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Speaker 1: Are everybody ready, Yes, here we go scrubbing in with

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Speaker 1: Bectilly and Tanya Brad and iHeartRadio and People's Choice Award

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Speaker 1: winning podcast.

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Speaker 2: Never gets sold, Uh truly never gets old. We have

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Speaker 2: plought ourselves over here. It'll be like a year from

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Speaker 2: now we're like still us, still proud.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, in twenty twenty, we're like, remember when we won

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Speaker 3: the People's Shows Word in twenty eighteen.

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Speaker 2: I don't have to be like scrubbing in an iHeartRadio

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Speaker 2: in twenty eighteen winning podcast.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, holding on.

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Speaker 2: We have a very special guest today. We've talked to

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Speaker 2: her on the phone. Y'all will maybe recognize her voice,

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Speaker 2: but she's in the studio with us today. So we

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Speaker 2: have Nicole Lappin in studio.

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Speaker 3: Hi. Hi, did you guys win in work?

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Speaker 2: Have you heard anything about it? You know, we just

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Speaker 2: thought we got a lot of response when you were

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Speaker 2: on with us last time, just people very interested in

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Speaker 2: what we talked about with you, just about I think

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Speaker 2: it was a lot about being powerful in the workplace

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Speaker 2: and being able to ask for what you wanted in

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Speaker 2: a way that was I don't know, like respectable.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean it's all about like being a modern

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Speaker 3: what you're doing. And it's a lot a lot of

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Speaker 3: it's actually great that we're having you back because it's

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Speaker 3: the holiday season and I feel like everybody is on

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Speaker 3: So we'd like to kind of dive into that.

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Speaker 2: Can I would like, I know, I definitely want obviously,

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Speaker 2: I want to get into that because I think that's

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Speaker 2: going to be very helpful. But how did you get

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Speaker 2: started in what you're like? How did this all come about?

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, girl, Well, I'm the least likely person

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Speaker 3: I grew up in an immigrant family, super broken home.

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Speaker 1: I started working really early and I just needed a job,

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Speaker 1: And I was like, apse, wait, can I swear here?

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Speaker 2: Literally, do I know about business.

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Speaker 3: News till you make it? Totally faked?

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Speaker 2: Until I made it I was.

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Speaker 1: I lied And I just figured out the language of

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Speaker 3: We just don't have a Rosetta stone.

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Speaker 1: Growing up, you know, we learned such crappy things like

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Speaker 3: I've said that from day one. I'm like, why do

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Speaker 2: Like adulting, that's what it should be called adulting.

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Speaker 1: And so many other women just like us, you know,

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Speaker 1: Totally, and by the way, cutting out your morning latte

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Speaker 1: And all I kept hearing were these experts. You said, like,

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Speaker 1: into some dark abyss you're writing, you know whatever that

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Speaker 3: You're saving for. I can start a folder called my wedding.

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Speaker 3: That is brilliant manifestation at its best. Wow.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, same account for the wedding.

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Speaker 2: we're waiting for that new business account to be open

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Speaker 3: Should we totally?

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Speaker 3: Let's just let's do the early registry totally.

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Speaker 2: But you got to you got your hedge fun guy

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Speaker 3: Hedge fun friends.

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Speaker 3: because it's it's crazy how you have all these filters on,

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Speaker 1: I don't know why you don't have a debt filter.

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Speaker 1: So financial infidelity is one of the biggest causes of divorce.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, not to be like what's your you know what

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Speaker 3: Let's just get the SDD testing your credit card.

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Speaker 1: take away your stuff, they can't take away your brain.

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Speaker 3: So I like, you know, a lot.

440
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Speaker 1: Of financial experts will say student debt is good debt.

441
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Speaker 3: It's kind of like avocados is good debt. I get it.

442
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Speaker 1: You don't want to gorge on avocados and walk them

443
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Speaker 1: ale all day or you'll be a fat ass. So

444
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Speaker 1: you don't want a boatload of debt, and you ultimately

445
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Speaker 1: want to dagle it, but it is considered like the

446
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Speaker 1: good fat or the good debt because you're investing in

447
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Speaker 1: yourself in future right earnings.

448
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Speaker 2: I know.

449
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Speaker 3: But here's the thing.

450
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Speaker 1: I mean, you want to be comfortable, like I like

451
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Speaker 1: to show you mine if you show me yours, And

452
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Speaker 1: so when uncomfortable conversations happen.

453
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Speaker 3: I mean, I have whole scripts in my.

454
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Speaker 1: Book about like having to talk with your significant other

455
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Speaker 1: like it's chilled, get a glass of wine. You know,

456
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Speaker 1: it's really talking about your goals and it's not an interrogation,

457
00:20:03,960 --> 00:20:05,720
Speaker 1: so it's saying, like what do you want to do?

458
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Speaker 3: You know, do you want to go in vacation?

459
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Speaker 1: You want those goals to be compatible because you ultimately

460
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Speaker 1: want to be spending on the same types of things,

461
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Speaker 1: and you just want to know they don't have to be.

462
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Speaker 3: Exactly the same.

463
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Speaker 1: But it's more of a conversation of dreaming together. Yeah,

464
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Speaker 1: and so you just kind of, yeah, flip it around.

465
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Speaker 3: That's so funny, Like I'm not scared to be like

466
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Speaker 3: when's last time I got tested? Or like do you

467
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Speaker 3: know what I mean? Like that doesn't scare me to

468
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Speaker 3: have that conversation. But yet I'm like, I don't think

469
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Speaker 3: I've ever asked a guy what his credit score was,

470
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Speaker 3: or what about how much he makes? Never? Never?

471
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Speaker 6: Yeah that.

472
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Speaker 1: So I did a study that should women would admit

473
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Speaker 1: their weight versus their salary. So in my books I

474
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Speaker 1: talk about how much I make and how much I

475
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Speaker 1: even made for my books because I thought people are

476
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Speaker 1: going to be curious, so I might as well just

477
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Speaker 1: tell them. So I'll show you mine if you show

478
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Speaker 1: me yours. And so I think something similar happens with

479
00:20:51,840 --> 00:20:55,920
Speaker 1: relationships too. If you can be open and honest, then

480
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Speaker 1: you're more likely to get an open and honest response back.

481
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Speaker 1: But you have to be comfortable in your own skin

482
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Speaker 1: before Yeah, sharing.

483
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Speaker 6: It's weird to be weird for tying to tell a

484
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Speaker 6: guy how much she makes on a day, wouldn't it?

485
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Speaker 3: Yeah, I would day. But like, when you're moving in together, yeah,

486
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Speaker 3: like I guess, yes.

487
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Speaker 2: Great, But my question is, like, once you're moving in together,

488
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Speaker 2: you're pretty like solid in the sense that you're pretty in.

489
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Speaker 3: Going to say, do I feel like it's a little

490
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Speaker 3: too late?

491
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Speaker 1: Well, I have a girlfriend who was like her baby

492
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Speaker 1: she did not know how much her baby daddy made.

493
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Speaker 3: I was so mad at her.

494
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Speaker 1: I was like, you have to have to have to

495
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Speaker 1: know what he's making if we're good or bad. Fine,

496
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Speaker 1: So you're already down the road when you're moving in together,

497
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Speaker 1: like it's just going to get more complicated and then

498
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Speaker 1: kids are going to happen house and you're just more

499
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Speaker 1: and more intertwined finances.

500
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Speaker 2: I need a do I need a will?

501
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Speaker 1: Do?

502
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Speaker 2: I need to create a will?

503
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Speaker 3: You do? I know if do you have stuff?

504
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Speaker 1: Yes? Yes?

505
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Speaker 3: I mean do you want to yeah? I know.

506
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Speaker 1: It's like it's more fun to have, but like that's

507
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Speaker 1: what rich bitches do.

508
00:22:07,400 --> 00:22:08,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, we do.

509
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Speaker 2: I just want to be able to, like, especially if

510
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Speaker 2: you have kids, Like if you have kids and you

511
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Speaker 2: have life insurance and all the advance maybe and all

512
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Speaker 2: that nonsense seems premature, a little morbid to do now.

513
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Speaker 1: It's just like, but you know, you put your big

514
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Speaker 1: girl Andy's on and you mosey on over to legal

515
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Speaker 1: zoom and you got it done. And it feels like

516
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Speaker 1: really empowering when you.

517
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Speaker 2: I almost feel like I'm putting something out there to

518
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Speaker 2: be like, No, it's.

519
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Speaker 3: Not the same as like a sub savings account for

520
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Speaker 3: the future wedding.

521
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Speaker 2: Manifesting something happening to me.

522
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Speaker 6: Okay, Nicole has to go in just a minute, leave

523
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Speaker 6: us with I don't know, do you have one more

524
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Speaker 6: question you want to get there before? Say?

525
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Speaker 1: Okay, I would totally miss my life for you.

526
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Speaker 3: Oh you're like traveling.

527
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Speaker 2: I mean you're traveling all over the place to speak

528
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Speaker 2: about this, which is also really empowering to be able

529
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Speaker 2: to be like, I'm here to talk about something that

530
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Speaker 2: no one wants to talk about. You know, it makes

531
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Speaker 2: people uncomfortable, and I think you make it feel it's

532
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Speaker 2: part of our It's part of everyone's life, like no

533
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Speaker 2: one holds it from nobody questions or problems with money.

534
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Speaker 2: So it's really cool. I mean, it's really amazing what

535
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Speaker 2: you're doing. And so young, you're just like taking on

536
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Speaker 2: the world.

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Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, I don't feel that way. I know

538
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Speaker 3: it's the concealer. That was a that's wording. Thank you.

539
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Speaker 3: We can talk about freezing eggs, which I did. Oh

540
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Speaker 3: it was your age too.

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Speaker 2: I wish you would have brought this up earlier.

542
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Speaker 1: Everybody says yes, and I documented the whole thing on

543
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Speaker 1: Good Morning America. You can watch it if you want,

544
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Speaker 1: But yeah, we should talk about that. I did it

545
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Speaker 1: when I was thirty one, and it's a great it's

546
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Speaker 1: it's a career. I think those are the taboos. I

547
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Speaker 1: think mental health, money, and fertility are probably the last taboos.

548
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Speaker 1: Sex and all that stuff, like we'll talk about from

549
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Speaker 1: hair to eternity. But I think it's a great investment

550
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Speaker 1: in your career.

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Speaker 3: It is expensive. I paid probably fifteen grand. Yeah that's

552
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Speaker 3: what I But I also heard it's like no fought.

553
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Speaker 2: No.

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Speaker 3: My friend has really been like looking into it, and

555
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Speaker 3: she's like, you're doing shots. You have to go to

556
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Speaker 3: somewhere where they broke and prod you every day for

557
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Speaker 3: how long is it like a month? Two weeks ago?

558
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Speaker 1: Oh?

559
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Speaker 3: But yeah, I mean it's like an insurance policy. And

560
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Speaker 3: you know, I think, but then you store them. How

561
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Speaker 3: long are your egg stored for?

562
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Speaker 1: I pay I don't know, I think six hundred bucks

563
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Speaker 1: a year or something, and so I paid for the

564
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Speaker 1: most amount of storage.

565
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Speaker 3: But nothing is more.

566
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Speaker 2: I'm not an expert in eggs.

567
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Speaker 3: It's just your eggs, right, Like they're not fertilized. That's right, Yeah,

568
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Speaker 3: that's right, So you can So egg freezing is new.

569
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Speaker 1: Embryo freezing has been around for a long so they

570
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Speaker 1: don't know a ton about it, but it's become more

571
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Speaker 1: popular now.

572
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Speaker 3: So when you want to have a baby, you get

573
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Speaker 3: your eggs and they put them back in you and

574
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Speaker 3: then you me it's a man. Yeah, naturally, right, unnaturally,

575
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Speaker 3: here's the thing again, another podcast. I'm coming back. We're

576
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Speaker 3: going to be talking about this. But yeah, you can either.

577
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Speaker 7: Who knows.

578
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Speaker 1: By the way, I never want to use mine, but

579
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Speaker 1: I can never grow back to my thirty one year

580
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Speaker 1: old eggs. Right, And nothing is more time, money and

581
00:25:11,720 --> 00:25:16,119
Speaker 1: energy intensive than children. So when people don't want to

582
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Speaker 1: talk about family planning and money planning in the same time,

583
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Speaker 1: I'm like, that is a conversation that has to happen together,

584
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Speaker 1: especially women. We need to plan out what we want

585
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Speaker 1: out of our personal lives and our careers together.

586
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Speaker 3: It's I had a mentor early on.

587
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Speaker 1: I was like twenty five or something and Mika Berzinski,

588
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Speaker 1: she's a morning Joe, and she called me one day

589
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Speaker 1: and she's like, do you want to get married?

590
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Speaker 3: I'm like, girl, I thought you'd never ask.

591
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Speaker 2: She's like, that's not what I was asking.

592
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Speaker 1: She's like, but do you really want to get married?

593
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Speaker 1: And I'm like I don't know. I'm marriage to my career.

594
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Speaker 1: She's like, you need to plan that, just like you

595
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Speaker 1: plan your career. And I'm like, I'm not going to

596
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Speaker 1: be that girl who's like thirsty, who's you know?

597
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Speaker 3: We all know that girl. I'm thirsty.

598
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Speaker 2: The self awareness is key forehead.

599
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Speaker 1: And you know, like she said, regardless if you're thirsty,

600
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Speaker 1: if you're hungry, if you're nothing, plan it out and

601
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Speaker 1: your goals will change as life happens.

602
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Speaker 3: And mine did. But it gave me direction.

603
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Speaker 1: It really made me think, whether you want kids or

604
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Speaker 1: don't want kids, I don't care.

605
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Speaker 3: It's about asking yourself that hard question.

606
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Speaker 1: Because I used to get anxiety all the time when

607
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Speaker 1: people are like, what do you want to do in

608
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Speaker 1: five years? What do you want to be in ten years?

609
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Speaker 1: I'm like, well, I just want to you know, world domination.

610
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Speaker 1: And it's like that's not an answer. That's actually not

611
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Speaker 1: an answer.

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Speaker 3: Answer.

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Speaker 2: Oh, I get so stressed out when you boss me

614
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Speaker 2: the five year plan. I'm like, because you.

615
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Speaker 1: Didn't actually answer the question, that's what That's the reason

616
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Speaker 1: I had so much anxiety, because I never.

617
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Speaker 3: Sat down I break it down into the three f's.

618
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Speaker 5: I'll leave you with my favorite f's.

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Speaker 3: The F words are family, finance, and fun. So what

620
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Speaker 3: are your fun goals? What are your finance goals? What

621
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Speaker 3: are your family goals?

622
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Speaker 1: And I break them down into one, three, five, seven,

623
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Speaker 1: ten year goals because they're little bite sized trunks and

624
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Speaker 1: they feel less scary than five years or times.

625
00:27:02,920 --> 00:27:04,560
Speaker 3: And so like they have to be compatible.

626
00:27:04,600 --> 00:27:07,919
Speaker 1: You can't be a stay at home mom and a

627
00:27:08,000 --> 00:27:11,480
Speaker 1: neuro surgeon or whatever. That's just not it doesn't work out.

628
00:27:11,880 --> 00:27:13,399
Speaker 1: Or you can't be a teacher and fly around the

629
00:27:13,400 --> 00:27:15,800
Speaker 1: world in a G five. I wish teachers made more money.

630
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Speaker 1: It doesn't work out that way. So they need to

631
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Speaker 1: be compatible, right, Like, because it's your one it's your

632
00:27:21,320 --> 00:27:21,760
Speaker 1: one life.

633
00:27:21,800 --> 00:27:24,560
Speaker 3: It's not like your personal life and your work life.

634
00:27:24,960 --> 00:27:27,520
Speaker 3: It's just you. And if you're not happy in one part,

635
00:27:27,560 --> 00:27:29,399
Speaker 3: you're not gonna be happy in general. Are you dating?

636
00:27:30,440 --> 00:27:30,720
Speaker 5: Yes?

637
00:27:31,119 --> 00:27:32,639
Speaker 3: You are dating one person?

638
00:27:33,119 --> 00:27:37,760
Speaker 1: Dating one person a monogamous to anagamous relationshipp Are you happy?

639
00:27:37,960 --> 00:27:39,520
Speaker 3: I'm happy? Is he the one?

640
00:27:40,720 --> 00:27:41,880
Speaker 2: Oh?

641
00:27:42,359 --> 00:27:42,600
Speaker 3: Yes?

642
00:27:43,480 --> 00:27:46,360
Speaker 2: If he's listening, Oh, if he's listening.

643
00:27:46,800 --> 00:27:52,080
Speaker 3: If not, how did I know? You have to go? Like,

644
00:27:52,920 --> 00:27:55,439
Speaker 3: how did you meet him? I actually met him at

645
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Speaker 3: a conference.

646
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Speaker 2: I was like come with me.

647
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Speaker 1: It was a CEO a conference that I've gone to

648
00:28:01,920 --> 00:28:06,239
Speaker 1: for ten years, and I actually asked him for a

649
00:28:06,280 --> 00:28:06,880
Speaker 1: brain date.

650
00:28:07,000 --> 00:28:10,320
Speaker 3: It was called a brain date. Yeah. Is that it's

651
00:28:10,359 --> 00:28:11,160
Speaker 3: like where you.

652
00:28:11,040 --> 00:28:15,399
Speaker 1: Just want to ask somebody about what they're doing, what

653
00:28:15,440 --> 00:28:17,639
Speaker 1: their company is, and so my girlfriend and I were

654
00:28:17,680 --> 00:28:18,560
Speaker 1: just missing brain date.

655
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Speaker 2: That's more like like for work and like business purposely.

656
00:28:22,960 --> 00:28:25,719
Speaker 3: It really was. I wasn't like actually asking him to

657
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Speaker 3: go out.

658
00:28:26,200 --> 00:28:32,400
Speaker 1: I was really curious about his company. Yeah, yea, yeah, yeah,

659
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Speaker 1: I played that game.

660
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Speaker 8: Yet to know, like about your career and what's your sign?

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Speaker 3: What's your sign? Dollar signs? That's pretty amazing.

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Speaker 2: That's got to be I know.

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Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, wait do you also not saying sorry?

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Speaker 3: That's a whole other podcast women say I'm sorry.

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Speaker 2: The time we just talked about with Sarah, we had

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Speaker 2: Sarah Drew from Gray's Anatomy on here and she was

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Speaker 2: saying she went in to ask if she could produce,

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Speaker 2: you know, a movie that she was involved in, and

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Speaker 2: she said, I just am like the worst. It's saying

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Speaker 2: asking and then saying sorry, I'm asking right.

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Speaker 3: Or I have a question.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I know, Sorry, I sorry to know. Sorry, No,

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Speaker 1: but for real sorry to do.

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Speaker 3: Where do you live full time? I don't keep asking? Sorry,

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Speaker 3: bye bye? But where can people? Where can people find you? Made?

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Speaker 1: I made a special site for you, guys, Nicole lappin

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Speaker 1: dot com slash scrubbing in You can get a free

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Speaker 1: chapter of my book whoa for you bitches?

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Speaker 1: I mean Nicole lappin dot com slash scrubbing coming in

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Speaker 3: Your guyss are there?

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Speaker 2: Where can people follow you?

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Speaker 6: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Wait, we'll tweet that out. We need to put the

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Speaker 3: award on there too.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: I know you got to wrap. You have to go.

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Speaker 3: I love you, will lap in perfect.

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Speaker 2: I'm coming back.

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Speaker 3: It's happening. I'm so sad Nicole's gone. But you know

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Speaker 3: what I could probably do. What's that watch videos of

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Speaker 3: her on YouTube?

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Speaker 6: Yeah you could. And all you have to do is

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Speaker 6: say Alexa, open YouTube and there it would be.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. But that's if you have Amazon fire TV.

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Speaker 6: Why wouldn't you Exactly?

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Speaker 6: TV makeup tutorials.

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Speaker 3: It is pretty fascinating. The time laps of videos are

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Speaker 3: pretty great. Well, also not make up tutorials, but if

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Speaker 3: my screen. That way, when my hands are all sticky

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Speaker 6: Keyword, I've heard you can actually listen to this here

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Speaker 3: No, good by to my old sheets. Well I got

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Speaker 6: That's a lot of space for you for just.

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Speaker 3: My life, I know, And I'm like a I sleep

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Speaker 3: on one side of the bed like I don't like

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Speaker 3: sprawl at all. Yeah, so it's a lot of It's

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Speaker 3: a lot, but that's part of it.

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Speaker 6: You're manifesting by leaving that space open, exactly. Amy and

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Speaker 6: I have a queen. We've always had a queen. Really, Yeah,

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Speaker 2: All right, so we have an amazing guest, Lisa Lampanelli.

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Speaker 2: She is very well known for her comedy. Mark and

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Speaker 2: Easton were geeking out.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, calm down, boys, don't mean to me again.

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Speaker 2: You Mark, well, you're you're kind of out promoting because

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Speaker 2: you're to really switching gears.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, you know, it was so funny.

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Speaker 9: About two and a half weeks ago, I announced on

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Speaker 9: my hero's show Howard Start, that I would no longer

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Speaker 9: be doing comedy, no more insult comedy. I'm still gonna

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Speaker 9: be funny. I'm still gonna do storytelling shows, and I'm

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Speaker 9: doing life coaching. I'm not funny in that instance, because

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Speaker 9: people with problems when.

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Speaker 7: You just make fun of their calpinises. But just look

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Speaker 7: at the Jewish guy and said that.

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Speaker 9: But no, I just feel I felt like stand up

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Speaker 9: wasn't doing it for me anymore I had. I didn't

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Speaker 9: have the joy I used to, you know, I remember

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Speaker 9: the old days we do open mics. In the first

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Speaker 9: few years of comedy, when I really started making I

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Speaker 9: was like, oh my god, I couldn't wait to get

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Speaker 9: on the stage. And he said that joy is kind

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Speaker 9: of leaving, So what do I really want to do?

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Speaker 7: That lights me up again.

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Speaker 9: And every time I tried doing something like a workshop

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Speaker 9: for women or storytelling event, I was like, oh, that's

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Speaker 9: what gets me going. So I said, I'm gonna follow

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Speaker 9: my heart, not like I let my head talk me

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Speaker 9: out of it, because that's what we all let happen.

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Speaker 7: And he said, hey, what's the worst that can happen?

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Speaker 7: Who cares?

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Speaker 9: That's that's always stay stuck Mark eye Jewish guys, that's.

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Speaker 7: Always says, what is his name?

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Speaker 2: Easton?

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Speaker 9: Of course it is. That has nothing to do with Judaism. However,

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Speaker 9: it's named after a town in Connecticut, a very big

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Speaker 9: connect Can I just go, you Ian?

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Speaker 6: Please?

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Speaker 2: Do I like that?

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Speaker 1: Now?

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Speaker 9: I just feel people get in their head about it

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Speaker 9: and instead of going after their heart's desire, they just go,

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Speaker 9: oh no, I'll just settle. And I felt like I

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Speaker 9: was settling for not happiness and joy. I was selling

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Speaker 9: for something that paid well, and yes I loved it

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Speaker 9: at the time, but now, oh my god, like every

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Speaker 9: day is just so much happier.

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Speaker 3: I think that's what happens to a lot of people,

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Speaker 3: Like they kind of get into profession and then there

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Speaker 3: may be how many years and five years, ten years,

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Speaker 3: fifteen years, and then they realize that they're not really

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Speaker 3: they're not passionate about they're doing and they want to

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Speaker 3: make a switch. But then they're like, well, I'm making

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Speaker 3: X amount of dollars here. If I actually do what

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Speaker 3: I want to do and pursue this, I could be

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Speaker 3: making nothing if they want to be an entrepreneur like something.

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Speaker 3: I think that's also like really scary. So how did

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Speaker 3: you ate that part?

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Speaker 9: Well, the fact is, you know, I as a comic,

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Speaker 9: I made a good deal of money, and I don't

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Speaker 9: have these huge needs anymore that I thought I had.

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Speaker 9: I thought I had to have everything fancy. I thought

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Speaker 9: I had to have drivers and stay at the peninsula

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Speaker 9: and always be like buying expensive stuff. It's so freaking meaningless.

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Speaker 9: And the minute I said, you know what, if I

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Speaker 9: don't make another sense, I've saved enough money to live

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Speaker 9: modestly for the rest of my life. My business manager,

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Speaker 9: by the way, said the funniest thing to me because

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Speaker 9: I have a really nice house. And I said, can

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Speaker 9: I afford to keep my house if I don't ever

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Speaker 9: make money again? He goes, yes, you can if you

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Speaker 9: only live fifteen more years.

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Speaker 7: So I got to kill myself.

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Speaker 1: No.

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Speaker 9: But what's funny is now, because I did it with

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Speaker 9: an open heart, I'm getting booked for speaking engagements and

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Speaker 9: retreats and workshops, and I'm like, oh my god, this

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Speaker 9: actually if you do go with it, it does happen.

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Speaker 7: But we get scared and we don't allow it.

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Speaker 9: I even give a workshop call when it's time to change,

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Speaker 9: and Mark will remember because you're elderly. It's Peter Brady

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Speaker 9: change saying when it's time to change, And it's about

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Speaker 9: people who feel stuck and how to get them past it,

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Speaker 9: because honestly, ask yourself, what's the worst that can happen,

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Speaker 9: and do it anyway.

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Speaker 7: I never when I start a comedy.

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Speaker 9: You think I thought I'd make a cent from calling

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Speaker 9: people names on stage, But look at me. I'm a baller.

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Speaker 9: I don't like to brag, but I got a ten

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Speaker 9: dollars shirt on more than Easton. But see, I think

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Speaker 9: it's it's interesting that we could just go with our

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Speaker 9: heart and the fear just gets.

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Speaker 7: In the way.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, well what happened?

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Speaker 2: Like wait, at what point were you like this isn't

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Speaker 2: fun anymore? Because you, I mean, you were making a

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Speaker 2: living making fun of people, sure, And like at what point?

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Speaker 2: Because I mean, you know a lot of people are

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Speaker 2: really sensitive to that, and like, like, if I say

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Speaker 2: something and it hurts someone's feelings, I'm immediately like, oh no,

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Speaker 2: like how do I fix that?

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Speaker 9: And course, of course, and the thing is with insult comedy,

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Speaker 9: you know, in the real roast tradition, it's about intention.

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Speaker 9: It's about if I like you, I make fun of you.

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Speaker 9: I like you too, Jew and another guy, I like you,

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Speaker 9: so I make fun I don't make fun of the

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Speaker 9: girls because they're super cute.

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Speaker 7: What's say about that? Gorgeous? But you know they got

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Speaker 7: a warmth.

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Speaker 9: I got a warm for them. If somebody doesn't, I'm like, oh, okay,

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Speaker 9: maybe they won't understand.

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Speaker 7: Maybe they're not mad.

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Speaker 9: But I've apologized to individuals about certain jokes.

880
00:38:10,680 --> 00:38:11,880
Speaker 7: But I was lucky enough to have the kind of

881
00:38:11,960 --> 00:38:13,279
Speaker 7: audience who just knew.

882
00:38:13,520 --> 00:38:15,480
Speaker 3: Whatever job and they loved it.

883
00:38:15,480 --> 00:38:18,360
Speaker 9: It in me felt like it wasn't as fun for

884
00:38:18,440 --> 00:38:21,080
Speaker 9: me anymore either. So what I said was also now

885
00:38:21,120 --> 00:38:24,400
Speaker 9: that the world's kind of crazy with you know, bullying

886
00:38:24,520 --> 00:38:28,560
Speaker 9: and transgender stuff, like people being mean to transgender people.

887
00:38:28,320 --> 00:38:28,759
Speaker 7: And gay people.

888
00:38:28,800 --> 00:38:30,080
Speaker 5: I was like, you know what, if it's not.

889
00:38:30,000 --> 00:38:32,279
Speaker 9: Going to contribute to a good conversation, I don't want

890
00:38:32,320 --> 00:38:35,080
Speaker 9: to say it, you know, So I decided back off

891
00:38:35,120 --> 00:38:37,480
Speaker 9: that be funny some other way, and it really just

892
00:38:37,480 --> 00:38:41,720
Speaker 9: feels a lot better. That's really fat It's pretty freaking amazing.

893
00:38:41,960 --> 00:38:45,280
Speaker 9: I think I'm an example for all. I think everyone

894
00:38:45,320 --> 00:38:47,480
Speaker 9: should email me. Well, that's why I'm getting certified as

895
00:38:47,480 --> 00:38:50,160
Speaker 9: a life coach, because just to I want people to

896
00:38:50,200 --> 00:38:52,279
Speaker 9: feel that they can get out of this sphere and

897
00:38:52,280 --> 00:38:53,080
Speaker 9: get out of their way.

898
00:38:53,320 --> 00:38:56,240
Speaker 3: How do you How long is that process?

899
00:38:56,320 --> 00:38:58,200
Speaker 9: I'm doing it the right way. A lot of these

900
00:38:58,239 --> 00:38:59,799
Speaker 9: ytes go online and print out a suit.

901
00:39:00,280 --> 00:39:01,040
Speaker 7: Oh I don't buy that.

902
00:39:01,520 --> 00:39:03,200
Speaker 3: To believe me, I went to one. I was taking

903
00:39:03,280 --> 00:39:07,200
Speaker 3: some pills or something, Artis Center or whatever.

904
00:39:07,280 --> 00:39:08,719
Speaker 7: Oh my god, I got my side.

905
00:39:08,760 --> 00:39:10,520
Speaker 9: This is so funny because I practice coach a few

906
00:39:10,520 --> 00:39:13,080
Speaker 9: people because just be certified, you have to practice coach

907
00:39:13,120 --> 00:39:16,279
Speaker 9: people for like two years. So I'm practice coaching these

908
00:39:16,320 --> 00:39:18,000
Speaker 9: couple of straight guys. And it's really funny because I

909
00:39:18,000 --> 00:39:19,800
Speaker 9: always thought I'd be the best coach for women and

910
00:39:19,840 --> 00:39:23,000
Speaker 9: gay guys, because those are my people. Women and gay guys,

911
00:39:23,120 --> 00:39:26,640
Speaker 9: no offense, but you just like are too slow for me,

912
00:39:26,800 --> 00:39:27,279
Speaker 9: Like it's like.

913
00:39:27,320 --> 00:39:30,000
Speaker 7: Oh, I want to complain only goodness.

914
00:39:30,200 --> 00:39:32,120
Speaker 9: Straight guys when they ask for help, they're like, I

915
00:39:32,160 --> 00:39:34,040
Speaker 9: want it now and they move forward.

916
00:39:34,080 --> 00:39:34,800
Speaker 7: They like action.

917
00:39:35,239 --> 00:39:37,560
Speaker 9: So one guy I'm coaching is awesome, like he's this

918
00:39:37,640 --> 00:39:40,440
Speaker 9: billionaire and he's like, look, I said, He's like, my

919
00:39:40,480 --> 00:39:43,120
Speaker 9: life is miserable. I go make a list of things

920
00:39:43,160 --> 00:39:45,600
Speaker 9: that don't serve you anymore that are still in your life,

921
00:39:45,600 --> 00:39:48,560
Speaker 9: and we'll talk about it next week. He says it's

922
00:39:48,600 --> 00:39:52,440
Speaker 9: two relationships that he's having, alcohol ambient and an adderall

923
00:39:52,480 --> 00:39:54,560
Speaker 9: and he goes, after our talking again, he goes, I'm

924
00:39:54,560 --> 00:39:55,920
Speaker 9: getting rid of all of them by next week.

925
00:39:55,960 --> 00:39:58,680
Speaker 7: I go, well, listen, I think you should talk to

926
00:39:58,719 --> 00:39:59,120
Speaker 7: the doctor.

927
00:40:01,360 --> 00:40:02,600
Speaker 6: Talk to him, but I'll get.

928
00:40:02,400 --> 00:40:02,759
Speaker 1: Rid of me.

929
00:40:03,280 --> 00:40:05,120
Speaker 9: And I was so proud of him, and I'm like,

930
00:40:05,120 --> 00:40:06,920
Speaker 9: oh my god, he did it. So I like that

931
00:40:07,000 --> 00:40:09,360
Speaker 9: action oriented stuff because I'm very no nonsense. I'm not

932
00:40:09,400 --> 00:40:11,600
Speaker 9: gonna yell at you if you're slow. But point, it's

933
00:40:11,600 --> 00:40:12,880
Speaker 9: really fun coaching people.

934
00:40:12,640 --> 00:40:14,840
Speaker 7: Who really want to change. It's interesting to me.

935
00:40:15,000 --> 00:40:17,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, well, how I mean being someone's life coach, Like

936
00:40:17,719 --> 00:40:20,000
Speaker 2: that's a big responsibility to say, hey, I'm going to

937
00:40:20,080 --> 00:40:22,400
Speaker 2: help you guy, I'm going to help guide you into

938
00:40:22,520 --> 00:40:24,040
Speaker 2: like something that makes you happier.

939
00:40:24,120 --> 00:40:27,680
Speaker 9: Well, yes, you know what's interesting too. Our coach, our

940
00:40:27,719 --> 00:40:30,919
Speaker 9: teacher is Martha Beck. She writes for Old Magazine. She's

941
00:40:31,200 --> 00:40:32,520
Speaker 9: quite famous in this business.

942
00:40:32,920 --> 00:40:33,240
Speaker 7: Well.

943
00:40:33,600 --> 00:40:37,800
Speaker 9: She says, life coaching is for the worried. Well, therapy

944
00:40:37,840 --> 00:40:41,120
Speaker 9: is for the worried sick. So if someone is legitimately

945
00:40:41,520 --> 00:40:45,120
Speaker 9: needs therapy, we refer them out because honestly, I get emails.

946
00:40:45,160 --> 00:40:47,359
Speaker 9: I have literally a stack right now of people who

947
00:40:47,360 --> 00:40:49,759
Speaker 9: want me to use them for practice, and I'm like

948
00:40:49,880 --> 00:40:51,399
Speaker 9: that one is like, I don't.

949
00:40:51,400 --> 00:40:52,840
Speaker 7: I'm not a therapist.

950
00:40:52,360 --> 00:40:55,319
Speaker 3: I don't they need some serious stuff, and you just go, well.

951
00:40:55,239 --> 00:40:55,680
Speaker 7: That's okay.

952
00:40:55,719 --> 00:40:58,440
Speaker 9: And there's the other ones too, said they've contemplated suicide.

953
00:40:58,680 --> 00:40:59,920
Speaker 7: Listen, I don't need that.

954
00:41:00,640 --> 00:41:03,160
Speaker 9: I'm trying to start a business here other than Mark

955
00:41:03,239 --> 00:41:05,200
Speaker 9: killing himself on the air, which would be terrific for

956
00:41:05,239 --> 00:41:06,320
Speaker 9: my business.

957
00:41:07,360 --> 00:41:09,279
Speaker 7: So you just kind of know what you know.

958
00:41:09,640 --> 00:41:13,640
Speaker 9: And my job is to help people literally get rid

959
00:41:13,719 --> 00:41:16,320
Speaker 9: of limiting beliefs that are keeping them back because the

960
00:41:16,400 --> 00:41:18,759
Speaker 9: thing you brought up so well about people are afraid to,

961
00:41:19,080 --> 00:41:21,680
Speaker 9: you know, move out of something that pays. Well, what

962
00:41:21,840 --> 00:41:24,640
Speaker 9: limiting belief is in there that makes people think that

963
00:41:24,880 --> 00:41:26,360
Speaker 9: of like, oh, I can never go out on my

964
00:41:26,400 --> 00:41:29,640
Speaker 9: own because we all have some programming from childhood or

965
00:41:29,680 --> 00:41:32,680
Speaker 9: a bad relationship or something that keeps us in one place.

966
00:41:33,280 --> 00:41:36,000
Speaker 9: And my whole coaching stuff started with body image and

967
00:41:36,040 --> 00:41:37,680
Speaker 9: weight stuff because I had lost, you know, over one

968
00:41:37,719 --> 00:41:40,799
Speaker 9: hundred pounds kept it off six years, and a lot

969
00:41:40,840 --> 00:41:43,520
Speaker 9: of the coaching I'd like to do is about getting

970
00:41:43,560 --> 00:41:46,160
Speaker 9: peace around this body image stuff because I don't know

971
00:41:46,239 --> 00:41:50,680
Speaker 9: anyone who likes themselves the way they are. Dude, you're

972
00:41:50,719 --> 00:41:53,200
Speaker 9: telling me, I mean there's women that look like you

973
00:41:53,239 --> 00:41:54,600
Speaker 9: guys who don't like themselves.

974
00:41:54,640 --> 00:41:56,080
Speaker 7: And I'm like, first of all, I hate you.

975
00:41:56,600 --> 00:41:59,480
Speaker 3: Second no, it's just like you can always find something.

976
00:42:00,160 --> 00:42:02,200
Speaker 3: It's sad to me, so sad.

977
00:42:02,200 --> 00:42:03,920
Speaker 9: Because there's women I look at on the street and

978
00:42:03,920 --> 00:42:05,560
Speaker 9: I go, I bet she has no problem. Well I

979
00:42:05,560 --> 00:42:07,840
Speaker 9: don't think that anymore because they'll be in a workshop.

980
00:42:07,880 --> 00:42:10,880
Speaker 9: I have a workshop called Love your Body, Feeds Your

981
00:42:10,880 --> 00:42:12,719
Speaker 9: Soul that I give with a yoga teacher as well.

982
00:42:13,200 --> 00:42:16,040
Speaker 9: And I'm telling you, these women, when you look at them,

983
00:42:16,080 --> 00:42:20,000
Speaker 9: they look perfect, but inside they're just feeding themselves a

984
00:42:20,040 --> 00:42:23,320
Speaker 9: bad message. Okay, we all need peace around this food.

985
00:42:23,520 --> 00:42:26,480
Speaker 9: Like right now, I have so much peace around body image,

986
00:42:26,520 --> 00:42:27,160
Speaker 9: like too much.

987
00:42:27,960 --> 00:42:30,160
Speaker 7: I look in the mirror, I'm like you're so cute.

988
00:42:30,480 --> 00:42:32,760
Speaker 9: Like I really hated the way I looked until about

989
00:42:32,840 --> 00:42:35,120
Speaker 9: three years ago. And now I'm like, yeah, that's right,

990
00:42:35,719 --> 00:42:41,279
Speaker 9: it's boomerang. But I'm still finding peace around food. That's difficult.

991
00:42:41,400 --> 00:42:43,640
Speaker 9: I still have to go okay, am I physically hungry

992
00:42:43,760 --> 00:42:46,200
Speaker 9: or emotionally hungry?

993
00:42:44,920 --> 00:42:48,320
Speaker 3: That was my trigger too. Do you know it's funny

994
00:42:48,320 --> 00:42:50,400
Speaker 3: because I did this whole I think it's been like

995
00:42:50,760 --> 00:42:53,400
Speaker 3: probably about a year. I started doing this accountability program,

996
00:42:53,480 --> 00:42:56,160
Speaker 3: and I lost like sixteen pounds and I've kept the

997
00:42:56,200 --> 00:42:57,600
Speaker 3: majority of off, but I kind of you know you

998
00:42:57,719 --> 00:42:59,719
Speaker 3: obviously everybody goes back and forth a few pounds here

999
00:42:59,719 --> 00:43:02,560
Speaker 3: and there. And it's really funny because as I, like,

1000
00:43:03,680 --> 00:43:05,960
Speaker 3: I've had this relationship with food, and I realized that,

1001
00:43:06,080 --> 00:43:10,120
Speaker 3: like it's so you emotion I'll eat just sometimes when

1002
00:43:10,120 --> 00:43:12,560
Speaker 3: I'm like sad or sometimes even when I'm happy, Like

1003
00:43:12,600 --> 00:43:14,920
Speaker 3: you just you just eat when when you're emotional.

1004
00:43:15,080 --> 00:43:19,240
Speaker 9: Food is for everything, including celebration. Yeah, I go according

1005
00:43:19,239 --> 00:43:21,319
Speaker 9: to the eighty twenty rule, eighty percent of the time.

1006
00:43:21,400 --> 00:43:22,360
Speaker 7: I eat super healthy.

1007
00:43:22,400 --> 00:43:24,560
Speaker 9: Because of my you know, weight loss surgery, I have

1008
00:43:24,640 --> 00:43:26,520
Speaker 9: to really eat a lot of protein and greens. I

1009
00:43:26,560 --> 00:43:28,840
Speaker 9: really have to keep it pretty clean twenty percent of

1010
00:43:28,840 --> 00:43:32,120
Speaker 9: the time, though, I'm gonna eat something fun. Yeah, if

1011
00:43:32,160 --> 00:43:34,920
Speaker 9: you ask me to your off birthday party and there

1012
00:43:35,040 --> 00:43:37,920
Speaker 9: is no cake, I'm telling you I don't go for that.

1013
00:43:38,360 --> 00:43:40,799
Speaker 7: I like to have a nice piece of cake. What

1014
00:43:40,840 --> 00:43:41,560
Speaker 7: are you crazy?

1015
00:43:41,680 --> 00:43:44,319
Speaker 9: And nobody ever better say to me, let's celebrate my

1016
00:43:44,400 --> 00:43:45,680
Speaker 9: birthday with a nice walk?

1017
00:43:46,120 --> 00:43:47,040
Speaker 7: Are you kidding me?

1018
00:43:47,280 --> 00:43:48,160
Speaker 2: I wish I was in.

1019
00:43:48,360 --> 00:43:51,040
Speaker 7: Oh you did that. I can't coach you.

1020
00:43:51,080 --> 00:43:51,840
Speaker 2: I'm sorry.

1021
00:43:52,760 --> 00:43:54,200
Speaker 3: I don't say a nice walk, but I was like,

1022
00:43:54,239 --> 00:43:57,600
Speaker 3: I would enjoy a fruitcake of something.

1023
00:43:57,360 --> 00:44:00,600
Speaker 7: Like what, uh you need coaching by listen.

1024
00:44:00,840 --> 00:44:03,399
Speaker 9: It's just really funny because we deprive ourselves. I read

1025
00:44:03,400 --> 00:44:06,440
Speaker 9: a great quote online which I hate inspirational quotes and stuff,

1026
00:44:06,440 --> 00:44:07,640
Speaker 9: but sometimes.

1027
00:44:07,360 --> 00:44:12,719
Speaker 7: Things opposite people by I'll tell you why.

1028
00:44:12,719 --> 00:44:15,680
Speaker 9: I don't like affirmations like oh, you're beautiful. Oh I'm this,

1029
00:44:15,800 --> 00:44:18,000
Speaker 9: I'm this, I'm that. It's another thing to fail at.

1030
00:44:18,320 --> 00:44:19,760
Speaker 9: So in other words, if I look in the mirror

1031
00:44:19,800 --> 00:44:22,640
Speaker 9: and say I'm beautiful and then don't feel it, then

1032
00:44:22,840 --> 00:44:25,040
Speaker 9: I feel like, oh, I failed it, even my affirmation.

1033
00:44:25,320 --> 00:44:27,960
Speaker 9: So I always say, you can't go for my hate yourself.

1034
00:44:28,120 --> 00:44:30,319
Speaker 9: I hate myself? Do I love myself without a lot

1035
00:44:30,360 --> 00:44:33,000
Speaker 9: of steps in between. You know, I accept myself.

1036
00:44:33,080 --> 00:44:35,880
Speaker 3: You know it's funny that actually I've done that really helps,

1037
00:44:36,080 --> 00:44:38,359
Speaker 3: is I walk around naked all the time. Naked.

1038
00:44:38,360 --> 00:44:41,359
Speaker 9: It's good for you, not for my neighbors. I mean,

1039
00:44:41,440 --> 00:44:44,359
Speaker 9: I'm a.

1040
00:44:45,360 --> 00:44:50,960
Speaker 3: Something that happens to you, like psych psychological, psychologically when

1041
00:44:51,000 --> 00:44:53,520
Speaker 3: you see yourself naked a lot that just like makes

1042
00:44:53,560 --> 00:44:54,640
Speaker 3: you more comfortable with your body.

1043
00:44:54,680 --> 00:44:55,680
Speaker 7: I'll tell you what happened to me.

1044
00:44:56,320 --> 00:44:59,319
Speaker 9: If I saw myself naked, I'd go freaking insane. I'd

1045
00:44:59,400 --> 00:45:02,080
Speaker 9: kill myself. If you find the suicide both me and Mark.

1046
00:45:03,560 --> 00:45:03,600
Speaker 2: No.

1047
00:45:03,719 --> 00:45:05,360
Speaker 7: And I tell you what it's interesting.

1048
00:45:05,400 --> 00:45:08,560
Speaker 9: Whatever works, that's what I like. You know, everything's gonna

1049
00:45:08,600 --> 00:45:11,440
Speaker 9: work for other people, and something's gonna work for everybody.

1050
00:45:11,600 --> 00:45:13,359
Speaker 9: And I think it's just our job to find that

1051
00:45:13,440 --> 00:45:15,879
Speaker 9: one thing where you go, oh, you know, I get

1052
00:45:15,880 --> 00:45:16,880
Speaker 9: what that person needs.

1053
00:45:17,000 --> 00:45:24,880
Speaker 4: What do we do about the negative? What do we

1054
00:45:25,000 --> 00:45:27,680
Speaker 4: do about the negative self talk?

1055
00:45:28,000 --> 00:45:28,680
Speaker 3: Oh?

1056
00:45:28,719 --> 00:45:32,239
Speaker 5: I'll tell you how do I stop that? Listen makes

1057
00:45:32,239 --> 00:45:33,040
Speaker 5: me crazy?

1058
00:45:33,080 --> 00:45:35,840
Speaker 9: Well, listen, you're, first of all, you're allowing it to

1059
00:45:35,840 --> 00:45:39,400
Speaker 9: make you crazy. I feel what we do is in

1060
00:45:39,400 --> 00:45:43,120
Speaker 9: one of our workshops, we have this resilience exercise. You

1061
00:45:43,320 --> 00:45:47,520
Speaker 9: make a list of things in the swamp. This is

1062
00:45:47,560 --> 00:45:50,840
Speaker 9: the stuff you tell yourself. These are actions, limiting beliefs

1063
00:45:50,960 --> 00:45:54,360
Speaker 9: and behaviors that really don't serve you. So, for instance,

1064
00:45:54,440 --> 00:45:56,719
Speaker 9: what's an example of a negative self talk? Mark, Please

1065
00:45:56,760 --> 00:45:58,040
Speaker 9: give the microphone to the lady.

1066
00:45:58,520 --> 00:45:59,759
Speaker 3: Work, get out of the way.

1067
00:46:00,120 --> 00:46:01,960
Speaker 7: See, this is why I don't give relationships. I just

1068
00:46:02,000 --> 00:46:02,319
Speaker 7: call it.

1069
00:46:02,360 --> 00:46:05,080
Speaker 4: I go to the dark place, like I I can

1070
00:46:05,160 --> 00:46:08,040
Speaker 4: have something that exists.

1071
00:46:07,200 --> 00:46:09,279
Speaker 7: That's one thing, just one thing, even if it's made up.

1072
00:46:09,320 --> 00:46:11,960
Speaker 2: Come on on the spot, on the spot, it's okay, Okay.

1073
00:46:12,200 --> 00:46:14,680
Speaker 5: Somebody doesn't text me back, yes, and I'm like.

1074
00:46:14,680 --> 00:46:15,239
Speaker 3: They hate me?

1075
00:46:15,680 --> 00:46:18,439
Speaker 7: Right, my life is over Watch this I saw. Okay,

1076
00:46:18,440 --> 00:46:20,360
Speaker 7: shut up, that's enough. Okay, no hate me.

1077
00:46:20,400 --> 00:46:22,080
Speaker 9: Stay at the mic. I'm gonna coach you. Watch this

1078
00:46:22,160 --> 00:46:24,600
Speaker 9: girl so you're gonna be like, wow, she's so good. Okay,

1079
00:46:24,680 --> 00:46:26,839
Speaker 9: I'm gonna do a resilience exercise.

1080
00:46:26,920 --> 00:46:27,160
Speaker 6: Okay.

1081
00:46:27,440 --> 00:46:29,640
Speaker 9: First step of having resilience, which you all know is

1082
00:46:29,680 --> 00:46:32,120
Speaker 9: stick to it, inness, bouncing back, et cetera, which is

1083
00:46:32,120 --> 00:46:35,160
Speaker 9: what we need to do. What is the reality of

1084
00:46:35,200 --> 00:46:38,480
Speaker 9: that situation? That's step one. Face reality as it is,

1085
00:46:38,520 --> 00:46:41,799
Speaker 9: because we're making up stuff up so what is the reality?

1086
00:46:41,960 --> 00:46:44,279
Speaker 7: What is this person done or not done? And what

1087
00:46:44,320 --> 00:46:44,759
Speaker 7: does it mean?

1088
00:46:44,800 --> 00:46:48,560
Speaker 4: The only fact is that they just haven't responded yet exactly.

1089
00:46:48,680 --> 00:46:50,480
Speaker 7: So you've faced reality as it is.

1090
00:46:51,239 --> 00:46:53,359
Speaker 5: Secondly, fifty percent of my brain can do this.

1091
00:46:53,480 --> 00:46:56,600
Speaker 9: The other fifty well, guess what you'll have sixty by

1092
00:46:56,640 --> 00:46:57,040
Speaker 9: the end of this.

1093
00:46:58,040 --> 00:46:59,240
Speaker 7: All right, face realities?

1094
00:46:59,320 --> 00:47:03,799
Speaker 9: Is The second is behavior or thought or emotion you

1095
00:47:03,840 --> 00:47:09,640
Speaker 9: can replace to make you some little bit of action

1096
00:47:09,840 --> 00:47:12,440
Speaker 9: forward that you could do to make that more pleasant.

1097
00:47:12,520 --> 00:47:14,520
Speaker 9: What can you do in your head? Where can you

1098
00:47:14,560 --> 00:47:17,320
Speaker 9: what can you think to make that reality more pleasant?

1099
00:47:17,440 --> 00:47:18,319
Speaker 5: And this does work?

1100
00:47:18,520 --> 00:47:22,839
Speaker 4: Yes, I mean my brain can then say like he's

1101
00:47:22,960 --> 00:47:24,840
Speaker 4: just busy or well you don't know that.

1102
00:47:25,480 --> 00:47:27,400
Speaker 5: Oh, so I have to be really factual about it.

1103
00:47:27,440 --> 00:47:29,560
Speaker 4: So I have to be what can you Why don't

1104
00:47:29,600 --> 00:47:31,640
Speaker 4: I go for a walk or watch TV or work,

1105
00:47:32,239 --> 00:47:34,680
Speaker 4: I think about something else or think about something else.

1106
00:47:34,800 --> 00:47:36,879
Speaker 9: Right, not to direct you too much, but I am

1107
00:47:36,880 --> 00:47:39,120
Speaker 9: a big mouth. So I want you to just say

1108
00:47:39,160 --> 00:47:42,400
Speaker 9: to myself, I don't know why they haven't responded, and

1109
00:47:42,440 --> 00:47:46,239
Speaker 9: it's okay. I'm going to now put my thoughts or

1110
00:47:46,280 --> 00:47:48,360
Speaker 9: my behavior or take an action that serves me.

1111
00:47:48,400 --> 00:47:50,600
Speaker 5: I'm going to huck my phone out the car windows.

1112
00:47:50,719 --> 00:47:53,239
Speaker 9: Yes, well that's all my brain does, right, But see,

1113
00:47:53,280 --> 00:47:55,440
Speaker 9: you have this list of things, and then the last

1114
00:47:55,480 --> 00:47:58,719
Speaker 9: thing is Step three is the best because it's the

1115
00:47:58,840 --> 00:48:00,600
Speaker 9: easiest and it's so healing.

1116
00:48:00,600 --> 00:48:02,240
Speaker 7: And I never thought I'd say these weres.

1117
00:48:02,680 --> 00:48:07,759
Speaker 9: You have to have gratitude in that exact circumstance for

1118
00:48:07,840 --> 00:48:10,400
Speaker 9: life in general. So basically, if you go from this,

1119
00:48:10,640 --> 00:48:13,920
Speaker 9: soul hasn't called me back, but reality is he's not

1120
00:48:14,000 --> 00:48:17,319
Speaker 9: a soul, he just hasn't phoned back. I'm going to

1121
00:48:17,400 --> 00:48:20,200
Speaker 9: go for a walk or I'm going to do something

1122
00:48:20,280 --> 00:48:25,160
Speaker 9: soothing for myself, and I'm grateful for I have legs

1123
00:48:25,200 --> 00:48:28,520
Speaker 9: that I literally yes or no. It's sometimes gratitude comes

1124
00:48:28,520 --> 00:48:30,680
Speaker 9: down to my god, eyesight or something because you're like,

1125
00:48:30,800 --> 00:48:33,120
Speaker 9: holy crap, I can't think of anything because everything's going

1126
00:48:33,120 --> 00:48:35,360
Speaker 9: wrong right now. It's got to be just eyesight or

1127
00:48:35,440 --> 00:48:37,760
Speaker 9: that I'm alive, or that I have a friend or something.

1128
00:48:37,920 --> 00:48:40,120
Speaker 5: And my problem is, wait real quick.

1129
00:48:40,360 --> 00:48:43,319
Speaker 9: Once you invite reality ex excuse me, invite that little

1130
00:48:43,320 --> 00:48:46,520
Speaker 9: bit of gratitude in, it really dampens that first one.

1131
00:48:46,600 --> 00:48:47,759
Speaker 7: I promise I got.

1132
00:48:47,760 --> 00:48:49,759
Speaker 4: To work on it because I do clearing where when

1133
00:48:49,760 --> 00:48:51,759
Speaker 4: I get the text back then I'm like, thank god

1134
00:48:51,800 --> 00:48:52,200
Speaker 4: I can.

1135
00:48:52,080 --> 00:48:55,399
Speaker 5: See and my legs were right, and going running like.

1136
00:48:55,640 --> 00:48:58,680
Speaker 9: Well, but here's the thing, Amy, here's what you're doing, unfortunately,

1137
00:48:58,680 --> 00:49:01,560
Speaker 9: which a lot of us do, relying on other people

1138
00:49:01,920 --> 00:49:05,279
Speaker 9: for our opinion of ourselves. So he's getting back to you.

1139
00:49:05,360 --> 00:49:09,240
Speaker 9: Makes you worthy, makes you a catch. I am aware

1140
00:49:09,719 --> 00:49:11,920
Speaker 9: worthy no matter what. And a friend of mine, a

1141
00:49:11,920 --> 00:49:14,720
Speaker 9: life coach, calls this that everything we feel bad about

1142
00:49:14,760 --> 00:49:17,239
Speaker 9: is six degrees of worthiness, meaning like six degrees of

1143
00:49:17,280 --> 00:49:17,840
Speaker 9: Kevin Bacon.

1144
00:49:18,160 --> 00:49:18,319
Speaker 4: You.

1145
00:49:18,719 --> 00:49:21,080
Speaker 9: Basically every issue leads back to we don't think we're

1146
00:49:21,080 --> 00:49:24,560
Speaker 9: good enough. We think we aren't enough as we are,

1147
00:49:24,600 --> 00:49:27,040
Speaker 9: that we're born with this dark hall too. Now other

1148
00:49:27,120 --> 00:49:30,880
Speaker 9: than Easton, we're at. I just had to throw it

1149
00:49:31,000 --> 00:49:31,200
Speaker 9: back in.

1150
00:49:32,280 --> 00:49:35,160
Speaker 4: We love having you here because fifty percent of me

1151
00:49:35,320 --> 00:49:37,719
Speaker 4: is there, but the other fifteen percent of me is

1152
00:49:37,760 --> 00:49:38,880
Speaker 4: like in a dark cave.

1153
00:49:39,160 --> 00:49:41,239
Speaker 5: So I just have to get at least and at

1154
00:49:41,320 --> 00:49:42,080
Speaker 5: least it's only.

1155
00:49:41,880 --> 00:49:43,719
Speaker 9: Fifty percent of me, well, no, exactly, and I'm to

1156
00:49:43,719 --> 00:49:46,760
Speaker 9: say it's instead of saying at least it's only say

1157
00:49:47,080 --> 00:49:50,720
Speaker 9: fifty percent of me believes this because it is true, dude,

1158
00:49:50,960 --> 00:49:54,040
Speaker 9: that feel we are very worthy people we all deserve

1159
00:49:54,080 --> 00:49:56,960
Speaker 9: the career we want, the love we want. We And

1160
00:49:57,120 --> 00:49:59,560
Speaker 9: guess what, I love this expression because I know you

1161
00:49:59,600 --> 00:50:01,839
Speaker 9: like express ess. This is a really the only one

1162
00:50:01,840 --> 00:50:04,520
Speaker 9: that I really like. Life doesn't happen to us, it

1163
00:50:04,560 --> 00:50:08,000
Speaker 9: happens for us. So basically, if that person isn't calling

1164
00:50:08,080 --> 00:50:13,080
Speaker 9: her back, it's why for the lesson, the lesson of

1165
00:50:13,640 --> 00:50:16,919
Speaker 9: finding yourself worth without this text back, for not beating

1166
00:50:17,000 --> 00:50:18,320
Speaker 9: yourself up because you're not perfect?

1167
00:50:18,560 --> 00:50:19,760
Speaker 7: So what's happening for you?

1168
00:50:19,840 --> 00:50:22,680
Speaker 9: Maybe it's even on a concrete level, going thank god

1169
00:50:22,719 --> 00:50:24,960
Speaker 9: this person didn't call me back. There's some guys I've

1170
00:50:24,960 --> 00:50:26,719
Speaker 9: wanted to have relationships with in the past that I go,

1171
00:50:26,719 --> 00:50:28,200
Speaker 9: oh my god, thank god it didn't work out. At

1172
00:50:28,200 --> 00:50:30,360
Speaker 9: the time, I was heartbroken, but christ I could have

1173
00:50:30,440 --> 00:50:33,440
Speaker 9: ended up so battered, you know, not physically but emotionally,

1174
00:50:33,480 --> 00:50:36,719
Speaker 9: I said, I got saved. So I think this is

1175
00:50:36,760 --> 00:50:39,680
Speaker 9: such great stuff to work on. And like I said, hey,

1176
00:50:40,160 --> 00:50:42,800
Speaker 9: I have fun just going ooh good, you know, maybe

1177
00:50:42,800 --> 00:50:45,000
Speaker 9: I can impact somebody. Yeah, And it's just so much

1178
00:50:45,040 --> 00:50:47,719
Speaker 9: fun to do, and it just it feels more fulfilling

1179
00:50:47,760 --> 00:50:48,960
Speaker 9: than anything else I've ever done.

1180
00:50:49,680 --> 00:50:50,680
Speaker 2: Do you have a life coach?

1181
00:50:50,880 --> 00:50:53,160
Speaker 7: Yeah, I do is the She's real cute.

1182
00:50:53,280 --> 00:50:55,800
Speaker 9: I met her at her retreat, and you know, it's funny.

1183
00:50:55,920 --> 00:50:58,200
Speaker 9: It's hard to coach people who think they know everything,

1184
00:50:58,239 --> 00:51:00,640
Speaker 9: and I think I know everything, but you can do it.

1185
00:51:00,760 --> 00:51:02,120
Speaker 7: Like, yeah, she has.

1186
00:51:02,000 --> 00:51:04,640
Speaker 9: To struggle with me sometimes and be like, dude, come on,

1187
00:51:04,840 --> 00:51:07,520
Speaker 9: like listen to something I say, Like she sent me

1188
00:51:07,600 --> 00:51:10,279
Speaker 9: like five videos to watch, like a little short things,

1189
00:51:10,320 --> 00:51:14,000
Speaker 9: Abraham Hicks, this one that one. I know I like her,

1190
00:51:15,000 --> 00:51:17,560
Speaker 9: and I'm like, oh, I didn't watch them for five weeks,

1191
00:51:17,760 --> 00:51:19,480
Speaker 9: so I go, you have saying, oh, do you watch

1192
00:51:19,480 --> 00:51:20,080
Speaker 9: the videos yet?

1193
00:51:20,080 --> 00:51:20,759
Speaker 6: Do you have some video?

1194
00:51:20,960 --> 00:51:21,080
Speaker 1: No?

1195
00:51:21,200 --> 00:51:22,080
Speaker 7: No, nope, And.

1196
00:51:22,000 --> 00:51:23,560
Speaker 9: Then I finally watched them and I got why she

1197
00:51:23,600 --> 00:51:25,239
Speaker 9: wanted me to. But part of me is going, why

1198
00:51:25,239 --> 00:51:27,480
Speaker 9: am I avoiding that? So I try to question everything

1199
00:51:27,520 --> 00:51:29,120
Speaker 9: I'm not doing. I know it's going to make me

1200
00:51:29,160 --> 00:51:31,040
Speaker 9: feel better. Do I like wallowing?

1201
00:51:31,520 --> 00:51:31,880
Speaker 7: Maybe?

1202
00:51:32,160 --> 00:51:33,360
Speaker 3: Yes, that's so true.

1203
00:51:33,840 --> 00:51:35,960
Speaker 7: Yeah, we like feeling sorry for herself a little bit.

1204
00:51:36,160 --> 00:51:37,120
Speaker 5: Yeah.

1205
00:51:37,200 --> 00:51:39,480
Speaker 2: I've kind of been in this weird place of like

1206
00:51:39,600 --> 00:51:41,680
Speaker 2: learning to let my cause I kind of brush off

1207
00:51:41,719 --> 00:51:44,080
Speaker 2: emotion like I'm like it's fine, I'm fine, Like I

1208
00:51:44,080 --> 00:51:46,640
Speaker 2: don't like the drama of feeling like sad or down.

1209
00:51:47,040 --> 00:51:48,960
Speaker 2: But then there's another part of me that's been letting

1210
00:51:48,960 --> 00:51:51,319
Speaker 2: myself if I feel a certain way, whatever it is, like,

1211
00:51:51,440 --> 00:51:55,280
Speaker 2: let myself feel it, acknowledge that it's like not gonna

1212
00:51:55,280 --> 00:51:57,480
Speaker 2: be the same tomorrow. I might once I sleep, I

1213
00:51:57,520 --> 00:52:00,000
Speaker 2: will probably feel better, right, but then like let myself

1214
00:52:00,360 --> 00:52:02,640
Speaker 2: experience that feeling, and like if I want to cry,

1215
00:52:02,680 --> 00:52:04,560
Speaker 2: or if I want to be upset, like have a

1216
00:52:04,560 --> 00:52:06,400
Speaker 2: moment where I let myself feel it instead of just

1217
00:52:06,400 --> 00:52:07,120
Speaker 2: brushing it off.

1218
00:52:07,200 --> 00:52:09,560
Speaker 7: Well, listen, I'm so proud of you because you're very young.

1219
00:52:09,760 --> 00:52:10,640
Speaker 7: How old are you twenty?

1220
00:52:10,760 --> 00:52:11,239
Speaker 2: I'm thirty.

1221
00:52:11,360 --> 00:52:13,760
Speaker 7: Oh my god, you are so young.

1222
00:52:14,120 --> 00:52:16,400
Speaker 9: And I say to myself, if I to learn that

1223
00:52:16,440 --> 00:52:19,040
Speaker 9: at that age, you have to feel it to heal it.

1224
00:52:19,600 --> 00:52:21,600
Speaker 7: There's no way going around an emotion. You got to

1225
00:52:21,600 --> 00:52:22,120
Speaker 7: go through it.

1226
00:52:22,400 --> 00:52:24,200
Speaker 9: So when my dad died, I think it was the

1227
00:52:24,239 --> 00:52:26,200
Speaker 9: first time, I think four years ago that I was like,

1228
00:52:26,280 --> 00:52:28,560
Speaker 9: I'm just really gonna cry or do whatever when I'm

1229
00:52:28,560 --> 00:52:29,560
Speaker 9: supposed to do and when.

1230
00:52:29,400 --> 00:52:30,160
Speaker 7: I need to.

1231
00:52:30,600 --> 00:52:32,600
Speaker 9: There is nothing wrong with it because then you don't

1232
00:52:32,600 --> 00:52:34,760
Speaker 9: take it out on everybody, stuff it down with food

1233
00:52:34,840 --> 00:52:37,560
Speaker 9: or drinking or shopping or gambling or anything else. So

1234
00:52:37,640 --> 00:52:40,439
Speaker 9: I just love that you know that, and again, what's

1235
00:52:40,440 --> 00:52:43,480
Speaker 9: the feelings can't kill us? What's the worst that can happen?

1236
00:52:43,920 --> 00:52:46,680
Speaker 9: You'll cry maybe for an hour, Like it kind of

1237
00:52:46,680 --> 00:52:48,719
Speaker 9: always stops. I think we were always afraid that it

1238
00:52:48,719 --> 00:52:50,960
Speaker 9: won't stop, but it always does stop.

1239
00:52:51,200 --> 00:52:56,040
Speaker 3: It feels like the opposite of Becco, where like I

1240
00:52:56,040 --> 00:52:59,280
Speaker 3: I'm like way emotional, Like I yeah, like I cry

1241
00:52:59,480 --> 00:53:02,640
Speaker 3: all off, like the things will. I'm very emotional. But

1242
00:53:02,840 --> 00:53:05,680
Speaker 3: something that I do that I really dislike is that

1243
00:53:06,320 --> 00:53:08,560
Speaker 3: when you're dating and you're dealing with a lot and

1244
00:53:08,600 --> 00:53:11,880
Speaker 3: you're doing like you're trying to find your forever person,

1245
00:53:12,400 --> 00:53:14,560
Speaker 3: you do with a lot of rejection, and I always think,

1246
00:53:14,719 --> 00:53:17,160
Speaker 3: what's wrong with me? And that's like, so not the

1247
00:53:17,200 --> 00:53:18,440
Speaker 3: way to like look at it.

1248
00:53:18,520 --> 00:53:20,400
Speaker 9: Well, the way to look at it is again the

1249
00:53:20,520 --> 00:53:24,040
Speaker 9: simplest way, you know, without years of you know, sessions

1250
00:53:24,120 --> 00:53:28,000
Speaker 9: or whatever, is it's happening for you totally that there's

1251
00:53:28,080 --> 00:53:32,160
Speaker 9: something that wasn't supposed to happen there and you just go, Okay,

1252
00:53:32,320 --> 00:53:33,440
Speaker 9: the universe took care of me.

1253
00:53:33,719 --> 00:53:35,080
Speaker 7: Yeah, because God forbid, you.

1254
00:53:35,120 --> 00:53:37,440
Speaker 9: Know, because if you have a movie or something that

1255
00:53:37,480 --> 00:53:39,640
Speaker 9: would play it out, maybe it would be something.

1256
00:53:39,560 --> 00:53:42,560
Speaker 3: Terrible and I've like never been so kind of like

1257
00:53:42,920 --> 00:53:45,440
Speaker 3: I don't want to say nonchalant, but like I kind

1258
00:53:45,480 --> 00:53:47,480
Speaker 3: of am just very in this space of like I'll

1259
00:53:47,520 --> 00:53:49,080
Speaker 3: go out with people. I'm just gonna keep going out

1260
00:53:49,120 --> 00:53:51,719
Speaker 3: with people until it feels right. Like I used to

1261
00:53:51,760 --> 00:53:54,680
Speaker 3: not be like that. I would literally overanalyze every little thing.

1262
00:53:54,760 --> 00:53:56,279
Speaker 7: Oh it's the worst, it's the well.

1263
00:53:56,440 --> 00:53:58,439
Speaker 9: The best advice ever was from Sex and the City

1264
00:53:58,440 --> 00:54:00,840
Speaker 9: where that guy said he's just not that inty you totally.

1265
00:54:00,880 --> 00:54:04,040
Speaker 9: That book is so good and his book is so

1266
00:54:04,080 --> 00:54:09,800
Speaker 9: good about it. I actually have one of my students,

1267
00:54:09,840 --> 00:54:12,680
Speaker 9: not students, one of the guys who I'm coaching, uh

1268
00:54:12,800 --> 00:54:15,360
Speaker 9: talk read that and I go, it's it's written for women,

1269
00:54:15,360 --> 00:54:16,520
Speaker 9: but a guy could get something out of this.

1270
00:54:16,600 --> 00:54:18,479
Speaker 7: Truly life so great.

1271
00:54:18,600 --> 00:54:21,399
Speaker 9: And then you just start going, oh, yeah it didn't work,

1272
00:54:21,440 --> 00:54:22,120
Speaker 9: and that's okay.

1273
00:54:22,360 --> 00:54:22,800
Speaker 3: Totally.

1274
00:54:22,960 --> 00:54:24,240
Speaker 7: The thing is we take it personally.

1275
00:54:24,320 --> 00:54:27,480
Speaker 9: The four agreement says, the biggest agreement, that's the hardest,

1276
00:54:28,440 --> 00:54:30,960
Speaker 9: the best ever, don't take things personally.

1277
00:54:31,080 --> 00:54:33,200
Speaker 7: Yeah, a guy calling you back and has nothing to

1278
00:54:33,239 --> 00:54:33,920
Speaker 7: do with you.

1279
00:54:34,560 --> 00:54:35,919
Speaker 3: But it's so funny because I think it does stem

1280
00:54:36,000 --> 00:54:37,839
Speaker 3: from the thing where said everybody's there's a part where

1281
00:54:38,040 --> 00:54:40,319
Speaker 3: it's good enough, I'm not good enough. And it's like

1282
00:54:40,640 --> 00:54:43,440
Speaker 3: I used to always put that on a person I

1283
00:54:43,480 --> 00:54:45,200
Speaker 3: was dating, and I'm like, why am I doing that?

1284
00:54:45,320 --> 00:54:47,319
Speaker 7: Like we're just doing it because of that empty home.

1285
00:54:47,400 --> 00:54:49,560
Speaker 3: But the fact that I can like actually see that

1286
00:54:49,600 --> 00:54:50,880
Speaker 3: now and I'm on the other side of it, and

1287
00:54:50,920 --> 00:54:54,080
Speaker 3: I'm like, oh, okay, like I can actually like see

1288
00:54:54,080 --> 00:54:56,000
Speaker 3: that this is something that I'm doing. And it's like

1289
00:54:56,280 --> 00:54:58,839
Speaker 3: I have a good relationship with God and that's where

1290
00:54:58,840 --> 00:55:01,680
Speaker 3: I get my fulfillment and that's where I find myself

1291
00:55:01,719 --> 00:55:04,600
Speaker 3: and my peace and like my my wholeness. Sure, and

1292
00:55:04,640 --> 00:55:07,080
Speaker 3: so it's like I have that relationship is never going

1293
00:55:07,160 --> 00:55:10,120
Speaker 3: to change. That's like the one thing that I have.

1294
00:55:10,480 --> 00:55:12,520
Speaker 3: And so it's like now I can kind of move

1295
00:55:12,520 --> 00:55:14,799
Speaker 3: forward and just say, like he's got me, He's got

1296
00:55:14,840 --> 00:55:16,520
Speaker 3: the right person, and I just have to keep going

1297
00:55:16,600 --> 00:55:19,920
Speaker 3: through it and like it's open. All it is, just.

1298
00:55:19,920 --> 00:55:23,000
Speaker 9: Be open because I don't date because I used to

1299
00:55:23,000 --> 00:55:25,600
Speaker 9: be very codependent and always had a boyfriend. It's from

1300
00:55:25,600 --> 00:55:28,560
Speaker 9: like age twelve to fifty monkey Branch, I always had it. Yeah,

1301
00:55:28,560 --> 00:55:30,960
Speaker 9: And I was just like, okay, you know that's an addiction.

1302
00:55:31,280 --> 00:55:32,680
Speaker 9: So I said, look, I'm not going to do that.

1303
00:55:33,160 --> 00:55:35,760
Speaker 9: And I said, I was on Wendy Williams about this topic,

1304
00:55:35,760 --> 00:55:39,360
Speaker 9: and I just go, if I'm supposed to bump into someone,

1305
00:55:39,400 --> 00:55:41,120
Speaker 9: even if it's eighty years old, maybe you find the

1306
00:55:41,160 --> 00:55:42,400
Speaker 9: love of your life at eighty ninety.

1307
00:55:42,480 --> 00:55:43,120
Speaker 7: Who cares.

1308
00:55:43,360 --> 00:55:46,560
Speaker 9: The fact is we're so lucky, So again inviting appreciation

1309
00:55:46,719 --> 00:55:49,880
Speaker 9: in We're so lucky to even be alive, to do that,

1310
00:55:50,160 --> 00:55:52,800
Speaker 9: or even to have jobs and even to have a

1311
00:55:53,239 --> 00:55:56,080
Speaker 9: food that it's like, oh, okay, that'll just be great.

1312
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Speaker 9: And if not, I'm fine.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 9: So I think it's just that contentment that you guys.

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00:56:00,440 --> 00:56:04,240
Speaker 9: I mean again, I'm so impressed that your young ages,

1316
00:56:04,239 --> 00:56:06,759
Speaker 9: you're able to actually work on this stuff. And I

1317
00:56:06,800 --> 00:56:09,640
Speaker 9: think years ago when people were in their thirties in

1318
00:56:09,680 --> 00:56:13,560
Speaker 9: my you know, uh generation, didn't think.

1319
00:56:13,440 --> 00:56:14,359
Speaker 7: About this stuff yet.

1320
00:56:14,440 --> 00:56:14,640
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1321
00:56:14,719 --> 00:56:16,759
Speaker 7: It was just go to college, achieve work. That's it.

1322
00:56:17,200 --> 00:56:19,759
Speaker 7: So I love it. Just keep doing what you're doing

1323
00:56:19,840 --> 00:56:25,320
Speaker 7: because you're nailing it. Oh, I just bought my mouth

1324
00:56:25,400 --> 00:56:30,400
Speaker 7: healthy Mark, Poor Mark, I love. Do you ever let

1325
00:56:30,520 --> 00:56:30,919
Speaker 7: him talk?

1326
00:56:31,360 --> 00:56:31,520
Speaker 2: Oh?

1327
00:56:31,719 --> 00:56:34,640
Speaker 7: Yeah, Mark, what are your problems him back?

1328
00:56:34,640 --> 00:56:34,759
Speaker 1: Oh?

1329
00:56:34,800 --> 00:56:35,720
Speaker 6: I got plenty of problems.

1330
00:56:35,719 --> 00:56:37,040
Speaker 3: Okay, Mark doesn't have a lot of problem.

1331
00:56:37,080 --> 00:56:39,080
Speaker 7: I'm just going to ask Mark, Mark, where's your area

1332
00:56:39,080 --> 00:56:40,080
Speaker 7: of least satisfaction?

1333
00:56:40,960 --> 00:56:44,000
Speaker 6: I Uh, I'm married and I got two daughters, and

1334
00:56:44,040 --> 00:56:47,160
Speaker 6: I wish I was a better I don't feel like

1335
00:56:47,239 --> 00:56:48,799
Speaker 6: I'm the dad that I thought I could be.

1336
00:56:48,960 --> 00:56:53,840
Speaker 9: My sense that you're not okay, Well, you know again,

1337
00:56:53,920 --> 00:56:55,640
Speaker 9: what's great about that is, look, a guy.

1338
00:56:55,800 --> 00:56:57,360
Speaker 7: Very knows his problem.

1339
00:56:57,480 --> 00:57:00,120
Speaker 9: Yeah, And part of it's probably that you're fine, and

1340
00:57:00,160 --> 00:57:01,160
Speaker 9: I bet you're a great dad.

1341
00:57:01,400 --> 00:57:02,440
Speaker 7: And the fact that it's even on.

1342
00:57:02,400 --> 00:57:04,360
Speaker 6: Your mind is all the time.

1343
00:57:04,520 --> 00:57:05,960
Speaker 7: Real bad dads don't even think of that.

1344
00:57:06,239 --> 00:57:09,240
Speaker 9: Sure, so I think you know obviously there's no coaching

1345
00:57:09,320 --> 00:57:11,440
Speaker 9: going on here. But what's great is that you know

1346
00:57:11,520 --> 00:57:14,160
Speaker 9: how to fix this. They always say, everything you have

1347
00:57:14,360 --> 00:57:16,360
Speaker 9: is already in there. You know how to fix it.

1348
00:57:16,720 --> 00:57:19,120
Speaker 9: You you can, you can prioritize, you can do it.

1349
00:57:19,200 --> 00:57:20,880
Speaker 7: Yeah, Easton, I don't know what to tell you.

1350
00:57:21,880 --> 00:57:22,400
Speaker 6: I'm hopeless.

1351
00:57:22,480 --> 00:57:24,360
Speaker 7: Did the world no hope? Come up now?

1352
00:57:24,520 --> 00:57:25,320
Speaker 3: Now you're you're good.

1353
00:57:25,360 --> 00:57:25,720
Speaker 7: You're good.

1354
00:57:25,840 --> 00:57:28,560
Speaker 9: He's good, he's smart, he sits there, he's quiet. This

1355
00:57:28,720 --> 00:57:30,400
Speaker 9: is what you meant to do. Then you go home

1356
00:57:30,440 --> 00:57:32,040
Speaker 9: and you gossip about us with bitches.

1357
00:57:32,080 --> 00:57:33,040
Speaker 7: We are how's that all right?

1358
00:57:33,080 --> 00:57:34,120
Speaker 10: So I was put on this earth to do.

1359
00:57:36,160 --> 00:57:36,640
Speaker 3: And again, a.

1360
00:57:36,720 --> 00:57:39,080
Speaker 9: Sense of humor really helps too sometimes because I think

1361
00:57:39,120 --> 00:57:41,440
Speaker 9: we take everything super seriously. That's why I like in

1362
00:57:41,480 --> 00:57:44,040
Speaker 9: my workshops and stuff there's a fair amount of laughing.

1363
00:57:44,480 --> 00:57:46,360
Speaker 9: I did this food and body image workshop a couple

1364
00:57:46,400 --> 00:57:49,400
Speaker 9: of weeks ago in Connecticut, and we were cracking up,

1365
00:57:49,440 --> 00:57:51,680
Speaker 9: and then it gets really serious and you start crying

1366
00:57:51,720 --> 00:57:55,040
Speaker 9: and really figuring out your food problems and your body

1367
00:57:55,080 --> 00:57:57,400
Speaker 9: image stuff, and it's so yucky. But then there's a

1368
00:57:57,440 --> 00:57:59,920
Speaker 9: little break and the clouds lift and there's laughter.

1369
00:58:00,280 --> 00:58:01,360
Speaker 7: So I think it's good.

1370
00:58:01,120 --> 00:58:03,360
Speaker 9: To have that humor inside it, which I don't think

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00:58:03,400 --> 00:58:06,160
Speaker 9: a lot of these inspirational people do. So I'm like, hey,

1372
00:58:06,160 --> 00:58:07,800
Speaker 9: if I bring that to the table, that's fine.

1373
00:58:07,880 --> 00:58:09,560
Speaker 2: Well I was gonna say, I think it's like your

1374
00:58:09,600 --> 00:58:13,080
Speaker 2: god given gift is that you have humor. Like not

1375
00:58:13,160 --> 00:58:15,640
Speaker 2: everyone has that gift, you know, not everyone has that

1376
00:58:15,760 --> 00:58:19,280
Speaker 2: timing of being like funny in the right moment. And

1377
00:58:19,360 --> 00:58:21,840
Speaker 2: so to be able to translate that from being what

1378
00:58:21,920 --> 00:58:24,320
Speaker 2: you were in your past job and what you were

1379
00:58:24,320 --> 00:58:26,440
Speaker 2: doing as a career and moving it into where you

1380
00:58:26,920 --> 00:58:29,440
Speaker 2: still have that that you can offer people because it's

1381
00:58:29,480 --> 00:58:33,959
Speaker 2: your gift, but also incorporating this like encouragement like let's

1382
00:58:34,000 --> 00:58:37,240
Speaker 2: be better, like let's better ourselves is really really awesome.

1383
00:58:37,360 --> 00:58:39,320
Speaker 9: Well, I also like what you said, we said ourselves

1384
00:58:39,360 --> 00:58:42,880
Speaker 9: because I'm still just as effed up as anyone else

1385
00:58:42,920 --> 00:58:45,760
Speaker 9: out there. You never find a coach or a shrink

1386
00:58:45,960 --> 00:58:48,320
Speaker 9: who has it totally together, and if they tell you

1387
00:58:48,360 --> 00:58:50,800
Speaker 9: they do, then don't hire them because we should all

1388
00:58:50,840 --> 00:58:52,760
Speaker 9: still be working on ourselves all the time. Yeah, So

1389
00:58:52,840 --> 00:58:55,680
Speaker 9: what's good is by helping other people, I'm helping me.

1390
00:58:56,080 --> 00:58:58,320
Speaker 9: When I coach a guy and we talk about his

1391
00:58:58,360 --> 00:59:01,760
Speaker 9: addiction to this or that, or you know, relationship fears

1392
00:59:01,880 --> 00:59:05,240
Speaker 9: or you know, you know, blaming his parents still or whatever,

1393
00:59:05,240 --> 00:59:07,120
Speaker 9: I'm like, oh my god, what part of me does that?

1394
00:59:07,400 --> 00:59:09,400
Speaker 9: So I love that we're able to heal each other.

1395
00:59:09,520 --> 00:59:10,760
Speaker 7: That's what the world shooting about.

1396
00:59:10,880 --> 00:59:13,240
Speaker 3: You know what's funny is I was listening to Michelle

1397
00:59:13,240 --> 00:59:15,360
Speaker 3: Obama has this book coming out and it's called or

1398
00:59:15,400 --> 00:59:18,200
Speaker 3: it's out, it's called Becoming, And they were asking her

1399
00:59:18,240 --> 00:59:20,440
Speaker 3: why she named it that, and she's like, it's because

1400
00:59:20,480 --> 00:59:23,680
Speaker 3: you're constantly becoming who you are. And she's like, I'm

1401
00:59:23,680 --> 00:59:25,720
Speaker 3: never going to ask a kid anymore what they want

1402
00:59:25,760 --> 00:59:28,720
Speaker 3: to be when they grow up, because it's not finite.

1403
00:59:29,080 --> 00:59:32,160
Speaker 3: You're always evolving and you're always like becoming something else.

1404
00:59:32,200 --> 00:59:35,560
Speaker 3: And I was like, that's so cool. It's like so true. Yeah,

1405
00:59:35,640 --> 00:59:38,680
Speaker 3: because we're all like just works in progress. We're always evolving.

1406
00:59:38,720 --> 00:59:41,200
Speaker 3: It's like, you know, you say, I want to be

1407
00:59:41,200 --> 00:59:42,840
Speaker 3: an astronaut, Well, you can be an astronaut. You can

1408
00:59:42,880 --> 00:59:44,680
Speaker 3: be a mother, you can be a you can be

1409
00:59:44,720 --> 00:59:46,240
Speaker 3: a firefighter.

1410
00:59:45,680 --> 00:59:47,760
Speaker 9: You can be like you and you can always and

1411
00:59:47,800 --> 00:59:50,280
Speaker 9: also just they used to say, I forget what the

1412
00:59:50,400 --> 00:59:53,600
Speaker 9: statistics are, but like when my father was growing up,

1413
00:59:54,120 --> 00:59:56,000
Speaker 9: you kind of had one job your whole life.

1414
00:59:56,120 --> 00:59:59,000
Speaker 7: Yeah, not even just one career. One job. Then it

1415
00:59:59,040 --> 01:00:00,400
Speaker 7: became like you had.

1416
01:00:00,520 --> 01:00:02,800
Speaker 9: Now we're up to where people have three different careers

1417
01:00:02,880 --> 01:00:06,440
Speaker 9: or totally like I did journalism, first, comedy and then this,

1418
01:00:06,600 --> 01:00:08,560
Speaker 9: and I'm like, oh, you just get to do what

1419
01:00:08,600 --> 01:00:08,919
Speaker 9: you want.

1420
01:00:09,080 --> 01:00:11,600
Speaker 7: Yeah, and that's real cool. There's very few.

1421
01:00:11,440 --> 01:00:14,320
Speaker 9: People doing what they went to college for. Yeah, happy

1422
01:00:14,360 --> 01:00:17,040
Speaker 9: that they can do that. I just go, I can't

1423
01:00:17,160 --> 01:00:19,360
Speaker 9: like push that down anymore because I just was pushing

1424
01:00:19,400 --> 01:00:21,760
Speaker 9: it down. It felt really authentic and weird. And I

1425
01:00:21,800 --> 01:00:24,360
Speaker 9: found like during the Q and A's during comedy. I

1426
01:00:24,400 --> 01:00:26,600
Speaker 9: would uh kind of life coach during the Q and a's,

1427
01:00:26,600 --> 01:00:28,800
Speaker 9: which was really fun. And I'm like, oh wait, if

1428
01:00:28,800 --> 01:00:31,160
Speaker 9: that's my favorite part of the show and I'm doing

1429
01:00:31,200 --> 01:00:33,680
Speaker 9: an hour Q and A and like twenty minutes of comedy,

1430
01:00:33,840 --> 01:00:35,080
Speaker 9: I pretty much think I.

1431
01:00:35,080 --> 01:00:36,120
Speaker 7: Should do Yeah.

1432
01:00:36,240 --> 01:00:37,480
Speaker 9: So it feels good to kind of be out of

1433
01:00:37,480 --> 01:00:40,240
Speaker 9: the closet about it. Yeah, you know, yeah, but yeah,

1434
01:00:40,400 --> 01:00:43,320
Speaker 9: people are afraid. Don't be scared. Ask yourself, what's the

1435
01:00:43,320 --> 01:00:44,080
Speaker 9: worst that can happen?

1436
01:00:44,480 --> 01:00:44,880
Speaker 7: Anyway?

1437
01:00:45,680 --> 01:00:48,760
Speaker 2: Where can people find you on social media? Your website?

1438
01:00:48,920 --> 01:00:51,800
Speaker 9: Yes, my website is Lisa Lampinelli dot com. It used

1439
01:00:51,840 --> 01:00:54,040
Speaker 9: to be insult Comic dot com, but now it is

1440
01:00:54,080 --> 01:00:56,200
Speaker 9: no more, although it still does link there because people

1441
01:00:56,200 --> 01:00:57,240
Speaker 9: are too dumb to spell my nay.

1442
01:00:58,000 --> 01:01:00,960
Speaker 2: I was gonna say, you spell your name l A, M.

1443
01:01:00,920 --> 01:01:03,680
Speaker 9: P A and the L I and all my workshops

1444
01:01:03,680 --> 01:01:06,600
Speaker 9: are there. We're doing one in Sonoma Valley, a bunch

1445
01:01:06,720 --> 01:01:09,560
Speaker 9: in the East Coast. I'm probably gonna schedule one in

1446
01:01:09,680 --> 01:01:13,360
Speaker 9: oh Washington, d C. Boston, so food, body, image workshops,

1447
01:01:13,360 --> 01:01:16,760
Speaker 9: plus the change workshops. I'm also booking a bunch of shows,

1448
01:01:17,120 --> 01:01:20,040
Speaker 9: storytelling shows called Lisa Lampinelli's Losing It, which is all

1449
01:01:20,080 --> 01:01:23,040
Speaker 9: about me and other storytellers talking about food and body image.

1450
01:01:23,080 --> 01:01:26,240
Speaker 9: It's really funny but heartfelt. So uh yeah. And if

1451
01:01:26,240 --> 01:01:29,760
Speaker 9: anybody wants to be coached by me for practice, I

1452
01:01:29,800 --> 01:01:32,480
Speaker 9: will not use your name on the air yet, so

1453
01:01:32,680 --> 01:01:34,360
Speaker 9: email me at least lampin only dot com.

1454
01:01:34,400 --> 01:01:36,720
Speaker 7: Go to the website and to get in touch with Mark.

1455
01:01:36,680 --> 01:01:42,560
Speaker 9: And this bullsh No Mark I sent You're a good

1456
01:01:42,600 --> 01:01:43,960
Speaker 9: guy Easton.

1457
01:01:44,160 --> 01:01:45,520
Speaker 7: I hope you have been.

1458
01:01:45,400 --> 01:01:47,560
Speaker 9: Offended by nothing I said, because I sense a light

1459
01:01:47,640 --> 01:01:48,040
Speaker 9: about you.

1460
01:01:48,120 --> 01:01:48,680
Speaker 7: I like you.

1461
01:01:48,760 --> 01:01:50,960
Speaker 9: I think you're gonna do I do. I I sent

1462
01:01:51,080 --> 01:01:51,720
Speaker 9: you a good person.

1463
01:01:51,800 --> 01:01:52,600
Speaker 7: Am I right about him?

1464
01:01:52,920 --> 01:01:53,160
Speaker 2: Yeah?

1465
01:01:53,280 --> 01:01:54,880
Speaker 9: You can just tell some people you go out, don't

1466
01:01:54,920 --> 01:01:59,960
Speaker 9: trust them you I trust them. Abroads are good too, Amy, You're.

1467
01:02:02,560 --> 01:02:04,080
Speaker 7: I touch your back.

1468
01:02:04,160 --> 01:02:06,360
Speaker 5: It's his loss.

1469
01:02:07,040 --> 01:02:07,840
Speaker 7: Thank you so much?

1470
01:02:11,240 --> 01:02:12,400
Speaker 3: Do you give me single clients?

1471
01:02:15,240 --> 01:02:18,440
Speaker 9: That's hilarious when my millionaire gets really fixed?

1472
01:02:21,480 --> 01:02:24,280
Speaker 3: All right? Well that was joyful.

1473
01:02:24,440 --> 01:02:25,040
Speaker 6: That was fun.

1474
01:02:25,160 --> 01:02:27,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, that was fun. We should have more comedians on

1475
01:02:27,560 --> 01:02:27,840
Speaker 3: the show.

1476
01:02:27,880 --> 01:02:30,200
Speaker 6: Comedians who are life coaches. Is like a perfect combination.

1477
01:02:30,280 --> 01:02:33,600
Speaker 3: It really, yeah, it really is. I bet you that

1478
01:02:34,000 --> 01:02:37,880
Speaker 3: Lisa Lambinelli would say one key component to a great

1479
01:02:37,960 --> 01:02:41,600
Speaker 3: life is nice sleep. I bet that's quality sleep.

1480
01:02:41,400 --> 01:02:44,000
Speaker 6: And that seems to be a theme today with you your.

1481
01:02:43,840 --> 01:02:47,200
Speaker 3: Sleep, yeah, which I did not get any of this weekend.

1482
01:02:47,960 --> 01:02:50,360
Speaker 3: But people always say that it's so important to find

1483
01:02:50,400 --> 01:02:53,439
Speaker 3: your perfect couch, the perfect carpet, or the perfect piece

1484
01:02:53,480 --> 01:02:56,000
Speaker 3: of art for your new home. But honestly, I think

1485
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Speaker 3: it's about finding the perfect mattress. So Helix Sleep a

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Speaker 3: sleep quiz that takes two minutes to complete, and they

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Speaker 3: use the answers to match your body type and sleep

1488
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Speaker 3: preferences to the perfect mattress. So all you just do

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Speaker 3: is go to helix sleep dot com slash beca, take

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Speaker 3: their two minute sleep quiz, and they'll match you to

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Speaker 3: a mattress that will give you the best sleep of

1492
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Speaker 3: your life. For couples, this is actually really cool. Couples, Yeah, okay,

1493
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Speaker 3: so they can even split the mattress down the middle,

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Speaker 3: so it's like individual support for each person. So like,

1495
01:03:28,520 --> 01:03:31,560
Speaker 3: say you have you really like a squishy mattress like

1496
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Speaker 3: a firm like a firm, and maybe your wife Amy.

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01:03:34,280 --> 01:03:36,000
Speaker 6: Likes a squishy match like squish year.

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01:03:36,160 --> 01:03:39,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, so you can have personal preferences to either side

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Speaker 3: of the mattress, which is really cool. And they have

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Speaker 3: out for one hundred nights risk free, so that's like

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Speaker 3: a third of a year.

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Speaker 6: It's likering from now. Yeah, it's a long time.

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Speaker 3: Well, they want you to really know that you like

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Speaker 3: it and really, you know, feel it, and it takes

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Speaker 3: you a while, like get comfortable with the mattress. I

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Speaker 3: feel like so right now, Helix offering up to one

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Speaker 3: hundred and twenty five dollars off all mattress orders. So

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Speaker 3: Helix sleep dot com slash Beca for one hundred and

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Speaker 3: com slash Becca.

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Speaker 6: You're furnishing that new apartment of yours as well, aren't you.

1515
01:04:22,840 --> 01:04:23,160
Speaker 3: I am.

1516
01:04:23,240 --> 01:04:24,720
Speaker 6: You're putting some stuff on the walls.

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01:04:24,920 --> 01:04:26,720
Speaker 3: I haven't gotten there yet because that's going to be

1518
01:04:26,760 --> 01:04:27,680
Speaker 3: my last to do.

1519
01:04:27,960 --> 01:04:29,440
Speaker 6: So right now you have bare walls.

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01:04:29,720 --> 01:04:30,600
Speaker 3: Bare walls?

1521
01:04:31,320 --> 01:04:33,400
Speaker 6: Is that weird? Is it echoe in there?

1522
01:04:33,560 --> 01:04:36,800
Speaker 3: It is a little it's a little echoey, but that's.

1523
01:04:37,040 --> 01:04:40,040
Speaker 6: After the singleness of your life totally.

1524
01:04:40,160 --> 01:04:42,560
Speaker 3: Hello. Hello, But I don't think you realize when you're

1525
01:04:42,600 --> 01:04:45,160
Speaker 3: like living alone. I only had to furnish one bedroom,

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01:04:45,160 --> 01:04:47,040
Speaker 3: and now I'm doing like an entire apartment. So it's

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Speaker 3: like you have to do it slow. You know it's expensive.

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Speaker 3: Framebridge.

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Speaker 6: How much of your How many do you have to

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Speaker 6: limit the number of pictures of yourself?

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Speaker 3: I don't have any. I'm not gonna have any.

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Speaker 6: Actually zero I have.

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Speaker 3: I just put two on my fridge and that's probably all.

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Speaker 6: Having the giant like Andy Warhol, the different colored fishes

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Speaker 3: Oh, that's actually kind of cool.

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Speaker 6: It's kind of cool. Yeah.

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Speaker 6: That's great.

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Speaker 2: We have not talked about Grey's Anatomy in quite some time.

1574
01:06:51,600 --> 01:06:52,480
Speaker 6: Are we all caught up?

1575
01:06:52,680 --> 01:06:55,040
Speaker 2: First of all, I'm all caught up.

1576
01:06:55,120 --> 01:06:55,880
Speaker 6: I'm all caught up.

1577
01:06:57,040 --> 01:07:00,920
Speaker 3: I'm I'm I'm like half an hour. I haven't watched

1578
01:07:00,920 --> 01:07:01,439
Speaker 3: the last week.

1579
01:07:01,440 --> 01:07:05,800
Speaker 2: I only watch half a episode and it's been almost

1580
01:07:05,800 --> 01:07:09,160
Speaker 2: two weeks that it's been off. It's been been almost

1581
01:07:09,280 --> 01:07:10,160
Speaker 2: three weeks.

1582
01:07:10,160 --> 01:07:11,960
Speaker 3: Been a lot going on, guys, there's just.

1583
01:07:12,080 --> 01:07:13,120
Speaker 2: A lot thirty minutes.

1584
01:07:14,480 --> 01:07:17,560
Speaker 3: You've probably like thirty minutes away from the end.

1585
01:07:17,640 --> 01:07:19,840
Speaker 2: You've probably watched an old episode of Dinny in the

1586
01:07:19,840 --> 01:07:22,000
Speaker 2: meantime and haven't even been ited to the episode.

1587
01:07:22,080 --> 01:07:25,000
Speaker 3: No, because I can't watch it before I go to

1588
01:07:25,000 --> 01:07:26,920
Speaker 3: bed because I'll fall asleep. So I don't want I

1589
01:07:26,960 --> 01:07:28,800
Speaker 3: have to like actually commit and sit down and watch.

1590
01:07:28,800 --> 01:07:29,720
Speaker 3: I don't watch a lot of TV.

1591
01:07:29,880 --> 01:07:32,120
Speaker 6: Okay, Well, I do hate that we're done for the year.

1592
01:07:32,160 --> 01:07:33,000
Speaker 6: By the way, me too.

1593
01:07:33,040 --> 01:07:37,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, it happened so very It did happen earlier than normal.

1594
01:07:37,240 --> 01:07:39,240
Speaker 6: I think, so, I think before Thanksgiving is rare, but

1595
01:07:39,360 --> 01:07:41,320
Speaker 6: what do I know? So I wish I want to

1596
01:07:41,320 --> 01:07:44,960
Speaker 6: get your take on some of the subplots. I am generally,

1597
01:07:45,000 --> 01:07:45,760
Speaker 6: You're happy.

1598
01:07:46,040 --> 01:07:48,880
Speaker 2: I am so much happier than I ever thought I

1599
01:07:48,920 --> 01:07:52,040
Speaker 2: could be with the start of this season. I'm humbled

1600
01:07:52,080 --> 01:07:54,560
Speaker 2: to admit it because I was boohooing it at the

1601
01:07:54,600 --> 01:07:59,560
Speaker 2: beginning of the season. Even the storylines that I didn't

1602
01:07:59,560 --> 01:08:03,360
Speaker 2: think I would interested in, I'm invested love it, Tanya.

1603
01:08:03,520 --> 01:08:06,960
Speaker 3: I'm very happy as well, like truly happy. I really

1604
01:08:06,960 --> 01:08:10,320
Speaker 3: could have done without the Maggie Jackson in bed scene.

1605
01:08:10,720 --> 01:08:12,840
Speaker 3: Other than that, I am very happy.

1606
01:08:12,880 --> 01:08:15,840
Speaker 2: Wait, weirdly, I'm still don't care about them. That's the

1607
01:08:15,880 --> 01:08:17,720
Speaker 2: one that I'm still like not into it.

1608
01:08:17,960 --> 01:08:20,000
Speaker 3: Didn't like the scene. I was like, oh, it's like

1609
01:08:20,080 --> 01:08:22,200
Speaker 3: brothers and sisters making out. I can't get past it.

1610
01:08:22,240 --> 01:08:24,760
Speaker 3: So I'm I'm done for me.

1611
01:08:24,840 --> 01:08:26,519
Speaker 2: It's not that for me. It's just like, it's not

1612
01:08:26,560 --> 01:08:27,120
Speaker 2: there for me.

1613
01:08:27,800 --> 01:08:31,200
Speaker 6: For How are we on Owen and that plot with

1614
01:08:31,360 --> 01:08:35,400
Speaker 6: Teddy and Amelia and the teenager and the baby right

1615
01:08:35,439 --> 01:08:37,040
Speaker 6: where all we've all been very negative on Owen in

1616
01:08:37,080 --> 01:08:37,840
Speaker 6: the past, Where are we not?

1617
01:08:37,960 --> 01:08:40,920
Speaker 2: I'm still negative. Iout Owen, but I'm invested in the storyline.

1618
01:08:41,000 --> 01:08:44,639
Speaker 2: I love Amelia. I love that she's taken the girl

1619
01:08:44,720 --> 01:08:47,800
Speaker 2: actress that is that she's like adopted or taken under

1620
01:08:47,840 --> 01:08:52,600
Speaker 2: her wing kind of bugs but agreed she the relationship

1621
01:08:52,720 --> 01:08:56,439
Speaker 2: of her caring so much about her that she's like

1622
01:08:56,760 --> 01:08:59,360
Speaker 2: angry and worried for her. I think is like what

1623
01:08:59,479 --> 01:09:04,040
Speaker 2: It was so emotional, and we also didn't talk about Sorry,

1624
01:09:04,040 --> 01:09:07,160
Speaker 2: I'm not gonna jump okay. And then Teddy, well, you

1625
01:09:07,240 --> 01:09:08,120
Speaker 2: haven't seen the end of the.

1626
01:09:08,120 --> 01:09:13,040
Speaker 11: Last episode, but it is spoiler aler everybody, really, we

1627
01:09:13,040 --> 01:09:17,800
Speaker 11: can spoil ith Okay, So obviously it's the biggest windstorm

1628
01:09:18,320 --> 01:09:20,080
Speaker 11: in the history of the planet ever.

1629
01:09:20,360 --> 01:09:22,519
Speaker 6: Yeah, when is them in a window and that blows

1630
01:09:22,520 --> 01:09:24,800
Speaker 6: people across parking lots. By the way, except in a

1631
01:09:24,880 --> 01:09:28,200
Speaker 6: hurricane or a tornado, like those are actual events.

1632
01:09:28,280 --> 01:09:31,200
Speaker 2: There's some things that happen where he gets just see

1633
01:09:31,240 --> 01:09:36,120
Speaker 2: his body zoom. I'm like, okay, anyway, that was a

1634
01:09:36,200 --> 01:09:39,479
Speaker 2: little weird for me. So of course things are tints

1635
01:09:39,520 --> 01:09:40,240
Speaker 2: in the last.

1636
01:09:40,240 --> 01:09:42,840
Speaker 6: So power goes out and a lot of people are

1637
01:09:42,840 --> 01:09:43,960
Speaker 6: stuck in elevators.

1638
01:09:44,439 --> 01:09:46,120
Speaker 2: There are some elevator tension.

1639
01:09:46,360 --> 01:09:51,920
Speaker 6: For example, Owen has just been told by Teddy that

1640
01:09:52,160 --> 01:09:55,720
Speaker 6: it's his baby, but she's pregnant with his baby. Amelia

1641
01:09:55,760 --> 01:09:59,479
Speaker 6: comes into the elevator, saying, Hey, guys, I'm so excited.

1642
01:09:59,520 --> 01:10:01,200
Speaker 6: I want to what she say. I want to adopt her,

1643
01:10:01,280 --> 01:10:03,320
Speaker 6: like I really want to be her mom. I want

1644
01:10:03,360 --> 01:10:05,040
Speaker 6: to help her. I love her, and I really want

1645
01:10:05,080 --> 01:10:07,840
Speaker 6: to help this teenage girl loud and and she's like,

1646
01:10:07,880 --> 01:10:09,719
Speaker 6: what's going on with you two? Why is the energy

1647
01:10:09,720 --> 01:10:12,160
Speaker 6: so weird in here? Power goes out? Three of them

1648
01:10:12,160 --> 01:10:13,120
Speaker 6: stuck in the elevator.

1649
01:10:13,439 --> 01:10:14,759
Speaker 3: Great, that is great.

1650
01:10:15,200 --> 01:10:17,920
Speaker 2: Oh, I'm so excited about that. Before we get to

1651
01:10:18,000 --> 01:10:20,600
Speaker 2: the main event, which I have a lot of opinions on,

1652
01:10:20,680 --> 01:10:23,160
Speaker 2: I want to talk about the week before with Weber,

1653
01:10:23,360 --> 01:10:26,719
Speaker 2: the bar scene. You know, I haven't really you know Weber.

1654
01:10:26,760 --> 01:10:29,360
Speaker 2: I'm like, he's a classic. He's like classic, but I'm

1655
01:10:29,400 --> 01:10:32,439
Speaker 2: not like he's og. But I'm not like super, you know,

1656
01:10:32,520 --> 01:10:34,760
Speaker 2: I'm not like I need to know what Weber's up

1657
01:10:34,800 --> 01:10:38,200
Speaker 2: to that storyline. I haven't cried in Grace in a

1658
01:10:38,240 --> 01:10:40,840
Speaker 2: long time, other than the when April and April was

1659
01:10:40,840 --> 01:10:43,040
Speaker 2: in the hospital in Jackson. You know that whole episode,

1660
01:10:43,080 --> 01:10:45,400
Speaker 2: I cried, And then I cried in the bar scene

1661
01:10:45,439 --> 01:10:47,920
Speaker 2: with Weber because it was so powerful. And I think

1662
01:10:47,960 --> 01:10:50,080
Speaker 2: I've had people in my life with addiction and it's

1663
01:10:50,200 --> 01:10:53,519
Speaker 2: just like that whole storyline that that bar was like

1664
01:10:53,640 --> 01:10:56,080
Speaker 2: enabling these people who have worked so hard, and like

1665
01:10:56,439 --> 01:10:57,280
Speaker 2: it like made me.

1666
01:10:57,320 --> 01:10:59,479
Speaker 3: So so mad too that bar.

1667
01:10:59,600 --> 01:11:02,639
Speaker 2: I was like, Oh, it's just such a great scene.

1668
01:11:02,720 --> 01:11:04,680
Speaker 2: Like I feel like emotional talking about it, but it

1669
01:11:04,720 --> 01:11:08,560
Speaker 2: was just so powerful and I thought like wow.

1670
01:11:08,320 --> 01:11:10,720
Speaker 3: But it's like, so it's such a true depiction of

1671
01:11:10,840 --> 01:11:12,639
Speaker 3: like how life can be. Do you know what I mean?

1672
01:11:12,680 --> 01:11:14,880
Speaker 3: Like there's people out there like do you know what

1673
01:11:14,920 --> 01:11:16,519
Speaker 3: I mean? Like I felt like it was such a

1674
01:11:16,560 --> 01:11:20,599
Speaker 3: metaphor for like how life can be, and for people

1675
01:11:20,600 --> 01:11:22,200
Speaker 3: that don't watch grades because I do know that there

1676
01:11:22,240 --> 01:11:24,280
Speaker 3: are some people that now listen to the podcast that

1677
01:11:24,360 --> 01:11:26,120
Speaker 3: didn't want to listen to the podcast because they're like,

1678
01:11:26,120 --> 01:11:27,960
Speaker 3: I don't watch Grey's Anatomy, so I didn't think I could,

1679
01:11:28,280 --> 01:11:30,559
Speaker 3: yeah follow along, And I was like, we don't even talk.

1680
01:11:30,560 --> 01:11:33,120
Speaker 2: That much about forget to talk about it for people.

1681
01:11:32,880 --> 01:11:36,000
Speaker 3: That don't watch this show. I mean, he's a recovering alcoholic,

1682
01:11:36,240 --> 01:11:38,840
Speaker 3: he's been sober for eight years, and there's a bar

1683
01:11:39,000 --> 01:11:41,799
Speaker 3: that basically says like we'll take your tokens, that's.

1684
01:11:41,640 --> 01:11:44,040
Speaker 2: What your chips and your sober chips, and.

1685
01:11:44,000 --> 01:11:46,000
Speaker 3: We'll give you that many shots for however many years

1686
01:11:46,040 --> 01:11:49,439
Speaker 3: you've been sober, and it's so dark, Like you're like,

1687
01:11:49,600 --> 01:11:51,960
Speaker 3: I can't believe, like that's so messed up that these

1688
01:11:51,960 --> 01:11:53,720
Speaker 3: people you know what I mean, Like, but it's such

1689
01:11:53,760 --> 01:11:56,559
Speaker 3: a metaphor for things that happen in life, and there

1690
01:11:56,600 --> 01:11:58,800
Speaker 3: are people like that in your life, and it's like

1691
01:11:59,040 --> 01:12:02,599
Speaker 3: you ultimately it's your choice, you know. Weber he sat down,

1692
01:12:02,680 --> 01:12:04,760
Speaker 3: he got poured the vodka in for him, and he

1693
01:12:04,880 --> 01:12:07,479
Speaker 3: just like went and he just took a bat to

1694
01:12:07,600 --> 01:12:09,680
Speaker 3: like the whole thing and was like, how dare you

1695
01:12:09,720 --> 01:12:11,880
Speaker 3: guys like do this to people who have been working

1696
01:12:11,960 --> 01:12:15,439
Speaker 3: hard for their families, working hard to be better people.

1697
01:12:16,240 --> 01:12:18,760
Speaker 3: And it was just so it was such a powerful.

1698
01:12:18,360 --> 01:12:23,400
Speaker 2: Scene that was amazing. And then Catherine has, oh yeah

1699
01:12:23,880 --> 01:12:30,320
Speaker 2: to a brain.

1700
01:12:27,760 --> 01:12:28,960
Speaker 6: And Jackson just found out.

1701
01:12:29,040 --> 01:12:35,280
Speaker 2: In the finale, Jackson found found out and then okay,

1702
01:12:37,280 --> 01:12:43,880
Speaker 2: switching sorry switching gears. I hope Catherine's okay. I So

1703
01:12:44,000 --> 01:12:47,800
Speaker 2: this whole time with Meredith and to Luca, I've been like, gross,

1704
01:12:47,880 --> 01:12:51,160
Speaker 2: I don't like it. Okay, let me rewind. When de

1705
01:12:51,240 --> 01:12:53,800
Speaker 2: Luca first came on the show, I thought he was

1706
01:12:53,840 --> 01:12:56,160
Speaker 2: going to be Meredith's new love interest. When he first

1707
01:12:56,240 --> 01:12:59,160
Speaker 2: was introduced, I was like, he's so hot, this is amazing,

1708
01:12:59,200 --> 01:13:00,880
Speaker 2: He's a new make dream And then they didn't go

1709
01:13:00,920 --> 01:13:02,960
Speaker 2: that way at all. So I always didn't think anything

1710
01:13:03,000 --> 01:13:06,200
Speaker 2: of it. I thought of him as a child. So recently,

1711
01:13:06,680 --> 01:13:11,519
Speaker 2: between what's Link Link and DeLuca, I'm like, Link seems

1712
01:13:11,560 --> 01:13:17,200
Speaker 2: more like Mayor the Speed. But this last episode, I

1713
01:13:17,240 --> 01:13:21,519
Speaker 2: have like the giddy feeling that I had with Dreamy

1714
01:13:21,640 --> 01:13:23,400
Speaker 2: that I have with DeLuca and Meredith.

1715
01:13:23,520 --> 01:13:24,080
Speaker 6: Wow.

1716
01:13:24,160 --> 01:13:26,639
Speaker 2: That is when they were in the X ray room

1717
01:13:27,520 --> 01:13:30,520
Speaker 2: and they were like close, yes, and then in the elevator.

1718
01:13:30,640 --> 01:13:32,760
Speaker 6: So DeLuca makes his feelings for Meredith known.

1719
01:13:33,200 --> 01:13:34,120
Speaker 2: He's like, I want you.

1720
01:13:34,479 --> 01:13:37,760
Speaker 6: He makes it very clear what's going on because she

1721
01:13:37,800 --> 01:13:38,400
Speaker 6: agrees they have.

1722
01:13:38,439 --> 01:13:41,120
Speaker 2: Drinks with Link yeah, and then he sees it.

1723
01:13:41,200 --> 01:13:43,000
Speaker 6: He sees that happening. He's like, look, I gotta jump

1724
01:13:43,000 --> 01:13:43,240
Speaker 6: in here.

1725
01:13:43,280 --> 01:13:45,080
Speaker 2: I'm I'm I'm in it too.

1726
01:13:45,520 --> 01:13:46,160
Speaker 6: A handkerchief.

1727
01:13:46,360 --> 01:13:47,120
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1728
01:13:47,160 --> 01:13:49,320
Speaker 6: So then they're in the elevator and Meredith's like, you

1729
01:13:49,320 --> 01:13:51,200
Speaker 6: go stand over there, like, let's not even.

1730
01:13:51,120 --> 01:13:53,920
Speaker 2: She knows what happens in elevator, yes, and then lights

1731
01:13:53,960 --> 01:13:57,040
Speaker 2: go out and you know something's going on. There's a

1732
01:13:57,080 --> 01:14:00,160
Speaker 2: lot of chemistry there because when she and even I

1733
01:14:00,280 --> 01:14:04,280
Speaker 2: like Meredith in this situation because she's like she feels

1734
01:14:04,320 --> 01:14:07,120
Speaker 2: it and she's like, I have to walk away. I'm

1735
01:14:07,120 --> 01:14:08,360
Speaker 2: gonna walk away right now.

1736
01:14:08,840 --> 01:14:11,519
Speaker 6: But there's somebody Tanya would rather see Meredith with.

1737
01:14:11,880 --> 01:14:13,160
Speaker 5: Oh, No, I haven't.

1738
01:14:13,320 --> 01:14:15,400
Speaker 3: I don't feel I've never I feel like I haven't

1739
01:14:15,400 --> 01:14:17,040
Speaker 3: seen any of the de Luca stuff, So I don't

1740
01:14:17,040 --> 01:14:19,960
Speaker 3: feel any love connection with her. This the guy that

1741
01:14:20,000 --> 01:14:27,679
Speaker 3: she went to California with, the neural guy. No, yeah,

1742
01:14:27,720 --> 01:14:30,800
Speaker 3: he's a neuro guy. He's like kind of a dick,

1743
01:14:31,000 --> 01:14:33,120
Speaker 3: but like he has a soft heart and like you

1744
01:14:33,200 --> 01:14:35,559
Speaker 3: see that, Like he's like just wants to help Catherine.

1745
01:14:35,600 --> 01:14:38,200
Speaker 3: And he's like there's this bad boy, not bad boy,

1746
01:14:38,240 --> 01:14:40,559
Speaker 3: but like kind of like you. He's gross, but then

1747
01:14:40,560 --> 01:14:42,200
Speaker 3: like he's actually really good inside.

1748
01:14:42,600 --> 01:14:43,879
Speaker 5: I let's get him with Maggie.

1749
01:14:43,880 --> 01:14:47,799
Speaker 2: Then I don't want it for Meredith.

1750
01:14:47,960 --> 01:14:50,840
Speaker 6: Is it because he's more age appropriate? Meredith and that guy,

1751
01:14:50,920 --> 01:14:52,800
Speaker 6: I think I'm more age appropriate for each other. I

1752
01:14:52,800 --> 01:14:55,559
Speaker 6: feel like she's considerably older than De Luca or Lincoln.

1753
01:14:55,720 --> 01:14:59,960
Speaker 3: No, I don't. I'm into the age gap because I'm

1754
01:15:00,040 --> 01:15:02,000
Speaker 3: you know, I'm all about Nick and Prianka Choba right now.

1755
01:15:02,040 --> 01:15:05,320
Speaker 3: So I'm like, in page gap, I think I'm just

1756
01:15:05,320 --> 01:15:07,040
Speaker 3: like into him because I feel like he has this

1757
01:15:07,120 --> 01:15:10,080
Speaker 3: like bad rap and like everyone has him like wrong,

1758
01:15:10,560 --> 01:15:11,320
Speaker 3: and I feel.

1759
01:15:11,080 --> 01:15:12,840
Speaker 2: Like I could see him making like this, like I'm

1760
01:15:12,840 --> 01:15:14,960
Speaker 2: fine with the comeback for him, but I don't. I

1761
01:15:15,040 --> 01:15:23,320
Speaker 2: have no desire to see Meredith and Chorossick kiss. I

1762
01:15:23,360 --> 01:15:25,320
Speaker 2: want to see it with de Luca. I want I'd

1763
01:15:25,360 --> 01:15:28,280
Speaker 2: be fine seeing it with Link. I don't want to

1764
01:15:28,280 --> 01:15:30,000
Speaker 2: see it with He does nothing for me.

1765
01:15:30,080 --> 01:15:31,519
Speaker 3: I mean I didn't even know his name. I literally

1766
01:15:31,520 --> 01:15:33,400
Speaker 3: was like, I wonder with the surgeon that she went

1767
01:15:33,439 --> 01:15:34,360
Speaker 3: to California with.

1768
01:15:35,280 --> 01:15:37,040
Speaker 6: But I see what you're saying. I do feel like

1769
01:15:37,120 --> 01:15:41,360
Speaker 6: that character is interesting and there's more to be discovered there. Yeah,

1770
01:15:41,400 --> 01:15:41,720
Speaker 6: I don't know.

1771
01:15:41,960 --> 01:15:42,040
Speaker 1: So.

1772
01:15:42,160 --> 01:15:45,320
Speaker 6: By the way, so Ellen Pompeo is forty nine, the

1773
01:15:45,320 --> 01:15:48,639
Speaker 6: guy who plays Link is thirty seven, and de Luca

1774
01:15:48,840 --> 01:15:50,439
Speaker 6: the actual plays Lucas twenty nine.

1775
01:15:50,720 --> 01:15:52,519
Speaker 3: But how are they? How are they in the show?

1776
01:15:52,640 --> 01:15:54,400
Speaker 6: I don't know character ages?

1777
01:15:54,479 --> 01:15:57,760
Speaker 3: Do they know character soill matters? Ellen Pompeo is not

1778
01:15:57,920 --> 01:15:58,920
Speaker 3: like it's Meredith Gray.

1779
01:15:59,200 --> 01:15:59,760
Speaker 6: Yeah, I don't care.

1780
01:15:59,760 --> 01:16:01,640
Speaker 3: Well Ellen Pompeo is well, I.

1781
01:16:01,640 --> 01:16:03,000
Speaker 6: Don't know how she is in the show, but in

1782
01:16:03,000 --> 01:16:07,000
Speaker 6: real life, that's the situation. All right. Next, Tony went

1783
01:16:07,040 --> 01:16:08,360
Speaker 6: on a date, and we need to talk about that,

1784
01:16:09,000 --> 01:16:11,360
Speaker 6: do we? I think so? Don't. You don't think our

1785
01:16:11,400 --> 01:16:13,120
Speaker 6: listeners would like to know about your most recent date.

1786
01:16:13,240 --> 01:16:15,759
Speaker 3: I'm thinking we can just freeze by it this week.

1787
01:16:16,160 --> 01:16:19,439
Speaker 6: We talked about it on Ryan's show. Yeah, you don't

1788
01:16:19,439 --> 01:16:20,280
Speaker 6: want to talk about it here.

1789
01:16:20,600 --> 01:16:22,240
Speaker 3: I mean, I don't know. I guess we can.

1790
01:16:22,920 --> 01:16:25,240
Speaker 6: So you realize you're out of practice. I guess that's

1791
01:16:25,360 --> 01:16:27,120
Speaker 6: more the angle we need to go on. We need

1792
01:16:27,160 --> 01:16:28,680
Speaker 6: to talk about him at all because I'm not sure

1793
01:16:28,720 --> 01:16:30,960
Speaker 6: there's anything there or is there?

1794
01:16:31,120 --> 01:16:34,320
Speaker 2: Well, what I'm like you, I can't get a read

1795
01:16:34,360 --> 01:16:35,160
Speaker 2: on this, Like.

1796
01:16:35,120 --> 01:16:37,120
Speaker 3: I'm just saying, like I think maybe we don't have

1797
01:16:37,160 --> 01:16:38,120
Speaker 3: to talk about it this week.

1798
01:16:38,240 --> 01:16:40,280
Speaker 2: Oh I'm fine not talking about it, but I think

1799
01:16:40,320 --> 01:16:42,559
Speaker 2: our listeners will be frustrated by that that you had

1800
01:16:42,560 --> 01:16:44,280
Speaker 2: a date you don't want to tell them about it.

1801
01:16:44,280 --> 01:16:47,400
Speaker 3: It was a great date. I did realize that I

1802
01:16:47,439 --> 01:16:51,080
Speaker 3: am out of practice, but I realized it because I

1803
01:16:51,120 --> 01:16:52,599
Speaker 3: haven't really been on a date. I mean I went

1804
01:16:52,600 --> 01:16:55,519
Speaker 3: out with Dean, but I don't count that because I

1805
01:16:55,560 --> 01:16:57,920
Speaker 3: know Dean really well, so it wasn't really like a date.

1806
01:16:58,400 --> 01:17:01,680
Speaker 3: It was a date date, but it wasn't like you know, yeah,

1807
01:17:01,920 --> 01:17:04,160
Speaker 3: but doctor Delbie was the last guy that I actually dated,

1808
01:17:04,160 --> 01:17:07,679
Speaker 3: and that was the summer that's been a long time.

1809
01:17:08,000 --> 01:17:09,719
Speaker 6: Tell becha how you knew you were out of practice?

1810
01:17:09,760 --> 01:17:12,839
Speaker 6: Because she told Ryan's audience, and it's very enlightening.

1811
01:17:13,160 --> 01:17:18,080
Speaker 3: I need to get better about my staying up on

1812
01:17:18,240 --> 01:17:22,800
Speaker 3: myself on a weekly basis because I realized I did

1813
01:17:22,840 --> 01:17:25,519
Speaker 3: not can I say it? Of course I did not

1814
01:17:25,560 --> 01:17:28,120
Speaker 3: pluck my nipple hairs before I went on, and that

1815
01:17:28,200 --> 01:17:30,280
Speaker 3: is something that I always do. And it's not like

1816
01:17:30,920 --> 01:17:34,000
Speaker 3: because he's gonna use And it's not because like I

1817
01:17:34,000 --> 01:17:36,080
Speaker 3: think I'm gonna show him my boobs or he's gonna

1818
01:17:36,120 --> 01:17:37,120
Speaker 3: like do you know what I mean? Like, it's not

1819
01:17:37,240 --> 01:17:40,519
Speaker 3: it's like for my self confidence, I need to be

1820
01:17:41,000 --> 01:17:44,120
Speaker 3: my legs need to be shaved, my crotch needs to

1821
01:17:44,120 --> 01:17:46,800
Speaker 3: be waxed, my nipple hairs need to be plucked, and

1822
01:17:46,880 --> 01:17:47,880
Speaker 3: makeup needs to be on.

1823
01:17:47,960 --> 01:17:51,240
Speaker 2: Okay, so were you sitting there mid dinner thinking my

1824
01:17:51,520 --> 01:17:53,920
Speaker 2: nipple hairs are still present?

1825
01:17:54,040 --> 01:17:56,400
Speaker 3: No? I realized it in the car on the way

1826
01:17:56,560 --> 01:17:59,840
Speaker 3: to dinner because I had like a very something.

1827
01:18:01,040 --> 01:18:03,160
Speaker 2: I felt it pull.

1828
01:18:03,160 --> 01:18:05,519
Speaker 3: It's a very low cut shirt that I was wearing,

1829
01:18:05,560 --> 01:18:07,439
Speaker 3: and I sat down and I just kind of look

1830
01:18:07,479 --> 01:18:14,160
Speaker 3: and I was like, oh my gosh, how did I

1831
01:18:14,240 --> 01:18:15,160
Speaker 3: let that slip?

1832
01:18:16,000 --> 01:18:21,160
Speaker 2: Everything else was done and everything's just makeup.

1833
01:18:21,360 --> 01:18:24,040
Speaker 6: You're not somebody who's self sabotaged. Like I've heard some women,

1834
01:18:24,200 --> 01:18:27,240
Speaker 6: even on their staff say they'll purposely not shave their

1835
01:18:27,320 --> 01:18:29,080
Speaker 6: legs that way they know they won't go home with

1836
01:18:29,120 --> 01:18:29,439
Speaker 6: the guy.

1837
01:18:29,600 --> 01:18:31,679
Speaker 2: Yeah, I've heard I know a lot of Yeah.

1838
01:18:31,800 --> 01:18:33,920
Speaker 3: No, because I've been there and I've had that phase

1839
01:18:33,960 --> 01:18:36,120
Speaker 3: of life. Like I have enough self control now to

1840
01:18:36,200 --> 01:18:37,800
Speaker 3: know what i want to do and what I'm going

1841
01:18:37,800 --> 01:18:40,040
Speaker 3: to do, what I'm comfortable with doing. It's more for

1842
01:18:40,160 --> 01:18:42,360
Speaker 3: like my inner swag, do you know what I mean.

1843
01:18:42,840 --> 01:18:46,080
Speaker 3: It's like I don't have my inner swag when I

1844
01:18:46,160 --> 01:18:50,320
Speaker 3: have like my nipple hair, and it's not.

1845
01:18:50,200 --> 01:18:52,920
Speaker 2: My ladies, I just want you to know you can still

1846
01:18:53,000 --> 01:18:56,400
Speaker 2: have inner swag with nipple hair. But this is a

1847
01:18:56,439 --> 01:18:58,880
Speaker 2: personal you know, this is a personal preference.

1848
01:18:59,040 --> 01:19:01,160
Speaker 3: Yes, but it's like the problem is is it's like

1849
01:19:01,280 --> 01:19:03,519
Speaker 3: it's not like a hairy part of your body, like

1850
01:19:03,560 --> 01:19:05,400
Speaker 3: I'll have two on the right and then I have

1851
01:19:05,520 --> 01:19:10,320
Speaker 3: like it's not like cute, No, and they're just like random,

1852
01:19:10,360 --> 01:19:12,160
Speaker 3: like you probably wouldn't even like if you looked at

1853
01:19:12,160 --> 01:19:14,519
Speaker 3: me naked. I bet nobody would ever be able to

1854
01:19:14,520 --> 01:19:17,599
Speaker 3: see them aside from me. But it's just in my head,

1855
01:19:17,720 --> 01:19:19,559
Speaker 3: like it's like not cute.

1856
01:19:21,640 --> 01:19:23,880
Speaker 6: Having said that the date was a good date and

1857
01:19:23,960 --> 01:19:26,360
Speaker 6: there may be a second date. That's the name of

1858
01:19:26,360 --> 01:19:26,679
Speaker 6: the show.

1859
01:19:26,880 --> 01:19:29,479
Speaker 3: Yeah, hope he's not listening. Yeah, I mean if he

1860
01:19:29,560 --> 01:19:31,439
Speaker 3: asked me out, he hasn't asked me out again, So

1861
01:19:31,760 --> 01:19:32,880
Speaker 3: havevill talked? Yeah?

1862
01:19:33,120 --> 01:19:35,800
Speaker 6: Okay, And there are other plates spinning right now. Sam Rubin,

1863
01:19:35,800 --> 01:19:39,080
Speaker 6: who's a local television personality here in Los Angeles Forever,

1864
01:19:39,320 --> 01:19:41,160
Speaker 6: is trying to hook her up with a guy. Her

1865
01:19:41,200 --> 01:19:42,720
Speaker 6: pastor is trying to hook her up with a guy.

1866
01:19:42,800 --> 01:19:46,240
Speaker 6: So there are suddenly there maybe some little buds growing

1867
01:19:46,240 --> 01:19:46,759
Speaker 6: in the garden.

1868
01:19:46,880 --> 01:19:50,759
Speaker 3: Yeah, you never know into practice. Yeah, are we warring you?

1869
01:19:51,200 --> 01:19:51,599
Speaker 2: Sorry?

1870
01:19:51,800 --> 01:19:55,760
Speaker 3: Wow, I was an aggressive But Chad Beach is going

1871
01:19:55,840 --> 01:19:56,919
Speaker 3: to be a guest on the podcast.

1872
01:19:57,000 --> 01:19:58,559
Speaker 2: I'm super yah.

1873
01:19:58,600 --> 01:20:03,799
Speaker 3: Okay, great, yeah that he's coming in December seventeenth, All right, Yeah.

1874
01:20:03,560 --> 01:20:05,840
Speaker 2: I would love for people to ask questions that like,

1875
01:20:06,439 --> 01:20:11,639
Speaker 2: you know, I think there's something about pastors have studied,

1876
01:20:12,240 --> 01:20:14,240
Speaker 2: you know, they studied the Bible, They've dealt with so

1877
01:20:14,280 --> 01:20:17,080
Speaker 2: many people in different walks of life and people. There's

1878
01:20:17,080 --> 01:20:20,920
Speaker 2: so many questions to be asked of what he thinks,

1879
01:20:20,960 --> 01:20:22,400
Speaker 2: like what are his views on certain.

1880
01:20:22,280 --> 01:20:24,559
Speaker 3: It's funny because he's never asked to like set me

1881
01:20:24,640 --> 01:20:26,840
Speaker 3: up with anybody. But I said, so I saw him

1882
01:20:26,880 --> 01:20:28,960
Speaker 3: on Sunday. I went to church on Sunday and he

1883
01:20:29,080 --> 01:20:31,880
Speaker 3: asked me about my Uh He's like, what'd you do?

1884
01:20:31,920 --> 01:20:33,240
Speaker 3: And I said, I went on a date last night.

1885
01:20:33,280 --> 01:20:34,840
Speaker 3: And he's like, how to go? And I said it

1886
01:20:35,160 --> 01:20:36,040
Speaker 3: was good. It was a good date.

1887
01:20:36,160 --> 01:20:37,799
Speaker 6: Did you tell him about the grooming situation.

1888
01:20:37,920 --> 01:20:40,439
Speaker 3: I did not talk about the grooming situation, but I

1889
01:20:40,560 --> 01:20:43,960
Speaker 3: kind of said, like it would be nice to go

1890
01:20:44,040 --> 01:20:47,960
Speaker 3: on a date and say like because it comes up

1891
01:20:48,000 --> 01:20:49,479
Speaker 3: like what are you doing tomorrow? And I said like, I'm,

1892
01:20:49,560 --> 01:20:51,200
Speaker 3: you know, going to go to church and whatever and

1893
01:20:51,280 --> 01:20:54,240
Speaker 3: to have somebody say like, oh, you know, I'd like

1894
01:20:54,280 --> 01:20:56,599
Speaker 3: to come with you or you know, like just just

1895
01:20:56,960 --> 01:20:59,360
Speaker 3: not like just not pooh pooh it so much, if

1896
01:20:59,360 --> 01:21:01,760
Speaker 3: that makes sense, yes, And he like it was like

1897
01:21:01,760 --> 01:21:03,240
Speaker 3: a light bulb went off in his head and he

1898
01:21:03,360 --> 01:21:07,080
Speaker 3: was like, oh my gosh, I never knew this, but like,

1899
01:21:07,400 --> 01:21:08,880
Speaker 3: will you just go out with this one person for

1900
01:21:08,960 --> 01:21:11,439
Speaker 3: me just once, Like there's this guy and it just

1901
01:21:11,800 --> 01:21:13,280
Speaker 3: he was just kind of like, I think it would

1902
01:21:13,280 --> 01:21:16,519
Speaker 3: just be if nothing, you'd be good friends. So I said,

1903
01:21:17,240 --> 01:21:20,360
Speaker 3: do you know the guy? No, No, mat him. I know,

1904
01:21:20,880 --> 01:21:22,559
Speaker 3: I know. I'm just trusting and say, with the same

1905
01:21:22,640 --> 01:21:24,200
Speaker 3: Ruben guy, I'm like, I'm not even going to like

1906
01:21:24,240 --> 01:21:25,840
Speaker 3: look them up because I just don't want to.

1907
01:21:25,920 --> 01:21:28,000
Speaker 2: Like, no, I don't want to know too. He sent

1908
01:21:28,040 --> 01:21:30,240
Speaker 2: you a picture though, Yes, yeah, yeah, I saw pictures

1909
01:21:30,240 --> 01:21:30,559
Speaker 2: of cute.

1910
01:21:30,680 --> 01:21:31,679
Speaker 6: Yeah, I saw the picture.

1911
01:21:31,720 --> 01:21:33,559
Speaker 2: Oh I didn't see that. I didn't see the same

1912
01:21:33,640 --> 01:21:34,400
Speaker 2: Rubin guy's cute.

1913
01:21:34,479 --> 01:21:36,800
Speaker 6: Yes, that's what I saw as well. I agree, he's cute.

1914
01:21:36,800 --> 01:21:38,880
Speaker 3: They're both cute. They're both great, and you know me,

1915
01:21:38,920 --> 01:21:40,840
Speaker 3: it's not so much looks like I need, like.

1916
01:21:40,800 --> 01:21:42,400
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, but that's all you have right now, So

1917
01:21:42,439 --> 01:21:44,240
Speaker 2: you're like cool cute.

1918
01:21:47,080 --> 01:21:52,160
Speaker 6: Okay, emails Jessica. Well, actually there's a couple that I

1919
01:21:52,160 --> 01:21:54,800
Speaker 6: feel like, I feel like we can help these people.

1920
01:21:54,960 --> 01:21:57,880
Speaker 5: You know, some of these iful for us.

1921
01:21:58,080 --> 01:22:01,160
Speaker 6: Jessica, I'm a senior in colle college, graduating in May.

1922
01:22:01,280 --> 01:22:03,599
Speaker 6: I've lived in Colorado my whole life. I love it here,

1923
01:22:03,640 --> 01:22:05,839
Speaker 6: but I've been thinking about moving out of state after college.

1924
01:22:06,360 --> 01:22:08,240
Speaker 6: The idea of being on my own excites me, and

1925
01:22:08,280 --> 01:22:09,840
Speaker 6: I think would be great to have a fresh start.

1926
01:22:10,080 --> 01:22:12,280
Speaker 6: The dilemma I'm having is that my sister just found

1927
01:22:12,280 --> 01:22:14,800
Speaker 6: out she's pregnant. She's my best friend. I always joke

1928
01:22:14,840 --> 01:22:16,639
Speaker 6: about being her full time nanny because they really want

1929
01:22:16,640 --> 01:22:18,719
Speaker 6: to be a big part of my future niece nephew's life.

1930
01:22:19,200 --> 01:22:21,439
Speaker 6: I feel selfish thinking about leaving right now as they

1931
01:22:21,479 --> 01:22:23,240
Speaker 6: have their baby. I could fly and drive home to

1932
01:22:23,240 --> 01:22:25,080
Speaker 6: see her, but wouldn't be the same. I've prayed a

1933
01:22:25,080 --> 01:22:27,519
Speaker 6: lot about this, I haven't gotten any answers yet. I

1934
01:22:27,560 --> 01:22:29,519
Speaker 6: need to start applying for jobs soon. What would you

1935
01:22:29,520 --> 01:22:30,559
Speaker 6: guys do in this situation?

1936
01:22:30,640 --> 01:22:32,160
Speaker 2: I'm going to tell you what I'd do in this situation.

1937
01:22:32,240 --> 01:22:34,880
Speaker 2: I have a good answer to I would go off

1938
01:22:34,920 --> 01:22:39,640
Speaker 2: on your own, live somewhere else, experience life outside of Colorado.

1939
01:22:40,680 --> 01:22:42,840
Speaker 2: And if when that baby comes you feel like you

1940
01:22:42,880 --> 01:22:45,680
Speaker 2: need to be back home, you have nine months. You

1941
01:22:45,720 --> 01:22:48,360
Speaker 2: can live for nine months, and when that time comes

1942
01:22:48,400 --> 01:22:50,360
Speaker 2: and you go home and see the baby. You can

1943
01:22:50,400 --> 01:22:52,920
Speaker 2: decide do I want to be present? Do I want

1944
01:22:52,960 --> 01:22:54,960
Speaker 2: to be here? Or am I enjoying my life on

1945
01:22:55,000 --> 01:22:57,759
Speaker 2: my own in my career. That's my advice.

1946
01:22:57,800 --> 01:22:58,519
Speaker 6: I think that's good.

1947
01:22:58,640 --> 01:23:04,120
Speaker 3: Tanya, say, do what's going to make you, what's gonna

1948
01:23:04,920 --> 01:23:07,439
Speaker 3: make you the happiest. So if that's staying at home

1949
01:23:07,479 --> 01:23:09,679
Speaker 3: with your family, that's gonna always be on your mind,

1950
01:23:09,720 --> 01:23:12,000
Speaker 3: then stay home with your family. If it's trying to

1951
01:23:12,040 --> 01:23:14,680
Speaker 3: pursue whatever job that you want and that job is

1952
01:23:14,720 --> 01:23:17,360
Speaker 3: out of state, like, then do that. I think you

1953
01:23:17,439 --> 01:23:20,360
Speaker 3: have to just take outside like you have to do

1954
01:23:20,400 --> 01:23:24,599
Speaker 3: what's going to fuel your heart and not anybody else's.

1955
01:23:24,600 --> 01:23:26,320
Speaker 6: I think that's good. I think you need to envision

1956
01:23:26,360 --> 01:23:29,479
Speaker 6: yourself in both lives. If you're living in Colorado, so

1957
01:23:29,479 --> 01:23:32,640
Speaker 6: if you're living in Wyoming, are you going to do

1958
01:23:32,720 --> 01:23:35,719
Speaker 6: you envision yourself constantly wishing you were home with your family?

1959
01:23:35,880 --> 01:23:36,080
Speaker 3: Right?

1960
01:23:36,400 --> 01:23:38,880
Speaker 6: If you're living with your family, are you constantly wondering

1961
01:23:38,920 --> 01:23:40,559
Speaker 6: what would have happened if you'd gone out of state

1962
01:23:40,600 --> 01:23:42,800
Speaker 6: on your own? Which of those balances out more? And

1963
01:23:42,840 --> 01:23:44,960
Speaker 6: what I would do? Because I love taking the decision

1964
01:23:44,960 --> 01:23:47,400
Speaker 6: out of my hands. And here's how you take the

1965
01:23:47,439 --> 01:23:51,440
Speaker 6: decision out of your hands. Apply for a job everywhere.

1966
01:23:52,080 --> 01:23:53,439
Speaker 6: I don't know what field you're in. I don't know

1967
01:23:53,439 --> 01:23:56,639
Speaker 6: anything about what you're looking to do. Apply in every state.

1968
01:23:57,080 --> 01:24:00,720
Speaker 6: You can apply locally, Apply, apply, apply, apply, because the

1969
01:24:00,760 --> 01:24:03,800
Speaker 6: path will form. If you just put enough feelers out there,

1970
01:24:04,160 --> 01:24:07,479
Speaker 6: the right answer will be presented to you. Yeah, I

1971
01:24:07,479 --> 01:24:09,559
Speaker 6: don't think you're going to get an exact equal offer

1972
01:24:09,600 --> 01:24:11,599
Speaker 6: from where you're living now and out of state.

1973
01:24:12,040 --> 01:24:14,840
Speaker 2: I also think that no matter what you do, you're

1974
01:24:14,880 --> 01:24:18,719
Speaker 2: gonna have moments where you're like, whether you're out of town,

1975
01:24:18,800 --> 01:24:20,479
Speaker 2: you're gonna be like, I wish it would be so

1976
01:24:20,600 --> 01:24:22,720
Speaker 2: nice to be home with my family, And when you're there,

1977
01:24:22,760 --> 01:24:24,960
Speaker 2: you're gonna be like I kind of wish I had

1978
01:24:24,960 --> 01:24:26,479
Speaker 2: gone out on my own. Like, you're going to have

1979
01:24:26,520 --> 01:24:29,960
Speaker 2: that feeling no matter what you do, because you you

1980
01:24:30,479 --> 01:24:32,679
Speaker 2: clearly love your sister and you're close with your family,

1981
01:24:32,720 --> 01:24:34,519
Speaker 2: so you want to be there, but you also want

1982
01:24:34,520 --> 01:24:36,880
Speaker 2: to do something for yourself, which you should. Like you're

1983
01:24:36,960 --> 01:24:40,439
Speaker 2: young and you're like just graduating college, and if your

1984
01:24:40,640 --> 01:24:42,720
Speaker 2: desire and what you want to do with your life

1985
01:24:42,800 --> 01:24:45,240
Speaker 2: right now is move your sister and your niece and

1986
01:24:45,280 --> 01:24:47,960
Speaker 2: nephew are going to be there and they're gonna You're

1987
01:24:48,000 --> 01:24:48,599
Speaker 2: gonna be able.

1988
01:24:48,439 --> 01:24:52,439
Speaker 3: To have like a real like it really is a

1989
01:24:52,479 --> 01:24:53,000
Speaker 3: game changer.

1990
01:24:53,360 --> 01:24:55,759
Speaker 6: Look, two of the three of us left our families

1991
01:24:55,800 --> 01:24:57,920
Speaker 6: behind and moved across the country to chase our dreams.

1992
01:24:58,400 --> 01:25:01,160
Speaker 6: And it's something I think everybody has to do at

1993
01:25:01,200 --> 01:25:02,599
Speaker 6: some point, and that's the time to do it.

1994
01:25:03,520 --> 01:25:05,880
Speaker 3: I went to the hearty state of Arizona for four years.

1995
01:25:05,880 --> 01:25:07,400
Speaker 3: That's that's been from But.

1996
01:25:07,479 --> 01:25:10,479
Speaker 6: That's that's a big one. That was big because you're eighteen.

1997
01:25:10,560 --> 01:25:12,880
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah, And I was like, wait, what I.

1998
01:25:12,800 --> 01:25:14,880
Speaker 6: Want to read this one from anonymous because sometimes the

1999
01:25:14,920 --> 01:25:17,680
Speaker 6: answer is so obvious, but a person needs to hear

2000
01:25:17,720 --> 01:25:19,200
Speaker 6: it from an outside source, and we can be that

2001
01:25:19,240 --> 01:25:22,599
Speaker 6: outside source. She says, I'm turning thirty. I've been married

2002
01:25:22,640 --> 01:25:25,719
Speaker 6: five years, been together twelve total. That's since she was eighteen.

2003
01:25:25,760 --> 01:25:28,280
Speaker 6: We do not have kids. My marriage is falling apart.

2004
01:25:28,360 --> 01:25:30,840
Speaker 6: My husband chooses not to communicate, He pushes me away.

2005
01:25:31,200 --> 01:25:32,880
Speaker 6: He's done this to his whole family and plenty of

2006
01:25:32,880 --> 01:25:35,200
Speaker 6: friends in our twelve years. In public, he has verbally

2007
01:25:35,240 --> 01:25:37,040
Speaker 6: abused me in front of our friends and family. I

2008
01:25:37,080 --> 01:25:39,160
Speaker 6: always brushed it aside and ignored it. He was my

2009
01:25:39,240 --> 01:25:42,240
Speaker 6: first boyfriend, my only sexual partner, and the only guy

2010
01:25:42,240 --> 01:25:45,560
Speaker 6: I've ever loved. He has an addictive personality, alcoholism, and

2011
01:25:45,600 --> 01:25:48,280
Speaker 6: most recently, drugs. If I touch the subject, I get

2012
01:25:48,360 --> 01:25:50,920
Speaker 6: chewed out on paper. And writing this letter, I know

2013
01:25:51,000 --> 01:25:54,160
Speaker 6: I'm better off alone, but I've been with him for

2014
01:25:54,439 --> 01:25:57,200
Speaker 6: seventeen years and I'm terrified of being alone. It's all

2015
01:25:57,240 --> 01:26:00,000
Speaker 6: I know. I am the type of person who suffers alone.

2016
01:26:00,240 --> 01:26:02,160
Speaker 6: No one knows that our marriage is basically over, and

2017
01:26:02,200 --> 01:26:05,960
Speaker 6: the thought of it cripples me. I know that's tough.

2018
01:26:06,720 --> 01:26:09,240
Speaker 6: I know she's in a tough situation, but you gotta

2019
01:26:09,640 --> 01:26:10,080
Speaker 6: gotta go.

2020
01:26:10,200 --> 01:26:10,800
Speaker 3: You gotta go.

2021
01:26:11,360 --> 01:26:13,479
Speaker 6: You don't have kids, and that's such a blessing right now.

2022
01:26:13,560 --> 01:26:15,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, Yeah, I get out you're.

2023
01:26:15,760 --> 01:26:17,200
Speaker 6: So much better off without this person.

2024
01:26:17,720 --> 01:26:20,640
Speaker 2: And I know that's so easy to say, Like when

2025
01:26:20,680 --> 01:26:24,280
Speaker 2: you're in it, you're like you're stuck and you feel

2026
01:26:24,280 --> 01:26:28,000
Speaker 2: like you can't leave. But you're gonna have to find

2027
01:26:28,080 --> 01:26:31,320
Speaker 2: people around you who love you and surround you and

2028
01:26:31,360 --> 01:26:33,439
Speaker 2: lift you up because this is not it's not going

2029
01:26:33,520 --> 01:26:34,040
Speaker 2: to get better.

2030
01:26:34,520 --> 01:26:36,840
Speaker 3: Yeah. I think that a lot of times. A lot

2031
01:26:36,920 --> 01:26:40,040
Speaker 3: of people stay in relationships that aren't great because they

2032
01:26:40,200 --> 01:26:43,479
Speaker 3: fear not being in a relationship is worse or they're

2033
01:26:43,520 --> 01:26:45,320
Speaker 3: not gonna be able to find anything better. And I

2034
01:26:45,320 --> 01:26:49,240
Speaker 3: think that's such like a misconception because I think being

2035
01:26:49,280 --> 01:26:52,120
Speaker 3: in a toxic relationship is so much worse than being

2036
01:26:52,200 --> 01:26:55,040
Speaker 3: like on your own for however long you have to

2037
01:26:55,080 --> 01:26:56,760
Speaker 3: be on your own, you know, because I think like

2038
01:26:57,040 --> 01:26:58,920
Speaker 3: when you're on your own you can finally start coming

2039
01:26:58,960 --> 01:27:01,400
Speaker 3: to yourself again and like being happy and finding joy.

2040
01:27:01,479 --> 01:27:04,040
Speaker 3: When you're attached to somebody that's doing making it your

2041
01:27:04,080 --> 01:27:08,720
Speaker 3: life toxic, you can't get out it, Like nothing you

2042
01:27:08,800 --> 01:27:10,040
Speaker 3: do is going to make that better.

2043
01:27:10,400 --> 01:27:12,679
Speaker 6: No, And think how much stress you're going through right now,

2044
01:27:13,400 --> 01:27:15,800
Speaker 6: how much of your brain right now is occupied by him?

2045
01:27:16,439 --> 01:27:17,640
Speaker 6: And what mood is it going to be? And is

2046
01:27:17,680 --> 01:27:19,240
Speaker 6: he gonna be drunk? Is it gonna be high? How's

2047
01:27:19,280 --> 01:27:20,599
Speaker 6: this going to go? Is it going to be a jerk?

2048
01:27:20,600 --> 01:27:22,040
Speaker 6: And all this stuff, and you can be free of

2049
01:27:22,160 --> 01:27:22,960
Speaker 6: all this stuff.

2050
01:27:23,600 --> 01:27:26,360
Speaker 2: It's really important for you. It's like crucial that you

2051
01:27:26,400 --> 01:27:28,800
Speaker 2: figure out who you are without him. It's not I

2052
01:27:28,840 --> 01:27:31,519
Speaker 2: think even being in a relationship that long, even if

2053
01:27:31,520 --> 01:27:36,599
Speaker 2: it wasn't like dangerous or like a like horrible situation,

2054
01:27:36,680 --> 01:27:38,400
Speaker 2: but if when you've been with someone that long, you

2055
01:27:38,439 --> 01:27:42,439
Speaker 2: don't know who you are as an individual, and like

2056
01:27:42,479 --> 01:27:44,920
Speaker 2: that alone is such an important thing to figure out,

2057
01:27:44,920 --> 01:27:49,240
Speaker 2: but especially when it's someone who's toxic, it's like you

2058
01:27:49,280 --> 01:27:52,040
Speaker 2: haven't even scratched the surface of how great you are,

2059
01:27:52,560 --> 01:27:54,000
Speaker 2: the happiness and joy you can go.

2060
01:27:54,200 --> 01:27:57,000
Speaker 3: Oh, oh my god, Wow, I just choked on my

2061
01:27:57,040 --> 01:27:57,439
Speaker 3: own spit.

2062
01:27:58,200 --> 01:28:03,720
Speaker 2: It's like a bug flu in their mouth so hard.

2063
01:28:04,680 --> 01:28:06,200
Speaker 6: Do you have water? Have a big jug of water

2064
01:28:06,240 --> 01:28:06,559
Speaker 6: right there?

2065
01:28:13,040 --> 01:28:16,679
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh. Okay, what does that call? They would

2066
01:28:16,680 --> 01:28:17,400
Speaker 3: sponsor my life?

2067
01:28:17,439 --> 01:28:18,880
Speaker 6: I love them, all right, so we're on board, We're

2068
01:28:18,920 --> 01:28:19,519
Speaker 6: on the same page.

2069
01:28:19,720 --> 01:28:19,880
Speaker 2: Yeah.

2070
01:28:19,880 --> 01:28:21,360
Speaker 3: But what I'm what I was going to say, because

2071
01:28:21,400 --> 01:28:24,280
Speaker 3: I got so excited I choked my own spit, is

2072
01:28:24,400 --> 01:28:28,200
Speaker 3: that like I know that fear because I remember when

2073
01:28:28,240 --> 01:28:30,200
Speaker 3: I was in a long term relationship and when I

2074
01:28:30,240 --> 01:28:32,800
Speaker 3: got out of it, it was literally like in my head,

2075
01:28:32,840 --> 01:28:35,720
Speaker 3: I was like, how soon can I get into the

2076
01:28:35,800 --> 01:28:37,680
Speaker 3: next relationship because I don't want to go to a

2077
01:28:37,720 --> 01:28:40,439
Speaker 3: wedding alone. I had a wedding and I can't remember,

2078
01:28:40,520 --> 01:28:42,720
Speaker 3: it was like August or September or something, and I

2079
01:28:42,800 --> 01:28:44,519
Speaker 3: was like, I cannot go to a wedding alone, Like

2080
01:28:44,520 --> 01:28:45,840
Speaker 3: how who am I going to bring to this wedding.

2081
01:28:45,880 --> 01:28:47,320
Speaker 3: I can't do this alone. I can't do this. And

2082
01:28:47,920 --> 01:28:49,639
Speaker 3: you know what I mean, it's like you you that's

2083
01:28:49,720 --> 01:28:52,160
Speaker 3: like I feel like that's what she's thinking about right now,

2084
01:28:53,080 --> 01:28:56,160
Speaker 3: and that's so like And I wanted to like tell

2085
01:28:56,280 --> 01:29:00,200
Speaker 3: Anonymous that that's so normal, that like everybody goes through that.

2086
01:29:00,320 --> 01:29:02,640
Speaker 3: But you're gonna do things that you never thought you

2087
01:29:02,680 --> 01:29:03,439
Speaker 3: could do on your.

2088
01:29:03,320 --> 01:29:07,760
Speaker 2: Own, Like your life since your breakup has, I mean,

2089
01:29:08,240 --> 01:29:10,559
Speaker 2: as how much you've grown as a person is enough

2090
01:29:10,960 --> 01:29:12,240
Speaker 2: just to show like what.

2091
01:29:12,520 --> 01:29:14,720
Speaker 3: Totally And I never thought that I would be doing

2092
01:29:14,880 --> 01:29:16,479
Speaker 3: half of the stuff on my own them that I

2093
01:29:16,600 --> 01:29:19,439
Speaker 3: am now. And it's like I had that same mental,

2094
01:29:19,640 --> 01:29:20,280
Speaker 3: that same thought.

2095
01:29:20,920 --> 01:29:23,439
Speaker 6: I know somebody my wife, and I know somebody who

2096
01:29:23,560 --> 01:29:25,720
Speaker 6: was in a relationship like this, and it was a

2097
01:29:25,760 --> 01:29:28,320
Speaker 6: different situation because they had a bunch of kids and

2098
01:29:28,400 --> 01:29:29,760
Speaker 6: she was always afraid to leave for a lot of

2099
01:29:29,760 --> 01:29:31,560
Speaker 6: the reasons you're listening here, And she did and she

2100
01:29:31,840 --> 01:29:36,040
Speaker 6: is thriving, She got remarried again, she is madly in

2101
01:29:36,120 --> 01:29:39,040
Speaker 6: love like never before, I mean, living her best life

2102
01:29:39,080 --> 01:29:40,800
Speaker 6: and we're so happy for her. And that's what your

2103
01:29:40,880 --> 01:29:42,760
Speaker 6: future is. Anonymous you deserve better than that.

2104
01:29:42,880 --> 01:29:43,240
Speaker 3: Yes, right.

2105
01:29:43,479 --> 01:29:47,040
Speaker 4: The happiest people I know, like truly a weird sort

2106
01:29:47,040 --> 01:29:52,280
Speaker 4: of peaceful happiness, are the ones who left bad relationships

2107
01:29:52,640 --> 01:29:54,840
Speaker 4: because they know how strong they were.

2108
01:29:55,240 --> 01:29:57,479
Speaker 5: They knew they can do it on their own. They

2109
01:29:57,640 --> 01:29:59,360
Speaker 5: always fall in love again.

2110
01:30:00,560 --> 01:30:02,160
Speaker 6: Hm, I can better, Yeah, stronger.

2111
01:30:02,640 --> 01:30:02,880
Speaker 2: Yeah.

2112
01:30:03,479 --> 01:30:05,679
Speaker 10: I was in a really really bad relationship a couple

2113
01:30:05,680 --> 01:30:07,680
Speaker 10: of years ago, like with this really toxic person, and

2114
01:30:07,760 --> 01:30:10,040
Speaker 10: it was affecting all aspects of my life. And I

2115
01:30:10,240 --> 01:30:12,679
Speaker 10: was consumed with the thought that it will get better.

2116
01:30:13,080 --> 01:30:14,800
Speaker 10: It was good at the beginning and it can go

2117
01:30:15,040 --> 01:30:17,000
Speaker 10: back to that. And like every time I thought about ending,

2118
01:30:17,040 --> 01:30:18,240
Speaker 10: and I was like, well, no, maybe if I, like,

2119
01:30:18,280 --> 01:30:20,400
Speaker 10: if I do something different, able to get better. And

2120
01:30:20,600 --> 01:30:22,160
Speaker 10: I had to like look myself in the mirror and

2121
01:30:22,160 --> 01:30:24,320
Speaker 10: tell myself, like, it's not going to get better. The

2122
01:30:24,400 --> 01:30:26,240
Speaker 10: only way I'll get better is if you leave this person,

2123
01:30:26,280 --> 01:30:28,760
Speaker 10: don't talk to them anymore. And I did, and now

2124
01:30:28,840 --> 01:30:34,320
Speaker 10: I'm very happy. You look at me now, there's a

2125
01:30:34,360 --> 01:30:35,080
Speaker 10: lot of darkness to me.

2126
01:30:35,120 --> 01:30:37,400
Speaker 5: I mean that you don't know that just throwing this

2127
01:30:37,520 --> 01:30:38,760
Speaker 5: out there, I'm sensing the.

2128
01:30:38,840 --> 01:30:43,200
Speaker 4: Person was a narcissist. Yeah, yeah, I can tell because

2129
01:30:43,200 --> 01:30:45,679
Speaker 4: I know you. I don't want to get emotional.

2130
01:30:47,439 --> 01:30:50,559
Speaker 2: I mean I love when you, not that you get emotional,

2131
01:30:50,640 --> 01:30:53,720
Speaker 2: but it's like, because so nice.

2132
01:30:55,760 --> 01:30:57,640
Speaker 7: And that you would think it was you and it

2133
01:30:57,800 --> 01:30:58,360
Speaker 7: was never you.

2134
01:31:00,400 --> 01:31:01,640
Speaker 6: Is that true? Did you think it was you?

2135
01:31:02,240 --> 01:31:02,960
Speaker 7: Yeah? I thought it was me.

2136
01:31:03,120 --> 01:31:03,720
Speaker 6: She said it was me.

2137
01:31:05,400 --> 01:31:08,840
Speaker 4: Oh, because I know you, because you're the like the

2138
01:31:08,920 --> 01:31:11,080
Speaker 4: one that takes it on and wants to fix it

2139
01:31:11,200 --> 01:31:11,840
Speaker 4: and make it better.

2140
01:31:12,080 --> 01:31:12,240
Speaker 3: Oh.

2141
01:31:12,360 --> 01:31:14,240
Speaker 5: I just felt that in the minute you said he's.

2142
01:31:14,040 --> 01:31:16,120
Speaker 6: Got a good hearty, thank you.

2143
01:31:16,320 --> 01:31:16,800
Speaker 3: That's heart.

2144
01:31:17,040 --> 01:31:19,160
Speaker 4: But it's such an important lesson for everyone listening because

2145
01:31:19,280 --> 01:31:21,960
Speaker 4: look at now, like when you say you're so happy.

2146
01:31:22,640 --> 01:31:24,479
Speaker 10: No, yeah, I'm the happiest I've ever been. I did

2147
01:31:24,520 --> 01:31:25,360
Speaker 10: not think I could achieve.

2148
01:31:26,800 --> 01:31:26,960
Speaker 3: Yeah.

2149
01:31:26,960 --> 01:31:28,320
Speaker 10: I went from the worst person in the world to

2150
01:31:28,360 --> 01:31:30,160
Speaker 10: the greatest person, zero to hero.

2151
01:31:30,960 --> 01:31:35,080
Speaker 5: I hate when people are sad and in bad situations.

2152
01:31:35,560 --> 01:31:35,880
Speaker 6: Sucks.

2153
01:31:36,040 --> 01:31:40,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, And the problem is that most of the time

2154
01:31:40,360 --> 01:31:43,240
Speaker 2: people think it's them, Like it's like, what can I

2155
01:31:43,400 --> 01:31:46,679
Speaker 2: do to fix it? And it's like like Nick said

2156
01:31:46,720 --> 01:31:49,599
Speaker 2: something that I really last week. On last week's episode,

2157
01:31:49,640 --> 01:31:51,760
Speaker 2: he said something where he was like, you can be

2158
01:31:51,840 --> 01:31:54,280
Speaker 2: doing your one hundred percent and if the other person

2159
01:31:54,400 --> 01:31:56,800
Speaker 2: isn't doing their one hundred percent. You can't take that on.

2160
01:31:57,400 --> 01:32:01,000
Speaker 2: And I think we all in different relationship our listeners,

2161
01:32:01,080 --> 01:32:03,720
Speaker 2: like we all think like if I can just put

2162
01:32:03,760 --> 01:32:06,160
Speaker 2: in the extra work for what they're not doing, eventually

2163
01:32:06,280 --> 01:32:07,200
Speaker 2: they'll put it back in.

2164
01:32:07,360 --> 01:32:10,760
Speaker 4: And it's like, you're that's not guaranteed and it's very unlikely. Really,

2165
01:32:10,920 --> 01:32:13,040
Speaker 4: isn't it funny about Nick? And I don't think he

2166
01:32:13,080 --> 01:32:15,400
Speaker 4: would care that I'm saying this about him. What you

2167
01:32:15,560 --> 01:32:20,400
Speaker 4: think Nick is from TV is the opposite of what

2168
01:32:20,680 --> 01:32:25,120
Speaker 4: he is. He was last week, deep feeling person. I

2169
01:32:25,240 --> 01:32:27,160
Speaker 4: loved last week's show. You guys, that was sun a

2170
01:32:27,360 --> 01:32:27,840
Speaker 4: good job.

2171
01:32:28,240 --> 01:32:30,840
Speaker 2: I just so cool. It's funny with Nick because even

2172
01:32:30,960 --> 01:32:32,240
Speaker 2: when you told me he was gonna be like the

2173
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Speaker 2: single guy, I was like, what Nick?

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Speaker 1: Like what that?

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Speaker 2: Nick? I know? I just like really enjoyed him. He

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Speaker 2: had a lot of things that he said where I

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Speaker 2: was like, that's really good.

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Speaker 3: He never.

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Speaker 2: Him last week.

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Speaker 7: I know when you know him.

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Speaker 4: See, I know him very well. Now I'm not saying

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Speaker 4: he doesn't he irritates me something, but I know him.

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Speaker 4: He is really interesting and a really good person and

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Speaker 4: does his one hundred percent of the fifty percent. You

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Speaker 4: know what I mean, he said, I was so fascinated.

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Speaker 4: I just to repeat, I won't I won't be boring.

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Speaker 4: But because for people that listened, was his story about

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Speaker 4: you inflict your own pain rather than be boring or

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Speaker 4: b Yeah, I know that was fascinating too. Yeah, he

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Speaker 4: sent me the link. I have to watch it still,

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Speaker 4: but it is. It's vast, really fascinating.

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Speaker 1: True.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, that's why we sabotage ourselves because we need something. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: but to spin that hamster wheel.

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Speaker 3: So Amy just mentioned Nick Vile or vyel viah Yeah,

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Speaker 6: Third love dot com slash Becca. Before we wrap anonymous

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Speaker 6: s and to some suggestions, okay for our show, I

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Speaker 6: thought this was good.

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01:35:45,600 --> 01:35:48,080
Speaker 3: I think we can get all the today paging the

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01:35:48,160 --> 01:35:54,560
Speaker 3: doctors and just likes. Every week we always forget it.

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01:35:54,720 --> 01:35:57,960
Speaker 6: Why can't we yet?

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01:35:59,080 --> 01:36:01,519
Speaker 2: I have a great idea. Let's take that insert it

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01:36:01,640 --> 01:36:02,840
Speaker 2: before we talked about Grace.

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01:36:05,320 --> 01:36:09,760
Speaker 6: I'm sorry, Tan, you're really taking this hard, like but

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01:36:09,840 --> 01:36:13,680
Speaker 6: you had no ble here and Lisa, good show, very

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01:36:13,720 --> 01:36:14,160
Speaker 6: good guests.

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Speaker 2: What are anonymous suggestions?

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01:36:16,160 --> 01:36:18,160
Speaker 6: Just have a couple of suggestions for some topics questions.

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01:36:18,160 --> 01:36:19,720
Speaker 6: I'd love to hear your thoughts on here. They are

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01:36:19,840 --> 01:36:21,400
Speaker 6: I'm almost thirty two years old. I want to have

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01:36:21,479 --> 01:36:23,840
Speaker 6: kids in the future. Have you considered freezing your eggs? Well,

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Speaker 6: we discussed that with the call, so boom, there you go.

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Speaker 6: Check on that one.

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Speaker 3: Actually an answer is yes for me.

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01:36:29,200 --> 01:36:32,599
Speaker 4: This is the topic that is on every show right now.

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01:36:32,760 --> 01:36:36,200
Speaker 4: So Ben and Ashley had Sadie on this. Yes, that's right,

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01:36:37,560 --> 01:36:40,960
Speaker 4: Vanessa is considering it. Vanessa Grimaldi and you guys talked

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01:36:40,960 --> 01:36:44,040
Speaker 4: about It's like, women very much are considering it.

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01:36:44,120 --> 01:36:45,519
Speaker 5: We need to do more on them.

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01:36:46,400 --> 01:36:46,519
Speaker 2: Uh.

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Speaker 6: This woman alsoys like Tanya, I'm one hundred percent on

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01:36:49,160 --> 01:36:51,160
Speaker 6: board with more period talk. It's one of those things

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01:36:51,200 --> 01:36:53,200
Speaker 6: that doesn't come up very often. Now, I'd love to

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01:36:53,240 --> 01:36:55,439
Speaker 6: hear how you guys deal with cramps. Have you ever

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01:36:55,520 --> 01:36:57,519
Speaker 6: experienced irregular periods? Et cetera?

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01:36:57,680 --> 01:36:57,840
Speaker 1: Yes?

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Speaker 5: Would you do the things underwear for me as a test?

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01:37:01,680 --> 01:37:02,040
Speaker 3: What's that?

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01:37:02,680 --> 01:37:03,840
Speaker 5: It's those underwear?

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01:37:04,560 --> 01:37:07,120
Speaker 3: Oh, the pad underwear? Yeah? I use tampons, but.

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01:37:07,160 --> 01:37:07,840
Speaker 2: Would you try it?

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01:37:08,360 --> 01:37:08,559
Speaker 4: Sure?

2276
01:37:09,439 --> 01:37:09,640
Speaker 2: Do it?

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01:37:10,200 --> 01:37:10,840
Speaker 3: Do a test?

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01:37:11,479 --> 01:37:12,599
Speaker 6: How do you deal with cramps?

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01:37:15,360 --> 01:37:17,519
Speaker 2: Makes me take have to eat with it?

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01:37:17,720 --> 01:37:20,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, I use heating pads and then I also really

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01:37:20,240 --> 01:37:22,479
Speaker 3: enjoy burger around my period a burger.

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01:37:22,760 --> 01:37:27,000
Speaker 5: Yeah, I'm also on my period, which me too. Explain.

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01:37:28,320 --> 01:37:31,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, I've almost I've almost Amy. I have horrible news

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01:37:31,960 --> 01:37:34,920
Speaker 2: for you, great news for Tanya, horrible news for you.

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01:37:35,479 --> 01:37:37,760
Speaker 5: I don't even know what's coming.

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01:37:38,479 --> 01:37:40,920
Speaker 2: Well, I'm moving to Studio City.

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01:37:44,600 --> 01:37:45,280
Speaker 3: So here's the thing.

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Speaker 4: I have been self preparing for this for about a

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01:37:48,600 --> 01:37:52,040
Speaker 4: year because Beca mentioned about like a year ago, you

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01:37:52,120 --> 01:37:55,080
Speaker 4: had mentioned you were looking for a bigger So I've

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01:37:55,120 --> 01:37:59,120
Speaker 4: always and finding a bigger place in our neighborhood. It's literally, yeah,

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01:37:59,600 --> 01:38:01,800
Speaker 4: almost impossible. I need to do like four hundred and

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01:38:01,840 --> 01:38:02,719
Speaker 4: twelve more podcasts.

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01:38:05,520 --> 01:38:08,320
Speaker 2: We have like twenty sponsors each pot because where we live.

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01:38:08,360 --> 01:38:09,080
Speaker 5: We I'll just admit it.

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01:38:09,120 --> 01:38:12,040
Speaker 4: We live in Brentwood, which is like it's just impossible

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Speaker 4: to find a big place.

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Speaker 7: There that you can.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, so I've been preparing, think, but here's the beauty.

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01:38:16,640 --> 01:38:17,800
Speaker 5: I get to see you all here.

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01:38:18,040 --> 01:38:18,200
Speaker 9: I know.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, why what? I was looking for a bigger place

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01:38:23,360 --> 01:38:26,000
Speaker 6: and tiny just moved to Studio City on the West Side.

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01:38:26,040 --> 01:38:27,200
Speaker 6: So you guys, you get a house please.

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01:38:27,560 --> 01:38:28,360
Speaker 2: I got a townhouse.

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01:38:28,520 --> 01:38:29,000
Speaker 3: Oh cute.

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Speaker 1: I like it.

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Speaker 2: So I just like went. I was like looking. I

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01:38:33,040 --> 01:38:36,120
Speaker 2: wasn't in a rush to find somewhere, but I thought,

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01:38:36,240 --> 01:38:38,400
Speaker 2: if I find somewhere that I just walk in. I'm like,

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01:38:38,600 --> 01:38:40,840
Speaker 2: this could be my home. Then I'm gonna do it,

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01:38:41,080 --> 01:38:46,519
Speaker 2: you know, like and so I went and looked and yeah,

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01:38:46,600 --> 01:38:48,920
Speaker 2: I walked in and like walked around and I was like,

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Speaker 2: I see myself in this place. They're not. So that

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01:38:52,920 --> 01:38:55,280
Speaker 2: was another thing. They're moving out and I was kind

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01:38:55,320 --> 01:38:57,120
Speaker 2: of like, Okay, I can either stay in my place

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01:38:57,200 --> 01:38:59,080
Speaker 2: and like redo the guests about, you know, like kind

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01:38:59,120 --> 01:38:59,560
Speaker 2: of redo it.

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Speaker 5: But bathrooms in that place are god awful. You can't

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01:39:02,640 --> 01:39:04,559
Speaker 5: do it. It's not doable.

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01:39:05,040 --> 01:39:08,799
Speaker 2: Literally the worst ever. And there's no AC and laundry,

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01:39:08,800 --> 01:39:11,120
Speaker 2: there's no laundering unit. So like that was something I

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01:39:11,240 --> 01:39:14,360
Speaker 2: was like, I would really like to have that. So yeah,

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01:39:14,400 --> 01:39:20,400
Speaker 2: I found it. So my moving date is Friday, whoa what?

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01:39:21,960 --> 01:39:24,519
Speaker 2: But but I have my place till December twenty first.

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01:39:24,520 --> 01:39:26,600
Speaker 2: So I'm gonna like slowly decorate and.

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01:39:27,640 --> 01:39:29,799
Speaker 5: You move to We need to get that woman. What's

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01:39:29,840 --> 01:39:31,200
Speaker 5: gonna help you purge stuff?

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01:39:31,320 --> 01:39:31,479
Speaker 1: Oh?

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01:39:31,800 --> 01:39:32,639
Speaker 5: Too much stuff?

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01:39:32,760 --> 01:39:35,400
Speaker 2: I know. I'm gonna well, I'm I'm like just having

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01:39:35,520 --> 01:39:38,040
Speaker 2: these interior decorators they're gonna come. I'm gonna choose when

2333
01:39:38,040 --> 01:39:40,040
Speaker 2: I'm taking everything else I'm selling?

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01:39:40,520 --> 01:39:43,920
Speaker 6: Are you walking distance from Tanya. Yeah, I love it.

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01:39:45,680 --> 01:39:46,840
Speaker 3: I hear real close.

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01:39:47,000 --> 01:39:49,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm real close to the Farmer's Market, which I

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01:39:49,200 --> 01:39:49,679
Speaker 2: probably won't.

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01:39:49,760 --> 01:39:53,439
Speaker 3: Can I just tell you that that place is like

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01:39:53,840 --> 01:39:56,360
Speaker 3: heaven to me. I have never been happier, Like.

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01:39:56,479 --> 01:39:59,160
Speaker 2: I truly Studio City or Jones on Studio City.

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01:39:59,560 --> 01:40:01,680
Speaker 3: I wat everywhere. I walked to the Farmer's Market, I

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01:40:01,760 --> 01:40:04,439
Speaker 3: walked to my coffee, I walked to my grocery store.

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01:40:04,880 --> 01:40:06,600
Speaker 3: I walked to my friend's houses, like.

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01:40:06,640 --> 01:40:07,760
Speaker 5: I feel about beautiful bread.

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01:40:07,760 --> 01:40:09,720
Speaker 3: One and I'm from work.

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01:40:10,680 --> 01:40:11,800
Speaker 2: That's gonna be really nice.

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01:40:12,240 --> 01:40:14,720
Speaker 5: One million dollars to move from Brentwood. We'll not do it.

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01:40:15,320 --> 01:40:17,280
Speaker 2: I love that you actually have a big space though, Yeah,

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01:40:17,280 --> 01:40:18,000
Speaker 2: I have tons of space.

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01:40:18,120 --> 01:40:20,519
Speaker 3: Yeah, And I do want to shout out these cute

2351
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Speaker 3: listeners Melrose and Companies.

2352
01:40:22,520 --> 01:40:24,240
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, your place looks so cute.

2353
01:40:24,680 --> 01:40:27,200
Speaker 3: Like they're interior designers, and they're two girls that like

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01:40:27,520 --> 01:40:29,679
Speaker 3: they just started this company on their own and they're

2355
01:40:29,680 --> 01:40:31,920
Speaker 3: helping me furnish my entire like because I just I'm

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01:40:31,960 --> 01:40:33,960
Speaker 3: not good with interior design, Like I don't understand how

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01:40:34,080 --> 01:40:36,880
Speaker 3: furniture looks together. And they're just so cute. Melissa and

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01:40:37,040 --> 01:40:40,040
Speaker 3: Chantill and They're just cute girls that listen to the

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01:40:40,080 --> 01:40:41,680
Speaker 3: podcast and reached out and were like, I want to

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01:40:41,720 --> 01:40:44,360
Speaker 3: help you make your like modern women home and like

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01:40:44,720 --> 01:40:46,479
Speaker 3: it feels like home, you know what I mean, Like

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01:40:46,600 --> 01:40:47,400
Speaker 3: it feels good.

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01:40:47,479 --> 01:40:48,160
Speaker 2: It's really cute.

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01:40:48,439 --> 01:40:50,160
Speaker 5: So important.

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01:40:51,960 --> 01:40:52,799
Speaker 2: Should be a haven.

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01:40:54,080 --> 01:40:56,760
Speaker 6: One more suggestion from anonymous. It's just lastly, can you

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01:40:56,840 --> 01:41:01,880
Speaker 6: talk about cales. I've never I've never figured out and

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01:41:02,040 --> 01:41:04,639
Speaker 6: even with never having kids, I peel a little occasionally

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01:41:04,640 --> 01:41:08,200
Speaker 6: when I'm roaring with laughter. Confession. This happened when Easton

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01:41:08,320 --> 01:41:09,280
Speaker 6: was singing Hillary Dusks.

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01:41:10,600 --> 01:41:12,040
Speaker 10: I often women control.

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01:41:15,920 --> 01:41:17,280
Speaker 5: Yeah, they're like I know what they are.

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01:41:17,479 --> 01:41:19,320
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know how to I've actually learned how

2374
01:41:19,360 --> 01:41:24,360
Speaker 3: to exercise them. You just squeeze are for five minutes

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01:41:24,400 --> 01:41:24,680
Speaker 3: a day.

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01:41:24,760 --> 01:41:26,920
Speaker 2: I think, yeah, it'supposed to be really good, but.

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01:41:26,960 --> 01:41:29,040
Speaker 3: It would be good to know how to exercise them.

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01:41:30,120 --> 01:41:31,720
Speaker 5: Exercise that is the exert that is that.

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01:41:33,600 --> 01:41:36,240
Speaker 4: I'm sure there's something issues down there because I don't

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01:41:36,280 --> 01:41:37,000
Speaker 4: have any children.

2381
01:41:37,840 --> 01:41:38,960
Speaker 2: Did she say she does have kids?

2382
01:41:39,280 --> 01:41:40,719
Speaker 6: She does not have kids, and yet.

2383
01:41:41,240 --> 01:41:42,600
Speaker 5: You are because Christie inspected it.

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01:41:42,880 --> 01:41:45,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, but I do have to say I do peace

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01:41:45,240 --> 01:41:47,400
Speaker 3: sometimes when I laugh hard too, So I don't do

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01:41:47,479 --> 01:41:53,240
Speaker 3: that keg issues.

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01:41:54,000 --> 01:41:57,280
Speaker 2: I have to get those nice and tight scrubbing in

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01:41:57,360 --> 01:41:57,519
Speaker 2: with that.

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Speaker 6: Wait, thank some people. Amazon fireTV. Order a fireTV of

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Speaker 6: your very own. It's Amazon dot com slash scrub Hey

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Speaker 6: Bowling brand sheets. Tanya loves them, you'll love them too.

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Speaker 2: Tanya, Who's here next week?

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Speaker 3: Luke from Gilmore Girl.

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Speaker 2: Like Amy and Tanya are going to be Easter might

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Speaker 2: be a fangirl too.

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Speaker 3: I don't know.

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Speaker 10: My wife watches it a lot. I'm excited to tell

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Speaker 10: her about this.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I love Gilmour girls. Is that one? Is my pastor?

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Speaker 3: Gonna be on that week too?

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Speaker 5: That's the week after.

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Speaker 3: Oh okay, we have some really great shows here.

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Speaker 4: And then we do take two weeks off. I'm just

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Speaker 4: warning everybody nothing is wrong, and we will be back

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Speaker 4: with a bang right after the holidays.

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Speaker 2: We sure will.

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Speaker 5: We still have more more fresh content.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, alright, I have to go get my hair done.

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Speaker 6: I gotta go.

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Speaker 2: Sorry, guts to go. Time and Death thirteen o five.

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Speaker 3: Fifteen o five. You don't just put a one in

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Speaker 3: front of it. It's twelve plus three.