Speaker 1: We're just too unapologetically black women with an opinion who
Speaker 1: talked back? What's up is your girl? A j Welcome
Speaker 1: to a new episode of We Talked Back Out. It's
Speaker 1: Tim Bam. I love y'all. Hey, you lied to these
Speaker 1: people every fucking week. I do love them girl, y'all?
Speaker 1: Which Timm quick and speedy recovery. My friend is sick
Speaker 1: this week. I got covid. Y'all, shit crazy, I'm ugly.
Speaker 1: You've been taking your vitamins, man, I'm taking everything. I'm
Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure I have everything you could think of.
Speaker 1: I'm taking sour side, vitamin C, elderberry, black seed, or chlorophyll. Uh,
Speaker 1: just whatever you name it. I'm over here putting it
Speaker 1: in my body, trying to feel better. Take a laxative too, No,
Speaker 1: I don't need that. Look, but we do have a
Speaker 1: special guest on this week. Um, god damnit, pronunc you
Speaker 1: name again? Bama Daily. Good. I'm good. I'm very interested
Speaker 1: in uh what we're going to discuss today. So I'm
Speaker 1: I'm just I'm just waiting. Look, so one of my
Speaker 1: home girls sent me a clip over the weekend, um
Speaker 1: from Alive that you did right? Um. A couple of
Speaker 1: days ago, and I'm like, man, I want to reach
Speaker 1: out to him. See if you're coming to show because
Speaker 1: for some reason, So on our show, we have a
Speaker 1: segment called SIMP Series and we have another segment called
Speaker 1: dumb Bitched Worries. So the SIMP series is the equivalent
Speaker 1: to a dumb bitch story because in my definition of
Speaker 1: a SIMP is like a niggative be getting played by women, right,
Speaker 1: and then you have a dumb bitch, well you know,
Speaker 1: she may go through some things getting played by a guy.
Speaker 1: But for whatever reason, nowadays, the definition of simple has
Speaker 1: kind of shifted and it needs something different. Based on
Speaker 1: social media, is several different um definitions of a simple
Speaker 1: at this point. So what I've been seeing is that
Speaker 1: any man that addresses men as a collective, oftentimes the
Speaker 1: men would say that man is simple. Have you seen that?
Speaker 1: So it's like me, personally, I don't think women should
Speaker 1: be addressing men as a collective. I feel like a
Speaker 1: man that has his head on his shoulders should address
Speaker 1: other men, right. We should never have to um confront
Speaker 1: and address men as a collective, and we should just
Speaker 1: you know, we talked to women. So women have lunches,
Speaker 1: we have brunches. We got all types of pull ups
Speaker 1: when we talk our ship out amongst each other, amongst strangers.
Speaker 1: But I don't think that oftentimes men have that type
Speaker 1: of outlet, So I know, you know, yeah, so you
Speaker 1: have a you have something going on, like you you
Speaker 1: mentor men in the community, right, I don't, I don't,
Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't. I feel uncomfortable with that
Speaker 1: term when it's grown men mentor. But that's the thing, Like,
Speaker 1: but you shouldn't feel uncomfortable because in order, you know,
Speaker 1: the whole thing is all black women are submissive enough, right,
Speaker 1: we're supposed to call it. But if you are a
Speaker 1: black man to me and you can't follow another black
Speaker 1: man that knows the way, I can't follow you. So
Speaker 1: if you're unable to be coachable teachable by another man,
Speaker 1: why should I follow you? Yes, that's really the type
Speaker 1: of ship I want to talk to you about. I'm
Speaker 1: for saying that that that's not simple to me though, No,
Speaker 1: not at all. You know, like you said, any time you,
Speaker 1: you know, bring men to the carpet, or any time
Speaker 1: you are a supportive of black women, there's a contingency
Speaker 1: of black men, typically guys who are just a little corny.
Speaker 1: I never see any men of substance even using the
Speaker 1: words simple. I've never called a man of simp. I
Speaker 1: don't care if he fits any of the definitions of
Speaker 1: a simp. I just that words just not in my vocabulary.
Speaker 1: But any time you agree with women, there's gonna be
Speaker 1: some men it's gonna call you a simple But why
Speaker 1: do you think that's happening? And how is it? How
Speaker 1: is that simping? And in the social media world, simping
Speaker 1: would be equivalent to um, like a pick me, that
Speaker 1: would be like the woman, right, they would say, like
Speaker 1: that woman too in the social media world pick me
Speaker 1: and in the simps go together. But in the real
Speaker 1: world is like a simp and the dumb bitch goes
Speaker 1: together on our show anyway. Yeah, so in the in
Speaker 1: the social media around what what happened was there? I
Speaker 1: have been quite a few men who have made their
Speaker 1: living off of bashing men and just telling a women
Speaker 1: what they want to hear. Um. So anytime anything is
Speaker 1: said that it's almost you know, anything that sounds something
Speaker 1: like they would say, God, start calling that man a
Speaker 1: simlar is crazy, because I hope everybody accountable. Black men
Speaker 1: and black women. I get called a simple I get
Speaker 1: called a man basher, I get called a woman eater,
Speaker 1: I get called everything because I bring everybody to the car.
Speaker 1: So you know, it depends on the day, you know,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm what I'm getting called, whatever topic
Speaker 1: I'm dealing with, you know, because there's been plenty of
Speaker 1: times where have been women telling me, oh you eight women.
Speaker 1: It's like baby, Like just yesterday, I was a simp.
Speaker 1: Now today I hate women crazy. You can't you can't
Speaker 1: correct anybody, right. Um. I've said several times that a
Speaker 1: lot of the issues that we have going on in the
Speaker 1: the black community, we could it could lay at the
Speaker 1: feet of the black woman, you know, because I believe
Speaker 1: we set the standards, so whatever we say go. So
Speaker 1: a nation is only as strong as the women as
Speaker 1: far as I'm concerned. But talk about this, uh if
Speaker 1: you can, if you can remember some of the key
Speaker 1: points of your Live from last week in regards to
Speaker 1: because this, this particular episode will align with the last
Speaker 1: few episodes we've had out about relationships. So how does
Speaker 1: uh the conversation, Um, what a woman brings to the table.
Speaker 1: That was what your your Live was pertaining to. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so the thing it was, it was addressing so many
Speaker 1: videos that I'm seeing on social media where there's a
Speaker 1: blanket statement of what do women bring to the table? And,
Speaker 1: as I said in a love ever heard the question
Speaker 1: frame in a way where somebody's actually trying to learn.
Speaker 1: It's typically used to say women don't bring anything to
Speaker 1: the table. It's like a rhetorical question. And so my
Speaker 1: my thing is, first, I've never had a conversation when
Speaker 1: I'm sitting down with a woman to actually say, well,
Speaker 1: what do you bring to the table. I never even
Speaker 1: had a woman asked me so, what do you bring
Speaker 1: to the table. It's kind of a weird um the
Speaker 1: question to ask. But there's all of these little forms
Speaker 1: and all of these podcasts and all of these videos
Speaker 1: where men are are asking what women bring to the table.
Speaker 1: And I'm like, well, one of the things I teach
Speaker 1: my men, right, one of our first classes is I'm
Speaker 1: defining who you are, right. And I don't think any
Speaker 1: of the men that have came through, and this is
Speaker 1: not a knock on them, because I didn't know who
Speaker 1: I was myself. We're not taught to actually identify who
Speaker 1: we are. So when I have my first initial conversation
Speaker 1: with the brothers before they joined, I asked me, who
Speaker 1: are you? Nobody can actually tell me who they are,
Speaker 1: so we go through a process of actually learning who
Speaker 1: you are. So when I said in that clip that
Speaker 1: the men don't know who they are, wasn't a knock
Speaker 1: against the minutes because we were not taught to actually
Speaker 1: learn who we are. But when you learn who you are,
Speaker 1: you're not going to be asking a blanket statement of
Speaker 1: what do women bring to the table, because you understand
Speaker 1: one that every woman brings something different to the table.
Speaker 1: Every woman has a different character, every woman has different beliefs,
Speaker 1: every woman has different set of skills. When you know
Speaker 1: who you are, you know what kind of woman that
Speaker 1: you want. So I'm not going to ask a blanket
Speaker 1: statement of what the women bring to the table because
Speaker 1: it's gonna be a million different things where you understand
Speaker 1: the talents, the giftedness and everything that each woman has.
Speaker 1: So I need to be looking for a particular type
Speaker 1: of woman that fits and flows with who I am.
Speaker 1: So I'm not just going to be going on a
Speaker 1: bunch of blind dates. I'm not you know, that's the
Speaker 1: only way you're gonna be sitting down with somebody you
Speaker 1: know nothing about other than that, you should be observed
Speaker 1: with somebody and you should be seeing some like Damn.
Speaker 1: I like how she lose. I like what she's doing.
Speaker 1: I like how she runs that business, or I like
Speaker 1: how she volunteers or whatever it is. I like how
Speaker 1: she's in church, I like how she's at the masque,
Speaker 1: whatever it is. Like, I'm observing who you are from afar,
Speaker 1: and I feel like you and I can be compatible
Speaker 1: as opposed to just having this blanket statement that, well,
Speaker 1: what do women bring to the table, Because you can
Speaker 1: bring something absolutely phenomenal to the table that I do
Speaker 1: not need, that does not mess with me well at all,
Speaker 1: that that does not compliment me, that does not mean
Speaker 1: you're a bad woman. Well, I could bring something to
Speaker 1: the table that is absolutely phenomenal that does not compliment you.
Speaker 1: So this blanket statement of what do women bring to
Speaker 1: the table, to me, it really doesn't make sense because
Speaker 1: when you're flowing in your I am, when you're flowing
Speaker 1: through who you are, you are going to attract people
Speaker 1: who are going to compliment who you are, what you're doing,
Speaker 1: and where you're going. I think that men who asked
Speaker 1: you know what women bring to the table. It's almost
Speaker 1: equivalent to the the black woman saying they don't need
Speaker 1: a nigger, I don't need a man. It's like, that's
Speaker 1: what it is to me. That's exactly what it is.
Speaker 1: So I mean, it's not true. We all need each other.
Speaker 1: So um, like you're saying, like finding somebody that compliments
Speaker 1: what you already have going on. I feel like the
Speaker 1: men who have ship established in some way, they aren't
Speaker 1: the ones that ask me what you bring it to
Speaker 1: the table, because oftentimes they really don't need you to
Speaker 1: come with much. But you have a lot of men
Speaker 1: that just need a lot of help. And instead of
Speaker 1: admitting that they need help, and that's the type of woman,
Speaker 1: they're looking for somebody to help them in business, um,
Speaker 1: somebody to help them with their children. You kind of
Speaker 1: have these expectations of people. You didn't lay any of
Speaker 1: your expectations out, which you can lay expectations out, but
Speaker 1: to ask somebody what you bring to the table, to me,
Speaker 1: it's kind of disrespectful. And I think women we may
Speaker 1: get an attitude about it. If you ask a guy
Speaker 1: like what he brings to the table, he may not
Speaker 1: get an attitude about it. He may just tell you
Speaker 1: whatever it is that he brings to the table. But
Speaker 1: I think, like you said, when it's asked, when when
Speaker 1: women are asked what they bring to the table, it's negative.
Speaker 1: It's never anything positive. It's always with a negative connotation
Speaker 1: behind it. Yeah, and my and another point that I
Speaker 1: was making in the video is a portion of that
Speaker 1: is because a lot of these men are just going
Speaker 1: after face tips and asks, so they don't even like
Speaker 1: So when I posted that video, I got thousands of views,
Speaker 1: I got a whole bunch of comments. Everybody's mad. So
Speaker 1: the next next day I posted, well, brothers, what's your type?
Speaker 1: Then what do you want? What is what is your
Speaker 1: what is your types? Cricket? Those same guys that was
Speaker 1: calling me a simp and all of that, they don't
Speaker 1: come double back and say, well I want this type
Speaker 1: of Well, because you're you're you're you're picking a woman
Speaker 1: based off of how she looks physically, and since that's
Speaker 1: the only thing you cared about, now you're in the
Speaker 1: room with it, like, well what do you bring to
Speaker 1: the table. That's because you didn't like anything about her
Speaker 1: prior to one to even talk to her, like I
Speaker 1: need a woman to be physically attractive to me. But
Speaker 1: I have to be attracted to more than just how
Speaker 1: you look in order for me to want to engage
Speaker 1: with you. I don't want to. I don't want to
Speaker 1: engage with any woman simply off of how she looks.
Speaker 1: That's just not how I roll. Because again, I know
Speaker 1: who I am, I know what I do, and I
Speaker 1: know where I'm going. So I can't just be following
Speaker 1: or or trying to talk to any woman because she
Speaker 1: looks at It just doesn't make sense. So how does
Speaker 1: this then become a simple amongst the men in the
Speaker 1: black community? How does one become a simp because you're
Speaker 1: addressing men and how they should be impertaining to women. Well,
Speaker 1: you're only a simp to a small portion of of men.
Speaker 1: You would like when every time I click on one
Speaker 1: of the fort one of the profiles of the men
Speaker 1: who called me a simple, it's like you're you're a
Speaker 1: total aware, like you're a total awared, or you're you're yeah,
Speaker 1: like you're mad at women because they don't like you.
Speaker 1: You know, you're you're you're a bland guy. You don't
Speaker 1: have any cherica, you don't have any you don't have
Speaker 1: any charisma. You know, nobody in your neighborhood knows you're
Speaker 1: like you just you know you're and you're upset, you know.
Speaker 1: So they always say stuff like you know you're you're
Speaker 1: trying to You're saying this because you're trying to get women.
Speaker 1: I've never had a problem getting women. I'm like, like, like, brother,
Speaker 1: I don't. I never have to jump on a woman's
Speaker 1: side on social media to get a woman to like No,
Speaker 1: but you project everything because you can't get a woman.
Speaker 1: Maybe y'all should start sipping. Since you think this is
Speaker 1: the way to get women, maybe you should start slipping.
Speaker 1: Like any time a man is getting attention from women,
Speaker 1: it's the small pocket men that's gonna call you a
Speaker 1: simple whatever you're doing, and they just need to get
Speaker 1: their selves together. Yeah, it's usually the men who ain't
Speaker 1: never got any women from elementary to high school too
Speaker 1: now and their adult lives. I promise you go to
Speaker 1: that post, go go to that video. I'm gonna go
Speaker 1: and click on all of the profiles of the guys
Speaker 1: that call the sex And when you do that, I
Speaker 1: want you to say, I want to know what you
Speaker 1: date any of them. That's what that's what I want
Speaker 1: to go to the profile of all of the guys
Speaker 1: that called me sent a simple and I want to
Speaker 1: know what you and I already know the answers. No,
Speaker 1: that's their problem. Okay. So I feel like the simps
Speaker 1: have a spokesperson. It's a certain other, another man that's
Speaker 1: on social media, and as of lately, he's been turning
Speaker 1: his rhetoric back towards men. But he built his platform
Speaker 1: off of women bashing. As far as I'm concerning, he
Speaker 1: gave a voice to what I would consider a simp.
Speaker 1: These guys who would be calling you the sim the comments, right,
Speaker 1: he gave a voice to them. He's like the voice
Speaker 1: of the man who never had access to the women
Speaker 1: he thought he should have access to. You know, So
Speaker 1: now you have this guy's telling you it's the women's fault.
Speaker 1: It's the women, it's the women's fault. Why you've never
Speaker 1: been able to get the woman you wanted? Who you're
Speaker 1: talking about? Yeah, you know what I'm talking now at all.
Speaker 1: It's some things we don't we don't disagree with him
Speaker 1: as well. I feel like some way, somehow women get
Speaker 1: his message completely mixed up. His He has one message,
Speaker 1: is that regular women should deal with regular men. That's
Speaker 1: the that's the crux of his message. But that is
Speaker 1: this message, right, But then you have regular men who
Speaker 1: don't think that there are five's at best, and now
Speaker 1: they're talking down to women that made a collective or
Speaker 1: a consensus, maybe this this woman if we're talking about
Speaker 1: it's the it's the how he talks about the physical
Speaker 1: um aesthetics. Seven woman. I don't like you, see what
Speaker 1: I'm saying, because then you have these five at best
Speaker 1: men talking crazy about you know, he said that Sweetie
Speaker 1: was a six. He has a weird scale, and that's
Speaker 1: because he removes the seven. But to him, yeah, because
Speaker 1: would be average. But basically to him, a six is
Speaker 1: not bad. He said Beyonce, Yes, yes, you think Beyonce's eight? Uh? Eight?
Speaker 1: N She's definitely not a ten. Who's the ten? Who's
Speaker 1: the ten besides me? Excuse me? Who am I totally
Speaker 1: infatuated with? I just feel like all women should feel
Speaker 1: like they're a ten, you know. And see that's I think,
Speaker 1: And and that's why Kevin Sanders has has a voice
Speaker 1: because there, for some reason, is this notion that every
Speaker 1: woman just beautiful like men understand. I'm not attractive if
Speaker 1: he if he's not attractive, so I need to do
Speaker 1: other things if I'm going to want to get women.
Speaker 1: But for some reason, every woman is walking around feeling
Speaker 1: like she's a tent. And that's why they're on kept
Speaker 1: of Samuel Show asking, uh, you know, saying I deserve
Speaker 1: a six figure man or a man making four and
Speaker 1: thousand dollars a year, just like maybe you don't fit
Speaker 1: that that mold. Yeah, but if so, how he even
Speaker 1: popped off was because he had a woman on there
Speaker 1: who was making a hundred thousand dollars a year, and
Speaker 1: all she was looking for was a man who made
Speaker 1: that same thing. So he automatically went to the physical
Speaker 1: um asking her, you know, to rate herself this in
Speaker 1: a third, but I'm just asking for equal at this point,
Speaker 1: and exactly that's regular money nowadays. Well, a hundred thousand
Speaker 1: dollars really isn't a lot, but that's because most of
Speaker 1: the country's poor, because a hundred thousand dollars is not
Speaker 1: the average. It's only a small fraction of people who
Speaker 1: are actually making that. When you really look at the numbers,
Speaker 1: the average, the average man is making like forty dollars
Speaker 1: a year. Really I don't know about that. Now, go
Speaker 1: ahead and look it up. I just saw McDonald's offering
Speaker 1: thirty five dollars an hour. Right now, there's no way
Speaker 1: that people. That's how I signed up. McDonald's signed for
Speaker 1: thirty five. I'm about to go work their part times.
Speaker 1: The McDonald's rather corner for me is starting up. They
Speaker 1: might have been giving that up. If you get a
Speaker 1: COVID shot, yeah probably, yeah. Yeah. Everybody's not making a
Speaker 1: hundred talking dollars. Now, y'all might be in a circle
Speaker 1: where people are making that money. I'm in a circle
Speaker 1: of people that's making that money. But the average the
Speaker 1: average person is not making a hundreds. So do you
Speaker 1: know a lot of single black men who are making
Speaker 1: a hundred thousand dollars? Okay? Do you know? Do you know? Definitely?
Speaker 1: No tent Okay, do you know? Then, I'm don'na think
Speaker 1: I know twenty Are they single men? Are they single?
Speaker 1: Are they single? M No, I'm the only one over
Speaker 1: there single. I gotta give my life. I gotta give
Speaker 1: my life together. They'd be going, they being on trips
Speaker 1: and something they can tell me about the pictures. I'll
Speaker 1: be like single ass I know, they said that's what
Speaker 1: I say. I gotta get my life together. Got I
Speaker 1: gotta get my life together? Um yeah, so um yeah
Speaker 1: so that when not when I listened to the chemisting. Now,
Speaker 1: what I will say is a lot of those bottom
Speaker 1: barrel men have have lashed onto him and have somewhat
Speaker 1: taken has taken his message and kind of twisted it.
Speaker 1: So you know what he's talking to them, and I don't,
Speaker 1: I don't know. Let me says, I don't like the
Speaker 1: way he talks. So I do not like the way
Speaker 1: he talks to me. That's that's very that's very problematic.
Speaker 1: I don't like the way he talks. But when he's
Speaker 1: just talking about all right men of this stature, if
Speaker 1: they're single, they're not really looking for a woman who
Speaker 1: already has kids X, Y and Z from his experience,
Speaker 1: because he's in this round talking to these man and
Speaker 1: I definitely um agree with that. Where I don't, I
Speaker 1: don't care. Now I might have like a one or
Speaker 1: two child maximum, but but then you have these regular
Speaker 1: guys who are all these women bringing the table with
Speaker 1: somebody else kids. These women don't bring nothing to the
Speaker 1: table but somebody else's kids. So his his message is
Speaker 1: being used to be little women. And I just where
Speaker 1: are these women? Because I know all the women, the
Speaker 1: women that I know, they're be getting money. So I'm
Speaker 1: trying to figure out who are these men dating? Um
Speaker 1: is it because it's bottom of the barrel man, and
Speaker 1: there's bottom of the barrel women. So my philosophy is
Speaker 1: you are who you eat, you are who you beat.
Speaker 1: So it's something in you, something in that person you
Speaker 1: see in yourself basically if you're working with him, so
Speaker 1: what type of women that you're attracting? Like, it's about
Speaker 1: partner selection at that point. And I always say like
Speaker 1: if a woman has never been with a good man, like,
Speaker 1: chances are sheen either if you've never ever had a
Speaker 1: good man. A lot of those guys probably I don't
Speaker 1: know if they ever had a woman. Like when you
Speaker 1: go to the loo to the profile, you know they're
Speaker 1: taking the ball because they ate women like yo, I'm
Speaker 1: telling you, Like those guys they've got whoever that they
Speaker 1: could get like, and then they're mad at any man
Speaker 1: who gets any attention from women. And it's it's just
Speaker 1: it's crazy shame. It just feels like Kevin Samuel's It's
Speaker 1: like the mascot for bidter men. And it's not just
Speaker 1: not even just men who can't get people or can't
Speaker 1: get women, um, it's also men who like fail marriages
Speaker 1: and feel relationships that are bitter. Now I feel like
Speaker 1: he's a mascot for them as well. He's definitely become that.
Speaker 1: I don't, I really do not believe that's his intent.
Speaker 1: If you ever watched, like when he's being interviewed by
Speaker 1: somebody else to listen to, you know, how he can't,
Speaker 1: you know, start doing what he's doing and why he
Speaker 1: doesn't you know, when he's really getting into you know
Speaker 1: what the crux of his messages. It sounds, it sounds
Speaker 1: solely different, but it's like women are misunderstanding. Both both
Speaker 1: men and women are misunderstanding his message. The women are
Speaker 1: getting mad at him, and then the men are too.
Speaker 1: Can use it again. So I think he needs to,
Speaker 1: you know, switch up something so it doesn't cost so much.
Speaker 1: So many, so many things recently he did started because
Speaker 1: he started before he was so big on social media.
Speaker 1: He was speaking to men. He had conferences and things
Speaker 1: like that geared towards men to nobody. Nobody cares when
Speaker 1: you when you when when you talk to men that way.
Speaker 1: As soon as the video surface of him talking to
Speaker 1: a woman, and he got a million Yeah, because whenever
Speaker 1: whenever I called men to task, listen, women preach this.
Speaker 1: You know I love this that as soon as this,
Speaker 1: as soon as I switched to women, the same women
Speaker 1: who was on my side, they hate me. They don't
Speaker 1: want no accountability. So that's also that's also let it fly.
Speaker 1: So even if you were to say something like that,
Speaker 1: but the hit dog will always halling. Man and woman yep,
Speaker 1: on both sides hate his message. I just hate his
Speaker 1: delivery because he'll have a conversation with a woman who
Speaker 1: has called in, so she did call in for this abuse.
Speaker 1: But she'll ask him, well, what do you rate yourself?
Speaker 1: And he's like, see, that's what's wrong with you, bitches,
Speaker 1: and hang up on him like what's that? I know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying immediately, what's wrong with you? The wrong
Speaker 1: with Like, yeah, I don't like his delivery. My favorite
Speaker 1: one when he was like that sounds like a big
Speaker 1: bitch of the back. Big bitches need love too, though,
Speaker 1: that's the thing, like, and big bitches get love. I
Speaker 1: don't know what he's talking about. Yeah, but he's not.
Speaker 1: He's not saying that they don't. You're just saying every
Speaker 1: woman that calls in his show one of man that's
Speaker 1: making six figures of more. And that's where he's like, baby,
Speaker 1: you're you don't fit that mold a god that's making
Speaker 1: this money as options and you're not going to be
Speaker 1: But why that's in the black community though, because yes,
Speaker 1: and generally right of black American men and women probably
Speaker 1: make forty thousand. You say, that's what the median are
Speaker 1: the I don't know about that. We have to look
Speaker 1: at those numbers. But that's only in our community. That's
Speaker 1: in our community, right, So now we go to the
Speaker 1: next community, which I don't it's not A hundred thousand
Speaker 1: dollars is not the standard for any race. We're talking
Speaker 1: about business owners like truck drivers making like, yeah, y'all
Speaker 1: need to look this stuff up. That's the like maybe
Speaker 1: cilinar population or less. I don't know. I'm gonna have
Speaker 1: to look at I hate looking at statistics because who
Speaker 1: put that ship out there, Somebody who wants to control
Speaker 1: a narrative. So I'm just going based off of my
Speaker 1: small sample size of people that I know, and that's
Speaker 1: the that's the problem. You're going on your small sample size.
Speaker 1: So it's people that I know and m people that
Speaker 1: you know. What can you say about the men that
Speaker 1: you know thinking money? That's what I'm saying, Like, so
Speaker 1: that's two women who know men that get money. It's
Speaker 1: men here that get money now rather not he wants
Speaker 1: to give it to you. That's different. I'm not saying
Speaker 1: it's not some men out here that's getting it. I'm
Speaker 1: definitely around men who are, but there are a lot
Speaker 1: more men who are not. That's just not the average.
Speaker 1: That's not the average. The average guy who's a cop,
Speaker 1: it's not making a hundred thousand dollars a year. And
Speaker 1: he has a degree, he may be making a hundred thousands.
Speaker 1: I know two police officers in Charleston County, and I
Speaker 1: know they make a hundred thousand dollars. That sounds like
Speaker 1: you think they make a hundred thousand dollars, Because that
Speaker 1: that didn't sound like I know that that they're going like, Listen,
Speaker 1: the average salary of a cop is not a hundred
Speaker 1: thousand dollars. The average teacher is not waking nobody. You know,
Speaker 1: when you look at all of these professions, well, most
Speaker 1: of these professionals are not paying you a hundred thousand dollars.
Speaker 1: I'm looking it up unless you're going a lot of
Speaker 1: a lot of overtime. A lot of uses aren't making
Speaker 1: a hundred thousand dollars. Nurses don't make a hundred thousand dollars.
Speaker 1: Are a hundred thousand dollars is not average salary though,
Speaker 1: I just feel like, I don't know, it's people like,
Speaker 1: it's a lot of people starting to become billionaires, a
Speaker 1: lot of black billionaires, and I just feel like a
Speaker 1: hundred thousand dollars a black billionaires Kanye and Rihanna. Yeah, No,
Speaker 1: I'm talking about we're starting to see more black billionaires, young,
Speaker 1: young black billionaires. Rihanna just became a billionaire off a
Speaker 1: couple of people. So I'm saying, who who Who are
Speaker 1: the black billions. But the fact that we are seeing
Speaker 1: it means that we're getting more money out here, and
Speaker 1: I feel like millionaires at this point, it's really hard
Speaker 1: for to see a black billionaire. But we definitely are
Speaker 1: seeing a lot of black millionaires. Because you can make
Speaker 1: a million dollars on social media alone, you definitely can't.
Speaker 1: It's definitely more people making it. But again, that's just
Speaker 1: not the average. It's just not it's just not the average.
Speaker 1: Like you're really in the upper like I think if
Speaker 1: you make a two dollars, you're like like top three
Speaker 1: percent of earners. Really, So there's nineteen black billionaires based
Speaker 1: on this list on Google. Of course jay Z is
Speaker 1: on their Oprah is on there, Robert Smith is on there,
Speaker 1: Kanye's on there, and some other people, and I don't
Speaker 1: even think this person is in America. Ye, So yeah,
Speaker 1: we definitely see more black millionaires nowadays. Yeah, there definitely are.
Speaker 1: I don't know, but yeah, these are all the round
Speaker 1: table talk discussions that go on in the black community
Speaker 1: right now because I think we're all just out here
Speaker 1: trying to figure it out, how to figure it out
Speaker 1: for our future, you know what I'm saying, Like, I
Speaker 1: feel like the generations before us, they got they just
Speaker 1: didn't set us up for ship and we're more consciously.
Speaker 1: I want to say, I wouldn't say the generations. I
Speaker 1: would say the generation that one generation right before us
Speaker 1: that the most the most terrible black people. They birth
Speaker 1: the most terrible black people. My grandfather's generation they own
Speaker 1: they own all the score. It was my parents, it
Speaker 1: was my parents general probably we had and yeah, I
Speaker 1: was just talking with a friend about in the war.
Speaker 1: So they sent a lot of our men to the
Speaker 1: Vietnam War. So my grandfather's a lot of the men
Speaker 1: got killed in the war. They got a lot of
Speaker 1: them looked on dope then bringing the crack. So that
Speaker 1: but that that generation right before us is where everything
Speaker 1: just went left. Yeah, I think that's where all these
Speaker 1: conversations are coming from. We just have different ways now
Speaker 1: communicating collectively, like the clubhouses and instagrams. Now we could
Speaker 1: talk more and it's just really about trying to figure
Speaker 1: it out. But it just there's the lack of respect
Speaker 1: on both ends, and um, that's that's that's the majority
Speaker 1: of our problem, just to mutual respect in social media
Speaker 1: just messing. I mean, you can, you can do some
Speaker 1: good on there, but it's it's man, it's just it's
Speaker 1: messing up people's minds. Like it's really detaching people from
Speaker 1: reality and every and everybody feel like they need to
Speaker 1: live a life virtual reality. Girlfriend. Yeah, it's like like
Speaker 1: you know a rapper girlfriend of buying the car and
Speaker 1: be like she's putting the pressure on your women, Like no,
Speaker 1: she's not I'm not. I'm not expecting my girlfriend who's
Speaker 1: the teacher, to buy me, uh Bentley Like, like, why
Speaker 1: do y'all, why do y'all think that you're supposed and
Speaker 1: why do do y'all think y'all dr dream Like y'all,
Speaker 1: y'all ain't never gonna have to pay y'all ex wife
Speaker 1: three hundred thousand dollars a month. You've never seen that.
Speaker 1: Compare yourself to those people virtual reality. It ain't no
Speaker 1: principle because have these dudes ain't paying the child support
Speaker 1: on time? You got kids? Okay, so ain't paying the
Speaker 1: child support on time? They probably don't have to contribute
Speaker 1: to no spouses support because you'all was paying fifty fifty
Speaker 1: the whole time. Like what are we really even talking about?
Speaker 1: So we're gonna do our SIMP series next, but before
Speaker 1: we get into that, let's take a second at the
Speaker 1: pay these bills. Today's SIMP series is brought to you
Speaker 1: by one of our listeners from Instagram. Um it says
Speaker 1: Hi A J and Tan Vam. I'd like to think
Speaker 1: that I'm the only man that listens to the show,
Speaker 1: but that's probably not true. But I wanted to actually
Speaker 1: get some simp advice from you. I live in d C,
Speaker 1: and if you know anything about d C, there are
Speaker 1: a lot of beautiful, successful black women in the DMV area.
Speaker 1: They usually have their way here, though the men may
Speaker 1: not admit it. I do pretty well for myself as
Speaker 1: a government contractor, but I swear I cannot keep a
Speaker 1: woman around. I know what women like, so I always
Speaker 1: display acts of service and gifts, of course, but these
Speaker 1: women are brutal. It's almost like they literally want a
Speaker 1: nigger rib. I did my monthly budget and I've been
Speaker 1: spending on average two thousand dollars a month on dates.
Speaker 1: I don't consider myself a simp per se because I
Speaker 1: don't cook and i'd be eating out anyway, So it's
Speaker 1: just nice to have a woman accompany me sometimes. Do
Speaker 1: y'all consider this simping? It ain't simping, if you got it.
Speaker 1: I mean, like, if I don't use the term simps,
Speaker 1: I'm gon't call anybody a simp. But he's definitely being used.
Speaker 1: I mean, he's something about him that these women just
Speaker 1: don't like. He's probably leading with his money. I mean
Speaker 1: two thousand dollars a month, that's I mean, I'll spend
Speaker 1: a lot of money in a year on dates. For
Speaker 1: two thousand a month is a lot. Where are you
Speaker 1: taking all the time? Though? But he said two thousand
Speaker 1: a month on dates? He didn't say on himself. Now
Speaker 1: he said on dates if he's eating out, going to
Speaker 1: the club. V I p dreams, But that's not a
Speaker 1: going so that's a date going off to the club
Speaker 1: and all that. It just depends on what you're doing.
Speaker 1: I guess, so I would He mentioned dinner, right, so
Speaker 1: I would assume he's taking women out to dinner if
Speaker 1: he's already gonna be eating out a lot anyway. He
Speaker 1: just likes to not go by himself. As for what
Speaker 1: he's saying, So if he invites a woman with him,
Speaker 1: is that consider himthing like in that woman's mind, she
Speaker 1: may be telling her friends, girl, his name might be
Speaker 1: on the phone under food. I don't know, but that's
Speaker 1: still a good person that just you know, this woman
Speaker 1: just may be missing out on for real, not taking
Speaker 1: him seriously just to get a damn remember exactly. Man,
Speaker 1: If I'm not calling a man a simple because he
Speaker 1: takes women out, what like? That doesn't even that doesn't
Speaker 1: make sense? Love? Who doesn't take who doesn't take women out.
Speaker 1: His friends that don't take women out like I like
Speaker 1: to be I'm not I'm like Netflix and chill, but
Speaker 1: I like to be out. I like to be out
Speaker 1: so and I like to have a woman with me.
Speaker 1: So like I under I understand that. But it's something
Speaker 1: that he has to work on within himself that, you know,
Speaker 1: to attract these women or to keep these women and
Speaker 1: not just take them on. You know, but just because
Speaker 1: you take a woman on the date doesn't mean she
Speaker 1: likes you, like she's getting to know you. That doesn't
Speaker 1: mean you're likable. You you might just you might just
Speaker 1: be a terrible person. Right with good tasting food, yeah,
Speaker 1: like yeah, you know what you know, you know how
Speaker 1: to eat, but you don't know how to have a
Speaker 1: conversation over there, right, So you're talking about the wrong things.
Speaker 1: You're saying the wrong things. You know, You're parents might
Speaker 1: not be all the way Like, it's a hundred different
Speaker 1: things that could be going on that you just you
Speaker 1: need to hire a hitch, right, So no Instagram listener,
Speaker 1: we don't consider as something. Um nah, So we had
Speaker 1: a net we had and when I can remember like
Speaker 1: an actual sim story where dude took money out his
Speaker 1: four in one K to give a woman for school,
Speaker 1: supposedly because she actually used the money to pay for
Speaker 1: a lawyer for another man. That would can be considered
Speaker 1: but but but still but still yet you were finessed.
Speaker 1: So are you really a simple You thought you were
Speaker 1: helping somebody that you cared about all this. Yeah, but
Speaker 1: I mean that's how some series works because it's dumb
Speaker 1: bit stories. You're not really dumb bit. You just got
Speaker 1: played so exactly. And if if you take money out
Speaker 1: your how deep was your relationship? Like the fact, how
Speaker 1: deep was that? Yeah, that's what it was. The sex
Speaker 1: would never do that to me. I'm thirty nine years old.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna say never. I didn't. I haven't had some
Speaker 1: fun and that's all it is. It's fun. Just will
Speaker 1: never happen like that. But what kind of relationship did you?
Speaker 1: How long were you talking to this woman that she
Speaker 1: would do this to you? Like that's pretty yeah you would.
Speaker 1: I don't use if I would use the word, I
Speaker 1: would use the word for him. Come from man to
Speaker 1: your four old one gay? Like, if I'm paying for
Speaker 1: your school, we need to be living together, right, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I think I'm paying for your school because he wasn't
Speaker 1: what if I if I think I'm paying for your school,
Speaker 1: we have to be living. I'm helping you fill out
Speaker 1: the forms, like now what are you majoring? Look? Get
Speaker 1: these books? Like I'm not just handing you money to
Speaker 1: pay for school. Like oh, boys, we don't even live
Speaker 1: in the same place, like nab bro. Yeah, you was
Speaker 1: doing too much. And look I know that the guy,
Speaker 1: the guy whose story that was, he does listen to
Speaker 1: the show. Listen. We ain't trying to play you. Hapend
Speaker 1: to the show. We're just using it as an example
Speaker 1: of what asimp could possibly be. I mean that one time.
Speaker 1: That's okay, Yeah, you learned your lessons? Who a very
Speaker 1: expensive lesson? Should take her to court? My man, if
Speaker 1: you're listening, you can. You can't take her to court.
Speaker 1: It gave her He gave her money for a specific thing,
Speaker 1: and she used it for something else. Yes, but what
Speaker 1: is that because it was a gift, he gave her
Speaker 1: money for a specific she lied that was she she
Speaker 1: got the money under false pretense. Can possibly yeah, he would,
Speaker 1: look uh again, jud Judy gonna get that money back.
Speaker 1: Judjudy ain't gonna like that bitch. But you can't. You
Speaker 1: can't ask for something under false pretenses, right because that
Speaker 1: he definitely got finess. So this guy, yeah, this guy
Speaker 1: just giving away food or whatever else some v I P.
Speaker 1: Drinks or whatever. That's not necessarily I mean two thousand
Speaker 1: a month, I mean shoot at the end of the year.
Speaker 1: So he's spending the same money that guy probably spent on.
Speaker 1: I wish you would have told us, like how much
Speaker 1: how much you getting for two k a month? Because
Speaker 1: you probably have your in goal is to get some couch.
Speaker 1: You may just need to just pay somebody just outright,
Speaker 1: or are you looking for a wife, because maybe you
Speaker 1: should stop dating as much and maybe have more face
Speaker 1: time dates. I don't know what you need to do,
Speaker 1: but that's that's a bit much. So Now, if your
Speaker 1: goal dating all these women is just to have sex
Speaker 1: with it, it's easy to spend two thousand dollars if
Speaker 1: you're going now to eat though, in a month? Is
Speaker 1: this just on like on him and her? Two thousand
Speaker 1: happened fast? It's sound like it's multiple people. He said
Speaker 1: he just can't keep them around, So it sounds like
Speaker 1: you know who happens available and get getting fed, spend
Speaker 1: to grand but I'm saying, what are you spending five
Speaker 1: d every time you take you on a date? Once
Speaker 1: a week? That's that's just a lot. Like how many
Speaker 1: damned dates? And am going on? Two dates? Five hundred dollars?
Speaker 1: Happen fast at Del Frisco Flinch in the build. We
Speaker 1: ain't going out again. I'm going I'm going out again.
Speaker 1: You know your ass going hungry him hopefully I'm not
Speaker 1: going nowhere right now is a waste. Don't waste your
Speaker 1: money on me. I can't even taste it, sir Sa
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Speaker 1: That's I'm making a hundred thousand dollars I got to do.
Speaker 1: Any nigger asked my breakfast table too dollars. That's it.
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