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Speaker 1: It is time to ask the clo. This is from

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Speaker 1: Avis and Birmingham. Avis writes, My boyfriend is sensitive and

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Speaker 1: can't stand it when I tell him about things he

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Speaker 1: does that annoy me. I'm tired of sugarcoating everything and

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Speaker 1: tiptoeing around his feelings. Why can't he accept the criticism

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Speaker 1: and do better? Is that hard for men?

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Speaker 2: Bill? Why? Why don't you break up with it?

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Speaker 1: That what she just wants to do better?

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Speaker 3: No, no, go down the list again or stuff she said?

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Speaker 3: Go ahead read it?

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Speaker 1: Okay, all right. She can't stand it when she tells

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Speaker 1: him about things that he does that annoy her, and

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Speaker 1: she's tired of sugarcoating it everything and tiptoeing around his feelings.

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Speaker 1: Why can't he just accept the criticism and do better?

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Speaker 1: Is that hard for men?

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Speaker 2: How much stuff you telling him annoying?

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Speaker 1: She nagging him?

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Speaker 3: See, I'm telling you, man, you won't dude out? You

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Speaker 3: done want this dude out. It ain't that we can't

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Speaker 3: take it, it's just how much you want us to take.

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Speaker 3: If you steady coming to your man with what you

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Speaker 3: don't like about him, there's there's no appreciation in that

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Speaker 3: constant barrage of statements, and then I'm tired of tippy

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Speaker 3: toyn around him. So you just want to crack him

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Speaker 3: every time.

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Speaker 2: You feel like it.

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Speaker 3: Okay, go ahead, because because let me tell you something,

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Speaker 3: there's some things about you he don't care for. I

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Speaker 3: want you to know that, but he already knows he

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Speaker 3: can't go down that dog all it.

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Speaker 2: So no, lady, I don't like the way you worded

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Speaker 2: your question, so.

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Speaker 3: It kind of it seems to be like, yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 3: it just seems like it's a lot And why can't

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Speaker 3: he take criticizerm why man don't want to be criticized?

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Speaker 2: No, won't that?

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Speaker 1: No?

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Speaker 2: What woman you know? Won't her? Man always tell her

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Speaker 2: what's wrong? Man? Man?

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Speaker 3: Man by Hey, go get whoever gonna make you happy?

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Speaker 3: Because it ain't.

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Speaker 1: All right. Moving on to Jason and t Neck, Jason writes,

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Speaker 1: I met a gorgeous and amazing woman and we have

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Speaker 1: a lot of chemistry. I was all in until I

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Speaker 1: went to her nasty, funky house. She had to light

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Speaker 1: every like everything was fine? Can the good outweigh the

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Speaker 1: bad in this case? And what if I help her

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Speaker 1: clean up?

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Speaker 3: I'd have been the dog I've been in that exact situation.

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Speaker 3: I was twenty two years old.

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Speaker 2: Lord, what happened? Lordiest girl was fine, she had a baby,

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Speaker 2: But I ain't. She was fine, she had a baby.

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Speaker 2: Don't care.

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Speaker 3: I ain't here twenty two. I had to think about that,

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Speaker 3: and I can't. I ain't finna take care of nobody else.

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Speaker 3: But went over there, man, I walked in. I couldn't

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Speaker 3: believe it.

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Speaker 2: I couldn't.

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Speaker 3: The whole house was tore up from she opened up

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Speaker 3: the front door. The living room was destroyed.

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Speaker 2: Now.

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Speaker 3: The baby wasn't no taught to where he was running around.

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Speaker 3: He was a high chair, baby food all over the

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Speaker 3: baby chair, hard food that had been there for dishes,

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Speaker 3: all in the sink. You know how people have a

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Speaker 3: pile of clothes somewhere. They were everywhere. They was everywhere,

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Speaker 3: I mean, man, clothes on the couch. And I came in,

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Speaker 3: and you know, she said, just sit down anywhere, well

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Speaker 3: where because it's from Mary where I see. It's clothes

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Speaker 3: on all the chairs. Hey, man, But the warmth. The

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Speaker 3: girl was so gorgeous. Man, Lord, this girl was fine.

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Speaker 1: But that didn't turn you off though? Seeing her house

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Speaker 1: like that, yeah.

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Speaker 2: Turned me off? Uh huh so yeah, yeah, tell me,

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Speaker 2: you to take your clothes off in that hugo your

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Speaker 2: clothes the pile. Hey man, he man. Let me tell

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Speaker 2: you something. She made me some food.

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Speaker 3: She bought it on the plate, and I was looking

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Speaker 3: at the plate and the plate didn't look clean. No,

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Speaker 3: and I was just but I kept looking at how fine?

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Speaker 3: She was like, you know, I'm twenty two. I'm trying

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Speaker 3: to work.

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Speaker 2: Size it, yeah, make it work?

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Speaker 1: And you did you did you?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, foo?

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Speaker 2: I eat the food.

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Speaker 1: Now.

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Speaker 2: I ain't take clothes off that night. You know. I

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Speaker 2: was trying to keep that you went back. Yeah, but boy,

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Speaker 2: let me tell you some went upstairs.

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Speaker 1: Uh huh?

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Speaker 3: You thought downstairs was was raggedy?

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Speaker 2: Man? This girl.

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Speaker 3: Finally we had a we had we had, we had

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Speaker 3: a conversation. I went, I went to take her to dinner.

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Speaker 3: I said, can I ask you a question? I said,

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Speaker 3: your house is always uh, it's like dis a symbol.

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Speaker 3: It's always stuff all over the place.

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Speaker 2: What's wrong? She says, So are you complaining? Oh?

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Speaker 1: You? Uh? And what did you say?

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Speaker 2: No, I'm just trying to do you did you see it?

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Speaker 2: See it? Did you what you're trying to say?

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Speaker 1: Now?

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Speaker 2: I ain't trying to say nothing. Then it just it

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Speaker 2: went from there.

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Speaker 1: Man. So she knew it.

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Speaker 2: She was fine, she knew. It's no way you could

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Speaker 2: not know it. Uh wow. Let me tell you something.

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Speaker 3: If Selles was out, then I'd have called somebody and

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Speaker 3: told somebody. If phone cameras was out, then I'd have

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Speaker 3: took a picture of it.

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Speaker 1: Uh huh. So, so how do you help this guy?

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Speaker 2: He says?

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Speaker 1: Can the good outweigh the bad in this case? And

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Speaker 1: would help? What if he helps her clean up?

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Speaker 3: Okay? And then when you leave, what you think? Yeah, hey, man,

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Speaker 3: this is what I know right here, me.

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Speaker 2: Personally, but you know for sure, uh huh, you have.

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Speaker 3: To be a clean woman. It's it's just nowhere, right.

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Speaker 3: I'm not making an exception for that. It's just not

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Speaker 3: because I'm messy, so I ain't away hell.

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Speaker 1: But messy is not nasty and funky.

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Speaker 2: Okay, he's I'm messy, and I'm not nasty and funky.

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Speaker 3: If I'm messy, though, I lay stuff down all the time, Margie,

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Speaker 3: get on me all the time. Why do you just

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Speaker 3: lay that there because someone will pick it up?

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Speaker 1: And that someone will not be me?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? All right, all right?

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Speaker 1: Moving on to Ronda in Seattle. Ronda says, I'm thirty

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Speaker 1: nine and my husband is thirty two. He married me

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Speaker 1: and then realized he doesn't want kids until he's at

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Speaker 1: least thirty five years old. That won't work from my

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Speaker 1: body timeline? How can I convince him to do this sooner?

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Speaker 1: Will he resent me if I keep pressuring him?

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Speaker 2: Nah?

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Speaker 3: Just don't have a bag, really get pregnant. He don't

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Speaker 3: want kids to he thirty something. She's seven years old

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Speaker 3: in the hill. She gonna be forty something.

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Speaker 1: Don't get prend she got a clock to think about.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, TikTok, thank you. Cel I did not want not

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Speaker 2: now child.

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