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Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need

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Speaker 1: letter live on the air, just like we're gonna read

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Speaker 1: this one right here. That's for you, Jay, right now,

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Speaker 1: buggle up, hold on tight, We got it for you

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Speaker 1: here it is Strawberry Letter. All right. First, let's do

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Speaker 1: a disclaimer on this one. If you do have small

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Speaker 1: what's going on exactly, and check it out. All right,

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Speaker 1: that was my disclaimer, Thank you guys. Uh subject, my

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Speaker 1: man has one tiny flaw. Dear Stephen Shirley, I met

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Speaker 1: a very handsome man a year ago. In the beginning,

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Speaker 1: things seemed perfect. He is a great job in his

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Speaker 1: are good friends. He says he would love to have

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Speaker 1: want kids someday. I wanted us to take things slowly

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Speaker 1: and get to know each other before we had sex.

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Speaker 1: So our connection would be stronger. We had sex after

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Speaker 1: we've been dating for four months, and it was horrible.

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Speaker 1: He proudly got undressed and I was excited to see

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Speaker 1: I faked it the first time because it was so awkward.

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Speaker 1: I'm still faking it to this day, and I'm tired

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Speaker 1: of playing these games in the bedroom. I'm not satisfied.

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Speaker 1: But he doesn't know it. He has a great guy.

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Speaker 1: He's a great guy, but this sort of this is

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Speaker 1: sort of a deal breaker for me. I'm not sure

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Speaker 1: so I need to let him know that I've been

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Speaker 1: thinking it and ask him if there's any way he

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Speaker 1: can make sex better for me. Some of my friends

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Speaker 1: say that no man is perfect, and I have to

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Speaker 1: that tell me to leave tiny man alone and find

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Speaker 1: a man that is perfect for me. He's almost perfect.

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Speaker 1: What should I do? Well, you know, there's no one perfect.

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Speaker 1: He's not perfect, and certainly you're not perfect, and almost

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Speaker 1: deal with. And it sounds like you've decided that you've

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Speaker 1: decided that his size or his lack thereof, we should

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Speaker 1: say that it really matters. Uh. You said that it's

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Speaker 1: is it really? Is it really? I mean? I think

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Speaker 1: and you know, tell him your situation and see if

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Speaker 1: there's anything he can do to make sex better for you.

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Speaker 1: I mean, if he's a good man, he says he

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Speaker 1: wants to please you and keep you, maybe you guys

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Speaker 1: can work it out. Maybe there's something you guys can

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Speaker 1: of here. Maybe maybe you can Maybe there's something he

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Speaker 1: with the bad. Steve, this is gonna be a hard

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Speaker 1: one for me to do because I am no reference. No,

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Speaker 1: are you going? Yeah? So here we go. My man

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Speaker 1: been the best thing for us relationship wise. Yeah, but

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Speaker 1: you're gonna suffer because my nickname on my TV show

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Speaker 1: with Big Daddy. Once Big Daddy leaves, there's an anger

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Speaker 1: good friends cause she don't miss nothing. Oh hey, I

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Speaker 1: can be that way when you see somebody that would

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Speaker 1: break it. Yeah, somebody that was in there making potato chips. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: somebody that was pouring the water on the rice Christmas snap,

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Speaker 1: cracker pop. When you see him and you know he

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Speaker 1: was somebody else, there's an angle. But if he ain't

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Speaker 1: did nothing, you don't miss him. Hey, how you doing?

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Speaker 1: I bring the kids over? They miss you. Go see

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Speaker 1: your daddy. All that thought, Steve, It's all he is

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Speaker 1: is your daddy. We'll have part two of Steve's response

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Speaker 1: coming up to twenty three minutes after the hour, subject

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Speaker 1: my man has one tiny flow. We'll get back into

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Speaker 1: it right after this. You're listening to show, all right, Steve,

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Speaker 1: come on, let's recap today's strawberry letter. We gotta go

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Speaker 1: with a disclaimer on this when though, go ahead, Jay

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Speaker 1: and Tommy with your disclaimer. Tommy, you want to do,

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Speaker 1: go ahead to me, do it? Okay, Get get your

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Speaker 1: the way in the other room, all the way. All right,

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Speaker 1: there's a man gonna sit your ass in the car.

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Speaker 1: Lady been dating a man for about a year, and um,

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Speaker 1: he says he's loved to have more children his ex wife.

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Speaker 1: They're good friends because he and she don't miss him.

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Speaker 1: it was horrible. He probably got her undressed. I was

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Speaker 1: could badly see it now right there, we have a problem.

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Speaker 1: You could badly see it. Unlike the late great Bernie Mack,

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Speaker 1: What does a man have to do when you don't

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Speaker 1: let me see, did he try to hypnotize you? Did

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Speaker 1: he pull a pocket watch out and go you're getting sleep,

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Speaker 1: he's getting big? Was he doing extra hollery? Oh? Yes,

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Speaker 1: I know, I'm bringing it girl. What you talking about? Whoa?

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Speaker 1: That's all you ever wanted? Extra holly? Yeah? Did you?

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Speaker 1: Did you want to why he was working with his

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Speaker 1: little self that at any point? Did he hang you

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Speaker 1: a magnifying black gosh? Did you notice on the side

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Speaker 1: And so now it leads me to wonder, what should

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Speaker 1: this is a deal breaker for me. Then she said,

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Speaker 1: I'm not sure High's wife put up with it. She didn't.

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Speaker 1: She didn't put up with it, she gonne. And the

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Speaker 1: reason she happy for him because he was a nice guy.

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Speaker 1: That's why they get along. And you probably meet him.

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Speaker 1: and left him. He know it's coming. He know you're

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Speaker 1: gonna leave. He know post your comments. Every woman he

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