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Speaker 1: So Tory, Danielle and I also produce Intimate Knowledge with

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Speaker 1: We are going to ask you fifteen pretty wild questions

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Speaker 1: do you always instigated by saying verbally to her, can

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Speaker 1: obviously out of certain you know, during everything, and you're

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00:21:40,760 --> 00:21:43,160
Speaker 1: you want it, then you asked for it. Rick asked

425
00:21:43,160 --> 00:21:44,959
Speaker 1: to be spanked and he hopes that one of her fingers.

426
00:21:44,960 --> 00:21:50,680
Speaker 1: Ben's that's all. That's good to be Trie, Thanks, buddy, welcome.

427
00:21:52,000 --> 00:21:55,400
Speaker 1: How would your ex partner in your last serious relationship

428
00:21:55,720 --> 00:22:01,080
Speaker 1: describe you? Mm hmm. I mean you're allowed to say

429
00:22:01,119 --> 00:22:04,919
Speaker 1: you're a dick. I mean you're probably not with that

430
00:22:04,960 --> 00:22:08,920
Speaker 1: person because you're a dick, and you we're going down

431
00:22:08,960 --> 00:22:10,919
Speaker 1: a certain path. Then you're like cut it off and

432
00:22:10,960 --> 00:22:13,679
Speaker 1: shut it off, and you know, maybe the maybe the

433
00:22:13,720 --> 00:22:16,240
Speaker 1: relationship was good, the sex was bad, or the sex

434
00:22:16,280 --> 00:22:18,160
Speaker 1: was good the relationship was bad, you know, I don't

435
00:22:18,200 --> 00:22:21,880
Speaker 1: I don't know. I mean, what that person would really

436
00:22:21,880 --> 00:22:25,399
Speaker 1: say about me? Um? I mean, god, it's been so many,

437
00:22:25,520 --> 00:22:27,600
Speaker 1: so many years since that time. It's hard to remember.

438
00:22:27,920 --> 00:22:30,640
Speaker 1: But guys, you're gonna help a brother out. I don't

439
00:22:30,640 --> 00:22:32,199
Speaker 1: think I would. I don't think I would get that.

440
00:22:32,240 --> 00:22:34,480
Speaker 1: I think I would get that I was a nice guy,

441
00:22:34,880 --> 00:22:40,880
Speaker 1: maybe too nice, um, you know, and probably a gentleman

442
00:22:40,920 --> 00:22:42,800
Speaker 1: and nice and all that. But I think probably maybe

443
00:22:42,880 --> 00:22:45,040
Speaker 1: just not that I can't carr enough, but probably just

444
00:22:45,040 --> 00:22:48,680
Speaker 1: went along with stuff too much and and didn't you know, initiate,

445
00:22:48,880 --> 00:22:53,920
Speaker 1: initiate anything not not. Probably probably avoided Yeah, I probably

446
00:22:53,920 --> 00:22:56,879
Speaker 1: avoided like fights just because I didn't want to have him.

447
00:22:56,920 --> 00:22:59,879
Speaker 1: So yeah, it's more of maybe too nice. Yeah, mine

448
00:23:00,040 --> 00:23:04,160
Speaker 1: would say I am a buzz kill and overly responsible.

449
00:23:04,200 --> 00:23:06,640
Speaker 1: I think. I mean we were just out of college

450
00:23:06,800 --> 00:23:10,280
Speaker 1: in l A. And ultimately she was so far off

451
00:23:10,280 --> 00:23:12,639
Speaker 1: the deep end and had so many issues that I

452
00:23:12,680 --> 00:23:16,359
Speaker 1: finally realized and identified that I had to when she

453
00:23:16,400 --> 00:23:18,640
Speaker 1: flew home for Christmas back East. I had to call

454
00:23:18,680 --> 00:23:20,719
Speaker 1: her father, who had never met face to face at

455
00:23:20,760 --> 00:23:23,640
Speaker 1: this point, and say, you cannot let her come back

456
00:23:23,640 --> 00:23:28,119
Speaker 1: to l A. Like she needs tremendous mental help. And

457
00:23:28,200 --> 00:23:31,280
Speaker 1: he when I gave him the anecdotes, he was like okay,

458
00:23:31,359 --> 00:23:33,760
Speaker 1: and he got her. He wouldn't let her come back.

459
00:23:33,840 --> 00:23:35,919
Speaker 1: She called had lost her mind on me, and I

460
00:23:35,960 --> 00:23:38,280
Speaker 1: was like, I'm sorry, I'm doing you'll look back on

461
00:23:38,359 --> 00:23:41,160
Speaker 1: this and thank me. This is the end of us, unfortunately,

462
00:23:41,160 --> 00:23:43,919
Speaker 1: but I'm doing what's best for you. You need help

463
00:23:44,240 --> 00:23:46,880
Speaker 1: in the worst way. So yes, I called your father.

464
00:23:46,960 --> 00:23:48,879
Speaker 1: I did do that. And should I ask you a question?

465
00:23:48,960 --> 00:23:51,920
Speaker 1: Do you think any of your neurotic nous had any

466
00:23:52,040 --> 00:23:55,520
Speaker 1: to do with that? No? Zero? Like I mean, she

467
00:23:55,760 --> 00:24:00,600
Speaker 1: was she went to boarding school, developed major issues at school.

468
00:24:01,040 --> 00:24:03,480
Speaker 1: How did you let this one get away? Yeah? Exactly,

469
00:24:03,720 --> 00:24:07,840
Speaker 1: answer this. You feel the most loved when and you

470
00:24:07,840 --> 00:24:12,679
Speaker 1: feel the least loved when. I feel the most loved

471
00:24:12,760 --> 00:24:20,600
Speaker 1: when I'm noticed and things are I don't mean like

472
00:24:20,720 --> 00:24:24,320
Speaker 1: tailored towards me, but like when things are like hey,

473
00:24:24,359 --> 00:24:27,040
Speaker 1: I got you this stuff, and like I was just

474
00:24:27,080 --> 00:24:29,399
Speaker 1: on a trip. I was saying that a couple of

475
00:24:29,400 --> 00:24:33,800
Speaker 1: weeks ago, and I came home and there was like

476
00:24:33,840 --> 00:24:36,439
Speaker 1: a like just we we have flowers kind of in

477
00:24:36,440 --> 00:24:38,720
Speaker 1: the hallway right where you walk in the hall entry way,

478
00:24:38,800 --> 00:24:41,159
Speaker 1: and typically we kind of sometimes we don't, but like

479
00:24:41,240 --> 00:24:43,040
Speaker 1: she had made a big arrangement and she was like, Hey,

480
00:24:43,040 --> 00:24:45,240
Speaker 1: did you see the flowers? I made those for you? Like, like,

481
00:24:45,320 --> 00:24:48,760
Speaker 1: to me, that's important and that's what I care about.

482
00:24:49,359 --> 00:24:53,159
Speaker 1: Um and or hey, I know you've been traveling or

483
00:24:53,200 --> 00:24:55,080
Speaker 1: you've been working hard, Like why don't you go with

484
00:24:55,119 --> 00:24:57,200
Speaker 1: your buddies, why don't you go work out, I'll take

485
00:24:57,240 --> 00:25:00,000
Speaker 1: the kids. You go to have some your time or

486
00:25:00,080 --> 00:25:03,000
Speaker 1: go do what you want to do. UM, Like that's

487
00:25:03,040 --> 00:25:06,239
Speaker 1: important to me. Um And I forget the second half

488
00:25:06,240 --> 00:25:09,800
Speaker 1: of the question, but the least obviously I mean not

489
00:25:09,960 --> 00:25:12,680
Speaker 1: to give an easy answer, but when those things aren't met,

490
00:25:12,800 --> 00:25:16,000
Speaker 1: like when those aren't when I'm not being noticed, like, hey,

491
00:25:16,359 --> 00:25:19,359
Speaker 1: I didn't you know, like you know, like she knows

492
00:25:19,400 --> 00:25:23,360
Speaker 1: that I'm gonna complain because there's a bunch of all

493
00:25:23,359 --> 00:25:27,040
Speaker 1: the backpacks in the shoes and the you know, not trash,

494
00:25:27,080 --> 00:25:29,600
Speaker 1: but like the Amazon boxes are all kind of building,

495
00:25:29,640 --> 00:25:31,679
Speaker 1: you know, building up in the on the on the

496
00:25:31,680 --> 00:25:34,159
Speaker 1: hall entryway where it's like I'm like, dude, just like

497
00:25:34,200 --> 00:25:36,159
Speaker 1: you've walked past it three times, take it out, like

498
00:25:36,560 --> 00:25:40,200
Speaker 1: those are We're in this together, like living in this home,

499
00:25:40,200 --> 00:25:42,800
Speaker 1: and we're supposed to Actually we should be on the

500
00:25:42,800 --> 00:25:44,639
Speaker 1: same page here, or I hope we are on the

501
00:25:44,640 --> 00:25:46,359
Speaker 1: same page. I don't realized We're not always going to

502
00:25:46,400 --> 00:25:48,440
Speaker 1: be on the same page. But for the most part,

503
00:25:48,440 --> 00:25:50,040
Speaker 1: we should be on the same page. And that's the

504
00:25:50,080 --> 00:25:52,080
Speaker 1: part when it bothers me that we're not on the

505
00:25:52,119 --> 00:25:54,440
Speaker 1: same page. But I get what you're saying about, UM

506
00:25:54,440 --> 00:25:57,359
Speaker 1: wanting to be seen, wanting like I don't need like

507
00:25:57,400 --> 00:25:59,080
Speaker 1: a thank you or I don't need, you know, a

508
00:25:59,160 --> 00:26:00,960
Speaker 1: kudos for everything that I do. But I feel like

509
00:26:00,960 --> 00:26:03,280
Speaker 1: I do a lot in life and with the family

510
00:26:03,280 --> 00:26:05,840
Speaker 1: and stuff like that. UM, I want to feel like

511
00:26:05,880 --> 00:26:08,280
Speaker 1: I'm important. I don't want to feel like I'm just

512
00:26:08,359 --> 00:26:12,399
Speaker 1: someone on the assembly line doing his job. So I

513
00:26:12,520 --> 00:26:16,720
Speaker 1: like to feel appreciated. UM. And then on the other side,

514
00:26:16,760 --> 00:26:18,880
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't like to feel I guess it's

515
00:26:19,280 --> 00:26:21,399
Speaker 1: again similar to what you said. I don't like to

516
00:26:21,440 --> 00:26:25,520
Speaker 1: feel like I'm like I'm interchangeable, like or like I like,

517
00:26:25,680 --> 00:26:27,280
Speaker 1: all right, well you did this, but if not, it

518
00:26:27,320 --> 00:26:29,240
Speaker 1: would get done, you know what I mean? Because I

519
00:26:29,240 --> 00:26:32,720
Speaker 1: think I think everything that I bring in life or

520
00:26:32,800 --> 00:26:36,120
Speaker 1: to family or all of that stuff, I think that

521
00:26:36,119 --> 00:26:38,480
Speaker 1: that I bring it to the best that I can,

522
00:26:38,520 --> 00:26:39,840
Speaker 1: and I think that I bring it in a way

523
00:26:39,840 --> 00:26:42,199
Speaker 1: that you know, not many other people can. So if

524
00:26:42,240 --> 00:26:44,400
Speaker 1: I feel like a well, you you know, just kind

525
00:26:44,400 --> 00:26:48,160
Speaker 1: of dismissed or not, you know that I have trouble

526
00:26:48,200 --> 00:26:52,560
Speaker 1: with that. Yeah, that's that's good. Okay, where do I

527
00:26:52,600 --> 00:26:56,359
Speaker 1: begin gifts? I love gifts, as we know that my

528
00:26:56,440 --> 00:26:59,879
Speaker 1: love language. I especially like a gift that identifies a

529
00:27:00,119 --> 00:27:03,800
Speaker 1: need that I did not know I had. So my

530
00:27:03,800 --> 00:27:06,720
Speaker 1: wife will say, you know, I got you this. Here's

531
00:27:06,760 --> 00:27:09,520
Speaker 1: why I think you really need new sunglasses like the

532
00:27:09,520 --> 00:27:12,199
Speaker 1: ones you've been wearing are ratty, or there's this or that.

533
00:27:12,320 --> 00:27:14,080
Speaker 1: Or you need a new belt like the belt you

534
00:27:14,119 --> 00:27:17,399
Speaker 1: wore whatever the other day, like should look better. You

535
00:27:17,440 --> 00:27:20,239
Speaker 1: need a brown leather like things that I didn't know

536
00:27:20,280 --> 00:27:22,840
Speaker 1: I needed. And she'll address that and like she's put

537
00:27:22,920 --> 00:27:25,159
Speaker 1: thought into it. It's not just like I got you

538
00:27:25,280 --> 00:27:28,159
Speaker 1: this just because I think guys might like this. It's like, no,

539
00:27:28,440 --> 00:27:32,120
Speaker 1: you ryan need this. Trust me. I wanted to rip

540
00:27:32,160 --> 00:27:34,080
Speaker 1: you for the gift thing, but you actually made sense

541
00:27:34,119 --> 00:27:36,200
Speaker 1: there because it's showing that she noticed the stuff that

542
00:27:36,240 --> 00:27:38,320
Speaker 1: you need and you like and getting it. I get that.

543
00:27:38,400 --> 00:27:40,760
Speaker 1: What if you don't like what she's getting you? She

544
00:27:40,760 --> 00:27:46,200
Speaker 1: she is really really good at gift giving. Has just

545
00:27:46,200 --> 00:27:51,080
Speaker 1: just wait another ten years. Okay, next dinner some my

546
00:27:51,200 --> 00:27:54,240
Speaker 1: favorite food like Thai food is an hour round trip.

547
00:27:54,280 --> 00:27:56,320
Speaker 1: She'll sometimes text me at work, and she'll be like,

548
00:27:56,600 --> 00:27:59,320
Speaker 1: I went and got you tie for tonight. Let's have

549
00:27:59,359 --> 00:28:02,000
Speaker 1: a great night. And I'm like, that's an hour around trip.

550
00:28:02,160 --> 00:28:03,920
Speaker 1: You went all the way to Malibu to get that.

551
00:28:04,440 --> 00:28:06,440
Speaker 1: Traffic on the pc H is a nightmare. You did

552
00:28:06,480 --> 00:28:10,080
Speaker 1: that for me, Like, let's go. This is amazing, thank you,

553
00:28:11,720 --> 00:28:13,760
Speaker 1: not not that has the tenby that I like this

554
00:28:13,920 --> 00:28:17,880
Speaker 1: the green curry, and and then he gets sheets. Oh honey,

555
00:28:17,920 --> 00:28:20,800
Speaker 1: it's cold. Yeah, can you drive up to Ohai and

556
00:28:20,840 --> 00:28:25,479
Speaker 1: get my lobster roll? Okay, compliments love compliments. Uh. And

557
00:28:25,520 --> 00:28:27,879
Speaker 1: I like to be appreciated, being told like thank you

558
00:28:27,920 --> 00:28:29,720
Speaker 1: for working hard for the family, like it really is

559
00:28:29,760 --> 00:28:33,400
Speaker 1: meaningful to us and other that it makes it all

560
00:28:33,440 --> 00:28:36,200
Speaker 1: worth the grind to feel like I'm doing this for

561
00:28:36,240 --> 00:28:41,560
Speaker 1: someone who really values it. Yeah, I think that's important. Okay, Guys,

562
00:28:41,920 --> 00:28:44,800
Speaker 1: if you could travel back in time, what sex advice

563
00:28:44,840 --> 00:28:49,600
Speaker 1: would you give yourself. I don't know if it would

564
00:28:49,640 --> 00:28:54,560
Speaker 1: be advice per se. I think I would probably live

565
00:28:54,600 --> 00:28:59,560
Speaker 1: a little bit. I would I would open the doors more,

566
00:29:00,840 --> 00:29:04,120
Speaker 1: not be so selective when I was younger. Put it

567
00:29:04,160 --> 00:29:07,560
Speaker 1: that way, that a fancy way of saying, be more promiscuous.

568
00:29:08,120 --> 00:29:12,000
Speaker 1: Totally Okay, just and I don't disagree with Yeah, I

569
00:29:12,000 --> 00:29:15,920
Speaker 1: think I was a little selective, like in high school college,

570
00:29:16,360 --> 00:29:19,600
Speaker 1: you know, I limited myself and I sort of now

571
00:29:19,920 --> 00:29:22,600
Speaker 1: regret that or whatever part of the question. So if

572
00:29:22,640 --> 00:29:24,560
Speaker 1: you could do it over, as long as there was

573
00:29:24,600 --> 00:29:27,480
Speaker 1: a pulse, it was fair game. Not a pulse. I mean,

574
00:29:28,400 --> 00:29:31,160
Speaker 1: the pulse would be a little bit extreme. But so

575
00:29:31,200 --> 00:29:38,440
Speaker 1: you're into the pulse acrophilias. Look, everyone has everything, let's

576
00:29:38,440 --> 00:29:44,120
Speaker 1: move on. That's what I said. I would explore other options.

577
00:29:44,840 --> 00:29:48,080
Speaker 1: I'm gonna follow up your necrophilia stuff. Uh No, I

578
00:29:48,240 --> 00:29:51,760
Speaker 1: to be honest, I was. I was not unlike you Rick,

579
00:29:51,880 --> 00:29:53,840
Speaker 1: where I was like, I guess I put too much

580
00:29:53,880 --> 00:29:55,320
Speaker 1: thought into it, and I was like, well, I don't know.

581
00:29:55,720 --> 00:29:58,240
Speaker 1: And a part of it was respect, Like I didn't

582
00:29:58,280 --> 00:30:00,000
Speaker 1: if I knew I didn't like a girl, I didn't

583
00:30:00,040 --> 00:30:02,600
Speaker 1: to like, go ahead and have sex with her because

584
00:30:02,880 --> 00:30:04,440
Speaker 1: I didn't want that on me and I didn't want

585
00:30:04,440 --> 00:30:06,840
Speaker 1: to think that I could be so she didn't need

586
00:30:06,880 --> 00:30:09,000
Speaker 1: do things a disappointment, you know, sex with me and

587
00:30:09,040 --> 00:30:12,680
Speaker 1: then saying I don't want to see again. Um, But

588
00:30:12,880 --> 00:30:15,320
Speaker 1: I think I would probably not take it so serious.

589
00:30:15,360 --> 00:30:17,600
Speaker 1: I'd be like, this is not as big a deal

590
00:30:17,680 --> 00:30:20,560
Speaker 1: as you're making out to be relaxed. You're young, have fun,

591
00:30:21,160 --> 00:30:24,320
Speaker 1: so like we are all on the same page here,

592
00:30:24,360 --> 00:30:26,640
Speaker 1: which is interesting. I mean for me. I remember my

593
00:30:26,680 --> 00:30:30,200
Speaker 1: senior year of high school. Are assistant basketball coach had

594
00:30:30,240 --> 00:30:31,920
Speaker 1: just got out of out of college and he was

595
00:30:31,920 --> 00:30:34,360
Speaker 1: an assistant coach, and he said to all of us

596
00:30:34,640 --> 00:30:36,120
Speaker 1: one day, he was like, can I give you us

597
00:30:36,240 --> 00:30:38,160
Speaker 1: some advice. You're all going to college next year, Like,

598
00:30:38,520 --> 00:30:42,360
Speaker 1: have as much sex as you possibly can. There is

599
00:30:42,440 --> 00:30:46,920
Speaker 1: never going to be as many females within close proximity.

600
00:30:47,040 --> 00:30:51,080
Speaker 1: Like partying with zero responsibilities ever in your life. Again,

601
00:30:51,160 --> 00:30:54,600
Speaker 1: like take advantage of that and be safe, but do it.

602
00:30:54,680 --> 00:30:57,760
Speaker 1: But I went to college and I was dating. I

603
00:30:57,800 --> 00:31:00,800
Speaker 1: was still dating my high school sweetheart was a senior

604
00:31:00,840 --> 00:31:03,000
Speaker 1: in college in high school. When I was a freshman

605
00:31:03,000 --> 00:31:05,880
Speaker 1: in college. I was faithful to her and did not

606
00:31:05,960 --> 00:31:08,920
Speaker 1: hook up with a single person my entire freshman year

607
00:31:08,920 --> 00:31:12,440
Speaker 1: of college until two weeks before the semester wrap to

608
00:31:12,480 --> 00:31:14,360
Speaker 1: go home and I found out that she had cheated

609
00:31:14,400 --> 00:31:16,920
Speaker 1: on me and it was all over. So I had,

610
00:31:16,960 --> 00:31:20,280
Speaker 1: like I had been faithful to her my entire year,

611
00:31:20,840 --> 00:31:24,120
Speaker 1: hooked up with zero people turned down some people and

612
00:31:24,160 --> 00:31:26,440
Speaker 1: then was like for what I did this all to

613
00:31:26,480 --> 00:31:28,760
Speaker 1: be a good person and like she screwed me in

614
00:31:28,760 --> 00:31:32,800
Speaker 1: the end, and it it was yeah, it's a joke.

615
00:31:32,960 --> 00:31:44,080
Speaker 1: It's a complete freaking joke. That's good ideal romantic vacation. Well,

616
00:31:44,120 --> 00:31:45,800
Speaker 1: since I've been going first on a lot of these things,

617
00:31:45,880 --> 00:31:47,479
Speaker 1: unless Dmitri you want to go, you got something all

618
00:31:47,480 --> 00:31:50,520
Speaker 1: the type of her, buddy, I would say, like on

619
00:31:50,520 --> 00:31:55,000
Speaker 1: one of those Maldives Tahiti Killer, a little bungalow on

620
00:31:55,040 --> 00:31:59,800
Speaker 1: the beach, a bunch of water everywhere, always jumping in

621
00:31:59,840 --> 00:32:04,800
Speaker 1: the water, snarkling, fishing, hanging out, sitting in the sun,

622
00:32:05,000 --> 00:32:09,040
Speaker 1: going to the pool, long walks, cruising around, nice restaurants,

623
00:32:09,400 --> 00:32:12,440
Speaker 1: nice nice food, not restaurants, but nice food, and just

624
00:32:12,440 --> 00:32:17,040
Speaker 1: just chill. Um. I do you like going to big

625
00:32:17,080 --> 00:32:20,080
Speaker 1: cities and traveling and visiting and going to nice restaurants

626
00:32:20,080 --> 00:32:22,000
Speaker 1: and stuff and seeing the culture of all those places.

627
00:32:22,000 --> 00:32:24,280
Speaker 1: And I think that's a super probably probably the most

628
00:32:24,360 --> 00:32:26,600
Speaker 1: valuable thing. But that's that's super romantic because a lot

629
00:32:26,640 --> 00:32:28,200
Speaker 1: of people around I don't know, I mean people a

630
00:32:28,200 --> 00:32:29,960
Speaker 1: lot of like they say Paris is like the most

631
00:32:30,040 --> 00:32:32,479
Speaker 1: romantic spot. And I've been there and I you know,

632
00:32:32,520 --> 00:32:35,280
Speaker 1: it's um, I just didn't. I never was by myself,

633
00:32:35,320 --> 00:32:37,960
Speaker 1: so it wasn't romantic. But I'm gonna go not dissimilar you,

634
00:32:38,000 --> 00:32:39,120
Speaker 1: but I'm gonna take it up a little bit. I'm

635
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Speaker 1: gonna go up the hill in Greece, nice view, short

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Speaker 1: walk down to a private beach, same thing. Still little

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Speaker 1: restaurants and stuff, and in the town, I think, but

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Speaker 1: I like the water for sure. It's someplace tropical. Um.

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Speaker 1: I think the common thing is sort of like alone

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Speaker 1: and being being alone, being no, but want with your

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Speaker 1: spouse or person or you know, um, being with that

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Speaker 1: person the whole entire time. I think that's the it

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Speaker 1: in a warm spot, I agree, warm Spot Cabo is

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Speaker 1: my happy place, as as is for my wife. We

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Speaker 1: got married there. But for us it's okay. We begin

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Speaker 1: first class travel, nice bloody Mary on the flight, okay, Amy,

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Speaker 1: we get there pool side, great uv. Index were tanning

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Speaker 1: and and we're on a romantic vacation. So I'm not

649
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Speaker 1: being told you shouldn't be frying your skin to this degree.

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Speaker 1: It's really bad for You're gonna be really wrinkly later

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Speaker 1: in life. I'm just freaking bronzing with that that Hawaiian

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Speaker 1: like oily thing. Oh, it's good. Through the four you

653
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Speaker 1: can't not have that off. So then we're we're getting

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Speaker 1: into some fish tacos with the guawk and the chips

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Speaker 1: pool side, get into a nice little skinny marks on

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Speaker 1: the rim. After that we got a good little buzz going.

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Speaker 1: We get into a massage the hot stones, maybe a

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Speaker 1: little hot stone massage. I don't think we needed the

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Speaker 1: itiner ry, just the overall idea of what you would

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Speaker 1: do five PM on the dot, Martinis, blue cheese, stuffed olives,

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Speaker 1: and bed at about eight thirty after maybe Shark Tank

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Speaker 1: on a DVR. Perfect. If you had to choose a

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Speaker 1: single sex act for an entire year, what would it be? Uh?

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Speaker 1: I mean I always go to the go to the

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Speaker 1: doggie style. That's just so I love it. I know

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Speaker 1: this is gonna sound like I'm pandering here, but I

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Speaker 1: think probably um going down, me going down. No, for

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Speaker 1: a year, but you're not getting off, Like I get

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Speaker 1: it as something that leads to something, but like you

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Speaker 1: can only do that for a year old on that's

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Speaker 1: a good point. Usually that leads to something else, So

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Speaker 1: that's a good point. That's a the first first answer,

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Speaker 1: come on, guys, don't make me do this. Mine would

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Speaker 1: be just like now, I'm not having sex for a year,

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Speaker 1: thanks everybody. I mean, sometimes we talk about oral and

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Speaker 1: it's like, I'd rather that is the beginning towards having sex,

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Speaker 1: Like it's it's most filling for me to actually have

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Speaker 1: sex intercourse