with the financial struggle, Yeah, you

753
00:33:08,640 --> 00:33:09,960
Speaker 3: can talk to your husband about it, but if he

754
00:33:10,000 --> 00:33:11,800
Speaker 3: ultimately really wants to be there and decides it's that

755
00:33:11,880 --> 00:33:14,560
Speaker 3: important for him, like can't stop him.

756
00:33:15,280 --> 00:33:17,520
Speaker 2: I also think it's a conversation and maybe you can

757
00:33:17,560 --> 00:33:19,640
Speaker 2: budget it out and say this is kind of what

758
00:33:19,680 --> 00:33:21,720
Speaker 2: it looks like for the flight and where you're staying.

759
00:33:21,760 --> 00:33:24,920
Speaker 2: And we're already spending this at the wedding, So is

760
00:33:24,960 --> 00:33:27,440
Speaker 2: it something that feels really important for you to be at,

761
00:33:27,480 --> 00:33:32,000
Speaker 2: then maybe there's places where you can cut back on financially,

762
00:33:32,080 --> 00:33:33,760
Speaker 2: or he can cut back on. I think it's just

763
00:33:33,800 --> 00:33:36,640
Speaker 2: having a conversation because I don't think it's respectful for

764
00:33:36,720 --> 00:33:39,600
Speaker 2: him to just take off and not consider her feelings.

765
00:33:39,600 --> 00:33:44,160
Speaker 2: But also, you know, would it be a flip situation

766
00:33:44,240 --> 00:33:45,760
Speaker 2: if it was her best friend, right?

767
00:33:45,800 --> 00:33:49,360
Speaker 1: You know, so I think you'd be the same situation.

768
00:33:49,600 --> 00:33:51,840
Speaker 1: I disagree with Beca in the sense that I think

769
00:33:51,880 --> 00:33:54,200
Speaker 1: it is unreasonable for these people to ask you to

770
00:33:54,240 --> 00:33:56,360
Speaker 1: go to Mexico for a wedding and to Florida for

771
00:33:56,400 --> 00:34:00,120
Speaker 1: a bachelorette party unless you live in those areas. I

772
00:34:00,160 --> 00:34:02,320
Speaker 1: don't know if you live here in California. I think

773
00:34:02,320 --> 00:34:04,400
Speaker 1: that's unreasonable. Like that, it's a lot, a lot, a

774
00:34:04,440 --> 00:34:07,040
Speaker 1: lot to ask of your guests and the people closest

775
00:34:07,040 --> 00:34:08,799
Speaker 1: to you, and I think you're justified in not going

776
00:34:08,840 --> 00:34:10,960
Speaker 1: to the bachelor party. I also think that she can

777
00:34:11,040 --> 00:34:12,879
Speaker 1: stop him if she wants to. I think you got

778
00:34:12,920 --> 00:34:14,520
Speaker 1: to put your foot down here and say, look, we

779
00:34:14,640 --> 00:34:17,319
Speaker 1: got to have priorities. We're going to spend this money

780
00:34:17,400 --> 00:34:21,480
Speaker 1: on these houses and whatever, building a stable area for

781
00:34:21,520 --> 00:34:24,000
Speaker 1: ourselves here wherever we're doing. I don't need you going

782
00:34:24,200 --> 00:34:27,279
Speaker 1: spending seven more grand on a bachelor party in Florida, which,

783
00:34:27,320 --> 00:34:29,000
Speaker 1: by the way, bachelor parties in general, that's a whole

784
00:34:29,040 --> 00:34:29,719
Speaker 1: other conversation.

785
00:34:31,640 --> 00:34:33,400
Speaker 3: I don't know. I think putting your foot down and

786
00:34:33,440 --> 00:34:35,960
Speaker 3: doing things like that just creates resentment in the long term.

787
00:34:36,080 --> 00:34:38,120
Speaker 1: Might but also somebody's got to be the adult.

788
00:34:38,840 --> 00:34:41,719
Speaker 3: Well, yeah, I have a conversation, an adult conversation about.

789
00:34:41,480 --> 00:34:44,520
Speaker 2: It depends like is this guy always going to vacations

790
00:34:44,520 --> 00:34:46,319
Speaker 2: with us friends, Like we don't know, maybe this is

791
00:34:46,320 --> 00:34:48,040
Speaker 2: the thing that hasn't happened in years.

792
00:34:48,200 --> 00:34:50,879
Speaker 3: Is he always irresponsible? Money is something that he does often?

793
00:34:50,920 --> 00:34:53,160
Speaker 3: If that's the case, and like break up, what doesn't

794
00:34:53,160 --> 00:34:55,240
Speaker 3: have I said.

795
00:34:55,080 --> 00:34:58,239
Speaker 2: She wasn't unreasonable for feeling the way she does. But

796
00:34:58,280 --> 00:35:02,360
Speaker 2: I said it wasn't her, it was and their responsibility

797
00:35:02,440 --> 00:35:07,319
Speaker 2: to consider to know if they their financial situation could

798
00:35:07,320 --> 00:35:10,600
Speaker 2: handle the trip, you know, Like I was just saying,

799
00:35:10,640 --> 00:35:14,359
Speaker 2: like her feelings are reasonable, and also she's the first

800
00:35:14,440 --> 00:35:16,800
Speaker 2: thing is we have two mortgages. That's no one's fault,

801
00:35:17,040 --> 00:35:18,000
Speaker 2: that's no one's fault.

802
00:35:18,120 --> 00:35:19,080
Speaker 1: That's true agredation.

803
00:35:19,840 --> 00:35:22,000
Speaker 2: So my thing is like, I don't think it's the

804
00:35:22,480 --> 00:35:24,560
Speaker 2: If someone's wanting to celebrate and where they want to

805
00:35:24,560 --> 00:35:27,319
Speaker 2: celebrate is Florida, and they have the financial means to

806
00:35:27,360 --> 00:35:29,160
Speaker 2: do so, then how about it.

807
00:35:29,239 --> 00:35:31,239
Speaker 3: Right and bring the two people that can make it

808
00:35:31,320 --> 00:35:33,480
Speaker 3: like you know, just expect to won't be able to

809
00:35:33,480 --> 00:35:33,719
Speaker 3: make it.

810
00:35:33,800 --> 00:35:35,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think if your friend is under if his

811
00:35:35,719 --> 00:35:37,680
Speaker 2: friend is like, hey, I totally get it. We're doing

812
00:35:37,760 --> 00:35:40,040
Speaker 2: We're asking a lot for the wedding and the cost.

813
00:35:40,760 --> 00:35:43,239
Speaker 2: That's fine, But you know, if it turns ugly, then

814
00:35:44,719 --> 00:35:46,320
Speaker 2: that's a different conversation.

815
00:35:46,200 --> 00:35:48,440
Speaker 3: Right, unless it's unless you're like best friends like your

816
00:35:48,480 --> 00:35:50,560
Speaker 3: Cumnobiza for my bachlor party.

817
00:35:50,360 --> 00:35:52,640
Speaker 2: That would be wherever you need me to be and

818
00:35:52,719 --> 00:35:55,000
Speaker 2: at any wedding destination you need to be at.

819
00:35:55,040 --> 00:35:55,759
Speaker 3: Thank you al.

820
00:35:55,880 --> 00:35:58,080
Speaker 1: What are your thoughts on bachelor parties Tanya Robbie wants

821
00:35:58,120 --> 00:36:00,279
Speaker 1: to go to a bachelor party in a couple of weeks. Uh,

822
00:36:00,719 --> 00:36:01,919
Speaker 1: what are your concerns?

823
00:36:02,280 --> 00:36:03,840
Speaker 3: None? Honestly none?

824
00:36:04,080 --> 00:36:05,919
Speaker 1: What if you know there's going to be strippers there?

825
00:36:07,320 --> 00:36:09,600
Speaker 3: I honestly I trust him. I'm not like I don't know.

826
00:36:09,640 --> 00:36:11,239
Speaker 2: I would never would you be mad if you got

827
00:36:11,239 --> 00:36:11,839
Speaker 2: a lap dance?

828
00:36:13,960 --> 00:36:17,839
Speaker 3: I think so. I wouldn't like it. I wouldn't like it.

829
00:36:18,320 --> 00:36:22,520
Speaker 2: Would you be petty, passive aggressive if you got one?

830
00:36:22,560 --> 00:36:23,400
Speaker 2: If you saw a video?

831
00:36:23,880 --> 00:36:25,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, I would not. If he didn't tell me and

832
00:36:25,560 --> 00:36:28,799
Speaker 3: I saw videos, I would not like that. But I yeah.

833
00:36:28,840 --> 00:36:31,120
Speaker 3: I mean bachelor parties are like, I mean, whatever, they

834
00:36:31,160 --> 00:36:32,719
Speaker 3: are what they are. I trust him. I don't think

835
00:36:32,760 --> 00:36:34,320
Speaker 3: he's gonna do anything like weird or disrespect.

836
00:36:34,360 --> 00:36:36,320
Speaker 1: I just feel like nothing good comes out of bachelor parties.

837
00:36:36,360 --> 00:36:37,960
Speaker 3: But no, just because somebody goes with a bachelor party

838
00:36:37,960 --> 00:36:39,920
Speaker 3: doesn't mean that they're gonna, like do something bad.

839
00:36:40,560 --> 00:36:42,600
Speaker 1: No, it doesn't. I just don't see what the upside is.

840
00:36:42,640 --> 00:36:44,520
Speaker 1: I don't get it. But again, I don't get a

841
00:36:44,520 --> 00:36:46,839
Speaker 1: lot of things. I don't get drinking, so I know,

842
00:36:46,920 --> 00:36:48,880
Speaker 1: I know, I know, but I just don't get it.

843
00:36:48,920 --> 00:36:51,840
Speaker 1: I don't get the whole concept of a bachelor party, hanging.

844
00:36:51,680 --> 00:36:53,360
Speaker 3: Out with your bros, hanging out with your girls, like

845
00:36:53,600 --> 00:36:54,120
Speaker 3: r so do.

846
00:36:54,080 --> 00:36:56,480
Speaker 1: Something, but you don't have to be surrounded by strippers

847
00:36:56,640 --> 00:36:56,880
Speaker 1: to do.

848
00:36:57,000 --> 00:36:58,280
Speaker 3: Bachelor parties have strippers.

849
00:36:58,640 --> 00:36:59,200
Speaker 1: Mine didn't.

850
00:37:00,200 --> 00:37:00,399
Speaker 5: Mine.

851
00:37:02,680 --> 00:37:04,799
Speaker 4: I went to as thing and looked at thora's hands.

852
00:37:04,840 --> 00:37:06,640
Speaker 1: I went to a baseball game, so I get to

853
00:37:06,719 --> 00:37:08,799
Speaker 1: each their own. And I'm just saying that the traditional

854
00:37:08,840 --> 00:37:11,960
Speaker 1: bachelor party, I think is problematic and we can put

855
00:37:11,960 --> 00:37:15,240
Speaker 1: it away. It can go away, it can drift into history.

856
00:37:15,600 --> 00:37:19,279
Speaker 3: I just don't think like bachelor party equals strippers.

857
00:37:20,480 --> 00:37:22,560
Speaker 1: Anyway, in my mind it does. Maybe I'm wrong.

858
00:37:22,760 --> 00:37:25,600
Speaker 2: I think it's changed a little bit, like like bachelorette

859
00:37:25,600 --> 00:37:28,040
Speaker 2: party's own equal penises everywhere, you know, like the theme

860
00:37:28,120 --> 00:37:30,400
Speaker 2: I've been to, it's like they the bride specifically it

861
00:37:30,480 --> 00:37:32,520
Speaker 2: is like no penises, and that's to each their own,

862
00:37:32,560 --> 00:37:35,080
Speaker 2: but like not everything is like strippers and penises.

863
00:37:35,200 --> 00:37:38,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, that could be a title for this episode.

864
00:37:38,960 --> 00:37:41,319
Speaker 2: Penises. Yeah, that don't really draw the people in.

865
00:37:41,880 --> 00:37:45,360
Speaker 3: And there were penises at mine.

866
00:37:45,360 --> 00:37:48,480
Speaker 2: So I would tell her to have a conversation. I

867
00:37:48,560 --> 00:37:52,120
Speaker 2: know you'll probably want all shapes and sizes and include

868
00:37:52,200 --> 00:37:54,080
Speaker 2: like exactly include different.

869
00:37:54,239 --> 00:37:56,360
Speaker 3: Yeah, circumcised, uncircumcised.

870
00:37:56,400 --> 00:38:03,399
Speaker 2: You know, it'll basically look like a educational room by

871
00:38:03,480 --> 00:38:06,920
Speaker 2: the time we got great bachelor party.

872
00:38:08,360 --> 00:38:10,000
Speaker 3: And on that note, we're done for the day.

873
00:38:10,160 --> 00:38:12,920
Speaker 2: Conversation. Sit down, have a conversation about it. How important

874
00:38:12,960 --> 00:38:15,120
Speaker 2: is it for him to be at both what is

875
00:38:15,120 --> 00:38:17,120
Speaker 2: it going to cost? And just like try to be

876
00:38:17,280 --> 00:38:18,839
Speaker 2: respectful about it because.

877
00:38:18,920 --> 00:38:20,640
Speaker 1: And do some math. Hey if we do, if we

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Speaker 1: you know, you can go to Florida, if we skip

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Speaker 1: this other thing, and if we actually you know, get

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Speaker 1: less expensive duvet in the new you know, something like

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Speaker 1: that in the new house.

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Speaker 2: Not a new compromise, not a restoration hardware couch. You're

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Speaker 2: good to go. There you go.

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Speaker 1: Let's let's figure that out. Do the math.

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Speaker 2: What Taylor Swift song are we prescribing? Oh my god,

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Speaker 2: the Joker and the Queen.

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Speaker 3: Delicate.

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Speaker 2: Oh that's a good one.

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Speaker 3: Delicate conversation.

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Speaker 2: That's a good one.

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Speaker 3: Thank you, I might go, I wish you would. That's

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Speaker 3: pretty good.

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Speaker 2: Actually great.

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Speaker 3: I have Alyssa Taylor Swift songs right here where we

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Speaker 3: do the podcast so we can reference. I know there's

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Speaker 3: a lot that we're not thinking of.

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Speaker 2: All right, Well, on that note, it is time to

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Speaker 2: say goodbye. But we have a really great episode coming

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Speaker 2: up on Thursday with Victoria Garrick, so tune in for that.

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Speaker 2: I hope you all have a great week and we

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Speaker 2: love you and hopefully we see a lot of y'all

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Speaker 2: at Wango Tango in the scrubber section.

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Speaker 3: That's right, baby bye bye.