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Speaker 1: the Strawberry Letter. Subject the Lowdown and Dirty Deacon. Dear

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Speaker 1: Stephen Shirley. I'm in my early thirties and I'm eager

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Speaker 1: to meet a nice man and settle down one day.

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Speaker 1: But in the meantime and in between time, I was

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Speaker 1: keeping myself entertained in online chat rooms and online dating.

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Speaker 1: I met a man that I paired perfectly with and

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Speaker 1: his profile set. He was six two and athletic. His

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Speaker 1: picture was nice, but not really my type. We started

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Speaker 1: chatting offline and would stay on the phone for hours.

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Speaker 1: That turned into sexting, and I sent him a bunch

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Speaker 1: of nude photos and he sent me nude pictures too.

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Speaker 1: Then he asked for an explicit video of me and

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Speaker 1: I made him one. It was fun and he loved it.

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Speaker 1: That was a month ago, and since then, I've been

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Speaker 1: asking for him to send me a video. He refuses to.

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Speaker 1: I've tried to call him on FaceTime, but he won't answer.

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Speaker 1: I started thinking that I was being catfished. Recently, we

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Speaker 1: were on the phone and I hit the FaceTime button

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Speaker 1: and it rang on his end. He asked, what's that.

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Speaker 1: I told him to click the button and see. Then

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Speaker 1: he clicked the FaceTime button and was looking confused. He

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Speaker 1: realized that I saw him and he hung up. I

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Speaker 1: was totally grossed out when I saw his face. He

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Speaker 1: is a deacon at my church and my dad's golf buddy.

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Speaker 1: I saw him pictures. Yeah, I sent him pictures and

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Speaker 1: he's got a video of me, so he knew who

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Speaker 1: I was all long. This man has to be at

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Speaker 1: least at least seventy years old, seventy years old junior,

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Speaker 1: and after I looked closely at his profile, he used

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Speaker 1: a very old picture of himself. If I expose him

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Speaker 1: and tell my dad, my dad will know what I

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Speaker 1: do in my spare time. The last time I saw

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Speaker 1: the old pervert was at Easter Sunday, and shortly after

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Speaker 1: that he found me online and fooled me into sexting

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Speaker 1: with him? How can this be fixed? Fixed? Should I

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Speaker 1: take this secret to my grave? Yeah, you're probably gonna

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Speaker 1: have to. I don't know how this is gonna be fixed.

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Speaker 1: I mean you say you were keeping yourself entertained online

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Speaker 1: with chat rooms and online dating. Well, this is what

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Speaker 1: you got. I mean, this is what you get out there.

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Speaker 1: It is catfishing is very real. They have a whole

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Speaker 1: TV show about and I'm sure you knew about that.

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Speaker 1: But this is on you though. I mean, how quick

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Speaker 1: were you to take off all your clothes? You said

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Speaker 1: he fooled you into sexting. What did he say to

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Speaker 1: make you just do that? I mean, be so quick

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Speaker 1: to do this. You don't know this man, This is

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Speaker 1: a complete stranger, and you sent him a video. Now

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Speaker 1: you're mad at him because he cat fished you, and

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Speaker 1: you know, you figured out who he is. Finally he

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Speaker 1: knew who you were all along, like he said, so

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Speaker 1: he was cat fishing you. But you put yourself in

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Speaker 1: this position. I mean, no one said that you can't

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Speaker 1: chat or date online or anything like that, but you

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Speaker 1: took it way too far with all the sexting. I mean,

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Speaker 1: it's just too much. You're not gonna get these pictures back.

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Speaker 1: You know, the deacon. You know, he's gonna tell your

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Speaker 1: dad if you quote unquote expose him. That's what you know,

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Speaker 1: I'm really concerned about, and that's what you should be

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Speaker 1: concerned about too. What your dad is gonna think if

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Speaker 1: he finds out. I hope this was a learning experience

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Speaker 1: for you. Don't do this anymore. This old guy at church, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: now he's running because he doesn't want you to tell

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Speaker 1: his dad. He knows he's in. Tell your dad. He

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Speaker 1: knows he's in too deep as well. I say, you know,

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Speaker 1: hopefully he won't do anything with these pictures, and you

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Speaker 1: just have to chalk this one up and stay out

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Speaker 1: of his way at church. But if it gets rough,

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Speaker 1: tell your dad and see what happens. Steve. Wow, First

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Speaker 1: of all, he is not going to tell your dad

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Speaker 1: that he cannot do because the father is only gonna

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Speaker 1: have one thing. What the hell was you doing online?

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Speaker 1: And you knew this is my daughter as soon as

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Speaker 1: you saw her profile picture own line? Why did you

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Speaker 1: engage Hill with conversation? I'm whipping your ass. No, No,

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Speaker 1: it's just early. At this point, you do not respect it. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: you lose titles when you mess with the man. So

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Speaker 1: I don't think there's any danger of him telling your father.

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Speaker 1: But I agree with surely one. This is a lesson learned.

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Speaker 1: You know. You say, you in your early thirties, you

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Speaker 1: really want to meet a nice man to settle down,

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Speaker 1: you said, But in the meantime, in between time, I

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Speaker 1: was keeping myself entertained out and told y'all, now, I

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Speaker 1: understand you're doing something in the meantime. I got it,

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Speaker 1: but that in the meantime man always come back to

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Speaker 1: bite you. It ain't ever good. You will never find

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Speaker 1: mister Wright messing with mister Rong. I said it a

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Speaker 1: thousand times. That is it hard to do it that way? Ladies,

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Speaker 1: I agree, uncle Steve, get it. It is hard. But

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Speaker 1: this is what you get. As profile picture said, he

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Speaker 1: was six two and athletic. That was a time when

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Speaker 1: he was, yes, seventy years ago, he sent a picture

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Speaker 1: to you when he was athletic. He's still six two,

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Speaker 1: but the athletic party is gone. I'm six two, but

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Speaker 1: I'm also a lot of the athletics I used to

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Speaker 1: have is gone. Damn it. Who all right, hold on

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Speaker 1: to that thought, Steve, We'll have Part two of your

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Speaker 1: response coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour.

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Speaker 1: Today's subject the lowdown and Daddy Deacon. We'll get back

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Speaker 1: into it right after this. You're listening, all right, Come on, Steve,

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Speaker 1: let's recap today's Strawberry letter. The subject the lowdown and

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Speaker 1: duddy Deacon. Uh. This late in the early thirties, been

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Speaker 1: online messing around because she wants to be the nice man.

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Speaker 1: But she was in the turning herself. Come to find

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Speaker 1: out she really got catfish. Now, this dude put a

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Speaker 1: pad profile, said he was six two in the athletic, uh,

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Speaker 1: you know, and all like that. So she went for it.

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Speaker 1: Then she said his picture was nice, but not really

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Speaker 1: my type. Now we come to find out that the

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Speaker 1: dude is seventy years old, he's a deacon at the church,

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Speaker 1: and he's he's her father's golf buddy. So now we've

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Speaker 1: already discovered Sherley, and now that he will not be

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Speaker 1: contelling her dad because he can't because he gonna kick

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Speaker 1: her olass. That's all to it. Now, listen to this girl.

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Speaker 1: It used, but it's just no, no, no, he could

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Speaker 1: he gonna kick her olass. Now here is where you

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Speaker 1: messed up. His picture was nice, but not really my type.

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Speaker 1: I know it was because he put an old picture

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Speaker 1: herself up. So the Lesia suit kind of threw yea

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Speaker 1: why he got that damn Lesia suit, that collar his

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Speaker 1: collar that damn look? And where and where he gets

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Speaker 1: them silk socks with them thick lines? And why is

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Speaker 1: he still wearing thinking field? Why he got on square

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Speaker 1: toe shoes. So that's what threw you. Then y'all started

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Speaker 1: chatting offline for hours. That turned into sexty. You sent

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Speaker 1: him a bunch of new photos and he sent you

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Speaker 1: some new pictures too. Well I don't know who them

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Speaker 1: new pictures was, but it wasn't his sent me year

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Speaker 1: old ass. I can tell you that. So he either

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Speaker 1: found some pictures online. Then he asked me for an

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Speaker 1: explicit video on me, and I made him one. It

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Speaker 1: was fun and he loved it. That's about a month ago.

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Speaker 1: Then I've been asking him to send me a video,

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Speaker 1: so he old. So what you did was now you

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Speaker 1: started he refuses to get on video with your FaceTime,

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Speaker 1: but he won't answer. I started thinking, I'm being hat fished.

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Speaker 1: You did get catfished, y'all was on the phone. I

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Speaker 1: hit the FaceTime buddy rang on his ass. He asked,

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Speaker 1: what's that? Ce seventy year old people? Let me tell

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Speaker 1: you how this conversituate? You know that little toneament, the

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Speaker 1: little gobbling sounds. Then he's saying like that, what's you

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Speaker 1: think that is? That's because he old see when you

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Speaker 1: were old and come out arrow, what you think that is? What?

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Speaker 1: What that is? Right there? You? You you should have

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Speaker 1: knew he was old when y'all were sexty, because I'm

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Speaker 1: when you have phone sex with real old ass person

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Speaker 1: here stuff. You knew him, girl, You messed girl, You

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Speaker 1: meshed with my gout, You mesh around. You got the

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Speaker 1: blood pressure going the blue bed on me. Anyway, you

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Speaker 1: told him to push the button. And see he clicked

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Speaker 1: the FaceTime button and we're looking confused. So this is

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Speaker 1: how he looked, y'all. Look at y'all zoom. That's how

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Speaker 1: he was losing his whole hand in the camera eyes.

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Speaker 1: Don't know what a little stupid you really are? What

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Speaker 1: that is? Earl? Yeah, what that is right there? You know,

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Speaker 1: because you know when you're real old, you just talked

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Speaker 1: with your bottom. Neil, what that right there? What do

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Speaker 1: you think that is? Pred hilarious? Back up, you all

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Speaker 1: say that's what happened. And then she saw his face.

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Speaker 1: He's a deacon at the church and he's your dad

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Speaker 1: golf buddy. I seen him pictures and he got a

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Speaker 1: This man has to be at least seventy years old.

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Speaker 1: And after I looked close, lads, prot he used a

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Speaker 1: very old picture of himself. If I exposed him and

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Speaker 1: I tell my dad, my dad will know what I

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Speaker 1: do in my spare time, Well he'll know that. But

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Speaker 1: why would you tell your dad? What is that going

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Speaker 1: to accomplish? Daddy? He did this to me? What he did?

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Speaker 1: What to you? He made me? Didn't hear what you

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Speaker 1: spare time. Lads, time I saw the old pervert was

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Speaker 1: at Eastern Sunday, and shortly after that he found me

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Speaker 1: online and fooled me into sex him with him. You're

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Speaker 1: too old to say Shirley had it right. You're too

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Speaker 1: old for this. How can this be fixed? It can't.

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Speaker 1: Should I take this secret to my grave? You have to?

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Speaker 1: Ye should call him up and said, listen, you could

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Speaker 1: text it. I know who you are. I saw your face.

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Speaker 1: Now let me tell you this. If you ever show

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Speaker 1: these pre or video of me to anyone or any kind,

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Speaker 1: You're not gonna believe what I'm gonna do. Don't ever

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Speaker 1: call me again and click hang up. That's it. That's

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Speaker 1: all you got to do. You got to let him

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Speaker 1: know there's some consequences. Seventy year old men don't like

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Speaker 1: their life getting ruined because they don't have much left.

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Speaker 1: So you can't go in there and tell his wife

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Speaker 1: he can't get this buyand from the church. He can't

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Speaker 1: lose his only golf buddy. Too much to rules. So

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Speaker 1: just make that statement that you know who he is,

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Speaker 1: and if he uses the picture, you're not gonna believe

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Speaker 1: what I'm going to do to you. All right, Steve,

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