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Speaker 1: My wife thinks I look disgusting, but I don't care.

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Speaker 1: Am I the a hole?

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Speaker 2: No, you're not the ahole. I have self love. Maybe

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Speaker 2: you're not. I don't know. It depends how like gross

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Speaker 2: you're looking. Man.

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Speaker 1: I mean, if you're a literal toad monster, just like

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Speaker 1: covered in like caked and filth, that's yeah. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: But if you're just you know, being killing her lounge

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Speaker 2: and you know, wearing some box or briefs or some

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Speaker 2: sweatpants or some swoveralls and you're chilling, live your life,

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Speaker 2: live your life. Ey Oh.

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Speaker 1: I'm a twenty six male and my wife is twenty

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Speaker 1: four female, and we've been married for two years. And

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Speaker 1: I know we're both young, but we're both from a

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Speaker 1: conservative slash religious area and they love each other and

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Speaker 1: they love each other. So my wife is a kind

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Speaker 1: of person who always has her hair and makeup done,

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Speaker 1: and she has matching nail polish to her outfit every

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Speaker 1: single day. Jesus.

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Speaker 2: It sounds exhausting a lot. It's a full, full thing

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Speaker 2: that you got to remember to do every day. I

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Speaker 2: can barely remember to eat most days. It takes at

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Speaker 2: least an hour for her to get ready in the morning.

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Speaker 1: And she does. It's the full routine every single day,

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Speaker 1: even if it's just going to be the two of

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Speaker 1: us at the house with no plans.

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Speaker 2: That's a bit much.

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Speaker 1: It's a bit much.

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Speaker 2: But maybe you're like, I just want to impress hubby.

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Speaker 2: You know, maybe if you want to do it's fine,

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Speaker 2: it makes you happy.

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Speaker 1: I have never asked her to do this once. She's

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Speaker 1: always just been that kind of person since I met her,

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Speaker 1: and I do admit I do appreciate it. She does

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Speaker 1: look great, so he ain't man looking like a snack

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Speaker 1: looking like a snack. I don't dress like a slob

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Speaker 1: or anything. But when I come home from work, I

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Speaker 1: like to put on a pair of sweatpants, a T shirt,

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Speaker 1: a hoodie or maybe some swoveralls.

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Speaker 2: Look at these babies, and it has the inside pocket you.

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Speaker 1: Can store anything. And after we're cold, one a cellular

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Speaker 1: device too convenient?

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Speaker 2: Boom? Where did that go in the secret pocket?

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Speaker 1: Baby?

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Speaker 2: Where?

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Speaker 1: But here's the thing saying, my wife recently told me

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Speaker 1: she doesn't like this.

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Speaker 2: What doesn't like that is being comfortable lounging around the house.

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Speaker 1: Doesn't like him to enjoy himself.

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Speaker 2: I guess, Wow, you know these ladies always trying to

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Speaker 2: make us have less fun. John exactly trying to break

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Speaker 2: wear free stallions.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, lying, Now, my wife wants me to put more

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Speaker 1: effort into looking my best at home instead of just

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Speaker 1: at the office, and wants me to stay dressed in

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Speaker 1: the same button down and slacks that I wear to

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Speaker 1: the office for the rest of the entire evening.

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Speaker 2: Wait, she wants you Nah, dude, you don't. You'll wear

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Speaker 2: office clothes the whole day. That's too much. Sometimes when

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Speaker 2: I get home, I literally just like I'm like a

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Speaker 2: like a you know, the Tasmanian devil. I'm like the

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Speaker 2: Tasmanian devil. I rip off all of my clothes. I'm

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Speaker 2: in my boxers in the first like two minutes getting

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Speaker 2: under cover of night.

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Speaker 1: Sometimes I'm naked. I'll just be walking around my house naked.

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Speaker 1: I told her that it does not sound comfortable wearing

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Speaker 1: all my work clothes trying to relax at night.

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Speaker 2: Bro, there's no way that's comfortable.

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Speaker 1: And she said that her outfits and hairstyles aren't comfortable

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Speaker 1: a lot of the time either, but she wears them anyways.

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Speaker 2: That don't do it. Don't do it, but don't force

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Speaker 2: my man's to bunch his balls just because you don't.

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Speaker 2: You know, you want him to and you feel like

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Speaker 2: you have to.

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Speaker 1: For real. I told her that I don't have any

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Speaker 1: expectation that she does that, and I wouldn't care if

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Speaker 1: she just wanted to wear sweatpants, pajamas or whatever.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it doesn't matter. And also, John, it doesn't have

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Speaker 2: to be a choice.

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Speaker 1: No, it doesn't.

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Speaker 2: No, Actually, we are making the choice to be both

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Speaker 2: fashionable and comfortable. Brand new Swoe Burrall's baby. Look at this.

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Speaker 1: Check our Lincoln bio and use okop a discount for

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Speaker 1: fifteen percent off. So back to the story, she said,

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Speaker 1: it doesn't matter if I personally have that expectation of her,

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Speaker 1: but that is what's expected by society, and that if

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Speaker 1: she has to do it, then I should match her

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Speaker 1: level again as a sign of respect.

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Speaker 2: I don't know about that.

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Speaker 1: Maybe a bit much there.

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Speaker 2: I think she is right that generally women are pressured

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Speaker 2: more by society to like look good like all the time.

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Speaker 2: But I don't think the societal pressure necessarily follows into

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Speaker 2: private quarters exactly.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, when you're in your own home, that is your society.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, bro, you create your own society. And my man's

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Speaker 2: isn't being like, you know, a dick and say like,

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Speaker 2: ooh got to dress all the nice all the time,

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Speaker 2: and he doesn't have that double standard. Then I think

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Speaker 2: it's fine to just be comfortable.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's something she personally wants wants for various personal reasons,

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Speaker 1: but OP doesn't feel the same. Divorce call one night

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Speaker 1: hundred Okop. I asked my sister twenty nine female about this,

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Speaker 1: because she is usually the go to for this kind

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Speaker 1: of advice. She laughed and said that she never wears

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Speaker 1: makeup around the house and doesn't care if her husband

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Speaker 1: sits around in his boxers all weekend. I jokingly told

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Speaker 1: her tell my wife that. But the thing is, my

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Speaker 1: sister actually texted to tell my wife that no, no,

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Speaker 1: they're friends. So my wife didn't get mad at my

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Speaker 1: sister for saying it, but my wife is mad at

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Speaker 1: me for running to my sister to get someone else

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Speaker 1: to agree with me.

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Speaker 2: I don't know, you know, it's his sister. I think

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Speaker 2: it's fine.

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Speaker 1: So the question is am I the a hole for

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Speaker 1: not wanting to dress up around the house? And was

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Speaker 1: I wrong for asking my sister for advice?

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Speaker 2: I think on two counts of you being the A Hall.

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Speaker 2: You are not guilty charges. Yeah, not guilty, not guilty.

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Speaker 1: See you