Speaker 1: Rooking Jewels Second Date Update. When we do these second
Speaker 1: date updates, I'm always interested in hearing the story of
Speaker 1: the date and what happened and why people think they
Speaker 1: might not be getting a call back. But actually, today
Speaker 1: I think I'm more interested in hearing about all the
Speaker 1: other failed dates that this person has been on. Oh
Speaker 1: the list is that long? You got an email from Jackie.
Speaker 1: She wants to do a second date update today. She's
Speaker 1: kind of back on the dating scene. I guess after
Speaker 1: getting divorced and stuff like that. But she says that
Speaker 1: she's been dating a little bit and she's had a
Speaker 1: bunch of weird experiences. So Jackie, can we actually talk
Speaker 1: about the weird experiences instead of the person that you
Speaker 1: want to talk about? Oh? No, I'd rather not. Really.
Speaker 1: I hear from single people that listening to these are
Speaker 1: often just depressing because they're like, this is what the
Speaker 1: dating scene is? Great? Yeah, it's so depressing. I mean
Speaker 1: the guys that are out there. So we're the first
Speaker 1: date I went out on, he wouldn't stop smelling my
Speaker 1: hair for like the first hour of the date. I
Speaker 1: was like, what are you doing? You know, like some
Speaker 1: personal space? He just sat there smelling your hair. Yes,
Speaker 1: it was freaky. It was like, you know, I know
Speaker 1: you sounds like a normal date to me, Jackie, I
Speaker 1: think you are just out of touch. So your email said,
Speaker 1: your email said, you haven't been dating in a long
Speaker 1: time because you went through divorce and all that kind
Speaker 1: of stuff. How long has it been since you've been
Speaker 1: out in the dating world. Oh my gosh, probably fifteen years. Wow,
Speaker 1: that's a while. That's probably kind of scary getting back
Speaker 1: in the game, you know, yeah, it really is. It's
Speaker 1: really kind of bizarre, and I feel like, you know,
Speaker 1: I'm a kid all over again. You know, that's not
Speaker 1: a good thing. But the guy that you want to
Speaker 1: call today, his name's John, all right, And so this
Speaker 1: was a positive experience for you. Yes, finally I met
Speaker 1: this guy. He was so cute and tall and beautiful
Speaker 1: eyes and great smile and sense of humor. And told
Speaker 1: them about my kids. You seem totally cool with that.
Speaker 1: We had this wonderful night and ended with this fabulous
Speaker 1: passionate and I was like, oh my gosh, you know,
Speaker 1: finally a good one. And then I never heard from him.
Speaker 1: Can I ask you? Can I ask you? Where did
Speaker 1: you meet him? I met him online. But I feel
Speaker 1: kind of weird about even saying that. It's like, I'm
Speaker 1: kind of ashamed even to admit that. But I don't
Speaker 1: know where else. Hey, that's where everybody meets people, now,
Speaker 1: I mean, you have to sift through the hair sniffers
Speaker 1: and the other weird people. But you you've done that
Speaker 1: and clearly met somebody that you liked. What did you
Speaker 1: guys do? He took me dancing, and I haven't been
Speaker 1: out dancing and I don't know how long. But we
Speaker 1: just had a blast. Are we talking like grinding or
Speaker 1: we talking like ballroom dancing? No? No, we went. We
Speaker 1: went to a club and okay, they had they had,
Speaker 1: you know, music of all different genres and stuff. So
Speaker 1: it wasn't like, I don't know, you know, rap music
Speaker 1: that you can't really dance too. It was like fun
Speaker 1: music and we just had such a blast together. We
Speaker 1: had a really good time. Okay, why do you think
Speaker 1: he's not calling you back if you had such a
Speaker 1: great time? I don't know. That's why I'm like, what
Speaker 1: you know, I know, I've been out of this whole
Speaker 1: thing for a while. I don't know how it all works,
Speaker 1: you know, are you supposed to wait three weeks before
Speaker 1: you call someone back. I don't know. I mean I
Speaker 1: never understood Listen, I never understood guys when I was
Speaker 1: a kid. I don't understand them now either. Forget it?
Speaker 1: And what are you looking for? Like when you're out dating,
Speaker 1: If you were to go on a second date with John,
Speaker 1: are you hoping that it would turn into a relationship
Speaker 1: or are you just looking to have some fun? Well,
Speaker 1: I think I would like a relationship again, you know.
Speaker 1: I mean I wouldn't take it super fast. I think
Speaker 1: I would want to take it kind of slow and
Speaker 1: kind of get to know the person pretty well before
Speaker 1: I got involved after having such a disaster with my
Speaker 1: first husband. But yeah, I'd like to meet someone. I
Speaker 1: don't want to be alone in the rest of my life.
Speaker 1: You know, my kids are going to grow up and
Speaker 1: then what you know, I'll be up by myself. Did
Speaker 1: he know about the kids before you guys went out? Yes, yeah,
Speaker 1: I did on my profile. It's very you know, I
Speaker 1: made sure that people knew that because I know that
Speaker 1: could be like a problem, and maybe it is and
Speaker 1: he was just being nice about it. I don't know. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I was gonna say, how did that conversation go. When
Speaker 1: you talked about your kids, he seemed fine with it.
Speaker 1: I mean, he's never been married before, he didn't have
Speaker 1: many kids of his own, but he had some nephews
Speaker 1: and nieces, and he see my tea really liked hanging
Speaker 1: out with him with them and stop. So that's not
Speaker 1: bad because you bring up kids with me on a
Speaker 1: date and it's like a hole through the wall, like
Speaker 1: a cartoon character. I bust out of there so quickly.
Speaker 1: Some guys are like that. You know, you wouldn't write exactly,
Speaker 1: but you wouldn't go on a date with somebody who
Speaker 1: had it on their profile to begin with. It depends
Speaker 1: what you looked like. Okay, so how many times have
Speaker 1: you tried to get a hold of him since you've
Speaker 1: gone out? I texted him the next day to say,
Speaker 1: you know, thanks for such a great night out. Let's
Speaker 1: seeing you again, And then I think I called him
Speaker 1: like two or three days later, but that was it.
Speaker 1: I don't want to be like a stalker, and I
Speaker 1: don't know. I don't know what to do. Am I
Speaker 1: supposed to call him? Is he supposed to call me?
Speaker 1: I don't know. Has he said anything back to you
Speaker 1: at all, no silence, like crickets, nothing, and you can't
Speaker 1: think of one thing that was awkward. The only thing
Speaker 1: I can think of is that he's like a little
Speaker 1: bit younger than me. And by a little you mean
Speaker 1: whoa like twelve years he's twelve years old. Way to go, girls,
Speaker 1: And I would say, oh, oh, twelve years younger. Okay,
Speaker 1: I just heard twelve years. I was like, wait a second, Jackie,
Speaker 1: you're doing this wrong. All right, So yeah, that could
Speaker 1: maybe possibly be a thing though, to be twelve years
Speaker 1: younger than somebody. Some people might care about that. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I guess twelve years might be kind of a lot
Speaker 1: for some people. But he seemed to be okay with it.
Speaker 1: And I put my age out there. I was very
Speaker 1: like honest on my profile. A lot of people like
Speaker 1: put a lot of garbage there and lie and all that,
Speaker 1: but I was really honest, and people tell me I
Speaker 1: look a lot younger than my age, and you know,
Speaker 1: and because all my information was out there, he knew
Speaker 1: what he was getting into. It wasn't like I got
Speaker 1: showed up and it was a surprise, right unless he
Speaker 1: was like, I don't know, maybe given it a try
Speaker 1: for the first time and then noticed that, Oh, we
Speaker 1: actually don't have anything in common. Oh maybe I thought that,
Speaker 1: you know, guys like the cougar thing. I don't know.
Speaker 1: We'll find out. We'll play a song, come back, call
Speaker 1: him and get your second date update. Okay, thank you,
Speaker 1: you're welcome. Hold on rooking Jubil in the morning. Second
Speaker 1: update if you're just tuning in for today's second date update.
Speaker 1: Jackie is on the phone and she wants to call
Speaker 1: a guy named John. Today. They met online. She's had
Speaker 1: a string of bad dates and apparently it's just jumped
Speaker 1: back into the dating world after getting a divorce and stuff.
Speaker 1: They went out, danced a little bit, and now he's
Speaker 1: not calling her back. She has no idea why, except
Speaker 1: she thinks it could have been because she has two
Speaker 1: kids and maybe that kind of scared him off. Jackie, Yeah,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm thinking, might have scared him off?
Speaker 1: Oh know what, your ability to work, that's right. Maybe
Speaker 1: just maybe you were dropping it a little too hard
Speaker 1: on the dance floor, Jackie, what do you think? I
Speaker 1: don't know. I mean, maybe he doesn't like the way
Speaker 1: I can't I don't know. I can hear it in
Speaker 1: your voice. You know how to get down, don't you. Yeah,
Speaker 1: oh my god, that would that would probably have been
Speaker 1: shocking for him, seeing that you are twelve years older
Speaker 1: than he is. Well, you know, I don't. I don't
Speaker 1: do all those workouts for nothing. Yeah. I've been doing
Speaker 1: that infanity thing for years and you're trying to keep
Speaker 1: myself a good stake. All right. Well, I'm gonna dial
Speaker 1: his phone number now and see why he's not calling
Speaker 1: you back. Okay, thank you. Hello, Hi is John there?
Speaker 1: This is John. Hey John, how are you. This is Jewil.
Speaker 1: I host a radio show called Brook and Jewel in
Speaker 1: the Morning. Oh okay, I think I heard of you.
Speaker 1: What's this about? Well, I wanted to ask you a
Speaker 1: few questions if you have a second about what about
Speaker 1: your dating life? Oh that's weird. Well I'll explain. We
Speaker 1: do a segment on our show called the second Date Update.
Speaker 1: It's where if you go out on a date with
Speaker 1: somebody and then end up blowing them off after the date,
Speaker 1: they email us to see if I can get you
Speaker 1: on the phone and ask why so you recently went
Speaker 1: on a date with one of our listeners. Her name
Speaker 1: is Jackie. Oh okay, Oh my gosh. So Jackie told
Speaker 1: us about your date and said that she actually liked
Speaker 1: you a lot and wanted to see you again. But
Speaker 1: she's wondering why you're not answering your phone calls. Oh,
Speaker 1: she's she's really great. It just I just don't think
Speaker 1: it's going to be right though. Is there a particular reason,
Speaker 1: you know, just sometimes you're you know, you just don't
Speaker 1: match up, that's all you know. Does it have anything
Speaker 1: to do with the fact that she's twelve years older
Speaker 1: than you? No, no, I knew that. I knew that
Speaker 1: that before we went out. So and she, you know,
Speaker 1: she's a really she's really fun, she's really great, and
Speaker 1: I hope she finds somebody great to be with. Okay,
Speaker 1: if she's so great, then why don't you want to
Speaker 1: go out with her again? Yeah? Yeah, it's just I
Speaker 1: just I want with best for her. So do you
Speaker 1: feel like you guys are looking for different things in life? Uh? Yeah,
Speaker 1: you know, I think I think, you know, I just
Speaker 1: want her to really be happy if she deserves that.
Speaker 1: It sounds kind of like you're dancing John, be honest.
Speaker 1: Is it the age thing? Like you can tell us
Speaker 1: the truth? No? No, no, no, she doesn't even look
Speaker 1: her age Actually she she looks great, so she's great,
Speaker 1: fun to be around, beautiful, gorgeous. Yeah, and has kids
Speaker 1: and you don't mind kids. So everything about her is
Speaker 1: perfect for you, and that's why you don't want to
Speaker 1: see her again. I really like her. I think she's awesome,
Speaker 1: but I think that in the end, it's not gonna
Speaker 1: work out. So why, Well, did she tell you that
Speaker 1: she's divorced too? Yeah? She did. She told us all that.
Speaker 1: And did I mean, did she tell you about like
Speaker 1: what her ex husband's like. No, we could have gotten
Speaker 1: into that, but I was more concerned with hearing about
Speaker 1: your date with her or not her ex husband problem. Yeah. Well,
Speaker 1: he's just like he's just he's he just really has
Speaker 1: this stuff together. He's this big time investment banker and
Speaker 1: very successful and probably provided a lot for her that
Speaker 1: I just can't do. Wait a minute, you realize he
Speaker 1: was also a bag who she divorced, right, and he
Speaker 1: doesn't like at all. I don't really know too much
Speaker 1: of the details of why they got divorced or anything.
Speaker 1: We didn't really talk that much about that. I just
Speaker 1: know I'm barely getting high life started. I just started
Speaker 1: working in publiculations and I'm not going to be able
Speaker 1: to give her that. That is so unfair to her. Dude,
Speaker 1: not only are you saying that, I mean it just
Speaker 1: implies that she is looking for someone with money. No,
Speaker 1: but it's not. It's not even like that at all though.
Speaker 1: I'm just talking about that there's a standard of living
Speaker 1: that people are used to being at and I can't
Speaker 1: fit into that for her. I can't give her that.
Speaker 1: That's real, that's like very real. It's not anything bad
Speaker 1: about her, in fact, That's That's what I'm trying to say,
Speaker 1: is I think she's she's really great, and I want
Speaker 1: her to have what she should have in life, and
Speaker 1: I can't give that. Yeah, but don't you think that
Speaker 1: maybe she has her own money and her own way
Speaker 1: of life, and that actually maybe she wasn't reliant on
Speaker 1: her ex husband at all. I don't know about that.
Speaker 1: I just I don't think that we're in the same
Speaker 1: place in our lives. And if you talk to her,
Speaker 1: can you just tell her I had a really wonderful
Speaker 1: time with her and I really want the best for her.
Speaker 1: I can do that, But why don't you do it yourself?
Speaker 1: Because she's actually on the phone listening to this conversation.
Speaker 1: What yeah, Jackie, Hi John, Oh, listen, I think you're
Speaker 1: you're you're great, and I wish you didn't feel that
Speaker 1: way because none of that stuff matters to me at all, really,
Speaker 1: But it's going to look you're You're used to a
Speaker 1: guy that's really put together and has everything kind of
Speaker 1: figured out and I'm just getting started and I'm just
Speaker 1: kind of figuring out where I fit in life right now.
Speaker 1: And no, but I like that about you. I like
Speaker 1: that you're excited and looking forward to the future and
Speaker 1: have all kinds of ideas and things. I mean, I've
Speaker 1: already been there, done that with a guy who's a jerk.
Speaker 1: I don't need to go down that road again. You
Speaker 1: like it now, but in you know, two months, it's
Speaker 1: gonna be boring to you and you're gonna want more.
Speaker 1: You're gonna want to go out and go on crazy
Speaker 1: vacations that costs a lot of money that I can't
Speaker 1: give you. My god, you are so jumping to conclusions.
Speaker 1: What are you saying. I mean, that's where that's where
Speaker 1: it's headed, like, that's where that's why we went out.
Speaker 1: I mean that's where it's going to go eventually. And
Speaker 1: I can't do it. Well, really, none of that matters.
Speaker 1: I just wanted somebody that I could really click with,
Speaker 1: and I thought we had a great time together. You
Speaker 1: like me now, But the thing is is you're driving
Speaker 1: up to meet me in a Mercedes and I'm driving
Speaker 1: up to meet you in like a nineteen ninety nine Toyota.
Speaker 1: It doesn't matter. Remember the sounds of it. You're the
Speaker 1: only one that's concerned about it. She's not concerned about it. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but long term it's not going to work out. You know,
Speaker 1: nobody's say anything about long term. We could just hang
Speaker 1: out and hook up, you know. Yeah, did you mean
Speaker 1: hook up in the way that I think you meant
Speaker 1: hook up? Jackie? That means I don't know. I just
Speaker 1: wanted to have some fun and I want to be
Speaker 1: that serious as you should. You are making up for
Speaker 1: some lost time. That's right, that's right. You know, I
Speaker 1: never said I wanted to get married right now. I
Speaker 1: don't want anything serious right away. I didn't want to
Speaker 1: go and have some fun. Yeah, and John, you look
Speaker 1: like you can see a lot of fun. Okay, different
Speaker 1: from what I thought. Yeah, it sounds to me John
Speaker 1: like Jackie is not interested in a long term thing
Speaker 1: with you at all. She wants to chew you up
Speaker 1: and spit you out, which would be cool to do.
Speaker 1: All right, Well, in that case, would you guys like
Speaker 1: to go out on a second date? John? We will
Speaker 1: pay for it. Oh man. You know what, as long
Speaker 1: as there's no long term expectations then then hell yeah,
Speaker 1: I'd love to go out again. Does that sound okay
Speaker 1: with you, Jackie? Oh? I think I made my point.
Speaker 1: That sounds more than okay to me. All right, well,
Speaker 1: congratulations you too. It's a successful second date update. We'll
Speaker 1: send you out again. Oh that sounds wonderful. I can't
Speaker 1: wait to see you John. And just like Chewbel said,
Speaker 1: you know, there maybe some chewing and there maybe some
Speaker 1: spitting out. Yeah, in the morning,