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Speaker 2: Today, Yes we do. Y'all already offer to start it

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Speaker 2: off in appropriate as fuck?

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Speaker 1: Why she gotta be a horror because that's what we are.

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Speaker 1: It's horrible decisions.

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Speaker 3: Diyce, Well, bitch, yes, you hope you absolutely hope.

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Speaker 1: Absolutely. I ain't gonna hold you.

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Speaker 2: Every time I walk in the last lap, I'd be like,

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Speaker 2: I wonder how many of you bitches weezied them? Fuck yo, Literally,

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Speaker 2: I'm like, yeah, that looked like weezy type right now

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Speaker 2: with your whole ass. Anyway, y'all, welcome to another episode

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Speaker 2: of Horrible position.

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Speaker 1: You girl Mandy by Hi everybody.

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Speaker 3: I'm Weezy and we are doing a love episode today,

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Speaker 3: which definitely Weezy's idea because I'm still on some love shit.

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Speaker 1: But I know what I want to manifest, so I'm

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Speaker 1: glad we're doing this. Yeah, that's great.

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Speaker 3: I want to I want this episode because I felt

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Speaker 3: like a lot of people were saying to me. They

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Speaker 1: And I was like, yo, on some real shit.

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Speaker 3: I really think I've just been manifesting things and talking

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Speaker 3: really good about it. And manifesting for me started more

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Speaker 3: so like on some money shit, and then I was like,

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Speaker 1: I think all.

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Speaker 3: Manifesting is is turned you into a positive thinker, and

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Speaker 3: then your heart is just more open for shit. A

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Speaker 3: I actually partnered with a witchy bitch psych of.

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Speaker 3: Of course you did to get this surprising and that's

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Speaker 1: And that's it. Oh, y'all going here a lot of

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Speaker 1: wheezy today. No, we can talk about us together, but no.

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Speaker 3: Her name is Jady and I know her through her

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Speaker 1: But I know that JD's helped a lot of people.

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Speaker 3: So I had her give me a big list, and

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Speaker 3: so you can hit her up anyway, let's talk about it.

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Speaker 3: So we went to the Ships and Gig show. Mm

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Speaker 3: hmmm at town Hall. Yes, I had a good time.

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Speaker 3: Mandy and I hung out crazy like for a whole day.

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Speaker 3: That was nice, Like hold on. We went to Eden.

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Speaker 3: Were you with us all night?

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Speaker 4: No?

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Speaker 2: It was me, Weezy and Alex and then Alex's partner

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Speaker 2: Somehow we got Weazy to join us at fucking Pergola

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Speaker 2: into each other two weeks before Pergola. I hate that's

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Speaker 1: I am? Then we go to elsewhere? Oh no, we

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Speaker 3: I thought that's how our night would have ended. Mandy

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Speaker 2: First off, I thought he was a racist, like his

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Speaker 2: Listen to us, Look at your little innocent looking ass.

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Speaker 3: There's no cover, but you must tip every single girl

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Speaker 3: The weirdest moments in my life flight attendance, Yeah, bitch

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Speaker 2: But also shout out to all of our fucking listeners

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Speaker 3: So anyway, I think that's gonna happen this week. Okay,

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Speaker 3: she's gonna run a train on you with another woman

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Speaker 3: I'd like I'd like to hear about it. I just

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Speaker 2: I don't know. I would like to hear about it.

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Speaker 3: Since we're talking about love, about really bad dating tips

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Speaker 2: What if you look at it? Because of course I did.

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Speaker 2: I didn't think so, but I thought you would think so.

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Speaker 3: So I agree with these being bad advice. Okay, some

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Speaker 2: Read this, and I who feel free to jump in,

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Speaker 3: They're saying that this is quote unquote bad advice that

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Speaker 2: These are things that they consider to be bad advice

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Speaker 3: First quote, it will happen when it's supposed to happen.

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Speaker 3: I think she's interested in dating, but she just feels

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Speaker 3: your nick. What's the other bad advice? Create a list

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Speaker 3: different from what I thought I was looking for.

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00:19:09,600 --> 00:19:11,520
Speaker 1: That is from a pastor you already know. I think

437
00:19:11,520 --> 00:19:14,520
Speaker 1: that's bad advice. Creating a list, Yeah, I like it.

438
00:19:15,200 --> 00:19:17,560
Speaker 1: I think I'm sure you do. I like creator? Are

439
00:19:17,600 --> 00:19:20,399
Speaker 1: you you witchy ass? Whole tepy ass?

440
00:19:20,680 --> 00:19:23,080
Speaker 3: Let me follow the signs and stars and moons and

441
00:19:23,160 --> 00:19:25,440
Speaker 3: universe asks people? Let me ask you this, manny, Well,

442
00:19:25,440 --> 00:19:27,080
Speaker 3: have you ever created a list of what you want

443
00:19:27,080 --> 00:19:27,639
Speaker 3: for your life?

444
00:19:27,720 --> 00:19:28,640
Speaker 1: Five year plan? Money?

445
00:19:28,640 --> 00:19:30,480
Speaker 3: I mean, I'm not gonna lie where I'm at right now.

446
00:19:30,560 --> 00:19:33,639
Speaker 3: I mean a it changes, but even like the vision

447
00:19:33,680 --> 00:19:36,800
Speaker 3: board thing, I'm not really into that anymore either, Like,

448
00:19:37,320 --> 00:19:39,119
Speaker 3: I think it changes so much for me.

449
00:19:39,280 --> 00:19:42,200
Speaker 1: Like where if I wrote a list a year ago

450
00:19:42,320 --> 00:19:43,040
Speaker 1: of what I want?

451
00:19:43,200 --> 00:19:47,560
Speaker 2: Hmm, I think that list would look completely different today.

452
00:19:47,760 --> 00:19:51,120
Speaker 2: So to me, I'm I'm in a place where I'm

453
00:19:51,119 --> 00:19:55,080
Speaker 2: ever changing, ever evolving, being in therapy, And I think

454
00:19:55,160 --> 00:19:57,600
Speaker 2: with this podcast and being around all these different people,

455
00:19:58,000 --> 00:20:01,800
Speaker 2: my eyes and heart and ears and pussy is open

456
00:20:01,840 --> 00:20:04,480
Speaker 2: as so many new things that I think a list

457
00:20:04,520 --> 00:20:05,199
Speaker 2: would limit me.

458
00:20:05,560 --> 00:20:08,440
Speaker 1: So I think, what's crazy about the list thing.

459
00:20:09,040 --> 00:20:11,600
Speaker 3: I said it horrible in the casting call, like yeah,

460
00:20:11,640 --> 00:20:13,280
Speaker 3: I want this, I want this, I want that.

461
00:20:13,520 --> 00:20:14,840
Speaker 1: And I really did get it.

462
00:20:15,040 --> 00:20:17,920
Speaker 3: I literally said, and I laughed about it when I

463
00:20:17,960 --> 00:20:19,080
Speaker 3: looked at it the other day and I showed it

464
00:20:19,080 --> 00:20:20,919
Speaker 3: to him. I want my man to look like he

465
00:20:21,000 --> 00:20:24,840
Speaker 3: fuck white girls, but don't. And literally, I feel like

466
00:20:24,880 --> 00:20:27,000
Speaker 3: everybody thinks that when they see a dude with gauges

467
00:20:27,080 --> 00:20:30,880
Speaker 3: or piercings or whatever, right a black man. But yeah,

468
00:20:30,960 --> 00:20:33,239
Speaker 3: I really got exactly what I wanted. And I do

469
00:20:33,320 --> 00:20:37,520
Speaker 3: believe not just the list, but the list wasn't always aesthetic.

470
00:20:38,040 --> 00:20:39,600
Speaker 1: It was a lot of the ways that he would

471
00:20:39,640 --> 00:20:40,000
Speaker 1: treat me.

472
00:20:40,520 --> 00:20:42,800
Speaker 3: I wrote about how I wanted the person I ended

473
00:20:42,880 --> 00:20:44,840
Speaker 3: up with to encourage my family, me to be with

474
00:20:44,840 --> 00:20:47,240
Speaker 3: my family like that, to me is really important.

475
00:20:47,280 --> 00:20:49,480
Speaker 1: I've got not a big family. We all know.

476
00:20:50,080 --> 00:20:52,800
Speaker 3: I wanted that man to tell me all the time

477
00:20:52,840 --> 00:20:54,040
Speaker 3: that I need to be doing X y Z. I

478
00:20:54,040 --> 00:20:57,240
Speaker 3: wanted a family man. I think writing a list is healthy.

479
00:20:57,600 --> 00:20:59,760
Speaker 3: I don't think it's bad because I think that none

480
00:20:59,760 --> 00:21:02,240
Speaker 3: in our people are doing it for themselves with a.

481
00:21:03,880 --> 00:21:05,359
Speaker 1: Life plan like I do.

482
00:21:05,400 --> 00:21:07,080
Speaker 3: Think people need to be writing down where they want

483
00:21:07,080 --> 00:21:09,280
Speaker 3: to be at writing numbers down that are realistic. Don't

484
00:21:09,280 --> 00:21:10,960
Speaker 3: write down a million dollars, but if you want to

485
00:21:10,960 --> 00:21:13,440
Speaker 3: make one twenty five in the next year or two, Yeah,

486
00:21:13,440 --> 00:21:15,320
Speaker 3: you should be writing that shit down and figure out

487
00:21:15,400 --> 00:21:17,280
Speaker 3: how you're gonna get there. Maybe right now, your job

488
00:21:17,320 --> 00:21:19,960
Speaker 3: pays you seventy five, right, how are you going to

489
00:21:20,000 --> 00:21:20,960
Speaker 3: get this other fifty?

490
00:21:21,200 --> 00:21:22,719
Speaker 1: Talk about the side gigs you need to do.

491
00:21:22,720 --> 00:21:25,000
Speaker 3: What creatively you should be tapping into, what are the

492
00:21:25,040 --> 00:21:27,800
Speaker 3: remote job, whatever it is, asking for a raise. If

493
00:21:27,840 --> 00:21:30,920
Speaker 3: we're not putting that pen to paper, sometimes I don't

494
00:21:30,920 --> 00:21:32,040
Speaker 3: think we really believe.

495
00:21:31,760 --> 00:21:32,520
Speaker 1: Shit gonna happen.

496
00:21:32,600 --> 00:21:35,359
Speaker 3: Okay, you know, I feel like you've and I have

497
00:21:35,440 --> 00:21:38,520
Speaker 3: talked about doing that, though I'm not doing that with

498
00:21:38,600 --> 00:21:43,000
Speaker 3: love or a nigga. Oh bad advice. No one wants

499
00:21:43,000 --> 00:21:46,520
Speaker 3: to date someone with a child. Definitely bad advice. That's

500
00:21:46,520 --> 00:21:48,880
Speaker 3: bad advice. I think that's fucking terrible. I do think

501
00:21:48,880 --> 00:21:49,560
Speaker 3: that's bad advice.

502
00:21:50,160 --> 00:21:54,080
Speaker 1: It says movie first dates are okay. I think that

503
00:21:54,080 --> 00:21:55,840
Speaker 1: that is bad advice. Agreed.

504
00:21:56,000 --> 00:21:59,560
Speaker 3: I don't think that a movie date with your big

505
00:21:59,560 --> 00:22:02,640
Speaker 3: ass a each Like again, all we do is talk

506
00:22:02,680 --> 00:22:05,000
Speaker 3: about the need to communicate a dinner in a movie

507
00:22:05,000 --> 00:22:07,000
Speaker 3: A movie takes you completely away from the person.

508
00:22:07,440 --> 00:22:10,359
Speaker 2: It disengages you. You can't talk gum first day, I

509
00:22:10,400 --> 00:22:13,000
Speaker 2: think I think a movie date is a dumb first

510
00:22:13,040 --> 00:22:15,879
Speaker 2: three dates. I think a movie date is something you

511
00:22:15,880 --> 00:22:17,840
Speaker 2: should do once you're invested in the person.

512
00:22:17,880 --> 00:22:19,960
Speaker 1: You guys just want to be around each other, but

513
00:22:20,000 --> 00:22:20,880
Speaker 1: discontroy o a bit.

514
00:22:21,240 --> 00:22:24,040
Speaker 3: Only that time a movie date can be good is

515
00:22:24,080 --> 00:22:26,000
Speaker 3: if you have dinner plans right after, because you get

516
00:22:26,000 --> 00:22:27,720
Speaker 3: to dissect about the movie. But you really don't even

517
00:22:27,720 --> 00:22:29,200
Speaker 3: talk to each other. I don't think you don't talk

518
00:22:29,200 --> 00:22:30,600
Speaker 3: to each other at all. And if I'm in a

519
00:22:30,600 --> 00:22:32,320
Speaker 3: movie and nigga want to talk, yo, shut up. I'm

520
00:22:32,320 --> 00:22:33,720
Speaker 3: trying to see what the fuck is going on. Only

521
00:22:33,840 --> 00:22:35,680
Speaker 3: first date that was good that I saw a movie

522
00:22:35,680 --> 00:22:37,199
Speaker 3: with was the Is it the Joker?

523
00:22:37,600 --> 00:22:38,240
Speaker 1: What was the one?

524
00:22:38,680 --> 00:22:41,199
Speaker 3: So he was like, what are your plans? I was like,

525
00:22:41,280 --> 00:22:42,720
Speaker 3: my bad. I really would link up with you for

526
00:22:42,760 --> 00:22:44,959
Speaker 3: a drink, but I gotta go see this shit. And

527
00:22:45,000 --> 00:22:46,640
Speaker 3: he was like a bad first day, but I'm gonna

528
00:22:46,640 --> 00:22:49,720
Speaker 3: see it with you. And it's funny because I did

529
00:22:49,760 --> 00:22:51,760
Speaker 3: feel like I couldn't connect with him because I was

530
00:22:51,800 --> 00:22:53,840
Speaker 3: like looking at him and show like damn he kind

531
00:22:53,880 --> 00:22:56,000
Speaker 3: of cute, like I was starting to get excited. I'm like,

532
00:22:56,280 --> 00:22:58,000
Speaker 3: we want to talk him for it. It wasn't good,

533
00:22:58,200 --> 00:22:59,600
Speaker 3: that's fine, but we also just went out. We know

534
00:22:59,640 --> 00:23:02,280
Speaker 3: you have a you could have your attention on a movie.

535
00:23:02,320 --> 00:23:04,200
Speaker 3: This is like, you'll be all over the place.

536
00:23:04,280 --> 00:23:07,640
Speaker 1: Me. I'm watching the movie. I ain't even look at this.

537
00:23:09,000 --> 00:23:10,520
Speaker 1: What my add gotta do anything?

538
00:23:10,560 --> 00:23:14,240
Speaker 2: Bill add You not gonna be super into the movie anyway?

539
00:23:14,480 --> 00:23:15,760
Speaker 1: Shut the fuck up. Next one.

540
00:23:18,720 --> 00:23:23,040
Speaker 3: Stop expecting so much. It's I hate this one. This

541
00:23:23,119 --> 00:23:24,360
Speaker 3: is I hated this one too.

542
00:23:24,520 --> 00:23:26,560
Speaker 1: What the fuck you just told me? No no, no, no,

543
00:23:26,560 --> 00:23:28,080
Speaker 1: no no no no huh.

544
00:23:28,160 --> 00:23:30,720
Speaker 3: I was sold to stop respecting so much from love

545
00:23:31,160 --> 00:23:35,000
Speaker 3: and to manage expectations. I don't agree love makes the

546
00:23:35,000 --> 00:23:37,440
Speaker 3: world go around, but it doesn't mean compromising on personal values.

547
00:23:37,520 --> 00:23:38,320
Speaker 1: This is bad advice.

548
00:23:38,480 --> 00:23:43,120
Speaker 2: Have your expectations, bitch, or you know what, have your standards.

549
00:23:43,160 --> 00:23:46,960
Speaker 2: I will say that's standards, because expectations lead to disappointment.

550
00:23:47,280 --> 00:23:50,960
Speaker 2: If you have these grandiose expectations with how a person

551
00:23:51,000 --> 00:23:53,920
Speaker 2: that you don't know should show up and treat you, bitch,

552
00:23:54,000 --> 00:23:56,000
Speaker 2: Once they don't show up, or they ghost you, or

553
00:23:56,359 --> 00:23:57,960
Speaker 2: the deckain't as big as you wanted it to be.

554
00:23:58,040 --> 00:24:01,800
Speaker 3: You're going to be let down. But I do think

555
00:24:01,840 --> 00:24:05,320
Speaker 3: that you should go into dating with knowing what you want.

556
00:24:05,520 --> 00:24:07,760
Speaker 3: If you want a person to respond within a certain time,

557
00:24:07,800 --> 00:24:09,159
Speaker 3: if you want to be treated, if you want to

558
00:24:09,200 --> 00:24:11,760
Speaker 3: be taken out before they come to your house, if

559
00:24:11,760 --> 00:24:15,440
Speaker 3: you want a certain fucking level of dates. Like if

560
00:24:15,440 --> 00:24:17,080
Speaker 3: you're like, nah, nigga, I want to go to a

561
00:24:17,080 --> 00:24:20,440
Speaker 3: Michelin Star restaurant, O macase, don't take me to motherfucking

562
00:24:20,600 --> 00:24:24,560
Speaker 3: two for twenty Applebee's. You can have those things and

563
00:24:24,680 --> 00:24:26,480
Speaker 3: set those things as being realistic, but.

564
00:24:26,800 --> 00:24:29,639
Speaker 1: I think they I don't think that. I mean, but

565
00:24:30,080 --> 00:24:31,000
Speaker 1: I mean it was extreme.

566
00:24:31,160 --> 00:24:32,719
Speaker 3: But if you want to go to a ol Macase,

567
00:24:32,760 --> 00:24:34,280
Speaker 3: because that's what the fuck you do on your own,

568
00:24:34,680 --> 00:24:36,359
Speaker 3: don't accept the nigga to take you out to some

569
00:24:36,400 --> 00:24:37,360
Speaker 3: motherfucker pizza shop.

570
00:24:38,600 --> 00:24:40,199
Speaker 2: I can't expect the nigga to feed me how I

571
00:24:40,240 --> 00:24:45,040
Speaker 2: feed myself. And here's so here's my thing. Expectation wise.

572
00:24:45,520 --> 00:24:49,080
Speaker 2: Maybe not, it's fine, it's fine. I'm loud enough to

573
00:24:49,200 --> 00:24:53,199
Speaker 2: me to me. Maybe yes, it's bad to expect a

574
00:24:53,200 --> 00:24:55,520
Speaker 2: person to do that. But if that's my standard and

575
00:24:55,560 --> 00:24:57,960
Speaker 2: you can't meet that standard, then you have to be

576
00:24:58,000 --> 00:25:01,880
Speaker 2: okay with recognizing that a man out the gate won't

577
00:25:01,920 --> 00:25:04,000
Speaker 2: meet the expectations you'll have for him later, if that

578
00:25:04,040 --> 00:25:04,359
Speaker 2: makes sense.

579
00:25:04,440 --> 00:25:09,119
Speaker 3: Okay, So when it comes to type of dates you need,

580
00:25:09,480 --> 00:25:13,040
Speaker 3: and when it comes to them being expensive dates, I

581
00:25:13,080 --> 00:25:15,600
Speaker 3: actually think if you seriously need that, you actually can't

582
00:25:15,600 --> 00:25:16,800
Speaker 3: just date any type of nigga.

583
00:25:16,840 --> 00:25:18,080
Speaker 1: Well, no, mind you all that.

584
00:25:18,280 --> 00:25:20,639
Speaker 3: I think when you're putting those expectations like you need

585
00:25:20,680 --> 00:25:22,280
Speaker 3: to be oh ma, Casse is expensive, Madia, it's one

586
00:25:22,359 --> 00:25:22,920
Speaker 3: fifty person.

587
00:25:22,920 --> 00:25:24,920
Speaker 1: Oh I mean yeah, but they have some cheaper ones

588
00:25:24,920 --> 00:25:25,680
Speaker 1: in the city. They do.

589
00:25:25,800 --> 00:25:28,360
Speaker 2: I follow them, But you said, Michelin, Oh yeah, them

590
00:25:28,400 --> 00:25:30,679
Speaker 2: like three hundred. That could be later. But to me

591
00:25:31,760 --> 00:25:32,560
Speaker 2: again where.

592
00:25:32,400 --> 00:25:34,879
Speaker 3: I'll But I'll go to a fucking o Macasse, then

593
00:25:34,880 --> 00:25:37,080
Speaker 3: a dive bar and do pickleback shots.

594
00:25:37,240 --> 00:25:38,920
Speaker 1: It's highs and loads over here, a miss.

595
00:25:39,040 --> 00:25:41,280
Speaker 3: Yeah, but that might be too high for the nigga.

596
00:25:42,680 --> 00:25:45,520
Speaker 2: I realize after my ex don't want to mail being

597
00:25:45,560 --> 00:25:49,480
Speaker 2: too high for you, darling. Okay, yeah, I'm not doing

598
00:25:49,560 --> 00:25:52,160
Speaker 2: that again. I'm not doing someone who has to wait

599
00:25:52,200 --> 00:25:54,920
Speaker 2: for a check to take me out to eat. That's

600
00:25:55,000 --> 00:25:57,240
Speaker 2: not the dynamic that I want in anyone that I'm

601
00:25:57,240 --> 00:26:00,560
Speaker 2: considering actually dating, like me and Van. There was a

602
00:26:00,600 --> 00:26:04,560
Speaker 2: tweet that just went viral, especially now that his calls

603
00:26:04,600 --> 00:26:06,120
Speaker 2: got to pay sixteen thousand a month.

604
00:26:06,640 --> 00:26:06,760
Speaker 4: Uh.

605
00:26:07,040 --> 00:26:10,560
Speaker 1: Someone else just got their well even divorce.

606
00:26:12,200 --> 00:26:14,960
Speaker 3: Tina Knowles, Van Layton, Rachel Lindsay has to pay sixteen

607
00:26:16,520 --> 00:26:20,240
Speaker 3: Uh huh Rachel getting money life. Yes, well no, that's

608
00:26:20,240 --> 00:26:22,119
Speaker 3: why she said, bitch, now I gotta work more. They

609
00:26:22,160 --> 00:26:24,040
Speaker 3: came out and said she makes like sixty thousand a month,

610
00:26:24,400 --> 00:26:26,600
Speaker 3: that he she has to pay him sixteen thousand a

611
00:26:26,600 --> 00:26:30,000
Speaker 3: month and their divorce. Miss Tina Knowles just broke up

612
00:26:30,040 --> 00:26:33,840
Speaker 3: with her. Knicky not to Miss Tina Knowles, but we're

613
00:26:33,920 --> 00:26:36,679
Speaker 3: reaching a dynamic where as women are making more money

614
00:26:37,080 --> 00:26:40,439
Speaker 3: where you know, y'all love She wasn't with me shooting

615
00:26:40,440 --> 00:26:43,000
Speaker 3: in the gym. A lot of these men's now are

616
00:26:43,000 --> 00:26:45,720
Speaker 3: making a lot of these men at a lot of these.

617
00:26:45,560 --> 00:26:48,200
Speaker 2: Men's now are coming after the pockets. Look what even

618
00:26:48,240 --> 00:26:51,040
Speaker 2: Emon was trying to ask from Tiana Taylor like, there's.

619
00:26:50,880 --> 00:26:54,280
Speaker 1: A lot of money from Tian Yeah, I mean yeah,

620
00:26:54,359 --> 00:26:55,080
Speaker 1: I don't know what.

621
00:26:55,160 --> 00:26:57,280
Speaker 6: He's trying to get deep into that music, trying.

622
00:26:57,160 --> 00:26:59,440
Speaker 1: To get deep into the back. So like, and they're

623
00:26:59,480 --> 00:27:01,320
Speaker 1: no longer wanting to pay money.

624
00:27:01,320 --> 00:27:04,320
Speaker 2: Like, so where where the women are now outperforming or

625
00:27:04,400 --> 00:27:05,760
Speaker 2: out is he not ready?

626
00:27:06,000 --> 00:27:08,160
Speaker 1: No, he's been, he ain't played. I don't know about

627
00:27:08,160 --> 00:27:09,320
Speaker 1: four or five years.

628
00:27:09,359 --> 00:27:12,320
Speaker 3: Like it's getting to a point where women are out earning,

629
00:27:12,520 --> 00:27:14,120
Speaker 3: looking for partners that love them.

630
00:27:14,240 --> 00:27:17,840
Speaker 2: They're getting married and then these niggas is like spousal

631
00:27:17,920 --> 00:27:19,920
Speaker 2: support me, baby, take care of me now.

632
00:27:20,400 --> 00:27:21,159
Speaker 1: So I'm not.

633
00:27:21,520 --> 00:27:24,359
Speaker 2: I'm not to the point where though I don't want marriage,

634
00:27:24,760 --> 00:27:26,680
Speaker 2: I'm no longer in a place and me and Van

635
00:27:26,760 --> 00:27:32,639
Speaker 2: agreed want uh one notch like tax bracket wise, maybe

636
00:27:32,680 --> 00:27:35,159
Speaker 2: one above or one below. I'm not dating somebody that

637
00:27:35,240 --> 00:27:37,080
Speaker 2: makes a lot less than me. And when me and

638
00:27:37,160 --> 00:27:40,919
Speaker 2: him were dating, he's a retired person who made what

639
00:27:41,000 --> 00:27:41,359
Speaker 2: he made.

640
00:27:41,440 --> 00:27:44,560
Speaker 1: I made five times his income. Not happening anymore, No,

641
00:27:45,240 --> 00:27:46,480
Speaker 1: not doing it. I'm not.

642
00:27:46,680 --> 00:27:50,159
Speaker 2: I'm not subjecting myself to if I and this is

643
00:27:50,160 --> 00:27:53,080
Speaker 2: what it was in that relationship, bitch, if I wanted

644
00:27:53,080 --> 00:27:56,719
Speaker 2: to go to town, I was paying the bill, like

645
00:27:57,080 --> 00:28:00,000
Speaker 2: he didn't believe in spending two three four hundred dollar

646
00:28:00,119 --> 00:28:00,560
Speaker 2: was on a meal.

647
00:28:01,080 --> 00:28:02,080
Speaker 1: That's the food I like.

648
00:28:02,680 --> 00:28:05,199
Speaker 3: And so if I wanted it, I brought him to

649
00:28:05,280 --> 00:28:07,479
Speaker 3: experience what I like, I'm not doing that no more.

650
00:28:07,520 --> 00:28:08,160
Speaker 1: I want a nigga.

651
00:28:08,240 --> 00:28:10,439
Speaker 2: Like what you said you enjoyed a little bit with

652
00:28:10,520 --> 00:28:12,480
Speaker 2: yo X was that y'all were on the same bougie level.

653
00:28:12,680 --> 00:28:14,640
Speaker 2: Y'all could both afford the things that y'all like to do.

654
00:28:15,000 --> 00:28:17,280
Speaker 2: That's where I'm at, you know, And that's all I'm accepting.

655
00:28:17,320 --> 00:28:21,040
Speaker 3: It's crazy because in my relationship now, we're eating out

656
00:28:21,480 --> 00:28:25,040
Speaker 3: lavish once a week and regular once a week.

657
00:28:25,280 --> 00:28:25,960
Speaker 1: I'm fine with that.

658
00:28:26,160 --> 00:28:28,240
Speaker 3: And I was like, I can do this forever. I

659
00:28:28,240 --> 00:28:29,800
Speaker 3: hope you could do this forever. Yeah, I can do

660
00:28:29,880 --> 00:28:32,879
Speaker 3: this forever. So and we picked our meal, you know

661
00:28:32,920 --> 00:28:35,439
Speaker 3: what I mean. And he literally said to me, like,

662
00:28:36,200 --> 00:28:38,480
Speaker 3: I'm really dating a hotel bro like he wants to

663
00:28:38,520 --> 00:28:40,720
Speaker 3: eat I swear to God, this is not a joke.

664
00:28:41,480 --> 00:28:46,400
Speaker 3: Raw before four. Then we have one meal. I am

665
00:28:46,720 --> 00:28:52,040
Speaker 3: tired of dating Wolf. Like in the mornings it's fruits

666
00:28:52,160 --> 00:28:53,960
Speaker 3: or nuts or whatever, it's raw food.

667
00:28:54,480 --> 00:28:55,560
Speaker 1: And then one meal.

668
00:28:55,640 --> 00:28:57,520
Speaker 3: Like every time we see an older black couple, He's like,

669
00:28:57,520 --> 00:28:59,360
Speaker 3: that's what we're gonna look like, babe, Like you see

670
00:28:59,360 --> 00:29:00,840
Speaker 3: how they look like, that's what we have to look like.

671
00:29:01,480 --> 00:29:06,400
Speaker 3: We must be healthy, healthy, sick of it. But girl,

672
00:29:06,600 --> 00:29:07,960
Speaker 3: let me tell you something, and I hope you're not

673
00:29:08,000 --> 00:29:10,360
Speaker 3: watching this. My homegirl was staying with me for like

674
00:29:10,400 --> 00:29:12,480
Speaker 3: a month and a half, right, and normally he'll stay

675
00:29:12,520 --> 00:29:14,160
Speaker 3: over on the weekend and we see each other once

676
00:29:14,200 --> 00:29:17,640
Speaker 3: a week, I mean once during the week, every time

677
00:29:17,680 --> 00:29:19,880
Speaker 3: he leaves. And I didn't know I was doing this, Mandy.

678
00:29:20,000 --> 00:29:22,120
Speaker 3: She was like, why do you keep ordering pizza? As

679
00:29:22,120 --> 00:29:24,600
Speaker 3: soon as that nigga lead Gray caled you.

680
00:29:24,640 --> 00:29:26,400
Speaker 1: Every time me and that nigga broke up, I went

681
00:29:26,480 --> 00:29:30,480
Speaker 1: straight to order carnitas, had bacon nigga. Every time he

682
00:29:30,600 --> 00:29:33,280
Speaker 1: and that muscle motherfucker broke up, I'm going to Chick Filake,

683
00:29:33,520 --> 00:29:34,800
Speaker 1: give me the carnita.

684
00:29:35,000 --> 00:29:37,200
Speaker 3: So we're coming to this thing now of like what

685
00:29:37,240 --> 00:29:38,720
Speaker 3: the fuck are we gonna do, bitch, because we know

686
00:29:38,760 --> 00:29:41,320
Speaker 3: you eat too much. So when we went out to

687
00:29:41,320 --> 00:29:43,480
Speaker 3: eat last night, we went to Blue Ribbon and we

688
00:29:43,560 --> 00:29:46,240
Speaker 3: ordered and you know, the Oma cos and shit. He's like, look,

689
00:29:46,720 --> 00:29:49,680
Speaker 3: I'm cool with all this glutting and shit if it's

690
00:29:49,680 --> 00:29:52,120
Speaker 3: the night out. But like now we're in this point

691
00:29:52,160 --> 00:29:54,560
Speaker 3: of like how are we gonna keep healthy? And I

692
00:29:54,680 --> 00:29:57,880
Speaker 3: was like, bro, I need like I don't think you

693
00:29:58,320 --> 00:29:59,000
Speaker 3: eat to live.

694
00:29:59,360 --> 00:29:59,920
Speaker 1: I lived.

695
00:30:00,840 --> 00:30:03,240
Speaker 3: When we go on vacation, He's like, oh, this beach

696
00:30:03,280 --> 00:30:05,040
Speaker 3: looks great, and I'm like, yo, look at this Michelin

697
00:30:05,040 --> 00:30:07,320
Speaker 3: star spot. That's how I vacation. I do that with

698
00:30:07,360 --> 00:30:09,920
Speaker 3: my friends. Yeah, I like doing that. I'm not gonna

699
00:30:09,960 --> 00:30:11,800
Speaker 3: hold you. I love not having a nigga in my

700
00:30:11,840 --> 00:30:14,360
Speaker 3: place anymore because I'm one of them. I eat like

701
00:30:15,680 --> 00:30:18,760
Speaker 3: if I'm at home and I'm hungry for dinner, I

702
00:30:18,760 --> 00:30:20,960
Speaker 3: could have chips and dip me too. Oh yeah, I

703
00:30:20,960 --> 00:30:22,640
Speaker 3: ain't gotta eat a whole meal. I eat like a

704
00:30:22,640 --> 00:30:26,520
Speaker 3: fucking bird. And I love might have popasis. They don

705
00:30:26,520 --> 00:30:29,480
Speaker 3: want little chese crackers. That's like, maybe I'll have a taco.

706
00:30:30,560 --> 00:30:33,040
Speaker 3: Maybe maybe I'll go downstairs get a little poop, and

707
00:30:33,080 --> 00:30:36,080
Speaker 3: maybe y'all do a little oodles and noodles. So I

708
00:30:36,200 --> 00:30:39,400
Speaker 3: listen the real regular shit. This one is interesting. Final

709
00:30:39,480 --> 00:30:44,160
Speaker 3: one bad piece of dating advice, don't go to bed angry.

710
00:30:44,840 --> 00:30:46,160
Speaker 3: This is the worst advice.

711
00:30:47,840 --> 00:30:48,360
Speaker 1: It said.

712
00:30:48,920 --> 00:30:52,120
Speaker 3: I've stayed up, danced fighting for four day straight, literally

713
00:30:52,200 --> 00:30:53,640
Speaker 3: didn't go to work just so we didn't go to

714
00:30:53,720 --> 00:30:56,360
Speaker 3: bed angry. Sometimes it's better to disagree. I guess she

715
00:30:56,480 --> 00:31:02,360
Speaker 3: was telling a joke, but I'll be honest, I don't

716
00:31:02,400 --> 00:31:05,200
Speaker 3: want to go to bed angry. I don't care what

717
00:31:05,280 --> 00:31:08,280
Speaker 3: anybody says. I think that's good advice because the one

718
00:31:08,320 --> 00:31:11,520
Speaker 3: time that we did it, it made my next day terrible. Brokay,

719
00:31:11,720 --> 00:31:14,000
Speaker 3: I fucking woke up. I showed up at work. I

720
00:31:14,040 --> 00:31:16,880
Speaker 3: was just feeling off. I don't like something that's unresolved.

721
00:31:17,200 --> 00:31:19,440
Speaker 3: Maybe we're agreeing to disagree, but there's got to be

722
00:31:19,520 --> 00:31:21,280
Speaker 3: some type of like like I don't want to hang

723
00:31:21,360 --> 00:31:24,960
Speaker 3: up the phone still tight, right, Like that shit is

724
00:31:25,000 --> 00:31:25,640
Speaker 3: really tough?

725
00:31:25,880 --> 00:31:28,280
Speaker 1: Well did we not just have this conversation? Tell me

726
00:31:28,400 --> 00:31:30,240
Speaker 1: what did you guys talk about? Time and place?

727
00:31:30,560 --> 00:31:32,120
Speaker 2: Bitch, go to bed angry. If I don't want to

728
00:31:32,160 --> 00:31:34,000
Speaker 2: talk and I'm not in a place to.

729
00:31:33,960 --> 00:31:36,520
Speaker 3: Where we can meet or resolve at this very moment,

730
00:31:37,480 --> 00:31:38,600
Speaker 3: grow up, deal with it.

731
00:31:38,640 --> 00:31:41,360
Speaker 1: Like we can beat angry. We're human beings.

732
00:31:41,640 --> 00:31:44,320
Speaker 2: The idea that we have to resolve an issue or

733
00:31:44,360 --> 00:31:47,600
Speaker 2: get over something because you absolutely need to when the

734
00:31:47,600 --> 00:31:50,400
Speaker 2: sun is down does not work for me. If I'm

735
00:31:50,400 --> 00:31:52,479
Speaker 2: in a place where I don't feel like we're gonna

736
00:31:52,520 --> 00:31:56,160
Speaker 2: reach an actual resolve in this moment, let me sleep

737
00:31:56,200 --> 00:31:59,160
Speaker 2: on it. Let me get in control of my emotions

738
00:31:59,200 --> 00:32:02,000
Speaker 2: and feelings and then let's talk about it, not when

739
00:32:02,160 --> 00:32:04,960
Speaker 2: emotions are high, and that may take longer for me

740
00:32:05,160 --> 00:32:06,040
Speaker 2: than it does for you.

741
00:32:06,440 --> 00:32:09,600
Speaker 1: And to me, that's creating what like what what did

742
00:32:09,640 --> 00:32:10,120
Speaker 1: I say? It was?

743
00:32:10,240 --> 00:32:12,600
Speaker 2: It's not even just a boundary, but it's like, if

744
00:32:12,640 --> 00:32:15,320
Speaker 2: we really want to reach a resolve, you can't put

745
00:32:15,360 --> 00:32:18,320
Speaker 2: me on a time limit because it's what you want,

746
00:32:18,320 --> 00:32:21,200
Speaker 2: because it completely takes away fair being able to show

747
00:32:21,280 --> 00:32:23,400
Speaker 2: up in a way that where I'm just not saying

748
00:32:23,440 --> 00:32:24,520
Speaker 2: anything just to get over this.

749
00:32:24,720 --> 00:32:26,720
Speaker 3: And in some points sometimes I need space and he

750
00:32:26,800 --> 00:32:29,920
Speaker 3: doesn't like right like he does not need it, and

751
00:32:29,960 --> 00:32:35,080
Speaker 3: I'd be like, I just want to man, and it

752
00:32:35,160 --> 00:32:38,200
Speaker 3: is like, bruh, we got into a little thing. And

753
00:32:38,200 --> 00:32:41,160
Speaker 3: it's funny because when we went out right, we didn't

754
00:32:41,200 --> 00:32:44,000
Speaker 3: get into it into it A long story short. We

755
00:32:44,040 --> 00:32:45,880
Speaker 3: just had a disagreement on the phone and it was

756
00:32:45,920 --> 00:32:48,160
Speaker 3: about defensiveness, so.

757
00:32:48,000 --> 00:32:50,600
Speaker 1: We'll be defensive. He does or you do? Who you

758
00:32:50,640 --> 00:32:55,120
Speaker 1: think that? You got a lot of issues the whole room,

759
00:32:55,280 --> 00:32:56,360
Speaker 1: you girl.

760
00:32:56,400 --> 00:33:01,560
Speaker 3: He tried to walk fight start. It wasn't a real fight,

761
00:33:02,080 --> 00:33:03,680
Speaker 3: but I told him what happened with you?

762
00:33:03,760 --> 00:33:04,200
Speaker 1: I'm like bro.

763
00:33:04,360 --> 00:33:08,240
Speaker 3: Last night someone told me that Mandy got in a

764
00:33:08,280 --> 00:33:10,800
Speaker 3: fucking fight and a pan nota mama. And I was like,

765
00:33:10,840 --> 00:33:14,520
Speaker 3: on a fucking Wednesday and he was like what. I'm like, yeah,

766
00:33:14,680 --> 00:33:16,200
Speaker 3: He's like, who was it. I'm like, she doesn't know.

767
00:33:16,840 --> 00:33:20,360
Speaker 3: And he said to me, see, this is why, like,

768
00:33:20,920 --> 00:33:23,440
Speaker 3: y'all need to just be super careful when you're out.

769
00:33:23,600 --> 00:33:26,160
Speaker 3: And he kept saying, y'all, y'all need to make sure that,

770
00:33:26,320 --> 00:33:28,560
Speaker 3: like you know, when you were with friends, like you

771
00:33:28,600 --> 00:33:30,240
Speaker 3: watch your back, like, don't be going out too drunk,

772
00:33:30,240 --> 00:33:32,040
Speaker 3: don't let da da don't be talking to people.

773
00:33:32,720 --> 00:33:35,640
Speaker 1: I say, y'all, I ain't get in a fight, nigga,

774
00:33:35,640 --> 00:33:37,560
Speaker 1: Who the fuck is y'all? This don't got nothing to

775
00:33:37,640 --> 00:33:40,840
Speaker 1: do with me. Okay, I'm like, why do you Why

776
00:33:40,880 --> 00:33:44,000
Speaker 1: are you laughing? Because I'm like, why are you saying y'all?

777
00:33:44,520 --> 00:33:46,400
Speaker 2: But you want to know what the most hilarious thing

778
00:33:46,440 --> 00:33:49,280
Speaker 2: about her saying this is one of the first things

779
00:33:49,360 --> 00:33:51,680
Speaker 2: you said to me was did she know you from

780
00:33:51,680 --> 00:33:52,320
Speaker 2: the podcast?

781
00:33:52,560 --> 00:33:54,480
Speaker 1: Did she maybe not like you from the internet. That's

782
00:33:54,520 --> 00:33:56,800
Speaker 1: what I thought my point, So why are you so

783
00:33:56,880 --> 00:33:59,360
Speaker 1: mad that he said y'all when immediately you attached it

784
00:33:59,400 --> 00:34:02,520
Speaker 1: to the podcast that we have bitches, they be mad

785
00:34:02,560 --> 00:34:06,600
Speaker 1: at you, bitch, cow I don't have Twitter. Oh it

786
00:34:06,640 --> 00:34:07,080
Speaker 1: don't matter.

787
00:34:07,160 --> 00:34:09,319
Speaker 3: Them goddamn be girls about to come up and start

788
00:34:09,520 --> 00:34:12,120
Speaker 3: throwing Alumina met show, ass hole. I don't give a fuck,

789
00:34:12,160 --> 00:34:15,640
Speaker 3: bitch because I get right out anyway.

790
00:34:16,320 --> 00:34:18,080
Speaker 2: Don't act like they only hate me, bitch, the those

791
00:34:18,120 --> 00:34:20,840
Speaker 2: people that don't agree with you. I'm joking, okay, but no,

792
00:34:20,960 --> 00:34:23,240
Speaker 2: why he said that was what I thought, y'all.

793
00:34:24,160 --> 00:34:27,040
Speaker 1: Y'all know I thought it was I did no, no, bitch,

794
00:34:27,080 --> 00:34:28,239
Speaker 1: it was a bitch. I told you was a bitch.

795
00:34:28,239 --> 00:34:30,160
Speaker 1: I didn't know. But anyway, so when he.

796
00:34:30,440 --> 00:34:32,880
Speaker 3: Kept saying, He's like, yo, I'm not even coming at

797
00:34:32,880 --> 00:34:34,919
Speaker 3: you crazy. I'm just saying I want you to be safe.

798
00:34:34,960 --> 00:34:37,320
Speaker 3: I'm saying, y'all because y'all are in a public space.

799
00:34:37,520 --> 00:34:40,319
Speaker 1: But I y'all would not you just be wanting to argue. Girl,

800
00:34:40,320 --> 00:34:42,040
Speaker 1: I'm like, so you mad? Didn't hang up? And he

801
00:34:42,120 --> 00:34:43,720
Speaker 1: hung up, and I was like, I can't release funny

802
00:34:43,719 --> 00:34:44,080
Speaker 1: hold on.

803
00:34:44,160 --> 00:34:46,399
Speaker 2: Not only that, let me tell you how Weezy hits

804
00:34:46,440 --> 00:34:48,840
Speaker 2: me up asking about the fight, and I was like,

805
00:34:48,920 --> 00:34:50,880
Speaker 2: oh huh, it was a your ghetto ass neighborhood.

806
00:34:50,920 --> 00:34:51,880
Speaker 1: This is why I can't say.

807
00:34:51,680 --> 00:34:55,359
Speaker 3: Your little mother fucking neighborhood. I really I couldn't believe it.

808
00:34:55,360 --> 00:34:56,880
Speaker 3: I was like, yo, little right, it's a nigger I

809
00:34:57,000 --> 00:34:58,600
Speaker 3: used today. And he was like, bro, what the fuck

810
00:34:58,719 --> 00:34:59,040
Speaker 3: just happened?

811
00:34:59,080 --> 00:35:02,279
Speaker 1: MINDI? I'm like, what happened when Mandy and so anyway girl?

812
00:35:02,360 --> 00:35:02,400
Speaker 3: No?

813
00:35:02,520 --> 00:35:04,480
Speaker 2: And then is embarrassing because we'd have called the cops

814
00:35:04,680 --> 00:35:07,960
Speaker 2: and it. Larry June walked in and he's like, what happened?

815
00:35:07,960 --> 00:35:10,719
Speaker 2: And I was like, nigga, I came up now the

816
00:35:10,800 --> 00:35:13,000
Speaker 2: gun in a fight and ship like a bitch just

817
00:35:13,000 --> 00:35:13,759
Speaker 2: started hitting me.

818
00:35:13,880 --> 00:35:15,759
Speaker 3: Mind you the cops and I'm like, this is the cops.

819
00:35:15,800 --> 00:35:18,440
Speaker 3: Don't know who the fuck Larry's Joe and I'm like I'm.

820
00:35:18,280 --> 00:35:18,839
Speaker 1: Talking to Larry.

821
00:35:18,920 --> 00:35:21,080
Speaker 2: I'm like, I just got a whole fucking fight. We

822
00:35:21,120 --> 00:35:23,200
Speaker 2: was only in here for five minutes. I saw Fresco.

823
00:35:23,280 --> 00:35:25,439
Speaker 2: He said he saw you that night. Bro, I saw

824
00:35:25,480 --> 00:35:27,480
Speaker 2: everybody that night. I didn't even ask about He's like, yo,

825
00:35:27,560 --> 00:35:28,320
Speaker 2: I saw Mandy.

826
00:35:28,200 --> 00:35:30,440
Speaker 3: Literally left last lap and went to impanada. I'm like,

827
00:35:30,440 --> 00:35:32,279
Speaker 3: bitch just getting anada and I get in the whole

828
00:35:32,320 --> 00:35:32,759
Speaker 3: fucking fight.

829
00:35:32,840 --> 00:35:33,759
Speaker 1: Oh So this is how to fight.

830
00:35:34,160 --> 00:35:36,600
Speaker 3: This is how our disagreements go, and I hate that

831
00:35:36,680 --> 00:35:39,839
Speaker 3: it turns into sex. I texted him because I was like, damn.

832
00:35:39,840 --> 00:35:41,719
Speaker 3: He really hung up When I said up, I don't

833
00:35:41,800 --> 00:35:41,960
Speaker 3: like that.

834
00:35:42,040 --> 00:35:42,759
Speaker 1: He said, hang up.

835
00:35:43,080 --> 00:35:44,600
Speaker 3: So I said, I'm going to this meeting with Mandy

836
00:35:44,640 --> 00:35:46,120
Speaker 3: and we have to go to this show. If you

837
00:35:46,160 --> 00:35:48,399
Speaker 3: ain't at my house by the time I get home,

838
00:35:48,960 --> 00:35:50,160
Speaker 3: I know something nigga.

839
00:35:54,480 --> 00:35:57,160
Speaker 1: With you, and it stead you invite him some pergoling.

840
00:35:57,440 --> 00:35:58,960
Speaker 3: Because we had a flat o'clock in the morning. I

841
00:35:59,040 --> 00:36:00,560
Speaker 3: called him after the show. I said, where the fuck

842
00:36:00,600 --> 00:36:00,839
Speaker 3: you at?

843
00:36:00,880 --> 00:36:02,319
Speaker 1: He said why? I said, you better be at my

844
00:36:02,320 --> 00:36:04,439
Speaker 1: goddamn house. He said, you ain't fucking me. I ain't

845
00:36:04,440 --> 00:36:07,080
Speaker 1: fucking with your nigga, but you better be there. But anyway,

846
00:36:07,080 --> 00:36:08,400
Speaker 1: do you want to come to Pergola?

847
00:36:09,200 --> 00:36:09,520
Speaker 4: What is?

848
00:36:10,160 --> 00:36:11,360
Speaker 1: I don't know, but no.

849
00:36:17,120 --> 00:36:20,200
Speaker 3: So there was a I was gonna say a really

850
00:36:20,200 --> 00:36:22,440
Speaker 3: cool question that I asked him recently. That started some

851
00:36:22,480 --> 00:36:24,640
Speaker 3: great dialogue that I want to share for anybody in

852
00:36:24,680 --> 00:36:26,840
Speaker 3: a relationship. Oh, this is the Hord dirt. Come on

853
00:36:26,880 --> 00:36:29,239
Speaker 3: this transition. It ain't really a hord dirt, but it's

854
00:36:29,239 --> 00:36:29,640
Speaker 3: a tip.

855
00:36:29,680 --> 00:36:32,080
Speaker 1: It's a tip. It's a dating tip. Okay, so.

856
00:36:33,920 --> 00:36:38,640
Speaker 3: I have been having really good disagreements. If this ain't

857
00:36:38,680 --> 00:36:42,120
Speaker 3: the most toxic thing, you were going to have hard conversations.

858
00:36:42,160 --> 00:36:42,520
Speaker 6: Okay.

859
00:36:42,600 --> 00:36:44,560
Speaker 1: I'm saying, like we've been really doing a good job

860
00:36:44,600 --> 00:36:45,000
Speaker 1: with them.

861
00:36:44,840 --> 00:36:46,759
Speaker 3: Really respecting each other and not raising our voice, like

862
00:36:47,040 --> 00:36:47,799
Speaker 3: taking time to listen.

863
00:36:47,800 --> 00:36:49,279
Speaker 1: You yell at him and say, bitch, get your at

864
00:36:49,280 --> 00:36:50,960
Speaker 1: the pergola. I don't feel like that count.

865
00:36:51,000 --> 00:36:53,040
Speaker 3: That's to me, that's not a real argument. You know,

866
00:36:53,080 --> 00:36:55,319
Speaker 3: when an argument is tough, that's dumb shit.

867
00:36:55,360 --> 00:36:57,439
Speaker 2: You sound like my friends who say, girl, I ain't

868
00:36:57,440 --> 00:36:58,959
Speaker 2: here dicking a long time and I saved the nigga

869
00:36:59,000 --> 00:37:00,560
Speaker 2: and she was like, don't count.

870
00:37:00,760 --> 00:37:02,480
Speaker 1: That's what is that? Sound like a real argument?

871
00:37:02,600 --> 00:37:05,399
Speaker 6: Ya, I get what you said, because I fuck around

872
00:37:05,440 --> 00:37:06,000
Speaker 6: do the same shit.

873
00:37:06,120 --> 00:37:07,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, that sh it's dumb to me.

874
00:37:07,360 --> 00:37:10,040
Speaker 3: But when we're really like talking about something, Okay, So

875
00:37:11,440 --> 00:37:14,120
Speaker 3: I was watching Couple's Therapy on the plane.

876
00:37:14,760 --> 00:37:17,239
Speaker 2: Oh, you talked about this? No, I've got asked him

877
00:37:17,280 --> 00:37:19,200
Speaker 2: this two days ago. Oh y'all still watching the show

878
00:37:19,200 --> 00:37:20,400
Speaker 2: together because it's not together?

879
00:37:20,480 --> 00:37:20,800
Speaker 1: Okay.

880
00:37:20,840 --> 00:37:24,760
Speaker 3: I said, Hey, I want to know something, seriously, if

881
00:37:25,360 --> 00:37:28,799
Speaker 3: we were with a therapist, what would you want that

882
00:37:28,920 --> 00:37:32,960
Speaker 3: therapist to help me understand about you or myself that

883
00:37:33,080 --> 00:37:35,480
Speaker 3: you feel like I don't get good.

884
00:37:35,600 --> 00:37:38,800
Speaker 1: Question right, okay, because I'm really watching this show.

885
00:37:38,640 --> 00:37:40,719
Speaker 3: And I'm like, I don't feel like we have these problems,

886
00:37:41,080 --> 00:37:42,840
Speaker 3: but I also don't know what problem he has with me.

887
00:37:43,840 --> 00:37:46,480
Speaker 3: And he said, the only thing I would want a

888
00:37:46,480 --> 00:37:48,520
Speaker 3: therapist to help you understand is that you need to

889
00:37:48,560 --> 00:37:53,480
Speaker 3: be more intentional, mindful, and patient, and basically had said

890
00:37:53,640 --> 00:37:55,080
Speaker 3: that he feels like I don't know how to slow

891
00:37:55,160 --> 00:37:56,880
Speaker 3: down and it's something he really doesn't like about me.

892
00:37:57,440 --> 00:37:59,319
Speaker 3: And the other side of that, it's the thing that

893
00:37:59,719 --> 00:38:03,200
Speaker 3: helps me get money, the hustler energy. I could be exhausted,

894
00:38:03,239 --> 00:38:05,360
Speaker 3: I'm still going to get up, you know. So he's like,

895
00:38:05,360 --> 00:38:07,560
Speaker 3: that's what I want you to understand. And I was like, Okay,

896
00:38:07,640 --> 00:38:10,560
Speaker 3: what's something I would want him to understand? And I said,

897
00:38:10,719 --> 00:38:13,000
Speaker 3: I would want you to understand mental health a little

898
00:38:13,040 --> 00:38:17,200
Speaker 3: bit more so for me because he's so ho teppy.

899
00:38:17,320 --> 00:38:19,120
Speaker 3: I feel like he thinks everything can be fixed with

900
00:38:19,120 --> 00:38:21,800
Speaker 3: a vitamin. When I tell him I'm feeling sluggish or

901
00:38:21,840 --> 00:38:24,640
Speaker 3: I'm tighter, and it's not funny, Mandy, maybe like, yo,

902
00:38:25,080 --> 00:38:29,200
Speaker 3: you need to take ash Ganda. Then look and here

903
00:38:29,239 --> 00:38:34,080
Speaker 3: go who like absolutely, but like it's not just that

904
00:38:34,200 --> 00:38:36,799
Speaker 3: sometimes cognitively shit could be wrong. And he's like, no,

905
00:38:37,520 --> 00:38:39,920
Speaker 3: like you're not doing something healthy enough, Like you don't

906
00:38:39,960 --> 00:38:42,520
Speaker 3: understand if I feel like I'm depressed. He's like there's

907
00:38:42,840 --> 00:38:47,919
Speaker 3: something else, Like he really I feel the way. So wait,

908
00:38:48,080 --> 00:38:52,600
Speaker 3: So you then, in her explanation of her wanting her

909
00:38:52,640 --> 00:38:55,120
Speaker 3: partner to be more in tune with what mental health

910
00:38:55,160 --> 00:38:59,680
Speaker 3: looks like, do you do you actually believe that you're

911
00:39:00,080 --> 00:39:02,840
Speaker 3: your emotions and the way you feel is more inclined

912
00:39:02,840 --> 00:39:05,680
Speaker 3: to your diet and what vitamins are in you, and

913
00:39:05,680 --> 00:39:09,319
Speaker 3: and outside of the external forces like your environment, the

914
00:39:09,320 --> 00:39:10,040
Speaker 3: people around you.

915
00:39:10,360 --> 00:39:13,279
Speaker 6: There's definitely all things applied for sure, okay, but one

916
00:39:13,320 --> 00:39:16,239
Speaker 6: hundred percent what happens in your gut, manifest everywhere else.

917
00:39:16,280 --> 00:39:18,359
Speaker 6: I'm a firm but I really believe in that. That's

918
00:39:18,360 --> 00:39:21,040
Speaker 6: all gang come, you know this is true though, that's

919
00:39:21,040 --> 00:39:21,640
Speaker 6: the crazy part.

920
00:39:23,800 --> 00:39:24,560
Speaker 1: Are you from South?

921
00:39:25,200 --> 00:39:27,640
Speaker 3: I don't believe it's true for all? And that's the

922
00:39:27,680 --> 00:39:31,719
Speaker 3: ship that fucks me up. We started talking about postpartum, okay, right,

923
00:39:31,719 --> 00:39:34,520
Speaker 3: why maybe why I think a friend of mine has it?

924
00:39:34,600 --> 00:39:37,240
Speaker 6: Okay, okay, just checking, bitch.

925
00:39:37,280 --> 00:39:40,080
Speaker 1: Oh no, girl, Okay, why not right now?

926
00:39:40,600 --> 00:39:42,440
Speaker 3: No, we were talking about my homegirl having postpartum, and

927
00:39:42,480 --> 00:39:45,440
Speaker 3: he's like, you know, there's certain things she could take,

928
00:39:45,480 --> 00:39:48,000
Speaker 3: like you know, bla blah blah, And I'm like, good,

929
00:39:48,600 --> 00:39:51,480
Speaker 3: she just fucking changed her whole body and her life.

930
00:39:51,480 --> 00:39:53,040
Speaker 3: He's like, I'm not saying it's not real. I'm just

931
00:39:53,080 --> 00:39:56,040
Speaker 3: saying there's something she could be doing holistically. And it

932
00:39:56,120 --> 00:39:58,200
Speaker 3: makes me so upset. And I know he doesn't mean

933
00:39:58,239 --> 00:40:02,160
Speaker 3: it to be hurtful, but I'm such a believer in psychology,

934
00:40:02,280 --> 00:40:06,080
Speaker 3: therapy and mental health. He's such a believer in dietary

935
00:40:06,320 --> 00:40:11,480
Speaker 3: vitamin like not a naturopathy shit that sometimes the way

936
00:40:11,480 --> 00:40:12,680
Speaker 3: we're seeing things are.

937
00:40:12,640 --> 00:40:13,440
Speaker 1: Like not matching.

938
00:40:13,719 --> 00:40:16,440
Speaker 3: So anyway say that to say, I thought it was

939
00:40:16,480 --> 00:40:19,680
Speaker 3: a really healthy way to ask someone what do you feel?

940
00:40:19,680 --> 00:40:19,759
Speaker 7: Like?

941
00:40:19,920 --> 00:40:22,560
Speaker 3: I can't understand, like if you really had to sit

942
00:40:22,600 --> 00:40:23,960
Speaker 3: down with a therapist, what would you know?

943
00:40:24,239 --> 00:40:26,400
Speaker 1: What would you need to know? And we weren't petty

944
00:40:26,440 --> 00:40:27,200
Speaker 1: about anything either.

945
00:40:27,360 --> 00:40:28,680
Speaker 3: For him to say that he feels like I need

946
00:40:28,680 --> 00:40:30,640
Speaker 3: to be more mindful and slow down, He's right, I

947
00:40:30,719 --> 00:40:32,839
Speaker 3: work way too fast, I say things way too fast.

948
00:40:32,920 --> 00:40:33,800
Speaker 1: I text too fast.

949
00:40:33,840 --> 00:40:37,400
Speaker 3: It is, and I'm sure he believes I have add

950
00:40:37,480 --> 00:40:42,520
Speaker 3: because I'm not taking enough vitamin bally.

951
00:40:42,680 --> 00:40:52,600
Speaker 1: So anyway, let's get into Lou. I'm just.

952
00:40:54,239 --> 00:40:56,160
Speaker 2: I love that we can give this to the audience.

953
00:40:59,120 --> 00:41:03,719
Speaker 2: I am just current, not here like.

954
00:41:05,840 --> 00:41:06,280
Speaker 1: I can't.

955
00:41:06,520 --> 00:41:09,480
Speaker 2: And I think this is the importance before we get

956
00:41:09,480 --> 00:41:13,400
Speaker 2: into manifesting. I think it's for people who have a

957
00:41:13,480 --> 00:41:16,400
Speaker 2: clear understanding of exactly what they want.

958
00:41:16,640 --> 00:41:19,960
Speaker 3: And I think that is where a lot of women

959
00:41:20,960 --> 00:41:24,560
Speaker 3: and men fail in the dating realm, is that they're

960
00:41:24,600 --> 00:41:27,160
Speaker 3: waiting for someone to come and make them happy, or

961
00:41:27,160 --> 00:41:29,840
Speaker 3: they're waiting for someone to come and fix what is wrong,

962
00:41:30,160 --> 00:41:33,839
Speaker 3: but they don't have a clear inclination on what sort

963
00:41:33,880 --> 00:41:39,719
Speaker 3: of healthy relationship with same sex, opposite sex romance, what

964
00:41:39,840 --> 00:41:42,120
Speaker 3: any of that really means to them. And so right now,

965
00:41:42,200 --> 00:41:48,640
Speaker 3: when you talk about manifesting love, I'm still questioning what

966
00:41:48,719 --> 00:41:53,280
Speaker 3: relationship dynamic I want, what things really would be considered

967
00:41:53,320 --> 00:41:55,360
Speaker 3: red flags to me, what things I liked in my

968
00:41:55,440 --> 00:42:01,799
Speaker 3: last relationship, what things I didn't, And really looking more

969
00:42:01,840 --> 00:42:06,279
Speaker 3: at myself and I think realizing I don't know. I

970
00:42:06,320 --> 00:42:08,120
Speaker 3: think I'm a little bit more Tracy Ellis Ross than

971
00:42:08,120 --> 00:42:12,040
Speaker 3: I'd like to be. I really like my alone time.

972
00:42:12,080 --> 00:42:12,880
Speaker 1: I like my space.

973
00:42:13,000 --> 00:42:16,879
Speaker 3: I like being able in a selfish way to pick

974
00:42:16,960 --> 00:42:18,719
Speaker 3: up and drop people when I want, and I know

975
00:42:18,800 --> 00:42:21,840
Speaker 3: that wouldn't be great for a relationship. I like putting

976
00:42:21,840 --> 00:42:26,360
Speaker 3: my work in friends first before any nigga, before anything.

977
00:42:26,920 --> 00:42:29,040
Speaker 3: And so in the place where I'm still trying to

978
00:42:29,040 --> 00:42:33,520
Speaker 3: figure out myself, I can't at all manifest love because

979
00:42:33,560 --> 00:42:34,200
Speaker 3: I don't think.

980
00:42:34,160 --> 00:42:36,719
Speaker 1: You have said, even in the last month, you wanted

981
00:42:36,719 --> 00:42:37,120
Speaker 1: a partner.

982
00:42:37,239 --> 00:42:40,200
Speaker 3: No, oh, maybe I want multiple partners, baby, the way

983
00:42:40,239 --> 00:42:42,040
Speaker 3: I was dating a whole couple and sharing it with

984
00:42:42,120 --> 00:42:45,160
Speaker 3: all the niggas on my phone, Like I actually like

985
00:42:45,280 --> 00:42:46,479
Speaker 3: the idea of multiple people.

986
00:42:46,480 --> 00:42:47,880
Speaker 1: I don't think one person can please me.

987
00:42:48,239 --> 00:42:50,560
Speaker 2: Like there's a guy right now, and then here's another

988
00:42:50,600 --> 00:42:52,160
Speaker 2: reason why I don't know what I want, which has

989
00:42:52,160 --> 00:42:55,440
Speaker 2: a nigga right now which we've been having three hour

990
00:42:56,040 --> 00:42:58,719
Speaker 2: phone calls. Do you want to know the crazy part

991
00:42:58,760 --> 00:43:01,240
Speaker 2: about this nigga? Tell me he is a fucking accent

992
00:43:01,560 --> 00:43:05,160
Speaker 2: bitch seven years talking about how bitch don't accents.

993
00:43:07,960 --> 00:43:10,320
Speaker 1: Y'all know I can't do it, but uh.

994
00:43:10,239 --> 00:43:15,600
Speaker 3: Caribbean, he's like from the northern part of Fritain. No bitch,

995
00:43:15,600 --> 00:43:20,200
Speaker 3: he's British, but he's not in it. He's from the North,

996
00:43:20,560 --> 00:43:23,480
Speaker 3: so he was trying to explain the Game of Thrones

997
00:43:23,520 --> 00:43:25,400
Speaker 3: to me. But I ain't never watched the Gods, so

998
00:43:25,480 --> 00:43:28,400
Speaker 3: he sounds kind of irishyt bitches sound Irish, sheet like,

999
00:43:28,440 --> 00:43:32,279
Speaker 3: so not like this call like, hey, how are you

1000
00:43:33,200 --> 00:43:34,360
Speaker 3: look like today?

1001
00:43:34,480 --> 00:43:38,080
Speaker 1: My day? I don't fucking know. Bitch fine, not a

1002
00:43:38,120 --> 00:43:39,960
Speaker 1: country bitch with you.

1003
00:43:40,040 --> 00:43:43,120
Speaker 3: See, I can't do it, but literally we talk for like,

1004
00:43:43,280 --> 00:43:45,319
Speaker 3: Reggie meetam Instagram.

1005
00:43:45,400 --> 00:43:47,080
Speaker 1: Let me see. Uh, you want to see him his

1006
00:43:47,160 --> 00:43:50,319
Speaker 1: instagram don't really have much now while you're searching for that.

1007
00:43:50,400 --> 00:43:54,560
Speaker 3: I actually think you can manifest multiple partners with these practices.

1008
00:43:55,400 --> 00:43:55,520
Speaker 1: Uh.

1009
00:43:57,640 --> 00:44:00,440
Speaker 3: By the way, I'm gonna just google him cause he

1010
00:44:00,480 --> 00:44:02,480
Speaker 3: ain't got much happening on the Instagram.

1011
00:44:02,520 --> 00:44:06,200
Speaker 1: I love him, and he said, I'll just google. Don't

1012
00:44:06,200 --> 00:44:07,040
Speaker 1: describe him.

1013
00:44:07,360 --> 00:44:09,360
Speaker 2: Don't say shit because you like to start getting it

1014
00:44:09,400 --> 00:44:12,000
Speaker 2: in these bitches on the on the motherfucking blogs. Want

1015
00:44:12,000 --> 00:44:14,560
Speaker 2: to start putting two and three and four together and

1016
00:44:14,600 --> 00:44:15,680
Speaker 2: going through ship.

1017
00:44:15,600 --> 00:44:19,000
Speaker 3: Not two three, two and three five. But yeah, let's

1018
00:44:19,000 --> 00:44:21,080
Speaker 3: start with the thing. And then so I got these

1019
00:44:21,200 --> 00:44:24,759
Speaker 3: this manifest manifestation list from if you want to check

1020
00:44:24,760 --> 00:44:27,960
Speaker 3: her out at f A E r I E.

1021
00:44:28,400 --> 00:44:32,080
Speaker 1: Godmother, g A W D m U v A.

1022
00:44:32,640 --> 00:44:35,080
Speaker 3: It's an underscore and you can check out our website,

1023
00:44:35,320 --> 00:44:36,920
Speaker 3: Holistic Healing Grounds.

1024
00:44:37,239 --> 00:44:40,480
Speaker 1: But damn he fine, he was on a TV show anyway.

1025
00:44:40,600 --> 00:44:42,759
Speaker 1: You see how she just start talking too much? But

1026
00:44:42,920 --> 00:44:46,360
Speaker 1: I don't know what show was. He is into the arts.

1027
00:44:46,719 --> 00:44:49,840
Speaker 1: He is not an actor, He is not anything of such.

1028
00:44:50,440 --> 00:44:53,240
Speaker 1: Did I say too much? Yeah? I don't want nothing knowing? Okay?

1029
00:44:53,560 --> 00:45:01,080
Speaker 3: Oh, I can't see the show, the movie, script, content

1030
00:45:01,760 --> 00:45:05,399
Speaker 3: creator YouTube anyway. All right, let's get into the first

1031
00:45:05,400 --> 00:45:09,080
Speaker 3: tip for manifesting, lo let's do it. One of the

1032
00:45:09,080 --> 00:45:11,480
Speaker 3: best ways and most effective ways to not only manifest,

1033
00:45:11,600 --> 00:45:14,600
Speaker 3: but literally get anything you want, even if it's not love.

1034
00:45:14,560 --> 00:45:18,120
Speaker 1: Okay, is by visualization. Yes, okay, let's try it.

1035
00:45:18,320 --> 00:45:20,640
Speaker 3: Close your eyes, Mandy, and we go to this bullshit

1036
00:45:21,280 --> 00:45:24,279
Speaker 3: and let your mind create the perfect image of what

1037
00:45:24,360 --> 00:45:26,480
Speaker 3: your dream partner looks like.

1038
00:45:26,719 --> 00:45:29,560
Speaker 1: Method man, what do they smell like?

1039
00:45:30,840 --> 00:45:31,200
Speaker 3: Uh?

1040
00:45:31,680 --> 00:45:35,200
Speaker 1: Really expensive? Like bacca rod? I like niggas bro. Sorry, okay,

1041
00:45:35,239 --> 00:45:37,880
Speaker 1: what does he feel like? What does he smooth? I

1042
00:45:37,880 --> 00:45:42,440
Speaker 1: don't really like a hairy nigga? And hold the image? Oh, solid,

1043
00:45:42,800 --> 00:45:43,480
Speaker 1: I like solid?

1044
00:45:44,040 --> 00:45:46,359
Speaker 3: Start to see it, bitch, I see him every day

1045
00:45:46,400 --> 00:45:48,680
Speaker 3: on the Instagram and try to bring it forward to you.

1046
00:45:48,760 --> 00:45:55,839
Speaker 1: And this reason marriage can't do it. I think that's

1047
00:45:55,880 --> 00:46:01,200
Speaker 1: another thing. Visualization is visualization. I get the visualization, but like.

1048
00:46:02,960 --> 00:46:05,120
Speaker 2: I have a type, so I know my nigga gonna

1049
00:46:05,120 --> 00:46:07,880
Speaker 2: be fine, but there's layers to it. So it's like,

1050
00:46:07,960 --> 00:46:09,560
Speaker 2: why you showed you don't look like meta man and

1051
00:46:09,680 --> 00:46:10,560
Speaker 2: my visualization.

1052
00:46:11,120 --> 00:46:13,359
Speaker 3: I had always had dreams about locks and getting married

1053
00:46:13,400 --> 00:46:15,000
Speaker 3: to a nigga with locks, even when I dated old,

1054
00:46:15,040 --> 00:46:17,640
Speaker 3: but it was Bald always envisioned locks to the point

1055
00:46:17,640 --> 00:46:19,400
Speaker 3: where when he would see niggas would locks and be

1056
00:46:19,440 --> 00:46:21,520
Speaker 3: like there goyo type and it wasn't just a type.

1057
00:46:21,520 --> 00:46:23,640
Speaker 3: I've always talked about it on Horrible but like I

1058
00:46:23,719 --> 00:46:25,759
Speaker 3: always felt it. I don't know if it's because I

1059
00:46:25,840 --> 00:46:28,520
Speaker 3: like bitches and I need the main like a fucking line.

1060
00:46:28,560 --> 00:46:30,319
Speaker 3: I don't know what it is, but I've always loved it.

1061
00:46:30,320 --> 00:46:33,520
Speaker 2: It's always wait, now that I think about it, almost

1062
00:46:33,600 --> 00:46:36,200
Speaker 2: I don't know what Lambo ever looked like, but every

1063
00:46:36,480 --> 00:46:38,880
Speaker 2: other nigga that has had a nickname on this podcast

1064
00:46:39,239 --> 00:46:40,920
Speaker 2: didn't have dreads, didn't look at all.

1065
00:46:40,960 --> 00:46:42,719
Speaker 1: How you used to say you like niggas none of

1066
00:46:42,719 --> 00:46:44,279
Speaker 1: them look like that. I know. But you know I

1067
00:46:44,440 --> 00:46:46,480
Speaker 1: always said that's what I like, that's what you like.

1068
00:46:46,560 --> 00:46:48,200
Speaker 2: But none of the niggas you actually dated or talked

1069
00:46:48,200 --> 00:46:49,359
Speaker 2: about on this pot look like that.

1070
00:46:49,400 --> 00:46:50,880
Speaker 1: Which is why even when we were on tour and

1071
00:46:50,880 --> 00:46:52,080
Speaker 1: you were like, oh, this is the type of niggas

1072
00:46:52,080 --> 00:46:52,640
Speaker 1: I like, I was like.

1073
00:46:53,520 --> 00:46:59,480
Speaker 3: NIGGASO had twists, okay, but no, even when I dated

1074
00:46:59,520 --> 00:47:00,440
Speaker 3: white boys, they long hair.

1075
00:47:00,440 --> 00:47:01,239
Speaker 1: I always love luck.

1076
00:47:01,360 --> 00:47:04,480
Speaker 3: So one of the things that apparently it was bad

1077
00:47:04,520 --> 00:47:09,080
Speaker 3: advice writing it down, getting a journal dedicated to what

1078
00:47:09,120 --> 00:47:12,560
Speaker 3: you want. Writing down things has a special effect, and

1079
00:47:12,600 --> 00:47:15,280
Speaker 3: writing our desires down is also magical. When we write

1080
00:47:15,320 --> 00:47:18,040
Speaker 3: things down, we're creating the room for it to happen,

1081
00:47:18,360 --> 00:47:20,359
Speaker 3: and we're declaring it to the universe what we want.

1082
00:47:20,400 --> 00:47:22,920
Speaker 3: And you cannot leave details out.

1083
00:47:23,120 --> 00:47:26,840
Speaker 2: I think that's why I said, before you start to

1084
00:47:26,880 --> 00:47:29,200
Speaker 2: writing on paper, you have to know what you want. Yes,

1085
00:47:29,320 --> 00:47:32,960
Speaker 2: And so this doesn't work, like even in terms. I

1086
00:47:33,000 --> 00:47:35,319
Speaker 2: was on the phone with Crystal on the way here

1087
00:47:35,320 --> 00:47:37,319
Speaker 2: and I was like, girl, this bitch gotta talk about

1088
00:47:37,360 --> 00:47:38,040
Speaker 2: loving manifesting.

1089
00:47:38,040 --> 00:47:39,560
Speaker 1: You know, I don't want to manifest none these niggas

1090
00:47:39,560 --> 00:47:40,359
Speaker 1: because I hate all this shit.

1091
00:47:40,760 --> 00:47:42,719
Speaker 2: But I was like, you know, I actually would like

1092
00:47:42,800 --> 00:47:45,760
Speaker 2: to manifest any nigga in my life to not waste

1093
00:47:45,760 --> 00:47:48,399
Speaker 2: my time because I don't want that and I want

1094
00:47:48,440 --> 00:47:51,680
Speaker 2: someone who can be intentional about what they want with me.

1095
00:47:52,040 --> 00:47:54,319
Speaker 2: And so I was like, oh, I guess I can't

1096
00:47:54,360 --> 00:47:56,120
Speaker 2: have a conversation with so speaking.

1097
00:47:55,880 --> 00:47:58,279
Speaker 3: Of intention intention, I read this off. One of the

1098
00:47:58,280 --> 00:48:01,000
Speaker 3: things she brought up in this thing is flowers. So

1099
00:48:01,040 --> 00:48:04,760
Speaker 3: I told my man about your ex with the flowers,

1100
00:48:05,560 --> 00:48:08,160
Speaker 3: and I was like, I felt bad for Mandy when

1101
00:48:08,200 --> 00:48:11,000
Speaker 3: she talked about it all horrible because Niggas really was like,

1102
00:48:11,400 --> 00:48:13,200
Speaker 3: oh he got you flowers, blah blah blah.

1103
00:48:13,280 --> 00:48:15,120
Speaker 1: Oh that was ugly. Though, first thing he said to

1104
00:48:15,160 --> 00:48:17,400
Speaker 1: me was, She's absolutely right.

1105
00:48:17,480 --> 00:48:21,000
Speaker 3: It shows how unintentional he's like, just don't fucking get flowers.

1106
00:48:21,040 --> 00:48:22,160
Speaker 1: Just don't give it be me.

1107
00:48:22,280 --> 00:48:23,960
Speaker 3: I like any flower. He knows my favorite, but I

1108
00:48:24,080 --> 00:48:26,319
Speaker 3: like anything. No, He's like, but if I if you

1109
00:48:26,360 --> 00:48:28,279
Speaker 3: told me a specific flower and I couldn't find it,

1110
00:48:28,280 --> 00:48:28,920
Speaker 3: I wouldn't get it.

1111
00:48:28,920 --> 00:48:30,520
Speaker 2: It's the same conversation we had a couple of weeks

1112
00:48:30,520 --> 00:48:32,640
Speaker 2: ago about the bring If I tell you I like

1113
00:48:32,719 --> 00:48:35,839
Speaker 2: fucking silver and you get me gold, fuck you niggas

1114
00:48:36,760 --> 00:48:38,800
Speaker 2: like you not intentional, you're not listening to me. I

1115
00:48:39,400 --> 00:48:42,719
Speaker 2: think that's another thing I think I'm I think it's

1116
00:48:42,719 --> 00:48:45,600
Speaker 2: important to know what you don't want as well as

1117
00:48:45,600 --> 00:48:49,560
Speaker 2: what you want. Like to me, I think I I

1118
00:48:49,600 --> 00:48:50,279
Speaker 2: know now too.

1119
00:48:50,520 --> 00:48:55,400
Speaker 3: I want to manifest someone who's emotionally available, who's legally available.

1120
00:48:55,440 --> 00:48:56,960
Speaker 1: I don't want to be a side check no more.

1121
00:48:56,960 --> 00:48:59,240
Speaker 2: I ain't talking to no may or niggas like legally

1122
00:48:59,760 --> 00:49:04,080
Speaker 2: but also being open to this polydynamic.

1123
00:49:04,480 --> 00:49:07,560
Speaker 1: What really does that mean? Am I you know what

1124
00:49:07,600 --> 00:49:09,919
Speaker 1: I mean? Like, I'm still trying to figure that out well.

1125
00:49:10,080 --> 00:49:13,319
Speaker 3: In the writing, you can also talk about where you'd

1126
00:49:13,320 --> 00:49:15,520
Speaker 3: want an ideal date to take place, what you want

1127
00:49:15,560 --> 00:49:18,080
Speaker 3: to do on the date, what type of flowers do

1128
00:49:18,120 --> 00:49:18,880
Speaker 3: you want him to bring you?

1129
00:49:18,960 --> 00:49:21,600
Speaker 1: Is the blirt on the menu? Or are you all.

1130
00:49:21,560 --> 00:49:25,200
Speaker 3: Things on how you envision this thing to happen, including

1131
00:49:25,320 --> 00:49:27,640
Speaker 3: sex magic. I talked about me doing this. This is

1132
00:49:27,640 --> 00:49:31,560
Speaker 3: where go. Sex magic is very simple and very effective.

1133
00:49:31,600 --> 00:49:33,920
Speaker 3: When you use sex magic, you can always get exactly

1134
00:49:33,960 --> 00:49:37,000
Speaker 3: what you want if you do it right. Simplest way

1135
00:49:37,040 --> 00:49:40,760
Speaker 3: to use sex magic when you are about to climax, literally,

1136
00:49:40,800 --> 00:49:42,880
Speaker 3: all you do is say what you want. The orgasms

1137
00:49:42,880 --> 00:49:47,600
Speaker 3: have a very intense and alchemical energy to them that

1138
00:49:47,719 --> 00:49:50,560
Speaker 3: helps us manifest whatever we want. When we use our

1139
00:49:50,680 --> 00:49:53,480
Speaker 3: orgasm as a medium, we can tap into our wishes

1140
00:49:53,800 --> 00:49:57,120
Speaker 3: and our desires to materialize it with speed, which I'm

1141
00:49:57,160 --> 00:49:57,640
Speaker 3: not joking.

1142
00:49:58,719 --> 00:50:00,160
Speaker 1: Me and this nigga talk.

1143
00:50:00,040 --> 00:50:01,560
Speaker 3: About your lot as a feather, stip as a board

1144
00:50:01,600 --> 00:50:03,680
Speaker 3: as shit right now, I have been doing a sex

1145
00:50:03,719 --> 00:50:06,919
Speaker 3: magic for a minute. And what's crazy is like JD

1146
00:50:07,200 --> 00:50:09,399
Speaker 3: and my homegirl Stephanie are super close because they tap

1147
00:50:09,400 --> 00:50:11,319
Speaker 3: into shit together, and me and Stephanie laugh because I'd

1148
00:50:11,360 --> 00:50:13,480
Speaker 3: be like, oh, you want your witchy shit. But in reality,

1149
00:50:13,520 --> 00:50:15,640
Speaker 3: I've been doing a lot of this shit. When I

1150
00:50:15,719 --> 00:50:19,080
Speaker 3: wrote shit down about what I wanted from him, I

1151
00:50:19,080 --> 00:50:20,880
Speaker 3: don't know if I've ever told this on Horrible and

1152
00:50:20,880 --> 00:50:24,400
Speaker 3: this is pretty vulnerable, but I want to say what

1153
00:50:24,480 --> 00:50:26,960
Speaker 3: I did because I couldn't believe it happened. When we

1154
00:50:27,000 --> 00:50:30,160
Speaker 3: got back from Toulom in January, I felt so close

1155
00:50:30,200 --> 00:50:34,239
Speaker 3: to him, and I was so disappointed that I had

1156
00:50:34,280 --> 00:50:36,520
Speaker 3: him met his family yet I.

1157
00:50:36,440 --> 00:50:38,480
Speaker 1: Was like, damn, it's been six months whatever, Like what

1158
00:50:38,520 --> 00:50:38,839
Speaker 1: the fuck?

1159
00:50:39,840 --> 00:50:43,239
Speaker 3: So I wrote down in my phone if he didn't

1160
00:50:43,239 --> 00:50:45,000
Speaker 3: introduce me to his family soon I was gonna break

1161
00:50:45,080 --> 00:50:46,520
Speaker 3: up with him, no matter how much I was in.

1162
00:50:46,440 --> 00:50:50,960
Speaker 1: Love with him, swear to God.

1163
00:50:51,400 --> 00:50:53,880
Speaker 3: The next day, I had dinner, lunch plans with Abby

1164
00:50:55,080 --> 00:50:58,719
Speaker 3: for two o'clock. He calls me twelve. He said, Hey,

1165
00:50:58,840 --> 00:51:03,239
Speaker 3: are you busy later? I'm like, no, well, yeah, because

1166
00:51:03,280 --> 00:51:06,120
Speaker 3: I have plans for Gabby. He's like, okay, because I

1167
00:51:06,200 --> 00:51:08,160
Speaker 3: want you to come to my mom's birthday party and

1168
00:51:08,239 --> 00:51:08,839
Speaker 3: meet my mom.

1169
00:51:09,800 --> 00:51:12,080
Speaker 1: And I was like, bro, I wrote this shit down

1170
00:51:12,120 --> 00:51:12,760
Speaker 1: the night before.

1171
00:51:12,960 --> 00:51:15,320
Speaker 3: Now, I'm not saying I did anything magical or witchy,

1172
00:51:15,760 --> 00:51:17,960
Speaker 3: but I did feel like there was a tie to

1173
00:51:18,000 --> 00:51:21,160
Speaker 3: me in my brain setting this like, you know, standard

1174
00:51:21,160 --> 00:51:23,600
Speaker 3: for myself. I didn't feel like he was hiding me,

1175
00:51:23,680 --> 00:51:25,440
Speaker 3: but I felt like it wasn't progressing as fast as

1176
00:51:25,480 --> 00:51:28,160
Speaker 3: I wanted to do. And when that happened, I literally

1177
00:51:28,160 --> 00:51:30,239
Speaker 3: told him on the car ride home, I don't know

1178
00:51:30,280 --> 00:51:31,799
Speaker 3: if you felt this for me, but I was going

1179
00:51:31,880 --> 00:51:34,360
Speaker 3: to break up with you if you didn't introduce my life.

1180
00:51:34,320 --> 00:51:35,200
Speaker 1: To meet your family.

1181
00:51:35,920 --> 00:51:37,239
Speaker 3: And he said to me, like, I have to do

1182
00:51:37,280 --> 00:51:38,640
Speaker 3: things on my own time, Like, I don't know why

1183
00:51:38,640 --> 00:51:40,719
Speaker 3: you were feeling like that. You never even brought it up.

1184
00:51:40,760 --> 00:51:43,160
Speaker 2: I was that was gonna be my literal question, like

1185
00:51:43,480 --> 00:51:45,200
Speaker 2: did you were you to write that in the phone?

1186
00:51:45,280 --> 00:51:46,719
Speaker 1: My literal question was going to be.

1187
00:51:46,680 --> 00:51:48,400
Speaker 2: Like, but did he know this? Did he know what

1188
00:51:48,440 --> 00:51:50,960
Speaker 2: it meant to you? Did he know that you were

1189
00:51:51,040 --> 00:51:53,040
Speaker 2: hung up or felt it was going slow?

1190
00:51:53,120 --> 00:51:56,239
Speaker 3: Because this was considered a milestone for you, right, you

1191
00:51:56,280 --> 00:51:58,520
Speaker 3: have to be able to communicate those thing too before.

1192
00:51:58,560 --> 00:52:00,359
Speaker 3: I think that was the biggest mistake I made. Yeah,

1193
00:52:00,600 --> 00:52:02,640
Speaker 3: he was laughing, like, oh, maybe we really tapped in

1194
00:52:02,680 --> 00:52:05,080
Speaker 3: with each other, because you ain't never say that to me.

1195
00:52:05,480 --> 00:52:08,000
Speaker 3: I just kind of felt like I never wanted to

1196
00:52:08,040 --> 00:52:10,000
Speaker 3: push a dude, and I had been in a very

1197
00:52:10,000 --> 00:52:13,640
Speaker 3: weird place of and you know, even talking to anwar

1198
00:52:14,560 --> 00:52:17,319
Speaker 3: about expectations and shit like that. I was in such

1199
00:52:17,320 --> 00:52:19,239
Speaker 3: a weird place. I ended up getting what I want,

1200
00:52:19,239 --> 00:52:21,920
Speaker 3: of course, and the person I want. But how do

1201
00:52:22,040 --> 00:52:24,040
Speaker 3: I assert myself in the things I'm looking for in

1202
00:52:24,120 --> 00:52:25,640
Speaker 3: dating without giving an ultimatum?

1203
00:52:26,040 --> 00:52:27,040
Speaker 1: Because when I wrote.

1204
00:52:27,200 --> 00:52:30,120
Speaker 2: As an ultimatum too, and this was an ultimatum, but

1205
00:52:30,200 --> 00:52:32,480
Speaker 2: he didn't know it was. When you talked about even

1206
00:52:32,960 --> 00:52:38,200
Speaker 2: how you made Obey become your boyfriend, you didn't like

1207
00:52:38,200 --> 00:52:39,840
Speaker 2: the relationship he was having with this other bitch, and

1208
00:52:39,880 --> 00:52:41,759
Speaker 2: you were like, no, I need to be like I

1209
00:52:41,800 --> 00:52:44,640
Speaker 2: need to be your girlfriend or I'm out, And I agree.

1210
00:52:44,719 --> 00:52:49,560
Speaker 2: I think that going in with that, like the ultimatum,

1211
00:52:50,160 --> 00:52:53,240
Speaker 2: literally sets the president on untruth, which.

1212
00:52:53,040 --> 00:52:55,399
Speaker 3: Was what made me scared to tell him I need

1213
00:52:55,400 --> 00:52:57,680
Speaker 3: to meet your parents. I thought, Okay, this has to

1214
00:52:57,680 --> 00:52:58,760
Speaker 3: be as natural as possible.

1215
00:52:59,360 --> 00:53:03,040
Speaker 2: How is how after recognizing that would have been an

1216
00:53:03,120 --> 00:53:07,120
Speaker 2: ultimatum going forward, are there ways in which you know

1217
00:53:07,160 --> 00:53:09,359
Speaker 2: how to express the things that I should want out?

1218
00:53:09,480 --> 00:53:10,480
Speaker 1: Okay? What is that?

1219
00:53:11,160 --> 00:53:13,520
Speaker 3: I would feel more connected and closer to you if

1220
00:53:13,800 --> 00:53:16,520
Speaker 3: I got to see a family instead of saying you

1221
00:53:16,640 --> 00:53:19,439
Speaker 3: must do this, and I didn't. I didn't do any

1222
00:53:19,440 --> 00:53:21,960
Speaker 3: of them. It just happened naturally. But it was kind

1223
00:53:21,960 --> 00:53:24,600
Speaker 3: of crazy that I wrote that shit down. The next

1224
00:53:24,600 --> 00:53:28,359
Speaker 3: one is affirmations. I know you talk about affirmations even

1225
00:53:28,400 --> 00:53:31,160
Speaker 3: in our book, so it says affirmations are not only

1226
00:53:31,200 --> 00:53:33,239
Speaker 3: for you, but it's meant to help us master and

1227
00:53:33,280 --> 00:53:35,759
Speaker 3: conquer what we want, and even if that includes love.

1228
00:53:36,160 --> 00:53:39,919
Speaker 1: When you affirm healthy, divine, real and long lasting love,

1229
00:53:40,239 --> 00:53:43,160
Speaker 1: you are creating a frequency and a vibration that'll make

1230
00:53:43,160 --> 00:53:48,200
Speaker 1: it happen. Example of affirmations that you can do. My

1231
00:53:48,320 --> 00:53:51,000
Speaker 1: soulmate is just as eager to meet me as I am.

1232
00:53:51,320 --> 00:53:54,319
Speaker 3: Ooh, and they are actually opposite of my affirmation, and

1233
00:53:54,360 --> 00:53:56,480
Speaker 3: they are closer to finding me. Each and every day,

1234
00:53:57,520 --> 00:54:00,759
Speaker 3: I am attracting love that is perfect and vine for me.

1235
00:54:01,880 --> 00:54:05,160
Speaker 3: I am someone's dream partner, and they would enjoy a

1236
00:54:05,200 --> 00:54:08,560
Speaker 3: lifetime of happiness with me. The love I aspire to

1237
00:54:08,640 --> 00:54:12,080
Speaker 3: have is the love that I will have. Love is

1238
00:54:12,080 --> 00:54:15,120
Speaker 3: my vibration, and it gravitates me towards bringing in my

1239
00:54:15,200 --> 00:54:15,960
Speaker 3: forever person.

1240
00:54:16,640 --> 00:54:18,080
Speaker 1: These are love affirmation, I know.

1241
00:54:18,840 --> 00:54:21,640
Speaker 3: I So those aren't the affirmations I align. Well, these

1242
00:54:21,640 --> 00:54:23,560
Speaker 3: aren't solo affirmations.

1243
00:54:23,000 --> 00:54:27,000
Speaker 2: So when the book comes out, my affirmations are heavily

1244
00:54:27,080 --> 00:54:29,399
Speaker 2: into self affirmations.

1245
00:54:29,440 --> 00:54:32,440
Speaker 1: This is love affirmation. I know you can both exist. No,

1246
00:54:32,640 --> 00:54:33,160
Speaker 1: I get it.

1247
00:54:33,360 --> 00:54:37,640
Speaker 3: I'm personally saying in terms of a manifesting manifesting someone

1248
00:54:37,680 --> 00:54:39,080
Speaker 3: else in this fashion.

1249
00:54:39,200 --> 00:54:42,239
Speaker 1: Like to me, it's it's leaning more into self.

1250
00:54:42,239 --> 00:54:47,560
Speaker 2: Like I'm worthy of whatever, to me, honestly, whatever the

1251
00:54:47,640 --> 00:54:52,080
Speaker 2: universe can give me. But I'm strong, I love myself,

1252
00:54:52,360 --> 00:54:55,719
Speaker 2: I'm happy. I like it's entering more things into and

1253
00:54:55,760 --> 00:55:00,000
Speaker 2: focusing on myself. Then what someone's addition will do for.

1254
00:55:00,400 --> 00:55:01,759
Speaker 1: I think self love.

1255
00:55:03,080 --> 00:55:07,680
Speaker 3: Is a different and separate thing, okay, because I've practiced

1256
00:55:07,719 --> 00:55:09,680
Speaker 3: a lot of self love work, probably over the last

1257
00:55:09,680 --> 00:55:12,440
Speaker 3: few years, right, but when I wanted to get serious

1258
00:55:12,480 --> 00:55:17,840
Speaker 3: about manifesting love, this was becoming concluded. So yes, self

1259
00:55:17,840 --> 00:55:20,720
Speaker 3: love is always a practice we should have. This also

1260
00:55:20,800 --> 00:55:25,120
Speaker 3: doesn't talk at all about love making you happy. It's

1261
00:55:25,160 --> 00:55:27,520
Speaker 3: funny because this is just saying I am attracting love

1262
00:55:27,560 --> 00:55:31,240
Speaker 3: that's perfect for me. I really like that one because

1263
00:55:31,640 --> 00:55:33,880
Speaker 3: I've fallen in love with people that weren't perfect for me.

1264
00:55:34,440 --> 00:55:38,440
Speaker 3: Hospital Dick is the perfect example. I was in love

1265
00:55:38,480 --> 00:55:40,359
Speaker 3: with him, he was in love with me. Our love

1266
00:55:40,440 --> 00:55:44,399
Speaker 3: was not perfect for me, and like you could get that,

1267
00:55:44,520 --> 00:55:46,000
Speaker 3: you know, like I didn't want it to end or

1268
00:55:46,000 --> 00:55:48,120
Speaker 3: I didn't want to let it go, But in reality

1269
00:55:48,640 --> 00:55:51,040
Speaker 3: I didn't understand that there was something more fitting for me.

1270
00:55:51,680 --> 00:55:54,320
Speaker 3: Old Baby was fitting to my lifestyle. Hospital Dick was

1271
00:55:54,320 --> 00:55:56,600
Speaker 3: fitting to the love the type of romance I wanted.

1272
00:55:57,400 --> 00:55:59,000
Speaker 3: I just kind of was happy with what I had.

1273
00:55:59,200 --> 00:56:01,120
Speaker 1: I think, I think, and I can't wait for you

1274
00:56:01,160 --> 00:56:01,879
Speaker 1: guys to read the book.

1275
00:56:01,920 --> 00:56:05,799
Speaker 2: When I even think about where affirmations showed up, it

1276
00:56:05,840 --> 00:56:09,160
Speaker 2: was in the chapter that I heavily leaned on others

1277
00:56:09,680 --> 00:56:13,920
Speaker 2: for my self worth, the valuation of what I deserved.

1278
00:56:13,920 --> 00:56:17,560
Speaker 2: It so like I guess because of the traumatic ways

1279
00:56:17,600 --> 00:56:21,000
Speaker 2: in which I showed up and had people dictate my

1280
00:56:21,160 --> 00:56:28,520
Speaker 2: self worth, my affirmations disregard every outside source and literally

1281
00:56:28,640 --> 00:56:31,680
Speaker 2: helped to affirm me with being comfortable with where I

1282
00:56:31,760 --> 00:56:35,120
Speaker 2: see myself outside of anyone else coming in and being

1283
00:56:35,160 --> 00:56:37,400
Speaker 2: able to add any value to well.

1284
00:56:37,440 --> 00:56:39,839
Speaker 3: For example, I don't know if anyone's ever manifested money,

1285
00:56:39,840 --> 00:56:42,640
Speaker 3: but I have. I think I manifested have an amazings business,

1286
00:56:42,680 --> 00:56:45,440
Speaker 3: and that's an outside source. Like a lot of the

1287
00:56:45,440 --> 00:56:48,120
Speaker 3: things I manifested are not things within the shit that

1288
00:56:48,160 --> 00:56:51,359
Speaker 3: I want. And so at the time that I'd wanted love,

1289
00:56:52,040 --> 00:56:54,480
Speaker 3: my affirmations didn't look like this. But my favorite in

1290
00:56:54,520 --> 00:56:57,800
Speaker 3: this is a love that's perfect because I used to

1291
00:56:57,880 --> 00:57:00,000
Speaker 3: get angry when things didn't happen for me. For example,

1292
00:57:00,239 --> 00:57:02,040
Speaker 3: maybe it's a gig I wanted, like what the fuck?

1293
00:57:02,400 --> 00:57:04,680
Speaker 3: But I didn't realize I needed to make way. I

1294
00:57:04,880 --> 00:57:08,240
Speaker 3: consistently talk about that MTV gig that I never got,

1295
00:57:08,840 --> 00:57:10,480
Speaker 3: and I remember Alex told me, You're gonna have a

1296
00:57:10,520 --> 00:57:11,919
Speaker 3: TV show of your own by the end of the year.

1297
00:57:12,200 --> 00:57:13,640
Speaker 3: If I would have done that gig, I could have

1298
00:57:13,680 --> 00:57:15,920
Speaker 3: never have made my own I'm on season four of

1299
00:57:15,960 --> 00:57:20,280
Speaker 3: sex Cells, Like, that's crazy because I made it up right.

1300
00:57:20,560 --> 00:57:23,240
Speaker 3: So I do think manifesting can be healthy. I think

1301
00:57:23,280 --> 00:57:25,800
Speaker 3: it's okay to ask for outside things, but also knowing

1302
00:57:26,240 --> 00:57:29,080
Speaker 3: if the shit that you're in didn't work out, you

1303
00:57:29,160 --> 00:57:31,120
Speaker 3: don't have to feel like it's the be all end all.

1304
00:57:31,520 --> 00:57:33,600
Speaker 3: Every love is gonna teach you something. You've learned a

1305
00:57:33,600 --> 00:57:36,040
Speaker 3: lot from your ex. You know now what you don't like,

1306
00:57:36,080 --> 00:57:38,440
Speaker 3: what you won't accept. If we don't have that certain

1307
00:57:38,480 --> 00:57:40,560
Speaker 3: type of love, how the fuck we gonna know for

1308
00:57:40,680 --> 00:57:43,520
Speaker 3: the next movel? You really won't imagine if you see

1309
00:57:43,520 --> 00:57:46,080
Speaker 3: someone with slight traits of narcissism.

1310
00:57:46,320 --> 00:57:49,040
Speaker 1: I'm out right and so my niggas past two weeks.

1311
00:57:49,080 --> 00:57:49,919
Speaker 1: So there's that.

1312
00:57:50,160 --> 00:57:52,960
Speaker 3: Well, anyway you want to hit up JD, I'll put

1313
00:57:52,960 --> 00:57:56,320
Speaker 3: her ig in the Instagram and her website Holistic Healinggrounds

1314
00:57:56,320 --> 00:57:57,000
Speaker 3: dot com.

1315
00:57:57,400 --> 00:58:00,000
Speaker 1: So let's get into the how mail. But we got

1316
00:58:00,160 --> 00:58:02,360
Speaker 1: home mail. We made it to the home mail, y'all.

1317
00:58:02,440 --> 00:58:03,840
Speaker 1: It's because all she did was talk about me. That's

1318
00:58:03,840 --> 00:58:05,240
Speaker 1: why I picked me. So I'm just kidding.

1319
00:58:05,240 --> 00:58:06,920
Speaker 2: I literally went right over that one. You know what,

1320
00:58:08,240 --> 00:58:09,960
Speaker 2: So go ahead this episode about me.

1321
00:58:11,120 --> 00:58:14,040
Speaker 1: I all like, I'm talking abound. It's only because we

1322
00:58:14,080 --> 00:58:14,680
Speaker 1: got it last night.

1323
00:58:15,040 --> 00:58:17,240
Speaker 3: Good evening, beautiful ladies. One of your foreign s icy

1324
00:58:17,320 --> 00:58:22,040
Speaker 3: Latina listeners here. First time listener, long time listener, first

1325
00:58:22,040 --> 00:58:25,440
Speaker 3: time writer. I'm a young, successful, twenty five year old

1326
00:58:25,480 --> 00:58:28,280
Speaker 3: that's been in a monogamous relationship for two years. I've

1327
00:58:28,280 --> 00:58:30,880
Speaker 3: been in Denver, Colorado, just moving out of the city,

1328
00:58:31,240 --> 00:58:33,440
Speaker 3: back in the burbs, and I feel like my world's spinning.

1329
00:58:33,800 --> 00:58:36,640
Speaker 3: I miss being a hoe, miss being a city girl,

1330
00:58:36,920 --> 00:58:40,280
Speaker 3: and I want to expand my relationship. My boyfriend has

1331
00:58:40,760 --> 00:58:43,200
Speaker 3: and this is in quotations, allowed me to step out

1332
00:58:43,200 --> 00:58:46,000
Speaker 3: of the relationship with women but not men, I say aloud,

1333
00:58:46,040 --> 00:58:47,960
Speaker 3: because I never asked for this. Not that I care,

1334
00:58:48,360 --> 00:58:50,160
Speaker 3: but I've never been with a woman, even though I'm

1335
00:58:50,160 --> 00:58:53,360
Speaker 3: sexually attracted. I have an old fling, a friend of

1336
00:58:53,400 --> 00:58:56,400
Speaker 3: my ex who's been on my line. In one cold

1337
00:58:56,480 --> 00:58:58,760
Speaker 3: Colorado night, I just decided to say fuck it, I

1338
00:58:58,800 --> 00:59:02,840
Speaker 3: texted back, I've cross that imaginary cheating line by engaging

1339
00:59:02,840 --> 00:59:06,000
Speaker 3: with this man, by how badly I described always wanting

1340
00:59:06,040 --> 00:59:09,480
Speaker 3: to fuck him. Backstory, I tried to fuck with a

1341
00:59:09,480 --> 00:59:12,000
Speaker 3: friend of my exes and he absolutely and he ate

1342
00:59:12,040 --> 00:59:14,880
Speaker 3: me out and I cried, like Wheezy said, and it's

1343
00:59:14,920 --> 00:59:16,920
Speaker 3: the only time in my life I've been a total

1344
00:59:16,960 --> 00:59:18,920
Speaker 3: sub and begged for dick ever since he fucked me.

1345
00:59:19,080 --> 00:59:21,000
Speaker 3: He didn't even let me suck it, and I was

1346
00:59:21,120 --> 00:59:23,680
Speaker 3: dying to suck him dry. He likes to remind me

1347
00:59:23,720 --> 00:59:26,120
Speaker 3: I was coming and squirming while he was fully dressed,

1348
00:59:26,560 --> 00:59:29,440
Speaker 3: and he says back that he only had three bodies

1349
00:59:29,680 --> 00:59:30,880
Speaker 3: and he didn't want to let me down.

1350
00:59:30,960 --> 00:59:32,240
Speaker 1: Huh.

1351
00:59:32,360 --> 00:59:35,320
Speaker 3: Anyway, I've been swayed by the fact that I could

1352
00:59:35,320 --> 00:59:36,920
Speaker 3: have fucked him years ago, and I just really want

1353
00:59:36,960 --> 00:59:39,720
Speaker 3: to be completely damned. So my question is, how do

1354
00:59:39,800 --> 00:59:41,200
Speaker 3: I break it to my boyfriend that I want to

1355
00:59:41,240 --> 00:59:42,520
Speaker 3: get wrecked by an old friend?

1356
00:59:43,040 --> 00:59:43,920
Speaker 1: Or do I cheap?

1357
00:59:44,280 --> 00:59:46,439
Speaker 3: Or do I sweep it on the drug and act

1358
00:59:46,480 --> 00:59:49,320
Speaker 3: like nothing happened after I do it? Ps Eezy, I

1359
00:59:49,400 --> 00:59:51,000
Speaker 3: want to be your friend. I really love the black

1360
00:59:51,000 --> 00:59:53,800
Speaker 3: and white nails. Any insight to that, I'll tell you

1361
00:59:53,840 --> 00:59:56,200
Speaker 3: about them. Also, not trying to be up Wheezy's ass.

1362
00:59:56,240 --> 00:59:58,160
Speaker 3: I love you too, Mandy. You inspire me to be

1363
00:59:58,280 --> 01:00:02,200
Speaker 3: bolder with men. Love Nah not like me because she

1364
01:00:02,320 --> 01:00:07,240
Speaker 3: owns some bullshit. She said, you inspire her. I'm reading this,

1365
01:00:07,440 --> 01:00:09,400
Speaker 3: I'm reading this thing like bitch, I don't want you

1366
01:00:09,440 --> 01:00:10,640
Speaker 3: to be inspired at this.

1367
01:00:10,720 --> 01:00:13,840
Speaker 1: How you're moving, Damn girl, she asking a question going down.

1368
01:00:14,120 --> 01:00:16,120
Speaker 2: I mean I think she don't like her, because she said,

1369
01:00:16,120 --> 01:00:18,480
Speaker 2: I'm no, no, I don't like I don't like this.

1370
01:00:18,600 --> 01:00:21,320
Speaker 2: She's done already admitted that she's already crossed the boundary

1371
01:00:21,320 --> 01:00:24,480
Speaker 2: that she has with her nigga. We're texting and already

1372
01:00:24,520 --> 01:00:26,680
Speaker 2: said you could step out on women. You don't like women,

1373
01:00:26,720 --> 01:00:28,640
Speaker 2: So why is that even an option? You should have

1374
01:00:28,640 --> 01:00:30,680
Speaker 2: told him immediately, Yo, I don't even like women. If

1375
01:00:30,720 --> 01:00:32,720
Speaker 2: I want to expound on my relationship, I want to

1376
01:00:32,760 --> 01:00:35,640
Speaker 2: get wrecked and fucked by other men. If your partner

1377
01:00:35,800 --> 01:00:37,960
Speaker 2: is not down for that, which I assume he's not,

1378
01:00:38,880 --> 01:00:40,840
Speaker 2: you need to just go ahead and exit this relationship,

1379
01:00:41,160 --> 01:00:45,320
Speaker 2: like we talked about, even in my thrupple scenario. Like

1380
01:00:45,480 --> 01:00:49,600
Speaker 2: I'm super against cheating, I'm also super against people violating

1381
01:00:49,600 --> 01:00:51,840
Speaker 2: fucking boundaries that happened in my last relationship.

1382
01:00:52,080 --> 01:00:53,760
Speaker 1: If this man is willing to.

1383
01:00:53,840 --> 01:00:56,920
Speaker 2: Allow you to expound on your relationship by dealing with

1384
01:00:56,960 --> 01:01:00,320
Speaker 2: women and you don't even like women, and you.

1385
01:01:00,280 --> 01:01:02,800
Speaker 1: Can already acknowledge that like women. She said she doesn't

1386
01:01:02,840 --> 01:01:03,200
Speaker 1: like women.

1387
01:01:03,320 --> 01:01:07,120
Speaker 2: There, then she's already texting a nigga that she want

1388
01:01:07,160 --> 01:01:10,360
Speaker 2: to get fucked by. Is even acknowledging that I've already

1389
01:01:10,400 --> 01:01:13,720
Speaker 2: crossed the boundary because technically I'm already cheating by letting

1390
01:01:13,720 --> 01:01:16,040
Speaker 2: this man know I've been wanting him to pound me.

1391
01:01:16,640 --> 01:01:19,760
Speaker 2: Bro break up with your nigga, Like, I.

1392
01:01:19,680 --> 01:01:21,920
Speaker 3: Think you've got to present the option before the breakup,

1393
01:01:22,000 --> 01:01:24,520
Speaker 3: mainly because and tell him you cheated on him already.

1394
01:01:24,720 --> 01:01:27,920
Speaker 3: Sometimes I think men are giving us the leeway to

1395
01:01:28,000 --> 01:01:30,200
Speaker 3: fuck another woman because they want to talk another woman,

1396
01:01:30,440 --> 01:01:33,880
Speaker 3: or because they don't view that as a cheating, But

1397
01:01:33,960 --> 01:01:36,400
Speaker 3: that has to do with their own security, their own

1398
01:01:36,840 --> 01:01:39,080
Speaker 3: place that they're in. And it's just so crazy because

1399
01:01:39,400 --> 01:01:43,240
Speaker 3: again we be wanting, like first off, her even saying

1400
01:01:43,320 --> 01:01:46,560
Speaker 3: she's in a two year monogamous relationship, go ahead and

1401
01:01:46,600 --> 01:01:49,720
Speaker 3: remove the word monogamous because you want to open it.

1402
01:01:50,040 --> 01:01:52,240
Speaker 3: So then the conversation needs to be with you and

1403
01:01:52,280 --> 01:01:55,840
Speaker 3: your partner heavily about what that looks like and if

1404
01:01:55,840 --> 01:01:58,520
Speaker 3: you both are in agreement to opening it. Same situation,

1405
01:01:58,600 --> 01:02:01,200
Speaker 3: I just dealt with with my throuttle like to me,

1406
01:02:02,720 --> 01:02:03,840
Speaker 3: you want to expound.

1407
01:02:03,960 --> 01:02:06,080
Speaker 2: He allowed you to do something that you don't even want,

1408
01:02:06,360 --> 01:02:09,360
Speaker 2: and so you're going behind him doing something that you're

1409
01:02:09,440 --> 01:02:12,560
Speaker 2: already considering cheating because you know if you tell your

1410
01:02:12,600 --> 01:02:14,840
Speaker 2: man this, he's not gonna like that. You out here

1411
01:02:14,880 --> 01:02:17,840
Speaker 2: telling another nigga you want him to pound you down.

1412
01:02:18,000 --> 01:02:21,320
Speaker 3: And the problem too with like where the texting is gone.

1413
01:02:21,400 --> 01:02:25,360
Speaker 3: Right now, you've created like this huge fucking fantasy that

1414
01:02:25,560 --> 01:02:27,880
Speaker 3: it's gonna be really hard to not like you're gonna

1415
01:02:27,920 --> 01:02:28,280
Speaker 3: want it.

1416
01:02:28,240 --> 01:02:29,200
Speaker 1: Because you can't have it.

1417
01:02:29,640 --> 01:02:31,720
Speaker 3: So I want to know what I inspire because I

1418
01:02:31,720 --> 01:02:33,080
Speaker 3: don't inspire none of y out of cheat.

1419
01:02:33,160 --> 01:02:35,200
Speaker 1: She said she inspired her to be bolder with men.

1420
01:02:35,320 --> 01:02:37,200
Speaker 3: Day Lily, she telling this nigga, I want you to

1421
01:02:37,280 --> 01:02:39,720
Speaker 3: ram me even while she got a boyfriend. I want

1422
01:02:39,720 --> 01:02:42,480
Speaker 3: to inspire you bitches to be honest and truthful with

1423
01:02:42,600 --> 01:02:44,200
Speaker 3: your partners in yourselves.

1424
01:02:44,440 --> 01:02:46,960
Speaker 1: She's not honest with herself right now. She needs to

1425
01:02:47,000 --> 01:02:47,400
Speaker 1: just go to.

1426
01:02:47,320 --> 01:02:49,760
Speaker 2: Her nigga and be like, Yo, I want to get

1427
01:02:49,800 --> 01:02:52,560
Speaker 2: fucked by somebody else and I don't like what.

1428
01:02:52,720 --> 01:02:55,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, you either have to present like you need to starry.

1429
01:02:55,040 --> 01:02:57,360
Speaker 1: You gotta be truthful with what you actually and.

1430
01:02:57,280 --> 01:02:59,800
Speaker 3: An old friend is a definite though, Bro, my nigga

1431
01:02:59,800 --> 01:03:02,120
Speaker 3: would never let me fuck asak Bro or someone like

1432
01:03:02,160 --> 01:03:02,600
Speaker 3: from the past.

1433
01:03:02,720 --> 01:03:05,280
Speaker 2: Even I'm confused by this. She's saying it's one of

1434
01:03:05,280 --> 01:03:10,040
Speaker 2: her exes friends. That's how you read it. I heard it, thought, man,

1435
01:03:10,040 --> 01:03:13,360
Speaker 2: that this is one of her exes friends. Bit you trifling?

1436
01:03:14,280 --> 01:03:16,880
Speaker 2: I mean, yo with teammates, but that don't count the

1437
01:03:16,880 --> 01:03:17,520
Speaker 2: trade deadline.

1438
01:03:17,560 --> 01:03:19,919
Speaker 3: Niggas ended up on the same team. I ain't asked

1439
01:03:19,960 --> 01:03:21,440
Speaker 3: for it, you know what I mean.

1440
01:03:21,520 --> 01:03:23,120
Speaker 1: Niggas went from the East coast to the West coast

1441
01:03:23,120 --> 01:03:24,439
Speaker 1: and then ended up in the same locker room.

1442
01:03:24,440 --> 01:03:27,080
Speaker 3: I don't know what to tell you, but I'm not

1443
01:03:27,200 --> 01:03:33,040
Speaker 3: going after my ex's friends, Brom. It's a bad girl

1444
01:03:33,080 --> 01:03:35,120
Speaker 3: fantasy right now, Like you're doing something bad. No, I

1445
01:03:35,160 --> 01:03:35,960
Speaker 3: don't even think.

1446
01:03:35,880 --> 01:03:37,520
Speaker 1: No no to me. She just needs to dan.

1447
01:03:37,600 --> 01:03:39,080
Speaker 3: You said you want to be dominated, then you may

1448
01:03:39,120 --> 01:03:40,080
Speaker 3: have to introduce that too.

1449
01:03:40,160 --> 01:03:43,880
Speaker 2: Like, there's just so many conversations she hasn't had with

1450
01:03:43,920 --> 01:03:48,080
Speaker 2: her partner, and so before she like is looking to

1451
01:03:48,280 --> 01:03:50,960
Speaker 2: expound on this relationship. I think she has to sit

1452
01:03:51,000 --> 01:03:53,520
Speaker 2: with herself and be like, Yo, why do I want

1453
01:03:53,520 --> 01:03:55,320
Speaker 2: someone else in this relationship agreed, what.

1454
01:03:55,320 --> 01:03:57,600
Speaker 1: Am I not getting? What do I feel like I'm

1455
01:03:57,600 --> 01:03:58,240
Speaker 1: missing out on?

1456
01:03:58,440 --> 01:04:02,560
Speaker 2: She's just bored And then also that she said she's bored, Well,

1457
01:04:02,640 --> 01:04:05,560
Speaker 2: let's become Let's be very honest. That's a very difficult

1458
01:04:05,600 --> 01:04:07,840
Speaker 2: conversation I have with your partner to come to them

1459
01:04:07,840 --> 01:04:09,840
Speaker 2: and be like kind of bored with this. Still love,

1460
01:04:09,880 --> 01:04:12,080
Speaker 2: you still want to be together, but you bore me,

1461
01:04:12,160 --> 01:04:13,200
Speaker 2: and so I want excitement.

1462
01:04:13,240 --> 01:04:14,560
Speaker 1: I think that's all about. That's hard.

1463
01:04:14,600 --> 01:04:18,560
Speaker 3: For example, relationships and my life might be boring if

1464
01:04:18,600 --> 01:04:20,520
Speaker 3: I wasn't living in New York City. Nigga, we're doing

1465
01:04:20,520 --> 01:04:22,760
Speaker 3: something every other day. I love New York, right, you

1466
01:04:22,800 --> 01:04:24,120
Speaker 3: know what I'm saying, Like love it when you have

1467
01:04:24,160 --> 01:04:26,520
Speaker 3: a city where you can bounce around and be playful,

1468
01:04:26,600 --> 01:04:28,440
Speaker 3: Like there is a lot of times where you can

1469
01:04:28,480 --> 01:04:30,440
Speaker 3: get bored. I remember feeling a little bored with my

1470
01:04:30,440 --> 01:04:33,080
Speaker 3: ex in Orlando. We had to kind of like move around,

1471
01:04:33,360 --> 01:04:35,280
Speaker 3: drive to Tampa for a night, do something fun, go

1472
01:04:35,320 --> 01:04:37,440
Speaker 3: to the beach, like you kind of got to move around.

1473
01:04:37,760 --> 01:04:39,720
Speaker 3: So I think, yeah, what you're feeling right now is

1474
01:04:39,720 --> 01:04:41,760
Speaker 3: just an overall boredom. I don't think your partner's boring

1475
01:04:41,800 --> 01:04:42,760
Speaker 3: you if.

1476
01:04:43,040 --> 01:04:45,200
Speaker 1: Because she said she went from Denver to the suburbs.

1477
01:04:45,280 --> 01:04:48,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, probably, it says, and Denver already wouldn't excite me, So.

1478
01:04:49,000 --> 01:04:51,000
Speaker 1: That's so beautiful. It's beautiful.

1479
01:04:51,040 --> 01:04:54,640
Speaker 2: But I love the snowy mountains, and I mean probably wouldn't.

1480
01:04:54,920 --> 01:04:58,560
Speaker 2: There's probably not enough black people out there lives there.

1481
01:04:58,720 --> 01:05:01,480
Speaker 2: But I mean, oh, we know one that you named

1482
01:05:01,520 --> 01:05:06,560
Speaker 2: one and she's the next. You're right from one fucking

1483
01:05:07,120 --> 01:05:08,280
Speaker 2: white ass city to another.

1484
01:05:09,400 --> 01:05:10,080
Speaker 1: To take do this.

1485
01:05:10,160 --> 01:05:13,120
Speaker 3: Take a quick sex vacation, Try do a little road trip,

1486
01:05:13,320 --> 01:05:16,080
Speaker 3: drive to a hotel, do some dirty fun ship, try

1487
01:05:16,080 --> 01:05:17,919
Speaker 3: to get the edge off, and once you guys, try

1488
01:05:17,960 --> 01:05:20,600
Speaker 3: something new sexually and explore it. If you're already gonna

1489
01:05:20,600 --> 01:05:22,920
Speaker 3: be on a high, then start getting into some fun

1490
01:05:23,320 --> 01:05:25,520
Speaker 3: conversations about the what ifs. And if it sounds like

1491
01:05:25,560 --> 01:05:27,040
Speaker 3: a hard note for him, then that's probably not the

1492
01:05:27,040 --> 01:05:27,800
Speaker 3: relationship for you.

1493
01:05:28,640 --> 01:05:28,880
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1494
01:05:29,040 --> 01:05:31,760
Speaker 2: I'm open with y'all just being open with your partners.

1495
01:05:31,800 --> 01:05:34,440
Speaker 2: But I think before you come to your partners, before

1496
01:05:34,440 --> 01:05:36,840
Speaker 2: you step out, you genuinely have to be able to know.

1497
01:05:37,320 --> 01:05:39,840
Speaker 2: And that's what I talked about the manifesting. I genuinely

1498
01:05:39,880 --> 01:05:42,480
Speaker 2: don't know what I want right now. Yeah, So, if

1499
01:05:42,520 --> 01:05:44,880
Speaker 2: you're in a relationship and you just feel like you're

1500
01:05:44,880 --> 01:05:47,640
Speaker 2: missing out on something, you have to come to what term,

1501
01:05:47,880 --> 01:05:49,000
Speaker 2: what would make you happy?

1502
01:05:49,040 --> 01:05:50,720
Speaker 1: What is it that you want because.

1503
01:05:50,440 --> 01:05:52,440
Speaker 3: It might just be a one night out, a one

1504
01:05:52,520 --> 01:05:54,400
Speaker 3: night stand that you're looking for to get you to

1505
01:05:54,440 --> 01:05:55,280
Speaker 3: completely be back.

1506
01:05:55,840 --> 01:06:00,040
Speaker 1: I don't know. So, I mean I think little, I

1507
01:06:00,080 --> 01:06:02,320
Speaker 1: think you wanted all of it. I mean, nigga, you

1508
01:06:02,360 --> 01:06:04,040
Speaker 1: like I taste a filet mignon, I want to eat

1509
01:06:04,080 --> 01:06:05,440
Speaker 1: it again. I mean, I think that's the thing too.

1510
01:06:05,480 --> 01:06:08,040
Speaker 3: A lot of us are are confined to me, is

1511
01:06:08,080 --> 01:06:10,560
Speaker 3: that the monogamous relationship is.

1512
01:06:10,520 --> 01:06:12,480
Speaker 1: What we want, when really it's not. Don't give me

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01:06:12,520 --> 01:06:13,080
Speaker 1: no good.

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01:06:13,800 --> 01:06:15,880
Speaker 3: Not that we're convincing all of y'all hoses to not

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01:06:15,920 --> 01:06:18,720
Speaker 3: be monogamous. Sorry, Oh, anyway, but a lot of you

1516
01:06:18,720 --> 01:06:20,720
Speaker 3: ask me about black and white nails. Is a quick story.

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01:06:21,400 --> 01:06:24,520
Speaker 3: I always used to wear white toes. I stubbed my toe,

1518
01:06:24,600 --> 01:06:28,800
Speaker 3: the toe turn black. I went, this was twenty twenty.

1519
01:06:29,360 --> 01:06:31,320
Speaker 3: I went to the nail place. She's like, I can't

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01:06:31,320 --> 01:06:33,920
Speaker 3: do white because it looks black. Still, I'm like, what

1521
01:06:34,040 --> 01:06:36,080
Speaker 3: I need white toe? She goes, do one white, one black.

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01:06:37,160 --> 01:06:37,760
Speaker 3: That's crazy.

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01:06:37,920 --> 01:06:40,680
Speaker 1: Sorry, I said, anyway, that's why I wear black white

1524
01:06:40,680 --> 01:06:41,800
Speaker 1: white nails. That's crazy.

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01:06:41,840 --> 01:06:44,080
Speaker 3: It's just it's not black anymore. It's a new toe.

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01:06:44,240 --> 01:06:45,680
Speaker 3: Why are you doing that face right now?

1527
01:06:45,920 --> 01:06:46,160
Speaker 6: Crazy?

1528
01:06:46,320 --> 01:06:47,880
Speaker 3: Oh if I would have a vitamin, I wouldn't have

1529
01:06:47,960 --> 01:06:50,120
Speaker 3: to dried up blood turn black, must stay healthy.

1530
01:06:50,320 --> 01:06:53,400
Speaker 1: I think it's a dog. I wish it was something cooler.

1531
01:06:53,440 --> 01:06:55,080
Speaker 1: People be like, oh my god, is because you're that's

1532
01:06:55,080 --> 01:06:55,560
Speaker 1: pretty cool?

1533
01:06:56,440 --> 01:06:56,480
Speaker 7: Not?

1534
01:06:56,680 --> 01:06:59,160
Speaker 3: Is it because you are biracial? Is it because you

1535
01:06:59,640 --> 01:07:03,760
Speaker 3: with BDD? And literally it was a it was a

1536
01:07:04,080 --> 01:07:07,320
Speaker 3: like a dumb bell bitch, boom all my ship.

1537
01:07:07,760 --> 01:07:08,760
Speaker 1: Damn. I know.

1538
01:07:09,400 --> 01:07:11,040
Speaker 3: So anyway, that's why I do black. I do white

1539
01:07:11,040 --> 01:07:13,600
Speaker 3: toes for the hose. So white toes are so sexy.

1540
01:07:13,680 --> 01:07:16,160
Speaker 2: White toes for the hose. You know what's crazy? They said,

1541
01:07:16,320 --> 01:07:19,200
Speaker 2: white toes is for men. Love white toes. French is

1542
01:07:19,200 --> 01:07:21,920
Speaker 2: for the bitches, Like I love seeing a bitch with

1543
01:07:22,040 --> 01:07:22,680
Speaker 2: French toes.

1544
01:07:23,480 --> 01:07:26,680
Speaker 1: No, not yours. I don't want to let me show you.

1545
01:07:26,720 --> 01:07:30,520
Speaker 1: I don't know why. And the other ones. I like

1546
01:07:30,600 --> 01:07:32,680
Speaker 1: French toes. It does look nice. It just got dumb

1547
01:07:32,760 --> 01:07:35,880
Speaker 1: from French because I'm like, bitch, let's sell them. Take

1548
01:07:35,920 --> 01:07:36,240
Speaker 1: a pick.

1549
01:07:36,640 --> 01:07:39,480
Speaker 2: Always see no Ian, you have one black white I

1550
01:07:39,560 --> 01:07:40,560
Speaker 2: like the white tips.

1551
01:07:40,920 --> 01:07:43,000
Speaker 1: I got one white to yeah, but I don't like

1552
01:07:43,000 --> 01:07:44,720
Speaker 1: you don't like one black one. No, I don't. You

1553
01:07:44,720 --> 01:07:47,800
Speaker 1: don't like white teps. I like girl like I like

1554
01:07:47,880 --> 01:07:50,840
Speaker 1: white toes, but on women for me, I really like

1555
01:07:50,960 --> 01:07:56,560
Speaker 1: you have white friends. You want to do manifest What crazy?

1556
01:07:56,600 --> 01:08:02,920
Speaker 1: What I say? What happened? Sorry? All right? Well, y'all.

1557
01:08:03,000 --> 01:08:05,080
Speaker 3: If you're watching us on YouTube, make sure you hit

1558
01:08:05,080 --> 01:08:06,960
Speaker 3: that subscribe button. If you're listening to us on any

1559
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Speaker 3: of the DSPs, make sure you also hit that subscribe

1560
01:08:09,720 --> 01:08:14,240
Speaker 3: that download DSP anything that's not YouTube, bitch. If you

1561
01:08:14,320 --> 01:08:16,400
Speaker 3: listening to us. If you just listening, okay.

1562
01:08:17,080 --> 01:08:17,479
Speaker 1: Tell him to.

1563
01:08:18,080 --> 01:08:19,600
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1564
01:08:19,680 --> 01:08:22,639
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1565
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1566
01:08:25,479 --> 01:08:28,640
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1567
01:08:28,760 --> 01:08:32,000
Speaker 2: until next time, bitches, it's been another episode of Horrible

1568
01:08:32,000 --> 01:08:39,639
Speaker 2: Decisions and latinas and waits. And if you haven't heard

1569
01:08:39,640 --> 01:08:42,880
Speaker 2: Monday's episode yet, it is the same exact guess which

1570
01:08:42,880 --> 01:08:43,479
Speaker 2: we've never done.

1571
01:08:44,120 --> 01:08:45,360
Speaker 1: You know we haven't.

1572
01:08:46,920 --> 01:08:47,800
Speaker 6: To Drake he's back.

1573
01:08:52,840 --> 01:08:55,519
Speaker 3: We dropped to at Gordo Killing and Sideways and then

1574
01:08:55,720 --> 01:08:58,240
Speaker 3: he just dropped one hundred gigabytes of new music.

1575
01:08:58,800 --> 01:09:01,720
Speaker 1: Is this? Did you hear? This is? Don't do that.

1576
01:09:02,160 --> 01:09:02,640
Speaker 1: Don't do that.

1577
01:09:03,120 --> 01:09:07,639
Speaker 8: I'm not gonna hold you for the next couple of months.

1578
01:09:07,960 --> 01:09:10,160
Speaker 8: This is how, this is how people are gonna listen.

1579
01:09:09,960 --> 01:09:17,120
Speaker 1: To Drake cheap.

1580
01:09:18,479 --> 01:09:20,080
Speaker 3: I don't been to a whole lot of parties, a

1581
01:09:20,080 --> 01:09:23,400
Speaker 3: whole lot of clubs, a whole different country, and baby

1582
01:09:23,479 --> 01:09:25,880
Speaker 3: Drake was going off and and and the girls and

1583
01:09:25,920 --> 01:09:28,120
Speaker 3: the boys, like you know what was to.

1584
01:09:29,000 --> 01:09:32,320
Speaker 1: They not like us? Listen, I heard they like not

1585
01:09:32,560 --> 01:09:33,400
Speaker 1: they're not like us.

1586
01:09:33,439 --> 01:09:36,479
Speaker 8: Every day since it came out, like just accident, just

1587
01:09:36,520 --> 01:09:39,320
Speaker 8: walking around, someone played it. But you know that clip

1588
01:09:39,320 --> 01:09:42,000
Speaker 8: of Drew Ski dancing to Grease, like when it's like

1589
01:09:42,040 --> 01:09:44,200
Speaker 8: a little meme of him that he's like, this is

1590
01:09:44,240 --> 01:09:45,920
Speaker 8: like a meme of Drew Ski dance on a boat

1591
01:09:46,160 --> 01:09:50,040
Speaker 8: to a Drake song, Like you forget that. Like people,

1592
01:09:50,120 --> 01:09:52,880
Speaker 8: the minute there's a banger, everyone's gonna be like like

1593
01:09:54,479 --> 01:09:57,000
Speaker 8: goodness gracious or the super so super so with yacht's

1594
01:09:57,000 --> 01:09:57,920
Speaker 8: out right now, it's all over.

1595
01:09:57,960 --> 01:10:01,880
Speaker 1: TikTok oh, Yeah, no, that's I'm saying, he's still dropping

1596
01:10:02,040 --> 01:10:05,439
Speaker 1: and I don't even like like that ship was a

1597
01:10:05,439 --> 01:10:06,240
Speaker 1: Gordo line.

1598
01:10:07,320 --> 01:10:10,559
Speaker 3: Way, how crazy is it that revamps happened. I don't

1599
01:10:10,560 --> 01:10:13,559
Speaker 3: know if anyone ever heard of Gordyo before. He looked

1600
01:10:13,600 --> 01:10:15,479
Speaker 3: very familiar to me. When I used to rave with

1601
01:10:15,600 --> 01:10:18,160
Speaker 3: Vinnie back in the day, one of my favorite DJs

1602
01:10:18,240 --> 01:10:20,320
Speaker 3: was this dude named DJ Carnage because he would play

1603
01:10:20,320 --> 01:10:20,840
Speaker 3: trap shit.

1604
01:10:21,720 --> 01:10:28,080
Speaker 1: I'm looking at it at him, Yes, whoa look at that.

1605
01:10:28,720 --> 01:10:30,240
Speaker 1: I'm talking to a friend of mine, like, why would

1606
01:10:30,280 --> 01:10:32,519
Speaker 1: they do that? And it's like, because when you're boxed in,

1607
01:10:32,680 --> 01:10:35,160
Speaker 1: if you don't rename, didn't hit maker?

1608
01:10:35,200 --> 01:10:35,479
Speaker 6: Do that?

1609
01:10:39,880 --> 01:10:40,639
Speaker 1: Kitty boyd?

1610
01:10:42,080 --> 01:10:44,839
Speaker 6: You know about to titty?

1611
01:10:45,720 --> 01:10:48,519
Speaker 1: Well anyway, oh that's right, here we go. See day

1612
01:10:48,840 --> 01:10:50,479
Speaker 1: so the same thing that happened that day?

1613
01:10:50,520 --> 01:10:53,040
Speaker 3: No, no, no, Then I wanted to do this outline

1614
01:10:53,040 --> 01:10:56,040
Speaker 3: about marriage because when I clicked on your Instagram, I'm like, oh, yeah,

1615
01:10:56,080 --> 01:11:00,360
Speaker 3: he's happy, You're getting get gift for your husband that day,

1616
01:11:00,400 --> 01:11:03,040
Speaker 3: I think, But we ended up getting so deep and

1617
01:11:03,120 --> 01:11:04,280
Speaker 3: combo and one.

1618
01:11:04,560 --> 01:11:08,360
Speaker 1: Sexuality we need to talk about off the top. Yes,

1619
01:11:08,720 --> 01:11:11,720
Speaker 1: the Gabrielle union. Yes, so now your sensus that I

1620
01:11:11,800 --> 01:11:12,120
Speaker 1: was right.

1621
01:11:12,360 --> 01:11:17,439
Speaker 8: Listen, it's not that we think that you have more

1622
01:11:17,880 --> 01:11:22,080
Speaker 8: ground to stand on than we initially dave you. But also,

1623
01:11:22,400 --> 01:11:25,720
Speaker 8: I'm not gonna be up here saying she's not a

1624
01:11:25,920 --> 01:11:28,280
Speaker 8: great actress. But then if I look at the rankings,

1625
01:11:28,280 --> 01:11:30,640
Speaker 8: I go, oh, where am I putting her? Where am

1626
01:11:30,680 --> 01:11:33,479
Speaker 8: I putting her? So you know, I think I think

1627
01:11:33,520 --> 01:11:35,920
Speaker 8: this is a black people needed. We didn't have a

1628
01:11:35,960 --> 01:11:39,320
Speaker 8: referendum in the black community. Everyone's gonna get a pamphlet

1629
01:11:39,320 --> 01:11:41,400
Speaker 8: and everyone can vote, and we'll figure out where we're

1630
01:11:41,400 --> 01:11:41,840
Speaker 8: going to play.

1631
01:11:42,040 --> 01:11:42,839
Speaker 1: Anzwe Bassett.

1632
01:11:42,880 --> 01:11:45,840
Speaker 8: We know she's above Azwe Bastat is above Gabrielle Union,

1633
01:11:45,920 --> 01:11:49,200
Speaker 8: of course, if there, if there is, if you know

1634
01:11:49,200 --> 01:11:52,519
Speaker 8: how people do tears, where you're worth five points four

1635
01:11:52,560 --> 01:11:54,120
Speaker 8: points points two points four point?

1636
01:11:54,200 --> 01:11:57,519
Speaker 1: Yes, Gabrielle Union is a two pointer or three. I

1637
01:11:57,520 --> 01:12:01,760
Speaker 1: will not even put point who's so if all that

1638
01:12:01,880 --> 01:12:07,080
Speaker 1: Angela five, yeah, and Kekey Bomber's four, Palmer four, Okay, right,

1639
01:12:07,479 --> 01:12:09,840
Speaker 1: we'll give a Kiki four and not three. I would

1640
01:12:09,880 --> 01:12:12,559
Speaker 1: give Key Palmer three, Okay, I would give her three,

1641
01:12:12,600 --> 01:12:14,599
Speaker 1: but then I gotta give Gabrielle you three. I think

1642
01:12:14,640 --> 01:12:19,519
Speaker 1: Kekey's above Gabrielle and here I have Gabrielle at a two. Wow.

1643
01:12:20,360 --> 01:12:23,800
Speaker 3: Wow, like make get good at a one?

1644
01:12:32,000 --> 01:12:32,320
Speaker 4: Baby?

1645
01:12:32,680 --> 01:12:34,599
Speaker 1: Maybe there has been zero range with.

1646
01:12:34,600 --> 01:12:39,680
Speaker 4: Meg a good horse hal hold on yo, you needed it,

1647
01:12:39,720 --> 01:12:46,920
Speaker 4: but that's y so I got hold on up.

1648
01:12:50,680 --> 01:12:56,880
Speaker 7: Okay, so okay, A four I would probably put an

1649
01:12:56,920 --> 01:13:02,120
Speaker 7: Octavia Spencer, Kerry Washington. I'm Swiss, are watching today up there?

1650
01:13:02,160 --> 01:13:04,599
Speaker 1: On five? I would put Kerry Washington out of four,

1651
01:13:04,760 --> 01:13:06,479
Speaker 1: I'll give Carre four or five. I would give her

1652
01:13:06,520 --> 01:13:09,360
Speaker 1: a four. Five. Yeah, I'll tell you a Spencer four five. Okay,

1653
01:13:10,120 --> 01:13:14,080
Speaker 1: she got hardware, ok I got that's.

1654
01:13:14,000 --> 01:13:22,920
Speaker 5: Funny, you cousin, baby, don't do that because even she

1655
01:13:23,000 --> 01:13:24,679
Speaker 5: had mad years from then to get better.

1656
01:13:24,720 --> 01:13:29,200
Speaker 1: And Harlem and that recent black Sorry, Halle Berry, I

1657
01:13:29,320 --> 01:13:29,960
Speaker 1: played A four.

1658
01:13:30,000 --> 01:13:32,040
Speaker 3: And this is crazy. I just typed in African American

1659
01:13:32,080 --> 01:13:37,160
Speaker 3: at it comes up as the third image. Well, so

1660
01:13:37,280 --> 01:13:40,679
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1661
01:13:40,800 --> 01:13:44,360
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1662
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