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Speaker 1: It is subject confused with my buddy. In quotation marks

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Speaker 1: Do Stephen Shirley, I'm a divorced mother of twins that

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Speaker 1: runs a successful business. Due to the fact that my

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Speaker 1: company requires a lot of my time, I spend all

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Speaker 1: of my free time with my twin boys. Both of

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Speaker 1: my sons participate in team sports and I am at

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Speaker 1: all gains and practices, as well as very active in

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Speaker 1: their school and educational process. This leaves no time for

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Speaker 1: a real relationship right now. All show with all the

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Speaker 1: changes that my children have had to endure, I feel

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Speaker 1: that it's best that I shower them with all my

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Speaker 1: time and full attention. I'm at this very nice gentleman

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Speaker 1: through a good friend, and after several conversations, we agreed

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Speaker 1: to be buddies again. In quotation marks Uh. He also

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Speaker 1: he also had gone through a divorce, had a business

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Speaker 1: and similar time constraint. Says he has custody of his

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Speaker 1: children four days a week. We would hook up at

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Speaker 1: lunch every three to four days. This was working great

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Speaker 1: for eight months until he started complaining that he felt

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Speaker 1: like a booty call and that he wished my phone

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Speaker 1: calls and conversations were not always I pray alude to sex,

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Speaker 1: and hearing it like that, I felt a little bad.

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Speaker 1: So I started calling every so often just to say hi,

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Speaker 1: thinking that this would solve the problem. The opposite occurred.

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Speaker 1: He became distant, so I went back to the original plan.

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Speaker 1: Now he is all over me again, and it started

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Speaker 1: complaining again. My feeling is that this buddy situation has

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Speaker 1: rent it's course, and uh, I should just let this

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Speaker 1: one go. Steve, you are always right on point when

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Speaker 1: it comes to men in part of me. No offense surely,

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Speaker 1: so please advise loyal listener confused in Connecticut. Dear loyal

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Speaker 1: Dear loyal listener, Dear loyal listener, You're right on point

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Speaker 1: with this one. Steve is great insight in this man

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Speaker 1: type situations, man type situations like this, So no offense taken,

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Speaker 1: because I really don't get this. When your life was fine,

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Speaker 1: You're dealing with your twins, very very busy. Then you

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Speaker 1: met the nice gentleman and agreed to be buddies with him. Well,

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Speaker 1: what did that mean? Were you, guys um clear on

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Speaker 1: this that it would pretty much be what it ended

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Speaker 1: up being. A booty call. There was no um love,

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Speaker 1: no no closeness, no intimacy, no future discuss. Buddies means

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Speaker 1: friends with benefits. To me, this guy had what so

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Speaker 1: many guys dream of, you know, to sleep, get to

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Speaker 1: sleep with you with no commitment, no strings attached, and

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Speaker 1: he was complaining about that. Still don't get it, And

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Speaker 1: why were you the one doing all the calling and stuff.

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Speaker 1: You don't sound confused to me. You had already said

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Speaker 1: you didn't have time for real relationship right now, he

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Speaker 1: does sound confused because he doesn't know what he wants.

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Speaker 1: Mr Nice gentleman needs to make up his mind. If

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Speaker 1: he wants to be more than buddies with you, then

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Speaker 1: he should make it plain. Let us just to know,

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Speaker 1: and maybe you guys can work something out. Steve, Oh yeah,

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Speaker 1: cold cracker, seize the colde and about to crack it.

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Speaker 1: We come back, Shelly. You exactly on point with what

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Speaker 1: you said, Dolly, But there are some things that ladies

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Speaker 1: just don't know about men. And I'm fin to put

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Speaker 1: your own point right after this. I see clearly already

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Speaker 1: and done it already. We only do three things this

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Speaker 1: just one of them explained to you what he's doing

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Speaker 1: and how you can hele it. Alright, Steve is gonna

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Speaker 1: have part two of his response to today's Strawberry Letter

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Speaker 1: at twenty three after the hour. All right, come on,

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Speaker 1: Steve with your response to part two of today's Strawberry Letter.

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Speaker 1: Confused with my buddy. Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm a divorced

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Speaker 1: mother of twins that runs a successful business. Due to

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Speaker 1: the fact that my company requires a lot of my time,

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Speaker 1: I's been all of my free time with my twin boys.

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Speaker 1: Both of my sons participating team sports, and I'm at

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Speaker 1: all games and practice, as well as very active in

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Speaker 1: their school educational process. This leaves no time for a

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Speaker 1: real relationship right now. Also, with all the changes that

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Speaker 1: my children have had to endure, I feel that it's

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Speaker 1: best that I showered them with all my time and

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Speaker 1: full attention. I met this very nice gentleman through a

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Speaker 1: good friend, and after several conversations, we agree to be buddies.

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Speaker 1: He also had gone through a divorce, has a business

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Speaker 1: and similar time constraints, and as becausein off his children

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Speaker 1: four days a week, we would hook up at lunch

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Speaker 1: every three to four days. This was working great for

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Speaker 1: eight months until he started complaining that he felt like

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Speaker 1: a booty call and that he wished my phone calls

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Speaker 1: and conversations were not always a prelude to sex. In

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Speaker 1: hearing it like that, I felt a little bad. So

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Speaker 1: I started calling every so often just to say hi,

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Speaker 1: thinking that this would solve the problem. Well, the opposite occurred.

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Speaker 1: He became distant, so I went back to the original plan.

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Speaker 1: Now he's all over me again and has started complaining again.

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Speaker 1: My feeling is that this buddy situation has run his

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Speaker 1: course and I should just let this one go. Steve,

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Speaker 1: you always right on point when it comes to me,

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Speaker 1: and no officially, so please advise loyal listener. Confused in Connecticut, Well,

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Speaker 1: confused in Connecticut. Let's shut up all this confusion. Cold

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Speaker 1: Cracker sees through this clearly. See, lady, you got a company,

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Speaker 1: you're busy. You ain't got time. He got a business,

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Speaker 1: he divorced, you divorce. You got twin boys, he got kids,

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Speaker 1: he got four days a week. Everybody busy. Hill. So

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Speaker 1: you met this man through a friend, and you all

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Speaker 1: agreed to become buddy. Na here's where the confusion comes in.

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Speaker 1: That See, nobody clearly defined buddies for you ma'am. But

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Speaker 1: let me tell you about men. When we are your buddy,

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Speaker 1: buddy stands for initials. If you spell buddies out, each

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Speaker 1: one of those initials stands for something. Buddies mean we

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Speaker 1: will share some booty with the understanding that it doesn't

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Speaker 1: directly interfere or evolved into anything beyond sex. B is

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Speaker 1: for booty, You is for understanding, DearS for doesn't, DearS

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Speaker 1: for directly, I is for interfeel, E is for evolved,

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Speaker 1: and S is for anything beyond sex. Forget your buddy,

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Speaker 1: We want to have some booty with the understanding that

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Speaker 1: it doesn't directly into feel or evolved beyond sex. Bodies

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Speaker 1: is initials for something we want. Here is where the

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Speaker 1: problem come in. When you, buddies, the dude that messed around,

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Speaker 1: now you calling him he getting messed up because he

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Speaker 1: don't want all these conversations to be a prelude to sex. Well,

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Speaker 1: wasn't that the agreement? See, that's what we do to y'all.

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Speaker 1: But what did happened is it's been reversed. Now a

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Speaker 1: man feel like he getting played just for sex. Now.

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Speaker 1: He didn't came and told you what we created me

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Speaker 1: and created this. Now it's called a booty call. But

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Speaker 1: what did happened is it's been reversed. See a booty

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Speaker 1: call is cool when you to call up, come on,

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Speaker 1: but when you the booty, it hurts. Oh, come on now,

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Speaker 1: cold crack on top of this cracking. See when you

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Speaker 1: the caller on a booty call is cool, but when

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Speaker 1: you're the booty, it hurt. Now, old punk hurt. I

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Speaker 1: thought he could come up and be buddies. And now

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Speaker 1: the sexton got so good. Now he won't move, He

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Speaker 1: ain't give it him more. Now he complained that he

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Speaker 1: just a booty call. He won't more, but he don't

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Speaker 1: know how. So now you didn't reverse the student flip

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Speaker 1: the script. You just said. I tell you what, since

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Speaker 1: that's hurting you, I just call you every now and

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Speaker 1: then now he dissed it, so you go back to

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Speaker 1: the original plan. He all over you again. But then

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Speaker 1: he complaining now because see the roles have been reversed.

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Speaker 1: All right, Thank you, Steve. You know we got to

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Speaker 1: us your thoughts on today's letter at My Girls Shirley tomorrow.

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