Speaker 1: Hell I Suck Dating with Jared Haven Heart Radio podcast. Hey,
Speaker 1: welcome to an all new episode of Help I Suck
Speaker 1: a Dating. I'm Jared, have ben still in self isolation
Speaker 1: with my wife Ashley, joined of course, across the country
Speaker 1: by the wonderful Dean Anglert. Dean, how are you doing, buddy,
Speaker 1: I'm good. Hey. I apologize for my audio today to
Speaker 1: the listeners and to you Jared of course, Tory, my condolences.
Speaker 1: I'm doing good though. I'm happy to be here talking
Speaker 1: to you. Guys. You've got another big week of Help
Speaker 1: I Sucked Dating. That lays ahead of us a lot
Speaker 1: of topical events to discuss, a lot of listening to
Speaker 1: emails to get to Jared's wearing a bandana across his
Speaker 1: head like he's straight at the top. Gun. I don't
Speaker 1: know why he's doing that, but here we are. I
Speaker 1: was getting like Outer Banks vibes. Yeah, I can see that,
Speaker 1: Outer Banks. What's that? Oh? Just to television sEH on Netflix.
Speaker 1: I gotta start watching TV. You know what I gotta
Speaker 1: start watching is Ozark because I over the weekend obviously
Speaker 1: I heard all about the Lakes of Ozarks, which apparently
Speaker 1: that's what the show is about I don't really know,
Speaker 1: but anyway, point is, I'm wearing a bandana because my
Speaker 1: hair is getting really long and it gets in my face.
Speaker 1: And Ashley's sister Lauren gave me this bandanna. Aware I'm
Speaker 1: not gonna lie. I kind of like you guys, I'm
Speaker 1: kind of digging it. You look cool. I'll tell you
Speaker 1: that I think I look cool. I think some people
Speaker 1: look like I think that I look like a a douche.
Speaker 1: I think that's term, for lack of a better term,
Speaker 1: trying to think, but I don't know. It doesn't really
Speaker 1: fit my overall vibe. Like you never think of Jared
Speaker 1: wearing a bandana. I'm just like a very plain vanilla guy.
Speaker 1: But I'm digging it. I'm not gonna lie. Um, it
Speaker 1: really spices yup a little bit of the press, and
Speaker 1: we just gotta change things up, like not much is
Speaker 1: happening in our lives, so you know, a bandana spices
Speaker 1: it up every once in a while. So I'm gonna
Speaker 1: start wearing the bandana more often. Uh. We do have
Speaker 1: some topics, uh that Dean and I are going to
Speaker 1: get into. The first one is about our very own
Speaker 1: bachelor family. Alum Clay Harbor Dean. Did you hear about
Speaker 1: Clay and his new fling? He's dating someone from ninety
Speaker 1: Day Fiance? Do you watch nine D Fiance. I hadn't
Speaker 1: heard about it until I read what We're Gonna talk
Speaker 1: About Today, and I looked into it a little bit.
Speaker 1: And my first gut reaction when I read it that
Speaker 1: Clay was dating someone from Nina Fiance was that he
Speaker 1: was dating the same girl that was dating a guy
Speaker 1: that we had on our podcast a couple of weeks
Speaker 1: ago ed and I was like, all everything was thrown
Speaker 1: out of wack. I was so confused for a second,
Speaker 1: but I looked it up. I think that the term
Speaker 1: dating is pretty loosely used, Like it sounds like they
Speaker 1: were on one real life date and now they're like
Speaker 1: going to Skype a couple of times. And she likes
Speaker 1: his big muscles and she likes that he used to
Speaker 1: be a football player. That's about all that I gathered from.
Speaker 1: I mean, I like his big muscles. I get it. Well,
Speaker 1: first of all, it's ninety days, so her name is
Speaker 1: Fernando Flores and she was on Fiance and then obviously
Speaker 1: Clay was on Bachelor and Bachelor in Paradise and she
Speaker 1: was divorced, so she was Her divorce got finalized in March,
Speaker 1: so only like three months ago. You know what's crazy?
Speaker 1: There started dating via zoom like they I don't think
Speaker 1: they've ever met in real life, right, I think that
Speaker 1: they have been real life once, That's what I gathered,
Speaker 1: but I couldn't be mistaken. But it doesn't look like
Speaker 1: they have once in a photo that they are together
Speaker 1: at like a concert or a bar. Yes, but like
Speaker 1: I said, my mind immediately went to Ed's fiance from
Speaker 1: the show Dave Fiance, and I was so confused, so
Speaker 1: I looked it up. But apparently this woman is from
Speaker 1: Mexico if I understand that correctly, she's a model like
Speaker 1: she uh, she's an attractive woman. And I looked up
Speaker 1: her ex husband, the guy that she was on Today
Speaker 1: Fiance with, and I couldn't find much about him, So
Speaker 1: I don't really know. I don't know how she was
Speaker 1: on on Dave Fiance. I guess I don't really understand
Speaker 1: the whole show in the sense. But I mean, good
Speaker 1: for Clay, happy for him for for for branching out.
Speaker 1: It's funny that he uh reading that article and like
Speaker 1: kind of looking at Fernando's Instagram a little bit. She
Speaker 1: gives me a lot of Nicole eyes, like I see
Speaker 1: a lot of seces between her and and Clay's ex
Speaker 1: from Bachelor in Paradise, Right, I think I think she's
Speaker 1: Latin as well. Yes, I believe, but it's just I
Speaker 1: guess Clays has got a type. You know? Yeah, I mean, hey,
Speaker 1: don't we all my friend? Uh? So, she says her
Speaker 1: ex is Jonathan Rivera. Do you know who that is? Tor? Yeah,
Speaker 1: he's no, but he's very attractive. Let me let me
Speaker 1: click on this guy. Hold on, let me find out
Speaker 1: who this guy is. Very very attractive couple. They were.
Speaker 1: I told you I looked him up. I couldn't find him.
Speaker 1: Oh he's handsome. He kind of gives me Chris Randome
Speaker 1: vibes a little bit. Huh. Yeah, he's got a great beard.
Speaker 1: He was a good beard. Good beard they are. They
Speaker 1: were very attractive couple, weren't they. What? Jared, are you
Speaker 1: shocked by this news? And how do you feel about it?
Speaker 1: I guess really like that. Well, I don't know. I mean,
Speaker 1: good for him. I'm happy for him. I'm very curious
Speaker 1: how this whole thing started, because they they met, they
Speaker 1: obviously met in real life once because they're, like you said,
Speaker 1: Tori is a picture of them. So I'm curio us
Speaker 1: that they met when she was still with her husband,
Speaker 1: which I mean, I'm not saying that shady, but you know,
Speaker 1: I wonder if there's any flirtation back then, and then
Speaker 1: she got divorced in March, and then I wonder if
Speaker 1: they've I wonder if they've like snuck out and try
Speaker 1: to see each other during quarantine because they both live
Speaker 1: in Chicago, m and surprise. I feel like that's kind
Speaker 1: of uh, what's what's the word? Not acceptable behavior but
Speaker 1: expected behavior? You know. I'm confused though, it's because on
Speaker 1: the bottom it's it says a quote from Fernanda. I'm
Speaker 1: saying that right, correct, Fernanda. Fernanda, am I an idiot?
Speaker 1: I hope you got it right. She says, I do
Speaker 1: want kids. Fernanda says, after Clay ass on the show,
Speaker 1: what what does that mean? Were they on a show together?
Speaker 1: Maybe their first zoom date was tell was tell? I
Speaker 1: think that's what it was. It was something a show
Speaker 1: in quarantine, and they met on that show after I've
Speaker 1: already met in person and that's probably where they're pulling
Speaker 1: that quote from. She says, if you ask me this
Speaker 1: question when I was fresh out of my separation, I
Speaker 1: would say no, I will never date again. I don't
Speaker 1: believe in men, but you know, I'm ready to give
Speaker 1: love a chance again. She said, she's looking forward to
Speaker 1: her future and uh, she's excited to touch his muscles
Speaker 1: and have physical contact once this whole thing is over.
Speaker 1: She's Mexican. Yes, yes, she's, because it says the Mexican Beauty.
Speaker 1: Uh yeah, I mean she changed her mind pretty quickly
Speaker 1: after March. I mean good for them. Whatever, if you
Speaker 1: can somehow find a girlfriend through quarantine, I mean good
Speaker 1: for you. Yeah. I mean she's kind of objectifying his
Speaker 1: muscles a little bit. But other than that, I guess
Speaker 1: here the question for you as it as it pertains
Speaker 1: to dating and kind of uh you know. Obviously, the
Speaker 1: central root of our podcast is do you think having
Speaker 1: just divorced her husband in March, is it too soon
Speaker 1: for her to be especially like public be dating now?
Speaker 1: Like privately dating, I guess is one thing, but now
Speaker 1: to be like so vocal about wanting to meet someone new,
Speaker 1: is that a bad luckty thing? I wonder if they're
Speaker 1: actually dating or if this whole thing is being blown
Speaker 1: out of abortion because they had a really good zoom
Speaker 1: date and they made it public. Because you're right, she
Speaker 1: just got divorced in March. Maybe they were separated for
Speaker 1: a while, so maybe she was ready to move on.
Speaker 1: But a divorce is a pretty exhausting experience to go through,
Speaker 1: so I'm sure she was pretty excited to have it
Speaker 1: over And then I'm just curious. I guess the bigger
Speaker 1: question for me is, like you said, Dean, can you,
Speaker 1: like I guess you could be boyfriend girlfriend via virtual dates? Tori?
Speaker 1: Would you ever say you had a boyfriend if you
Speaker 1: never met them before and only talk to them via zoom? Like,
Speaker 1: would you feel comfortable saying that? No? I think that
Speaker 1: you have to have that conversation in order to use it.
Speaker 1: Let me pitch you a hypothetical scenario. You're real quick, Tory.
Speaker 1: Let's say you and Brad Pitt are all of a
Speaker 1: sudden zoom dating like once a day every day during
Speaker 1: this whole quarantine. He asks you to be his girlfriends.
Speaker 1: What do you respond? Because you haven't really met him
Speaker 1: in person yet, but you've just been zooming with you know,
Speaker 1: skyping with him every single day. The emotional connection is there.
Speaker 1: You're interested in his life, he's interested in yours. But
Speaker 1: obviously we understand it's kind of like the um love
Speaker 1: is blind thing in a sense, you know, where uh,
Speaker 1: all you really get is to be able to talk
Speaker 1: to them, and you don't really get to explore the
Speaker 1: physical complaintance. I feel like that makes it more exciting
Speaker 1: where I would be like, yeah, for sure, we're confident
Speaker 1: that we don't need any of that other stuff besides
Speaker 1: just communication and not having the physical aspect of it
Speaker 1: and still being entertained by each other. It's like a
Speaker 1: huge quality you'd want in a relationship. So I'd be like, hell, yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm your girlfriend. Listen, I'm gonna say I'm gonna play
Speaker 1: Devil's advocate here, so don't This is not my whole
Speaker 1: opinion on this. Do you think we downplay physical attraction?
Speaker 1: Do you think we downplay the physical part of a
Speaker 1: relationship Sometimes I mean to downplay it because we always
Speaker 1: talk about like love is blind or like, you know,
Speaker 1: a physical uh part of the relationship is you know,
Speaker 1: not the most important. And you know you can believe
Speaker 1: in love because you can get to know someone before
Speaker 1: the physical attraction comes. But like, isn't the difference between
Speaker 1: being friends and being in a romantic relationship the physical aspect?
Speaker 1: So once you say that's pretty important because what if
Speaker 1: you found a husband or a wife and you were
Speaker 1: just you like had the friend part of it, but
Speaker 1: you didn't have the romance part of it. So aren't
Speaker 1: you guys just friends? At that point you tell me,
Speaker 1: what do you think? Well, I don't know, Dean. I'm
Speaker 1: I'm gonna want to ask you the questions here. Okay,
Speaker 1: well let me ask you. Let me ask you this, uh,
Speaker 1: not to get too personal, but I think I remember
Speaker 1: seeing that you said that you and Ashley are not
Speaker 1: being intimate while you're staying at her parents house, which
Speaker 1: is very reasonable, understandable. Right, So as you consider over
Speaker 1: the past two months just actually as a friend or
Speaker 1: do you still consider her as your wife? I wouldn't
Speaker 1: say we haven't been intimate, but what I would say
Speaker 1: that you know the parents are close by, so it's
Speaker 1: a little m it's not as uh uh how do
Speaker 1: I phrase this? Not as a not a like it's
Speaker 1: always you know, no know how to say that, not
Speaker 1: as promiscy with in your own home. Maybe you just
Speaker 1: you know, you keep things down. I don't know, um,
Speaker 1: but do you feel like that you have to communicate
Speaker 1: a lot more with each other to get through those times?
Speaker 1: Like did it change into feeling like does every kind
Speaker 1: of sometimes feel like, Oh, I feel like I'm more
Speaker 1: friendly with my wife right now than like an actual wife.
Speaker 1: We've had conversations about that where we've because we've been
Speaker 1: friends for so long that sometimes you know this, if
Speaker 1: I'm being honest, it comes from actually more than me
Speaker 1: where she feels more like a friend sometimes and that
Speaker 1: makes you know, that makes her sad, and it's it's
Speaker 1: we kiss all the time, and we kiss constantly, but
Speaker 1: you know, she've been told me she was like, I
Speaker 1: want to be objectified sometimes, and I was like, all right,
Speaker 1: I can do that. It's hard, though. It's hard to
Speaker 1: objectify someone that you care so much about, um and
Speaker 1: that you you're so comfortable and close with, you know,
Speaker 1: it's hard to kind of like that. I guess I
Speaker 1: can speak from my own experience. After I broke my leg,
Speaker 1: I was pretty incapacitated for a long time, and uh,
Speaker 1: my physical connection with Kaylin took it. You know, took
Speaker 1: a bit of a hit, but I will I want
Speaker 1: to say that I felt even closer to her during
Speaker 1: during that time than I would than I did before,
Speaker 1: when intimacy was never really a front of mine issue.
Speaker 1: It was, you know, even though we were less intimate.
Speaker 1: I kind of feel we were talking about this obviously,
Speaker 1: even though we were being less intimate because I had
Speaker 1: like that was incapable of it because my hip was
Speaker 1: you know, rehabbing, I still felt more connected to her
Speaker 1: than I had in the nine months of our relationship prior.
Speaker 1: Was it easy to flip the switch back on? Uh,
Speaker 1: not necessarily. I like him going throught. I'm like going
Speaker 1: through some like self worth issues at the moment because
Speaker 1: I like put on some facts. Since breaking my leg
Speaker 1: and not really being as act of I feel like
Speaker 1: I'm not like as uh as cool as I used
Speaker 1: to be. So I'm like going through some self worth
Speaker 1: stuff right now. So it's not just like a switch
Speaker 1: that you can get flipped right back on. What's you know,
Speaker 1: It's it's just it's a steady progression. I think a
Speaker 1: lot of girls, I think when you think of a
Speaker 1: heterosexual relationship, you would assume that girl struggles like self
Speaker 1: esteem wise, like way more than men do. But do
Speaker 1: men actually do that, They just don't vocalize. Like it's
Speaker 1: interesting hearing Dean saying skills and secure because like you
Speaker 1: would never know. Yeah, I mean from my experience, I
Speaker 1: can only speak from that. I definitely, like, I know
Speaker 1: it's a direct increase in just like general not just happiness,
Speaker 1: but like self esteem becauseually, like when I'm going to
Speaker 1: the gym a lot, or like if I'm climbing a
Speaker 1: lot more, or if I'm doing things that interests me
Speaker 1: a lot more, I think that generally makes me happier,
Speaker 1: which then in turn boosts my sex drive, you know,
Speaker 1: oh totally, especially like not being able to like even
Speaker 1: go outside and go on a hike during the course
Speaker 1: of the past three months or however long since I
Speaker 1: broke my leg, Like it definitely just like lowered my
Speaker 1: libido to a point that it's kind of probably like
Speaker 1: the lowest tropics ever been in. And I would say,
Speaker 1: so what happened after that? Like I'm curious because I
Speaker 1: can relate. You know, Uh, Ashley and I were friends
Speaker 1: for so long. I'm sure a lot of couples go
Speaker 1: through this where they have lulls lulls in the intimacy department,
Speaker 1: and it's hard to talk about It's very awkward to
Speaker 1: talk about um, both as men and women. I think
Speaker 1: as a guy can only speak upon it or like,
Speaker 1: in my opinion, the reason it's so awkward is because
Speaker 1: I I grew up in in like a world where like,
Speaker 1: as a guy, you're supposed to be able to have
Speaker 1: sex twenty five times a day and enjoy it every
Speaker 1: single time, you know, like that's kind of the way,
Speaker 1: you know, growing up in my teenage years, and then
Speaker 1: that's what girls kind of I think, always uh expected
Speaker 1: or assumed because it's so easy for a guy to orgasm,
Speaker 1: not to like go you know, deep down this road,
Speaker 1: but to or anything. But yeah, I mean everybody knows
Speaker 1: that it's it's it's far easier for a mail to
Speaker 1: to reach the point of pleasure than than a female.
Speaker 1: And and so I think at times when you know,
Speaker 1: I'm not feeling good about myself, like Dean says, you know,
Speaker 1: where I'm not working out or I'm just not confident
Speaker 1: about myself, and so my sex drive is down, and
Speaker 1: there are times where I just kind of, you know,
Speaker 1: I don't feel like having sex and Uh, that causes issues,
Speaker 1: you know, and and because then it creates insecurities for
Speaker 1: your partner, creates insecurities for yourself. Intimacy is a very
Speaker 1: interesting part of a relationship because you know, it's not
Speaker 1: the only thing that separates friendship from a relationship, but
Speaker 1: it's obviously a big factor. You know. I think that
Speaker 1: like men kind of know how to navigate women better
Speaker 1: with their insecurities because that's more of like our stigma.
Speaker 1: It's like, Okay, make a girl feel special, Like for
Speaker 1: us to like orgasm, you like have to really like
Speaker 1: value the woman and make her feel special and loved
Speaker 1: in romance or whatever. But how do we, like, how
Speaker 1: do women take care of their men if they're feeling secure?
Speaker 1: Like what helps you guys feel like, Oh I feel
Speaker 1: special and feel important? Like our words cheap in those times?
Speaker 1: Or that is that the time to build up your
Speaker 1: guy more? See a great question. I love Oh God,
Speaker 1: don't judge me from this podcast alone. I love when
Speaker 1: Ashley like craves me. Uh, that's what really turns me on. Uh.
Speaker 1: And I think a lot of guys, at least my
Speaker 1: friends that I felt comfortable enough to talk about sex with, uh,
Speaker 1: feel very similar to me, when a girl like acts
Speaker 1: in a way or says things in a way where
Speaker 1: it feels like like she just doesn't want you, she
Speaker 1: like she needs you. Uh And honestly, for a guy,
Speaker 1: like that's the sexiest thing, uh that's ever happened to
Speaker 1: me when I've encountered situations like that. Um and uh.
Speaker 1: So I think that's maybe, you know, a piece of
Speaker 1: advice I could give to women. It's not easy. It's
Speaker 1: not like you know, I think, especially as a guy,
Speaker 1: I think guys are they're very afraid to open up,
Speaker 1: very very afraid to talk about certain topics. I find
Speaker 1: that women, and you know, I'm not trying to generalize,
Speaker 1: but just in my experience, I feel that women are
Speaker 1: more open to talking about uh, difficult things or uncomfortable things,
Speaker 1: whether it be about sex or other issues within the relationship.
Speaker 1: So it's hard to get a guy to open up. Um.
Speaker 1: And I would say that's why, uh, you know, there
Speaker 1: might be a wall or a problem because I feel,
Speaker 1: like you said, Tori, you know, in my experience, I
Speaker 1: feel like women are much more open to saying, hey,
Speaker 1: this is uh, this is what I need, uh, this
Speaker 1: is how I you know, get in the mood, or
Speaker 1: it doesn't even have to be about sex. It just
Speaker 1: could be a lot of different things in a relationship,
Speaker 1: like hey, I need this, like this is what I
Speaker 1: need from you. Uh And for some reason, guys, I
Speaker 1: include myself in this refused to say that, Like I
Speaker 1: have a very difficult time, you know, talking to Ashley
Speaker 1: been like this is what I need. A lot of
Speaker 1: times I'm just like I'm fine, I'm fine, even though
Speaker 1: in my head, I'm like, I know I should just
Speaker 1: be saying what I what I want to say, which
Speaker 1: is this is what I need you to do. But
Speaker 1: for some reason, it's hard. On the contrary, though, I
Speaker 1: like uh to to kind of answer Torrictoria question a
Speaker 1: little bit. Is even though Calin tells me all the
Speaker 1: time that she thinks I'm the most handsome man in
Speaker 1: the world or whatever, I don't feel like I am
Speaker 1: in like good shape or handsom. Then I think it's
Speaker 1: just kind of like falling on deaf years in the
Speaker 1: sense where it's like it kind of comes from with it. Then, like,
Speaker 1: if I don't feel that way, then no matter what
Speaker 1: you tell me, it's not gonna get me to feel
Speaker 1: any sort of way. You know what I mean, so
Speaker 1: it's like, yes, it's nice to be like wanted and
Speaker 1: yearned for, but at the end of the day, at
Speaker 1: least in my experience, in my opinion, if it's like,
Speaker 1: if it's not starting from within, then it's not gonna
Speaker 1: like really do much for me. Like we have kind
Speaker 1: of this run and get running gag Calin and I
Speaker 1: where she'll like compliment you know, either the way that
Speaker 1: I look at the moment, or like something that like
Speaker 1: a nice gesture that I did for her, or like
Speaker 1: something stupid, and I always respond, but don't patronize me
Speaker 1: because it's always like I always feel like unless I'm
Speaker 1: actually proud of like the way that I look or
Speaker 1: the way that I feel, or the way like this
Speaker 1: project that I just completed, Uh, then I don't necessarily
Speaker 1: think that boosting me up is gonna necessarily get me there.
Speaker 1: And it's like, obviously, you know, I know that she's appreciative,
Speaker 1: and you know she actually does think that I'm handsome,
Speaker 1: but it all kind of like starts from I guess
Speaker 1: my like bludding insecurities of all these things. So how
Speaker 1: do you how does she deal with that? Though? What
Speaker 1: should she do? That's a that's a hard question. Uh well,
Speaker 1: I mean we've basically established what we what we're gonna
Speaker 1: do moving forward is she will continue to either will
Speaker 1: there to be complimentary. We just and then I like
Speaker 1: crack a joke at it, and then we like both
Speaker 1: understand each other, Like I understand that she really does
Speaker 1: feel that way, and she understands that I'm appreciative of it.
Speaker 1: It's just our way of like kind of thing with it,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. Yeah, guys are stupid. We're
Speaker 1: all dumb. Yeah, Oh my gosh, I absolutely I agree. Yeah,
Speaker 1: what else do we have on the docket for today?
Speaker 1: Because I feel like we need to take a quick break.
Speaker 1: Let's take a quick break and then we can talk
Speaker 1: about something that I found very upsetting and it really
Speaker 1: just left me pained. I can't wait to hear what
Speaker 1: it is. I'm excited for the listeners. Stay tuned. We
Speaker 1: are going to take one quick break and we're gonna
Speaker 1: jump back in to what Jared cannot get off of
Speaker 1: his brain. In addition to that, we're gonna play another
Speaker 1: Last week we played seven Minutes at Heaven, and through
Speaker 1: this quarantine, we're gonna be playing some fun dating, kissing, Uh,
Speaker 1: how do I what do I want to call these
Speaker 1: teenager esque games? So this week we're playing spin the Bottle.
Speaker 1: It's gonna get real hot, real heavy. You're not gonna
Speaker 1: wanna miss that. That's gonna come later on the episode two.
Speaker 1: To stay tuned. All right, welcome back. We were just
Speaker 1: about to talk to Jared about what has been keeping
Speaker 1: him up at night. Jared, I'm I'm all ears here.
Speaker 1: I'm sitting on the edge of my seat. What's going
Speaker 1: on over there? Buddy? Well, you know, I don't watch
Speaker 1: a lot of TV shows, but one show that I've
Speaker 1: watched a couple of seasons of that for some reason,
Speaker 1: like I feel a kinship with, is a little show
Speaker 1: called Riverdale. Do you guys watched the show at all tour?
Speaker 1: I feel like you must have seen a couple episodes.
Speaker 1: I've actually watched, like a couple of seasons. Yes, okay,
Speaker 1: so I I for I watched the first two seasons.
Speaker 1: I love the first season, the second season. In the
Speaker 1: third season, I've watched couple episodes. Couldn't really get into
Speaker 1: it yet, but I really need to start trying. The
Speaker 1: reason I started getting into it was because skill, which
Speaker 1: was in it, and ski art Rich is the ability.
Speaker 1: He's the original killer and scream. Long story, but I'm
Speaker 1: a huge screen fan, so I started watching because of that,
Speaker 1: and then I really started loving Uh Cole Sprouse his
Speaker 1: character in it, who Tory? Do you remember his name
Speaker 1: in the show? Junkhead? Junkhead Jones, thank you very much.
Speaker 1: And and so I heard before the rundown, I saw
Speaker 1: on the news yesterday or the day before that, Riverdale's
Speaker 1: Cole Sprouse and Lily Reinhardt, who is also a lead
Speaker 1: in the show. Then they were dating on the show
Speaker 1: and dating in real life, and they broke up again
Speaker 1: less than a year after they got back together. And
Speaker 1: it's very sad, guys, because I'm a big Cole Sprouse
Speaker 1: fan and a big Lily Ryan Heart fan. But Cole Sprouse, like,
Speaker 1: I just feel like this kinship with him. I feel
Speaker 1: like a lot of people do, if I'm being honest.
Speaker 1: He used to be an archaeologist, which is crazy. Dean,
Speaker 1: do you know who this kid? This kid is he's
Speaker 1: one of the twins. You know who is Have you
Speaker 1: ever seen Big Daddy? Of course he's the kid. He's
Speaker 1: one of the twins. It's Cole and Dylan sproused and
Speaker 1: I was a little old for the life of Zack
Speaker 1: and Cody. I'm not gonna lie. It like just passed
Speaker 1: me by. Maybe I'll watch some reruns. I just got
Speaker 1: Disney Plus. I'm sure it's on there. But I was
Speaker 1: very sad and they broke up and they've been together
Speaker 1: for like three years. They met on the set. It's
Speaker 1: like one of those stories that I love, especially as
Speaker 1: being a movie buff. I love the idea of two
Speaker 1: people meeting on a movie set and then dating real life.
Speaker 1: Like I was a big Courtney Cox and David Arquette
Speaker 1: fan because they met on the original Scream. They obviously
Speaker 1: got married now they're divorced. Who else met on movie sets?
Speaker 1: Brad Pitt and Angelie and Jolie. They met on Mr.
Speaker 1: And Mrs Smith. Oh, but that was heartbreaking. It is
Speaker 1: because we were all rooting for Brad Pitt and Jennifer Anderson.
Speaker 1: I understand, but who knows. They might come back. They've
Speaker 1: had They had that whole Oscar thing where like Brad
Speaker 1: and Jennifer were holding hands and looking at each other
Speaker 1: and everybody was shipping those two. But anyway, there's a
Speaker 1: few other Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds. What they meet
Speaker 1: on Green Lantern? M hmm. Melakuda is an Ashton Cutcher. Oh,
Speaker 1: don't tell me the names of the show. Oh that well,
Speaker 1: they met in that Chevenue show. Yeah, I was thinking
Speaker 1: of the movie they did. It was like no strings
Speaker 1: attached or friends with benefits or something. Now never mind,
Speaker 1: it was no strings and hats. But that was Natalie
Speaker 1: Portmant moving on. Mm hmm. What was Lily Ryanharden? Originally
Speaker 1: because she looks familiar, but I definitely remember releasing Riverdale.
Speaker 1: So what else would I know from hustlers? Hustler Jennifer Lopez.
Speaker 1: I never saw that either m shared any others. Oh God,
Speaker 1: I don't even know. I'd have to look up for IMDb.
Speaker 1: Do you have any other couples though, I'm very interested
Speaker 1: in couples that have met in movie sets. Yes, we
Speaker 1: have Adam Brody and Layton Mister. They met on the
Speaker 1: o C. How about Sarah Michelle Gellar and Freddie Prince Jr.
Speaker 1: How much do you love the fact that they're still together? Like,
Speaker 1: isn't that just the coolest ship ever? The fact that
Speaker 1: Freddie Prince Jr. And Sarah Michelle Geller like scream King
Speaker 1: and Queen from the nineties are still together. That's just awesome.
Speaker 1: I see that. Even Mendez and Ryan Gosling. I forgot
Speaker 1: about that they met on the set of Place Beyond
Speaker 1: the Pines. I didn't even know that they were married
Speaker 1: her together. Oh yeah, they have a couple of kids.
Speaker 1: I think, oh, yeah, to they have two daughters. I
Speaker 1: think they're married. They definitely have kids together though. It's
Speaker 1: one of my favorites. Kurt Russell and Goldie Han. Have
Speaker 1: you ever seen Overboard? Best movie ever? And they're just
Speaker 1: like an iconic duo. Is that the one where she
Speaker 1: gets a misia? Yes, so she like falls off the
Speaker 1: bow and then thinking, yeah, he tried to get back
Speaker 1: at her. That is we were talking about gold Goldiehon yesterday.
Speaker 1: Actually my mom knew Goldie Han because Goldiehon had a
Speaker 1: place to Aspen and apparently Goldie Han is just like
Speaker 1: the nextest person ever. Oh that makes my heart so happy. Yeah,
Speaker 1: she's like obsessed with there where the women flock like
Speaker 1: the sam in a capastrono A great place. That's right.
Speaker 1: Last one. Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith they met
Speaker 1: on the Fresh Prince of bel Air, where she auditioned
Speaker 1: for a role of Will's girlfriend but didn't get it,
Speaker 1: but then he got her number and hit her up later. Wow,
Speaker 1: that's so cool. She didn't get the role. Why do
Speaker 1: I feel like she was on the show at some point?
Speaker 1: She probably made a cameo after they started dating. That's
Speaker 1: pretty awesome. Jesus fresh Prince of bel Air. So they've
Speaker 1: been together for like thirty years? Yeah, Wow, that's crazy.
Speaker 1: Who is that? Will Smith and Jada Pickett Smith? Oh?
Speaker 1: They Yeah, that's crazy. I guess I don't really remember
Speaker 1: her from that show. But yeah, it's funny to think
Speaker 1: about how many, I guess actors and actresses just meet
Speaker 1: on set. It's kind of like, in a weird way,
Speaker 1: going on a bachelor bachelorette. You know, you spent all
Speaker 1: this time with this person, uh, and then all of
Speaker 1: a sudden you just like them. It would be weird, though,
Speaker 1: like I because with all the people that have met
Speaker 1: on set and how become gone into relationships after they've
Speaker 1: dated in a movie, they start dating in real life.
Speaker 1: Would you be would you ever be comfortable calin becoming
Speaker 1: an actress and having to kiss somebody else in a movie? Absolutely?
Speaker 1: I'd be toolutely care with that, you're insane. I mean,
Speaker 1: I think, like I think we talked about this last
Speaker 1: week or two weeks ago, is that I guess you
Speaker 1: are just a little bit different in the sense that
Speaker 1: I think you're admittedly a little bit of a jealous person,
Speaker 1: which is totally reasonable, understandable. I think a lot of
Speaker 1: us are. But I guess I just I don't feel
Speaker 1: that way. No, of course I'd be okay with it.
Speaker 1: Like if if Ashley became a famous actress and she
Speaker 1: had to go in movie roles and kiss, you know,
Speaker 1: as much of its suck guys like you know, Leo
Speaker 1: or Brad, if she had to ever kiss if Oh
Speaker 1: my god, that would be my worst fucking nightmare. If
Speaker 1: she ever had to do a movie and got paid
Speaker 1: so much money and they were like, okay, well you
Speaker 1: know she's gonna have a sex scene with Leonardo DiCaprio,
Speaker 1: our marriage would be over. There's there's no color, there's
Speaker 1: literally no coming back from that. Fake sex with Leo
Speaker 1: is so much better than real sex with me, just speaking,
Speaker 1: it's Leo, you know. Anyway, you know who else met
Speaker 1: on set, Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez. Even though they
Speaker 1: broke up, they made they they met on What the
Speaker 1: hell is that movie? That Kevin Smith movie? It's Jersey Girl?
Speaker 1: Is it Giggly? No? That's first of all, it's Julie.
Speaker 1: I don't know why he put out to like that.
Speaker 1: Giggly could be fun Jersey Girl two dozen four? Okay,
Speaker 1: but can we talk about this for a quick second.
Speaker 1: Bringing you back to Lily and Cole. Now they have
Speaker 1: to work together. Sure, well if it gets renewed for
Speaker 1: a season five? True, but how would how do you
Speaker 1: guys handle being in the bachelor world? I feel like
Speaker 1: everything is so convoluted and mixed together, Like, how do
Speaker 1: you handle it when you know your partner is going
Speaker 1: to go work with someone that they used to be
Speaker 1: intimate with or really ship with. Like let's say Calin
Speaker 1: has a crossover with someone else working on like a
Speaker 1: collap or like let's say they're doing a photo shoot
Speaker 1: together and the two influencers me, what are your thoughts?
Speaker 1: I mean, I, oh god, that's a tough one. I'd
Speaker 1: like to I don't know. I mean, of course, I
Speaker 1: trust like I would trust Ashley. You have to have
Speaker 1: a certain level of trust in your relationship in order
Speaker 1: to have a happy and successful relationship. But man, depends
Speaker 1: on how that long they had to work together. If
Speaker 1: it was like a one day shoot, I mean, what
Speaker 1: are you gonna do? But if they were like, okay,
Speaker 1: they have to travel to Italy together and spent three
Speaker 1: months in this photo shoot room together, I'd be a
Speaker 1: little nervous. Also kind of depends on who it is.
Speaker 1: Like if it's Chris Souls who actually used today on TV,
Speaker 1: You're like, oh, yeah, that's fine, Chris is a good friend. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: I guess it really does depend because I wouldn't be
Speaker 1: worried about Chris. Yeah, I don't know if i'd be
Speaker 1: worried about anybody in Bachelor World. Dean, how would you
Speaker 1: feel if she has Kalin has a like a perfume
Speaker 1: shoot with Colton Underwood for the next six hours on
Speaker 1: set together? Where did you? What do you feel inside?
Speaker 1: It would be laughing inside and on the outside too.
Speaker 1: I think that'd be hilarious. Or what about what about Connor?
Speaker 1: I would be laughing even harder on the inside. Oh,
Speaker 1: I would feel really bad for everyone involved. I don't know.
Speaker 1: I was just laughing. I don't know, I don't know.
Speaker 1: I just the same same boat as Jared. I don't care.
Speaker 1: I like, I think that she's a grown woman. She's
Speaker 1: gonna go there and be professional and get the job done.
Speaker 1: And I'm not like worried about I mean, short of,
Speaker 1: like Jared said, a sex scene with Leonardo DiCaprio. Yeah, fine,
Speaker 1: Leo and Caitlin. I understand they're probably gonna run off
Speaker 1: in the sunset together. But Fassi Nation is just funny
Speaker 1: because it's like, you know, you you put these people
Speaker 1: that you want to meet on a pedestal and then, uh,
Speaker 1: you know, the more you get to know them, I
Speaker 1: guess the more humanized they become. So it's like, I'm
Speaker 1: not like, the only one that I'm worried about is
Speaker 1: like Tyler Cameron, right, because I've never met Tyler Cameron,
Speaker 1: but I'm sure if I met him, I'd be like, oh,
Speaker 1: you're just like a regular guy, just like all of us,
Speaker 1: you know. Um. And for the record, Calin doesn't even
Speaker 1: think Tyler Cameron's cute, which I don't. I don't see
Speaker 1: I think he's the hottest man in the world. Um,
Speaker 1: But he's like the only guy that I'd really be
Speaker 1: worried about because I've actually never met him before. I
Speaker 1: haven't really been able to like humanize him in my
Speaker 1: own eyes, you know what I mean versus everyone else,
Speaker 1: Like if if, if it would happen with anyone else,
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, I know that guy, I know how
Speaker 1: much I know that he's as much of anity as
Speaker 1: I am, etcetera. So there's no fear for me. I
Speaker 1: think we should keep these questions coming with the good
Speaker 1: old for the listeners. Toriy made a very pink sign
Speaker 1: with some beautiful handwriting, some glitters, has spin the bottle.
Speaker 1: That's exactly what you would expect to see if you
Speaker 1: were in sixth grade and you went over to your
Speaker 1: friend's house into the basement and there's a spin the
Speaker 1: Bottle sign hanging there. How long did it take you make?
Speaker 1: Honestly thirty minutes, you guys, there's there's a few there's
Speaker 1: a few trials that we had on this. We had
Speaker 1: this one, but this one was too big. So I
Speaker 1: like this. It's got some nice uh. I like the
Speaker 1: font used is like fun and you know, it's a
Speaker 1: nice contrast because it's a pink poster, but it has
Speaker 1: some gold glitter and black marker. It's very nice, very
Speaker 1: nice and done toward all right, so what are we doing?
Speaker 1: But we have twelve questions? So I'm gonna have this
Speaker 1: circle here? Who came up with these questions? Bottle? Are
Speaker 1: you welcome me? Did you come up with the questions
Speaker 1: before or after? You drank that corona? Staring perfect really
Speaker 1: sets the mood. You know what. We're all sponsored by
Speaker 1: a Krona being working from our homes, so I figured
Speaker 1: it seemed right. And it's extra because we're gonna get
Speaker 1: extra spicy spicy up in here, so I'm gonna spend
Speaker 1: there's twelve questions. Um, let's start with me off the
Speaker 1: bet before we start, Tori. As excited as we are
Speaker 1: to start this game, Jared and I cannot wait. The
Speaker 1: listeners can't wait. But before we start, I think it
Speaker 1: would be appropriate for us to take one quick break
Speaker 1: and to prepare ourselves for what lays ahead. So we'll
Speaker 1: be right back after this short grade. All right, welcome
Speaker 1: back to help my second dating Dean, myself, Tori. We're
Speaker 1: gonna play spin the bottle somehow over the computer. I'm
Speaker 1: excited to see how this goes down. So, Tori, you
Speaker 1: have a Corona bottle very fitting, and you're gonna spin
Speaker 1: the bottle. It's gonna land on a question. I'm assuming yep.
Speaker 1: How do we know that this is not rigged? We
Speaker 1: can't even see the questions. You're just spinning the bottle
Speaker 1: and we're taking your word for it because it's all
Speaker 1: the tea that I want in your guys life. So
Speaker 1: it's not rigged the things that I want to know.
Speaker 1: All right, here I go, I am spinning the bottle.
Speaker 1: Question X, who's this two? This is two, Dean. I'm
Speaker 1: going by alphabet, so D comes first in the alphabet.
Speaker 1: What was the last thing you searched on your phone
Speaker 1: put your phone on the internet. Well, I guess it
Speaker 1: was Ben Affleck Jennifer Lopez movie. Okay, Now besides that, um, well,
Speaker 1: I was looking up night Fiance for named to Flores.
Speaker 1: Last thing that doesn't count either. Oh man, it doesn't
Speaker 1: really say. I've got like some tabs open. You guys
Speaker 1: know what cure is Cora. It's like it's like a
Speaker 1: website but ask questions and then the answer. I like
Speaker 1: to look at that a lot. This is not going
Speaker 1: the way I was hoping it was going to go.
Speaker 1: I don't really have anything interesting that I look at
Speaker 1: I don't know. That's that's it, Dean. You're the You're
Speaker 1: the hippie interesting one, all right, I'm the one who's
Speaker 1: supposed to be bland. You know. The last thing I
Speaker 1: looked up but the CDC website. Nice, that's very fitting.
Speaker 1: I looked up where the A C charge poor on
Speaker 1: my van is because my A c ran out. Well,
Speaker 1: that's because I'm not really very interesting either. This is
Speaker 1: why what I was talking about earlier. You know, I'm
Speaker 1: losing some of my gusto because I just feel like
Speaker 1: I'm just a domesticated loser now. No no offense to
Speaker 1: domestican losers out there, none offense taken. Trust me, we're
Speaker 1: all losing a little bit of our augusto right now,
Speaker 1: or as just say, our mojo. All right. I spun
Speaker 1: the bottle again. Landed on number three. Three is Jared
Speaker 1: tell me about your first love? Uh? Oh wow, my
Speaker 1: first love? Oh god, I hope actually is not around.
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna be happy I'm talking about this so
Speaker 1: we ironically enough fits really the theme of this podcast.
Speaker 1: We met on a college film set and she played
Speaker 1: my on screen girlfriend, and um we went in for
Speaker 1: a reading like a script reading. We took it very seriously.
Speaker 1: I was nineteen and we went into the conference room
Speaker 1: and this girl was there and she was very pretty,
Speaker 1: and I was like, I hope this is the girl
Speaker 1: that's playing my on screen girlfriend. And it was and
Speaker 1: um funny enough, so we filmed the movie. I was
Speaker 1: terrified to ask her out, but everybody knew that I
Speaker 1: liked her. She asked me out. So she was going
Speaker 1: to Boston College at the time. I was in Rhode Island.
Speaker 1: So one night I drove up to Boston College hung
Speaker 1: out with her and her friends, and it was like
Speaker 1: kind of awkward because we didn't really know each other
Speaker 1: all that well. And I went up to Boston and
Speaker 1: hung out with her friends and I had to drive
Speaker 1: back that night, so I wasn't drinking or anything like that.
Speaker 1: And it was fun, but it wasn't. It definitely was
Speaker 1: not the best first date, so we left. I left
Speaker 1: then the next day or the day after, I called
Speaker 1: her to see if she wanted to meet up again
Speaker 1: to go on a second date. Never called me back,
Speaker 1: and five six months goes by. This was back in January,
Speaker 1: so now we're in summer. She's home back in Rhode
Speaker 1: Island for the summer and the movie is finished and
Speaker 1: we're gonna have like a small premiere in my buddy's backyard.
Speaker 1: And I was curious if she was gonna go because
Speaker 1: I called her and she never called me back, and
Speaker 1: then she messaged me. She texted me the day before
Speaker 1: we were supposed to see each other at the premiere,
Speaker 1: and she apologized and she was like, well it was
Speaker 1: my you know, I just good. I don't know. She
Speaker 1: made excuses obviously of why she couldn't call me back,
Speaker 1: who was whatever. And then we saw each other at
Speaker 1: the premiere. It went really well, and then we started dating,
Speaker 1: and then we dated for four years after that, and
Speaker 1: it was a very Yeah, it was a very intense,
Speaker 1: very intense relationship. I thought at the time I was
Speaker 1: gonna marry her, and then she was my first love,
Speaker 1: she was my first everything. Um, so it was very uh,
Speaker 1: you know, it was just an intense situation, and so
Speaker 1: the breakup was pretty intense. The reason we broke up.
Speaker 1: I broke up with her it was because I felt
Speaker 1: like I didn't know who I was without her. I
Speaker 1: was always her boyfriend. Which is funny because I'm kind
Speaker 1: of in a similar situation right now. Where Ashley is definitely,
Speaker 1: you know, the leader in this relationship. Um, but at
Speaker 1: the time, when I was in my early twenties, I
Speaker 1: just kind of want to do a little bit more
Speaker 1: self discovery and um, and so we ended up breaking
Speaker 1: up and going out of separate ways. And then before
Speaker 1: I knew when I was on the Bachelorette, and you know,
Speaker 1: my life completely got turned upside down after that. Were
Speaker 1: you emotionally healed before going on the Bachelor? Well? Mostly, yeah,
Speaker 1: I'd say mostly. Um, about a year before I went
Speaker 1: on the show, I really tried to get her back
Speaker 1: and uh really went after and she was with another
Speaker 1: guy at the time, and I didn't give a rat's ass,
Speaker 1: uh so, but she wanted to continue dating the other guy,
Speaker 1: and I was like, I totally get out of understand,
Speaker 1: Like I'm the one that broke up with you. You know,
Speaker 1: you need to do what's best for you. And um. Also,
Speaker 1: funny enough, she was going away for a while, uh,
Speaker 1: doing some incredible work, and um, we saw each other's
Speaker 1: again like a year before, so I guess the boyfriend
Speaker 1: thing was like two years before. And then a year
Speaker 1: before the bachelorrette she called me said she's leaving for
Speaker 1: a while, she wanted to meet up. Say hi. So
Speaker 1: we met up. We ended up kissing. It was very intense,
Speaker 1: and then I thought we were gonna get back together,
Speaker 1: but she was gonna be gone for six months. But
Speaker 1: I was like, that's fine, Like we'll stay a long
Speaker 1: distance for six months and then maybe we'll get back together.
Speaker 1: After her that So I messaged her on Facebook when
Speaker 1: I when I found out she made it to her
Speaker 1: destination and said, I'm super excited for you. Uh, you know,
Speaker 1: stay safe, be healthy. Uh, please keep me up to
Speaker 1: date on stories or you know, what's going on in
Speaker 1: your life. So on and so far. Right, she never
Speaker 1: answers that. She never answers the Facebook message. So a
Speaker 1: couple of months go by. You know, I'm kind of
Speaker 1: venting about it with my friends as as you know
Speaker 1: we all do, and just venting like I can't believe
Speaker 1: she didn't write me back and don and so my
Speaker 1: friend was so piste off. She signed me up for
Speaker 1: the Bachelorette and uh, unbelievable. Isn't that crazy? So without
Speaker 1: that ever happening, I don't know if I would ever
Speaker 1: be on the show, because I don't know if she
Speaker 1: would ever be because my friend always told me to
Speaker 1: sign up and I was never gonna sign myself up.
Speaker 1: And then when I was venting to her one night,
Speaker 1: She's just like, I'm gonna do it for you. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna sign you up for the show. And then she
Speaker 1: signed me up for the show. And then you know,
Speaker 1: a couple of months later, I got a call and
Speaker 1: then I was filming six months later. Now you're married,
Speaker 1: and now I'm married to my wife Ashley. Ah. But yeah,
Speaker 1: it's crazy. It all happened for a reason, you know. Yeah,
Speaker 1: Uh well I don't know if it all happened for
Speaker 1: a reason. I'm not a big believer and everything happens
Speaker 1: for a reason. Uh. Not to be a pestimist, but
Speaker 1: it's weird talking about your first love. You know, it's
Speaker 1: it's it's just a it's a it's a it's nostalgic,
Speaker 1: it's it's difficult to talk about because you know, as
Speaker 1: anybody who's ever been in love, UM, I can tell
Speaker 1: you it's just very it's so intimate. You know, the
Speaker 1: moments that you have with this person just are moments
Speaker 1: that you don't experience with other people. Uh. So it's
Speaker 1: always weird going down memory lane and thinking about the
Speaker 1: course of things and how everything happened. I don't know.
Speaker 1: Spinning again for Dean six. Would you rather send your
Speaker 1: nudes to a stranger or send your nudes to an X?
Speaker 1: To an X X, Well, you mean what X what?
Speaker 1: It's something I can pick the X. I would just
Speaker 1: say that I think I would trust an X to
Speaker 1: not do anything with my nudes rather than a stranger.
Speaker 1: But I guess on the flip side, if a stranger
Speaker 1: gets my nudes, they probably don't even know who it
Speaker 1: is unless your face is in it. That's the question
Speaker 1: I had, is you're facing these nudes. Yes, Well, I
Speaker 1: guess the thing for me too is I've got like
Speaker 1: tattoos down between my waist and my knees that are
Speaker 1: like pretty ah, pretty telling of who I am. So
Speaker 1: it's just, you know, I guess whatever people can see
Speaker 1: my small penis, I guess it's not the biggest thing.
Speaker 1: As soon as they see that Instagram verification tattoo, they
Speaker 1: know exactly who that nude is from the Instagram. And
Speaker 1: then I've got the carpet knocked him on my hip
Speaker 1: to which is like right down here, my pp So yeah,
Speaker 1: I guess you know, in an ideal world, no one
Speaker 1: would ever received my nudes. In fact, I don't think
Speaker 1: I've ever even actually taken a nude before. So is
Speaker 1: there anybody? Yeah? I highly doubt that. Is there anybody
Speaker 1: of your exes that you would feel comfortable? Like if
Speaker 1: you gun to your head and somebody's like, Okay, I
Speaker 1: just took a picture of your dick and you have
Speaker 1: to send it to your one of your ex Is
Speaker 1: there one X that you're like, Okay, if I have
Speaker 1: to send it somebody, I'm comfortable enough explaining to Kaitlin
Speaker 1: and this X what the hell is going on? Yeah? Absolutely,
Speaker 1: you don't want to say their name? Absolutely not. Ok
Speaker 1: But there's a I would say there's probably a few
Speaker 1: that I would be like hey, and then like after
Speaker 1: the fact, I could get my phone back and be like, uh, sorry,
Speaker 1: that's funny, ha ha by you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: But I'm being serious. I've never taken a nude before. Okay,
Speaker 1: I never taken nudes, and I've never asked for nudes
Speaker 1: in my entire life, maybe with like one exception. I
Speaker 1: just find it. I just don't like it. It's it's
Speaker 1: something that's kind of icky to me, I don't like
Speaker 1: if I would never want to send one. I don't
Speaker 1: feel comfortable asking for one, And even like the whole
Speaker 1: process of like requesting a nude from someone just seems
Speaker 1: so weird to me, So I just never really did it.
Speaker 1: It's interesting with how much you travel, like I feel
Speaker 1: like that would be like the number one source of
Speaker 1: like keeping your relationship spicy. Um No, I don't. I
Speaker 1: I mean no, it's it's not necessary for me. I've
Speaker 1: talked about this in the podcast before. It's like, I
Speaker 1: don't like over sexualize my relationship. Like as much as
Speaker 1: I enjoy that stuff, I you know, it's not like
Speaker 1: a burning desire within me too, like have fulfilled. So
Speaker 1: a conversation is perfectly fine until I get back to
Speaker 1: the house where for however long, I'm gone forward and
Speaker 1: I'm totally okay with that. So al right, next question
Speaker 1: too for Jared dream celebrity crush go m Rachel McAdams.
Speaker 1: She's just perfect. I mean, she's the perfect woman behind
Speaker 1: Ashley of course, obviously, she's just good recovery. Oh god,
Speaker 1: she just looks good all the time and she has
Speaker 1: that girl next store look and it's just there. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna stop you now before you get yourself into much trouble.
Speaker 1: On that note, Dan, this one question twelve the Bachelor's
Speaker 1: Star you slid into your that you have slid into
Speaker 1: their d ms before that no one knows about. Uh,
Speaker 1: probably Tyler Cameron, I guess. No, it has to be
Speaker 1: the opposite sex. That's just asking to bring me to
Speaker 1: get in trouble with my girlfriend. No, it's not. I think.
Speaker 1: I think before I had gone on Paradise for the
Speaker 1: second time, I might have slid into Andy Dorfman's d
Speaker 1: M s. Or I maybe just I asked Amanda Stanton
Speaker 1: to introduce me to her. I can't remember. I think
Speaker 1: that's the latter, not the former. I don't think I
Speaker 1: ever actually officially slid, but there was a point where
Speaker 1: I had a crush on her. You can kind of
Speaker 1: see that big Dorfman guy. Would you have, so hypothetically say,
Speaker 1: worked out with you and Andy? Would you have told Nick?
Speaker 1: Would you have asked for Nick's permission to date Andy.
Speaker 1: I'll be honest with you. I never even I never
Speaker 1: even I forgot to even consider that they had ever
Speaker 1: dated at any point. Um. I just thought you. I
Speaker 1: just thought you was cute. I think that Amanda Standon
Speaker 1: posted a picture with her. I was like, Oh, that
Speaker 1: girl's cute. And then I clicked on her page and
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, that girl used to be a bachelorette.
Speaker 1: And then that's that was basically into that. So thank you,
Speaker 1: guys forgetting me in trouble. I can't wait to hear
Speaker 1: the end of this. You will get stared in trouble
Speaker 1: next with this one. Have you or would you ever
Speaker 1: have a three sun? I have not. I don't know.
Speaker 1: I mean, I guess my hesitation already answers that question.
Speaker 1: The fact that I'd be open to it. I don't
Speaker 1: know if i'd be open to it anymore. I in
Speaker 1: my single days, definitely, But the idea, well, the idea
Speaker 1: of now, you know, being married with Ashley and having
Speaker 1: someone come in, I don't know. I don't know if
Speaker 1: i'd feel comfortable with that anymore. But uh yeah, a
Speaker 1: few years ago, why not this one? I have set
Speaker 1: up for both of you guys. I landed No Question
Speaker 1: number five and I've been waiting on this one. So
Speaker 1: there's three options. Let's start with Dean first block on Instagram,
Speaker 1: Mary Netflix, and Chill. Okay, this is the Mary f Kill,
Speaker 1: but in the PC version Walk on Instagram, Mary, Netflix
Speaker 1: and Chill, Dean Leslie Murphy, Christine Stolman and Kayla Quinn
Speaker 1: play this game. This is so bad. I'm not gonna play.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna pass. I'm gonna take whatever punishment you can
Speaker 1: give me because I just rather not even discussed this
Speaker 1: at the moment. So, Jared, what do you think? Who's
Speaker 1: the well? I answer, well, Jared's next. Yeah, so yeah,
Speaker 1: I get three new options. Caitlin Bristow, Lea Costa, Kayla Quinn.
Speaker 1: Who's Lea Costa? Who's from Australia, wasn't she? Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: yeah yeah yeah. And I have to marry Netflix and
Speaker 1: Chill and Block on Instagram. Yes, oh jesus, let me
Speaker 1: preface this. I'm gonna play the game because no, you
Speaker 1: just gotta answer. I'm married and the only person I
Speaker 1: want to be with is Ashley. We understand the game.
Speaker 1: We're at a team sleepover party, all right, Um, I
Speaker 1: would who Leah Kayla? Oh god, well, okay, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: marry Caitlin because I think Caitlin, I'm we're friends with Caitlin,
Speaker 1: so I think that'd be a fun marriage. Um, and
Speaker 1: then I guess I'll block Kayla and I'll Netflix and
Speaker 1: chill with Leah good answers, All right, let me spend
Speaker 1: the next one. And Dean was lamb about it. Accept
Speaker 1: my plushment or whatever it may be. We'll figure it out, Jared,
Speaker 1: and we have to think of something good. Well, can
Speaker 1: it be like people that you have no idea who they?
Speaker 1: You don't know them? So not like xes? Can I
Speaker 1: give you three names that you just you don't even
Speaker 1: know who they are? You know who they are, but
Speaker 1: you don't know them in person? Sure? All right, so
Speaker 1: let's do uh, Caitlin Bristow because that's the first name
Speaker 1: it came in. And then we'll do Okay, Andy Dorfman shure,
Speaker 1: why not? And then we'll do Who's a good one though?
Speaker 1: Who somebody? Who's this on Peter season? Hannah? And all yeah, Hannah, Sure, sure, okay,
Speaker 1: I block Hanna and saw that, saw that coming. I
Speaker 1: would marry Andy and I would netflix and show with Kaitlin.
Speaker 1: Bought a boom, bought a bang? Next question, spin the
Speaker 1: bottle is getting lit up in here? Help my second
Speaker 1: dating quarantine? Alright? The next one for Jared tell one
Speaker 1: minute story. One minute Jared about your first kiss, one minute.
Speaker 1: Al Right. It was a sophomore year in high school.
Speaker 1: I don't know if that makes me a late bloomer
Speaker 1: or not, but we were slow dancing. She went to
Speaker 1: a different school and I went to her. It wasn't ProMED,
Speaker 1: but whatever the hell. The dances were in sophomore year
Speaker 1: and we were doing that slow dance where her back
Speaker 1: was to me and my arms were wrapped around her waist.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, it was the way to go. When you
Speaker 1: did that, you were cool. And it was towards the
Speaker 1: end of the night and I was trying to get
Speaker 1: like my confidence up to kiss her, and then she
Speaker 1: turned around like she did that thing where she just
Speaker 1: kind of looked like looked at me like that. I
Speaker 1: know the listeners can't see me, but you know where
Speaker 1: the girl kind of like looks up like puppy dog eyes,
Speaker 1: and then she just leaned in and kissed me. So
Speaker 1: my first kiss, I didn't even make the move. She
Speaker 1: made the move. I'm such a whip my entire life.
Speaker 1: He kiss man, That's true. So that was my first
Speaker 1: kist where you're in high school at that dance, it
Speaker 1: was pretty cool. There was a memorable moment. If you
Speaker 1: got a kiss back, then you're winning. When was your
Speaker 1: first kiss? Story? You know, I can't remember. I think
Speaker 1: it's so depressing, but I honestly cannot remember anything about that.
Speaker 1: I mean that makes it sound like you've kissed a
Speaker 1: lot of people. I just can't remember, like the defined
Speaker 1: moment of like a first kiss. I'm like, was it
Speaker 1: like seventh thy grade? But like I can't really remember?
Speaker 1: And then like was it in high school? Like there's
Speaker 1: just too many like vague points. So unfortunately it's kind
Speaker 1: of sad. Okay, here we go. Next one. It is
Speaker 1: Deans most embarrassing up story, most embarrassing hook up story.
Speaker 1: Oh well, I I wanted for this tick of time,
Speaker 1: just think of something quickly here most embarrassing, embarrassing? How
Speaker 1: like inability to perform because there's plenty of those, Um,
Speaker 1: most embarrassing hook up story? I can I didn't. I
Speaker 1: can't think of anything, to be perfectly honest, Can I
Speaker 1: get it? Kind of get a second question and I
Speaker 1: can come back to this one later. Well, let's think
Speaker 1: about it this way. Eugenie Bouchard, Um, I think she's
Speaker 1: a professional tennis player actually opened up out one of
Speaker 1: her worst dating stories and hook up stories. They went
Speaker 1: out to dinner and then like went back to the
Speaker 1: apartment and they both got food poisoning, so they were
Speaker 1: like throwing up on each other like the whole night,
Speaker 1: like sharing the bathroom. So there's something in that angle
Speaker 1: of like he did something really romantic and then went
Speaker 1: completely wrong or something. Yeah, but the thing is that
Speaker 1: this is a person that came to mind. I didn't
Speaker 1: want to share because I've already shared it on this
Speaker 1: podcast before. But I went on a second date with
Speaker 1: this girl who really liked We ordered Chinese food and
Speaker 1: watched movies at night, and I got really sick and
Speaker 1: was puking. I wasn't attending to stay the night, uh,
Speaker 1: and I ended up staying night but basically sleeping on
Speaker 1: the bathroom floor, puking the entire time in the toilet.
Speaker 1: I got a third date, long story short, but it
Speaker 1: was still it wasn't even like embarrassing. It was more
Speaker 1: of just like like unfortunate, I guess um, But it's
Speaker 1: hard to be embarrassed when you literally have no shame
Speaker 1: like I do. So it's I don't really think a
Speaker 1: very many embarrassing moments that can come to mind just
Speaker 1: because I'm, you know, an idiot, So I would say
Speaker 1: that's that's the one that first comes to mind. So
Speaker 1: that must be the most average all right, spending again
Speaker 1: for Jared ten weirdest habit, weirdest habit, I don't know,
Speaker 1: obsessing over people like Tom Brady and Rob Thomas. I
Speaker 1: guess that's pretty freaking weird. It's pretty weird. Kayla makes
Speaker 1: one of me for this all the time. Um, I
Speaker 1: really like sneezing, Like I would just like get a
Speaker 1: kick out of sneezing. And so if I feel like
Speaker 1: a booker is in the right place in my nose,
Speaker 1: I'll like vibrate my nose and like come through my
Speaker 1: nose to to trigger a sneeze. And every time I
Speaker 1: do it, Kayla makes one of me a lot. Fair enough. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's better than what I had. I got nothing. I'm
Speaker 1: very weird. I don't want to downplaying this. I'm a
Speaker 1: very weird individual. I just can't think of anything on
Speaker 1: top of my head. All right, hone, Okay, great, Jared?
Speaker 1: That sorry. Dean's turn What is your biggest turnoff in
Speaker 1: a partner? My biggest turnoff in a partner has to
Speaker 1: be I'm talking physically, emotionally, what are we talking here?
Speaker 1: Just generally speaking, I say indecisiveness. It's like, it's kind
Speaker 1: of a big turn off for me. I want, I like,
Speaker 1: I like decisions, and I like, I don't like wavering.
Speaker 1: I just want I just want to know the answer
Speaker 1: to the thing, not not in decisions. That's kind of
Speaker 1: a turn off. I don't know if I remember, I
Speaker 1: don't know if I'm on the right track here, if
Speaker 1: that's kind of what the question was looking for. But
Speaker 1: but yeah, it's it's like one of my big frustrating
Speaker 1: one of the things I get frustrated on is when
Speaker 1: and it's not just even romantic partners, it's with anyone.
Speaker 1: It's like, you know, obviously there's the age old one,
Speaker 1: Hey what do you want to eat? And then the
Speaker 1: answer is always I don't know a lot of know,
Speaker 1: but like that as it pertains other things as well.
Speaker 1: So yeah, that's my biggest turn off. And the last
Speaker 1: one ending on Jared, what was the last person in
Speaker 1: Bachelor Nation you texted? And what does it read? Oh?
Speaker 1: I like it? That's not good. Then Dan likes it.
Speaker 1: We both you guys both get an answer this it's
Speaker 1: probably actually it is, so do you want me to
Speaker 1: scoop no no before other than your significant other, because
Speaker 1: it's gonna be like do you want avocados or no,
Speaker 1: Like it's gonna be like a supermarket. We'round the text.
Speaker 1: All right, Well it's it's tanner. It's very underwhelming, and
Speaker 1: the text just says, I feel like it's been so oversaturated.
Speaker 1: That's it. That was the last text. Look at a
Speaker 1: picture you were going to post or something. It does
Speaker 1: It doesn't have to do with social media, yes, potentially Instagram. Nice.
Speaker 1: Mine's funny actually because I texted Ben twenty minutes ago
Speaker 1: in the middle of this podcast working Hard people, He's
Speaker 1: really working hard. Ben and I sometimes bought bounced stock
Speaker 1: ideas off each other, and he encouraged me to invest
Speaker 1: in Disney a few weeks ago. Uh, And since I
Speaker 1: bought Disney, I texted him and said, hey, Disney stock
Speaker 1: is up twenty since I bought it. And then that
Speaker 1: was it. Well that I'll do it. For this week's
Speaker 1: episode of Help I Suck It dating all inclusive of
Speaker 1: spin the bottle, uh, movie set romances? What else? What
Speaker 1: else did we talk about we don't really get any
Speaker 1: listener to emails this time, which is kind of a bummer,
Speaker 1: But you know what, I like that we're not doing
Speaker 1: it every time. Let's create a let's keep people on
Speaker 1: their toes just a little bit, creat a little bit
Speaker 1: of an episodic diversity here. And uh, big thank you
Speaker 1: to Jared obviously for wearing that bandana looking great today
Speaker 1: every time, Guys, all the time. I'm gonna keep wearing it.
Speaker 1: Big thank you to big thank you to Tory for
Speaker 1: spending thirty minutes on to spin the bottle sign as
Speaker 1: well as coming up with those fantastic questions and at
Speaker 1: least took our forty five minutes. Um. Big thank you
Speaker 1: to all listeners out there for taking the time to
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