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I 19 00:00:51,280 --> 00:00:55,560 Speaker 2: have a new dating a trick that apparently men are 20 00:00:55,640 --> 00:00:56,360 Speaker 2: using on dating. 21 00:00:56,480 --> 00:00:57,120 Speaker 1: That's what we're doing. 22 00:00:57,200 --> 00:00:59,120 Speaker 2: Never mind, I mean, I just I just served it 23 00:00:59,200 --> 00:01:01,280 Speaker 2: up like it was going to be all this or that, 24 00:01:01,960 --> 00:01:03,800 Speaker 2: or we could talk about the fact that jen z 25 00:01:03,920 --> 00:01:05,560 Speaker 2: has a request for women at the gym, or we 26 00:01:05,600 --> 00:01:06,360 Speaker 2: could do all of it. 27 00:01:06,480 --> 00:01:07,920 Speaker 1: I kind of want all of it. You kind of 28 00:01:07,920 --> 00:01:10,080 Speaker 1: want all of it. Give me everything. 29 00:01:10,200 --> 00:01:15,520 Speaker 2: That I want you I do. So a TikToker is 30 00:01:16,120 --> 00:01:20,840 Speaker 2: apparently is the guy, and he is using dating apps 31 00:01:21,240 --> 00:01:25,920 Speaker 2: to trick men into telling him their secret fishing spot. 32 00:01:27,280 --> 00:01:30,640 Speaker 2: What Yeah, so right, So this guy, he's a TikToker 33 00:01:30,800 --> 00:01:34,720 Speaker 2: and he's been orchestrating a clever scheme. He catfishes guys 34 00:01:34,800 --> 00:01:37,399 Speaker 2: on dating apps like Hinge, pretending to be a woman. 35 00:01:37,720 --> 00:01:42,280 Speaker 2: Once he connects these unsuspecting users, I guess they I 36 00:01:42,280 --> 00:01:44,400 Speaker 2: guess a lot of men hold up fish in their profiles, 37 00:01:44,440 --> 00:01:46,200 Speaker 2: like if you're a certain parts of the world. 38 00:01:46,240 --> 00:01:48,760 Speaker 1: I guess they do. I remember that. 39 00:01:48,920 --> 00:01:50,640 Speaker 3: Yeah, when I was on dating apps, I do feel 40 00:01:50,640 --> 00:01:52,160 Speaker 3: like I saw that a lot with the fishing and 41 00:01:52,160 --> 00:01:52,800 Speaker 3: you hold it up. 42 00:01:52,840 --> 00:01:54,760 Speaker 1: How big it was? Yeah, I guess it's a big deal. 43 00:01:54,800 --> 00:01:56,400 Speaker 2: You hold up a fish and your thing like you 44 00:01:56,440 --> 00:01:58,800 Speaker 2: can I know how to catch these or something. But 45 00:01:58,840 --> 00:02:03,040 Speaker 2: once he connects with them, these the unsuspecting users often 46 00:02:03,080 --> 00:02:08,840 Speaker 2: share their prize fishing spot location, sometimes even sending GPS coordinates. Now, 47 00:02:08,880 --> 00:02:11,720 Speaker 2: I didn't realize if we have any fisher people out there, 48 00:02:12,320 --> 00:02:15,400 Speaker 2: fisher men and women. I mean, I realize that people 49 00:02:15,440 --> 00:02:17,640 Speaker 2: have fishing spots or places that they think are lucky 50 00:02:17,639 --> 00:02:19,160 Speaker 2: where they get to catch more fish. 51 00:02:19,520 --> 00:02:21,800 Speaker 1: But I mean, I don't know why. 52 00:02:22,160 --> 00:02:24,840 Speaker 2: So so what you're like, You're chatting with a woman 53 00:02:24,919 --> 00:02:27,440 Speaker 2: and you think it's attractive into fishing, and you're like, wow, 54 00:02:27,480 --> 00:02:28,520 Speaker 2: I really struck gold here. 55 00:02:28,720 --> 00:02:29,400 Speaker 1: I won the lottery. 56 00:02:29,480 --> 00:02:31,639 Speaker 2: I found a fisher lady, and so I'm going to 57 00:02:31,680 --> 00:02:33,280 Speaker 2: tell her where I fish. I'm going to take her 58 00:02:33,639 --> 00:02:36,560 Speaker 2: to the fishing place. But the approach is apparently game 59 00:02:36,919 --> 00:02:40,120 Speaker 2: serious traction. He now has ten TikTok videos over a 60 00:02:40,120 --> 00:02:42,880 Speaker 2: million views, including one title Day thirty four of cat 61 00:02:42,960 --> 00:02:45,680 Speaker 2: fishing guys on Hinge to get their fishing spots, which 62 00:02:45,680 --> 00:02:48,640 Speaker 2: alone has one point eight million views. His most popular clip, 63 00:02:48,800 --> 00:02:51,959 Speaker 2: which is posted in late July, takes viewers to an 64 00:02:52,160 --> 00:02:55,520 Speaker 2: s tier fishing location where he lands twenty brook trout 65 00:02:55,560 --> 00:02:56,360 Speaker 2: in just an hour. 66 00:02:56,840 --> 00:03:00,799 Speaker 1: WHOA wow, I don't know, I guess that's pretty good. 67 00:03:01,000 --> 00:03:02,520 Speaker 2: I mean I would imagine twenty fish in an hour 68 00:03:02,600 --> 00:03:03,760 Speaker 2: is good no matter where you are. 69 00:03:04,600 --> 00:03:07,080 Speaker 1: But yeah, why is he doing this? Like what is 70 00:03:07,120 --> 00:03:13,080 Speaker 1: his harp? Right? Well, it's used to get the fishing spots. 71 00:03:12,840 --> 00:03:16,280 Speaker 2: But I'm not just giving up my fishing spot like 72 00:03:16,360 --> 00:03:20,359 Speaker 2: any Like, I'm not just I'm not telling you. I'm 73 00:03:20,400 --> 00:03:22,880 Speaker 2: not all the secrets, you know what I mean? Like, 74 00:03:22,919 --> 00:03:25,280 Speaker 2: I'm not just I'm not only on the apps telling 75 00:03:25,280 --> 00:03:27,160 Speaker 2: you all the best restaurants that I that I take 76 00:03:27,240 --> 00:03:27,640 Speaker 2: dates to. 77 00:03:27,760 --> 00:03:30,080 Speaker 4: And you think it's somebody you like, like a girl 78 00:03:30,120 --> 00:03:31,160 Speaker 4: you like, you wouldn't do that. 79 00:03:31,280 --> 00:03:33,079 Speaker 2: I might be like, hey, let's go on a date 80 00:03:33,120 --> 00:03:35,720 Speaker 2: and then maybe maybe we'll go fishing if you're into 81 00:03:35,760 --> 00:03:38,320 Speaker 2: fishing fishing, and I might, I might take you to 82 00:03:38,360 --> 00:03:41,400 Speaker 2: the spot. But I'm not just like sending you longitude 83 00:03:41,440 --> 00:03:44,160 Speaker 2: and latitude of my of my dude, I don't know 84 00:03:44,440 --> 00:03:46,560 Speaker 2: what is what kind of where is this is Arkansas? 85 00:03:46,640 --> 00:03:50,680 Speaker 1: Or where are we fishing? Yeah? And why is what 86 00:03:50,760 --> 00:03:52,880 Speaker 1: I mean? Why is it a question of many fishing 87 00:03:52,880 --> 00:03:54,480 Speaker 1: spots have so many questions? 88 00:03:54,760 --> 00:03:57,400 Speaker 2: What was you if you were trying to get information 89 00:03:57,480 --> 00:03:59,360 Speaker 2: out of someone like this? I mean, it wouldn't be 90 00:03:59,360 --> 00:04:01,720 Speaker 2: fishing spot like what on a dating app? If you 91 00:04:01,760 --> 00:04:04,560 Speaker 2: were trying to sort of scam someone into telling you something. 92 00:04:04,680 --> 00:04:06,440 Speaker 2: What would be what you'd want to know? What their 93 00:04:06,480 --> 00:04:08,400 Speaker 2: credit score is, how much money they have. 94 00:04:09,880 --> 00:04:10,680 Speaker 1: Money? Right? 95 00:04:11,000 --> 00:04:12,680 Speaker 3: You know? Now I don't care about your credit score? 96 00:04:12,720 --> 00:04:13,840 Speaker 3: How to get mine improved? 97 00:04:13,920 --> 00:04:14,040 Speaker 2: Right? 98 00:04:14,600 --> 00:04:14,800 Speaker 3: You know? 99 00:04:14,960 --> 00:04:17,760 Speaker 2: Oh you're looking for financial tips? Yes, okay, well the 100 00:04:17,839 --> 00:04:20,560 Speaker 2: first let me give you one. I'm just gonna start. 101 00:04:20,800 --> 00:04:21,520 Speaker 2: Let me give you one. 102 00:04:21,560 --> 00:04:24,960 Speaker 1: And that's that's not to ignore the bills when they arrived. Hey, 103 00:04:25,400 --> 00:04:27,039 Speaker 1: I have to protect my piece, so. 104 00:04:27,279 --> 00:04:29,760 Speaker 2: Right, I understand that age That seems to be what 105 00:04:29,839 --> 00:04:32,039 Speaker 2: people do when they just don't want to do something. 106 00:04:32,080 --> 00:04:34,240 Speaker 2: That seems to be the catchphrase is that, you know, 107 00:04:34,320 --> 00:04:36,400 Speaker 2: instead of being accountable, they just protect their piece. 108 00:04:36,720 --> 00:04:37,880 Speaker 1: So sorry, but I. 109 00:04:37,880 --> 00:04:39,760 Speaker 3: Would be really mad if I if I was one 110 00:04:39,800 --> 00:04:41,560 Speaker 3: of these men who gave up my spot, because I 111 00:04:41,560 --> 00:04:43,039 Speaker 3: don't know if you guys have ever broken up, Well 112 00:04:43,040 --> 00:04:46,039 Speaker 3: you've broken up with people, I'm sure, But then they 113 00:04:46,160 --> 00:04:49,000 Speaker 3: use your restaurants in a new relationship, or they play 114 00:04:49,080 --> 00:04:53,040 Speaker 3: your songs that you put them onto in the new relationship, 115 00:04:53,160 --> 00:04:56,440 Speaker 3: Like that will really make me upset? Oh yeah, yes, 116 00:04:56,920 --> 00:04:58,840 Speaker 3: Like I don't want you at my restaurant with your 117 00:04:58,839 --> 00:04:59,280 Speaker 3: new chick. 118 00:05:00,120 --> 00:05:01,360 Speaker 1: Was my fond what you want. 119 00:05:01,480 --> 00:05:03,440 Speaker 2: I remember during COVID, I was dating this girl and 120 00:05:03,480 --> 00:05:05,440 Speaker 2: she basically insisted that I lived with her. I don't 121 00:05:05,440 --> 00:05:07,720 Speaker 2: know you you were present for this. I don't think 122 00:05:07,760 --> 00:05:09,400 Speaker 2: the rest of you were here. Maybe Jason was here 123 00:05:09,400 --> 00:05:12,400 Speaker 2: for part of this. But it was basically like it's COVID, 124 00:05:12,400 --> 00:05:15,080 Speaker 2: And basically what it was is that she wanted. It 125 00:05:15,120 --> 00:05:17,960 Speaker 2: was a control thing, like men moved into her place. 126 00:05:18,000 --> 00:05:20,120 Speaker 2: That was how this worked. And I understand, Yeah, I 127 00:05:20,200 --> 00:05:22,719 Speaker 2: know you said, I think I was dating you actually, 128 00:05:23,960 --> 00:05:26,400 Speaker 2: except she was white, but that was the only difference. 129 00:05:26,440 --> 00:05:29,120 Speaker 2: But so during this, and this lasted a few months 130 00:05:29,200 --> 00:05:31,839 Speaker 2: or whatever, but I bought a case of wine and 131 00:05:31,880 --> 00:05:35,760 Speaker 2: I bought like a box of steaks, like of nice steaks, 132 00:05:37,040 --> 00:05:40,680 Speaker 2: nice steaks. She had a little grill, you know, and 133 00:05:40,720 --> 00:05:42,640 Speaker 2: so like we put the steaks in a freezer. We 134 00:05:42,640 --> 00:05:44,760 Speaker 2: were like drinking the wine and making the steaks. And 135 00:05:44,839 --> 00:05:47,320 Speaker 2: so we broke up and I never got my stakes 136 00:05:47,320 --> 00:05:49,080 Speaker 2: through my wine back. But it was like it was 137 00:05:49,120 --> 00:05:52,160 Speaker 2: a case of wine and like eight or nine, say, 138 00:05:52,200 --> 00:05:53,000 Speaker 2: and they were expensive. 139 00:05:53,040 --> 00:05:54,920 Speaker 1: They were like nice steaks, you know what I mean. 140 00:05:55,040 --> 00:05:56,880 Speaker 2: And so I want to I'm bringing this up because 141 00:05:56,920 --> 00:05:59,480 Speaker 2: I promise you that she consumed that with some other man. 142 00:05:59,640 --> 00:06:01,520 Speaker 2: Oh yeah, some of the man came over and she 143 00:06:01,720 --> 00:06:03,960 Speaker 2: made him move in, and then she made him cook 144 00:06:04,000 --> 00:06:06,560 Speaker 2: the steaks. And I got stakes here. I paid for those. 145 00:06:06,640 --> 00:06:09,680 Speaker 2: I hope you enjoyed. That never got my steaks or 146 00:06:09,760 --> 00:06:13,880 Speaker 2: my wine back. But I'm not giving him a fishings behind, right, 147 00:06:14,000 --> 00:06:16,480 Speaker 2: I draw the line there. I mean, I think I 148 00:06:16,520 --> 00:06:18,840 Speaker 2: would want to know, you know, I wish, I wish 149 00:06:18,839 --> 00:06:22,480 Speaker 2: I could have like a little I wish they were 150 00:06:22,480 --> 00:06:25,159 Speaker 2: like I guess they kind of are yell previews for people, 151 00:06:25,240 --> 00:06:27,640 Speaker 2: but it's really like women writing about men on those 152 00:06:27,760 --> 00:06:30,800 Speaker 2: those websites or whatever. The tea, yeah, but which which 153 00:06:30,839 --> 00:06:33,880 Speaker 2: I don't I don't know about that. If you're if 154 00:06:33,880 --> 00:06:35,599 Speaker 2: you're calling somebody out for being a scammer or a 155 00:06:35,640 --> 00:06:40,760 Speaker 2: criminal or you know, or worse absolutely or cheater by 156 00:06:40,839 --> 00:06:42,720 Speaker 2: all means. But when I think these things would become 157 00:06:42,800 --> 00:06:44,520 Speaker 2: is just let me roast the guy that didn't do 158 00:06:44,600 --> 00:06:47,800 Speaker 2: the thing that I wanted. Well, no, I mean, I 159 00:06:48,080 --> 00:06:50,039 Speaker 2: just I'm all for the first part. The second part 160 00:06:50,040 --> 00:06:51,920 Speaker 2: I guess I don't really get. But I wish there 161 00:06:52,040 --> 00:06:56,200 Speaker 2: was like an honest, yell review for people. Yes that 162 00:06:56,320 --> 00:06:58,800 Speaker 2: was real though, Like and maybe everything that's on there 163 00:06:58,800 --> 00:07:01,200 Speaker 2: wouldn't be what you'd want to hear. But just I 164 00:07:01,240 --> 00:07:03,880 Speaker 2: don't mean, like this guy didn't call me back after 165 00:07:04,080 --> 00:07:05,479 Speaker 2: I took him, you know, after he took me to 166 00:07:05,480 --> 00:07:07,160 Speaker 2: dinner one time. So I'm going to say that he's 167 00:07:07,200 --> 00:07:08,720 Speaker 2: the worst human being on earth so that no other 168 00:07:08,760 --> 00:07:10,360 Speaker 2: woman wants to go out with him. I mean, like, 169 00:07:11,640 --> 00:07:16,200 Speaker 2: you know, very sweet, tends to be emotionally unavailable at times, 170 00:07:16,720 --> 00:07:21,560 Speaker 2: or or you know, excellent in bed, not great at 171 00:07:21,560 --> 00:07:24,480 Speaker 2: responding to text like a carfax report, like a carfax 172 00:07:25,040 --> 00:07:30,640 Speaker 2: but like useful information, not necessarily mean or like spiteful. 173 00:07:31,120 --> 00:07:32,920 Speaker 2: But I mean, just what am I getting into here? 174 00:07:33,200 --> 00:07:36,800 Speaker 2: You know, like very intelligent but kind of ditzy or 175 00:07:37,720 --> 00:07:43,400 Speaker 2: you know, you know, i'vell we'll leave during a fight 176 00:07:43,480 --> 00:07:44,680 Speaker 2: but comes back an hour later. 177 00:07:45,240 --> 00:07:47,400 Speaker 4: I like that, But make it like updated every year, 178 00:07:47,640 --> 00:07:49,000 Speaker 4: like an annual review at work. 179 00:07:49,080 --> 00:07:50,400 Speaker 1: Like kind of like that because. 180 00:07:50,120 --> 00:07:51,559 Speaker 4: I feel like we change as we get older. 181 00:07:52,040 --> 00:07:54,640 Speaker 1: Right, So like then interview to a whole thing. 182 00:07:54,680 --> 00:07:56,360 Speaker 4: I think when you start dating, I really do believe 183 00:07:56,360 --> 00:07:57,080 Speaker 4: in interviews. 184 00:07:57,400 --> 00:08:00,160 Speaker 2: Yeah, but again, like I said, this would happen, and 185 00:08:00,200 --> 00:08:02,480 Speaker 2: people who break up with people are probably not prone 186 00:08:02,520 --> 00:08:07,040 Speaker 2: to be not positively constructed, but constructive. But I mean 187 00:08:07,560 --> 00:08:09,880 Speaker 2: not like scorned. I mean, you know, information that could 188 00:08:09,920 --> 00:08:12,360 Speaker 2: be helpful, good and bad. Yep, it's got to be balanced. 189 00:08:12,680 --> 00:08:14,320 Speaker 2: And I don't know how we would keep track of 190 00:08:14,320 --> 00:08:16,720 Speaker 2: this or checks on it, you know what I mean, 191 00:08:17,240 --> 00:08:18,680 Speaker 2: I don't know how we would do that, but anyway, 192 00:08:18,720 --> 00:08:20,800 Speaker 2: and then put your fishing spot in there too. And 193 00:08:20,840 --> 00:08:22,920 Speaker 2: then here are the two dating terms that you must know, 194 00:08:22,960 --> 00:08:24,560 Speaker 2: because if you're on these dating apps and you're looking 195 00:08:24,600 --> 00:08:26,760 Speaker 2: for fishing spots, then maybe you'd want to be aware 196 00:08:26,760 --> 00:08:28,120 Speaker 2: of these things. But I'd like to keep you up 197 00:08:28,120 --> 00:08:31,040 Speaker 2: to date on the dating terms. This one's called monkey baring. 198 00:08:31,720 --> 00:08:34,520 Speaker 2: Some people would call it cheating, but in today's world, 199 00:08:34,679 --> 00:08:38,520 Speaker 2: meet the trend dubbed monkey baring or monkey branching a 200 00:08:38,559 --> 00:08:41,400 Speaker 2: behavior that's more emotional betrayal than just a fling. So 201 00:08:41,480 --> 00:08:44,559 Speaker 2: imagine someone never really lets go of their current partner, 202 00:08:44,679 --> 00:08:47,280 Speaker 2: all while lining up the next one just in case. 203 00:08:47,360 --> 00:08:50,520 Speaker 2: It's a move driven by fear of being alone, not 204 00:08:50,679 --> 00:08:54,280 Speaker 2: by genuine connection or honesty. Experts across the field of 205 00:08:54,400 --> 00:08:57,680 Speaker 2: dating are calling it a form of cheating entirely separate 206 00:08:57,679 --> 00:09:02,240 Speaker 2: from transparent, agreed upon arrangements like polyamory. Relationship pros argue 207 00:09:02,240 --> 00:09:06,760 Speaker 2: that monkey baring reflects codependency and emotional immaturity, a way 208 00:09:06,760 --> 00:09:10,840 Speaker 2: to avoid healing and real growth, and it's not alone 209 00:09:10,840 --> 00:09:14,040 Speaker 2: in the Toxic Trends Hall of Fame. I guess there's 210 00:09:14,080 --> 00:09:16,200 Speaker 2: bank seeing. Of course, we talked about that, where a 211 00:09:16,559 --> 00:09:21,160 Speaker 2: partner emotionally withdraws unexpectedly, leaving the other blindside and their submarining, 212 00:09:21,520 --> 00:09:24,160 Speaker 2: which someone vanishes for a month only to reappear as 213 00:09:24,200 --> 00:09:30,280 Speaker 2: if nothing happened. Yeah, Hald, Yeah, monkey bar. I know 214 00:09:30,760 --> 00:09:33,079 Speaker 2: I've been privy to this many times. The people that 215 00:09:33,160 --> 00:09:34,440 Speaker 2: just can't be alone and they want to make sure 216 00:09:34,480 --> 00:09:37,360 Speaker 2: they got a place to land. So they're feeling you 217 00:09:37,440 --> 00:09:40,520 Speaker 2: out to see where you're at, you know, whether it's 218 00:09:40,600 --> 00:09:43,360 Speaker 2: a bad marriage or a relationship that's you know, sort 219 00:09:43,360 --> 00:09:45,800 Speaker 2: of dissolving or whatever. It's like I haven't quite broken 220 00:09:45,920 --> 00:09:48,640 Speaker 2: up with that person, or I haven't broken up with 221 00:09:48,679 --> 00:09:50,680 Speaker 2: them at all, or I'm telling you that I'm going 222 00:09:50,760 --> 00:09:52,800 Speaker 2: to break up with them, but really they don't know. 223 00:09:52,920 --> 00:09:55,160 Speaker 2: They have no idea yet that I might break up 224 00:09:55,200 --> 00:09:58,600 Speaker 2: with them if I find something better. But people like 225 00:09:58,760 --> 00:10:02,440 Speaker 2: my thing is break up with someone and then come like, 226 00:10:02,520 --> 00:10:05,559 Speaker 2: don't like you do that because you need to do that, 227 00:10:05,880 --> 00:10:09,240 Speaker 2: and then come talk to me. Don't because then it's like, 228 00:10:09,280 --> 00:10:10,880 Speaker 2: why why do I got to be in the gray area? 229 00:10:12,840 --> 00:10:16,520 Speaker 3: While yeah, well, you know, I think women sometimes leave 230 00:10:16,559 --> 00:10:20,439 Speaker 3: a relationship mentally and emotionally before they leave physically leave 231 00:10:20,440 --> 00:10:23,840 Speaker 3: it physically. Wait, I'm gonna get to that point, but 232 00:10:24,760 --> 00:10:28,480 Speaker 3: I might as well start fishing or looking, you know, 233 00:10:28,720 --> 00:10:32,240 Speaker 3: before I exit this relationship. I know I'm leaving you, 234 00:10:32,240 --> 00:10:33,480 Speaker 3: you know, in December. 235 00:10:33,360 --> 00:10:38,719 Speaker 1: But if you know why, if you. 236 00:10:38,480 --> 00:10:41,600 Speaker 2: Know who you are leaving, you need to leave because 237 00:10:41,720 --> 00:10:43,080 Speaker 2: what is the point of staying. 238 00:10:43,160 --> 00:10:47,040 Speaker 1: What is the point of physically, like wasting four months 239 00:10:47,080 --> 00:10:47,600 Speaker 1: of your life? 240 00:10:47,800 --> 00:10:49,520 Speaker 2: Just break up with the if you if you, it's 241 00:10:49,520 --> 00:10:51,559 Speaker 2: not fair to the other person. If you're already disconnected, 242 00:10:51,600 --> 00:10:53,360 Speaker 2: then it doesn't matter what they do. Like let's say 243 00:10:53,360 --> 00:10:55,400 Speaker 2: that the relationship is not going well, and then you've 244 00:10:55,440 --> 00:10:58,360 Speaker 2: are automatically detached emotionally, like I'm done, I'm out of here, 245 00:10:58,400 --> 00:11:01,520 Speaker 2: and you know, whenever, whenever he makes my last car 246 00:11:01,559 --> 00:11:05,000 Speaker 2: payment or whatever it is. And then and then maybe 247 00:11:05,000 --> 00:11:07,439 Speaker 2: that person senses that and starts trying hard. What doesn't 248 00:11:07,440 --> 00:11:10,000 Speaker 2: matter because you've already decided you're out, so just leave. 249 00:11:10,320 --> 00:11:11,839 Speaker 1: Well, it's not that easy for it. 250 00:11:11,920 --> 00:11:14,960 Speaker 3: Sometimes you have to, you know, go through the motions, 251 00:11:14,960 --> 00:11:17,200 Speaker 3: you go through the mental breakdown of it all. You 252 00:11:17,240 --> 00:11:20,280 Speaker 3: gives chance after chance after chance, and then it's like. 253 00:11:20,280 --> 00:11:24,160 Speaker 2: Okay, then the last chance you leave because because what 254 00:11:24,280 --> 00:11:25,720 Speaker 2: I find is that there are a lot of people 255 00:11:25,720 --> 00:11:28,320 Speaker 2: out there and they just don't want to be alone. 256 00:11:28,360 --> 00:11:29,040 Speaker 1: They've got to. 257 00:11:29,360 --> 00:11:34,160 Speaker 2: They simply cannot stand the idea of just pausing and 258 00:11:34,200 --> 00:11:36,440 Speaker 2: not having another person there, that's right. I don't think 259 00:11:36,440 --> 00:11:38,800 Speaker 2: they realize how offensive it is to the other person. 260 00:11:39,280 --> 00:11:42,920 Speaker 2: It's like, so I'm only good enough, Like, so you're 261 00:11:42,960 --> 00:11:45,160 Speaker 2: only gonna leave this person if I say yes, I 262 00:11:45,160 --> 00:11:47,400 Speaker 2: mean it's it's like I'm not your backup plan. 263 00:11:47,640 --> 00:11:49,480 Speaker 1: No, No, it's a terrible idea, you know what I mean? 264 00:11:49,559 --> 00:11:52,520 Speaker 2: Like like I don't want to be chosen because you 265 00:11:52,520 --> 00:11:54,400 Speaker 2: don't want to be alone. I want you to be 266 00:11:54,480 --> 00:11:55,520 Speaker 2: alone and then choose me. 267 00:11:55,920 --> 00:11:57,679 Speaker 4: Yeah, and I need another step too, if you're gonna, 268 00:11:58,000 --> 00:12:00,800 Speaker 4: let's say, pursue a relationship with somebody else, okay, whatever. 269 00:12:01,000 --> 00:12:02,600 Speaker 1: I need space and time. 270 00:12:02,640 --> 00:12:04,480 Speaker 4: I need you to heal a little bit too, Like 271 00:12:04,559 --> 00:12:06,120 Speaker 4: don't just run to me, like the next day. 272 00:12:06,200 --> 00:12:06,480 Speaker 2: I don't. 273 00:12:06,520 --> 00:12:08,120 Speaker 4: I don't think that's a good idea either. I don't 274 00:12:08,120 --> 00:12:10,040 Speaker 4: think we're we're fully healed yet. I don't think we've 275 00:12:10,040 --> 00:12:12,960 Speaker 4: really processed the emotions of what's happening right now. 276 00:12:13,240 --> 00:12:16,200 Speaker 1: Yeah, I agree, crazy people really heal. 277 00:12:16,640 --> 00:12:19,360 Speaker 4: No, but we can at least you try a little bit. 278 00:12:19,679 --> 00:12:21,720 Speaker 2: Well at least it's a raw you know, it's not 279 00:12:21,760 --> 00:12:23,679 Speaker 2: like the wound doesn't still open, you know. 280 00:12:24,000 --> 00:12:25,960 Speaker 4: Just have some time to yourself, have a little a 281 00:12:25,960 --> 00:12:28,600 Speaker 4: little hoe face if you will, a little time. 282 00:12:28,679 --> 00:12:29,640 Speaker 1: Just have a little time to yourself. 283 00:12:29,679 --> 00:12:31,200 Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know. Just don't make it seem like 284 00:12:31,200 --> 00:12:34,200 Speaker 2: I'm I'm the backup planner or like or if I 285 00:12:34,280 --> 00:12:36,760 Speaker 2: say yes, Dan, you'll Dan, you'll break up or divorce someone, 286 00:12:37,000 --> 00:12:38,680 Speaker 2: It's like, what, No, how about do that because you 287 00:12:38,720 --> 00:12:40,600 Speaker 2: need to do that, because that's the right thing to do. 288 00:12:40,600 --> 00:12:42,080 Speaker 1: Don't evolve me in that decision. 289 00:12:42,440 --> 00:12:44,640 Speaker 3: Well, yeah, I agree with that, and I break up, divorce, 290 00:12:44,640 --> 00:12:49,120 Speaker 3: I'll work in order. Over here saying there's a gray no, 291 00:12:49,240 --> 00:12:51,720 Speaker 3: because I'm just being I'm just saying this. Sometimes women, 292 00:12:51,840 --> 00:12:54,240 Speaker 3: it's we we leave a relationship while we're still. 293 00:12:54,080 --> 00:12:56,080 Speaker 2: In it, Well then that's fine, But then don't go 294 00:12:56,120 --> 00:12:58,040 Speaker 2: find somebody out, don't don't go get into one with 295 00:12:58,080 --> 00:13:01,040 Speaker 2: somebody else emotionally or in your head until while you're 296 00:13:01,080 --> 00:13:02,600 Speaker 2: still physically with somebody else. 297 00:13:02,640 --> 00:13:05,520 Speaker 3: Well, the wise woman once told me, sometimes the easiest 298 00:13:05,520 --> 00:13:07,280 Speaker 3: way to get over a person is to get under 299 00:13:07,320 --> 00:13:07,920 Speaker 3: somebody else. 300 00:13:08,360 --> 00:13:10,480 Speaker 1: That's that's what the wise one. Okay, that could be 301 00:13:10,559 --> 00:13:13,520 Speaker 1: bound different than but. 302 00:13:13,440 --> 00:13:15,440 Speaker 2: If you don't break up with the other person, that 303 00:13:15,559 --> 00:13:19,600 Speaker 2: is called cheating. A wise person once told me that's 304 00:13:19,640 --> 00:13:22,439 Speaker 2: called infidelity. And then the other dating term for you 305 00:13:22,480 --> 00:13:25,439 Speaker 2: guys this morning is shreking inspired by Shrek. 306 00:13:25,640 --> 00:13:26,480 Speaker 1: Is when you date. 307 00:13:26,320 --> 00:13:28,560 Speaker 2: Someone that you're not really attracted to, hoping that they'll 308 00:13:28,600 --> 00:13:31,040 Speaker 2: treat you better because well, you lower your standards. 309 00:13:31,080 --> 00:13:32,920 Speaker 1: Oh no, I don't work eio no. 310 00:13:32,920 --> 00:13:35,400 Speaker 2: No dating experts warrant it off in backfire is getting 311 00:13:35,440 --> 00:13:39,000 Speaker 2: shrecked usually ends with disappointment that romance relationship. One particular 312 00:13:39,040 --> 00:13:44,640 Speaker 2: relationship coach said that dating and ogre without the princess treatment. Okay, 313 00:13:44,840 --> 00:13:47,400 Speaker 2: the takeaway physical attraction shouldn't be the sole measure of 314 00:13:47,440 --> 00:13:51,080 Speaker 2: how you'll be treated. And if you've ever gotten shrecked dating, 315 00:13:51,120 --> 00:13:52,160 Speaker 2: why are you putting it yourself? 316 00:13:52,440 --> 00:13:57,480 Speaker 4: I left you saying. 317 00:13:59,200 --> 00:14:02,840 Speaker 1: No, I'm saying he chose a I'm oga. What's your name? Right? 318 00:14:03,720 --> 00:14:08,080 Speaker 1: You are not you are not silly. 319 00:14:08,240 --> 00:14:10,160 Speaker 2: It wasn't Paul Pierce just on a podcast, the old 320 00:14:10,240 --> 00:14:12,079 Speaker 2: NBA player is saying that, like he likes to choose 321 00:14:12,080 --> 00:14:15,240 Speaker 2: sixes and sevens, Yes, because they'll treat him better. Like 322 00:14:15,320 --> 00:14:17,200 Speaker 2: if you pick someone that you know is attractive, that 323 00:14:17,240 --> 00:14:19,200 Speaker 2: you believe is less attractive than you are, or that 324 00:14:19,240 --> 00:14:21,480 Speaker 2: the world accepts to be less attractive than others, that 325 00:14:21,480 --> 00:14:25,119 Speaker 2: they're somehow going to be more appreciative of, that is crazy. 326 00:14:25,720 --> 00:14:29,760 Speaker 1: It is awful. It is It is awful, Like, first 327 00:14:29,760 --> 00:14:30,920 Speaker 1: of all, what do you think of you? How do 328 00:14:30,960 --> 00:14:34,760 Speaker 1: you know you're a ten? Eight or nine or what? Seven? 329 00:14:35,080 --> 00:14:36,680 Speaker 2: And then you're out here say I'm picking fives and 330 00:14:36,760 --> 00:14:39,320 Speaker 2: six is because well they're lucky to have me. 331 00:14:40,720 --> 00:14:43,520 Speaker 1: Like who wants that? Yeah, just say you're insecure, And 332 00:14:43,520 --> 00:14:46,000 Speaker 1: I'd rather just be saying a that point. I know 333 00:14:46,080 --> 00:14:48,480 Speaker 1: what's going you say that publicly and all of a sudden, 334 00:14:48,480 --> 00:14:51,080 Speaker 1: you're choosing me. Now I know I'm a five and 335 00:14:51,120 --> 00:14:53,120 Speaker 1: I'm an ogre. Well, I mean, I don't know who's 336 00:14:53,120 --> 00:14:54,120 Speaker 1: gonna say that out loud. 337 00:14:54,400 --> 00:14:56,040 Speaker 2: I don't know who's ever gonna be like, yeah, I 338 00:14:56,120 --> 00:14:57,960 Speaker 2: shreked you