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Speaker 1: I'm Mandy Money. I powered through that song just for y'all.

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Speaker 1: Harmony says, I am a longtime listener of the podcast,

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Speaker 1: and I love the advice y'all give. You're both like

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Speaker 1: and it's not helping me now. Life is expensive, period,

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Speaker 1: So I think that she'll one hundred percent understand now.

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Speaker 1: I got my daughter here, and when I'm ready, she'll

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Speaker 1: now she's relying on you. You're her entire succession plan. But

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Speaker 1: does staffing? What about regulars you have to file and comply,

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Speaker 1: daycare I'm just like, this is this is a whole

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Speaker 1: any good leader of any business should have a true,

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Speaker 1: ironclad succession plan that shouldn't revolve around the only plan

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Speaker 1: what I think at the at a bare minimum, you

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Speaker 1: leaving the daycare center will force her to really do

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Speaker 1: the real long term succession plan and listen, she should

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Speaker 1: also know that she can't count on you to take

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Speaker 1: good at it, Like life's too short. Do the thing

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Speaker 1: And I think at the end of the day, as parents,

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Speaker 1: more baqa ib a fam. I'm back. I've got to

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Speaker 1: business question. Yes, I don't tell Tiffany. I'm doing without her,

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