Speaker 1: Guess what decision we're about to make? Horrible decisions. Don't
Speaker 1: we look very sweet and playful and nice and kind.
Speaker 2: Today, Yes we do. Y'all already offer to start it
Speaker 2: off in appropriate as fuck?
Speaker 1: Why she gotta be a horror because that's what we are.
Speaker 1: It's horrible decisions.
Speaker 3: Diyce, Well, bitch, yes, you hope you absolutely hope.
Speaker 1: Absolutely. I ain't gonna hold you.
Speaker 2: Every time I walk in the last lap, I'd be like,
Speaker 2: I wonder how many of you bitches weezied them? Fuck yo, Literally,
Speaker 2: I'm like, yeah, that looked like weezy type right now
Speaker 2: with your whole ass. Anyway, y'all, welcome to another episode
Speaker 2: of Horrible position.
Speaker 1: You girl Mandy by Hi everybody.
Speaker 3: I'm Weezy and we are doing a love episode today,
Speaker 3: which definitely Weezy's idea because I'm still on some love shit.
Speaker 1: But I know what I want to manifest, so I'm
Speaker 1: glad we're doing this. Yeah, that's great.
Speaker 3: I want to I want this episode because I felt
Speaker 3: like a lot of people were saying to me. They
Speaker 3: were like, dming me about what's the frequency thing you
Speaker 3: listen to Zra.
Speaker 1: And I was like, yo, on some real shit.
Speaker 3: I really think I've just been manifesting things and talking
Speaker 3: really good about it. And manifesting for me started more
Speaker 3: so like on some money shit, and then I was like,
Speaker 3: I'm gonna just get a nigga like this, but I
Speaker 3: don't want it to seem phony or you feel like
Speaker 3: I'm just gonna like talk up this thing that I want.
Speaker 1: I think all.
Speaker 3: Manifesting is is turned you into a positive thinker, and
Speaker 3: then your heart is just more open for shit. A
Speaker 3: lot of my friends and even myself have been in
Speaker 3: this predicament where like we just won't let a nigga
Speaker 3: go or somebody that's just holding us back, and that
Speaker 3: is really kept me from love. Breakups be taken a
Speaker 3: long time, you know what I'm saying, And I think
Speaker 3: after that moment happens, you kind of feel lost. So
Speaker 3: I actually partnered with a witchy bitch psych of.
Speaker 1: Course you did.
Speaker 3: Of course you did to get this surprising and that's
Speaker 3: why I when I even saw that one.
Speaker 1: And that's it. Oh, y'all going here a lot of
Speaker 1: wheezy today. No, we can talk about us together, but no.
Speaker 3: Her name is Jady and I know her through her
Speaker 3: friend of my name stuff and basically I did a
Speaker 3: reading with her. But I do like I'm not like
Speaker 3: consistent with psychics. Sometimes I'll come to you, I might
Speaker 3: want to know something, but I feel like I will
Speaker 3: use it as a crutch for everything. And I've seen
Speaker 3: people just get to that place where they're like, oh
Speaker 3: my god, well I have to listen to what my
Speaker 3: psychic told me or whatever my spiritual guide.
Speaker 1: But I know that JD's helped a lot of people.
Speaker 3: So I had her give me a big list, and
Speaker 3: I'm gonna give y'all her handle and shit like that,
Speaker 3: so you can hit her up anyway, let's talk about it.
Speaker 3: So we went to the Ships and Gig show. Mm
Speaker 3: hmmm at town Hall. Yes, I had a good time.
Speaker 3: Mandy and I hung out crazy like for a whole day.
Speaker 3: That was nice, Like hold on. We went to Eden.
Speaker 3: Were you with us all night?
Speaker 4: No?
Speaker 1: You left us.
Speaker 2: It was me, Weezy and Alex and then Alex's partner
Speaker 2: and then Weezy's boyfriend joined us. We from Oh our
Speaker 2: dead ass was a fifth wheel. We went from dinner
Speaker 2: because we had a business speeding. Then we went to Pergola.
Speaker 2: Somehow we got Weazy to join us at fucking Pergola
Speaker 2: because me and me and me and Alex's Alex's woman
Speaker 2: were right here. We ran into Pergola, and we ran
Speaker 2: into each other two weeks before Pergola. I hate that's
Speaker 2: my ship. I don't even smoke hookah, but Hergola is
Speaker 2: my vibe. The niggas with money is there, the bitches
Speaker 2: is pretty, the music is nice, the food is good,
Speaker 2: and then we end up at one of a place
Speaker 2: that you liked better? What was that elsewhere?
Speaker 1: I am? Then we go to elsewhere? Oh no, we
Speaker 1: went to Dumbo House. Oh, we went to the bitch.
Speaker 1: We went to five places and one night, then we
Speaker 1: went to Dumbo House. That's more wheezy speed. We had
Speaker 1: one drink and that ain't my really wait, that's craziest
Speaker 1: and I almost lost. Oh.
Speaker 3: I thought that's how our night would have ended. Mandy
Speaker 3: got in a fight two nights before we went out,
Speaker 3: and who would have we ended hugging?
Speaker 1: I did. I had a whole, I had mercury and
Speaker 1: so ye.
Speaker 3: While we're there, but I come back from the bathroom
Speaker 3: and Mandy and my man are like talking seriously, She's
Speaker 3: in his face.
Speaker 1: You don't remember what the fuck I told him because
Speaker 1: I'm like.
Speaker 3: Not a sexual way, but like they are definitely not
Speaker 3: a sexual way. They are talking close nigga, well because
Speaker 3: the music was loud, I know, but I'm like, oh
Speaker 3: my god, this combo's getting deep as fuck and it
Speaker 3: was going on a little too long.
Speaker 1: I'm like that who was filling my secret?
Speaker 5: Day?
Speaker 1: And we fel fight.
Speaker 3: So we get in the car and he starts driving.
Speaker 3: I'm like, so, what happened? He laughing, and he was like,
Speaker 3: you fresh, you couldn't wait.
Speaker 1: To ask me what the fuck? Yap? And I'm like,
Speaker 1: what happened?
Speaker 3: He's like, Mandy said some really nice things about you
Speaker 3: and I relationship, he said. She told me that I
Speaker 3: guess you read the love chapter or whatever or some
Speaker 3: chapter I talked about him in the book, and you
Speaker 3: had said to him that you feel like he was
Speaker 3: a good fit for me, that you liked him, he said.
Speaker 3: And one of the things she said is that she
Speaker 3: doesn't mind listening to me talk. She hated listening to
Speaker 3: your ex talk. And I was like, wow, well I
Speaker 3: didn't like him. I thought he was the first night
Speaker 3: we met him.
Speaker 2: First off, I thought he was a racist, like his
Speaker 2: friend was a white boy and the way we had
Speaker 2: a conversation about I.
Speaker 1: Didn't like that night. It was something. What was it.
Speaker 2: It was a chapsick or something. There was some something
Speaker 2: and his friend was white. He had a white boy
Speaker 2: that night. They said something about black women. Because we
Speaker 2: all went from that party to last lap. I never
Speaker 2: liked him and I thought he was like a cloud chaser,
Speaker 2: like the way he even showed up at our live
Speaker 2: show and had to be seen, had to be by
Speaker 2: our meet and greet and just made his presence like bitch,
Speaker 2: sit back.
Speaker 1: I just didn't like him. I agree with everything you said.
Speaker 3: He's a piece of shit, yeah, but the cloud chasing,
Speaker 3: that to me is supportive boyfriend. Okay, he was holding shit,
Speaker 3: he was helping take pictures like yeah and home. He
Speaker 3: surprised me at the show. I thought he was on
Speaker 3: a trip. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I just didn't like his I think that's what spo
Speaker 1: He was a shitty person. No, he was. He was shitty.
Speaker 3: But yeah, so you were giving the TF on that
Speaker 3: and then you said to him, Weezy is changing and
Speaker 3: you better not fuck up our brand.
Speaker 2: Niggaine, Oh, I did say that. That's what I said
Speaker 2: about my money. I said nigga, don't come here fucking
Speaker 2: up my money. I did tell him now.
Speaker 3: So then I guess, yeahked you, why do you feel
Speaker 3: like it's changing? And you're like, oh, you know, whether
Speaker 3: it be a rebrand or things from the book or
Speaker 3: her not wanted to talk about x y.
Speaker 2: Z And I said, na, when we're going on tour,
Speaker 2: don't get her ass pregnant yet.
Speaker 1: He shit.
Speaker 3: You were like, well, if you had a boyfriend that
Speaker 3: and you started progressing in a different way and you
Speaker 3: want a family, do you think you would slightly change?
Speaker 1: And you said yes, I mean yeah.
Speaker 2: I think that that's where we've been with this brand altogether.
Speaker 1: I think it.
Speaker 2: There's a mental there's a mental toll that this show
Speaker 2: takes on reading the comments and people making it seem
Speaker 2: like we don't deserve happiness, or that no one will
Speaker 2: ever take a serious or like all we talk about
Speaker 2: is host shit and where the scum of the earth's
Speaker 2: I think I think everyone deserves love. I think that
Speaker 2: I and the way that we have people in sex
Speaker 2: work on this show where the normal person may not
Speaker 2: believe that they're deserving those things, and for us to
Speaker 2: actually visually see it and have relationships with people within
Speaker 2: this space. I think, you know, I think that over time, Like, bro,
Speaker 2: we're both thirty three years old. Like eventually, yeah, I
Speaker 2: don't want to talk about the dick I suck last night,
Speaker 2: you know what I mean? I would love to have
Speaker 2: more thought provoking conversations and so yeah, I think again,
Speaker 2: even the throuble me asking their permission to talk about them, bitch,
Speaker 2: I used to give a fuck this month, motherfucker show.
Speaker 1: I know what I want to about you, asked them.
Speaker 1: I was, yeah, like, I'm very considerate of the people
Speaker 1: that are in my life.
Speaker 2: I want people to support what we have going on.
Speaker 2: Because even I went to the Need to Know mixer
Speaker 2: and shout out to Savon Reggie Alex. They're a podcast
Speaker 2: and they held a podcast at in d and a
Speaker 2: week after we went out. Literally it was just a
Speaker 2: couple nights or last weekend. Someone came up to me
Speaker 2: and was like, I just want you to know that
Speaker 2: you changed the path of my relationship. Like I'm married now,
Speaker 2: but what your podcast has done for my relationship means
Speaker 2: so much.
Speaker 1: And I don't know if you hear it enough, but
Speaker 1: I just want to thank you.
Speaker 2: And I don't think people understand that, yeah, we sit
Speaker 2: here and share we're vulnerable with our dynamics, with our
Speaker 2: own personal lives, but that this show isn't just about
Speaker 2: host shit or pushing a negative stigma or narrative out there.
Speaker 2: It's changing people's lives, and I just want us to
Speaker 2: continue making a brand that is positively impacting people, even
Speaker 2: when a lot more people don't think that that's what
Speaker 2: our brand is.
Speaker 3: I've constantly had conversations about this with people that like
Speaker 3: feel like the work is frivolous and like that conversation
Speaker 3: of my homegirl not understanding me, Like much like y'all
Speaker 3: that listen to this show that haven't really told your
Speaker 3: friends or fan or even your partner some of your
Speaker 3: desires or the way you want to live your life.
Speaker 3: I still go through that, and I literally put my
Speaker 3: sex life on the forefront. So yes, like this shit
Speaker 3: really becomes a sisterhood or brotherhood and just like family
Speaker 3: type shit. I had a guy come up to me
Speaker 3: and shout out to you, I don't know who you are.
Speaker 3: I was like, I'm from Mexico. I was at me
Speaker 3: packing and ran up to me and said, hey, I'm
Speaker 3: a whore hive, and like hugged me, and I was
Speaker 3: just thinking, like, damn, you really don't know who you're
Speaker 3: talking to when you're talking to these people. But I
Speaker 3: know that people that love horrible decisions like this is
Speaker 3: my tribe. Yeah, and I haven't necessarily felt that warmth
Speaker 3: and acceptance from people that don't understand this.
Speaker 1: I think it's also different.
Speaker 2: I think when we first started the pod, there was
Speaker 2: a connection that people felt because we were both in
Speaker 2: corporate like bitch, I was at Laalina the other day
Speaker 2: waiting on okay, waiting on a front because we were
Speaker 2: doing dinner at Frankie's next door. So I go into
Speaker 2: Laalina and shout out to you. I know you're a listener.
Speaker 2: And the two ladies that saw me sitting in there,
Speaker 2: they were shocked. They were like, I know you, and
Speaker 2: weasy say y'all be outside, but like you're in here
Speaker 2: with no security. You're literally a Laalinia Daring happy hour
Speaker 2: on a Tuesday. And I was like, nigga, we do
Speaker 2: regular shit and we beat outside like and it was
Speaker 2: just interesting for them to humanize us, like because there's
Speaker 2: still like now this celebrity element that removes us from
Speaker 2: reality that makes it seem like our experiences aren't ones
Speaker 2: that they can have, and I'm like, bitch, we be outside,
Speaker 2: we be meeting niggas on dating naps, we be motherfucking
Speaker 2: doing regular shit. Like, I want our audience to still
Speaker 2: have that connection to see themselves in us as well
Speaker 2: while we're ascending in our professional careers too.
Speaker 1: Well. I don't want to be like this for Elma,
Speaker 1: bitch when I would come beyonest like fuck all you anyway. No,
Speaker 1: I definitely feel like that. I love that.
Speaker 3: Like I've been on vacation and in my hotel, I
Speaker 3: run into a like fan. I've become friends with fans
Speaker 3: and actually not to call her a fan because I'm
Speaker 3: such a fan, but naked Beauty shout out to Brook
Speaker 3: Devard Brook is great. I went to her event for
Speaker 3: her new fragrance. Go check it out. It's this orange
Speaker 3: blosphemy Sandlo Wood smells great. So I'm at this dinner
Speaker 3: for her fragrance and she literally said to me, you know,
Speaker 3: I listen to horrible decisions every week, right, I'm like,
Speaker 3: mind you if anyone follows Brook, she's very Narrosmiths to me,
Speaker 3: and I'm not saying that much.
Speaker 1: I'm not I'm saying that.
Speaker 3: Because you get to see this family dynamic and luxury
Speaker 3: and glam lifestyle, and I love that shit. I love
Speaker 3: watching black luxury. I hate when we act like black
Speaker 3: girls doing rich shit is like not normal because I
Speaker 3: know these bitches, right, So we're laughing about it. She
Speaker 3: pulls it up and she's like, what the fuck? Like
Speaker 3: I listen every week and I'm like, what the fuck.
Speaker 3: So She's like, what if so and so look like
Speaker 3: I'm showing her scissors, I'm showing her my man, I'm
Speaker 3: showing her old bait. She's like, oh shit, And I'm
Speaker 3: laughing to myself on the way home, like why would
Speaker 3: I think a podcaster that has a husband and kid
Speaker 3: and all this other shit couldn't connect with me or
Speaker 3: enjoy us, right, because I don't. Every time I've seen
Speaker 3: Brooke Brook don't have horrible decisions energy, but the Brook
Speaker 3: is still a black woman that understands the ethos in
Speaker 3: the world of sexuality, friendship, whether we're friends or not,
Speaker 3: all of the shit we talk about like this can
Speaker 3: connect to anybody. So yeah, it does kind of annoy
Speaker 3: me that people think horrible decisions listeners have a look. Yeah,
Speaker 3: because I've heard that joke auting they must be one
Speaker 3: of yours, Like why because you know? But let's be
Speaker 3: very clear, bitch, meet and greet, you'd be quick to
Speaker 3: be like you.
Speaker 2: Listen to us, Look at your little innocent looking ass.
Speaker 2: You be calling out the botherfucking girls at the meet
Speaker 2: and greet too, Like.
Speaker 3: Honestly, white girls that listen horrible don't surprise me. It's
Speaker 3: white girls that look like they shop at Hollister that
Speaker 3: surprise me.
Speaker 1: I'm not playing with you, like.
Speaker 3: There's a certain type of white, Like when a bitch
Speaker 3: looks like she's lives in Brooklyn, I'm like, ohyah, okay.
Speaker 1: Whatever, well white white white.
Speaker 3: I was at Pumps, which is a dive bar, strip club.
Speaker 1: Why are you not in your head? Dave, Dave, I'll
Speaker 1: be up and there no has anyone else into Pumps.
Speaker 1: I've never even heard of it. Dog Me and my nigga.
Speaker 1: Driving back from Habibi, I'm like, oh, it's the strip club,
Speaker 1: let's go. We get in there.
Speaker 3: There's no cover, but you must tip every single girl
Speaker 3: a dollar during their dance, which feels like nothing right.
Speaker 3: I felt like I was How would you describe as
Speaker 3: it feels like a truck stop, right, it feels like
Speaker 3: a truck stop, but it's it's a dive bar and.
Speaker 1: It's a strip club. How many strippers were in there?
Speaker 3: Maybe fifteen, maybe less, maybe less, okay, but they're like
Speaker 3: dancing the metal and shit like it's a beer vibe.
Speaker 1: Like it's weird. One white girl literally it's like, oh
Speaker 1: my god, I can't believe you're here. I was like,
Speaker 1: did she saying that? Because I'm pretty bitch.
Speaker 3: She's like no, I listen horrible, and I'm like what,
Speaker 3: Like it was so strange to me.
Speaker 1: But then I realized, like, oh, you're a stripper. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm young. People hello, I like, I don't know anyway.
Speaker 3: The weirdest moments in my life flight attendance, Yeah, bitch
Speaker 3: a doctor. People listen to the show and I forget.
Speaker 3: So it reminds me not to talk too much about people.
Speaker 2: But also shout out to all of our fucking listeners
Speaker 2: because y'all are why we do this.
Speaker 3: By the way, we had a guest on our show. Okay,
Speaker 3: well I ran into I don't know, I'm a fianal
Speaker 3: concert with my gan.
Speaker 1: Why they talking about running the train on me? Not
Speaker 1: running a train on you.
Speaker 3: It's a woman that was been on the show before,
Speaker 3: and basically me and her was like hugged up for
Speaker 3: a second. He was like, what the fuck is this? Oh,
Speaker 3: and it was just like, both you guys want to
Speaker 3: fuck me?
Speaker 1: Oh my god.
Speaker 3: So anyway, I think that's gonna happen this week. Okay,
Speaker 3: she's gonna run a train on you with another woman
Speaker 3: or no, with your man. She's gonna they're gonna like
Speaker 3: s let me out. I guess he's not a train train,
Speaker 3: but like she's gonna have ap on I think so, okay,
Speaker 3: I'd like I'd like to hear about it. I just
Speaker 3: want to both the straps. Wow, would I don't know.
Speaker 2: I don't know. I would like to hear about it.
Speaker 2: I wouldn't like to see it. I'd like to hear
Speaker 2: about it. There was a reason why I didn't say
Speaker 2: i'd like to see it. I don't think i'd like to,
Speaker 2: but I like to hear about how I want to.
Speaker 1: I like to see how that goes. All right, let's
Speaker 1: get into vanilla ship. Let's get into it. I found
Speaker 1: an article from Huffington Post.
Speaker 3: Since we're talking about love, about really bad dating tips
Speaker 3: kind of like them I actually didn't think were bad,
Speaker 3: so I thought.
Speaker 2: What if you look at it? Because of course I did.
Speaker 2: I thank you for the outline, you know, I like
Speaker 2: to get ahead of the curve here. Some of them
Speaker 2: weren't bad when you sent me it.
Speaker 3: I actually was reading it, and I was like, I'm
Speaker 3: surprised that Weezy chose this because a lot of this
Speaker 3: is good advice.
Speaker 2: I didn't think so, but I thought you would think so.
Speaker 2: So I was like, this is about to contradict her
Speaker 2: whole horrible decision outline. So I'm I'm curious as to
Speaker 2: why you don't think these are good to see.
Speaker 3: So I agree with these being bad advice. Okay, some
Speaker 3: of them are bad, some of them are not. I thought,
Speaker 3: I'm a mix. I would like to know which ones
Speaker 3: you think are not. So let's go through it. Because
Speaker 3: all right, I.
Speaker 2: Read this, and I who feel free to jump in,
Speaker 2: Wolf jump in because you are a little so we gonna
Speaker 2: call you a hole.
Speaker 1: Basically, that's a different views.
Speaker 3: They're saying that this is quote unquote bad advice that
Speaker 3: readers said they've received or come across.
Speaker 1: Yes sentence, so real quick, wolf in the audience.
Speaker 2: These are things that they consider to be bad advice
Speaker 2: when dating.
Speaker 3: First quote, it will happen when it's supposed to happen.
Speaker 3: A psychologist in the Bay Area says just waiting for
Speaker 3: it to happen as bad advice. The truth is everybody
Speaker 3: is a busy life. Finding the right person requires kissing
Speaker 3: a lot of frogs. Don't expect love to come to you,
Speaker 3: go find it. I feel fifty to fifty. Okay, you
Speaker 3: can't sit in the house and expect to find love.
Speaker 3: But I think when someone's on a super prowl, I
Speaker 3: don't think you find it. I'm yeah, I don't think
Speaker 3: that this is I don't think this is bad advice.
Speaker 1: I do really.
Speaker 2: Like, like again, you're not, like you're not gonna fall
Speaker 2: in love with your Uber Eats delivery person, Like you're
Speaker 2: not just gonna come to your doorstep.
Speaker 1: But yeah, I don't think this is waiting for waiting
Speaker 1: to happen?
Speaker 3: Is okay Youah? I just think maybe that has to
Speaker 3: do with people that just sit around A homegirl just
Speaker 3: came to visit me this weekend and she's gorgeous. Okay,
Speaker 3: Like I literally was saying to her when we were out.
Speaker 3: She's like, yeah, I mean I've just been taking care
Speaker 3: of my daughter up and home. I really don't go anywhere.
Speaker 3: I just kind of date on vacation when I'm in
Speaker 3: New York, LA or the Bay. I'm like, what the
Speaker 3: fuck how She's like, I just don't. She's living in Charleston,
Speaker 3: South Carolina. Shout out to Aaron. She's like, there's I
Speaker 3: just I'm home. I'm like, Aarin, but you've got to
Speaker 3: go and date?
Speaker 1: But why are you not dating? Does she wants someone
Speaker 1: right now?
Speaker 3: I think she's interested in dating, but she just feels
Speaker 3: like it's not there.
Speaker 1: She dates.
Speaker 3: So that's the other thing. New York, LA or the Bad.
Speaker 3: But that's dating. I think that's the thing. And that's
Speaker 3: where I'm at right now.
Speaker 1: Like I I'm in a I'm in a rut, like
Speaker 1: the idea that I'm considering Polly.
Speaker 2: I don't know what a relationship looks like. I don't
Speaker 2: know what I think would make me happy with another
Speaker 2: person right now. So I'm just enjoying being around people
Speaker 2: when I am around them, I'm not actively looking for
Speaker 2: a relationship, right Yeah, maybe that's where she's at.
Speaker 3: Well, I just mean that if you would like a partner,
Speaker 3: which she's expressed that she would, you know, like my
Speaker 3: man wouldn't.
Speaker 5: Like.
Speaker 3: He was like, why aren't you at least going to
Speaker 3: some bars and meeting people in the area and doing something.
Speaker 3: And I think it's the notion that, right, she's a
Speaker 3: girl from the Bay, lived in New York. Now that
Speaker 3: she's in Charleston, she's like, but it's not those places.
Speaker 3: But I don't think that doesn't mean that they're not there, right.
Speaker 3: I think people in smaller cities feel like if they
Speaker 3: go out, they're going to run into the same people,
Speaker 3: which I can empathize with. So if that's any of
Speaker 3: y'all listening, I think that may not necessarily be the
Speaker 3: way to go. I think you can still connect to
Speaker 3: people listen just like her, if she walked into a bar,
Speaker 3: A nigga wouldn't expect a girl like that coming in,
Speaker 3: like Dan, why hasn't she been out? A lot of
Speaker 3: people don't be out in the streets, So go find
Speaker 3: your nick. What's the other bad advice? Create a list
Speaker 3: of what you want? Someone said, I've heard this far
Speaker 3: too often. People think creating a specific list will help
Speaker 3: them find love. That's compatible. My experience is the opposite,
Speaker 3: and it's important to have general idea for red flags,
Speaker 3: But my best relationships emerged with people who are so
Speaker 3: different from what I thought I was looking for.
Speaker 1: That is from a pastor you already know. I think
Speaker 1: that's bad advice. Creating a list, Yeah, I like it.
Speaker 1: I think I'm sure you do. I like creator? Are
Speaker 1: you you witchy ass? Whole tepy ass?
Speaker 3: Let me follow the signs and stars and moons and
Speaker 3: universe asks people? Let me ask you this, manny, Well,
Speaker 3: have you ever created a list of what you want
Speaker 3: for your life?
Speaker 1: Five year plan? Money?
Speaker 3: I mean, I'm not gonna lie where I'm at right now.
Speaker 3: I mean a it changes, but even like the vision
Speaker 3: board thing, I'm not really into that anymore either, Like,
Speaker 3: I think it changes so much for me.
Speaker 1: Like where if I wrote a list a year ago
Speaker 1: of what I want?
Speaker 2: Hmm, I think that list would look completely different today.
Speaker 2: So to me, I'm I'm in a place where I'm
Speaker 2: ever changing, ever evolving, being in therapy, And I think
Speaker 2: with this podcast and being around all these different people,
Speaker 2: my eyes and heart and ears and pussy is open
Speaker 2: as so many new things that I think a list
Speaker 2: would limit me.
Speaker 1: So I think, what's crazy about the list thing.
Speaker 3: I said it horrible in the casting call, like yeah,
Speaker 3: I want this, I want this, I want that.
Speaker 1: And I really did get it.
Speaker 3: I literally said, and I laughed about it when I
Speaker 3: looked at it the other day and I showed it
Speaker 3: to him. I want my man to look like he
Speaker 3: fuck white girls, but don't. And literally, I feel like
Speaker 3: everybody thinks that when they see a dude with gauges
Speaker 3: or piercings or whatever, right a black man. But yeah,
Speaker 3: I really got exactly what I wanted. And I do
Speaker 3: believe not just the list, but the list wasn't always aesthetic.
Speaker 1: It was a lot of the ways that he would
Speaker 1: treat me.
Speaker 3: I wrote about how I wanted the person I ended
Speaker 3: up with to encourage my family, me to be with
Speaker 3: my family like that, to me is really important.
Speaker 1: I've got not a big family. We all know.
Speaker 3: I wanted that man to tell me all the time
Speaker 3: that I need to be doing X y Z. I
Speaker 3: wanted a family man. I think writing a list is healthy.
Speaker 3: I don't think it's bad because I think that none
Speaker 3: in our people are doing it for themselves with a.
Speaker 1: Life plan like I do.
Speaker 3: Think people need to be writing down where they want
Speaker 3: to be at writing numbers down that are realistic. Don't
Speaker 3: write down a million dollars, but if you want to
Speaker 3: make one twenty five in the next year or two, Yeah,
Speaker 3: you should be writing that shit down and figure out
Speaker 3: how you're gonna get there. Maybe right now, your job
Speaker 3: pays you seventy five, right, how are you going to
Speaker 3: get this other fifty?
Speaker 1: Talk about the side gigs you need to do.
Speaker 3: What creatively you should be tapping into, what are the
Speaker 3: remote job, whatever it is, asking for a raise. If
Speaker 3: we're not putting that pen to paper, sometimes I don't
Speaker 3: think we really believe.
Speaker 1: Shit gonna happen.
Speaker 3: Okay, you know, I feel like you've and I have
Speaker 3: talked about doing that, though I'm not doing that with
Speaker 3: love or a nigga. Oh bad advice. No one wants
Speaker 3: to date someone with a child. Definitely bad advice. That's
Speaker 3: bad advice. I think that's fucking terrible. I do think
Speaker 3: that's bad advice.
Speaker 1: It says movie first dates are okay. I think that
Speaker 1: that is bad advice. Agreed.
Speaker 3: I don't think that a movie date with your big
Speaker 3: ass a each Like again, all we do is talk
Speaker 3: about the need to communicate a dinner in a movie
Speaker 3: A movie takes you completely away from the person.
Speaker 2: It disengages you. You can't talk gum first day, I
Speaker 2: think I think a movie date is a dumb first
Speaker 2: three dates. I think a movie date is something you
Speaker 2: should do once you're invested in the person.
Speaker 1: You guys just want to be around each other, but
Speaker 1: discontroy o a bit.
Speaker 3: Only that time a movie date can be good is
Speaker 3: if you have dinner plans right after, because you get
Speaker 3: to dissect about the movie. But you really don't even
Speaker 3: talk to each other. I don't think you don't talk
Speaker 3: to each other at all. And if I'm in a
Speaker 3: movie and nigga want to talk, yo, shut up. I'm
Speaker 3: trying to see what the fuck is going on. Only
Speaker 3: first date that was good that I saw a movie
Speaker 3: with was the Is it the Joker?
Speaker 1: What was the one?
Speaker 3: So he was like, what are your plans? I was like,
Speaker 3: my bad. I really would link up with you for
Speaker 3: a drink, but I gotta go see this shit. And
Speaker 3: he was like a bad first day, but I'm gonna
Speaker 3: see it with you. And it's funny because I did
Speaker 3: feel like I couldn't connect with him because I was
Speaker 3: like looking at him and show like damn he kind
Speaker 3: of cute, like I was starting to get excited. I'm like,
Speaker 3: we want to talk him for it. It wasn't good,
Speaker 3: that's fine, but we also just went out. We know
Speaker 3: you have a you could have your attention on a movie.
Speaker 3: This is like, you'll be all over the place.
Speaker 1: Me. I'm watching the movie. I ain't even look at this.
Speaker 1: What my add gotta do anything?
Speaker 2: Bill add You not gonna be super into the movie anyway?
Speaker 1: Shut the fuck up. Next one.
Speaker 3: Stop expecting so much. It's I hate this one. This
Speaker 3: is I hated this one too.
Speaker 1: What the fuck you just told me? No no, no, no,
Speaker 1: no no no no huh.
Speaker 3: I was sold to stop respecting so much from love
Speaker 3: and to manage expectations. I don't agree love makes the
Speaker 3: world go around, but it doesn't mean compromising on personal values.
Speaker 1: This is bad advice.
Speaker 2: Have your expectations, bitch, or you know what, have your standards.
Speaker 2: I will say that's standards, because expectations lead to disappointment.
Speaker 2: If you have these grandiose expectations with how a person
Speaker 2: that you don't know should show up and treat you, bitch,
Speaker 2: Once they don't show up, or they ghost you, or
Speaker 2: the deckain't as big as you wanted it to be.
Speaker 3: You're going to be let down. But I do think
Speaker 3: that you should go into dating with knowing what you want.
Speaker 3: If you want a person to respond within a certain time,
Speaker 3: if you want to be treated, if you want to
Speaker 3: be taken out before they come to your house, if
Speaker 3: you want a certain fucking level of dates. Like if
Speaker 3: you're like, nah, nigga, I want to go to a
Speaker 3: Michelin Star restaurant, O macase, don't take me to motherfucking
Speaker 3: two for twenty Applebee's. You can have those things and
Speaker 3: set those things as being realistic, but.
Speaker 1: I think they I don't think that. I mean, but
Speaker 1: I mean it was extreme.
Speaker 3: But if you want to go to a ol Macase,
Speaker 3: because that's what the fuck you do on your own,
Speaker 3: don't accept the nigga to take you out to some
Speaker 3: motherfucker pizza shop.
Speaker 2: I can't expect the nigga to feed me how I
Speaker 2: feed myself. And here's so here's my thing. Expectation wise.
Speaker 2: Maybe not, it's fine, it's fine. I'm loud enough to
Speaker 2: me to me. Maybe yes, it's bad to expect a
Speaker 2: person to do that. But if that's my standard and
Speaker 2: you can't meet that standard, then you have to be
Speaker 2: okay with recognizing that a man out the gate won't
Speaker 2: meet the expectations you'll have for him later, if that
Speaker 2: makes sense.
Speaker 3: Okay, So when it comes to type of dates you need,
Speaker 3: and when it comes to them being expensive dates, I
Speaker 3: actually think if you seriously need that, you actually can't
Speaker 3: just date any type of nigga.
Speaker 1: Well, no, mind you all that.
Speaker 3: I think when you're putting those expectations like you need
Speaker 3: to be oh ma, Casse is expensive, Madia, it's one
Speaker 3: fifty person.
Speaker 1: Oh I mean yeah, but they have some cheaper ones
Speaker 1: in the city. They do.
Speaker 2: I follow them, But you said, Michelin, Oh yeah, them
Speaker 2: like three hundred. That could be later. But to me
Speaker 2: again where.
Speaker 3: I'll But I'll go to a fucking o Macasse, then
Speaker 3: a dive bar and do pickleback shots.
Speaker 1: It's highs and loads over here, a miss.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but that might be too high for the nigga.
Speaker 2: I realize after my ex don't want to mail being
Speaker 2: too high for you, darling. Okay, yeah, I'm not doing
Speaker 2: that again. I'm not doing someone who has to wait
Speaker 2: for a check to take me out to eat. That's
Speaker 2: not the dynamic that I want in anyone that I'm
Speaker 2: considering actually dating, like me and Van. There was a
Speaker 2: tweet that just went viral, especially now that his calls
Speaker 2: got to pay sixteen thousand a month.
Speaker 4: Uh.
Speaker 1: Someone else just got their well even divorce.
Speaker 3: Tina Knowles, Van Layton, Rachel Lindsay has to pay sixteen
Speaker 3: Uh huh Rachel getting money life. Yes, well no, that's
Speaker 3: why she said, bitch, now I gotta work more. They
Speaker 3: came out and said she makes like sixty thousand a month,
Speaker 3: that he she has to pay him sixteen thousand a
Speaker 3: month and their divorce. Miss Tina Knowles just broke up
Speaker 3: with her. Knicky not to Miss Tina Knowles, but we're
Speaker 3: reaching a dynamic where as women are making more money
Speaker 3: where you know, y'all love She wasn't with me shooting
Speaker 3: in the gym. A lot of these men's now are
Speaker 3: making a lot of these men at a lot of these.
Speaker 2: Men's now are coming after the pockets. Look what even
Speaker 2: Emon was trying to ask from Tiana Taylor like, there's.
Speaker 1: A lot of money from Tian Yeah, I mean yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't know what.
Speaker 6: He's trying to get deep into that music, trying.
Speaker 1: To get deep into the back. So like, and they're
Speaker 1: no longer wanting to pay money.
Speaker 2: Like, so where where the women are now outperforming or
Speaker 2: out is he not ready?
Speaker 1: No, he's been, he ain't played. I don't know about
Speaker 1: four or five years.
Speaker 3: Like it's getting to a point where women are out earning,
Speaker 3: looking for partners that love them.
Speaker 2: They're getting married and then these niggas is like spousal
Speaker 2: support me, baby, take care of me now.
Speaker 1: So I'm not.
Speaker 2: I'm not to the point where though I don't want marriage,
Speaker 2: I'm no longer in a place and me and Van
Speaker 2: agreed want uh one notch like tax bracket wise, maybe
Speaker 2: one above or one below. I'm not dating somebody that
Speaker 2: makes a lot less than me. And when me and
Speaker 2: him were dating, he's a retired person who made what
Speaker 2: he made.
Speaker 1: I made five times his income. Not happening anymore, No,
Speaker 1: not doing it. I'm not.
Speaker 2: I'm not subjecting myself to if I and this is
Speaker 2: what it was in that relationship, bitch, if I wanted
Speaker 2: to go to town, I was paying the bill, like
Speaker 2: he didn't believe in spending two three four hundred dollar
Speaker 2: was on a meal.
Speaker 1: That's the food I like.
Speaker 3: And so if I wanted it, I brought him to
Speaker 3: experience what I like, I'm not doing that no more.
Speaker 1: I want a nigga.
Speaker 2: Like what you said you enjoyed a little bit with
Speaker 2: yo X was that y'all were on the same bougie level.
Speaker 2: Y'all could both afford the things that y'all like to do.
Speaker 2: That's where I'm at, you know, And that's all I'm accepting.
Speaker 3: It's crazy because in my relationship now, we're eating out
Speaker 3: lavish once a week and regular once a week.
Speaker 1: I'm fine with that.
Speaker 3: And I was like, I can do this forever. I
Speaker 3: hope you could do this forever. Yeah, I can do
Speaker 3: this forever. So and we picked our meal, you know
Speaker 3: what I mean. And he literally said to me, like,
Speaker 3: I'm really dating a hotel bro like he wants to
Speaker 3: eat I swear to God, this is not a joke.
Speaker 3: Raw before four. Then we have one meal. I am
Speaker 3: tired of dating Wolf. Like in the mornings it's fruits
Speaker 3: or nuts or whatever, it's raw food.
Speaker 1: And then one meal.
Speaker 3: Like every time we see an older black couple, He's like,
Speaker 3: that's what we're gonna look like, babe, Like you see
Speaker 3: how they look like, that's what we have to look like.
Speaker 3: We must be healthy, healthy, sick of it. But girl,
Speaker 3: let me tell you something, and I hope you're not
Speaker 3: watching this. My homegirl was staying with me for like
Speaker 3: a month and a half, right, and normally he'll stay
Speaker 3: over on the weekend and we see each other once
Speaker 3: a week, I mean once during the week, every time
Speaker 3: he leaves. And I didn't know I was doing this, Mandy.
Speaker 3: She was like, why do you keep ordering pizza? As
Speaker 3: soon as that nigga lead Gray caled you.
Speaker 1: Every time me and that nigga broke up, I went
Speaker 1: straight to order carnitas, had bacon nigga. Every time he
Speaker 1: and that muscle motherfucker broke up, I'm going to Chick Filake,
Speaker 1: give me the carnita.
Speaker 3: So we're coming to this thing now of like what
Speaker 3: the fuck are we gonna do, bitch, because we know
Speaker 3: you eat too much. So when we went out to
Speaker 3: eat last night, we went to Blue Ribbon and we
Speaker 3: ordered and you know, the Oma cos and shit. He's like, look,
Speaker 3: I'm cool with all this glutting and shit if it's
Speaker 3: the night out. But like now we're in this point
Speaker 3: of like how are we gonna keep healthy? And I
Speaker 3: was like, bro, I need like I don't think you
Speaker 3: eat to live.
Speaker 1: I lived.
Speaker 3: When we go on vacation, He's like, oh, this beach
Speaker 3: looks great, and I'm like, yo, look at this Michelin
Speaker 3: star spot. That's how I vacation. I do that with
Speaker 3: my friends. Yeah, I like doing that. I'm not gonna
Speaker 3: hold you. I love not having a nigga in my
Speaker 3: place anymore because I'm one of them. I eat like
Speaker 3: if I'm at home and I'm hungry for dinner, I
Speaker 3: could have chips and dip me too. Oh yeah, I
Speaker 3: ain't gotta eat a whole meal. I eat like a
Speaker 3: fucking bird. And I love might have popasis. They don
Speaker 3: want little chese crackers. That's like, maybe I'll have a taco.
Speaker 3: Maybe maybe I'll go downstairs get a little poop, and
Speaker 3: maybe y'all do a little oodles and noodles. So I
Speaker 3: listen the real regular shit. This one is interesting. Final
Speaker 3: one bad piece of dating advice, don't go to bed angry.
Speaker 3: This is the worst advice.
Speaker 1: It said.
Speaker 3: I've stayed up, danced fighting for four day straight, literally
Speaker 3: didn't go to work just so we didn't go to
Speaker 3: bed angry. Sometimes it's better to disagree. I guess she
Speaker 3: was telling a joke, but I'll be honest, I don't
Speaker 3: want to go to bed angry. I don't care what
Speaker 3: anybody says. I think that's good advice because the one
Speaker 3: time that we did it, it made my next day terrible. Brokay,
Speaker 3: I fucking woke up. I showed up at work. I
Speaker 3: was just feeling off. I don't like something that's unresolved.
Speaker 3: Maybe we're agreeing to disagree, but there's got to be
Speaker 3: some type of like like I don't want to hang
Speaker 3: up the phone still tight, right, Like that shit is
Speaker 3: really tough?
Speaker 1: Well did we not just have this conversation? Tell me
Speaker 1: what did you guys talk about? Time and place?
Speaker 2: Bitch, go to bed angry. If I don't want to
Speaker 2: talk and I'm not in a place to.
Speaker 3: Where we can meet or resolve at this very moment,
Speaker 3: grow up, deal with it.
Speaker 1: Like we can beat angry. We're human beings.
Speaker 2: The idea that we have to resolve an issue or
Speaker 2: get over something because you absolutely need to when the
Speaker 2: sun is down does not work for me. If I'm
Speaker 2: in a place where I don't feel like we're gonna
Speaker 2: reach an actual resolve in this moment, let me sleep
Speaker 2: on it. Let me get in control of my emotions
Speaker 2: and feelings and then let's talk about it, not when
Speaker 2: emotions are high, and that may take longer for me
Speaker 2: than it does for you.
Speaker 1: And to me, that's creating what like what what did
Speaker 1: I say? It was?
Speaker 2: It's not even just a boundary, but it's like, if
Speaker 2: we really want to reach a resolve, you can't put
Speaker 2: me on a time limit because it's what you want,
Speaker 2: because it completely takes away fair being able to show
Speaker 2: up in a way that where I'm just not saying
Speaker 2: anything just to get over this.
Speaker 3: And in some points sometimes I need space and he
Speaker 3: doesn't like right like he does not need it, and
Speaker 3: I'd be like, I just want to man, and it
Speaker 3: is like, bruh, we got into a little thing. And
Speaker 3: it's funny because when we went out right, we didn't
Speaker 3: get into it into it A long story short. We
Speaker 3: just had a disagreement on the phone and it was
Speaker 3: about defensiveness, so.
Speaker 1: We'll be defensive. He does or you do? Who you
Speaker 1: think that? You got a lot of issues the whole room,
Speaker 1: you girl.
Speaker 3: He tried to walk fight start. It wasn't a real fight,
Speaker 3: but I told him what happened with you?
Speaker 1: I'm like bro.
Speaker 3: Last night someone told me that Mandy got in a
Speaker 3: fucking fight and a pan nota mama. And I was like,
Speaker 3: on a fucking Wednesday and he was like what. I'm like, yeah,
Speaker 3: He's like, who was it. I'm like, she doesn't know.
Speaker 3: And he said to me, see, this is why, like,
Speaker 3: y'all need to just be super careful when you're out.
Speaker 3: And he kept saying, y'all, y'all need to make sure that,
Speaker 3: like you know, when you were with friends, like you
Speaker 3: watch your back, like, don't be going out too drunk,
Speaker 3: don't let da da don't be talking to people.
Speaker 1: I say, y'all, I ain't get in a fight, nigga,
Speaker 1: Who the fuck is y'all? This don't got nothing to
Speaker 1: do with me. Okay, I'm like, why do you Why
Speaker 1: are you laughing? Because I'm like, why are you saying y'all?
Speaker 2: But you want to know what the most hilarious thing
Speaker 2: about her saying this is one of the first things
Speaker 2: you said to me was did she know you from
Speaker 2: the podcast?
Speaker 1: Did she maybe not like you from the internet. That's
Speaker 1: what I thought my point, So why are you so
Speaker 1: mad that he said y'all when immediately you attached it
Speaker 1: to the podcast that we have bitches, they be mad
Speaker 1: at you, bitch, cow I don't have Twitter. Oh it
Speaker 1: don't matter.
Speaker 3: Them goddamn be girls about to come up and start
Speaker 3: throwing Alumina met show, ass hole. I don't give a fuck,
Speaker 3: bitch because I get right out anyway.
Speaker 2: Don't act like they only hate me, bitch, the those
Speaker 2: people that don't agree with you. I'm joking, okay, but no,
Speaker 2: why he said that was what I thought, y'all.
Speaker 1: Y'all know I thought it was I did no, no, bitch,
Speaker 1: it was a bitch. I told you was a bitch.
Speaker 1: I didn't know. But anyway, so when he.
Speaker 3: Kept saying, He's like, yo, I'm not even coming at
Speaker 3: you crazy. I'm just saying I want you to be safe.
Speaker 3: I'm saying, y'all because y'all are in a public space.
Speaker 1: But I y'all would not you just be wanting to argue. Girl,
Speaker 1: I'm like, so you mad? Didn't hang up? And he
Speaker 1: hung up, and I was like, I can't release funny
Speaker 1: hold on.
Speaker 2: Not only that, let me tell you how Weezy hits
Speaker 2: me up asking about the fight, and I was like,
Speaker 2: oh huh, it was a your ghetto ass neighborhood.
Speaker 1: This is why I can't say.
Speaker 3: Your little mother fucking neighborhood. I really I couldn't believe it.
Speaker 3: I was like, yo, little right, it's a nigger I
Speaker 3: used today. And he was like, bro, what the fuck
Speaker 3: just happened?
Speaker 1: MINDI? I'm like, what happened when Mandy and so anyway girl?
Speaker 3: No?
Speaker 2: And then is embarrassing because we'd have called the cops
Speaker 2: and it. Larry June walked in and he's like, what happened?
Speaker 2: And I was like, nigga, I came up now the
Speaker 2: gun in a fight and ship like a bitch just
Speaker 2: started hitting me.
Speaker 3: Mind you the cops and I'm like, this is the cops.
Speaker 3: Don't know who the fuck Larry's Joe and I'm like I'm.
Speaker 1: Talking to Larry.
Speaker 2: I'm like, I just got a whole fucking fight. We
Speaker 2: was only in here for five minutes. I saw Fresco.
Speaker 2: He said he saw you that night. Bro, I saw
Speaker 2: everybody that night. I didn't even ask about He's like, yo,
Speaker 2: I saw Mandy.
Speaker 3: Literally left last lap and went to impanada. I'm like,
Speaker 3: bitch just getting anada and I get in the whole
Speaker 3: fucking fight.
Speaker 1: Oh So this is how to fight.
Speaker 3: This is how our disagreements go, and I hate that
Speaker 3: it turns into sex. I texted him because I was like, damn.
Speaker 3: He really hung up When I said up, I don't
Speaker 3: like that.
Speaker 1: He said, hang up.
Speaker 3: So I said, I'm going to this meeting with Mandy
Speaker 3: and we have to go to this show. If you
Speaker 3: ain't at my house by the time I get home,
Speaker 3: I know something nigga.
Speaker 1: With you, and it stead you invite him some pergoling.
Speaker 3: Because we had a flat o'clock in the morning. I
Speaker 3: called him after the show. I said, where the fuck
Speaker 3: you at?
Speaker 1: He said why? I said, you better be at my
Speaker 1: goddamn house. He said, you ain't fucking me. I ain't
Speaker 1: fucking with your nigga, but you better be there. But anyway,
Speaker 1: do you want to come to Pergola?
Speaker 4: What is?
Speaker 1: I don't know, but no.
Speaker 3: So there was a I was gonna say a really
Speaker 3: cool question that I asked him recently. That started some
Speaker 3: great dialogue that I want to share for anybody in
Speaker 3: a relationship. Oh, this is the Hord dirt. Come on
Speaker 3: this transition. It ain't really a hord dirt, but it's
Speaker 3: a tip.
Speaker 1: It's a tip. It's a dating tip. Okay, so.
Speaker 3: I have been having really good disagreements. If this ain't
Speaker 3: the most toxic thing, you were going to have hard conversations.
Speaker 6: Okay.
Speaker 1: I'm saying, like we've been really doing a good job
Speaker 1: with them.
Speaker 3: Really respecting each other and not raising our voice, like
Speaker 3: taking time to listen.
Speaker 1: You yell at him and say, bitch, get your at
Speaker 1: the pergola. I don't feel like that count.
Speaker 3: That's to me, that's not a real argument. You know,
Speaker 3: when an argument is tough, that's dumb shit.
Speaker 2: You sound like my friends who say, girl, I ain't
Speaker 2: here dicking a long time and I saved the nigga
Speaker 2: and she was like, don't count.
Speaker 1: That's what is that? Sound like a real argument?
Speaker 6: Ya, I get what you said, because I fuck around
Speaker 6: do the same shit.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that sh it's dumb to me.
Speaker 3: But when we're really like talking about something, Okay, So
Speaker 3: I was watching Couple's Therapy on the plane.
Speaker 2: Oh, you talked about this? No, I've got asked him
Speaker 2: this two days ago. Oh y'all still watching the show
Speaker 2: together because it's not together?
Speaker 1: Okay.
Speaker 3: I said, Hey, I want to know something, seriously, if
Speaker 3: we were with a therapist, what would you want that
Speaker 3: therapist to help me understand about you or myself that
Speaker 3: you feel like I don't get good.
Speaker 1: Question right, okay, because I'm really watching this show.
Speaker 3: And I'm like, I don't feel like we have these problems,
Speaker 3: but I also don't know what problem he has with me.
Speaker 3: And he said, the only thing I would want a
Speaker 3: therapist to help you understand is that you need to
Speaker 3: be more intentional, mindful, and patient, and basically had said
Speaker 3: that he feels like I don't know how to slow
Speaker 3: down and it's something he really doesn't like about me.
Speaker 3: And the other side of that, it's the thing that
Speaker 3: helps me get money, the hustler energy. I could be exhausted,
Speaker 3: I'm still going to get up, you know. So he's like,
Speaker 3: that's what I want you to understand. And I was like, Okay,
Speaker 3: what's something I would want him to understand? And I said,
Speaker 3: I would want you to understand mental health a little
Speaker 3: bit more so for me because he's so ho teppy.
Speaker 3: I feel like he thinks everything can be fixed with
Speaker 3: a vitamin. When I tell him I'm feeling sluggish or
Speaker 3: I'm tighter, and it's not funny, Mandy, maybe like, yo,
Speaker 3: you need to take ash Ganda. Then look and here
Speaker 3: go who like absolutely, but like it's not just that
Speaker 3: sometimes cognitively shit could be wrong. And he's like, no,
Speaker 3: like you're not doing something healthy enough, Like you don't
Speaker 3: understand if I feel like I'm depressed. He's like there's
Speaker 3: something else, Like he really I feel the way. So wait,
Speaker 3: So you then, in her explanation of her wanting her
Speaker 3: partner to be more in tune with what mental health
Speaker 3: looks like, do you do you actually believe that you're
Speaker 3: your emotions and the way you feel is more inclined
Speaker 3: to your diet and what vitamins are in you, and
Speaker 3: and outside of the external forces like your environment, the
Speaker 3: people around you.
Speaker 6: There's definitely all things applied for sure, okay, but one
Speaker 6: hundred percent what happens in your gut, manifest everywhere else.
Speaker 6: I'm a firm but I really believe in that. That's
Speaker 6: all gang come, you know this is true though, that's
Speaker 6: the crazy part.
Speaker 1: Are you from South?
Speaker 3: I don't believe it's true for all? And that's the
Speaker 3: ship that fucks me up. We started talking about postpartum, okay, right,
Speaker 3: why maybe why I think a friend of mine has it?
Speaker 6: Okay, okay, just checking, bitch.
Speaker 1: Oh no, girl, Okay, why not right now?
Speaker 3: No, we were talking about my homegirl having postpartum, and
Speaker 3: he's like, you know, there's certain things she could take,
Speaker 3: like you know, bla blah blah, And I'm like, good,
Speaker 3: she just fucking changed her whole body and her life.
Speaker 3: He's like, I'm not saying it's not real. I'm just
Speaker 3: saying there's something she could be doing holistically. And it
Speaker 3: makes me so upset. And I know he doesn't mean
Speaker 3: it to be hurtful, but I'm such a believer in psychology,
Speaker 3: therapy and mental health. He's such a believer in dietary
Speaker 3: vitamin like not a naturopathy shit that sometimes the way
Speaker 3: we're seeing things are.
Speaker 1: Like not matching.
Speaker 3: So anyway say that to say, I thought it was
Speaker 3: a really healthy way to ask someone what do you feel?
Speaker 7: Like?
Speaker 3: I can't understand, like if you really had to sit
Speaker 3: down with a therapist, what would you know?
Speaker 1: What would you need to know? And we weren't petty
Speaker 1: about anything either.
Speaker 3: For him to say that he feels like I need
Speaker 3: to be more mindful and slow down, He's right, I
Speaker 3: work way too fast, I say things way too fast.
Speaker 1: I text too fast.
Speaker 3: It is, and I'm sure he believes I have add
Speaker 3: because I'm not taking enough vitamin bally.
Speaker 1: So anyway, let's get into Lou. I'm just.
Speaker 2: I love that we can give this to the audience.
Speaker 2: I am just current, not here like.
Speaker 1: I can't.
Speaker 2: And I think this is the importance before we get
Speaker 2: into manifesting. I think it's for people who have a
Speaker 2: clear understanding of exactly what they want.
Speaker 3: And I think that is where a lot of women
Speaker 3: and men fail in the dating realm, is that they're
Speaker 3: waiting for someone to come and make them happy, or
Speaker 3: they're waiting for someone to come and fix what is wrong,
Speaker 3: but they don't have a clear inclination on what sort
Speaker 3: of healthy relationship with same sex, opposite sex romance, what
Speaker 3: any of that really means to them. And so right now,
Speaker 3: when you talk about manifesting love, I'm still questioning what
Speaker 3: relationship dynamic I want, what things really would be considered
Speaker 3: red flags to me, what things I liked in my
Speaker 3: last relationship, what things I didn't, And really looking more
Speaker 3: at myself and I think realizing I don't know. I
Speaker 3: think I'm a little bit more Tracy Ellis Ross than
Speaker 3: I'd like to be. I really like my alone time.
Speaker 1: I like my space.
Speaker 3: I like being able in a selfish way to pick
Speaker 3: up and drop people when I want, and I know
Speaker 3: that wouldn't be great for a relationship. I like putting
Speaker 3: my work in friends first before any nigga, before anything.
Speaker 3: And so in the place where I'm still trying to
Speaker 3: figure out myself, I can't at all manifest love because
Speaker 3: I don't think.
Speaker 1: You have said, even in the last month, you wanted
Speaker 1: a partner.
Speaker 3: No, oh, maybe I want multiple partners, baby, the way
Speaker 3: I was dating a whole couple and sharing it with
Speaker 3: all the niggas on my phone, Like I actually like
Speaker 3: the idea of multiple people.
Speaker 1: I don't think one person can please me.
Speaker 2: Like there's a guy right now, and then here's another
Speaker 2: reason why I don't know what I want, which has
Speaker 2: a nigga right now which we've been having three hour
Speaker 2: phone calls. Do you want to know the crazy part
Speaker 2: about this nigga? Tell me he is a fucking accent
Speaker 2: bitch seven years talking about how bitch don't accents.
Speaker 1: Y'all know I can't do it, but uh.
Speaker 3: Caribbean, he's like from the northern part of Fritain. No bitch,
Speaker 3: he's British, but he's not in it. He's from the North,
Speaker 3: so he was trying to explain the Game of Thrones
Speaker 3: to me. But I ain't never watched the Gods, so
Speaker 3: he sounds kind of irishyt bitches sound Irish, sheet like,
Speaker 3: so not like this call like, hey, how are you
Speaker 3: look like today?
Speaker 1: My day? I don't fucking know. Bitch fine, not a
Speaker 1: country bitch with you.
Speaker 3: See, I can't do it, but literally we talk for like,
Speaker 3: Reggie meetam Instagram.
Speaker 1: Let me see. Uh, you want to see him his
Speaker 1: instagram don't really have much now while you're searching for that.
Speaker 3: I actually think you can manifest multiple partners with these practices.
Speaker 1: Uh.
Speaker 3: By the way, I'm gonna just google him cause he
Speaker 3: ain't got much happening on the Instagram.
Speaker 1: I love him, and he said, I'll just google. Don't
Speaker 1: describe him.
Speaker 2: Don't say shit because you like to start getting it
Speaker 2: in these bitches on the on the motherfucking blogs. Want
Speaker 2: to start putting two and three and four together and
Speaker 2: going through ship.
Speaker 3: Not two three, two and three five. But yeah, let's
Speaker 3: start with the thing. And then so I got these
Speaker 3: this manifest manifestation list from if you want to check
Speaker 3: her out at f A E r I E.
Speaker 1: Godmother, g A W D m U v A.
Speaker 3: It's an underscore and you can check out our website,
Speaker 3: Holistic Healing Grounds.
Speaker 1: But damn he fine, he was on a TV show anyway.
Speaker 1: You see how she just start talking too much? But
Speaker 1: I don't know what show was. He is into the arts.
Speaker 1: He is not an actor, He is not anything of such.
Speaker 1: Did I say too much? Yeah? I don't want nothing knowing? Okay?
Speaker 3: Oh, I can't see the show, the movie, script, content
Speaker 3: creator YouTube anyway. All right, let's get into the first
Speaker 3: tip for manifesting, lo let's do it. One of the
Speaker 3: best ways and most effective ways to not only manifest,
Speaker 3: but literally get anything you want, even if it's not love.
Speaker 1: Okay, is by visualization. Yes, okay, let's try it.
Speaker 3: Close your eyes, Mandy, and we go to this bullshit
Speaker 3: and let your mind create the perfect image of what
Speaker 3: your dream partner looks like.
Speaker 1: Method man, what do they smell like?
Speaker 3: Uh?
Speaker 1: Really expensive? Like bacca rod? I like niggas bro. Sorry, okay,
Speaker 1: what does he feel like? What does he smooth? I
Speaker 1: don't really like a hairy nigga? And hold the image? Oh, solid,
Speaker 1: I like solid?
Speaker 3: Start to see it, bitch, I see him every day
Speaker 3: on the Instagram and try to bring it forward to you.
Speaker 1: And this reason marriage can't do it. I think that's
Speaker 1: another thing. Visualization is visualization. I get the visualization, but like.
Speaker 2: I have a type, so I know my nigga gonna
Speaker 2: be fine, but there's layers to it. So it's like,
Speaker 2: why you showed you don't look like meta man and
Speaker 2: my visualization.
Speaker 3: I had always had dreams about locks and getting married
Speaker 3: to a nigga with locks, even when I dated old,
Speaker 3: but it was Bald always envisioned locks to the point
Speaker 3: where when he would see niggas would locks and be
Speaker 3: like there goyo type and it wasn't just a type.
Speaker 3: I've always talked about it on Horrible but like I
Speaker 3: always felt it. I don't know if it's because I
Speaker 3: like bitches and I need the main like a fucking line.
Speaker 3: I don't know what it is, but I've always loved it.
Speaker 2: It's always wait, now that I think about it, almost
Speaker 2: I don't know what Lambo ever looked like, but every
Speaker 2: other nigga that has had a nickname on this podcast
Speaker 2: didn't have dreads, didn't look at all.
Speaker 1: How you used to say you like niggas none of
Speaker 1: them look like that. I know. But you know I
Speaker 1: always said that's what I like, that's what you like.
Speaker 2: But none of the niggas you actually dated or talked
Speaker 2: about on this pot look like that.
Speaker 1: Which is why even when we were on tour and
Speaker 1: you were like, oh, this is the type of niggas
Speaker 1: I like, I was like.
Speaker 3: NIGGASO had twists, okay, but no, even when I dated
Speaker 3: white boys, they long hair.
Speaker 1: I always love luck.
Speaker 3: So one of the things that apparently it was bad
Speaker 3: advice writing it down, getting a journal dedicated to what
Speaker 3: you want. Writing down things has a special effect, and
Speaker 3: writing our desires down is also magical. When we write
Speaker 3: things down, we're creating the room for it to happen,
Speaker 3: and we're declaring it to the universe what we want.
Speaker 3: And you cannot leave details out.
Speaker 2: I think that's why I said, before you start to
Speaker 2: writing on paper, you have to know what you want. Yes,
Speaker 2: And so this doesn't work, like even in terms. I
Speaker 2: was on the phone with Crystal on the way here
Speaker 2: and I was like, girl, this bitch gotta talk about
Speaker 2: loving manifesting.
Speaker 1: You know, I don't want to manifest none these niggas
Speaker 1: because I hate all this shit.
Speaker 2: But I was like, you know, I actually would like
Speaker 2: to manifest any nigga in my life to not waste
Speaker 2: my time because I don't want that and I want
Speaker 2: someone who can be intentional about what they want with me.
Speaker 2: And so I was like, oh, I guess I can't
Speaker 2: have a conversation with so speaking.
Speaker 3: Of intention intention, I read this off. One of the
Speaker 3: things she brought up in this thing is flowers. So
Speaker 3: I told my man about your ex with the flowers,
Speaker 3: and I was like, I felt bad for Mandy when
Speaker 3: she talked about it all horrible because Niggas really was like,
Speaker 3: oh he got you flowers, blah blah blah.
Speaker 1: Oh that was ugly. Though, first thing he said to
Speaker 1: me was, She's absolutely right.
Speaker 3: It shows how unintentional he's like, just don't fucking get flowers.
Speaker 1: Just don't give it be me.
Speaker 3: I like any flower. He knows my favorite, but I
Speaker 3: like anything. No, He's like, but if I if you
Speaker 3: told me a specific flower and I couldn't find it,
Speaker 3: I wouldn't get it.
Speaker 2: It's the same conversation we had a couple of weeks
Speaker 2: ago about the bring If I tell you I like
Speaker 2: fucking silver and you get me gold, fuck you niggas
Speaker 2: like you not intentional, you're not listening to me. I
Speaker 2: think that's another thing I think I'm I think it's
Speaker 2: important to know what you don't want as well as
Speaker 2: what you want. Like to me, I think I I
Speaker 2: know now too.
Speaker 3: I want to manifest someone who's emotionally available, who's legally available.
Speaker 1: I don't want to be a side check no more.
Speaker 2: I ain't talking to no may or niggas like legally
Speaker 2: but also being open to this polydynamic.
Speaker 1: What really does that mean? Am I you know what
Speaker 1: I mean? Like, I'm still trying to figure that out well.
Speaker 3: In the writing, you can also talk about where you'd
Speaker 3: want an ideal date to take place, what you want
Speaker 3: to do on the date, what type of flowers do
Speaker 3: you want him to bring you?
Speaker 1: Is the blirt on the menu? Or are you all.
Speaker 3: Things on how you envision this thing to happen, including
Speaker 3: sex magic. I talked about me doing this. This is
Speaker 3: where go. Sex magic is very simple and very effective.
Speaker 3: When you use sex magic, you can always get exactly
Speaker 3: what you want if you do it right. Simplest way
Speaker 3: to use sex magic when you are about to climax, literally,
Speaker 3: all you do is say what you want. The orgasms
Speaker 3: have a very intense and alchemical energy to them that
Speaker 3: helps us manifest whatever we want. When we use our
Speaker 3: orgasm as a medium, we can tap into our wishes
Speaker 3: and our desires to materialize it with speed, which I'm
Speaker 3: not joking.
Speaker 1: Me and this nigga talk.
Speaker 3: About your lot as a feather, stip as a board
Speaker 3: as shit right now, I have been doing a sex
Speaker 3: magic for a minute. And what's crazy is like JD
Speaker 3: and my homegirl Stephanie are super close because they tap
Speaker 3: into shit together, and me and Stephanie laugh because I'd
Speaker 3: be like, oh, you want your witchy shit. But in reality,
Speaker 3: I've been doing a lot of this shit. When I
Speaker 3: wrote shit down about what I wanted from him, I
Speaker 3: don't know if I've ever told this on Horrible and
Speaker 3: this is pretty vulnerable, but I want to say what
Speaker 3: I did because I couldn't believe it happened. When we
Speaker 3: got back from Toulom in January, I felt so close
Speaker 3: to him, and I was so disappointed that I had
Speaker 3: him met his family yet I.
Speaker 1: Was like, damn, it's been six months whatever, Like what
Speaker 1: the fuck?
Speaker 3: So I wrote down in my phone if he didn't
Speaker 3: introduce me to his family soon I was gonna break
Speaker 3: up with him, no matter how much I was in.
Speaker 1: Love with him, swear to God.
Speaker 3: The next day, I had dinner, lunch plans with Abby
Speaker 3: for two o'clock. He calls me twelve. He said, Hey,
Speaker 3: are you busy later? I'm like, no, well, yeah, because
Speaker 3: I have plans for Gabby. He's like, okay, because I
Speaker 3: want you to come to my mom's birthday party and
Speaker 3: meet my mom.
Speaker 1: And I was like, bro, I wrote this shit down
Speaker 1: the night before.
Speaker 3: Now, I'm not saying I did anything magical or witchy,
Speaker 3: but I did feel like there was a tie to
Speaker 3: me in my brain setting this like, you know, standard
Speaker 3: for myself. I didn't feel like he was hiding me,
Speaker 3: but I felt like it wasn't progressing as fast as
Speaker 3: I wanted to do. And when that happened, I literally
Speaker 3: told him on the car ride home, I don't know
Speaker 3: if you felt this for me, but I was going
Speaker 3: to break up with you if you didn't introduce my life.
Speaker 1: To meet your family.
Speaker 3: And he said to me, like, I have to do
Speaker 3: things on my own time, Like, I don't know why
Speaker 3: you were feeling like that. You never even brought it up.
Speaker 2: I was that was gonna be my literal question, like
Speaker 2: did you were you to write that in the phone?
Speaker 1: My literal question was going to be.
Speaker 2: Like, but did he know this? Did he know what
Speaker 2: it meant to you? Did he know that you were
Speaker 2: hung up or felt it was going slow?
Speaker 3: Because this was considered a milestone for you, right, you
Speaker 3: have to be able to communicate those thing too before.
Speaker 3: I think that was the biggest mistake I made. Yeah,
Speaker 3: he was laughing, like, oh, maybe we really tapped in
Speaker 3: with each other, because you ain't never say that to me.
Speaker 3: I just kind of felt like I never wanted to
Speaker 3: push a dude, and I had been in a very
Speaker 3: weird place of and you know, even talking to anwar
Speaker 3: about expectations and shit like that. I was in such
Speaker 3: a weird place. I ended up getting what I want,
Speaker 3: of course, and the person I want. But how do
Speaker 3: I assert myself in the things I'm looking for in
Speaker 3: dating without giving an ultimatum?
Speaker 1: Because when I wrote.
Speaker 2: As an ultimatum too, and this was an ultimatum, but
Speaker 2: he didn't know it was. When you talked about even
Speaker 2: how you made Obey become your boyfriend, you didn't like
Speaker 2: the relationship he was having with this other bitch, and
Speaker 2: you were like, no, I need to be like I
Speaker 2: need to be your girlfriend or I'm out, And I agree.
Speaker 2: I think that going in with that, like the ultimatum,
Speaker 2: literally sets the president on untruth, which.
Speaker 3: Was what made me scared to tell him I need
Speaker 3: to meet your parents. I thought, Okay, this has to
Speaker 3: be as natural as possible.
Speaker 2: How is how after recognizing that would have been an
Speaker 2: ultimatum going forward, are there ways in which you know
Speaker 2: how to express the things that I should want out?
Speaker 1: Okay? What is that?
Speaker 3: I would feel more connected and closer to you if
Speaker 3: I got to see a family instead of saying you
Speaker 3: must do this, and I didn't. I didn't do any
Speaker 3: of them. It just happened naturally. But it was kind
Speaker 3: of crazy that I wrote that shit down. The next
Speaker 3: one is affirmations. I know you talk about affirmations even
Speaker 3: in our book, so it says affirmations are not only
Speaker 3: for you, but it's meant to help us master and
Speaker 3: conquer what we want, and even if that includes love.
Speaker 1: When you affirm healthy, divine, real and long lasting love,
Speaker 1: you are creating a frequency and a vibration that'll make
Speaker 1: it happen. Example of affirmations that you can do. My
Speaker 1: soulmate is just as eager to meet me as I am.
Speaker 3: Ooh, and they are actually opposite of my affirmation, and
Speaker 3: they are closer to finding me. Each and every day,
Speaker 3: I am attracting love that is perfect and vine for me.
Speaker 3: I am someone's dream partner, and they would enjoy a
Speaker 3: lifetime of happiness with me. The love I aspire to
Speaker 3: have is the love that I will have. Love is
Speaker 3: my vibration, and it gravitates me towards bringing in my
Speaker 3: forever person.
Speaker 1: These are love affirmation, I know.
Speaker 3: I So those aren't the affirmations I align. Well, these
Speaker 3: aren't solo affirmations.
Speaker 2: So when the book comes out, my affirmations are heavily
Speaker 2: into self affirmations.
Speaker 1: This is love affirmation. I know you can both exist. No,
Speaker 1: I get it.
Speaker 3: I'm personally saying in terms of a manifesting manifesting someone
Speaker 3: else in this fashion.
Speaker 1: Like to me, it's it's leaning more into self.
Speaker 2: Like I'm worthy of whatever, to me, honestly, whatever the
Speaker 2: universe can give me. But I'm strong, I love myself,
Speaker 2: I'm happy. I like it's entering more things into and
Speaker 2: focusing on myself. Then what someone's addition will do for.
Speaker 1: I think self love.
Speaker 3: Is a different and separate thing, okay, because I've practiced
Speaker 3: a lot of self love work, probably over the last
Speaker 3: few years, right, but when I wanted to get serious
Speaker 3: about manifesting love, this was becoming concluded. So yes, self
Speaker 3: love is always a practice we should have. This also
Speaker 3: doesn't talk at all about love making you happy. It's
Speaker 3: funny because this is just saying I am attracting love
Speaker 3: that's perfect for me. I really like that one because
Speaker 3: I've fallen in love with people that weren't perfect for me.
Speaker 3: Hospital Dick is the perfect example. I was in love
Speaker 3: with him, he was in love with me. Our love
Speaker 3: was not perfect for me, and like you could get that,
Speaker 3: you know, like I didn't want it to end or
Speaker 3: I didn't want to let it go, But in reality
Speaker 3: I didn't understand that there was something more fitting for me.
Speaker 3: Old Baby was fitting to my lifestyle. Hospital Dick was
Speaker 3: fitting to the love the type of romance I wanted.
Speaker 3: I just kind of was happy with what I had.
Speaker 1: I think, I think, and I can't wait for you
Speaker 1: guys to read the book.
Speaker 2: When I even think about where affirmations showed up, it
Speaker 2: was in the chapter that I heavily leaned on others
Speaker 2: for my self worth, the valuation of what I deserved.
Speaker 2: It so like I guess because of the traumatic ways
Speaker 2: in which I showed up and had people dictate my
Speaker 2: self worth, my affirmations disregard every outside source and literally
Speaker 2: helped to affirm me with being comfortable with where I
Speaker 2: see myself outside of anyone else coming in and being
Speaker 2: able to add any value to well.
Speaker 3: For example, I don't know if anyone's ever manifested money,
Speaker 3: but I have. I think I manifested have an amazings business,
Speaker 3: and that's an outside source. Like a lot of the
Speaker 3: things I manifested are not things within the shit that
Speaker 3: I want. And so at the time that I'd wanted love,
Speaker 3: my affirmations didn't look like this. But my favorite in
Speaker 3: this is a love that's perfect because I used to
Speaker 3: get angry when things didn't happen for me. For example,
Speaker 3: maybe it's a gig I wanted, like what the fuck?
Speaker 3: But I didn't realize I needed to make way. I
Speaker 3: consistently talk about that MTV gig that I never got,
Speaker 3: and I remember Alex told me, You're gonna have a
Speaker 3: TV show of your own by the end of the year.
Speaker 3: If I would have done that gig, I could have
Speaker 3: never have made my own I'm on season four of
Speaker 3: sex Cells, Like, that's crazy because I made it up right.
Speaker 3: So I do think manifesting can be healthy. I think
Speaker 3: it's okay to ask for outside things, but also knowing
Speaker 3: if the shit that you're in didn't work out, you
Speaker 3: don't have to feel like it's the be all end all.
Speaker 3: Every love is gonna teach you something. You've learned a
Speaker 3: lot from your ex. You know now what you don't like,
Speaker 3: what you won't accept. If we don't have that certain
Speaker 3: type of love, how the fuck we gonna know for
Speaker 3: the next movel? You really won't imagine if you see
Speaker 3: someone with slight traits of narcissism.
Speaker 1: I'm out right and so my niggas past two weeks.
Speaker 1: So there's that.
Speaker 3: Well, anyway you want to hit up JD, I'll put
Speaker 3: her ig in the Instagram and her website Holistic Healinggrounds
Speaker 3: dot com.
Speaker 1: So let's get into the how mail. But we got
Speaker 1: home mail. We made it to the home mail, y'all.
Speaker 1: It's because all she did was talk about me. That's
Speaker 1: why I picked me. So I'm just kidding.
Speaker 2: I literally went right over that one. You know what,
Speaker 2: So go ahead this episode about me.
Speaker 1: I all like, I'm talking abound. It's only because we
Speaker 1: got it last night.
Speaker 3: Good evening, beautiful ladies. One of your foreign s icy
Speaker 3: Latina listeners here. First time listener, long time listener, first
Speaker 3: time writer. I'm a young, successful, twenty five year old
Speaker 3: that's been in a monogamous relationship for two years. I've
Speaker 3: been in Denver, Colorado, just moving out of the city,
Speaker 3: back in the burbs, and I feel like my world's spinning.
Speaker 3: I miss being a hoe, miss being a city girl,
Speaker 3: and I want to expand my relationship. My boyfriend has
Speaker 3: and this is in quotations, allowed me to step out
Speaker 3: of the relationship with women but not men, I say aloud,
Speaker 3: because I never asked for this. Not that I care,
Speaker 3: but I've never been with a woman, even though I'm
Speaker 3: sexually attracted. I have an old fling, a friend of
Speaker 3: my ex who's been on my line. In one cold
Speaker 3: Colorado night, I just decided to say fuck it, I
Speaker 3: texted back, I've cross that imaginary cheating line by engaging
Speaker 3: with this man, by how badly I described always wanting
Speaker 3: to fuck him. Backstory, I tried to fuck with a
Speaker 3: friend of my exes and he absolutely and he ate
Speaker 3: me out and I cried, like Wheezy said, and it's
Speaker 3: the only time in my life I've been a total
Speaker 3: sub and begged for dick ever since he fucked me.
Speaker 3: He didn't even let me suck it, and I was
Speaker 3: dying to suck him dry. He likes to remind me
Speaker 3: I was coming and squirming while he was fully dressed,
Speaker 3: and he says back that he only had three bodies
Speaker 3: and he didn't want to let me down.
Speaker 1: Huh.
Speaker 3: Anyway, I've been swayed by the fact that I could
Speaker 3: have fucked him years ago, and I just really want
Speaker 3: to be completely damned. So my question is, how do
Speaker 3: I break it to my boyfriend that I want to
Speaker 3: get wrecked by an old friend?
Speaker 1: Or do I cheap?
Speaker 3: Or do I sweep it on the drug and act
Speaker 3: like nothing happened after I do it? Ps Eezy, I
Speaker 3: want to be your friend. I really love the black
Speaker 3: and white nails. Any insight to that, I'll tell you
Speaker 3: about them. Also, not trying to be up Wheezy's ass.
Speaker 3: I love you too, Mandy. You inspire me to be
Speaker 3: bolder with men. Love Nah not like me because she
Speaker 3: owns some bullshit. She said, you inspire her. I'm reading this,
Speaker 3: I'm reading this thing like bitch, I don't want you
Speaker 3: to be inspired at this.
Speaker 1: How you're moving, Damn girl, she asking a question going down.
Speaker 2: I mean I think she don't like her, because she said,
Speaker 2: I'm no, no, I don't like I don't like this.
Speaker 2: She's done already admitted that she's already crossed the boundary
Speaker 2: that she has with her nigga. We're texting and already
Speaker 2: said you could step out on women. You don't like women,
Speaker 2: So why is that even an option? You should have
Speaker 2: told him immediately, Yo, I don't even like women. If
Speaker 2: I want to expound on my relationship, I want to
Speaker 2: get wrecked and fucked by other men. If your partner
Speaker 2: is not down for that, which I assume he's not,
Speaker 2: you need to just go ahead and exit this relationship,
Speaker 2: like we talked about, even in my thrupple scenario. Like
Speaker 2: I'm super against cheating, I'm also super against people violating
Speaker 2: fucking boundaries that happened in my last relationship.
Speaker 1: If this man is willing to.
Speaker 2: Allow you to expound on your relationship by dealing with
Speaker 2: women and you don't even like women, and you.
Speaker 1: Can already acknowledge that like women. She said she doesn't
Speaker 1: like women.
Speaker 2: There, then she's already texting a nigga that she want
Speaker 2: to get fucked by. Is even acknowledging that I've already
Speaker 2: crossed the boundary because technically I'm already cheating by letting
Speaker 2: this man know I've been wanting him to pound me.
Speaker 2: Bro break up with your nigga, Like, I.
Speaker 3: Think you've got to present the option before the breakup,
Speaker 3: mainly because and tell him you cheated on him already.
Speaker 3: Sometimes I think men are giving us the leeway to
Speaker 3: fuck another woman because they want to talk another woman,
Speaker 3: or because they don't view that as a cheating, But
Speaker 3: that has to do with their own security, their own
Speaker 3: place that they're in. And it's just so crazy because
Speaker 3: again we be wanting, like first off, her even saying
Speaker 3: she's in a two year monogamous relationship, go ahead and
Speaker 3: remove the word monogamous because you want to open it.
Speaker 3: So then the conversation needs to be with you and
Speaker 3: your partner heavily about what that looks like and if
Speaker 3: you both are in agreement to opening it. Same situation,
Speaker 3: I just dealt with with my throuttle like to me,
Speaker 3: you want to expound.
Speaker 2: He allowed you to do something that you don't even want,
Speaker 2: and so you're going behind him doing something that you're
Speaker 2: already considering cheating because you know if you tell your
Speaker 2: man this, he's not gonna like that. You out here
Speaker 2: telling another nigga you want him to pound you down.
Speaker 3: And the problem too with like where the texting is gone.
Speaker 3: Right now, you've created like this huge fucking fantasy that
Speaker 3: it's gonna be really hard to not like you're gonna
Speaker 3: want it.
Speaker 1: Because you can't have it.
Speaker 3: So I want to know what I inspire because I
Speaker 3: don't inspire none of y out of cheat.
Speaker 1: She said she inspired her to be bolder with men.
Speaker 3: Day Lily, she telling this nigga, I want you to
Speaker 3: ram me even while she got a boyfriend. I want
Speaker 3: to inspire you bitches to be honest and truthful with
Speaker 3: your partners in yourselves.
Speaker 1: She's not honest with herself right now. She needs to
Speaker 1: just go to.
Speaker 2: Her nigga and be like, Yo, I want to get
Speaker 2: fucked by somebody else and I don't like what.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you either have to present like you need to starry.
Speaker 1: You gotta be truthful with what you actually and.
Speaker 3: An old friend is a definite though, Bro, my nigga
Speaker 3: would never let me fuck asak Bro or someone like
Speaker 3: from the past.
Speaker 2: Even I'm confused by this. She's saying it's one of
Speaker 2: her exes friends. That's how you read it. I heard it, thought, man,
Speaker 2: that this is one of her exes friends. Bit you trifling?
Speaker 2: I mean, yo with teammates, but that don't count the
Speaker 2: trade deadline.
Speaker 3: Niggas ended up on the same team. I ain't asked
Speaker 3: for it, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: Niggas went from the East coast to the West coast
Speaker 1: and then ended up in the same locker room.
Speaker 3: I don't know what to tell you, but I'm not
Speaker 3: going after my ex's friends, Brom. It's a bad girl
Speaker 3: fantasy right now, Like you're doing something bad. No, I
Speaker 3: don't even think.
Speaker 1: No no to me. She just needs to dan.
Speaker 3: You said you want to be dominated, then you may
Speaker 3: have to introduce that too.
Speaker 2: Like, there's just so many conversations she hasn't had with
Speaker 2: her partner, and so before she like is looking to
Speaker 2: expound on this relationship. I think she has to sit
Speaker 2: with herself and be like, Yo, why do I want
Speaker 2: someone else in this relationship agreed, what.
Speaker 1: Am I not getting? What do I feel like I'm
Speaker 1: missing out on?
Speaker 2: She's just bored And then also that she said she's bored, Well,
Speaker 2: let's become Let's be very honest. That's a very difficult
Speaker 2: conversation I have with your partner to come to them
Speaker 2: and be like kind of bored with this. Still love,
Speaker 2: you still want to be together, but you bore me,
Speaker 2: and so I want excitement.
Speaker 1: I think that's all about. That's hard.
Speaker 3: For example, relationships and my life might be boring if
Speaker 3: I wasn't living in New York City. Nigga, we're doing
Speaker 3: something every other day. I love New York, right, you
Speaker 3: know what I'm saying, Like love it when you have
Speaker 3: a city where you can bounce around and be playful,
Speaker 3: Like there is a lot of times where you can
Speaker 3: get bored. I remember feeling a little bored with my
Speaker 3: ex in Orlando. We had to kind of like move around,
Speaker 3: drive to Tampa for a night, do something fun, go
Speaker 3: to the beach, like you kind of got to move around.
Speaker 3: So I think, yeah, what you're feeling right now is
Speaker 3: just an overall boredom. I don't think your partner's boring
Speaker 3: you if.
Speaker 1: Because she said she went from Denver to the suburbs.
Speaker 3: Yeah, probably, it says, and Denver already wouldn't excite me, So.
Speaker 1: That's so beautiful. It's beautiful.
Speaker 2: But I love the snowy mountains, and I mean probably wouldn't.
Speaker 2: There's probably not enough black people out there lives there.
Speaker 2: But I mean, oh, we know one that you named
Speaker 2: one and she's the next. You're right from one fucking
Speaker 2: white ass city to another.
Speaker 1: To take do this.
Speaker 3: Take a quick sex vacation, Try do a little road trip,
Speaker 3: drive to a hotel, do some dirty fun ship, try
Speaker 3: to get the edge off, and once you guys, try
Speaker 3: something new sexually and explore it. If you're already gonna
Speaker 3: be on a high, then start getting into some fun
Speaker 3: conversations about the what ifs. And if it sounds like
Speaker 3: a hard note for him, then that's probably not the
Speaker 3: relationship for you.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: I'm open with y'all just being open with your partners.
Speaker 2: But I think before you come to your partners, before
Speaker 2: you step out, you genuinely have to be able to know.
Speaker 2: And that's what I talked about the manifesting. I genuinely
Speaker 2: don't know what I want right now. Yeah, So, if
Speaker 2: you're in a relationship and you just feel like you're
Speaker 2: missing out on something, you have to come to what term,
Speaker 2: what would make you happy?
Speaker 1: What is it that you want because.
Speaker 3: It might just be a one night out, a one
Speaker 3: night stand that you're looking for to get you to
Speaker 3: completely be back.
Speaker 1: I don't know. So, I mean I think little, I
Speaker 1: think you wanted all of it. I mean, nigga, you
Speaker 1: like I taste a filet mignon, I want to eat
Speaker 1: it again. I mean, I think that's the thing too.
Speaker 3: A lot of us are are confined to me, is
Speaker 3: that the monogamous relationship is.
Speaker 1: What we want, when really it's not. Don't give me
Speaker 1: no good.
Speaker 3: Not that we're convincing all of y'all hoses to not
Speaker 3: be monogamous. Sorry, Oh, anyway, but a lot of you
Speaker 3: ask me about black and white nails. Is a quick story.
Speaker 3: I always used to wear white toes. I stubbed my toe,
Speaker 3: the toe turn black. I went, this was twenty twenty.
Speaker 3: I went to the nail place. She's like, I can't
Speaker 3: do white because it looks black. Still, I'm like, what
Speaker 3: I need white toe? She goes, do one white, one black.
Speaker 3: That's crazy.
Speaker 1: Sorry, I said, anyway, that's why I wear black white
Speaker 1: white nails. That's crazy.
Speaker 3: It's just it's not black anymore. It's a new toe.
Speaker 3: Why are you doing that face right now?
Speaker 6: Crazy?
Speaker 3: Oh if I would have a vitamin, I wouldn't have
Speaker 3: to dried up blood turn black, must stay healthy.
Speaker 1: I think it's a dog. I wish it was something cooler.
Speaker 1: People be like, oh my god, is because you're that's
Speaker 1: pretty cool?
Speaker 7: Not?
Speaker 3: Is it because you are biracial? Is it because you
Speaker 3: with BDD? And literally it was a it was a
Speaker 3: like a dumb bell bitch, boom all my ship.
Speaker 1: Damn. I know.
Speaker 3: So anyway, that's why I do black. I do white
Speaker 3: toes for the hose. So white toes are so sexy.
Speaker 2: White toes for the hose. You know what's crazy? They said,
Speaker 2: white toes is for men. Love white toes. French is
Speaker 2: for the bitches, Like I love seeing a bitch with
Speaker 2: French toes.
Speaker 1: No, not yours. I don't want to let me show you.
Speaker 1: I don't know why. And the other ones. I like
Speaker 1: French toes. It does look nice. It just got dumb
Speaker 1: from French because I'm like, bitch, let's sell them. Take
Speaker 1: a pick.
Speaker 2: Always see no Ian, you have one black white I
Speaker 2: like the white tips.
Speaker 1: I got one white to yeah, but I don't like
Speaker 1: you don't like one black one. No, I don't. You
Speaker 1: don't like white teps. I like girl like I like
Speaker 1: white toes, but on women for me, I really like
Speaker 1: you have white friends. You want to do manifest What crazy?
Speaker 1: What I say? What happened? Sorry? All right? Well, y'all.
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Speaker 6: To Drake he's back.
Speaker 3: We dropped to at Gordo Killing and Sideways and then
Speaker 3: he just dropped one hundred gigabytes of new music.
Speaker 1: Is this? Did you hear? This is? Don't do that.
Speaker 1: Don't do that.
Speaker 8: I'm not gonna hold you for the next couple of months.
Speaker 8: This is how, this is how people are gonna listen.
Speaker 1: To Drake cheap.
Speaker 3: I don't been to a whole lot of parties, a
Speaker 3: whole lot of clubs, a whole different country, and baby
Speaker 3: Drake was going off and and and the girls and
Speaker 3: the boys, like you know what was to.
Speaker 1: They not like us? Listen, I heard they like not
Speaker 1: they're not like us.
Speaker 8: Every day since it came out, like just accident, just
Speaker 8: walking around, someone played it. But you know that clip
Speaker 8: of Drew Ski dancing to Grease, like when it's like
Speaker 8: a little meme of him that he's like, this is
Speaker 8: like a meme of Drew Ski dance on a boat
Speaker 8: to a Drake song, Like you forget that. Like people,
Speaker 8: the minute there's a banger, everyone's gonna be like like
Speaker 8: goodness gracious or the super so super so with yacht's
Speaker 8: out right now, it's all over.
Speaker 1: TikTok oh, Yeah, no, that's I'm saying, he's still dropping
Speaker 1: and I don't even like like that ship was a
Speaker 1: Gordo line.
Speaker 3: Way, how crazy is it that revamps happened. I don't
Speaker 3: know if anyone ever heard of Gordyo before. He looked
Speaker 3: very familiar to me. When I used to rave with
Speaker 3: Vinnie back in the day, one of my favorite DJs
Speaker 3: was this dude named DJ Carnage because he would play
Speaker 3: trap shit.
Speaker 1: I'm looking at it at him, Yes, whoa look at that.
Speaker 1: I'm talking to a friend of mine, like, why would
Speaker 1: they do that? And it's like, because when you're boxed in,
Speaker 1: if you don't rename, didn't hit maker?
Speaker 6: Do that?
Speaker 1: Kitty boyd?
Speaker 6: You know about to titty?
Speaker 1: Well anyway, oh that's right, here we go. See day
Speaker 1: so the same thing that happened that day?
Speaker 3: No, no, no, Then I wanted to do this outline
Speaker 3: about marriage because when I clicked on your Instagram, I'm like, oh, yeah,
Speaker 3: he's happy, You're getting get gift for your husband that day,
Speaker 3: I think, But we ended up getting so deep and
Speaker 3: combo and one.
Speaker 1: Sexuality we need to talk about off the top. Yes,
Speaker 1: the Gabrielle union. Yes, so now your sensus that I
Speaker 1: was right.
Speaker 8: Listen, it's not that we think that you have more
Speaker 8: ground to stand on than we initially dave you. But also,
Speaker 8: I'm not gonna be up here saying she's not a
Speaker 8: great actress. But then if I look at the rankings,
Speaker 8: I go, oh, where am I putting her? Where am
Speaker 8: I putting her? So you know, I think I think
Speaker 8: this is a black people needed. We didn't have a
Speaker 8: referendum in the black community. Everyone's gonna get a pamphlet
Speaker 8: and everyone can vote, and we'll figure out where we're
Speaker 8: going to play.
Speaker 1: Anzwe Bassett.
Speaker 8: We know she's above Azwe Bastat is above Gabrielle Union,
Speaker 8: of course, if there, if there is, if you know
Speaker 8: how people do tears, where you're worth five points four
Speaker 8: points points two points four point?
Speaker 1: Yes, Gabrielle Union is a two pointer or three. I
Speaker 1: will not even put point who's so if all that
Speaker 1: Angela five, yeah, and Kekey Bomber's four, Palmer four, Okay, right,
Speaker 1: we'll give a Kiki four and not three. I would
Speaker 1: give Key Palmer three, Okay, I would give her three,
Speaker 1: but then I gotta give Gabrielle you three. I think
Speaker 1: Kekey's above Gabrielle and here I have Gabrielle at a two. Wow.
Speaker 3: Wow, like make get good at a one?
Speaker 4: Baby?
Speaker 1: Maybe there has been zero range with.
Speaker 4: Meg a good horse hal hold on yo, you needed it,
Speaker 4: but that's y so I got hold on up.
Speaker 7: Okay, so okay, A four I would probably put an
Speaker 7: Octavia Spencer, Kerry Washington. I'm Swiss, are watching today up there?
Speaker 1: On five? I would put Kerry Washington out of four,
Speaker 1: I'll give Carre four or five. I would give her
Speaker 1: a four. Five. Yeah, I'll tell you a Spencer four five. Okay,
Speaker 1: she got hardware, ok I got that's.
Speaker 5: Funny, you cousin, baby, don't do that because even she
Speaker 5: had mad years from then to get better.
Speaker 1: And Harlem and that recent black Sorry, Halle Berry, I
Speaker 1: played A four.
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